As someone who lived in the Netherlands for 7 years and moved back home, don’t feel guilty for choosing yourself right now. If the time ever comes for you to move back home, you’ll know. You’ll feel it so deeply that you wouldn’t be able to ignore it. In 9 days it’ll be 2 years since I moved back and I’m still rediscovering the place I grew up in. In a way everything stayed the same, but it also changed a lot. But till this day I never regretted the decision. I love being back home ❤. But if you don’t feel it don’t rush to come back. In a way home will always be there, but the chance to experience the world on your own when you’re young, learn, grow, be independent won’t always be there. Enjoy your time abroad, and if the time comes, you’ll know.
@@bibijanee For sure! Greattt vid! Loved it! It for sure brought back a lot of memories from my time as a student. You really captured the essence of what it feels like to be a student abroad. Beautiful video 🫂
True!! But at the same time I dont want to take home and the people that make me feel at home for granted. Especially my grandparents. Im very close with them and want to spend their last years by making as many good memories as possible. Im so torn apart by studying in a different region and being present there and at the same time staying close with family so hard ahhh
Like James Baldwin said “You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read" in this case then we watch
it’s been 9 years since I’ve moved and I’m really glad I left and haven’t missed my family since. it’s a lot easier to not miss them when it’s abusive.
i recently stopped talking to the last family member i had contact with - my mum. it's been really difficult. but i can reason to myself why i stopped talking to them all. i'm 24 and moved across the world last year with no money or connections. wishing you the best
Oh wow! Im happy for you that you made that decision for yourself and for a happier life❤️ I interviewed someone in a similar situation, i uploaded some parts of that conversation on my instagram in case you're interested in hearing that perspective. Wishing you the best x
I moved back in with my parents after 10 years. It kinda made sense, but it doesn't really. Don't move back with your parents ever (in our case). Once you've gotten used to your new normal life, going back will only disappoint.
@@bibijanee Glad you also covered other perspectives. That was something that struck me while I was watching: everyone in this video has a good relationship with their families. On a more personal note, having a partner with you shifts your perspective even more. For me, my husband is home. So long as he moves with me, it doesn't take long for a new place to feel like home. I think it would be interesting to follow up with this group if they decide to get married to a local or another expat, etc.
lovely people and video, I moved abroad age 26 to Prague (from the US), that was almost 9 years ago now and I'm still here... i had so many experiences that touched on what these interviews discussed. Missing the death of my grandmother, weddings of childhood best friends, the birth of my sister's first baby... feeling guilty that I've chosen to be absent. Yet when I'm visiting, I always have the feeling of missing my home in Prague too, this is the place that I've chosen and made my own, where I feel... at home. My girlfriend, our two cats and our nice flat, our routines and my work downtown, the beauty of the city and feeling that, yes, if I could live anywhere in the world, i would choose to live here.... and that is exactly what I did. There are so many places all around the world I could live in, and I chose this one. Choosing to uproot yourself and put roots down elsewhere is a very empowering feeling, even with all the downsides.
Thanks for sharing your story. I am from Prague and decided to go to Canada, I feel you! I'm happy you found home there, I love how the international community is growing in the city :)
Next February it will be 5 years since I moved from Spain to Belgium. This year my husband and I got married and bought a place here. We have chosen this place to be our home. Created a family with our little dog. So much to be grateful for. This is my home and I love it. Nevertheless, this year I missed my first nephew being born, even though I tried to fix my vacations around my sisters due date my nephew had other plans. My grandmother decided not to come to my wedding because she did not want to travel abroad. And I could not celebrate my dad’s and mom’s 60th birthdays because of a flight workers stile and a work event. I have felt so guilty for choosing to be away… But also… I just do not feel like myself in Spain anymore… I need the distance to be myself. To hear my own voice without the noise of family drama. It is hard.
Ask yourself: How much you want it? - as deep within you, you will always find that drive to implement the things you need to achieve it. It may take some time, but if you have that deep seated heartfelt drive, you will do what's needed. You will have doubts, you will be scared, but if you want it deep down, it will override that anxiety.
It can be done easy, for example if you find a work at company with offices in different countries. This is how I moved to UK. Your start will be easier as you would know how to do your job and you could potentially know your new colleagues already. They would be your friendly touch point.
This video was an emotional rollercoaster for me! It made me laugh, tear up, and by the end, I felt so deeply connected. Thank you for creating something that resonates on such a profound level. It’s amazing how you captured the shared experiences that connect us all. Truly impactful work!
Last week I moved from Argentina to Switzerland. You can't even imagine how much I needed this video. I have to thank you and these beautiful people you interviewed ❤
This video is incredible, I believe, not because someone has said something of incredible wisdom, but simply because it’s the first time I’ve heard these words spoken out loud - the same words I have chewed in my head time and time again. The excitement, the confusion, the loneliness, the guilt, the fear, the bravery, all a bit unique to each, but also all the bits shared among us. Thank you, for letting me hear these words.
Loved this video! I’ve been living abroad for over 10 years now and the guilt of abandoning my family is always in the back of my mind. This video has made me feel less alone. So thank you for sharing your story and that of the others so beautifully. It’s nice to know there is a community of people all over the world that feel the same. 🌍 ❤
As someone who’s been away from my hometown (Singapore) now for almost 20 years, having moved 5 countries in that time (Boston, Cape Town, Sydney, Amsterdam, Zurich), I can relate. Nowhere feels like “home” anymore but at the same time picking up and moving to the next place on the next adventure becomes a lot easier. It’s definitely helped me live life on my terms without feeling like I’m being judged.
I really enjoyed this video! I'm Dutch and moved away from Amsterdam to Berlin when I was 18. Moved to Seoul when I was 22, Brighton when I was 24, and have lived in Vancouver since I was 26, and I've settled here longterm I think, I'm 34 now. It was easier for me because my mom passed away when I was 15, and my relationship with my dad was poor. I didn't feel much guilt or pressure to return. The main thing I missed and still do miss is my brother and his children, but we frequently talk and I visit every year. I still enjoy spending time in the Netherlands, but it doesn't feel like home anymore, only in a nostalgic sense do I sometimes miss it but that time and place doesn't really exist anymore.
What you said at the end of your comment really resonated with me, I've been struggling a lot recently with being away from my hometown, but when I am back 'home' to visit I don't feel quite the way I thought I would and I think it's due to me being nostalgic for a time that doesn't exist anymore, my friends have grown up and moved on with their life and I'm not a kid anymore. What I'm missing is just a memory of a time and place, it doesn't physically exist anymore, just inside of me.
What a coincidence I stumbled upon this video. I have only briefly told my family and friends that I will not be living and working in the US and let’s just say the reactions are bittersweet and disapproving. However, they know that I’m an ambitious person and will live my life however I want (moving abroad). I explain to them that I’m not abandoning them but I need to move with all the conditions and circumstances to consider. Family and friends are super important of course but I can’t live a life where I feel I have no control of what I do. They probably think I’ll snap out of it or it’s a phase but they are no different as they immigrated to the US from their home country and I’m doing the same but the difference is I have more resources to rely on-in which I’m grateful for. I want to fall in love with life.
