I need to say this. STOP CUTTING JEANNIE OFF. I understand that in a large group, it can be hard to properly communicate, but this is done to Jeannie wayyy to many times. Her input is always awakening, and if I’m being honest, I always want to hear what she says. I don’t care if one of the hosts don’t agree with what she is saying, this needs to stop. It honestly hurts me to see her being overlooked. Jeannie, please know that we love to hear your voice.
Jason Dao Was it necessary to say that? I think Loni is such a beautiful person! And even if you think that about Loni, it is totally unecessary to say. People who are judgemental are really just insecure in themselves.
Yeah they will mind F you. I wrote about this on my first ever post yesterday on my blog. Crazy that they talked about this. Imma take it as a sign to keep going lol
@@pear8752 I think she most likely sees a therapists. A lot of it has to do with being able to see yourself objectively and be completely honest about areas in which you can improve, then do the work. It takes a lot of time and it forces you to be transparent but it's well worth the effort.
There are sometimes she thinks from her own perspective, but to be wise you need to see from all perspective that's loni sometimes step in for clarity.
But Jeannie interrupted Adrienne and Amanda later in the segment. It's just part of conversing. Sometimes if you're deep in thought you don't realize what's going on around you
Yeah Jeannie cannot like being there since Amanda came...she isn't herself...and she literally shrinks like a shrinking violet sometimes...and she is my favorite of the bunch but its changing her demeanor now😢..sorry Jeannie.
She grown. Wether its Tamar, Loni, or Amanda. If Jeanine has something to say she would say it... She stopped talking so....shes not a baby being put in the corner
Eys292 you sound stupid asf. Or maybe Loni and Amanda have obnoxious personalities and the other girls are more fun and like able. I wouldn’t support an asshole like yourself just because we both black.
"an empath is somebody who..." "SO THERE WAS A THERAPIST WHO SAID......" LMAO i'm sorry, but that made me giggle a little. my girl Jeanie better start speaking up again.
Cynthia Carrera I don’t think she IS rude, i just think what she DID was very rude. Amanda is just a fast pace and quirky person, if she has a thought she just blurts it out. As time goes by she will get use to this talk show thing soon. Give her time. Bare with her.
I dont believe that one person is more in love than that other. I think people love differently. They show love differently through the love languages.
Wait tell u go through serious Menopause u are going to not understand weres your love or hes. U can get less wanting the touchee feel of your partner but u love them. Now thats crazy and stir s up a lot in a relationship
Empaths aren’t always innocent. Empaths with low self esteem will ignore a good potential partner for the distant narcissist. I’m an empath who now has high self esteem and i can say for myself I attracted all kinds of ppl, just choose to deal with the narcs due to my low self esteem. Now they make me sick
A E as an Empath I picked Narcissits because they felt familiar (before I even knew that’s what I was doing) because my dads a Narcissist. I have high self esteem.
Elle Plow Plow do you think you had high self esteem when you were dating the narcissist? I find it hard to believe that any empath who dates a narc doesn’t have the highest self esteem
@@EllePlowPlow I feel exactly the same way... I don't feel like I've reached the high self esteem part yet but slowly getting there and realising... things lol
My grandmother told me to find the man that loves you more than you love him. To me, that was her experience speaking and while she is still married to my grandfather, I believe what she meant by that is that you should never be the one who is always giving and being taken advantage of in a relationship. That’s one of those old ppl -isms that only makes sense depending on how you take it. In my marriage, I know that some weeks I’m so enamored with him and other weeks he is with me. I think that’s just the ebb and flow of life and relationships.
My grandmother told me the same thing! I don’t think that the comment is sexist towards men because women are going to love hard regardless (usually), so finding a man that loves even harder will definitely prevent having to deal with the woes of being with a narcissistic man.
Loni said something about this having to do with culture. I'm African American and I was taught this. Just saying. Also was taught to keep a piece of your heart for yourself.
Nahh let’s not beat around the bush, there is always and will always be a partner that loves more. It’s not like you loving less automatically equate to be ready to leave , it’s just that some people have the natural tendency to invest a lot naturally and the other partner almost learn from that ( in a healthy relationship). Yes people do love differently but we know deep down when we are the ones loving more or being loved more , if we are honest and transparent about our feelings. Nevertheless like I said , in a healthy relationship the other partner will learn from it and will know how to cherish and value it .
Veronica Ivanova yes things do change from time to time due to different circumstances, but that still goes on to show that in those specific times , there is a partner investing themselves a lot more. I didn’t mention any timeframe simply because a lot of circumstances can make things change. I simply focused on the overall big picture .
I would love to hear a conversation just between Jeannie and Amanda because the depth of knowledge they have is insane sometimes. U could learn a lot from these two.
MOST women by nature are just more *nurturing* & loving, so when a man loves more, it balances and becomes equal in terms of the love and care displayed in the relationship. When a woman loves more, it may become too much for the man and can be overbearing. I said what I said.
Yes! Been there done that. When a woman loves a man more he tries to distance himself because there's no chase and it's a turn off because it comes off like she has no life besides HIM. Most men hate that.
What Not To Do At a Stoplight In a lot of cases when the woman loves harder, and the man knows just how much more his woman loves him, the man takes advantage of that. One example is always having eyes outside of the relationship or cheating cause he knows that woman LOVES him and may be too weak to leave, etc. Anyway, my point is that when a man and a woman love each other 50/50, the woman *most* times shows her love in more ways in that relationship because we have a more natural nurturing side. But when a man loves his woman more, the love is THEN equally shown to one another.
What Not To Do At a Stoplight LMAOOO damn seems like you’re the one projecting, who hurt you?? Also really need to ask, say word we met??? You know my whole life story off one comment, fuckin weirdo.
@@Zoe7ww I strongly agree. But I will add that there will always be one person to love more. It's almost impossible for it to be equal. I think its very important for the men to love more than that creates a great balance in the relationship.
I'm glad they mentioned that chase or playing hard to get feeling. There is something inherently problematic that someone feels comfortable in having someone show that they are emotionally unavailable to them. I read a great article once talking about how when someone is visibly showing their affection towards you, it is subconsciously making you have to deal with the reason they like you. People who have low self esteem get challenged by that and are more comfortable with people who don't show blatant appreciation. Its around the idea that it doesn't make sense that you love me for me, I have to earn your love through actions and you stay with me because of the work I've put into the relationship and not because of my great personality, or values etc. Its a very interesting topic! Gives a whole new meaning to if you can't love yourself how are you gonna love someone else.
Depends I love chasing and going after a woman who plays hard to get not because of low self esteem but because I love a challenge I’m bossy and controlling I can’t be with someone who’ll just let me walk all over them that gets boring quick. Plus those women stand out there’s so many thirsty chicks throwing their selves at anything that moves begging for attention and when you meet a woman who doesn’t beg for your attention it makes you notice her.
