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I also had this scarcity mindset with a girl I liked, and because of that I started acting in a way that's not natural for me. Of course I lost her. She probably felt some desperation from me and that turned her off. I have since reflected a lot on this and moving forward with other girls, I will never make the same mistakes again.
Brother that same exact thing happened to me ! You know sometimes we are so insecure about ourselves but in reality those problems just takes place on our head therefore we never make a move I have learned from that mistake I can surely tell you and I can bet till my last dollar that now days taking to women it’s very easy; much love to you all
Matt, It's been two months since I'm going to through a rough breakup, and I'm suffering from breakup depression, anxiety and jealousy. I'm seeing my ex got into a new relationship and posting new pictures on social media, making new friends and enjoying. This is made more depressed because here I can't get over her and she's enjoying her life. Please make your next video about on How to deal with breakup depression, loneliness and jealousy after breakup.
If you watch one of my recent vids titled ‘The Heartbreak That Changed My Life Forever’ I give some tough love advice at the end on how to deal with a breakup. But will make more vids on this topic in the future
i had this mindset especially now that im still recovering from stroke, but now that I decided to work on myself, flipped my mindset and increase my value as a man i lost the fear of losing someone girls to be exact and its so peaceful
Perfect timing. Its not too late to change things up and stop acting like I aint worth anything. You deserve all the fame in the world, thank you bro💪.
Man, thanks for the knowledge you share here on TH-cam. I started implementing this "mindset method" in many other aspects of my life (such as habits, porn, etc.). I literally have a paper on my wall that says, "I'm disciplined, attractive, smart, and I always do the hard work even when I do not feel like it." But I never did (or even thought about) this mindset shift on relationships. Thanks! BTW, I sent you an email.
Love the video Matt. I feel that the mindset that really makes you attractive is one where you love yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and then accept yourself. We often times workout or chase money because we are insecure or fighting our demons inside. Instead I believe we need to be honest with our suffering and accept them. Obviously try to fight back against them, but you have to love yourself before you can give that love.
I didn't care throughout all of high school and no girl cared either and no girl came to me. Now I'm at the end of my 20s and get rejected and sometimes even laughed at for being inexperienced and never having been in a relationship.
I would say it is all about emotional attachment. In a relationship a woman needs to be more emotionally attached than her man. That is also why women more frequently than men accept violence in a relationship. If you are emotionally attached to someone you don't beat that person. A man who beats is not emotionally attached but the woman is emotionally attached to him and therefore she stays with him. This also explains why men who easily become emotionally attached to a woman usually have difficulties to find a woman, they bring more emotional attachment than the woman which will be seen as "needy". And in a relationship as a man you need to be aware of not becoming to much emotionally attached because if you are more emotionally attached than her there will be problems. Some women don't understand this dynamics and therefore try to make their men more emotionally attached which might have negative effect on the relationship. Emotional attachment often leads to adjustments and if a man adjusts to much there will be problems. So the problems in a relationship is usually that women complain about men's lack of emotional attachment and men get bored in the relationship because they aren't emotionally attached and therefore doesn't care about the relationship and instead focus their emotional attachment on other things that become more important like hobbies, friends, playing games and sometimes addictions.
A while ago I overheard two 17 year olds talking at a bar in Cologne next to me. One had a new boyfriend and the other one asked: “Does he beat you?” - “No, why?” - “Then he doesnt love you”
Hi Matt, I'm also working on bettering the lighting for my TH-cam videos. Can you please tell me what lighting accessories & arrangement you used for this video? Your lighting arrangement really looks good. Nice, well lit face!
Matt this is correct I’m 29 and I agree with you. Maybe one of these I’ll add on to what you said so eloquently and make a TH-cam vid myself on this topic.
Matt, since you seem to be in great shape, I also highly recommend you try a brazilian jiu jitsu class at least once. I've personally been doing jiu jitsu the last couple of years along with boxing. Your mind will ascend and learn so many more things in life. Cheers!
Hey Matt, I just watched your video and I must say that it was really informative and well-made. I was wondering if I could help you edit your highly engaging videos and thumbnails which will help your video to reach to a wider audience and increase your subscribers and viewers.
