Here are my Awkward Heroes (people I like, who showed me I can embrace how I naturally am, and be cool) Aubrey Plaza Kristin Stewart Zooey deschannal Daniel Howell Johnny Depp Keanu Reeves Rooney Mara (there's many more, I just have to think of them.) feel free to add to the list!
Yess, Johnny Depp really is a good one when it comes to this! I have some celebreties who would fit into this list as well, but they are from my home country, so nobody would know them 😂
This is so challenging for me. I am just shy and introverted but I keep trying to be more outgoing. It’s such a difficult intense effort for me. I just have to accept I’m not that way.
I too am shy and introverted by nature. No amount of pretending to be outgoing will change this. Don’t be afraid to “go for it” when an opportunity presents itself. When I was younger, girls that I thought were attractive showed interest in me. And I totally blew them off! I should have said hi and introduced myself. But I couldn’t see past the end of my nose! All I had to do was say hi!
@@teekotrain6845 you need to be very careful with that line of thinking because it will lead to arrogance and a deceitfulness after a period of time. Don't look down on anyone or say you're more intelligent because of your introverted nature. Just chill and focus on accepting yourself.
I’m so glad you’ve done the necessary introspection and came to the realization of who you are, accepting that is who you are supposed to be and not pretending to be someone else or what people want you to be. I remember Jim Carrey mentioning that being depressed is one’s body seeking deep rest from the character one is constantly trying to play instead of being the character one was born to be. I’m glad you’ve recognized your character and decided there’s no other personality you have to become other than who you actually are. You’ve come a long way from the Myra sitting on that park bench, telling a supposed friend-less life-story. The best kind of friend you can have is yourself. And finally, I’m glad I got to witness your journey; it’s certainly inspiring. For me, you demonstrate that everyone is searching for who they are and once they realize it, only then are they truly free.
You're such an eye opener. Whenever I try to act cool in front of my "friends," idk it just doesn't work out. I really need to start embracing who I really am. Be myself and just not care about what other people would think about me.
God, I can tell you from experience that life gets SO MUCH BETTER when you learn to stop concerning yourself with thoughts like "what should I do to make this person like me?". If the person doesn't gel with the kind of vibe you prefer to give off, then you either lose them or you get them by putting up a perpetually fake vibe, neither of which is ideal, so might as well choose the former. I think the fear we have is that if we be ourselves (usually introverted, not very talkative, low energy), then NO ONE will want to be around us, but that's just flat out not true. The kind of people no one wants to be around are the ones who don't open up, engage, or express interest in being around them, and you don't need to be a social butterfly to exhibit those traits.
I think the last sentence that you wrote is confusing - if I am a very shy and introverted person then I am not going to open up and engage with people that easily, it can take a lot of time with new people, and from my experience that is enough to usually tag you as an unsocial person. So unfortunately, I have a hard time seeing why embracing my low energy, non-talkative personality will help me, besides maybe getting some self confidence by being authentic. Being an extrovert makes life easier in that regard.
@@TZACHI9 You've raised an important point. When advice says "put yourself OUT there" ... it's referring to individuals whose "more natural" default is to kept themselves *IN* there -- as an IntroVert would tend toward. If Myra & the commenter are saying "It's okay to be & act as your introverted self with the world & people" -- that *is* true, but it might be an excessively lonely existence. Many naturally extroverted people will pass by the introverts & empaths -- barely noticing them. Tending to be a reserved person (introvert or empath) but wanting to push oneself beyond that comfort-zone toward acting more extroverted (e.g., outgoing) is also okay -- it's still being authentic when one is not acting phoney or manipulative. It takes some courage to endure the risks of "putting yourself out there" & revealing & sharing less-apparent parts of ourselves. A lifetime of staying in one's "comfort zone" is exhausting. That said, many extroverts would benefit by leaving their "extro" comfort-zone and practicing some traits of empathy & introversion. Some "extros" can't or won't turn-down their loud bubbles... and it can be exhausting too. Just my aged-opinion. ♡♡
@@TZACHI9 You are most welcome! Myra is a good role model thru her courage to put herself "out there" on TH-cam & the world -- so that it's only authentic for us viewers to share ourselves in her video comments -- even when we risk ridicule. I liked what you wrote -- I feel your struggle -- I hoped to pick-up on & add to your thoughts. Perhaps Myra or others would contribute. ♡
I just don't care what people think about me, i'm the kind of person who thrives from recharging with myself. I live according to my subconscious thoughts and moods. The way that i'm wired with people relies on how i feel in that moment. I think, in my opinion, that you are a really interesting person . . .
@@myrawest I also learned that I don't have to think that I am missing out on anything if I am not going outgoing. It's also possible that the outgoing people miss out on certain things people like us experience. Finding your channel was a major role in my acceptance of this fact. So I am always grateful for the famous video you uploaded on my 21st birthday in August 2019. You are a true hero and role model to me Myra 🙏
The most confident people are the ones most comfortable in their own skin. Not necessarily the super vivacious or the people pleasers or the ones wearing the latest fashion trend. Just the ones who wake up every day and know exactly who they are down to the core and embrace this. Others recognize genuine confidence and are attracted to these people. Cheers!
