I catastrophize so much with my real event ocd! Both about the past (re imagining the event way worse than it was) and worrying about the future outcomes. I’m working hard on realizing how unrealistic those thoughts are and accepting the uncertainty around them.
@@polarpanda454 no idea but I think it’s kind of helped me to recognize the thoughts as OCD. Even though it’s real event, just being aware that the ocd blows it way out of proportion.
working hard to realize how unrealistic thought is not a good ideaa , we should not try proving thought irrelevant we should just try to sit with thought and intensity decrease in thought will be an byproduct my opinion ,i m not an therapist
Currently struggling with this. OCD is trying to convince me that soon I will be accused of a terrible crime and will be sued, lose everything, go to jail, blah blah blah.
I feel like I’ll do good with intrusive thoughts for like an hour and then the minute I brag that look at me I’m not doing my compulsions as much it seems like they get worse… And I remember you saying something like they’re going to try to work harder to get in when we’re close to overcoming them! Thanks for the great videos
This video made me cry. I know for a fact that the thing am catastrophizing is no real, but it still hunts me. It is destroying my life. I hope we all overcome this.
I don't swear but I literally sweared to my computer screen - when the author made those 'faces' and pretended to be our brain - giving those strange explanations.... I basically looked at the mirror at myself! :)))) Oh boy.... :)))) definitely need to commit and fix it once and for ever. Thanks for your comment - it motivated me to write my own and to have that 'comradery' feeling.
this happens to me a lot it’s almost like it’s on autopilot. i usually tell myself “this scenerio may or may not happen but it’s not happening rn so I am letting it go” or “i am not engaging with this thought any longer”
Today I spoke to a therapist on the phone for an assessment on my mental health, he realised quite quickly it was OCD I was suffering with and as I explained more he told me that I was catastrophising my thoughts, I'm honestly thankful to now know I am not insane or alone ❤
Glad I waited til the end. My question was going to be “how do we know when to challenge thoughts vs when to use the ‘maybe/maybe not’ approach?” Sometimes there is overlap between the intrusive thoughts and anxious thoughts.
First time I smoked marijuana my anxiety went all the way up because I had ocd and it got worse, I started to believe all my thoughts were real when in reality all other thoughts were just random stuff that popped up, I struggled for 2 years then after learning about your channel you made me change my perspective of how the brain creates things to protect us and how we interfere in that process, by just letting the brain do what it wants without judgement or chasing for answers
This is exactly what happened to me I’m 16 and for over a year I’ve been depressed and convinced im a bad person it’s been so draining, im finally finding out it’s not only me and I’m so relieved
I catastrophise my real events/false memory ocd so much. I'll remember false intentions, and false thoughts I've "had". I need to move on from this. It's not easy but I think I can do it
Thank you for this video and your channel. I have struggled with catastrophizing, anxiety, possible OCD, as well as ADHD and possible autism my entire life. I have been in therapy since I was 14. Though I have gotten far within my journey of my mental health, this video as well as your other videos have been very helpful with overcoming things I have still struggled with despite actively being in therapy. Your videos also help when I need help and therapy in moments when I do not have an appointment near. Your channel is live saving, so thank you for what you do! 🙏
I find your videos so helpful. Can you do one for people who actually do have slowly progressing, life threatening diseases like myself? It’s so hard when there is some logic to the thoughts but they’re just out of proportion to the moment and sucking the value out of day-to-day.
I think we're in the toughest spot, because our fears have a real, tangible reason AND a high probability of happening. I watched so many videos about ocds and anxiety, and most of the time they talk about social anxiety and loads of completely baseless/improbable stuff that just has me going "wth is this". It seems people with real life-threatening conditions are not really represented, or able to make much use of the suggested therapies.
@@AmphiteraI don't suffer from any physicial disease thankfully, but I do agree that it would be nice to know what to do if your OCD latches onto something that has somewhat of a high likelihood of happening, it just seems so much more difficult. I wish you luck man ❤
Always the best! Thanks for all your content. You’re a talented individual, always making me laugh! Learning to know the difference between what should be challenged and what should be released.
This is my biggest problem I have dealt with. Most of it deals with health issues, but also tragic events. I try to use logic to counteract the thoughts.
