I think that if you truly are seeking God and letting Him write your love story, the person He brings you will be everything you NEED. He/she might not be everything you want, but they'll have the qualities to compliment you. I also don't believe God will bring you an amazing man/woman that is not attractive to you. He knows your desires, so I believe he'll honor that. I've had a couple of really good guys try to pursue me, but I just wasn't physically attracted to them. But just because they're a good guy doesn't mean they're God-sent. Just my opinion lol Love the channel btw!
I totally agree with this! Some people say it's being "picky". I beg to differ. Especially when your not trying to break down every physical cahracteristic to a T (almond eyes, curly hair, mole on his cheek etc) ...... I just want to be attracted and that's something I will know when I see and feel it.
I feel like attraction is number one. If I'm not attracted no matter what other amazing qualities... How can we truly be faithful if I don't want to look at you... idk. Maybe a lil shallow. But I gotta be real with me. 😂😂
LOL!!!! We agree its important to be attracted to your partner for sure. But some people only care about the looks or image and stay with people for the wrong reasons. But yea we are humans....we like to have something nice to look at lol
I was not attracted to my current boyfriend when we first got together. He was my best friend and quite handsome but not at all my type so I kept him in the friend zone. But he was literally everything I had ever wanted, needed and prayed for. He just wasn’t my type physically. However when he pursued me and we dated, after a while I grew completely in love with him. My attraction for him grew intensely! I believe you should give that man (or woman) a chance, even if they are not your ideal choice physically. You never know the blessing you miss while focusing on physical traits. My attraction to him came from how he treated me and how God was in our relationship! Hope this brings encouragement! Blessings
The attraction thing is my current dilemma. I want to be head over hills attracted to my future mate. If im not attracted, its unfair to him because I definitely wont go all out (Especially in a sexual way) .
Look at the comment that Jessica Gold left above you. She made a really good point about the attraction thing! The right person will have the qualities your looking for plus the attraction you desire :)
in the past, i haven’t communicated my expectations clearly with the person i was dating! i always assumed that there were just certain things that didn’t need to explain (i.e. if you see me coming with a ton of bags in my hand you should either help me carry the bags or at least open the door). like i’ve always felt like common courtesy shouldn’t have to be communicated and explained and any man who didn’t exhibit simple common courtesy would get canceled 😂😂😂 maturity has taught me that not all men are raised to do certain things and you do have to communicate the things that you expect in relationships! and if, after communicating those expectations they STILL aren’t able to meet those standards...THEN their cancelled 🤷🏽♀️😂 God’s still working on me! Thanks y’all for the video!!
I think attraction is important and definitely overlooked in the Christian community. God gave us looks for a reason right. I think why settle for less, even in that area? I would want some one who could hold my attention along with being stable. Human attraction is natural, I wouldn't want to deny myself that just because I want a good man or a good relationship. So I am saying I believe it is possible to have it all. I don't think the two are exclusive. I would think that being in a relationship no matter with all of those good things listed and NOT being attracted to them-- like if my future husband wasn't attracted to me-- I imagine I would feel shaded.
Absolutely. Like that you touched on the notion of its possible to have it all, that is the guy you are attracted to and who is also the guy who has all the qualities you desire in a man
I feel like if a personla is a "full package" with everything excluding looks, I don't think it's meant to be. Simply because God knows your type lol. He understands whats in your heart which tags along with what you like, and he will send you someone that makes you light up
I was friends with someone like this. He wanted to date me and he treated me sooo well. At the time I wasnt looking for a man and I was still finding myself but as time went on I grew to like him and be attracted to him. He moved away and I knew I loved him at this moment, so we became a couple and it didnt end up working out do to things he did and no woman should accept/tolerate but it def can happen. You can def not be attracted to someone and grow to be attracted to them.
