She would rather be a Widow than a Divorcee| I've been Through the most|Clara Mashabane
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I've been through the most is a documentary series that profiles victims who have been through the most in their life's and are now sharing it with the rest of the world to encourage and to hopefully inspire for the better. Produced by the CentTwinz Innocent and Millicent.
This week on the show, we profile author Clara Mashabane
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I broke up.with my ex fiance the first day he slapped me, Iisten I exited that toxic relationship without hesitation, as old as I am I have never seen my dad laying his hands on my mom, I can never allow someone's child to turn me into a punching bag, no meta how good you are in bed, my happiness comes first , let's normalize walking out ladies, let's learn to.be supportive to one another and remind each other of how beautiful we are every single day,we are tired Jong 9
Thank you for leaving him bastete fela ... ayo betha mmae
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Stop choosing men for their tools and being good in bed please. Black ladies we can do better...
🤗❤ Sending you love and a hug. You are such a pillar!!!
Listen, I'm so proud of you 👏👏👏
Lesson number 1 for me: Doing things right doesn't mean you must do them fast 😏😏😏
Sometimes people put themselves in bad situations 🤦♀️
It’s okay to leave a toxic marriage/relationship. People will always talk, live for you! Thank you for sharing your story, you are strength. More blessings to you queen
sometimes in life we think we know God through religion or church systems but certain situations come along to teach us who we need to become and to know God on a personal level...
As a 21 year old young lady am learning a lot from this channel🙌
Thank you for sharing your story Mama Clara, 💓💯
Yooo thank you. I stayed for 15 years in a loveless marriage because I was afraid what people would say. Most importantly my fellow church members. Until it affected my health. I filled for divorce. It is not worth it to be in a toxic marriage. I don't care about people anymore. The pressure we get from the community is so bad. We should stop laughing n gossiping about people when they come back from a failed marriage. I am now fixing myself n my life. I was not happy for 15 years imagine. I pray that God give me another 15 years of happiness n educating other women about self worth n self love.
Very powerful message about self-forgiveness. I beat myself up on a daily basis about my baby's dad and how I wish I never got involved with him. After watching this, I'm going to try and work towards forgiving myself and letting go of what I can't change. Thank you, Clara, for sharing your story 🙏🙏
Woke up feeling weak, decided to come watch stories of other women who once felt weak but turned it to strength. These stories motivate me that whatever I'm going through I will come out of it even stronger
Lesson to draw from this story: Let's normalize dating people before we decide to commit to them, let's not rush into marriage just because they're your church mate, you feel ready etc.
Ja basically they just wanted to start having sex asap
@@theglen85 Lol, most probably..at least no one died and her story will be an eye opener to others in her situation
@@theglen85 no that's what the man wanted and to be abusive
True that. Not every man in church is a good man. What I'v realised is that there's a lot of toxic and abusive man in church, they just hide it by the word of God
You will never fully someone. Date for 10years and get married a year later he kills you.
I broke up with my steady boyfriend four days ago.... He slapped me really hard,(and said,I'll kill u,u don't know me)my nose bled, my head hit the floor and my eye was very bad I had to go to the doctor...... HE SAID GO TO THE POLICE STATION AND TELL THEM THAT I'M HERE.... he knows they won't do anything to him
I'M NEVER LOOKING BACK !!!
damn run away please!
But being divorced is better than living with the guilt of having killed someone. It's really not worth it. I'm glad that you didn't go through with it my sister.
God had intervined
It’s important for us to not base our worth and validation as human beings in being married, the worst thing that could happen to you is not divorce, even death is not the worst thing that could happen to you! Learn who you are, love who you are off the fact that you’re human made in the most perfect image.
Getting into marriage can be the most scary thing ever because u don’t really know what u might find over there... people pretend well during the dating phases
Real stories are appreciated. Thank you
Don't care too much in a relationship. Save the most for yourself of yourself. It makes the bounce back so much easier.
Thank you so much CentTwinzTv for this channel. As these strong ladies & men come share their stories we are learning. And this made me realise that we all have stories that we would like to share and that it is important for us to share our stories, to educate and empower others; under this inspiration and motivation I started my own TH-cam channel. Thank you🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 & Thank you Sis Clara for sharing your story❤️💯💯🙌🏿
Much love ❤️❤️
Oh my word! You were married to a covert narcissist! Imagine having preserved yourself for a Godly marriage and have to go through this! Thank God you got out of this relationship alive.
I was thinking the same thing
God uses anything to speak... It's always up to us to hear His voice and act accordingly.. Super proud of you for taking a step of faith. You did well n yes forgives starts with SELF
We thank God for His Grace upon your life🙏🏾God is Jehovah Rapha the Lord who heals. Forgiveness indeed liberates the one who chooses to forgive and it's only possible through the Power of the Holy Spirit😭🙏🏾
I’m glad you lived to tell the story!! It’s a win when a woman made it out alive!! You are strength
Hallelujah 🙌 🙌 🙌 she finally saw the light, God delivered her, she was released to leave.. Tjooooo imagine bekezela for the sake of "vhathu vha Dori mini" staying on a toxic loveless 'marriage'.. Mara arezi shadani shem
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Oh wow! all I can say is am proud of you for leaving the toxic marriage and am sorry you had to go through so much pain and hardships and I know you don't deserve it or anyone else . I know you personally you have good heart and am happy you have overcame all the challenges by not taking your life but by believing in GOD to give you the strength to do the right thing its never easy but by knowing you self worth you did it.
Forgiveness = Healing. Thank you
I am 21 and i cant get over this channel, i am learning in each and every video😇.
