I TAKE INSPIRATION FROM ANELE AND GOD BLESS HIM ABUNDANTLY , FOR ME I WOULD FORGIVE CHEATING , BUT TO TRUST THE PERSON AGAIN , IT WOULD TAKE ME SERIOUS YEARS
Forgive you self in order to be able to forgive someone the is no perfect relationship its only having faith to each other God must continue be you guys ndifunda lukhulu ❤😊
Hello fam. Thank you Anele and Lutho for this video. I am in the same situation. I once cheated on my current boyfriend 3 years ago, when it came out it messed uthando lwethu so much. Ima siba right, after that ordeal things were no longer fun. He had to do a lot of work internally ukufika to this point where I think he has really forgiven me, where I feel nam ukuthi when he sees me akaboni that person owamenza kabi. I love him so much, and hope that one day we have a beautiful family like yours🥰😃
Hi guys,,,,as much as I agree with you Anele about if you start realizing things about a person,there are things you cannot change,,for example,when you realize the person is not smart, how do you change that?and it's a difficult one bcos you always have to think for the person even in simple things that you should not be.
I am of the opinion that people have different intellects and its easy to believe that a person is not smart just because they don't share your intellect. It is however a delight when you discover your person's smart and can relax because they have it covered in ways much better than you
I think is more of your mind comparing than the actual reason. Everyone is unique and smart in their own way. Maybe past relationships has impact on thinking that the person is not smart cause my question will be this person is not smart compared to who.
I think we need a story time of what happened for learning purposes but I with that being said I saw ubaba wekhaya ukuba ikhona indawo yongabaweli kuye to go back there so we also respect that if that is the case.
My previous partner cheated on me and that was 3 years ago, I forgave him 2 times, I left the 3rd time he did it then I got into a new relationship after after a year, fast forward to now, I’m in a stable relationship with the most loving partner but I always self sabotage because I’m still carrying past hurt, I’d really make a big thing out of a small situation because it’s coming from a place of hurt. I don’t know how to solve the problem I’m currently facing🥺
Askies to hear that. Kindly forgive yourself for dating your previous partner. Forgiveness is for self. Adding to this I would like to recommend a book by the name of " Damaged but not destroyed" - Michael Todd.
Try to tell yourself that "this man has not given me a reason to doubt him so I have nothing to worry about" whenever you feel like you're overeating 😊
Thanks I felt it when Anele mentioned that sometimes you dont want to support your partner when he /she changes to their best version we tend to be selfish Especially as guys or a guy let me not be inclusive I have seen that when for example when she would want to put up make up and go to new restuarants you tend to want to be in control to how you want her to be like not being aware shes is also a human and has rights to be different and change and that acceptance can be hard but communication allows it to easy as time goes and wanting to make your person happy thanks guys
I thought forgiveness means to take him back...... Ndamthatha back after he cheated wamithisa 😭😭😭😢 I could feel ukuba ndihlise my standards to meet him apha ezantsi😢 Ngoku ndiphume kancinci ngathi ndiyochama Bethuna mxolele umntu neh but continuing with the relationship....hai cha
It's how everytime the other person tells you they're busy then your mind quickly over think that they're cheating. Being cheated or being lied to damages the trust. I can love again guinely after being cheated to but Trusting?? 😢
cheating is a very horrible thing to happen to anyone. but brother you are brave. no gent ever heals from that. but why was she laughing like its a light thing ? .
Thank you so much for sharing this my lovely couple. Truth is we all go through these things in relationships it’s not nice when they happen. One just really need to face the reality and take a decision, people always talk you just need to do what’s best for your and your partner.
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant but wayesalobola that sasingakashadi yhoo that was the most hurtful thing I ever experienced, he has never cheated ever since than its 5 years ago..I'm almost over it but isihluphile we went to see psychologist sobabini it got better
Bengisacela ukubuza kwDloto , do you guys still have parents from both sides ? If so beza nini abazali ukuzobona baby Lombe ?? And to see the new house ??
