It's interesting how some gay people will subconsciously bury the feelings to fit in when they were younger. When I was 12 my older brother's friend stayed with us one summer after he got out of the army. He was 20 and stayed in my room since it had twin beds. He slept in the nude and several times I'd woke up to find he'd moved the covers off during the night (it was summer after all). My 12 year old brain exploded and I didn't know what was going on, but I still didn't realize what it meant until well into my high school years. Even then I tried to make myself think it was just a phase until after I graduated.
I knew when I was about 10 and I cried to my mum and sister cos something was wrong but I wouldn’t say what and didn’t even have the words. Took me until about 15 to get it and I still think I was super young but people will tell me they knew when they were way younger it really is weird.
I feel sorry for you guys, for actually denying who you are. There are only two genders men and women that's it. Humans have feelings good and bad. If a person wants to steal a thing he firstly has feelings that he wants to steal now it really depends on his action he does it or not. Which means you can hve bad feelings , you can have bad thoughts but what matters is what your action is on that feeling
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g Gay men (and women and bisexual folks) have no confusion about what gender we are. We're not transexual. Go preach your line to someone else.
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4gWhat are you speaking about as what does that concept have to do with what orientation one's sexuality is? And what of people that have XXY, XYY etc; or those that do have XY, but have androgen insensitivity that they turn out outwardly as female (as that's the default sex form if you have no hormones in your development,) and are not fertile. Or, the intersex people, meaning those that have part sexual organs in varying degrees, of both sexes. Are those people boy or girl and are they gay or straight and more so, of whom do they identify as- a boy, or as a girl? There is definitely NOT just boy or girl straightforwardly. Note: There were very young children that were intersex (undefined) that were operated upon to make them a girl. Grew up and said since they could articulate, that they were a boy! One famous case, he committed suicide because of it. Who you identify as, is in the brain from the get go. Just like some physical boys and some physical girls say they're in the wrong body!
What Nick says about feeling like he was "the only one" is of course something that almost all gay kids experience. But it was definitely heightened by the fact that he was living 24/7 with two other boys who were virtually carbon copies of himself and who (supposedly) processed and reacted to things in the same way that he did. Knowing as he did that there was a distinct difference between him and his brothers must have been a very tough pill to swallow at first and it probably made him feel uncomfortable and strange. I'm glad he emerged emotionally intact from that situation, and also that his brothers have been so accepting of him. That speaks well of their upbringing.
This kid is 15 years younger than me and has a very similar story to mine... Although I will say the calling things "gay" as a negative was happening during my highschool years, not third grade. Came out when I was 16, but when I was in second grade I was vocal and unapologetic about my absolute love for Zac Hanson... So they should've seen it coming.
I knew I was attracted to men since the age of 6. I wasn't sexually/emotionally attracted to men until after puberty. I've never been attracted to women other than as friends. All of my thoughts felt natural to me. I never thought of them as "intrusive" or unnatural. I knew the problem wasn't me.
I mean you can “naturally” have thoughts or inclinations of infidelity or theft or even murder; just because it occurs in nature does not mean it is moral or correct. Not judging you though, I also was exclusively same-sex attracted ever since I could remember, 1st grade being the first occurrence and it only increasing as I hit puberty. I just don’t think the last comment is accurate, we aren’t released of responsibility just because we genuinely have the desire.
I remember when I first realised I was gay. There was never any angst or suppression of my sexuality, I believe it took some time to legitimately develop when I was about 12-15. Went through a phase where I knew I wasn't straight but was only physically attracted to men while physically/romantically attracted to women. Then I had my first crush on one of my good friends at the time when I was about 16 and that's when I started to become physically/romantically attracted to men while only romantically attracted to women. It only took about 6-8 months after that to only be attracted to men and not women, and that's when I knew for sure I was gay. It's interesting because I never tried to suppress anything - even at 12 yrs old, I was very open with myself about who I was. I didn't feel like anyone "deserved" to know my sexuality, and they would find out if I told them or they could speculate.
Went through the same phases as you. I told myself for the longest that I was straight because while I was physically attracted to guys I was romantically attracted to woman. After I found both in a man, my attraction to woman now is completely non-existent.
Some gay people know such as myself since age 12 some don’t discover it till later. What matters is you find yourself eventually. It may take time but it will happen
True. I knew super young, but didn't REALLY realize what it meant until I was about 12 or so. I remember it blew my mind once I realized, I vividly remember waking up one morning and saying holy crap! I'm gay!! It was a lot to deal to say the least especially in the 80s
As far back as I can remember, I got excited by shirtless men, not women in bikinis. I convinced myself that would change as I got older, but it didn't. My self loathing damaged my mental health and relationships with both sexes, and I badly mistreated a gf by denying the truth to myself. It was not until my 40's that I accepted the truth about my own nature, much too late
I remember having crushes on boys in kindergarten but they didn't register as crushes or gay bc I didn't even know what that was. Only in hindsight did I realize what that was. Then at 13/14yo puberty and sex drive became a thing and I knew I was attracted to boys but wasn't able to admit it to myself. By the time I was 16 I accepted it and at 18 I was completely fine being gay.
I recall feeling attraction for the same gender in first grade around age seven. Then by age nine those feelings became more developed around the thoughts of intimate acts and I knew I was gay and kept it quiet to everyone till about 16, and then only close trusted family and friends.