Awesomeness!!! I've said it b4,and I'll say it again, ya'll r too cute. So,you covered a wealth of material in this video. I want to go down the list, to comment on key points. 1. The List: I'm all for it,as long as the expectations are real,honest, true and a reflection of you. Pray over the list and seek guidance on anything that might need to be ammended. I've ammended my list here and there. 2. Dre's point: Yes, I think attraction is a huge factor in finding the one. I do believe that attraction (physical ) can come a little later, based on my sig figs actions. On the same token, why not go into the relationship already with the physical attraction. 3. Bre- Great point on communication and letting our man know what we like and what are expectations are. The song " Teach Me How to Love, " came to mind. However, I also believe that these days there is enough dating shows be it game shows go reality shows and social media how to videos that show our potential mate these things. We researched while in school for a grade,so "Hey,why not research for our lifemate?" Also wanted to say that I think we can also non-verbally express to our man what we like or expect. Ie: Opening doors maybe if we see someone modeling this behavior in a movie or tv show wewe can hint like, "Aww,that's so sweet." Or if we enter through a door and he doesn't hold the door for us, show our disappointment in our face,or just show him by holding the door for the people who walk in behind us. 4. Both of you collectively making the point of pre-dating communication and expectations. I loved this and 110% agree. Its so essential to make sure both of you are on the same page when it comes to relationship goals: "I want marriage, kids,etc," vs "I don't see marriage in my future nor do I see kids." 5. Dre on can you see your future offspring being exactly like your significant other was a good analogy as well. Hmmm,really makes you think. I think that covers it all.
I honestly feel that attraction should definitely be there if that is one of your requirements. If not, the person would be settling at that moment in time. The best thing that someone can do for themselves and another person is to unselfishly step away and allow time to take its course. I feel like it’s all a test to ourselves to always stay true and honest first and foremost.
I’ve been binge watching y’all videos lol❤️ I hope y’all know single people watching 🙋🏽 great tips. I’m preparing myself now for a relationship. New subscriber ✨
My opinion about having list is that it is just the same as a vision. The Bible says without a vision, people perish. So I think it should be a guiding factor when choosing your significant other because you will know what you want and what you don't want and go for exactly that. Also, there is quote that says if you don't stand for anything, you will fall for everything. So without that list to guide you, you will just end up with anyone but really it is not the one that you like and most importantly - Not the one God has prepared for you. Then you end up breaking up because he/she doesn't have qualities that you want, then you move to another person and the cycle goes on and on.
i dont know how this popped up on my youtube recommendations.... but i will comment.... playing your relationship out on social media is always a good thing.....
Just stumbled across this channel and I'm enjoying what I see so far! In terms of the question asked, I believe that physical attraction is important, important enough for you to either continue or discontinue whatever y'all got going on. If there isn't some level of attraction, then everything they're doing for you and have to offer to you can easily be comparable to that of what a good friend can do for you. So yeah, attraction matters and as Christians, we can't look past that because with God on our side, we WILL be able to have ALL qualities and MORE in our significant other!
I personally think that if somebody has all the things that you prayed for attraction will automatically be there. Once one understands that looks fade, they’ve moved passed the superficial things concerning that specific or future relationships. In other words, you have matured or else you’ll miss out big time.
Guettelande Mathurin we can understand looks fade and still understand looks save. There will be moments when life hits, not even infidelity, and we need to look upon our mate and be like, “better be happy s/he fine.” We are to lust after them without it being the foundation of course. I just can imagine settling for someone I’m not attracted to and opening up a foot for more temptation. Of course, we bend from certain standards, especially women, ESPECIALLY Christians, but Idk bruh. That’s agh lol
Idk man a man that’s doing all the right things even if initially he is not attractive once I start seeing that 90% he comes more and more attractive by seeming him be the king he was made to be
As women, that is always our biggest mistake! I can't tell you how many times I have done it in the past smh lesson learned lol so moving forward just make sure to communicate and then listen to actions not words : )
I love this post! I appreciate your advice , just as equally as I appreciate your honesty when you simply don’t know how to answer the question. Thanks for sharing! And physical attraction is definitely the first impression! 🤗New subscriber!!!
Aalaya Cooper in our opinion you shouldn’t have to ask, especially starting off but once you are in a relationship it’s just important to have the conversation about how you want to handle that situation. There should be a balance for sure!
Just found y'all and I'm so glad i did! Quick question: so what if you do express your expectations...time after time....but the person you're with ignores those things. Their favorite excuse is that "things take time". How long do you wait for someone to live up to your expectations??
I believe I can grow attraction over a course of time but there’s a friend of mine who treats me like a lady, is financially stable, leads or pursued AND is physically attractive so.. I feel very blessed to have them in my life as a potential relationship/marriage 🙏🏼😅
Ericka Dillon but we don’t settle for potentials in the character realm... or when we do we reap the consequences of it....like the current state still has to be attractive.
