Thank you guys so much for being here❤ I went back and forth about posting this video a million times because I feared no one would understand what I'm feeling. However, I'm glad it's up, and I hope this video helps anyone who is/has been experiencing something similar❤ I'm much better now, but it's a process that will take time. We hope you guys are enjoying 2024 so far and we can't wait to share more of this new phase of our lives this year❤
Such a wonderful video and honest insight into what so many of us experience, no matter the direction someone is taking but especially in creative fields. We definitely understand a lot of what you were saying - especially the loneliness and although we love what we’re doing and each others company, we crave the social connection. Thanks, Oskar! ❤
Have you ever thought of getting a 9-5 job? It sounds like you are the type who thrives on having constant tasks to do and need some type of schedule to be happy. Since you no longer wants to travel frequently, I think it would be a healthier for you to concentrate on something whether it be actually doing a 9-5 job for the moment which I think will help you mentally, or start a new project that you are passionate about. Maybe going back to school would be a good thing for you while Dan does his airline reviews. Check out Tyler and Todd. They started off travel in camper vans and then ended up getting a plot of land in Canada and started to build their channel around construction of their dream home from scratch. If you thrive better at staying put and make steady friends, then perhaps you want to get a place and do home remodeling (if you are talented that way)? People's lives constantly change and there is nothing wrong with changing the direction of Oskar and Dan channel.
We have been travelling for almost 4 years full time now. Unlike you, we are “slow travellers”, which I think makes it much easier. We usually like to stay in one place for at least a few months and do our exploring. This allows us time to relax and make multiple videos about the location we’re in. We do miss our friends and family, and we try to get back home as often as we can, but it can feel lonely at times. Hope you can find a new purpose now that you are slowing things down :)
Wow! What a wonderfully honest, authentic and worthwhile video! I saw the thumbnail a day or so ago, and was worried, but thenI incorrectly assumed that the title was clickbait, and you were going to say that you’d taken a wrong turn while travelling from one location to another. Now that I’ve watched it, I’m very moved by your words. I’m also mightily relieved that you and Dan are still together. Oskar, you are a terrific person, and I’m sure we viewers would be more than happy to watch whatever content you create. I will pray that you (and Dan) discover what your next ‘move’ is. Thank you both for all you’ve given us. You are loved! I’m in my 60’s, and am very grateful for all you both have taught me. Whatever you do in the future, I, and so very many others, will be.cheering you on.
Thank you so much, Oskar, for sharing your honest feelings in that beautiful video. I have a suggestion for you: why not write a book about your challenge of visiting 100 countries before the age of 25? You have a unique story to tell and writing a book could be a wonderful new purpose for you.
Hi Oskar! You and Dan have gained so much experience through your travels together. You can leverage that experience to create new content. For example: 5 minute micro learning videos on the top 5 favorite experiences in each country. You make one for each country you want to talk about and that right there are 20-30 videos of content. Another suggestion is to have someone interview you and Dan about each country you visited. It could be a series of videos on "reflections from our 100 country travels" There is so much value you've already created. Leverage it to build someone new, like connection videos. I'm sending you both a big virtual hug. Thanks for teaching me so much about the world ❤
I always come back to watching you guys because you are genuine, kind humans. Thank you for your honesty! For what it's worth, I'm a nurse and while in nursing school (and in practice) we focus a lot on the the psychosocial stages of life and development put forward by Erik Erikson. For example, I'm married with two kids so I'm in "Middle Age" where the "task" is Generativity vs Stagnation. The virtue is "care" and the main focus is contributing to society and being part of a family. So, this means raising kids who hopefully go on to be good humans and care for the next generation of life and planet! You are in Early Adulthood which ranges from about 19-29. The "task" is Intimacy vs Isolation, the virtue is love. The goal is establishing intimacy and relationships with others. I have a 16 year old son so according to Erikson he is in the "identity vs confusion" stage (adolescence). Sometimes my husband worries about things regarding our kids but I'm always able to keep perspective because of studying Erikson's stages and it grounds me. I'm like, no - they're right where they're supposed to be and this is completely normal development! There's a lot more to Erikson than I'm hitting on here. It's worth a deep dive if you're interested (he was a contemporary of Freud but more commonly embraced today). I say all this because you are in a transition and maybe you are starting to think about the next stage of life a little.
Appreciate this insight into what the past year has been. Thank you for your openness and honesty. As you know, 2023 has been a pivot year for us too and a big part of that has been figuring out: who are we outside of travel? Like you and Dan, travel became such a huge part of our identities and how we related to each other, that I think along the way we lost a certain kind of connection. It’s hard to explain to those who haven’t experienced it, but I 100% felt everything you shared in this video. Sending love as always! ❤
I'm glad you posted this. Sharing your lost experience will help a lot of us. Thank you. I'm glad you have returned to your music. I find I get way more lost when i stop doing my music.
*Oskar, you are not alone either!* Take the time you need and the love from your support system to find new joy in new directions. (And, please keep in mind that the record of your past travels is still providing joy to people who find you two on TH-cam.) What you have done is important...what you will do is important! *May you find the peace you are seeking.*
Oskar, thank you so much for posting this. I can't say how much I appreciate and resonate with what you had to say. I'm sure it was very difficult for you to be this vulnerable, but know that it's much appreciated and you are helping so many other people through sharing your honest experience. Much love.
I hear you and I see you! I’m gay, loved geography and the cultures that came with it. Also travelled into a deep dark hole around some of the issues you discuss. I questioned my self worth and, at times, felt like an imposter. Difference - I am 60. I wish I had the foresight and introspection you are sharing at your age! I didn't have the tools or insights into myself to do so at your age - it took awhile to get there! Stick with therapy, build your tool kit, make social connections where you live, dive into your music, communicate with your husband, and stick to it one day at a time. It gets better! Thaks for bringing joy into my life through your adventures. Come to Philadelphia - you’ll love it here!
Thanks for the like! My career has been in the heritage industry -- the museums and historic sites I've led support my and feed my love of travel. History and travel has been the salve during dark times. Again, if you find yourself in the Philadelphia area, it would be a pleasure to show you around! :) Hang in there. There is a light at the end of the tunnel -- it may be a bit distant and hazy, but IT IS there!
Right now I just want to reach out and give you a virtual hug. Don't sell yourself short: you ARE valued as an important person in the lives of many people. You are a great individual. We are all plagued with self-doubt (heck, I'm 70 years old now and I still have to deal with it). Take all the time you need to work through this. Focus more on your music. Be assured we'll all be here for you when you need us.
Thank you. You are amazing. We have gratitude for you sharing your lives. We are thankful for the big adventures as well as the small moments. The thrills and the insecurities are both powerful and meaningful. This video may be the most important one that you ever make. I hope millions see it and listen to the message. We need to relish and be thankful for our lives. We are blessed by whatever higher power or energy in which we may find meaning. While there are low moments, of course, there will be another time filled with brightness, joy and incredible energy that follows. Take care of yourself. You are loved and we are grateful to know you.
Speaking as a retired psychiatrist with an interest in psychotherapy: therapy isn't like taking a pill. You need to define with your therapist a problem that you want to work on together. But what you are describing is a feeling of general discouragement. Gratitude and meditation won't help much, if at all. It sounds as though the main problem is that you say "We don't have a choice". You always have a choice. You don't have to go on YouTubing - but do it if you really want to. You could live in a house or flat for part of the year and travel the rest of the time. You are both educated, articulate and multilingual - very employable. You have each other. The most important thing is to decide what you want to do.
The kind of bravery, vulnerability, and openness you've displayed in this video I believe shows you are willing to face your challenges because you've clearly defined them. I think your introspection shows you are far closer than you realize to your next breakthrough.
I really appreciate this video thank you, Five years ago I retired at the age of 51 after a pretty successful career. I’m in a wonderful relationship, I’m financially secure but I totally lack purpose now after a life time of being driven. Meditation, yoga and volunteering have been my life savers. Thank you again for your vulnerable sharing. Holding you in the light x
It’s raw and brutal. Love it, but also ….. there are times where life seems endless and tiring. But by sharing your fears and doubts … I cannot thank you enough!
Traveled 15 years for work. Life changing experiences happened every week. Your eyes, brains and emotions can't take in everything offered on each new adventure. There are sacrifices and compromises that come along the way. At first, seemingly insignificant and a low price to pay 'for all this'. Then the personal costs increase, the enthusiasm drains. The body and mind fail to rebound as quickly as they once did. The things that recharge you no longer work. Eventually spending more time being still, slowing down and finding a place to sooth the mind, soul and body becomes a stronger inner motivator. Thank you for voicing your journey so openly. You are well equipped to make the better choices for yourself. For me, home is living at 9,000' on a mountain, in the middle of a desert in a forest. Occasionally leaving by car to explore and spend time in other natural setting. The breathe of life in these places are life-giving and healing. Life simplified has been the right choice for me. You WILL find your place.
