Ladies don't drop hints. Just ask. We either know it is a hint but don't wanna mess it up just in case it's not or we don't know. We ain't mind readers here, hanging out doesn't mean you like the person that way so that's not a hint at all no matter what you say. Just outright say it and if you get rejected then that's fine shoot your shot anyway
It takes men years of friendship to accurately read subtle hints from male friends and actively delve deeper into "yeah, fine" when you ask them if they're doing OK. Expecting us to pick up on subtle hints from what we often view as a strange and confusing species is asking a lot because often the signs of interest are very similar to the signs of just being friendly. It's confusing being a man
@@DjDolHaus86 far too confusing. We are always made out to be dumb as shit by not getting the hint. But it's better not to in case you get it wrong or you are just a really friendly person like you says they are very similar in likeness to friendliness.
@@itzskizzyk5472 communication is something done together. Consistently not being understood and blaming it on the receiver is a common sender mistake.
A girl actually asked me out and I straight up just hit her with the: "Show yourself Hades, another one of your tricks?" Perhaps playing God of War was not the best thing to have done at the time...
@@Magibatproductions There are good women who are not into gaming. And there are bad women who are into gaming. But I guess if she can't deal with a nerdy side then it can be called dodging a bullet if you so want to.
Story 10 really goes to show that the "hints" method is really bad. Women, just tell them and save them a headache, it doesn't even take a lack of self-confidence to doubt the hints you give, if there's any room for doubt, most guys will wait until it's crystal clear.
Story legit just describing a relationship like these ain't even hints anymore. I get not wanting an sa charge but also like when they say they want to see you naked i think you're in the clear. Except in this case because ofc.
I swear this is true.. I once had a girl drop a very heavy hint on me in university.. I was 19 at the time.. I recognized the hint when I was 30 while retelling the story to someone. Not many ppl can say that they have an 11year lag with social cues. 💪🏻
Listen, ladies, let's just be honest with one another: Hints don't work. They don't, and honestly playing 'hints' with guys these days is just begging for the guy to either not look at you, or perhaps even be too paranoid to approach. In this day and age, a guy who assumes you're 'hinting' is playing Russian Roulette with his social life as one bad misread and you're suddenly the 'creepy' guy, being charged with harassment, or the like so they honestly just ignore the signals entirely as it is the safest, most sure way to keep themselves away from trouble. Just shoot your shot, tell them you're interested, and the guy will judge if they're interested or not. Hell, it's likely more favorable of an impression for the one you're interested in as they didn't have to play some long game of 'Guess my signal' with you.
I can confirm this, as I 23 yr old guy I will assume any girls is being friendly or polite unless they actively say otherwise In my experiences hints are just girls being friendly anyway and if you actually do take a chance on a hint then more often then not itll turn out badly
Yeah, 26 year old guy here. I generally assume that anything even vaguely friendly is just that, especially in a professional setting where it could destroy your career if you're wrong. I haven't dated very many women, probably in part because of that idea. But honestly, it's not worth the risk. Personally, I find the attempt to date to be extremely stressful, I'm introverted naturally, but it usually doesn't seem to be worth the stress.
Not relationship, but friendship-related: I had a female friend who kept approaching me to hang out. We’d set a time, and she’d come up with an excuse to cancel. She was always tired, or had forgotten, or didn’t realize she had a paper due. It was infuriating because she was the one approaching me! The last straw was when she asked to grab dinner Saturday night, then told me she was too busy with homework to go out. I’d forgone two other potential plans to keep the time slot clear. Lo and behold, there she was on Snapchat partying with a bunch of her other friends! It was clear she had zero respect for my time, so I told her so and told her not to reach out again if she didn’t plan on following through. She never once reached out to me again, and honestly, good riddance.
Yeah, no hate bro, but she probably only reached you so she can feed her ego of having you available at her will, is a shame but some women are like that.
