messy drama with the inlaws that made it to AITA - REACTION
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Hey, Squaaaaaad! 🌟 Charlotte Dobre here, and let me tell you, today's video is an absolute rollercoaster of emotions. Get ready for some serious tea, because we're diving deep into the messy drama that unfolded with my in-laws. 🍵
🔥 Title: "MY IN-LAWS CAUSED MAJOR DRAMA! AITA Storytime 💔"
In this wild ride, I spill ALL the deets on a situation that legit made it to the front page of AITA (Am I The A**hole). Buckle up, because we're talking family, feelings, and full-blown chaos.
Get ready for some serious "Oh no, they didn't!" moments, because this story is like a soap opera meets reality TV. 🍿 Grab your popcorn and join the conversation in the comments below. Have you ever been in a similar situation? What would YOU do if you were in my shoes?
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I was to be married last year, when I first met my ex I was in a wheelchair from a car accident where I broke my back in 7 places and had to re learn to walk. The in laws convinced my ex to put a clause in the prenup that if I were to ever become disabled or terminally ill, it would be grounds for divorce. What about in sickness and in health? Needless to say I didn’t walk down the isle, I walked away. 😂
Holy shit. You're telling me he considered it? I'm so sorry you went through that
@@FireLlama550The saddest part, I actually signed it… Just didn’t go through with the marriage. I appreciate you sincerely.❤️🙏
They added a discrimination clause? Thank mercy you ran.
How terrible! I guess vows don’t mean 💩 anymore! Glad you were able to WALK away. You showed them!
Sounds like the same type of person that would put their child up for adoption if they had some kind of birth defect. Good thing you dodged that
To the brother: She showed up to someone else's special event not only not following the dress code, but done up to the nines with a TIARA! Like even ROYALTY have protocol for those.
Not to mention they said they were at a hotel. That means that she specifically packed a big, puffy, white skirt and a tiara for the trip. She went out of her way to bring the tiara in her luggage. She was so clearly being attention seeking.
@@randomusername429she also came later so she knew they would disapprove of the white dress.
She’s just soooo desperate to show her boyfriend how good she looks in white….!
Oh no Mr Bill, she ruined a photo shoot. The humanity. 😂😂
I would’ve sent her back to the hotel where she can either change or stay there for the night
My in-laws are so wonderful, I didn't understand why stories always have the in-laws that cause drama. Then I realized that to my fiance, my parents are the in-laws... and now it makes sense
Exactly, lol. My partner’s family has all the love that is….. missing from mine. Somebody has to have fucked up in laws I guess🤣
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Lol yeah my husband doesn’t talk to his side of the family because they’re all like these people. So he loves mine instead. I’m soooo grateful he loves my family though. We are all very super close. 15 siblings and one mom. We work together on EVERYTHING. especially since we grew up with nothing.
@@CharlotteDobre😂❤
@@DARKXREY And when you get into a situation where both sides are rotten...
a white tulle skirt and a tiara? i'm surprised she didn't bring a bouquet of flowers to throw at the end of the meal
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I don't think they should have left her out of ALL of the photos. They needed a few just to show people what an idiot she is. I agree with the person who said to set her up with those embarrassing pics!
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“She pitched a fit that we deliberately left her out.” Yes, it’s called consequences for her actions. How do people not know that if you’re a jerk, people aren’t going to want to include you in things?
They gaslight and make themselves the victim
I believe it's because the three remaining brain cells they have aren't connecting properly. But it's just a thought
"because am a pretty, pretty princess and deserve to be the center of attention!!" Says the entitled person.
It's giving sleeping beauty and the noted EVIL fairy not being invited.
@@AngelJuliet You mean "she" and "her" right?? Stop plural pronouns for a single person
The cookies one reminds me of the story where the parents were so strick with both their daughters food that they couldn't understand why they both had eating disorders, it was the school who clocked it when it was discovered one of them was throwing up their food.
Both girls had workout machines in their rooms and were punished if they didn't work out for an hour every day before dinner.
It was a lot worse than I can type out here. I just hope those girls were removed from the home and recovered; they were sent to a rehab facility for ED.
Holy shit! I hope so too
Oh my gosh, that's heartbreaking. Those poor girls 💔
Same. My dil minded kids that were not allowed any treats and food was obsessively controlled. They had afterschool activities every day, soccer, swimming etc and were only allowed half an apple between school and dinner. They looked undernourished to me and were already sneaky about food.
Yup! The actual best way to deal with this kind of situation is to tell the mother up front that it's not fair to give some of the kids sweets but not others. If she wants to control their diet then she shouldn't leave them with you in charge. I always told my kids that if they had treats or candy that they were not allowed to eat it in front of others without sharing. Even if it was theirs and theirs alone! This is just common courtesy. Plus if it's a special family occasion like a vacation the parents should know that the normal diets will not always be possible especially you will all be staying and eating together. Healthy socialization includes the ability to be flexible rather than worrying so much about it and becoming abusive when not everyone will enforce their standards.
Did you hear about this on the Dusty Thunder Podcast by chance?
I understand parents wanting to keep their kids healthy, but when they go into full 'no sugar' mode for the kids, those kids will glut themselves out when there are sweets to be had. It's the Forbidden Apple Effect, and the more you deny a child something, the more they will come to crave it.
Yep, and some of us struggle with binge eating for the rest of our lives as a result.
This!!! My mom used to take our Halloween candy/christmas candy/birthday sweets, etc, and make us do five chores to earn one piece of candy back. I became a hoarder. I would hide candy. I’d eat myself sick before I got home from school on Valentine’s Day. My mom couldn’t understand why I would willingly do that to myself.😅 As an adult, I went through phases in college where I would eat ice cream in place of a meal, and then starve myself out of guilt. Now that I’m a mom, I’ve mellowed out. I take my kids candies after Halloween and stuff, but I don’t make them work for it back. They get treats here and there like after dinner and stuff. (On a side note, even after having two kids, I’ve never been over 115 pounds, so that “fat @$$” comment really made my blood boil. Nobody should be shamed like that.)
My aunt never let their kids eat much. She never weighted more than 45kg, eat very small portions and "only eats to not be hungry" she developed health issues like in her stomach and such and her kids are SO SKINNY and she controls their portions even tho they're 11 and 18. I tried to tell her it's okay to enjoy food but she seems so traumatized, idk what to do 😢 luckily the kids are starting to learn how to cook for themselves, but I hope she starts allowing them to be happy and enjoy a moment on the table with others 😢
i think when on vacation, the thought of having no candy should just be set aside. there's no reason to deny kids the candy since the whole point of a vacation is to have fun.
Yep, i was flat out banned from having soda, i was sooo addicted to it for years and had to buy a sodastream just to get my fix still
For the first story: just share the photo to everybody unedited and say “who’s the bride here?”
Yeah it would’ve been effective to show everyone how the bro’s gf dressed.
$190 meal that's usually split between 3 people is still $63 a person, which is still a lot in my opinion. My SIL likes to treat the family on special occasions and I always feel like I'm taking advantage if I order an appetizer, even though she specifically tells me to pick out what appetizer I want. My rule is I look at the highest marked item and the lowest, get an average, then order something below that average. Imagine the entitlement of expecting to get a $190 meal for your kid paid for by someone who has already maxed out their generosity.
That's what I do. And I never order a dessert, even if the person asks if I want one. I just opt for a coffee.
The only exception would be, if someone won the lottery and SAID to order anything then maybe I would. Other than that, no.
Then include the 20% tip on just that meal alone and you can add another $38 to the tab. The dad is the jerk here for sure
I do the same. Doesn’t matter if it’s my parents, my SO, a friend, or a work function. If someone else is paying for my food I’m careful to watch the costs. And if it’s not a work thing (there are group/team dinners on a regular basis), I keep track of who treats me and how much it was. Whenever I can afford it, I make sure to treat that person back. Regarding food-related work stuff, I will make sure to bring a contribution for pot luck style events. Not everyone does but I feel the need to do so. The others contributing will at least get something back from me that way (and I always make sure those people all like and can eat what I bring). Whenever I’m invited to someone’s home I never come empty-handed. Preferably something the host(ess) can choose to either share or enjoy on their own… and I hand it over discreetly. Never take away the thunder from your host. Doesn’t matter if they’re terrific hosts or dismal ones.