You'll are AMAZING and give such great relationship advice!! Would you want your son or daughter to act like your partner...#thatpart. I'm making my list tonight!! Thank you both!!
Going into a relationship with High expectations causes problems, it's different to setting High standards for yourself in a relationship which man/woman should do. With high expectations u are expecting the person to do this or that, which is not the person personality and this is saying the person have to change or should change in order to be in a relationship with u and changing someone is not a great good idea, once it's not bad negatives about the person then u shouldn't be tryin to change the person. If u are not attractive to someone u shouldn't get involve regardless to if the person have all the qualities or values u are lookin for, cause God is not goin to send someone to u that u are not attractive to. Remember the devil knows us just like God and sometimes he does things and make u believe it's God doin it, so u have to be very careful. Keep praying to God and let the holy spirit guide u.
The scripture I kept hearing was the flesh profits nothing, I believe if attraction is the only issue and they are meant to be yours God will give you that attraction towards that person but it would have to be Gods doing if they are your husband/ wife.
I believe that God will send the person you need and he will have everything you want. Like God knows the desires of your heart. SO if you want someone who is 6'0, dark chocolate, full beard .. God is gonna give you that along with what he knows you need (a man who is patient w you because you aren't patient, or someone who is soft spoken because he knows you can get loud and rowdy when youre upset)..
This video is excellent. However, I will respectfully disagree. You are not always what you attract. Attractive and beautiful women will attract men of all types and socioeconomic statuses. It then becomes the job of the woman to carefully choose with Godly wisdom and discernment the best man for her and her future/preexisting children. Would I want my son or daughter to be exactly like this man or woman was profound! Thanks Dre and Breanna!!!! 💜💛❤️
AJ Thompson you sound stupid. Even if they looked like Beyoncé or Rihanna it doesn’t mean they have pure hearts and intentions. On the flip side, them not meeting this world’s standard of physical beauty doesn’t mean they deserve less than. I believe women bend way more than men anyway when it comes to standards and the perfect/ideal mate, all the way to the altar they’ll bend and then sometimes head divorce court afterwards. Women perhaps fantasize and verbalize it more but generally accept way less than perfect.
I guess this is where I can be myself anonymously. I am 27 yrs old, I got married when I was 19, my husband was 20. At 23 I find myself not attracted to him and boiii I cant tell you how many times I have run around on him. I got caught a few times🙄🙄🙄. The thing is my husband doesn't give me the vybz of riding his face off and I want to feel hot and for him Issa NOT. Maybe one day I'll stop but for right now Issa no 9o
I think that if you truly are seeking God and letting Him write your love story, the person He brings you will be everything you NEED. He/she might not be everything you want, but they'll have the qualities to compliment you. I also don't believe God will bring you an amazing man/woman that is not attractive to you. He knows your desires, so I believe he'll honor that. I've had a couple of really good guys try to pursue me, but I just wasn't physically attracted to them. But just because they're a good guy doesn't mean they're God-sent. Just my opinion lol Love the channel btw!
That is so true!!!! That is a great point Jessica!! Thanks so much for your comment and love!!! xoxo -Dre & Bre
It was a perfect comment for Sabrina, the woman who commented under you, we referred her to your comment!! :)
I totally agree with this! Some people say it's being "picky". I beg to differ. Especially when your not trying to break down every physical cahracteristic to a T (almond eyes, curly hair, mole on his cheek etc) ...... I just want to be attracted and that's something I will know when I see and feel it.
I agree 100%!!
I totally agree!
I’m currently working on becoming what I want to attract. I understand I can’t demand certain qualities if I don’t possess them
Leigha Long you’re very pretty
Me Too
And sometimes God will shock us and give us, what we had NO IDEA ... we wanted to needed.
Yessssss absolutely!!!!
I feel like attraction is number one. If I'm not attracted no matter what other amazing qualities... How can we truly be faithful if I don't want to look at you... idk. Maybe a lil shallow. But I gotta be real with me. 😂😂
LOL!!!! We agree its important to be attracted to your partner for sure. But some people only care about the looks or image and stay with people for the wrong reasons. But yea we are humans....we like to have something nice to look at lol
Dre and Bre - Worth Thee Wait not the first thing on my list but it's there🖤... making a tangible list tonight btw.