Met a coworker like that. She would always say she wants to hang out then backs out before the hangout saying the same excuse she has to be back home so her mother is not worried. When I left that job, she stopped me at the parking lot after I closed it saying she wished we hungout more. Told her no worries, we were coworkers not friends. She gave a long goodbye hug and I left after. She never texted me after that
What I do is just assume she isn't interested in me unless she directly states she wants to date me. It doesn't matter what she does. As explained by one of the stories, some girls just act like that around certain people. If she wants you bad enough, she'll probably say something. Saves you a lot of awkward moments and unnecessary heartache.
I'm 28 and I've noticed the woman being interested in me 2 times. The first one was in an exchange semester but I wasn't interested. She noticed that I wasn't interested and stopped caring too. At least that is my take on it. The other one was a woman I spend time together in a group setting two times for three weeks each a year apart. The first time I showed more interest in her and she didn't. The second time I met her she started to open up and dropped a few hints. I think the most obvious one was that she wanted to have a picture with me. After we left and I stopped seeing her because of outside reasons I really put some thought into it if I should pursue her and contact her. I did have her number and I know what I could have asked as a first date. I'm pretty sure she would have at least accepted a few dates. In the end I chose against it. Her lifestyle is somewhat limiting to what I want, she had some mental problems (I don't think the mental problems would prevent her from forming a relationship but they would make life more difficult) and our core believes are different as I am a Christian and she isn't. Those were the two times I noticed hints. But I guess it is pretty obvious in my case. Normally woman don't show any attention to me. Women talk to me if the situation is right, but in the end I'm talking to guys 90% of the time in mixed group settings. If this isn't the case it is probably a woman who is interested in me. There might be women who dropped hints I missed. But I have no clue how many or if even.
@@benrex7775 it's insane how indirect they can be the main one I remember was a girl at my old gym before I moved home went up to me and said my deadlift form was off, that was it the only reason I found out she was interested is cause after a few weeks of me getting ahold of her number to workout with to keep an eye on my form she finally asked if I wanted to go somewhere after. And I was like girl you lucky I followed up on that you didn't even ask for my name if I didn't get competitive over it or notice you staring at me every time you finished a set when you weren't facing my direction. I'd have took the tip and never spoke to you again.
@@randomlygeneratedname In those two cases the interest they were showing me was not once talking to me. It was more. But I guess men are supposed to be the hunters while women are the ones being hunted or something like this. I'm not against that principle. I think we have bigger problems than suitable women dropping subtle hints. One problem is that society is trying to make both men and women as unsuitable as possible and one of my problems is that I'm not much around women so I'm not really in a position where it allows for things to happen.
A girl once asked me "would you go out with me?" I responded by saying "yeah, I would definitely go out with you. I think any guy would be lucky to go out with you." Then I walked away. That was about 9 years ago and it wasn't until just a couple weeks ago that I realized she was actually asking me out. Worst of all was that I had a major crush on her at the time.
Just.. Don't drop hints. Say what you want, ladies. Save us the headache and tell us what you want and feel because men are not oblivious to be honest, we can see the hints but are just afraid of misunderstanding it and be seen as a creep or an assuming bastard, destroying whatever relationship we have as a friend or colleague.
Story 4 - Ok, so if a girl is blushing and seems a little nervous she is: either terrified of interacting with me or has a crush on me. So if I shoot my shot I'm either a creep reported to the police or I can get the girl. I'll just abstain.
@@unicorntomboy9736I just recently made a move on someone I’ve been talking to for a few weeks, and got rejected. Now that allows me to focus my energy elsewhere, and I honestly feel good that I at least tried. Rejection is something that men need to embrace!
4:19 This happened to me last month. A friend of the girl who probably likes me asked me if I’d go out with that girl, and I said yeah. The girl who asked me the question brought it up again a few weeks later, and the one who’s into me started giggling. Nothing was said after that, and yesterday was my school’s holiday dance. I didn’t ask her out or even go, I went and played airsoft for a few hours.