@@LGSN96 Well you better start complaining about Tamera Tok then began she is the one who signaled for Amanda to start talking and Jeannie to stop. This was bc Jeannie ass trying to answer a question that was not for her in the first place. So y'all are here complaining about how Jeannie gets cut off when she cut off Amanda before Amanda could even have her turn to speak. If Jeannie doesn't wanna be stopped, she should pay attention to who is being addressed in the first place, as Amanda and Tamera were trying to answer HER question in the first place.
there was this quote that i heard, it goes “make sure your man loves u a lil bit more than u love him” and ppl may think that’s wrong or backwards but that is how i would want my relationship to be. 🤷🏾♀️ we as women already hold so much love for the man and give so much loyalty. i don’t think it’s right for a woman to be head over heels in love with her man and the man is just in love with her. so i think it’s only right for the man to give a lil more than we already do.
Woman possess an a large amount of love so if a man can love u a little more is a man he loves you a lot , I was taught this too , equal or more but never less
I think this episode in general is the first episode where they've bounced off of each other well cause on this episode they also talked about discussing your emotional baggage on a first date and they all contributed sth meaningful to the conversation. Yet ppl were saying in the beginning Amanda would never fit in🙄.
Jeannie is my favorite. She’s the most insightful, introspective and relatable. She’s elegant with her words and positive. This arrangement isn’t working I need Jeannie to sit more towards the center.
My cousin told me what Jeannie said few years ago - "Be with someone who loves you more than you love them". I was young and thought that was weird at the time but I see what they mean now.
This conversation was so refreshing - it was nice to see Amanda soft and vulnerable bc I think a lot of people don't see past her passionate, confident side.
Thank you, this is exactly how I feel about this topic. And yes, I understand love languages and different approaches people have and yet....it can somewhat seem like categorical excuses as to why love giving is not even. If both partners are truly about pleasing the other 24/7, 365, this topic would be a non-issue. But the world is dominated by too many broken and/or indifferent souls and lopsided loving continues🤷🏽
I love listening to Amanda talk about past relationships because she is the perfect symbol a delusional person she doesn't date narcissists she is a narcissist and the guys she dates just got tried of putting her first
You clearly know her personally.. Must have grown up together.. or maybe she confides in you.. or maybe you're just a stranger on the internet saying stuff about someone you don't know anything about geez
@@rochealpeters9746 or I'm someone who's watch the show more than once the whole reason I commented is that Amanda is so quick to point out someone else flaws but she refuses to acknowledge her glaringly obvious one
Kindah but at the same time look at every famous relationship someone lives someone more Love equally idk never even seen in but I’ve noticed when the man loves you more those relationship seem the best and last long cuz adrean is in that relaship now Israel loves her more but she loved rob more look what happen
Ava Rehan yeah when men love u more it lasts longer because women can be patient with a man they are not in love with but when a women loves more men usually don’t have the patience to stay
Wooow I didn't even notice as I was watching! Aww... Jeannie gotta step it up then! I'm sure she doesn't want to appear confrontational. But I noticed when Tamara had to start making sure she got her points across without being cut off. But good people are pointing it out - maybe the ladies will take note of it and work on that!
It's just part of conversing and is something a lot of people can work on. Jeannie cut Amanda and Adrienne off during this segment too. And the question Jeannie started answering was asked to Amanda and you can see Tamera pointing at Amanda to start speaking and Jeannie then signaled that she got the message. Y'all are just looking for drama when the girls are fine
It's just part of conversing and is something a lot of people can work on. Jeannie cut Amanda and Adrienne off during this segment too. And the question Jeannie started answering was asked to Amanda and you can see Tamera pointing at Amanda to start speaking and Jeannie then signaled that she got the message. Y'all are just looking for drama
@@angelkingsley5299 Yeah, Jeannie prob does. But Jeannie doesn't give me the imprression that she does it with dismissiveneess to the other person. She just gets over excited and gets in airhead/ADHF mode which causes her to speak out of turn. Amanda gave of a purposely dismissive vibe when she did it.
Elle D that may be it but the people that don’t like her seem to be black people. I dont have a problem with her but I kinda looked at her sideways when she downplayed colorism
It is just different love languages. We are so used to seeing messages about what love is that we forget we love differently. So if someone shows love in a different way, they may be perceived as not loving you enough. For instance, my partner's love language is physical touches and words of affirmation while mine is quality time and acts of service. In addition to this, we come from different cultures where mine shuns public display of affection and women are expected to serve their men. So to some people, it may look like I am unaffectionate because I do not do PDA or princess-like because my partner does chores around the house.
Char Bunny Do you like his affection ? I’ve always wondered that about people that aren’t affectionate . Does it annoy them when their partner shows affection ?
I think that in the beginning feelings are mutual, I think overtime feelings change because of difficulties in the relationship and how each partner respond to those difficulties. The balance of love may not be the problem. The problem is skill in dealing with problems, which is therefore, the give and take in the relationship, not necessarily the love.
It makes sense to me. Women are already usually so giving, nurturing, and loving. They tend to put their partners first more and put up with more. So for it to be sort of equal, he gotta love her more. Otherwise she might get taken advantage of,
Love is energy, I believe the amount of energy you wish to put into a person is the amount you should get back. If you aren’t receiving the same love back it means they are hold back for some reason, or they are channeling that love to someone else.
The narcissism in LA is so real. Especially amongst rich, privileged people. 'New York is for rich people who hate themselves, LA is for rich people who love themselves'.
how rude was it of amanda to cut off jeannie mid sentence as if she didn't exist. also i find it ironic that amanda claims she always dates narcissists since she has been accused by multiple sources of being one herself, just sayin
Cath Exactly what I was thinking!! She never even bothered to go back to her! And her comment wasn’t even helpful. It was a joke. Jeannie was trying to explain what it meant... smh...
Right, the irony being she said she dates narcissicists, but she’s the biggest one. Narcissists love to cut other people off because they think their point is more important than anyone else’s.
00samira00 I think Tamera brought it up originally, but it was probably one of those questions where anybody who knows should answer it. The irony is, even if it was directed at Amanda, she STILL ignored Adrienne and never answered the question, just made a corny joke!
K B Might be, It just didn't read as something being wrong to me because it felt like it was directed to Amanda and or Tamara who was talking about their experience of empaths/narcissists. I did notice Jeannie wanting to jump in at several points but that just felt like bad timing or awkwardness with flow?
nah, if you're in one-ness with God, he will provide love within both of you that will fill eachother's cups. it's not about locing someone more, its just about knowing what love is and whether you're actually doing that/believing that
From personal experience, I feel my husband and I love each other the same. We're equal in our love to each other. He has shown me over many years that he can't live without me and I've shown him I can't live without him.
Just because it's not the same though doesnt mean its not equal or one loves the other more. As Tamera alluded to, everyone has different love languages and ways to express love. It's not unequal. It's just different.
Tamara is avoiding it I’m sorry she loves adam more a little to more it’s not about showing it I feel like yess he loves her but Adam would be sad very sad if they were to break up but tamera would not leave her bed she’s obsessed
Adam doesn’t have his own show where he can express his feelings every single day like Tam And besides that’s his personal life. Tam uses her life lessons to teach others in the show and Adam & the kids just happens to be a big part of it. if Tam is happy it’s because Adam is treating her like queen.