I agree,
I was not attracted to my current boyfriend when we first got together. He was my best friend and quite handsome but not at all my type so I kept him in the friend zone. But he was literally everything I had ever wanted, needed and prayed for. He just wasn’t my type physically. However when he pursued me and we dated, after a while I grew completely in love with him. My attraction for him grew intensely! I believe you should give that man (or woman) a chance, even if they are not your ideal choice physically. You never know the blessing you miss while focusing on physical traits. My attraction to him came from how he treated me and how God was in our relationship! Hope this brings encouragement! Blessings
I feel like a person will become attractive when feelings develop.
Tasha H That is definitely possible!
The attraction thing is my current dilemma. I want to be head over hills attracted to my future mate. If im not attracted, its unfair to him because I definitely wont go all out (Especially in a sexual way) .
Look at the comment that Jessica Gold left above you. She made a really good point about the attraction thing! The right person will have the qualities your looking for plus the attraction you desire :)
in the past, i haven’t communicated my expectations clearly with the person i was dating! i always assumed that there were just certain things that didn’t need to explain (i.e. if you see me coming with a ton of bags in my hand you should either help me carry the bags or at least open the door). like i’ve always felt like common courtesy shouldn’t have to be communicated and explained and any man who didn’t exhibit simple common courtesy would get canceled 😂😂😂 maturity has taught me that not all men are raised to do certain things and you do have to communicate the things that you expect in relationships! and if, after communicating those expectations they STILL aren’t able to meet those standards...THEN their cancelled 🤷🏽♀️😂 God’s still working on me! Thanks y’all for the video!!
🤣🤣🤣 @ Dre blowing his phone and whatever it was flew on Bre’s arm
Tasha H 😂😂😂
I like that she says she would tell a guy what she expects. She is saying be willing to work with a good guy.
Knowing what you want and don't want is important.
I think attraction is important and definitely overlooked in the Christian community. God gave us looks for a reason right. I think why settle for less, even in that area? I would want some one who could hold my attention along with being stable. Human attraction is natural, I wouldn't want to deny myself that just because I want a good man or a good relationship. So I am saying I believe it is possible to have it all. I don't think the two are exclusive. I would think that being in a relationship no matter with all of those good things listed and NOT being attracted to them-- like if my future husband wasn't attracted to me-- I imagine I would feel shaded.
Absolutely. Like that you touched on the notion of its possible to have it all, that is the guy you are attracted to and who is also the guy who has all the qualities you desire in a man
Y’all are definitely in my top favorite couples on TH-cam!
I feel like if a personla is a "full package" with everything excluding looks, I don't think it's meant to be. Simply because God knows your type lol. He understands whats in your heart which tags along with what you like, and he will send you someone that makes you light up
I will work through the attraction... Beauty fades...
I was friends with someone like this. He wanted to date me and he treated me sooo well. At the time I wasnt looking for a man and I was still finding myself but as time went on I grew to like him and be attracted to him. He moved away and I knew I loved him at this moment, so we became a couple and it didnt end up working out do to things he did and no woman should accept/tolerate but it def can happen. You can def not be attracted to someone and grow to be attracted to them.
Awesomeness!!! I've said it b4,and I'll say it again, ya'll r too cute. So,you covered a wealth of material in this video. I want to go down the list, to comment on key points.
1. The List: I'm all for it,as long as the expectations are real,honest, true and a reflection of you. Pray over the list and seek guidance on anything that might need to be ammended. I've ammended my list here and there.
2. Dre's point: Yes, I think attraction is a huge factor in finding the one. I do believe that attraction (physical ) can come a little later, based on my sig figs actions. On the same token, why not go into the relationship already with the physical attraction.
3. Bre- Great point on communication and letting our man know what we like and what are expectations are. The song " Teach Me How to Love, " came to mind. However, I also believe that these days there is enough dating shows be it game shows go reality shows and social media how to videos that show our potential mate these things. We researched while in school for a grade,so "Hey,why not research for our lifemate?" Also wanted to say that I think we can also non-verbally express to our man what we like or expect. Ie: Opening doors maybe if we see someone modeling this behavior in a movie or tv show wewe can hint like, "Aww,that's so sweet." Or if we enter through a door and he doesn't hold the door for us, show our disappointment in our face,or just show him by holding the door for the people who walk in behind us.
