Either ask “you guys serious?” (If your confident enough you can probably get her insta, not all girls are loyal) or joke and say “damn I didn’t know we were dating”.
@@cobymazariegos8252do not do this. At a certain point you have to learn to no longer pursue someone. If she says that she’s clearly not interested in you or she ACTUALLY has a boyfriend and is loyal.
It is great advice for Chads and horrible advice for everybody else. The outcome of something like this is predetermined by if you are good looking and tall or not. If Chad does this the woman was hoping in the first place that he would come over and talk to her, even if he is insanely shy and has 0 confidence the woman will welcome it and make it as easy as possible for Chad. On the other hand if an average guy even with the uttermost confidence and best social skills in the world does it he will instantly get rejected and shut down because the woman was hoping the guy wouldn’t talk to her and leave her alone. Looks = personality.
That's why they say "excuse me" , It's polite but it barely bothers the person. Unlike some people who randomly asks random shit to a person and that is very disturbing to the invididual he's talking to.
@@brendanbudniak2261 Bro, it's just a NO, calm down. In some countries, it is considered rude to interrupt someone's day. I am on that team. If she is really the one that you need in your life, be more creative in meeting her or wait until she completes her workout. Respect her time.
@@eloise3280 what's a no? You're literally just speaking to someone lol. If they are that obsessed with not talking to anyone then just workout at home
@@brendanbudniak2261 The 'headphones', as well as, the 'calm down' are both no's...'you just talking' and 'working out at home', also no's. Let's learn to respect people's choices, privacy and time. Your need to "just talk" is not enough to disrupt another person's choices, privacy and time.
As much as I’d want to agree (I watch Hamza as well) if you can find a person you genuinely like and you don’t see her anywhere else (unless you stalk her, which definitely isn’t an option) then it’s fine bro. I understand it’s a place to train and all that, but meeting a person isn’t that bad as it sounds like.
You can meet anyone anywhere. You might meet your best friend, the love of your life, or you worst enemy at the gym. I dont understand this closed off mindset that you need to be at a certain place just to talk to another human and form a relationship. Maybe don't do it at the club for obvious reasons, but the gym?
People saying the gym isn’t the place to approach people….i so badly disagree!! When I was single, I saw so many attractive men who I would have been THRILLED to have them approach me! I think it’s normal/healthy to be attracted to someone focused on their fitness. Dating apps have taken over the dating scene, and it is a huge mess. I say let’s not discourage the the men who are doing doing the ballsy thing (by today’s standards) of approaching a woman in the real world. Edit: ladies, please be nice to men who approach you in the real world-- yes, even if it feels like a nuisance, & even at the gym. It takes bravery, and we should be encouraging of that trait in this generation and future ones.
And most people go to the store to shop, and most people go to the bar to have a drink, and most people go to a restaurant to eat. See how dumb that sounds? If you're in public, it's free game to talk to you
First thing, Gather the courage to Accept Rejection. We're not communicating with people because of the fear of rejection and they will reject us more then 50% of time. And that is extremely normal.
Ask them to be your spotter during bench press or something. Probably best way to start talking and ask for her name without being a creep. Also makes the bond stronger so next time it’s okay to greed her and start talking.
I get the intention but it’s best to approach someone of interest in a gym before or after a workout not in between (even if you’re conventionally attractive) A lot of people workout to release stress and pent up energy (as well as be healthy) intruding in that zone can build negative tension. More often than not it’s just annoying for the person being interrupted. TLDR: at a gym, approach before or after a workout, not in the middle of it :)
That will work if you're 8+/10. She will ask for your name in return If you're 6-7/10 she'll just say her name and you need to come up with something new to say If youre 5 or below she'll give fake name or harsh rejection
Fr. I wouldn’t want some jabroni approaching the women in my life while they’re at the gym w/this energy nor would I engage with a woman with any sort of romantic interest within that space. Clearly these dudes have never spoken to a woman in their LIFE if they remotely think it’s acceptable. How many times do women have to publicly state they’re uncomfortable/intimidated/anxious about men at the gym before putting two and two together?
When she has her headphones in, I would just leave her be. I know when I have mine in, I don't want to be bothered. However, I would never be rude to a person either. I would say my name, politely excuse myself from the conversation, and continue to work out. I believe kindness goes a long way.
