When I was in the 8th grade I was placed ahead in a few subjects so I took half my classes at my local high school. I mention this because the girls in my class were 15-16 and had more experience with periods than I did. I had only been having a period for a few months and was using pads, no tampons. I bled so badly through my shorts during a work period in class that there was a pool of blood on my chair. Luckily, all of the people sitting around me were girls. I told one of them and they all rallied together, helped me get to the bathroom unseen, gave me pads, and even helped clean up the blood quickly before anyone noticed. It made me feel so cared for and turned a truly horrific moment into what is now a sweet memory. Teenage girls are sometimes mean because of how they’re socialized, but they rock too. ❤
New parents take note, we will raise better generations of teenagers / humans that treat each other with respect & help each other out whenever in need. Start by putting healthy communication & sex education as one of the priorities. Start by teaching or modeling how we respect ourselves and others by knowing what is consent, boundaries & respect 🫡
A friend and her mom did something similar on a school trip when I got my first period! Friend gave me her jacket to throw around my waist and her mom helped me to the bathroom and gave me pads! Friend even gave me a clean pair of shorts for under my school skirt! My dad was also on that trip but was, unfortunately, of no use in that moment 😂
I don't know if this is just a common trait of our nationality (Filipino) or smthn but when I was in high school, I bled through my uniform skirt MULTIPLE TIMES. Never once did anyone laugh at me. Maybe a few (esp boys) were grossed out but they instantly gave me their pads or offered their hoodies for me to cover. I really don't get why anyone would laugh at someone who bled through.
First story reminded me of the guy who always said he girlfriend smelled, she started showering 3-5 times a day, used both deodorant and perfume, brushed and flossed her teeth several times a day. And after all that he kept saying she smelled, remember what happened to her ? She broke down crying, she felt digusting and humiliated. And why did the guy say this ? Because his dad told him to, his father's words were " if you tell them they smell, they will never leave you" so what did OP (the girlfriend) do ? She left, because he abused he so badly that all her selfesteem was gone.
Yes! I remember this hitting hard when I first heard it. I'm a naturally smelly person , Upto 23 I didn't realise I was allergic to aluminium - a common ingredient in deodorant and the more deodorant I used the stronger I stunk. My ex used to tell me I was disgusting, to sort it out, the entire time I was showering constantly, changing my clothes. Anytime I went to the loo, I'd have an armpit wash, deodorant, perfume the lot. Then he'd say I stunk of perfume. He hated any perfume on me, and would say 'why can't you just smell normal?' . The anxiety around smelling was horrendous. The day I switched to natural deodorant my life was changed forever. One of the 1st things I said to my current partner when I spent the night was 'i'm naturally smelly ' and he was like 'you always smell wonderful to me' There are days I forget and he never says a word- even though I'm dying inside because I can smell myself xxxxx
And what does that have to do with this story lol? Because the guy in that story was lying about his gf smelling bad just to be a controlling abusive a hole. The girl in this story actually did stink.. badly. So I guess I don't get the comparison since that story has literally nothing to do with this one.
@@bailey7792 What i mean with the story is the girl's confidence had taken a serious hit and so the possibilty is very real that OP has now scared her daughter and she could've gone about it differently. If you didn't get that i hope this cleared it up.
yeah but this girl was probably not showering. and coming from someone with depression, you can cover it up with deodorant, perfume, and dry shampoo. but that girl did nothing 🧍♂️
The fact that K from story 2 said he would talk Ellie into terminating her pregnancy also extremely problematic who does he think he is to coerce someone into a decision like that????? No wonder OP felt disgusted by him after that
RIGHT i was reeling at that part! as if his happiness is more important than a mother's choice to keep her baby. he thinks he deserves to have his cake and eat it too, no matter who he hurts, and everyone else has to bend over backwards to create this weird alternate universe where it's ok to knock someone else up when you're in a relationship? the audacity! 😵💫
The cops needed to be called the second time he showed up at her parents house. Have him trespassed this is stocker behaviour. 100’s of calls, showing up multiple times on private property. This guy could be dangerous
Yeah that one was so disgusting! It says so much about him that he 1. Would be willing to do that to another person, 2. Thinks that admitting that he'd do that would be something his gf would appreciate and 3. Is so sure that his powers of convincing are so great he could talk a pregnant woman, who's against terminations, into terminating. That just tells you how manipulative he really is and that he'll go to any length to get his way.
So Ellie was trying to get with him all along? The audacity to show up at her house when she's the mistress and admit she's "pregnant". She tried to baby trap him and failed. Also why on the security camera was he throwing things and showing violent behaviours? This was actually a blessing to this girl, he showed his true colours before it was to late.
I LAUGHED when she was like “you’re the reason he cut me off now” biiiiiiiiiiiiitch get out, she’s just mad that she went through all that trouble and nobody won.
Omg the cousin handing out the OnlyFans coupons had me ROLLING ! If any girl handed my fiancé an OnlyFans coupon I would be going Beth from Yellowstone on their ass
I have a theory that the reason cheaters often times do some really really nice things for their partners around the time when they cheat is that not only are they trying to justify in their own head that they are not shitty people for hurting their partners because “look at all these good things I’m doing for them” but they’re also preemptively love bombing you, so that if you do find out during any of the times they cheat, you’ll have good things that may soften your anger and not take it out on them
It could be also from sort of guilt, like “I’m cheating on her but hey I got her flowers and these gifts so I can’t be a horrible person”. It’s manipulation and like you said, love bombing.
For this first story I can offer a little insight from experience. My brother is on the spectrum and when he hit puberty his hygiene was HORRIBLE. So, my parents basically badgered him into showering everyday and taking care of himself. It wasn’t soft but not harsh either it was…finish your breakfast and take a shower and it’s 10am go take a shower now! He got so fed up with us being on his butt that he did it himself at different times throughout the day and now it’s a part of his daily routine. I don’t think embarrassment at school was worth it, guilt and embarrassment at home works very well too.
Yeah, same worked fine for both my cousin and my best friend. No need for making school harder than it already is, especially if you're on the spectrum.
I 100% agree and even if you don’t have any disabilities and your just lazy that is how I can be when it comes to brushing my teeth I wish my parents would do that
@@amycate121as an asd teen, taking the pill saved my life, the sensory issues on my period were so bad, I hated myself and cried bc of how bad bleeding and cramps were, now I don’t have my period anymore bc I take a pill
4th story: Rachel's boyfriend is a smart man. All the other men went feral for Ana's "gift", but I bet he's the only one still getting laid. All the newly single women in the family should maybe consider taking advice from Rachel on how to pick em.
with anna giving out her discount code to her OF, it’s 100% sexual. the way she only gave it to her families boyfriends/husbands, not her family, not her brother’s gay husband, and not even to the wives/girlfriends of the family. i remember reading that story while i was sitting at my boyfriend’s house and literally getting a visceral reaction. she needs to cut off her fiancé and stop talking to her cousin. WIIIIILD
Im autistic so for the first story my blood was BOILING!!! that poor girl :( i’d just like to let y’all know that in the autistic community we don’t use “high functioning” or “low functioning” and rather use high or low “support needs” I’d be glad if they chose OT over ABA (since ABA is essentially conversion therapy) and i’m glad the mom realized her wrongs and is going to fix it. that’s like the best outcome to a poor situation.
Thanks for the information on high/low functioning. English is not my first language, so I had no idea it had changed. I prefer the "higher support needs" over "low functioning" though. I hope similar changes will happen in my mother tongue.
This first story makes me want to bawl. I'm a momma of a 9 year old on the spectrum- it's our job to protect these kids. She purposely made her child a target. Absolutely heartbreaking
I agree! I also have 2 daughters (6 & 8 yrs old) I could never intentionally allow either of them to be bullied! Especially about such a sensitive subject!! So glad OP learned her lesson & is actively helping her daughter be able to do the same.