My sister would tell her boy friends " my brother is gay." Then somehow, she would invite 2 guys to the house for a date. She intended to give me one. That was a hit mess. The guy that paid more attention to me, I picked. She went out with the other. What a life.😊
At age 53 now, coming from a traditional Irish Catholic background in Rural Ireland in the 1980’s where being gay was a big taboo, it was much more difficult for me as I was raised an only child and amid traditional Catholic concepts about “bad company” and “occasions of sin” in any contacts outside of the immediate family circle, to uphold the good name of the parish and the family, where the local Catholic Parish priest, the local doctor and the police seargent ruled our village with a Rod of iron - I had no friends in school, in fact I was intensely bullied, was labelled as “mad” and “not right in the head” when I first came out - in fact, my parents reaction to my coming out was to frogmarch me to the Parish priest to confess to the sin of being gay, then to be told in no uncertain terms by the police seargent that I was “not well and not right in the head” and to go to the doctor - I endured pills and severe corporal punishment to cure me of being gay, but then, the gay people I met on the Dublin gay scene, especially other gay men, were totally unaccepting, bitchy, catty and judgemental and this continued up until after I’d moved to the U.K. in 2002 where I had the same reaction - although now reconciled with my family in Ireland, I cut all ties with and support from the gay community 18 years ago here in the U.K. and I’ve become a traditional Catholic and an Irish patriot, involved in the Irish truth and patriot movement since Covid, despite my autism diagnosis in 2021, even though some in the Irish truth and patriot movement (understandably) don’t accept my gay identity due to their traditional Irish Catholic beliefs
As someone with Irish ancestry who has visited and has an affinity for Dublin, it makes me sad to hear you had a bad experience coming out and not feeling welcomed by the gay folks there. I’ve heard from many that the gay community in Dublin is quite friendly and down to earth, though there will always be some unkind people in any community. I find it interesting that rebelling against your being gay threw you into what sounds like a fairly extremist group, but that’s not uncommon. If you don’t mind me asking, are you voluntarily celibate and never date and have no romantic interactions?
i wish queer conservative people were more accepted among conservatives, sometimes being queer doesn't make us more liberal, im gay as well and the newer lgbt people and rules are so weird, we need to stand up for what we believe in.
@@spheksophobiaurinal Are you an anti-trans gay person? I know some gay people who have nuanced views of the trans stuff and arent always happy to be lumped in with every alphabet letter under the sun.
@@spheksophobiaurinalwhat is the point of being a gay conservative? You're not accepted by other conservatives and you're stabbing your fellow gay men in the back too... Seems like shooting your own foot
It's kinda sad that the conservative community made you go through so much pain for something that isn't your fault, and you still sided with them in the end of the day. Are we really supposed to believe that every queer person you have ever met was an annoying scumbag caricature? Or maybe you're the problem?
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g You will never get the attention you deserve for treating other humans like trash. You keep replying to other people, I've seen your comments. The hate and darkness in your heart will consume you until the day you leave this Earth. Change your ways, learn to love and accept other humans for something completely natural, or you will not live a happy life. Watch yourself
I went to this church camp for the first time with my friend. I must’ve been like 9 or 10. The camp areas were separated with boys and girls in separate areas. One of the counselors that stayed our cabin was also the drummer in the band. He was like in his late teens, I’m guessing 17-19. I had the biggest crush on him the whole time. I’ve had crush-like feelings towards boys before but I didn’t really recognize it as that until later. This time was very obvious to me. I just found everything about him very appealing. I would find any excuse to talk to him. Honestly, a lot about that week really opened my eyes to the fact that I liked boys in more than just a friendly way. Not to mention my friend’s crazy friend ran from the showers back to the cabin naked, without the counselors noticing lol. It’s kind of ironic how all this happened at a Christian camp.
I knew I was gay at 9... Except I didn't know what gay, homosexual or straight were! I just knew guys my age turned me on on another level. I even thought the other guys in my class were not developed yet, because they didn't get excited in the showers after physical ed. Instead they childishly wanted to bother the girls 😅 It was years later that I learned that straight was normal and gay was really really really really bad (mid 1990s, southwest Europe). Then, I went to a phase of denial (after having known for few years already) and was in the closet until too late, tbh. Having had positive representation or some acknowledgement that it's ok to be gay, would have helped to have a better life for so many years. I just don't want new generations to go through the same: representation in media comforts and brings understanding to gay kids, it does not "convert" the straight ones
I went to a private school up till high school I knew something was different about me in 5th/6th grade I started noticing myself attracted to men in a way I wasn't attracted to females. Had a major life event being moved out of state and to a small city for my first year of high school/public school in 04 so I suppressed alot of stuff was angry all the time it wasn't till after high school and finally accepting myself that I started to feel happy.
I am of an older generation and my time, my country, being gay wasn't even a concept ever talk about (positively or negatively), People just don't openly talk about sex, str or otherwise. Since internet was a new thing in my teens, I don't even realized what gay is (it's also a time when TV only started to mention there is such a concept), I figure out when I realized I only ever check out guys, never girls. And I have fetishes long before I realized what they are, or what sex is. Figuring it out when there is no negative stigma or preconception to be had, makes things a lot easier.
I see gay people call people gay "negatively" all the time. It's like if you're gay, you're excused to do it, even if you're doing it with the intention of mocking someone, whether they're part of the community or not. So, I guess this whole thing is more complex than just deflecting, honestly.
I see 11 and 12 year old boys saying "gay" negatively all the time because they are insecure about their sexuality. Usually they grow up, mature and grow out of that hopefully.
@@Matthew-ij3zm I think openly gay people calling others "gay" is NEVER serious, it's more like an expression or to just joke about on something not using it in a negative way, though it's a completely different thing to closeted gays where they use it more in a derogatory way to probably avoid suspicions because of their denial and insecurity.
In my high school years, I would dream of doing intimate acts with my close male friends. I genuinely thought it was just a phase, a mess of teenage hormones. However, I would go to college, and the sheer beauty of two of my male teammates took me aback. Subconsciously I knew something was up. However, my teammates knew before I did, and they crafted our conversations to imply that I was gay. It wouldn’t be until March of my freshman year of college when I finally accepted that I was gay. I bless the souls of my teammates, who always supported me the entire time and never treated me poorly because of my sexual confusions
Which helps a lot. No offense to anyone who isn't attractive. But looks matter in this matrix filled life. I came out at 13. Because I knew it would be easier than waiting until I was older and wanted to deal with it then instead of having to deal with it later. I knew when I was young as 10. But came out because I was about to head for a trip to Hollywood, planned out. So yep back in 2008 I came out and the next month I went on my vacation . Came out just a couple years after puberty which was around 10 when I started; I knew the white stuff that shot out of my dick wasn't urine also due to the feeling so I knew my body was changing. Then at 13, I was out. Here I am today at 29 where people are identifying with everything that I can't keep up. All the pronouns and some identifying as a cat; I can't catch up. But yeah, good looks do a lot. People who say looks don't matter are lying.
