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  • A reflection on fearlessness from Pema Chödrön on her 80th birthday.

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  • @tmarkcommons174
    @tmarkcommons174 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Pema, I only have one picture on my refrigerator. It is your smiling face. It melts me. It makes me happy.

  • @Punkyrooster6
    @Punkyrooster6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I owe my life to this woman! She has saved my bacon more than once. 🙏🏻 A true bodhisattva of our time.

  • @maximelagace
    @maximelagace ปีที่แล้ว +21

    One of my favorite quotes from Pema Chödrön:
    "When I didn’t resist, I could see the world."

  • @frusciante2811
    @frusciante2811 8 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    For me she is one of the greatest Teachers of our Time. She just feels like the real deal. So much warmth, wisdom and compassion. Thank you

    • @spensert4933
      @spensert4933 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Humility and humor! No ego or silly hippy vibe. Keeps it simple. She is one of us.

    • @robertalipman1428
      @robertalipman1428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She's just the greatest. My surrogate mother and the wisest most compassionate person ever. A true blessing in our lifetime.

    • @tanjareutershan6610
      @tanjareutershan6610 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙏❤️

  • @busdrinker3734
    @busdrinker3734 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    As a 24-year-old experiencing many of these "panicked gasps" at the thought of the crazy transience of my youth, Pema's reminder is much appreciated. She is so grounding and uplifting and absolutely indispensable, always, always.

  • @nataliaalvim01
    @nataliaalvim01 7 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    I'm Brazilian, living in a very violent city, that is, Rio de Janeiro and thanks to mindfulness, to Buddhism I can cope with the daily shootings, crossfires without getting into despair.

    • @TheGranti7a
      @TheGranti7a 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Natalia A ❤️❤️❤️

    • @Phoenix-bm6sr
      @Phoenix-bm6sr 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯

    • @SuperStevien
      @SuperStevien 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am sorry to hear that... I wish your peace brings you joy and serendipity and to those surrounding you...

    • @SStabi
      @SStabi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what neighbourhood? I visited Rio a few times and am intrigued about the beauty and violence that go together. It's hard to grasp. I always stayed in Zona Sul

    • @Be1More
      @Be1More 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      pray you stay safe

  • @magdahastings3181
    @magdahastings3181 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you For this talk. I am now 83 years old so it resonates. I am so grateful to b e able to heat your talks yes I am ready and relaxed also now grateful for a difficult life full of mistakes it has taught me compassion

  • @infinitejusticeone
    @infinitejusticeone 8 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    As i was flipping through music videos I saw this! I have never heard of her before but upon watching this I cannot wait to watch all others. This is really something I need, some introspection. At the age of 68 it is never too late to learn. Thank you!

    • @BelfastBuddhist
      @BelfastBuddhist  8 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      If you have just discovered Pema, you are in for such a treat. She is just brillant.

    • @ericlanebarnes4266
      @ericlanebarnes4266 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@BelfastBuddhist Her books are gifts to humankind. I have read her 'Living Beautifully With Uncertainty and Change' four times - it is a great textbook for life. Pema Chodron really gets it, and really knows how to teach and share her true, authentic heart.

    • @oldladybird8528
      @oldladybird8528 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I also have never heard of her but her voice is calming.at 66 I think about death everyday but not fearful of it.

  • @johntran3823
    @johntran3823 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Listening to this during the pandemic. Listening to her reminds me that everything is A-OK.

  • @mcdonaldchump5804
    @mcdonaldchump5804 6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Happy 80th Birthday Venerable Pema Chodron, 2 years too late. You were one of my gateways into buddhism when I read 'The Wisdom of No Escape' in the 90s.
    A joy to find you on YT.
    Blessings to you and all beings ❤️_/\_

  • @tmarkcommons174
    @tmarkcommons174 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My next birthday is the big 70. I have learned that my mind cannot grasp the ultimate Truth, but beliefs can be useful. Stressing over whether a belief is true, is not helpful. The belief about "after death" that frees me from fear, or even curiosity, the best is that I DO NOT persist beyond my body's death at all. I am like a flower of the earth. The earth has invested in growing me into who I am now and I am a beautiful expression of love that the earth rejoices in. When my body dies, it will be a wonderful, "FSST", and I will be gone as a separate thing. I need not be what I seemed to be while bodily. Body was fine, a beautiful flower of the earth. All is well. I am a beautiful flower and I need not worry what else I may be at any other time or place. I am now.