@@gaila.9852 adam and Tamara have their own show on TH-cam. On there, sometimes you can sense it. He does loves her but she loves him more. They told the story of how they met and it's on TH-cam rn. Adam was seeing other women while he was dating Tamara at the start of their relationship. After tam found out, she was hurt and angry but she forgave him bc she realized it was kind of soon to be committed to one another. She thought hed stopped seeing other women bc shed stopped immediately after their first date but he was still casually seeing another girl a few dates in. He stopped bc he didnt want to lose tamera over that other girl, but he didnt know that Tam and him were even serious He was a lil bit taken aback that she was upset. But he understood her frustration. I think that explains the rest of the video and their dynamic perfectly. Throughout the video, there are tons more things that make it obvious that tam is more in love than Adam. Like even how dismissive adam was of her career prior to meeting her. To me, I found that part of the video a little bit rude bc he seemed like he was a little bit too proud to say he didnt know who she was. Like he wanted to rub it in her face that her prior success means nothing to him. If tam was my friend and I'd never watched her show, I'd still be hyping her up for being the best actress that ever graced the planet. Doesnt matter if I dont know who she is and never saw the show. I wouldnt be like "she was apparently on some tv show and I've never seen it and still never have". Like geez. But tam seemed to really love that Adam didnt know her and seemed like she was more enamored with what he did as a profession even though...objectively, being a fox news reporter isnt half as impressive as having a hit tv on prime time television for most of your life, where you won multiple awards and got to meet beyonce, Kobe Bryant, Jagged edge and the like. Tam just loves him and he loves her bc she loves him.
And there is nothing wrong with that. That’s her husband. Maybe if people loved their families this much in real life, we won’t have so many dysfunctional families. I want to be that into my spouse and family too.
The only person who sounds "real" and sensible is Jennie and the rest are all over the place but act they have something great to say. And this star sign talk is so uneducated 🙄
I agree it’s important to know your partners love languages because it may be you both love each other equally, but just express your love differently ❤️
Yessssssssssz!!!!! Before when me and my husband was dating, i love him more then he love me, but i knowtist one thing as times passed by he doesn’t pay attention to me as much like how i would like it to be. Sooo i kinda backup slowly and he missed that attention from me and he start to questioning why don’t i do this n that nomore, and thats when he start to take it more serious n love me more!!!!
That's why I think its better for the man to love more. Woman are naturally nurturing and caregiver. We express our love more than men so just imagine if we loved more, how terrible that will be. When a man loves you more, he put you first and your needs. He takes care of you and he won't ever hurt you because he's scared to loose you.
@@rikanejose2611 omg I just love your comment I wish I can upvote it a million times. This is very true , unfortunately for me , I dont think it's possible for man to love me as much as I love him. He doesn't understand how strong my love is.
Perhaps the word is attachment and not love. There may always be one person who’s more attached to the other in the relationship. In my experience, I’ve learned to value and seek relationships where I don’t have to quantify my love. I want to love without fearing getting hurt and being betrayed (not always easy, gotta accept your past first and recognize you create your experiences). I’m practicing detachment. Learning to let go of beliefs that don’t serve me, previous experiences that I don’t want to repeat and the expectations that my partner is responsible for my happiness. It’s a journey but so worth it.
I agree with Amanda, it’s not about that one loves more than the other, but in a relationship there is this change where you could feel that on some days one is more into the other person and it switches. I feel it in my relationship, but we love each other the day, as we both give to each other as much as the other.
That’s the best situation honestly. Our grandmothers and those before us told us this because it rings true. Every time I see a situation where the woman loves a man at the level or more than he loves her it’s a disaster. The woman is always chasing and constantly trying to please him.
Truth. Sometimes past relationships can impact you negatively for the next relationship to where you want to hold on to the next person. Another is it can teach you things and you're not as desperate in the next relationship because your eyes have been opened. Every relationship will have a different version of you because we're always growing.
Yes, there is always someone who loves more than the other. And the one who loves more is the one who gets hurt when the relationship fails. There is no such thing as equality in the battlefield of love.
I’ve been telling my close family and friends since I was a teen, I am an empath, I can FEEL your energy, your mood and sometimes it’s uncomfortable. That’s why I deal with everyone as I do, but largely why I’ve preferred to be and am always alone. So I’m glad it’s becoming a thing where people are informing themselves about it. It’s draining though.
This makes me grateful for the relationship I have, we love each other fully. Although we can never know a person's truest feelings they can tell you with their actions. In every day I see his love and convey mine. We have been together for 11 years, I am grateful every day💜
What tam said about different love language is so true!! Cause someone love language could be quality time whereas some maybe physical touch. Just because you initiate to go out more than the other doesn't mean the other person love you less.
I think Jeannie is a good listener which is why she gets cut off in conversation a lot. If she starts talking and someone jumps in, she stops talking so she can listen to what they are saying. And after she's done listening and observing she drops those gems we love at the end of the convo.
Let me just put it in one sentence. Relationships are really getting complicated for the past decade. For me, both man and woman should love each other more until they die. Keep loving more everyday and keep growing old. And I do agree that there is always going to one person who will love the other person more. It can be both men and women!
Ok let me know if y’all agree or if it’s just me... but I think that... when it comes to relationships sometimes there are people feel the need to chase and then there are those who like the feeling of being chased... but I honestly feel like in relationship... the chasing stops and it turns into both parties wanting that other person attention no matter what’s going on , no matter where they are or how far apart or close they are... and that’s what it should be... one person shouldn’t feel like they’re always the one that does more or that their partner does less to show their love for them
Maybe that's how it SHOULD be... but, for many, that's not how it is..also it is not always a conscious thing, when people end up in relationships like that (people can be very complex) I personally would only be interested in a relationship where someone loves me more....
@@AfriNaija12 I prefer that because I prefer to have the upper hand in a relationship...also I believe that it's important to apply practicality in matters of romance....
Yes I truly believe someone always loves more but the minute the person who loves more sees you don’t love them as much it changes them to pull back for you to show them you love them just as much.
I think it's hard to quantify because when you are together a long time, the kind of love is so strong. It's weird. It's a different level. Like when you have a child. It's a love that I can't even quantify. It's the entire fiber of my being in love with my child. It's different than puppy love and the butterfly love you get initially. It's something deeper.
Honestly I’m so tired it’s been like five years and people are still saying the same thing it was with Tamar now they say it with Amanda people need to stop she’s is grown and if she feels a type of way they can discuss it privately and work it out.
I think people take issue with it because Jeannie’s usually very respectful of everyone else, but they don’t seem to show her the same respect in return.
I am a girl, and my dad actually told me the same thing that jeannie said, he said I should marry/be with someone who loves me more than I love them because I can learn/grow to love them, and he said because that person loves me so much I will more likely value and respect them.
1. Everyone looks gorgeous 2. I think everyone changes with the time. Sometimes I love my husband more and sometimes I love him more. But there is a understanding of love in a marriage
My mother told me the same. Be with someone whom loves you more than you love them. I didn’t follow that advice til I was in my late 20s and it has helped me tremendously.