Thank you for adding the last example of your son! It's a good reminder that when we challenge our catastrophe thoughts like that. We're talking to our fearful inner child!
I have a new one for ya!….. would you rather ocd.. it’s crippling. I can’t stop thinking “would I rather burn in hell for eternity or - something about my kids. (Anything) I know it’s bc I love them so my brain is making me squeeze between the most important thing in my life or my biggest fears. I know; “you don’t need an answer”. BUT, I feel I always NEED to know at what point I’d become “selfish?” over my children. I wish there was more help out there but I’m happy to have found your help.
I catastrophise about the possibility that I might develop cancer because I read that anxiety or ocd might affect our immune system and its ability to counteract cancer cells
Your brain is just a thought creator, you are the viewer and the one that gives meaning to all thoughts that happen in your lifetime,let your brain do what it wants and dont judge it, you should stop answering its calls or compulsions too
I’m the exact same at the moment after having a setback with a toe infection and it spiralled into thinking I have cancer after taking medication and having extreme anxiety
Man you are great!! Thank you for posting these videos they are so informative and help me understand my OCD. The video on ROCD helped save my relationship I would love to see more information on that form of OCD from you! Again! Thank you!
I have also always thought the worst when put on the spot or under unexpectedly being called in to talk with supervisor types....Then , I came to realize that getting nervous was not based on reality....If you did something wrong, you know you did which is totally different....I adopted a way of thinking and it has helped....I won't worry until I have reason to worry.....I know it sounds simplistic but it works...
My 17 year old's OCD is now creating MASSIVE DOUBT and he's so down in himself and is losing confidence. I'm trying to find a video for him but maybe an explanation on OCD and doubt would be so helpful! Thank you for any suggestions (he was diagnosed 4 years ago and the themes keep changing and growing!)
Thankyou so so much, Nathan! This really really helps. Could you also do a video on why and how do we get into this thought process? Again, many many thanks.
My friend challenged me about this. They have been trying so hard to help me with it so I've been trying to consume as much as I can to help.i feel this will help me most than you
I seem to catastrophize when I lose track of things. I think many times in the past I’ve “lost track” and lost things because of it. It also makes me concerned to take next steps as in, how to know what’s better for me next. More travel? Adopt a dog? Some of these past experiences have made this harder
Nathan I have been getting better at dealing with my ocd but honestly it never leaves me completely cause I have so many things going on in my head. I am currently dealing with the following issues-memory hoarding, counting, skin picking, symmetry, perfectionism and morality. I am trying not to do the compulsions but sometimes I just end up doing them and it makes me miserable. I think I have an all or nothing mindset, and whenever I'm failing I am getting very depressed. It's like I can't live my life in peace. What should I do?
Yeah I know this feeling I have depression and anxiety and have a very irritated mood and compulsive behavior my mind is basically racing so fast that I can't even keep track and social media probably makes it worse but I'm just naturally curious and find myself coming across a hateful tweet or something mean and my brain basically stop rationalizing so I basically test myself with it and I know this is long but I have a rambling problem as well.😭
Would apply to the absolute worst intrusive thoughts coming up all the time during the most unexpected moments? For example, I had a thought about my child and now every time he’s being a child or just doing anything at all that thought comes up. It’s like my brain is constantly testing itsself to see if the thought will come up. The more I tell myself the thought is silly and unlike me the most ocd tells me that I want it and that’s how I feel
HI,..ive been strugling with anxiety...and actually when im scared i cant speak.for example,im scared of elivator,so when i get in to an alivator i dont speak until im out... Maybe you can do video about that?
Catastrophising is ocd? I have health anxiety and this tends to happen with a health related though. It goes from 0-100 in a second. I get a tiny bit of reassurance from realising anything I think that begins with what if in an intrusive thought and Isn’t reality
Am 17 years old am facing this problem. Sometimes I think very worstly and I am the worst one in the world. I avoid many matter from my but again again and again I think about the worst topic I don't want to think like that
I feel heat and stabbing right now in my whole body. Especially in my bones and I am afraid it's cancer or I am dying. Tell me please can this be such a long side effect because of the quitting of antidepressants? I am afraid omg. I stopped taking them in March. And a couple of months ago I started feel all the strange symptoms and I am afraid of going to a doctor. Omg. I even don't know what to say. I took for today. Maybe I should tell it. But I am such a socially anxious person I don't know how to say all of this. I am shaking again. And I don't even know if I can ask a doctor therapist those questions. Maybe the doctor will tell me to go to a psychiatrist and I am so lazy and tired of travelling to doctors all over the city. Exhausting. Damn. I wish I could go and find a job and then life would be easier! :( Btw, I wanna say that it's cool to listen to you, you convince me and I start to trust and believe and I am like yay, everything is gonna be fine! And I feel relaxed. U know, feels like I am suffering from loneliness and I just need the right person and I think I would be less anxious. Or if somebody just would tell me what you tell us all the time! Like a reminder! That's cool :) Thanks!