You are a brilliant and talented guy- it comes through in all of your videos. Transition moments in life are difficult but you will come through it bit by bit. You’ve got this!
Oskar, I really resonate with your post. Early in my career, I had a job for which I traveled almost 200,000 miles a year and lived in Los Angeles, New York, and London. I too felt lost when I stopped traveling. I moved into a second career, clinical psychology, and I am grateful to say it has been very rewarding. Just want you to know that I have a deep empathic connection for you as you have completed a major goal so early in your life and are experiencing a sense of loss. You and Dan are interesting, vibrant, young men, and I know that your career will be filled with other passions in due course.
Thank you for posting this video. I cried a little. I can totally relate to what you're going through. I've had times where I've felt useless and like a failure. I retired five years ago, and I felt like "now what?". I'm also a recent widow. After 30 years of marriage, my husband passed away. It was hell on earth for the first year. It's only recently that I feel like I can see some light again. I'm also introverted, and not at all a procrastinator, so I can relate to that. I've found purpose in a new part time job and new side hustle. What you said about gratitude is so true! I'm so grateful and thankful for everything I have. I know I have more than many people do. I try to keep a perspective, and some balance. Love your and Dan's videos.
appreciate ur vulnerability! you and Dan are so inspiring, and yes i do hv these feelings of being lost/purposeless too once a while, u r not alone! love u two ❤❤❤❤ we dont give up, we keep searching for what to do next in life!!!!
Oskar, I acknowledge your vulnerability and self love within this video. Posting about self growth and self realization is powerful and screams confidence within itself. I enjoyed the whole video and I jusst wanna say im proud of you and DAn for taking on the courage of discovering yourselves more and finding more purpose within your lives. Your feelings are beyond valid and I hope you both keep on growing and thriving.
Wow. You don’t know how much I am able to relate to this. The big difference is I am 53 and you’re still so young. You see, I worked for a famous mouse in Orlando for 29 years. In 2020 my position was eliminated due to the pandemic. Working at the World was all that I knew. It’s 2024 and I’m still working to find myself. I started a travel TH-cam during the pandemic and it has been my “focus”. Luckily, my hubby and I are now following our dream and we are about to move to Bali permanently. I’m nervous and excited for this new chapter. Anyway, all the best to you and Dan. Here’s to the future…AND YOU! Come visit!
I know you are feeling down however you are not alone!!! Being this transparent is hard. I appreciate your thoughts and how you are going thru the steps to find out where you are in this new role of being … at home. When you switch gears from on the road, travel travel travel, go go go to suddenly being back home, it can be jarring. Like you have empty hands - “ what now?” It is ok. It is a transition and growth for you both. Take a deep breath, meditate, talk about how you feel and find that calm in a stable and safe environment!!!
Hi Oskar thanks for sharing this video! I think that living your lives so publicly in the way you both do can wear you down eventually. I think we all need some grounding somewhere to call home, we both love travelling & do so as often as we can, but i must say i do not personally envy your lifestyles. I do hope that you manage to find a way to balance your work & home life x
I’m with you. I was a nurse for 30 years and was fired for caring too much about the patients. In a way I was relieved because seeing the healthcare system decline I just could not be that kind of nurse. It is very easy to feel you have no purpose. I too work with my therapist to work on ways to fulfill that void. Thanks for sharing this and all your videos as they help me.
Oskar thank you for sharing. I have been in awe of your travel and documentation that travel with Dan. I may have somehow sensed something was up through the past year. Remember you have each other and don’t let anything change that.
Omg I just wanted to say thank you ! Thank you for being so open and honest, when we watch your videos I feel like we are friends,I feel like we are lucky enough to be part of your life and with life sometimes we have our ups and downs. Just know that we will always be here and have your back ! Sending a huge hug from Australia xx
Oscar, Dan.. First, thank you for making us a part of your private feelings and thoughts! I fell like I belong now and that you trust me. Second.. You know what I think when I watch your channels? Here are two awesome men, who are smart, free, resilient, have the right mindset to deal with the entire world and have each other to call mine. Why am I saying it? Cause you are an inspiration that you can do what you want, you can be with who you want. This is a great quality to have and, hopefully, a tiny bit of motivation for you not to question what you are doing. Really love your outlook on life. It's not always roses, so take it and own it whatever it brings. Love you!!!
Thank you so much for sharing Oskar and that quote at the end - WOW! Be kind to yourself and know we love your insight into the world. PS. Should we be more worried you didn’t mention veganism once 😉
Thank you so much for sharing. I also have a business and I balance therapy with a mindset/business coach and I find it really helps me focus on the deep things in both a psychological way and in a positive and productive way. It’s hard to find the right match but so worth it when you do.
You are an incredible person Oskar, both you and Dan are. Loved the openness of the chat in this video. Everything you are feeling is normal and valid and a part of life every now and then (unfortunately lol). You will come out on the other side of this knowing yourselves so much better. Wishing you both all the best♥♥
Oskar, thank you for sharing. It was very brave of you to be this vulnerable, and it was actually very refreshing to hear. You are definitely not alone in how you feel. I'm 51, and I still have no clue what my life is supposed to be about. But I will say that your videos bring me so much joy. The travel footage is great, but I think it's the fact that you and Dan allow us to get to know you a bit that makes it special. Now, I'm invested, and I'll still watch whatever your channel becomes! I don't know if you've thought about "interviewing" or scouting out the locations that are candidates for you and Dan to settle down in. If you want to bring us along for that process, it might be fun! Anyway, I love your work, professionalism, and authenticity. Thanks for all of the great videos!
Many years ago I started making a list of everything in my life that I was grateful for. After a few days I started writing things like air to breath, water to drink, flowers and trees etc. There is so much going on around us that we are blessed with which is so easy to overlook. If you are grateful for what you have then you will have more. Finally remember that the journey IS the destination in life.
I’ve been in a similar period of transition and it is comforting to know you’re not alone in feeling that way. This has completely spoken to my heart and I feel very grateful to you for putting this video out. 🙂
Oskar (and Dan!) thank you for being vulnerable and honest about your experience. I feel like many travel-related channels only focus on the glamorous and rewarding parts of traveling the world, but don't acknowledge the toll it can take on you physically and mentally. I am like you in that I like to have everything planned out in life, but as I get older I'm constantly reminded that so much of life is unpredictable, and sometimes that can be a good thing! I have no doubt you will find your next path or calling. You should feel proud of where you are now - much love to you both!
Thank you for sharing! I know it must have took a lot of courage to really be honest and open. You are not alone! Follow what your heart desires… we only live once… live it through your own eyes.
I wish I could give you a big hug. ❤️❤️ I think what you’re going through is more common than you know. I went through something very similar at your age. Like you, I studied abroad and then lived in NYC working an amazing job. I’m now a stay home mom which was never on my radar. Big changes are scary and hard but let your heart guide you to what is right for you. I love your travels w Dan but would also love hearing your piano music. Your viewers and fans will be here when you’re ready. Lots of love. 💕
Thank you for sharing, this is great to hear because it's easy to forget that "online people" are living a whole life outside of the snapshot we see as the viewer.
In a similar time in my life, its important to be vulnerable especially with those who love and support you. You can learn a lot if you let your self be open and honest and reflect on your past. So you can find a new sense of purpose or the next steps in our life. Such a nice feeling to know we are all going through this in some form or another. Much love for you and Dan hugs from NY.
Oskar, I am much older than you, but back when I was your age I had a lot of those feelings. I like what you said in the end of the video, the part about just being planted. More doors will open for you throughout your life journey. You are super talented. Enjoy that and know you are loved and appreciated ❤️✈️
I was just about to post the exact same thing. I think we have all gone through this at this very age. It honestly sucks when you go through it, to be sure. But it does get better! And I think we all need to take a minute in our lives and regroup and look at where we are and where we're going--literally and metaphorically. I think you're doing great, Oskar. Hearing what you've had to say I can tell you're going to figure it out. And I'm so grateful that you've had the courage to post this--it's a big help to everyone else going through this. And we all are--or will be--at some point!
Thank you for sharing, Oskar. Huge fan of your videos which often help me get through rough times which are very similar to yours. I am over twice your age and feeling pretty lost as well. I've always admired you and Dan for being so driven chasing your travel dreams. I truly hope you can start feeling less lost and continue to live your dreams.