The man should always love the woman more. They’re born to pursue women. It becomes unattractive when the woman is giving consistently and the man doesn’t have to give anything in return
@@e13kid Okay, there you go.... Tbh I think a better statement would be like "people pursue falling in love." I agree with Amanda that it shifts all the time and I believe it should be that way. Saying it's required to always be the man at all times sounds gender conforming and exclusive of millions of people who don't identify within the society's construct of gender and/or relationship stereotypes.
As an empathy myself, this topic of conversation was reassuring and empowering. I love how everyone voiced their own wisdom and perception on things. Great job ladies!
I need to say this. STOP CUTTING JEANNIE OFF. I understand that in a large group, it can be hard to properly communicate, but this is done to Jeannie wayyy to many times. Her input is always awakening, and if I’m being honest, I always want to hear what she says. I don’t care if one of the hosts don’t agree with what she is saying, this needs to stop. It honestly hurts me to see her being overlooked. Jeannie, please know that we love to hear your voice.
Saw that too, especially the girl next to her. Show some respect.
Yasss and Jeannie is a treasure and the most insightful
Jemima Janvier YES👏🏽
Jason Dao Was it necessary to say that? I think Loni is such a beautiful person! And even if you think that about Loni, it is totally unecessary to say. People who are judgemental are really just insecure in themselves.
Jemima Janvier I think 💭 Jeannie is doing just fine being cut off it ain’t the end of the world. 🙄 I’m just saying. 💯
A narcissistic person will gaslight you into thinking you're the narcissistic one.
True
exactly
Factz 💯
Yeah they will mind F you. I wrote about this on my first ever post yesterday on my blog. Crazy that they talked about this. Imma take it as a sign to keep going lol
Vanessa Millwood 🎯
Jeannie is so wise. You can really tell that she is committed to doing her own self work. Love to see it!
SimplyBritt_S I need her mentorship
SimplyBritt_S If you think Jeannie is wise then you must be dumb
What do you think she worked on in order to get there, this is a genuine question. All answers are appreciated
@@pear8752 I think she most likely sees a therapists. A lot of it has to do with being able to see yourself objectively and be completely honest about areas in which you can improve, then do the work. It takes a lot of time and it forces you to be transparent but it's well worth the effort.
There are sometimes she thinks from her own perspective, but to be wise you need to see from all perspective that's loni sometimes step in for clarity.
Jeannie was about to explain but was cut off, then Tamera was asked to define Narcissist.
Drew Chase that set me off when Amanda wanted to ask tamera her definition after cutting Jeanie off, no mam
Tamera was asked to define *Empath* haha but yeah I get your point.
But Jeannie interrupted Adrienne and Amanda later in the segment. It's just part of conversing. Sometimes if you're deep in thought you don't realize what's going on around you
Drew Chase wtf is Tamera talking bout LOL
Tasfia Zaman right... this type of stuff is Jeannie's jam.😉
I’ve noticed Jeannie has been in the shadows, lately... sis is trying so hard to get a word in.
stylishjoy they need to take her out of that corner
She need to be back in the middle, put Amanda on the end. Who did that seating anyway, they should change seating everyday jus to mix it up.
I think Amanda has become the new Jeannie. Before Jeannie was the “loud” one that spoke up. Now that has shifted to Amanda.
Yeah Jeannie cannot like being there since Amanda came...she isn't herself...and she literally shrinks like a shrinking violet sometimes...and she is my favorite of the bunch but its changing her demeanor now😢..sorry Jeannie.
She grown. Wether its Tamar, Loni, or Amanda. If Jeanine has something to say she would say it...
She stopped talking so....shes not a baby being put in the corner
I love Jeanie. I absolutely appreciate her contribution on the show. She’s is without a doubt intelligent.
Eys292 you sound stupid asf. Or maybe Loni and Amanda have obnoxious personalities and the other girls are more fun and like able. I wouldn’t support an asshole like yourself just because we both black.
"an empath is somebody who..."
"SO THERE WAS A THERAPIST WHO SAID......"
LMAO i'm sorry, but that made me giggle a little.
my girl Jeanie better start speaking up again.
Kelcey my thoughts exactly. Lol I almost caught a whole attitude. I need Jeannie to interrupt her and say her piece.
Kelcey SCREAMING , the cut of though 😭😭😭
She’s so rude!
I know. Amanda was soooo rude!
Cynthia Carrera I don’t think she IS rude, i just think what she DID was very rude. Amanda is just a fast pace and quirky person, if she has a thought she just blurts it out. As time goes by she will get use to this talk show thing soon. Give her time. Bare with her.
Adrienne scared me at 1:53, I thought she was gonna say that the table was anchored by three narcissists lol 😅
Me too :D
Same, I was like hol up now lol
😂😂😂
IK 😭🤣
Lol
Adrienne sounding like DJ Envy lol “for those who don’t know, explain what an empath is.” 😂 no shade tho! I love both of them💕
Jessica Orjek i said the exact same thing when she said that. 😂😂
I felt the same
Facts 🤣🤣
Jessica Orjek she does that a lot lol
I don't see how that's a bad thing?? The average viewer probably doesn't know what an empath is.
I dont believe that one person is more in love than that other. I think people love differently. They show love differently through the love languages.
Exactly
Exactly!
Exactly!!!!!
DeMaree Scobey That’s what they said!
Wait tell u go through serious Menopause u are going to not understand weres your love or hes. U can get less wanting the touchee feel of your partner but u love them. Now thats crazy and stir s up a lot in a relationship
1:10 Did Amanda seriously not realize that Jeannie was already talking?
It's not like Jeannie didn't interrupt Adrienne later... 🙄 y'all make drama outta nothing
Wow just watched that again..she totally did! So rude.
Ikr!!! Amanda is dumb and swears she's smart
she's rude af
Chips honestly
Cutting jeannie off while she is trying to explain what an empath it
I peeped that too
Empaths aren’t always innocent. Empaths with low self esteem will ignore a good potential partner for the distant narcissist. I’m an empath who now has high self esteem and i can say for myself I attracted all kinds of ppl, just choose to deal with the narcs due to my low self esteem. Now they make me sick
A E as an Empath I picked Narcissits because they felt familiar (before I even knew that’s what I was doing) because my dads a Narcissist. I have high self esteem.
Elle Plow Plow do you think you had high self esteem when you were dating the narcissist? I find it hard to believe that any empath who dates a narc doesn’t have the highest self esteem
@@EllePlowPlow I feel exactly the same way... I don't feel like I've reached the high self esteem part yet but slowly getting there and realising... things lol
So true, I used to be a empath will low self esteem.
Good point
Wtf is this. why do people feel entitled to cut Jeanie off? Jeanie always has some of the best things to say. I don’t like the energy
Bettie Clayton What you said made no sense... and I loved it lol
Cinthya นิวศศิธร 😂
The "Wtf is this" took me out🤣
Sneezes in gay the “sneezes in gay” took me out 😂
My grandmother told me to find the man that loves you more than you love him. To me, that was her experience speaking and while she is still married to my grandfather, I believe what she meant by that is that you should never be the one who is always giving and being taken advantage of in a relationship. That’s one of those old ppl -isms that only makes sense depending on how you take it. In my marriage, I know that some weeks I’m so enamored with him and other weeks he is with me. I think that’s just the ebb and flow of life and relationships.