It's LIKE... super unattractive! Seriously, I broke up with someone because that was their normal way of speaking. I didn't want a boyfriend who sounded like they were mimicking some 80s girl
I was eleven when I realised I was gay. I went to a summer arts and crafts class, and there was a guy there who I thought was really good-looking, and I used to find excuses to work with him, and I used to go to the class purely to see him. I didn't actually know what "gay" meant until I was fourteen, and that is when I realised it. I admitted it to myself when I was lying in bed one night, unable to sleep, going through everything in my mind, and realised that I liked guys and not girls.
I think sometimes we forget that people are not their partners. I get that totally feeling like liking the other gender when in your head Person A = Person B, so you confuse that. It's not that you don't know they are separate people but you kinda think of them as a pair.
I knew I was gay in kindergarten. I expressed it by beating up the other boys :) I suppressed it until I was tricked into coming out at 22 years of age. I should have done it sooner but then I met a man at a gay bar. He was in his late 80s. A group of us were siting with him, sharing a drink, when he started to get heart pain. We helped him to his car to get his glycerin. On the way he said, "If I die, take me across the street. My wife can't find me here". Coming out at 22 is not so bad. It's a personal journey for everyone....but life is too short to be unhappy.
You took the "likes" right out of my mouth. I didn't finish this video because I think by the two minute mark, he'd already said "like" about 39 times. Or, like, 39 times.
Boom 💥 that’s what I was thinking 💭 “this guy is LIKE- trying to, Like tell us… Like how his life has been Like one discovery Like after the next. Like Literally”
It’s called a delaying-filler word/phrase; just like “you know” or “I mean”. Perfectly normal type of speech that especially creeps up when one is nervous.
That's very gracious of you, but there is nothing that "crept up" here. That is clearly the way he like, you know, like, you know, like talks.@@simplicitylost
@@robertlynch1404 Um†, I mean†, being interviewed by someone about your personal life could be nerve-wracking, you know†. Well†, I think at least. My linguistics teacher would be like†: So†, it’s a natural part of speech. †All delaying fillers
he has a video on his youtube channel with his brothers called "coming out story time *very personal*" in case you wanna check his story entirely!! their youtube channel is called "sturniolo triplets"
It’s funny, everyone’s story is different, but I felt different from my earliest memory, for some reason, behaviourally I acted like most kids but I just felt not the same. Then up till puberty all your interaction is pretty much same sex and there were boys I definitely felt I wanted to ‘be with’ all the time, sit beside etc, even though you’re at the age where it’s not sexual yet. By the time I was 13 I could put a name to it, I had a longing for one boy in my history class, and it hurt to be away from him, I knew that meant where I came from that your were queer, not in the reclaimed sense, the old fashioned homophobic sense. I can remember that realisation hitting me one day, getting home from school 13-14 feeling so depressed and thinking wow, I really am one of those. The area I work in now is supporting LGBTQ teens, I want their initial realisation to be positive not negative. But my story is anything but negative over all. I walked into a gay bar aged 22 in 1988, on my own, knew no one, and a group of people invited me over to drink with them so I wasn’t on my own. In amongst those people were now friends of 36 years, and my husband Owen, for whom I’m now celebrating a decade of marriage and far longer of love. The message is simple - follow your heart, and no matter how difficult, never deny or apologise for who you are.
This is what I don’t understand: identical siblings are genetically the same person but split inside the womb, so, if being gay is genetic, why is he the only one who turned out queer?
other things you probably also don’t understand: Why can identical twins have different allergies? Why can identical twins have only one twin who develops cancer? Why would identical twins be attracted to different types of people? Why might identical twins have different tastes in food? Why might identical twins like different kinds of music? Why do identical twins have different personalities? Why do identical twins have different conscious experiences of self? Why are identical twins not just quantum-entangled opposite-spin particle-level clones of one another with completely identical experience of personhood? It seems you believe the fully incorrect and unscientific notion that “anything that can describe a person is EITHER a personal choice OR genetic”, so this will not be easy to understand for you.
I know this an old comment but he came out years before he was famous. He’s 20 here but came out at 15/16 I think it probably helped them actually grow their career and him being gay didn’t negatively impact their popularity, because a dynamic of 3 good looking triplets and one is gay is interesting to view. You can also see how his two bothers having him being the queer older brother definitely made them different from most other young men
@@jackiesobe Filler words of any kind are lazy and unintelligent. We all use them from time to time but when it’s every other word that comes out of your mouth, it’s quite irritating.
@@oneironaut420 to call any filler words “unintelligent” is CRAZY. Lazy, sure, but using filler words is in no way indicative of someone’s intelligence. Everyone is different - that’d be like saying an introvert is automatically less intelligent because they don’t talk as much in the first place. That’s just a super weird and unfair assumption.
@@jackiesobe Filler words are lazy. Yes there are some exceptions like people who are introverted or autistic, but this is not the case with most people. This guy does not appear to be anything but lazy.
do you really think so??? i’m from ohio and it always seems to be pretty accepting, especially compared to the south. i know he’s from massachusetts, so maybe it’s even *better* there, but i’ve never thought that the homophobia here was particularly bad.
I knew for sure in K grade that I enjoyed seeing the other guys at the urinals, and back then, there wasn't all the pee shyness/modesty like now, so it was all the trough-style urinals. We looked at and compared pickles and had peeing contests. I saw my first guys with foreskins back then, which blew my mind. It was the coolest thing. Being that age, we just thought you came with them, or without them, you know, like innies or outies bellybuttons. The odd thing is that my best friend, who had been best friends since we were 10, was killed in a car crash. I loved him very much, but after he died, I lost all attraction for guys, ended up married to a woman, and had 3 children, which was 26 years ago.
So sorry to hear that! But I am glad you found happiness. This is actually not uncommon in the bisexual community. To have attraction to both genders but one is the preference.
