Filipino Culture: Respect, Titles, and Fictive Kinship
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ย. 2024
- One thing I noticed about Filipino culture is their emphasis on addressing others with respect. People who are older or in a position of authority are usually not going to be addressed by their first names.
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I call tricycle driver kuya, even though I'm older than him. .. respects for him who will take me safely to my destination. ...
EX tricycle driver here Galing po ako sa JPTODA sa novaliches LOL
Filipinos always respect others by saying "kuya" (older bro) or "ate" (older sister) tita (auntie) Tito (uncle) even without relations in their family,,in that way Filipinos addressing respect to anyone ,,thanks for telling the world about good Filipino culture
I remember when my daughter first day of college here in America everyone introduced themselves on their sit but when my daughter turns she stands up and everybody got surprised the professor asked her why she standing up? And she told them this is our culture if you're in school even if you're in college your respect matters to the ones in title to
she nailed it..thats the best thing to do after all.. pinoy na pinoy..
Nenita Palomar
same in almost all asian countries
Nenita Palomar you shud stand up so that other will see you
thats what filipino is
I can't agree enough on all what you have said buddy. I live here in Canada for more than half of my life now( I'm 60 this year) and I was in shock when I first landed my job in an automotive shop because I heard my cousin (working with me) addressing our Boss by his first name only! Then secretly I asked my cousin, is that you guys address our Boss here in Canada? He answered me with a smile yes!, he said.Very different from where I grew up.Years passed by so quick I was able to sponsor my nieces and nephew to live with me here ,then one day one of my nieces phone me and my boss answered it and told me a few seconds later with a smile on his face Hey Uncle John you got a phone call from your niece! I realized when my boss' kids call him they don't even address him Dad just his first name! that's when he told me my damn kids won't even call me Dad just my first name ,I just smile and tell him that it's just common for us Filipinos addressing the elders with proper title and respect.I'm happy you embrace our culture and traditions.Take care and God bless your family circle.
Equality is not yet felt by majority........
Kuya, your explanation is 100% correct. I agree with you, saying it is a respect and affection at the same time. There was a situation where a crew member at the Mcdonald's was addressed as Kuya even if he is younger than the customer. This is because he didn't know him and he chose to be polite.
Thank you so much for sharing our culture with the world, I'm proud being a Filipino. And I'm grateful to my parents, my Aunt and my Grandmother for raising us well. We pass this on to the next generation. Like some other stuff we shudnt do in this era, for instance, no cellphones on the table while having a meal or dont forget to bless your Parents, Aunts, Uncles, Grannies when you leave the house and in coming home as well, or even visiting relatives, this is one Filipino culture I'm proud of. Another is the use of "po" and "opo"☺. Thanks again and take care.☺
others will even call you gradma and grandpa in tagalog if youre an elder even if youre not related to them. thats just to show respect. yes, its very uncomfortable to call someone in their 1st name if they are much older than you here in Philippines.
Can’t even imagine calling my parents by their first name, maybe not even when I’m drunk lol.
I think another reason for this is, esp for strangers, we call them kayak/ate/‘nay/‘tay is because it makes your approach less offensive, kinder. So you have a better chance of getting a positive response, for say if you’re asking for a direction or a question.
Some may misinterpret, they think it is some kind of showing inferiority or superiority but the thing it is realy not, we Filipino's taught by early childhood to give respect, be polite. We use Po and Opo to Express it but of course it's somewhat awkward to use it for other race, they may not understand it, and that why we use Sir or ma'am instead.. every people around the globe deserves respect and we Filipino's know that.
Exactly...
You are right Kevin, Pinoys always address anybody older a title of respect.