Hey momma, you're a rock star for taking care of & advocating for your little one ❤ I'm a caregiver (with a few clients on the spectrum) & I would like to add yes always protect your child, but it is also your job to teach your child important & valuable life lessons I see it a lot when parents prioritize sheltering their child over allowing them to have experiences, make mistakes & learn. Which ultimately ends up holding them back & it's painful to see. I've met lots of individuals with varying disabilities functioning at a level much lower than they are capable of from being sheltered this way & which stunts their development. Parents are often blind to it because they are just happy the child is safe. But the reality is they've limited their child's quality of life. & what happens if one day, they are no longer around? A child who would one day be capable of living an independent & fulfilling life could instead end up in a home with strangers put in charge of their well being. & Unfortunately many in the nursing industry do NOT have the best interest of their patients in mind. I've sadly seen it many times & reports of abuse often get thrown out because of how under staffed these facilities typically are. Unfortunately this momma found herself in a tough spot between protecting her daughter by doing all the work & clean up for her VS teaching her the importance of basic hygiene through a tough love life lesson. Unable to find the middle ground If were her, I would still offer help to get cleaned up & give lots of reminders, but ultimately make it clear her personal hygiene is her responsibility & work towards getting her to a place of as much independence she is capable of. Ie whenever she's messy or smelly point it out & remind her that means it's time to shower & asks if she would like some help. Set up a simple reward system. Give lots of praise. Communicate with the school nurse & her teachers to also inforce these things at school. Remind her to pack a change of clothes & toiletries but also give a backup set of clothes to the school nurse & an extra precaution. (Getting the school staff involved would also add that social aspect of why hygiene is important as apposed to it coming in the form of bullying from her peers) Parents of disabled children don't get enough credit for doing their best, making mistakes learning through trial & error, & for when they experience burn out. My heart goes out to both the mother & daughter in this story. I hope the daughter is thriving & mom & dad both getting more educated everyday
Story 4 was way too wild and I so agree with Alejandra - the cousin is full on an asshole for doing what she did but the fiancé showed his true colors. It’s tragic that she had a shit holiday in addition to learning how crap her fiancé was to act that way. I LOVE the discussions y’all get to ❣️
If those discount cards were a sort of relationship/trust test, every male in-law/boyfriend failed except the guy who told his wife 😂 congrats to that one cousin for having a loyal and communicative partner 😂😂
On the missing the Dr. Appt story, it’s reminding me of the one story where the boyfriend abandoned his partner at the hospital after appendicitis for a World Cup match, then his family harassed her at Christmas but they where engaged at this point and expecting… same guy?
OMG yea! I remember that. She had a similar story where he wasn't supporting her after too, like obviously, and reddit just collectively gave up and then the girl ended up DEFENDING their marriage.
Story 2: honestly I learned from a while back that the person cheating on you 9/10 they hate themselves. Dude is going to school with no debt, from a wealthy family, had a woman that loved him with her whole heart and still he decided to blow his whole life up. Idk that’s so pathetic and sad to me and obviously it’s still hurts to be cheated on but when you put that mindset to it. It’s like you don’t even feel sad for yourself anymore cus you know your gonna be fine at the end of the day but this man could have had everything now he gonna be searching for anything 🤦🏾♀️… but idk maybe it’s just me that thinks like that. I been though some bs lol
The story of the girl walking on bf hits deep, when I got cheated on I didn’t walk in but hear it on our security cameras…. My heart shattered, I’m still trying to pick up the pieces…. This has been the tough 4 months I can remember
I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. Take all the time you need to heal, the betrayal is intense. Setting boundaries is a good way to get back control and self worth. But you do whatever you need to get back to being you. You didn't deserve it.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I have also been on the receiving end of cheating, but I never discovered him in the act. I can only imagine how traumatic that must be, and your trauma is valid! It's a horrible, horrible thing to experience and it hurts the heart so much to have a loved one betray you so deeply. Stay strong and don't let him manipulate you into staying with him because it is very rare that cheating is an isolated incident!
Story 3: I’m a mom who’s adopted my children. Each child has a different style of adoption with completely different bio family stories. With one child we have an open adoption and we are very secure in our position of being the parents, but I can tell you that if I had a brother or brother-in-law make these jokes I would be very upset. Jokes like this would make my kids feel on the outside of the family, would make them feel less than. And depending on where I was in my infertility journey and healing this would hinder my ability to move forward. Definitely the AH
with the first story i feel like the simple, sensory friendly solution is just to get her thinx underwear or the ones in that style from aerie, i have adhd and forget to change out what ever i’m using a lot of the time so those underwear have been really helpful. strongly recommend edit: after doing some research i’ve learned that Thinx and some other brands of period underwear contain PFAS which can cause a lot of negative health affects so before buying do your research on the brand’s reliability and if anyone can find out if aerie also have PFAS let me know bc i couldn’t find anything
hey! i have adhd also and have started using modi bodi period underwear and had have no issues! they also have more traditionally “masculine” style underwear which is great for trans inclusivity! overall 10/10, but not sure what shipping is like (i’m in UK so wasn’t too expensive)
About the OnlyFans marketing, I know someone who just started hers, made business cards, and asked her male friends to leave a bunch in the male bathroom at bars. Anyone that flirts with her, gets a card. That's the only way she has marketed so far and has a decent following.
As a pregnant person with an autistic husband who also walked in on my ex husband cheating on me previously, this episode had me SCREAMING at the TV so many times 😂
As soon as I open the app I see the new episode!!! Having a rough start to the year but I can always count on Morgan and everyone on THT to make my day :)
This is where we are as a society : successfully making women feel insecure for having common sense and feeling a certain way when their SO act disrespectful
We need to make up our mind... Either Only-Fans is supercool "Get your bag" OR The partners were wrong to check out the quote "whore" unquote cousin's account. It can't be both. It can't be both. Somebody's father, somebody's husband, somebody's boyfriend .... is paying her cousin to see her cousin naked.
@@adhilakhan4333I think it's specifically because it's HER cousin. Like that's your partners family member you see regularly enough. That's where it goes into uncomfortable territory. It'd be different if it was a stranger!
*no* *no* *no* BE CONSISTENT. Somebody's father, somebody's husband, somebody's boyfriend .... is paying her cousin to see her cousin naked. *Either* Only-Fans is supercool "Get your bag" *OR* The partners were wrong to check out the quote "whore" unquote cousin's account. PICK ONE.
As someone who's autistic hygen can be hard. For me its the transition, getting in the shower isn't that bad, but getting out is awful because I hate being wet and cold and I hate having wet hair. Sometimes its also just a matter of legitimately forgetting. I'd also like to add that the terms "high functioning" and "low functioning" are generally avoided within the community because it implies that some people are "more" autistic than others when we're all just autistic. I'd recommend looking into the support needs model.
I'm neurodivergent. Mom is the ahole. 10000% you will not change my mind. Do you know how awful it is to have all your actions motivated by fear? Mom and/or dad aren't doing what they need to to set their child up for success. I mean here Mom set her up for failure, but I'm talking before this, they were not putting enough effort in to raising the child they have. Like they're probably regularly putting in the effort to raise a NT kid, but not their ND one. They probably put her in ABA too, or would have had it been an option. Also just a heads up, a lot of the community does not like functioning labels like high or low functioning.
Sorry, but as someone that is also “neurodivergent”, I fully disagree. If she’s capable of taking care of her own hygiene, like the story clearly states after she learned a lesson, she’s just stubborn. The mother said she actively fought, and it makes the community look bad. People already think autism is either black or grey; this only makes it worse. And also, just say autistic. Are you ashamed of it, so you instead have to prep it up with the scientific reference? Also, YES. There is a huge difference between someone who is throwing poop at you (personal experience with a kid) and somebody who can drive a car and function normally within a society. I don’t give a damn about “labeling autism”. Sometimes it’s important. God damn, it’s like nobody understands that autism is legitimately different for everyone. Now, we don’t know what range of the spectrum she falls on, and I could be overlooking certain sensory issues. But this to me, at least how the mother told it, seems like defiance. Some people just need to be called people and be held accountable. People damn, we are people. We’re not.. aliens.
Story 5 makes me think that maybe the guy is having an affair, and that's why he keeps missing the scans. Men have audacity, but missing every single scan for something as small as football or fish and chips? That you can get out of, but having an empty house for an hour? Perfect opportunity to bring someone over
The story about her boyfriend sleeping with their friend… wow. My heart breaks for her. That’s an ultimate betrayal. I especially can’t imagine walking in on that. Some people are trying disgusting.
Going through catching my boyfriend cheating because of “hey girl” texts it was a lot easier to end up forgiving him. One day though I caught him cheating with my own eyes and something just snapped where it felt like any ties or resemblance of love that was left was gone and cut off I just packed everything and left blocking him on everything. I thought maybe giving the benefit of the doubt would make things ok after the first time but at that point I was just gaslighting myself into staying. Moral of the story trust your guts and don’t give second chances with that sort of stuff it doesn’t matter how loving you are. :/
The Mom’s update about her daughter’s discomfort wearing pads/tampons literally made me cry. Sure, she realized what she did was wrong, but once her daughter shared her discomfort she should’ve reached out to her doctor and found a way to help her. She didn’t take care of herself because she was actually physically uncomfortable, she needed help and her person she could go to for womanly help and advice, turned her out to the wolves to be dinner. How heartbreaking.
I feel for the mama tbh. She got burnt out & made a hard switch from doing all the hygiene & clean up for her to "f*ck around & find out" & "bet you won't do that again" She seemed at such a loss for what to do to help her daughter & from the sounds of it the father wasn't helping much Parents of children with disabilities don't get enough grace. I'm a caregiver & burn out is extremely common for us workers but 10× more for the parents who don't get to clock out at the end of the day like i do, didn't sign up to work with disabilities like I did, and didn't receive all the training & information in advance like I got. &on top of that, the state makes them jump through so many over complicated & sometimes impossible hurdles in order to get any sort of help. My heart goes out to both mama & daughter. I hope the both parents have been able to obtain more information & support and their daughter thriving
I’m autistic and really struggled with hygiene as a kid. Still do, but it was especially traumatic during puberty. Autistic people experience things differently and we are very susceptible to developing trauma from experiences others might consider no big deal. If my mom did what OP did to her daughter, I would never trust her again. It is already so hard to keep up with the social standards of everyone else, the last thing that poor girl needs is to be bullied and shamed by her own mother. My mom telling me people will think I’m gross if I didn’t have better hygiene didn’t help me, it just made me feel more like a freak that was bad at being a person. Instead, address WHY she’s not managing her hygiene. If my mom had just asked I would’ve broke down crying about how hard it is to gather the energy to take care of my body, and when I did it was incredibly distressing and even painful (like brushing my hair). I just needed help, not shame. Also a note for Morgan: most autistic people find functioning labels really offensive. Not all, but it is something to be mindful of.