I moved across the Atlantic when I was 19, and lived abroad for 4 years (as I was doing my bachelor degree in Canada). I’m quite shy and I’ve never felt lonelier in my life. This made me desperate for relationships (friendly & romantic) and really affected my mental health. Not having a strong support system (I.e. people who really know you and who you can count on) is f-ing hard and makes you really vulnerable. Moving abroad can also builds up character but that really depends on the person. I think it’s not for everyone and the timing needs to be right too. I’m still living abroad but much closer to family & friends.
It's incredible to read this because this is exactly my experience. Everyone said moving abroad is great and amazing but I never thought about how lonely it could get, especially for more introverted people like myself. My mental health is not great right now too and I don't know what will make it better. I also think I will move closer the my family once I finish my degree here but I feel really bad for making this decision in the first place.
I can relate to everything that has been said. The saddest part is that now I want to go back, but my hometown feels like abroad and Im no longer 18, without a care in the world. Im a mom myself, and this decision will no longer affect only me. It's hard to take the step.
Why am I crying after watching this vid… It’s so positively sad, it’s so poetic and full of life The level of openness really helps to pose the questions one doesn’t usually ask oneself Thank you very much for this experience
I’ve been living abroad on and off for a while, and recently I came back home after my last trip abroad. Looking back, I think I could’ve had a better experience if the country I chose aligned with me better. I ended up in a place with a different religion and a very different mentality, and it’s made me realize just how important it is to choose the right country when moving. It can seriously affect your mindset, well-being, and overall experience. Has anyone else experienced choosing the 'wrong' place to live abroad?
I moved from Italy to the US last year. I study sustainability and I have a very anti-consumption mindset, so I knew the impact would've been hard. It has been, it drives me crazy how broken this country is. But I'm also lucky to have chosen a place with natural beauty, and I've been focusing on loving myself more and finding more true connections, so this helps balancing things out. I hope your experience will help you make aligned choices in the future 🩷
I have been living in Paris for decades. A very beautiful town with a rich cultural life. But people are very self oriented and connexions are so superficial. I am from a more traditional culture where people are warm and supportive. Thinking of leaving to my home town where all my family lives. But it’s not so easy ..
I left to study/live abroad at 19, and it was the most scary and incredible experience of my life. I've moved back home after 2 years, because of financial difficulties and burnout, but the hardships don't make me regret it. I value my hometown, my family and friends much more now, and I find myself very happy after a year of the also scary decision of coming back. I think if you have that feeling that you want to do it, deep in you -- like a bird clawing at your chest -- you should always do it. I do recommend to do it with very planned finances and support if you can (but back then I wouldn't have listened anyway). You figure it out. You live through what you need to live, and you come out so much better for it. You get to know who you are outside of what you had always been. I want to do it again in the future, but with a more grown-up head. But I only got the slightly-more-grown-up-mind I have now because of the teenager who ran to the airport. :)
This video came at such a pivotal time for me! I’m moving from Australia to Europe for the 3rd time in my adulthood (I’m 24) in 8 weeks and this time around has been especially daunting. This will be my most permenant move yet and uprooting is hard when your family and friends are starting to have children and getting married, it’s hard to chose yourself and your life path. I have to remind myself that their life is what they’ve chosen to do, and I have all the autonomy to chose my own too.
As someone who just moved to another country from my home country, this video really hits hard. The guilt of leaving home and the opportunities being away from home give you is such a juxtaposition in life.
Great video! As someone who moved away alone myself to Amsterdam, it was really nice hearing about these experiences. A quote that reminds me of my conviction is from French Dispatch: "Seeking something missing. Missing something left behind. Maybe, with good luck, we'll find what eluded us in the places we once called home"
As someone who did eventually move back home from abroad, I can share that it took awhile to transition back to life at home. It was a whole process and I’m happy to be home for now. But I still have inklings sometimes to move abroad again and wonder what my life would’ve been like if I didn’t move back home.
This video is such a true reflection of all the thoughts and phases a person that has moved out goes through. I rarely comment on TH-cam, but I found this video really emotional. I sent it to my family so they could understand in words how I feel being abroad, which I think sometimes they struggle to understand. I think one thing that isn't mentioned in this video is that often it feels like you are the only person who has moved abroad in your circle that is having those feelings and second thoughts, cause everyone that is in a similar position to you seems to really enjoy their lives (rightly so). It is only rarely that you might talk about these deep things with friends. It has been reassuring to see that indeed, everyone feels like this and that it's a shared, common thing. Honestly, best video I have watched in a while. I wish more content creators got deep into the reality of what being a human is like!
As someone who has been abroad now for four months, this video truly resonated with me. I've lived abroad before, but returned home for my family. And now, I am away from home again because I think this is the right decision for me. But that doesn't make it any easier. Hearing these people's stories makes me feel less alone in the challenges I've faced :) thank you all for sharing
I found a quote once that resonated with me more than the usual „home is a feeling…“ and it goes like this „Home is not where you are born, home is where all your attempts to escape cease“. Hope this helps the people reading this, even if only a little.
I moved abroad 5 months ago at the age of 17 from Colombia to Spain, and it has been a really hard journey. I was so used to living with my mom and my younger sister, it has always been the three of us and when I decided to move and start college here and live with my dad who I am not very close with it was really surprising for my whole family. Every day I wonder if I made the right decision coming here, I miss everything about my country, and the constant feeling of not knowing when I will see them again is frustrating. This video came along when I needed it the most, now I know I'm not the only one who feels this way, there's nothing wrong with missing home and having some lows. I think you portrayed every little thought and feeling very well.💌
Thank you so much for making this video🥹✨ It’s been two years since I moved to the US, from Spain. There are so many topics I can relate to in this video. The first time I missed my mama’s bday, long distance friendships, Christmas without my family, asking yourself ‘do I really miss my life there or is it just fomo?’. And the mixed feelings of the cultural shocks and realizing everything that’s f up the american culture, but also being grateful of all the opportunities this country has offered me. If could recommend anything to anyone that’s thinking about moving abroad: if you have the chance, do it. In my opinion, better to tried it and then moving back if it doesn’t work, than always wondering if you should’ve done it.
This really explains how hard for an individual to make a decision for himself/herself alone. The securedness and ability to choose it is really cool. As we grow up we really realize what matters slowly in out own life and the reality of being alone and exploring something new with fear and dedication. I have learned a lot
Moving abroad has been a desire of mine recently and watching this video and seeing these wonderful people talk about the same stuff that goes trough my mind every time I think about actually doing it was really important to me and honestly brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful video, thank you so much for sharing these feelings.
This was so relatable. Thank you for sharing and adding your artistic touch to it. My dad passed away last week, and since then, I've been thinking a lot about moving back home. I've been questioning whether being where I am right now is worthwhile. I have these goals, but I keep wondering about the sacrifices I'm making for them. I don’t have the answers yet, but this video helped me better understand my feelings. Thank you.
