I lost my 17yr old daughter 2 months ago. Her boyfriend tortured and killed her. Not only trying to grieve but dealing with court, detectives, prosecutors, media. I feel so alone. You described it perfectly, in a room full of people who have moved on and you're silently dying on the inside. Thank you for this
My beautiful 26 year old daughter, full of life and so caring, died 10 months ago. I have lost who I was, my best friends, God, my spiritual path and all hope that life has some kind of meaning. Life has become an endurance test on a daily basis.
This loss really does change everything and shatter all of our beliefs. Yet, I am proof that it is possible to find a way forward. There is no timeline!! I was a good 2.5 years before I even really cared about trying to figure out how. Hugs.
My heart goes out to you, Carmel Larkin. I lost my beautiful daughter almost a year ago. She was 39. I've gone through denial, a sense of unreality, numbness, suicidal intentions, escapism, and crushing pain. I still have moments of joy, but those moments are hard to remember when I am deep in despair. I dream that she is alive, then wake up to her absence. It is indescribable. Sometimes, I imagine she is beside me, and I talk to her. Sometimes, I hear her voice. Peace be with you. I want to say, I don't think God has abandoned us, though it feels like it, sometimes.
I am so so sad to hear about your loss. My 29 year old beautiful caring thoughtful funny daughter died 3 weeks ago and I feel your pain. I am very lucky that I can hear her and she talks to me every day. We love each other so so deeply that our connection is still strong. Without this connection I have no idea how I could cope. I want to send you love, hugs and peace. Take care ❤️💕❤️
I lost my Beautiful 24 yr old daughter unexpectedly on Christmas eve 3 weeks ago. With her gone I feel half my life and soul have left. I'm completely broken and don't know how to begin putting my self together, I have to be strong for my 10yr son and my 6yr old grandson my daughters son💔 I just ask God to help me be strong for them 😢 but it hurts so bad even to breath. I don't want to talk to anyone other than my immediate family about it. Don't know why but that's just how I feel now.
Carmel, I am so sorry for your loss. Our son died three months ago. My wife and I felt as though we had fallen into a deep well with no way out. Would we survive? We spoke with a mother who lost her son to suicide 7 years ago. Pam had walked the path we were just beginning. “Joy does return,” she told us. We discovered a ladder out of the deep well. The climb is slow but we see daylight.
"THANK YOU" We lost our Precious 28yr old son to a tragic car accident as he walked across an intersection December 18th, 2022. He was diagnosed with Schizophrenia, and was in the middle of a mental crisis. We are shattered beyond repair, and I am completely numb. No support group for for those of us who have lost our children, but I have found a Grief support group with a nearby Church. My church completely abandoned us. No visits to pray with us, no food, absolutely nothing. How cruel. I know JESUS Loves us, but this pain is literally killing me. It feels like our family thinks we have leprosy, and even if we did, WE DESERVE COMPASSION.
I lost my 18yr old son in December 2018, and lost my 11yr old daughter in May 2022. Beautiful lovely children, my friends. My life been turned upside down. Every day is painful! So much pain, memories!Thank you for this video.
I am sincerely sorry for your double loss. I have no words to say as I’m struggling with one loss, I can only send you my prayers and wish I could give you a hug! 💔💔🫂🫂🙏🏼🙏🏼
My son also died about six months ago and he was 34 as well. He died from a sudden cardiac event in his sleep. The loss is devastating as you know. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I don't know how you feel but I know what it's like to lose a young adult son.
I lost my daughter 8 months ago to fentanyl. I still feel like it was yesterday. And I don’t want that feeling to go away. Because it feels like I would be forgetting her. I feel sad, mad, depressed and anxious all in the moment sometimes. Sometimes I feel a heavy weight all through my body when I really think about her. I know it’s something I will have to live with for the rest of my life but right now it’s just hard. But my wife has been a huge help along with friends and family. These videos help. Thank you for making them.
What I miss after my oldest daughter passed from a battle with cancer are all the moments in the lives of her girls lives she will miss. Not having her there for weddings. children being born and many moments she will not be there for. The sadness sneaks up so unexpectedly. Oh how I just miss her in my life
I lost my only son to a freak drowning 3 months ago. My life had been flipped on its head. I lost the home we lived in. I’ve lost my sense of security and belonging in this world. I lost my best friend and beautiful son. I have severe PTSD as I dragged him out and tried to save his life to no avail.
We llost our autistic son to suicide 5 months ago. He lived for 22years, 1 month and 19 days. The pain is excruciating. I miss him with every fiber of my being. I’m so grateful to our Heavenly Father for being my strength when I have none. His grace covers me every single day. Thank you for sharing this.
I lost my 22 year old son in 2017 to suicide. He had anxiety and depression. I just lean on Jesus everyday to help me cope. I know your pain. We must just lean on the lord everyday
I lost my beautiful Daughter a year ago on sept 4th. She killed herself in a horrific car accident where she smashed herself into a pole because she was drinking and arguing with her husband. My life will never be the same. She was my best friend. I don't know how to live without her. It hurts more than anything i have ever experienced. Thank you for the video.
Everything you said is very true. My only child, my Son who had just turned 21yrs old passed away Feb. 22, 2016. Sean was my whole life, my identity. I feel so broken and I don't feel any joy anymore or interest in anything. Someone told me to find a hobby, but I really can't think of anything. I know that a big part of it is that if Sean can't do it then I don't want to. My Mom and dad have alsopassed away. I seem to bounce all over the place emotionally. I went to a group meeting for parents who have lost their child or sometimes children. I have decided to go back. I know that I need support from others who truly understand and maybe I can help someone in some way....from one parent to others, I hope that you find your way❤
I lost my only child at 23 to a heart attack. She was my best friend! I had to give up many friends because of their hurtful comments! I had to present a happy persona around them! I couldn’t mention my daughters name without them either changing the topic or starting a conversation with someone else! I felt so alone I would leave and be down for days! I did not go on and on about my daughter I would say something like oh purple was Richelle’s favourite colour or Richelle would love that! But the near mention of her name seemed to make them uncomfortable! So I stopped communicating with them! I ended up getting sick before any family gathering so I decided not to put myself through that! I have one girlfriend but she lives 3.5 hours away! She’s a teacher so we do not communicate during the week so it sometimes can be a month before we talk again! Because I do not have friends I realize I have completely isolated myself! My company is the TV! For the past year I’ve been living in my bedroom watching TV from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed! I do not want to be around people! I don’t want to have to always hide my pain! I won’t allow myself to cry around anyone because I know that would make them feel uncomfortable so the best for all is I stick to my tv friends and family!
I am sorry for your loss, I wish I could be your friend, I would allow you to talk about your girl for as long as you wanted… sending you the biggest hug ever ❤
Sorry to hear this 😢 this is exactly how I feel around friends and family too. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my only daughter a month ago, she is all I have. I feel soo empty, shattered and totally broken. Sending you hugs from Ghana
My first born child age 26, a son was killed by a truck driver 2 months ago today. My son was on his way to work on his motorcycle that he loved so much. This is the most horrific thing I have ever faced, and I have gone through some severe tragedies. It feels like something carved my soul out and there is nothing but a black hole. I have lost vision, my path, I am in a state of utter shock and despair and feel like there is no light at the end of this dark hole.
@@jillianmaguire1372 Oh, I am so so sorry! I know there are really no words to take away your pain. I know also you are a beautiful mother, like me who dearly loved your first born child, your first born son. My heart goes out to you! I want to thank you as well because I know it takes every ounce of energy just to get through the day. I want to send you a hug, filled with love, care, and hope.
I feel your pain 😢.. to the core . 8 months ago an illegal drunk driver killed my 26 old sweetest handsome son in a hit and run incident .. left my son on the side of the road like a roadkill and fled 😢
My wife and I have had 3 beautiful boys. One in 87, one in 89 and our youngest in 95. We have had to bury all 3. Our youngest gave us a grandson that looks exactly like him. That grandson of mine is the only reason I'm here. Everyday is worse than the last. I'm scared as hell because I think I've lost the will to live and have been having really dark thoughts But that would mean I would ruin any chance at all of seeing them when I die. . I care a lot less about everything now. I was me, but now he's gone.
I understand, and those thoughts and feelings are so very normal. Sending some extra love your way. If/when you're interested, I have lots of things you may find helpful as you navigate this life after so much loss... it's all child loss specific. For example, I have a weekly email list and a program called Living With Grief. Www.afterchildloss.com
I lost my youngest son of 21years. I feel alone. Everybody expects me to be ok. My extended family has no idea as to what my loss has done to me. Im existing not living.