That first story pissed me off. As a thirty year old autistic person who has periods I have struggled for years with hygiene during periods. I recently discovered period panties and it has made such a difference. There are ways to accommodate the sensory nightmares
Out of curiosity, as someone who's experienced similar struggles to the daughter, what would you recommend a mother in her position should do instead? I agree she did not handle it properly, but she also seemed incredibly burnt out & at a loss for what to do. Unfortunately lot of parents don't get much help or information Hopefully you're perspective & insight could help others from making the same mistake(s)
Morgan- I’m an OT student about to head out on my first Level II fieldwork in a peds setting and it made my heart so happy to hear your OT perspective 🥹 Thank you for spreading that OT awareness bc you know we need it lol ❤ Love you guys and THT!
There are period pants that you don't need to have a pad or tampon. The blood soaks in like a pad. There are light, medium, and heavy flow pants. They are great for anyone, especially children.
My depression makes it so hard to brush my teeth/hair and showering is almost impossible. Idk if I have autism, I've never been tested, but I can imagine that it is even harder to keep that train of thought
I got my FIRST period in bluejeans in school. The popular girls went to the vp and had me called down in front of the whole class while giggling. My mom hadn't even taught me about my period yet (think I was 9), so I was scared and sobbing. the nurse helped and was kind. but they sent me back to class in the same jeans. My friend lent me a sweater and said it happens to the best of us. I'm 27 now and still can feel how mortified I was. I feel so sorry for the girl.
I disagree that the cousin shouldn’t take any blame. Women are more emotionally (and I think logically) intelligent. She knew exactly what she was doing and completely disrespecting her cousins AND their relationships. To their faces.
My boyfriend and I are both staying sober this year! We found a blueberry pomegranate juice in the juice section, made big ice cubes, and topped it with sprite/7up. Add a little mint and a lemon slice and it's absolutely delicious and refreshing! Highly recommend. :)
For story 1 maybe she could look into other period products like period underwear? something that might be more comfortable for her daughter. I have an autistic brother who struggles with hygiene so we’ve found products he’s comfortable with and ones he likes.
I work with children with Autism and there families & one of the story is really nice too hear! Love hearing you guys putting these kinds of stories on your podcast♥
I had to go to my anatomy scan alone because Rona. I was told I had a rare placenta tumor that baby likely couldn't survive, baby appeared to have a very bad heart defect, and his kidneys looked off but that was probably because the heart. I then had to get in the car where my husband had my 3y/o, 2y/o, and infant waiting, and I had to somehow tell him.
my brother has FAS and he’s 19 and my parents have to remind him everyday to put on deodorant, take a shower. And he HATES brushing his teeth it always ends up in a fight. This is just my brother but i’ve seen other people with disabilities struggle with hygiene too.
Someone needs to tell the mother from the first story about menstrual cups, honey pot co pads (still cotton but different more comfortable feeling), reusable pads, reusable panties, there’s so many options other than the regular pads and tampons.
Not even 8 minutes in and I’m bawling. Screaming at my phone “SHES FKN AUTISTIC!” I hope this story gets better but I might have to wait for the rest of this episode if they’re all this upsetting :(
@@TwoHotTakes thanks for the reply! I’m glad I continued the episode once I calmed down ❤ I never skip episodes sometimes I just have to wait til I’m in a better headspace.
16:43 I got my first period IN CLASS in the 5th grade. Obviously I didn't tell her I was bleeding, she saw the blood. My teacher was so sweet; I will forever remember and be grateful to her for her kindness that day. She handed me her sweater to tie around my waist so no one would see. She cleaned my chair with wipes and told me to tell my mom when I got home.
It’s infuriating how many dad’s skip the important appointments during pregnancy. My husband couldn’t attend any of my appointments with our first due to Covid restrictions. With our second, I always tried to schedule the big appointments during his days off and whenever it wasn’t possible, he would take the day off and go with me. That poor lady has to deal with all of that alone. I remember how nervous and anxious I felt during my first pregnancy knowing that if I got any bad news, I would be alone to take that in.
I'm 29, watching this on 2/29/24, and I legit feel still like I'm 25. I've felt that way for a few years now and thought I was alone till talking to my bestfriends recently. It really helped me not feel alone, and then hearing you, Morgan, say the same thing. It made me feel so much less crazy!
That first story makes me so sad. I couldn’t imagine allowing my daughter to go to school knowing she would get bullied or made fun of…. I never want my daughter to have to experience this cruel world. She will forever hear what those kids said in her brain, she will be 30 and still think about it. I know it is fustrating but keep being a parent and protect and teach your child.
My best friend and i are huge fans and it be great if you guys would come to El Paso ! Can’t wait to see the podcast grow more and more ! Love you guys
Two things I wanted to say, this episode made me feel so lucky, first: the pregnancy story. When I was pregnant my appointments were hours away in a different state because of my insurance still being my moms and it was the better insurance option at the time. In the beginning until almost half way through I went to every appointment with my mom instead of my husband because he was at work which i didn’t mind. After my belly grew a lot he drove me to every appointment even when he couldn’t go in the room with me. The throwing up palate cleanse story: can’t help but giggle, we were out of town and I felt sick in the car. I thought it would pass, drank some water and took some medicine. All of a sudden threw up on myself. My husband pulled over on the highway and got me a new shirt from the luggage in the trunk and he helped me get myself cleaned up. I’m keeping him forever 😂🥰
Story 5: She is definitely gonna be a married single mother and I mean that as in, she is gonna be the sole caretaker of their child and her husband is most likely only going to be involved when it’s convenient to him. He’s not gonna get up for the midnight feedings or diaper changes, he’s probably gonna use weaponized incompetence to get out of basic childcare, sure he may take them to the park or to get ice cream and be the “fun” parent, but when shit hits the fan, he’s gonna leave that all to her. This is all, of course, an assumption, but the type of man who would say, “Im not the one carrying the baby” is definitely not the kind of man who’s gonna be involved when it matters most.
My parents were abusive/negligent and always made me feel like a burden. I was depressed and just didn’t have the energy to care about my hygiene. I feel like there’s something going on mentally that needs to be addressed without giving her emotional trauma.
For story 4: you can be mad at the cousin 😂 idgaf, I’m mad at both of them. Tf is my cousin giving my man her only fans promo code like tf is wrong with her. Be VERY mad at your man but you can be mad at your cousin
I don’t think the mom was wrong, it’s a natural consequence and at 14 they should know what’s going to trigger them and at least try to remedy it. And the fact that afterwards they were able to keep themselves decent shows it could have been done the whole time.
i understand why you say that, but that 14 year old girl is on the autism spectrum, her mind is not the same as neurotypical individuals. that poor girl is going to be upset and traumatized for a very long time. the mom had good intentions but carried them out in a horribly wrong way.
For the first story. Wow as a parent i absolutely could never. Just goes to show that sometimes your parents are your first bullies! Her mom set her up and the question is why.
37:33 something similar to me when I was 20 and my family offered to fly me home and just leave and take care of everything and I was too naive at the time too. This girl is so so strong!!
the first story had me on the verge of tears just as someone who has been bullied that mother is cruel and heartless and i only hope she has a kind relative she can stay with if she cant live independently as an adult bcz with a mom like that theres no way you would want to live with her
The beginning bit is so true, the covid part. I was like 20-21? When covid started, now I'm almost halfway through my 20's (I have a few years until I'm 25...well 🙄 a year...). Where did the time go? I feel so young and so ancient at the same time. I feel like I've missed out on everything 🥺.
My thoughts on the first story, and I haven't even finished it yet, are, a, proper parenting and how they mother/parents handled period talk and talk about puberty, hygiene etc, if it isn't spoken about or practiced regularly, how is a kid supposed to know. My second thought is therapy. what is the underlying reason of not wanting to practice proper hygiene or feeling unable to. not to do something humiliating, unsupportive, and unhygenic to your young child in a difficult, strange part of life
What gets me is that in the update she even says the kid had a therapist on deck so she had that resource and didn’t take it, and then intentionally set her kid up to be humiliated
1:24:02 - fun fact, there is a difference between "fries" and "chips" and it's all to do with the cut of the potato. Thin cuts are fries whereas thick cuts are chips.