Just like you said, "Embrace your awkwardness." That's being truly AUTHENTIC! And not running away from ourselves. It's amazing too because when we behave that way, those who are energetically drawn to us will LOVE that "awkwardness" about us. What we tend to think as deficits in our cultural context, are actually things of empowerment and strength. I'm glad you're finding and embracing your authentic self as you continue on your life's journey. I know for me personally, ever since I've begun that process my life has forever changed with forward momentum.
Just be you. That's the most beautiful thing in the world. I've seen and heard the fake people out there and I started avoiding many. I kept my circle very small for a long time and til I finally looked for those that were somewhat similar to myself and similar interest. So much better that way.
4:27 "Embrace the awkwardness, instead of like feeling ashamed of how awkward I am". Well.. Seems like the comment I wrote earlier lead up to this in some kind of way. And once again.. You are right. I'll try that from today. I'll give myself a total of a week (and more) to totally be myself and now HOW other should expect me to be, or HOW i should be to be liked. Wish me luck :)! Thank you for the video
My favourite people are the people who fake their own death to escape the life they are experiencing. But at some later date they get found. I love those people. I told a girl that once and she told me… that wasn’t going where I thought it would go.
I love your personality. You really don’t need to be anything other than you. It took me so long to realise that in myself. I’m 37 and I still feel like I’m learning to be me. It’s hard when naturally I am actually extremely introverted. I think making zero effort is good advice. I mean we should always be polite but I don’t want to be fake and pretend I’m bubbly and loud when I’m not. I’m very ‘flat’ as you have said. I don’t get excited by things. I’m just not that fun! But that’s ok. I’m kind, I’m reasonably well educated. I’m thoughtful. I’m just not a loud, extra person. I’m learning to be ok with that. It’s taken me so long to just not feel so boring compared to everyone else.
When I was a teenager in 2006, I looked up in the blue sky and I hear a voice in my right ear. It says, "Find someone who loves you and dance to the music."😊💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙👍
Myra, this made me smile! Accepting the person you are within and shedding the person you are for others, the one you believe others want you to be, is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself. It's also one of the greatest gifts you can give others. Pretend nothing and you will be energized. When you are unapologetically your true authentic self, all that wasted soul draining energy can be put to much better use. After all, the people that truly deserve your time, your kindness and friendship are the ones who will accept and appreciate you for being you...it's as simple as that :-)
Being true to yourself and you're already the best you can be. You hit the nail on the head with this video! Nevermind what other people think! Just be you. You're a gem!
nope, trust me, be yourself, people love YOU and wish they were YOU.. so many people out there PREFER AND LOVE quieter calmer more serious careful people like us
@@myrawest Trust me girl! im like you, and i admire people like us……. alot of people out there are too silly and crazy (not saying allllll loud people are) but it seems like the bloody majority are….😊 haha. Like even in a guy (my bf) i admire his calmer humble inoccent parts whereas i wouldnt trust a guy that was toooooooo loud and crazy and silly and just haywire……… Theres a BEAUTY about classic, respectful people like us❤️❤️❤️ 😊 we cant just pretend and be friends with everyone.. we’re more real and natural and serious
Good day Myra! I have binged watch some of your videos in the train, all I want to say is: Your videos are therapeutic for me. I'm 20 years old (unofficially, so ig I'm still considered as a target audience). It may feel weird to write this, as I only watch certain videos that only shows some part of you and your life, but I really think I resonate with you, so so much. Watching you talk and express yourself feels like I'm watching my older and healthier self giving advices, accepting myself and sharing opinions that is severely unpopular. I was having a bad day, not one actually, but have been having it for quite a while. Mainly because I was feeling insecure of who myself is internally, my personality is flat, and I've made the same mistake as you did, which is pretending to be "bubbly". But it backfired, as being bubbly and loud isn't really who I am! Although pretending to be bubbly and outgoing did get me friends, it feels draining at some point. And slowly, my true colour slowly shows and people would be confused and just started to think I hated them! At some point, I just want to scream to relieve the frustration, but I can't. I guess that's the consequences of pretending someone you're not. It's hard to tell them about it too, really. I don't think they'll understand, based on what I knew them. It might sound funny but, all and all, aside from struggling from the consequences of my own action, I at least feel much better right now after watching your videos, especially this one and the insecure video. I like how authentic and real you are, and I've learn some valuable lessons, and it's all thanks to you :-)
Bob Hope did scripted stand up comedy jokes and failed terribly. Someone told him to be himself, and he naturally did jokes and was an enormous success. Barbra Streisand was embrassed of her nose and looked down when singing and bombed. Someone told her that is how God made you and you are beautiful be proud and look up, her career took off! Be yourself, be proud of yourself!
George Burns intended for Gracie Allen to be his "straight man" to set him up for his punchlines. It wasn't working, so George decided to switch it up and see how it went. And thus a legendary comedy act was born.
As someone who was awkward, painfully shy, and rather Sigma in personality as a young man, I can identify. Yes, embracing your actual personality is healthy and liberating. But know this: parts of your personality that you truly wish to change, you may be able to change. I've taught myself many things over the years, by the grace of God. I'm now at my best with a mic in my hand on stage in front of a crowd speaking about something that matters to me. That's a far cry from the shy, awkward me of decades past. Sure, some things remain (I'm still an introvert; just not painfully shy). But I'm happy being me. I improve in areas that bother me, and embrace who I am becoming as I live and grow. God bless you on your journey. Seek Him and you'll find your best self in the process.