Ah yes asking for someone’s name and trying to have a conversation is SUPER disrespectful and has no chivalry Clearly a real man of chivalry would already know her name without ever even uttering a word as to not disrespect her
@@thestartupguy3975if she says no .. then it means you bothered her and broke her momentum .. and the way this guy says - what's your name -ita damn bossy don't you think ?
How about talking to her after she’s done, between sets, or when she comes in the gym first, or when she’s leaving. Start with a compliment or ask her about her workout. Get to know her in the gym first then try and ask for a date somewhere else. Be friendly first instead of trying to be her date/bf. Just be nice. Hell if you have to talk to her how you would talk to another gym bro. Don’t be a creep, don’t be weird. It’s okay to be shy. It’s okay to be flustered. It’s okay to be excited. Just be genuinely nice not what you THINK nice is. Good luck
I did that without trying to hit on her and this was a girl i was looking at and it kinda made a ice breaker. The woman just got on and laughed and said “i just got on and laughed” she had headphones in and didn’t seem bothered or annoyed. So i asked again and said “how many do you have though” she sounded disappointed and said the number 😂
No matter how hot you think she is don’t flirt in the gym please also public transport where you trap her in a small space is not the right time and place either.
@@jesslucas7699 It‘s not as easy for most women because we’re taught to be nice and kind to strangers and avoid risks also I‘ve experienced it more than enough that I was cornered and lured into an unwanted conversation which ended in being touched because I felt forced to speak to them. If you are the type of person to accept rejection or are able to tell when the woman is clearly uncomfortable and take it as lead to leave then that‘s fine but if you‘re the type of man that thinks he need to stay persistent or get into her personal space just don‘t.
@@PrettyGirlRock1115I'm sorry you experienced that but you have to acknowledge you had an abnormal experience with an abnormal person. It's not your fault you didn't know how to respectfully reject someone. Most men will not impose your boundaries like that without your permission and I know plenty of men myself included who don't tolerate other bs like that from men. Eventually the person who made you a victim will be confronted by one of these Men. Even if you take rejection badly if someone declines you respectfully it's hard to react negatively. You don't have to be nice out of fear constantly and sometimes there's no nice or kind way to stand up for yourself you just have to defend yourself when someone is pushing your boundaries.
@@kysterkylan7132 I rejected these people so it had nothing to do with me and no actually no men stepped in to help me either I had to fake calls or leave public transport since it happened more than once and the first bad experience was me being touched at the young age of 12 by a man that was at least in his 50‘s. You‘re victim blaming by acting I have to reject someones advances and have to ensure they don‘t put their hands on me while they‘re full grown men knowing not to touch women so maybe think about that next time.
Please do not interrupt someones workout set…if you are dead set on shooting your shot try to catch them on their way into the gym or on their way out… you can easily tell if a woman is at the gym to workout or to get attention which in itself will let you gauge if she’d be receptive. The best thing to do is try to make eye contact and smile if she does that more than once she’s into you more than not.
Please don’t do that!!! As a woman i hate when guys do that it is super annoying to be distracted for flirting! She is focused on her workout and getting her workout done respect her workout time. Just wait until she is done working out and then walk up to her and ask if she had a good workout. She will be feeling good after her workout and more focused and open to you.
Start by respecting her time. She’s there to workout, not have a convo. IF you want to get to know her, and not just look like a dork, then have enough respect for her to wait till she’s done and leaving the gym, or on a break, then approach. Don’t be a creep and you won’t be single.
People saying this doesnt work are right 95% of the time. But this really is one of the only ways to start an honest dialaoge. If shes into you she will reciprocate, if not, she wont.
Find another girl, stop being so entitled to someone's valuable time just in case there is 5% chance they might want to f@ck you, headphones on means "I don't want to be bothered And I am completely uninterested in anything but my workout " there is no other explanation, move on.
If they have headphones on. They don’t want to talk period. The gym is not the place to pursue women. If a conversation happens organically then that’s awesome, but don’t go looking for it. It makes you look like you’re there with different motives and that’s a huge turn off for anyone.
Not the gym. The gym is a sacred place. Anywhere else. Guys, out an end to hookup culture, court not date, save till marriage, get married , raise legendary kids.
