I always remember my Papa pointing out a woman in a brand new $100,000 AMD and her red soled LV shoes, fancy business suit. We were at a coffee shop sharing a cappuccino. He asked me what I saw, I said "She's rich!!" And he said "No, she has A LOT of bills!" That always stuck with me.
She may be rich for all anyone knows I know some people that pay for cars like that in check and wear plenty of jewelry and yes some are happy and some people are not
Papa is a very smart man. Appearance is everything but you never know what their life is really like. Also Graham feels he has to keep up with his Friends because he's scared he won't have any. My Cousin does that, spending like it's an addiction. 😢.
Graham is lovely. I can see how his issues arised because of his mums partner treating him badly and the mum not protecting him from this. The scene in the london restaurant is lovely where his mum says she is proud of him. You can see how much this meant to him. I do hope he went on to have a happy life as I sense he had so much to give in terms of career. Hopefully he found some sincere friends too.
I loved this episode!!! It's amazing how all these different traumas can lead to bad adulting decisions! I've learned a lot about myself through watching these! Thank to all those that made themselves vulnerable going through this process so we can all learn and grow!
I've watch about 4 episode of this show and to be quite frankly this episode and this man is kind of fresh air to watch. He didn't complain he actually trying and not blowing the budget money that he was assign. He's pretty mature about the situation and it is refreshing to watch. Also, he's taking the responsibility to actually pay for his rent. He take extra hours instead of partying and using credit cards so that's quite good.
i love this show but since these are circa 2002, they are so ridiculously outdated I’d love to see new ones. I cringe when I see what we used to pay for cell phones
Andrea Bay very few people actually buy them outright, these days you usually just pay 50 quid a month with unlimited everything, Back in the day the handset was cheaper but you could easily spend hundreds on calls if you weren’t careful
Poor boy, you can see the pain in his face. He's very brave and so self aware. I'm sure he'll fix his low self esteem and go on to do great things and live at peace with himself.
Works 15 hours a week, emotionally blackmails his mother for money and laughs about it, tells his flatmates to move out for being behind on rent when he pays nothing. So self aware.
I am glad I didn't comment until the end of he episode. My first impression of him was just pure disgust, but by the end I find him charming, smart, and quite humble.
@@meaganglaser Clearly Mum chose a man over her children. Happens all the time, sadly. This episode still bothers me, even watching it now. I'll never understand how a parent can choose another person - particularly someone who HATES their kids - over said children. It's sick.
Because the children play on the guilt factor and so they can't say no but unfortunately it just doesn't benefit anyone in the long run. It has to be drilled into people that you have to work for what you want and to live within your means.
Absolutely Ridiculous I agree. But if I was his mum I would see sense and wouldn't put up with a partner who disrespected and had a problem with any of my children. It seems with the money given to Graham it was only treating the symptoms not the root cause. Love your name by the way 😅
She deserves to be taken for granted because all the time he was growing up she took him for granted assuming that he would be OK with her placing a man as being more important than her own son. She gets what’s coming to her in the end called karma.
My parents are very well to do. They worked hard their whole lives and lived below their means and invested carefully. They eventually built up a sizeable investment and real estate portfolio. They made it perfectly clear that it was their money and they weren't our personal ATM machines. They paid for our college tuition but we had to work part time to pay our expenses. IF we graduated they bought us a modest new car and gave us a one time cash gift to help us establish ourselves. If we blew the money on a Las Vegas vacation , oh well, no more was coming from the parents.
My dad used to say “this isn’t our house. It is my house. I paid for it. You are a tenant until you can pay your own rent or a mortgage. I look forward to the dinner invites.” My brother lived there until he was 29.... lol.
college tuition paid, *a car*, cash to start your life... that's freaking enormous. i freaking wish that was my life. my parents refused to even give m lunch money or an allowance, so i started working part-time as a lifeguard at 13 and haven't stopped working since. could tell they couldn't wait for university to come around, until then i made sure to use their food and shelter and felt blessed for it, because i figured many others don't even have that and/or don't survive. my parents would tell me to make myself a lunch from whatever was in the fridge and to take the freaking bus. maybe what you experienced was common in your circle, but trust and believe, a very lucky few get the kind of start in life you did. what a blessing.