I couldn't agree more Myra! I think it's worth also pointing out; whether you be yourself or try to be someone you're not, there'll be people who like you & others who don't. There's no point in tiring yourself out with the ongoing chore of portraying a false personality, when it won't really make much difference to how many people like you. The only difference would be who those people are.
i really relate with this video. the monk mofo's in the east had it figured out way before modern civilization even existed; the less you try the less your brain gets in the way of expressing yourself in the world
Hello Ms. West. As a younger person that I used to be, I always tried to please other people by trying to be outgoing and being somebody I'm not. Like you, I'm an introvert and always will be. And I'm ok with it. You have to be comfortable in your own skin. Or better said, be happy with it. Not care what other people think of you. You are special and unique like everybody is also.
You have given out some of the best advice I've heard in a long time! And actually you appear much happier... like a glow 🌟! Your video brings me great joy! 🥰🤗🌈😊❤️
Brilliant video, you really knocked it on the head, you can gain so much more confidence if you just follow what you feel to be right for you, so many feel the same way as you did before, very touching video!!
Being ones self is very important in life. I am a serious minded person, most people do not like that, and have tried to change me over the years; I never changed for them. I did become more mellow, and let things go just to not stress myself. I know how to have fun, and relax, but I am still serious minded for the most. When one accepts themselves, and learns to live in their own body; then one can grow, and you will find friends who accept you for who you are, and as project to change. Stay Blessed!!!
LOL! I totally agree with what you said here Myra. And if you truly like guys with that more "laid back" personality, then you'd really like me and my personality then, because I am always an even keel, calm, and chilled out guy, no matter the situation or circumstance. Don't get me wrong, I definitely still know how to have real FUN, but to me, fun can be had in MANY more ways than most average people think it can!... Embrace your awkwardness, YES, I do that too, with my Asperger's, even if some more "neurotypical" people sometimes just think I'm "weird" because of it... There's a good statement that I saw on a sign one time... "Always just be yourself, because everyone else is already taken!" I totally agree with that.
That's the secret, to be yourself, for many years of my life I got off my skin to please other people in order to get accepted or having that sort of human validation, and I think that is the reason why I didn't really connect to people, i was being forced and unnatural, but now I'm finally getting more and more in touch with who I am, getting to know myself a little better and founding out things about me that I didn't know I had it and honestly this is waaaayyy better than pretending to be someone else. Anyway, i love your channel, it's been helping me a lot, giving me new perspectives of life and that's the kind of connection that i want to have with people: deep. Have a nice day, just wanted to share this cuz i know you'll understand.
I definitely understand! I think it was the same for me, that people couldn't connect with me because I wasn't being myself, and actually I've faked it for so long, it's hard to know who I really am. so I'm also trying to reconnect with the true me
I think you are very wonderful just the way you are!! You do have a nice smile while you are talking. I listen very closely to all you say. I think in many ways I am a lot like you. So, anyway, I think this was great advice! Thank you!!
Myra, I've watched a number of your videos and admire how articulate you are, even in your spontaneous posts. You might be up to your eyeballs already with recommendations already, but I want to add a couple thoughts. One time, perhaps it was in "Dear Insecure People...." you mentioned the negative feelings that come from feeling helpless. You are, of course, not helpless. You have agency. Realize this by recognizing when you accomplish something. You have probably heard the advice to make your bed every morning and recognize that you have accomplished a task, made something constructive happen. The book "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" explains this concept. When you recognize your accomplishments it effects your biochemistry and mood. You seem to be an introvert. So am I. Maybe you know what this means - it is not a defect of any kind. I'll share a method I developed for social interactions: I treat it like a game. I try to follow my script and 'score' myself on how well I do. When I take the focus off the other person, wondering what they think of me and how they might react, and think about my own actions, it removes almost all the stress and greatly lowers the energy drain. Also, it almost always works and before you know it you are in an interesting conversation. Yes, it takes some courage but practice makes perfect. You are interesting and capable and have a lot of potential.
When I feel most insane, most like everything is going wrong, is when I'm trying to be something I'm not. I wonder if that's what mental health is about. Disease => unease, out of synch with true self. Disaster (this I got from Wayne Dyer) => disassociation from the astral, (now this is my own part) or like disease, but more intense separation from true self. It's commonly said when dating that you should be yourself. Well, I'm a total train wreck when meeting anybody new. Ok, does that give me an excuse to be something I'm not? Or trying to be cool? or even more relatable to that person I think I'm attracted to? If I 'm a total train wreck then embrace that train wreck. If the other person likes me even as a train wreck, then wow! I've really got something good. On the other hand, if I present my best self ... that is really hard to maintain, or trying to be someone else, very, very hard to maintain. (I wonder if that is part of why a lot of relationships break up so easily?)
You are a true inspiration to the world, Myra. Its so good to share your experiences so other people can feel that they are not alone. And yes you are right, be authentic, be yourself instead of pleasing others. After all you are also a person with feelings and emotions and most of all you are also important. And I feel that you are truly a beautifull soul.