good video, but there is a crux...if you keep trying to "challenge" the catastrophising thought you may end up with rumination !! what is the solution to this?
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To me instead of challenge catastrophic ideas, works better to treat it as an intrusive thought, and say "maybe, maybe not". If I challenge them, I never win 😢
My intrusive thought is telling me i can't speak with my friend or a specific and my brain get a flash back of a sad moment where i was alone and socially awkward , that thought instantly makes me anxious and makes me even forget how to talk normally my speech is slurred , I don't feel like myself at all like I can't have a normal conversation without sounding like an idiot I want to go home fast and don't want to encounter that person that my brain blocked me from talking with and want to meet him next day so i can talk normally ,but the same thought keep repeating everyday on loop ➰ I don't avoid speeding with the person my brain told me to avoid for no reason but always feel more social awkward around them and my conversation skill drop to 0
My relationship recently ended because I have this problem. Unfortunately, the break up has validated my feelings of worthlessness and even more so that I am difficult to love, and I may never find love. I'm 43 this year, diagnosed with BPD, and currently at a low low low. I'm trying to find a good reason to stay alive, and I really can't find any.
You are worthy of life because the universe created you! That means you get a chance to live like all humans have. Your existence is proof of worthiness. I hope you find this immeasurable worth within yourself and without needing any other human to affirm it. You can bring your own special touch to this time and place. Don’t ever give up you beautiful human!
Could you please do a video about intrusive thoughts that are about feeling physical pain, or being tortured, or having sharp things hurting you or your internal organs hurt (not inflicted by myself, or anyone specific, just the action of something hurting you somehow ) ... And then when you get those intrusive thoughts you cringe and feel sick, feel distress and almost like you're feeling actual pain on your body? Also intrusive thoughts about disgusting things like feces and such, that you get extremely bothered and disgusted whenever these thoughts intrude themselves
I've avoided using logic for this many years,......is it really prudent to start engaging it now? tHanks for the video. (my roof is leaking....hmmm, I should eat some cake).
Hello nathan sir it has been long sinc u hv'nt post a video. I have a query. Many therapist use to say that whenever any intrusive thought popped up in your mind make sure that u made ur self realize that its just a thought and thought have nothing to do with reality.. and ask to do many therapies like deep breathing and notice the things around concentr8 on the sounds u hearing. But what a bummer it doesnt help in this most of the time. Cuz the more i try to make my self realize its just a thought the more my mind start questioning my self and made me deranged it just cant help me and i felt reluctant to tell this to a therapist that this isnt working for me. Pls make video in this asap will b v gr8ful
*Brooooooooooooooo* Can you please talk about this topic? Like sometimes i feel like i don't feel anything *Like if my friend or family member got hurtt..... So i dont feel any emotions.... I don't feel sad or shocked....or if any person cares for me...and that is very good.... But i dont feel that care and love.... I think ya what to do with that its normal.... Like for example if any person loves me and cares for me I don't feel that and if there is someone whom I don't love but they care for me so I feel that.... So the main thing is feeling.. For example... If kiss... Then nothing loved feels.... If my loved one tells me i love you.....i dont feel anything..... I want to be normal, i also want to feel.... I hope you got the point nathan So is that OCD??? Please bro make serious video on this topic coz its really depressing me day by day*
In recent times, when I get doubts during a film, I rewind those scenes and get to know about it. But it turns into a compulsion now. From your tips, I didn't rewind for the unwanted scenes and only for those which are really necessary. I don't know why but when the film is about to end, I have a feeling that I'm not gonna have a satisfying feeling about the film (though it's good) and when I think of the scenes in that movie, I get anxious that the film is not satisfying for me. Any tips?