Something that interests me is that the only mention of his (presumed) sexual orientation was between mum and Benjamin. He didn't seem to have a boyfriend, or to be spending time in specifically 'gay' clubs or venues. I wonder whether he was having issues accepting himself in terms of his sexual orientation? Things were quite different in the early 2000s. Could have been worth exploring that rather than just focusing on mummy issues.
Things weren’t different in the early 2000s. I’m not gay myself but had gay friends and even had a gay flat mate thing a were completely normal and they never had any problems hooking up and living their lives like anybody else. I think people think we live in enlightened times when actually I feel as though people are way more narrow minded now rather than back then.
I'd rather be with very few friends but those that I have lift, inspire, motivate, challenge and love me. Not my wallet. Also, thank God I don't drink alcohol. What a waste of health and money.
Graham’s mother really pisses me off. Back when he was younger and even right now it’s clear that men have and still are far more important than her own blood child. That is disgusting. 😡
In every one of these shows that has the person spending money on expensive clothes that person looks awful; you can't see where the money has been spent.
yeah it is just weird that he is expecting people to change at the same pace as he is, did he even talk to her in advance about the new chances and lisa needing to pay rent on time?
There's medication that helps with compulsive shopping. Some of these addicts need to be medicated. I'm a former compulsive shopper. I've been in recovery for a few decades now.
He is cute but needs to be more appreciative of his mom. He seems to feel he is owed ...and yeah his ' friends' are not considerate of him either. It feels kinda sad to me.
bigearedmouse17 it's just pure stupidity to pay for your adults child's lifestyle. It's quite cruel really because they are then lacking the skills to self provide and be financially savvy.
I once read a comment on youtube it said, "a man who chases women will always run of money, but a man who chases money will never run out of women," this gentleman is buying his freinds affection,
This was in the 2000s no unlimited data or mins or texts it was 400 mins 400 texts and 400mb data or something and no spend caps so obviously went over on the bill lol
33:31 'Accepted'' Woa mother of the year here so she detest her son for not being straight and she is aware of it that is why she pays for everything because she sees it as a punishment and as a way to live with herself in a ' I pay for his stuff so I am a good mother' kinda of way. Her son knows that his mother cannot accept him and uses it as a mean to punish her, she does not love me so she can pay for my stuff at least.
Ben Fry always needs to try to find some angle about the guest being screwed up from either their parents doing a bad job or being bullied. In this episode, Ben tells Graham's mom that the reason why Graham is messed up is because the mom isolated him when she learned he was gay.
I think he’s a nice guy - his mother doing a very bad job of raising an independent son, I’d like to know it was ok in the end for him. Going by the fashion this show is about 15 years old.
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I always remember my Papa pointing out a woman in a brand new $100,000 AMD and her red soled LV shoes, fancy business suit. We were at a coffee shop sharing a cappuccino. He asked me what I saw, I said "She's rich!!" And he said "No, she has A LOT of bills!" That always stuck with me.
She may be rich for all anyone knows I know some people that pay for cars like that in check and wear plenty of jewelry and yes some are happy and some people are not
Your dad was just being a hater...
@@nora4981 a bit like you, then, turkey - gobble, gobble it up believe the BS.
Papa is a very smart man. Appearance is everything but you never know what their life is really like. Also Graham feels he has to keep up with his Friends because he's scared he won't have any. My Cousin does that, spending like it's an addiction. 😢.
He’s so scared of being alone, he’s buying people’s affection. Like his mum buys his affection.
Yeah it is really sad. Good friends do not care about taking all your money. Spending on them is a treat. ✌️
great analysis jeremey kyle
Graham is lovely. I can see how his issues arised because of his mums partner treating him badly and the mum not protecting him from this. The scene in the london restaurant is lovely where his mum says she is proud of him. You can see how much this meant to him. I do hope he went on to have a happy life as I sense he had so much to give in terms of career. Hopefully he found some sincere friends too.
Graham was not accepted :( . And yes, the way she says ' the person who used to live here ' tells me this guy was not a good person.
I loved this episode!!! It's amazing how all these different traumas can lead to bad adulting decisions! I've learned a lot about myself through watching these! Thank to all those that made themselves vulnerable going through this process so we can all learn and grow!
I just wish I had watched these when they were first on, but better late than never!
Agree!!!