I asked my boyfriend what would he do in this situation (about the cousins Christmas gift) and he said that he would tell me after we left to not cause drama or ruin Christmas. Which I could respect because I would have definitely shut down the party.
i’m an autistic teen who struggles with hygiene too and the first story is honestly so heartbreaking. the reason for my bad hygiene is because things like brushing my teeth and multiple products touching my skin are AWFUL sensory experiences i unfortunately tend to avoid. however my mother has never shamed me and instead of using public humiliation as a punishment, she helped me find things that make the sensory experiences less uncomfortable and helped me set smaller milestones instead of pushing me into the deep end like this mom
The adoption one is literally so gross. I’ve been fostering my nephew for going on two years and have been fighting so hard to get it pushed to adoption and hopefully that’s coming to close this year. If anyone sat and joked about my nephews bio parents coming to the door I’d flip. His mom has shown up at our house, broken into our cars. Like it’s scary and not fun to go through all of that and though they just adopted you have no idea where bio parents come from and what type of behaviors they have. Terrible way to joke with those parents.
The Fiancé getting the Only Fans discount Gift had me 😂 I Wonder what He was thinking when He got it, then what he was thinking when he found out she was handing them out around to the other Family Partners. That’s is weird as haha and I find it so funny someone could receive that ✨gift✨ and then be like “Ooo I better hide this one 🤭 hehe” bloody Weirdo and the cousin is right off too for her gift idea haha holey crap 🤣🤣
For that first story. With my experience, that is an example how ABA therapy can help moments of puberty, role playing at home and giving them a routine, step by step. Checking things off, using products with their favorite characters, colors, anything that grabs the attention to push them to be like “ oh no I forgot to use my Barbie body wash” or whatever that may be. It’s a hard adjustment but it can be so beneficial by just asking so many questions in the right way and setting
I saw another comment here saying ABA is a form of conversion therapy and I just want to say while I’m not trying to diminish the experience but a good and dedicated ABA therapist isn’t that at all. With the right application and sincerity it works well for so many young kids and children. ( if u see ABA feeling like conversion, get a new therapist ) because we all use applied behaviors in life, politeness in serious settings in an applied behavior we use and deem as “ typical” . OT is an amazing benefit but like a lot of things it isn’t a one size fits all, not everyone works well with just ABA or OT, a combination is amazing, someone’s just one or the other.
It makes me so sad that the history of ABA being used to control vs teach and foster growth and independence has led to it being so reactively demonized. It is really misunderstood, and nowadays most ABA therapists are incredible at what they do. I really hope this slowly changes. It can be so helpful and the narrative these days keeps people from accessing such a valuable resource
Something similar happened to my mom, she got her first period while she was wearing white without knowing what period was bc my grandmother had never given her “the talk” and got made fun of by her peers for the stain… she’s in her mid 40s and this memory still haunts her.. poor child she’s going to live with that for the rest of her life..
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Thinking about the guy talking about cleaning bodily fluids - I remember getting in the car with my partner & I had a peppermint milkshake earlier in the day. Something made me burp & I puked into my hand & it got in the car - I could still taste the peppermint, lol. My beloved partner didn't even question. They asked if I was ok & ran up to the house to get paper towels & a bottle of water. I was crying from embarrassment & apologizing, but they were insisting it was ok & asking if I was sick or needed to stay home and rest. Any time I've been ill, whether it's puking, coughing, or sneezing, struggling with being overwhelmed due to my autism, reminding me to take my meds or to practice healthy eating to ease my disordered eating symptoms, he is there for me & I hope I can continue to be there for them as much as they have been for me. I love my partner, and I hope I get to marry them one day. We're going on 3 years come November. I've never known love like ours before.
As a fellow midwesterner, we say "unthaw" but it's one of those things that doesn't actually mean what we mean when we say it. "Unthaw" would mean "freeze", but it means "defrost" or "thaw" when we say it.
My sister is on the spectrum and still struggles with showers at age 23. Luckily my mom worked in special Ed, worked closely with OTs, and knew to find alternatives. The solution was to “dry shower” with baby wipes, apply deodorant, and change into fresh undies and clothes daily, in between full showers. Sis still does that to this day and very rarely needs to be gently nudged to shower due to any kind of odor or greasy hair. I struggle with mental illness so sometimes I struggle with showers too and employ the same method when that’s the case. Poor girl, I’m glad her mom learned from her mistake.
As someone who suffers from heavy periods, I know how hard it is to avoid bleeding through some days and I'm not on the spectrum as far as I know. Kids can be cruel. When I was in high school I would at least look out for other girls, if I noticed the bleeding I would at least say something and see if we could find something for her to change into or put over her clothes but not teens or kids care, they just want to fit in and make jokes. I can't imagine purposely doing that to a teen. I'm happy the mother at least learn from this experience.
I used to suffer from heavy periods, my saviors have been birth control and menstrual cups. Even with just the menstrual cups they kept me from bleeding through.
@Its Steph same I took that during my junior and senior year and most of the beginning of my adult life but I stopped a few years ago to attempt getting pregnant. Edit: for birth control, I don't use the cups.
I knew a family that had 3 adopted kids and one of the bio parents of the kid tried taking him back. If anyone made a joke during or after they fought to keep him with his family, the 'jokester' would be more than kicked out. Ethan did the right thing even if Joey's bio parents aren't in the picture but if they are it's going to helurt even more
I 100% agree with their take on story 1. It is up to the parents to teach their daughter how to have good hygiene and up to them and her team (therapists, teachers etc) to figure out what works best for her and what the problems are and how to fix them. Autism is hard enough on someone (I have a daughter with severe Autism) and her home and her family is where and with who she should feel the safest and most protected. Shame on this mother for putting her through that instead of finding a better way.
When I was in the 8th grade I was placed ahead in a few subjects so I took half my classes at my local high school. I mention this because the girls in my class were 15-16 and had more experience with periods than I did. I had only been having a period for a few months and was using pads, no tampons. I bled so badly through my shorts during a work period in class that there was a pool of blood on my chair. Luckily, all of the people sitting around me were girls. I told one of them and they all rallied together, helped me get to the bathroom unseen, gave me pads, and even helped clean up the blood quickly before anyone noticed. It made me feel so cared for and turned a truly horrific moment into what is now a sweet memory. Teenage girls are sometimes mean because of how they’re socialized, but they rock too. ❤
Good on them, those are some real ones, they are the “good ones out there”
New parents take note, we will raise better generations of teenagers / humans that treat each other with respect & help each other out whenever in need. Start by putting healthy communication & sex education as one of the priorities. Start by teaching or modeling how we respect ourselves and others by knowing what is consent, boundaries & respect 🫡
A friend and her mom did something similar on a school trip when I got my first period! Friend gave me her jacket to throw around my waist and her mom helped me to the bathroom and gave me pads! Friend even gave me a clean pair of shorts for under my school skirt! My dad was also on that trip but was, unfortunately, of no use in that moment 😂
I don't know if this is just a common trait of our nationality (Filipino) or smthn but when I was in high school, I bled through my uniform skirt MULTIPLE TIMES. Never once did anyone laugh at me. Maybe a few (esp boys) were grossed out but they instantly gave me their pads or offered their hoodies for me to cover. I really don't get why anyone would laugh at someone who bled through.
I loved reading this. This made my day! ❤
First story reminded me of the guy who always said he girlfriend smelled, she started showering 3-5 times a day, used both deodorant and perfume, brushed and flossed her teeth several times a day. And after all that he kept saying she smelled, remember what happened to her ? She broke down crying, she felt digusting and humiliated. And why did the guy say this ? Because his dad told him to, his father's words were " if you tell them they smell, they will never leave you" so what did OP (the girlfriend) do ? She left, because he abused he so badly that all her selfesteem was gone.
Yes! I remember this hitting hard when I first heard it. I'm a naturally smelly person , Upto 23 I didn't realise I was allergic to aluminium - a common ingredient in deodorant and the more deodorant I used the stronger I stunk. My ex used to tell me I was disgusting, to sort it out, the entire time I was showering constantly, changing my clothes. Anytime I went to the loo, I'd have an armpit wash, deodorant, perfume the lot. Then he'd say I stunk of perfume. He hated any perfume on me, and would say 'why can't you just smell normal?' . The anxiety around smelling was horrendous.
The day I switched to natural deodorant my life was changed forever. One of the 1st things I said to my current partner when I spent the night was 'i'm naturally smelly ' and he was like 'you always smell wonderful to me' There are days I forget and he never says a word- even though I'm dying inside because I can smell myself xxxxx
My ex low key did this to me. My current boyfriend asked me why I'm always worried I smell because I never smell bad. It all clicked like holy fuck.
And what does that have to do with this story lol? Because the guy in that story was lying about his gf smelling bad just to be a controlling abusive a hole. The girl in this story actually did stink.. badly. So I guess I don't get the comparison since that story has literally nothing to do with this one.
@@bailey7792 What i mean with the story is the girl's confidence had taken a serious hit and so the possibilty is very real that OP has now scared her daughter and she could've gone about it differently. If you didn't get that i hope this cleared it up.
yeah but this girl was probably not showering. and coming from someone with depression, you can cover it up with deodorant, perfume, and dry shampoo. but that girl did nothing 🧍♂️
If the gift wasn’t sexual and was “just marketing “ why didn’t the actual cousins get some?
