POLYGYNY IN ISLAM - CHALLENGES & SOLUTION
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it can only be easy if one sees this life as a temporary place
Masha Allah this has helped me since I'm in a polygamous marriage ... may Allah reward this speaker
Our sisters are covered and still very beautiful. May Allah accept their prayers. Amin.
Alhamdulillah
Wow Maa Shaa Allah excellent explanation.
When the husband does this correctly we all win. Al Humdulillah let us do what Allah has prescribed for us. We can be anywhere in this world and do our best. Let us show the doubters that Islam is perfect
Wallahi this is the best lecture ever
The best dawaa ever, you will not hear this from many sheik!!!
It would be very nice to see this many men show up when it comes to lectures relating to how to make a family work. Or even lectures about how to guide their children. Talk about polygamy and this is the result... Talk about selfishness. Not that I have a problem with a polygamy but I think they should show similar interest in learning other parts of Islam, ie responsibility towards his family.
The way you look at things are not correct. Their two types of amals one type you won't get any physical pleasure while doing it like walking to masjid for pray, reading Quran.
Another type is while doing you can have physical pleasure like intimacy with spouse, having ifthar meal.
Just because naturally having pleasure it doesn't mean it's less important. It's a blessing from almighty.
This is a profound dawa
Ma Sha Allah.. Barkallahu fikum, May Allah make it easier for us to accept n practice..Amin
To get to the point of seeing Allah alone and not the husband is not easy. A lot of muslims(men or women) never get there .Only Allah can assist us.
Yes Islam is Amazing. I love being muslim
Subhanallah this is the best video on polygamy. Thank you brother 👍🥰 💗.
This is rare germ..I always come here when I feel lost....
wonderful and great teacher
What is the obsession with polygny? Is this the most important topic in the faith.
Allahu akbar,mashallah
Wish u long life to continues in the same way.
My simple and understanding lecture about polygamy may Allah bless you please help share I hope to invite you in Sierraleone
MashAllah 🙏
If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful
It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent.
Allah said:
فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ
Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses.
Surat al-Nisa 4:25
Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage.
Ibn Taymiyyah writes:
وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ
Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress.
Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102
Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ
Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan
Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ
The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan
Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ
Announce the marriage.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan
Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian.
Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said:
نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ
A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly.
Source: al-Mughnī 7/83
This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so.
Ibn Qudamah writes:
فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ
If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid.
Source: al-Mughnī 7/83
And Ibn al-Qayyim writes:
أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ
The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet.
Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113
This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act.
Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter.
Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said:
هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ
This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them.
Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136
This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery.
Ibn Taymiyyah writes:
وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ
As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse.
Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158
In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
Dear God talk about sexual greedy gratification of men .Women you are letting them behave just like Mohammed ...in a disgusting power mad 9 or more women way that led to my white European women ancesters led in captivity to the Sultan Harems . Think also of you black enslaved CASTRATED men ancestors who were neutered to keep the women in order . THIS IS AND WAS ISLAM . MOHAMMED bartered in SLAVES and said Black people had heads like raisins .So disrespectful .
This verse shows why polygyny is allowed. It is allowed in order to protect the orphans.
very apt👌
Allahu akbar
May Allah bless you
So many things not addressed: what is the mandate to protect each other's health from STDs? Yeast infections? And other STIs that can occur when a man is having sex unprotected with more ...How can a woman possibly be fulfilled by a man whose desires are being met by other women BUT she is mandated to be faithful to him only? How is his marrying her beneficial if/when his heart is split amongst women/children and work-someone will be neglected-either emotionally or physically, so many questions 😔
The answers to your questions is that we marry, have children etc for the sake of Allah, to seek his pleasure because that is the Altimate pleasure. "He Alone do we worship and from him alone do we seek guidance" If we do this we will overlook the problems and pleasure of marriage and seek Allah's ultimate pleasure.
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This is not answering her question.
Your questions are not relevant to the topic being discussed. Scientifically, a man can have more than one partner without problem of STDs so long they are all faithful to one another.
On woman's happiness, I bet you know ladies more than men in the world. If it is one man, one wife, what happens to the excess ladies?
Islam is beauty and divine.
Our forefathers in Africa practice polygamous successfully, we shouldn't let the western define a way of life for us.
Sister Felicia, as a woman who is also in polygyny (for almost 20 years) I understand and hear your concern in your question. When a man marries another - health is very important. Being tested for stds is something that should be done upfront to bring clarity across the board before stepping “onboard.”
As for the ph balancing - hygiene is extremely important. If someone’s ph balance is thrown off - we want to make sure all channels are explored - not just pointing the finger at the other woman blaming her. It could be him (couples experience that in monogamy). It could be from stress, what your eating or not eating along with a few other things to consider.
As for the children - there can be multiple ways that the children can still see and be around the father as often as they would if polygyny was not on the table. It’s about what the dynamics and intentional planning that goes into the structure of the family.
Best video mashallah
Now that is the real the Jihad within
MashaAllah
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No six yard sisters please. Brothas winning.
C'mon !!!!! Ain't no woman buying that Shaykh🙂
This guy is manipulative.
😂😂Masha Allah