No one told me about periods, why? I left my husband before he...| I've Been Through the Most
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- centTWINZ Innocent Sadiki and Millicent Mashile are the producers of their second online show 'I have been through the most'. It's a documentary series that profiles victims who have been through the most in their life's and are now sharing it with the rest of the world to encourage and to hopeful inspire for the better.
This week on the show, we profile centTWINZ Innocent Sadiki and Millicent Mashile are the producers of their second online show 'I have been through the most'. It's a documentary series that profiles victims who have been through the most in their life's and are now sharing it with the rest of the world to encourage and to hopeful inspire for the better.
This week on the show, we profile Manare who has the worst story about her period when she was a young girl.
Follow: @ivebeenthroughthemost on instagram and facebook I've Been through the most who has had endless life challenges.
So painful, image your brother helping you with tampons after years of not knowing what is happening with your body. Mom's need to do better.
Hello, I also have a story I would like to share
Mothers really have to start talking.
I am only 23 years old, and in 2011 when I was going to boarding school; my parents took me to the clinic to start contraceptives.
When we arrived at the clinic, the sister asked me if I am seeing boys. I was confused, but the innocent me said, "There are boys everywhere and I play with them." The nurse said to me that my mom cannot just bring me to the hospital without me playing with boys. Still I was confused.
My mother took me to her office and said to me, so and so arw taking injection, and I was like, okay.
The nurse and my mom, asked me to to pee in a cup and they did a pregnancy test. Then, they started me on depo.
Months past. In May, my period stopped. So, I heard people say when one is pregnant, periods stop and they get black line on the tummy.
I saw all those, I was scared. I went to my mom and explained to her she asked me if I was seeing boys. This time I was scared, sad, and angry. She laughed and told me I should not worry. Months past, the following year (2012), in May, my father came to fetch me from school to accompany me to the clinic. I was angry, and my attitude changed. He was feeling bad, and asked me whether my mother explained everything to me. I told him everything that happened from day 1.
When we got home, he told my mother, and she became angry, but this time I was not ready to have problems. I narrated everything, and they made me make my choice.
I decided I will stop contraceptives, because I did not even know why I was getting an injection. Besides, I was not even having sex by then.
I am 23, I have a 3 months son and my baby was planned.
Mothers really must start talking
I'm wondering what's taught in Life Orientation as well 💔
@@tshepisomaduwana4611 Joh that's hectic. And so many girls are being put on contraceptives by their parents because they fear pregnancy. I know their trying to protect, but It's not right
@@millymashile Oh my days. The talk needs to happen first and foremost. What about STDs😬?Rape, Defilement. Children need much more than the contraceptives. They need to be empowered. Have solid role models that they can look up to, build hope to help them chase their dreams.
Your brother is one in a million hey... 😭😭😭... It is refreshing to hear there are men out there who are comfortable enough to educate a woman about such... 🙌🏿🙌🏿
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Am I the only one who feels this lady was not done telling her story??.. I understand the time constrains but it would have been nice to tell the story to the end.. Anyway thanks for sharing sisi
Ayi lenna I feel like the story wasn't complete
Yes i dont think she was not done
I have this gut feeling that she has a good ending to her story. LORD Please let it be so. She deserves much love, joy & success.
May GOD really bless you 🙏
Nare is a strong, eloquent and beautiful woman! Those cheekbones and teeth are everything!
This lady is so beautiful, her smile is therapeutic.
“ I had to choose me” profound , many women die choosing insecure men. This is a word of affirmation for me.
Black is beautiful no matter what shade of black you are.
Indeed
"I had to choose Me".. Yuuuh that got to me ♥.. Jonga, that should be a woman's anthem in this lifetime ♥
Am sorry 🙏
Dear woman they never change please run away from that abusive relationship even if they tell you God hates divorce but God would rather have you alive than dead.
we need a part two of her video, she's not done telling her story.
I felt the same.
Your brother is a beautiful person. God bless him
He was a true angel 👼🏾
So painful yet so powerful. sometimes life doesn't give us what we wish out of it. She is a beautiful woman, wishing her light and healing.
