Experiencing pain while in the process of healing is better than feeling the pain while you are in the situation that is hardening and torturing your heart while trying to love someone who doesn't even deserve to be in your life in the first place.. Regain yourself and trust the process. It'll all be worth it in the end. Investing in YOU is the best gift you can give to yourself😊
Been together with my ex for 4 years but in LDR situation. It came to a point where our relationship does not work anymore and finding out she's loooking for the love/affection to someone else secretly was a lot worst. And that time came where she's already giving me all the hint to give up, and I did let her go. We broke up in a way she initiated it and I just agree. I agreed not because I don't love her anymore, but because I realized that I can no longer make her happy. That being apart no longer works and our fights will just be a cycle. But as much as I resist, I followed that 3 Month rule and on that duration, I was trying to win her back , to talk and fix things and start over again because I still love her. But all my efforts did not work. Then I decided to move forward. 6 Months after the breakup, nagconfess ako with someone else. The same time my ex was trying to win me back pero tinuloy ko pa rin. Was it a rebound? yes but I learn to love the person I am with now and we are stronger since 2013.
Ganyan din nanyare saamin ng partner ko, pagpunta nya abroad, nagbago cya, yun pala may karelasyon na cyang ibang lahi na nag tratrabaho din malapit sa bahay na pinagtrabahoan nya.
Yes, tama po depende sa iyo.. For me no need to follow the 3 months rule, lalo na kung ikaw ung iniwan sinaktan, dahil ginawa mo naman lahat sa kanya eh, na mahalin siya, supportahan sa gusto, pagka tiwala an, pero binaliwaLa niya lang, eh kung meron namang tao na tunay na nagpapahalaga sayo na matagal na panahon na siya naghintay sayo, bakit Di mo pagbigyan sarili mo na ikaw naman ang mahalin at di sayangin ang pagmamahal mo. Di naman siguro un rebound diba?
Thank you for the inspiring advice kuya darbs. I agree what you've said. But for me, it doesn't matter to follow the three months rule. We must first, heal the pain that we feel in the inside. We must give space and time to ourselves to moving on. And we must accept that certain situation happennings in our daily lives. Because everythinv happens for a reason.
100% agree, may pinagaamahan kayo at di nya naiisip yun. Pansarili Lang nya naiisip nya kapag ganun Lalo kung kayo pa Lang at pumasok na naman siya ng new relationship.
3 years in the relationship. I know hindi na ko masaya, binigay ko na kasi lahat and parang di naman worth it. Ayaw saken ng family, lagi na din kami nag aaway. Magkasama kami pero we both know na wala kaming time sa isa't isa. Until, naghiwalay kami. Sinaktan ko sya, nasaktan sya obviously. Di talaga maganda break up and that is October 2019. Now, October 2020, pinanganak na ung baby nya with his office mate. Yes, with someone na pinagselosan ko dati na sabi nya tigilan ko daw. Well, mukhang di na nila kinailangan ung 3months to be together. And ang mas masaya, tanggap ng family nya ung girl and the baby, not like me na mas matagal nya nakasama. Sana lang, happy talaga sila, i know gusto nya na talaga magkababy. Stay safe and be happy. Make your relationship strong, not like ours.
Mas masakit yung malaman mo na may relasyon na pala sila bago pa kayo maghiwalay. And realized that all along, your instinct is right. But the worst is siniraan ka pa niya sa mga kaibigan niyo kahit na nagsabi ka ng totoo sakanya, may additional na yung kwento niya sa ibang tao. Kasi di niya kayang aminin yung maling ginawa niya. Move forward na lang and be happy to be free from that kind of person. 🙂 #auh #rebuildself
Good evening thank you for your helpful advice I much appreciate it..now I'm ok thank you so much for your kindness and tenderness thank you so much I'm feel better in I learn something great every message..sometimes the simplest things mean the most .. I’m humble in grateful for clarify for everything thank you..stay safe God bless you.....🙏🙏🙏✌️
Thank you for making me realize na tama ang desisyon ko sa buhay. I graduated in college but I dont want to be employed. Laging sinasabi sakin na "Sayang degree d ka lang pala mag ttrabaho." Self employed ako since nag aaral ako. Hindi malaki ang kinikita ko sa ngayon pero masaya ako. I feel completed habang ginagawa ko yung gusto ko at araw araw nadadagdagan yung mga gusto ko pang gawin sa buhay. THANK YOU SIR! New subscriber moko at dahil napanood ko tong vid mo! :)
Is talking to someone new can call a rebound? because for me, as long as that two person is being honest with their feeling I think it's fine. specially if you know the person that you are talking about is from heartbreak. but bottom line on this is.. you can talk to anyone but we all have to be aware with others feelings too. however, very well said .
Some people like me is easy to move on, not because we did not love the person, but because I really know my worth. At di ko kawalan yun, sila ang nawalan.
thank you so much! i hope to meet you po soon and can thank you personally! sobrang laki ng tulong nio sa pinag dadaanan ko ngayon. sanan d po kayo mpagod gumawa ng vlog. God bless you po
Thank u kuya Darbs galing mo tlga. Nakaka alis ng lubgkot dto sa Abroad un mga words of wisdom mo super idol.kta stay safw kuya Darbs abd god bless u moee and love u idol😍
Mahirap labanan kung may Rebound na. Im pursuing myself to him but he ignoring my feelings to him. Almost 1month. Acceptance is a choice para mag move on talaga 🥴
@@jiediazbautista2471 ako nga feeling ko ineentertain na nya yung guy habang kami pa. Nanliligaw daw yung halos magkapalit na yung mukha nilang 2 sa sobrang lapit.
@@japhetphilipledesma9009 yan din ang hindi ko maiintindihan hindi nalang sila magpakatotoo at sabihin kung ayaw na nila.. hahanap pa sila ng way na tayo na mismo ang bumitaw kusa para ano hindi sila ang masisi ang immature lang.