I didn’t get to this on my own. It’s simply how I was raised (thanks Mom!💖).
@@eddavanleemputten9232your mother is/was a classy lady!❤
And she clearly raised another classy woman😇
I was raised similarly, I couldn’t even imagine not contributing/giving back or at the VERY least being considerate of pricing when someone treats me😅
@@deniseveter1033 - Thank you… and right back at you. 😊
And I made sure to pass on the same values to my daughter.
The first story .. she needs to announce at her wedding that there are to be no proposals/ baby announcements/ white dresses at her wedding so that it would be really really awkward and embarrassing if someone did it anyway when the whole room has heard you clearly. Crickets 🦗 hahaha
Her brother has no idea what he is getting himself into with his girlfriend if he actually does decide to marry her. I mean, yes, it's fine that he is taking her side, but she has a victim complex, and will DEFINITELY be a bridezilla. I'm actually kind of surprised he doesn't realize what that will mean for their future relationship.
I predict that we will hear another story from this family about this woman being a total 'Me, me, me!" person in the future if he proposes. How much you want to bet that HER wedding to the brother has to be over the top to make sure that she has the 'biggest, most glamorous" wedding?
This is so good!! I have family aquintances who would pull a stunt like this but it kind if hard to disinvite without causing more drama.
I'm including this in the wedding invitation and having my MC announce it before the bridal party entrances
I don't have kids, my husband and I are comfortable, and people assume we have waaaaay more money than we do. I distance myself from folks who ask for more than I am comfortable giving.
I made a bet with my brother when he was 6 years old and he wanted to order a burger off the adult menu even though the server said it was pretty much the same but a bit smaller on the kids menu. I bet he couldn’t finish the meal and if he didn’t, I’d call him Pipsqueak for the rest of his life. Well 20 years later and I still call my much taller brother Pipsqueak 😂
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He asked for it 😂
About the last story: I recently learned (at least in German culture) that Knigge suggests if one treats others to a meal in a restaurant the treating one recommends a few options of the menu he/she likes (because he/she treats the others in a restaurant he/she already knows or heard good things about it) AND the treated people know by his/her suggestions how much the treating one is comfortable to pay for each treated person. I though that is quite a good and subtle way to communicate that 🤔
Figures the Germans would have an efficient, pragmatic and effective means of addressing this issue. I say this coming from a family of Germans who married into Germans. Direct but not confrontational unless needed is how they roll.
6:15 - when I was in elementary school, one of my classmates would come over after school, and my mother would babysit her for a few hours until her parents got home. She was allowed to have cookies, but I was not.
My mom was pretty strict with things like sodas and snacks. You should’ve seen her when we went to a restaurant. You talk about food Nazi.
Make a long story short, I’m 58 years old and I weigh 300 pounds. I’m not saying she’s at fault, but that along with other things my mom did, created all kinds of food issues with me.
My brother and his wife raised their kids to pretty much eat what they wanted, in moderation of course. I distinctly remember observing how my sister-in-law was with them, and it was just the exact opposite of the way my mother handled it. Needless to say, my niece and nephew are at a normal weight.
My point is, being a food nazi is a good way to wind up with the exact opposite result you want. Just saying.
Thank you for sharing that... I have a similar mom. I limit her contact with my daughter. One time we went to her house and she then weighed my 8 year old daughter (who was growing/developing perfectly normal). I then forbade her to EVER weigh my child again.
I grew up cognise of my weight and of others in my family. Comparisons were often made between my little sister and myself. We were only 17 months different in age. I was often told that I was too skinny , to eat more . My little sister was often told that she was too heavy for her age, she should diet and lose "those extra pounds ". Around these times, we were actually only 10 pounds different!! Smh! It's really sad though 😕 because we both ended up having a warped idea of what was healthy.
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Same. My Dad was ultra religious, physically abusive in discipline and for some reason equated eating sugar with being a sin. You can imagine now how as an adult much I crave sweets on a daily basis and how I’ve struggled with my weight since I was 8 years old.
No one who fat shames should be allowed to be a personal trainer.
Fat shaming is wrong, but she was also rightfully upset because her authority and boundaries had been deliberately over-stepped. So I cannot just fault her alone.
@@andydufresne5297- But the argument isn’t that she shouldn’t have gotten angry. She has every right as a parent to be mad that her rules were not enforced. She has no right to use fat-shaming as her argument
I do not agree with these obese influencers promoting unhealthy lifestyles and health issues. I can't see anything wrong with fat shaming, if it makes a person wake up to themselves that they are being a burden on the health system and destroying their body from the inside. That is why we have personal trainers, to help the fatties correct their way of life. BTW...I'm an ex-fatty so I know what I'm talking about.
@@Rikrobat She made her remark in the heat of the moment, after finding out that the other family member had betrayed her trust. Not her finest moment, I agree, but under the circumstances, I get it.
And the worst thing now is this mom cannot trust the other mom in future. Say they are on vacation at the beach, personal trainer mom and husband want to go in town to get fast food or whatever, and their kids want to stay behind to play with the other kids. But personal trainer mom and dad have a rule that if their kids are playing near the water, they must have a life vest on, even if they are just planning to build sand castles and not actually go into the water... Well, since the "cookie" issue happened, personal trainer mom will be thinking "will the other mom make sure my kids have on life vests, or will she decide that it's a pretty safe beach, and my kids can do without the life vests as long as they don't go too far into the water..."
TLDR: everyone sucks here, but the mom who unnecessarily violated the trust in the first place, leading to the fat shaming, sucks the most, IMHO.
@@andydufresne5297 - I’m sorry, but I disagree. You can criticize someone for not respecting your boundaries and your rules; you can argue that you don’t trust them. But saying they can’t be trusted because they’re “fat”? There is no excuse for that. You’re making excuses for an inexcusable remark.
As the original comment says, a personal trainer who resorts to fatshaming shouldn’t be a personal trainer.
There is literally no way in hell i would allow my child to order a meal that was $190 just bc someone else is paying.
the rule is never get something more expensive then what the person paying is getting.
A 190 dollar meal meant for _three_ . . . Yes. Let's _not_ order it, lol.
I would have never let my child order a meal that expensive especially since someone else is paying. I’m always mindful what my kids order when someone else treats. Some people out here really taking advantage of others generosity
@@aralornwolf3140that’s the thing. If the kid really wanted that meal and I were the parent and wanted to indulge him, I’d have suggested to share it between a few of us.
This was my response as well, I heard our Charlotte’s voice “Absolutely not” ❤ I would’ve shut my kid down immediately. How rude!
Last case: The parents missed an educational opportunity. If somebody else is paying, you order in moderation. This was in the end exploitation of another's goodwill.😢
*Story 1:* My initial response; "Ugh, are we seriously expanding the white-clothes ban to _all pre-wedding events too,_ now? G_d, I'm tired." After the story; "Oh, I see, sis is fr just a general jackass. Team Bride 💯."
Thank goodness! Now I don’t feel so bad for my initial reaction. At first, WTH, why couldn’t she wear white? And then, ohhh, yeah, she cray!
When I was a kid, I had a friend whose mom wouldn’t allow her to eat any sugar. Because her mom was so strict about it, she found ANY chance she could to eat sugar. She even stole sugar packets from restaurants and dumped them into her mouth when her mom wasn’t looking.
I was that kid!! Hyperactive!!
I will say, while OP in the cookie story may have stepped on boundaries, Anne's comments just revealed why it was probably *good* to give them cookies. If Anne is willing to say that sort of thing to OP and OP's spouse, imagine what Anne's willing to say to the kids. They need a positive experience with their bodies, no matter how they look, as well as food. The path of "no cookies or else you'll become fat" is a fast track straight to an eating disorder (I would know, I saw it happen in my own family with my grandmother and one of my cousins). And I guarantee, if one of those kids develops an ED, Anne would blame both the kids *and* OP for it (if she kept OP in the kids' lives).