Rahuldeep, what a lovely guy. I'm 60, born in Manchester UK, youngest of 7 kids, met my wife during my studies, when I was 18. After my degree I moved to Germany, got married, built a career, a house and eventually we had two beautiful boys. They are now 22 and 23, and the youngest is now setting up house with his girlfriend. I've always had mixed feelings towards my family and parents, so moving to Germany wasn't difficult for me, but I didn't develope a real adult relationship with my parents, they knew me deeply last as an 18 year old and I didn't live through their development in life. I wish I had developed an adult relationship with my Mum before she died, but if you don't live near, you can't. The people in Saarland, Germany are great and welcoming, but I neither really belong here, nor do I belong in Manchester anymore. So, yes, Rahuldeep, you're right, home is where the people you love most are. Our youngest has moved out and I now know how true that is.
Giiiiirl, this is beautiful. 7 years half living in Amsterdam/Nederlands. Came with 21 , never lived before abroad, I arrived pregnant. I haven't come back. this is emotional ❤
So beautiful 🥹✨ moved for the first time to Spain at 18 for 6 years and this month again to Amsterdam after spending 2 years at home in Panama, its incredible how im going through all of this again when i thought i was already comfortable with these feelings. Also in tears rn haha thank you sm for sharing❤️
Watching this video and trying so hard not to cry, especially when they talk about parents getting older. Man, I'm from Indonesia and living in Amsterdam now. Life expectancy in Indo is around 72, and my parents are in their late 50s. I only go back once a year, and it breaks my heart knowing I might only see them 18 more times. 😭 I really want to see them more often, but it's just hard, and traveling to Amsterdam is too far for them. So yeah, I really hope they stay healthy and live a long life, or maybe I can find a super chill job that lets me work from Indo for a long time. 🤞
I think it’s nice to see so many of us have gone through this journey and emotions just like how I have and still currently going through. Great theme and fantastically shot Bibi❤️
Went to go stay in Ukraine for volunteering efforts all summer. I felt pretty bad putting my family in a constant state of worry, but it was worth it. I’m back in the US now, so as soon as you get back home, all that worry and stress disappeared.
this made me tear 🥺 thank you for collecting everyone’s experiences (even yours) so beautifully. it made space for what it means to adult in all its conflictual feelings we feel. thank you everyone who candidly shared their own stories 🤎
I’m moving to Türkiye to stay for a few months. I have a feeling that I’m going to like it so much that I’ll want to stay. I’m from the Midwest. Hearing about people who have gone through this already makes me both excited and sad
I feel like crying... Thank you so much for this video. Moving abroad was never a dream of mine, but harsh realities in my country are making it feel closer than ever. As we're talking about a real possibility of moving, it's so important to hear these genuine voices. Thank you
GREAT topic!!! Too often moving abroad is presented as a wonderful and magical experience with zero downsides. Thanks for providing this perspective that helps balance out the experiences individuals have. Fun presentation, looks like you had a good time making this video too! Brava!
This video is so beautiful and had me crying my eyes out 🥲 I moved to Australia when I was 19 after dropping out of uni at home, i was there for 2 years and thought I’d be there forever but eventually had to come home to sort out my mental health. I can’t believe I’m 24 & now been home longer than I ever lived there. As someone else said, it’s so incredible to hear all these private struggles come out of someone else’s mouth. This video perfectly encapsulates everything about living abroad-, the excitement, guilt, the way home didn’t feel like home anymore, worrying about family being at the forefront of your mind. It is crazy and so comforting to me to hear someone else say they had felt like they had been missing something they hadn’t experienced yet, and then also struggling to feel 100% happy away from home. What a rollercoaster.
This deserves to go viral!! Thank you for this video. I moved away 6 months ago and it was great to have the people you interview label the emotions I have been feeling and provide advice for the future.
Getting this video recommended to me a couple of days before I move to London brings back the amount of thoughts I had about moving away from everyone I know and love. I know it’s going to be hard, but I have hope that time will make everything better.
this was one of the most genuine and realistic and profound video I’ve watched in a long time, thank you all for sharing your experiences. I wish people spoke on a similar depth instead of just gossiping
Thank you so much for making this video. I cried a lot watching this video and it's just good to know that I'm not alone and it's normal to feel what I'm feeling. Probably going to come back to this video time to time whenever I need to hear this. Thank you so much again and I wish all the best to everyone who is a brave risk-taker
Thank you (and your followers) for sharing the experience. I left home when I was 17 and travelled 5k miles to England and its been 20 years and this video described every feelings that I have been through. Technology has made it a bit easier ( I left home during blackberry era) but the guilt, pain and emptiness has and will never leave my heart, especially now that my parents got more health issues with them being old. Watching this video made me tear up but I'm just glad that so many people resonate the same thoughts and experience when leaving home for another life. I will never be able to go home (I tried, but I was so unhappy + there isn't any job opportunity in my industry) so the guilt can be unbearable sometimes but this video really helps me to ease the pain ❤
This is really beautiful! I feel all of this...Living abroad is never easy, we have ups and downs but, this is our life, and we should live according to our beliefs and even when it's hard, focus on the good things of living abroad and remember the good things "at home" ❤
I have been travelling and im currently living in London and felt so relieved watching this. I resonated so much with what everyone said and I felt seen. Beautiful video 🫶🏽
Thank you so much for this. I moved abroad when I was 14 (now I am 25) and this video perfectly captures a lot of the thoughts Ive been having over the years. I really don't find a lot of people talking about this so it was very cathartic to see others sharing the same thoughts as me
I moved from Germany to Québec, Canada at 19 years old, my parents tried to hold me back in shady ways even, but my mind was set on being with the love of my life. Now, 4 years later, I will go back to visit my hometown & parets for the first time soon. The relationships were repaired, forgiven, and rebuilt. I am very excited to see everyone and them getting to meet my now husband ❤ I have felt huge guilt at the beginning for my actions, but haven't felt that in years. It's the life god chose for me and everyone has accepted it, including myself. I never regret it, it was the best choice of my life. However, the negative emotions I still have come from missing my old friends...I still can't communicate in French properly. It's been terribly hard making new friends because of the language barrier as well as Covid as well as still not being allowed to work because the immigration process is ongoing. Not being allowed to drive yet either, the lack of independence that I've given up, not having the opportunity to meet a lot of new people... However I've gained a massive new family that loves me so much and looking into the future, building towards creating our own family, with the right person, is all so worth it. Home is where my husband is ❤
I lived in Barcelona for a year (as an exchange student), away from my home and family. It was so hard for me.. I feel like this video speaks to my SOUL!! Thank you so much!
Well documented, edited, & videoed. we're always be scared of the unknown, but can't grow mentally with out moving away from our comfort zone. I moved and eventually i felt like a stranger going home, as i had changed but my friends were still the same. People and life experiences is what make living magical.