Ladies, for every “obvious hint” you can think of, some poor guy out there has gotten one and acted on it only for it to blow up in his face. Your idea of “flirting” might be another girl just being friendly. Men don’t graduate with a major in telepathy from Xavier’s School for Gifted Youngsters. If you like him, tell him, with actua words.
Been there on story number 10. Been told I had 5/6 qualities she loves in a guy. I was her closest male friend and she showed me some cheesy instagram quote saying your partner is your best friend for life. Asked her out and..."I think of you more as a friend." After that, we were in a cabin in Big Bear. Our friends were out for a few hours and she invited me to nap on her bed. She frequently told me to cut my nails as the thought of them _being inside her_ freaked her out. Ladies, *this is why we don't take hints* . Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. You are far more likely to get what you want from men if you just state it plainly.
It amazes me that women have the ability to just call a dude creepy entirely because they feel like it. Does it not bother anyone else that even guys have started going along with that level of bs thinking
And anyways if a girl I like confesses through her friend I’ll turn down due to pressure, too much people (one is too much unless a close friend I have known for years), social anxiety, not wanting other people to know about my feeling apart from that person (the crush not the friend) and there are soo much more but I can’t list them all
I actually hate when this happens, its so common but you still don't know the context when it happens and then get berated for being a heartless asshole
Personally, I never hit on a girl unless she drops hints first, because I don't like to play the chasing game. Over the years I've noticed that some of the most common hints girls leave are "accidentally" brushing up against you frequently, or giggling at everything you say no matter how unfunny, or complaining about how they should leave their boyfriends to you alot, or making provocative comments like "You have such big hands. I bet that's not the only thing that's big on you", and finally if a girl has failed to get your attention in every other way she will likely ask her best friend to say something to you like "Do you think my friend is pretty? I bet she'd say yes if you made a move at her". I think the hint that goes unnoticed most often is the giggling, when girls aren't good at it it's easy to miss.
Stories like this are the exact reason why I imagine I won't enter a relationship anytime soon. It is so incredibly difficult to distinguish a hint from normal, friendly behaviour. And in this day and age, misinterpreting a friendly action as a hint is essentially the equivalent of shooting your own social life in the foot. Even if the interest is mutual, most guys will either assume the worst case scenario in regards to hints or just ignore hints entirely simply out of an instinct of social self preservation. I'm not even speaking from personal experience, this is just the most logical conclusion to me. Ladies, you need to realize something. Yes, some of us are dense, I won't deny that. But the vast majority of us are perfectly capable of understanding the hints you're dropping, and simply don't want to assume and risk getting perceived as creepy. Much like how if a guy comes off as too persistent, it's his approach that is the issue, playing this mental chess game with us and trying to checkmate our interest in you is just as big of an approach issue. Often times, we likely *recognize* that the things you're doing are often considered a hint that a woman's interested in you, but there's always that thought in the back of our minds of "What if I'm wrong? What if she's not interested in me? If I make a move and she's not interested, what's gonna happen then?" Rather than losing interest when we don't pick up on the hints, try to understand that in our heads, we're still trying to puzzle out if you're even interested in us in the first place. Seriously, just shoot your shot. If it misses, at least you tried, right? That alone warrants major respect in our eyes. And it leaves a strong impression. That you're confident in yourself, you know what you want, and you're not afraid to try and get it if you have the opportunity. A lot of guys find that *way* more attractive than trying to piece together the complicated mathematical equation of "Gets closer + looks at my lips × holds my gaze ÷ laughs at my stupid jokes × (touches my shoulder/forearm/leg - goes out of her way to talk to me) = romantic interest?" For an equation like this, it doesn't matter how many times you show your work. The answer is *never* always yes.
I was on the receiving end of someone who dropped hints like flirting, pet names and SENDING ME PICS OF HER, SOME OF WHICH ARE IN A BIKINI, NONE OF WHICH I ASKED FOR, only to find out after confronting her about it that she's like that with everyone. And that's why I don't do hints.