You nailed it ! Well said.
but why should the guy be the only one that is always giving? shouldn't you both be giving to the relationship?
My grandmother told me the same thing! I don’t think that the comment is sexist towards men because women are going to love hard regardless (usually), so finding a man that loves even harder will definitely prevent having to deal with the woes of being with a narcissistic man.
Loni said something about this having to do with culture. I'm African American and I was taught this. Just saying. Also was taught to keep a piece of your heart for yourself.
Multiple_loves it’s not that the woman is not giving it’s that the man is giving MORE than the woman
Nahh let’s not beat around the bush, there is always and will always be a partner that loves more. It’s not like you loving less automatically equate to be ready to leave , it’s just that some people have the natural tendency to invest a lot naturally and the other partner almost learn from that ( in a healthy relationship). Yes people do love differently but we know deep down when we are the ones loving more or being loved more , if we are honest and transparent about our feelings.
Nevertheless like I said , in a healthy relationship the other partner will learn from it and will know how to cherish and value it .
I totally agree... that's just how it is for a lot of people... I only want a relationship where someone loves me more...
Finally someone speaking factssss
Exactly.
I disagree. I think what Amanda said about things changing at different times is more accurate.
Veronica Ivanova yes things do change from time to time due to different circumstances, but that still goes on to show that in those specific times , there is a partner investing themselves a lot more. I didn’t mention any timeframe simply because a lot of circumstances can make things change. I simply focused on the overall big picture .
It’s interesting that Amanda says she’s an empath cuz she really comes across as a narcissist
Brooke Amber okay 😂...
🤣
Im glad someone else said it.
Freaking yes!!!!!
Some narcissists try to victimize themselves so maybe she is
I would love to hear a conversation just between Jeannie and Amanda because the depth of knowledge they have is insane sometimes. U could learn a lot from these two.
susan I had the same thought. They are the most intelligent on the show.
The other one will end up rolling her eyes and try to dominate the convo
MOST women by nature are just more *nurturing* & loving, so when a man loves more, it balances and becomes equal in terms of the love and care displayed in the relationship. When a woman loves more, it may become too much for the man and can be overbearing.
I said what I said.
Yes! Been there done that. When a woman loves a man more he tries to distance himself because there's no chase and it's a turn off because it comes off like she has no life besides HIM. Most men hate that.
What Not To Do At a Stoplight In a lot of cases when the woman loves harder, and the man knows just how much more his woman loves him, the man takes advantage of that. One example is always having eyes outside of the relationship or cheating cause he knows that woman LOVES him and may be too weak to leave, etc. Anyway, my point is that when a man and a woman love each other 50/50, the woman *most* times shows her love in more ways in that relationship because we have a more natural nurturing side. But when a man loves his woman more, the love is THEN equally shown to one another.
Agree 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
What Not To Do At a Stoplight LMAOOO damn seems like you’re the one projecting, who hurt you?? Also really need to ask, say word we met??? You know my whole life story off one comment, fuckin weirdo.
@@Zoe7ww I strongly agree. But I will add that there will always be one person to love more. It's almost impossible for it to be equal. I think its very important for the men to love more than that creates a great balance in the relationship.
I'm glad they mentioned that chase or playing hard to get feeling. There is something inherently problematic that someone feels comfortable in having someone show that they are emotionally unavailable to them. I read a great article once talking about how when someone is visibly showing their affection towards you, it is subconsciously making you have to deal with the reason they like you. People who have low self esteem get challenged by that and are more comfortable with people who don't show blatant appreciation. Its around the idea that it doesn't make sense that you love me for me, I have to earn your love through actions and you stay with me because of the work I've put into the relationship and not because of my great personality, or values etc. Its a very interesting topic! Gives a whole new meaning to if you can't love yourself how are you gonna love someone else.
Very well put
Yeah but on the other end of the spectrum you have to think about people who are too into a person. Love bombing is a thing.
@@Simplelivingslowliving I love your comment.
Depends I love chasing and going after a woman who plays hard to get not because of low self esteem but because I love a challenge I’m bossy and controlling I can’t be with someone who’ll just let me walk all over them that gets boring quick. Plus those women stand out there’s so many thirsty chicks throwing their selves at anything that moves begging for attention and when you meet a woman who doesn’t beg for your attention it makes you notice her.
Geez!! This comment is so on point!!
Watching Jeannie get interrupted 800 times in a minute was painful.
You folks with the poor Jeannie routine. Aren't you all tired?
@@cynthia2786 You're pathetic. Stop looking for problems where there is none.
@@autumnsummers6599 😅😅😅
1:10 was really uncomfortable to watch. I know damn well Amanda heard the girl talking...
@@LGSN96 Well you better start complaining about Tamera Tok then began she is the one who signaled for Amanda to start talking and Jeannie to stop. This was bc Jeannie ass trying to answer a question that was not for her in the first place. So y'all are here complaining about how Jeannie gets cut off when she cut off Amanda before Amanda could even have her turn to speak. If Jeannie doesn't wanna be stopped, she should pay attention to who is being addressed in the first place, as Amanda and Tamera were trying to answer HER question in the first place.
Jeannie NEEDS to get her own show, I've been saying it for years but someone make this happen!!
And Mama Mai
This new girl is not needed whatsoever. The 4 girls were doing just fine and more enjoyable to watch their discussion.
@Bettie Clayton English please. I don't understand this gibberish.
Maybe shes on contract so they cnat get rid of her yet haha
there was this quote that i heard, it goes “make sure your man loves u a lil bit more than u love him” and ppl may think that’s wrong or backwards but that is how i would want my relationship to be. 🤷🏾♀️ we as women already hold so much love for the man and give so much loyalty. i don’t think it’s right for a woman to be head over heels in love with her man and the man is just in love with her. so i think it’s only right for the man to give a lil more than we already do.
Woman possess an a large amount of love so if a man can love u a little more is a man he loves you a lot , I was taught this too , equal or more but never less
Morgan Binion CORRECT ON SO MAMY LEVELS AND SOME PEOPLE MAY NOT UNDERSTAND IT BUT A MAN AND A WOMEN IS NEVER EQUAL
Morgan Binion SO THE LOVE WILL ALWAYS BE DIFFERENT
Carl Miller okay, you have access to google. but can you explain how anything Morgan said was victimization or narcissistic
This has been their best discussion yet, they were so effortlessly bouncing off eachother
WAJID USMAN I agree 👏🏿
WAJID USMAN I So agree! The energy was on point with this one making you feel like you got a lot from the conversation, entertainment
Yes..... we need more moments like this. Its so cool when I read comments from others ..feeling and viewing what I just felt as well.
I think this episode in general is the first episode where they've bounced off of each other well cause on this episode they also talked about discussing your emotional baggage on a first date and they all contributed sth meaningful to the conversation. Yet ppl were saying in the beginning Amanda would never fit in🙄.
@@drtash21, she still doesn't fit. She is constantly rude to Jeannie as in this segment when she interrupted her.
so off topic, but i love the shirts Adrienne, Amanda and Tam have on!
any idea where they’re from?
