The last day my ex-husband was in the same residence as me before he left, he told me something that stood with me. After a big blow up due to his lies and deceit and gaslighting, he said, "The truth is I always been jealous of you cuz you have a dad and I don't". He might have thought it was vulnerable, but the reality, I saw the evil and conniving person he tried to hide within...all that hate spilled over our whole relationship and he denied his hate and deflected it on me by saying I was just an angry person. And the funny thing is he used to ALWAYS bash my dad in all things.
Oh how'd you know my last relationship? Loved me when I was down and out. Envied me when I had two jobs. Even though I genuinely wanted to help. I always uplifted them and told them to go for their dreams! Such a talented person. Offering a helping hand led to the discard and smear campaign. Somehow they said that I was being manipulative and even accused me of making my money illegally. I never told anyone I helped them until they tried to ruin my life.
You probably make them feel exposed because you’ve SEEN them. They could never pretend to you or around you. It would never feel comfortable wearing that false self suit.
Yea anytime I was being there for him in a bad time he would have an attitude that I was doing better or trying to help, then when he started making more than me he made me feel like I owed him for everything he helped me for.
Now I see ~ I was trying to build he up and he would say little dirty comments like { it must be nice} cause I received an inheritence ~ I said do you think I wanted an inheritance rather than to still have my loved one on earth ~ no it's not so nice ~ what a jerk
Sadly, he was using me from the moment I met him. I saw it, I knew it (knew nothing about narcissism). I didn't know what red flags were, and I got sucked in, but the first thing he did was ask me to take him to band practice when we were supposed to be having a coffee date. Wish I ran then.
I really have a crazy story regarding a narcissist. My ex is currently in jail and I would love to get your thoughts on the situation. It’s crazy. I have videos, audios, pictures, everything and he’s still not willing to admit how he treated me. Multiple therapist gave their thoughts and he still said we were all crazy. It got so much worse when I was pregnant and then he almost killed us after she was born. Scary stuff.
It is hard to be in hard times and take a handout from others. It makes you feel like you are a failure in some way and that you are a burden but we all need a hand up from time to time. I think the best way to handle it is to pass it on to the next person when you see they need help in some way. Pay if forward.❤
an ex friend who ditched me and gaslit me abt it in childhood was one i came back to when i needed support regardless of how limited it was. they took advantage of my kindness by love bombing someone else and intentionally getting us to fight over them. they would also imply they were suicidal and wouldn't stay on earth if i left. now they constantly hoover and the other friend tried to bait me almost a decade later. they would take the triangulation thing too far even though they knew i was super over it. they're not doing well w/o the support now, and the friendship is clearly on life support w/o me being the scapegoat friend. they convinced themselves that i would always be walking on eggshells to be with them. they even tried to hoover by asking me to move in with them. what he's saying is true.
Wow, VERY true, didn't realize this. It's about association. I once knew a guy who wasn't narcissistic, he loved his job but suddenly got fired, he then cut off all contact with his co-workers who reminded him of that job. I actually once the narc in my life hurt me, told him his car was ugly, he immediately bought an expensive car, I wonder if he would still resent me for that. What do you think?
He had nothing 15 years ago and he still has nothing. It's the poor me syndrome. He won't let go. When he gets a big job he stays away and runs to supply b spoiling her. She has no idea about me. She's trauma bonded and she's going to "fix" him. They are totally delusional. 😢
That’s crazy I helped him get a job to get him out that head space and he still didn’t step up for thee family he stayed used his money on whatever and continue to be at his low and resented me even more, so at that point instead of having him use my empathy against me even after that I told him a man that don’t work don’t eat and stole all my money and ran off with a girl that he spoke bogus about🤷🏽♀️😂🤣😂
I don't know if it was his lowest... Hiw do we know that? Anyway, he had a series of about 6 months where he had to 1. Take care of selling his Mom's house as we had to move her due to dementia. All I heard about for an entire 2 months 2) he then cut the tip of his finger with a jig saw. Broke the bones etc... Major nervous break down, bawling that he never had an accident in the woodshop in 17 years and how would he ever play bass again. He had a pin put in and stiches etc... that lasted 4 months. He literally milked it and did NOTHING around the house - couldn't even shower himself 😵💫 Then, at the same time he ended up with poison sumac in both arms. He could miraculously do yard work with that busted finger but once back inside he was helpless again. That lasted another 2 months. He said "You take such good care of me" but once he was fully healed, he blamed me for not getting any work done on the house for 6 months. "I got so much more dine around here before I met you and you moved in." Unbelievable a$$hole!!! Such a waste of my time, energy and emotions! Stuck by him through so much crap and he was never ever there for me 🤦♀️❤️🩹😔😡
You don't want people to feel you like that because you know how you look at people when their down, less than you and can't stand to be in the same place you judge people for.
