6 Facial Expressions of a Narcissist and What they Mean
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chapters
00:00 introduction
00:26 Clip reaction
00:52 Clip discussion
01:20 1.The side eye demeaning look
02:57 2. Clenching their Jay furrow, eyebrows in & bulge their eyes out
04:58 3. The shape shifters look
06:14 4. Annoyed with everything you say type of look
08:01 5. The look that says you do not matter at all
08:55 6. Smirk on their face
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Fake smiling like a joker ... its scary... their face can change many times in one minute ...😕
My mother used to give me ugly glares, filled with disgust, whenever I said something she didn't like. It really didn't matter what I said; she never liked it.
Same here, and prideful looking , eyes down on me. It's awful
My narcissist husband has having all the qualities of covert, now i came to know all this after watching your videos after 27 years of marriage, thanks a lot sir,now i am looking a chance to get rid of him and divorce him ,pray God for my success
I left mine after 1 year of marriage he was a covert vulnerable narc
Mom's a covert malignant, shock of my life, I'm golden child gone copper, I used to think she just watched too many movies as a kid...
26 here 😢😢😢
You can do it. Save yourself and the rest of the sanity you no longer will allow him to destroy you dear one. Just engage into getting therapeutic support, and NEVER GO BACK TO THE HELLHOUSE HE CREATED FOR HIMSELF, NOT YOU!!!
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I’ve been married for 50 years. I didn’t understand what I was looking at and experiencing. I am 100% his behavior & and has nothing to do with me. Nothing is my fault. He can’t gaslight me or control me. Therefore I get emotionally and psychologically abused.
I am neglected abandoned and alone and tired
That damn smirk and stare. Once I see that, I am done.
They're so stupid, who'se gonna endlessly put up with that? They make you crazy!
They do fake emotions. Even sadness... When my brothers dog died, he said, " I never liked her, she didn't like me." His dog was ignored her whole life. If you ignore your dog t, they ignore you. Same as kids. If your own dog doesn't like you, that's a sign.
No matter the look they give you, it's all about having complete control over their victim, while hurling a wave of frigid coldness and a deep, abyss of sadism too.
Aw ! ❤ it’s the first time I hear that from someone else ! It is so true ! I used to feel like hell every time I was near my narc ex hubbie ! Covert -narcissist are the worse !
“ IF DEVIL CAN’T REACH YOU , HE WILL SEND A NARCISSIST!”
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They are definitely shape-shifting demons inside the souless hollow that once was a human being. They are given their orders from Satan himself to torment the righteous person. We need God's help to be rid of them.
Smirk with darkened eyes then a laugh when I called him out for baiting me into shaming me.
The cold, cruelty and malicious intent to harm, and the enjoyment in the dark laugh.
After the shock and disbelief and anger passed the terror set in. The realization that his intention and effort in a calculated attack to psychologically gaslight and shame and hurt me took me to a place that is only supposed to be in the movies.
For someone who says I love you to be so sadistic and cruel. Evil wasn’t supposed to be personal and real.
And the constant feeling of being stupid because I kept telling myself he didn’t mean to hurt us. But how can you get help when they walk the line of actionable criminality. When you can’t prove a look or tone of voice is abuse or threats.
I am grateful there are so many of us finding knowledge, sharing experiences, and acknowledging that: Yes, it really was that bad, and, No, it wasn’t our fault they chose to hurt us.
We all need to educate ourselves and gradually gain strength. One thing that's helped me is to realize I'm not alone in my experiences. I look at comments as a response to the videos, and I see many people suffering or have suffered as I am, and have. When I was younger I'd never heard of things like Narcissism. I thank God for people like Danish informing us, educating us. It's essential.
How about when they clench their teeth and growl at you when trying to tell them to not break a kids spirit. I will never forget that growl after sticking up for my 5 year old
My narcissistic father never growled he claims that he can but as far as I know I never heard him growl, clenching his teeth…….. well…… I’ve seen that a lot
These faces and explanations are perfect. I am grateful that I am not like these ignorant narcissists.
You are so right ! Dealing with narc siblings…we are all older adults … I care 24/7 for our 91 year old parent … they want to control everything… even down to what items and quantities I purchase at the grocery store… to the storage / organization in my fridge and freezer… to # of times I go do various shopping for LO and groceries!!! …..
Total nonsense!!!!
So I do see ALL those facial expressions + FITS sometimes!!!
Fits I kick them out.
Faces I let them be, I act as if I’m watching a bad movie…
I survive because I now understand it’s NOT ME !
You're a saint, my siblings tried dictating, knocking me down but I'm next of kin watching her back, executrix, they're awful no contact!