I was never around gay people, i just knew i was gay like i knew my hair was dark or my own ethnicity. Zoomers really are far from being the brightest gen i swear to god. It wasn’t ironic you were just making up issues to attract attention from your family to your own orientations because one way or another even if we have accepting families, our extended family might not and the rest of the world isn’t necessarily either and just hearing shit str8 people say casually growing up is a mindfck to a growing young gay individual. You didnt have a crush on her she was just a friend, friends are like siblings. Gen Z really aren’t the brightest people generation. Thats why they had to rename friendship platonic love romantic relationships. She probably was close enough to his core people but not close enough as to where he couldnt tell her stuff without her going back and telling the family and he probably doesnt have sisters and growing up with brother probably made him feel uncomfortable to share his feelings wherther it was reality or in his head. ‘Gay’ men like him make me uncomfortable as a gay man cus they skew what it means to be gay and irremediably perpetuate c.therapy talking points and people like zach haggle at it cus it fits with their str8 pov, even tho the guy specified that it wasn’t for a long period or even really defining anything at that point cus even she knew he didnt have any feelings for her because he most probably didnt act like he even cared for her like that.
1. This is prime TL:DR category. 2, The generational blaming, bashing and generalizing is not applicable or smart as an argument. 3, I've had (very notable) crushes on girls up to age 13 or so. Then puberty ramped up and I'm all dick-4-dick
@@adam9321idk i think the question is valid. the reason you wouldn’t ask a straight person how they knew they were straight is because it’s seen as the default anyway. recognizing that you’re different in some way is always something to talk about, so i don’t really find it weird that he asked.
I was never around gay people, i just knew i was gay like i knew my hair was dark or my own ethnicity. Zoomers really are far from being the brightest gen i swear to god.
i think while this is true for you, everyone has a different experience and some people genuinely don’t know for a long time! and even if you *think* you know, it may take time to fully understand it or accept it. if that makes sense
I think you still need quite a bit of maturing to do my dude. Not everyone is you, and your story isn't everyone's. To insult someone and essentially call them stupid because they weren't like you is beyond ridiculous. And since you mentioned generation, I also think there is some projection of some kind going on.
his experience is valid because its his experience. not everyone grows up in the same context or environment and thinks the same. like he said, for ex, he compared himself a lot to his triplet brothers and thought that he had to go through what they went through. how tf are you gonna dictate or negate someones experience just cause yours was different? its not abnormal for different people to take different times in understanding who they are, especially when it goes against the "norm".
This is a great example of why we should no be putting kids on hormones (or contemplating surgery) until early to mid 20's when our brain is fully developed. We don't and can't truly know ourselves until then.
Ok. I agree that surgery isn't the best choice. Not even the second best. But hormon blockers literally just give you time and stop puberty to think about it. It just stops your body from developing features you might not want. I don't think they should be blocked for teens. Besides some teens are more mature then others. You don't just go around telling people you are trans at 14. It's also not just for that reason. Hormone blockers can be used for cis people as well. So I respectfully disagree. What you said could easily be a reason for hormone therapy as well. We don't know ourselves till then. Why stop people in the process of figuring that out. You can easily stop hormonal therapy.
I knew I was gay from a very young age.. I had a friend I use to hang out with who was like 10 at the time I was 7 and we would go in his back room to “play monopoly” or so we would tell his mom when in all reality we was back there getting down🫢😂 we went at it like all the time for a couple years until his mom caught us and told my mom. I never once saw it as wrong or questioned it though because I enjoyed every bit of it. LOL from that point I knew I was so much more into guys than girls.
It's interesting how some gay people will subconsciously bury the feelings to fit in when they were younger. When I was 12 my older brother's friend stayed with us one summer after he got out of the army. He was 20 and stayed in my room since it had twin beds. He slept in the nude and several times I'd woke up to find he'd moved the covers off during the night (it was summer after all). My 12 year old brain exploded and I didn't know what was going on, but I still didn't realize what it meant until well into my high school years. Even then I tried to make myself think it was just a phase until after I graduated.
I knew when I was about 10 and I cried to my mum and sister cos something was wrong but I wouldn’t say what and didn’t even have the words. Took me until about 15 to get it and I still think I was super young but people will tell me they knew when they were way younger it really is weird.
I feel sorry for you guys, for actually denying who you are. There are only two genders men and women that's it. Humans have feelings good and bad. If a person wants to steal a thing he firstly has feelings that he wants to steal now it really depends on his action he does it or not. Which means you can hve bad feelings , you can have bad thoughts but what matters is what your action is on that feeling
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g Gay men (and women and bisexual folks) have no confusion about what gender we are. We're not transexual. Go preach your line to someone else.
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g I couldn't give a flying fuck about what you feel dude.
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4gWhat are you speaking about as what does that concept have to do with what orientation one's sexuality is?
And what of people that have XXY, XYY etc; or those that do have XY, but have androgen insensitivity that they turn out outwardly as female (as that's the default sex form if you have no hormones in your development,) and are not fertile.
Or, the intersex people, meaning those that have part sexual organs in varying degrees, of both sexes. Are those people boy or girl and are they gay or straight and more so, of whom do they identify as- a boy, or as a girl?
There is definitely NOT just boy or girl straightforwardly.
Note: There were very young children that were intersex (undefined) that were operated upon to make them a girl. Grew up and said since they could articulate, that they were a boy! One famous case, he committed suicide because of it. Who you identify as, is in the brain from the get go. Just like some physical boys and some physical girls say they're in the wrong body!
What Nick says about feeling like he was "the only one" is of course something that almost all gay kids experience. But it was definitely heightened by the fact that he was living 24/7 with two other boys who were virtually carbon copies of himself and who (supposedly) processed and reacted to things in the same way that he did. Knowing as he did that there was a distinct difference between him and his brothers must have been a very tough pill to swallow at first and it probably made him feel uncomfortable and strange. I'm glad he emerged emotionally intact from that situation, and also that his brothers have been so accepting of him. That speaks well of their upbringing.
This kid is 15 years younger than me and has a very similar story to mine... Although I will say the calling things "gay" as a negative was happening during my highschool years, not third grade. Came out when I was 16, but when I was in second grade I was vocal and unapologetic about my absolute love for Zac Hanson... So they should've seen it coming.
I don't think you came out.. You are still in egg especially your mind
omg bang chan spotted
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4ghis profile picture indicates to me that he never had to come out. He's got a face that screams "yass queen!"
@@jackchop1576 I don't know about that... But I think you are one of them.... !