Hello Oskar this is a message from someone several decades older than you. The most ridiculous of all our emotions is worry. Life is binary. Most of the things which causes us to worry are beyond our control. Let the problems which we can not affect dissolve and let them go. Then only focus on the issues which you can affect. Next learn to understand the importance of being able to shit one's focus. If you can effect even a slight change in one's perspective you will be very pleasantly be surprised. When you do this you will discover the joy of impermanence; nothing lasts. All we have is now. When one really can only live in the now the shackles of the past and the future will disappear and one will discover genuine deep happiness. Once discovered this happiness can be sustained by being kind to those we encounter.
This is a very wise comment. I’m not sure one can learn this other than the hard way though, through internal realisation and making mistakes. Most people don’t even learn from that. But I wish this whole way of thinking and viewing the world was more intuitive so people could learn this without doing it the hard way.
Oskar, I want to give you a hug for being so open and candid about what’s been going on. I am grateful that you feel comfortable with sharing what you’ve been feeling. I retired at the end of 2022 and 2023 was my time to travel. I did a lot in spite of nearly having a full blown heart attack in the summer. This year I’ve already done 3 trips but I’ve been faced with what you described, lack of purpose, I’ve been trying to enrich my mind now that I have the maturity to understand more then when I was in college. Take care of yourself and feel all of those feelings, good or bad. Regards to Dan👍🙏😎
First and foremost, I love your guy's channel. Please don't stop posting. While I didn't have a TH-cam show that I was producing, I had a similar road warrior lifestyle where I was averaging every 3 days being on a plane or some form of transportation. I totally understand the feeling of loneliness. In fact, it happens faster when you're on the road because those people aren't part of your daily life, or you're not meeting friends on the weekend to feel like you have that social life. For me, putting down roots somewhere was important. I chose to settle in NYC and keep an active travel schedule with 1-2 monthly flights with trips lasting 3-5 days. I'm lucky enough that in my current role, my company is a remote-first kind of company. Put down some roots somewhere and scale back your travel. I suggest finding something remote. Be part of another travel organization like TPG, OMAT, or Lonely Planet. This way, you can still produce Oskar and Dan.
Thanks for sharing how you’re feeling. It’s truly helpful to know others I respect and look up to have similar thoughts, challenges, and feelings. Please share more when it makes sense and as you make progress. Sending lots of strength and positivity your way!
You are a talented person. Life is filled with high and low. Take a moment and figure out what is meaningful to you. It could take a month, 6 month, 1 year. But see that as an experience of learning and growing. 10 years from now when you look back, you will feel that this process makes you stronger!
It's your mind readjusting to the slower pace of life so what you're experiencing is normal. I would say just vlog what you feel comfortable sharing with us on your daily life whereas that is your music, a new business idea, a new product, coping with mental health etc . Good Luck
Sincerely loved this video cause it's certainly relatable to many people around the world, that either has gone through this in the past, in the present or will in the future (perhaps) 🙌🏼 Well done for overcoming the obstacle of posting this video too!!! I believe it is for the best of spreading a positive and very purposeful message that it is of value for the viewers ✨🫶 ..who knows...may actually be part of the next puropuse, thanks to the big platform you guys have, since many don't have the same number of people to share what they're going through with ☮
Thank you Oskar for sharing. I love you guys and love watching your travel videos... and yes, I miss not see more frequently, but perfectly understand. As I watched your video it got me thinking about myself. I currently work as a project manager for a large international finance company and have been at this role my entire career with different companies. I will be taking early retirement next spring as my husband, who will also be retiring this year, and I love to travel and wish to do more. However, I too, just starting thinking about will I feel "what is my purpose" after I retire because I've been in such a leadership role, getting project done for the company, will I feel at a lost of "now what?". I guess for now, my "purpose" will be to enjoy retirement and travel the world with my husband. FYI... over the past 26 years, we have traveled to 46 countries; obviously not as much as you two in the shorter period of time. But an accomplishment to say the least; especially since none of our family members have even come close to how much we've traveled. Anyway, take care and glad that you're feeling better. Live is a balance, so balance your passion for travel, music, etc. Mark
Thanks for being so open and vulnerable! This is your experience and it's valid. Love seeing more videos like this. We all struggle in life in different ways but the more we open up about it I think we then realize we're not alone as much as we think and alot of connection comes through that ability to be open and share.
I know i’m beyond late to the comments section but i just found y’all! I hope you’re in a much better space because what you shared in the video totes makes sense! I just wanted to say that I love this channel so much and it’s getting me through what is happening in the U.S. right now. I may or may not be bingeing 😬 but it is my positive, adventurous escape, so thanks so much for sharing your travels, your life, and all the happiness!
I commend you, Oskar, for sharing your internal feelings since after your travel challenge. It seems like you're at a crossroads. I think people would LOVE to watch videos about you and Dan. Maybe consider turning the channel into more of a travel/personal vlog. You have the ability since you've been doing it on your travels and I'm sure people would love to see your day-to-day activities, your journey back to the piano, what happens when you and Dan aren't traveling. Well, it's something to consider. I'm sure there would be lots of interest and it might help bring your purpose back, re-energize the channel, and still allow you to travel part time. I'm sure whatever you decide, it'll be fantastic! Stay well, know you are loved. All the very best!
Brave of you to share! You guys are so young and have accomplished so much. But your worth does not come from what you've done, but from who you are. A break to recharge and reprioritize is so valuable. I'd love to hear some of your compositions as backing tracks to your (or someone else's) videos one day.
Hey Oskar, thanks for sharing. Your vulnerability, honesty and openness about this subject is genuine and I can relate. I think many of your followers can. Its refreshing to see content like this and to get to know you a bit better.. Keep up the great work. I thoroughly enjoy what you and Dan do, and I look forward to hearing more from you guys about all things travel, Airlines, music AND your life’s journey, including both the ups and downs. Cheers from Dan in NZ
I thought this was touching and heartfelt and vulnerable in all the best ways and I also think it gives a fascinating insight into the pressures attendant on being a content creator. It’s very easy to see the fun and the glamour and forget about the relentless need to produce content, regardless of your inclinations at the time. Thank you for highlighting this unspoken but undeniable aspect of being on TH-cam.
Firstly, a huge respect to Oskar for putting this in front of the world. I, myself, used to be the guy, or maybe still am, who's scared to put his vulnerabilities and insecurities in public, and I know it takes a lot of courage, so huge respect for that. Secondly, I used to feel that a guy who has achieved his goal or success or has reached where he wanted to be has concurred with all of his low points and insecurities and must be at the top of the world. Watching your story made me realize that it's not something that comes with success or the goal you achieve; it can happen to anyone, regardless of where you are in your life. For that, one has to work on themselves in all respects, mentally as well as emotionally, while also adding physically to it at any stage of their life. Another thing is that I totally relate to your feeling of therapy not falling up the right way. I have had similar experiences. Luckily, it didn't have any bad effects on me, but I also didn't get much from it, or maybe as much as I expected.
What a nice guy you are! Watched your travels together for years. Love every vlog. Good on you for sharing this side of your life. Stay strong, keep sharing and you’ll be fine. ❤
Love you guys !! ❤ Love all that you do !! ❤ You talked awhile back of finding a home-base somewhere in the world that would give you access to good flights everywhere (though you fell in love with New Zealand it was too far off the beaten path to fit that need). I cannot imagine how hard it would be to live out of a suitcase for most of the year. You 2 deserve a home to call your own and to be surrounded by friends and family. Make that your priority this year and find happiness. Know that you are loved. ❤❤
Oh Oscar! You were so incredibly brave to share these thoughts with us. Thank you for taking us into your confidence in such an intimate way. The two of you seem to have such a deep and close bond and, I have no doubt that you two will work out a path that is fulfilling and profitable for you both. You mentioned gratitude. That is, in my humble opinion, the most insightful of all of life's philosophies. In adapting such an attitude one first acknowledges that one is blessed, but can then appreciate the hardships of others, and your travels have certainly exposed you to that. When I turned 60 I dedicated the year ahead as a year of gratitude. It had such a positive effect on my life, that I decided to dedicate the rest of the time that I have left, to gratitude for all of life's abundant blessings. Be strong. Lean on your soulmate. Cherish the obvious bond of love between the two of you and I have NO DOUBT that, in time, you will indeed find the mission that we are all destined for in this wonderful life. Much love from Cape Town in South Africa to you both. ❤
Oskar! Thank you so much for sharing your feelings on this platform. That takes so much introspection and bravery. Your feeling of being lost as a world traveler was heart wrenching. As a musician, I am highly encouraging you to keep up with playing and composing! Keep up the gratitude work and don't forget to take in the non documented magical moments whilst traveling and make time for magical musical moments daily. Best wishes to you and Dan.