@@elizabethaffiong11 i honestly have no idea. i need to find out myself lol
Kelcey Amanda’s shirt is nice 👍🏻
Agreed!
Same!! Those see through shirts are very feminine but not overly sheer ❤️
Jeannie is my favorite. She’s the most insightful, introspective and relatable. She’s elegant with her words and positive. This arrangement isn’t working I need Jeannie to sit more towards the center.
Jeannie that was a whole word at the end 🙌🏾
My cousin told me what Jeannie said few years ago - "Be with someone who loves you more than you love them". I was young and thought that was weird at the time but I see what they mean now.
This conversation was so refreshing - it was nice to see Amanda soft and vulnerable bc I think a lot of people don't see past her passionate, confident side.
Where did you see soft?
@@veronicaivanova Ikr😂
J Woods true
@@veronicaivanova shadeeee 🌳 🌴 🌴
@@blacclivesmatter4637, I just didn't see any softness, that's all ;)
Everybody should be giving 100%
Both of you Whole.
When there is Wholeness we don't even need to ask this question.
Bless you ladies.
Agreed
Thank you, this is exactly how I feel about this topic. And yes, I understand love languages and different approaches people have and yet....it can somewhat seem like categorical excuses as to why love giving is not even. If both partners are truly about pleasing the other 24/7, 365, this topic would be a non-issue. But the world is dominated by too many broken and/or indifferent souls and lopsided loving continues🤷🏽
Lmao Adrienne using big words like “quantify” whenever she gets a new word she’ll roll with it and say it all throughout the topic 😂
She been using the same dictionary as T.I lmao
quantify is not a big word
lovefrompluto wolfhard to her it is lol
Quiana lmao yes it’s funny because it’s true
Quantify is not a big word.
*tamera, that is a GREAT explanation of what empaths are* 🦋
I love listening to Amanda talk about past relationships because she is the perfect symbol a delusional person she doesn't date narcissists she is a narcissist and the guys she dates just got tried of putting her first
Bruh I really thought this was going to be a nice comment 🤣🤣
I had that perception too
You clearly know her personally.. Must have grown up together.. or maybe she confides in you.. or maybe you're just a stranger on the internet saying stuff about someone you don't know anything about geez
@@rochealpeters9746 or I'm someone who's watch the show more than once the whole reason I commented is that Amanda is so quick to point out someone else flaws but she refuses to acknowledge her glaringly obvious one
@@johnathananthony5558 you watch the show so you are qualified to diagnose her with 2 personality disorders? c'mon man do better..
The only one who settles for relationships that are uneven are desperate people or selfish ppl. Not healthy ones. I've seen both.
Kindah but at the same time look at every famous relationship someone lives someone more Love equally idk never even seen in but I’ve noticed when the man loves you more those relationship seem the best and last long cuz adrean is in that relaship now Israel loves her more but she loved rob more look what happen
Kindah why do u say that?
Ava Rehan yeah when men love u more it lasts longer because women can be patient with a man they are not in love with but when a women loves more men usually don’t have the patience to stay
@@shantatv3185 Good point. I agree
ShantaTV you totally miss understood what loving more means
1:01 and 1:10 is when u realize that jeannie mai is still being cutoff and honestly its not fair cause shes a grown woman.
Yes she’s a grown woman she can speak up for herself
Wooow I didn't even notice as I was watching! Aww... Jeannie gotta step it up then! I'm sure she doesn't want to appear confrontational. But I noticed when Tamara had to start making sure she got her points across without being cut off. But good people are pointing it out - maybe the ladies will take note of it and work on that!
I didn’t like that she was cut off either but Amanda is not Tamar and we can not hold Amanda accountable for what Tamar did.
And again at 1:23
It's just part of conversing and is something a lot of people can work on. Jeannie cut Amanda and Adrienne off during this segment too. And the question Jeannie started answering was asked to Amanda and you can see Tamera pointing at Amanda to start speaking and Jeannie then signaled that she got the message. Y'all are just looking for drama when the girls are fine
3:16 Adrienne’s hair flip was so smooth and calming 😭 am I weird?
Kamal Morales nah. I feel you. 😂
No i literally kept rewinding that part lol 😆
My mom always told me that if the man doesn’t love you more than you love him then it won’t work. In my experience, it’s true...
How they all cut Jeannie when she started talking about empath
Because Jeannie cut everyone else off all the time. She cut off Adrienne in this very episode.
It's just part of conversing and is something a lot of people can work on. Jeannie cut Amanda and Adrienne off during this segment too. And the question Jeannie started answering was asked to Amanda and you can see Tamera pointing at Amanda to start speaking and Jeannie then signaled that she got the message. Y'all are just looking for drama
rude as hell
That was a narcissistic ass move to me.
@@angelkingsley5299 Yeah, Jeannie prob does. But Jeannie doesn't give me the imprression that she does it with dismissiveneess to the other person. She just gets over excited and gets in airhead/ADHF mode which causes her to speak out of turn. Amanda gave of a purposely dismissive vibe when she did it.
Why did Amanda just cut Jeannie off like that to make a corny joke that had nothing to do with Adrienne's question?
I’ve seen many people call Amanda a narcissist so it’s interesting that she says her boyfriends were 🤔
Quiana I never said I thought she was . I don’t know whose telling the truth or not. I just thought it was interesting. That’s all.
Like attracts like.
Elle D that may be it but the people that don’t like her seem to be black people. I dont have a problem with her but I kinda looked at her sideways when she downplayed colorism
LMFAO girlll that took me all the way off gaurd.. stuff to get you thinking lmao. Then again, narcissists *can* attract each other
Amanda trying to act like she's an empath when she's actually a narcissist.
That‘s very offensive, because narscissm is way more than that! Stop playing with word, if you don‘t know what you‘re talkign about ! Very offensive
Louder for the people in the back!
Holli Holtsford very disgusting and offensive comment
harry C. She is a narcissist!!
mariyaa111 educate yourself
jeannie’s outfit is giving me very much pajama party. love it
may be controversial but i feel like relationships only work if the man likes the women just a liiiitlleeee more
sorry xx
Gloria Emon I agree
I feel the same way 🙃
Gloria Emon why???? Can someone explain????
Lol no. In my first relationship ex bf loved me very more and it didn't work out. I never loved him just pity-loved him
Gloria Emon what about same sex relationships? 🤨
It is just different love languages. We are so used to seeing messages about what love is that we forget we love differently. So if someone shows love in a different way, they may be perceived as not loving you enough. For instance, my partner's love language is physical touches and words of affirmation while mine is quality time and acts of service. In addition to this, we come from different cultures where mine shuns public display of affection and women are expected to serve their men. So to some people, it may look like I am unaffectionate because I do not do PDA or princess-like because my partner does chores around the house.
Good point. Thanks for the share!
Char Bunny I agree with you.
Char Bunny Do you like his affection ? I’ve always wondered that about people that aren’t affectionate . Does it annoy them when their partner shows affection ?
I think that in the beginning feelings are mutual, I think overtime feelings change because of difficulties in the relationship and how each partner respond to those difficulties. The balance of love may not be the problem. The problem is skill in dealing with problems, which is therefore, the give and take in the relationship, not necessarily the love.