I won't even get into stories about my brother, I'll just say that, I swear, the worse a sibling is, the more they seem to think they should be in charge of things, while the offspring who actually help the parents out get devalued...everytime. That's just wild to me.
I've seen the narc stare already. The covert narcissist made me feel like he was looking right through me. I've had that smirk from him as well.
#6 the narc smirk!! And if you happen to be looking VERY closely there's also a momentary light that passes behind their eyes!
Pupils gets huge or extremely small ugh scary
The annoying look, I use that look on my narcissistic husband. I've been treating him as an annoying roommate.
I resonated with all of these. But I think the smirk is the straw that broke the camel’s back. The smirk finished it for me. Danish you tell this like it really is. But I have learned to run not walk away from the narcissist. I truly recognize all of these faces , and I recognize that these people are evil and empty. I don’t pity them anymore because they are truly dangerous.
Yep..that narc smirk was it for me too. It was the wakeup call that I needed for my heart to finally accept what my brain kept finding excuses to normalize. 🥰
I make some of those faces when I'm listening to a narcissist lol. My mom did the clench stare demonic for sure.
Narcissistic fleas are so common we don't even notice them.
Omg. I got all the flashbacks just by u explaining each of the expressions. I am just shooked
YES! All of the above!
You forgot the smirk.
So triggering, the smirk
Ugh! That damn smirk! 🤯🧠!!
Thankyou for sharing this insightful piece, Danish 💜
This is a very important and complex subject in the realm of narcissism. There is so much more! And why hypervigilance is so present in us with complex PTSD. The unseen is seen with this in our lives and we will to not be abused anymore 💜🙏💜😮💨🗣️
Danish I know that you are psychologist and you know your stuff well but it seems to me that you absolutely lived through this for a very long time to know peoples facial expressions and what they mean I love the fact that you do these videos please keep them coming
Hard to get accurate information from your expressions because you clearly are not a narcissist! 😂😊😊❤
The smirk is truly evil!
I remember the smirk well. The doormat curl!!!!!!!!!!! This is sooooo true. Smirk. Is the most evil look a narcissist can give you. How accurate you are. I could tell you a smirk story u wouldn’t believe. But I got the last smirk. He knows what he is and so do I.
I am terrified of how well you nailed those, Darnesh 😮😢❤
Yes I agree. I had never been sneered at. I'd heard about the sneer, I had read about the sneer, but until I saw my ex-mother-in-law sneer at me I had never experienced it. She was a vile woman.
Same the sneer. Will never forget.
The whole of my narc husband's family (4 siblings) does the smirk expression whenever they wanna express disgust, reaction to other people's misfortunes, make you feel stupid etc... Must be a sort of demonic possession if all narcs do this
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Omg! My ex future mother in law and sister in law did the same smirk smile. I now realised they all are narcissists people. I thank god everyday i dont marry into such crazy family.
Predator eyes, absolutely good point. They are sadistic and like to see the victim suffer. A wolf really.
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It's the side eye for me, you are spot on
Thank you for this Danish! You are always on point with what I am going through in this journey of understanding narcissism.
The smirk used to really make me mad.
I’ve been raised by a nest of narcs for many years.. especially my narcissistic mother.. 😊 I have only been the only one to catch or hear everything! I now am not afraid of them.. I BITE back!
Show them who they had the misfortune of screwing with!
@@joseenoel8093oh I did. Now my narc mom told me she feels like she’s living in a prison with me lmfao now she knows how I felt for 29 years since a child 😊😂 she’s always the victim.. and jealous envious of me.. her own daughter lmao
Lately I've been getting the side eye/smirk combination. It's truly unsettling becasue I don't ever remember him doing this. It's a scary look.
You forgot the smirk with blank stare and the smile with dead eye stare after they've devalued you and got a negative reaction out of you. I remember this happening after he said he was 'Silencing me' (blocked me for 4 days) because I asked him for some spending time together and he said, 'Why when you were just here a few days ago.' I said, 'Because we are married now, so I thought we would be spending more time together than we used to.' Then he started counting down to his silencing me due to me crying over his carelessness. Those 4 days felt so miserable. Mind you, this was 5 yrs ago. It seems not that long ago, though. Nor ever will it be unforgettable. And that's just a fragment.
Thank you for your insights! You are making a difference in my life. And I'm learning to take back my autonomy.
LOL, those facials tho!!!!
You're absolutely right. Thank you for this video Danish and thank you for caring, your warning to stop if needed was overwhelmingly sweet and thoughtful. Love your work ✌️❤️
Been suffering until now .
I’m 42 .
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With your videos I’m learning what my mother put me through . May God bless you for doing this to everyone like myself .
Thank you . SofiA .
Yes, once we have that inside information, we start to gain strength.
i think u forgot the most used one. Looking to a side and putting head down while listening, then answering with still head down: Like: "i'm so busy and now come you and want somethinng from me? Don't You see what a burden You are for me?"