Why do people like you keep factoring in your age, what's normally the point by the way?
I get a notification, I like, comment then watch.🌻
Saving to watch later. Phew sounds like this is gonna be another emotional one.
With the issue of forgiveness, it's a really hard thing to do, I'm 21 and I'm still angry at myself for allowing myself to get into an abusive relationship
It’s a process sis... in the bible it says to forgive 7x77 times which means every time u remember the pain or the person then u should continue to forgive them because it’s not easy especially if the person has moved on with their lives without no worries
@@gracemat9474 thank you very much sisi, your words of encouragement are appreciated
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YES! You already know!
They have to🤞🎉
It's done 💃💃💃
True 💯 forgiveness help you as a person, not the other person..
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Yo. Clara, you’re healing is great. I hope you stay well. Better to be a divorcee, than a murderer & prisoner. I’m so sorry you went through that.
Yooh😭 this is so hurting but keh God is always good♥️ i have learned a lot... but mostly to put my self first🤞
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Watching this as a Christian, it's time the churches start teaching courtship so that people don't go into wrong marriages all in the name of being holy, many christians live this life
Wow inspiring
Christians need to realise that God is greater,to make decisions based on' it will not sound right when preaching or talking to others because I am a Christian,' it clearly means we still short of our mighty Fatther God.
The fact that:
1. A hitman ministered the word of God to you.
2. A “man of God” abused you.
The irony
"Forgiveness is equivalent to healing"
Wow... I'm glad finally God broke through and you left.. I've never been in an abusive relationship emotionally or physically, infact since I was young I told myself my dad has never lifted his hand on me so I put it in myself that no man was permitted to either.. I have a friend that was in an abusive relationship both physically and emotionally, and I got her out j just told her leave this person they had been dating over 10 years.. I introduced her to Christ, it took some time but she eventually finally left and now engaged to a wonderful man..
Toxic is toxic, and leaving is for yourself not for anyone else and yes forgiveness is key
Ps Clara powerful testimony my beloved the journey of healing continues
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The dislike is one of the guy's relatives 😢
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True 🤣🤣🤣🤣
True
Forgiveness is powerful
I wanna tell my story too but I don’t what platform I should use
Forgiveness = Healing. 💯🙌🏾 Very true story.
So proud of you sis. You endured. Look at that bounce back!!!God never fails.
This beautiful feeling of knowing that you are loved,you are cherished regardless of what you did. A perfect kind of love and peace. God you are everything we need and more!!!
He made marriage look so bad.
I relate to this
So proud of you Clara. You speak the story of many many many people oppressed in marriages. I have always told you, your destiny is so strong and you are going far. Every-time I look into your eyes, I see so many great things and a life that's meant to touch others. Keep shining Clara
Toxic marriages, we might pray bt if one is abusive don't think they will change .Broken pple make the worst relationships .The fact that he ws abused at a young age n ddnt heal makes him a monster he was in marriage
Red flags all over
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Exactly
This channel though 💔
Yooooo hle dear 😭😭
She went thru excactly what i went thru😢
The Devil made himself comfortable in your marriage!
Big up clara
Hi
@@nematatanitshifularo691 hallo
The Mistake start the time you let him pay iLobola without knowing him very well
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Yoh😭😭😭😭
How do you get married to someone you don’t know 😩
Woman need to realise when man making you to date tour self why even giving birth to a monster it's okay to leave the sooner the better you left your good life for adevil you call a man in return he gave you pain & made u feel loved so u forget The creator God really 🤷♀️
Shucks, this is why emotional intelligence is as important as spiritual intelligence. So glad you left that toxic marriage & that God is restoring all that the locust has eaten.
Destiny killers are also found in the church, we must be careful & vigilant. "Be sober, be vigilant, because the devil walketh about as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." 1 Peter 5:8, the one who kills, steals & destroys never plays fair, we pray daily of wisdom & discernment.
One clap was enough for me to turn my back on him, permanently so. Wacenga wancama. I am not a toy.
Who is your publisher?
I look at you , you are so beautiful I am happy you did not kill but left him
I guess marriage is not all that.
You were a pastor at the age of 24?
Yes. It possible. I got born again at 13 started serving at 15 and I was ordained at 25 after 10years of FAITHFUL service,as a Minister. I think if you are called for Ministry it manifests even from an early age.
@@theom1442 just curious, don't u think thats where the problem started? 24 is too young.
@@hlengiwemasondo2858 not really. Spiritual maturity isn't measured by physical age. However I feel like once Pastors can see that you're Spiritual matured they immediately wanna force or pressure you into marriage forgetting that marriage is a different Ministry on it's own. I was also close to being a victim of arranged MARRIAGE in a different church....but I always praise God😭🙏for helping me escape that and i stood for what I believe in and left the church.
If u were not working & u didn't tell even ur family what u were going through, where were you getting money to sustain ur son, buy alcohol & eventually hire a hitman to kill ur husband considering hitmen r not cheap. Some of these stories don't make sense 😇
I think ua just a slow learner she explained that the plan failed bcos she couldn't pay, and for measn of survival she said that she had to make a plan wena .
@@juniormatlakala3402 U think I'm a slow learner? I think you are a smart Ass!
🇨🇳 flags
What kind of a Pastor talks rubbish like this my God😳
what the hell are you saying
I see you're the type of person who put up with abuse & toxic husbands
EXACTLY... Shocking. So called ministers are hiring hit men & body guards.
Doesn't sound like big deal for some church folks. Some churches are social clubs...
@@Hezzzza I know exactly what she's saying.
@Nontobeko Majola your statement is so rude and judgemental. You don't know what she went through.