What if you're currently in a relationship and you caught your bf chatting/talking with his ex which he broke up to 3 years ago and they were planning to be together again and when you confronted him he told you that it was just a mistake and he was choosing you over his ex and he just got confused when he started talking to her again. And then when you talked to his ex and she told you that it was a mutual decision between them to be back together again because they missed their relationship and what they were doing and she will fight for him. And the last message that he sent to her was "di ko mapigilan na mahalin ka" and then he blocked her. And it's different on what he was saying to you that he doesn't love her anymore and you were the one that he loves now and keeps repeating himself that he just got confused. To make the story short, you gave him another chance and another shot for your relationship and whenever you think of what happened it always make you question everything he was showing and telling you and you keep on thinking that what if they met again in the future does his feelings for her will be back again or does it really gone? Or does he really love me or did he just chose me for his convenient? Because they were ldr before and what if he returns to the Philippines what will gonna happen to us? Or am I being toxic thinking all of this and doubting him? Is it worth it staying in a relationship or is it worth it leaving?
13years in a relationship, 2years engaged, had already paid wedding suppliers and this 3-month rule will work? For sure, he waited perfect time to quit in our wedding. Blaming my negative attitudes? For sure, Fall out of love and a new girl is his best revenge for me that he MOVE ON (maybe) so quickly! Gosh, its been a month after we broke up but I can feel the pain: crying, shouting, seeking advices. I know love yourself first but why is it He's super okay unlike to me little by little healing process. Is 3 month rule enough to heal this pain Kuya Darbs?
Took me a year to move on... So sad it happened to you... I hope you will fully heal and may God bless your heart.. Yaan mo na Yan sis di ka nya deserve and always remember "rejection is a blessing"... wish you luck and happiness...
@@Lori_mae87 swerte mo sis. Barely 4months palang itong laban ko ☺️ hoping in a snap of a fingers makakamoveon na ako,pero hindi pa eh, im so tired but my tears out of nowhere coming up again, my moving on is like riding a crazy rollercoaster. Hoping one day to my future self will read this and replying your message. Thank you sis for the advice
@@razelsanor217 sis I knw it's hard been there already halos wala na luha yung iyak ko... pagod na pagod ka na sa kakaiyak... pero pinili ko ang sarili ko ... na realize ko na Mas mahalin pa ang sarili.. ngayon sis masaya na ako sa lovelife ko ramdam ko ang pagmamahal ng bf ko ngayon... hopefully soon maghilom din Yan sis...
@@01cathy30 feel the grieving process sis! Then after that grieving moment of your life you can now decide what do you want in your life without your ex-fiance. I admit I am still in hurt but I choose myself everyday. Self love kumbaga. Cry when you needed and Pray to God what He wanted in your life
It just needs 2 committed people that really know what it takes to love and to be love to be able to make it. Ang problema kasi sa kabataan ngayon, ginagawang kumplikado ang napakasimpleng bagay. Ang baba kasi ng standards ng kabataan ngayon sa love, mismong bare minimum lang sobrang pinupuri na e
kuya darbs sa amin ng ex ko 2mos plang meron na agad sya upgrade pa tlaga kasi foreigner yung lalaki..4years kmi nag live in at may anak kmi...nakakalito tlga.anu ba dapat kung gawin.nag no cotact muna ako kasi masama loob ko.ngayon 3mos na kmi hiwalay.
Watching this again to the 2nd time around!! 😅 cux im still in 3 month rule... one month n lng hinihintay ko sa matamis nyang "OO"... kahit I spoiled him so much! 😂😫😫😩
3months to short to heal..for.me.it takes 3yrs.1yr ninannam q.muna.ang sakit 2nd year start getting back.myself 3rd year start mingle to someone but its all fresh but starting getting out from the painful shell
i really still moving on process it become 2 month really its not so easy....but god knows i do everything i could to get through this process of moving on .....
Kuya darbs nag abut po kami 11 months mag wa1year na sana kaso bumitaw siya kuya darbs tatlong beses ko pinapabalikbalik yung advice mo na LDR kuya darbs but we fail tas nag hanap siya ng iba ngayon ... Paano po masasabi na minahal nya rin daw po ako kaso pagud na daw siya then im looking to your videos in yt about 3month kuya darbs bat di niya nasunod? Nag hahanap na siyaa agad ngayon
How po my husband cheated me. We've been girlfriend boyfriend at the age of 14 nagpa kasal kami dito sa uae when we are 32 7 years na kami happily married till last month nahuli ko sya mag ka chat sila NG gurl. Wala kaming anak plano. Palang Sana namin na magpa doctor dito kaso nawalan ako work. Lumipat ang 1 month nagiba na sya sa pakikitungo sakin at my bday last saturday hindi ko na nakayanan I ask him Kung anu na a talaga nangyayari sa relasyun namin since Alam ko na me iba. But I'm the one he let go. The problem is gusto nya dun padin me sa bahay hanggang mag kawork daw ako pero every time na magkasama kami pinaparamdam nya sakin na Mahal nya ang gurl as he always texted her sa harap ko..naguguluhan ako umalis nako then nag message sya sakin y I left umuwi daw ako gusto nya daw pag dating nya galing work andun ako mahal ko po ang Asawa ko pero pag nasa harap nyako parang hanguin naman ako. I don't know Kung kailangan ko paba ipaglaban ang marriage namin or I'll stay away
I don't know if it's right to follow the 3months rule or you have to know well the feelings of both of you that matters. If your partners words doesn't fits his action what would you do just keep on hurting your self? So, I did to give space in our relationship but still there's communication between us but not like we talk before and there's still care. I set him free to find himself to find what he need. But is it bad to find myself to? I meet someone but I tell him my present situation and his matured to understand me, and I said I need to find myself and he knows I love my previous one. He said if it's almost toxic relationship with my previous he's willing to help me healed. Maybe I reach the 3 months rule but it's not what matters my previous one is still around still caring but not committing that's what I've been waiting to tell me. Do I accept to be in a relation in this present one? I feel some pain healed little by little.but I know my previous one is still in my heart but what love can do if you're always been hurt. What will I do, what will I decide Tito darbs?