Hi Oskar, Please know that we are always here to support you and Dan. We applaud your bravery for opening up about your challenges. I'm sure most of your viewers have fallen in love with your personalities through your channel and are genuinely interested in hearing about your lives whether it's good or bad. Please don't be afraid to share with us again in the future! ❤
Thank you so much for opening up about this - it totally resonates with me (basically a carbon copy of your situation re. passion for geography / languages / travel / adapting that into your lifestyle / approaching 30 and feeling stagnant), and I can see from the comments section below that we're definitely not alone in feeling things like this! 🙏🙏
I continue to hope that the both of you two are safely traveling as you two become more mature and exposed to different cultures, people and great food! Plus, you two are with each other and you two likely love each other.😊 Well, always be safe travel with each other.😊😊
Thank you so much for posting this, Oskar. I adore you guys and so appreciate your honestly. Yes please share more of these types of videos. I look forward to seeing how you evolve ❤❤❤
Thanks for your honesty….. it’s important people see the full time travel life is not all glamour but also has an impact on mental health and emotions. I hope you find a new peace and purpose and remember to be kind to yourself
Oskar, you are definitely not alone. I can relate so much to what you said. I live in a transient city which makes me want to change locations, travel the world, go on weekend city breaks etc. And the point on loneliness really resonates post-Covid. And also taking decisions that are so difficult but in your gut feel right is so brave. You aren’t alone, you guys are great, and you do you! ❤
Hi Oskar, thank you so much for all the videos on this channel ❤️ I found you recently and have been binge watching your videos. Just wanted to say you and your work are so appreciated. I feel so enriched watching your travels around the world.
Thank you for sharing, Oskar. It takes guts to share your most private feelings, fears, and vulnerabilities with thousands of us. All along, we have been able to see the kind, modest, loyal, intelligent, and open-minded person that you are -- a success, anything but a failure, in so many ways. In time, I hope that you will be able to see yourself, and cherish yourself, as we can see and cherish you. May that time come soon, but take as long as you need. We'll be here. Hugs to you, Oskar. ❤
Thank you SO much, Oskar, for sharing this. So much of what you said actually put feelings that I have felt into the words I’ve never quite been able to find. This was such a moving, touching, and relatable video. It Wishing you all the luck as you continue to find yourself and your passions! I can’t wait to see where this year takes you both! We are here for you too!
Thanks for sharing. I know I'm not alone when I say that it's refreshing in a weird way to watch someone like you Oscar, open up about this kind of thing - especially as for many of us you guys are synonymous with a couple of guys out there having a blast 24/7 and "living their best life" having amazing experiences that so many of your viewers would love to do. And many of us are also admittedly curious about what life for you guys is really like BTS (as it were) as you do what you do. Being vulnerable like this helps people like me realise that when we feel lost or low sometimes it's not necessarily because we're not out there travelling the world and seeing all there is to see... we might feel that way even if we were/had done all that. In other words it not about wishing you had a "better" or more exciting life, its about finding things in the life you DO have that bring you joy and purpose.
Dear Oskar! So many people have offered great insights and support. I’ll add my own echo to the fact that what you are experiencing is a part of the normal growth cycles throughout you life. I, like many of the commenters, am a few decades older than you, and when my daughter left the nest I had a big re-evaluation of my purpose, and felt very lost. I’m still finding my “new” self! I will add that the “lost” times in the dark when that new seed has yet to break open although hard are very important to the whole process. Try not to feel rushed to find an answer for what’s next, new ideas need time and space to percolate…. and you are wise and brave to be doing therapy, it never hurts to have a skilled and trusted guide to help you work things through. You and Dan are so loved! You’ve got this! ❤️
Thank you so much, Oskar, for sharing your feelings! We have always enjoyed both your videos and wish we could be there to give you a hug. Sending you and Dan much love! ❤
Thanks for sharing your emotions and take the time you need to do other activities such as piano. Wish you the best for your future challenge whatever it will be.
wow Oskar, you brought me to tears feeling your truth and conviction in your words. your soul is so amazingly beautiful and gleaming bright. my only truth for you is to feel the love around you at all times through the countless souls you encounter on your journeys and the bond with your soulmate Dan. love is the most powerful frequency you will find peace in. heal your chakras that may be out of alignment.
Hi Oskar! Thanks for sharing - I worked in show business in Daytime TV. The most famous show I worked on was Oprah's talk show. After nine years of working there, the show ended and I felt like I lost my identity and it was a struggle. I was able to work on another show with the actress Valerie Bertinelli for Food Network for many years. When that ended, I noticed a change in Daytime TV and broadcast viewership. Once again I felt like I was losing my identity. After journaling every day with my intent and gratitude and embracing the unknown, I'm living out a new dream! I'm living in my favorite city (NYC, Manhattan to boot) and enjoying a new adventure with SERHANT. as a licensed real estate salesperson. I trusted the path of the unknown and I couldn't be happier. I wish the same for you and Dan!
I gave up a job that paid a lot because all i did was travel. I came to realize that my friends were actually the fellow business class passengers I'd run into on flights and lounges and airport bars. I saw them more than my family and friends back home. I was still in the same industry, but not the same job and the cut in pay was worth it. I feel like i literally watched Dan grow up and watching you become a bigger part of the channel was amazing. You're both amazing talents and i hope you guys find a way to both do the amazing work you do and be happy. Most importantly, be happy first.
Oh Oskar. Sorry to hear that you are struggling. Please know that you are in my thoughts. You are a wonderful, caring young man and have so much to offer . Your videos have put a smile on my face and you especially have kept me watching and wanting more. Please take care of yourself and remember how talented you are.
arriving on the video after seeing your instagram post and realising that yt has unsub'd me from your channel which is frustrating but side note.... i've always watched your channel because of your two, almost to the point where I feel we could see the done say get it done videos being pushed out though still great as the background is always pretty beautiful interesting to see, though these are just backgrounds - i hope i'm speaking on behalf of all, we watch because of you guys, or as individuals (so you don't feel the pressure to constantly be on camera together too) - but we'd love to see your day to day routines, skincare, how you cook, how you make a home, how you spend a saturday, how you plan a trip, how you chill relax, what things you love, just create content if you still want to, if you dont want to create content then you can totally sideline for as long as you need and we'll all be here waiting, if you're worried about $ don't worry once you make a decision and fall into the oBLISS everything falls into place no matter how large or small
Thank you for sharing Oskar. It's only human to go through feelings like you are experiencing and it helps to put it out into the world. I'm grateful for this and it opens endless opportunities for your future by being honest with your Audience. Sending lots of love your way and take care.
Well to be honest with all the craziness in the world , your travels and documenting and experiences made me feel the hope and positivity that still is around. Please Don’t underestimate the Spreading of joy and hope and also being a sort of ambassador of the world. Sometimes we have a bad day or just watch the news and your TH-cam video pops up and just changes the moment, the day , the life - who knows. I would call that pretty good purpose than what most people ever get to do. Keep the faith and hang in there. You will never hear from most but there are many who look to you for many things. Hugs.
Thank you guys so much for being here❤ I went back and forth about posting this video a million times because I feared no one would understand what I'm feeling. However, I'm glad it's up, and I hope this video helps anyone who is/has been experiencing something similar❤ I'm much better now, but it's a process that will take time. We hope you guys are enjoying 2024 so far and we can't wait to share more of this new phase of our lives this year❤
Such a wonderful video and honest insight into what so many of us experience, no matter the direction someone is taking but especially in creative fields. We definitely understand a lot of what you were saying - especially the loneliness and although we love what we’re doing and each others company, we crave the social connection.
Thanks, Oskar! ❤
Have you ever thought of getting a 9-5 job? It sounds like you are the type who thrives on having constant tasks to do and need some type of schedule to be happy. Since you no longer wants to travel frequently, I think it would be a healthier for you to concentrate on something whether it be actually doing a 9-5 job for the moment which I think will help you mentally, or start a new project that you are passionate about. Maybe going back to school would be a good thing for you while Dan does his airline reviews. Check out Tyler and Todd. They started off travel in camper vans and then ended up getting a plot of land in Canada and started to build their channel around construction of their dream home from scratch. If you thrive better at staying put and make steady friends, then perhaps you want to get a place and do home remodeling (if you are talented that way)? People's lives constantly change and there is nothing wrong with changing the direction of Oskar and Dan channel.