Yes, I thought the exact same
and the gay husband
This!!! Cousin Anna sucks and I would cut her from my life!
Rachel is the only one with a loyal man...damn
This!! I would have zero issues (if I could afford it) sub for them $5 a month to support them! But....then loose the link 😅
RE: the cousin with the OF. She knew exactly what she was doing and the problems it would cause. She wanted that attention.
Hell, it seems like a warning to the cousins too.
Plot twist the gift was actually showing the brothers in-law true colors
morgan using “perioded” as a verb is so good i love u morg
Love youuu ❤😂
Morgan your so good at podcast I love u AHHHH
The fact that K from story 2 said he would talk Ellie into terminating her pregnancy also extremely problematic who does he think he is to coerce someone into a decision like that????? No wonder OP felt disgusted by him after that
RIGHT i was reeling at that part! as if his happiness is more important than a mother's choice to keep her baby. he thinks he deserves to have his cake and eat it too, no matter who he hurts, and everyone else has to bend over backwards to create this weird alternate universe where it's ok to knock someone else up when you're in a relationship? the audacity! 😵💫
The cops needed to be called the second time he showed up at her parents house. Have him trespassed this is stocker behaviour. 100’s of calls, showing up multiple times on private property. This guy could be dangerous
Yeah that one was so disgusting!
It says so much about him that he 1. Would be willing to do that to another person, 2. Thinks that admitting that he'd do that would be something his gf would appreciate and 3. Is so sure that his powers of convincing are so great he could talk a pregnant woman, who's against terminations, into terminating. That just tells you how manipulative he really is and that he'll go to any length to get his way.
So Ellie was trying to get with him all along? The audacity to show up at her house when she's the mistress and admit she's "pregnant". She tried to baby trap him and failed. Also why on the security camera was he throwing things and showing violent behaviours? This was actually a blessing to this girl, he showed his true colours before it was to late.
I LAUGHED when she was like “you’re the reason he cut me off now” biiiiiiiiiiiiitch get out, she’s just mad that she went through all that trouble and nobody won.
Omg the cousin handing out the OnlyFans coupons had me ROLLING ! If any girl handed my fiancé an OnlyFans coupon I would be going Beth from Yellowstone on their ass
Facts. Straight slap across the face
They're blessed bc the fiance's/ husband's true characters were shone. Or maybe that's just me trying to see the bright side in every situation.
@@geemorales3555 yeah, but still she shouldn’t be giving her of to literal married or taken men
i love her that’s HILARIOUS
@@diya-hn2wy tf is vvrong with you.
I have a theory that the reason cheaters often times do some really really nice things for their partners around the time when they cheat is that not only are they trying to justify in their own head that they are not shitty people for hurting their partners because “look at all these good things I’m doing for them” but they’re also preemptively love bombing you, so that if you do find out during any of the times they cheat, you’ll have good things that may soften your anger and not take it out on them
It's also part of their manipulative defense if they get caught. "I've done so much for you. You weren't doing enough for me."
It could be also from sort of guilt, like “I’m cheating on her but hey I got her flowers and these gifts so I can’t be a horrible person”. It’s manipulation and like you said, love bombing.
That’s a super valid and probably factual theory.
yes! in mental healthcare we call it the coping mechanism of “undoing” and “compensating”
i’ve learned to question people that love bomb that way. like what are you trying to prove?
For this first story I can offer a little insight from experience. My brother is on the spectrum and when he hit puberty his hygiene was HORRIBLE. So, my parents basically badgered him into showering everyday and taking care of himself. It wasn’t soft but not harsh either it was…finish your breakfast and take a shower and it’s 10am go take a shower now! He got so fed up with us being on his butt that he did it himself at different times throughout the day and now it’s a part of his daily routine. I don’t think embarrassment at school was worth it, guilt and embarrassment at home works very well too.
Yeah, same worked fine for both my cousin and my best friend. No need for making school harder than it already is, especially if you're on the spectrum.
I agree. Period undies are the best invention for my ASD teens.
I 100% agree and even if you don’t have any disabilities and your just lazy that is how I can be when it comes to brushing my teeth I wish my parents would do that
@@amycate121as an asd teen, taking the pill saved my life, the sensory issues on my period were so bad, I hated myself and cried bc of how bad bleeding and cramps were, now I don’t have my period anymore bc I take a pill
@@Lenalemonss thank you for sharing your experience. Something we have talked about and considered. At the end of the day it is their decision.
Alejandra was mixing “defrost” and “thaw”.
I chuckled listening to her. A lot of people mix the two and it’s pretty funny!😂
I have an aunt who says unthaw and won't change lol. We all pick on her 😂 her kids are ruthless about it
4th story: Rachel's boyfriend is a smart man. All the other men went feral for Ana's "gift", but I bet he's the only one still getting laid. All the newly single women in the family should maybe consider taking advice from Rachel on how to pick em.
with anna giving out her discount code to her OF, it’s 100% sexual. the way she only gave it to her families boyfriends/husbands, not her family, not her brother’s gay husband, and not even to the wives/girlfriends of the family. i remember reading that story while i was sitting at my boyfriend’s house and literally getting a visceral reaction. she needs to cut off her fiancé and stop talking to her cousin. WIIIIILD
Yes, this! Ditch the fiance and never, ever speak to the cousin again.
I hated how the hosts were trynna be like thank her for what she did this isnt the time or place 😭
Im autistic so for the first story my blood was BOILING!!! that poor girl :(
i’d just like to let y’all know that in the autistic community we don’t use “high functioning” or “low functioning” and rather use high or low “support needs”
I’d be glad if they chose OT over ABA (since ABA is essentially conversion therapy) and i’m glad the mom realized her wrongs and is going to fix it. that’s like the best outcome to a poor situation.
Thanks for the information on high/low functioning. English is not my first language, so I had no idea it had changed. I prefer the "higher support needs" over "low functioning" though. I hope similar changes will happen in my mother tongue.
Thanks for sharing. Another thing my OT education pounded into me so great to have language that’s actually desired ❤
@@TwoHotTakes no problem! i love you guys and this show so much 🤍
@@SammyLammy1D of course! glad i could help in any way 🤍
@@torijeri youre so sweet. i also appreciate the lil lesson.
This first story makes me want to bawl. I'm a momma of a 9 year old on the spectrum- it's our job to protect these kids. She purposely made her child a target. Absolutely heartbreaking
I agree! I also have 2 daughters (6 & 8 yrs old) I could never intentionally allow either of them to be bullied! Especially about such a sensitive subject!! So glad OP learned her lesson & is actively helping her daughter be able to do the same.
I see your point,but after everything the mum tried...what was she supposed to do? The kid would've never learnt.
Hey momma, you're a rock star for taking care of & advocating for your little one ❤
I'm a caregiver (with a few clients on the spectrum) & I would like to add yes always protect your child, but it is also your job to teach your child important & valuable life lessons
I see it a lot when parents prioritize sheltering their child over allowing them to have experiences, make mistakes & learn. Which ultimately ends up holding them back & it's painful to see. I've met lots of individuals with varying disabilities functioning at a level much lower than they are capable of from being sheltered this way & which stunts their development. Parents are often blind to it because they are just happy the child is safe. But the reality is they've limited their child's quality of life. & what happens if one day, they are no longer around? A child who would one day be capable of living an independent & fulfilling life could instead end up in a home with strangers put in charge of their well being. & Unfortunately many in the nursing industry do NOT have the best interest of their patients in mind. I've sadly seen it many times & reports of abuse often get thrown out because of how under staffed these facilities typically are.
Unfortunately this momma found herself in a tough spot between protecting her daughter by doing all the work & clean up for her VS teaching her the importance of basic hygiene through a tough love life lesson. Unable to find the middle ground
If were her, I would still offer help to get cleaned up & give lots of reminders, but ultimately make it clear her personal hygiene is her responsibility & work towards getting her to a place of as much independence she is capable of.
Ie whenever she's messy or smelly point it out & remind her that means it's time to shower & asks if she would like some help. Set up a simple reward system. Give lots of praise. Communicate with the school nurse & her teachers to also inforce these things at school. Remind her to pack a change of clothes & toiletries but also give a backup set of clothes to the school nurse & an extra precaution. (Getting the school staff involved would also add that social aspect of why hygiene is important as apposed to it coming in the form of bullying from her peers)
Parents of disabled children don't get enough credit for doing their best, making mistakes learning through trial & error, & for when they experience burn out.
My heart goes out to both the mother & daughter in this story. I hope the daughter is thriving & mom & dad both getting more educated everyday
Story 4 was way too wild and I so agree with Alejandra - the cousin is full on an asshole for doing what she did but the fiancé showed his true colors. It’s tragic that she had a shit holiday in addition to learning how crap her fiancé was to act that way.
I LOVE the discussions y’all get to ❣️
If those discount cards were a sort of relationship/trust test, every male in-law/boyfriend failed except the guy who told his wife 😂 congrats to that one cousin for having a loyal and communicative partner 😂😂
my clinical psych professor in undergrad said "everything happens for a reason, we just might never find out the reason" and i was like omg...tea
The doctor’s appointment one is a great reminder to be careful who you have kids with.