In the USA people would have a problem with this, but in Mexico talking to others is not taboo. Honestly it low key makes me sad that ppl (of all genders and such) feel like its "wrong" to talk to ppl at the gym. It does not always have to be in a romantic context. I met several good female friends at the gym. We need to normalize human interaction again. Im not talking about being creepy or immediately shooting your shot. Just try and get to know her to see if she is even receptive.
It is great advice for Chads and horrible advice for everybody else. The outcome of something like this is predetermined by if you are good looking and tall or not. If Chad does this the woman was hoping in the first place that he would come over and talk to her, even if he is insanely shy and has 0 confidence the woman will welcome it and make it as easy as possible for Chad. On the other hand if an average guy even with the uttermost confidence and best social skills in the world does it he will instantly get rejected and shut down because the woman was hoping the guy wouldn’t talk to her and leave her alone. Looks = personality
The headphones thing is a bit of a mindfuck for guys. On one hand, we all know that a person wearing headphones is clearly signaling that they do not want to talk. However, I personally know from my sisters and girl friends that women sometimes want an attractive guy to approach even when the girl has her headphones on. Creates a bit of a dilemma/hesitation/roadblock for guys that women then interpret as intimidation/low confidence. I call it Mating Strategy Nincompoop syndrome. Unfortunately, many ladies have it.
I did this but i waved and she turned around and gave her a gesture to take her headphones off then i ask her about her energy drink , we started having a conversation. She had a. Boyfriend but she was still interested
Honestly the gym is like my temple. My place of zen, confront myself and getting bat shit crazy with the weights. Why would I wanna ruin it for a chance of a hookup or possible public humiliation? If I fuck up the approach, you know she telling the whole gym.
Places not to put someone in a position where they might not be safe to reject you: -work -gym -public transport -Arguably in class but have some nuance Places to do so -clubs -library -class but again, have nuance -the street -shopping -in the waiting room of restaurants or hotels (AGAIN HAVE SOME SITUATIONAL AWARENESS) -Someplace the person is not stuck
Men you are free to approach women at the gym, grocery store, bus stop, at work, while she is working, shopping, just walking around and of course at a club or bar.
Comments full of scared cry babys and incels. U just have to be bold talk to whoever you want, whereever you want, whenever you want its not u hurt somebody like that. Firstly u never now how they react maybe u just caught them in a moment when they thought about finding a patner and now they think instantly its a heaven send sign that you started a conversation in that moment even with headphones on in the gym people still think about anything. And second it trains ur confidence since the most people are scared to start random conversions its a respectable skill that can be learned and mastered wich opens many doors u dont need to flirt everytime just learn the skill first. Thirdly even if ur bad at conversations there might still be an imteressting outcome that nobody would expected. Doing it at a place where u want to go regulary like a gym is maybe not the best option if never tried to live like that before because if the conversation goes wrong u have to see the person regulary and some people cant deal the embaressment and it affects their emotions. But if you learn not to get discouraged from bad outcomes of conversations u can do it wherever you want and u still feel good about urself. I talk from expierence and if i see at the comment section many bitter people gathered here who think everybody is like them.
This is why I stopped going to the gyms because it constantly happens and it’s flattering, but it does get frustrating after a while. I think the majority of women really just go wanting to work out. There are some people that really like attention but those are usually the ones that are filming and taking selfies the ones who are going there working out and they have their headphones on and they look like they’re in their own zone, honestly, I think it would be irritating more than anything just wanting to give a females opinion on this your approach is OK, but it can be frustrating when someone’s going there with a limited amount of time and wanting to get in a good workout before they leave. It got so bad that now I wear out engagement ring, but I still get approachedagain it’s flattering and I’m always very nice about it but it can be irritating so I think it’s better if you try to catch her while she’s walking away still though it’s a bit frustrating and so I stopped going and now I go to these group workout classes that are only female
No. Absolutely not. Do not do this. I don't care how good looking or confident you are. It would just make me uncomfortable. Do not use the gym to pick up girls. Especially not mid-workout!
As a girl who’s been approached at the gym, just don’t. Even when the guy is attractive I don’t like it and I don’t know a girl who does. We just want to workout.
It's not about the workout that they're in it's about the fact that they're in a workout of word or whatever but just walk up be confident say hi eye contact people like basic s***
I swear people who interrupt your workout are the worst.