Eish girl you can say that story of no one telling you of menstruation😥.. I remember the only person I saw menstruating was my aunt and I thought it was for older people. One relative asked me to go to stay with her which is about 3her away & ie when I started menstruating, I thought I was sick or something hurt me when I was urinating. The relative I stayed with ill treated me when she found out I started my menses, she said all sorts of accusations and mentioned something of me sleeping with boys and even beat me up for no reason .... she even said she will take me for prevention at the clinic, I told a guy who was staying in the same house whom they accused me of sleeping with... he told me not tell the relative when it happens next.. he helped me by cutting some cloth for me.. that year was the worst, I would stay up when it's my menstruation so that I will not stain her bed... this was so traumatic to a 14year old me... as a result I have decided no relative will ever stay with my own child it was so traumatic... I dont know where the guy is today but, I bless God for sending me an angel which is him to help me in the time of need... he really treated me well and as a child, never even in one day he tried funny things, he protected me even when I was outside from those silly boys...
Anyways, back to you sis... you're so strong my sister... all the best for the future... you're beautiful and you're worth all the good things from above, all the best♥️
Thank you. We are each others mirrors
Oh wow so sorry u had to go through something so similar , God bless the man who helped you . 🙏🏼
How traumatizing 🤫at just 14yrs. Is that relative still alive? I would confront her now🤔Its very .imortant for parents, grannies or carers of girls to talk to them about body changes from 10 years. My experience was very similar. It was worse as i had 6 older sisters and they never told me what to expect until it started while i was at school and we had to stand up every time teacher enters or when you have to answer the teacher. My poor blue uniform was so soiled, blood on my chair and drops on the floor. I just couldnt understand what happened to me. Boys were laughing at me and i left and went home with my jersy tied around my waiste. Instead my mother started asking me about boys,whuch boy was with me then she sent me to a neighbour for their daughter to speak to me, The girl was like 17yrs and she is the one who told me what to do..using cottonwool as there were no sanitary towels then😍 my mother changed and every day she would accuse me of being with boys and how i will get pregnant🤭it was terrible.
Please Nombini Ntlahla may you share ur story as well, it will definatelly be worth my ears! Please share on the same platform please youve been through the most as well.😘
Uxolo sis
"My brother bought pads and showed me how to use them" I cried 😢😢💔💔 Your mom was supposed to educate you about all this by the age of 11/12
Oh standwa
"but Love doesn't hurt"
I felt that
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Lets educate our girl children that its ok to come back home from a failed marriage,its not a disgrace😢😢
And our boys 👦 too 🤭
Eish, I hate this teaching of holding the knife nton nton. It's okay to walk away when things are not working out. Abuse can't be acceptable because you are married.
@@dawnpalmer4419 Absolutely
To be honest I am Tsonga and proud but I am so ashamed with how our fellow brothers conduct themselves lately😭😭😭😭💔.I pray God opens up doors of healing for her 🌈🙏🏾❤️
Mothers let us not fail our kids! Kids are a blessing and it is our duty to hold their hand thruout all of life’s developmental stages.
You have been through the most but look at you now...still standing. Those storms failed to destroy you Sis✨
We thank the Lord for keeping you from stumbling. Your story is inspiring. Light and strength to you 🕯️. Where can one find your book?
She's so humble and has nuggets of wisdom.. Bless her
"It was like the Author of my life was not lenient with me" am weeping 😭😭😭
Starting over is scary but it's worth doing.
Definitely need a part 2... Youre Beautiful beyond measure and your struggles have made you even more Brighter.. Thank you for being a True example of Imbokodo
Respect to you my sister. Strong black woman. I commend you for making it up out of those hardships and being able to talk about it boldly today. Love you my sister!
This woman is beautiful. You are beautiful mommy! Know it and believe it❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I also was once in an abusive relationship and I almost died. But I'm glad I got out of it alive.. Those abusers never change.
I’ll definitely tell my story here coz it’s bigger and powerful...most people will be touched and inspired..at my age I’ve been through the worst ...I’d be happy if the producer/director wouldn’t contact me so that I can share my story
Shouldn't u be the one contancting them? Its you who want to share afterall
God's Beloved I honestly don’t know how to contact them
“I knew that moment, that I had to choose me” ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
The kind of content I signed up for. Notification gang
This upset me . Something simple and soo natural. And her brother had to teach her about her periods. Bad parenting !
Her parents are old.
Rainne young or old bad parenting is a thing and them not telling her your period has significance is just bad parenting!
You’re brother is such a God sent
I think listening to her comeback was gonna give us even more enlightening cos now this feels very incomplete. May God keep blessing her regardless💜
I am so sorry you had to go through that. It is better to be really happy, then for people to think you are happy. You were worried about everyone else but yourself. I am so happy you pushed through.