  • @aminazad22
    @aminazad22 7 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I wish I could experience just a teaspoon of her fearlessness. We are always trying to control and we think we can be free if we are in control but, it is in fact the other way around. The moment we realize we are not in control is the moment that we can experience freedom.
    Thank you for this beautiful video. Pema is such a blessing for all of us truth seekers.

    • @wiredwithwalsh6282
      @wiredwithwalsh6282 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pema is not fearless. She wouldn't confront rapists in her organization for decades and when a teenage rape victim came to her she blamed the victim. I am sure you are a far far stronger and more fearless person than she is!

  • @dlxinfinite7098
    @dlxinfinite7098 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Happy Born Day, Pema!
    As a Afr. American practioner and teacher... I need to say we love you and your teachings.

  • @8brightside8
    @8brightside8 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So much love and thankfulness expressed for this precious woman within these comments - yes, yes, yes.

  • @dancewomyn1
    @dancewomyn1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Pema has been a shining light in my life and in the lives of so many others. I discovered her not even 2yrs ago, but since finding her I have followed her work, and teachings. I don't know what it is about her, but there is an ease, a sense of humor, an overall lightness that just compels me to aspire to such heights myself...I'm working on it. Thank you so much for posting this.

  • @sherricannon9407
    @sherricannon9407 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dearest Ani Pema, I am deeply grateful for your teaching heart. Thanks to all you’ve recorded and made available so that I and others can practice learning to stay and developing friendliness with self and with groundlessness. Blessings to you.

  • @48Johanna
    @48Johanna 8 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Thank you very much by a Christian from The Netherlands. I love Pema and i learnso much from her.

  • @willowway42
    @willowway42 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is everything. Biggest love and immense gratitude to Pema Chodren just for being her ♡

  • @lindatt10
    @lindatt10 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pema Chodren has changed my life more than any teacher. She has books and talks which have been with me for many years. I love her deeply. And as I head into my 73rd year of life her wise words on aging ring true.

  • @mattycreative
    @mattycreative 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Reading 'Welcoming the Unwelcome', and just stumbled across this. Thank you. Love you, Pema....

  • @ModemmeX
    @ModemmeX 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I've had such a rough couple days, a broken heart and intense sadness. So grateful for this video.

  • @earthamessenger3149
    @earthamessenger3149 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you ! Belfast Buddhist! for sharing light in this world ! This is so beautiful !! it brought tears to my eyes!
    When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. "When the appearances of this life dissolve may I with ease and great happiness let go of all attachments to this life like a son or daughter returning home... Wow! "Namaste"

  • @jbullets5964
    @jbullets5964 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We love you, pema. I'm so happy and grateful to have found you and these teachings.

  • @cristianebremenkamp8352
    @cristianebremenkamp8352 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much beloved Pema Chodron

  • @sameerbhatia451
    @sameerbhatia451 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for these words of wisdom. So grateful to hear you and read your books. Thank you.

  • @angelagordyn9794
    @angelagordyn9794 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Pema. Your book: comfortable with uncertainty, is the best book I have ever read!
    It has taught me to be fearless and I am so grateful for your teachings and I thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your gifts with all of humanity 🌸🌹🌷

  • @camiladuarte6061
    @camiladuarte6061 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank U Pema, you are AMAZING.

  • @jessebernardo1989
    @jessebernardo1989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pema saved my mind and soul at 20..that was 26 years ago. I was told this same truth by a member of vajradhatu ..the old order of Shambhala.
    It's so relevant in that I now, pass the truth of the fragility of this life, and the need to tame one's mind. That should be ones highest goal. That is why we train in seeing impermanence as it is.
    I hope all who see this great piece, by a modern master, 🙏 pema Chadron, I pray their minds are turned toward the dharma and liberation of self in order too benefit others.