Yea, esp a guy asking me for my name I would reject tbh, nothing personal just like, I don’t know you enough yet???
We dont care what you think is the worst. Interruption from anything is inevitable in life.
@@Xzsxztreiii it’s a social cue though
@@Xzsxztreiii must be blissful to think this black and white.
Yeah that's the worst thing that could ever happen 🙄
Get hit with the “I got a boyfriend “
respond with "me too, we have so much in common"
Either ask “you guys serious?” (If your confident enough you can probably get her insta, not all girls are loyal) or joke and say “damn I didn’t know we were dating”.
@@cobymazariegos8252horrible horrible advice
@@cobymazariegos8252I say ain’t nobody worried about him 😂😂😂 that shit always gets a smile that’s how you know 😈
@@cobymazariegos8252do not do this. At a certain point you have to learn to no longer pursue someone. If she says that she’s clearly not interested in you or she ACTUALLY has a boyfriend and is loyal.
Worst advice ever, don’t listen to this guy. She’s got headphones on, don’t talk to her, period.
Fr only the most clueless self obsessed people interrupt a set to try and have a conversation
This dude could probably get away with it. He looks like he might own the gym.
It is great advice for Chads and horrible advice for everybody else. The outcome of something like this is predetermined by if you are good looking and tall or not. If Chad does this the woman was hoping in the first place that he would come over and talk to her, even if he is insanely shy and has 0 confidence the woman will welcome it and make it as easy as possible for Chad. On the other hand if an average guy even with the uttermost confidence and best social skills in the world does it he will instantly get rejected and shut down because the woman was hoping the guy wouldn’t talk to her and leave her alone. Looks = personality.
@@Rainer125sounds depressed af im happy as hell I don’t live my life like this
@@Rainer125yeah no thanks buddy I'll just accept that my bone structure is not as good as I'd like it to be and move on like a NORMAL, SANE person.
"how many sets you got left?"
Her: Im on a fucking treadmill what?
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol 😅
😂😂😂
This could work, could make her laugh idk lol
What's ur name
She : says her name
Me: *intense awkward silence continues*
Could always give her your name as well
What's your name?
Erm, could you gimme some space? This is a gym, not a bar. And wipe that creepy smile off your face...thanks
@@israelwilson4022ah that's a good one, gotta try that next time.
feel ya’ ‘man.
There you go now she gives you time and attention to make ur next move
don't interrupt people when they're working out
That's why they say "excuse me" , It's polite but it barely bothers the person. Unlike some people who randomly asks random shit to a person and that is very disturbing to the invididual he's talking to.
In between sets is acceptable
Don't go to a public gym if you don't want to interact with the public
Exactly. This is why I don’t say a word and then lay down groin first as she squats. Usually gets the message across non verbally 😎
I didn't ask
Headphones on - don't talk to her.
Exactly
Bro they're just headphones calm down
@@brendanbudniak2261 Bro, it's just a NO, calm down. In some countries, it is considered rude to interrupt someone's day. I am on that team. If she is really the one that you need in your life, be more creative in meeting her or wait until she completes her workout. Respect her time.
@@eloise3280 what's a no? You're literally just speaking to someone lol. If they are that obsessed with not talking to anyone then just workout at home
@@brendanbudniak2261 The 'headphones', as well as, the 'calm down' are both no's...'you just talking' and 'working out at home', also no's. Let's learn to respect people's choices, privacy and time. Your need to "just talk" is not enough to disrupt another person's choices, privacy and time.
GYM IS NOT HOOK UP PLACEEEE
- hamza
As much as I’d want to agree (I watch Hamza as well) if you can find a person you genuinely like and you don’t see her anywhere else (unless you stalk her, which definitely isn’t an option) then it’s fine bro.
I understand it’s a place to train and all that, but meeting a person isn’t that bad as it sounds like.
Who is hamza ?
Everywhere is a pick up place lmao, I'm not talking sleazy bar pick up lines... I'm talking about actually meeting people you like
Lol why not? Because ‘someone’ told you so. Brainwashed mate 😂
You can meet anyone anywhere. You might meet your best friend, the love of your life, or you worst enemy at the gym. I dont understand this closed off mindset that you need to be at a certain place just to talk to another human and form a relationship. Maybe don't do it at the club for obvious reasons, but the gym?