I've watch about 4 episode of this show and to be quite frankly this episode and this man is kind of fresh air to watch. He didn't complain he actually trying and not blowing the budget money that he was assign. He's pretty mature about the situation and it is refreshing to watch. Also, he's taking the responsibility to actually pay for his rent. He take extra hours instead of partying and using credit cards so that's quite good.
I wonder what he's like now after 15 yrs since this has aired. Thanks for sharing this.
i love this show but since these are circa 2002, they are so ridiculously outdated I’d love to see new ones. I cringe when I see what we used to pay for cell phones
man...those early 2000 hair cuts and clothes were rough lol, and yeah the amount spent on phone calls pre internet was criminal
@@kiely4561 I miss those hairstyles Lol
And rent!
@@kiely4561 uhhh nokia 3310 ... 140 quid.... iphone 11 ... 1100?
Andrea Bay very few people actually buy them outright, these days you usually just pay 50 quid a month with unlimited everything, Back in the day the handset was cheaper but you could easily spend hundreds on calls if you weren’t careful
Poor boy, you can see the pain in his face. He's very brave and so self aware. I'm sure he'll fix his low self esteem and go on to do great things and live at peace with himself.
Excuses for being a parasite
Works 15 hours a week, emotionally blackmails his mother for money and laughs about it, tells his flatmates to move out for being behind on rent when he pays nothing.
So self aware.
I really thought he was going to be intolerable when this first started but honestly I'm really impressed at halfway through the episode
the length of this video is sooooo satisfying
Graham did a great job. No whining, just full steam ahead. This is the best episode.
I so wanted to dismiss Graham as an idiot but in fact he made me smile and was a total sweetheart
I am glad I didn't comment until the end of he episode. My first impression of him was just pure disgust, but by the end I find him charming, smart, and quite humble.
Yeah same! I have to admit he has a good sense of style too especially considering this was the 2000s lol.
I love how she inspired him to design a shirt! so good, these two actually help the person instead of humiliating them.
I thought I've seen all the episodes, but this one was new to me. And I must say it's the best episode I've seen so far.
I really like this episode. It goes to show that a little guidance goes a long way, as long as you're open to accept the guidance.
The mother is an enabler.
He seems so nice I can't believe he treated his mum so poorly.
Sadly, she is an enabler. She does not demand respect. Until she changes, he will not change.
I can't beleive his mom married a man who HATED her son, who both of her sons hated back
@@meaganglaser Clearly Mum chose a man over her children. Happens all the time, sadly. This episode still bothers me, even watching it now. I'll never understand how a parent can choose another person - particularly someone who HATES their kids - over said children. It's sick.
He turned it around nicely. Good outcome for him an his mum 👍
Why do these people's parents subsidize their lifestyles over and over?
GUILT
did you even watch the whole thing? it explains why kek
Because the children play on the guilt factor and so they can't say no but unfortunately it just doesn't benefit anyone in the long run. It has to be drilled into people that you have to work for what you want and to live within your means.
Guilt.
Graham is a very likable young man. I hope he continues to do well.
He looks adorable in his suit and tie, awe! He's a very capable, intelligent person.
Absolutely Ridiculous I agree. But if I was his mum I would see sense and wouldn't put up with a partner who disrespected and had a problem with any of my children. It seems with the money given to Graham it was only treating the symptoms not the root cause. Love your name by the way 😅
He is taking his Mum for granted. I do hope she comes to her senses.
Vicki Stevenson she’s been buying his affection since he was 13 because she chose a toxic partner over her children...
She deserves to be taken for granted because all the time he was growing up she took him for granted assuming that he would be OK with her placing a man as being more important than her own son. She gets what’s coming to her in the end called karma.
It's pretty crazy that he was yelling at the roomate to "MOVE OUT!" for being late on rent when he hasn't paid rent in months.
My parents are very well to do.
They worked hard their whole lives and lived below their means and invested carefully.
They eventually built up a sizeable investment and real estate portfolio.
They made it perfectly clear that it was their money and they weren't our personal ATM machines.
They paid for our college tuition but we had to work part time to pay our expenses.
IF we graduated they bought us a modest new car and gave us a one time cash gift to help us establish ourselves.
If we blew the money on a Las Vegas vacation , oh well, no more was coming from the parents.
My dad used to say “this isn’t our house. It is my house. I paid for it.
You are a tenant until you can pay your own rent or a mortgage. I look forward to the dinner invites.” My brother lived there until he was 29.... lol.