Why my narcissistic husband saying while divorce he will earn more money and take revenge on me and things using like my idealogy and thoights before when we together ...
See my ex did the same she had the kids benefits and now I have them she is still trying to get benefits and even though the kids have a better environment and schools that there happy to go to she wants them to go to school where she's at cause they gotta stay black and she want benefits cause to her im the narcissist and I gotta pay for ruining the relationship and i did alot of dirt but it's about the kids and in her mind it's about me paying for her to live. She stays with her friend and they want to find every way to live free.
Dr. Patricia Evans Verbally Abusive Man. Can He Change? A victim would get attacked because they don't match the fantasy of the perp. And they feel you attacking them so they attack.
Connor McGregor would be a classic example when you mentioned sports people. Loved him even though there were obvious narcissistic traits driving his success. His partner has supported him from the humble beginnings when he had nothing. Not a fan anymore. Good to hear that the holidays have been successful for everyone. Maybe your more self aware /psychopathic traits kicking in?🙊😂
Can you do a video on why explaining to narcissist their bad behavior is not a good idea? I feel like if you do that, you are telling them how to manipulate you and possibly others. If they are grown adults and they are not self aware, stay away from them. They do not see a problem with who they are so let them be them and adjust how or if you speak to them.
My belief is that when you are fed up and you know this will be the last time you'll speak to them simply agree with everything they're saying and then go no contact. These people have convinced themselves that they are not the problem and there is nothing we can do to make them feel otherwise ! Just saying.
Yes he feels so entitled, but child support on it maybe that will help him see he anit playing on my emotions and empathy anymore and that I don’t care that he jealous of me instead of being happy for me. He called lying about buying the kids for Christmas and all and thought the God I serve wasn’t gone see to them receiving what they wanted and needed. Oh and he’ll try to come back once he hits his rock bottom
That’s crazy I helped him get a job to get him out that head space and he still didn’t step up for thee family he stayed used his money on whatever and continue to be at his low and resented me even more, so at that point instead of having him use my empathy against me even after that I told him a man that don’t work don’t eat and stole all my money and ran off with a girl that he spoke bogus about🤷🏽♀️😂🤣😂
NEVER feel sorry for a narcissist going through depression. Remember that they never even gave you a thought when they coldly disguarded you.
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@susiewoo3051 on Christmas a year ago....nothing but favors from that bro 😆 🤣 😂
YES! Narcs can briefly start out appreciative and then it morphs into ugly entitlement. What is wrong with these people ☹
The last day my ex-husband was in the same residence as me before he left, he told me something that stood with me. After a big blow up due to his lies and deceit and gaslighting, he said, "The truth is I always been jealous of you cuz you have a dad and I don't". He might have thought it was vulnerable, but the reality, I saw the evil and conniving person he tried to hide within...all that hate spilled over our whole relationship and he denied his hate and deflected it on me by saying I was just an angry person. And the funny thing is he used to ALWAYS bash my dad in all things.
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Once you see that people are like this move on and when they get into another low place dont be available.
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Or what about the ones that met you at your lowest and your elevation pisses them off.
Whew. That’s tough too
I’ve experienced this recently and I’m still struggling to recover. I’m not the woman I was a year ago. Tired of being sad about it.