4. Both of you collectively making the point of pre-dating communication and expectations. I loved this and 110% agree. Its so essential to make sure both of you are on the same page when it comes to relationship goals: "I want marriage, kids,etc," vs "I don't see marriage in my future nor do I see kids."
5. Dre on can you see your future offspring being exactly like your significant other was a good analogy as well. Hmmm,really makes you think.
I think that covers it all.
I honestly feel that attraction should definitely be there if that is one of your requirements. If not, the person would be settling at that moment in time. The best thing that someone can do for themselves and another person is to unselfishly step away and allow time to take its course. I feel like it’s all a test to ourselves to always stay true and honest first and foremost.
Shay Mais yesss!!!
I’ve been binge watching y’all videos lol❤️ I hope y’all know single people watching 🙋🏽 great tips. I’m preparing myself now for a relationship. New subscriber ✨
My opinion about having list is that it is just the same as a vision. The Bible says without a vision, people perish. So I think it should be a guiding factor when choosing your significant other because you will know what you want and what you don't want and go for exactly that. Also, there is quote that says if you don't stand for anything, you will fall for everything. So without that list to guide you, you will just end up with anyone but really it is not the one that you like and most importantly - Not the one God has prepared for you. Then you end up breaking up because he/she doesn't have qualities that you want, then you move to another person and the cycle goes on and on.
This was an Awesome video . Writing down my list now . ❤️❤️
i dont know how this popped up on my youtube recommendations....
but i will comment....
playing your relationship out on social media is always a good thing.....
Just stumbled across this channel and I'm enjoying what I see so far! In terms of the question asked, I believe that physical attraction is important, important enough for you to either continue or discontinue whatever y'all got going on. If there isn't some level of attraction, then everything they're doing for you and have to offer to you can easily be comparable to that of what a good friend can do for you. So yeah, attraction matters and as Christians, we can't look past that because with God on our side, we WILL be able to have ALL qualities and MORE in our significant other!
I personally think that if somebody has all the things that you prayed for attraction will automatically be there. Once one understands that looks fade, they’ve moved passed the superficial things concerning that specific or future relationships. In other words, you have matured or else you’ll miss out big time.
Guettelande Mathurin we can understand looks fade and still understand looks save. There will be moments when life hits, not even infidelity, and we need to look upon our mate and be like, “better be happy s/he fine.” We are to lust after them without it being the foundation of course. I just can imagine settling for someone I’m not attracted to and opening up a foot for more temptation. Of course, we bend from certain standards, especially women, ESPECIALLY Christians, but Idk bruh. That’s agh lol
Imma leave a comment on every video,so you know how much you make sense,i love both
Idk man a man that’s doing all the right things even if initially he is not attractive once I start seeing that 90% he comes more and more attractive by seeming him be the king he was made to be
My expectations were not communicated well. I always assumed that partner should've known because I was putting in that work.
As women, that is always our biggest mistake! I can't tell you how many times I have done it in the past smh lesson learned lol so moving forward just make sure to communicate and then listen to actions not words : )
I don’t think a woman can teach a man to be a gentleman or exemplify examples of chivalry you either got it or don’t.
I feel like that's completely wrong. Especially if the guy the into the woman. I have seen dudes completely pull a 180 for a women they really wanted.
I can't believe it's 2024 and I'm here watching you guys 😊😍💛
Thank you for being in my life…. you guys you were 24 and 25 years old, right?
I love this post! I appreciate your advice , just as equally as I appreciate your honesty when you simply don’t know how to answer the question. Thanks for sharing! And physical attraction is definitely the first impression! 🤗New subscriber!!!
Aalaya Cooper glad you loved it! 😌
MONEY-is it ok to ask him to get the check always, or do you pick it up sometimes? Is that a conversation y’all have every time you go out?
Aalaya Cooper in our opinion you shouldn’t have to ask, especially starting off but once you are in a relationship it’s just important to have the conversation about how you want to handle that situation. There should be a balance for sure!
So glad I stumbled across yall page. I'm a little late but later is better than never. Definitely a fan!
Pastor Rich is my pastor!!! I was blown when guys referenced him! I go to VOUS church in Miami. He’s amazing!
Sofia Cueto Pastor Rich is awesome! I feel like he is my pastor too as much as I watch him! - Dre’
I feel that attraction has to be there... for me at least.