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4gI think that’s a kpop person
I knew I was attracted to men since the age of 6. I wasn't sexually/emotionally attracted to men until after puberty. I've never been attracted to women other than as friends. All of my thoughts felt natural to me. I never thought of them as "intrusive" or unnatural. I knew the problem wasn't me.
I mean you can “naturally” have thoughts or inclinations of infidelity or theft or even murder; just because it occurs in nature does not mean it is moral or correct. Not judging you though, I also was exclusively same-sex attracted ever since I could remember, 1st grade being the first occurrence and it only increasing as I hit puberty. I just don’t think the last comment is accurate, we aren’t released of responsibility just because we genuinely have the desire.
@@TheGreatDetectiveKnowsand yet being gay IS moral and correct what is your point?
@@TheGreatDetectiveKnows stop doing drugs bro
I remember when I first realised I was gay. There was never any angst or suppression of my sexuality, I believe it took some time to legitimately develop when I was about 12-15.
Went through a phase where I knew I wasn't straight but was only physically attracted to men while physically/romantically attracted to women. Then I had my first crush on one of my good friends at the time when I was about 16 and that's when I started to become physically/romantically attracted to men while only romantically attracted to women. It only took about 6-8 months after that to only be attracted to men and not women, and that's when I knew for sure I was gay. It's interesting because I never tried to suppress anything - even at 12 yrs old, I was very open with myself about who I was. I didn't feel like anyone "deserved" to know my sexuality, and they would find out if I told them or they could speculate.
Went through the same phases as you.
I told myself for the longest that I was straight because while I was physically attracted to guys I was romantically attracted to woman. After I found both in a man, my attraction to woman now is completely non-existent.
Fascinating story and situation as a triplet.
It's actually heartbreaking him not understanding he is a man.
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g how does he not understand he is a man, his epiphany was about his sexuality it had nothign to do with gender.
They both are the same. Your gender defines your sexuality not sexuality defines your gender...
at the end of the day he is a man who likes men, so where is the disconnect?
@@ced.ricooo you need to consult a doctor.. Otherwise you will identify yourself an animal in future 🦧🦧
Thats why mental health is so important ..
Some gay people know such as myself since age 12 some don’t discover it till later. What matters is you find yourself eventually. It may take time but it will happen
True. I knew super young, but didn't REALLY realize what it meant until I was about 12 or so. I remember it blew my mind once I realized, I vividly remember waking up one morning and saying holy crap! I'm gay!! It was a lot to deal to say the least especially in the 80s
As far back as I can remember, I got excited by shirtless men, not women in bikinis. I convinced myself that would change as I got older, but it didn't.
My self loathing damaged my mental health and relationships with both sexes, and I badly mistreated a gf by denying the truth to myself. It was not until my 40's that I accepted the truth about my own nature, much too late
I remember having crushes on boys in kindergarten but they didn't register as crushes or gay bc I didn't even know what that was. Only in hindsight did I realize what that was. Then at 13/14yo puberty and sex drive became a thing and I knew I was attracted to boys but wasn't able to admit it to myself. By the time I was 16 I accepted it and at 18 I was completely fine being gay.
I was like 5...
@@samjohnson7869 Same lmao. I felt sexual attraction towards men since like the age of 6.
nick content is just so 🫡🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🤞
I recall feeling attraction for the same gender in first grade around age seven. Then by age nine those feelings became more developed around the thoughts of intimate acts and I knew I was gay and kept it quiet to everyone till about 16, and then only close trusted family and friends.
My sister would tell her boy friends " my brother is gay." Then somehow, she would invite 2 guys to the house for a date. She intended to give me one. That was a hit mess. The guy that paid more attention to me, I picked. She went out with the other. What a life.😊
I’m jealous 😂
Fun.
You have a great & understanding sister. Bless you 😊👍❤
That's great 🤣
Boyfriends or guy friends?
At age 53 now, coming from a traditional Irish Catholic background in Rural Ireland in the 1980’s where being gay was a big taboo, it was much more difficult for me as I was raised an only child and amid traditional Catholic concepts about “bad company” and “occasions of sin” in any contacts outside of the immediate family circle, to uphold the good name of the parish and the family, where the local Catholic Parish priest, the local doctor and the police seargent ruled our village with a Rod of iron - I had no friends in school, in fact I was intensely bullied, was labelled as “mad” and “not right in the head” when I first came out - in fact, my parents reaction to my coming out was to frogmarch me to the Parish priest to confess to the sin of being gay, then to be told in no uncertain terms by the police seargent that I was “not well and not right in the head” and to go to the doctor - I endured pills and severe corporal punishment to cure me of being gay, but then, the gay people I met on the Dublin gay scene, especially other gay men, were totally unaccepting, bitchy, catty and judgemental and this continued up until after I’d moved to the U.K. in 2002 where I had the same reaction - although now reconciled with my family in Ireland, I cut all ties with and support from the gay community 18 years ago here in the U.K. and I’ve become a traditional Catholic and an Irish patriot, involved in the Irish truth and patriot movement since Covid, despite my autism diagnosis in 2021, even though some in the Irish truth and patriot movement (understandably) don’t accept my gay identity due to their traditional Irish Catholic beliefs
As someone with Irish ancestry who has visited and has an affinity for Dublin, it makes me sad to hear you had a bad experience coming out and not feeling welcomed by the gay folks there. I’ve heard from many that the gay community in Dublin is quite friendly and down to earth, though there will always be some unkind people in any community. I find it interesting that rebelling against your being gay threw you into what sounds like a fairly extremist group, but that’s not uncommon. If you don’t mind me asking, are you voluntarily celibate and never date and have no romantic interactions?
i wish queer conservative people were more accepted among conservatives, sometimes being queer doesn't make us more liberal, im gay as well and the newer lgbt people and rules are so weird, we need to stand up for what we believe in.
@@spheksophobiaurinal Are you an anti-trans gay person? I know some gay people who have nuanced views of the trans stuff and arent always happy to be lumped in with every alphabet letter under the sun.
@@spheksophobiaurinalwhat is the point of being a gay conservative?
You're not accepted by other conservatives and you're stabbing your fellow gay men in the back too... Seems like shooting your own foot
It's kinda sad that the conservative community made you go through so much pain for something that isn't your fault, and you still sided with them in the end of the day.