Yeah man thats a good way to attract them, but I feel like when your in a relationship I don´t want the girl to feel like I dont care about her you know, so I dont know and I also like want to have this mindset but on the other way maybe you should show that you care but still have yourself under control and I would also like to be more myself than just a guy that dont cares about anyone. I would like to know your opinion.
I’ve made lots of videos on this. Check out my Addiction playlist. Here’s what I always tell guys, you have to fully commit to the fact that it’s going to suck. There’s no easy way to do it. You will suffer for a couple weeks because your body/mind wants it so badly. But honestly I recommend going cold turkey. Trust me from experience each day after the first few days to a week of being miserable it gets easier and easier
Hey Matt, I need some advice. I am really good friends with a girl and I happen to work with her, I happen to like her and want to ask her out but I don't want to possibly ruin our friendship or work experience together. We go to college together and neither of us graduate for a couple years. But I just want to hear you out because I have no idea what to do.
yo bro go for it 100% it’s better to try and fail than to never try and live in regret. also, DONT EXPECT ANYTHING. she may reject you, that’s okay, you still have yourself (know your worth/value). if she says yes, good job :) ALSO KEEP IN MIND ANYTHING OTHER THAN A HELL YES IS A NO if she’s like uhh maybe? no i can’t right now but maybe later? no no? no aww you’re so sweet? no also don’t just ask her to be your gf, ask her on a date. give a specific date and time. if she’s interested she’ll make it easy. if she’s not interested, you’ll be confused. you got this soldier know your worth 🫡🫡
Tbh either is fine. Say you’re being friendly with a girl and then you realize oh damn I actually like her. Then you ask her out. Or you can shoot your shot from the start. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with. Me personally I would be friendly with a girl and that usually lead to flirting if I liked her and then would ask her out
@@MattSpear99 sounds good, thanks Matt! I think being friendly first is the way to go. I remember I tried talking to this girl in person in this program we both went too and it seemed like we hit it off but after I gave her my number she never texted me and never came to the program again (I'm wondering if it was because of me). But I feel like we didn't have rapport/she didn't know me. Now I'm talking to this other girl and we're just friends and she seems so interested and we're going to the mall this Saturday. If I feel a deeper connection I'll definitely ask her on more dates and start flirting :)
these videos help me calm down my anxiety
I also had this scarcity mindset with a girl I liked, and because of that I started acting in a way that's not natural for me. Of course I lost her. She probably felt some desperation from me and that turned her off. I have since reflected a lot on this and moving forward with other girls, I will never make the same mistakes again.
Good man
Brother that same exact thing happened to me ! You know sometimes we are so insecure about ourselves but in reality those problems just takes place on our head therefore we never make a move I have learned from that mistake I can surely tell you and I can bet till my last dollar that now days taking to women it’s very easy; much love to you all
Same bro, it turned into a lesson
i quit porn and social media bc of you bro 🤞🏻
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Fake it till you make it. But take it on another serious level. Work hard on improving yourself externally and internally while you’re “faking it”.
Matt, It's been two months since I'm going to through a rough breakup, and I'm suffering from breakup depression, anxiety and jealousy. I'm seeing my ex got into a new relationship and posting new pictures on social media, making new friends and enjoying. This is made more depressed because here I can't get over her and she's enjoying her life.
Please make your next video about on How to deal with breakup depression, loneliness and jealousy after breakup.
Unfollow or block her....or deactivate your accounts and work on yourself. Hit the gym, hangout with friends/family. Stay busy.
Block her on everything man , and just avoid her try to keep ur mind busy man workout, get a job if u don't have one and time will do its thing
If you watch one of my recent vids titled ‘The Heartbreak That Changed My Life Forever’ I give some tough love advice at the end on how to deal with a breakup. But will make more vids on this topic in the future
i had this mindset especially now that im still recovering from stroke, but now that I decided to work on myself, flipped my mindset and increase my value as a man i lost the fear of losing someone girls to be exact and its so peaceful
Perfect timing. Its not too late to change things up and stop acting like I aint worth anything. You deserve all the fame in the world, thank you bro💪.