You may have not experienced the title of "Mang" for males and "Aling" for females. It's the equivalent of sir and maam but very casual but polite. It's starting to drop from usage, though.
very true☺☺☺thats why i call my boss maam shaika even if she's younger than me..😁😁😁
I like how he put it; respect with affection.
thank you so much Mr.kevin for ur sharing our culture to others may God bless you
kuya is big brother like your a part of the family in philippines.. and po and opo
A lot of titles and honorifics you get by default, or simply by just being old (po, opo, etc). Some you earn (presumably), either through education (attorney, doc, professor), or through seniorship/promotion (boss, sir, etc). Titles of respect and terms of endearment can sometimes even be mixed. "Bossing" is a little less formal than "boss" or "sir" but it implies heavily that the person likes you as his boss and is willing to take orders/direction from you. Although, sometimes it can be used sarcastically, but that's rare, and you can often tell.
"Fictive " I learnt something today, thank you. Good content too.
come from fiction
It's kinda ironic especially in the States, people demand respect but don't show and give it to others..
Haha... 100% true. I don't know if we Filipinos are so respectful or just too conscious with the title.
it's due to good family values which is not bad this values actually promotes respect not only to yourself but to others as well.
Haha. I think mix of both...respectful and title conscious...which is sometimes negative
This is what u called customary law. Part of culture in phils
Is our blood culture
The youngsters always respect the elders, by saying PO and OPO or MANO PO !
Thank you pastor for a nice appreciation of our culture.
We usually grew up taught to be respectful to parents, grand parents, relatives and to anyone. Here if you're a kid and talks back to your parent while they scold you, you get SLAP in the face or SPUNK in the your BUTT ahaha.
I think this is the difference between American and Filipino kids, american kids get SPOILED very often because US parents can't do disciplinary action like Filipino Parent does since they have law about it. And that law makes some American kid spoiled Brats (not saying all of them). 'guess too much freedom is bad thing.
Red Wind you're right.. Im 49 and spent my early years in the american south and we had corporal punishment in school and talking back to the teacher would get you paddled and then you would get spanked at home by both parents.. But when the government took out corporal punishment in school and told parents they could not spank their kids anymore thats when kifs here in america got bad... Some of these kids curse in front of me like im not standing in front of them... I know because i work for two school districts in new york.. When i spent a month in manila and capiz and saw how respectful the kids were i was blown away...
*SPANK coz Spunk is a totally different word hahah
Very well said sir kiven, thank you so much god bless you and your family
@@kkidcruz6118 lol that *cracked* me up
Yes. We are conscious of showing respect when addressing others. I call my garderner not just Edwin but Mang Edwin. This is even with the knowledge that he is younger than I am, but since he does look older than I am, I prefer to address him with respect.
We also use "Nanay" or "Tatay" (Mommy or Daddy) when addressing a really old person who is not a relative. It is really unattractive to call a 60 year old by his/her first name.
"Lolo" or "Lola" will also do but it may give away the age too much.
But we only use the Filipino version. We do not use mommy or daddy to an elderly. It's kinda give a bad taste for some reason.
We respect people..becoz we expect to.be respected in return and be it a habit to respect to be an example to the younger ones..
BUT,,dont cross the line by being arrogant,or take advantage of our being respectful,,remember we all deserve respect..you could get killed if its really badly you disrespect.
Thats true and its about our culture 😊😊 respect others so everybody respect each other too ,,,
I didn't know you have a YT channel. I don't know if you remember but I met you when I was in college at Universidad de Manila. I'm glad :). Godbless!
Your correct it's really uncomfortable when we didn't call kuya when he's older than us..
you will recognized a Filipino when they say ''Sir'' ''Madam''
thanks for bringing this up Kevin. I have a pinay friend who refers to public figures as senator this, vice president that etc. At first I thought it was about prestige for her but in the context of this video I can see that its a cultural thing and I also see why she was so upset when her daughter inlaw (American born and raised filipina) neglected to bless her by taking her hand up to her forehead in the classic tradition.
that's a great topic to discuss Kevin, especially in the context of Asian people raised in a western environment where mano is not practiced; somewhat of an east meets west culture shock haha
you do a great job Kevin, can tell you put a lot of thought into your videos and I for one am eagerly waiting to learn about mano and other traditions/beliefs native to Philippines.