Pano po pag hndi ako open sa nararamdaman ko kasi wala naman sya masyadong pake? Hndi pa sya supportive sa mga gusto ko. Pano po ba yun? Pero mahal ko sya at sabi nya mahal nya din ako. Mag 3 yrs na po kami pero may distance parin.
paano kung 4 years in relationships tinago ng guy sa family niya then now nagkasakit si guy ng Cancers Sept then show up si girl then ung girl hindi tanggap ng fqmily ng guy kc DH lang sa HK at ung guy family nila mayaman ,Feb namatay lahat nalaman ko nalang lahat ng mga cnabi niya sa girl puro kasingulingan. Subrang sakit kc nag waste ng effort, time, feeling doon sa guy. Dapat ba sundin gawin 3 months rules? Lucky hindi pa cla kasal nalamam bandang ung guy bankrupt na pala. Lahat ng secrets ng guy sanama sa hukay. Now hirap na hirap si girl makamove on. Please advice, i really appreciate. Thanks
Isang buwan nalang, 3 months na kaming wala. May improvement naman ako pero wala e siya pa din. Gusto ko na umusad. Pero bat ang hirap? Masaya na siya sa iba e. Gusto ko lang din naman umusad :(
Sarap ng feeling noh na na surpass mo yung pain and natalo mo yung depression.... 3yrs na rin akong single happy lang nmn ako awa ng Dyos buhay pa nmn kahit walang jowa... hahhaha...
Yes Kuya Darbs, pagkalipas ng ilang months lang naming break Wala pang 3 months, sumama siya sa family ng nililigawan niya Pala before me 😅. Sobrang Tanga ko talaga sa part na Hindi ko siya kinilala nang mabuti pero thankful ako Kasi Hindi kami nagtagal, nakilala ko agad Yung ugali niya. Siya pa Naman Yung uri ng taong kinokontak ka pa rin buwan-buwan na naisip ko gusto pa ulit akong gawing option niya. He did call me this month para ayusin daw 🥴... Umayaw na talaga ako, pinabura ko na number ko sa kaniya para no contact na talaga siya. Ngayon Kuya Darbs, sa lahat ng sakit na ginwa niya may feelings pa rin ako pero alam Kong di na siya Yung tamang lalake na gugustuhin Kong magiging ama ng mga anak ko.
Kuya darbs, it’s been a month since we broke up. Nakapag tataka bkt ang bilis niya mag move on hshssh while ako nag grigrieve padn sa pain then i saw her getting back on her exes and make friendship with them especially a person she used to say “kaibigan ko lang” are very close. Sobrang sakit kuya kase i found out she’s a long time friend na pero ngayon ko lang nalaman yun hshshs kung saan flineflec na ung “kaibigan niya”
Goodness totoo sinabi mo kuya darbs, un na yun nasa isip ko. Isa sa mga ex ko di ko rin nasunod yung 3 months rule kasi ang tagal ko inadmit sa sarili ko at sa kanya na hindi talaga malalim ang feelings ko for him. I'm currently engaged na sa taong sigurado ako na gusto kong makasama habang buhay, at sana kung nasaan man ang ex ko ngayon ay naka move on na sakin at nahanap na ang tamang tao for him.
Hi. Kakabreak lang namin ng partner ko dahil sa ugali ko daw. and he also said na ayaw na daw niya at wala ng chance pa. And here I am thinking maybe I have to wait and follow this three months rule. Hindi ko na alam gagawin ko.
You have to be healed from the previous relationship or else you will end up bringing your excess baggage and hurt from your ex in the current relationship. Also if your current partner does something and it reminds u of ur ex that will start an argument not healthy
Kuya Darbs, may tanong po ako. Is it normal and right to do if your ex is asking for a closure even if he's in a rebound relationship now? We're broke up for almost 7months. Lastly, naniniwala po ba kayo sa closure?
At kuya darbs dun Pala sa tanong nyo Kung pag sasamahin nyo po ang content NG life and love okay rin pong both na mag kasama dahil ako Yung mga tanong about my fail relationship na what if question is nasasgot and after nun dun naman kayo nag jujump NG topic about life sa kung anu na ang gagawin MO sa buhay after what happen parang nagging next move po Yung topic about life Para mag move forward sa buhay Kaya maganda rin naman pag samahin kac ako 2years na din pong single at iniwan NG jowa pero Yung mga katanugan ko noon nasasgot na dahil sa binibigay nyong new perspective.. Na dapat maging masaya tayo na NANGYARI iyon na hindi badluck dahil atleast nalaman agad at Yung oras natin hindi na sayan NG madami Lalo na na maging greatful sa kung anu an meron tayo hindi dun sa kung anu wala tayo dahil it's bring sadness Lang sa atin Kung yun ang titignan natin. 👍🇵🇭💪
Kuya Darbs sakin din ang bilis niya kong palitan almost 6 years din kami and one of her reason is ayaw niya sa ugali kong mando. Nahanap niya rin yung wala sakin sa bagong guy na nakilala niya. Sobrang pain lang sakin hindi ko rin alam yung 3 months rule.
Ung sa akin 8 yrs kami nakipag hiwalay xa sa akin Hindi ko tinanggap kaso unti unti ko nmn xa nmn ako nag pahinga sa relasyun namn kaso nalaman ko na nung nakipag hiwalay xa sa akin nalaman ko my iba na pala.. tapos after 6months nag reach out xa oo lasing xa na akala ko magiging ok kami kac Sabi nya Mahal na Mahal nya ako mis na mis na nya ako kaya daw sya nag kakaganun dahil sa akin .. un pala Hindi magulo lang pala isip nya... D ko alam gagawin ko till now hinahabol ko pa din xa.. Mahal na Mahal ko xa.. Ang sakit sakit lang Ng yayari
You just need to accept your own flaws . Mapa physical or mentally. Love what God gaves you. love your insecurities. Understand your failures in life. Always pray. Walang ibang mag mamahal sayo ng totoo kundi ikaw at si God lang luckily your family. Tangapin natin na hindi tayo perfect dont fake yourself just to match someone. Let be yourself then your match will came to you instantly 🤗
Yan nga din naisip q ,kc nag try aq ng 30 days no contact rule kaso after 1week napifeel q na prang umaasa prin aq n babalik xa,kya tinigil q..xka mas nag iisip aq..