Thank you for this video. I'm an American teenager who has always dreamed of moving to the Netherlands for college, and am really serious about it. I visited a college campus there this summer, which I absolutely loved, but this video is really helping/will help me understand the full consequences and weight that my choice will hold in my life (especially as an only child). This video answers so many of my questions, confirms some of my worries, but makes me feel like it's still the right choice for me. Thank you 💗
Grad School or Bust as a title page alone would convince me. I hate being scared of things, because I know its the next step essentially looming over you, waiting for you to take it. Good Luck!
Such a beautiful video! I was born in Aruba, but I live in the US and would love to leave here sooner rather than later. It was comforting to hear everyone’s stories ❤
Beautiful video and great story telling. Definitely related to the feelings of guilt and seeing one’s parents get older, cried a little 🥹🥹 thank you for this video ❤️
What a nice video. Perhaps one of the videos that have resonated with me more in years on TH-cam. I’ve been living abroad for 8 years and listening and watching those who have done the same talking about the same feelings and thoughts that go through, makes me realise I’m not alone on this. Thank you for the beautiful video! 🤍
This is what I need the most right now, to become my true self, I have never felt at home here, in Vietnam. So inspiring and meaningful a video, the people, the sound, the color, everything.
Love your video! I moved two years ago to Barcelona and sometimes I think I have to go back because of my family but I feel more alive abroad. Really nice to hear different sides of different people moving abroad.
I lived in 7 countries and 10 cities, in addition to those which I've visited for prolonged period of time for work. Never felt guilt. Felt free. Loved being alone.
This was so beautiful. And, perfectly encapsulates what I am feeling right now. I definitely needed to see this. I feel in everything I do everyday, I am on the verge of tears; just hearing someone say something that reminds me of home, or my baby brother. This gave me reassurance, though, that everything will be how it should be in the end. And even though the guilt is a natural feeling, you should aways follow your heart and do what you need to do for you.
Loved it, even after living abroad for 11 years, the same emotions are still there. I find it hard, struggle with it often, and at the same time I feel I am not ready to go home (yet). I really needed this, thank you Bibi Jane ❤
I rarely watch long videos through lol but there's something so emotional and real in everyone's answers - it really just captivated me. Wonderful video :) I'm considering moving abroad as well, and this video gave me a lot to ponder on!
Such a wonderful community you have brought together with this video. So touching and overwhelming to feel people going through the same things as you.
I loved watching this, I'm planning on moving abroad and leaving the US after I finish university so this was so great to watch. I loved the style of how this was filmed!
I’m gonna move to another country and study abroad this month and tysm for the great vid. Already relate to many feelings. Now I have a clearer idea of what I’m gonna deal with later. 😢❤
So. Relatable! I’m from Singapore and I felt every emotion that your guests were talking about. Made me feel like speaking to strangers in Berlin too. Love the cinematography and the story telling! Reminds me of early TH-cam - intimate personal stories. Great editing!!! Keep going ❤
This is so beautiful it really touched my heart deeply ❤️ I also just wanted to say your cinematography is wonderful and it inspires me, and the stories and presentation of the stories in little parts was so warm I don’t know how to describe it but thank you 🙏
As a 18 year old who wants to move out this video was so deep,i kinda feel like I’m preparing myself for future feelings while watching these kind of videos 😅
Thank you for the video 💞 this is exactly how I’ve been feeling recently, it’s nice to see other people expressing the same thoughts, also beautiful cinematography
Recently just made the choice to stay abroad instead of moving home after taking all the steps to do so, because the timing just doesn’t feel right; I still feel called to a life different than the one my family hoped I would live, and this video has me bawling on the floor of my bedroom, affirming this choice so much more ❤
I’ve lived in Switzerland for over 25 years and have now lived in the UK for nearly 3 years. When I first moved to Switzerland my parents were very happy. Now they had an excuse to visit and place to stay in Switzerland. Roughly 2 years later they started sending me job advertisements for jobs in Canada. Over time they reduced this effort but even today they haven’t given up. The trouble is it wouldn’t make any difference to them if I moved back to Canada as they live on the West coast and the companies in my field in Canada are in Ontario and Quebec. So being a few time zones closer wouldn’t make it any easier to communicate or visit. So I don’t feel guilty for leaving as leaving is part of growing up. One disadvantage of living far from your family though is that when you go on vacation you always go back to visit them so it is harder to explore the rest of the world. I had a British friend in Switzerland, who said he was so happy when he first moved there thinking he was in the centre of Europe and would be exploring new countries every vacation. Years later he realised every vacation he had he went back to the UK. One thing which has changed over time is the ability to communicate. When I first moved to Europe the only way was the telephone or post and the telephone was very expensive and post very slow. But today I regularly FaceTime with my parents so in a way I am closer to them today.
As someone who lived in the Netherlands for 7 years and moved back home, don’t feel guilty for choosing yourself right now. If the time ever comes for you to move back home, you’ll know. You’ll feel it so deeply that you wouldn’t be able to ignore it. In 9 days it’ll be 2 years since I moved back and I’m still rediscovering the place I grew up in. In a way everything stayed the same, but it also changed a lot. But till this day I never regretted the decision. I love being back home ❤. But if you don’t feel it don’t rush to come back. In a way home will always be there, but the chance to experience the world on your own when you’re young, learn, grow, be independent won’t always be there. Enjoy your time abroad, and if the time comes, you’ll know.
Wow thank you for sharing this❤️!!!!
@@bibijanee For sure! Greattt vid! Loved it! It for sure brought back a lot of memories from my time as a student. You really captured the essence of what it feels like to be a student abroad. Beautiful video 🫂
Such beautiful advice! Thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing this! ❤ this advice calmed down a lot of the anxious voices in my head.
True!! But at the same time I dont want to take home and the people that make me feel at home for granted. Especially my grandparents. Im very close with them and want to spend their last years by making as many good memories as possible. Im so torn apart by studying in a different region and being present there and at the same time staying close with family so hard ahhh
So there is no unique experience, we all have the same thoughts and feelings no matter from which country we are
Like James Baldwin said “You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read" in this case then we watch
the "guest star on a TV show that shows up every once in a while" is real
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it’s been 9 years since I’ve moved and I’m really glad I left and haven’t missed my family since. it’s a lot easier to not miss them when it’s abusive.
i recently stopped talking to the last family member i had contact with - my mum. it's been really difficult. but i can reason to myself why i stopped talking to them all. i'm 24 and moved across the world last year with no money or connections. wishing you the best
Oh wow! Im happy for you that you made that decision for yourself and for a happier life❤️ I interviewed someone in a similar situation, i uploaded some parts of that conversation on my instagram in case you're interested in hearing that perspective. Wishing you the best x
I moved back in with my parents after 10 years. It kinda made sense, but it doesn't really. Don't move back with your parents ever (in our case).
Once you've gotten used to your new normal life, going back will only disappoint.