I lost my 8 year old little boy 10 months ago. A day after I read his eulogy I had to take my mother off life support. My wife and myself did not have a strong enough marriage to withstand this loss. My baby is gone, my marriage is gone, my business, our dream home. It's all just Ash now. I don't know where to even start and I feel so so alone.
That is a lot of loss! I'm so sorry you're a member of "this club"... there is so much trauma in child loss and yours is more compounded given all of the additional losses youve had so close together. It really does change everything, and it's incredibly isolating and difficult to find a way forward. Sending lots of love your way. If/when you're ready, I have lots of additional resources on my website. Hugs! Www.afterchildloss.com
Thank you for sharing. I lost my adult son in 2020. I’m so sorry for your loss. You explained everything that anyone who has lost a child goes through. Thank you for this again. God bless you. ❤
My 43 yr old daughter, my first born, was diagnosed with ALS in June 2023. I believe my grieving started not long after that, as she went downhill very fast. Her husband is her primary caregiver, I thank God she has him, but he does not deal well with other people, and its been so hard to know I can only see her once a month, but I also understand he feels he is looking after her best interests. I am going to see her for an overnight stay tomorrow, Jan 6, 2024, to say my goodbye to her. Im not sure how I will move on after she is gone, she is my daughter, but also my best friend. How does one carry on? I was told not to long after her diagnoses that I have been blessed to have her for 43 yrs, and I agree, as so many parents lose their child at an early age, but its still not making the loss I will have much easier to bare. Ive noticed already that people who talked with me very often, have pulled away. I apologize to them for making them feel uncomfortable, and they are all very sympathetic, but dont know what to say, as there really is nothing to say. I know everyone is feeling bad and very sorry this is happening, but I do believe it makes them face the reality that it could happen to them, which I never thought of until this video. Thank you so much for helping me realize why they may be avoiding talking with me, make it more bareable for me.
Thats exactly what they are doing. I'm so sorry to hear you are facing such a massive loss. It really is unimaginable. And you will know at a deep level (likely already do) that you can be both blessed to have her for 43 years and devastated by her death. The gratitude never replaces or minimizes the grief. They coexist. I'm sending you so much love as you navigate these next days, weeks, months, years. None of us knew how to navigate this... but you will find your way in time. If I can help in any way, even just to help you validate all that you will feel and experience... you can reach out anytime. My website is Www.afterchildloss.com
I lost all of those things you said, but what hit me the hardest after the loss of my firstborn and only son, was that lost my faith. My 100% rock solid, unshakable faith.
My heart breaks for all of you. My 25 your old son passed away in August 2022. I know he is with God now, but my heart is still broken. My son was my world. I pray every day for all the bereaved parents.
I felt this was somewhat comforting. I am approaching the one-year loss of my 13-year-old daughter who passed on 10/28/21. I do encounter people who are uncomfortable and don't know what to say or do. But I'm to the point that I am tired of helping others deal with their inability to process my daughter's death. As you said the daily grief and sadness, we feel comes in so many ways, it's debilitating at times. We have lost a huge part of our life, they didn't.
I so understand that. I reached a place where I realized I could no longer help others with their grief or discomfort over my son's death... I only had the space to carry my own stuff. Hugs!!
I’m beginning to resent trying to teach people what to say to me…if they even express interest in learning. Sick of religious lectures and insensitivity. The worst has been my narcissistic MIL.
I’m so sorry for everyone here. I know what you all mean,I have been trying to teach family and friends how support me and my family in grief,sending videos on child loss,articles but to no avail! It’s not them going through this nightmare,I’m broken and it’s not my job to do all the work so they can understand what I and my husband are going through.And I’m tired of pretending to be “normal “ to make others more comfortable to be around. Look after yourselves dear bereaved parents! Hugs and empathy to everyone that didn’t choose to be going through this unimaginable pain. 💔💔🫂🫂
I lost my 21-year-old daughter to cancer May 2022. My world and my life ended that Saturday morning. Since then, I have left the faith I grew up in, lost my family because of that, and my marriage has ended - I also lost my dog in the divorce and my only other child lives with her mom. Outside of my job and my health, I lost everything. I'd say ripple effect is an understatement.
I have lost my son Nathaniel , 30 years about two months back, due to a road accident .The loss is terrible and the pain is unbearable. You have expressed what pain is all about , thanks and God Bless. I feel for the others who are enduring a loss of a loved one in their lives/
So sorry for your loss of your dear son. I lost my beautiful 20 yr old 7 months ago suddenly. Ripple effects are more like huge waves. Pretty much lost the life I knew before 😞💔 as you rightly said I just want to disappear but can’t as I have a young daughter 😞💔
So true people are not sensitive ! Many people say you so strong. I don’t know how you feel because I haven’t loss a child and pray I don’t. I like no SHIT!! I never wanted to lose my child either.
Thank you for sharing your grief, it takes a lot of strength to be able to create an environment of support from such a heartwrenching loss. I lost my preemie baby (born at 25 weeks) a month after his birth. He fought bravely through his stay at the NICU - the doctors and nursing staff told us everyday what a fighter he was. But fate had other plans on the 7th of August 2023 when he lost the fight to sepsis. Now throughout the day I am often reminded of the times that I had spent with him and the hopes that I had built around him. I often feel like a fool for having done that.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my youngest daughter on July 21, 2023. Looking at your videos helps. We are devastated and really are just floating through at this point. Trying our best to get a new normal. It seems impossible because the pain is so deep. Pray for us.
I'm glad the videos help. I remember those early months (even years)... it's so dang hard! Sending lots of love your way. When you're ready, I have lots of resources on my website you may find helpful). Www.afterchildloss.com
Explained so well. I lost my adult son 3 years ago. Ppl Abandoned me. Like loss of a child is contagious. So I learned to hide my pain. In doing that I’m feeling loss of who my child was. I don’t like that. And ppl say I can’t imagine. Yes they can they don’t want to so they avoid you. I basically call myself a dog mom to ppl so they don’t feel awkward anymore. It’s for sure the worse pain ever and no medicine for it. Time doesn’t make it better. The weight gets lighter because you learned to carry it. Hugs to all who know this feeling. I’m so sad for your pain. My sister said. You need help I don’t understand. I said I hope you never do. Hugs
I’m so sorry! My husband and I have experienced the same thing. Only another bereaved parent can understand the pain you are going through! It’s like we don’t belong on this earth. Hugs to you! 💔💔🫂🫂
I am sorry for your loss. I also lost my adult son in 2021. Your comments are exactly the same feelings I am working through. People and some family members don’t always know what to say. And, I need to talk about my son. There will never be a day when I don’t carry this loss. It is part of me now. Others are afraid that talking about my son will upset me. This was my only child. It hurts and I will always miss him. Find the person or friend who remembers your son, can recall a memory with you, that helps you find a little joy in making you laugh again. There aren’t many but nurture those relationships.
I have several friends that have lost children recently and am so devastated for them. One of them was my son’s best friend that was hit and killed by a hit and run driver right in front of him. I’m really struggling to know what to do to help my son through this tragedy. Think about them every single day, stay up at night watching videos like yours to try and better understand how to be there for my son and the parents who have lost their children.I’m so sorry. Thank you for sharing your experience. Child loss is not something anyone knows how to navigate but hearing others stories lends to small bits of healing.
16 years of marriage and mother of 4. I experienced "L" as a result of a divorce / vindictive ex. Excruciatingly painful. In 2000 I began drinking to deal with such unimaginable 'death'. In 2009 New Years Eve, I got sober. I forgave but hardest on myself.. In 2019, took the path to unconditional self-love; slow and steady process, had not seen them in 24 years. Each my greater teachers! I light a candle to send prayers of love for them, trusting all is ok. It's been a very long road to recovery, redesigning myself. Gave myself permission to Be My Own New Beautiful! Assured myself Yes, I too matter! 💓 Death for me is just another word for recycle, transformation and a new course, journey, beginnings! Healing me, my ancestors also are healed. Moving on up, my Shinning Stars!🌸✨🌌🙏 💕
You are exactly right!! there’s nothing anyone can tell me that will make my situation better.. you’re right, they try to avoid it because of fear for their children… I just lost my 4 1/2 year-old to brain cancer December 15, 2022 at 12:23 pm🙏🙏 RIP JAX
I feel so alone even with a house full of people. I lost my 14 month old daughter a month ago.. my whole world revolved around her schedule.. I’m a sahm. I just don’t know how to go on right now. Everything is so different and feels like a nightmare. If it weren’t for my other 5 children I wouldn’t even be here.