I’m so happy I found this channel. You remind me so much of myself. I’m 23 and I don’t have any friends. I have a boyfriend, who I’m so grateful for. But, friendships particularly are so hard because I’ve always been awkward and shy. I’m going to take your advice and try to embrace my weirdness. Thank you Myra ♥️
Hey Myra. You are right, that is what it is to be comfortable in your own skin. If you want something that might bolster your confidence but still be you then I suggest learning a bit about body language as certain postures can boost feels of confidence. I saw your original video years ago. It is great to see you on your journey doing well, I know life is up and down but I hope you are well.
I empathize with the sentiment. To me, because my personality isn't bubbly, it's polite, when others are that way it can come across as fake, or forced, or both. I am not even trying to be that way because people can see it's not my natural self. So I stay flat and polite until I vibe with someone, then I may get super talkative, interested, and start being funny or joking but I am always shy until I feel people out. I'm awkward too so I until I get around people who just "get me" I keep it chill. I think it's great you had this realization. When everything you do is for your own purpose it's going to draw the people you want most in your life and repel those who will hinder your journey.
honestly how you described your personality is exactly me! I also warm up to people and become more animated, talkative and bubbly as I get more comfortable with them
Be your authentic self, Myra. Nevertheless, not at the risk of becoming a social outcast. Keep challenging yourself to become the best version of yourself and achieve balance.
You have reached a state of self consciousness that is superb. You clearly described what do you like to be and how you find cool attractive in people. I wish I was there at your age. Great beautiful Myra 👍👌😘
Myra maybe I need to try this would love to meet you as you are amazing and honesty and I love it and love your amazing channel love your Australia friend John xxxx
Hello and good morning Myra. Learning to like ourselves, accepting ourselves as we are is a process. With all the things that are happening, especially at this speed, you just need a certain hold. You get that from good people around you, but also from yourself, by allowing yourself to be liked, so that other people can also get the opportunity to like us. The way there is the goal. Only when we accept ourselves can others do the same. Thanks a lot.
you also have to learn to embrace the cringe. if you are an awkward person or a weird type of creative person, you're going to have cringe moments. you may even have flashbacks about the cringe. you just have to realize you ARE a weirdo and that's okay. the cringe is just from you wanting to be someone you arent, the other people dont remember your cringe at all really. only you do. they were probably entertained by it and then forgot about it. many people who i assumed thought i was a weirdo or hated me secretly actually are my biggest admirers
Here are my Awkward Heroes (people I like, who showed me I can embrace how I naturally am, and be cool)
Aubrey Plaza
Kristin Stewart
Zooey deschannal
Daniel Howell
Johnny Depp
Keanu Reeves
Rooney Mara
(there's many more, I just have to think of them.)
feel free to add to the list!
Woody Allen
Rose McGowan
Yess, Johnny Depp really is a good one when it comes to this! I have some celebreties who would fit into this list as well, but they are from my home country, so nobody would know them 😂
Keanu Reeves
@@RetrowaveVisions Keanu Reeves is a really good one. I'm adding that one
My life has gotten so much better since I’ve embraced who I am and worked on the things I didn’t like about myself! This is great advice
I'm happy for you.
@@trinnytron Thank you so much! I hope you’re doing well :)
@@admirbarucija2018 Today was a struggle, but, tomorrow is a NEW day. Thank you. Have a great evening. ❤
@@trinnytron You as well, thank you so much!! For sure, hopefully tomorrow will be better ❤️
The coolest people are the ones that are easy to be around. For me it’s the calm, candid, authentic and drama-free peeps.
This is so challenging for me. I am just shy and introverted but I keep trying to be more outgoing. It’s such a difficult intense effort for me. I just have to accept I’m not that way.
Same
I too am shy and introverted by nature. No amount of pretending to be outgoing will change this.
Don’t be afraid to “go for it” when an opportunity presents itself. When I was younger, girls that I thought were attractive showed interest in me. And I totally blew them off! I should have said hi and introduced myself. But I couldn’t see past the end of my nose! All I had to do was say hi!
I think it's a sign of intelligence for a lot of people who are like that.
@@teekotrain6845 you need to be very careful with that line of thinking because it will lead to arrogance and a deceitfulness after a period of time. Don't look down on anyone or say you're more intelligent because of your introverted nature. Just chill and focus on accepting yourself.
Anthony, I relate to you
Absolutely👍👍!!! Just be yourself.
There's power and strength in authenticity
I normally keep myself to myself, I like the quite life, we're just special kind of people
I’m so glad you’ve done the necessary introspection and came to the realization of who you are, accepting that is who you are supposed to be and not pretending to be someone else or what people want you to be.
I remember Jim Carrey mentioning that being depressed is one’s body seeking deep rest from the character one is constantly trying to play instead of being the character one was born to be.
I’m glad you’ve recognized your character and decided there’s no other personality you have to become other than who you actually are. You’ve come a long way from the Myra sitting on that park bench, telling a supposed friend-less life-story. The best kind of friend you can have is yourself.
And finally, I’m glad I got to witness your journey; it’s certainly inspiring. For me, you demonstrate that everyone is searching for who they are and once they realize it, only then are they truly free.
I love this comment. it spoke to me. thank you
You're such an eye opener. Whenever I try to act cool in front of my "friends," idk it just doesn't work out. I really need to start embracing who I really am. Be myself and just not care about what other people would think about me.