Noooo please don't disturb when wearing headphones
flirting in the gym is stupid af
Why
But the girl of the hypothetical dream is there
Not if you can do it successfully 🔥
he is a chad, dont do it if u ugly
Good thing this is about starting a conversation and not flirting
That’s your big tip. Ask her name after interrupting her?
😂
🤣
Me: What’s your name?
She: Keep fucking moving!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol
Lol anyones a communication expert now
People saying the gym isn’t the place to approach people….i so badly disagree!! When I was single, I saw so many attractive men who I would have been THRILLED to have them approach me! I think it’s normal/healthy to be attracted to someone focused on their fitness. Dating apps have taken over the dating scene, and it is a huge mess. I say let’s not discourage the the men who are doing doing the ballsy thing (by today’s standards) of approaching a woman in the real world.
Edit: ladies, please be nice to men who approach you in the real world-- yes, even if it feels like a nuisance, & even at the gym. It takes bravery, and we should be encouraging of that trait in this generation and future ones.
Gym is not a place to find a partner, it’s where you find yourself
if they say "i got a boyfriend" just hit them with the "omg! we have so much in common"
Girl to boy ratio in gym is 1 is to 99 😢😂😂
She's going to tell the front desk you're a creep 3/5 times.
Top 5 things that have never happened
I tried this and you wouldnt believe how many women at my gym are named "I have a boyfriend"
you have to look like him first
@@theLowestPointInMyLife shit I missed step one lol
Instructions unclear:
Now I got a restraining order and I’m banned from Planet Fitness
😅😅😅
Most ppl go to the gym to workout not to get hit on, gym prob isnt the best place
It ain’t no excuse where you at, If you wanna talk to somebody any where that’s how yo execute it
every place is a good place to talk to people, you shouldn't restrict yourself like that
And most people go to the store to shop, and most people go to the bar to have a drink, and most people go to a restaurant to eat. See how dumb that sounds? If you're in public, it's free game to talk to you
I tried this and now I own the gym and her and her sister both hooked up with me.
W
WAIT SLUSHY CUP 😭😭😭😭
Wait WTF! You got the ice cold slushy rizz
Where is the party 🎉
First thing, Gather the courage to Accept Rejection.
We're not communicating with people because of the fear of rejection and they will reject us more then 50% of time.
And that is extremely normal.
Ask them to be your spotter during bench press or something. Probably best way to start talking and ask for her name without being a creep. Also makes the bond stronger so next time it’s okay to greed her and start talking.
Guy: What's your name
Girl: Look, I just said I still have 3 sets left
EXCUSEMEMISSSSSSS!!! Wins me over every time😂
Please guys , only approach to a girl if she gave you some kind of choosing signals , trust me is so much easier when she also want to talk to you .
Why so much hate? Guy has some charm and confidence.. will work for him..
“Step into the zone. Now we’re getting pepper sprayed”
Plus a weekend in county
Lmaooo
I tried this and she replied with utter contempt… What do I reply when she says “Excuse me, sets of what? Sir, this is a grocery store”
I get the intention but it’s best to approach someone of interest in a gym before or after a workout not in between (even if you’re conventionally attractive) A lot of people workout to release stress and pent up energy (as well as be healthy) intruding in that zone can build negative tension. More often than not it’s just annoying for the person being interrupted.
TLDR: at a gym, approach before or after a workout, not in the middle of it :)
If the chick got on headphones, then the probability of getting that number goes down to 0.
Steps into the Zone
Her: Dym, kinda wanna finish my workout.
Steps Out of the Zone
Never goes back to that Gym ever again due to embarrassment. 😂
Sounds much more realistic 😂
Headphones are a “stop” sign. Never talk to a woman or man with headphones on in public. It is rude and entitled
I think its attractive when anyone makes the effort to talk to someone else to try to get to know them. Its scary enough going up to strangers
He: what's your name
Her: I have a boyfriend 😂
Bro no way who knew it was possible to have a conversation with a girl. I’m so glad there’s people like you to make vids on common sense
People just want to work out, leave them alone.