I catastrophize about not passing my medical college entrance exam and and becoming unemployment while my friends go on ahead in life.I cant sleep at all at night and always feel like crying.i am even afraid of going to tuitions and classes.
But when it comes to ocd this can be ok or if I challenge this thought with other scenarios then it can be compulsive like reassuring? Sorry for my bad English hope I made it clear to understand 😅🙏🏻 edit so how did I know if this is anxiety or ocd related so I can know how to treat?
I deal with the same thing. This is HARD but you have to learn to laugh them off or treat them as they are: completely silly thoughts. I am personally Christian, but if you pray (if you are religious), don’t pray compulsively. Pray rather that God shows you how to deal with them well and live well regardless of the thoughts.
I’ve had symptoms of everything from MS to diabetes… and guess what? It was all OCD. My advice is to face those sensations and literally *ask* your body to give you more of those feelings. Say “bring it on”… “let’s have it!” And those sensations may continue but now you’ve accepted them and welcomed them… and your brain gets bored and moves on! With any obsession, I do this and it helps a ton! Good luck to you
@@gardeniagorgeous4232thanks for that. I appreciate you replying to me. I feel all alone out here. Like I must be crazy cause I feel so sick and they haven’t found anything but my mind won’t let it go….ugh
Hmm, well lets see: I lost my job of 12 years in May due to burnout from working 70-80 hours a week. I've been searching for other work since then, and was working a side hustle that actually lost me money after all the expenses. I'm in my mid 40s, so I don't have as much energy anymore. Plus I'm depressed. I managed to get a few interviews but no job. Oh and I have a mortgage and and am in over $30k of debt. My savings is what I've been surviving off of but that is about to run out in another 3-5 months
That’s just it, and I agree with you. But learning to not care is a whole other thing. Sometime having immoral thoughts and just saying okay, maybe, maybe not helps them not feel so bad. But then it’s the repetitive questioning the thought that just latches on.
What things do you catastrophize? 🤔
My OCD consists of contamination fears. Especially to cancer causing agents and chemicals.
Thank you so much for your interest.
Suicide, or the FEAR of suicide.
my health
@@O.LEO.N damn lol me too, we fear it may not happen
I catastrophize so much with my real event ocd! Both about the past (re imagining the event way worse than it was) and worrying about the future outcomes. I’m working hard on realizing how unrealistic those thoughts are and accepting the uncertainty around them.
same do u know any way to overcome it?
@@polarpanda454 no idea but I think it’s kind of helped me to recognize the thoughts as OCD. Even though it’s real event, just being aware that the ocd blows it way out of proportion.
working hard to realize how unrealistic thought is not a good ideaa , we should not try proving thought irrelevant
we should just try to sit with thought and intensity decrease in thought will be an byproduct
my opinion ,i m not an therapist
Currently struggling with this. OCD is trying to convince me that soon I will be accused of a terrible crime and will be sued, lose everything, go to jail, blah blah blah.
Same :( it's exhausting and impacting my goals for future
Thank you so much for making these videos. It can be SO hard to live with OCD. It's validating knowing that I'm not alone. Let's all heal together!
Indeed
Health issues really make me catastrophize
Thank you for this video
I feel like I’ll do good with intrusive thoughts for like an hour and then the minute I brag that look at me I’m not doing my compulsions as much it seems like they get worse… And I remember you saying something like they’re going to try to work harder to get in when we’re close to overcoming them! Thanks for the great videos
This video made me cry.
I know for a fact that the thing am catastrophizing is no real, but it still hunts me. It is destroying my life.
I hope we all overcome this.
I don't swear but I literally sweared to my computer screen - when the author made those 'faces' and pretended to be our brain - giving those strange explanations.... I basically looked at the mirror at myself! :)))) Oh boy.... :)))) definitely need to commit and fix it once and for ever. Thanks for your comment - it motivated me to write my own and to have that 'comradery' feeling.
this happens to me a lot it’s almost like it’s on autopilot. i usually tell myself “this scenerio may or may not happen but it’s not happening rn so I am letting it go” or “i am not engaging with this thought any longer”
Today I spoke to a therapist on the phone for an assessment on my mental health, he realised quite quickly it was OCD I was suffering with and as I explained more he told me that I was catastrophising my thoughts, I'm honestly thankful to now know I am not insane or alone ❤
The judge method is such a game changer I'm in disbelief. It genuinely helps a lot! Thank you!