Are we really supposed to believe that every queer person you have ever met was an annoying scumbag caricature? Or maybe you're the problem?
You are finding yourself. Breather. No pressure. So, you do you. BEST WISHES .... find ALL you can be
No he's not. He is in delusion
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g You will never get the attention you deserve for treating other humans like trash. You keep replying to other people, I've seen your comments. The hate and darkness in your heart will consume you until the day you leave this Earth. Change your ways, learn to love and accept other humans for something completely natural, or you will not live a happy life. Watch yourself
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4gyou have no life apart from g4y people don't you?
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4gcope
I am a middle-aged gay person, and I admire him.
Shame on you
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4g ?
don't be creepy
What are these replies?
how is it creepy to admire a young man speaking his truth? idiot@@FLRSKLVR
I went to this church camp for the first time with my friend. I must’ve been like 9 or 10. The camp areas were separated with boys and girls in separate areas. One of the counselors that stayed our cabin was also the drummer in the band. He was like in his late teens, I’m guessing 17-19. I had the biggest crush on him the whole time. I’ve had crush-like feelings towards boys before but I didn’t really recognize it as that until later. This time was very obvious to me. I just found everything about him very appealing. I would find any excuse to talk to him. Honestly, a lot about that week really opened my eyes to the fact that I liked boys in more than just a friendly way. Not to mention my friend’s crazy friend ran from the showers back to the cabin naked, without the counselors noticing lol. It’s kind of ironic how all this happened at a Christian camp.
I knew I was gay at 9... Except I didn't know what gay, homosexual or straight were! I just knew guys my age turned me on on another level.
I even thought the other guys in my class were not developed yet, because they didn't get excited in the showers after physical ed. Instead they childishly wanted to bother the girls 😅
It was years later that I learned that straight was normal and gay was really really really really bad (mid 1990s, southwest Europe).
Then, I went to a phase of denial (after having known for few years already) and was in the closet until too late, tbh.
Having had positive representation or some acknowledgement that it's ok to be gay, would have helped to have a better life for so many years.
I just don't want new generations to go through the same: representation in media comforts and brings understanding to gay kids, it does not "convert" the straight ones
😂😂😂It's insane how a 9 year old can think about this stuff when his brain is not completely matured... How dumb of you
@@SidrahMuntaha-p4git’s not dumb - you can still have crushes at 9 you plonker
What a beauty!🥰🥰🥰
I went to a private school up till high school I knew something was different about me in 5th/6th grade I started noticing myself attracted to men in a way I wasn't attracted to females. Had a major life event being moved out of state and to a small city for my first year of high school/public school in 04 so I suppressed alot of stuff was angry all the time it wasn't till after high school and finally accepting myself that I started to feel happy.
I am of an older generation and my time, my country, being gay wasn't even a concept ever talk about (positively or negatively), People just don't openly talk about sex, str or otherwise. Since internet was a new thing in my teens, I don't even realized what gay is (it's also a time when TV only started to mention there is such a concept), I figure out when I realized I only ever check out guys, never girls. And I have fetishes long before I realized what they are, or what sex is. Figuring it out when there is no negative stigma or preconception to be had, makes things a lot easier.
1:55 Missouri: Hold my beer
His story is a VERY common one.
*_OMG!_** Even their deaf and blind **_dog_** knew. (But seriously, kudos to Nick for living his truth.)* 🙌
He is beautiful!😘
I see gay people call people gay "negatively" all the time. It's like if you're gay, you're excused to do it, even if you're doing it with the intention of mocking someone, whether they're part of the community or not. So, I guess this whole thing is more complex than just deflecting, honestly.
I see 11 and 12 year old boys saying "gay" negatively all the time because they are insecure about their sexuality. Usually they grow up, mature and grow out of that hopefully.
@@warrenpaine I see grown ass gay people do that a lot actually, and I'm in the community.
@@Matthew-ij3zm I think openly gay people calling others "gay" is NEVER serious, it's more like an expression or to just joke about on something not using it in a negative way, though it's a completely different thing to closeted gays where they use it more in a derogatory way to probably avoid suspicions because of their denial and insecurity.
Love ❤😂it for nick. Here for u nick in support 🎉🎉 . I am a fan of urs and ur brothers Chris and Matt. Want the best for you in life nick
imagine telling someone you like them and they tell you you’re wrong and gay
In my high school years, I would dream of doing intimate acts with my close male friends. I genuinely thought it was just a phase, a mess of teenage hormones. However, I would go to college, and the sheer beauty of two of my male teammates took me aback. Subconsciously I knew something was up. However, my teammates knew before I did, and they crafted our conversations to imply that I was gay. It wouldn’t be until March of my freshman year of college when I finally accepted that I was gay. I bless the souls of my teammates, who always supported me the entire time and never treated me poorly because of my sexual confusions
People should be themselves love sturinolo twins great content 🙂
He's super sexy
Which helps a lot. No offense to anyone who isn't attractive. But looks matter in this matrix filled life. I came out at 13. Because I knew it would be easier than waiting until I was older and wanted to deal with it then instead of having to deal with it later. I knew when I was young as 10. But came out because I was about to head for a trip to Hollywood, planned out. So yep back in 2008 I came out and the next month I went on my vacation . Came out just a couple years after puberty which was around 10 when I started; I knew the white stuff that shot out of my dick wasn't urine also due to the feeling so I knew my body was changing. Then at 13, I was out. Here I am today at 29 where people are identifying with everything that I can't keep up. All the pronouns and some identifying as a cat; I can't catch up. But yeah, good looks do a lot. People who say looks don't matter are lying.
How many times does he say( like).
Like, a lot.
If we made a drinking game out of it, we'd all die of alcohol poisoning.
It's LIKE... super unattractive! Seriously, I broke up with someone because that was their normal way of speaking. I didn't want a boyfriend who sounded like they were mimicking some 80s girl
After about the tenth one, I cut it off. Terrible habit.