“Hints” worked back before 2000 😂 Ever since the internet, social media, smartphones, etc. became a thing most guys are too smart to think something is a hint only to land on the sex offenders list. I honestly can’t believe some of the chances I even took as a young adult in the 2010s.
6:00 everything youve listed is the reason friendzoning happens. its because girls act nice, with no indistinguishable difference to how they act with everyone else, but want to go out, but that just causes people to think that they don't want to go out.
funny that when men try to be careful they are oblivious, but when they get the wrong idea they could be dangerous or make a scene. There's no winning for us.
Okay, I get that this isn't about women vs men...but why is it that we men are always the ones that need to be romantic? Im sorry, I dont find that to be fair. My girlfriend will invite me out, she will ask me to come over and eat dinner, recently she invited me to the movies. I LOVE doing all of this with her and invite her as well ofcourse but she doesn't just expect me to do all the work...because she actually cares about me as much as I care about her! why is it always expected to be the men that have to do all of these romantic gestures? We like to feel appreciated and loved as well...I know...big fucking shocker aint it? Looking at you 11:30...how about, instead of these "hints" you just FUCKING TALK ABOUT IT?! "Sweety, we dont really go out on dates anymore! Could we try to find a time to do that a bit more often?" So many women talk about men not showing emotions yet they themself refuse to just fucking talk about stuff.
Story 5, Yes he can be that oblivious, ESPECIALLY since you are already friends. Think a lot of guys will write off hints with any sort of subtlety as you just being friendly and comfortable with him when you are friends. You basically need to smack him in the head with a neon sign
#7 is just... bad. I'd never pick up on ANY of that. Like dang, that's just being friendly aside from 1 or 2 things that barely go past that like the arm rub.
This was the most obvious hint a girl once dropped on me and I didnt realized until she went away. There was this one time when I went for a night out to some disco with my ex-friends. It was one of the worst nights cuz we usually want to dance and sing and, because of the time that we got there, we didnt got in any disco that fit those requirements. So, as a last alternative, we went to disco, but there was only this band playing samba (a bit like jazz). It was boring af. We stayed for 2h and left at 4 AM. Since there were no public transportation open until 6 30 AM, we decided to walk by the river until we got to the Metro station. 6 AM station opens. Everyone goes to the platform where the metro will stop. I reach the platform and sit down on the bench. I was talking a little bit loud about how bad was our night and all that stuff. Then, this girl, out of nowhere, sit beside me while having also her friends sit down. Not even a minute sit down and she starts talking to me being supportive, kind, cute, ... all of these things trying to make me feel better. While she was talking to me, I couldnt even look at her face because of how pretty she was. I was literally stunned. It seemed like what was happening in the surroundings just stopped. We talked for a bit and she clearly gave away the hint, which was related to her being so attentive. All of this to say I was so stunned and embarassed by her beauty that I forgot to ask for her number. She then went away and like less than 5 minutes pass and i realize what just had happened. The metro arrives and I try to look for her to no avail... DAMN.