Sending you big hugs! Hopefully you can find someone who gets it that you can talk to... join a group (there are lots on FB... I also have one). I have many resources on my website that may help you. This is an incredible grief that we carry. www afterchildloss.com
My daughter was 35 yrs old when she died, and that was 7 months ago, its a mixture of reality and surreal. I am finding it hard when i meet peole who try to cheer me up, they act so happy etc, and I feel I have to be the same, when in reality I am so broken. I don,t know how to be, others don,t know what to say, I keep coming across the word authentic, no one liked the authentic me even before this tragedy, so how will they like it now, and yes I want to withdraw even though i am lonely, avoiding people who try to fix me and tell me what I need to do, navigating this new life that is so painful and exhausting, I have this card which i stuck on the wall for me to see all the time, it says Be kind to yourself you are doing the best you can. I feel so angry inside and hurt so bad, i wouldn,t want to be around me either, thank you for sharing, when you know others are feeling the same even reacting the same you don,t feel has messed up, xxxxxx
So much of memories are collective. What i mean is this: when remembering the past, i usually only remember a piece of a story. I will share the piece with a person who was also part of that story. Then THEY add a piece of memory which causes me to remove another piece. With my elder daughter gone, we no longer can do that. What i remember is all i have....and those memories are incomplete. Not only are new memories not being made with her. Old memories become harder to access without her help.
I’ve lost my future. My daughter was our only child. We muddle through each day, working and creating, but there is sorrow that courses through my body at all times. I can smile and laugh…it’s been ten years. I lost some friends but gained others. Even family members didn’t talk about my daughter, but I realized they just couldn’t handle her death. I gave them a pass and let them come around in their time. Friends? I kept my closest ones but there was one that surprised me. She would not talk about my daughter. Never called me. When I called her she was evasive. But, she had miscarried twins and my daughter’s death was hard on her. She has a tattoo of her initials on her shoulder. That was her way of dealing with it and I understand that. We are still good friends. I realized very early on that everyone was going to react differently and I needed to allow them that freedom.
One month after the sudden death (no cause of death discovered) of my 53 year old son, my husband died from Parkinson’s. The double loss was overwhelming. Almost 7 months later, I am beginning to believe I may yet survive. My faith in God’s promises has carried me through such a long dark struggle. I often remember what Job said after his tremendous trials: “Though He [God] slay me, yet will I trust Him.”
I’m losing the most amazing relationship a person could ever wish for. It’s September 26th and were supposed to get married Oct 12th but since my son was killed in a car wreck on June 5th nothing has been the same. I’m now losing all of my children. My life is hell.
I'm so glad. If you're looking for some ongoing support, I have a group called Living With Grief. It includes weekly Zoom meetings with guided small group discussion. Chat access to stay in touch during the week. Also, access to a growing library of tools, workshops,and helpful videos. Www.afterchildloss.co./lwg
I find no way to integrate my life before my second son, with him and after loosing him into one story of my life. It is as is if my life is fragmented and my personality too.
I lost my 30 year old son to suicide. July 27 22 I’m struggling horribly. I just ran across your video and decided to watch it. I’m so glad I did. Thank god someone really understands. You are spot on with everything you said. I can’t find any support groups in my area and friends and family have disappeared. I feel so alone. So thank you for making this. I have subscribed and will continue to watch you. 😢❤
You should check out my website. I offer some free resources (like weekly emails with tips and encouragement) - I also run a program called Living With Grief that is specifically for bereaved parents. www.afterchildloss.com
I read your post and I lost my 28 yr old son to what seems to be suicide as well 3 weeks ago.The pain is killing me to be honest and I can without a doubt say this is the worst pain a human can endure.I know I will never be 100% happy again and I accept this but what I am struggling is the permanence of the situation.How do u live and cope knowing u will never see your child again.All I can say is it's one F@cked up situation ANDDDDD unless someone has lost a child can not even begin the anguish and agony it's impossible.The anguish is just to deep.
@@beckygail9454 I completely understand. It has destroyed me. There are actually no words to describe it. To be honest, I think of ways to end it every day because I just can't take it.. I'm trying to not go down that path, but my mind is getting the better of me.. it's my worst enemy. Our pain is deep and I do understand how you feel 💔
@@Toms_gg Thank u for replying me back.I can't seem to get out of bed today.I just lay here and cry and think WTF I am going to do with the rest of my life.I know my 18 yr old son is worried sick about me and grieving his older brother and I feel horrible because I am useless to help him.My birthday is in 2 days and he wants to celebrate but I can't even get out of bed muchless think of birthdays and I can't tell him that I f@cking never want to think of another birthday again.My oldest son jumped to his death on my youngest son birthday and now for the rest of our lives his birthday is combined with his brother death day.I feel like this is some very cruel joke of the universe being played on us.As if thats not bad enough my oldest son came to my youngest son in a dream and my youngest son saw his brother dying in a dream and woke up crying and within 2 hours my mother and aunt we at my home telling us the news as we were walking out to celebrate my youngest sons birthday.To say life is impossible right now would be the understatement of the year.I wish I could tell u that it's going to get better but I would be lying to u and u know that already just as I do.I talked to a psycologist yesterday and she actually said she challenges me to take a bubble bath this week or go for a pedicure.I was like WTF WTF WTF I don't need a d@mn bubble bath I need my son back my life back.Do u tell a person dying of cancer to take a d@mn a bubble bath( I don't know maybe they do).I swear just u being a mom that is going through this hell with me lets me know I'm not alone and this is what I need right now.I am going crazy I accept that.I have been watching Channeling Eric video's thats taking the edge off although I have caught one medium not being accurate so second guessing that.But the lady that made the channel her son died from suicide in 2009 and he talks to her through mediums and tells what the afterlife is like.I want to reach out to mediums and see if anyone can contact my son simply because I have not heard from him.I think I could live with his passing as long as I was 100% I knew he is ok.I need to know he is ok.It's NOT easy for me to tell u please don't stress and u r not alone in this F@cking Hell but somehow I know I have to keep living and help others as much as I can going forward like just going to a shelter and listening to peoples stories and maybe somehow trying to help.I don;t know thats where I can see myself going forward if I can ever get off this bed.I want to honor my son that much I know and I my great universal hope is that I will see my son again but before I do I should let him live through me sense I am the stronger one living now and do things are not so much important to me but were important to Jordan.I would love to know your thoughts and opinions as well.
Noel, I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my 31 year old son to an accidental drug overdose. In 2009 I lost my oldest son to suicide. I'm broken beyond comprehension. I can't say I know what you're experiencing, but I do know you're hurting as am I. I would welcome a connection if you see this and reply. I pray you are able to find some comfort and strength. I need them as well.
I lost .my.daughter last December she was only.49 years old Things are not the same since she die It's the hardest thing I ever done I can't get over it So hard It's is really pain i cry all the time Please pray for me God.Bless you. 🙌➕️♥️👑😇🙏🔜
@MaryJohnson-t8e it is the hardest thing, especially in those early years. I will share my website link here. There are resources there to help if/when you're ready. Big hugs! Www.afterchildloss.com
I lost my daughter exactly one year ago. She was 20. Asthma attack , brain dead. I lost a lot of people. Meaning I can’t talk to them they don’t understand.
My life is nòt the same.i had big dteams for my son and his family.My spns death came quick and shocking only to see a few words of grief.still in mourning. I love my baby very much
I lost my partner my dad and my daughter. My sanity my ability to put up with bs. I lost who I was, my filter, my concern about others.i only care about my son and grandson
That all sounds pretty normal given the amount of loss you've endured. Take care of yourself. Seek things that resonate with you and seem to help, even in a small way. Hugs!!
Um yeah, I noticed it. The last 29 years. Her death blew my entire family apart in slow motion. I have no one. I'm broken. Devastated and have never been ok. I had some ok years, I went on. But it doesn't matter because now I am disabled, abandoned by my husband, my entire family and I see no path forward. There is zero help available for people like me and my husband is slaughtering me financially. I will never understand why I have to endure such horrific cruelty.
My youngest son committed suicide 4 years ago at the age of 15. He was living with his dad because I was an addict. Right when I got clean, this happened. I hadn't seen him in years, and I totally blame myself. I shut down, didn't allow myself to grieve, and now I am a total mess. I just started therapy and am not adjusting well to antidepressants. I am messed up right now, but I am still sober 5 1/2 years. But lost without my child. He was my reason to get clean...