Exactly, your kids cannot pick their father but you can!
FOR REAL!!! People need to discuss having kids and be completely honest cause not everyone wants kids
@@wv9459 that and most of these lazy patterns are present before the child comes into the picture. A baby will not make someone do anything.
It's so nice listening to your podcasts while I draw. It's like hanging out with friends and listening to them talk and it makes me less lonely
Omg i do the same thing when I paint
I listen when I clean. Helps my mind focus.
Unrelated to the stories, but is Morgan wearing a T-shirt with Drew Afualo’s face on it? That’s friendship goals! ❤️👏🏻
I was wondering the same! I was like wait is that drew?!?!?
omg i didn't even notice 😂 love iittt !!!! 💗
Yes it is! It’s a collab with chnge and I think profits went to an org - Gender Justice (if im remembering correctly)
Jesus that cheating story had some major plot twists 😳
It's the consistent "But wait..!"
I was so invested lolol
Right.. like what in the Maury is going on here
On the missing the Dr. Appt story, it’s reminding me of the one story where the boyfriend abandoned his partner at the hospital after appendicitis for a World Cup match, then his family harassed her at Christmas but they where engaged at this point and expecting… same guy?
OMG yea! I remember that. She had a similar story where he wasn't supporting her after too, like obviously, and reddit just collectively gave up and then the girl ended up DEFENDING their marriage.
I thought the same thing! Especially after she mentioned soccer games and fish and chips since in that story her husband was English.
Story 2: honestly I learned from a while back that the person cheating on you 9/10 they hate themselves. Dude is going to school with no debt, from a wealthy family, had a woman that loved him with her whole heart and still he decided to blow his whole life up. Idk that’s so pathetic and sad to me and obviously it’s still hurts to be cheated on but when you put that mindset to it. It’s like you don’t even feel sad for yourself anymore cus you know your gonna be fine at the end of the day but this man could have had everything now he gonna be searching for anything 🤦🏾♀️… but idk maybe it’s just me that thinks like that. I been though some bs lol
The story of the girl walking on bf hits deep, when I got cheated on I didn’t walk in but hear it on our security cameras…. My heart shattered, I’m still trying to pick up the pieces…. This has been the tough 4 months I can remember
I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. Take all the time you need to heal, the betrayal is intense. Setting boundaries is a good way to get back control and self worth. But you do whatever you need to get back to being you. You didn't deserve it.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I have also been on the receiving end of cheating, but I never discovered him in the act. I can only imagine how traumatic that must be, and your trauma is valid! It's a horrible, horrible thing to experience and it hurts the heart so much to have a loved one betray you so deeply. Stay strong and don't let him manipulate you into staying with him because it is very rare that cheating is an isolated incident!
Im sorry this happened ❤
Story 3: I’m a mom who’s adopted my children. Each child has a different style of adoption with completely different bio family stories. With one child we have an open adoption and we are very secure in our position of being the parents, but I can tell you that if I had a brother or brother-in-law make these jokes I would be very upset. Jokes like this would make my kids feel on the outside of the family, would make them feel less than. And depending on where I was in my infertility journey and healing this would hinder my ability to move forward. Definitely the AH
with the first story i feel like the simple, sensory friendly solution is just to get her thinx underwear or the ones in that style from aerie, i have adhd and forget to change out what ever i’m using a lot of the time so those underwear have been really helpful. strongly recommend
edit: after doing some research i’ve learned that Thinx and some other brands of period underwear contain PFAS which can cause a lot of negative health affects so before buying do your research on the brand’s reliability and if anyone can find out if aerie also have PFAS let me know bc i couldn’t find anything
Looking for this comment. Yep. Period underwear.
Thinx period underwear just lost a huge legal case as they are not, in fact, safe for use.
@@emerson1998 see edit
hey! i have adhd also and have started using modi bodi period underwear and had have no issues! they also have more traditionally “masculine” style underwear which is great for trans inclusivity! overall 10/10, but not sure what shipping is like (i’m in UK so wasn’t too expensive)
@@maisysinclair thank u!!
About the OnlyFans marketing, I know someone who just started hers, made business cards, and asked her male friends to leave a bunch in the male bathroom at bars. Anyone that flirts with her, gets a card. That's the only way she has marketed so far and has a decent following.
Hey good for her! Work smarter not harder
As a pregnant person with an autistic husband who also walked in on my ex husband cheating on me previously, this episode had me SCREAMING at the TV so many times 😂
As soon as I open the app I see the new episode!!! Having a rough start to the year but I can always count on Morgan and everyone on THT to make my day :)
The only fans story is INSANE!!!!!! What made the cousin think that that was a normal idea???!
Story 4
“My insecurities are telling me he was hiding the card so he could see Ana’s only fans”
Girl that’s not your insecurities that’s your gut.
This is where we are as a society : successfully making women feel insecure for having common sense and feeling a certain way when their SO act disrespectful
We need to make up our mind...
Either
Only-Fans is supercool
"Get your bag"
OR
The partners were wrong to
check out the
quote "whore" unquote
cousin's account.
It can't be both.
It can't be both.
Somebody's father,
somebody's husband,
somebody's boyfriend
.... is paying her cousin
to see her cousin naked.
@@adhilakhan4333boi sthu just say you wanna see your cousins OF 💀 (jokes) nothing wrong with OF but its weird to actively seek out family’s OF dumbass
@@adhilakhan4333I think it's specifically because it's HER cousin. Like that's your partners family member you see regularly enough. That's where it goes into uncomfortable territory. It'd be different if it was a stranger!
*no*
*no*
*no*
BE CONSISTENT.
Somebody's father,
somebody's husband,
somebody's boyfriend
.... is paying her cousin
to see her cousin naked.
*Either*
Only-Fans is supercool
"Get your bag"
*OR*
The partners were wrong to
check out the
quote "whore" unquote
cousin's account.
PICK ONE.
As someone who's autistic hygen can be hard. For me its the transition, getting in the shower isn't that bad, but getting out is awful because I hate being wet and cold and I hate having wet hair. Sometimes its also just a matter of legitimately forgetting.
I'd also like to add that the terms "high functioning" and "low functioning" are generally avoided within the community because it implies that some people are "more" autistic than others when we're all just autistic. I'd recommend looking into the support needs model.
I'm neurodivergent. Mom is the ahole. 10000% you will not change my mind. Do you know how awful it is to have all your actions motivated by fear?
Mom and/or dad aren't doing what they need to to set their child up for success. I mean here Mom set her up for failure, but I'm talking before this, they were not putting enough effort in to raising the child they have. Like they're probably regularly putting in the effort to raise a NT kid, but not their ND one. They probably put her in ABA too, or would have had it been an option.
Also just a heads up, a lot of the community does not like functioning labels like high or low functioning.
Sorry, but as someone that is also “neurodivergent”, I fully disagree. If she’s capable of taking care of her own hygiene, like the story clearly states after she learned a lesson, she’s just stubborn. The mother said she actively fought, and it makes the community look bad. People already think autism is either black or grey; this only makes it worse. And also, just say autistic. Are you ashamed of it, so you instead have to prep it up with the scientific reference? Also, YES. There is a huge difference between someone who is throwing poop at you (personal experience with a kid) and somebody who can drive a car and function normally within a society. I don’t give a damn about “labeling autism”. Sometimes it’s important. God damn, it’s like nobody understands that autism is legitimately different for everyone. Now, we don’t know what range of the spectrum she falls on, and I could be overlooking certain sensory issues. But this to me, at least how the mother told it, seems like defiance. Some people just need to be called people and be held accountable. People damn, we are people. We’re not.. aliens.
The "Reasons not to have a baby" list on TikTok literally saved me so many arguments with family members about why I don't want kids!
Story 5 makes me think that maybe the guy is having an affair, and that's why he keeps missing the scans. Men have audacity, but missing every single scan for something as small as football or fish and chips? That you can get out of, but having an empty house for an hour? Perfect opportunity to bring someone over
The story about her boyfriend sleeping with their friend… wow. My heart breaks for her. That’s an ultimate betrayal. I especially can’t imagine walking in on that. Some people are trying disgusting.
Going through catching my boyfriend cheating because of “hey girl” texts it was a lot easier to end up forgiving him. One day though I caught him cheating with my own eyes and something just snapped where it felt like any ties or resemblance of love that was left was gone and cut off I just packed everything and left blocking him on everything. I thought maybe giving the benefit of the doubt would make things ok after the first time but at that point I was just gaslighting myself into staying. Moral of the story trust your guts and don’t give second chances with that sort of stuff it doesn’t matter how loving you are. :/
The Mom’s update about her daughter’s discomfort wearing pads/tampons literally made me cry. Sure, she realized what she did was wrong, but once her daughter shared her discomfort she should’ve reached out to her doctor and found a way to help her. She didn’t take care of herself because she was actually physically uncomfortable, she needed help and her person she could go to for womanly help and advice, turned her out to the wolves to be dinner. How heartbreaking.
