Finally washing my hair after 6 weeks 😩 New mommy & depressed? life update
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Hey girl, finally washing my hair after 4 weeks as well. No baby, just feeling down, depressed (winter does that to me). I try to take it one day a time. We got this🦋✨️
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Aaaahhhwww you have S.A.D , just like me. Please feel better
Feel better soon beautiful ❤
I can relate I deal with depression and more so since it’s winter and the rain just makes it worst, but I’m taking it one day at a time I haven’t washed my hair for about 3 weeks so you are not alone but we will get through it the best we can sometimes though we just have to push ourselves.
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Those first couple of months postpartum are a weird blur. Being a mom to young kids really will have you focused on SURVIVAL lol. So happy you took time for yourself when YOU were ready ❤️
So true! 😂😭❤️
Omg look at you all active on TH-cam.. I watch your channel too lol
I read this and cried and it's been almost 2 years since i had my 2nd but girl those memories 🥺🤣😭
@@jusgie heyyyyy lol!! ❤
@Butter Bean yes! Self care is a task in itself!
5 weeks without washing it .... Girl, being a new mommy really puts another perspective on your priorities . Your hair looks amazing and so do you . Give yourself some slack and be more gentle and patient with yourself. Congrats 🎉🎉 on your newborn baby 🐥🍼 Btw, quick tip for new mommy : put some aloe Vera gel into your hair and let it sit all day while you do your chores before the baby wakes up or needs food and in the evening you just wash with with hot /warm water . It cleans your hair good, nourish it and prevents tangle . A quick washing / condition hair you can do once a weak until you have time for a full pamper routine 😉😉😉 New mommies need to take care of themselves too 😘🤗
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This is a FABULOUS idea! I love it! Thank you for sharing! ❤❤❤❤
Great idea. Thanks
Aloe is very awesome for dandruff relief, but I highly recommend scratching scalp before washing it out if possible.
Then, if you are like me, and cannot grease, oil, serum, or cream due to eczema ( mine is keratosis pilaris), the aloe is moisturizing enough. Well, for me it is, where I do not miss any post-wash products, including leave-in conditioner. Put anything in my hair after wash, I will tear off my scalp and cannot last a week without wash. I had to stop taking Benadryl for scalp itching due to I was going through bad memory loss in my early 40s ( I am now pushing 47 ). I regained some memory after stopping the Benadryl, but there is still some long-term and short-term memory damage.
I went to my paternal uncle's funeral Thanksgiving weekend '17, and there were relatives I know really well, but I forgot their names. I even mistaken a couple ladies for their late moms.
I found out about aloe, I think Blossom channel, the one that is similar to 5 Minute Crafts. At first, I did not take it seriously, but tried it anyway. Glad I did. It was good enough on its own, but a couple months later broke down and got Head & Shoulder 2-in-1 in addition to using aloe.
As a nurse working in mental healthcare.. mommy ur doing an amazing job! Life gets rough sometimes. It’s so important to also show the other side of motherhood, this is so real! Thankyou for that! I pray better times are coming for u. ❤
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Merci de le lui dire!
It's so important to be kind to yourself. Don't be afraid to ask for help; postpartum depression is real and it can be deadly.
Yes, very unfortunately so. It is so sad that happens, even when you want the baby and love the baby.
6-8 weeks is some of the hardest time after having a baby, especially with a toddler. Make sure you take care of yourself! You can’t help others if you’re not taking care of yourself. Congrats on baby Nia!
Yeah it’s definitely rough. I have a three week old and a one year old. I definitely understand the putting yourself last.
Girl, I'm caring for a parent with renal disease, and I hadn't combed my hair since Mayr. I gave myself grace and sat in a tub for 3 hours and slowly detangled my hair. You helped me because you introduced the pre-poo to me. It helped me so much. Took the fear away. Took the pain away. And I didn't become upset with the shed hair because it's normal.
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Girl can we just acknowledge the fact that you detangled your hair while holding your baby.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 you are doing a great job and please give yourself grace. I pray God gives you the strength and peace of mind that you need daily.
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Mothers don’t get enough credit!! You go girl!! And ppl have the nerve to condemn women who don’t want children!!! SHEESH
Has me wondering if kids are necessary lol
@@lavishlovergirl Ive been asking myself for a long time now 😬 but I think it comes down to a lot of mothers not havijg enough help around (maybe the father could be around more? Idk but I'm curious about this
Oh yeah.... Being a mom is a lot of work.
If you see yourself nit being able to take care of the kids, having non is completely okay its not a sin in anyway
Nope i fully understand cuz as a guy who co raised 2 kids i am saying i never want kids in my life. Its too stressful and time consuming for me personally.