@@bibijanee Glad you also covered other perspectives. That was something that struck me while I was watching: everyone in this video has a good relationship with their families.
On a more personal note, having a partner with you shifts your perspective even more. For me, my husband is home. So long as he moves with me, it doesn't take long for a new place to feel like home. I think it would be interesting to follow up with this group if they decide to get married to a local or another expat, etc.
“Seeking something missing, missing something left behind.
Maybe with good luck, we’ll find what eluded us, in the places we once called home.”
lovely people and video, I moved abroad age 26 to Prague (from the US), that was almost 9 years ago now and I'm still here... i had so many experiences that touched on what these interviews discussed. Missing the death of my grandmother, weddings of childhood best friends, the birth of my sister's first baby... feeling guilty that I've chosen to be absent. Yet when I'm visiting, I always have the feeling of missing my home in Prague too, this is the place that I've chosen and made my own, where I feel... at home. My girlfriend, our two cats and our nice flat, our routines and my work downtown, the beauty of the city and feeling that, yes, if I could live anywhere in the world, i would choose to live here.... and that is exactly what I did. There are so many places all around the world I could live in, and I chose this one. Choosing to uproot yourself and put roots down elsewhere is a very empowering feeling, even with all the downsides.
thanks for sharing your story. i also strongly desire to plant my roots abroad
if I could live anywhere in the world it would probably be Prague too
Cool concept
Thanks for sharing your story. I am from Prague and decided to go to Canada, I feel you! I'm happy you found home there, I love how the international community is growing in the city :)
Next February it will be 5 years since I moved from Spain to Belgium. This year my husband and I got married and bought a place here. We have chosen this place to be our home. Created a family with our little dog. So much to be grateful for. This is my home and I love it.
Nevertheless, this year I missed my first nephew being born, even though I tried to fix my vacations around my sisters due date my nephew had other plans. My grandmother decided not to come to my wedding because she did not want to travel abroad. And I could not celebrate my dad’s and mom’s 60th birthdays because of a flight workers stile and a work event. I have felt so guilty for choosing to be away… But also… I just do not feel like myself in Spain anymore… I need the distance to be myself. To hear my own voice without the noise of family drama. It is hard.
I’M BAWLING 😭 I haven’t even been abroad, but it has always been my dream and these are the exact conversations I have with myself 😢❤
This feeling is so real. Haven’t lived abroad either but the desire to is strong, yet the doubts always there
Ask yourself: How much you want it? - as deep within you, you will always find that drive to implement the things you need to achieve it. It may take some time, but if you have that deep seated heartfelt drive, you will do what's needed. You will have doubts, you will be scared, but if you want it deep down, it will override that anxiety.
It can be done easy, for example if you find a work at company with offices in different countries. This is how I moved to UK. Your start will be easier as you would know how to do your job and you could potentially know your new colleagues already. They would be your friendly touch point.
One hack is that many European countries offer affordable higher education programs, this will also give you the visa to study there.
This video was an emotional rollercoaster for me! It made me laugh, tear up, and by the end, I felt so deeply connected. Thank you for creating something that resonates on such a profound level. It’s amazing how you captured the shared experiences that connect us all. Truly impactful work!
They say no pain no gain the grass is green on the other side
Last week I moved from Argentina to Switzerland. You can't even imagine how much I needed this video. I have to thank you and these beautiful people you interviewed ❤
Girl same I moved last week from Italy to Zurich, really needed this. Good luck with everything
@@ameliaporta7539 you too girl. Stay strong 💪🏼
This video is incredible, I believe, not because someone has said something of incredible wisdom, but simply because it’s the first time I’ve heard these words spoken out loud - the same words I have chewed in my head time and time again. The excitement, the confusion, the loneliness, the guilt, the fear, the bravery, all a bit unique to each, but also all the bits shared among us. Thank you, for letting me hear these words.
Loved this video! I’ve been living abroad for over 10 years now and the guilt of abandoning my family is always in the back of my mind. This video has made me feel less alone. So thank you for sharing your story and that of the others so beautifully. It’s nice to know there is a community of people all over the world that feel the same. 🌍 ❤
exact same here for me - also 10 years and also this dominating and omnipresent sense of guilt… 😭
This video is so gorgeous! I studied abroad for 4 years and could absolutely relate to this. Thank you for sharing their stories 🦋
hi Jade!
As someone who’s been away from my hometown (Singapore) now for almost 20 years, having moved 5 countries in that time (Boston, Cape Town, Sydney, Amsterdam, Zurich), I can relate. Nowhere feels like “home” anymore but at the same time picking up and moving to the next place on the next adventure becomes a lot easier. It’s definitely helped me live life on my terms without feeling like I’m being judged.
I really enjoyed this video! I'm Dutch and moved away from Amsterdam to Berlin when I was 18. Moved to Seoul when I was 22, Brighton when I was 24, and have lived in Vancouver since I was 26, and I've settled here longterm I think, I'm 34 now.
It was easier for me because my mom passed away when I was 15, and my relationship with my dad was poor. I didn't feel much guilt or pressure to return. The main thing I missed and still do miss is my brother and his children, but we frequently talk and I visit every year. I still enjoy spending time in the Netherlands, but it doesn't feel like home anymore, only in a nostalgic sense do I sometimes miss it but that time and place doesn't really exist anymore.
What you said at the end of your comment really resonated with me, I've been struggling a lot recently with being away from my hometown, but when I am back 'home' to visit I don't feel quite the way I thought I would and I think it's due to me being nostalgic for a time that doesn't exist anymore, my friends have grown up and moved on with their life and I'm not a kid anymore. What I'm missing is just a memory of a time and place, it doesn't physically exist anymore, just inside of me.
What a coincidence I stumbled upon this video. I have only briefly told my family and friends that I will not be living and working in the US and let’s just say the reactions are bittersweet and disapproving. However, they know that I’m an ambitious person and will live my life however I want (moving abroad). I explain to them that I’m not abandoning them but I need to move with all the conditions and circumstances to consider. Family and friends are super important of course but I can’t live a life where I feel I have no control of what I do. They probably think I’ll snap out of it or it’s a phase but they are no different as they immigrated to the US from their home country and I’m doing the same but the difference is I have more resources to rely on-in which I’m grateful for. I want to fall in love with life.
sorry I wish I can express myself better but these lovely people said everything I wanted to express
I really liked that last line -- that you want to fall in love with life. I hope you find everything you're looking for out there and more.
I moved across the Atlantic when I was 19, and lived abroad for 4 years (as I was doing my bachelor degree in Canada). I’m quite shy and I’ve never felt lonelier in my life. This made me desperate for relationships (friendly & romantic) and really affected my mental health. Not having a strong support system (I.e. people who really know you and who you can count on) is f-ing hard and makes you really vulnerable. Moving abroad can also builds up character but that really depends on the person. I think it’s not for everyone and the timing needs to be right too. I’m still living abroad but much closer to family & friends.