That will work if you're 8+/10. She will ask for your name in return
If you're 6-7/10 she'll just say her name and you need to come up with something new to say
If youre 5 or below she'll give fake name or harsh rejection
Don’t talk to me at the gym
Fr. I wouldn’t want some jabroni approaching the women in my life while they’re at the gym w/this energy nor would I engage with a woman with any sort of romantic interest within that space.
Clearly these dudes have never spoken to a woman in their LIFE if they remotely think it’s acceptable.
How many times do women have to publicly state they’re uncomfortable/intimidated/anxious about men at the gym before putting two and two together?
Then respectfully decline. We're not psychics so we don't magically know who wants and doesn't wanna be talked to
No one does.
Ain't nobody talking to that face😂
When she has her headphones in, I would just leave her be. I know when I have mine in, I don't want to be bothered. However, I would never be rude to a person either. I would say my name, politely excuse myself from the conversation, and continue to work out. I believe kindness goes a long way.
Disrespectful and no chivalry
Chivalry is dead
i dont think having a conversation is disrespectful. if she says she isn't interested, then just respect her wishes
Ah yes asking for someone’s name and trying to have a conversation is SUPER disrespectful and has no chivalry
Clearly a real man of chivalry would already know her name without ever even uttering a word as to not disrespect her
@@thestartupguy3975if she says no .. then it means you bothered her and broke her momentum .. and the way this guy says - what's your name -ita damn bossy don't you think ?
@@christopherdandridge7756then please be a gentleman and bring it back 🙏
What happens after you break up and see each other at the gym?
try to ignore her, or go to a new gym
How about talking to her after she’s done, between sets, or when she comes in the gym first, or when she’s leaving.
Start with a compliment or ask her about her workout.
Get to know her in the gym first then try and ask for a date somewhere else.
Be friendly first instead of trying to be her date/bf. Just be nice. Hell if you have to talk to her how you would talk to another gym bro.
Don’t be a creep, don’t be weird.
It’s okay to be shy. It’s okay to be flustered. It’s okay to be excited. Just be genuinely nice not what you THINK nice is.
Good luck
“How many sets you got left?”
She’s stretching in the open area
I did that without trying to hit on her and this was a girl i was looking at and it kinda made a ice breaker. The woman just got on and laughed and said “i just got on and laughed” she had headphones in and didn’t seem bothered or annoyed. So i asked again and said “how many do you have though” she sounded disappointed and said the number 😂
😂 he was a little too confident about that answer
Don't do this ever! Never interrupt a woman or a man for that matter during their set to have a conversation with them. It's the biggest turn off
I have earphones for a reason. ppl already stare at you 24/7, when they all start talking to you, you can't go anywhere!!!!!
No matter how hot you think she is don’t flirt in the gym please also public transport where you trap her in a small space is not the right time and place either.
I agree totally at the gym but public transport? You are allowed to ask for conversation and they can just refuse
I agree totally at the gym but public transport? You are allowed to ask for conversation and they can just refuse
@@jesslucas7699 It‘s not as easy for most women because we’re taught to be nice and kind to strangers and avoid risks also I‘ve experienced it more than enough that I was cornered and lured into an unwanted conversation which ended in being touched because I felt forced to speak to them. If you are the type of person to accept rejection or are able to tell when the woman is clearly uncomfortable and take it as lead to leave then that‘s fine but if you‘re the type of man that thinks he need to stay persistent or get into her personal space just don‘t.
@@PrettyGirlRock1115I'm sorry you experienced that but you have to acknowledge you had an abnormal experience with an abnormal person. It's not your fault you didn't know how to respectfully reject someone. Most men will not impose your boundaries like that without your permission and I know plenty of men myself included who don't tolerate other bs like that from men. Eventually the person who made you a victim will be confronted by one of these Men. Even if you take rejection badly if someone declines you respectfully it's hard to react negatively. You don't have to be nice out of fear constantly and sometimes there's no nice or kind way to stand up for yourself you just have to defend yourself when someone is pushing your boundaries.
@@kysterkylan7132 I rejected these people so it had nothing to do with me and no actually no men stepped in to help me either I had to fake calls or leave public transport since it happened more than once and the first bad experience was me being touched at the young age of 12 by a man that was at least in his 50‘s. You‘re victim blaming by acting I have to reject someones advances and have to ensure they don‘t put their hands on me while they‘re full grown men knowing not to touch women so maybe think about that next time.