When Amanda let out that sigh.... I felt that, Mama
Right, same here
i'll always love Jesus more
Not more than He loves you.
Amen
first last do you want to not be blasphemous and disrespectful
first last if it means i'm guaranteed into heaven, then yes
D. L. Hugely, however he spells his name, says that for the relationship to work the man has to love more. Lol
ToyaRR I agree
I kinda agree
ToyaRR completely agree
It makes sense to me. Women are already usually so giving, nurturing, and loving. They tend to put their partners first more and put up with more. So for it to be sort of equal, he gotta love her more. Otherwise she might get taken advantage of,
@@812BrownSugar that is it and that is all🙌
Love is energy, I believe the amount of energy you wish to put into a person is the amount you should get back. If you aren’t receiving the same love back it means they are hold back for some reason, or they are channeling that love to someone else.
The narcissism in LA is so real. Especially amongst rich, privileged people. 'New York is for rich people who hate themselves, LA is for rich people who love themselves'.
Tamara 🌹❤️ and Amanda 🖤💚 look is so fire 🔥 for this segment
how rude was it of amanda to cut off jeannie mid sentence as if she didn't exist. also i find it ironic that amanda claims she always dates narcissists since she has been accused by multiple sources of being one herself, just sayin
Cath Exactly what I was thinking!! She never even bothered to go back to her! And her comment wasn’t even helpful. It was a joke. Jeannie was trying to explain what it meant... smh...
i have a feeing amanda doesn't like jeannie because jeannie isn't afraid to call her out on her BS
🙄🙄🙄🙄 here we go again. Poor Jeanie 😐 they all cut each other off. Jeanie did it to Adrienne but I guess it wasn't a problem. You ppl
Amanda is a big Narcissist
@1:10 If this heffa don't let my Jeannie Mai speak..
I agree it's so rude and she didn't even let her explain really quickly
Right, the irony being she said she dates narcissicists, but she’s the biggest one. Narcissists love to cut other people off because they think their point is more important than anyone else’s.
I might be tripping but wasn't the question directed at Amanda to clarify?
00samira00 I think Tamera brought it up originally, but it was probably one of those questions where anybody who knows should answer it. The irony is, even if it was directed at Amanda, she STILL ignored Adrienne and never answered the question, just made a corny joke!
K B Might be, It just didn't read as something being wrong to me because it felt like it was directed to Amanda and or Tamara who was talking about their experience of empaths/narcissists.
I did notice Jeannie wanting to jump in at several points but that just felt like bad timing or awkwardness with flow?
nah, if you're in one-ness with God, he will provide love within both of you that will fill eachother's cups. it's not about locing someone more, its just about knowing what love is and whether you're actually doing that/believing that
Yes, there is always a person that loves a little more. From my experience, it is best if that person is the man.
From personal experience, I feel my husband and I love each other the same. We're equal in our love to each other. He has shown me over many years that he can't live without me and I've shown him I can't live without him.
this is what I'm praying for🥰🙏
Yes most definitely.. it's impossible for each person to feel the exact way about the other
Just because it's not the same though doesnt mean its not equal or one loves the other more. As Tamera alluded to, everyone has different love languages and ways to express love. It's not unequal. It's just different.
Tamara is avoiding it I’m sorry she loves adam more a little to more it’s not about showing it I feel like yess he loves her but Adam would be sad very sad if they were to break up but tamera would not leave her bed she’s obsessed
We don’t see what’s behind the scenes so we can’t know for sure. I really think she loves her role as a wife and mother more than anything.
Adam doesn’t have his own show where he can express his feelings every single day like Tam And besides that’s his personal life. Tam uses her life lessons to teach others in the show and Adam & the kids just happens to be a big part of it. if Tam is happy it’s because Adam is treating her like queen.
Joshua Amen! It’s not like we hear from Adam every day.
@@gaila.9852 adam and Tamara have their own show on TH-cam. On there, sometimes you can sense it. He does loves her but she loves him more. They told the story of how they met and it's on TH-cam rn. Adam was seeing other women while he was dating Tamara at the start of their relationship. After tam found out, she was hurt and angry but she forgave him bc she realized it was kind of soon to be committed to one another. She thought hed stopped seeing other women bc shed stopped immediately after their first date but he was still casually seeing another girl a few dates in. He stopped bc he didnt want to lose tamera over that other girl, but he didnt know that Tam and him were even serious
He was a lil bit taken aback that she was upset. But he understood her frustration. I think that explains the rest of the video and their dynamic perfectly. Throughout the video, there are tons more things that make it obvious that tam is more in love than Adam. Like even how dismissive adam was of her career prior to meeting her. To me, I found that part of the video a little bit rude bc he seemed like he was a little bit too proud to say he didnt know who she was. Like he wanted to rub it in her face that her prior success means nothing to him. If tam was my friend and I'd never watched her show, I'd still be hyping her up for being the best actress that ever graced the planet. Doesnt matter if I dont know who she is and never saw the show. I wouldnt be like "she was apparently on some tv show and I've never seen it and still never have". Like geez. But tam seemed to really love that Adam didnt know her and seemed like she was more enamored with what he did as a profession even though...objectively, being a fox news reporter isnt half as impressive as having a hit tv on prime time television for most of your life, where you won multiple awards and got to meet beyonce, Kobe Bryant, Jagged edge and the like. Tam just loves him and he loves her bc she loves him.
And there is nothing wrong with that. That’s her husband. Maybe if people loved their families this much in real life, we won’t have so many dysfunctional families. I want to be that into my spouse and family too.
Amanda being added to the group really means just another person to cut Jeannie off. 🙄
Abigail awww. I feel like Jeannie is very wise.
Ikr.. Haven't we learn from the incident with Tamar?!
The only person who sounds "real" and sensible is Jennie and the rest are all over the place but act they have something great to say. And this star sign talk is so uneducated 🙄
I agree it’s important to know your partners love languages because it may be you both love each other equally, but just express your love differently ❤️
Yessssssssssz!!!!!
Before when me and my husband was dating, i love him more then he love me, but i knowtist one thing as times passed by he doesn’t pay attention to me as much like how i would like it to be. Sooo i kinda backup slowly and he missed that attention from me and he start to questioning why don’t i do this n that nomore, and thats when he start to take it more serious n love me more!!!!
Ricky Vu that’s exhausting but I get it I had to do it before lawd men
That's why I think its better for the man to love more. Woman are naturally nurturing and caregiver. We express our love more than men so just imagine if we loved more, how terrible that will be. When a man loves you more, he put you first and your needs. He takes care of you and he won't ever hurt you because he's scared to loose you.
@@rikanejose2611 omg I just love your comment I wish I can upvote it a million times. This is very true , unfortunately for me , I dont think it's possible for man to love me as much as I love him. He doesn't understand how strong my love is.