Idk why but "stop catastrophizing" is SOOOO helpful to me.
Glad I waited til the end. My question was going to be “how do we know when to challenge thoughts vs when to use the ‘maybe/maybe not’ approach?” Sometimes there is overlap between the intrusive thoughts and anxious thoughts.
Indeed there is.
Watching you has truly helped with my OCD. Thank you young man.
First time I smoked marijuana my anxiety went all the way up because I had ocd and it got worse, I started to believe all my thoughts were real when in reality all other thoughts were just random stuff that popped up, I struggled for 2 years then after learning about your channel you made me change my perspective of how the brain creates things to protect us and how we interfere in that process, by just letting the brain do what it wants without judgement or chasing for answers
This is exactly what happened to me I’m 16 and for over a year I’ve been depressed and convinced im a bad person it’s been so draining, im finally finding out it’s not only me and I’m so relieved
oh trust me your not alone, 30-35% of americans are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds.
I catastrophise my real events/false memory ocd so much. I'll remember false intentions, and false thoughts I've "had". I need to move on from this. It's not easy but I think I can do it
That's the right mindset. Proud of you! How are you doing lately?
Thank you for this video and your channel. I have struggled with catastrophizing, anxiety, possible OCD, as well as ADHD and possible autism my entire life. I have been in therapy since I was 14. Though I have gotten far within my journey of my mental health, this video as well as your other videos have been very helpful with overcoming things I have still struggled with despite actively being in therapy. Your videos also help when I need help and therapy in moments when I do not have an appointment near. Your channel is live saving, so thank you for what you do! 🙏
I find your videos so helpful. Can you do one for people who actually do have slowly progressing, life threatening diseases like myself? It’s so hard when there is some logic to the thoughts but they’re just out of proportion to the moment and sucking the value out of day-to-day.
I don't have any answers, I just wanting to day how sorry I am you're going through this and I hope someone can give you some helpful tips. 💛
I think we're in the toughest spot, because our fears have a real, tangible reason AND a high probability of happening. I watched so many videos about ocds and anxiety, and most of the time they talk about social anxiety and loads of completely baseless/improbable stuff that just has me going "wth is this".
It seems people with real life-threatening conditions are not really represented, or able to make much use of the suggested therapies.
@@AmphiteraI don't suffer from any physicial disease thankfully, but I do agree that it would be nice to know what to do if your OCD latches onto something that has somewhat of a high likelihood of happening, it just seems so much more difficult. I wish you luck man ❤
Do you know such channel who talk about life threatening dealing stuff?@Amphitera
Excellent. Its amazing any of us can function in life at all with all the risks and uncertainties.
Always the best! Thanks for all your content. You’re a talented individual, always making me laugh!
Learning to know the difference between what should be challenged and what should be released.
This is my biggest problem I have dealt with. Most of it deals with health issues, but also tragic events. I try to use logic to counteract the thoughts.
Thank you for adding the last example of your son! It's a good reminder that when we challenge our catastrophe thoughts like that. We're talking to our fearful inner child!
You’re a genius Nate! I’m so glad I watched your video tonight. Thank you!!
You are such a kind soul. Thank you for your videos
I have a new one for ya!….. would you rather ocd.. it’s crippling. I can’t stop thinking “would I rather burn in hell for eternity or - something about my kids. (Anything) I know it’s bc I love them so my brain is making me squeeze between the most important thing in my life or my biggest fears. I know; “you don’t need an answer”. BUT, I feel I always NEED to know at what point I’d become “selfish?” over my children.
I wish there was more help out there but I’m happy to have found your help.