I had a female boss who would glare at me, roll her eyes and i immediately felt the same looks my mother gave to me as a child. I felt such deep shame
No need to feel shame that is not your issue but there’s. They should be be ashamed for being abusive!
Yes," only you can take that look"
Oh, I've seen all these looks, countless times from various people.
The angry looks and the rolling of the eyes looks (or annoyed look) are very frequently given at my house, to me and my children, by my spouse.
WOW, these are SO spot on!!!!
Wow. The rage one still gives me the jitters. But I definitely know them all.
Scary but true. My husband has always done it, since last 20 years
I've seen all those expressions. To cope, i would adopt an "oh, aren't you just being petulant little you, again..." quiet smirk while absorbing his vitriol.
My former Husband John puts his hand over his face just like Danish does in the video. I often said to John did he have headaches, he looked in pain with his hand covering just over half his face. Now I know it's connected to being a Narcissist.
It really resonates with me. Thanks so much..❤
My youngest sister has the 😏 smirk face , she does this one alot but no one notices but I do I 🤔💬 think it is weird and she also has the condensing face 😈 👀 and also she does another weird face where it is blank like a mannequin. Her facial expression never match her fake 🤥 emotions. I once told her she was missing a sensitivity chip😮. The last straw was when my brother passed and she something and cause a big divide in the family. I'm the oldest of eight and extended family. I will never forget what she did and I'm done , glad my 👀 eyes were open too her false self. She is a covert Nac. She sweet as syrup and not really. They to me are the worst kind. Thank-you for this conversation🙏
I recognise some of them! In my experience the covered narcissists have mostly a completely neutral facial expression. You can never tell, what mood they have. Could go from "just tired" to "Say one more word and I'll beat you up". Do you know what I mean?
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I know that vicious look very well. Makes you feel like a deer caught in headlights.
My ex used to stare at me like his eyes were popping out of his head. He is such an angry man. We called him jekyll and hyde as we didn't know which one we were going to get. Divorced 14 years ago. Still single at 61 but enjoying my life doing what i want. I love your videos ❤
These Demons should be in hell. Soul and spirit venoms
I'm sure I've had many of these happen to me at some point, I've been married to him for over 20 years. However, most of the time, he's not looking at me, he's walking away typically after he's asked a question. It's quite fascinating, which is why I now give one-word answers or none, because he doesn't care what the answer is. I will say of all the faces, I think he's mastered the smirk because I see him do to other people.
I totally agree.
I was ALWAYS aware of the 'look'.
It frightened me every time but bizarrely if she did it in company I would say 'I suppose you are going to tell me off later'.
Luckily she had forgotten by then so it was almost like having 'lucky' socks etc.
Oh my god, within the last 4 month I found out that my husband fits to all of these patterns but which hurt quiet more especially my father is even worse ... And I had to find this out after 45 years ...
Yesss, that is so true thats exactly my narcsist husband does even with his children
An emotional zombie-- mine only found joy when he was taking care of himself. For me he felt nothing at all. Danish I know you are very serious and helpful. And I know that you are not trying to be funny But your faces are extremely correct, however, I find them very funny because I’ve seen these exact faces on my many many of my narcissist acquaintances etc.
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My mom gives my stepdad this “how dare you question or talk back to me” type of look all the time. It’s infuriating
I remember when I rescued few puppies who were literally thrown in a drowning water and when I told him he said puppy soup
Thank you Danish,
Smiles from JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Hi Wisconsin neighbor! @MeCynthiaAnn......🙂🙋. It would be nice to chat since we are close in location....🙂👍
@@jangunning1676 Wouldn’t that just be so wonderful. God bless you. God bless you.
Full Rage is actually much scarier. One time I was with my ex husband and his group of followers. I said to him in front of everyone adoringly "your my little vampire " his face went from smiling to " the side eye, how dare you talk to me" I was floored by that one simple look. And I knew for certain that moment that he was there to impress his followers, not me.
The eye-bulging look is one my daughter gave me now n then. I just figured she was being silly so I'd blow it off.
I agree totally
Yes, I remember now the annoyance when I am talking. That is why I rarely talk in groups because if I do, I am very nervous and afraid that I will get that same reply.
Smirk omg so right on I sage always I pray 🙏daily
Sadly, I can relate with every one of the 6 looks. Almost 6 months away from a 30 yr marriage with a covert. I'm so much happier now. No more egg shells!!!
My curiosity is the time period (during our second year together) he ground his teeth alot as if the wheels in his mind were working at warp speed at all times. But he would NEVER say what was bothering him. I even wondered if he was not using meth. The other thing I noticed that he rarely (maybe two times in four years) had ANY emotional reaction to ANYTHING. However, on rare occasion, there were "outburts" of what I would call desperation.