I'm so sorry I should call you pastor not Mr.
we in the ilocos region adress the kuya or ate for someone older than you, and "ading" for the young ones
Manang or manong,right?
New Sub here... Those are very true... I am a Filipino from Manila. Grew up here... Thanks for bringing up these great respect of Filipinos to our elders... God 🙏 Bless you Sir....
this is something i take pride on😁
Well said brother,that's how we are Filipinos .Our culture is unique and not only as a culture but we live in it ,we apply in our lives in daily bases.We are small and simple to the other countries but we are the most kind,hospitable,loving , respectful ,happiest people all over the world.We thank God for creating us as a good example to others.Be ye kind to one another,tender hearted,forgiving one another,even as God for Christ 's sake hath forgiven you.(Ephesians4:32 KJV). Thanks for the video.God bless us all.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Addressing sir mam usually came from American culture in which show humility/respect usually started in school, it is abnormal to not address your teacher, fictive kinship is really true
Filipinos are Title Conscious people in the World.
maraming salamat po kuya..mabuhay ka.... Godbless u
The highest value of Filipinos is RELATIONSHIP. For americans if I am not taught wrong, it is SUCCESS. So in America you are respected if you are successful in your field of endeavor. In the Philippines, you are respected because you are good in interpersonal relationship. Notice Filipinos who spent 2 yrs or more working abroad and when on vacation, he throws parties almost daily for his neighbors and relatives. If he doesn't, he will be called snob and losses respect from the community. Ate, Kuya, Tito, Tita or of much older , Nanay, tatay are usual address you would hear in public places and in transport. You are only allowed to call a person in his name if he is of the same age with you and of the same financial status with you. Otherwise, you will be branded as RUDE.
Sir, kevin, you married a filipina woman.??? Sorry my late congratulations to you and your legal wife. God Bless You sir,!
I extremely agree with you Kevin..
You forgot to tell them Pastor Kevin that we call elders nanay or tatay, lolo and lola even if we just met them. Or if you are a friend of our godparents we will also call you ninong or ninang
Obviously Lolo Kevin, you're married to a Filipina.
Agree to that, I'm in my 30's and I follow that rule, but then f a guy or a girl is disrespectful for me, I will call them by their 1st name or create a branded name 😉👍🇵🇭
I think the US at a time didnt like the pleasantries and title calling or formality , British culture imposed on them and started to be more casual... hence not inserting titles when addressing someone because titles and formalities sucks( because that is so British). Here in the islands (Phils) we have this caste system from our ancestors that strictly adhere to hierarchy and position in the society, then we have the Spaniards inheriting us with another cultural structure of society class. Indios for brown skin, uneducated, so little respect was given, Sangleys the chinaman, peninsulares(Filipinos) island born Spanish, mestizos ( fair skinned). But because Filipinos are naturally a barangay (local community) society where everyone knows someone within the barangay, we respect each other but hated other barangays. As we look for national identity in the modern world we take everyone now as brothers and part of the family.
familial titles:
brother:
eldest - kuya
second - diko
third - sanko
sister:
eldest - ate
second - ditse
third - sansi
fictive kinship:
strangers:
manong - male
manang - female
although some filipinos find these titles a little rude because it kinda signify old age
Ohmz Congayo just a lil correction, second older sister is called dete. Ditse is actually a title given to the third older sister.. :)
for siblings the 3rd part of brothers and sisters is kinda speculating me a bit for japanese since the word san in japan is the number 3
oh... thanks for that, i didn't know it ... we only use ditse ... btw what is third bro called?
I grew up with the males being called Kuya (eldest), Diko (2nd), and Sanko (3rd). For females it''s Ate, Ditche, Sanse. However, I hear there are different variations based on region and/or dialect
Brother: kuya, diko, sangko, sikong Sister: ate, ditse, sanse, dete....this is how it is in valenzuela (formerly bulacan now metro manila)
I find it amusing: Engineer Smith or Accountant Smith or Attorney Smith etc even though they're not practicing in the profession but they do hold a degree on it but and never actually landed a job in their field of education.