  • @timharrington4470
    @timharrington4470 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Happy 80th birthday Pema. You are a wonderful gift.

  • @nirvanokajjohnsson2473
    @nirvanokajjohnsson2473 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thankyou for all you give!
    You are really a helping source! My deep respect and love!
    Nirvan from Sweden.

  • @sagebutterfly2
    @sagebutterfly2 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What an amazing Being, dear Pema. So grateful for her teachings and her light.

  • @caroledrury1411
    @caroledrury1411 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I live in Vermont and she has been my mentor since 1998 when I discovered her by accident. I bought every single book she wrote over the years and then did a lot of traveling. I’ve come back to her time and time again. I loaned my books out to someone who never returned them and felt devastated so it’s nice to find her on TH-cam and to figure out if I will re-acquire all her books again because she does not have a weekly presence on TH-cam. Thank you for posting this

  • @melissarmt7330
    @melissarmt7330 8 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    I'm one of those people who died and came back. I remember everything so clearly even though it was 36 years ago so death doesn't frighten me. I look forward to it. But life and how I'm going to do something or what's happening now, that's what scares the hell out of me. I make an effort to listen to teachers like Pema because their wisdom, compassion and kindness help me with the "living" part.

    • @LO-bk4bv
      @LO-bk4bv 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Did anything happen after you died? Is there something else or is there nothing? I used to be very religious and always thought there was something else. But now that I'm an Atheist it's hard for me to believe there is anything else.

    • @melissarmt7330
      @melissarmt7330 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      There's definitely something after we die. We go to a place and in my experience, there were no pearly gates or hell fire. It was beautiful. When I died, all the things that make me "Melissa" like my love for green teas and knitting and my dislikes and faults, that all fell away and it was like getting back to the business of being myself and also like growing up in an instant. The Buddhist descriptions of what happens after death were spot on and I was not raised to be a Buddhist. My religious training up to that point had been christian, although my mother was quite open minded.
      But I saw nothing that could be defined solely as "Christian". Being Buddhist is not about what happens after death. It's about how to live. I wish I could be a nun but I'm too old and the monasteries here in the USA are so new with few young nuns o care for the older nuns. That's what I'm told. So I study and practice kindness and compassion.
      It's alright to be unsure about what comes after. Being the best person you can here, is worth focusing on.

    • @LO-bk4bv
      @LO-bk4bv 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thanks for messaging me back, Melissa. Thats good to know. Maybe with this practice of impermanence I can get over a fear of death and of never seeing my fiance again after we die.

    • @injourney7147
      @injourney7147 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@LO-bk4bv 😂😂.....ohh....it was cute....😇

    • @LO-bk4bv
      @LO-bk4bv 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@injourney7147 Can you clarify?

  • @donnakirsh8847
    @donnakirsh8847 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love Pema. She is incredibly special. Stay with us and keep teaching us with your beautiful way.

  • @taoofnerd9813
    @taoofnerd9813 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you. Love you, Pema.

  • @heatherbauer2259
    @heatherbauer2259 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love her so much. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @albertotorreshurtado
    @albertotorreshurtado 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for sharing. Pema Chodron's warmth and tenderness are touching and inspiring amidst all chaos and egotistic social conversations

  • @katecone3576
    @katecone3576 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m listening to this 2 days before I turn 65, and it is so comforting. Love the prayer at the end. Thank you, Pema!