That’s what happened to me!!😂
@@Eloquently_Rud3with time you will heal . It took me like 2 years but look at me now
@@reneebrown9451same and he’s been trying to one up me since 🤣🤣🤣
Every time I watch your videos it feels like you were watching my past relationship on TV 😂😂
😂 towards the end I called him bro and my guy.. ..ig that means I was fn done
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Oh how'd you know my last relationship? Loved me when I was down and out. Envied me when I had two jobs. Even though I genuinely wanted to help. I always uplifted them and told them to go for their dreams! Such a talented person. Offering a helping hand led to the discard and smear campaign. Somehow they said that I was being manipulative and even accused me of making my money illegally. I never told anyone I helped them until they tried to ruin my life.
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You probably make them feel exposed because you’ve SEEN them. They could never pretend to you or around you. It would never feel comfortable wearing that false self suit.
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Thank you for wanting the best for all of us Lee.
you’re welcome
Yea anytime I was being there for him in a bad time he would have an attitude that I was doing better or trying to help, then when he started making more than me he made me feel like I owed him for everything he helped me for.
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So proud of you!! 🎉
Thank you
I had a wonderful childhood and his was very abusive. Yes he resents it very much 😢. Jealous
This just happened on Christmas! So excited to hear what you have to say about this!
You got it
Now I see ~ I was trying to build he up and he would say little dirty comments like { it must be nice} cause I received an inheritence ~ I said do you think I wanted an inheritance rather than to still have my loved one on earth ~ no it's not so nice ~ what a jerk
The movie Acrimony is a good example of this!!! Its a Tyler Perry movie very good movie 👍
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Sadly, he was using me from the moment I met him. I saw it, I knew it (knew nothing about narcissism). I didn't know what red flags were, and I got sucked in, but the first thing he did was ask me to take him to band practice when we were supposed to be having a coffee date. Wish I ran then.
Facts!
I really have a crazy story regarding a narcissist. My ex is currently in jail and I would love to get your thoughts on the situation. It’s crazy. I have videos, audios, pictures, everything and he’s still not willing to admit how he treated me. Multiple therapist gave their thoughts and he still said we were all crazy. It got so much worse when I was pregnant and then he almost killed us after she was born. Scary stuff.
It is hard to be in hard times and take a handout from others. It makes you feel like you are a failure in some way and that you are a burden but we all need a hand up from time to time. I think the best way to handle it is to pass it on to the next person when you see they need help in some way. Pay if forward.❤
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You describing him very well and I’m the wife of 20yrs, 6 kids, and 2grands
stay empowered
an ex friend who ditched me and gaslit me abt it in childhood was one i came back to when i needed support regardless of how limited it was. they took advantage of my kindness by love bombing someone else and intentionally getting us to fight over them. they would also imply they were suicidal and wouldn't stay on earth if i left. now they constantly hoover and the other friend tried to bait me almost a decade later. they would take the triangulation thing too far even though they knew i was super over it. they're not doing well w/o the support now, and the friendship is clearly on life support w/o me being the scapegoat friend. they convinced themselves that i would always be walking on eggshells to be with them. they even tried to hoover by asking me to move in with them. what he's saying is true.
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I have a question: Do narcissists turn every nice thing you did for them to nothing, or do they know you did a lot?
Wow, VERY true, didn't realize this. It's about association. I once knew a guy who wasn't narcissistic, he loved his job but suddenly got fired, he then cut off all contact with his co-workers who reminded him of that job. I actually once the narc in my life hurt me, told him his car was ugly, he immediately bought an expensive car, I wonder if he would still resent me for that. What do you think?
He had nothing 15 years ago and he still has nothing. It's the poor me syndrome. He won't let go. When he gets a big job he stays away and runs to supply b spoiling her. She has no idea about me. She's trauma bonded and she's going to "fix" him. They are totally delusional. 😢
That’s crazy I helped him get a job to get him out that head space and he still didn’t step up for thee family he stayed used his money on whatever and continue to be at his low and resented me even more, so at that point instead of having him use my empathy against me even after that I told him a man that don’t work don’t eat and stole all my money and ran off with a girl that he spoke bogus about🤷🏽♀️😂🤣😂
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I don't know if it was his lowest... Hiw do we know that?