If we want to be as authentic and genuine as possible, could false, artificial laughter be a lie , too❓❓
We are 8 billion beautiful individuals. Love it!
I love this!
God, I can tell you from experience that life gets SO MUCH BETTER when you learn to stop concerning yourself with thoughts like "what should I do to make this person like me?". If the person doesn't gel with the kind of vibe you prefer to give off, then you either lose them or you get them by putting up a perpetually fake vibe, neither of which is ideal, so might as well choose the former.
I think the fear we have is that if we be ourselves (usually introverted, not very talkative, low energy), then NO ONE will want to be around us, but that's just flat out not true. The kind of people no one wants to be around are the ones who don't open up, engage, or express interest in being around them, and you don't need to be a social butterfly to exhibit those traits.
I love this, I agree. I always worried that NO ONE would like me unless I was loud and extraverted. but that's a lie
I think the last sentence that you wrote is confusing - if I am a very shy and introverted person then I am not going to open up and engage with people that easily, it can take a lot of time with new people, and from my experience that is enough to usually tag you as an unsocial person. So unfortunately, I have a hard time seeing why embracing my low energy, non-talkative personality will help me, besides maybe getting some self confidence by being authentic. Being an extrovert makes life easier in that regard.
@@TZACHI9 You've raised an important point. When advice says "put yourself OUT there" ... it's referring to individuals whose "more natural" default is to kept themselves *IN* there -- as an IntroVert would tend toward. If Myra & the commenter are saying "It's okay to be & act as your introverted self with the world & people" -- that *is* true, but it might be an excessively lonely existence. Many naturally extroverted people will pass by the introverts & empaths -- barely noticing them. Tending to be a reserved person (introvert or empath) but wanting to push oneself beyond that comfort-zone toward acting more extroverted (e.g., outgoing) is also okay -- it's still being authentic when one is not acting phoney or manipulative. It takes some courage to endure the risks of "putting yourself out there" & revealing & sharing less-apparent parts of ourselves. A lifetime of staying in one's "comfort zone" is exhausting. That said, many extroverts would benefit by leaving their "extro" comfort-zone and practicing some traits of empathy & introversion. Some "extros" can't or won't turn-down their loud bubbles... and it can be exhausting too. Just my aged-opinion. ♡♡
@@ramrod0209 Thank you for expressing your opinion!
@@TZACHI9 You are most welcome! Myra is a good role model thru her courage to put herself "out there" on TH-cam & the world -- so that it's only authentic for us viewers to share ourselves in her video comments -- even when we risk ridicule. I liked what you wrote -- I feel your struggle -- I hoped to pick-up on & add to your thoughts. Perhaps Myra or others would contribute. ♡
I hope there's someone who finds you and loves you for who you are. ❤
Good to be yourself instead of being a mummer, in the hopes of getting something you're seeking. Thank you.
I just don't care what people think about me, i'm the kind of person who thrives from recharging with myself. I live according to my subconscious thoughts and moods. The way that i'm wired with people relies on how i feel in that moment. I think, in my opinion, that you are a really interesting person . . .
When I accepted the fact that I am a shy and soft spoken person, I felt much more confident in being this way. Such great wisdom in this video!
I love that! I've experienced the same thing too!
@@myrawest I also learned that I don't have to think that I am missing out on anything if I am not going outgoing. It's also possible that the outgoing people miss out on certain things people like us experience. Finding your channel was a major role in my acceptance of this fact. So I am always grateful for the famous video you uploaded on my 21st birthday in August 2019. You are a true hero and role model to me Myra 🙏
The most confident people are the ones most comfortable in their own skin. Not necessarily the super vivacious or the people pleasers or the ones wearing the latest fashion trend. Just the ones who wake up every day and know exactly who they are down to the core and embrace this. Others recognize genuine confidence and are attracted to these people.
Cheers!
What you say is so true. Being yourself is the only way to feel good and happy in life. Thanks for such a great video!
Just like you said, "Embrace your awkwardness." That's being truly AUTHENTIC! And not running away from ourselves. It's amazing too because when we behave that way, those who are energetically drawn to us will LOVE that "awkwardness" about us. What we tend to think as deficits in our cultural context, are actually things of empowerment and strength. I'm glad you're finding and embracing your authentic self as you continue on your life's journey. I know for me personally, ever since I've begun that process my life has forever changed with forward momentum.
This is amazing, you worded this so well. you conveyed exactly what I wanted to convey
Damn right, chill, deep, thoughtful, what’s not to like.
Just be you. That's the most beautiful thing in the world. I've seen and heard the fake people out there and I started avoiding many. I kept my circle very small for a long time and til I finally looked for those that were somewhat similar to myself and similar interest. So much better that way.
Your such a sweet soul’ you are someone who would get on with me! Beautiful journey 😘
4:27 "Embrace the awkwardness, instead of like feeling ashamed of how awkward I am".
Well.. Seems like the comment I wrote earlier lead up to this in some kind of way. And once again.. You are right.
I'll try that from today. I'll give myself a total of a week (and more) to totally be myself and now HOW other should expect me to be, or HOW i should be to be liked.
Wish me luck :)! Thank you for the video
I wish you luck!! I think you will feel free!
I love your narrative of life, pls keep sharing your thoughtful life and experience here. Love your authenticity. Heartwarming!
