To me happiness is the peace of mind in knowing I am responsible for setting the boundaries to honor my needs without needing another persons approval. I only need my own approval of my self. Respecting and honoring my needs. Since I finally woke to this I'm much more at peace and happier. I respect your teachings Mr Fletcher.
Very timely, I’ve been thinking about discipline and how I can bring myself to peace without searching for it. I appreciate you making it all more clear by talking about the twelve needs
depriving of unhappiness does not mean happiness, happiness comes from the truth, the responsibility on my own life with my own will, and the authenticity that I was taken in my childhood. Thus, it comes with the pain mainly. The key point is whether you can maintain the sensibility for feeling the happiness while enduring and taking responsibility of the pain that you must take in. Then, life gets alive with colours. Pain is so weird, cause it makes un who we are, and it sometimes protects our authenticity.
So the need is based on the field of desire, desire for change. Desire is a driving force that represents itself in innumerable attachments and addictions. I think the only way out is acceptance. Total acceptance of the inner experience. Radical acceptance of the inner sensation. Desire or addiction is an scape of fear, a running away. Only acceptance can subdue the desire for change, which doesn’t mean is passivity. Changes happen automatically with acceptance, because everything rearranges itself depending on our inner experience or perception. Passivity leads to depression. Acceptance leads to growth and the energy necessary to move forward without suffering. There is a lot of repressed and suppressed emotions in all of us and the only thing we can do to set that energy free is to go through it. Resistance or non-acceptance is what creates suffering or unhappiness. One of the most persistent mechanisms to not feel and repress emotions is thinking, which is based on projection, desire and pride. Another is expression. Also the desire for understanding and analyzing oneself through psychology is a big attachment. The addiction to thinkingness is the addiction to living in illusion. Sometimes I realize that my thoughts are only illusion and that gives me a great sense of relieve. We are afraid of silence and peace. We are afraid of love. And we are addicted to drama, negativity and illusion most of all. Accepting that and taking responsibility for it is what we need. We just need to be completely honest with ourselves.
I was never directly told this, but it was heavily implied. I knew something was wrong with my family dynamic as a teen when I asked for help with my depression. Literally the first question I was asked multiple times, “well how’s your relationship with God?” I was in youth groups, etc… doin’ the Jesus thing, and all I ever got was pray harder. Things were bad and I started to resent God because I was doing the right things and it didn’t make a difference in how I was treated by my abusive parents. I still kind of do, I almost instinctively think anyone that is hyper religious is hiding deep secrets, and I’m highly distrustful of people heavily involved in Church.
1st run away from the Narc in the relationship ... no need for retreat because for the Narc no retreat will ever change them no matter what...good luck for your quest.
What a sad and misinformed dogmatic statement. Personally, I have continual experience with many, many people who profess their devotion to a Christ based life style - who live the most twisted and bitter existence. Each human being is a cherished and worthy creation of this loving universe. No need to to contaminate there essence with the toxic influence of pass me down religious dogma. Just love and honour your true inherent self worth! 😀
@HenryHopkins-r7i that's merely your own opinion and experience thus far. Just because you've met people who are professing Christians who may still lack the attributes that I discussed doesn't mean that the statement isn't true. It just means those people haven't truly renewed their minds or trusted in the Lord yet. Everyone is a work in progress in the hands of God. Also there are wolves in sheep's clothing who claim to be Christians and who are not. Unhealed or evil people are not God. It's funny how you can say the universe is loving but deny God. I also hate religion however I love God and I love Jesus Christ. Religion is evil. God is good.
To me happiness is the peace of mind in knowing I am responsible for setting the boundaries to honor my needs without needing another persons approval. I only need my own approval of my self. Respecting and honoring my needs. Since I finally woke to this I'm much more at peace and happier. I respect your teachings Mr Fletcher.
Wow, your story tonight was exactly the nudge in the right direction I was needing. Thank you.