Love is a verb. Kung di mo na siya love try loving her, put it into action and love her in the best way she can appreciate it pero kung wala na talaga i explain mo side mo ng mabuti and let her go kasi deserve niya din makakita ng totoong mamahalin siya
May kachat ako na guy and 2months palang silang break that time when he started flirting me. We’ve been friends first for 2months then that happened... and naging m.u kami yes.. and umabot yun sa 2-3 months na sana kaming mag m.u pero binlock ko sya. Because of his ex na chinat ako and hindi daw sila magkaayos ng ka m.u ko dahil sakin. Dahil ako daw lagi ang kausap niya. Sa 1-1/2 month palang namin non na magka m.u alam kong mahal pa niya yung ex niya but as the days pass by nararamdaman ko ng ako na pero pinipigilan ko yung sarili ko kase hindi naman ako sigurado...and I respect yung sa side nung gurl pero nung nag chat yung babae sakin inaway ako eii HAHA...so yun binlock ko nlng silang dalawa para walang issue kase hindi naman ako tipo ng babae na makikipag away at makikipag agawan para sa isang lalaki... i know my worth and hindi ako ganon... so tutal wala namang kami so i know I don’t have the right para paglaban sya so yun hinayaan ko nalang HAHA 2days palang kaming hindi magkachat ngayon and honestly miss ko na sya but ayoko ng issue HAHA kung babalik man sya doon thank you nalang sa short happy times and kung ako yung piliin niya handa akong tanggapin sya but for now I’m just going to let them fix their issues para maayos na nila yung sa past nila and makapag usap sila... It’s ok to fight for someone who loves you, but it’s not right to fight for someone to love you, there’s a huge difference. Hayaan mong piliin ka hindi yung pinili ka kase pinilit mo. Skl guys sana may aral din dito HAHA wala lang yung 3months rule kase it depends siguro yun... sundin mo yung 3months rule as a respect nlng siguro sa ex mong di makamoveon noh? Yung wag ka muna gagawa ng ikakasakit pa niya lalo. Pero d mo din nmn siguro kasalanan kung makakamoveon ka sa 3months ng ganon lang lalo na if galing ka sa isang toxic relationship.🙂
Kakabreak lang namin. 1 week and 3 days na simula nung nag break kami. Then nuong nakaraang araw, nagulat ako kase may iba na sya agad. 1 month lang kami saka ldr pa🥺 kaya iniisip ko na siguro baka di ako bigdeal sa tao. Yung bago nya ngayon, nasa malapit lang. Baka di talaga ako mahal nun HAHAHA🥺
Experiencing pain while in the process of healing is better than feeling the pain while you are in the situation that is hardening and torturing your heart while trying to love someone who doesn't even deserve to be in your life in the first place.. Regain yourself and trust the process. It'll all be worth it in the end.
Investing in YOU is the best gift you can give to yourself😊
i dont know but it feels great to read this message thanks miss rona it helps a lot :-)
Agree
Same, hirap kasi kala mo love un pala ginagamit lang pala ako.
Been together with my ex for 4 years but in LDR situation. It came to a point where our relationship does not work anymore and finding out she's loooking for the love/affection to someone else secretly was a lot worst. And that time came where she's already giving me all the hint to give up, and I did let her go. We broke up in a way she initiated it and I just agree. I agreed not because I don't love her anymore, but because I realized that I can no longer make her happy. That being apart no longer works and our fights will just be a cycle. But as much as I resist, I followed that 3 Month rule and on that duration, I was trying to win her back , to talk and fix things and start over again because I still love her. But all my efforts did not work. Then I decided to move forward. 6 Months after the breakup, nagconfess ako with someone else. The same time my ex was trying to win me back pero tinuloy ko pa rin. Was it a rebound? yes but I learn to love the person I am with now and we are stronger since 2013.
So nag kabalikan po kayo?
Ganyan din nanyare saamin ng partner ko, pagpunta nya abroad, nagbago cya, yun pala may karelasyon na cyang ibang lahi na nag tratrabaho din malapit sa bahay na pinagtrabahoan nya.
Me after break up: FOCUS MUNA SA GOAL🌻
Yes, tama po depende sa iyo.. For me no need to follow the 3 months rule, lalo na kung ikaw ung iniwan sinaktan, dahil ginawa mo naman lahat sa kanya eh, na mahalin siya, supportahan sa gusto, pagka tiwala an, pero binaliwaLa niya lang, eh kung meron namang tao na tunay na nagpapahalaga sayo na matagal na panahon na siya naghintay sayo, bakit Di mo pagbigyan sarili mo na ikaw naman ang mahalin at di sayangin ang pagmamahal mo. Di naman siguro un rebound diba?
Bear with the pain it takes time to heal. Yung saki at frustration Pede mong daanan pero wag mong tambayan. All emotions are temporary.
fresh from break up plng po aq,and i find your channel very comforting at saka helpful,maraming aral.GOD bless you po.
I do believe in 3mons rule not just for him, but for myself para maka moved on ng buong buo. 3 to 6mons I'm okay na ❤❤❤
Kaway kaway sa mga broken na nanunuod 🙋🏻♀️
present 🙋🏽♂️
masaket lang 🙂
masakit im broken now
Tito Darbs 🙌🏻That’s right know your sel-worth muna and self-love, importante yan bago tayo mag mahal ng iba.
Thank you for the inspiring advice kuya darbs. I agree what you've said. But for me, it doesn't matter to follow the three months rule. We must first, heal the pain that we feel in the inside. We must give space and time to ourselves to moving on. And we must accept that certain situation happennings in our daily lives. Because everythinv happens for a reason.
Invest in yourself first♥️ It's worth it😊
Pag hindi nakapaghintay ng 3 month rule, it just means that person does not respect you enough and thinks only of his/her happiness.
agree
100% agree, may pinagaamahan kayo at di nya naiisip yun. Pansarili Lang nya naiisip nya kapag ganun Lalo kung kayo pa Lang at pumasok na naman siya ng new relationship.