First of all, I'm so so sorry you know this loss. Second, congratulations on your sobriety, especially when faced with this grief. It sounds like you're seeking the things that can help... keep seeking and doing the work. I promise things shift and change. I have a website with lots of videos and tools, if you're interested. Www.afterchildloss.com
First off let me say these to all of you that has lost a child! I am sorry that you have to live in the world that I was chosen to live in! It is hard to loss a child and my heart goes out to those of you that have. It was on Sept 9 2000 that my son died in a car crash at the age of 19 . My world changed that day and would never be the same again. The 2 thing's that my family and friends said too me that I hated was we know how you feel!!! And that it will get better with time! My response to this is that nobody knows how I feel we all handle it different so please don't ever tell anyone that you know how they feel! 2nd how is it going to get better with time am I going to forget that it happened are am I going to forget who Joseph was? Then when my world was falling apart and I was trying to make a life that I could live in my daughter died from a heart attack at 35. 7 years ago and I had to make the choice to take her off life support. My oldest daughter now at the age of 39 has cancer and fighting for her life! My wife died from cancer 6 years ago. I was so tried of living with all the pain it didn't get better with time the hurt was there and never left me. I tried to kill myself right after my wife died I was in the hospital for 21 days and 14 of them was in ICU on a machine but yet I walked out with nothing wrong with me! I lost my job 2 years ago and I have not worked since then. My house is in foreclosure I have work hard all my life and now I can't! My oldest brother died in June from COVID and yes he was also my best friend! I tried to kill myself again in August and was in this time for 14 days! All of the changes in my life started 22 years ago when my son died. I am 60 years old and in 6 months I will be homeless and living on the streets. I have no clue why God didn't let me die the first time that I tried to kill myself. I may never know what his plans are but I do know this I will die and I won't be missed by anybody but I will shut up now as this has been a very long remark! And too all of you that have lost I pray and beg God to let your family and you to be able to go on and find peace some way some how! And most of all I pray that if you have no clue what we feel I pray that you never do! Hold your child and tell them you love them you never know when your life will go to hell! 😢
You've experienced so much loss... multiple life-changing losses. I know that pain runs deep for you, and there is no way anyone can know how you feel unless they, too, have experienced it. Contrary to what we've been told or what people believe, we also never just fit back onto life as we did before. You're life has shifted so many times, I'm sure it has left you reeling. Sending so much love your way. I don't know you, but my heart goes out to you. I want you to know you are loved - your children, your wife, your brother, they are all still around you and they love you immensely. Sending big hugs your way.
My 18 yr old son died by suicide 3 months ago. I am left with my wife and daughter. I feel like my whole family has died and I have been left with this new family with something missing.
My 25 year old daughter was murdered, dismembered and burned by a monster of a person. We are going thru the court process now. She was also the mother of a now 2 1/2 yo daughter. Now a stranger is claiming to be her father and wants to take her from me despite me having raised her since birth. More court battles. I was only given what was found of her body to cremate. Less than 1/3 of her sits in a full sized urn. I am dying inside. I think of the pain she went through at the hand of that monster. The fear. Coupled with the loss of her and what could have been. My life is on pause. I am not functioning. I don’t want to be here. Yet here I am.
That's a lot! Circumstances and court battles certainly complicate this. Take care of yourself. I believe your daughter is still very connected to you, on this journey with you. Sending lots of love your way.
I'm a musician. It's been five months since my son died. I have not touched my instrument since that terrible day. The musician part of me has refused to play another note of music in a world without my son in it.
@BrianLatimersPage I get it!! It took me years to go back to hobbies I loved... and I don't have the same passion, but things have changed a lot over the last 8+ years... in ways I never would have expected. Your son may become your muse and inspire your best music yet. Hugs!!
If you are looking for a peace and comfort and a hope that will truly never will leave you, I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. God bless you. Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. 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Many health issues before and after the death of my 29 year old daughter …killed by a hit and run driver. Friends and family , the majority, have not shown up for me.
There are so many secondary losses... and the loss of self is probably the one that surprised me most. This us such a hard journey to do alone. Have you considered finding a support group? I offer a program called Living With Grief that you're welcome to check out. Www.afterchildloss.com/lwg
It is possible to recharge a place where grief and life coexist... where the pain of this loss dissipates and it is no longer so intense and overwhelming you struggle constantly. I am there. It takes time and doing a lot of grief work. I am proof it's possible. I offer many resources on my website to help: www.afterchildloss.com
I lost my only child Robbie when he was 8 I came from a family with no affection whatsoever I never knew what it was like to feel loved by another human being until my son Robbie was born he was abused and neglected from the age of 2 onward there is no consolation I feel that I failed him murder was the only thing I could do to stop it due to the corrupt and perverted family court system that punishes father's at the cost of the children thank you for this information
For a couple, the grief can tear their relationship apart. From: "Word Songs of Love and Life" “Yours Is My Sorrow” Albert Moore Yours is my sorrow, thus must we part. Brought to our knees from same, stilled heart. What I can give, I cannot receive. What you so mourn, I cannot relieve. We shared the joy, the hope and fear. Now more suffering it is to be near. So dark is my soul, I cannot reveal In anguished grief the love I feel. In time, as it comes, I desperately pray I will find the words we need to say. Now we must wait for pain’s release. Only then, together, finding solace and peace. Somewhere, beneath grief too heavy to bear, Know that my love for you is still there.
@ShatterR-il6yz he had a rare blood disorder that we didn't know he had. It was a huge medical mystery. The autopsy took 7 months, we asked for it to get answers. It was a fluke that they figured it out. It led us to genetic testing where my husband and both daughters were diagnosed with the condition.
@@AfterChildLoss wow your story sounds very similar too a friend of mine their kid was vomiting and fainting before he died the kid had low iron deficiency and heart valve but the police tried too make it seem like foul play because it happened suddenly unexpectedly I hate how the police and investigators assumed the parents caused the child death automatically which is wrong corrupt
@ShatterR-il6yz unfortunately I'm sure they see such horrible things they naturally go there and question it. I get it now, but in the moment it sucked and I feel for your friend.
There was no bruising or foul play but because the kid died suddenly they automatically thought the parents caused it which it idiotic because every year hundreds of kids die from sudden unexpected deaths with completely healthy children
@ShatterR-il6yz and still the world believes kids don't die unless there is foul play. Death and child loss are just so taboo they don't want to acknowledge it happens.
I lost my 17yr old daughter 2 months ago. Her boyfriend tortured and killed her. Not only trying to grieve but dealing with court, detectives, prosecutors, media. I feel so alone. You described it perfectly, in a room full of people who have moved on and you're silently dying on the inside. Thank you for this
My heart goes out to you!! Child loss is a LOT... adding in the circumstances and court components... I'm so so sorry to hear it all. Big hugs.
My beautiful 26 year old daughter, full of life and so caring, died 10 months ago. I have lost who I was, my best friends, God, my spiritual path and all hope that life has some kind of meaning. Life has become an endurance test on a daily basis.
This loss really does change everything and shatter all of our beliefs. Yet, I am proof that it is possible to find a way forward. There is no timeline!! I was a good 2.5 years before I even really cared about trying to figure out how. Hugs.
My heart goes out to you, Carmel Larkin. I lost my beautiful daughter almost a year ago. She was 39. I've gone through denial, a sense of unreality, numbness, suicidal intentions, escapism, and crushing pain. I still have moments of joy, but those moments are hard to remember when I am deep in despair. I dream that she is alive, then wake up to her absence. It is indescribable. Sometimes, I imagine she is beside me, and I talk to her. Sometimes, I hear her voice.
Peace be with you. I want to say, I don't think God has abandoned us, though it feels like it, sometimes.
I am so so sad to hear about your loss. My 29 year old beautiful caring thoughtful funny daughter died 3 weeks ago and I feel your pain. I am very lucky that I can hear her and she talks to me every day. We love each other so so deeply that our connection is still strong. Without this connection I have no idea how I could cope. I want to send you love, hugs and peace. Take care ❤️💕❤️
I lost my Beautiful 24 yr old daughter unexpectedly on Christmas eve 3 weeks ago. With her gone I feel half my life and soul have left. I'm completely broken and don't know how to begin putting my self together, I have to be strong for my 10yr son and my 6yr old grandson my daughters son💔 I just ask God to help me be strong for them 😢 but it hurts so bad even to breath. I don't want to talk to anyone other than my immediate family about it. Don't know why but that's just how I feel now.
Carmel, I am so sorry for your loss. Our son died three months ago. My wife and I felt as though we had fallen into a deep well with no way out. Would we survive? We spoke with a mother who lost her son to suicide 7 years ago. Pam had walked the path we were just beginning. “Joy does return,” she told us. We discovered a ladder out of the deep well. The climb is slow but we see daylight.