Ladies, try keeping your hair in plaits! It will save you time from detangling when you can't give much care to your hair, through pregnancy, during labour or even after baby is here. ✨💖
Just had my 2nd baby 8 months ago and lost my mom during pregnancy. My hair has been so neglected, I needed to do another Big Chop. We are with you momma, you got this 🤎
God is always good to you and he loves you. I pray you feel a ton times better today and I am truly sorry for the loss of your mother. You are in victory. If a big chop was needed then so be it. Just make sure to stay on top of it when you can so it can thrive. I wish you the best in your life ❤ love you
I know how you feel. I lost my mom during my first pregnancy as well.
@@abbywabby30 It will grow back again. 😀
Sending love your way mama
@@abbywabby30 thank you so much for your kind words! 🥺🙏🏽 I love you 🤎
Congratulations on the baby!!, I know it's tough but you got this, keep going and stay strong ❤️
Thank you so much!! ❤
Girl you are human!! Be kind to yourself! I'm gearing up for wash day myself lol
*👆👆👆Reach out to the above username @AmberAnsah, you won🎉*
I haven’t watched you in a MINUTE, so you can imagine how shook i was when you revealed you had another baby 😭. I’m happy for you of course!
Yes ma'am my son just turned 8 weeks old and I need to take these braids out. It's just the way this breastfeeding schedule & REGULAR LIFE is set up!
Exactly!! You feel me 😩 but we got this 🙌🏽
Same here! My baby girl is 9weeks old and I’m dreaming of removing those braids out of my hair..😩 but I still can’t😢 Someday hopefully I will
Just said the same thing. Braid the hair 2x atleast. Get someone to do it hopefully. Then by the time you take them out the 2nd time you'll be more prepared. My girl is now 16 months so enjoy the tiny baby stages. I miss her so small lol xxx
I hope you’re recovering well sis! I know it can be difficult but don’t bash yourself for how you’ve been feeling. remember to show yourself compassion and remember that this is okay and its part of life. We’re proud of every step you’re taking. You’re a queen!
Thank you for posting this video. Being a new mom is hard and people often don’t want to show what it’s like. Seeing you be so open and honest with your struggles helps me realize that I am not the only one struggling and that the struggle is expected.
Girl this is why I literally shaved my whole head about 1 year in having my kid. I grew it back. But it got that real, I was like I don’t even have it to give and cut off 7 years of longggg hair lol
you’re beautiful and a SUPER woman! Thank you for sharing this
Why not just get box braids?
This kind of content is super helpful for new moms! It will be nice to know they're not alone in the struggle. Your hair looks great, and you did a wonderful job filming despite the obstacles. You're doing just fine, Mama ❤! I love your vids, and looking forward to more. Kiss those babies and enjoy every moment.
For sure! Mine is almost 20 and I miss my baby far worse than crazy. 😭
Aww, momma! I definitely understand the struggle😥. That’s one of the reasons I decided to get locs during my 4th pregnancy cause I just couldn’t deal with my long hair. And that delivery turned into an unexpected csection for me also and I really struggled with that. But now he’ll be one in a few weeks and I’m just grateful we survived this first year🤗! Hang in there, you’re doing awesome and a great mom❤️! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏿!
Congratulations on your new bundle of joy!!
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Moms are amazing! I had a c-section as well, with a husband and mom for support. The amount of support doesn’t change what you go through! Of course more support is always helpful but it doesn’t minimize your pain, trauma or experience. ❤
Your real and that’s why I love you it’s so refreshing actual honestly
That’s why I do what I do! To inspire! ❤️
That bun is shiny and looks great. Watched until the end. Good to know the baby blues is over and you give yourself lots of praise for doing your best. I am a mom of a 3 year old and 1 year old and I praise myself all the time too
Thanks so much for the support! ❤️❤️
Hang in there... I know how it is. You're doing great. Do not hesitate to ask for help, and spread those asks around. We live far away from our family and friends, and the little bit of time my family came to visit was a huge relief. That village makes a huge difference.
First, I want to say your hair is *so* amazingly lush and beautiful!
As someone who suffers from depression and has for years, PROPS girl.. I can't imagine doing this while caring for a child AND a newborn, all the while recovering from surgery!
I'm glad you are feeling better 💜
C-sections are life saving major abdominal surgery and we seem to forget that in the haze of busyness and hormones after giving birth. I’m so glad you had support as you went through it. You’re amazing and beautiful and I’m so proud of you!
She said it was traumatic… why say “we seem to forget” here?
@@ccgerrity I guess I meant the general “we” that are around when others come out of birth through c-section. But thanks for the food for thought on writing choices.