D ba @Mark June De Lara
usualy nga kayo pa meron na sila 😔
healer by word, touching our heart and soul♥️
😘😘😘 3 months is just fine...much much better is 1 year. to enjoy yourself alone again.
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3 years in the relationship. I know hindi na ko masaya, binigay ko na kasi lahat and parang di naman worth it. Ayaw saken ng family, lagi na din kami nag aaway. Magkasama kami pero we both know na wala kaming time sa isa't isa. Until, naghiwalay kami. Sinaktan ko sya, nasaktan sya obviously. Di talaga maganda break up and that is October 2019. Now, October 2020, pinanganak na ung baby nya with his office mate. Yes, with someone na pinagselosan ko dati na sabi nya tigilan ko daw. Well, mukhang di na nila kinailangan ung 3months to be together. And ang mas masaya, tanggap ng family nya ung girl and the baby, not like me na mas matagal nya nakasama. Sana lang, happy talaga sila, i know gusto nya na talaga magkababy. Stay safe and be happy. Make your relationship strong, not like ours.
Shecks same situation girl 🥺. Rn, nagheheal pa din ako 😔 and still single.
Mas masakit yung malaman mo na may relasyon na pala sila bago pa kayo maghiwalay. And realized that all along, your instinct is right. But the worst is siniraan ka pa niya sa mga kaibigan niyo kahit na nagsabi ka ng totoo sakanya, may additional na yung kwento niya sa ibang tao. Kasi di niya kayang aminin yung maling ginawa niya. Move forward na lang and be happy to be free from that kind of person. 🙂 #auh #rebuildself
Thank you Kuya Darbs. Very helpful lahat ng advise mo. More power. Stay safe and Godbless😇😊
You always inspire me and motivate me with your powerful words.
Aq bro. 18yrs bgo aq,,,ngkroon. Completely healed aq😊😊anyway. Muchas gracias.😍
Good evening thank you for your helpful advice I much appreciate it..now I'm ok thank you so much for your kindness and tenderness thank you so much I'm feel better in I learn something great every message..sometimes the simplest things mean the most .. I’m humble in grateful for clarify for everything thank you..stay safe God bless you.....🙏🙏🙏✌️
Thank you for making me realize na tama ang desisyon ko sa buhay. I graduated in college but I dont want to be employed. Laging sinasabi sakin na "Sayang degree d ka lang pala mag ttrabaho." Self employed ako since nag aaral ako. Hindi malaki ang kinikita ko sa ngayon pero masaya ako. I feel completed habang ginagawa ko yung gusto ko at araw araw nadadagdagan yung mga gusto ko pang gawin sa buhay.
THANK YOU SIR! New subscriber moko at dahil napanood ko tong vid mo! :)
Thank you po laking tulong
Sarap makinig sa mga advice.
Wow .. Amazing Advices..
I’m always your fan sir darbs.. God bless
Okay one year and counting 💛 hahhaa I’m confident for what i am right now 😁 btw thanks to your advise 😂
Keep it up and please do make more videos! Please!
Find and love yourself first, before entering relationship again❤️
I love you RealTalkDarbs😍😍
Is talking to someone new can call a rebound? because for me, as long as that two person is being honest with their feeling I think it's fine. specially if you know the person that you are talking about is from heartbreak. but bottom line on this is.. you can talk to anyone but we all have to be aware with others feelings too. however, very well said .
Some people like me is easy to move on, not because we did not love the person, but because I really know my worth. At di ko kawalan yun, sila ang nawalan.
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Thank you for your advise,I love this topic.
thank you so much! i hope to meet you po soon and can thank you personally! sobrang laki ng tulong nio sa pinag dadaanan ko ngayon. sanan d po kayo mpagod gumawa ng vlog. God bless you po
Thanks for this, Darbs
Thank u kuya Darbs galing mo tlga. Nakaka alis ng lubgkot dto sa Abroad un mga words of wisdom mo super idol.kta stay safw kuya Darbs abd god bless u moee and love u idol😍
Wala yan sa 3month rule. Kung ipagpapalit ka, ipagpapalit ka agad. Wala pang 1week 💔
Mabilis yan lalo na kung may nagcomfort sa kanya. Tapos magkakadevelopan sila then ayun wala kana kahit lumaban ka pa.
Mahirap labanan kung may Rebound na. Im pursuing myself to him but he ignoring my feelings to him. Almost 1month. Acceptance is a choice para mag move on talaga 🥴
Ako nga 4 days lang kami naghiwalay may eneentertain nang iba
@@jiediazbautista2471 ako nga feeling ko ineentertain na nya yung guy habang kami pa. Nanliligaw daw yung halos magkapalit na yung mukha nilang 2 sa sobrang lapit.
@@japhetphilipledesma9009 yan din ang hindi ko maiintindihan hindi nalang sila magpakatotoo at sabihin kung ayaw na nila.. hahanap pa sila ng way na tayo na mismo ang bumitaw kusa para ano hindi sila ang masisi ang immature lang.
Thank you! Helps me a lot! 💯🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Sobrang haveyyyy mo naman po kuya darbs 😂😂❤❤❤
Crush talaga kita kuyaaaa. So gwapo at matalino. Gosh 😻😻
Thank you kuya darbs always. Sana makausap kita sa problems ko ngayun
Thank you sir dabs nakilala kita, napanood ko video mo po.😀
What if you're currently in a relationship and you caught your bf chatting/talking with his ex which he broke up to 3 years ago and they were planning to be together again and when you confronted him he told you that it was just a mistake and he was choosing you over his ex and he just got confused when he started talking to her again. And then when you talked to his ex and she told you that it was a mutual decision between them to be back together again because they missed their relationship and what they were doing and she will fight for him. And the last message that he sent to her was "di ko mapigilan na mahalin ka" and then he blocked her. And it's different on what he was saying to you that he doesn't love her anymore and you were the one that he loves now and keeps repeating himself that he just got confused. To make the story short, you gave him another chance and another shot for your relationship and whenever you think of what happened it always make you question everything he was showing and telling you and you keep on thinking that what if they met again in the future does his feelings for her will be back again or does it really gone? Or does he really love me or did he just chose me for his convenient? Because they were ldr before and what if he returns to the Philippines what will gonna happen to us? Or am I being toxic thinking all of this and doubting him? Is it worth it staying in a relationship or is it worth it leaving?