Hawu 😳...ngokubuza nje sengonile njalo, ngoba ukuzibuzela nje qha ...angithi they're sharing their lives with us ngonephi ke mina ngalokhu usungahlulela nje 😆 😄 weh Thobeka ....noma akufanele sibuze masinembuzo ??? Kuyisono ukubuza la ekhaya mhlampe mina ongazi ... uma bengathandi ukuphendula sengicela ukuzwa ngabo abanini bayo lento yabo ....
@@sisanakay hawu ngaze ngasukelwa emini ilanga libalele ...sengithanda indaba zabantu njalo ...angithi ibona who are sharing they're personal life with us, kade esho manje umama Dloto ethi let's comment , let's ask Questions uhlezi esho manje mina sengonile ke ngokubuza nje sekufe umuntu weh Thobeka
I love the conversation, Its possible to forgive your partner...Do unto others as u want it 2 be done to you, If u want 2 b forgiven u jus forgive. Make a conscious decision 2 love your partner every minute. God bless u both and keep on loving each other always❤
I found out that my baby daddy is cheating the day I came back from home after maternity leave, I'm still recovering my son is only 4 months old ,there was no remorse what so ever in fact I'm being blamed for taking away without saying I'm going to after I confronted him and he was rude got angry I walked out,so I got blamed why did I left the house what if something had happened to me he was going to be blamed lol so I'm hurt I was recovering from c section that was terrible haven't healed that much and to find out he was just cheating ,hectic
I love how Anele looks at Lulu while he’s talking about cheating. It’s clear that he’s not one of those people who cheat 🙌🏾
I TAKE INSPIRATION FROM ANELE AND GOD BLESS HIM ABUNDANTLY , FOR ME I WOULD FORGIVE CHEATING , BUT TO TRUST THE PERSON AGAIN , IT WOULD TAKE ME SERIOUS YEARS
I just love you guys and how you are around each other, it's hard to find a genuine relationship
Forgive you self in order to be able to forgive someone the is no perfect relationship its only having faith to each other God must continue be you guys ndifunda lukhulu ❤😊
Love you guys! This was so beautiful to watch ❤❤❤
I literally just watched that black coffee video before this one! So happy you touched on it Anele! Always learn a lot from your conversations ❤️
Thank you to our lady for owning up and ladies are also human beings sometimes we mess up as well
Hello fam. Thank you Anele and Lutho for this video. I am in the same situation. I once cheated on my current boyfriend 3 years ago, when it came out it messed uthando lwethu so much. Ima siba right, after that ordeal things were no longer fun. He had to do a lot of work internally ukufika to this point where I think he has really forgiven me, where I feel nam ukuthi when he sees me akaboni that person owamenza kabi. I love him so much, and hope that one day we have a beautiful family like yours🥰😃
Hi guys,,,,as much as I agree with you Anele about if you start realizing things about a person,there are things you cannot change,,for example,when you realize the person is not smart, how do you change that?and it's a difficult one bcos you always have to think for the person even in simple things that you should not be.
I am of the opinion that people have different intellects and its easy to believe that a person is not smart just because they don't share your intellect. It is however a delight when you discover your person's smart and can relax because they have it covered in ways much better than you
Thinking a person is not smart whole entire time uwena who is not 😅
I think is more of your mind comparing than the actual reason. Everyone is unique and smart in their own way. Maybe past relationships has impact on thinking that the person is not smart cause my question will be this person is not smart compared to who.
I think we need a story time of what happened for learning purposes but I with that being said I saw ubaba wekhaya ukuba ikhona indawo yongabaweli kuye to go back there so we also respect that if that is the case.
Thank you so much Fam, I just love how you tackle all these kind of problems and the wisdom in Mr Dloto is beyond this world. Stay blessed fam❤
My previous partner cheated on me and that was 3 years ago, I forgave him 2 times, I left the 3rd time he did it then I got into a new relationship after after a year, fast forward to now, I’m in a stable relationship with the most loving partner but I always self sabotage because I’m still carrying past hurt, I’d really make a big thing out of a small situation because it’s coming from a place of hurt. I don’t know how to solve the problem I’m currently facing🥺
Askies to hear that. Kindly forgive yourself for dating your previous partner.