Ima new momma again too, new born and 4yr old so i felt this video so much. Mommas stickin together 💜
Give yourself some grace. You have been through a lot and motherhood is amazing but exhausting at the same time. 💞
I completely understand how you feel and where you are in this video. I have a 3 year old and a 7 month old now. I have dealt with the depression and anxiety in the post partum period. I get it! You’re doing well, momma!
My current situation. 😢 My daughter will be 2 in April and I’m still trying to feel like myself again. Thank you for this video. Ima get off my ass and do my hair!
3, 4 and 6 year old. I'm still trying to get there😂😢
Being a new mom is hard. I did the same thing. My son just turn one and I finally feel like I'm getting back into the groove of things. Hang in there mama!!
Been there girl, and I'm childless. Glad you're feeling better! 🌻❤
Love it‼️ Real "A day in the life of a Mommy of 2" vlog PLUS a hair tutorial!!... you're killing it...and at your pace. No guilt, just doing the best you can. Nothing short of amazing 👏🏽👏🏽. You and your family are beautiful BTW 🥰 Congratulations on #2
Sharing your journey is so important to normalize these things for mommas. You’re doing great and that hair is beautiful girl!
You look amazing! Post partum depression is really tough. Trust in the lord he will see you through. You're stronger than you know. Talking about my struggles helped me. I'm praying for you and your mental health. Take things one day at a time. Set goals and accomplish them. Reward yourself! I used to neglect myself then fall deeper into depression because I let myself go. Take care of yourself because your baby needs you! Plus you deserve to look and feel good too! You'll get through this!!!
I am so glad to see you post an update. I very much enjoy watching your journey in hair and life. I have been watching since before you had children.. You are REAL and that's what I enjoy the most. Thank you!!
Congratulations on a beautiful family
Girrrrl....I feel ya...adjusting to a new baby is challenging, and motherhood with all of the changes and expectations can definitely bring on depression or feelings of every day being the same monotonous series of chores. No time for ourselves.
My natural hair got to bra strap length, after I had my twins via c-section I would go for days without or weeks without detangling, got matted, took forever to detangle, I just didn't have time to take care of myself or my hair anymore with having to be the major caretaker for the twins all on my own. I caved and decided to relax my hair, which I regret, did the big chop 4 months ago. My twins are 9 now, so I do have more time for myself even though I have a 4 year old too. I love that you are still natural. You are doing a wonderful job as a momma Amber!
I am so proud of you lady!!! Yes you are correct, recovering from a c-section is rough in addition to taking care of a newborn & toddler. My hat’s off to you. Try to remember how important you are in this picture and be kind and gentle with yourself. You are beautiful, a great mom and so very worthy.
Yes my C-section was the same way with my son and it took about a year for me to stop feeling the sharp pain I am so proud of you being honest with yourself and sharing with us just want to send love and light from a genuine place and congratulations on the second babygirl
I commend you for being able to make this video with everything you’ve been through and are persevering through! You are amazing and so so strong!!
Also congrats on your precious new baby girl!!! 🎉
Amber! Girl! I felt you. You are literally like me 5 years ago. Thanks for being so real. After a year of migrating around the world I've really neglected my hair. I am contemplating a big chop because the hair products I'm used to buying and using in bulk cuz the hair is BIG are pricey. I'm also really worried because my hair has always been long. This video is a motivation.
1. Nia is as beautiful as I imagined she would be!😍
2. You are strong, courageous, and a wonderful mom from what you show us
3. Thank you so much for sharing! I had a difficult pregnancy at the end, as well as 2 miscarriages. People that have not experienced carrying and birthing a child don't understand how much risk we endure to bring a child into the world.💕
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I quit my job and moved to TX and was so stressed about paying off a loan and keeping up with bills that I hadn't brushed or washed my hair for a year but just last Friday and Saturday spent majority of my day gently trying to comb it out with TOOOOOOOOOOOOOONS of water and separating it. I had so many knots and it looked a mess and was so dry and flaky. So happy you got through it and the babies are sooooooo cute!
Truly appreciate the transparency in this video. I could relate to pretty much everything you shared (aside from doing it with a toddler🥴) My son is a toddler now, so I could only imagine having another newborn in the house with him, but I know there are many moms who do it and I give it up to them, hands down. The Baby Blues is real. The self neglect is real. We're focused on the baby and recalibrating hormones (especially after an unexpected c-section)...it's a lot! But you got this mama! So glad to see you starting to bounce back after 6 weeks. Baby steps! You got this💗💗💗
That tangled hair reminded me of mine after having my twins. I had to get help combing out the tangles. I couldn't manage the length at that time, nor did I have the time to do it myself.