Happy you’re happy. Enjoy the day. And live the moment. Tomorrow is not promised
My favourite people are the people who fake their own death to escape the life they are experiencing.
But at some later date they get found.
I love those people.
I told a girl that once and she told me… that wasn’t going where I thought it would go.
We are proud of you Myra, thank you for being you
Take care
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Yes you solve the problem. Now for you will be easier to live.
I love your personality. You really don’t need to be anything other than you. It took me so long to realise that in myself. I’m 37 and I still feel like I’m learning to be me. It’s hard when naturally I am actually extremely introverted. I think making zero effort is good advice. I mean we should always be polite but I don’t want to be fake and pretend I’m bubbly and loud when I’m not. I’m very ‘flat’ as you have said. I don’t get excited by things. I’m just not that fun! But that’s ok. I’m kind, I’m reasonably well educated. I’m thoughtful. I’m just not a loud, extra person. I’m learning to be ok with that. It’s taken me so long to just not feel so boring compared to everyone else.
When I was a teenager in 2006, I looked up in the blue sky and I hear a voice in my right ear. It says, "Find someone who loves you and dance to the music."😊💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙👍
We are all individual's so it's natural to embrace individuality!!!
Yeah, that's the thing. Anybody that wants you to be somebody you are not.. It's just not gonna work if you have to change yourself for other people.
Myra, this made me smile! Accepting the person you are within and shedding the person you are for others, the one you believe others want you to be, is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself. It's also one of the greatest gifts you can give others. Pretend nothing and you will be energized. When you are unapologetically your true authentic self, all that wasted soul draining energy can be put to much better use. After all, the people that truly deserve your time, your kindness and friendship are the ones who will accept and appreciate you for being you...it's as simple as that :-)
Being true to yourself and you're already the best you can be. You hit the nail on the head with this video! Nevermind what other people think! Just be you. You're a gem!
I love this video. I'm so happy for you. Finally you realized and that is so cool.
People want genuine people and I see that in you 💐.
nope, trust me, be yourself, people love YOU and wish they were YOU.. so many people out there PREFER AND LOVE quieter calmer more serious careful people like us
this is so encouraging
@@myrawest Trust me girl! im like you, and i admire people like us……. alot of people out there are too silly and crazy (not saying allllll loud people are) but it seems like the bloody majority are….😊 haha. Like even in a guy (my bf) i admire his calmer humble inoccent parts whereas i wouldnt trust a guy that was toooooooo loud and crazy and silly and just haywire……… Theres a BEAUTY about classic, respectful people like us❤️❤️❤️ 😊 we cant just pretend and be friends with everyone.. we’re more real and natural and serious
Self love is wonderful.
Good day Myra! I have binged watch some of your videos in the train, all I want to say is: Your videos are therapeutic for me.
I'm 20 years old (unofficially, so ig I'm still considered as a target audience). It may feel weird to write this, as I only watch certain videos that only shows some part of you and your life, but I really think I resonate with you, so so much. Watching you talk and express yourself feels like I'm watching my older and healthier self giving advices, accepting myself and sharing opinions that is severely unpopular.
I was having a bad day, not one actually, but have been having it for quite a while. Mainly because I was feeling insecure of who myself is internally, my personality is flat, and I've made the same mistake as you did, which is pretending to be "bubbly". But it backfired, as being bubbly and loud isn't really who I am!
Although pretending to be bubbly and outgoing did get me friends, it feels draining at some point. And slowly, my true colour slowly shows and people would be confused and just started to think I hated them!
At some point, I just want to scream to relieve the frustration, but I can't. I guess that's the consequences of pretending someone you're not. It's hard to tell them about it too, really. I don't think they'll understand, based on what I knew them.
It might sound funny but, all and all, aside from struggling from the consequences of my own action, I at least feel much better right now after watching your videos, especially this one and the insecure video. I like how authentic and real you are, and I've learn some valuable lessons, and it's all thanks to you :-)
Bob Hope did scripted stand up comedy jokes and failed terribly. Someone told him to be himself, and he naturally did jokes and was an enormous success. Barbra Streisand was embrassed of her nose and looked down when singing and bombed. Someone told her that is how God made you and you are beautiful be proud and look up, her career took off! Be yourself, be proud of yourself!
George Burns intended for Gracie Allen to be his "straight man" to set him up for his punchlines. It wasn't working, so George decided to switch it up and see how it went. And thus a legendary comedy act was born.
As someone who was awkward, painfully shy, and rather Sigma in personality as a young man, I can identify. Yes, embracing your actual personality is healthy and liberating. But know this: parts of your personality that you truly wish to change, you may be able to change. I've taught myself many things over the years, by the grace of God. I'm now at my best with a mic in my hand on stage in front of a crowd speaking about something that matters to me. That's a far cry from the shy, awkward me of decades past. Sure, some things remain (I'm still an introvert; just not painfully shy). But I'm happy being me. I improve in areas that bother me, and embrace who I am becoming as I live and grow. God bless you on your journey. Seek Him and you'll find your best self in the process.
She’s super!!! 💃🌎🌏🌍💃!!!
im proud of you Myra!