Please do not interrupt someones workout set…if you are dead set on shooting your shot try to catch them on their way into the gym or on their way out… you can easily tell if a woman is at the gym to workout or to get attention which in itself will let you gauge if she’d be receptive. The best thing to do is try to make eye contact and smile if she does that more than once she’s into you more than not.
How to be called a gym trip 101
Please don’t do that!!! As a woman i hate when guys do that it is super annoying to be distracted for flirting! She is focused on her workout and getting her workout done respect her workout time. Just wait until she is done working out and then walk up to her and ask if she had a good workout. She will be feeling good after her workout and more focused and open to you.
Start by respecting her time. She’s there to workout, not have a convo. IF you want to get to know her, and not just look like a dork, then have enough respect for her to wait till she’s done and leaving the gym, or on a break, then approach. Don’t be a creep and you won’t be single.
So you're supposed to keep watching her until she leaves. Then you're chasing her out the gym like a creep.
Be direct and intentional. Best way!
The dude that's attractive and tall doesn't know how it actually works..
Shocking
"Excuse me miss, might take off your headphones?"
Her: No 💀
People saying this doesnt work are right 95% of the time. But this really is one of the only ways to start an honest dialaoge. If shes into you she will reciprocate, if not, she wont.
Find another girl, stop being so entitled to someone's valuable time just in case there is 5% chance they might want to f@ck you, headphones on means "I don't want to be bothered And I am completely uninterested in anything but my workout " there is no other explanation, move on.
If they have headphones on. They don’t want to talk period. The gym is not the place to pursue women. If a conversation happens organically then that’s awesome, but don’t go looking for it. It makes you look like you’re there with different motives and that’s a huge turn off for anyone.
Not the gym. The gym is a sacred place. Anywhere else.
Guys, out an end to hookup culture, court not date, save till marriage, get married , raise legendary kids.
Nah don’t do this. I’d be annoyed asf, catch me in the parking lot or something
This only works if you are a chad. Otherwise, you need to wait for the girl to signal that she actually wants to talk to you first
A 6'4 good looking chad sitting comfortably in his chair giving advice about game to average dudes. Totally makes sense.
In the USA people would have a problem with this, but in Mexico talking to others is not taboo. Honestly it low key makes me sad that ppl (of all genders and such) feel like its "wrong" to talk to ppl at the gym. It does not always have to be in a romantic context. I met several good female friends at the gym. We need to normalize human interaction again. Im not talking about being creepy or immediately shooting your shot. Just try and get to know her to see if she is even receptive.
It is great advice for Chads and horrible advice for everybody else. The outcome of something like this is predetermined by if you are good looking and tall or not. If Chad does this the woman was hoping in the first place that he would come over and talk to her, even if he is insanely shy and has 0 confidence the woman will welcome it and make it as easy as possible for Chad. On the other hand if an average guy even with the uttermost confidence and best social skills in the world does it he will instantly get rejected and shut down because the woman was hoping the guy wouldn’t talk to her and leave her alone. Looks = personality
The headphones thing is a bit of a mindfuck for guys.
On one hand, we all know that a person wearing headphones is clearly signaling that they do not want to talk.
However, I personally know from my sisters and girl friends that women sometimes want an attractive guy to approach even when the girl has her headphones on.
Creates a bit of a dilemma/hesitation/roadblock for guys that women then interpret as intimidation/low confidence. I call it Mating Strategy Nincompoop syndrome. Unfortunately, many ladies have it.
I’m not walking up and pulling some chicks headset off that’s creepy
I did this but i waved and she turned around and gave her a gesture to take her headphones off then i ask her about her energy drink , we started having a conversation. She had a. Boyfriend but she was still interested
Honestly the gym is like my temple. My place of zen, confront myself and getting bat shit crazy with the weights. Why would I wanna ruin it for a chance of a hookup or possible public humiliation? If I fuck up the approach, you know she telling the whole gym.
He sounds just like that guy that covers his face with that strange white mask
Me: “How many sets you go left?”
Her: “3”
Me: “Cool, what your name?”
Her: *says name
Me: …………..”Cool, how many sets you got left?”