May your brother rest in paradise.
Thank you for sharing this! Just here to support you🥰
Bold decision you took. Overcoming what ppl would say was breakthrough on its own! I’m proud of you 🙌🏽
You are not alone.. I never got anyone tell me abt periods, sex, STI and related ILLNESSES.. When everyone got adviced the door got closed with me outside.. I wished mom was alive
I even touched HIV infected people's blood without taking any precautions because I had no idea, mind you they were family and they knew their status but guess they hated me anywae.. Only by God's love and protection I did not catch any.. So everyone needs to talk these things with children, biological or not esp in a family
I loved it. So heartbreaking the things she endured, and I do feel.she had more to tell, but the books tells it all..get the book. I appreciate her story...so many can learn from her experience
"It was like the author of my life was not lenient with me.💔😭" Hai Sisi Shem🙏🏾✨❤️thank you for sharing your experience, my heart goes out to you. Mbokodo🙆🏾♀️
I went through the same experience. No one told me.about menstruation,it started in school and i just wiped myself but it didnt stop🤭. It was the worst experience,i used old clothes too. Parents please talk to your girls and prepare them early..🥱
You are a survivor Mma, i like your Strength and courage God Bless you.
I've learned a lot from this, I'll always be strong just because of you. Thank you for sharing
Ooh Manare you are so so brave and deep.
Your story is worth telling, thank you 🙏
Is never too late to start over!!
Is never too late to choose you!!
🌸🌸Self love 🌸🌸
May God bless you and may you never stop choosing you 🤗🤗
I really love your spirit..it’s so calm and collected..Lord bless your soul sisi🙏🏽
I need to acknowledge your brother for his maturity and willingness to help. I know alot of men who are embarrassed to buy sanitary towels for their loved ones or who would not entertain the topic to begin with.
Very touching, may the good Lord continue taking care of u.
Sister you brave
You beautiful
"Love doesn't hurt" l felt that
Everything may go even the pple who once mattered and e things we possess but the greatest of all is self love and having hope
I love you sister
This lady is a pure soul
This episode deserves part 2!
*When relationship/marriage serves you fists instead of serving love,joy,happiness and understanding....please quick exit and run!!*
Thank God you lived to tell your story and may God continue strengthening.
I'm exiting and running away far away😪
I'm exiting and running away far away😪
@@dimakatsondala9229 askies tlhe, please do hun and hope your fall in love with yourself again😊.You will find peace and hope all goes well for you *Bearhug!*
I had to choose me, whether I was going to disappoint X Y and Z.....i had to choose me. 😄
Thank you for the channel it has healed my pains.
Stepping to the unknown...powerful may u heal and find happiness
You are strong, beautiful and brave!!!
Wow ...... I salute you Nare.m very proud of you....your courage,braveness,your kindness......Yes you had to choose yourself wa mphato....boMma le boPapa let's make sure we are there for our kids through their growing stages.Thanx very very much .Modimo a be le wena ka nako tjohle.
God Bless and heal you is my prayers. My Sister. Be Encouraged.
This has hurt me to my soul, I’m so sorry tsetsenna. This explains so much. I’m so sorry that you went through so much alone.
Thanx for the call. I love u
My sister fakes periods so much, I guess its curiosity because she's only 11, but I am glad we talk about them a lot because this is just sad! As for that "AT LAST" part, I don't know how many women would kill to hear it
Ohh the toilet paper story I know it. Eish our parents just fail to speak to us. I am suprised your mom was married and did not share. I thought single parents only had this problem.
I’m with Nnare on this one, letting go is the most powerful favour that one can do for themselves .
This is so powerful I pray God heals you
#touched... What a brave woman .parents need to understand the power of the authority given to them by God. The words spoken over or into a child's life can build or break a child. Words live too. I'm happy she is a praying woman God has indeed proven himself faithful.
#Imbokodo
Amen
May the merciful Lord continue to Bless you more your story really touched my heart, I love you so much, fall inluv with yourself everyday
she definitely had more to tell. you guys should have made a part 2
Yeah definitely
There was no need for part 2 they should of let her finish her story...
