What Happens When ADHD Is Left Untreated
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ส.ค. 2020
- If you don't deal with your ADHD then you could be setting yourself up for a lifetime of negative consequences.
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This episode was originally released in October 2019 with the title, "The Downsides of ADHD."
It makes you feel like you can never progress in life…. You get depressed and get major dark thoughts…. At least I have…
Round and round in circles. I've been so close to the edge 😢
Glad I'm not the only one feeling depressed and having very dark thoughts. I'm going to make an appointment with my GP because it has me worried.
It's not an asset. I'd rather not have it than have it. It brings more difficulties than positives
Seriously, I wish I knew what normal was like without medication
Shit I just wish I knew what normal is period
Agreed. Diagnosed at 5y... Almost 40.... My life is a complete f up.... I'd rather not have it at all....
1000%
Finally someone being straight and admitting ADHD is horrific. Thank you.
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They dint want to treag me i was treated since 15 years i ferl myblife is gone.
O had meds since 15 years they removed it since im the most sad person. K really tried without meds im af the rnd of my rope. They ruined my life i jyst needed my meds in may not Now niw but i lost hope no doctor give ne back my medd im tired.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@@karineaudet6270 hey mate. Hope you're doing ok. Hang in there!! 💪
ADHD is utter hell.
I was diagnosed when I was 8 and my mother is a delusional hippie who doesn't believe in mental disorders and declined medication. Might have been the right move at the time for my age, but my adult life has been miserable, being raised in poverty, never having insurance, trying to function and grind and endless scattered routine without being able to find medication is ruining my life. I used to buy MDMA and Adderall off the street in my teens and early 20's because it was the only way I could feel genuinely good and have a productive day in school and at work. I've since tried as an adult to find medication for my diagnoses but no free insurance covers any doctor worth a sh**. They just put me on BS antidepressants, which to an ADHD patient are equvelant to sugar pills, and tell me I have to take it for 3 to 6 months before I know if it works or not. And it never works.
you might have adhd but with all the effort you have already put in your definitely going to live a successful life
I was on so many antidepressants and genuinely think and feel from my experience, they only made my life greatly more difficult and harder to understand. It did nothing to change my unbearable emotions and just made me feel more okay with shit life syndrome.
Your experience is very comparable to mine...it frustrating as hell to get a doctor worth a shit these days that know anything!!!!
"antidepressants are like sugar pills" this! and then when you go through several, they don't work, and your life continues to get worse. You're left feeling burnout, guilty, and exhausted as if there's something inherently wrong with you when really it's just the doctors and psychatrists that refuse to listen to your symptoms and take them seriously
This is why it's called a disability. It's a fucking nightmare that never ends. It makes you depressed and hopeless and yet you continue to do the things (like impulsive spending and procrastination) that cause you to be miserable. I'm getting my evaluation in January it's like the only thing keeping me sane, but even then I have no idea if I can afford meds that I desperately need.
adhd has ruined my life by a doctor who refused to treat it for ten years....
My ADHD has completely ruined my life. I am worried about getting a job because I know I will screw it up. My mom and dad ignore it unless it's an excuse of school or doctor.
This is not an asset! This is an asset for people who have grown up in wealthy families who do not need to make a living or be organised in any way and have the money to indulge in all of their wacky ideas or new hobbies this is almost nobody! 99.9% of people will have there lives ruined by this thing if untreated and even with treatment everything is going to be more difficult than their typical counterparts! Asset lol disgusting!
I understand the frustration and the difficulty linked to ADHD... However, I must say that it has nothing to do with growing up in a wealth family! I grew up in a VERY modest family and struggled most of my life. Went through drug addiction, alcoholism, developed other co-morbidity, never could stay in a relationship or keep a job for very long, etc. I just had no idea I had ADHD (I come from Europe where most people don't know or believe in it). Now that I understand better my own brain, I do tend to believe it should be called a "trait" rather than a "disorder" and that is actually could be an ASSET. You might disagree, fine, but I am one living proof that the wealth of your family is not directly related with how you will manage your ADHD. I guess, what I mean is : "There is hope for you too! There is!".