Thank you. My son died 2 weeks ago and I am suffering.
Dear Lord, Please relieve Laura's pain as time goes by and hold her tight in your arms.
If I may ask, how are you doing today? I lost my 4 year old son last month& I am barely hanging on...
I lost my son on last April this has been an up and down hill journey I just miss him so much.
"THANK YOU" We lost our Precious 28yr old son to a tragic car accident as he walked across an intersection December 18th, 2022. He was diagnosed with Schizophrenia, and was in the middle of a mental crisis. We are shattered beyond repair, and I am completely numb. No support group for for those of us who have lost our children, but I have found a Grief support group with a nearby Church. My church completely abandoned us. No visits to pray with us, no food, absolutely nothing. How cruel. I know JESUS Loves us, but this pain is literally killing me. It feels like our family thinks we have leprosy, and even if we did, WE DESERVE COMPASSION.
I lost my 18yr old son in December 2018, and lost my 11yr old daughter in May 2022. Beautiful lovely children, my friends. My life been turned upside down. Every day is painful! So much pain, memories!Thank you for this video.
I am sincerely sorry for your double loss. I have no words to say as I’m struggling with one loss, I can only send you my prayers and wish I could give you a hug! 💔💔🫂🫂🙏🏼🙏🏼
My son recently passed from drugs. He was 34 and so full of life. I am heartbroken and devastated.
Sending lots of love your way. ❤️
My son also died about six months ago and he was 34 as well. He died from a sudden cardiac event in his sleep. The loss is devastating as you know. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I don't know how you feel but I know what it's like to lose a young adult son.
I lost my daughter 8 months ago to fentanyl. I still feel like it was yesterday. And I don’t want that feeling to go away. Because it feels like I would be forgetting her. I feel sad, mad, depressed and anxious all in the moment sometimes. Sometimes I feel a heavy weight all through my body when I really think about her. I know it’s something I will have to live with for the rest of my life but right now it’s just hard. But my wife has been a huge help along with friends and family. These videos help. Thank you for making them.
What I miss after my oldest daughter passed from a battle with cancer are all the moments in the lives of her girls lives she will miss. Not having her there for weddings. children being born and many moments she will not be there for. The sadness sneaks up so unexpectedly. Oh how I just miss her in my life
I lost my only son to a freak drowning 3 months ago. My life had been flipped on its head. I lost the home we lived in. I’ve lost my sense of security and belonging in this world. I lost my best friend and beautiful son. I have severe PTSD as I dragged him out and tried to save his life to no avail.
That's excruciating. I'm so sorry
My son experienced the same tragedy with his 2 1/2 yr old son..my heart goes out to you ❤
We llost our autistic son to suicide 5 months ago. He lived for 22years, 1 month and 19 days. The pain is excruciating. I miss him with every fiber of my being. I’m so grateful to our Heavenly Father for being my strength when I have none. His grace covers me every single day.
Thank you for sharing this.
I lost my 22 year old son in 2017 to suicide. He had anxiety and depression. I just lean on Jesus everyday to help me cope. I know your pain. We must just lean on the lord everyday
I lost my beautiful Daughter a year ago on sept 4th. She killed herself in a horrific car accident where she smashed herself into a pole because she was drinking and arguing with her husband. My life will never be the same. She was my best friend. I don't know how to live without her. It hurts more than anything i have ever experienced. Thank you for the video.
I lost my beautiful, kind hearted, full of life daughter almost a year ago. The heartache is brutal every second of every day for the rest of my life.
Everything you said is very true. My only child, my Son who had just turned 21yrs old passed away Feb. 22, 2016. Sean was my whole life, my identity. I feel so broken and I don't feel any joy anymore or interest in anything. Someone told me to find a hobby, but I really can't think of anything. I know that a big part of it is that if Sean can't do it then I don't want to. My Mom and dad have alsopassed away. I seem to bounce all over the place emotionally. I went to a group meeting for parents who have lost their child or sometimes children. I have decided to go back. I know that I need support from others who truly understand and maybe I can help someone in some way....from one parent to others, I hope that you find your way❤
I lost my only child at 23 to a heart attack. She was my best friend!
I had to give up many friends because of their hurtful comments! I had to present a happy persona around them! I couldn’t mention my daughters name without them either changing the topic or starting a conversation with someone else! I felt so alone I would leave and be down for days! I did not go on and on about my daughter I would say something like oh purple was Richelle’s favourite colour or Richelle would love that! But the near mention of her name seemed to make them uncomfortable! So I stopped communicating with them!
I ended up getting sick before any family gathering so I decided not to put myself through that!
I have one girlfriend but she lives 3.5 hours away! She’s a teacher so we do not communicate during the week so it sometimes can be a month before we talk again!
Because I do not have friends I realize I have completely isolated myself! My company is the TV! For the past year I’ve been living in my bedroom watching TV from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed!
I do not want to be around people! I don’t want to have to always hide my pain! I won’t allow myself to cry around anyone because I know that would make them feel uncomfortable so the best for all is I stick to my tv friends and family!
I am sorry for your loss, I wish I could be your friend, I would allow you to talk about your girl for as long as you wanted… sending you the biggest hug ever ❤
Sorry to hear this 😢 this is exactly how I feel around friends and family too. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my only daughter a month ago, she is all I have. I feel soo empty, shattered and totally broken. Sending you hugs from Ghana
My first born child age 26, a son was killed by a truck driver 2 months ago today. My son was on his way to work on his motorcycle that he loved so much. This is the most horrific thing I have ever faced, and I have gone through some severe tragedies. It feels like something carved my soul out and there is nothing but a black hole. I have lost vision, my path, I am in a state of utter shock and despair and feel like there is no light at the end of this dark hole.
I’m so sorry for your loss, my beautiful first born Son died Two weeks ago to cancer. I’m like you, shattered, lost in total grief, he was 30.
@@jillianmaguire1372 Oh, I am so so sorry! I know there are really no words to take away your pain. I know also you are a beautiful mother, like me who dearly loved your first born child, your first born son. My heart goes out to you! I want to thank you as well because I know it takes every ounce of energy just to get through the day. I want to send you a hug, filled with love, care, and hope.
@@cv6298 Thank you for your kind words and I am sending you back a big hug and love.
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I feel your pain 😢.. to the core . 8 months ago an illegal drunk driver killed my 26 old sweetest handsome son in a hit and run incident .. left my son on the side of the road like a roadkill and fled 😢
My wife and I have had 3 beautiful boys. One in 87, one in 89 and our youngest in 95. We have had to bury all 3. Our youngest gave us a grandson that looks exactly like him. That grandson of mine is the only reason I'm here. Everyday is worse than the last. I'm scared as hell because I think I've lost the will to live and have been having really dark thoughts But that would mean I would ruin any chance at all of seeing them when I die. . I care a lot less about everything now. I was me, but now he's gone.
I understand, and those thoughts and feelings are so very normal. Sending some extra love your way. If/when you're interested, I have lots of things you may find helpful as you navigate this life after so much loss... it's all child loss specific. For example, I have a weekly email list and a program called Living With Grief. Www.afterchildloss.com
I lost my youngest son of 21years. I feel alone. Everybody expects me to be ok. My extended family has no idea as to what my loss has done to me. Im existing not living.
My baby sister lost her 8 week old only baby girl recently and we are all trying to find the right words and this video was really helpful 💔
I'm so sorry!! Sometimes there just are not words... only actions. Just keep showing up without judgement of how she grieves. Hugs!!
I lost my 8 year old little boy 10 months ago. A day after I read his eulogy I had to take my mother off life support. My wife and myself did not have a strong enough marriage to withstand this loss. My baby is gone, my marriage is gone, my business, our dream home. It's all just Ash now. I don't know where to even start and I feel so so alone.
That is a lot of loss! I'm so sorry you're a member of "this club"... there is so much trauma in child loss and yours is more compounded given all of the additional losses youve had so close together. It really does change everything, and it's incredibly isolating and difficult to find a way forward. Sending lots of love your way. If/when you're ready, I have lots of additional resources on my website. Hugs! Www.afterchildloss.com
I am so sorry for all of your tragic losses. So overwhelming and horrible. Sending you love.
You "feel" all alone, but you are NOT all alone.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my adult son in 2020. I’m so sorry for your loss. You explained everything that anyone who has lost a child goes through. Thank you for this again. God bless you. ❤
Big hugs to you!!