It's incredible to read this because this is exactly my experience. Everyone said moving abroad is great and amazing but I never thought about how lonely it could get, especially for more introverted people like myself. My mental health is not great right now too and I don't know what will make it better. I also think I will move closer the my family once I finish my degree here but I feel really bad for making this decision in the first place.
I can relate to everything that has been said. The saddest part is that now I want to go back, but my hometown feels like abroad and Im no longer 18, without a care in the world. Im a mom myself, and this decision will no longer affect only me. It's hard to take the step.
Why am I crying after watching this vid…
It’s so positively sad, it’s so poetic and full of life
The level of openness really helps to pose the questions one doesn’t usually ask oneself
Thank you very much for this experience
I’ve been living abroad on and off for a while, and recently I came back home after my last trip abroad. Looking back, I think I could’ve had a better experience if the country I chose aligned with me better. I ended up in a place with a different religion and a very different mentality, and it’s made me realize just how important it is to choose the right country when moving. It can seriously affect your mindset, well-being, and overall experience. Has anyone else experienced choosing the 'wrong' place to live abroad?
I moved from Italy to the US last year. I study sustainability and I have a very anti-consumption mindset, so I knew the impact would've been hard. It has been, it drives me crazy how broken this country is. But I'm also lucky to have chosen a place with natural beauty, and I've been focusing on loving myself more and finding more true connections, so this helps balancing things out. I hope your experience will help you make aligned choices in the future 🩷
Good and important question. Hope there is a lot of people who brings some answers to live.
Greeting from a dane - living in....Denmark ☀️
I have been living in Paris for decades. A very beautiful town with a rich cultural life. But people are very self oriented and connexions are so superficial. I am from a more traditional culture where people are warm and supportive. Thinking of leaving to my home town where all my family lives. But it’s not so easy ..
I left to study/live abroad at 19, and it was the most scary and incredible experience of my life. I've moved back home after 2 years, because of financial difficulties and burnout, but the hardships don't make me regret it. I value my hometown, my family and friends much more now, and I find myself very happy after a year of the also scary decision of coming back. I think if you have that feeling that you want to do it, deep in you -- like a bird clawing at your chest -- you should always do it. I do recommend to do it with very planned finances and support if you can (but back then I wouldn't have listened anyway). You figure it out. You live through what you need to live, and you come out so much better for it. You get to know who you are outside of what you had always been. I want to do it again in the future, but with a more grown-up head. But I only got the slightly-more-grown-up-mind I have now because of the teenager who ran to the airport. :)
Thank you for sharing this!!❤️
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This video came at such a pivotal time for me! I’m moving from Australia to Europe for the 3rd time in my adulthood (I’m 24) in 8 weeks and this time around has been especially daunting. This will be my most permenant move yet and uprooting is hard when your family and friends are starting to have children and getting married, it’s hard to chose yourself and your life path. I have to remind myself that their life is what they’ve chosen to do, and I have all the autonomy to chose my own too.
As someone who just moved to another country from my home country, this video really hits hard. The guilt of leaving home and the opportunities being away from home give you is such a juxtaposition in life.
Great video! As someone who moved away alone myself to Amsterdam, it was really nice hearing about these experiences. A quote that reminds me of my conviction is from French Dispatch: "Seeking something missing. Missing something left behind. Maybe, with good luck, we'll find what eluded us in the places we once called home"
As someone who did eventually move back home from abroad, I can share that it took awhile to transition back to life at home. It was a whole process and I’m happy to be home for now. But I still have inklings sometimes to move abroad again and wonder what my life would’ve been like if I didn’t move back home.
Thank you for sharing this❤️
This video is such a true reflection of all the thoughts and phases a person that has moved out goes through. I rarely comment on TH-cam, but I found this video really emotional. I sent it to my family so they could understand in words how I feel being abroad, which I think sometimes they struggle to understand. I think one thing that isn't mentioned in this video is that often it feels like you are the only person who has moved abroad in your circle that is having those feelings and second thoughts, cause everyone that is in a similar position to you seems to really enjoy their lives (rightly so). It is only rarely that you might talk about these deep things with friends. It has been reassuring to see that indeed, everyone feels like this and that it's a shared, common thing. Honestly, best video I have watched in a while. I wish more content creators got deep into the reality of what being a human is like!
this has been such a big theme in my mind lately - you captured the rollercoaster of emotions & thoughts so well !
As someone who has been abroad now for four months, this video truly resonated with me. I've lived abroad before, but returned home for my family. And now, I am away from home again because I think this is the right decision for me. But that doesn't make it any easier. Hearing these people's stories makes me feel less alone in the challenges I've faced :) thank you all for sharing
I found a quote once that resonated with me more than the usual „home is a feeling…“ and it goes like this „Home is not where you are born, home is where all your attempts to escape cease“.
Hope this helps the people reading this, even if only a little.
I moved abroad 5 months ago at the age of 17 from Colombia to Spain, and it has been a really hard journey. I was so used to living with my mom and my younger sister, it has always been the three of us and when I decided to move and start college here and live with my dad who I am not very close with it was really surprising for my whole family. Every day I wonder if I made the right decision coming here, I miss everything about my country, and the constant feeling of not knowing when I will see them again is frustrating. This video came along when I needed it the most, now I know I'm not the only one who feels this way, there's nothing wrong with missing home and having some lows. I think you portrayed every little thought and feeling very well.💌
Thank you so much for making this video🥹✨
It’s been two years since I moved to the US, from Spain. There are so many topics I can relate to in this video. The first time I missed my mama’s bday, long distance friendships, Christmas without my family, asking yourself ‘do I really miss my life there or is it just fomo?’. And the mixed feelings of the cultural shocks and realizing everything that’s f up the american culture, but also being grateful of all the opportunities this country has offered me.
If could recommend anything to anyone that’s thinking about moving abroad: if you have the chance, do it. In my opinion, better to tried it and then moving back if it doesn’t work, than always wondering if you should’ve done it.
This really explains how hard for an individual to make a decision for himself/herself alone. The securedness and ability to choose it is really cool. As we grow up we really realize what matters slowly in out own life and the reality of being alone and exploring something new with fear and dedication. I have learned a lot
Moving abroad has been a desire of mine recently and watching this video and seeing these wonderful people talk about the same stuff that goes trough my mind every time I think about actually doing it was really important to me and honestly brought tears to my eyes. Beautiful video, thank you so much for sharing these feelings.
I just want to thank you for providing a safe space for these people and us, the viewers, to articulate and share these feelings
This was so relatable. Thank you for sharing and adding your artistic touch to it. My dad passed away last week, and since then, I've been thinking a lot about moving back home. I've been questioning whether being where I am right now is worthwhile. I have these goals, but I keep wondering about the sacrifices I'm making for them. I don’t have the answers yet, but this video helped me better understand my feelings. Thank you.