@@kevinhsu8184a good idea
We have been travelling for almost 4 years full time now. Unlike you, we are “slow travellers”, which I think makes it much easier. We usually like to stay in one place for at least a few months and do our exploring. This allows us time to relax and make multiple videos about the location we’re in. We do miss our friends and family, and we try to get back home as often as we can, but it can feel lonely at times. Hope you can find a new purpose now that you are slowing things down :)
Thank you for sharing and for being so transparent with us!! 🫰🧡🫰🧡🫰🧡
Life goes by so fast and you don’t even notice until it’s over. Enjoy every moment.
Thanks for everything you and Dan do
Wow! What a wonderfully honest, authentic and worthwhile video! I saw the thumbnail a day or so ago, and was worried, but thenI incorrectly assumed that the title was clickbait, and you were going to say that you’d taken a wrong turn while travelling from one location to another. Now that I’ve watched it, I’m very moved by your words. I’m also mightily relieved that you and Dan are still together. Oskar, you are a terrific person, and I’m sure we viewers would be more than happy to watch whatever content you create. I will pray that you (and Dan) discover what your next ‘move’ is. Thank you both for all you’ve given us. You are loved! I’m in my 60’s, and am very grateful for all you both have taught me. Whatever you do in the future, I, and so very many others, will be.cheering you on.
Very brave of you to share and be so open! Thanks for doing so! Wishing you all the best with your new projects this coming year ❤
Thank you so much, Oskar, for sharing your honest feelings in that beautiful video. I have a suggestion for you: why not write a book about your challenge of visiting 100 countries before the age of 25? You have a unique story to tell and writing a book could be a wonderful new purpose for you.
Might already have something in the works...❤️
Hi Oskar! You and Dan have gained so much experience through your travels together. You can leverage that experience to create new content.
For example:
5 minute micro learning videos on the top 5 favorite experiences in each country. You make one for each country you want to talk about and that right there are 20-30 videos of content.
Another suggestion is to have someone interview you and Dan about each country you visited. It could be a series of videos on "reflections from our 100 country travels"
There is so much value you've already created. Leverage it to build someone new, like connection videos.
I'm sending you both a big virtual hug. Thanks for teaching me so much about the world ❤
I always come back to watching you guys because you are genuine, kind humans. Thank you for your honesty! For what it's worth, I'm a nurse and while in nursing school (and in practice) we focus a lot on the the psychosocial stages of life and development put forward by Erik Erikson. For example, I'm married with two kids so I'm in "Middle Age" where the "task" is Generativity vs Stagnation. The virtue is "care" and the main focus is contributing to society and being part of a family. So, this means raising kids who hopefully go on to be good humans and care for the next generation of life and planet! You are in Early Adulthood which ranges from about 19-29. The "task" is Intimacy vs Isolation, the virtue is love. The goal is establishing intimacy and relationships with others. I have a 16 year old son so according to Erikson he is in the "identity vs confusion" stage (adolescence). Sometimes my husband worries about things regarding our kids but I'm always able to keep perspective because of studying Erikson's stages and it grounds me. I'm like, no - they're right where they're supposed to be and this is completely normal development! There's a lot more to Erikson than I'm hitting on here. It's worth a deep dive if you're interested (he was a contemporary of Freud but more commonly embraced today). I say all this because you are in a transition and maybe you are starting to think about the next stage of life a little.
Thank you for this🙏🏼
Appreciate this insight into what the past year has been. Thank you for your openness and honesty. As you know, 2023 has been a pivot year for us too and a big part of that has been figuring out: who are we outside of travel? Like you and Dan, travel became such a huge part of our identities and how we related to each other, that I think along the way we lost a certain kind of connection. It’s hard to explain to those who haven’t experienced it, but I 100% felt everything you shared in this video. Sending love as always! ❤
Love right back❤️ You guys are amazing regardless of what you do!
I'm glad you posted this. Sharing your lost experience will help a lot of us. Thank you. I'm glad you have returned to your music. I find I get way more lost when i stop doing my music.
*Oskar, you are not alone either!*
Take the time you need and the love from your support system to find new joy in new directions.
(And, please keep in mind that the record of your past travels is still providing joy to people who find you two on TH-cam.)
What you have done is important...what you will do is important!
*May you find the peace you are seeking.*
Oskar, thank you so much for posting this. I can't say how much I appreciate and resonate with what you had to say. I'm sure it was very difficult for you to be this vulnerable, but know that it's much appreciated and you are helping so many other people through sharing your honest experience. Much love.
Thank you so much Mike❤️
I hear you and I see you! I’m gay, loved geography and the cultures that came with it. Also travelled into a deep dark hole around some of the issues you discuss. I questioned my self worth and, at times, felt like an imposter. Difference - I am 60. I wish I had the foresight and introspection you are sharing at your age! I didn't have the tools or insights into myself to do so at your age - it took awhile to get there! Stick with therapy, build your tool kit, make social connections where you live, dive into your music, communicate with your husband, and stick to it one day at a time. It gets better! Thaks for bringing joy into my life through your adventures. Come to Philadelphia - you’ll love it here!
Thanks for the like! My career has been in the heritage industry -- the museums and historic sites I've led support my and feed my love of travel. History and travel has been the salve during dark times. Again, if you find yourself in the Philadelphia area, it would be a pleasure to show you around! :) Hang in there. There is a light at the end of the tunnel -- it may be a bit distant and hazy, but IT IS there!
Right now I just want to reach out and give you a virtual hug. Don't sell yourself short: you ARE valued as an important person in the lives of many people. You are a great individual. We are all plagued with self-doubt (heck, I'm 70 years old now and I still have to deal with it). Take all the time you need to work through this. Focus more on your music. Be assured we'll all be here for you when you need us.
Such a lovely and great comment ❤
Thank you, this warmed my heart❤️
totally agree
Thank you. You are amazing. We have gratitude for you sharing your lives. We are thankful for the big adventures as well as the small moments. The thrills and the insecurities are both powerful and meaningful. This video may be the most important one that you ever make. I hope millions see it and listen to the message. We need to relish and be thankful for our lives. We are blessed by whatever higher power or energy in which we may find meaning. While there are low moments, of course, there will be another time filled with brightness, joy and incredible energy that follows. Take care of yourself. You are loved and we are grateful to know you.
Speaking as a retired psychiatrist with an interest in psychotherapy: therapy isn't like taking a pill. You need to define with your therapist a problem that you want to work on together. But what you are describing is a feeling of general discouragement. Gratitude and meditation won't help much, if at all. It sounds as though the main problem is that you say "We don't have a choice". You always have a choice. You don't have to go on YouTubing - but do it if you really want to. You could live in a house or flat for part of the year and travel the rest of the time. You are both educated, articulate and multilingual - very employable. You have each other. The most important thing is to decide what you want to do.
The kind of bravery, vulnerability, and openness you've displayed in this video I believe shows you are willing to face your challenges because you've clearly defined them. I think your introspection shows you are far closer than you realize to your next breakthrough.
I really appreciate this video thank you, Five years ago I retired at the age of 51 after a pretty successful career. I’m in a wonderful relationship, I’m financially secure but I totally lack purpose now after a life time of being driven. Meditation, yoga and volunteering have been my life savers. Thank you again for your vulnerable sharing. Holding you in the light x
Thank you Oskar talking about mental health is so important. Especially depression. So thank you for your honesty. Love an prayers.
It’s raw and brutal. Love it, but also ….. there are times where life seems endless and tiring. But by sharing your fears and doubts … I cannot thank you enough!
Thank you for being so real. We all have ups and downs. Hope you are happy and well
Traveled 15 years for work. Life changing experiences happened every week. Your eyes, brains and emotions can't take in everything offered on each new adventure. There are sacrifices and compromises that come along the way. At first, seemingly insignificant and a low price to pay 'for all this'. Then the personal costs increase, the enthusiasm drains. The body and mind fail to rebound as quickly as they once did. The things that recharge you no longer work. Eventually spending more time being still, slowing down and finding a place to sooth the mind, soul and body becomes a stronger inner motivator. Thank you for voicing your journey so openly. You are well equipped to make the better choices for yourself. For me, home is living at 9,000' on a mountain, in the middle of a desert in a forest. Occasionally leaving by car to explore and spend time in other natural setting. The breathe of life in these places are life-giving and healing. Life simplified has been the right choice for me. You WILL find your place.