@@nadiab.8869 Hi, I do get frustrated but intended no offence. I’m from the U.K. and grew up on welfare life is tough at the bottom but this is even more devastating as most people here do not believe in it or think it’s for children. As you said yourself holding down a job is very difficult and relationships are very difficult and then throw in co-morbidities like depression anxiety OCD and your going to have a hard life. How would you describe this as a trait and not a disorder. For me a trait is blonde hair or a sense of humour. I believe disorder is not a strong enough word as it implies this is a minor thing not something that will potentially ruin your whole life. I think of it like low level autism that’s more what it’s like in my opinion. As for it being an asset please tell me how it could be an asset I would not wish this on anybody. Again no offence intended! 😉
Agreed! Went from employed and having a side business at 27 (which I had been doing for about 8 years). To unemployed and broke at 30. I was super productive and more successful than my peers already at 23 but at rock bottom at 30… Don’t know how I should aim my life from now on… Probably try to take a simple low paying job and rest my personal life away. It’s a bit sad to go from super productive to underachiever
This is a fucken curse
@@phamelaafriconglo4821 Agreed.
I was diagnosed at 42, it saved my life. This video hits home so hard.
I can’t get diagnosed, recently discovered THIS explains my life. Now homeless. Drowning.
HEHEH , BUT ADHD IS OUR SUPERPOWER , RIGHT ?
Hope you're okay bud. Keep going
check yourself into a mental health facility and get a diagnosis. you are ill - they will help.
Sheeet. Me unemployed lazy ass, if I don't change myself somehow beat this superpower I will also be homeless
I used to go to a depression forum and there was definitely higher than average number of people saying they had ADHD. Also conditions like Autism and Bipolar disorder were common.
The selfishness of society was also recognized by pretty much everyone as being a big contributor to why they were depressed.
It funny how my family I've known my whole life that knows ADHD and autism runs in the genes but they couldn't see i have inattactive ADHD but my school counselor that I've only seen for 1 week saw it😣
cause they choose not to, maybe because they're too embarrassed to have a family member with mental disabilities like my family.
good thats youre getting help so soon. some people screw their lives up and find out the problem way later on, like in their 30s or even 60s. hope everything works out :)
I'm 58 years old. I have a d h d and it is a mysterious struggle everyday. I lose track of time don't get things done when they..
Fucking thank you! Someone who just out and says how awful this shit is. It has taken so much from me I just hope after I get diagnosed things start getting easier. My assessment is only a month away but it feels like an eternity. I just want help and to be taken seriously
My parents knew I had adhd I was diagnosed at 10 and had no idea they did nothing to help me I am now a 20 year old depressed no dreams never had a relationship losing jobs...no education they literally knew I had it anf still said I was lazy and unproductive I even lived alone from the age of 16 my life is ruined period.....untreated adhd is literally not a joke it WILL ruin your life...and yeah I am addicted to drugs
24,same boat.
Omg same here! Literally they ruined my life and don’t care but scold me and i used drugs too to help cope
youre not ruined - u have lots left - 20 is just the beginning. go to a doctor - they will get u the meds u need/treatment. they can even help you get off drugs but u need to be honest with them. all the best.
@taxisslaveryboxing1347
Yes, but sometimes they can sometimes take you to psych hospital and that’s scary for some people (especially me and that’s why haven’t gotten any help)
Sometimes You can get all the help in the world and it still won't matter:(
What’s hurting me now is the crappy generic adderall that the pharmacies gravitate toward. I’m in my 50s and knew I always had it but back in my day it was. Only called attention to the hyper active little boy jumping in class. I was diagnosed over a year ago as the inattentive type. The first generic they gave me worked excellent I was driven and had energy. Than the pharmacy switched to another generic without warning. It did absolutely nothing. I swear it was the placebo effect. When I questioned if I could stay with the former generic they gave me the side eye and said Nope 👎 My insurance changed than I was switched to another pharmacy and there generic gave me bad headaches and I felt I was being ruffed at a bar. I even looked up comments on these generics and all complaints so no this was not all in my head. The generic that worked and most people gave a thumbs up was made in the 🇺🇸 USA. The others ones were Taiwan and other countries. It’s like the generics that work all of a sudden vanish in thin air. Sorry 😢 but I’m not the only one that feels this way and the lowest price quote for brand out of pocket was a mere 500 dollars. Yeah no big deal lol. I’m through with searching and being rejected so I have gone off Adderall completely. Why take a generic that neither does anything or give bad side affects. The irony of this is that I wanted to keep the same generic and never once asked to switch and it’s the. Pharmacies constantly switching the manufacturer but you get treated like your the problem. Sad to say my Add is worse now than ever. I wish there was an answer to this and yes I’m not the only one going down the dark and lonely rabbit 🐇 hole 🤦♀️
I'm sorry this happened to you. You're right. This has happened with other meds also. Are there brand name meds?