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I don’t get how people can want the negative attention that comes with wearing white when someone else is the bride. I wouldn’t even wear a black dress with white polka dots to a wedding 😂
Oh shoot I wore navy and white polka dots to my nieces wedding. Lordy, had no idea that was bad.
My young adult daughter was invited to a wedding and asked me if it’s OK to wear her new red dress. I told her that though technically red dress is not prohibited, this particular very bright and very flattering dress might attract too much attention, potentially away from the bride. So no, I don’t recommend. Amazingly enough, my daughter took my advice and wore something different.
@brendacarter4968 that doesn't sound bad.
Same! I won’t have a single white accessory or thread on me tbh. White is for the bride- I’ll take literally any other color. It’s not hard.
@@brendacarter4968nothing to worry about, it sounds very nice!
The cookie thing was pretty ridiculous, when I leave my kids in someone else's care during a time they may need to eat... I trust their best judgement because I literally am trusting them with my kids life just by leaving them there. If I thought they'd feed my kid something they truly could/should not eat, I wouldn't be leaving my kid with them in the first place. It was a cookie. A. One. A single cookie. They didn't feed the kids a whole dozen in one sitting.
Yea, we try to eat more “clean” or at least less processed at home (we still have occasional treats), but when people are watching our kids, I get way more lenient. One day of eating junk food won’t kill them.
The only thing I was ever really adamant about was when one of our children had a potentially life-threatening food allergy as a baby/young toddler (luckily the allergy was one that she outgrew - yay for being in the 20% minority there).
Exactly right
Agree, it was only one cookie. And their mom is a turd. But no means no and is an acceptable response.
I assumed that she didn’t want her kids to have sugar right before bed, a cookie the next day during the day is a different matter altogether.
I hear what you’re saying and I don’t disagree. My issue is more with the undermining of the parent’s wishes in such a sneaky manner. (I do think mom overreacted to a single cookie but it could be for a valid reason which OP doesn’t get to disregard.) Knowing that the kids were told no to cookies before, that they were being left in their care, and that they were gonna give their own kids cookies should have prompted a discussion with the parents about the possibility of them having a cookie during the evening.
With the cookie story I would say that yes it was rude to go against the parents wishes and give the cookie BUT the way the almond mom handled was so out of line that the cookie thing at that point doesn't matter anymore cause any normal decent adult would have handled that situation with ten million times more maturity then she did cause you do not handle cookie issues with what was basically verbal assault. Cause at that point what of did was defend his wife.
Yes! They made a simple choice that was disrespectful and any rational adult would have calmly explained that it was a violation and take the apology the OPs wife was giving. But this “Anne” person immediately jumps to insults and then cries when she’s given a taste of her own horrendous attitude. How is the family divided when she started the insults, OP just ended her 😂
What do u expect from someone who cheats lol
@@it.comes.around Honestly, OP fucking destroyed her and I love it.
Sorry but one “small” boundary is just as problematic because it indicates that OP thinks he knows better and cannot handle telling children a simple no. Pretty sure if Anne exercised her parenting over his children, he’d flip his wig. Neither is a hero or villain, just crappy humans like most of the rest of us.
@TheBaumcm Nah, your boundaries are your own to enforce. Others don't enforce them for you, and it isn't a simple "no", it is a complicated "no, you can't have what others are having, no be quiet and watch everyone else eat cookies", that isn't simple, that is adult meanness.
I'm not going to be mean to your kid just because that is your boundary, don't leave them with someone else if you need all your rules to be followed, or pay someone to give a damn.
It's absolutely absurd to me that when people hear "my treat" they think they can rack up the bill. Honey, NO! When people try to treat me I might not be cheaping out on my own meal. But I sure as Hell don't over order. And if I do, I definitely either order it for the table to share and/or share my own order even if it's not enough for myself to eat. It's not my money so I'm going to share it.
It was the kid who made the order not the parents. There's nothing wrong with ordering something bigger if you think you can eat it or assume that you'll take it home for leftovers if you're not because you will eat it anyway even if it's not at that particular table.
And if you don't want people racking up the bill that is responsibility for the person who's paying to tell them what the limit is that way they can put that into calculations. It clearly communicates the threshold for everybody else and if you try to go beyond that in that case then you are more irrefutably in the wrong then you would be if you didn't know there was a hidden limit that you were not warned about in advance.
@@lahlybird895 First of all, yes- it was the kid that made the order but the parent also cleared that order and allowed the kid to order an obscenely large order. Even the employee had to mention that it was an order meant for sharing as it also came with 3 sides. It would make more sense if the immediate family of the kid were to share that order. (The mother, father, and kid.) 3 pounds of meat would probably suffice 3 people- or 2 fully grown appetites and 1 still developing appetite. And if they went that route, I'd doubt that the OP, or person paying wouldn't even have made that post.
Second, it takes a certain amount of entitlement to think that just because someone wanted to treat someone it's okay to order expensive items on the menu. Like I think it's okay to go a little bit more but not obscenely more when not only your family questioned it but the employees questioned it as well.
@@echung168 except for the fact that op specifically chose the restaurant in question. If you can't afford fancy food don't deliberately take your family out to a fancy restaurant and then tell them you'll pay for it.
And maybe they could have heard over planning to share but op didn't really give them the chance they immediately saying that she wasn't going to pay for it the second somebody said they wanted it without asking if anybody wanted to share or if it was shareable then they made the bet on whether or not the kid could eat the whole thing himself, kind of ruining the potential for sharing even though that was kind of on the brother and not OP.
It is also the person responsible for paying who gets to fit the budget for what everybody told them there was a limit until after they looked at the menus and decided what they wanted. If you have a spending budget or limit on a gift you should tell people that before so they know the rules rather than after they've broken the rule they don't know exists.
Opie said that they've done this often by treating the family members and presumably because of the lack of any others mentioned this is the first time they've ever had a problem like this, which also means more towards the side of it not being entitled or exploitative but just the general assumption that they've always been allowed to order without having any strings attached before so why should this be different here at a restaurant that op specifically chose to try out.
This reminds me of a similar story that I think Charlotte covered a while ago about a girl who ordered a steak because somebody said they were paying and then the person said she couldn't eat it and made a similar bet but the girl did eat the entire steak and then everybody got pissed at her and started body shaming her and stuff like saying she wasn't ladylike just because she was able to eat so much and getting mad that they had to pay for her food even though they agreed to the deal before hand. to me the fact that the Opie in this particular story was willing to pay if the kid could eat the food says that either Opie does have the money and was willing to pay for it or was deliberately making a false deal that they had no intention of actually following through on and either way if not good. The latter is at best dishonest and as for the former it makes me wonder if she refuses to pay for anybody else who doesn't finish their food no matter how expensive it is. Ping for food shouldn't be dependent on whether or not somebody eats every single bite or not and if there's nearly always going to be leftovers when a big group of people eats out and that should not affect anything.
I'm also kind of curious why every single person is saying the food went away when they took it home for leftovers at the end if the food is wasted that's on them but otherwise they probably ate the food anyway just because it wasn't at that particular table at that time doesn't mean it was wasted.
I'm also a little curious about that waiter are you allowed to make comments about people's food choices like that without them asking? maybe it's different in different places but for what I've heard in general they aren't supposed to.
It seems like everyone sucks here not just the inlaws
@@lahlybird895 While I do understand that yes, if OP had a budget they should have expressed it. But it's also common sense not to only pick the most expensive item on the menu. That's just taking advantage of someone's generosity. But I don't think when OP or anyone in the world for that matter that when we decide to treat a group out, they are going to take advantage of us paying for their meal.
I don't think OP wanted to set a limit on what everyone could order. It's just common sense for many people that you don't order the most expensive item that was meant for multiple people, or a sharing dish. I doubt the average human can finish 3 pounds of meat and 3 sides in one sitting. A rule like this shouldn't have to have been said but I probably missed the part about that particular family doing this a lot. At that point then, OP was probably just doing this to themselves knowing.