Thank you sir dabs
13years in a relationship, 2years engaged, had already paid wedding suppliers and this 3-month rule will work? For sure, he waited perfect time to quit in our wedding. Blaming my negative attitudes? For sure, Fall out of love and a new girl is his best revenge for me that he MOVE ON (maybe) so quickly! Gosh, its been a month after we broke up but I can feel the pain: crying, shouting, seeking advices. I know love yourself first but why is it He's super okay unlike to me little by little healing process. Is 3 month rule enough to heal this pain Kuya Darbs?
Took me a year to move on...
So sad it happened to you...
I hope you will fully heal and may God bless your heart.. Yaan mo na Yan sis di ka nya deserve and always remember "rejection is a blessing"... wish you luck and happiness...
@@Lori_mae87 swerte mo sis. Barely 4months palang itong laban ko ☺️ hoping in a snap of a fingers makakamoveon na ako,pero hindi pa eh, im so tired but my tears out of nowhere coming up again, my moving on is like riding a crazy rollercoaster. Hoping one day to my future self will read this and replying your message. Thank you sis for the advice
@@razelsanor217 sis I knw it's hard been there already halos wala na luha yung iyak ko... pagod na pagod ka na sa kakaiyak... pero pinili ko ang sarili ko ... na realize ko na Mas mahalin pa ang sarili.. ngayon sis masaya na ako sa lovelife ko ramdam ko ang pagmamahal ng bf ko ngayon... hopefully soon maghilom din Yan sis...
My ex-fiancé also left me just a week ago. We were together almost 7 years. I am still in shock and the pain is sometimes unbearable. 😔
@@01cathy30 feel the grieving process sis! Then after that grieving moment of your life you can now decide what do you want in your life without your ex-fiance. I admit I am still in hurt but I choose myself everyday. Self love kumbaga. Cry when you needed and Pray to God what He wanted in your life
Thank you kuya darbs🙂♥️
More powers super crushiiie idol Kita.
Sana all kasing lalim mo mag isip.🥰😍🥰🙏🙏🙏💪💪💪
It just needs 2 committed people that really know what it takes to love and to be love to be able to make it. Ang problema kasi sa kabataan ngayon, ginagawang kumplikado ang napakasimpleng bagay. Ang baba kasi ng standards ng kabataan ngayon sa love, mismong bare minimum lang sobrang pinupuri na e
(Quick fix) word come frkm the book the 7 habits of Highly effective people.. Kuya darbs is a wide reader talaga
kuya darbs sa amin ng ex ko 2mos plang meron na agad sya upgrade pa tlaga kasi foreigner yung lalaki..4years kmi nag live in at may anak kmi...nakakalito tlga.anu ba dapat kung gawin.nag no cotact muna ako kasi masama loob ko.ngayon 3mos na kmi hiwalay.
Thank you ,
Watching this again to the 2nd time around!! 😅 cux im still in 3 month rule... one month n lng hinihintay ko sa matamis nyang "OO"... kahit I spoiled him so much! 😂😫😫😩
Ok thank you...
3months to short to heal..for.me.it takes 3yrs.1yr ninannam q.muna.ang sakit 2nd year start getting back.myself 3rd year start mingle to someone but its all fresh but starting getting out from the painful shell
i really still moving on process it become 2 month really its not so easy....but god knows i do everything i could to get through this process of moving on .....
Madali sabihin mg move on pero mahirap gawin,,,katulad sakin na hndi madali mkalimut sa sakit..bitter lng
KUYA DARBS➡️NEXT TOPIC PLEASE: How to move on from a situationship?
Thank you
Kuya darbs nag abut po kami 11 months mag wa1year na sana kaso bumitaw siya kuya darbs tatlong beses ko pinapabalikbalik yung advice mo na LDR kuya darbs but we fail tas nag hanap siya ng iba ngayon ... Paano po masasabi na minahal nya rin daw po ako kaso pagud na daw siya then im looking to your videos in yt about 3month kuya darbs bat di niya nasunod? Nag hahanap na siyaa agad ngayon
Okay, 3 years & counting!🤦 2 mos of being in relationship & 3 years of marriage. And I'm still moving on.
How po my husband cheated me. We've been girlfriend boyfriend at the age of 14 nagpa kasal kami dito sa uae when we are 32 7 years na kami happily married till last month nahuli ko sya mag ka chat sila NG gurl. Wala kaming anak plano. Palang Sana namin na magpa doctor dito kaso nawalan ako work. Lumipat ang 1 month nagiba na sya sa pakikitungo sakin at my bday last saturday hindi ko na nakayanan I ask him Kung anu na a talaga nangyayari sa relasyun namin since Alam ko na me iba. But I'm the one he let go. The problem is gusto nya dun padin me sa bahay hanggang mag kawork daw ako pero every time na magkasama kami pinaparamdam nya sakin na Mahal nya ang gurl as he always texted her sa harap ko..naguguluhan ako umalis nako then nag message sya sakin y I left umuwi daw ako gusto nya daw pag dating nya galing work andun ako mahal ko po ang Asawa ko pero pag nasa harap nyako parang hanguin naman ako. I don't know Kung kailangan ko paba ipaglaban ang marriage namin or I'll stay away
I don't know if it's right to follow the 3months rule or you have to know well the feelings of both of you that matters. If your partners words doesn't fits his action what would you do just keep on hurting your self? So, I did to give space in our relationship but still there's communication between us but not like we talk before and there's still care. I set him free to find himself to find what he need. But is it bad to find myself to? I meet someone but I tell him my present situation and his matured to understand me, and I said I need to find myself and he knows I love my previous one. He said if it's almost toxic relationship with my previous he's willing to help me healed. Maybe I reach the 3 months rule but it's not what matters my previous one is still around still caring but not committing that's what I've been waiting to tell me. Do I accept to be in a relation in this present one? I feel some pain healed little by little.but I know my previous one is still in my heart but what love can do if you're always been hurt. What will I do, what will I decide Tito darbs?