I catastrophise about the possibility that I might develop cancer because I read that anxiety or ocd might affect our immune system and its ability to counteract cancer cells
I just watched a tik tok vid of some dude dead from bowel c and now im in an absolute state
You are not alone. I do the same exact thing. We may get cancer or we may not 🤷♀
Your brain is just a thought creator, you are the viewer and the one that gives meaning to all thoughts that happen in your lifetime,let your brain do what it wants and dont judge it, you should stop answering its calls or compulsions too
I’m the exact same at the moment after having a setback with a toe infection and it spiralled into thinking I have cancer after taking medication and having extreme anxiety
This is a really good video, I'm surprised others have these thoughts and understand
Man you are great!! Thank you for posting these videos they are so informative and help me understand my OCD. The video on ROCD helped save my relationship I would love to see more information on that form of OCD from you! Again! Thank you!
Another amazing video Nate!💪🏼
Hey ur good ,,, I get anxious listening to u ,,,but it positive, ur hitting me hard ,,, but I am growing towards healing thank u
Have you thought about doing a video on anxiety medication? The do's and dont's, what you think about them, side effects and all that jazz?
You’re perfect for this teaching role! Thank you for the tips!
I have also always thought the worst when put on the spot or under unexpectedly being called in to talk with supervisor types....Then , I came to realize that getting nervous was not based on reality....If you did something wrong, you know you did which is totally different....I adopted a way of thinking and it has helped....I won't worry until I have reason to worry.....I know it sounds simplistic but it works...
My 17 year old's OCD is now creating MASSIVE DOUBT and he's so down in himself and is losing confidence. I'm trying to find a video for him but maybe an explanation on OCD and doubt would be so helpful! Thank you for any suggestions (he was diagnosed 4 years ago and the themes keep changing and growing!)
You’re an amazing parent! My family made me feel crazy for having OCD/anxiety.
Thankyou so so much, Nathan! This really really helps. Could you also do a video on why and how do we get into this thought process? Again, many many thanks.
so wonderful to see you are doing great! can't thank you enough for changing my life for the best! God bless you!
My friend challenged me about this. They have been trying so hard to help me with it so I've been trying to consume as much as I can to help.i feel this will help me most than you
Yay! The frog is back! The sign looks great too!
I catastrophize so bad that I get paralyzed
I actually really needed this video today. Thank you.
I seem to catastrophize when I lose track of things. I think many times in the past I’ve “lost track” and lost things because of it. It also makes me concerned to take next steps as in, how to know what’s better for me next. More travel? Adopt a dog? Some of these past experiences have made this harder
Nathan I have been getting better at dealing with my ocd but honestly it never leaves me completely cause I have so many things going on in my head. I am currently dealing with the following issues-memory hoarding, counting, skin picking, symmetry, perfectionism and morality. I am trying not to do the compulsions but sometimes I just end up doing them and it makes me miserable. I think I have an all or nothing mindset, and whenever I'm failing I am getting very depressed. It's like I can't live my life in peace. What should I do?
Yeah I know this feeling I have depression and anxiety and have a very irritated mood and compulsive behavior my mind is basically racing so fast that I can't even keep track and social media probably makes it worse but I'm just naturally curious and find myself coming across a hateful tweet or something mean and my brain basically stop rationalizing so I basically test myself with it and I know this is long but I have a rambling problem as well.😭
I do this a lot.. about health, job, thank you
Would apply to the absolute worst intrusive thoughts coming up all the time during the most unexpected moments? For example, I had a thought about my child and now every time he’s being a child or just doing anything at all that thought comes up. It’s like my brain is constantly testing itsself to see if the thought will come up. The more I tell myself the thought is silly and unlike me the most ocd tells me that I want it and that’s how I feel
Thank you for making these videos. Starting ERP myself and just trying to take it one day at a time! Ready to be free of OCD! :)
I love you man! I find your videos so so helpful!
HI,..ive been strugling with anxiety...and actually when im scared i cant speak.for example,im scared of elivator,so when i get in to an alivator i dont speak until im out...
Maybe you can do video about that?
Catastrophising is ocd? I have health anxiety and this tends to happen with a health related though. It goes from 0-100 in a second.