I’m so sorry for your loss,I also lost my adult son unexpectedly same year as you! Yes this is so on point. Sending hugs and prayers to you! 💔💔🫂🫂🙏🏼🙏🏼
My 43 yr old daughter, my first born, was diagnosed with ALS in June 2023. I believe my grieving started not long after that, as she went downhill very fast. Her husband is her primary caregiver, I thank God she has him, but he does not deal well with other people, and its been so hard to know I can only see her once a month, but I also understand he feels he is looking after her best interests. I am going to see her for an overnight stay tomorrow, Jan 6, 2024, to say my goodbye to her. Im not sure how I will move on after she is gone, she is my daughter, but also my best friend. How does one carry on? I was told not to long after her diagnoses that I have been blessed to have her for 43 yrs, and I agree, as so many parents lose their child at an early age, but its still not making the loss I will have much easier to bare. Ive noticed already that people who talked with me very often, have pulled away. I apologize to them for making them feel uncomfortable, and they are all very sympathetic, but dont know what to say, as there really is nothing to say. I know everyone is feeling bad and very sorry this is happening, but I do believe it makes them face the reality that it could happen to them, which I never thought of until this video. Thank you so much for helping me realize why they may be avoiding talking with me, make it more bareable for me.
Thats exactly what they are doing. I'm so sorry to hear you are facing such a massive loss. It really is unimaginable. And you will know at a deep level (likely already do) that you can be both blessed to have her for 43 years and devastated by her death. The gratitude never replaces or minimizes the grief. They coexist. I'm sending you so much love as you navigate these next days, weeks, months, years. None of us knew how to navigate this... but you will find your way in time. If I can help in any way, even just to help you validate all that you will feel and experience... you can reach out anytime. My website is Www.afterchildloss.com
I lost all of those things you said, but what hit me the hardest after the loss of my firstborn and only son, was that lost my faith. My 100% rock solid, unshakable faith.
@trishnemeth7035 very normal! Hugs.
My heart breaks for all of you. My 25 your old son passed away in August 2022. I know he is with God now, but my heart is still broken. My son was my world. I pray every day for all the bereaved parents.
I felt this was somewhat comforting. I am approaching the one-year loss of my 13-year-old daughter who passed on 10/28/21. I do encounter people who are uncomfortable and don't know what to say or do. But I'm to the point that I am tired of helping others deal with their inability to process my daughter's death. As you said the daily grief and sadness, we feel comes in so many ways, it's debilitating at times. We have lost a huge part of our life, they didn't.
I so understand that. I reached a place where I realized I could no longer help others with their grief or discomfort over my son's death... I only had the space to carry my own stuff. Hugs!!
I’m beginning to resent trying to teach people what to say to me…if they even express interest in learning.
Sick of religious lectures and insensitivity. The worst has been my narcissistic MIL.
I’m so sorry for everyone here. I know what you all mean,I have been trying to teach family and friends how support me and my family in grief,sending videos on child loss,articles but to no avail! It’s not them going through this nightmare,I’m broken and it’s not my job to do all the work so they can understand what I and my husband are going through.And I’m tired of pretending to be “normal “ to make others more comfortable to be around. Look after yourselves dear bereaved parents! Hugs and empathy to everyone that didn’t choose to be going through this unimaginable pain. 💔💔🫂🫂
I lost an my infant girl named Dani. I miss her everyday. Thanks for sharing your story.
I lost my 21-year-old daughter to cancer May 2022. My world and my life ended that Saturday morning. Since then, I have left the faith I grew up in, lost my family because of that, and my marriage has ended - I also lost my dog in the divorce and my only other child lives with her mom. Outside of my job and my health, I lost everything. I'd say ripple effect is an understatement.
It really is an understatement. It's a difficult road for sure. Sending love your way.
I have lost my son Nathaniel , 30 years about two months back, due to a road accident .The loss is terrible and the pain is unbearable. You have expressed what pain is all about , thanks and God Bless. I feel for the others who are enduring a loss of a loved one in their lives/
Sending lots of love your way.
@@AfterChildLoss My deep gratitude
So sorry for your loss of your dear son. I lost my beautiful 20 yr old 7 months ago suddenly. Ripple effects are more like huge waves. Pretty much lost the life I knew before 😞💔 as you rightly said I just want to disappear but can’t as I have a young daughter 😞💔
Sending you big hugs.
Im so sorry for u loss ive had some people that go to my school pass away hugs from me
So true people are not sensitive ! Many people say you so strong.
I don’t know how you feel because I haven’t loss a child and pray I don’t. I like no SHIT!! I never wanted to lose my child either.
Thank you for sharing your grief, it takes a lot of strength to be able to create an environment of support from such a heartwrenching loss. I lost my preemie baby (born at 25 weeks) a month after his birth. He fought bravely through his stay at the NICU - the doctors and nursing staff told us everyday what a fighter he was. But fate had other plans on the 7th of August 2023 when he lost the fight to sepsis. Now throughout the day I am often reminded of the times that I had spent with him and the hopes that I had built around him. I often feel like a fool for having done that.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my youngest daughter on July 21, 2023. Looking at your videos helps. We are devastated and really are just floating through at this point. Trying our best to get a new normal. It seems impossible because the pain is so deep. Pray for us.
I'm glad the videos help. I remember those early months (even years)... it's so dang hard! Sending lots of love your way. When you're ready, I have lots of resources on my website you may find helpful).
Www.afterchildloss.com
Explained so well. I lost my adult son 3 years ago. Ppl
Abandoned me. Like loss of a child is contagious. So I learned to hide my pain. In doing that I’m feeling loss of who my child was. I don’t like that. And ppl say I can’t imagine. Yes they can they don’t want to so they avoid you. I basically call myself a dog mom to ppl so they don’t feel awkward anymore. It’s for sure the worse pain ever and no medicine for it. Time doesn’t make it better. The weight gets lighter because you learned to carry it. Hugs to all who know this feeling. I’m so sad for your pain. My sister said. You need help I don’t understand. I said I hope you never do. Hugs
I’m so sorry! My husband and I have experienced the same thing. Only another bereaved parent can understand the pain you are going through! It’s like we don’t belong on this earth. Hugs to you! 💔💔🫂🫂
I am sorry for your loss. I also lost my adult son in 2021. Your comments are exactly the same feelings I am working through. People and some family members don’t always know what to say. And, I need to talk about my son. There will never be a day when I don’t carry this loss. It is part of me now. Others are afraid that talking about my son will upset me. This was my only child. It hurts and I will always miss him. Find the person or friend who remembers your son, can recall a memory with you, that helps you find a little joy in making you laugh again. There aren’t many but nurture those relationships.
@@pudik2008 thank you friend. It means a lot 🥹
I have several friends that have lost children recently and am so devastated for them. One of them was my son’s best friend that was hit and killed by a hit and run driver right in front of him. I’m really struggling to know what to do to help my son through this tragedy. Think about them every single day, stay up at night watching videos like yours to try and better understand how to be there for my son and the parents who have lost their children.I’m so sorry. Thank you for sharing your experience. Child loss is not something anyone knows how to navigate but hearing others stories lends to small bits of healing.
@Natalie-uu6fs I'm so sorry you all are navigating this. It is life-changing. Sending you all love.
16 years of marriage and mother of 4. I experienced "L" as a result of a divorce / vindictive ex. Excruciatingly painful. In 2000 I began drinking to deal with such unimaginable 'death'.
In 2009 New Years Eve, I got sober. I forgave but hardest on myself.. In 2019, took the path to unconditional self-love; slow and steady process, had not seen them in 24 years. Each my greater teachers! I light a candle to send prayers of love for them, trusting all is ok.
It's been a very long road to recovery, redesigning myself. Gave myself permission to Be My Own New Beautiful! Assured myself Yes, I too matter! 💓
Death for me is just another word for recycle, transformation and a new course, journey, beginnings!
Healing me, my ancestors also are healed. Moving on up, my Shinning Stars!🌸✨🌌🙏 💕
You are exactly right!! there’s nothing anyone can tell me that will make my situation better.. you’re right, they try to avoid it because of fear for their children… I just lost my 4 1/2 year-old to brain cancer December 15, 2022 at 12:23 pm🙏🙏 RIP JAX
Sending you love.
I feel so alone even with a house full of people. I lost my 14 month old daughter a month ago.. my whole world revolved around her schedule.. I’m a sahm. I just don’t know how to go on right now. Everything is so different and feels like a nightmare. If it weren’t for my other 5 children I wouldn’t even be here.