What do you do delete you and it’ll come back on messenger or message back
Bat lumabas sa feeds ko to? Kelangan ko na ba tlaga mag move on? Or kelangan kona tlaga? 🙈 start nako ng 3month rule. 🙈🤦♀️
Pano po pag hndi ako open sa nararamdaman ko kasi wala naman sya masyadong pake? Hndi pa sya supportive sa mga gusto ko. Pano po ba yun? Pero mahal ko sya at sabi nya mahal nya din ako. Mag 3 yrs na po kami pero may distance parin.
Paano ko malalaman kung gusto nya ako or hindi?
Napanuod ko na ito sa FB pero inulit ko LOL. Sana ung ibang topics mo about work, being OFW ung inspirational topics.
Hannah J yes po meron na soon!
paano kung 4 years in relationships tinago ng guy sa family niya then now nagkasakit si guy ng Cancers Sept then show up si girl then ung girl hindi tanggap ng fqmily ng guy kc DH lang sa HK at ung guy family nila mayaman ,Feb namatay lahat nalaman ko nalang lahat ng mga cnabi niya sa girl puro kasingulingan. Subrang sakit kc nag waste ng effort, time, feeling doon sa guy. Dapat ba sundin gawin 3 months rules? Lucky hindi pa cla kasal nalamam bandang ung guy bankrupt na pala. Lahat ng secrets ng guy sanama sa hukay. Now hirap na hirap si girl makamove on. Please advice, i really appreciate. Thanks
Isang buwan nalang, 3 months na kaming wala. May improvement naman ako pero wala e siya pa din. Gusto ko na umusad. Pero bat ang hirap? Masaya na siya sa iba e. Gusto ko lang din naman umusad :(
In time sis🙏
Sameee
Kuya Darbs, mali po b mnghingi ng space pgka ngkaroon k ng personal problems at prang sa tingin mo naaapektuhan ung relationship nyo?
Sobrang natatamaan po ko 💔
For me, nalampasan ko pa yung 3 month rule. Almost 2 years na akong walang jowa 😂
Jowain kita ;)
Sarap ng feeling noh na na surpass mo yung pain and natalo mo yung depression.... 3yrs na rin akong single happy lang nmn ako awa ng Dyos buhay pa nmn kahit walang jowa... hahhaha...
Yes Kuya Darbs, pagkalipas ng ilang months lang naming break Wala pang 3 months, sumama siya sa family ng nililigawan niya Pala before me 😅. Sobrang Tanga ko talaga sa part na Hindi ko siya kinilala nang mabuti pero thankful ako Kasi Hindi kami nagtagal, nakilala ko agad Yung ugali niya.
Siya pa Naman Yung uri ng taong kinokontak ka pa rin buwan-buwan na naisip ko gusto pa ulit akong gawing option niya. He did call me this month para ayusin daw 🥴...
Umayaw na talaga ako, pinabura ko na number ko sa kaniya para no contact na talaga siya.
Ngayon Kuya Darbs, sa lahat ng sakit na ginwa niya may feelings pa rin ako pero alam Kong di na siya Yung tamang lalake na gugustuhin Kong magiging ama ng mga anak ko.
Naka 1 week process for moving on ka pa lang, pero sya naka 3 monthsarry na sa iba..
Kuya darbs, it’s been a month since we broke up. Nakapag tataka bkt ang bilis niya mag move on hshssh while ako nag grigrieve padn sa pain then i saw her getting back on her exes and make friendship with them especially a person she used to say “kaibigan ko lang” are very close. Sobrang sakit kuya kase i found out she’s a long time friend na pero ngayon ko lang nalaman yun hshshs kung saan flineflec na ung “kaibigan niya”
May magagawa ba yang 3 month rule kung si god na mismo nag bigay ng sign
Hello kuya darbs i'm jen from qatar. Pwede po b ako humngi ng advice sayo?
Goodness totoo sinabi mo kuya darbs, un na yun nasa isip ko. Isa sa mga ex ko di ko rin nasunod yung 3 months rule kasi ang tagal ko inadmit sa sarili ko at sa kanya na hindi talaga malalim ang feelings ko for him.
I'm currently engaged na sa taong sigurado ako na gusto kong makasama habang buhay, at sana kung nasaan man ang ex ko ngayon ay naka move on na sakin at nahanap na ang tamang tao for him.
Hello kuya Darbs
Hi. Kakabreak lang namin ng partner ko dahil sa ugali ko daw.
and he also said na ayaw na daw niya at wala ng chance pa.
And here I am thinking maybe I have to wait and follow this three months rule. Hindi ko na alam gagawin ko.
Madami ako gusto i tanong pero ayaw niya makinig or mag reply i feel rejected gibawa ko na lahat parang wala sa kanya 😢
You have to be healed from the previous relationship or else you will end up bringing your excess baggage and hurt from your ex in the current relationship.
Also if your current partner does something and it reminds u of ur ex that will start an argument not healthy
Kuya Darbs, may tanong po ako. Is it normal and right to do if your ex is asking for a closure even if he's in a rebound relationship now? We're broke up for almost 7months. Lastly, naniniwala po ba kayo sa closure?
For me sis uo mas mabuti kasi ung my closure for me lng ha,,
Mas maganda 3 months rule sundin kasi ako 4 months bago ko naka move on,sa ngayon hindi kona na sya naaalala
At kuya darbs dun Pala sa tanong nyo Kung pag sasamahin nyo po ang content NG life and love okay rin pong both na mag kasama dahil ako Yung mga tanong about my fail relationship na what if question is nasasgot and after nun dun naman kayo nag jujump NG topic about life sa kung anu na ang gagawin MO sa buhay after what happen parang nagging next move po Yung topic about life Para mag move forward sa buhay Kaya maganda rin naman pag samahin kac ako 2years na din pong single at iniwan NG jowa pero Yung mga katanugan ko noon nasasgot na dahil sa binibigay nyong new perspective..