I feel for the mama tbh. She got burnt out & made a hard switch from doing all the hygiene & clean up for her to "f*ck around & find out" & "bet you won't do that again"
She seemed at such a loss for what to do to help her daughter & from the sounds of it the father wasn't helping much
Parents of children with disabilities don't get enough grace.
I'm a caregiver & burn out is extremely common for us workers but 10× more for the parents who don't get to clock out at the end of the day like i do, didn't sign up to work with disabilities like I did, and didn't receive all the training & information in advance like I got. &on top of that, the state makes them jump through so many over complicated & sometimes impossible hurdles in order to get any sort of help.
My heart goes out to both mama & daughter. I hope the both parents have been able to obtain more information & support and their daughter thriving
I’m autistic and really struggled with hygiene as a kid. Still do, but it was especially traumatic during puberty. Autistic people experience things differently and we are very susceptible to developing trauma from experiences others might consider no big deal. If my mom did what OP did to her daughter, I would never trust her again. It is already so hard to keep up with the social standards of everyone else, the last thing that poor girl needs is to be bullied and shamed by her own mother. My mom telling me people will think I’m gross if I didn’t have better hygiene didn’t help me, it just made me feel more like a freak that was bad at being a person. Instead, address WHY she’s not managing her hygiene. If my mom had just asked I would’ve broke down crying about how hard it is to gather the energy to take care of my body, and when I did it was incredibly distressing and even painful (like brushing my hair). I just needed help, not shame.
Also a note for Morgan: most autistic people find functioning labels really offensive. Not all, but it is something to be mindful of.
That first story pissed me off. As a thirty year old autistic person who has periods I have struggled for years with hygiene during periods. I recently discovered period panties and it has made such a difference. There are ways to accommodate the sensory nightmares
Out of curiosity, as someone who's experienced similar struggles to the daughter, what would you recommend a mother in her position should do instead?
I agree she did not handle it properly, but she also seemed incredibly burnt out & at a loss for what to do. Unfortunately lot of parents don't get much help or information
Hopefully you're perspective & insight could help others from making the same mistake(s)
Morgan- I’m an OT student about to head out on my first Level II fieldwork in a peds setting and it made my heart so happy to hear your OT perspective 🥹 Thank you for spreading that OT awareness bc you know we need it lol ❤ Love you guys and THT!
Alejandro’s gasp and then “No…I’ve heard enough!” While Morgan continues with the audacity of this man in the “well I’m not pregnant” story💀💀💀💀
Ew ew ew
I can NOT stand cheaters. Poor girl didn’t deserve that humiliation. He knew exactly what he was doing.
I was rewatching old episodes to get me thru laundry day and I’m sooo hyped for this upload yay!! 🫶🏽😇
Story 2, Alejandra’s response is putting me in tears. I’m gonna have to come back and finish this episode when I’m not at work.
I want to be friends with K’s ex. She is so freaking STRONG and level headed… if she comes here just know we got you girl, so proud of you.
There are period pants that you don't need to have a pad or tampon. The blood soaks in like a pad. There are light, medium, and heavy flow pants. They are great for anyone, especially children.
My depression makes it so hard to brush my teeth/hair and showering is almost impossible. Idk if I have autism, I've never been tested, but I can imagine that it is even harder to keep that train of thought
I got my FIRST period in bluejeans in school. The popular girls went to the vp and had me called down in front of the whole class while giggling. My mom hadn't even taught me about my period yet (think I was 9), so I was scared and sobbing. the nurse helped and was kind. but they sent me back to class in the same jeans. My friend lent me a sweater and said it happens to the best of us. I'm 27 now and still can feel how mortified I was. I feel so sorry for the girl.
I disagree that the cousin shouldn’t take any blame. Women are more emotionally (and I think logically) intelligent. She knew exactly what she was doing and completely disrespecting her cousins AND their relationships. To their faces.
weird thing to say-women are not more intelligent.
My boyfriend and I are both staying sober this year! We found a blueberry pomegranate juice in the juice section, made big ice cubes, and topped it with sprite/7up. Add a little mint and a lemon slice and it's absolutely delicious and refreshing! Highly recommend. :)
For story 1 maybe she could look into other period products like period underwear? something that might be more comfortable for her daughter. I have an autistic brother who struggles with hygiene so we’ve found products he’s comfortable with and ones he likes.
I work with children with Autism and there families & one of the story is really nice too hear! Love hearing you guys putting these kinds of stories on your podcast♥
Just got home from work after a crazy day and so excited to see a two hot takes episode.
I recognize that it's a parasocial relationship, but it truly feels like getting to hang with my friends whenever you post 🥲
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SAME 🥺
Literally same haahhhah
Girl i relate, im normally sat on my sofa with a blanket and wine too so i fully feel im sat with them
@@notthingofnote it's usually a packed bowl for me, but we're all having a good time 😁
I had to go to my anatomy scan alone because Rona. I was told I had a rare placenta tumor that baby likely couldn't survive, baby appeared to have a very bad heart defect, and his kidneys looked off but that was probably because the heart. I then had to get in the car where my husband had my 3y/o, 2y/o, and infant waiting, and I had to somehow tell him.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
I’m so sorry you had to receive that news alone
my brother has FAS and he’s 19 and my parents have to remind him everyday to put on deodorant, take a shower. And he HATES brushing his teeth it always ends up in a fight. This is just my brother but i’ve seen other people with disabilities struggle with hygiene too.
Someone needs to tell the mother from the first story about menstrual cups, honey pot co pads (still cotton but different more comfortable feeling), reusable pads, reusable panties, there’s so many options other than the regular pads and tampons.
Not even 8 minutes in and I’m bawling. Screaming at my phone “SHES FKN AUTISTIC!” I hope this story gets better but I might have to wait for the rest of this episode if they’re all this upsetting :(
That story does have an update that gives us a bit of hope. Tragic story but mom realizes her mistake 😢
@@TwoHotTakes thanks for the reply! I’m glad I continued the episode once I calmed down ❤ I never skip episodes sometimes I just have to wait til I’m in a better headspace.
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I got my first period IN CLASS in the 5th grade. Obviously I didn't tell her I was bleeding, she saw the blood. My teacher was so sweet; I will forever remember and be grateful to her for her kindness that day. She handed me her sweater to tie around my waist so no one would see. She cleaned my chair with wipes and told me to tell my mom when I got home.
It’s infuriating how many dad’s skip the important appointments during pregnancy. My husband couldn’t attend any of my appointments with our first due to Covid restrictions. With our second, I always tried to schedule the big appointments during his days off and whenever it wasn’t possible, he would take the day off and go with me. That poor lady has to deal with all of that alone. I remember how nervous and anxious I felt during my first pregnancy knowing that if I got any bad news, I would be alone to take that in.
I'm 29, watching this on 2/29/24, and I legit feel still like I'm 25. I've felt that way for a few years now and thought I was alone till talking to my bestfriends recently. It really helped me not feel alone, and then hearing you, Morgan, say the same thing. It made me feel so much less crazy!
That first story makes me so sad. I couldn’t imagine allowing my daughter to go to school knowing she would get bullied or made fun of…. I never want my daughter to have to experience this cruel world. She will forever hear what those kids said in her brain, she will be 30 and still think about it. I know it is fustrating but keep being a parent and protect and teach your child.
Alejandra is too funny 😂 “no 🙅♀️… I’ve heard enough” 1:21:03
Idk why but I am addicted to this channel! ADDICTIVE!
Thaw- “unfreeze”
Unthaw- freeze
Lol
Love y’all 😂❤
My best friend and i are huge fans and it be great if you guys would come to El Paso ! Can’t wait to see the podcast grow more and more ! Love you guys
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Two things I wanted to say, this episode made me feel so lucky, first: the pregnancy story. When I was pregnant my appointments were hours away in a different state because of my insurance still being my moms and it was the better insurance option at the time. In the beginning until almost half way through I went to every appointment with my mom instead of my husband because he was at work which i didn’t mind. After my belly grew a lot he drove me to every appointment even when he couldn’t go in the room with me.
The throwing up palate cleanse story: can’t help but giggle, we were out of town and I felt sick in the car. I thought it would pass, drank some water and took some medicine. All of a sudden threw up on myself. My husband pulled over on the highway and got me a new shirt from the luggage in the trunk and he helped me get myself cleaned up. I’m keeping him forever 😂🥰
Story 5: She is definitely gonna be a married single mother and I mean that as in, she is gonna be the sole caretaker of their child and her husband is most likely only going to be involved when it’s convenient to him. He’s not gonna get up for the midnight feedings or diaper changes, he’s probably gonna use weaponized incompetence to get out of basic childcare, sure he may take them to the park or to get ice cream and be the “fun” parent, but when shit hits the fan, he’s gonna leave that all to her. This is all, of course, an assumption, but the type of man who would say, “Im not the one carrying the baby” is definitely not the kind of man who’s gonna be involved when it matters most.