I love seeing your beautiful hair, I watched you washing and moisturizing it about 5 times. It looks like all that was cut had grown back.
It's nice to know that your circle of support is still in place for when you need them. That's a blessing. Enjoy your beautiful girls.❤❤
Thanks for sharing.
You have such a pretty hair. And you’re naturally pretty as well. I went through postpartum depression for a year and the first six months was so hard just to get a shower in was work.
I so appreciate your transparency in this video. I’m 4 1/2 months postpartum and I’ve been dealing with my own struggles with my hair. Postpartum shedding hit me when my daughter turned 3 months. It’s been stressful to see my hair coming out in clumps but I know it’s temporary. Also, you and your baby are beautiful ❤
I'm really proud of you for getting up and doing it, it's never easy to get out of that pit. Keep taking one little step at a time and remember it's okay to take time for yourself.
Bless your heart, you ARE a great mom! So proud of you!
This video was so satisfying
I can’t wait to have me a lil spa day to get myself back on track.. Life can be so hard at times.. Yes you are a great mom.. and you were focus on them.. I’m glad you had a time to focus on yourself you deserved it
girl, that was the most satisfying end result i've ever seen!! u looked so much happier, and ur such an amazing mom 💕
Congratulations on being an all round amazing human and Mum. You've got this!
Literally doing the same today. Thank you for this video. I felt alone with getting lost being a mom and working
Omg this is the realest and I’m so proud of you getting through this moment. Bless you
Will always appreciate you teaching about the LCO method years back when everyone else was going on about the LOC. It was an instant game changer for me. Much love
First of all congratulations on your new addition. Second, whenever i tune into your videos i have NEVER seen your hair look bad bc it is soooo beautiful, thick and luxurious-just absolutely gorgeous. Even with the matting. Girrrrrrl🤩
it was still beautiful.
I lost a lot of my density after a lot of stress some years ago. My hair had ALWAYS been thick so i get that detangling was a monster. I understand a teensy bit how it felt being at an emotional low point. But the fact that you are taking time with yourself is a good sign. A step/a day at a time🙏🏽
Way to go mom! The best part of this was you choosing to honor your true feelings by putting your hair in a bun. Good on you! Your baby is beautiful, you are beautiful! And thanks for sharing!
I literally can’t wait to be a mom one day! And seeing how much you love and cherish your child even though you struggle just shows me how being a mother might not be easy and it can be hard to focus on yourself but I can just imagine how the reward will be so much greater. Keep going mamma and know that you are incredible and beautiful and that you will continue to be the best mother to your baby!! ❤️
The way your face lit up some when you saw your washed hair was it for me. ❤Absolutely gorgeous momma and congratulations!!! I wish you the best. I haven't had children/can't conceive, and I know I don't have a place to say anything related to motherhood, but I suffer from pretty intense mental illnesses that incapacitate me sometimes and I agree with everyone here saying to be kind to yourself and give yourself grace. You carried a life in you and that's amazing. Take as many little 'me' moments as you can and carry them with you when you feel like you're going down mentally. It will always be a light to guide you back to present. You got this.
Sweet, sweet, sweet beautiful lady. You are doing great. I’m glad you aren’t bashing yourself and love the bun! Congratulations on your new bundle of joy! 💗
I love your thick, beautiful hair. You are very fortunate to have a lot of people helping you having a toddler and a small baby is very hard work.
I had a newborn when my toddler was 2 and a half. The struggle is real! I had to take time away from work (also Mompreneur) to rest mentally and emotionally. And yes, any little self-care helps so so much. I'm glad you're being gentle with yourself and giving yourself time to do things. Congrats on new baby! You seem like a good Mom and a great woman!
Yaassss! Don't be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself to have those moments. But don't stay there. Self care is so gratifying during those 1st couple of months. You are amazing!!
Congratulations on the new bundle of joy!!!! And your hair grew so much !
I really admire you for sharing this. It's actually really helpful to model this for other people dealing with mental health issues. Normalizing talking about this is so important. Your kids are lucky to have you in their corner. 💜
Hi Amber! I am watching your videos all the way from South Africa! You are one of my favourite natural hair youtubers! I love watching your videos. Congrats on your baby! Wow, you look amazing!
Hey, I havent seen your content in a while but I can totally relate to this phase. I'm surprised you could even still detangle your hair. Mine got so matted and tangled after months of neglect. I was tired, lazy, and feeling down post partum and hair was the last thing on the list. I recovered from that thankfully. Thanks for sharing the reality though with new moms who may need to see this for reassurance.
