Your story resonates with many of peb cov ntxhais Hmoob who grew up in the ‘90’s and early 2000’s. Thank you for your bravery and willingness to share your childhood memories, inspiration and hope with us. Many of us traveled on that very similar path as you. The verbal, mental, physical abuse from the OG’s is what fueled our drive to succeed and be better than the hurtful words and actions that was shown by them. Be proud of yourself, your resilience and your success. I have no doubt that the OG’s are remorseful of their actions and how ignorant they were. Congrats on achieving your CRNA!
Thank you for sharing your story. It truly resonates with me. I was the black sheep and endured endless doubts and constant belittling from those who were supposed to be some of my biggest supporters. There is a saying, "well-behaved women seldom make history." Your preserverance and strength are impeccable. You pushed boundaries and stayed authentically YOU throughout painful hardships. The silent battles you fought through are now celebrating you loud. 💛
Thanks for sharing. I am so proud of you for pushing through the OGs stereotypes and biased thoughts. I am glad your MIL was understanding. The past for us Hmong girls was such a struggle! My mom straight up told me she loves my brothers more and their kids more because they are the ones who will care for them. To this day, I am still hurt when my mom calls me to do all her translations and appointments. She does not call my brothers at all because they ignore and abandoned her. I cannot convince myself she loves me and has changed her thinking. The trauma has embedded itself.
What an inspiring story! Yes, it is depressing and unforgettable how our parents that generation (esp mothers) have treated, trained and manipulated our youth as young daughters, and addition to gender inequality you can see vividly between sons and daughters in a household. Whether now we knew better or is more educated and open-minded, or can comprehend with society, all we can accept is to excuse their doings that they didn't have an education, modern mindsets, etc, or whatever just so we can move on with our sadness & pain. However, let's not forget how they separated their love/care for you as one of their own birth child, neglected, labeled or defined, and compared you with your sisters/cousins. Be proud of those who belittled you and the struggles you walked past that because those hardships have helped lead you to who and where you are today. We can only change the elders' traditional perspectives by leading better examples, and for that, I hope us newer generational mothers/parents could resonate and support our children equally and unbiased.
Sister, you're not alone - thank you for sharing your story. I was a rebel growing up. My parents expected me to learn wife skills while I was focusing on education and excelling in school. It was hard on them not understanding that their daughter wanted to pursue a different path than the one they wanted for me. My mother especially made it impossible for me to achieve my goals. The only way to achieve my goals and gain independence was to run off and get married. I did get married at a young age but have a super supportive husband and in-laws who allowed me to achieve my goals. I'm truly blessed and grateful for them. It took my parents many years to say they were proud of me and realized my potential. It's funny that compliments from people that I went to school and worked with were what made my parents come around.
You go girl! My story is similar to yours. My mindset is and will always be, “IDGAF” what people say or think about me, judge me all you want. I’m not the one who’s losing sleep over it.
Thank you for sharing your story. A lot of us Hmong daughters during this era struggled and can relate to your story. I was arranged to be married at age 15 but continue my education. By the time I was done with high school, I had 2 children already. It took years before I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree. I am very proud of you, sister. You’ve defied all the obstacles a Hmong daughter faced. Lub neej ua ib tug ntxhais hmoob mas thiaj txawj tu siab vim niam txiv tsis txhawb yus lub hom phiaj. I’m glad parents these days have changed.👏👏👏
Elders are so ignorant back then that anything different from being a good daughter doing house chores is a bad girl. Now we wish our children to have this much courage and ambition to strives for their career goals 😅 and can’t even get them to wash dishes and clean the house anymore without having a thunder and lightning strike in the house 😅. Good job girl for going against the norms of a good girls back then.
Congratulations to you sister. You had a plan and you went for it. Our parents was never educated so they never knew to help us growing up during the 90.
If you grew up as a teen in the 90's, there were 2 groups. You were either a nerd or a gangster wannabe. Lol anyone in between were considered outcasts (misunderstood). Forgive your parents. Most Hmong parents were uneducated at the time . My parents weren't involved in any of my school activities either. I went to my college orientation by myself. But I never took it as though they didn't love me. Trust me, a lot of Hmong teens were in the same boat as you during that time. You are an intelligent person. You must have had some good childhood memories of your parents. Think about those. I bet it'll make you feel a lot better. Good luck.
The woman with her own mind that made every effort to achieve ed it will and always will be the ultimate threat n shame to all hmg during that time. You were not alone, congratulations for being the strong you for you!!! I am one of you too.... be proud and fly!!!
I was a tomboy growing up too! 😅 But I was the younger sister. I was sandwiched with two older brothers and three younger brothers. Everything from playing football to hanging out with chickens! I wouldn’t have changed that time for anything. So many fun times and valuable memories were made. Now in our 40’s, we still laugh about it. My husband still can’t believe I was a superstar football player in my teens! 😂
Kuv li mas kuv hlub kuv tus ntxhais heev ces kuv caum nws xwb os me ntxhais aw...Pab koj tus siab heev yog yus yug los hlub tsi sib luag li os...Pab koj niam thiab koj txiv lawv txaj muag kawg nkaus li os.