  • @Restlessjosie
    @Restlessjosie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such wise words from one of the greatest teachers of our time. Thank you Pema for sharing. much love

  • @liluhaas
    @liluhaas 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    pema is our mother! i fuckin LOVE HER

  • @roughdiamond3123
    @roughdiamond3123 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've been working on feeling my emotions, as opposed to finding ways to soothe my emotions recently. So I love the advice Pema gives here about just relaxing into the groundless feelings. Thank you for sharing ☺️

    • @deela262
      @deela262 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Feeling emotions vs soothing emotions❤
      I just heard a dhamma sermon which said the latter is Samatha and the first is Vipassana... and that in vipassana we watch them in a non interfering manner, trying to understand their characteristics. Found it very refreshing. For me, trying to sooth emotions was very exhausting but repeated efforts helped to observe the pattern of the turmoil and slowly the devils are getting unmasked. Now it's almost fun to watch the show

  • @yegwanihst1971
    @yegwanihst1971 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Happiest 80th Birthday wishes for you ✨😊👍🎶🎻❣️🍓

  • @LoveDurgaDevi
    @LoveDurgaDevi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Pema ❤🙏🏼🥰

  • @zacharyrowden7692
    @zacharyrowden7692 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Such a warm-hearted thanks for this.

  • @sandiegopete4955
    @sandiegopete4955 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Om swasti! This is from another of my teachers. His name was Michael. Pema saved my life years ago when I read some of her work when I was in a bad place and I am profoundly grateful.
    “ You walk toward your fear. You embrace your fear. You don’t try to hedge it. That a part of real living as a human being, as a spiritual being, is to embrace it- encompass your fear, your love, and not run away from anything, because that’s the life experience. And it’s in that richness I think we find the most beautiful art, the most beautiful music. We find the richness of what the human soul can offer. And I see all that richness buried under such bullshit. -Michael Ruppert
    Ningje Gyamtso

  • @wolfster747
    @wolfster747 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for all that you do. You have had an immensely positive impact on my life.

  • @anareachi5229
    @anareachi5229 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    On the mark,, so magnificent and loving and authentic...........so kind of you to share this, thank you!

  • @ericlanebarnes4266
    @ericlanebarnes4266 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have given us so much, Pema. Thank you.

  • @niannabray
    @niannabray 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Pema. So grateful for you and the way you have spent your life in deep inquiry. Thank you.

  • @WWS322
    @WWS322 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    To live in the Eternal Now life can be very, very long. It eradicates the fear of death completely.

  • @keshiagitonga3862
    @keshiagitonga3862 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Shes the cutest.. Love the message

  • @glennkavanagh6266
    @glennkavanagh6266 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    lovely listening to wise nun pema, thank you kindly....buddha, dharma, sangha. xx

  • @eleanorgully9753
    @eleanorgully9753 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love this teacher

  • @bonjakobsen
    @bonjakobsen 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Happy birthday mama

  • @trashvampyr8571
    @trashvampyr8571 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Heck, crying. This Always hits in the right way. Bless Pema.

  • @michaelhampner7672
    @michaelhampner7672 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She is giving away gifts and presents on her birthday.

  • @kheperainherhiding6522
    @kheperainherhiding6522 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "Each moment is a death". Incredibly powerful words!

  • @margaretcurran8956
    @margaretcurran8956 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful spoken, prayers beautiful

  • @Simplylisette
    @Simplylisette 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Calm words of wisdom.

  • @mastinch7
    @mastinch7 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful energy- jus found this awesome woman, and such good wisdom and teaching, the most important thing of all the wisdom and words coming forth, is how we Apply it to our lives, these are treasures, they serve importance to us all, especially that last little prayer:) thanks to pema and all light beings

  • @moderncontemplative
    @moderncontemplative 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Pranam Pema Chödrön!☸️ May you dwell in equanimity and total enlightenment.

  • @LlamaMama60
    @LlamaMama60 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such beautiful words

  • @marshawoods4983
    @marshawoods4983 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The type of person we want to live forever! It’s three years passed your birthday I hope you’re still with us!

  • @pungr
    @pungr 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you. I really needed to hear this tonight. Many blessings, Pema.

  • @jeffmccloud905
    @jeffmccloud905 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    love this, thank you for posting. Aloha from Hawaii :)

    • @liluhaas
      @liluhaas 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      aloha 'oe :))))

  • @tsampadi
    @tsampadi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy Birthday Pema Dear ! Only you seem to have the astounding abilitily to Breath warmth into Death! May the coming years bring ever increasing fulfilment and succes in getting the message across to all those with ears,

  • @mrtt7972
    @mrtt7972 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    just beautiful nothing else just beautiful.