I couldn't agree more Myra! I think it's worth also pointing out; whether you be yourself or try to be someone you're not, there'll be people who like you & others who don't. There's no point in tiring yourself out with the ongoing chore of portraying a false personality, when it won't really make much difference to how many people like you. The only difference would be who those people are.
i really relate with this video. the monk mofo's in the east had it figured out way before modern civilization even existed; the less you try the less your brain gets in the way of expressing yourself in the world
You r right really appreciate 💕 girls 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂. .. live you one Life it's worth it. Syed Shahzad Hasan rizvi Pakistan Karachi
I love this! Embrace you! Love you! ❤️
Yesss please, share your list of awkward celeb heroes! 😁 And thanks so much again for your honest video Myra!
ahh!! I will right now! I will make a pinned comment so check back in!
I may put it in the description too!
Hello Ms. West. As a younger person that I used to be, I always tried to please other people by trying to be outgoing and being somebody I'm not. Like you, I'm an introvert and always will be. And I'm ok with it. You have to be comfortable in your own skin. Or better said, be happy with it. Not care what other people think of you. You are special and unique like everybody is also.
Hey Myra I've missed your videos and the touch of humanness that they reflect. God bless you
Be yourself, Myra 👍
Ohh you have music!
Great video, I find the quieter ones are always the more interesting, there is more to get to know.
The person who I want to be is so different to the person I am, that I always feel so anxious and out of my depth trying to live up to it
I know that feeling. for a week or so, do an experiment where you just embrace YOU. where you act and talk exactly how you normally do, without shame
You have given out some of the best advice I've heard in a long time! And actually you appear much happier... like a glow 🌟! Your video brings me great joy! 🥰🤗🌈😊❤️
Love your honesty and self reflection
you are so totally real and cool.. i hope people heed your message !!! be safe hope life treats you very well !!
I love this realization! It feels so true to me as well. Thanks for all your openness, I like your video's!
Brilliant video, you really knocked it on the head, you can gain so much more confidence if you just follow what you feel to be right for you, so many feel the same way as you did before, very touching video!!
Hi Myra! Just listened to your video, just wanted to say kudos to you! For being you, yourself & congratulations 👏 ☺️
Being ones self is very important in life. I am a serious minded person, most people do not like that, and have tried to change me over the years; I never changed for them. I did become more mellow, and let things go just to not stress myself. I know how to have fun, and relax, but I am still serious minded for the most. When one accepts themselves, and learns to live in their own body; then one can grow, and you will find friends who accept you for who you are, and as project to change.
Stay Blessed!!!
LOL! I totally agree with what you said here Myra. And if you truly like guys with that more "laid back" personality, then you'd really like me and my personality then, because I am always an even keel, calm, and chilled out guy, no matter the situation or circumstance. Don't get me wrong, I definitely still know how to have real FUN, but to me, fun can be had in MANY more ways than most average people think it can!...
Embrace your awkwardness, YES, I do that too, with my Asperger's, even if some more "neurotypical" people sometimes just think I'm "weird" because of it...
There's a good statement that I saw on a sign one time...
"Always just be yourself, because everyone else is already taken!" I totally agree with that.
Wait facts... I thought I prefered the bubbly ones but youre right
Always be yourself, Myra! No one can stop from who you are. You are the good friend I know
Great advice. Just be yourself 🐝 Love yourself as you are 🐝
I've never tried to be someone else. I find it allready hard enough to be myself and am too lazy to be someone else 😂
I am going to try to be like you Myra!
That's the secret, to be yourself, for many years of my life I got off my skin to please other people in order to get accepted or having that sort of human validation, and I think that is the reason why I didn't really connect to people, i was being forced and unnatural, but now I'm finally getting more and more in touch with who I am, getting to know myself a little better and founding out things about me that I didn't know I had it and honestly this is waaaayyy better than pretending to be someone else.
Anyway, i love your channel, it's been helping me a lot, giving me new perspectives of life and that's the kind of connection that i want to have with people: deep.
Have a nice day, just wanted to share this cuz i know you'll understand.
I definitely understand! I think it was the same for me, that people couldn't connect with me because I wasn't being myself, and actually I've faked it for so long, it's hard to know who I really am. so I'm also trying to reconnect with the true me
@@myrawest Yeah, it's hard but I'm sure we figure it out as we grow.
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I think you are very wonderful just the way you are!! You do have a nice smile while you are talking. I listen very closely to all you say. I think in many ways I am a lot like you. So, anyway, I think this was great advice! Thank you!!
To be genuine is everything, it's okay to be yourself.
I'm honestly really happy for you.
Myra, I've watched a number of your videos and admire how articulate you are, even in your spontaneous posts. You might be up to your eyeballs already with recommendations already, but I want to add a couple thoughts. One time, perhaps it was in "Dear Insecure People...." you mentioned the negative feelings that come from feeling helpless. You are, of course, not helpless. You have agency. Realize this by recognizing when you accomplish something. You have probably heard the advice to make your bed every morning and recognize that you have accomplished a task, made something constructive happen. The book "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" explains this concept. When you recognize your accomplishments it effects your biochemistry and mood.
You seem to be an introvert. So am I. Maybe you know what this means - it is not a defect of any kind. I'll share a method I developed for social interactions: I treat it like a game. I try to follow my script and 'score' myself on how well I do. When I take the focus off the other person, wondering what they think of me and how they might react, and think about my own actions, it removes almost all the stress and greatly lowers the energy drain. Also, it almost always works and before you know it you are in an interesting conversation. Yes, it takes some courage but practice makes perfect.