You are a brilliant and talented guy- it comes through in all of your videos. Transition moments in life are difficult but you will come through it bit by bit. You’ve got this!
Oskar, I really resonate with your post. Early in my career, I had a job for which I traveled almost 200,000 miles a year and lived in Los Angeles, New York, and London. I too felt lost when I stopped traveling. I moved into a second career, clinical psychology, and I am grateful to say it has been very rewarding. Just want you to know that I have a deep empathic connection for you as you have completed a major goal so early in your life and are experiencing a sense of loss. You and Dan are interesting, vibrant, young men, and I know that your career will be filled with other passions in due course.
Thank you for posting this video. I cried a little. I can totally relate to what you're going through. I've had times where I've felt useless and like a failure. I retired five years ago, and I felt like "now what?". I'm also a recent widow. After 30 years of marriage, my husband passed away. It was hell on earth for the first year. It's only recently that I feel like I can see some light again. I'm also introverted, and not at all a procrastinator, so I can relate to that. I've found purpose in a new part time job and new side hustle. What you said about gratitude is so true! I'm so grateful and thankful for everything I have. I know I have more than many people do. I try to keep a perspective, and some balance. Love your and Dan's videos.
appreciate ur vulnerability! you and Dan are so inspiring, and yes i do hv these feelings of being lost/purposeless too once a while, u r not alone! love u two ❤❤❤❤ we dont give up, we keep searching for what to do next in life!!!!
Oskar, I acknowledge your vulnerability and self love within this video. Posting about self growth and self realization is powerful and screams confidence within itself. I enjoyed the whole video and I jusst wanna say im proud of you and DAn for taking on the courage of discovering yourselves more and finding more purpose within your lives. Your feelings are beyond valid and I hope you both keep on growing and thriving.
Wow. You don’t know how much I am able to relate to this. The big difference is I am 53 and you’re still so young. You see, I worked for a famous mouse in Orlando for 29 years. In 2020 my position was eliminated due to the pandemic. Working at the World was all that I knew. It’s 2024 and I’m still working to find myself. I started a travel TH-cam during the pandemic and it has been my “focus”. Luckily, my hubby and I are now following our dream and we are about to move to Bali permanently. I’m nervous and excited for this new chapter. Anyway, all the best to you and Dan. Here’s to the future…AND YOU! Come visit!
I know you are feeling down however you are not alone!!! Being this transparent is hard. I appreciate your thoughts and how you are going thru the steps to find out where you are in this new role of being … at home. When you switch gears from on the road, travel travel travel, go go go to suddenly being back home, it can be jarring. Like you have empty hands - “ what now?” It is ok. It is a transition and growth for you both. Take a deep breath, meditate, talk about how you feel and find that calm in a stable and safe environment!!!
Thanks for sharing Oskar!!! I’m sure there will be more ideas and doors waiting for you and Dan to be open! Salute!
Hi Oskar thanks for sharing this video! I think that living your lives so publicly in the way you both do can wear you down eventually. I think we all need some grounding somewhere to call home, we both love travelling & do so as often as we can, but i must say i do not personally envy your lifestyles. I do hope that you manage to find a way to balance your work & home life x
I’m with you. I was a nurse for 30 years and was fired for caring too much about the patients. In a way I was relieved because seeing the healthcare system decline I just could not be that kind of nurse. It is very easy to feel you have no purpose. I too work with my therapist to work on ways to fulfill that void. Thanks for sharing this and all your videos as they help me.
Oskar thank you for sharing. I have been in awe of your travel and documentation that travel with Dan. I may have somehow sensed something was up through the past year. Remember you have each other and don’t let anything change that.
Omg I just wanted to say thank you ! Thank you for being so open and honest, when we watch your videos I feel like we are friends,I feel like we are lucky enough to be part of your life and with life sometimes we have our ups and downs. Just know that we will always be here and have your back ! Sending a huge hug from Australia xx
Oscar, Dan.. First, thank you for making us a part of your private feelings and thoughts! I fell like I belong now and that you trust me. Second.. You know what I think when I watch your channels? Here are two awesome men, who are smart, free, resilient, have the right mindset to deal with the entire world and have each other to call mine. Why am I saying it? Cause you are an inspiration that you can do what you want, you can be with who you want. This is a great quality to have and, hopefully, a tiny bit of motivation for you not to question what you are doing. Really love your outlook on life. It's not always roses, so take it and own it whatever it brings. Love you!!!
Thank you so much for sharing Oskar and that quote at the end - WOW!
Be kind to yourself and know we love your insight into the world.
PS. Should we be more worried you didn’t mention veganism once 😉
Thank you so much for sharing. I also have a business and I balance therapy with a mindset/business coach and I find it really helps me focus on the deep things in both a psychological way and in a positive and productive way. It’s hard to find the right match but so worth it when you do.
You are an incredible person Oskar, both you and Dan are. Loved the openness of the chat in this video. Everything you are feeling is normal and valid and a part of life every now and then (unfortunately lol). You will come out on the other side of this knowing yourselves so much better. Wishing you both all the best♥♥
Oskar, thank you for sharing. It was very brave of you to be this vulnerable, and it was actually very refreshing to hear. You are definitely not alone in how you feel. I'm 51, and I still have no clue what my life is supposed to be about. But I will say that your videos bring me so much joy. The travel footage is great, but I think it's the fact that you and Dan allow us to get to know you a bit that makes it special. Now, I'm invested, and I'll still watch whatever your channel becomes! I don't know if you've thought about "interviewing" or scouting out the locations that are candidates for you and Dan to settle down in. If you want to bring us along for that process, it might be fun! Anyway, I love your work, professionalism, and authenticity. Thanks for all of the great videos!
Wow, you have no idea how spot on this comment is...😅 Thank you Dan❤️
Many years ago I started making a list of everything in my life that I was grateful for. After a few days I started writing things like air to breath, water to drink, flowers and trees etc. There is so much going on around us that we are blessed with which is so easy to overlook.
If you are grateful for what you have then you will have more.
Finally remember that the journey IS the destination in life.
I’ve been in a similar period of transition and it is comforting to know you’re not alone in feeling that way. This has completely spoken to my heart and I feel very grateful to you for putting this video out. 🙂
Oskar (and Dan!) thank you for being vulnerable and honest about your experience. I feel like many travel-related channels only focus on the glamorous and rewarding parts of traveling the world, but don't acknowledge the toll it can take on you physically and mentally. I am like you in that I like to have everything planned out in life, but as I get older I'm constantly reminded that so much of life is unpredictable, and sometimes that can be a good thing! I have no doubt you will find your next path or calling. You should feel proud of where you are now - much love to you both!
Thank you for sharing! I know it must have took a lot of courage to really be honest and open. You are not alone! Follow what your heart desires… we only live once… live it through your own eyes.
It takes a huge amount of self awareness to understand your feelings, especially at your age. It takes even more courage to post it online. Kudos.
I wish I could give you a big hug. ❤️❤️ I think what you’re going through is more common than you know. I went through something very similar at your age. Like you, I studied abroad and then lived in NYC working an amazing job. I’m now a stay home mom which was never on my radar. Big changes are scary and hard but let your heart guide you to what is right for you. I love your travels w Dan but would also love hearing your piano music. Your viewers and fans will be here when you’re ready. Lots of love. 💕
Thank you for sharing, this is great to hear because it's easy to forget that "online people" are living a whole life outside of the snapshot we see as the viewer.
Thank you for your honesty and openness. You are amazing.
Loved this video! You are such a kind and getle soul! SENDING YOU MUCH LOVE!
In a similar time in my life, its important to be vulnerable especially with those who love and support you. You can learn a lot if you let your self be open and honest and reflect on your past. So you can find a new sense of purpose or the next steps in our life. Such a nice feeling to know we are all going through this in some form or another. Much love for you and Dan hugs from NY.
Oskar, I am much older than you, but back when I was your age I had a lot of those feelings. I like what you said in the end of the video, the part about just being planted. More doors will open for you throughout your life journey. You are super talented. Enjoy that and know you are loved and appreciated ❤️✈️
Beautifully expressed!
I was just about to post the exact same thing. I think we have all gone through this at this very age. It honestly sucks when you go through it, to be sure. But it does get better! And I think we all need to take a minute in our lives and regroup and look at where we are and where we're going--literally and metaphorically. I think you're doing great, Oskar. Hearing what you've had to say I can tell you're going to figure it out. And I'm so grateful that you've had the courage to post this--it's a big help to everyone else going through this. And we all are--or will be--at some point!
It’s appreciated you shared your feelings with us. Hopefully it was helpful for you also.