It must be great to have supportive parents like that. Lucky you!
college tuition paid, *a car*, cash to start your life... that's freaking enormous. i freaking wish that was my life. my parents refused to even give m lunch money or an allowance, so i started working part-time as a lifeguard at 13 and haven't stopped working since. could tell they couldn't wait for university to come around, until then i made sure to use their food and shelter and felt blessed for it, because i figured many others don't even have that and/or don't survive. my parents would tell me to make myself a lunch from whatever was in the fridge and to take the freaking bus. maybe what you experienced was common in your circle, but trust and believe, a very lucky few get the kind of start in life you did. what a blessing.
I’m glad his mother came to accept him, I hope they were able to forgive each other ❤ The intro really paints him as a brat but he’s a sweetie.
A mother who put her relationship before her kids and then makes up for it by buying her way out of guilt. They are BOTH to blame.
Why’re there no comments about Benjamin’s monumental collar
When everyone pretends that a person's real problem is perfectly normal ...
15 hours a WEEK? Try working full time. That's what adults do. Can it be that he doesn't love shopping, he loves being fawned over by shop staff?
It’s to hide his loneliness.
They should of added into the budget paying back the debit
Something that interests me is that the only mention of his (presumed) sexual orientation was between mum and Benjamin. He didn't seem to have a boyfriend, or to be spending time in specifically 'gay' clubs or venues. I wonder whether he was having issues accepting himself in terms of his sexual orientation? Things were quite different in the early 2000s. Could have been worth exploring that rather than just focusing on mummy issues.
The intro had a go go bou in it with Graham at a club.
Things weren’t different in the early 2000s. I’m not gay myself but had gay friends and even had a gay flat mate thing a were completely normal and they never had any problems hooking up and living their lives like anybody else. I think people think we live in enlightened times when actually I feel as though people are way more narrow minded now rather than back then.
Imagine paying that much for a phone bill nowadays
What a nice person. So happy he done it.
Phone contracts used to cost an absolute bomb. I know Orange took the pee and 3 as well.
Good on him for trying
I believe he can do it
I can’t get over the fact how badly he stored those designer clothes, he was a brat hopefully he’s grown up now
At least he tries at the end which is great.
He is really attractive. He could have a television talk show. Very personable.
10 mins from town and he won’t walk are get the bus 🚌 like his mother said. Spoiled much!! I’m guessing he doesn’t know what Primark is!
Sheila’s Beauty/ Hair/ Nails/ Fashion
Could never understand not walking 🚶♂️ for 10 min
I'd rather be with very few friends but those that I have lift, inspire, motivate, challenge and love me. Not my wallet.
Also, thank God I don't drink alcohol. What a waste of health and money.
Better treat the mother first. 😂😂😂
I didn’t get any. Money from my parents since I was 16
Coz they don't have any?
That's how it should work, cuz at 16 you can start earning your own money.
@@chilli-iceolive-abode2447 Only if you can do manual work.
@@pauljordan4452 not necessarily true. I was selling ebooks on eBay plus other stuff at 15.
My parents help with big bills like medical bills but mostly I’ve been on my own since 17, now 21.
He looks a bit like Noel Fielding
Those mates aren’t mates they are free loaders
Well done Graham. I love your designer shirt you made ! Lots of pride there as well.
Graham’s mother really pisses me off. Back when he was younger and even right now it’s clear that men have and still are far more important than her own blood child. That is disgusting. 😡
I don’t care about the designer those clothes look like thrift store rejects
Early 2000's style lol
In every one of these shows that has the person spending money on expensive clothes that person looks awful; you can't see where the money has been spent.
It was fashionable to look cheap and trashy in the early 2000's
What a soppy git.. his mother obviously no clue either. Prime example of kids having kids.
Push him out of the nest, Mama and you will be surprised what he may achieve!
His mother didn’t realise she’d given him 3k in a week? Really?
Graham is very likeable and I wish him all the success👍👍. PS maybe one day I'll be buying one of his designs 😍
Well done Graham. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Cooperative chap.
Netto, Deisel! How old is this programme! 😂😂😂
2023
2004
Helenaville sounds about right. We seem to be having that recession again.