The concept of ukbekezela in marriage is deeply entrenched. Funny how when umakoti is being told about marriage do's and donts, it is preached over and over again that it's between 2 people. Yet when she has left, everyone wants to have a say about ukbekezela knowing absolutely nothing about that particular union. Each one is different. Marriage has no formula.
At last ntanga 😭😭you are indeed a strong woman 😍mbokodo.. And l love you, i even took a clap for you😂
My friend I never said am sorry for him beating you that day. I wish I had done better. I love you too.
Would've loved to hear how you are doing now. Good story but a real eye opener
Screw family members, as long as you're happy...That's it
👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
Same thing happened to me and I cried the whole day. Be strong girl 🥰
It shows you had no relationship with your mother for you to be hide your period for so long.she made you insecure from childhood by calling u negative names. We have to be careful the words we speak over our children , it’s extremely important .I can’t also believe at that age , you didn’t learn it from school , cus they usually teach in school about menstruation in social studies class from where I can from ,maybe it’s different in South Africa. Thank you cent twins for this series because it teaches me and I’m sure many others to hear a persons story before you judge them.
" l knew that moment that l had to choose my life" ... Woow
Our generation needs to change the status quo, we need to be better parents . ..our children can't go through such like we did our parents thought talking about sex and changes in the women body are taboo. Praise be to God that in schools kids are being taught but the conversation must start at home. When I had my 1st period my mother wasn't there (due to work) and I lived with my dad and he took me through the talk and how to use sanitary towels which I am grateful for, let's be there for our kids , let's be their teachers, best friends, teachers , motivators all this must begin at home.LETS do different
God is good all the time, no matter the circumstances, the trials He will still remain God. Some things are there to teach us, strengthen us. There is a reason for all of that and for one to be a testimony to other people 🙏. His ways are not our ways at all 🙏
They can repossess everything but you can still build again
Before I heard you speak I was like wow😍 I was shocked you are older than me. You are gorgeous
What a beautiful woman. I cant believe her mum and sister did that to her wow🤦🏾♀️. Im glad her brother stepped up.
For leaving your abusive ex - congratulations. You did well. No matter what.
So painful ,thank yu for sharing this story n reminding us as mothers that we still have a huge role to play in bringing up a girl child n not leaving everything to their teachers
The Lord was with u every step of the way ladies let God bring the man of God to you not just a church goer or some one that has sweet beautiful words but a born again Christian man moreover God didn't allow u to conceive for that man because had he done that you would have felt obligated to stay story was inspiring and also an eye opener for abuse women every where thank u
Aowa I was still enjoying her story 😭😭😭, but anyway I’m getting hope from the little I heard ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This story is so painful, I guess we all have a story to tell gosh our painful upbringing affects our adult lives.
Glory be to God❤️❤️❤️
Eishhhh...this woman is still hurting 🤞🏾😪😪😪
This is heartbreaking 💔
Big up to the notification gang🙌
Brave woman
Wow Glory be to God
There are still some girls even today who don't have access to sanitary towels..if only they could be made free
Honestly, sanitary pads should be made free in the world cuz is costly.
You're a strong woman
we need a part 2 please
Hayi Hayi part 2 guys 😭😭😭
PART 2!!!
We need part2.... Her story is not complete.
When a man hits you once, run!
heartbreaking
You are very strong
You are enough, you are beautiful... Yuuuu love doesn't hurt ♥.... So that I won't bleed on innocent people Jesuuuuuu.. You are strong my lady I'll buy your book.. ♥ ♥ ♥
Nare you are a very strong woman.i am glad that you chose yourself and came out of an abusive marriage,alive to start over and be able to tell your story.may God continue to strengthen you and bless everything that your hands finds to do.💟💟💟
Where can i buy your book? How much?
Is there a part 2 of her story
Hei Manare❤❤❤
Iam proud of you Queen by not staying with that man
Women, build yourself up first; it's like building a house. Then put a price on it before allowing anyone like a partner or husband to come in. If you know your worth, you cannot allow just anyone to come in. You will not build an expensive house and allow someone from the streets to come stay in it to destroy it so you wouldn't do that to yourself if you know your worth, your value. And by this I don't mean monetary but self-worth. When you do that, it might not be 100% but if he hits you the first time you'll know this person's purpose is to devalue you. And you wouldn't stand for it. Finally, love yourself and you won't be desperate for so-called love. Desperation always leads to disappointment. And listen when family and friends who love and care about you warn you about who you're choosing to be with. If you should still proceed, do so with caution.
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