My other case is a sad one. With both of us ended up just being toxic to each other. Meet via a mutual friend’s Facebook. We realized we enjoyed having intelligent conversations with one another. And usually I fall easily, but she told me she had a boyfriend and so I respected that. And when she told me they broke up I kept my distance. Yet she did get more friendly with me. So I told I could be interested in her, yet she kept comparing me to her ex and thus wouldn’t go through with it. Which was fine with me. She then teases me with info I didn’t want. I told her outright please don’t do that again as in the past I lose control and it brings out the worst in me. And she ignores it giving me more info that I didn’t want and I fall. We did have a lot of back in forth with me trying to get her to like me her liking me at points and then crushing me. And we even met up in real life and did wonderful things to get together such as go to a concert. Even went to see a movie despite her saying her last experience at the movies was with her newer ex and it was intimate. And told her despite being into her that all of our outings were just as friends so nothing would happen. Though the night at the movies I might of missed my opportunity to make my move as she on and off expressed she was in the mood then. And I also learned later on, all the outings we had she considered dates which again I never did despite being the one wanting them to be. And she was also the one that initiated our first hug while I tried to stay friendly. After that we had a falling out, because she got with yet another guy. Who I gave my piano guy tickets to, because we were going to go together, but since she hated my guts I let her new bf have mine. And we stopped talking regularly. We did however email each other monthly. And I was at first love struck, but eventually I was trying to help her with her new boyfriend in strengthening their relationship. Even going as far as to tell her to talk to me less and open up to him more. Too bad I never got to talk to him, she was apparently talking to multiple old friends at the time and thought I was trying to steal her from him when honestly I thought they were going to marry. After months of silence and almost two years since our fall out, I did email her a desperate email, because I was too lonely and she responded needing me in her life again as her and her boyfriend broke up. She didn’t take my advice to talk to him more. Nonetheless it was the same thing again, but with her triggering my bad spot more while being friendly and stabbing me. Or me being to obsessed with the answers I needed that it would drive her crazy. We were toxic for each other. I should of had more self control, I should of seen she was using me for her own comfort not to actually get with me. But it was hard. There are very few friends in my life that would be awake at 2am in the morning to have a shoulder to lean on. And when we were stable we did have the best and most fun conversations. But yeah. We no longer talk as we accepted we were toxic for each other, but it was a situation where I really couldn’t tell if she liked me or not. But that is why videos like this one can be helpful.
Holy fuck you were so naive and dumb to be willingly in that position of friendzone for so many years when it was obvious she didn't know what she wanted and was a walking red flag.
@@Un1234l you’re not wrong. I had wasted too much time on someone that didn’t deserve it. She wasted her time on just some idiot asshole that was me. I’m just glad, I was able to finally see how terrible we both were for each other and I got away.
So with all these hints i must've apparently missed, (story 18-19) this helped me realize that in all likelihood, my crush isn't interested in me. Now that I think about it, she's probably just too nice to say no. Maybe I'm the creep? Tbh.. I really don't know what to feel anymore.
If you arent sure just ask her, worst case possible she says no, best case possible she says yes. Unless shes douchebag and she laughs at you, but then, why even like her?
This one girl I was heavily into was my best friend at the time. I asked her who she liked, it was a bunch of gibberish, except at the start it said you, her excuse was that she was used to typing you. We dated for a month, and then she left me for someone else without explanation. Turns out she was cheating on me the whole time.
6:27 When someone looks at me for more then 5 seconds I will stare the sh#t out of them, I will stare for up to 2 minutes without blinking to scare them into not staring for longer (now that I think of it I probably lost a possible girlfriend or 2 like that but who cares al long as you scare the sh#t out of them it’s fun…)
Honestly the worst ‘hint’ is having a friend tell a guy you like them, it happened more than once to me and 100% of the time I assumed they were lying. To this day I’m not sure how many were lying and how many were genuine, but if your friends walk giggling over to someone and tell them you like them, then chances are they sunk that relationship, also if you ever were the friend who did that, you’re an aresehole.
One girl dropped a lot of hints. Like a lot. I take my sweet ass time to realise, and then after one more hint (which, like in this video, is where her friend tells me), I friend her on social media, and then instead of ignoring it or declining it, she completely blocked me. Super hot too. Women are so confusing when they drop hints, so please just be direct
About Story 6: No, DO do this. The only relationship I ever had was when a friend of a girl who liked told me about it. To be fair, she was a mutual friend that I'd known for longer, so I could trust her. It completely emboldened me to make my move.