Sending you big hugs! Hopefully you can find someone who gets it that you can talk to... join a group (there are lots on FB... I also have one). I have many resources on my website that may help you. This is an incredible grief that we carry.
www afterchildloss.com
My daughter was 35 yrs old when she died, and that was 7 months ago, its a mixture of reality and surreal. I am finding it hard when i meet peole who try to cheer me up, they act so happy etc, and I feel I have to be the same, when in reality I am so broken. I don,t know how to be, others don,t know what to say, I keep coming across the word authentic, no one liked the authentic me even before this tragedy, so how will they like it now, and yes I want to withdraw even though i am lonely, avoiding people who try to fix me and tell me what I need to do, navigating this new life that is so painful and exhausting, I have this card which i stuck on the wall for me to see all the time, it says
Be kind to yourself you are doing the best you can.
I feel so angry inside and hurt so bad, i wouldn,t want to be around me either, thank you for sharing, when you know others are feeling the same even reacting the same you don,t feel has messed up, xxxxxx
My son died last June 8 because of DKA, everyday is so painful since then.
My daughter was taken 16 year ago she was 21 and it's coming her birthday still hurts
So much of memories are collective.
What i mean is this: when remembering the past, i usually only remember a piece of a story. I will share the piece with a person who was also part of that story. Then THEY add a piece of memory which causes me to remove another piece.
With my elder daughter gone, we no longer can do that. What i remember is all i have....and those memories are incomplete. Not only are new memories not being made with her. Old memories become harder to access without her help.
I Love and Miss You, Mitchell. Dad
I’ve lost my future. My daughter was our only child. We muddle through each day, working and creating, but there is sorrow that courses through my body at all times. I can smile and laugh…it’s been ten years. I lost some friends but gained others. Even family members didn’t talk about my daughter, but I realized they just couldn’t handle her death. I gave them a pass and let them come around in their time. Friends? I kept my closest ones but there was one that surprised me. She would not talk about my daughter. Never called me. When I called her she was evasive. But, she had miscarried twins and my daughter’s death was hard on her. She has a tattoo of her initials on her shoulder. That was her way of dealing with it and I understand that. We are still good friends. I realized very early on that everyone was going to react differently and I needed to allow them that freedom.
Sending lots of love your way. A loss of future is so accurate.
One month after the sudden death (no cause of death discovered) of my 53 year old son, my husband died from Parkinson’s. The double loss was overwhelming. Almost 7 months later, I am beginning to believe I may yet survive. My faith in God’s promises has carried me through such a long dark struggle. I often remember what Job said after his tremendous trials: “Though He [God] slay me, yet will I trust Him.”
Thank you for making this very helpful video. It helps explain it well
I’m losing the most amazing relationship a person could ever wish for. It’s September 26th and were supposed to get married Oct 12th but since my son was killed in a car wreck on June 5th nothing has been the same. I’m now losing all of my children. My life is hell.
Your videos calm me. Thank you 🙏🏻❤️
I'm so glad. If you're looking for some ongoing support, I have a group called Living With Grief. It includes weekly Zoom meetings with guided small group discussion. Chat access to stay in touch during the week. Also, access to a growing library of tools, workshops,and helpful videos.
Www.afterchildloss.co./lwg
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I lost my daughter in 2015 on Thanksgiving night I was crushed ifeel the grief is just as bad as ever .l think the loss,child is endless
Secondary losses are everything you’ve mentioned all at the same time
I find no way to integrate my life before my second son, with him and after loosing him into one story of my life. It is as is if my life is fragmented and my personality too.
My 4 year old son was shot and killed by a bastard it is unbelievable how I still breathe 😢
Dear Lord, Please hold Meriadamyan4452 in your arms, help relieve her pain and suffering. In your name we pray.
I lost my 30 year old son to suicide. July 27 22 I’m struggling horribly. I just ran across your video and decided to watch it. I’m so glad I did. Thank god someone really understands. You are spot on with everything you said. I can’t find any support groups in my area and friends and family have disappeared. I feel so alone. So thank you for making this. I have subscribed and will continue to watch you. 😢❤
You should check out my website. I offer some free resources (like weekly emails with tips and encouragement) - I also run a program called Living With Grief that is specifically for bereaved parents. www.afterchildloss.com
I read your post and I lost my 28 yr old son to what seems to be suicide as well 3 weeks ago.The pain is killing me to be honest and I can without a doubt say this is the worst pain a human can endure.I know I will never be 100% happy again and I accept this but what I am struggling is the permanence of the situation.How do u live and cope knowing u will never see your child again.All I can say is it's one F@cked up situation ANDDDDD unless someone has lost a child can not even begin the anguish and agony it's impossible.The anguish is just to deep.
@@beckygail9454 I completely understand. It has destroyed me. There are actually no words to describe it. To be honest, I think of ways to end it every day because I just can't take it.. I'm trying to not go down that path, but my mind is getting the better of me.. it's my worst enemy. Our pain is deep and I do understand how you feel 💔
@@Toms_gg Thank u for replying me back.I can't seem to get out of bed today.I just lay here and cry and think WTF I am going to do with the rest of my life.I know my 18 yr old son is worried sick about me and grieving his older brother and I feel horrible because I am useless to help him.My birthday is in 2 days and he wants to celebrate but I can't even get out of bed muchless think of birthdays and I can't tell him that I f@cking never want to think of another birthday again.My oldest son jumped to his death on my youngest son birthday and now for the rest of our lives his birthday is combined with his brother death day.I feel like this is some very cruel joke of the universe being played on us.As if thats not bad enough my oldest son came to my youngest son in a dream and my youngest son saw his brother dying in a dream and woke up crying and within 2 hours my mother and aunt we at my home telling us the news as we were walking out to celebrate my youngest sons birthday.To say life is impossible right now would be the understatement of the year.I wish I could tell u that it's going to get better but I would be lying to u and u know that already just as I do.I talked to a psycologist yesterday and she actually said she challenges me to take a bubble bath this week or go for a pedicure.I was like WTF WTF WTF I don't need a d@mn bubble bath I need my son back my life back.Do u tell a person dying of cancer to take a d@mn a bubble bath( I don't know maybe they do).I swear just u being a mom that is going through this hell with me lets me know I'm not alone and this is what I need right now.I am going crazy I accept that.I have been watching Channeling Eric video's thats taking the edge off although I have caught one medium not being accurate so second guessing that.But the lady that made the channel her son died from suicide in 2009 and he talks to her through mediums and tells what the afterlife is like.I want to reach out to mediums and see if anyone can contact my son simply because I have not heard from him.I think I could live with his passing as long as I was 100% I knew he is ok.I need to know he is ok.It's NOT easy for me to tell u please don't stress and u r not alone in this F@cking Hell but somehow I know I have to keep living and help others as much as I can going forward like just going to a shelter and listening to peoples stories and maybe somehow trying to help.I don;t know thats where I can see myself going forward if I can ever get off this bed.I want to honor my son that much I know and I my great universal hope is that I will see my son again but before I do I should let him live through me sense I am the stronger one living now and do things are not so much important to me but were important to Jordan.I would love to know your thoughts and opinions as well.
Noel, I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my 31 year old son to an accidental drug overdose. In 2009 I lost my oldest son to suicide. I'm broken beyond comprehension. I can't say I know what you're experiencing, but I do know you're hurting as am I. I would welcome a connection if you see this and reply. I pray you are able to find some comfort and strength. I need them as well.
I lost .my.daughter last December she was only.49 years old Things are not the same since she die It's the hardest thing I ever done I can't get over it So hard It's is really pain i cry all the time Please pray for me God.Bless you. 🙌➕️♥️👑😇🙏🔜
@MaryJohnson-t8e it is the hardest thing, especially in those early years. I will share my website link here. There are resources there to help if/when you're ready. Big hugs!
Www.afterchildloss.com
This video was really helpful 💙thank you
I lost my daughter exactly one year ago. She was 20. Asthma attack , brain dead. I lost a lot of people. Meaning I can’t talk to them they don’t understand.
My life is nòt the same.i had big dteams for my son and his family.My spns death came quick and shocking only to see a few words of grief.still in mourning. I love my baby very much
I lost my partner my dad and my daughter. My sanity my ability to put up with bs. I lost who I was, my filter, my concern about others.i only care about my son and grandson
That all sounds pretty normal given the amount of loss you've endured. Take care of yourself. Seek things that resonate with you and seem to help, even in a small way. Hugs!!
Um yeah, I noticed it. The last 29 years. Her death blew my entire family apart in slow motion. I have no one. I'm broken. Devastated and have never been ok. I had some ok years, I went on. But it doesn't matter because now I am disabled, abandoned by my husband, my entire family and I see no path forward. There is zero help available for people like me and my husband is slaughtering me financially. I will never understand why I have to endure such horrific cruelty.