Forgiveness is for self.
Adding to this I would like to recommend a book by the name of " Damaged but not destroyed" - Michael Todd.
@@dimphoselepe4542 thank you so much, I’ll get the book definitely
@mmakhumolebelo I’ve booked myself an appointment, I’m looking forward to starting and seeing how that goes
Try to tell yourself that "this man has not given me a reason to doubt him so I have nothing to worry about" whenever you feel like you're overeating 😊
Very educational I have learnt a lot through this talk thanks ❤
Thanks I felt it when Anele mentioned that sometimes you dont want to support your partner when he /she changes to their best version we tend to be selfish Especially as guys or a guy let me not be inclusive I have seen that when for example when she would want to put up make up and go to new restuarants you tend to want to be in control to how you want her to be like not being aware shes is also a human and has rights to be different and change and that acceptance can be hard but communication allows it to easy as time goes and wanting to make your person happy thanks guys
My favorites , i love you guys ❤️
whatever you guys said in your prayers, need that for myself
Oh My God I just love the chats I always Learn something from you guys Love you guys.
I thought forgiveness means to take him back......
Ndamthatha back after he cheated wamithisa 😭😭😭😢
I could feel ukuba ndihlise my standards to meet him apha ezantsi😢
Ngoku ndiphume kancinci ngathi ndiyochama
Bethuna mxolele umntu neh but continuing with the relationship....hai cha
Road to 50k🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
It's how everytime the other person tells you they're busy then your mind quickly over think that they're cheating. Being cheated or being lied to damages the trust. I can love again guinely after being cheated to but Trusting?? 😢
Molweni, I enjoyed this video so much...very insightful
Thank you❤❤
cheating is a very horrible thing to happen to anyone. but brother you are brave. no gent ever heals from that. but why was she laughing like its a light thing ? .
😂😂😂Sina how many years ngok? 10..."after U cheat-ile" 😭😫 thetha kalok' Sisi😂😂
❤this video was so informative ❤
Mr Dloto I'm learning from you❤❤❤
Not Anele saying "thetha sisi, thetha" ingathi ngumzali sana 😭😭😭.
This was a beautiful and v important conversation for relationships.
Like this this talk about loving abundantly
New subscriber commenting for the sake of it 😆
We welcome you to the family, we love having you around😊❤️
Love you guys niyasikhuthaza ebomini ❤❤
For me, I am struggling to forgive myself for settling in sub-par/toxic relationships.
Nna I'm such a forgiver but I'm grateful of this topic God bless your relationship ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this my lovely couple. Truth is we all go through these things in relationships it’s not nice when they happen. One just really need to face the reality and take a decision, people always talk you just need to do what’s best for your and your partner.
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant but wayesalobola that sasingakashadi yhoo that was the most hurtful thing I ever experienced, he has never cheated ever since than its 5 years ago..I'm almost over it but isihluphile we went to see psychologist sobabini it got better
Everything pases mna ndiyavuya uva some of the married couples talking like this and showing us that Love still exists as singles ❤😊
I got scared each time Mr looked away while driving...😬😬
How did he find out about you cheating
Maybe the cheating was before the marriage but was not clear.
Mna ndihleka nisaqala uthetha, yhoooo I love you guys.
I love how Lulu takes yonke lento without being defensive
Bengisacela ukubuza kwDloto , do you guys still have parents from both sides ? If so beza nini abazali ukuzobona baby Lombe ?? And to see the new house ??
We Zama, yindaba uthanda ukungena shiii endabeni zabantu?! Kubaluleke ngani kuwe ukuthi beza nini abazali.
Ngithe angiphawule ngoba kwenye i video wathi bazomfihla kuze kube nini umtwana.
Ake uzihlole Sisi, iba matasa ngempilo yakho, uzoba umuntu oncono emphakathini
😂 Thobeka khambuze! Boundaries! Boundaries plz....