Rahuldeep, what a lovely guy. I'm 60, born in Manchester UK, youngest of 7 kids, met my wife during my studies, when I was 18. After my degree I moved to Germany, got married, built a career, a house and eventually we had two beautiful boys. They are now 22 and 23, and the youngest is now setting up house with his girlfriend. I've always had mixed feelings towards my family and parents, so moving to Germany wasn't difficult for me, but I didn't develope a real adult relationship with my parents, they knew me deeply last as an 18 year old and I didn't live through their development in life. I wish I had developed an adult relationship with my Mum before she died, but if you don't live near, you can't. The people in Saarland, Germany are great and welcoming, but I neither really belong here, nor do I belong in Manchester anymore. So, yes, Rahuldeep, you're right, home is where the people you love most are. Our youngest has moved out and I now know how true that is.
Giiiiirl, this is beautiful. 7 years half living in Amsterdam/Nederlands. Came with 21 , never lived before abroad, I arrived pregnant. I haven't come back. this is emotional ❤
So beautiful 🥹✨ moved for the first time to Spain at 18 for 6 years and this month again to Amsterdam after spending 2 years at home in Panama, its incredible how im going through all of this again when i thought i was already comfortable with these feelings. Also in tears rn haha thank you sm for sharing❤️
Watching this video and trying so hard not to cry, especially when they talk about parents getting older. Man, I'm from Indonesia and living in Amsterdam now. Life expectancy in Indo is around 72, and my parents are in their late 50s. I only go back once a year, and it breaks my heart knowing I might only see them 18 more times. 😭 I really want to see them more often, but it's just hard, and traveling to Amsterdam is too far for them. So yeah, I really hope they stay healthy and live a long life, or maybe I can find a super chill job that lets me work from Indo for a long time. 🤞
I think it’s nice to see so many of us have gone through this journey and emotions just like how I have and still currently going through. Great theme and fantastically shot Bibi❤️
Went to go stay in Ukraine for volunteering efforts all summer. I felt pretty bad putting my family in a constant state of worry, but it was worth it. I’m back in the US now, so as soon as you get back home, all that worry and stress disappeared.
this made me tear 🥺 thank you for collecting everyone’s experiences (even yours) so beautifully. it made space for what it means to adult in all its conflictual feelings we feel. thank you everyone who candidly shared their own stories 🤎
It's been one month since I moved to Canada when I saw this, and it is so accurate and, at the same time, incredibly heartwarming. I'm in tears.
Big hug to you!!🥺🫂
I’m moving to Türkiye to stay for a few months. I have a feeling that I’m going to like it so much that I’ll want to stay. I’m from the Midwest. Hearing about people who have gone through this already makes me both excited and sad
As an international student this vedio got into my heart ❤😢 thanks a lot for such an amazing content
I feel like crying... Thank you so much for this video. Moving abroad was never a dream of mine, but harsh realities in my country are making it feel closer than ever. As we're talking about a real possibility of moving, it's so important to hear these genuine voices. Thank you
Ahh thank you for sharing this!! Sending you lots of love❤️
Been living abroad for the last year and I’m so glad your video was suggested to me, this was so well done❤
Im moving abroad soon, any tips?
GREAT topic!!! Too often moving abroad is presented as a wonderful and magical experience with zero downsides. Thanks for providing this perspective that helps balance out the experiences individuals have. Fun presentation, looks like you had a good time making this video too! Brava!
THANKYOU❤️
This video is so beautiful and had me crying my eyes out 🥲 I moved to Australia when I was 19 after dropping out of uni at home, i was there for 2 years and thought I’d be there forever but eventually had to come home to sort out my mental health. I can’t believe I’m 24 & now been home longer than I ever lived there.
As someone else said, it’s so incredible to hear all these private struggles come out of someone else’s mouth. This video perfectly encapsulates everything about living abroad-, the excitement, guilt, the way home didn’t feel like home anymore, worrying about family being at the forefront of your mind. It is crazy and so comforting to me to hear someone else say they had felt like they had been missing something they hadn’t experienced yet, and then also struggling to feel 100% happy away from home. What a rollercoaster.
This deserves to go viral!! Thank you for this video. I moved away 6 months ago and it was great to have the people you interview label the emotions I have been feeling and provide advice for the future.
Getting this video recommended to me a couple of days before I move to London brings back the amount of thoughts I had about moving away from everyone I know and love. I know it’s going to be hard, but I have hope that time will make everything better.
YES! Rooting for you, you got this! Goodluck w the move⭐️
@@bibijanee thank you!
this was one of the most genuine and realistic and profound video I’ve watched in a long time, thank you all for sharing your experiences. I wish people spoke on a similar depth instead of just gossiping
Thank you so much for making this video. I cried a lot watching this video and it's just good to know that I'm not alone and it's normal to feel what I'm feeling. Probably going to come back to this video time to time whenever I need to hear this. Thank you so much again and I wish all the best to everyone who is a brave risk-taker
Thank you (and your followers) for sharing the experience. I left home when I was 17 and travelled 5k miles to England and its been 20 years and this video described every feelings that I have been through. Technology has made it a bit easier ( I left home during blackberry era) but the guilt, pain and emptiness has and will never leave my heart, especially now that my parents got more health issues with them being old. Watching this video made me tear up but I'm just glad that so many people resonate the same thoughts and experience when leaving home for another life. I will never be able to go home (I tried, but I was so unhappy + there isn't any job opportunity in my industry) so the guilt can be unbearable sometimes but this video really helps me to ease the pain ❤
This is really beautiful! I feel all of this...Living abroad is never easy, we have ups and downs but, this is our life, and we should live according to our beliefs and even when it's hard, focus on the good things of living abroad and remember the good things "at home" ❤
I have been travelling and im currently living in London and felt so relieved watching this. I resonated so much with what everyone said and I felt seen. Beautiful video 🫶🏽
What a beautiful, relatable, and rich video! Thank you for putting it together and to all the people sharing so kindly
Thank you so much for this. I moved abroad when I was 14 (now I am 25) and this video perfectly captures a lot of the thoughts Ive been having over the years. I really don't find a lot of people talking about this so it was very cathartic to see others sharing the same thoughts as me
I moved from Germany to Québec, Canada at 19 years old, my parents tried to hold me back in shady ways even, but my mind was set on being with the love of my life.
Now, 4 years later, I will go back to visit my hometown & parets for the first time soon. The relationships were repaired, forgiven, and rebuilt. I am very excited to see everyone and them getting to meet my now husband ❤
I have felt huge guilt at the beginning for my actions, but haven't felt that in years. It's the life god chose for me and everyone has accepted it, including myself. I never regret it, it was the best choice of my life.
However, the negative emotions I still have come from missing my old friends...I still can't communicate in French properly. It's been terribly hard making new friends because of the language barrier as well as Covid as well as still not being allowed to work because the immigration process is ongoing.
Not being allowed to drive yet either, the lack of independence that I've given up, not having the opportunity to meet a lot of new people...
However I've gained a massive new family that loves me so much and looking into the future, building towards creating our own family, with the right person, is all so worth it.