Here I am popping Oxy trying to numb the pain of my untreated ADHD leading to SEVERAL chronic diseases which have ruined my life, and now I can't even get treatment cause one of the diseases it indirectly lead to has contraindication with practically all ADHD meds (stims and non stim). Obesity, chronic pain, ideopathic intracranial hypertension, depression, OCD, anxiety, addiction issues. If I have to live like this for another few years I will off myself.
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I've never really been diagnosed with adhd. I always laughed that I have it but never really understood it. Now being 40 years old I do realise what it really is. I just thought I'm different than others and just can't fit in. The amount of damage I have taken through my life is overwhelming. Now I start to see that I have a problem and need to fix it. Damn if I just didn't hate life so much things would be so much easier...
same here. 40 and a mess.
I have also never been diagnosed with ADHD, I am 38 and since i was young tried to overcompensate it with fulfilling the expectations of others in my family in beeing what they wanted me to be, high functionalty I guess. Now I have a highly paid job, a family and a house, but this "desired normal" life is soo exhausting and painful. But everytime I try to be a little more of my "real" ADHD Self I immediately get the feedback to not be like that. It is a damn curse I wish for absolutely nobody.
@@freddiemehrcurry428 that's the problem. I'm 40 now. I was a super happy child until I became an adult. Then it's like my life stopped and never really happened. It's like I've lost 20 years of my life somewhere and cant get it back. My aim now is to become my real "me" as 20 years of depression and suicidal thoughts is enough. It may cause more damage along the way but will bring happiness in the end. Living someone elses life I may have never been born as well, although I count my childhood as a happy part of my life worth living on it's own. After that all there was is just fitting in behaving as I was told as it's all I ever knew. I'm sorry to hear other people have to go through it. Hope you'll find the way for the real you to come back to life one day.
@@BXLrules sorry to hear that. :-(
@@user-vc9sh9hz8n I'm on it. getting diagnosed, I've found a group, started meds. Now I've got to learn to be more gentle towards myself. Take care✌️
Help me😢... it's ruining my life..literally I feel like ending it
Please don’t
How do I get help with this. Honestly ADHD has ruined my life. I feel like Im in quicksand slowly sinking.
It’s very real. And devastating
Thank you ❤️
I’m struggling so much man i can’t do this longer and i did use drugs to self medicate
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And nutritional psychiatrist Dr. Chris Palmer
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Thank you, I had no idea it was anything like that.
I'm 68, just found out I'm ADHD. It's been hard, peoples intolerance and criticism was hard.
It was hard overcoming anxiety, depression, confidence issues and my wife's autism makes for a difficult life. Never stopped me from having a career, but ive noticed that i need mire time out between contracts to recover emotionally from cut and thrusts, but i just keep going. No alcohol, smoking or drugs, then your in with a fighting chance go well everyone.
It’s not an asset for me i literally can’t hold a job and i will become homeless soon. The doctors are not listening to me
Sorry for spamming the comments, I'm not sure what to do or say except to suggest the Surrender Prayer th-cam.com/video/R5jYLR2x9jI/w-d-xo.html
And nutritional psychiatrist Dr. Chris Palmer
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Thank you :)
Been diagnosed. I had hope when I got medication so I know what it’s like to not be so fuzzy. I haven’t been able to medicine for eight weeks. To feel hopeless when you know there are answers or were? There was a movie I think called Awakenings and when I saw that it clicked with my fear that something could happen and I’d be what I was before. I’ve been sober for a long time. Acceptance is by important but accepting that too many people supposedly are diagnosed so I’m out of luck? I’m trying so hard but I’m grieving those days where it was ok to hope.