Never under estimate a child when my oldest son was small he was so naughty I thought he’s either end up in jail or become a rich person .Now he has become a good person to my family and got his phd working with top people
Txhob tu siab os tus me ntxhais aw....peb cov niam thiab txiv OG hmoob yeej coj niag cwj pwm phem2 li ko rau cov ntxhais, peb mam txhob coj li ntawv rau peb cov me nyuam.
Ntuj aw me niam tsev aw Cas hlub koj ua luaj li os. Koj niam koj txiv mas ruam tiag tiag li os. Zoo siab rau koj os nawb. Txhob tus siab os mog koj yog ib tug uas muaj peev xwm tshaj lij tshaj plaws li nawb.
Don't be so upset at your parents. They thought whatever you did wasn't the right choice because that was then and you guys had a communication problem. Be proud that you did what you did and you are where you are.
It's obvious you are hurt & feel unloved by your parents but you are an educated woman and should forgive your parents. I think growing up in the late 80's to 90's, our most Hmong parents are like your parents and not just yours. They didn't have the education and they were brought up that way. You were a little stubborn and rebellious but you, as you said yourself, happened to hang around good role model friends and their parents, otherwise if your friends were not so good, your parents would definitely have a reason to be upset with you. Congratulations on your achievement.
So proud of you sister for being different! For not being desperate like other Hmong girls your age! For making wise choices and being successful in life! 🫰
Your story resonates with many of peb cov ntxhais Hmoob who grew up in the ‘90’s and early 2000’s. Thank you for your bravery and willingness to share your childhood memories, inspiration and hope with us. Many of us traveled on that very similar path as you. The verbal, mental, physical abuse from the OG’s is what fueled our drive to succeed and be better than the hurtful words and actions that was shown by them. Be proud of yourself, your resilience and your success. I have no doubt that the OG’s are remorseful of their actions and how ignorant they were.
Congrats on achieving your CRNA!
Thank you for sharing your story. It truly resonates with me. I was the black sheep and endured endless doubts and constant belittling from those who were supposed to be some of my biggest supporters. There is a saying, "well-behaved women seldom make history." Your preserverance and strength are impeccable. You pushed boundaries and stayed authentically YOU throughout painful hardships. The silent battles you fought through are now celebrating you loud. 💛
Thanks for sharing. I am so proud of you for pushing through the OGs stereotypes and biased thoughts. I am glad your MIL was understanding. The past for us Hmong girls was such a struggle! My mom straight up told me she loves my brothers more and their kids more because they are the ones who will care for them. To this day, I am still hurt when my mom calls me to do all her translations and appointments. She does not call my brothers at all because they ignore and abandoned her. I cannot convince myself she loves me and has changed her thinking. The trauma has embedded itself.
What an inspiring story! Yes, it is depressing and unforgettable how our parents that generation (esp mothers) have treated, trained and manipulated our youth as young daughters, and addition to gender inequality you can see vividly between sons and daughters in a household. Whether now we knew better or is more educated and open-minded, or can comprehend with society, all we can accept is to excuse their doings that they didn't have an education, modern mindsets, etc, or whatever just so we can move on with our sadness & pain. However, let's not forget how they separated their love/care for you as one of their own birth child, neglected, labeled or defined, and compared you with your sisters/cousins. Be proud of those who belittled you and the struggles you walked past that because those hardships have helped lead you to who and where you are today. We can only change the elders' traditional perspectives by leading better examples, and for that, I hope us newer generational mothers/parents could resonate and support our children equally and unbiased.
Sister, you're not alone - thank you for sharing your story. I was a rebel growing up. My parents expected me to learn wife skills while I was focusing on education and excelling in school. It was hard on them not understanding that their daughter wanted to pursue a different path than the one they wanted for me. My mother especially made it impossible for me to achieve my goals. The only way to achieve my goals and gain independence was to run off and get married. I did get married at a young age but have a super supportive husband and in-laws who allowed me to achieve my goals. I'm truly blessed and grateful for them. It took my parents many years to say they were proud of me and realized my potential. It's funny that compliments from people that I went to school and worked with were what made my parents come around.
You go girl! My story is similar to yours. My mindset is and will always be, “IDGAF” what people say or think about me, judge me all you want. I’m not the one who’s losing sleep over it.
Wow sister....you fought so hard to have the life we all would have wanted back then. Kudos to you for standing up for yourself.
Thank you for sharing your story. A lot of us Hmong daughters during this era struggled and can relate to your story. I was arranged to be married at age 15 but continue my education. By the time I was done with high school, I had 2 children already. It took years before I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree.