Home is where my husband is ❤
I lived in Barcelona for a year (as an exchange student), away from my home and family. It was so hard for me.. I feel like this video speaks to my SOUL!! Thank you so much!
Well documented, edited, & videoed. we're always be scared of the unknown, but can't grow mentally with out moving away from our comfort zone. I moved and eventually i felt like a stranger going home, as i had changed but my friends were still the same. People and life experiences is what make living magical.
Thank you for this video. I'm an American teenager who has always dreamed of moving to the Netherlands for college, and am really serious about it. I visited a college campus there this summer, which I absolutely loved, but this video is really helping/will help me understand the full consequences and weight that my choice will hold in my life (especially as an only child). This video answers so many of my questions, confirms some of my worries, but makes me feel like it's still the right choice for me. Thank you 💗
Every bit so honest and true and exactly what I needed at this moment. Thank you for the gift of this video. ❤
Grad School or Bust as a title page alone would convince me. I hate being scared of things, because I know its the next step essentially looming over you, waiting for you to take it. Good Luck!
As someone who plans to go abroad for grad school this was a really interesting video to watch. It both gets me super nervous and super excited
Such a beautiful video! I was born in Aruba, but I live in the US and would love to leave here sooner rather than later. It was comforting to hear everyone’s stories ❤
Beautiful video and great story telling. Definitely related to the feelings of guilt and seeing one’s parents get older, cried a little 🥹🥹 thank you for this video ❤️
What a nice video. Perhaps one of the videos that have resonated with me more in years on TH-cam. I’ve been living abroad for 8 years and listening and watching those who have done the same talking about the same feelings and thoughts that go through, makes me realise I’m not alone on this. Thank you for the beautiful video! 🤍
This is what I need the most right now, to become my true self, I have never felt at home here, in Vietnam. So inspiring and meaningful a video, the people, the sound, the color, everything.
Love your video! I moved two years ago to Barcelona and sometimes I think I have to go back because of my family but I feel more alive abroad. Really nice to hear different sides of different people moving abroad.
I lived in 7 countries and 10 cities, in addition to those which I've visited for prolonged period of time for work. Never felt guilt. Felt free. Loved being alone.
This was so beautiful. And, perfectly encapsulates what I am feeling right now. I definitely needed to see this. I feel in everything I do everyday, I am on the verge of tears; just hearing someone say something that reminds me of home, or my baby brother. This gave me reassurance, though, that everything will be how it should be in the end. And even though the guilt is a natural feeling, you should aways follow your heart and do what you need to do for you.
Loved it, even after living abroad for 11 years, the same emotions are still there. I find it hard, struggle with it often, and at the same time I feel I am not ready to go home (yet). I really needed this, thank you Bibi Jane ❤
Wow I loved how this was filmed. Great job! I just moved to Scotland from Canada and it's been a rollercoaster. Thank you for the video :)
Thank you so much!
growing up i never felt like home back at my country but now it's the only place i can feel home at
Thank you so much for making this!!! We all have our own journey, but this topic so rarely gets touched on 😢
I rarely watch long videos through lol but there's something so emotional and real in everyone's answers - it really just captivated me. Wonderful video :) I'm considering moving abroad as well, and this video gave me a lot to ponder on!
The end made me cry a little . I related with everything they said in this video, as a girl who moved abroad at 19 USA -> Japan.
This is the realest video ever… coming from someone who has been living abroad for 7 years.
Such a wonderful community you have brought together with this video. So touching and overwhelming to feel people going through the same things as you.
I loved watching this, I'm planning on moving abroad and leaving the US after I finish university so this was so great to watch. I loved the style of how this was filmed!
Hit right straight to the hearts of international students.
I’m gonna move to another country and study abroad this month and tysm for the great vid. Already relate to many feelings. Now I have a clearer idea of what I’m gonna deal with later. 😢❤
Sending you lots of love, goodluck with everything❤️
So. Relatable! I’m from Singapore and I felt every emotion that your guests were talking about. Made me feel like speaking to strangers in Berlin too. Love the cinematography and the story telling! Reminds me of early TH-cam - intimate personal stories. Great editing!!! Keep going ❤
Your video made me cry, nice to not feel alone with these feelings
+ experiences. Thank you for sharing it 🧡
2+ years living abroad. This brought me to tears
I didn’t know that I needed this video, but I needed this video so much. Thank you!
This is so beautiful it really touched my heart deeply ❤️ I also just wanted to say your cinematography is wonderful and it inspires me, and the stories and presentation of the stories in little parts was so warm I don’t know how to describe it but thank you 🙏
As a 18 year old who wants to move out this video was so deep,i kinda feel like I’m preparing myself for future feelings while watching these kind of videos 😅
This is a gorgeous video 😭😭 thank you so much for making it ❤
Didn’t know I’ll cry this much watching this video..
Thank you for the video 💞 this is exactly how I’ve been feeling recently, it’s nice to see other people expressing the same thoughts, also beautiful cinematography
Im so glad!! Thank you for watching🥺❤️
I've been living out for almost 10 years now. I temporarily moved back for a few months to my hometown. It feels so weird, so familiar, yet it's not
this video made me feel very held. nice to know its not just me who has experienced these feelings
this was so good and beautifully shot
Thank you❤️
as someone currently abroad for a semester exchange programme this hits right on the spot, thank you to everyone for your stories and points of view
Stumbled upon this video and relate to it so deeply as someone who's been living abroad in Asia for the past 3 years. I love your storytelling style!
Thanks for this video! I'm living abroad and I could feel every word that was said. Loved it!
Thank you!!!❤️
Beautiful work you've put out here❤ thank you!
Recently just made the choice to stay abroad instead of moving home after taking all the steps to do so, because the timing just doesn’t feel right; I still feel called to a life different than the one my family hoped I would live, and this video has me bawling on the floor of my bedroom, affirming this choice so much more ❤
I’ve lived in Switzerland for over 25 years and have now lived in the UK for nearly 3 years. When I first moved to Switzerland my parents were very happy. Now they had an excuse to visit and place to stay in Switzerland. Roughly 2 years later they started sending me job advertisements for jobs in Canada. Over time they reduced this effort but even today they haven’t given up. The trouble is it wouldn’t make any difference to them if I moved back to Canada as they live on the West coast and the companies in my field in Canada are in Ontario and Quebec. So being a few time zones closer wouldn’t make it any easier to communicate or visit. So I don’t feel guilty for leaving as leaving is part of growing up. One disadvantage of living far from your family though is that when you go on vacation you always go back to visit them so it is harder to explore the rest of the world. I had a British friend in Switzerland, who said he was so happy when he first moved there thinking he was in the centre of Europe and would be exploring new countries every vacation. Years later he realised every vacation he had he went back to the UK. One thing which has changed over time is the ability to communicate. When I first moved to Europe the only way was the telephone or post and the telephone was very expensive and post very slow. But today I regularly FaceTime with my parents so in a way I am closer to them today.