Taking home food isn't the issue here if you really cannot finish your food because you ordered a regular sized plate meant for 1 person. But purposefully ordering food because you wanted leftovers to take home because you didn't have to pay for it is just wrong. If you took out a group to eat and the only person who took home food for leftovers for the next few days then you essentially paid for that person 2-3+ times more than the other people. Example, your original group of 6 might have been paying for 9 or more. You treated 1 person more times than the others. Now is that far to the others? What if the other people then said, "well if they get to take home leftovers then I want to order more too so I'm going to order extra food". I don't remember how many people were in that group, but say it was 6. If everyone ordered the same dish 6 times, you're looking at roughly $1200 of food. If that was the most expensive, then surely there were other prices lower than that. It's the difference of a bill being $300 vs $500 vs $1000+.
I might have used a stronger word for the waiter expressing their concern. But there's nothing wrong with a waiter/waitress reminding the customer about a dish that is meant as a sharing dish. Maybe the customer(s) genuinely did not know. Maybe the table didn't know how big the steak was.
@@echung168 we don't know if they only picked expensive items we know the kid order an expensive meal but Opie did not mention what the brother or sister ordered or what those prices were therefore we don't know if they were all deliberately ordering expensive food or not so the argument that they did it on purpose doesn't hold because we don't have the evidence for it.
I also don't believe they deliberately ordered this for leftovers as it was the child who ordered it and not one of the parents. Teenage boys are hungry he probably genuinely thought he could eat the whole thing and didn't realize his eyes were bigger than his stomach. I also just recently stopped being a teenager and I know whenever I went out to eat while I was a teenager I always wanted to go for whatever had the most amount of sides so I could try the most amount of food and yeah maybe there would be food left over but I wasn't thinking of it like that I was simply thinking that I wanted to have the most available sides because sides are usually pretty good though I don't know if that was his thinking or not.
I can't agree that you're generally supposed to order within reason but the steak was listed as a single meal everybody got one meal even if this meal was one that ended up being meant to share because it had a lot of sides so you can pass them around and what not the fact if it was still one menu item. If people had ordered multiple meals I would agree that perhaps they were trying to take advantage of this person or were deliberately trying to make sure they were leftovers but they didn't do that the steak was an expensive meal but it was only one meal.
Now for a point of clarification as I think you may have misunderstood me I didn't say that they pulled this deliberate exploitation thing that people are accusing them of every meal however it is stated in the beginning that the op likes to take the family members out and treat them every so often so then going out to eat while Opie is paying if something they've done often and it never mentions them having Pryor problems like this in the past which again makes me think that it was just somebody ordering a meal and not deliberate exploitation.
which is why I say that all three adults were childless in the situation Opie with childish for not setting the budget beforehand and for calling out the meal and saying that they wouldn't pay immediately rather than trying to discuss any negotiation or option.
Brother brother isn't necessarily childish for making the bet if he genuinely believed it would work though he is childish for making a scene before that by calling op cheap even if in my opinion op was kind of being cheap and the brother is also childish for grumbling about the consequences of his own bet, even if I will give him some props for actually following through rather than throwing a hissy fit about it. Op pointed out he wasn't very grateful about it but he still did it rather than throwing a hissy fit and causing a another fight in public.
And the sister-in-law is childish for yelling at op rather than her husband for making the bed or his source for paying for the bet he lost when she could have easily interjected if she did not wish it to happen.
but I think that if op had simply communicated a budget beforehand none of this would have happened at all so ultimately the blame is more on them than it is on the other two even if there isn't a single innocent party here with the possible exception of the child who maybe didn't know what he was getting into but possibly did and therefore could be blamed as well every single one of them is awful which is why I say everybody sucks here.
The last story reminds me of my college graduation dinner. My mom was treating me and my whole family at a fancy steakhouse, and I saw they had a tomahawk steak. Normally I hate sharing food (it’s a weird issue, I know), but because I knew how huge it would be, plus all the sides, I agreed to split it with my grandfather. Between both of us, we ate the whole thing and most of the sides, and what we didn’t eat outright we took home. To this day still one of the best dinners I’ve ever had. But I’d never in my wildest dreams believe I could eat all that on my own.
$190 for a steak? You could probably get an entire calf for that. I'm really tired of people acting as if their kids should never, ever be limited in ANY WAY. I also feel kind of sorry for the kids, who have to grow up and leave home to learn that not everyone will let you do or have whatever you want, forever. It's a hard lesson to get from strangers.
Lol probs not the whole calf, my husband and I did that recently and a whole calf is at minimum $650 but the butcher we went to it was $1100 Lol I wish it was $190 but I’m looking at it as 6 months of storeable meat we Don’t have to buy at the store. Just thought I’d share that lol
Yeah. Parents think they are being loving by spoiling them, but they’re really doing their kids a disservice.
There's a steak place in Texas called the "The Big Texan Steakhouse." They have the 72 Oz steak challenge. It is served with shrimp cocktail, baked potato, salad, with roll, butter, and of course the 72oz Steak. You pay for it in advance, and have one hour to eat all of it. If you do, you will get a refund of the full price. That's what I thought of when I heard what the kid had ordered. There have been a lot of people try it, many have succeeded and if you don't, you get to take home what you didn't eat as leftovers.
@@lindapatton4478 wow! I don't think I could get that down in a day. Maybe in a week... On the other hand, I feel peevish if I don't have leftovers, so I'd be happy in that respect!
@@oORiseAboveOo totally agree, yeah. It's not a favor that they're performing.
Yeah, I was one of those kids. I have a VERY unhealthy relationship with food now. Difference is I learned to keep my mouth shut when someone gave me contraband
I wasn't allowed many sweets when I was a kid, I went all out when I was a teenager with my own money at the supermarket. I'm still binge eating snacks sometimes and somehow still skinny (someone's looks don't always reprisent what they eat). Being restricted as a kid made me crave snacks even more. It also doesn't help that my mom wasn't the best cook. 😂
Remember that the mother, who is restricting sugar, is a "personal trainer" and not a pediatrician. Bet she's one of those health nuts trainers or an almond mom. The kids don't have food allergies and only restricted to one sweet once a week. I wouldn't be surprised if the kids will grow resentful towards their parents when they grow up or have unhealthy relationship with food.
Edit to add, I'm worried about the children. The SIL first reaction is scream like Op and wife committed a sin (which ironic she's the one who actually did the sin). I don't want to imagine what the kids have gone through if they were caught with sweets.
Seems that a decent solution could have been to suggest fruit or a bag of pre-popped, low-fat popcorn, so that all the kids would have a dessert. Takes a bit of planning--and the parents might still have said no--but maybe that would have defused the situation. There are low-sugar/low-carb options out there.
How dare people be nuts about their health. Why can’t they happily eat garbage and feed it to their children like the rest of us?
@@oORiseAboveOo a single cookie on a vacation will not kill a child. They're in the wrong for giving them a cookie regardless because that's what the mom wanted.
But that mom is setting those kids up for sugary binge eating once they hit older teens/adults.
@@whoahanant
The mom doesn’t completely withhold sugar, as she let them have popsicles. But yes, sugar is very addicting.
Can confirm. My mom was very restrictive with food, and would always say "an inch on the hips when it touches the lips" and now I struggle with binge eating and eating in front of people
If I ordered something like that when someone else was paying, my parents would've kicked my ASS!
I think about my situation with my soon to be ex husband. I felt like I would have dealt with a monster family if I had a wedding. My soon to be ex-mother in-law tried getting my son to call her mom and would get him to say he didn’t love me at 3 years old. There’s probably a lot more I would have endured from my husband’s family. But he cheated so thank goodness it opened my eyes to the deep craziness of everything I could see. Now I’m just the “black girl”, what they refer to me as. Who is hurt there son for leaving and hurting him for trying to make him be responsible for his two kids. That I caused him to move two hours away with his misstress to get away from the drama. He was cheating with two coworkers for a year before I knew, beside my family and friends who work there. Tell you what, they are not my friends no more, and my family who kept telling me the rumors, definitely felt stupid for trying to believe him and stay. Idk
YIKES... I can't say you "dodged" the bullet, but by getting the he11 out, you're likely dodging any more insult to injury!! Good for you, girl.