She took advantage of the rent because he did. He's speaking up now and she's making up stuff and is annoyed lol 😂
yeah it is just weird that he is expecting people to change at the same pace as he is, did he even talk to her in advance about the new chances and lisa needing to pay rent on time?
he looks like a budget brad mondo but a really sweet guy
good episode. his wide legs jeans told me this was circa year 2000
There's medication that helps with compulsive shopping. Some of these addicts need to be medicated. I'm a former compulsive shopper. I've been in recovery for a few decades now.
This is the first episode where I believe this all the mothers fault. Wish they did a followup on these.
Ungrateful roommate
He came across as lonely...and very likeable
1.28 wow he really does live off his mother so sad.
Disgusting, how can you treat your mother like that...
What about the way she treated him? All the money she gave him was guilt money, she virtually neglected him as a teenager.
He is cute but needs to be more appreciative of his mom. He seems to feel he is owed ...and yeah his ' friends' are not considerate of him either. It feels kinda sad to me.
OH MY GOD i remember that netto in longsight! its long gone now
Well done on the Ninja Tune music👍
This series always has Ninja Tune tracks because that was the vibe at the times (mid 2000s)
@@emmaphilo4049 True!
Get rid of the hanger on 'friends'
Mummys boy, Mummys fault !
bigearedmouse17 it's just pure stupidity to pay for your adults child's lifestyle. It's quite cruel really because they are then lacking the skills to self provide and be financially savvy.
I don’t get why the comments are so sympathetic to this guy. He was a total freeloader.
The pair of them are as bad as each other. She enables him and he is just a brat. It’s ok being kind when it’s someone else’s money.
I once read a comment on youtube it said, "a man who chases women will always run of money, but a man who chases money will never run out of women," this gentleman is buying his freinds affection,
This is the best episode.
I never understand why people pay designer prices for tat. His outfit from tk maxx looks the same as his designer stuff….
He should do marketing for Vivienne Westwood . He has the passion and will get a discount
42:30 this editing is hilarious 😂
That poor woman.
He’s manipulating her so much.
Hope he’s still not doing it now.
When Benjamin fry asks if Vivienne Westwood is the most expensive haha, no mr fry it’s NOT 🤣
It's expensive enough!
Those shoes with the built-up soles!!! wtf? He's as camp as a row of tents,so his boyfriends benefit as well.
I believe in GRAHAM!!! I want that shirt he designed 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯💯💯
He seems to be a lovely guy. Genuine I guess. I hope he is doing fine now.
The male spendaholics are always the most entertaining. but why would is he concerned about a 31 inch waist?
He doesn’t want to be a fatty. Nothing wrong with that
His mum sounds just like Hilary Devey from Dragons' Den! (I know they're from the same area but uncanny resemblance in her voice!)
*Everyone in the comments section:* Is a fully qualified psychologist.
Unlike Benjamin.
The mom looks like Mrs bouquet 😁
Bucket...
What’s up with these phone bills😂 I pay £25 for everything unlimited😂
This was in the 2000s no unlimited data or mins or texts it was 400 mins 400 texts and 400mb data or something and no spend caps so obviously went over on the bill lol
33:31 'Accepted'' Woa mother of the year here so she detest her son for not being straight and she is aware of it that is why she pays for everything because she sees it as a punishment and as a way to live with herself in a ' I pay for his stuff so I am a good mother' kinda of way. Her son knows that his mother cannot accept him and uses it as a mean to punish her, she does not love me so she can pay for my stuff at least.
Ben Fry always needs to try to find some angle about the guest being screwed up from either their parents doing a bad job or being bullied. In this episode, Ben tells Graham's mom that the reason why Graham is messed up is because the mom isolated him when she learned he was gay.
He did bloody great xx
Man, I feel sorry for the mum.
Graham has a terrible attitude.👩🏻💼💜
I think he’s a nice guy - his mother doing a very bad job of raising an independent son, I’d like to know it was ok in the end for him. Going by the fashion this show is about 15 years old.
Now l see where Keith Urban got his hair from.
Who spends £173 on rent... when was this filmed, 1992?
He shares a flat with other people so rents about 500 pound
There's 4 people so £173 X 4 = £692
his mother only had to say no...its her own fault.
The mother looks like Patricia Routledge.
Poor mother .She has raised a shallow son..So sad .
I feel sorry about his childhood .
I’m 42 never had a credit card. I got by I don’t need what I can’t afford.
This guy havent grown up to be an adult yet.He is just a spoiled boy.How did he pay his bills?
You really have to ask? Mummy, of course.