My youngest son committed suicide 4 years ago at the age of 15. He was living with his dad because I was an addict. Right when I got clean, this happened. I hadn't seen him in years, and I totally blame myself. I shut down, didn't allow myself to grieve, and now I am a total mess. I just started therapy and am not adjusting well to antidepressants. I am messed up right now, but I am still sober 5 1/2 years. But lost without my child. He was my reason to get clean...
First of all, I'm so so sorry you know this loss. Second, congratulations on your sobriety, especially when faced with this grief. It sounds like you're seeking the things that can help... keep seeking and doing the work. I promise things shift and change. I have a website with lots of videos and tools, if you're interested. Www.afterchildloss.com
Wonderful video
Loss of my joy. Loss of being a good worker. Loss of my dreams. Loss of caring about my future.
I get it.
First off let me say these to all of you that has lost a child! I am sorry that you have to live in the world that I was chosen to live in! It is hard to loss a child and my heart goes out to those of you that have. It was on Sept 9 2000 that my son died in a car crash at the age of 19 . My world changed that day and would never be the same again. The 2 thing's that my family and friends said too me that I hated was we know how you feel!!! And that it will get better with time! My response to this is that nobody knows how I feel we all handle it different so please don't ever tell anyone that you know how they feel! 2nd how is it going to get better with time am I going to forget that it happened are am I going to forget who Joseph was? Then when my world was falling apart and I was trying to make a life that I could live in my daughter died from a heart attack at 35. 7 years ago and I had to make the choice to take her off life support. My oldest daughter now at the age of 39 has cancer and fighting for her life! My wife died from cancer 6 years ago. I was so tried of living with all the pain it didn't get better with time the hurt was there and never left me. I tried to kill myself right after my wife died I was in the hospital for 21 days and 14 of them was in ICU on a machine but yet I walked out with nothing wrong with me! I lost my job 2 years ago and I have not worked since then. My house is in foreclosure I have work hard all my life and now I can't! My oldest brother died in June from COVID and yes he was also my best friend! I tried to kill myself again in August and was in this time for 14 days! All of the changes in my life started 22 years ago when my son died. I am 60 years old and in 6 months I will be homeless and living on the streets. I have no clue why God didn't let me die the first time that I tried to kill myself. I may never know what his plans are but I do know this I will die and I won't be missed by anybody but I will shut up now as this has been a very long remark! And too all of you that have lost I pray and beg God to let your family and you to be able to go on and find peace some way some how! And most of all I pray that if you have no clue what we feel I pray that you never do! Hold your child and tell them you love them you never know when your life will go to hell! 😢
You've experienced so much loss... multiple life-changing losses. I know that pain runs deep for you, and there is no way anyone can know how you feel unless they, too, have experienced it. Contrary to what we've been told or what people believe, we also never just fit back onto life as we did before. You're life has shifted so many times, I'm sure it has left you reeling. Sending so much love your way. I don't know you, but my heart goes out to you. I want you to know you are loved - your children, your wife, your brother, they are all still around you and they love you immensely. Sending big hugs your way.
My 18 yr old son died by suicide 3 months ago. I am left with my wife and daughter. I feel like my whole family has died and I have been left with this new family with something missing.
I so get that feeling! This experience is a lot like living in an alternate reality. Big hugs!!
And I love ur shirt of Courage
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My 25 year old daughter was murdered, dismembered and burned by a monster of a person. We are going thru the court process now. She was also the mother of a now 2 1/2 yo daughter. Now a stranger is claiming to be her father and wants to take her from me despite me having raised her since birth. More court battles. I was only given what was found of her body to cremate. Less than 1/3 of her sits in a full sized urn. I am dying inside. I think of the pain she went through at the hand of that monster. The fear. Coupled with the loss of her and what could have been. My life is on pause. I am not functioning. I don’t want to be here. Yet here I am.
That's a lot! Circumstances and court battles certainly complicate this. Take care of yourself. I believe your daughter is still very connected to you, on this journey with you. Sending lots of love your way.
Thank you
thank you ❤
I'm a musician. It's been five months since my son died. I have not touched my instrument since that terrible day. The musician part of me has refused to play another note of music in a world without my son in it.
@BrianLatimersPage I get it!! It took me years to go back to hobbies I loved... and I don't have the same passion, but things have changed a lot over the last 8+ years... in ways I never would have expected. Your son may become your muse and inspire your best music yet. Hugs!!
Same. Lost my daughter this past July 5th. My pianos and keyboards just sit now collecting dust. Zero interest in playing anymore.
If you are looking for a peace and comfort and a hope that will truly never will leave you, I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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I love your talk that's exactly what i needed to know thanx so much and How r you holding up
I'm so glad you found it helpful. Child loss is the hardest thing we must survive.
I just lost our 6 day old daughter in December of this year and am losing my mind
Many health issues before and after the death of my 29 year old daughter …killed by a hit and run driver.
Friends and family , the majority, have not shown up for me.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Keep looking for the people that get it (or try to)... and take care of yourself. Hugs!
First my daughter then I lost myself then my marriage.. I feel alone in this and shouldn’t.
There are so many secondary losses... and the loss of self is probably the one that surprised me most. This us such a hard journey to do alone. Have you considered finding a support group? I offer a program called Living With Grief that you're welcome to check out.
Www.afterchildloss.com/lwg
Yes it is hard.I lost my 42 yrs old son through suicide .Heartbroken because wife had pushed him because of boyfriend and her mother.it is 1month ago
It seems like it’s not a way out of this pain besides the unspeakable…..living in pain and disappointment every day hurts and chips away at me
It is possible to recharge a place where grief and life coexist... where the pain of this loss dissipates and it is no longer so intense and overwhelming you struggle constantly. I am there. It takes time and doing a lot of grief work. I am proof it's possible. I offer many resources on my website to help: www.afterchildloss.com
My son died a month ago in 3 days his dad died when he was 8
I'm so so sorry! That's a lot of loss. Sending some extra love your way.
She didn’t tiptoe. Most people forget about it.
Terrible fights with husband. Don’t know if we can stay together. Furious at God.
I have lost my child two weeks ago. I am lost of myself and friends.
Hugs! If you're on Facebook, consider joining my group Living After Child Loss. Www.facebook.com/groups/livingafterchildloss
Lost my 39-year-old son today. He was never the same after Bill Gates's early demise injections.
I miss you, Matthew.
I lost my only child Robbie when he was 8 I came from a family with no affection whatsoever I never knew what it was like to feel loved by another human being until my son Robbie was born he was abused and neglected from the age of 2 onward there is no consolation I feel that I failed him murder was the only thing I could do to stop it due to the corrupt and perverted family court system that punishes father's at the cost of the children thank you for this information
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For a couple, the grief can tear their relationship apart.
From: "Word Songs of Love and Life"
“Yours Is My Sorrow” Albert Moore
Yours is my sorrow, thus must we part.
Brought to our knees from same, stilled heart.
What I can give, I cannot receive.
What you so mourn, I cannot relieve.
We shared the joy, the hope and fear.
Now more suffering it is to be near.
So dark is my soul, I cannot reveal
In anguished grief the love I feel.
In time, as it comes, I desperately pray
I will find the words we need to say.
Now we must wait for pain’s release.
Only then, together, finding solace and peace.
Somewhere, beneath grief too heavy to bear,
Know that my love for you is still there.
How did your child die did they do autopsy
@ShatterR-il6yz he had a rare blood disorder that we didn't know he had. It was a huge medical mystery. The autopsy took 7 months, we asked for it to get answers. It was a fluke that they figured it out. It led us to genetic testing where my husband and both daughters were diagnosed with the condition.
@@AfterChildLoss wow your story sounds very similar too a friend of mine their kid was vomiting and fainting before he died the kid had low iron deficiency and heart valve but the police tried too make it seem like foul play because it happened suddenly unexpectedly I hate how the police and investigators assumed the parents caused the child death automatically which is wrong corrupt
@ShatterR-il6yz unfortunately I'm sure they see such horrible things they naturally go there and question it. I get it now, but in the moment it sucked and I feel for your friend.
There was no bruising or foul play but because the kid died suddenly they automatically thought the parents caused it which it idiotic because every year hundreds of kids die from sudden unexpected deaths with completely healthy children
@ShatterR-il6yz and still the world believes kids don't die unless there is foul play. Death and child loss are just so taboo they don't want to acknowledge it happens.