I very much appreciate your work and agree on so many levels, however I have contention with 1 of your arguments and in-fact it’s the first in this video. ADHD yes hyper focus (in areas if interest) severe lack of attention, focus, AND retention of pertinent information in areas of little to no interest!!! For example I can read a book of no interest and at the end of each page you were to ask me to summarize what I had just read i would not be able to articulate very well if at all what I read. On the other hand as im a mechanic and have strong interests here I can read a technical manual such as torque sequence for Chevy small block. You would observe me flipping thru it almost hard to believe I was even reading it at all and in 10 years I could still recite, verbatim the torque sequence and pound factors of installing the intake manifold on page 10. Im not joking or blowing smoke here this has been a most traumatic and difficult lesson to learn to live with
Bingo! Same here. Diagnosed at 40. I will never remember what temps/ time to set an oven for anything. Saying that. You would want me on your trivia team when it comes to music and cars. I have unlimited ram for that shit.
I'm nearly positive I've had adhd my entire life (35yrs)... now I'm on SSRI's and my symptoms have gotten much worse. Sleep is a nightmare. I sleep but my entire sleep is full of twitching & restlessness. Thus, leading to feeling emotionally & physically depleted. Doc thinks I have anxiety and depression but the more research I've done the more and more ADD seems to fit the puzzle. Can anybody give any insight to using SSRIs on ADHD patients?
SSRIs can help with ADHD but definitely aren’t the preferred treatment. You need a stimulant. You could also try bupropion, atomoxitine, gunafacine, or clonidine
Same here
The only medicine for depression I’ve heard of working for adhd is Wellbutrin and it’s not fool proof and if you can ask to switch that go for it
i prefer ssnri
Idk if I have it or don't yet (I have symptoms) and constantly keep asking my mom to get me tested and she kept saying how it wasn't real and how doctors only make it up for money which is NOT TRUE, it's not her fault of course, she grew up in a 3rd world country where that stuff wasn't talked about but still, it took her me going to in person therapy and the therapist telling her for me to go get tested for her to acknowledge it, I might edit this comment when I learn more
Why did they group all of them into ADHD? My husband was diagnosed with ADD when we were 12. (Known him my whole life) He will not go back to the Dr because he isn't hyper and refused to be grouped in when what he has actually has very different things
Its just how the diagnosis is made, the treatment is no different for someone who is hyperactive vs non hyperactive
@@dogguy8603 The treatment is the same.
ADD = ADHD inattentive.
There are 3 types of ADHD
Inattentive
Combined - hyperactive & inattentive
Hyperactive.
They're all grouped together because as dog guy said, it's the same line of treatment for all of them. They are also all tye same, their presentation is different with inattentive being internal and hyperactive being external
Thankyou
Distraction Jackson.🤟🏻
It did not stop me from pursuing an engineering career across 4 continents. Training and forced focus management courses helped a lot. Enjoying my work - despite being called moody, i was just focused. My problem is that i remain tuned into my surroundings, and it's exhausting.
I'm suffering a lot
Untreated Unemployment yup. I’m in a very bad space I feel like there’s no hope No options
Mine was untreated and I did well.
It is very hard to get to get detected, diagnosed and treated.
Late diagnoses hard to accept .
Yes , untreated ADHD, can cause multiple issues .
Treatment from the psychiatrist is only really medication, there should be psycho-social treatment.
Looking for new Dr and pharmacist who care...sad when a person needs help is denied proper treatment
Was this episode sponsored by omega brite cbd? I think I missed that part…
BINGO! Got the full house there. I’m in recovery and shit now and I can talk and actively listen and stuff now. It’s more internal. It’s like a million thoughts at every time. I think it’s actually made me kinda clever tbh cause I learn about 10009 things per day 😂 But yes I’m still here to get better
Can you please tell me how you get over it? My life has become a living hell
Hey Salina. You have caught me at a very good time, as about 2 hours ago I was not in the place to deal with anything - couple of hours later in hyper focus and I can sit down and reply to you 😊 For what it’s worth, I don’t think we ever get over it. It peaks and it troughs. I never realised my neurological traits were associated with ADHD until after I had beat addiction, in a non-conventional way for what it’s worth. So if any part of fixing any component of your life scares you. Don’t worry. You will have the tools to create your own path.
