"People will judge me if I gain weight" (Rewiring limiting beliefs) / Eating Disorder Recovery
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 มิ.ย. 2022
- In today's video we will be working on rewiring the common limiting belief of "People will judge me if I gain weight". SUBSCRIBE TO MY CHANNEL HERE: / @followtheintuition
In this post we will talk about:
-Fear of weight gain or fear about what other people will think about our weight gain?
-Why are we so worried about what others think?
-How to change that limiting belief.
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Everyone around me, including my dietitian, says I am basically healthy and should not need to gain any more weight but I have never felt so physically and mentally hungry. I am also so tired, my body aches and I feel so weak. No amount of food seems to fill me up or satisfy me. I know that what I need to do is just eat and eat and eat but it is so hard to do when everyone around me is questioning me and doesn't think I need to eat. I am too scared to just eat unconditionally because I know how much I could eat and I am scared to gain more weight since others say that I am at a healthy weight now. I know only my body knows if it is at a healthy weight, and the way it is behaving and making me feel is a clear sign that I am not healthy and still have a long way to go
Aww
Wooow Elisa, this video resonates so much with me, because, when I started my recovery journey, and I told you about my fear of weight gain, you told me the same things, and I can say that they really helped me, a lot !!!
I have to add that I have everything we worked on written down in my recovery notebook, however, I haven't needed to look at it.
You did an amazing job with me, and I can tell this video is going to help lots of people, too.
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If I lived on a deserted island I would have been weight restored years earlier,I feel the need to remain small coz that's the only way people are used to me looking..its crazy I know.From SA 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦♥️♥️♥️
Same :(
I began my recovery in 2016 and YOUR CHANNEL and it's messages were the most beneficial thing I found on TH-cam to help re-wire my relationship and thought process around food. Your clear message and gentle tone was a soothing presence to my frayed nerves. I realized my issues around food were so much deeper than I thought. I went into therapy and today I can proudly say I no longer suffer from ED or any issues surrounding food. I commend you on being a guiding light in so many people's journeys. Thank you. Yes my journey was long (6 years), yes at the beginning like so many others I was terrified to trust myself and my body but I persisted. It can be done. My many thanks again.
So so good Elisa!!
Your channel is so great and helps me a lot !
The key for recovery is love your self and treat yourself like your friend
Whenever I go on a study abroad trip I lose weight because I am so active during these times. But when I return home it is harder for me to cope and possibly accept that I’m meant to be at a higher weight. Perhaps I had lost weight due to stress when I was abroad. But it’s hard not to blame myself for my usual habits causing me to be a certain weight.
Its sad when those people commenting negatively about weight gain are family members. Ive had to cut family out of my life because of this. Im glad i gained weight cause now i see peoples true colors. Good riddance!
Hi I've been following you for a long time...you helped me recover a year ago. I have two questions: I restricted severly for nearly 15 years (and i mean severely). I went all in last year, but I developed refeeding syndrome and had many complications. I was treated for it, but when I started to feel better, I relapsed and was too afraid to go all in again. Because this was the first time in years I started eating again, I was eating tons and gaining little weight because i was in a mode of hypermetabolism. I want to start doing that again, but because now I've only restricted again for a shorter time, I'm scared my body will gain weight much faster this time and it makes me scared to go all in again. My second question is I haven't had my period in over ten years, and am in my 30's now (although I look like i'm 16), do you think it is still possible to get your period back in your 30's after years of not having a period...because I know your fertility goes down generally anyway after 35. Can you please please do a video sometime addressing these two topics. I would so greatly appreciate it
I understand that those who judge the body of others is a reflection of how critical they are of themselves, I feel sorry for them, but I don't know how to forgive and restore the friendship again with my ex-best friend who hurt me so much with her comment that triggered and provoque my anorexia. I miss her but she hurt me too much with her "unintentional comments", she doesn't know that a big part of the problem was what she told me, and I understand that it means that she is so critical of her own body, it's sad, yeah, but it's hard for me forgive her because I'm also very hard on myself and that is not why I would make anyone feel bad with horrible comments about how they look, I feel that I will never be able to repair the friendship we had, or at least I know that it will never be what it was because I'm still very hurt and angry, what do you think I should do? let her go or forget those comments and keep the friendship? I think i will always be sad :( :(
maybe you could have a heartfelt conversation with her first, communication can really help sometimes. but if they don't understand then maybe it's best to move on. it will be hard right now but some people come into our lives for only a certain period, and that's ok.