Miriam Margoyles would have a field day with this kid lol
I was eleven when I realised I was gay. I went to a summer arts and crafts class, and there was a guy there who I thought was really good-looking, and I used to find excuses to work with him, and I used to go to the class purely to see him. I didn't actually know what "gay" meant until I was fourteen, and that is when I realised it. I admitted it to myself when I was lying in bed one night, unable to sleep, going through everything in my mind, and realised that I liked guys and not girls.
I knew i was different when i was 5 just did not know what to call it i came out at age 14. And i m 66 now
love nick sm KABSJSBSJ
“ Hey everybody its me Jim”
I think sometimes we forget that people are not their partners. I get that totally feeling like liking the other gender when in your head Person A = Person B, so you confuse that. It's not that you don't know they are separate people but you kinda think of them as a pair.
I knew I was gay in kindergarten. I expressed it by beating up the other boys :) I suppressed it until I was tricked into coming out at 22 years of age. I should have done it sooner but then I met a man at a gay bar. He was in his late 80s. A group of us were siting with him, sharing a drink, when he started to get heart pain. We helped him to his car to get his glycerin. On the way he said, "If I die, take me across the street. My wife can't find me here". Coming out at 22 is not so bad. It's a personal journey for everyone....but life is too short to be unhappy.
You know, he like would like get like through like a like story like much like quicker like if like he like didn’t like say “like” so like much. 😉😉😂😂
You took the "likes" right out of my mouth. I didn't finish this video because I think by the two minute mark, he'd already said "like" about 39 times. Or, like, 39 times.
LMFAOOOO
how many "like" did he just say?
Maybe a hundred times? Or more...? They could display a counter. XD
How many times can you say " like" in one sentence. Like, millions?
Boom 💥 that’s what I was thinking 💭 “this guy is LIKE-
trying to, Like tell us…
Like how his life
has been Like one discovery
Like after the next.
Like Literally”
Like, of course?
It’s called a delaying-filler word/phrase; just like “you know” or “I mean”. Perfectly normal type of speech that especially creeps up when one is nervous.
That's very gracious of you, but there is nothing that "crept up" here. That is clearly the way he like, you know, like, you know, like talks.@@simplicitylost
@@robertlynch1404 Um†, I mean†, being interviewed by someone about your personal life could be nerve-wracking, you know†. Well†, I think at least. My linguistics teacher would be like†: So†, it’s a natural part of speech.
†All delaying fillers
I have no idea who this Nick is (no, really I don't know. I'm from Europe and 52. Why should I know?) His story is nice to listen to.
he has a video on his youtube channel with his brothers called "coming out story time *very personal*" in case you wanna check his story entirely!! their youtube channel is called "sturniolo triplets"
I totally get that
Every time he said, "me and her," I wanted to scream, "SHE AND I!!!" God, I'm old.
hahaha, I thought I was the only one
It’s funny, everyone’s story is different, but I felt different from my earliest memory, for some reason, behaviourally I acted like most kids but I just felt not the same. Then up till puberty all your interaction is pretty much same sex and there were boys I definitely felt I wanted to ‘be with’ all the time, sit beside etc, even though you’re at the age where it’s not sexual yet. By the time I was 13 I could put a name to it, I had a longing for one boy in my history class, and it hurt to be away from him, I knew that meant where I came from that your were queer, not in the reclaimed sense, the old fashioned homophobic sense. I can remember that realisation hitting me one day, getting home from school 13-14 feeling so depressed and thinking wow, I really am one of those. The area I work in now is supporting LGBTQ teens, I want their initial realisation to be positive not negative. But my story is anything but negative over all. I walked into a gay bar aged 22 in 1988, on my own, knew no one, and a group of people invited me over to drink with them so I wasn’t on my own. In amongst those people were now friends of 36 years, and my husband Owen, for whom I’m now celebrating a decade of marriage and far longer of love. The message is simple - follow your heart, and no matter how difficult, never deny or apologise for who you are.
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This is what I don’t understand: identical siblings are genetically the same person but split inside the womb, so, if being gay is genetic, why is he the only one who turned out queer?
....who in world said being gay is genetical? It is no genetic. It is just who you are. simply needs to discover urself.
Statistically, any multiples of identical children are 90% likely to have the same sexual orientation, so it was possible.
@@bangtanforlife2216 “born this way.” If it’s not a choice or learned, nurture, it’s nature, biology.
@@bangtanforlife2216 are you saying it's a choice? 🤨
other things you probably also don’t understand: Why can identical twins have different allergies? Why can identical twins have only one twin who develops cancer? Why would identical twins be attracted to different types of people? Why might identical twins have different tastes in food? Why might identical twins like different kinds of music? Why do identical twins have different personalities? Why do identical twins have different conscious experiences of self? Why are identical twins not just quantum-entangled opposite-spin particle-level clones of one another with completely identical experience of personhood?
It seems you believe the fully incorrect and unscientific notion that “anything that can describe a person is EITHER a personal choice OR genetic”, so this will not be easy to understand for you.
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i dont support or im not homophobic, but im happy that nick wanted to be who he wanted to be. no hate and i love the Sturniolo triplets
@@linzeeiscreating its js that idc if he is gay im js a fan who wants to meet them darlin, that is supporting their channel not supporting lgbtq+
yess
Someone count how many times he used the word "like." :*D
The smarmy host feels he must play best buds with the guest to show empathy.
Oh this girl told him and then she told everybody else
You know you're gay and it's hard to fake, but sometimes you can't be honest when you're famous. Cuz sometimes you might not get the rolls in one box
I know this an old comment but he came out years before he was famous. He’s 20 here but came out at 15/16
I think it probably helped them actually grow their career and him being gay didn’t negatively impact their popularity, because a dynamic of 3 good looking triplets and one is gay is interesting to view. You can also see how his two bothers having him being the queer older brother definitely made them different from most other young men
I can’t take how much he says “like”.
idk i feel like us gen z kids say “like” instead of “um” or “uh” and so it’s just our equivalent of a filler word
@@jackiesobe Filler words of any kind are lazy and unintelligent. We all use them from time to time but when it’s every other word that comes out of your mouth, it’s quite irritating.
@@oneironaut420 to call any filler words “unintelligent” is CRAZY. Lazy, sure, but using filler words is in no way indicative of someone’s intelligence. Everyone is different - that’d be like saying an introvert is automatically less intelligent because they don’t talk as much in the first place. That’s just a super weird and unfair assumption.