Thank you for sharing, Oskar. Huge fan of your videos which often help me get through rough times which are very similar to yours. I am over twice your age and feeling pretty lost as well. I've always admired you and Dan for being so driven chasing your travel dreams. I truly hope you can start feeling less lost and continue to live your dreams.
Hello Oskar this is a message from someone several decades older than you. The most ridiculous of all our emotions is worry. Life is binary. Most of the things which causes us to worry are beyond our control. Let the problems which we can not affect dissolve and let them go. Then only focus on the issues which you can affect. Next learn to understand the importance of being able to shit one's focus. If you can effect even a slight change in one's perspective you will be very pleasantly be surprised. When you do this you will discover the joy of impermanence; nothing lasts. All we have is now. When one really can only live in the now the shackles of the past and the future will disappear and one will discover genuine deep happiness. Once discovered this happiness can be sustained by being kind to those we encounter.
This is a very wise comment. I’m not sure one can learn this other than the hard way though, through internal realisation and making mistakes. Most people don’t even learn from that. But I wish this whole way of thinking and viewing the world was more intuitive so people could learn this without doing it the hard way.
It’s just “the way”. We get it when we are supposed to.
Oskar, I want to give you a hug for being so open and candid about what’s been going on. I am grateful that you feel comfortable with sharing what you’ve been feeling. I retired at the end of 2022 and 2023 was my time to travel. I did a lot in spite of nearly having a full blown heart attack in the summer. This year I’ve already done 3 trips but I’ve been faced with what you described, lack of purpose, I’ve been trying to enrich my mind now that I have the maturity to understand more then when I was in college. Take care of yourself and feel all of those feelings, good or bad. Regards to Dan👍🙏😎
What a wonderful and articulate video Oskar - thank you for sharing. "Planted not buried" - great perspective.
I love all your content, I also empathize with you and what you are going through. Please do what you need to do to make yourself happy!
First and foremost, I love your guy's channel. Please don't stop posting. While I didn't have a TH-cam show that I was producing, I had a similar road warrior lifestyle where I was averaging every 3 days being on a plane or some form of transportation. I totally understand the feeling of loneliness. In fact, it happens faster when you're on the road because those people aren't part of your daily life, or you're not meeting friends on the weekend to feel like you have that social life. For me, putting down roots somewhere was important. I chose to settle in NYC and keep an active travel schedule with 1-2 monthly flights with trips lasting 3-5 days. I'm lucky enough that in my current role, my company is a remote-first kind of company. Put down some roots somewhere and scale back your travel. I suggest finding something remote. Be part of another travel organization like TPG, OMAT, or Lonely Planet. This way, you can still produce Oskar and Dan.
Thanks for sharing how you’re feeling. It’s truly helpful to know others I respect and look up to have similar thoughts, challenges, and feelings. Please share more when it makes sense and as you make progress. Sending lots of strength and positivity your way!
You are a talented person. Life is filled with high and low. Take a moment and figure out what is meaningful to you. It could take a month, 6 month, 1 year. But see that as an experience of learning and growing. 10 years from now when you look back, you will feel that this process makes you stronger!
It's your mind readjusting to the slower pace of life so what you're experiencing is normal. I would say just vlog what you feel comfortable sharing with us on your daily life whereas that is your music, a new business idea, a new product, coping with mental health etc . Good Luck
Sincerely loved this video cause it's certainly relatable to many people around the world, that either has gone through this in the past, in the present or will in the future (perhaps) 🙌🏼 Well done for overcoming the obstacle of posting this video too!!! I believe it is for the best of spreading a positive and very purposeful message that it is of value for the viewers ✨🫶 ..who knows...may actually be part of the next puropuse, thanks to the big platform you guys have, since many don't have the same number of people to share what they're going through with ☮
Thank you Oskar for sharing. I love you guys and love watching your travel videos... and yes, I miss not see more frequently, but perfectly understand.
As I watched your video it got me thinking about myself. I currently work as a project manager for a large international finance company and have been at this role my entire career with different companies. I will be taking early retirement next spring as my husband, who will also be retiring this year, and I love to travel and wish to do more. However, I too, just starting thinking about will I feel "what is my purpose" after I retire because I've been in such a leadership role, getting project done for the company, will I feel at a lost of "now what?". I guess for now, my "purpose" will be to enjoy retirement and travel the world with my husband.
FYI... over the past 26 years, we have traveled to 46 countries; obviously not as much as you two in the shorter period of time. But an accomplishment to say the least; especially since none of our family members have even come close to how much we've traveled.
Anyway, take care and glad that you're feeling better. Live is a balance, so balance your passion for travel, music, etc.
Mark
Beautiful video and message. It was very courageous of you to share. We all feel this way at different times in our lives.
Thanks for being so open and vulnerable! This is your experience and it's valid. Love seeing more videos like this. We all struggle in life in different ways but the more we open up about it I think we then realize we're not alone as much as we think and alot of connection comes through that ability to be open and share.
I know i’m beyond late to the comments section but i just found y’all! I hope you’re in a much better space because what you shared in the video totes makes sense! I just wanted to say that I love this channel so much and it’s getting me through what is happening in the U.S. right now. I may or may not be bingeing 😬 but it is my positive, adventurous escape, so thanks so much for sharing your travels, your life, and all the happiness!
Oskar, thank you so much sharing a part of you, for being so vulnerable and open. You rock! ❤
I commend you, Oskar, for sharing your internal feelings since after your travel challenge. It seems like you're at a crossroads. I think people would LOVE to watch videos about you and Dan. Maybe consider turning the channel into more of a travel/personal vlog. You have the ability since you've been doing it on your travels and I'm sure people would love to see your day-to-day activities, your journey back to the piano, what happens when you and Dan aren't traveling. Well, it's something to consider. I'm sure there would be lots of interest and it might help bring your purpose back, re-energize the channel, and still allow you to travel part time. I'm sure whatever you decide, it'll be fantastic! Stay well, know you are loved. All the very best!
Brave of you to share! You guys are so young and have accomplished so much. But your worth does not come from what you've done, but from who you are. A break to recharge and reprioritize is so valuable. I'd love to hear some of your compositions as backing tracks to your (or someone else's) videos one day.
Hey Oskar, thanks for sharing. Your vulnerability, honesty and openness about this subject is genuine and I can relate. I think many of your followers can. Its refreshing to see content like this and to get to know you a bit better.. Keep up the great work. I thoroughly enjoy what you and Dan do, and I look forward to hearing more from you guys about all things travel, Airlines, music AND your life’s journey, including both the ups and downs. Cheers from Dan in NZ
I thought this was touching and heartfelt and vulnerable in all the best ways and I also think it gives a fascinating insight into the pressures attendant on being a content creator. It’s very easy to see the fun and the glamour and forget about the relentless need to produce content, regardless of your inclinations at the time. Thank you for highlighting this unspoken but undeniable aspect of being on TH-cam.
Firstly, a huge respect to Oskar for putting this in front of the world. I, myself, used to be the guy, or maybe still am, who's scared to put his vulnerabilities and insecurities in public, and I know it takes a lot of courage, so huge respect for that.
Secondly, I used to feel that a guy who has achieved his goal or success or has reached where he wanted to be has concurred with all of his low points and insecurities and must be at the top of the world. Watching your story made me realize that it's not something that comes with success or the goal you achieve; it can happen to anyone, regardless of where you are in your life. For that, one has to work on themselves in all respects, mentally as well as emotionally, while also adding physically to it at any stage of their life.
Another thing is that I totally relate to your feeling of therapy not falling up the right way. I have had similar experiences. Luckily, it didn't have any bad effects on me, but I also didn't get much from it, or maybe as much as I expected.
What a nice guy you are! Watched your travels together for years. Love every vlog. Good on you for sharing this side of your life. Stay strong, keep sharing and you’ll be fine. ❤
. It’s a weird feeling but I totally understand. You are not alone with this feeling. Thanks for being open with your feelings.