My crush in 8th grade used to give out such obvious hints at the time, but i did not get them at all. She often tried to get close to me like eat with me in lunch, because I had no one to eat with at the time. Asked me all kinds of questions like, if I liked her hairdo or her perfume. I caught her on multiple occasions looking straight at me or with a mirror. Eventually, she confessed, I of course said yes. However, the relationship did not last long, looking back at it now, it would've better if we had stayed friends.
if you really like a guy that you get along with quite often dont just fuckin throw hints i promise you ive done that multiple times and it wont work when a REALLY nice guy has a really tight relationship with you all the hints you do wether its subtle or really obvious wouldnt be seen as a hint but more of mistake they dont want to ruin their relationship with you so they assume its just not intended and theyd think since you were friends for a long time you just feel comfortable Yes they would think some dirty stuff but thatll be the end of it theyll never assume that youre suggesting THAT since if they do theyd think youd leave them if theyre wrong "Hints" mostly works if the guy isnt somewhat a hubby material
Nah fuck all of that we ignore hints and yes we know they’re hints we just don’t want to act on it cause we don’t want to make the girl uncomfortable and this making us feel like we’re the creeps
Especially if you are busy and have other stuff on your plate, taking subtle hints will be the last thing on your mind. And once the moment is gone, you’ll never get it back. Such a silly game
Holy shit I've never been so glad that I'm gay. Straight dudes I feel for you bro. Gay men are so transparent about their intentions I feel like I'm playing on easy mode.
These aren’t always the case, especially the memes and talking about life thing. A friend of mine, and we’ve been extremely good friends for years, she just wanted a meme friend. I quoted vines, so she knew I liked memes, and she wanted someone to nerd out with. There’s a lot of times where a girl just wants a guy friend because some girls don’t get along for reasons x, y, and z. And it doesn’t mean she wants you. It could lead to it, because every case is unique, but these “hints” aren’t hints. Never even heard of the touching exposed skin hint, or laughing while exposing your neck? How the fuck else do you laugh? Do you tuck that shit away when someone isn’t funny? For both guys and girls, just be direct. Why is courting a game of charades?
9:40 wtf bro, that's when you completely move on with your life. Life's too short to be walking on eggshells. How long is she gonna do that for anyway? A different type of torture.
In the end, nothing makes sense. This video left me with more questions than answers. If we weren't all so scared to just be clear with each other with words, things would be a lot easier. This extra layer of guessing just makes everything harder for everyone except those who are somehow good at it. Fuck this! I'd rather risk accidentally making someone uncomfortable than having to do all these crazy probability computations to decide if we're into each other or not.
2:11 that one kinda got uno reversed on me. I’m your typical oblivious guy, and there was this cute girl who worked at the local DQ who would always serve me and share small talk while I waited for my food. I honestly never thought anything of it, because I assumed she was just being nice and polite or was bored, or was just one of those chatty people. It was because of this assumption that I never mentioned I had a gf at the time as it never really came up. Fast forward to about a month later, me and a buddy go out for lunch and I bring my gf along and we sit in the restaurant. After 45 minutes of visiting with my buddy, we are about to leave when my gf pokes me and says “do you know that girl? She’s been looking at us for a while”. I look over and see my chatty friendly server giving me and my gf a literal death glare. After that she would hand me off to another server whenever I would come in for food. Still feel a little bad about that one cuz she probably thought I was leading her on. I just didn’t realize she was flirting with me 😂
I'm an Uber driver and I can say that a lot of women do touch unnecessarily, ask personal questions and keep looking at you and that doesn't mean anything. If I tried to hit on every girl that does all 3 of them I probably would have lost enough stars to lose my job.
I’m ngl, Story 15, I feel like any guy would have that fly over their head. Just think about it “I wonder if I taste like smoke” sounds like a shower thought to me, cause yeah you can smell smoke, but if smoke was in your mouth would it have taste or is it still just a smell?
Trust me, I was married to a smoker. You can taste it. But if she is a smoker and you're not, when she asks you that, don't go for it unless you are willing to overlook the taste.
Story 13 is literally me and my friend, but then she got mad at me when I unadded her from snap chat for 2 days bc I thought she didn’t wanna talk to me.. I was so confused..