@@jackiesobe Filler words are lazy. Yes there are some exceptions like people who are introverted or autistic, but this is not the case with most people. This guy does not appear to be anything but lazy.
Must be where you live. Midwest; there is strong homophobia and derogatory comments or judgements.
do you really think so??? i’m from ohio and it always seems to be pretty accepting, especially compared to the south. i know he’s from massachusetts, so maybe it’s even *better* there, but i’ve never thought that the homophobia here was particularly bad.
I’m gay ik bc I like this guy call Venice but somebody else like him
I confess that I wonder what would happen if he finds the right guy...but the guy just wants to talk about potatoes.
like like like like like like like like like like like like like like
Who is this guy and why is he popping up in my feed all of a sudden?
Ffs, stop saying ‘like’! 😡
NO MORE 'like this, like that' in speech, please!! Is it too much to, like, ask?
It's their life, they can talk how they want to...
I don't know this guy, but I like his personality. I would date him. But he doesn't have a solo Instagram. Wonder if he has a Snapchat?
He will not date you. He is man not a woman
he does have a solo IG its just his name
Not trying to stereotype but his tone or speaking tone is gay, a dead giveaway. Beautiful guy anyway
and?
I knew for sure in K grade that I enjoyed seeing the other guys at the urinals, and back then, there wasn't all the pee shyness/modesty like now, so it was all the trough-style urinals. We looked at and compared pickles and had peeing contests. I saw my first guys with foreskins back then, which blew my mind. It was the coolest thing. Being that age, we just thought you came with them, or without them, you know, like innies or outies bellybuttons. The odd thing is that my best friend, who had been best friends since we were 10, was killed in a car crash. I loved him very much, but after he died, I lost all attraction for guys, ended up married to a woman, and had 3 children, which was 26 years ago.
So sorry to hear that! But I am glad you found happiness. This is actually not uncommon in the bisexual community. To have attraction to both genders but one is the preference.
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I’m thinking perhaps the “gay voice” and hand gestures might have been a big clue?
I am from that tribe, so not based on “ignorance”, as you so eloquently put it.
Props for embracing his God-endowed identity rather than being a lemming-pleasing poser.
I was never around gay people, i just knew i was gay like i knew my hair was dark or my own ethnicity. Zoomers really are far from being the brightest gen i swear to god. It wasn’t ironic you were just making up issues to attract attention from your family to your own orientations because one way or another even if we have accepting families, our extended family might not and the rest of the world isn’t necessarily either and just hearing shit str8 people say casually growing up is a mindfck to a growing young gay individual.
You didnt have a crush on her she was just a friend, friends are like siblings. Gen Z really aren’t the brightest people generation. Thats why they had to rename friendship platonic love romantic relationships. She probably was close enough to his core people but not close enough as to where he couldnt tell her stuff without her going back and telling the family and he probably doesnt have sisters and growing up with brother probably made him feel uncomfortable to share his feelings wherther it was reality or in his head.
‘Gay’ men like him make me uncomfortable as a gay man cus they skew what it means to be gay and irremediably perpetuate c.therapy talking points and people like zach haggle at it cus it fits with their str8 pov, even tho the guy specified that it wasn’t for a long period or even really defining anything at that point cus even she knew he didnt have any feelings for her because he most probably didnt act like he even cared for her like that.
1. This is prime TL:DR category. 2, The generational blaming, bashing and generalizing is not applicable or smart as an argument. 3, I've had (very notable) crushes on girls up to age 13 or so. Then puberty ramped up and I'm all dick-4-dick
i want that peach though
What a weird question.
Right its so strange and he would NEVER ask str8 people a question like that! He acts like its supposed to be news to his own self
@@adam9321idk i think the question is valid. the reason you wouldn’t ask a straight person how they knew they were straight is because it’s seen as the default anyway. recognizing that you’re different in some way is always something to talk about, so i don’t really find it weird that he asked.
Its something they can overcome
No, it isn't.
What would it take to turn you into a homosexual?
@@lucasinthehouse007 No one is born that way
what kind of stupid question is this really
I was never around gay people, i just knew i was gay like i knew my hair was dark or my own ethnicity. Zoomers really are far from being the brightest gen i swear to god.
i think while this is true for you, everyone has a different experience and some people genuinely don’t know for a long time! and even if you *think* you know, it may take time to fully understand it or accept it. if that makes sense
I think you still need quite a bit of maturing to do my dude.
Not everyone is you, and your story isn't everyone's. To insult someone and essentially call them stupid because they weren't like you is beyond ridiculous.
And since you mentioned generation, I also think there is some projection of some kind going on.
his experience is valid because its his experience. not everyone grows up in the same context or environment and thinks the same. like he said, for ex, he compared himself a lot to his triplet brothers and thought that he had to go through what they went through. how tf are you gonna dictate or negate someones experience just cause yours was different? its not abnormal for different people to take different times in understanding who they are, especially when it goes against the "norm".
This is a great example of why we should no be putting kids on hormones (or contemplating surgery) until early to mid 20's when our brain is fully developed. We don't and can't truly know ourselves until then.
Ok. I agree that surgery isn't the best choice. Not even the second best. But hormon blockers literally just give you time and stop puberty to think about it. It just stops your body from developing features you might not want. I don't think they should be blocked for teens. Besides some teens are more mature then others. You don't just go around telling people you are trans at 14. It's also not just for that reason. Hormone blockers can be used for cis people as well. So I respectfully disagree. What you said could easily be a reason for hormone therapy as well. We don't know ourselves till then. Why stop people in the process of figuring that out. You can easily stop hormonal therapy.
Guuuuuys,come on , honestly i feel sorry for you ,you are living a big lie ,pleeeeease come to your senses....
I knew I was gay from a very young age.. I had a friend I use to hang out with who was like 10 at the time I was 7 and we would go in his back room to “play monopoly” or so we would tell his mom when in all reality we was back there getting down🫢😂 we went at it like all the time for a couple years until his mom caught us and told my mom. I never once saw it as wrong or questioned it though because I enjoyed every bit of it. LOL from that point I knew I was so much more into guys than girls.