  • @sidonata
    @sidonata 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanl you Pema Chödrön!-I love you so much!

  • @enricogallegos9402
    @enricogallegos9402 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much for this teaching and reminder

  • @mikebramer2972
    @mikebramer2972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this lady.

  • @ktran4341
    @ktran4341 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This video is helpful for me. I feel like I'm still at the resisting phase. Maybe in time, maybe in time.

  • @shizitoulink
    @shizitoulink 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So beautiful!

  • @Theloneliestnumber
    @Theloneliestnumber 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this

  • @devinramos6317
    @devinramos6317 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @autentyk5735
    @autentyk5735 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My heart sank for a second at the thumbnail as I thought Poma was flipping us off.

    • @lanascribe
      @lanascribe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😄

  • @abbypisegna1575
    @abbypisegna1575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love Pema!!!!

  • @ofelia829
    @ofelia829 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you!
    💛

  • @japplesin
    @japplesin 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So honest of you to share your deepest feeling and face the reality of death.

  • @MandoLarian007
    @MandoLarian007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tashi Delek, Pema la! 🙏

  • @lopezulises2013
    @lopezulises2013 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    oh Pema, you've helped me so much. Cheers from Texas.

  • @carlasilveira4758
    @carlasilveira4758 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Pema.... você é uma nascente.... quanta sabedoria, quantas verdades nesse vídeo. Obrigada por tanto... só em ouvir a tua voz, algo se transforma dentro de mim, parece que entro instantaneamente em outra vibração, mais calma, mais real. With all our love. Kisses from Brazil.

  • @Yili2468
    @Yili2468 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful💖

  • @mebailey8158
    @mebailey8158 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Immense gratitude Pema

  • @Arthurterre1711
    @Arthurterre1711 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Something about this lady is so familiar and valuable

  • @margaretcurran8956
    @margaretcurran8956 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy Birthday 🎂

  • @neenasharma2304
    @neenasharma2304 ปีที่แล้ว

    Needed to hear this

  • @MariaJ1958
    @MariaJ1958 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Blessings Pema. Love you :)

  • @ElisPalmer
    @ElisPalmer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Much love to you❤️

  • @goodnatureart
    @goodnatureart 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    yes. Takes a while to get the hang of it, but we are not alone. Watch our tree cousins leaves born and die every year. They teach us all the time about letting go's potential to be beautiful. Appreciate experiencing... always grateful for When Things Fall Apart.

  • @didjesbydan
    @didjesbydan 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Though an old soul, her spirit is young.

  • @sandra4551
    @sandra4551 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Beautiful

  • @HannaJadeBrowne
    @HannaJadeBrowne ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you teacher 🤍

  • @juliend-b2710
    @juliend-b2710 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Pema

  • @Chloe-ti6pb
    @Chloe-ti6pb 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this woman so much ❤️

  • @greenenvironment4767
    @greenenvironment4767 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    beautiful speech

  • @deepsfernandes
    @deepsfernandes 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Returning home. ❤️ Amen.

  • @jessicawestin8531
    @jessicawestin8531 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I LOVE YOU PEMA!

  • @user_f1
    @user_f1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    wise and precious words, it both touched me and made me very sad, I had to cry at the end. I'm not sure why, but death, since a very early age on, has always been busying me a lot...

  • @eroberto
    @eroberto 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Happy birthday!

  • @lisafaithful3787
    @lisafaithful3787 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Last year i lost almost any thing that i had identified myself with, my life turned completely upside down in a snap of a finger..it happened too fast to let me know how it happened...n i was dying of disappointment n sadness...i survived n throughout the experience ive felt nothing n no one is permanent... I felt the groundlessness n egolessness with each and every cell of my body...painful n uneasy but the truth..

    • @thomashedberg2535
      @thomashedberg2535 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Tomorrow is the 2nd Anniversary of my Beloved wife's transitioning into ETERNAL LIFE. Betsy Caprio Hedberg [6-1-1933] described death merely as "A night between 2 days." BLESSINGS, DEAREST!
      YOUR T.