I get a tiny bit of reassurance from realising anything I think that begins with what if in an intrusive thought and Isn’t reality
Am 17 years old am facing this problem. Sometimes I think very worstly and I am the worst one in the world. I avoid many matter from my but again again and again I think about the worst topic I don't want to think like that
I feel heat and stabbing right now in my whole body. Especially in my bones and I am afraid it's cancer or I am dying. Tell me please can this be such a long side effect because of the quitting of antidepressants? I am afraid omg. I stopped taking them in March. And a couple of months ago I started feel all the strange symptoms and I am afraid of going to a doctor. Omg. I even don't know what to say. I took for today. Maybe I should tell it. But I am such a socially anxious person I don't know how to say all of this. I am shaking again. And I don't even know if I can ask a doctor therapist those questions. Maybe the doctor will tell me to go to a psychiatrist and I am so lazy and tired of travelling to doctors all over the city. Exhausting. Damn. I wish I could go and find a job and then life would be easier! :(
Btw, I wanna say that it's cool to listen to you, you convince me and I start to trust and believe and I am like yay, everything is gonna be fine! And I feel relaxed. U know, feels like I am suffering from loneliness and I just need the right person and I think I would be less anxious. Or if somebody just would tell me what you tell us all the time! Like a reminder! That's cool :) Thanks!
good video, but there is a crux...if you keep trying to "challenge" the catastrophising thought you may end up with rumination !! what is the solution to this?
To me instead of challenge catastrophic ideas, works better to treat it as an intrusive thought, and say "maybe, maybe not". If I challenge them, I never win 😢
My intrusive thought is telling me i can't speak with my friend or a specific and my brain get a flash back of a sad moment where i was alone and socially awkward , that thought instantly makes me anxious and makes me even forget how to talk normally my speech is slurred , I don't feel like myself at all like I can't have a normal conversation without sounding like an idiot
I want to go home fast and don't want to encounter that person that my brain blocked me from talking with and want to meet him next day so i can talk normally ,but the same thought keep repeating everyday on loop ➰
I don't avoid speeding with the person my brain told me to avoid for no reason but always feel more social awkward around them and my conversation skill drop to 0
My relationship recently ended because I have this problem. Unfortunately, the break up has validated my feelings of worthlessness and even more so that I am difficult to love, and I may never find love. I'm 43 this year, diagnosed with BPD, and currently at a low low low. I'm trying to find a good reason to stay alive, and I really can't find any.
It gets worse before it gets better ❤
You are not difficult to love! You just weren’t loved by the right person. I hope you are better already!
You are worthy of life because the universe created you! That means you get a chance to live like all humans have. Your existence is proof of worthiness. I hope you find this immeasurable worth within yourself and without needing any other human to affirm it. You can bring your own special touch to this time and place. Don’t ever give up you beautiful human!
Could you please do a video about intrusive thoughts that are about feeling physical pain, or being tortured, or having sharp things hurting you or your internal organs hurt (not inflicted by myself, or anyone specific, just the action of something hurting you somehow ) ... And then when you get those intrusive thoughts you cringe and feel sick, feel distress and almost like you're feeling actual pain on your body?
Also intrusive thoughts about disgusting things like feces and such, that you get extremely bothered and disgusted whenever these thoughts intrude themselves
I liked the last part "Judge Judy send me to jail for my thoughts " 😂
Great video sir !!
So nice of you
I've avoided using logic for this many years,......is it really prudent to start engaging it now?
tHanks for the video.
(my roof is leaking....hmmm, I should eat some cake).
Hello nathan sir it has been long sinc u hv'nt post a video. I have a query. Many therapist use to say that whenever any intrusive thought popped up in your mind make sure that u made ur self realize that its just a thought and thought have nothing to do with reality.. and ask to do many therapies like deep breathing and notice the things around concentr8 on the sounds u hearing. But what a bummer it doesnt help in this most of the time. Cuz the more i try to make my self realize its just a thought the more my mind start questioning my self and made me deranged it just cant help me and i felt reluctant to tell this to a therapist that this isnt working for me. Pls make video in this asap will b v gr8ful
"What if my friends all actually hate me, and all talk about how much they hate me when I am not around. I am better off alone." Is a huge one for me.
Tq so much for the video
thank you so much, in my lango its habibi!
*Brooooooooooooooo*
Can you please talk about this topic?
Like sometimes i feel like i don't feel anything
*Like if my friend or family member got hurtt..... So i dont feel any emotions.... I don't feel sad or shocked....or if any person cares for me...and that is very good.... But i dont feel that care and love.... I think ya what to do with that its normal....
Like for example if any person loves me and cares for me I don't feel that and if there is someone whom I don't love but they care for me so I feel that....
So the main thing is feeling..