I am very proud of you, sister. You’ve defied all the obstacles a Hmong daughter faced. Lub neej ua ib tug ntxhais hmoob mas thiaj txawj tu siab vim niam txiv tsis txhawb yus lub hom phiaj. I’m glad parents these days have changed.👏👏👏
Elders are so ignorant back then that anything different from being a good daughter doing house chores is a bad girl. Now we wish our children to have this much courage and ambition to strives for their career goals 😅 and can’t even get them to wash dishes and clean the house anymore without having a thunder and lightning strike in the house 😅. Good job girl for going against the norms of a good girls back then.
Relatable. I was the bad kid too. Glad you were able to overcome all these hardships
Congratulations to you sister. You had a plan and you went for it. Our parents was never educated so they never knew to help us growing up during the 90.
Cov niag laus no mas yeej tsis paub appreciate tej menyuam kiag li os! Nrog koj zoo siab os😊
Wow zoo kawg li os tus sister ❤so happy for you
If you grew up as a teen in the 90's, there were 2 groups. You were either a nerd or a gangster wannabe. Lol anyone in between were considered outcasts (misunderstood). Forgive your parents. Most Hmong parents were uneducated at the time . My parents weren't involved in any of my school activities either. I went to my college orientation by myself. But I never took it as though they didn't love me. Trust me, a lot of Hmong teens were in the same boat as you during that time. You are an intelligent person. You must have had some good childhood memories of your parents. Think about those. I bet it'll make you feel a lot better. Good luck.
I am so proud of you for your determination 💜
The woman with her own mind that made every effort to achieve ed it will and always will be the ultimate threat n shame to all hmg during that time. You were not alone, congratulations for being the strong you for you!!! I am one of you too.... be proud and fly!!!
Thank you for sharing your story. Proud of your success and proving your family wrong.
Great job sister!
I was a tomboy growing up too! 😅 But I was the younger sister. I was sandwiched with two older brothers and three younger brothers. Everything from playing football to hanging out with chickens! I wouldn’t have changed that time for anything. So many fun times and valuable memories were made. Now in our 40’s, we still laugh about it. My husband still can’t believe I was a superstar football player in my teens! 😂
Your siblings are the good kids but you are the winner kid
Yus nam yus txiv tsi hlub yus le koj tes txawm yus hlub tau los hlub hlub tsi tau los tsi txhob hab mas nyaj yuav tsi npam hab os
Kuv li mas kuv hlub kuv tus ntxhais heev ces kuv caum nws xwb os me ntxhais aw...Pab koj tus siab heev yog yus yug los hlub tsi sib luag li os...Pab koj niam thiab koj txiv lawv txaj muag kawg nkaus li os.
Never under estimate a child when my oldest son was small he was so naughty I thought he’s either end up in jail or become a rich person .Now he has become a good person to my family and got his phd working with top people
Koj parents tseem keep lub mind 75 os. Tsis pop kev vam meej lis os. Ruam tiag tiag lis os.
Nrog koj zoo siab os me ntxhais
Congratulations 🎊 👏 DR
Niam tais Jenny es twb tag lawm es ho pab tau dab tsi qhov es yuav tsev
Txhob tu siab os tus me ntxhais aw....peb cov niam thiab txiv OG hmoob yeej coj niag cwj pwm phem2 li ko rau cov ntxhais, peb mam txhob coj li ntawv rau peb cov me nyuam.
Ntuj aw me niam tsev aw Cas hlub koj ua luaj li os. Koj niam koj txiv mas ruam tiag tiag li os. Zoo siab rau koj os nawb. Txhob tus siab os mog koj yog ib tug uas muaj peev xwm tshaj lij tshaj plaws li nawb.
👍👍🌹🌷
yog li tej niam tj txiv hais ho dab ng yg dab neeg saum yaj no .. nej yeej ua poj laib tshaj peb tim no
Your parents are so OG! Congratulations to your DR degree! They don’t deserve your love
Me ntxhais cov laus thaum is thiaj coj li xwb peb cov tam sim no tsis coj li ntawv lawm os txhob tu siab os
Ntuj aws, liam tawv ncauj, siab phem tsuas yog nrhiav tsawv txoj kev mus ua si xwb, txib tej yau ua haujlwm rau koj xwb. Cas tseem coj yus lub niag qi tsw lwj tuaj hais thiab naw
Don't be so upset at your parents. They thought whatever you did wasn't the right choice because that was then and you guys had a communication problem. Be proud that you did what you did and you are where you are.
It's obvious you are hurt & feel unloved by your parents but you are an educated woman and should forgive your parents. I think growing up in the late 80's to 90's, our most Hmong parents are like your parents and not just yours. They didn't have the education and they were brought up that way. You were a little stubborn and rebellious but you, as you said yourself, happened to hang around good role model friends and their parents, otherwise if your friends were not so good, your parents would definitely have a reason to be upset with you. Congratulations on your achievement.
Tus menyuam tawv ncauj tsis yog menyuam phem tas tus. Yuav tsum ua zoo saib nws tus cwjpwm coj, txhob liam rau qhov phem xwb.
So proud of you sister for being different! For not being desperate like other Hmong girls your age! For making wise choices and being successful in life! 🫰