Anyway, he had a series of about 6 months where he had to 1. Take care of selling his Mom's house as we had to move her due to dementia. All I heard about for an entire 2 months 2) he then cut the tip of his finger with a jig saw. Broke the bones etc... Major nervous break down, bawling that he never had an accident in the woodshop in 17 years and how would he ever play bass again. He had a pin put in and stiches etc... that lasted 4 months. He literally milked it and did NOTHING around the house - couldn't even shower himself 😵💫 Then, at the same time he ended up with poison sumac in both arms. He could miraculously do yard work with that busted finger but once back inside he was helpless again. That lasted another 2 months. He said "You take such good care of me" but once he was fully healed, he blamed me for not getting any work done on the house for 6 months. "I got so much more dine around here before I met you and you moved in." Unbelievable a$$hole!!! Such a waste of my time, energy and emotions! Stuck by him through so much crap and he was never ever there for me 🤦♀️❤️🩹😔😡
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thank you
You're welcome
"What happened?"🤣
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So much extra! Here is a willing body able person wants to see this person succeed and they resent them crazy ish!
It’s crazy
Well as long if its far away from me im good 😊😊 wish them well. But not with me and my kids
You don't want people to feel you like that because you know how you look at people when their down, less than you and can't stand to be in the same place you judge people for.
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Wow..! 💯🔥
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Why my narcissistic husband saying while divorce he will earn more money and take revenge on me and things using like my idealogy and thoights before when we together ...
See my ex did the same she had the kids benefits and now I have them she is still trying to get benefits and even though the kids have a better environment and schools that there happy to go to she wants them to go to school where she's at cause they gotta stay black and she want benefits cause to her im the narcissist and I gotta pay for ruining the relationship and i did alot of dirt but it's about the kids and in her mind it's about me paying for her to live. She stays with her friend and they want to find every way to live free.
Thank you for sharing, Im curious what led you to seek therapy? Happy Holidays
you’re welcome
Dr. Patricia Evans Verbally Abusive Man. Can He Change?
A victim would get attacked because they don't match the fantasy of the perp. And they feel you attacking them so they attack.
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Connor McGregor would be a classic example when you mentioned sports people. Loved him even though there were obvious narcissistic traits driving his success. His partner has supported him from the humble beginnings when he had nothing. Not a fan anymore. Good to hear that the holidays have been successful for everyone. Maybe your more self aware /psychopathic traits kicking in?🙊😂
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Why he his sayieng that i am only married him due to lust and saying that no one loves me how i am ..only he loves me the way i look 😮
Can you do a video on why explaining to narcissist their bad behavior is not a good idea? I feel like if you do that, you are telling them how to manipulate you and possibly others. If they are grown adults and they are not self aware, stay away from them. They do not see a problem with who they are so let them be them and adjust how or if you speak to them.
My belief is that when you are fed up and you know this will be the last time you'll speak to them simply agree with everything they're saying and then go no contact.
These people have convinced themselves that they are not the problem and there is nothing we can do to make them feel otherwise ! Just saying.
Yes he feels so entitled, but child support on it maybe that will help him see he anit playing on my emotions and empathy anymore and that I don’t care that he jealous of me instead of being happy for me. He called lying about buying the kids for Christmas and all and thought the God I serve wasn’t gone see to them receiving what they wanted and needed. Oh and he’ll try to come back once he hits his rock bottom
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Maybe the narcissist was created by narcissistic parents. Cuz narcissistic parents treat you bad when ur not ok
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Blah blah blah boo boo boo bee bee bee 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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That’s crazy I helped him get a job to get him out that head space and he still didn’t step up for thee family he stayed used his money on whatever and continue to be at his low and resented me even more, so at that point instead of having him use my empathy against me even after that I told him a man that don’t work don’t eat and stole all my money and ran off with a girl that he spoke bogus about🤷🏽♀️😂🤣😂
I can relate! They spent the money I gave them on drugs. It's truly sad.
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