Love you guys !! ❤ Love all that you do !! ❤ You talked awhile back of finding a home-base somewhere in the world that would give you access to good flights everywhere (though you fell in love with New Zealand it was too far off the beaten path to fit that need). I cannot imagine how hard it would be to live out of a suitcase for most of the year. You 2 deserve a home to call your own and to be surrounded by friends and family. Make that your priority this year and find happiness. Know that you are loved. ❤❤
Oh Oscar! You were so incredibly brave to share these thoughts with us. Thank you for taking us into your confidence in such an intimate way. The two of you seem to have such a deep and close bond and, I have no doubt that you two will work out a path that is fulfilling and profitable for you both. You mentioned gratitude. That is, in my humble opinion, the most insightful of all of life's philosophies. In adapting such an attitude one first acknowledges that one is blessed, but can then appreciate the hardships of others, and your travels have certainly exposed you to that. When I turned 60 I dedicated the year ahead as a year of gratitude. It had such a positive effect on my life, that I decided to dedicate the rest of the time that I have left, to gratitude for all of life's abundant blessings. Be strong. Lean on your soulmate. Cherish the obvious bond of love between the two of you and I have NO DOUBT that, in time, you will indeed find the mission that we are all destined for in this wonderful life. Much love from Cape Town in South Africa to you both. ❤
Oskar! Thank you so much for sharing your feelings on this platform. That takes so much introspection and bravery. Your feeling of being lost as a world traveler was heart wrenching. As a musician, I am highly encouraging you to keep up with playing and composing! Keep up the gratitude work and don't forget to take in the non documented magical moments whilst traveling and make time for magical musical moments daily. Best wishes to you and Dan.
Hi Oskar, Please know that we are always here to support you and Dan. We applaud your bravery for opening up about your challenges. I'm sure most of your viewers have fallen in love with your personalities through your channel and are genuinely interested in hearing about your lives whether it's good or bad. Please don't be afraid to share with us again in the future! ❤
Thank you so much for opening up about this - it totally resonates with me (basically a carbon copy of your situation re. passion for geography / languages / travel / adapting that into your lifestyle / approaching 30 and feeling stagnant), and I can see from the comments section below that we're definitely not alone in feeling things like this! 🙏🙏
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Thank you for sharing lifevon the road with you two!!😊😊 Always be safe traveling.😊
I continue to hope that the both of you two are safely traveling as you two become more mature and exposed to different cultures, people and great food! Plus, you two are with each other and you two likely love each other.😊 Well, always be safe travel with each other.😊😊
Thank you so much for posting this, Oskar. I adore you guys and so appreciate your honestly. Yes please share more of these types of videos. I look forward to seeing how you evolve ❤❤❤
Thanks for your honesty….. it’s important people see the full time travel life is not all glamour but also has an impact on mental health and emotions. I hope you find a new peace and purpose and remember to be kind to yourself
Oskar, you are definitely not alone. I can relate so much to what you said. I live in a transient city which makes me want to change locations, travel the world, go on weekend city breaks etc. And the point on loneliness really resonates post-Covid.
And also taking decisions that are so difficult but in your gut feel right is so brave.
You aren’t alone, you guys are great, and you do you! ❤
Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts, Oskar! I am sure you will (re-)find your purpose soon.
Hi Oskar, thank you so much for all the videos on this channel ❤️ I found you recently and have been binge watching your videos. Just wanted to say you and your work are so appreciated. I feel so enriched watching your travels around the world.
Thank you for sharing, Oskar. It takes guts to share your most private feelings, fears, and vulnerabilities with thousands of us. All along, we have been able to see the kind, modest, loyal, intelligent, and open-minded person that you are -- a success, anything but a failure, in so many ways. In time, I hope that you will be able to see yourself, and cherish yourself, as we can see and cherish you. May that time come soon, but take as long as you need. We'll be here. Hugs to you, Oskar. ❤
Thank you SO much, Oskar, for sharing this. So much of what you said actually put feelings that I have felt into the words I’ve never quite been able to find. This was such a moving, touching, and relatable video. It
Wishing you all the luck as you continue to find yourself and your passions! I can’t wait to see where this year takes you both! We are here for you too!
Thank you for sharing and you are not alone, this video has helped m. Appreciate you sharing.
Thanks for sharing. I know I'm not alone when I say that it's refreshing in a weird way to watch someone like you Oscar, open up about this kind of thing - especially as for many of us you guys are synonymous with a couple of guys out there having a blast 24/7 and "living their best life" having amazing experiences that so many of your viewers would love to do. And many of us are also admittedly curious about what life for you guys is really like BTS (as it were) as you do what you do. Being vulnerable like this helps people like me realise that when we feel lost or low sometimes it's not necessarily because we're not out there travelling the world and seeing all there is to see... we might feel that way even if we were/had done all that. In other words it not about wishing you had a "better" or more exciting life, its about finding things in the life you DO have that bring you joy and purpose.
Dear Oskar! So many people have offered great insights and support. I’ll add my own echo to the fact that what you are experiencing is a part of the normal growth cycles throughout you life. I, like many of the commenters, am a few decades older than you, and when my daughter left the nest I had a big re-evaluation of my purpose, and felt very lost. I’m still finding my “new” self! I will add that the “lost” times in the dark when that new seed has yet to break open although hard are very important to the whole process. Try not to feel rushed to find an answer for what’s next, new ideas need time and space to percolate…. and you are wise and brave to be doing therapy, it never hurts to have a skilled and trusted guide to help you work things through. You and Dan are so loved! You’ve got this! ❤️
Thank you so much, Oskar, for sharing your feelings! We have always enjoyed both your videos and wish we could be there to give you a hug. Sending you and Dan much love! ❤
Thank you guys❤️
Hi Oskar. Thank you for sharing your feelings. From the bottom of my ♥️ wishing you strength and sending you love. Remember 🇨🇦 loves you!
Thanks for sharing your emotions and take the time you need to do other activities such as piano. Wish you the best for your future challenge whatever it will be.
wow Oskar, you brought me to tears feeling your truth and conviction in your words. your soul is so amazingly beautiful and gleaming bright. my only truth for you is to feel the love around you at all times through the countless souls you encounter on your journeys and the bond with your soulmate Dan. love is the most powerful frequency you will find peace in. heal your chakras that may be out of alignment.
Hi Oskar! Thanks for sharing - I worked in show business in Daytime TV. The most famous show I worked on was Oprah's talk show. After nine years of working there, the show ended and I felt like I lost my identity and it was a struggle. I was able to work on another show with the actress Valerie Bertinelli for Food Network for many years. When that ended, I noticed a change in Daytime TV and broadcast viewership. Once again I felt like I was losing my identity. After journaling every day with my intent and gratitude and embracing the unknown, I'm living out a new dream! I'm living in my favorite city (NYC, Manhattan to boot) and enjoying a new adventure with SERHANT. as a licensed real estate salesperson. I trusted the path of the unknown and I couldn't be happier. I wish the same for you and Dan!
Can totally understand your struggle🙏🏼❤️
I gave up a job that paid a lot because all i did was travel. I came to realize that my friends were actually the fellow business class passengers I'd run into on flights and lounges and airport bars. I saw them more than my family and friends back home.
I was still in the same industry, but not the same job and the cut in pay was worth it. I feel like i literally watched Dan grow up and watching you become a bigger part of the channel was amazing. You're both amazing talents and i hope you guys find a way to both do the amazing work you do and be happy. Most importantly, be happy first.
This is just what my heart needed! I can’t thank you enough Oskar!
Oh Oskar. Sorry to hear that you are struggling. Please know that you are in my thoughts. You are a wonderful, caring young man and have so much to offer . Your videos have put a smile on my face and you especially have kept me watching and wanting more. Please take care of yourself and remember how talented you are.
arriving on the video after seeing your instagram post and realising that yt has unsub'd me from your channel which is frustrating but side note.... i've always watched your channel because of your two, almost to the point where I feel we could see the done say get it done videos being pushed out though still great as the background is always pretty beautiful interesting to see, though these are just backgrounds - i hope i'm speaking on behalf of all, we watch because of you guys, or as individuals (so you don't feel the pressure to constantly be on camera together too) - but we'd love to see your day to day routines, skincare, how you cook, how you make a home, how you spend a saturday, how you plan a trip, how you chill relax, what things you love, just create content if you still want to, if you dont want to create content then you can totally sideline for as long as you need and we'll all be here waiting, if you're worried about $ don't worry once you make a decision and fall into the oBLISS everything falls into place no matter how large or small
Thank you for sharing Oskar. It's only human to go through feelings like you are experiencing and it helps to put it out into the world. I'm grateful for this and it opens endless opportunities for your future by being honest with your Audience. Sending lots of love your way and take care.
Well to be honest with all the craziness in the world , your travels and documenting and experiences made me feel the hope and positivity that still is around. Please Don’t underestimate the Spreading of joy and hope and also being a sort of ambassador of the world. Sometimes we have a bad day or just watch the news and your TH-cam video pops up and just changes the moment, the day , the life - who knows. I would call that pretty good purpose than what most people ever get to do. Keep the faith and hang in there. You will never hear from most but there are many who look to you for many things. Hugs.