Perhaps the word is attachment and not love. There may always be one person who’s more attached to the other in the relationship. In my experience, I’ve learned to value and seek relationships where I don’t have to quantify my love. I want to love without fearing getting hurt and being betrayed (not always easy, gotta accept your past first and recognize you create your experiences). I’m practicing detachment. Learning to let go of beliefs that don’t serve me, previous experiences that I don’t want to repeat and the expectations that my partner is responsible for my happiness. It’s a journey but so worth it.
Scorpio.. I'm an empath I agree totally..
I agree with Amanda, it’s not about that one loves more than the other, but in a relationship there is this change where you could feel that on some days one is more into the other person and it switches. I feel it in my relationship, but we love each other the day, as we both give to each other as much as the other.
My mom told me my dad was not the love of her life. She loves my dad but I can tell he loves deeper than she did. I have the same situation.
That’s the best situation honestly. Our grandmothers and those before us told us this because it rings true. Every time I see a situation where the woman loves a man at the level or more than he loves her it’s a disaster. The woman is always chasing and constantly trying to please him.
No two relationships are the same. And those same persons are not the same in all of their relationships neither.
Truth. Sometimes past relationships can impact you negatively for the next relationship to where you want to hold on to the next person. Another is it can teach you things and you're not as desperate in the next relationship because your eyes have been opened. Every relationship will have a different version of you because we're always growing.
Yes, there is always someone who loves more than the other. And the one who loves more is the one who gets hurt when the relationship fails. There is no such thing as equality in the battlefield of love.
I’ve been telling my close family and friends since I was a teen, I am an empath, I can FEEL your energy, your mood and sometimes it’s uncomfortable. That’s why I deal with everyone as I do, but largely why I’ve preferred to be and am always alone. So I’m glad it’s becoming a thing where people are informing themselves about it. It’s draining though.
Indeed it is.
This makes me grateful for the relationship I have, we love each other fully. Although we can never know a person's truest feelings they can tell you with their actions. In every day I see his love and convey mine. We have been together for 11 years, I am grateful every day💜
👏👏It is dope when that happens. Very rare indeed.
What tam said about different love language is so true!! Cause someone love language could be quality time whereas some maybe physical touch. Just because you initiate to go out more than the other doesn't mean the other person love you less.
This was a great intellectual conversation ladies. Would like to hear more topic like these!
I think Jeannie is a good listener which is why she gets cut off in conversation a lot. If she starts talking and someone jumps in, she stops talking so she can listen to what they are saying. And after she's done listening and observing she drops those gems we love at the end of the convo.
Most importantly ladies, know yourself better before getting in a relationship
I genuinely enjoyed this topic/discussion - it was very insightful and thought-provoking.
I complexly agree with Amanda that the love shifts
Let me just put it in one sentence. Relationships are really getting complicated for the past decade. For me, both man and woman should love each other more until they die. Keep loving more everyday and keep growing old. And I do agree that there is always going to one person who will love the other person more. It can be both men and women!
Tam definitely loves her husband more than he loves her 🤷🏻♀️
Not at all. She broke up with him after he told her he loved her. He had to win her over
Love the commentary Loni! Very true! And I love Amanda🤣 her expressions throughout😂 I was right there with her! And Jeannie's point at the end🔥🔥🔥
On a different note, I really love how Amanda Jeannie and Tamera shirts match in style 😍
There's always a gardener and a rose 🌹 When I was young, my great-grandmother told me to choose someone who loves me more
Ok let me know if y’all agree or if it’s just me... but I think that... when it comes to relationships sometimes there are people feel the need to chase and then there are those who like the feeling of being chased... but I honestly feel like in relationship... the chasing stops and it turns into both parties wanting that other person attention no matter what’s going on , no matter where they are or how far apart or close they are... and that’s what it should be... one person shouldn’t feel like they’re always the one that does more or that their partner does less to show their love for them
Maybe that's how it SHOULD be... but, for many, that's not how it is..also it is not always a conscious thing, when people end up in relationships like that (people can be very complex) I personally would only be interested in a relationship where someone loves me more....
I totally agree!
@Ro Ka, may I ask why you prefer that? I'm just curious into that perspective, someone with that desire, I'm interested to truly understand.
@@AfriNaija12 I prefer that because I prefer to have the upper hand in a relationship...also I believe that it's important to apply practicality in matters of romance....
Oh ok. Interesting. And in what ways would you say that refers to or enables practicality in romance? Again, just interested!
I agree with Loni and Jeannie. I don’t have time for psychological games and they’re only defense mechanisms at the end of the day.
Jasmyne Haywood girl it’s the truth lol
This talk was so good, i agree whit everything that they said
Yes I truly believe someone always loves more but the minute the person who loves more sees you don’t love them as much it changes them to pull back for you to show them you love them just as much.
This!!!
I wish I had a friend like Jeannie she is so smart
I think it's hard to quantify because when you are together a long time, the kind of love is so strong. It's weird. It's a different level. Like when you have a child. It's a love that I can't even quantify. It's the entire fiber of my being in love with my child. It's different than puppy love and the butterfly love you get initially. It's something deeper.
Jeannie is a grown woman she is fine. Stop it. Y’all don’t have this energy when Jeannie cuts other people off.
Honestly I’m so tired it’s been like five years and people are still saying the same thing it was with Tamar now they say it with Amanda people need to stop she’s is grown and if she feels a type of way they can discuss it privately and work it out.
Thank you
@@immaculatepeter5529 good point
I think people take issue with it because Jeannie’s usually very respectful of everyone else, but they don’t seem to show her the same respect in return.
Nah fam. Justice for Jeannie for real. #JusticeforJeannie
I am a girl, and my dad actually told me the same thing that jeannie said, he said I should marry/be with someone who loves me more than I love them because I can learn/grow to love them, and he said because that person loves me so much I will more likely value and respect them.
I learned a lot from this discussion...pretty much, I’m attracted to narcissists 😂🤣🤣
why? genuinely asking
1. Everyone looks gorgeous
2. I think everyone changes with the time. Sometimes I love my husband more and sometimes I love him more. But there is a understanding of love in a marriage
I don’t Like to chase Anyone . that’s A turn off .
My mother told me the same. Be with someone whom loves you more than you love them. I didn’t follow that advice til I was in my late 20s and it has helped me tremendously.
The man should always love the woman more. They’re born to pursue women. It becomes unattractive when the woman is giving consistently and the man doesn’t have to give anything in return
They aren't born to pursue woman
Yup!!!👏👏👏
@@kovuBee straight men.
@@e13kid Okay, there you go.... Tbh I think a better statement would be like "people pursue falling in love." I agree with Amanda that it shifts all the time and I believe it should be that way. Saying it's required to always be the man at all times sounds gender conforming and exclusive of millions of people who don't identify within the society's construct of gender and/or relationship stereotypes.
@@kovuBee What on Earth are you talking about? Lol.
I always feel like I'm the person who love the most, it's very tiring and it always ends when I leave because I felt like I wasn't getting enough love
I know how you feel
Love you Jeannie!!! Your input is always insightful ❤❤❤
YES LONI🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 I see you dropping your wisdom in at the end!
Yes Tam... Narcissist prey on empaths...
As an empathy myself, this topic of conversation was reassuring and empowering. I love how everyone voiced their own wisdom and perception on things. Great job ladies!