I also had my 'best friend" hurt me very badly when I started to recover. We had been through so much together, but within a couple weeks of starting recovery she shut down and hardly talked to me anymore. It made me so incredibly hurt, angry and sad. I was sad for a really long time, but I have come to accept it now (a year later). I don't necessarily have advice for you since everyone's circumstances are so different, but I share my story to let you know you are definitely not alone ❤️
In my case as I am from India and people here don't even know what ed is so my own family is thinking that i am mad and that i am gaining weight too fast and that i need to exercise cause I am getting too fat which is bad for my health
I have already tried like thousands of times to get them to understand my situation and prblm and why I am eating too much and gaining too much weight but they don't even bother to understand they think I am mad and that I can control this weight gain but instead I am just sitting and eating loads which is bad for health and alll sorts of things I even tried to show them vídeos but they think they are all fake and you know what from the beginning to nearly the end cause I am still getting extreme hunger even if it's getting reducing very slowly I was and sm alone in this journey
I am really tired of this and i am just waiting for it to over so that I can live peacefully and Donot have to eat food or think about food all the fucking time
Well I have a question do you have any tips about gas being trapped in your boobs which causes pain due yo acid reflux cause when I say this to my mom the only answer is you need to exercise and don't even ask about clothes
Ughhhh
Here I am trying to recover from an mental disorder and instead of supporting me they are simply discouraging me uggghhhhhhhhhhhh
Even if they are doing this for my good but still it's hurts a lot cause they are my family and if they won't understand me then who will
I too got gas trapped in my chest, with acid reflux, when I was in the middle of extreme hunger. It hurt SO much!! For me, the gas and acid reflux went away after about 3 months into recovery. At the time it was so miserable and painful, but I have not had that gas since. I hope yours goes away soon! ❤️
@@victoria9663 did your extreme hunger stopped cause mine is still going on 😫
My heart goes out to you because I'm from India too! And you're right about people and your own family members not understanding your case. Heck, even a psychiatrist I had gone to didn't sense anything wrong with me when I mentioned about my ED and its numerous side effects like anxiety, body dysmorphia and what not. From my experience, I could say that making people or your family understand your problem is not worth it if all they can do is be in denial. I stopped taking their remarks and comments personally and focused on my recovery and honoring my hunger even if I had to hear a lot of BS while eating whatever and how much I wanted.
@@angebish thanku for understanding my situation I hope my extreme hunger will end soon so that i dont have to prove my weight gain to anyone anymore
Cause after extreme hunger the only thing left to deal with is overshoot weight
I am so much heavier right now that i am praying and begging to God everyday to make all this end soon
@@VivianParker19 yes, my extreme hunger ended eventually! My mental extreme hunger kept going far longer than my physical extreme hunger. I ate without restriction at all times, and gradually my hunger calmed down. I am 17 months into recovery now, and my hunger is completely normal and has been for months. I cannot physically eat those large amounts of food anymore - I get full with normal amounts, but I am still eating absolutely without restriction. I hope that helps!
Ha, I also laughed when you said, douche bag :)
Excuse me I want to ask some things. I'm in recovery. I start have extreme hunger. But that hunger was showing up everyday for 1 week. I can't stop it I eat till I feel sicks every day. I'm always eat sugary , junk food, and my brain just tell me to eat more till my stomach can't get more food. I think I eat around 5000-10000 calories per day for 1 week. And this extreme hunger always showing every single day ,every single time. Today I just ate 2plate full of rice with sausage and I have 1 big sweet potato for lunch but only 10 minutes later I feel hungry again then I go to eat 6 banana with lot of crisps, nut, and other snack. After that my brain told me to eat a large bowl of oatmeal. I just need help. Please someone can answer with this. I don't want to bloating and painful. I hate the extreme hunger. I'm always craving for unhealthy food and binging I don't know how to deal with it. Please help I don't want to binge again at dinner
I'm going through the same - watching videos and reading about exrtreme hunger, it seems like just going with it is the only solution... it's so hard though... i'm literally dying - my ed is making my life a living hell because i listen to my body instead of anorexia
How are you doing now?
@@freyalutzhft4561how are you now?
@@elen474 Well i'm good - the hunger stops and you'll feel like a happy person - go go go !!
@@freyalutzhft4561 thank youuuu
When your hunger stopped?