Hawu 😳...ngokubuza nje sengonile njalo, ngoba ukuzibuzela nje qha ...angithi they're sharing their lives with us ngonephi ke mina ngalokhu usungahlulela nje 😆 😄 weh Thobeka ....noma akufanele sibuze masinembuzo ??? Kuyisono ukubuza la ekhaya mhlampe mina ongazi ... uma bengathandi ukuphendula sengicela ukuzwa ngabo abanini bayo lento yabo ....
@@sisanakay hawu ngaze ngasukelwa emini ilanga libalele ...sengithanda indaba zabantu njalo ...angithi ibona who are sharing they're personal life with us, kade esho manje umama Dloto ethi let's comment , let's ask Questions uhlezi esho manje mina sengonile ke ngokubuza nje sekufe umuntu weh Thobeka
@@zamandlovu702ubuzela safuthi nawe oe, yehlisa.
You were extremely disrespectful in the other video.Iba ileti toe❤
😢😢😢😢how do you move on from such a situation
U Mjolo wenu nani too much pressure. Love yaolls vlogs.
Thank you for this video ❤❤❤
I love the conversation, Its possible to forgive your partner...Do unto others as u want it 2 be done to you, If u want 2 b forgiven u jus forgive.
Make a conscious decision 2 love your partner every minute. God bless u both and keep on loving each other always❤
I love you guys so much
Siyazthanda nendaba 😅❤
We’re within😍🥳
Love it!❤️
My favourite family ❤❤
Why did you cheat i was looking up to you guys specifically my boyfriend loves your relationship i cant even tell that you cheated ....😅
Wow I've learnt a lot to this video
We want a detailed story time of how you cheated on your husband.. What was your excuse to cheat?
We are within ❤
Luv u guys❤
Siyeza kwi 50K subbies soon
And that will happen😊❤️
My people ❤
I love you guys
Thetha kalok sisi 🤣🤣🤣yhoo hay u Anele
Powerful
Eyam boyfrend ufuna ndenze yonke into kodwa akakanditshati so mna im very stubborn like Ironing his clothes i dont hav too he can go and cheat
I am married and I don't iron for my husband. He does it for himself, we share duties.
@@winnieginya
Did he knew you guys were gonna share house chores before he married you or that's something he finds out after he married you?
@Kuhle
How long have you guys been dating?
@@MyMystery9 4years now
@@MyMystery9 we not married klk it's wen I visit
Wahamba wagijima🤣🤣🤣
Niyaphila guys? Kuhamba kanjani ?
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Sanibonani ninjani kwa Dloto
Siyaphila kunjani kuni?
I found out that my baby daddy is cheating the day I came back from home after maternity leave, I'm still recovering my son is only 4 months old ,there was no remorse what so ever in fact I'm being blamed for taking away without saying I'm going to after I confronted him and he was rude got angry I walked out,so I got blamed why did I left the house what if something had happened to me he was going to be blamed lol so I'm hurt I was recovering from c section that was terrible haven't healed that much and to find out he was just cheating ,hectic
I’m so sorry ❤sending love and light
Thank you, sesi. I'm seeing a psychologist, and im getting better, though I get triggers, but it will get better
Love you too bantase
Recently discovered this channel and I love it here😂😂😂
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Andikamameli kemna kodwa ndiyayaz ndizoyithanda
Why did you cheat on your husband?
It all in the past now
@@hopesobazile1784
Okay cool. The question still stands though.
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Vulani amawindi uyajuluka baba ka Lombe emotweni 😂😂
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Uphi sisi Melo no Bhuti Lombe ?????
Bakhona but in this conversation, they were not needed doll.😊
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Why did you cheat on your husband?
Hawu babazani angisazike lo bhuti uthini manje ????
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Lutho and the twanging... YOH
Urgh 🥹 This was such a difficult conversation for Mr Dloto, thank you both for your vulnerability and wisdom.
Thotho's SKIN🤌🏾 Crème de la crème sana, it's giving ❤️🥰
What an insightful conversation, thank you guys.