Oh my frigging god.....
Don't you listen to any of them!!! Head up, shoulders back. You're not the one who cheated xx
The cookies issue: personally whenever we go for the holidays/vacation with family my husband and I have a rule. The kids can watch and eat stuff pretty much like all the other kids. We have learned that there is a 2 week detox after such visits and this goes for TV, Food/sugar video games etc…. It usually takes two weeks to deprogram the kids. 😂
"deprogram" ?
This is just as unhealthy though, as a restriction. It’s where people get their bingeing behaviors because they think they can just detox after. Better off just teaching moderation on the whole, but I get picking battles, especially on vacation.
@@TheBaumcm Exactly. People don't realize they are doing more harm than good
I've seen bachlorette parties where everyone wore tiaras, but it's almost always just the bride who has the sash/tiara getup. Who in the world would assume a tiara was approprate if not discussed first? 😅
“Who in the world…” An entitled attention hog snob, that’s who! 😂
I went on a bachelorette little vacation and I brought a white sweater. I didn’t know I was not supposed to wear it, but when I saw the bride walk out and all white, I knew I was never going to put that sweater on during our trip. 😂😂😂 it was a basic ass sweater, but I knew I did not want to look like I was trying to be the bride. I ended up letting the bride borrow it because she got cold. ❤❤
Story 1: NTA, she has main character syndrome and thought it was appropriate to make herself the center of attention along with OP. One can only hope that the brother wakes up and sees the red flags.
My father was in and out of my life, one day he was home when my mother was watching my daughter and I told her no sweets. I arrived to pick her up and there sits my daughter on the kitchen table eating a cake with both hands ! I told my dad that was not right and his response was “ don’t threaten to keep her away” !
Here's the thing, its not going to harm them in moderation. I ate sweets as a child and now at 24 years old, I BARELY eat sweets. U are only harming your child and putting them at risk for eating disorders
The last story was the BIL f'ing around and finding out... along with a healthy dose from delulu land on his and his son's part. I also do think part of it was to take the leftovers home in the end. I just wouldn't take them out anymore.
This just makes me all the more grateful I'm not married (at least, not yet lol) 😂 dealing with in-laws sounds exhausting.
Good ones are AMAZING!
I promise, they're are SOME parents who love the people their children marry!!!
Lol seriously😅 God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven❤
I’m sitting here thinking how fun it sounds though lol
My husband doesn’t talk to his side of the family because of all these reasons. But I’m super grateful he likes my family. Him and my brothers are even friends. It’s very sweet and kindles my heart.
My husband was fully accepted by my family and we haven't talked to his family in 4 years. If you get a good husband he'll protect you from everyone, including his or your own family.
Waitress: are you having a joint Bachelorette party?
OP: no, my FSIL is just a narcissistic toxic beotch. Can I have another drink?
Almond moms have their own special circle of hell.
I’ve heard so many stories about “my treat” situations. I’ve found a way to avoid being taken advantage of by just surprised them that the meal is on me when the check comes.
Yup. I do that.
That's smart.
The cookie story - when I was a teenager a little neighbor girl would come over to ride my horses - she was a sweet good kid. Her parents were vegetarian. I'd take her in the house so we could make lunch and she'd always make her sandwich with lunchMEAT. I let her. She was about 12 and apparently not a vegetarian...
Years back was out to dinner with friends and FoFs. The new GF(vegetarian) of one of the guys is giving me a hard time because I ordered a steak. I just told her she can be whatever she wants, I'm a carnivore. She really hated me. Lol
Children should never be vegans or vegetarians.
@@Alex.smiffyMe and my ancestors from India have been vegetarians for 1000s of years 😂
@@Alex.smiffy that’s not necessarily true…there are healthy ways to raise kids as vegan/vegetarian as long as the parents are well informed, typically with the guidance of a registered dietician or pediatrician. It’s true that kids have different nutritional needs than adults, so it’s not enough for veg parents to simply wing it based on their personal experience alone. However, if the appropriate measures are taken then it shouldn’t be a problem for a vast majority of children, medically speaking. Especially considering that breast milk is vegan (bc it’s given with consent), and these days there are plenty of options available for supplementation. Despite the popular misconception, studies have shown that vegan kids do not have stunted growth, meaningfully weaker bones, or any similar significant deficits. They frequently are shorter than omnivore peers at young ages, but catch up before reaching adulthood. In fact, many studies have shown lower rates of things like obesity, type 2 diabetes, and high cholesterol in veg children. The real problem is when parents try to force their kid to eat a certain way once they’re old enough to make an informed decision. Just as a 12 year old can come home and say “I love animals so much I don’t want to eat them”, I think they are also old enough to choose to eat meat too. There’s often social pressure/feeling left out or picked on by peers for not eating meat, which can be really hard at that age. Point being, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to raise a child as an omnivore or as veg
My sister is trying very hard to not introduce artificial sugar to my niece too soon and personally I think it’s fine. It’s her kid, her rules and at the end of the day she is doing this because she cares a lot about her health and wants the best for her daughter. My sister makes EVERYTHING from scratch and loves to cook delicious but health conscious meals. This doesn’t mean she’s never going to have a cookie in her life but my sister puts a lot of work and effort into not indulging in artificial, mass produced, preservative riddled foods. *she makes sweets at the time but they don’t have all the crap that you would normally find. I would be LIVID if I found out someone went against my sisters boundaries and gave my niece sweets/junk food. *not too mention sugar tends to have a role in sugar spikes resulting in mood swings, attention span issues and literally fuels addiction to sugary foods which truly aren’t needed for healthy human development. Anywho, to each their own ❤
Story 1: as an ex waitress in that situation you pull the bride to be aside ask if there is a problem she needs taken care of (especially if the bride is paying) then you accidentally take care of the problem... one of the free passes at one of my jobs that I loved!
Story 2: you leave the cookies at the table tell the kid you're going into the other room saying if a cookie monster gets the cookies, I guess it can't be helped and move on. If questions are asked, you just say must have been the cookie monster lmao.
Story 1: How did you "accidentally" take care of the problem?
Story 2: Why is it so important to overstep the wishes of the parents who don't allow their kids to have sugar? You clearly think the cookie-positive mother did the right thing, just the wrong way. Whereas I think cookie mom was wrong, and there should instead have been a mother-to-mother discussion about whether--for this one-time vacation situation--there was some other acceptable dessert (like some fruit, perhaps, or a bag of popcorn from the store) for the no-sugar kids. That way, everyone would have gotten something, and no one would have been shaming anyone.
@@andydufresne5297Dunno for story 2, but as an ex waitress ( i changed job because i got tired of snobby clients ), i can tell you story 1 is basically : Red wine glass accident 😉
@@andydufresne5297I agree on the parenting. No parent who thinks their way is the “right” way, actually has well adjusted kids, in my opinion and experience . They had to have known this would cause a problem like giving two of three kids a balloon (I actually saw this once at a basketball game and thought the parents would’ve been within their right to beat the mascot for that).
That's cute, I like you
That 15 yr old was definitely looking to eat good steak for DAYS on op's dime. The brother clearly knew and figured she'd just cave and "be nice" because they were in public and she wouldn't want to "make a scene." Some people will always try to abuse your kindness, especially family.
My own wedding dress was lavender with flowers and butterflies and I did have a very small ceremony/reception (20 people max), but not ONE PERSON wore white bc respect is so easy to give.
Today is my 53rd birthday, the first person to call me was my mother in law. I adore her! ❤
I’ve been married 36 years and I’ve never had a problem with any of my in laws, I’m so freaking lucky.
Same, aside from normal squabbles (which actually makes me feel more like family😂), my in laws are good people. They come visit us and we them. We always help each other out whenever possible and they return the favor, not out of obligation but just because we don’t like to see each other struggling. My family is the nutters and I feel for my husband having to navigate the cray😂.