A couple of things I’ve found to be really helpful, albeit quite hard in the short term are;
Own it: You may not know this, but the people you have had in ur life already accept you, even though you’ll have a realisation that some of what you do, say, and behave like at times may be off putting to others. They people are gold dust, when you talk to them. Whoever they may be, they will already know a lot of this stuff about you. But remember, they’re still in your life because they accept you regardless.
2. Get used to saying sorry and being truthful. If you lose attention mid conversation, or haven’t paid attention to something important. Acknowledge it, apologise. Refocus and try again. This goes a long way in building trusting relationships, anybody that doesn’t accept that.
3. You will notice that you can handle some situations that others will there find extremely challenging, sometimes it’s worth taking note on what these are. And becoming an expert in that area. For me, one of these is in my workplace - I realised that working with young offenders and people with quite the chaotic lifestyle is kinda easy for me when the going gets tough.
Try not to follow the ‘conventional’ methods all the time. The balance between chaos and order is one that we will find difficult. Have a mental dumping ground, whether it’s a whiteboard, a book, a page, a clipboard, whatever it is. Anything you know you’ll forget to deal with. Stick it in there. It’s like magic, it stops pinging around your brain almost instantly, it’s filed away safely. I use a wee colour code, so I’ll go back to this book of madness when I feel relatively regulated. Purple dots - super important, green dots, important but can wait. Red - I hate red for whatever reason, so to force myself to do something u I hate. I’ll use red. Just to get it away asap. A little blue dot for me signifies something that I should just remember. This can be something affirming, or something you’ve found works and it reminds you to try it again.
For example, if I find myself in a sort of paralysis by analysis situation. What I do is, put my headphones on. Put some music on full blast. And just go. See what happens…. You’ll probably forget most of what you’ve achieved. As no doubt I will by the time I drop this phone and go back to doing whatever I was doing. I know this is written adhdAF. But I s’pose that’s me 😊 And if any of this is helpful, even a tiny bit for you. Then for me. It’s been worth it 😊 And if it hasn’t, I’ll remember my intentions were pure and genuine. We can’t really choose what we do, so just know that the fact I’m writing this. I do care about your struggles and I hope and believe in u 😊 carve your own path. Good luck Salina (sorry I had to check back because of course, I had forgotten your name 😂, own it. It’s fine 😊 see)
@@St4tune thank you so much for this support and advices i really appreciate your effort.This is the first time someone understood me. I hope you keep fighting take love 3>
With all due respect Dr. Hallowell, it is impossible to me in my life conceive, accept, understand the idea that ADHD is positive, is an advantage, is beneficial for anyone... I've been trying to treat my adult ADHD for more than 20 years and unfortunately I couldn't find the right professional, the right medicine, the right treatment...
I just erase by ADHD mistake ten lines I wrote for this comment... I tired of this errors all the fuckin time. Over and over again. I'm medicated... I feel like I'm fucking cursed by GOD itself... GOD does not want me to be happy, no even close... What did it do? Can GOD forgive my sins? What is the purpose of a life of pain and suffering that leads to no meaning at all?
its been a minute intro I dont care anymore
Yeah nothing's better than an entire minute of talking about something to sell what was the video about I couldn't focus
If I only knew how to convince some of tthose Psychothearpist diagnosing fools to take another look at me after they only tested me for adHHHHHd yet I feel like I am so ADHD it would explain my life but I just don't have so much HHHHH inside....and after the mimi getting rherapy is even more ridicolous than before. And that EVEN in a HEALTH INSURED coutnry...
I used to think it was something they made up and named it that, (ADHD) because of naughty kids.
Prison time been there done that
That's tough... I can easily imagine how that could happen...! I hope you're treating yourself well now and getting better! Courage!
this is me.
Ruined mine for sure. No help with prescribed prozac.
Depression
What a waste I've been. Just because I had to have this curse put on me.
Never being good enough for people only God makes suicide so tempting. People are deceptive and cruel. And those empathetic ADHD spiritual gifts seems beautiful until u realize u don't fit in this world as u are. It's sad
Like The vid
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Suicide
tbh idk why im here
What is being said here is not complimentary to what Dr. Russell Berkeley says. He’s crystal clear: ADHD is not an asset. When people are successful with adhd, they’re successful in spite of their adhd, not because of it.
Let’s be honest about that. There’s very little agreement here.
Constructive feedback. This intro was too long.