Look, I deal with a lot of women through out my day (either co workers or customer) and most of these "hints" is alright bullshit, being nice, nervous, or just being not clear enough is the most common thing, English is not my first language so my accent and way of speaking as well my conjugations, so misunderstandings are normal, we are humans, we are social creatures, I don't think having a conversation on a daily basic mean shit if there's no intention of date, if you like someone, just tell that person how you feel, no games, no rodeos, if you get rejected, that's life
With how things are right now. You get the hint wrong and you could get thrown head first into hotwater with how society is nowadays. I’d be better off with someone who is more obvious then subtle.
Ok. First time ever some TH-camr talking about girl hints gets the thumbnail title TH-cam title not wrong. I'm not gonna say right either but at this point anything that is not wrong is a blessing. Fresh change of pace. Sad this new painting won't last long
Can ladies stop dropping hints an jus say it. Like if we were to act on a "hint" and it wasn't one we could ruin our career and whole life over it so 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
A girl actually said the words "I love you" to me, in the middle of lunch break at this course we were having, and I thought she was kidding. So I just said "umm, okay". Biggest face palm I ever had later.
The annoying thing is that most guys either don’t get them or won’t risk it. The few that get them and will risk it are NOT the type of people you want to be with.
If its at work it's a trap! I don't remember how many jobs I've lost before I learned that simple fact. She wants your job and your paycheck. Never forget coworkers are your competition, not your friends
On story 10 (8:05), just want to make a comment. Girl seems like she just wants this man. No hints, just straight up, "I was to see you naked." Like even if she says, "Na, I'm not interested," you know she is. Also, man stares so intensely he can see her pupils get bigger? Dude... calm down a bit. You don't have to stare into her soul.
So these supposed obvious hints are actually not obvious. Also these hints can easily be mis interpreted and can easily be found as creepy if a guy adds anything to it. A real hint is going hey want to go out? Anything these hints are is in reality something that can easily be misinterpreted into being creepy.
Look so many people lie and lure men in to get them in trouble so men just ignore hints now we don't pay attention because now we just don't care treat us well and not like we are worthless and be nice l and we would pay attention to any hints. Or simply ask instead of being an idiot and doing something confusing that isn't actually a hint and then start getting upset that we don't know what you did
I had an odd case I guess, the person has DID, a multiple personality disorder. Now that was hard to read the hints. I guess the only hint would be with the personalities that did talk to me, not all of them are social, they were friendly towards me and a lot would talk about things that like and such with me. And some of the more mute ones would talk to me after revealing I knew more about them thanks to the other personalities. We are friends for now and that’s all I really need.
Hints are the most stupid strategy that anyone, man or woman, can use to try to get what they want, for me in what’s equivalent to high school in the US, it got to the point that I started joking with the boys about which girls showed interest and might have a crush on me and which ones were total bitches, 90% of the time I was right. Anyway, I waited until I was making some money to start dating for real, a man is worthless if he doesn’t has either money or experience, and boy did I had a really good time at uni, definitely dating under your age (3 to 5 year gap) is A LOT BETTER than dating on your same age. Also is a lot easier to give the girl a good date and since all of us are still students and also probably broke, almost every date is cheap unless you want to impress her, no fancy dinners, no shopping sprees, no expensive nor long trips, no extravagant gifts, etc. and if you want to impress her, boy is a lot easier when you have money on you.
"Don't flirt with women at work". Well where tf do I do it then ?! Especially if I'm not exactly a guy who enjoys going clubbing ? Not that you'd meet anyone looking for anything more than a hookup in a nightclub that is !
Here's some good advice that comes from personal experience: She's not interested; she's just being nice. No matter how much it may SEEM like she's into you, she's not.