One of the many great joys of being an auntie/ uncle is giving your nieces and nephews homemade cookies. It just sucks that one of the kids had to be a little snitch and ruin everyone's vacation, lol.
So did the brother’s girlfriend have a casual tiara laying around or did she buy one for another woman’s bachelorette party?😂
Good lord, she will probably have a throne for her at her own batchlorette party. IF bro doesn't wake up and smell the coffee.
"This is my Monday tiara, this is my Wednesday tiara, this is my Columbus Day tiara, this is my SuperBowl halftime tiara..."
Is it bad that I do 😂
When I was a teenager, I almost wore white to a wedding. However, I did not know that was something you didn’t do (my mom informed when I suggested the outfit)- I had only been to a few weddings before and in all but 1, I was the flower girl and wore white 😂
Once I learned about this (again, as a teen) it stuck with me from there on.
Seeing all these stories about people doing this makes me think of that and also how easy it is to just not wear white. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Have your other bachelorette girlies explain the tiara tull situation to john. When they testified and he still is upset with you, you need a wedding babysitter that will keep any white dress, tull, tiara, proposal ish from taking any attention from you and your husband
Story 2: NTA, she is going to give those kids an E.D., the second those kids can buy their own foods they are going to gorge on sweets and junk food.
Nope, as a veteran mom I have to say that if you leave your children in someone else's care, you have to be ok with them being in charge. If they make an exception to one of your rules, you have to be flexible and roll with it. If you believe a person is going to make the kind of exception to your ruke that is so far out of bounds that it would endanger your child or go well outside of your family's core values, do NOT leave your child with that person. Otherwise, you need to just chill out and realize that things like eating cookies and staying up too late, etc. are going happen when you leave your kids with a babysitter...especially in flipping VACATION! Jesus, don't YOU indulge a little on vacation?!?! Give your kids a break, you're going to make them nuts.
Well said I was thinking the same thing
Absolutely agree. Kids raised by authoritarian parents are usually the ones who are totally out of control when their folks aren’t around. I went to college with a few of these. Constant partying, up late, never go to, class and their dorm room becomes a revolving door and haven for serial sex partners, all because there’s no one around to tell them NO. Then, at the end of the semester, they need my help, books, and class notes to pass the class they’ve skipped all semester.
Yep 100%. What one gets they all get. If you don't like how I care for them don't leave them with me.
I agree and disagree at the same time. lol. I trusted my daughter’s father to care for her in my absence and after a good number of weekends she spent with him, he finally asked if I could “send more snacks” cause she was finishing the ones I sent with her too quick. Now, I thought it was common sense that when you eat, so does the child, but apparently when I would send her favorite snacks with her, that’s all she would eat for that weekend. Until he moved in with his girlfriend (who I honestly trusted WAY more than him) she wasn’t allowed to spend any more weekends with her father alone until I knew there was an adult present with brains enough to feed my child. She also told me not to worry about sending snacks cause she would buy them for my daughter. I should have had the baby with her.
@@TrinigmaticBeing able to co-parent with your child's father's gf/wife is a beautiful thing. I had that at one point and then the idiot screwed up and lost her. She and I are still friends to this day though 😂
Here’s what you do in the cookie situation: leave the cookies on the counter and look the other way😜
My sil is strict with food, so when my nephews come to my parents house, they are constantly in the candy jar. My little one pretty much stays away from the candy. We eat healthy, but aren’t strict.
Great idea
That’s very unkind to your sil, she’s trusting you.
@@christineb2640 maybe you missed what I said, the jar is at my parents house. She doesn’t care that they’re eating it, but they want it more because of the restriction at home. I don’t provide anything, but if the aunties are making cookies for everyone, it seems unfair for the parent to require that their kids sit and watch everyone eat it.
I eat healthy but I don’t restrict my kids because I’ve seen too many people who had strict parents with food, develop disordered eating as they got older.
@@sarahhunter1114 I understand where your coming from but it’s still a break of trust to me. My children have to restrict some foods for health reasons but some of our family will give them those foods purposely for your same reasons but what they don’t understand is my kids get the physical pain from those foods. I just don’t leave my kids with those people, which is sad.
Anne spilled first blood. Despite agreeing that her boundary about the cookies should have been respected, I have no sympathy for her. She made it ugly with the fat a$$ comment.
It also goes to show she isn't restricting their diet out of purely health concerns, imo...
I agree...
@@mb8787as is a parent’s right. Fat shaming tho is not acceptable nor her right.
@@mb8787 exactly!
I agree. She is definitely the bigger a-hole in this scenario
Steak story. My little brother ordered that on his birthday. He ate the whole damn order and had desert. But we all knew he’d be able to. He’s never asks for something he couldn’t finish. The most we’ve ever had to take home was bread that he stuffed in a box. Or if he was taking some to share with his friends.
Ok. But it was his birthday and even if he didn't finish it, I can understand that he would be at least allowed to try. Also your own family paid.
That was my first thought too, most 15 year old boys can eat their own weight in food in one sitting especially if they're athletic, etc
Gotta love the SIL in the first story showing up like Princess Carrie Bradshaw to the bachelorette.
Former trainer and nutritionist here and I never kept certain foods from my kids when they were little because that can set them up for eating disorders .... something I have always struggled with.
Restrictions don’t work anyways because willpower is a budget to be spent and you can overspend if too restrictive. Maybe mom didn’t want them to spoil their appetite, or maybe they have behavioral issues. My concern is the number of people who are taking it as gospel that this mom was restrictive rather than setting a boundary. Either way, restrictive or simply a boundary, there can be reasons, like behavior, that some things are no go for munchkins. No one questions not giving honey to young kids due to botulinum toxin.
Especially when people are making decisions about the mom through only the lens of their own experience, which I agree with you, over restriction is problematic WHEN the parent treats the kid like a baby. I had a friend who was phenylketonuric, genetic from birth. Couldn’t have milk protein as a result because it would make her very sick, like needing hospital treatment for kidney sick.
kinda a shame that what used to be "my treat" is now something that has to be "My treat within reason" can not people understand that it's an implied?
Whenever I offer to pay I also give a budget or somebody asks me what the budget or spending limit is it's not that hard.
If you tell someone no limits you can't exactly be surprised if they're not going to realize there's a limit if you didn't tell them if you have a spending limit tell them that when you offer to pay tell them that they have a budget it's not that hard to figure out that kind of thing with some basic communication
@@lahlybird895 Nah, because she did question it before the order was made and the dad said she was cheap for having a limit of any kind - namely almost $200 on a steak for a *child* that everyone knew he couldn't eat! That's taking advantage, ignoring a boundary, and then complaining about the consequences he agreed to on top of it. If I offer to treat someone and they order a *ridiculous* amount of food, even if I can pay for it, I'm never going to offer again. There are basic levels of politeness here and considerations about not taking advantage of people's kindness. If there's a hard and fast "don't spend more than X amount" that needs to be spelled out, but generall the rule is just "don't be unreasonable," and this story was definitely someone being unreasonable. If someone offers to treat me and I want something expensive I always ask if it's ok to have the steak or whatever before ordering, just to be sure, but I sure as heck wouldn't order a week's worth of food to take home and complain that they were being cheap to not want to pay for it.
@@TesriaT the reason the brother said that her boundary was cheap was because Opie didn't place the boundary until after the order was made.
Common consideration goes both ways, if op had a specific spending limit at a restaurant they specifically chose and wanted to go to they should have informed everybody before they ordered, rather than fingering out somebody's order and saying that it's not worth paying for it because there's a chance they wouldn't eat it all. It's common for people to have food left over when they go to a restaurant anyway that doesn't mean there's always exploitation when it happens.
If for instance it had been a smaller meal that hadn't been finished which you still have a few to pay for it just because they were going to be left overs?
Also there's a factor that op specifically chose this restaurant so maybe first of all don't promise to treat somebody if you aren't willing to actually do it and second of all don't take people to restaurants you can't afford. If you take somebody out to a fancy restaurant they're going to assume that they're allowed to eat the food there.