I completely understand what you were going through! I have long natural hair as well. And I’m a mom to a 3 year old, soon to be 2 year old, and I’m pregnant with our 3rd. It’s always 4-6 weeks before I wash my hair. I’ve found that if I leave it curly it’s a tangled mess so now I blow dry it out after washing and I have minimal to no tangles at 4-6 weeks. Hang in there mama you got this!
Girl you are beautiful and STRONG in ssoooooo many ways..I APPLAUD you for your strength and getting it done. I'm very proud of you..OUTSTANDING JOB WELL DONE. Congratulations on your beautiful new edition to the family
Proud of you for doing your hair. It takes a lot of energy and I can’t imagine having 2 young children and a house and business to deal with 😭🙏🏼❤️
Love you girl. We all get down and depressed. I have been there. I had terrible ppd with my daughter. She was the same. Crying when I was not holding her. You are doing the best with your current life. Dont ever think you have to do more to make people happy. There were weeks i couldn not properly care for me after I had her.
Congratulations 🎊 on the new baby. Praying for your strength I've been there, keep praying and sneak in thoes naps.
I remember my first few weeks with my newborn I neglected my hair and would go weeks without combing it and having natural hair it already tangles so much so you're def not alone !
Congrats Amber!!
I was looking for you to put some poppin curls in there but your conclusion was perfect anyway. I applaud you Queen ! Keep doing a great job
You’re an amazing mama. This was so sweet to watch you take care of yourself and your baby at the same time. Get it girl!
You did what you needed to do and THAT is what makes you a phenomenal mother ❤
Het komt allemaal goed❤ ik heb ook een baby en een ruim 3 jarig peuter.
Je moet het lekker over je heen laten komen! Het is totaal niet erg om je zo te voelen! Je hebt een top prestatie geven en nu ben je alles aan het verwerken en je body ook!
Respect dat je toch een video maakt voor ons 🥰
Aww...been there! Hang in there new mom. You're doing great! Keep taking your vitamins so you don't experience postpartum shedding. I was practically balding in the front! Ended up cutting my hair.
Thank you for sharing your story. Pnd is real and hearing your story will help other mums who are feeling alone, not feel alone. Your baby is gorgeous. Enjoy those new born snuggles
Your words at the end were just amazing. Thank you so much. ♥️
Thank you for being so honest and transparent we us!
I've been watching you for years.. and I felt the pain through the screen.. I want to hug you to badly.. you're an amazing mother! Thank you for giving us you.. we love you girl!
i think that your resilience is incredible
Oh my god honey those knots ( locks) congratulations on your second baby she’s beautiful 😍
hope all is well and glad you feel better after all the detangling bet that was a big challenge
Love your transparency. Describing what you as a mommy go through. It isn't easy. However you look beautiful❤️ great video from a mom to another mom, keep up the great work 🤗
You go girl! I love how real this video is! ❤ Stay true 🎉 Congratulations! 🎊
Your vid really brought me back to after I had my son 3 years ago. I had struggled really hard with PPD and had to go on medication, but I wouldn’t have changed a thing. Some days are better than others x
You are beautiful and stylish. It's very inspirational to see mom's that truly love the baby and also try to take care of themselves
Go great mommy! Your baby sees you and the world thanks you for the amazing job you are doing!!! Thankyou!!
Congratulations on your new bundle of joy 😊. Mother hood and the ups/downs it brings. It's actually very common for some of us to miss out on self care because we are so wrapped up with healing and caring for our new baby. Be kind to your self ✨️ Even tho labor and delivery is over a new journey has begun, the postpartum one. You are worthy & Deserving.
Your hair is absolutely gorgeous. It’s natural. You’ll be good. Congratulations on your babies.
🎉 that looked so hopeless. Great job bringing it back! Great life lessons in this video. Thanks for sharing! ❤
I feel your pain. When you said a 3yr old and newborn, 2nd cesarean I almost cried. My exact situation when I had my children. It's painful and depressing. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. You are doing great.
Sending hugs from the USA. You did it. I would recommend getting your hair deep conditioned and braided so you have some time to get used to being a mom of 2 and heal.
I was not prepared for newborn life. You are doing a great job!
Sis, you’re doing an AMAZING Job! Don’t let the enemy talk you into thinking you’re doing it wrong! It’s the other way around!
Your hair is my goals!💯💯
Awww congratulations on the new baby. Sorry to hear that you're going through a hard time. Praying the blues go away soon and you're able to able to enjoy your new life. God bless 🙏🏾❤️
I feel you! Had the c section cut a few years back and it takes awhile to recover. Take your time sis! Sending you ❤