You wouldn't really address them by those formal addresses unless they pass the bar or board exam (national examination in order to get your license). otherwse it would be an insult.
Yes , I noticed here in America ...they call their parent - in- laws by their first name ...
We ilocanos address those who are younger than us 'ading' which means younger sister/brother in ilocano
I think there was a hierarchy in referring to older siblings like kuya, dikong, manong, ate, sianse, ditche, i used to hear that with my moms siblings . But it kinda got lost during the decades
To the Filipinos, to give or address respect to anyone especially the elders is ingrained from childhood at home, school and community thatit become a habit. To the Filipinos then, respecting is a habit.
Great observation. It is indeed the most or let say one of the significant things about being a filipino
Everything you said is VERY TRUE.....
One culture that you is undeniably Filipino is hospitable and trusting,meaning Filipinos will share their foods to whosoever visitors on their homes even if she or he is their first time to meet them. Other Countries,that's a big No.
tha't aside from being too polite and respectful.
Spot on 👍🏻
Shar Maine can I connect you maybe in messenger or can I call you. Anyway have you been to Philippines?
Kevin Sanders great video
I still say yes sir and yes ma'am and I'm 70 years old. And yes, I'm from Texas.
And to elders we also call them nanay or mama, or aunt for elder women and tatay or papa, uncle for elder men.
yeah that's right even the new generation now the young ones they call the opposite as kuya older brother or ate older sister even they're the same age
that rice cooker though
And if a filipinos called a you in your name its means their accept you as their own!
Thanks of your appreciation to our Filipino culture Sir.
Hi Kevin, I remember you always in SM Ayala buying roasted chicken in the store I worked with. Are you still working out at Gold Gym? Anyway, thanks for being so nice to Filipino. I know how good you are too.
Kevin Sanders
Oh sorry. Maybe you’re right though I was assigned at SM Manila for a couple of years too before I was transferred to Ayala. Anyway, thanks for the info. god bless and I am now one of your follower.
Thank you Kevin for admiring our culture :)
You are right bro,.!!!
Hi guys.,where are you in phil?am i right your exactly angeles pampangga?
Oh ok thank you guys.hopefully your open for meet up when you in pampangga.as we are planning to live in pampangga we are looking for friends there if you dont mind.
I love how you said it’s respect with affection, that sums it up perfectly!
Thanks!!
You might as well add how we feel when we are not addressed with such terms...., i feel really uncomfortable when i hear my name called by children, they were actually korean's so i was just trying to understand them but deep inside i felt uneasy about it.... i only call people by their names when i am like angry to them like when i fight with my sister, i do not want to call her "ate" that's when she will realize i am angry....
Hamites are more respectful generally. Where are you from in the South?
Oh. Okay. Sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone.
I'm Semitic, but not a Jew.
That happens to me, I love it.
Thanks a lot for promotin and loving our country.... godbless 😊😊
Yes respect is the most very important thing that we always doin for others, because we always expect that they ll do the same as how and what we re doin 😊😊 thanks again sir mabuhay po kayo
"kuya' older brother and "ate" older sister are chinese in origin.
Tanga kaba??ate kuya sa chenese is iba.
@@Jazz-tv7jr "kuya" is from the Chinese "ahia" (older brother) and "ate" is from the Chinese "achi" (older sister)
Maraming Salamat Po
I grew up in the U.S. When I go to the Philippines, I address everyone with "po" and "Mr." and "Ma'am." But the same goes here in the U.S. I went to Catholic School, and they really enforced addressing everyone with respect. We were taught not to address the elders by their first names, so I guess it just stuck with me. Now that I am older, I still address people with Mr or Mrs. but I find now that some of the elders do not like. Also, some of my patients who are filipino do not like being called "tita" or "tito" or even "Mr." or "Mrs." which I find pretty surprising! (I must note they do not mind when I say "po")
So, is this something modern? My parents don't mind either or when others address them by their titles or even by their first names. When I ask them about it, they say it makes them feel younger... hmmmmm 🤔
Oo OPo. Yes, that was how I was raised also. But I am often addressed with respect every time I have a visited my fiancee in the Philippines. I am often been referred to as Tito (uncle). Even though we are post poning our marriage. I am a deacon at my church. With an MTS in Christian Mission, I am called Mr. The respect should be returned to America.
yes !