Very timely, I’ve been thinking about discipline and how I can bring myself to peace without searching for it. I appreciate you making it all more clear by talking about the twelve needs
Giving your body and soul the chance to feel safe
Finding healthy people is a bit difficult. Maybe next week will give some ideas on attracting them. I've had to let go of a lot of people in my life.
For real. What do they even look like?!
That’s why people have pets
Very timely. Thank you so much 🙏
Faith and Family over Fame or coinciding with career
Thank you, Tim!
Thank you for the story, makes a lot of sense.
depriving of unhappiness does not mean happiness, happiness comes from the truth, the responsibility on my own life with my own will, and the authenticity that I was taken in my childhood. Thus, it comes with the pain mainly. The key point is whether you can maintain the sensibility for feeling the happiness while enduring and taking responsibility of the pain that you must take in.
Then, life gets alive with colours.
Pain is so weird, cause it makes un who we are, and it sometimes protects our authenticity.
Balance Body, Mind, And Spirit
So the need is based on the field of desire, desire for change. Desire is a driving force that represents itself in innumerable attachments and addictions. I think the only way out is acceptance. Total acceptance of the inner experience. Radical acceptance of the inner sensation.
Desire or addiction is an scape of fear, a running away. Only acceptance can subdue the desire for change, which doesn’t mean is passivity. Changes happen automatically with acceptance, because everything rearranges itself depending on our inner experience or perception. Passivity leads to depression. Acceptance leads to growth and the energy necessary to move forward without suffering.
There is a lot of repressed and suppressed emotions in all of us and the only thing we can do to set that energy free is to go through it. Resistance or non-acceptance is what creates suffering or unhappiness. One of the most persistent mechanisms to not feel and repress emotions is thinking, which is based on projection, desire and pride. Another is expression. Also the desire for understanding and analyzing oneself through psychology is a big attachment. The addiction to thinkingness is the addiction to living in illusion.
Sometimes I realize that my thoughts are only illusion and that gives me a great sense of relieve.
We are afraid of silence and peace. We are afraid of love. And we are addicted to drama, negativity and illusion most of all. Accepting that and taking responsibility for it is what we need. We just need to be completely honest with ourselves.
This was great 😊❤
❤ Great Value ❤ 😊
Tim, can you cover radical acceptance?
I grew up C of E but I was never told religion equalled happiness.
I was never directly told this, but it was heavily implied. I knew something was wrong with my family dynamic as a teen when I asked for help with my depression. Literally the first question I was asked multiple times, “well how’s your relationship with God?” I was in youth groups, etc… doin’ the Jesus thing, and all I ever got was pray harder. Things were bad and I started to resent God because I was doing the right things and it didn’t make a difference in how I was treated by my abusive parents. I still kind of do, I almost instinctively think anyone that is hyper religious is hiding deep secrets, and I’m highly distrustful of people heavily involved in Church.
Any recommendations for a marriage retreat for a very dysfunction couple? We live in Colorado. Thank you!
1st run away from the Narc in the relationship
... no need for retreat because for the Narc no retreat will ever change them no matter what...good luck for your quest.
Peace, true joy and contentment comes in a surrendered life to Christ✝️🙏🕊️ Thank you for your wisdom brother
What a sad and misinformed dogmatic statement. Personally, I have continual experience with many, many people who profess their devotion to a Christ based life style - who live the most twisted and bitter existence. Each human being is a cherished and worthy creation of this loving universe. No need to to contaminate there essence with the toxic influence of pass me down religious dogma. Just love and honour your true inherent self worth! 😀
@HenryHopkins-r7i that's merely your own opinion and experience thus far. Just because you've met people who are professing Christians who may still lack the attributes that I discussed doesn't mean that the statement isn't true. It just means those people haven't truly renewed their minds or trusted in the Lord yet. Everyone is a work in progress in the hands of God. Also there are wolves in sheep's clothing who claim to be Christians and who are not. Unhealed or evil people are not God. It's funny how you can say the universe is loving but deny God. I also hate religion however I love God and I love Jesus Christ. Religion is evil. God is good.