Na dapat maging masaya tayo na NANGYARI iyon na hindi badluck dahil atleast nalaman agad at Yung oras natin hindi na sayan NG madami Lalo na na maging greatful sa kung anu an meron tayo hindi dun sa kung anu wala tayo dahil it's bring sadness Lang sa atin Kung yun ang titignan natin. 👍🇵🇭💪
Kuya Darbs sakin din ang bilis niya kong palitan almost 6 years din kami and one of her reason is ayaw niya sa ugali kong mando. Nahanap niya rin yung wala sakin sa bagong guy na nakilala niya. Sobrang pain lang sakin hindi ko rin alam yung 3 months rule.
Ung sa akin 8 yrs kami nakipag hiwalay xa sa akin Hindi ko tinanggap kaso unti unti ko nmn xa nmn ako nag pahinga sa relasyun namn kaso nalaman ko na nung nakipag hiwalay xa sa akin nalaman ko my iba na pala.. tapos after 6months nag reach out xa oo lasing xa na akala ko magiging ok kami kac Sabi nya Mahal na Mahal nya ako mis na mis na nya ako kaya daw sya nag kakaganun dahil sa akin .. un pala Hindi magulo lang pala isip nya... D ko alam gagawin ko till now hinahabol ko pa din xa.. Mahal na Mahal ko xa.. Ang sakit sakit lang Ng yayari
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pa review naman yung nabasa ko sa Twitter na "they write too, " with real story of Kim Fajardo.
pero pag 4 days after ng break up nyo may bago na ano tawag nyo dun?
Same 😂 nghanap ng iba
I have a question po, how do I start loving my self?
Start having an intimate relationship with Christ and you'll realize your worth.
~xoxo
Appreciate yourself, make your self better by being happy with what you have. Continuously compliment yourself
You just need to accept your own flaws . Mapa physical or mentally. Love what God gaves you. love your insecurities. Understand your failures in life. Always pray. Walang ibang mag mamahal sayo ng totoo kundi ikaw at si God lang luckily your family. Tangapin natin na hindi tayo perfect dont fake yourself just to match someone. Let be yourself then your match will came to you instantly 🤗
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Xa nga 3 months b4 break up naminmay jowa na🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ako sir if depend sana anjan na xa
No need to follow 3 month rule. Umaasa ka lang nun na magkabalikan kau. Move on na bes. haha
Yan nga din naisip q ,kc nag try aq ng 30 days no contact rule kaso after 1week napifeel q na prang umaasa prin aq n babalik xa,kya tinigil q..xka mas nag iisip aq..
Tito Darbs paano sasabihin na ende mo na love ang isang tao parang dumating na lang sa point na ayaw mo na kasi sawa ka na
Love is a verb. Kung di mo na siya love try loving her, put it into action and love her in the best way she can appreciate it pero kung wala na talaga i explain mo side mo ng mabuti and let her go kasi deserve niya din makakita ng totoong mamahalin siya
Yung ex ko one week lang may jowa na tapos after 7 weeks buntis na 🤣 tapos todo deny pa na wala daw siyang lalaki at ka relasyon
New subscriber here from Davao City.
I've been following you din po sa facebook. 😄😄
Dec. 22, 2021 Wednesday
paano kuya darbs kung kaka break nya lang saken 5days palang meron na agad syang bf.
Hahaha ibig sbhn lng non hnd p kau ngbbreak humanap n sya NG reserba pra pgbreak nyo cla n agd.. bwisit ung mga ganong tao
Same here...
For me umabot NG years bago ako makapag move on tlaga, me friend ako na weeks plng me jowa n agad agad 😂
May kachat ako na guy and 2months palang silang break that time when he started flirting me. We’ve been friends first for 2months then that happened... and naging m.u kami yes.. and umabot yun sa 2-3 months na sana kaming mag m.u pero binlock ko sya. Because of his ex na chinat ako and hindi daw sila magkaayos ng ka m.u ko dahil sakin. Dahil ako daw lagi ang kausap niya. Sa 1-1/2 month palang namin non na magka m.u alam kong mahal pa niya yung ex niya but as the days pass by nararamdaman ko ng ako na pero pinipigilan ko yung sarili ko kase hindi naman ako sigurado...and I respect yung sa side nung gurl pero nung nag chat yung babae sakin inaway ako eii HAHA...so yun binlock ko nlng silang dalawa para walang issue kase hindi naman ako tipo ng babae na makikipag away at makikipag agawan para sa isang lalaki... i know my worth and hindi ako ganon... so tutal wala namang kami so i know I don’t have the right para paglaban sya so yun hinayaan ko nalang HAHA 2days palang kaming hindi magkachat ngayon and honestly miss ko na sya but ayoko ng issue HAHA kung babalik man sya doon thank you nalang sa short happy times and kung ako yung piliin niya handa akong tanggapin sya but for now I’m just going to let them fix their issues para maayos na nila yung sa past nila and makapag usap sila... It’s ok to fight for someone who loves you, but it’s not right to fight for someone to love you, there’s a huge difference. Hayaan mong piliin ka hindi yung pinili ka kase pinilit mo. Skl guys sana may aral din dito HAHA wala lang yung 3months rule kase it depends siguro yun... sundin mo yung 3months rule as a respect nlng siguro sa ex mong di makamoveon noh? Yung wag ka muna gagawa ng ikakasakit pa niya lalo. Pero d mo din nmn siguro kasalanan kung makakamoveon ka sa 3months ng ganon lang lalo na if galing ka sa isang toxic relationship.🙂
Kakabreak lang namin. 1 week and 3 days na simula nung nag break kami. Then nuong nakaraang araw, nagulat ako kase may iba na sya agad. 1 month lang kami saka ldr pa🥺 kaya iniisip ko na siguro baka di ako bigdeal sa tao. Yung bago nya ngayon, nasa malapit lang. Baka di talaga ako mahal nun HAHAHA🥺
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@@jancenerdeguzman1228 Ayos na ako HAHAHHAHA
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Yong sa akin kuya darbs 3days lang may jowa na siya