I'm new here idol..nice video
Mga kababayan dto dalaw kau sa tahanan ko..salamat..watching here in Saudi Arab
nice
THX
Watching from Montreal,Quebec.
Thank you brother welcome to our humble country the Philippines God bless you all🙏Salamat Po!
Hi.. I am happy watching you telling some our cultures. Yes its true. May i add.. People here always say PO and OPO as yes. Like..." Opo kuya or opo ate" always like that if you are talking to elders. Especially if you are talking to your parents, aunties, uncles, government officials, church leaders, professors, etc.
It is a reminder for us that someone is in authority; we need to give them the respect of what they earned. Doctor, Lawyer, Teacher, And so on and so forth... Ate, Kuya, bunso..
I'm from India, calling anyone by their first name or by any name is disrespecting, very similar to philosophies,
We were also trained to address Kuya /Ate or Tita / Tito even to our relatives who are younger than us but would be with the same level or generation with that of our parents like I still call my dad's youngest brother, Tito Orlan even if I'm 6 yrs older than him
Who are these gentle, ever-loving and always caring little warm-hearted humanoids? With all their difficulties and imperfections, they're still rediculously happy. From what distant star did they come from?
Wow !! Very unusual way of showing respects to people
thanks kuya Kevin..God Bless!!
I agree with you. I grew up in Phils and moved here in US to marry my fiance. I've seen a few difference here with kids and young adults, not that their disrespectful or what. Nice video btw, very informative to those who've never been in Phils.
Thank you so much Mr. Kevin for sharing our Good culture, respect and affectionate dealing with people. Calling them kuya or Ate is only a sign of respect though they are much younger. It is natural for us, show respect for others and we are calling them Sir or Ma'am or Boss when you are in higher position.
Most of all people here in the USA are monitizing all relationships if you don't have money they don't want you ad a friend etc this is what I see even envey to family doing well here
and all the elder people will be called nanay (mom) or tatay (dad). you can't also talked to older people without the "po" and "opo" unless you want yo be considered rude. lol! mabuhay ang Pilipinas!
wanna add something in the culture of Filipino.. When Filipino is an Elder or somewhat older than you they will adress you "anak" meaning my child eventhough you are not related at all..
100% legit kuya Kevin.. 😁😁
True! We got that respect from sapnish / Japanese culture
you can also use manong(male) or manang(female) for older strangers. tito and tita are usually used for your relatives or close to your family
When given you a title it is a sign of respect
in my province even not my relatives just neighbours or just older than me new friend or even visitors . We used uncle and for old people lola /lolo/ nanay or tatay. older than me kuya ate /manong /manang /younger than I call langga /or baby. bish or sis .or same age
Yes its uncomfortable to call a person by his/her /name specially if he/she is older or superior than you.... it is like putting yourself in the same level with that person. Respect and humility really matters in the Philippines. I already noticed that in america someone can call anyone in his name even he is older than you. But if the people are comfortable with their kind of culture then its fine i think.
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THERE ARE LOTS OF OLDER MEN CALLING ME KUYA. .I HATE THEM BECAUSE I FEEL THAT THEY WANT TO LOOK MUCH YOUNGER AND YUMMIER THAN ME HAHAHA
Well said po,details by details,understandable.
In Philippine, Family first we take care of the elder we never leave them even in difficult time.
we filipinos taught to respect specially to our parents and elderly people or someone who has attained high position.