My parents were abusive/negligent and always made me feel like a burden. I was depressed and just didn’t have the energy to care about my hygiene.
I feel like there’s something going on mentally that needs to be addressed without giving her emotional trauma.
Alejandra is so fiery today🤣 I'm so here for it 🤌
For story 4: you can be mad at the cousin 😂 idgaf, I’m mad at both of them. Tf is my cousin giving my man her only fans promo code like tf is wrong with her. Be VERY mad at your man but you can be mad at your cousin
I have never said OHHHHH SHI- so loud in my life at the Ellie is pregnant part 😅
I don’t think the mom was wrong, it’s a natural consequence and at 14 they should know what’s going to trigger them and at least try to remedy it. And the fact that afterwards they were able to keep themselves decent shows it could have been done the whole time.
i understand why you say that, but that 14 year old girl is on the autism spectrum, her mind is not the same as neurotypical individuals. that poor girl is going to be upset and traumatized for a very long time. the mom had good intentions but carried them out in a horribly wrong way.
For the first story. Wow as a parent i absolutely could never. Just goes to show that sometimes your parents are your first bullies! Her mom set her up and the question is why.
37:33 something similar to me when I was 20 and my family offered to fly me home and just leave and take care of everything and I was too naive at the time too. This girl is so so strong!!
the first story had me on the verge of tears just as someone who has been bullied that mother is cruel and heartless and i only hope she has a kind relative she can stay with if she cant live independently as an adult bcz with a mom like that theres no way you would want to live with her
The beginning bit is so true, the covid part. I was like 20-21? When covid started, now I'm almost halfway through my 20's (I have a few years until I'm 25...well 🙄 a year...). Where did the time go? I feel so young and so ancient at the same time. I feel like I've missed out on everything 🥺.
1:14:00 Milk baths are so cool. I love that shit...then again don't they cause nasty UTIs?
My thoughts on the first story, and I haven't even finished it yet, are, a, proper parenting and how they mother/parents handled period talk and talk about puberty, hygiene etc, if it isn't spoken about or practiced regularly, how is a kid supposed to know. My second thought is therapy. what is the underlying reason of not wanting to practice proper hygiene or feeling unable to. not to do something humiliating, unsupportive, and unhygenic to your young child in a difficult, strange part of life
What gets me is that in the update she even says the kid had a therapist on deck so she had that resource and didn’t take it, and then intentionally set her kid up to be humiliated
@@britnicox3929 sad that so many kids have to go without proper support systems growing up
1:24:02 - fun fact, there is a difference between "fries" and "chips" and it's all to do with the cut of the potato. Thin cuts are fries whereas thick cuts are chips.
I asked my boyfriend what would he do in this situation (about the cousins Christmas gift) and he said that he would tell me after we left to not cause drama or ruin Christmas. Which I could respect because I would have definitely shut down the party.
i’m an autistic teen who struggles with hygiene too and the first story is honestly so heartbreaking. the reason for my bad hygiene is because things like brushing my teeth and multiple products touching my skin are AWFUL sensory experiences i unfortunately tend to avoid. however my mother has never shamed me and instead of using public humiliation as a punishment, she helped me find things that make the sensory experiences less uncomfortable and helped me set smaller milestones instead of pushing me into the deep end like this mom
The adoption one is literally so gross. I’ve been fostering my nephew for going on two years and have been fighting so hard to get it pushed to adoption and hopefully that’s coming to close this year. If anyone sat and joked about my nephews bio parents coming to the door I’d flip. His mom has shown up at our house, broken into our cars. Like it’s scary and not fun to go through all of that and though they just adopted you have no idea where bio parents come from and what type of behaviors they have. Terrible way to joke with those parents.
I am quite literally having the hardest time ever right now, I’m so happy you posted 🥰
The Fiancé getting the Only Fans discount Gift had me 😂 I Wonder what He was thinking when He got it, then what he was thinking when he found out she was handing them out around to the other Family Partners. That’s is weird as haha and I find it so funny someone could receive that ✨gift✨ and then be like “Ooo I better hide this one 🤭 hehe” bloody Weirdo and the cousin is right off too for her gift idea haha holey crap 🤣🤣
For that first story. With my experience, that is an example how ABA therapy can help moments of puberty, role playing at home and giving them a routine, step by step. Checking things off, using products with their favorite characters, colors, anything that grabs the attention to push them to be like “ oh no I forgot to use my Barbie body wash” or whatever that may be. It’s a hard adjustment but it can be so beneficial by just asking so many questions in the right way and setting
I saw another comment here saying ABA is a form of conversion therapy and I just want to say while I’m not trying to diminish the experience but a good and dedicated ABA therapist isn’t that at all. With the right application and sincerity it works well for so many young kids and children. ( if u see ABA feeling like conversion, get a new therapist ) because we all use applied behaviors in life, politeness in serious settings in an applied behavior we use and deem as “ typical” . OT is an amazing benefit but like a lot of things it isn’t a one size fits all, not everyone works well with just ABA or OT, a combination is amazing, someone’s just one or the other.
It makes me so sad that the history of ABA being used to control vs teach and foster growth and independence has led to it being so reactively demonized. It is really misunderstood, and nowadays most ABA therapists are incredible at what they do. I really hope this slowly changes. It can be so helpful and the narrative these days keeps people from accessing such a valuable resource
@@chelseainman4285 Me too, it’s worked wonders in my family’s life and it continues to be something amazing for them
Something similar happened to my mom, she got her first period while she was wearing white without knowing what period was bc my grandmother had never given her “the talk” and got made fun of by her peers for the stain… she’s in her mid 40s and this memory still haunts her.. poor child she’s going to live with that for the rest of her life..
I was waiting for this episode yesterday thinking it was Thursday 🤣You guys make my entire week!!! Thank you for the best podcast ever! Shoutout from Peru 💖
I love you guys so much! I had to laugh though because the episode's thumbnail on my phone is giving me Wayne's World flashbacks haha.
the way alejandra talks about being cheated on is really an incredible way of describing it. like from 25:00 to 30:00 she was so insanely spot on.
THT out here making thursdays better than fridays 😍😂
Thinking about the guy talking about cleaning bodily fluids - I remember getting in the car with my partner & I had a peppermint milkshake earlier in the day. Something made me burp & I puked into my hand & it got in the car - I could still taste the peppermint, lol. My beloved partner didn't even question. They asked if I was ok & ran up to the house to get paper towels & a bottle of water. I was crying from embarrassment & apologizing, but they were insisting it was ok & asking if I was sick or needed to stay home and rest. Any time I've been ill, whether it's puking, coughing, or sneezing, struggling with being overwhelmed due to my autism, reminding me to take my meds or to practice healthy eating to ease my disordered eating symptoms, he is there for me & I hope I can continue to be there for them as much as they have been for me. I love my partner, and I hope I get to marry them one day. We're going on 3 years come November. I've never known love like ours before.
ive been waiting all day for yall to upload:') im satisfied
As a fellow midwesterner, we say "unthaw" but it's one of those things that doesn't actually mean what we mean when we say it. "Unthaw" would mean "freeze", but it means "defrost" or "thaw" when we say it.
My favorite cleaning podcast, as in I listen while I clean.
My sister is on the spectrum and still struggles with showers at age 23. Luckily my mom worked in special Ed, worked closely with OTs, and knew to find alternatives. The solution was to “dry shower” with baby wipes, apply deodorant, and change into fresh undies and clothes daily, in between full showers. Sis still does that to this day and very rarely needs to be gently nudged to shower due to any kind of odor or greasy hair. I struggle with mental illness so sometimes I struggle with showers too and employ the same method when that’s the case. Poor girl, I’m glad her mom learned from her mistake.
As someone who suffers from heavy periods, I know how hard it is to avoid bleeding through some days and I'm not on the spectrum as far as I know. Kids can be cruel. When I was in high school I would at least look out for other girls, if I noticed the bleeding I would at least say something and see if we could find something for her to change into or put over her clothes but not teens or kids care, they just want to fit in and make jokes. I can't imagine purposely doing that to a teen. I'm happy the mother at least learn from this experience.
I used to suffer from heavy periods, my saviors have been birth control and menstrual cups. Even with just the menstrual cups they kept me from bleeding through.
@Its Steph same I took that during my junior and senior year and most of the beginning of my adult life but I stopped a few years ago to attempt getting pregnant.
Edit: for birth control, I don't use the cups.
The cousin story omfg😭🤣 totally agree on your take with this story
I knew a family that had 3 adopted kids and one of the bio parents of the kid tried taking him back. If anyone made a joke during or after they fought to keep him with his family, the 'jokester' would be more than kicked out. Ethan did the right thing even if Joey's bio parents aren't in the picture but if they are it's going to helurt even more
I 100% agree with their take on story 1. It is up to the parents to teach their daughter how to have good hygiene and up to them and her team (therapists, teachers etc) to figure out what works best for her and what the problems are and how to fix them. Autism is hard enough on someone (I have a daughter with severe Autism) and her home and her family is where and with who she should feel the safest and most protected. Shame on this mother for putting her through that instead of finding a better way.