Literally perfect timing
Man, thanks for the knowledge you share here on TH-cam. I started implementing this "mindset method" in many other aspects of my life (such as habits, porn, etc.). I literally have a paper on my wall that says, "I'm disciplined, attractive, smart, and I always do the hard work even when I do not feel like it." But I never did (or even thought about) this mindset shift on relationships. Thanks!
BTW, I sent you an email.
Love the video Matt. I feel that the mindset that really makes you attractive is one where you love yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and then accept yourself. We often times workout or chase money because we are insecure or fighting our demons inside. Instead I believe we need to be honest with our suffering and accept them. Obviously try to fight back against them, but you have to love yourself before you can give that love.
I'm very ugly I hate myself j don't know how to love myself I hate life n everything init n cba anymore I've given up on dating
Gabe dawg lite
Thank you for this
Thanks Matt. Great video as always.
We will all die after all, realizing this helped me to stopped caring too much.
This video came to me at a perfect timing. I needed to hear this because of a situation I’m going through with a girl I like. Thank you very much!
I needed to hear this!
Yes sir hope you’re good Matt
Best life lesson❤
I didn't care throughout all of high school and no girl cared either and no girl came to me. Now I'm at the end of my 20s and get rejected and sometimes even laughed at for being inexperienced and never having been in a relationship.
Thanks brotha and appreciate the work out routine
So true!! Stop chasing, be the best that you can be. Earn & wear that PRIDE, everything in life will eventually fall into place!!
Be the ATTRACTOR!!
Man i just came across your channel and i've gotta say that i'm more motivated than ever to try and fix my fucking life, thanks my man.
thanks man ♥
Man i needed this. Thanks
Ignited the fire again. 💪
A nice day for a brother Matt vid 💯💯💯
Lesson:Know your worth!
Thanks brah😎👑🤝
Love your content bro keep up the grind
I would say it is all about emotional attachment.
In a relationship a woman needs to be more emotionally attached than her man.
That is also why women more frequently than men accept violence in a relationship.
If you are emotionally attached to someone you don't beat that person. A man who beats is not emotionally attached but the woman is emotionally attached to him and therefore she stays with him.
This also explains why men who easily become emotionally attached to a woman usually have difficulties to find a woman, they bring more emotional attachment than the woman which will be seen as "needy".
And in a relationship as a man you need to be aware of not becoming to much emotionally attached because if you are more emotionally attached than her there will be problems.
Some women don't understand this dynamics and therefore try to make their men more emotionally attached which might have negative effect on the relationship. Emotional attachment often leads to adjustments and if a man adjusts to much there will be problems.
So the problems in a relationship is usually that women complain about men's lack of emotional attachment and men get bored in the relationship because they aren't emotionally attached and therefore doesn't care about the relationship and instead focus their emotional attachment on other things that become more important like hobbies, friends, playing games and sometimes addictions.
A while ago I overheard two 17 year olds talking at a bar in Cologne next to me. One had a new boyfriend and the other one asked: “Does he beat you?” - “No, why?” - “Then he doesnt love you”
"If you were a girl, with all the options they have, would you date you?"
I agree with some of the ideas, but I think it's not thinking that I'm better but doing better things for myself that I'm going to have that thought.
This video is absolutely strong! 👀 Damn, u killed it! 💪🏻
Hi Matt, I'm also working on bettering the lighting for my TH-cam videos. Can you please tell me what lighting accessories & arrangement you used for this video?
Your lighting arrangement really looks good. Nice, well lit face!
Matt this is correct I’m 29 and I agree with you. Maybe one of these I’ll add on to what you said so eloquently and make a TH-cam vid myself on this topic.
Matt, since you seem to be in great shape, I also highly recommend you try a brazilian jiu jitsu class at least once. I've personally been doing jiu jitsu the last couple of years along with boxing. Your mind will ascend and learn so many more things in life. Cheers!
This is crazy came at exactly the right time
Good morning brothers
good morning
And good night to the other brothers
Good afternoon my brother
@@MattSpear99 I had a set back today but now I’m more motivated than ever to quit this disgusting addiction and improve myself.