The couples counselors ❤️❤️
haha thats cute
Just found y'all and I'm so glad i did! Quick question: so what if you do express your expectations...time after time....but the person you're with ignores those things. Their favorite excuse is that "things take time". How long do you wait for someone to live up to your expectations??
Just wanna say you guys have great advice and it is very helpful as eye opening. Thank you!
Love u two💯🌬🔥
I believe I can grow attraction over a course of time but there’s a friend of mine who treats me like a lady, is financially stable, leads or pursued AND is physically attractive so.. I feel very blessed to have them in my life as a potential relationship/marriage 🙏🏼😅
Shout out to Pastor Rich! You guys should take a trip to Miami and come to church! He is amazing
Physical attraction can be worked on.... Not a biggie, integrity and character is more important
Ericka Dillon but we don’t settle for potentials in the character realm... or when we do we reap the consequences of it....like the current state still has to be attractive.
You'll are AMAZING and give such great relationship advice!! Would you want your son or daughter to act like your partner...#thatpart. I'm making my list tonight!! Thank you both!!
Nicole, We are so happy you enjoy the content!!! Keep watching : ) Thank you so much for the support!!!
BUT GOD WOULDN'T GIVE U SOMEONE U NOT ATTRACTIVE TOO... LEARNED THAT THE HARD WAY
Attraction is definitely important!!
Going into a relationship with High expectations causes problems, it's different to setting High standards for yourself in a relationship which man/woman should do.
With high expectations u are expecting the person to do this or that, which is not the person personality and this is saying the person have to change or should change in order to be in a relationship with u and changing someone is not a great good idea, once it's not bad negatives about the person then u shouldn't be tryin to change the person.
If u are not attractive to someone u shouldn't get involve regardless to if the person have all the qualities or values u are lookin for, cause God is not goin to send someone to u that u are not attractive to.
Remember the devil knows us just like God and sometimes he does things and make u believe it's God doin it, so u have to be very careful. Keep praying to God and let the holy spirit guide u.
The scripture I kept hearing was the flesh profits nothing, I believe if attraction is the only issue and they are meant to be yours God will give you that attraction towards that person but it would have to be Gods doing if they are your husband/ wife.
I believe that God will send the person you need and he will have everything you want. Like God knows the desires of your heart. SO if you want someone who is 6'0, dark chocolate, full beard .. God is gonna give you that along with what he knows you need (a man who is patient w you because you aren't patient, or someone who is soft spoken because he knows you can get loud and rowdy when youre upset)..
Not into lists because my thoughts can change over time
But God has a man for me and he knows best so I don’t trip
But I do have a list
Did anyone else see when he blew something off his phone and it landed on her? HA! 6:56
You guys are so cute lol
This video is excellent. However, I will respectfully disagree. You are not always what you attract. Attractive and beautiful women will attract men of all types and socioeconomic statuses. It then becomes the job of the woman to carefully choose with Godly wisdom and discernment the best man for her and her future/preexisting children.
Would I want my son or daughter to be exactly like this man or woman was profound! Thanks Dre and Breanna!!!!
💜💛❤️
Brea what is your astrology sign? I will not surprise if you're an Aquarius lol.
Bro your lady is fucking amazing
Are these two married?
A lot of these women going to be single forever looking for Mr.Perfect as if they look like Beyoncé or Rihanna lol
AJ Thompson you sound stupid. Even if they looked like Beyoncé or Rihanna it doesn’t mean they have pure hearts and intentions. On the flip side, them not meeting this world’s standard of physical beauty doesn’t mean they deserve less than. I believe women bend way more than men anyway when it comes to standards and the perfect/ideal mate, all the way to the altar they’ll bend and then sometimes head divorce court afterwards. Women perhaps fantasize and verbalize it more but generally accept way less than perfect.
I guess this is where I can be myself anonymously. I am 27 yrs old, I got married when I was 19, my husband was 20. At 23 I find myself not attracted to him and boiii I cant tell you how many times I have run around on him. I got caught a few times🙄🙄🙄. The thing is my husband doesn't give me the vybz of riding his face off and I want to feel hot and for him Issa NOT. Maybe one day I'll stop but for right now Issa no 9o
Enigma wow.
My wife need to be celebrity but should be god-fearing above all.