For example... If kiss... Then nothing loved feels....
If my loved one tells me i love you.....i dont feel anything.....
I want to be normal, i also want to feel....
I hope you got the point nathan
So is that OCD???
Please bro make serious video on this topic coz its really depressing me day by day*
In recent times, when I get doubts during a film, I rewind those scenes and get to know about it. But it turns into a compulsion now. From your tips, I didn't rewind for the unwanted scenes and only for those which are really necessary.
I don't know why but when the film is about to end, I have a feeling that I'm not gonna have a satisfying feeling about the film (though it's good) and when I think of the scenes in that movie, I get anxious that the film is not satisfying for me. Any tips?
What if the thoughts come with strong emotions and the brain dont want to believe the challenges??
Can I get any specific helpful video for not able to say any word with ease in heart or mind. What could be the term used for this problem ?
Thank you
Hello! Where can I request a theme for a video? :)
I catastrophize about not passing my medical college entrance exam and and becoming unemployment while my friends go on ahead in life.I cant sleep at all at night and always feel like crying.i am even afraid of going to tuitions and classes.
What advise would you give to someone whose “guesses” are far more often right than wrong?
This
What does OCD have to with with worrying
When you are under stress your ocd gets worse
But when it comes to ocd this can be ok or if I challenge this thought with other scenarios then it can be compulsive like reassuring? Sorry for my bad English hope I made it clear to understand 😅🙏🏻 edit so how did I know if this is anxiety or ocd related so I can know how to treat?
Sir can you please help me
I have hocd and im trying to accept the thoughts but after I remember some memories were I think I looked gay im getting angry. What should I do?
I deal with the same thing. This is HARD but you have to learn to laugh them off or treat them as they are: completely silly thoughts. I am personally Christian, but if you pray (if you are religious), don’t pray compulsively. Pray rather that God shows you how to deal with them well and live well regardless of the thoughts.
What if health is what causes you to catastrophize? I have real bad symptoms and they feel like proof something is wrong 😢
I’ve had symptoms of everything from MS to diabetes… and guess what? It was all OCD. My advice is to face those sensations and literally *ask* your body to give you more of those feelings. Say “bring it on”… “let’s have it!” And those sensations may continue but now you’ve accepted them and welcomed them… and your brain gets bored and moves on! With any obsession, I do this and it helps a ton! Good luck to you
@@gardeniagorgeous4232thanks for that. I appreciate you replying to me. I feel all alone out here. Like I must be crazy cause I feel so sick and they haven’t found anything but my mind won’t let it go….ugh
I started crying just listening to the description. I didn't make it one minute into the video, and my heart is racing and I'm crying.
P.S. I've worked for this company for nine years now. I've had five bosses. I have worked for my current supervisor for two years. I've never met him.
P.S.S. When only negative things happen, you tend to jump straight to...
To be care free again, what I would do to simply not take life so seriously.
Hmm, well lets see: I lost my job of 12 years in May due to burnout from working 70-80 hours a week. I've been searching for other work since then, and was working a side hustle that actually lost me money after all the expenses. I'm in my mid 40s, so I don't have as much energy anymore. Plus I'm depressed. I managed to get a few interviews but no job. Oh and I have a mortgage and and am in over $30k of debt. My savings is what I've been surviving off of but that is about to run out in another 3-5 months
Hello Nathan
I catastrophize to the point where I believe my friends and family deserve to abandon me for their own well being lol
3:51 umm have you met the real world? that doesn't happen.
I can’t even sleep at night I’m suffering
If your boss asks you to see them after your shift, you're getting fired 😄
Hahahaha
@@ocdandanxiety it's happened to me several times 😄 Anyway, thanks for the new skills and reframing. It's already been helpful 😊
I don't catastrophize, I just believe in Murphy's Law.
I found an even better worse coping mechanism. Not caring.
That’s just it, and I agree with you. But learning to not care is a whole other thing. Sometime having immoral thoughts and just saying okay, maybe, maybe not helps them not feel so bad. But then it’s the repetitive questioning the thought that just latches on.
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Thanks
It is paralyzing
you should really do a video about Ukraine Russia war...
My life suck
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Bro I am getting some super hero power when I watch your videos 🦇, but it lasts only 1 or 2 hours 😂🤌