The Spiderman cut was perfect... " I miss the part where that's my problem "
About the kid in the restaurant, I have my own story: I was taken out for dinner by my grandparents after reconciling after about half a decade or so (tbf, everyone was treated because they had sold their house and started renting in an elderly apartment complex). They took us to a STEAK house and I kinda can't eat meat. I order prawns as the starter dish, but when it became time for the main dish, I felt uneasy, as the only prawn dish was the most expensive one on the menu. Next thing I know, I hear my grandparents shouting from the table next to us: "LOOK! THEY HAVE PRAWNS!!! :D" (they were very enthusiastic lol) So I did order the prawn dish because they absolutely approved of it, but I ended up not eating all because the rice was meh (it was a Balkan restaurant and we're partially Asian, so we know how we like our rice and that was not it). They did not make a fuss about it. It was one of the few things they did right in their treatment of me lol. Maybe even the only one? :')
Can we all agree that judge Charlotte is the best judge ever? A Trial with her would be so funny. 😂♥️
She would also be the pettiest judged ever.
My treat doesn’t mean order $200 worth of food for yourself. 🙄
Whenever I watch these videos, it just makes me feel so much better about myself because some people are just stupid and have no regard for how others feel. I always distance myself from people who ask for more than what I’m comfortable giving them. Who you surround yourself with can change your life for better or for worse so choose your partner wisely.
Every time I go out for dinner, regardless of who it is if the other person is paying, I always check to see what they’re eating and the price to gauge what is appropriate for me to order. I would never order something expensive unless I was planning to pay. When I treat, I do expect people not to take advantage of my generosity as I don’t take advantage of theirs.
We have always had a rule in my family when I was growing up that if someone watches the others kids they will "get what they get". Even if that means candy before dinner and chocolate milk for breakfast. This was then also established between my siblings and I. We have all agreed that "if I watch then they will get what they get and if you're not happy they will get noisy toys for the rest of their life at home".
Regarding that second family, I definitely think this is an almond mom raising her kids with disordered eating. Probably shouldn't have given them the cookies but those are definitely kids you want to keep an eye on. I have heard way too many stories of mom's like this depriving their children so severely that their friends parents and other family members would have to sneak them food just to get them poperly nourished.
Yup. I knew a rail thin mom at church who only let her kids eat celery and carrot sticks for snacks when the other kids had cookies. I saw the girls wedding photo when she was 20 and away from home. W-A-Y overweight.
Yeah but we don’t even know if OP is being completely truthful. Current research shows that some kids have an extreme reaction to sugar, behaviorally and chemically speaking, and maybe mom is trying to stave off tantrums on vacation or having to give them medications for behaviors due to pressure at school. Not trying to defend but rather think critically here. My sister (anorexic) and my mother (emotional eater) have been observed over decades and I know their behaviors are unhealthy. I have seen the result firsthand. Just saying that we only have one side here and it’s not the person being judged.
With regard to the cookies. They should have told the kids, your parents do not want you to have any. I am not going to give you any. But I have to go into the other room on now.
Response to the first story, the SIL was wearing a two piece wedding dress. NTA
Story 2: ESH. While not giving the poor abused kids cookies per the parents' wishes would have been the correct thing to do, it would be heartbreaking to a person who likes kids and was giving other kids cookies right in front of them. I hope that little snitch learns something from this and does not tell his mom when he cheats on her diet. Snitches get stitches, y'know.
Look at your wording. It’s really disturbing to me that everyone is assuming OP is in the right here, insomuch as telling the absolute truth, that parenting decisions should be based on feeling guilty and that simply because mom is a trainer, she must be the villain. Some kids have a very negative reaction to sugar. The bakers couldn’t think of an activity to do that didn’t involve food and also knew it would cause issues (also points to unhealthy relationships with food). ESH but especially the judgmental general public who makes decisions, not based on reason but on emotion.
I can see restricting food if the parents have concerns are the ingredients or allergies but honestly, food restrictions like this cause more damage than benefit. The mother has a lot of “fat fear”.
Getting home and enjoying your coffee with Charlotte's new video ... now that s what we would call a good evening ❤
Sometimes, these stories make me think the road of not being married might be calmer. 😂
It’s more like “what kind of craptastic comments do I wanna deal with?” Single shaming or “relationship status” shaming..?
Here are some of the ?’s and comments I’ve gotten over the years. enjoy!! lol!!!:
“When are y’all gonna make it legal?”
“You’re ok living in sin?” “You’re doing your kid a disservice by not being married. They’re gonna end up promiscuous like you were.”😳 thanks grandma.
“Aren’t you lonely? I’d get SO lonely being ALONE all the time.”
“Don’t worry you’ll find *some* one ~ *one* day.”
“Have you met ______ he’s my ______? He’s single/divorced/widowed.”
{the next ones made me skip a year of holidays}} 😮💨
“Just lose a little more weight, have a mommy makeover, and download Tinder!!”
“You know _____ (my ex) only cheated with one person (that THEY know of; there were MANY) and he’s a really good dad to their kidS(all 7! But not our’s tho. not in 18 years) I see them online. You should take him back. At least *he* married you.”😶
Some of these are from back when I was single and some are from more recent years including last week at Thanksgiving dinner (btw I’ve been with my SO for 17 years)
That’s because it’s all the bad stories 😂 there’s so many good ones but those don’t make for as good reactions so here we are
My wedding was quiet...maybe cuz' there were only 5 people there! GLAD I went SMALL!!
It is. Single and alone is freedom.
I don’t want to be old and alone (or nursing home) - what are you going to do when your looks go and body stops working right?
I love the editing! It adds such a comedic touch. Love watching your reactions to trash on the internet! It's become a daily indulgence. Thanks for providing such great entertainment 😊❤
Charlotte! Am I the A hole for including no one in my elopement tomorrow? I'm getting married!!! Our parents are unstable so we're just doing it the two of us, we've been engaged for 4 years and I am so excited for a stress free courthouse day. To clarify no one knows what day we are doing it but have all been grudgingly supportive of our choice.
No one from my husband's family was invited to our wedding! You are not the a-hole,and congratulations on your marriage!!!!!!
Congratulations!!!
@@SSeul96classicly yes. In recent years people have adjusted it to mean a only a few guests. We are excited to do the classic way.
@@queenbee137Thank you!
@@MyMomCallsMeSarthank you!
I feel like the dad had told the kid to ask for the stake so he could have stake at home😂😂
this
I'm sorry, but I'm like Charlotte - a spelling and grammar nerd - they ordered a steak to eat, not a stake (the kind to be driven into the heart of a vampire on Buffy the Vampire Slayer.)
@@rebeccaklages9783BTVS reference! Yay!
HEY MA! GET IN HERE CHARLOTTE'S GOT A NEW AITA EPISODE! GET THE POPCORN AND PETTY TEA!
Please tell me you have the Petty mugs from her merch store for the petty tea! (Pet-tea?)
I actually need to order one omg
@@LadyRP get one for Ma too. 😉
Charlotte!!! The editing was 👌🏻🤌🏻 the part about the new Spider-Man movie, then using the CLASSIC "i missed the part where that's my problem". Golden!
2:27 Honestly the tutu and tiara are quite fitting since she’s acting like a whole toddler 💀 Crying to her boyfriend about being “bullied” because she didn’t like facing the consequences of her own actions. Frankly, the bride and bridal party were A LOT more tolerant of her than I would’ve been. If that were me, she wouldn’t have even been allowed to stay at the party. Not even if she changed her clothes because it’s clear that her intention was to upstage the bride and someone like that does not deserve to be in the bridal party or at the wedding at all. And anyone who took her side and tried to blame me would also not be welcome at the wedding. I’m sure that sounds harsh to some but just remember, you’re not obligated to take shit from anyone. Not even family.