Yes, sure do. Makes me feel so unworthy. Smirks and sneers with the curl on one side of his mouth. It kills me inside.
Yah, I've encountered that smirk predatory look. Like a " reptilian creature" staring at me.
Yes
The best example of a narcisstic smirk was by Amber Heard during the trial between her and Johnny Depp.
The disrespectful face.. I think I do that, but not on purpose. I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I have had conversations in which the person I am conversing with will start out telling me a story and then it always turns into how someone disrespected them and what they did about it... Which leaves me feeling like they are feeling disrespected by me somehow. Now seeing this video, I'm guessing that's the face I make that makes them feel disrespected. What the heck are we supposed to do with our faces when people are telling us a story about their lives? We can't look at them too much or they will feel weirded out. We can't not look at them or they'll feel we are not interested.
WHY do humans have to be so darn complicated, man? It's too much. That's why it's better to just stick to myself.
Look number 6 always a stag with poison in his hands. It cuts my heart and I bleed, where he feels he has achieved something great...
Are you serious all of them. And on a daily basis. And the more I do not pay it any heed or give him attention the more he triggers & pokes and tries to get me. Reacting with hurt hurt and pain, or crying with a frown & troubled look on my face. He looks for this reactive behavior from me. reacted if you sudden.
I stay calm and go about my business and that’s when he does the emotional abuse. I am so tired. I go away for an hour or two to recover myself & prayers before I come back and he does it again.
Yes this is exactly what happened to me from my Narci parents stepparents and ex men and Narci family and ex fake friends in this life chart lol
We’ve all made those mistakes too
But we chose to stop the Narci learned ways and heal and change ourselves to ascend or evolve our soul out of this craphole matrixes lol yep!👍 😊😅😮😢😂🎉❤
My husband does all them!!
When i laugh...he ask why are you laughing
My ex could never look me in eye towards the end. Maybe he never could look me in the eyes and I just noticed it more towards the end. We never kissed so we never looked deep into each other’s eyes with love and trust for 6 years!!!
And you end up always trying to interpret what they are saying and feeling and they act even more exasperated like you have a problem of reading too much in small actions. Or making indistinct sounds. Like a questioning sound and then say it’s an agreeing sound when we all know it’s a questioning sound. Or not participate in conversation and you are unsure how they feel and they act passive.
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My ex used to pull all sorts of faces and I literally put it down to her joking at the time. What I would do is mimic her facial expression and keep doing them back to her randomly and then burst out laughing. She WOULD half smile and say “dick”, as tho she was getting the joke back. But clearly I must’ve been tearing her apart inside 😂 I don’t think she ever met anyone who gave her as much shyt back as I did, I would make fun of her every day yet she still kept me around for 3yrs
What about the turning the head down and sideways because they've just told an untruth look. They've betrayed you and you've found them out.
I like seeing the cat! Everything is enhanced when an animal wanders into the video!
What about when they're lying to you? I have had the narcissist in my life, turn their body away from me and look away, while they lie...
My X Mother in law was giving so much horrible expression continuously for hours and her expressions were so bad that no one can copy her in making bad faces. She is a vampire no doubt in that. Too much negative and evil kind of energy 😢😮😢
Smirk by far
They make you feel you are nothing in a single face expression
So true Danish, whats with the illusion?
yes, alll faces
He would use that #2 and then chest bump me
After awhile, I mostly quit looking into his eyes.
Those expressions are quite familiar but the problem is that those expressions are not "weird" unless you suffer them because most people don't find fault in the emissor. I have been advised to give someone else the "shoulder". Not even Will Smith or Chris Rock were looked at "victims" of Jada's rolling eyes. Most people pity her because she's proudly bold but she's still looked as the "victim".
I feel sorry for Will and Chris and his kids who are not getting a taste of what normal parents feel like.
And this is an example of we are talking about. I'm more concerned about the victims who don't have the money to pay a therapist.
My mother, and ex husband. Mother- in- law is more subtle ,rolls eyes and sneers.
50 years Married to ns husband. He does all of these expressions to me every day. The worst one is when he is aggressively looking into my eyes. What does that mean when he does this behavior. He is invalidating me? Does it mean that he is devaluing me to make me doubt myself.
My ex would
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Her eyes while
I’m in a good mood or good conversation, is that consider one? I be saying to myself r sometimes ask what the heck why would u roll your eyes while
Imma excited
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Every single one
My mom used to give me the revenge look and then she would tell me that she wish abortions would have been legal in 1960 because I would not be here
So horrible against children and pets and gentle spouses. (I'm sure strong and spunky adults would walk away instantly.)
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there never happy people