You have no idea how much I related.
How did TH-cam know that I quit social media yesterday and that I have a little crush on a girl at my college?
Matt, now you're talking like Casey Zander. You two have a lot in common, probably more than you think.
I’ve been trying the not needy approach for a while but still single lol
Hey Matt, I just watched your video and I must say that it was really informative and well-made. I was wondering if I could help you edit your highly engaging videos and thumbnails which will help your video to reach to a wider audience and increase your subscribers and viewers.
If your ugly u can't get that confidence woman's always hating u giving u crap so this a load of crap this is advice for good looking guys only
Yeah man thats a good way to attract them, but I feel like when your in a relationship I don´t want the girl to feel like I dont care about her you know, so I dont know and I also like want to have this mindset but on the other way maybe you should show that you care but still have yourself under control and I would also like to be more myself than just a guy that dont cares about anyone. I would like to know your opinion.
I am afraid of losing virginity Am going to loose it 😂
Hey Matt I’m new here man what would be your best advice to quit smoking weed and vapes
I’ve made lots of videos on this. Check out my Addiction playlist. Here’s what I always tell guys, you have to fully commit to the fact that it’s going to suck. There’s no easy way to do it. You will suffer for a couple weeks because your body/mind wants it so badly. But honestly I recommend going cold turkey. Trust me from experience each day after the first few days to a week of being miserable it gets easier and easier
I AM THE PRIZE mindset.
I'm a girl but I'm definitely taking you're advice because I'm too much of a simp
This is exactly why Dallas Cowboys can't win because their fans be putting them on the pedestal 😂
Hey Matt, I need some advice. I am really good friends with a girl and I happen to work with her, I happen to like her and want to ask her out but I don't want to possibly ruin our friendship or work experience together. We go to college together and neither of us graduate for a couple years. But I just want to hear you out because I have no idea what to do.
yo bro go for it 100%
it’s better to try and fail than to never try and live in regret. also, DONT EXPECT ANYTHING. she may reject you, that’s okay, you still have yourself (know your worth/value). if she says yes, good job :)
ALSO KEEP IN MIND ANYTHING OTHER THAN A HELL YES IS A NO
if she’s like uhh maybe? no
i can’t right now but maybe later? no
no? no
aww you’re so sweet? no
also don’t just ask her to be your gf, ask her on a date. give a specific date and time. if she’s interested she’ll make it easy. if she’s not interested, you’ll be confused. you got this soldier know your worth 🫡🫡
I don't fear about her rejecting me, I fear losing a friendship. @@0v3rtd
I am a playboy and i can say for sure, whenever I put girls below me, and put myself above them, they would come after me. I bet
I am the prize. When you meet an attractive girl, tell yourself she is only a 4 then you will feel higher value
I sometimes have this idea in my mind where I view myself as what I call "anti - charismatic". A guy who just attracts women for little to no reason.
Day 5 of wanting to get to konw Matt Spear personally!!!😁😊
Haha appreciate you bro!
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I have no other options. No women are interested.
hey matt do you think it’s better to be friendly with girls > start talking more > ask them out on a date
or?
meet pretty girl > ask her on a date
Tbh either is fine. Say you’re being friendly with a girl and then you realize oh damn I actually like her. Then you ask her out. Or you can shoot your shot from the start. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with. Me personally I would be friendly with a girl and that usually lead to flirting if I liked her and then would ask her out
@@MattSpear99 sounds good, thanks Matt! I think being friendly first is the way to go. I remember I tried talking to this girl in person in this program we both went too and it seemed like we hit it off but after I gave her my number she never texted me and never came to the program again (I'm wondering if it was because of me). But I feel like we didn't have rapport/she didn't know me. Now I'm talking to this other girl and we're just friends and she seems so interested and we're going to the mall this Saturday. If I feel a deeper connection I'll definitely ask her on more dates and start flirting :)
While it shows hot guy who's a foot taller than the girl. How do i get your damn video's from coming upon ao frequently?
Matt can you fake moan once for the sake of memes please