Places not to put someone in a position where they might not be safe to reject you:
-work
-gym
-public transport
-Arguably in class but have some nuance
Places to do so
-clubs
-library
-class but again, have nuance
-the street
-shopping
-in the waiting room of restaurants or hotels (AGAIN HAVE SOME SITUATIONAL AWARENESS)
-Someplace the person is not stuck
Wait till shes done 😂 thats respectful and thatll give you points
"Excuse me miss "
Her : "ewww get away from me"
Step one: be good looking.
Step two: ...
Step three: profit.
Men you are free to approach women at the gym, grocery store, bus stop, at work, while she is working, shopping, just walking around and of course at a club or bar.
That wouldn't work for me. Never throw off a person's rhythm unless it's life or death.
its easy to say if you are good looking and fit
My name is xyz hey xyz I’m Ben. Xyz:cool… Then proceeds to put headphones back on and continue her workout
Ive realised it doesnt matter alot of things dont matter never will matter weve just given meaning to insignificant things.
Basic Communication among human beings because over reachability through smartphones that we hesitate even to have a normal talk
Comments full of scared cry babys and incels. U just have to be
bold talk to whoever you want, whereever you want, whenever you want its not u hurt somebody like that.
Firstly u never now how they react maybe u just caught them in a moment when they thought about finding a patner and now they think instantly its a heaven send sign that you started a conversation in that moment even with headphones on in the gym people still think about anything.
And second it trains ur confidence since the most people are scared to start random conversions its a respectable skill that can be learned and mastered wich opens many doors u dont need to flirt everytime just learn the skill first.
Thirdly even if ur bad at conversations there might still be an imteressting outcome that nobody would expected.
Doing it at a place where u want to go regulary like a gym is maybe not the best option if never tried to live like that before because if the conversation goes wrong u have to see the person regulary and some people cant deal the embaressment and it affects their emotions.
But if you learn not to get discouraged from bad outcomes of conversations u can do it wherever you want and u still feel good about urself.
I talk from expierence and if i see at the comment section many bitter people gathered here who think everybody is like them.
She : mind your own business
If someone comes up to me and tries to talk to me.... WHILE I HAVE HEADPHONES ONNNN 😠😠😠 so irritating lol.
Why would I reveal my name to a complete stranger and interrupt my exercise routine because somebody wantsme too? Wait until I am finished.
Oh man you’re brilliant
It’s rude to ask someone’s name before offering your own. If you’re the woman in the scenario the only response is “why do you ask?”
This is why I stopped going to the gyms because it constantly happens and it’s flattering, but it does get frustrating after a while. I think the majority of women really just go wanting to work out. There are some people that really like attention but those are usually the ones that are filming and taking selfies the ones who are going there working out and they have their headphones on and they look like they’re in their own zone, honestly, I think it would be irritating more than anything just wanting to give a females opinion on this your approach is OK, but it can be frustrating when someone’s going there with a limited amount of time and wanting to get in a good workout before they leave. It got so bad that now I wear out engagement ring, but I still get approachedagain it’s flattering and I’m always very nice about it but it can be irritating so I think it’s better if you try to catch her while she’s walking away still though it’s a bit frustrating and so I stopped going and now I go to these group workout classes that are only female
So many guys out there that think they are alphas and don't know shit.
Wow that was very insightful.
No... catch her on her way out... shes not mid set, shes not in a pump zone in her head... so as shes leaving catch up to her and ask for her number.
imagine yall get into a relationship and broke up, shit gotta change gym now.
She'd probably be annoyed, especially if she doesn't wanna talk to you. This guy has not seen the videos of women who want to be left alone.
No. Absolutely not. Do not do this. I don't care how good looking or confident you are. It would just make me uncomfortable.
Do not use the gym to pick up girls. Especially not mid-workout!
Notice he saying that to another man, she is nowhere in sight
Sounds a little "respect the 🐓 tame the ©unt"
As a girl who’s been approached at the gym, just don’t. Even when the guy is attractive I don’t like it and I don’t know a girl who does. We just want to workout.
I can swear it works... For him
getting interupted in the middle of your workout is the most annoying thing ever, dont do this
That'll get you attested nowadays
It's not about the workout that they're in it's about the fact that they're in a workout of word or whatever but just walk up be confident say hi eye contact people like basic s***