You are interesting and capable and have a lot of potential.
Wow. I needed to hear this so much. Thank you Myra, this is so inspiring. Been struggling with this too for years as well.
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When I feel most insane, most like everything is going wrong, is when I'm trying to be something I'm not. I wonder if that's what mental health is about. Disease => unease, out of synch with true self. Disaster (this I got from Wayne Dyer) => disassociation from the astral, (now this is my own part) or like disease, but more intense separation from true self.
It's commonly said when dating that you should be yourself. Well, I'm a total train wreck when meeting anybody new. Ok, does that give me an excuse to be something I'm not? Or trying to be cool? or even more relatable to that person I think I'm attracted to? If I 'm a total train wreck then embrace that train wreck. If the other person likes me even as a train wreck, then wow! I've really got something good. On the other hand, if I present my best self ... that is really hard to maintain, or trying to be someone else, very, very hard to maintain. (I wonder if that is part of why a lot of relationships break up so easily?)
That's what i'm trying to be and i did. An cool person, helpful..THAT"S LIFE! I LOVE MYSELF! I LOVE LIFE!
Really like how you’ve edited in some lovely clips in between the chat…Love the sketches, the twirl, and the graceful rollerblading.
BeYOUtiful 💖
ahhh good feedback! I like it too! it's kind of part of the story, to put little videos of my daily life
Love it! You're perfect just the way you are.
I used to have an outgoing, fun and humorous personality, but life and work has slowly beat it out of me and I now have a flat personality.
Thank u for sharing this @Myra You make alot of good Communication sense that's u have and great Positive you have for who u are.
Great Video Myra Thumbs-up 👍 from the UK 🇬🇧
Just be you, it's what you're best at :-)
happy for you, once in a while I think of how I would act in a world that just have a opinion of me being me.
Well I just love you. You are an adorable, intelligent, interesting, beautiful person keep being you because you shine.
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yay more wise thoughts from Myra! I also love how this video was edited, watching these comfy evening streets somehow calm me down
I'm glad it calmed you!
This has been coming up for me over the last month 💜
Wonderful message 🥰
You are a true inspiration to the world, Myra. Its so good to share your experiences so other people can feel that they are not alone. And yes you are right, be authentic, be yourself instead of pleasing others. After all you are also a person with feelings and emotions and most of all you are also important. And I feel that you are truly a beautifull soul.
I’m so happy I found this channel. You remind me so much of myself. I’m 23 and I don’t have any friends. I have a boyfriend, who I’m so grateful for. But, friendships particularly are so hard because I’ve always been awkward and shy. I’m going to take your advice and try to embrace my weirdness. Thank you Myra ♥️
That’s it. You got it.
Hey Myra. You are right, that is what it is to be comfortable in your own skin. If you want something that might bolster your confidence but still be you then I suggest learning a bit about body language as certain postures can boost feels of confidence. I saw your original video years ago. It is great to see you on your journey doing well, I know life is up and down but I hope you are well.
I've been researching body language a lot the last few months!
I empathize with the sentiment. To me, because my personality isn't bubbly, it's polite, when others are that way it can come across as fake, or forced, or both. I am not even trying to be that way because people can see it's not my natural self. So I stay flat and polite until I vibe with someone, then I may get super talkative, interested, and start being funny or joking but I am always shy until I feel people out. I'm awkward too so I until I get around people who just "get me" I keep it chill.
I think it's great you had this realization. When everything you do is for your own purpose it's going to draw the people you want most in your life and repel those who will hinder your journey.
honestly how you described your personality is exactly me! I also warm up to people and become more animated, talkative and bubbly as I get more comfortable with them
Be your authentic self, Myra.
Nevertheless, not at the risk of becoming a social outcast. Keep challenging yourself to become the best version of yourself and achieve balance.
Love ya Myra! You are such a genuine, lovely person, thank you for your videos
You have reached a state of self consciousness that is superb. You clearly described what do you like to be and how you find cool attractive in people. I wish I was there at your age. Great beautiful Myra 👍👌😘
Myra maybe I need to try this would love to meet you as you are amazing and honesty and I love it and love your amazing channel love your Australia friend John xxxx
Hello and good morning Myra.
Learning to like ourselves, accepting ourselves as we are is a process. With all the things that are happening, especially at this speed, you just need a certain hold. You get that from good people around you, but also from yourself, by allowing yourself to be liked, so that other people can also get the opportunity to like us. The way there is the goal.
Only when we accept ourselves can others do the same.
Thanks a lot.
One of the best video's of you !! love it !!
Awesome content as always ❤️☺️
I wish I had a new friend group, would make my life so much more enjoyable, instead of being judged all the time, great vid 😊
go find em
you also have to learn to embrace the cringe. if you are an awkward person or a weird type of creative person, you're going to have cringe moments. you may even have flashbacks about the cringe. you just have to realize you ARE a weirdo and that's okay. the cringe is just from you wanting to be someone you arent, the other people dont remember your cringe at all really. only you do. they were probably entertained by it and then forgot about it. many people who i assumed thought i was a weirdo or hated me secretly actually are my biggest admirers
I agree with you Myra
You're awesome 😊❤