Just want to say, I legit laughed out loud at some of the cuts between your commentary and quick videos from films. They were so funny! (Like OP calling the SIL a cartoonish villain type, and then the video cutting to Voldemort laughing ridiculously. Or, Charlotte saying they were trying to keep from embarrassing SIL even more, and then the video cuts to Gladiator and Joaquin Phoenix saying evilly "Am I not merciful?") I could not stop laughing. Loving the edits!! 😄🤣
I have a hot take for the controlling mom cookie story- I think the angle of emotional/psychological abuse isn’t being taken strongly enough. I definitely get the “respect my parenting boundaries and don’t let them stuff their faces with cookies” but cmon, one?! Strict restrictions with absolutely no flexibility in rules (not including allergies ofc) is what leads to disordered eating for sure. No one would argue today that you should intervene when a child is suffering from physical abuse, but back in the day they used to call that a “parenting style” as well. When you can’t see the physical scars somehow the conversation goes from emotional abuse to “hey that’s just my parenting style”.
In summary: I think intervening in someone’s parenting style is justified if that continued action is gonna lead to the kid needing therapy down the road. But that’s just my hot take 🔥
I agree! I know from personal experience how badly children can be hurt by emotional/psychological abuse and neglect. But because it's less obvious, people go "it's none of my business". It's so sad that people have that attitude. I've heard so many stories of abused children growing up, and then hearing from someone from their childhood (old teacher, relative, etc) that these people knew something bad was going on, but they chose not to help because of this stupid "not my circus, not my monkeys" attitude. So many of these poor children end up developing eating disorders, Complex PTSD, DID, etc, because no-one was there for them or showed then a healthier way of being.
I think your hot take, and that of many others here, says more about you than the parents.
Make no mistake, I think the adults are all AHs in this one but aim really more concerned about the adults in the general public with the asumptions and lack of critical thinking. Do we know she’s actually a controlling mom? Restrictive for no reason? Or are we just taking OP’s word for it with no exaggeration or embellishment, a parent who cannot say no to a kid or explain the realities of life being unfair? In my experience working with children of all ages for decades, and seeing the parenting styles that create them, parents who cannot be consistent, even on vacation, or parent by their feelings of guilt, are the ones who have the most difficulties during the teen years. Also, there are many reasons to avoid sugar overload, especially on vacation where kids are already overstimulated and out of routine, or where kids have behavioral issues that are exacerbated by it.
I ALWAYS add.. "Within reason.." when I utter the words, "my treat". It's saved me hundreds.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
Good morning Nichole! ❤
@@SSeul96no
@@queenbee137Good Morning 👑🐝
That woman is giving her kids an eating disorder i feel so bad for them
Deffo. It's like people forget most kids have a fine understanding of occasional sweets/treats (and generally grow out of wanting many sweets anyway), restricting their diet when there's no need can greatly damage their relationship with food
@@WickedCheetahThat is such BS, kids don't have that understanding at all unless they learn it.
You don’t even know that this story is accurate, unexaggerated or true. Maybe bakers just didn’t feel like having to say no, which might be why trainer doesn’t trust them.
@@silentsaturn7604 Kids aren't dogs, they will pick up nuances. Don't be weird about food is my point, don't heavily restrict it and don't overeat, both of those things are important
I get second-hand embarrassment when people try to take advantage of other’s generosity with money. I’m a bartender & I can’t tell you how many times people would try ordering expensive shots or drinks when someone offers to buy them a drink or shot. I know my regulars for the most part & if someone tries ordering an expensive shot, I tell them they need to order something cheaper unless the buyer is okay with an expensive shot. I always make sure to ask if said shot is okay or not. Usually, they’re bold enough to be like, “Mf I said I’d buy you a shot so get a cheap one” but they all say it in good fun & take jabs at each other in a non-serious way so I can’t imagine getting the most expensive thing let alone, a $190 steak!!! How INCONSIDERATE!!!
I’m sorry but I could never in my life take my child out to eat with a family member who was paying for our meal but want that many people and I have a lot of people in my family just myself and my kids and then my son have the audacity to even think of ordering $190 plate of food some people I tell ya… by the way I love your videos❤
Oh my goodness!!!! Yea, I agree with the whole being polite and generous, but not being taken advantage of!!! Love you, Charlotte, you and Mike are freaking HILARIOUS together, please do more little skits!!!
HELLOOOOOO CHARLOTTE!!! HELLO POTATOES FROM AROUND THE WORLD!!!
I heard someone say "Don't cross oceans for people who wouldn't cross a puddle for you."
Which I thought was good advice. Until someone else then said
"No. Do it. Cross oceans for people. Love all people. No conditions attached. No wondering whether or not they are worthy. Cross oceans, Climb mountains. Life and love isn't about what you gain, it's about what you give."
And I changed my mind.
charlooootte! petty potato queen!! hello from england❤❤
thank you for being an angel. you literally cure my depression😂❤
I learned never to tell anyone it's my treat, I wait till the end grab the check and say my treat....and not everytime we go out
Regarding the second AITA… I had a foster mom who was very strict with “unhealthy foods” even more than baby sized portions of food was too much. She was, also, fatphobic… Turns out, it induced extreme disordered eating for me since 6th grade. I am 27, almost 28. I still struggle with ED, but have gotten more control of it.
I have learned a lot of things while working on it. Including that excess sugar is what is harmful to a person’s body function and health. However, small portions or treats every once in a while is perfectly fine…. Especially, growing children!! Teach them how to eat these foods in a healthy way, but doing what that mother is doing can cause her children to do what I did - Steal and hide food, binge until I got sick. Take it from me, that’s how it started, and it only gets worse once they start doing that.
EDIT: I just saw the disordered eating comment following the story and agree 100%.
I feel for you having had to go through that. My sister is anorexic (I say is because she has never to my knowledge addressed it and has passed her unhealthy relationship with food to her children). There have been a number of studies that show disordered eating has more to do with control and pressure than weight so I can see the correlation. I would caution though, judging every situation through the lens of your experience. Not every parent who says no is being restrictive and we don’t even know if everything in these stories can be taken at face value.
Side note: I absolutely agree that portion control is needed. Some have trouble with that and have to give them up entirely. I have a sweet tooth so just cutting out nonnutritive sweets (soda, hard candy, etc.) was helpful for me but certain items I will eat the entirety of the contents, even if I am aware it is way too much. Might be the case here too.
Story 2 this is how you teach your kids to be sneaky and have issues with food/ED.
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The steak one.NTA.
you said it's a lot of food.
The wait staff said it's a lot of food.
You told everyone that if nephew does not finish,he has to pay.you said it multiple times to clarify this.
And bil has shocked Pikachu face when,to the shock of nobody,the almost $200meal went to waste.
I had childhood friends whose parents wouldn't let them have candy and they literally resorted to thievery to get it. They would take their bookbags and go into stores stealing hundreds of dollars worth of candy, then proceed to hide it all over their rooms. Telling kids they can't have things isn't always the answer.
The no sugar thing is how I started to develop an eating disorder. I realized in time which was good.
Charlotte’s videos always make my day ❤😊
I just wanna say, the SIL in the second story ALSO received an apology from OP's wife and she still went off the handle.
On the first video, I was a little bit ticked at first until she explained about the group text and the plan for the pink outfits in the group photo. At first I was like, “Is no one ever allowed to wear white ever again once someone announces their wedding?!” 😡 I mean, c’mon! It’s not the wedding, it’s an event leading up to the wedding. But then she described the plan and the outfit and I was like, “Fair! I gotchu!” 😂🤣
Lol most bridal showers and bachelorette parties feature a scheme. If no one’s is assigned an outfit, then you come as you are, but the bride to be is always wearing something white. That way everyone knows who she is. Especially since a lot of bars and clubs will comp her a few things.
. . . Where on earth did you get “no one can wear white EVER when someone is getting married?”
you can wear white when someone announces their wedding. you CANNOT wear it at a bachelorette party OR a wedding!
@@caljoneswithout the full context of the story, that’s what popped into my head. 😉
@@totitelevisionshowthe wedding I understand and support. It seemed a bit of a stretch to include the bachelorette party; until the full context was given.