Ladies, if you aren't interested say so, guys have a difficult time differentiating between being nice or liking them. Then when they finally realize it feel really bad and creepy. Which doesn't help their self esteem at all. Oh and never do the my friend likes you thing or what do you think about her? Girls bully guys like that in school to make the guy look like a sucker so the girl group can make fun of him. If a girl likes a guy she had to make the approach, not her friends. And guys are most likely not going to heavily flirt with you or assume your hints are anything but being friendly. Due to not wanting to be a creep or ruin their lives, especially because of how girls act nowadays in this feminist me too era. And you can tell by looking and talking to them which guys know first hand about how bad it is nowadays. They will not flirt, they will laugh off and redirect any advances, they will try to stay 2 feet away from you, never be alone with a female coworker, never touch or compliment a female coworker on anything but doing her job well. Don't talk about themselves to women and don't answer personal questions to women nor inquire on anything about her life. Needless to say girls, if you like a guy don't play games and don't keep doing hints if he doesn't respond, straight up tell them that you like him.
13:52 I think I can one up this guys dense moment. In high school a girl asked me if I could hang out, she said that she wanted to give me a "complete makeover" she added that a complete makeover included scrubbing me down in the shower. And I was dense af and I had said something dumb along the lines of not wanting to go to all the effort of bringing extra clothes to her place and asked her if she could just give me a sample of the special shampoo she wanted me to use 🤦♂️. I mean, I don't even think I have to explain why that is a supreme dense moment on my part.
so let me get this straight... hanging out with a girl and her buying you snacks for absolutely no reason could be a sign(im in high school so u know how that goes)
Just want to point out a lot of this isn't going to mean shit for the average guy. It's the same with lying etc, we've all heard about the eye movement but you have to already know their baseline behavior to be about to distinguish. This all basically means... every girl is different and has their own ways voluntarily and involuntarily. There is no handbook.
It's challenging because it's inconsistent. People on the autism spectrum are looking for clear and definitive rules to try to make logical sense of the cacophony of human behavior. The reality is that all these "what's a hint?" type things are really just "I thought doing this might be a good way to achieve my goal." So you'll get cases where the exact same behavior is a hint or isn't a hint. Where the exact same strategy works or doesn't work. There is no logic to it.
Look at it logically. She could be flirting with you or simply being nice so come up with a question that indicates one or the other. Like a psychological video game
I have tryed to talk to to women who don't look at me let alone give me the time of day and I take it as she is not interested but then they wonder why I stopped talking to them or doing nice things for her if you totally ignore me I think you don't want me around or want anything to do with me because you don't like me. Please don't play hard to get, if you do I think you think I am annoying or creepy or something it's not a good tactic.
why did everyone just agree that when girls dont say no its because they're "nice" even if they don't want to do something with you like since when has honesty become rude and leading someone on become nice ?
These are all terrible, no one who isn't the person who made up these hints, or taught them, is ever going to pick up on these hints, a lot of them were counter intuitive to each other. By the way, here are some things I still don't know if they were hints with this one girl from high school: feeling up my inner thigh while appearing to tell a joke about me being a stud, jumping on my back for a piggy back ride and immediately shooting back off, spending all her time with me at lunch, saying I looked like Batman when I jumped a small set of stairs to catch up with her, coming to my house to work on a project without telling her parents, inviting me to dinner with her parents out of the blue, getting me to massage her feet while we were watching a movie with friends, talking about our future while we were walking before back tracking about us not even dating, and showing up to my house after graduating(to which I was the only one not aware she was coming over so no one seemed to understand why I was so uncomfortable when she would show up before I could get a shower in). Now if anyone thinks I'm too oblivious the plot thickens, because when she started to talk about our future, I took that opportunity to ask if she wanted to go out, in the least romantic way possible, and in a situation where, looking back, I had way too much power as it was my family's new years party and I was her ride. Well she said yes, nothing really happened, I got a kiss on the cheek when I dropped her off, she told me not to tell anyone we were going out, and by the time we meet back up at school she says she's not in a good place in her life to start dating, I try to get her to just say she's not interested in me, so I could process things and move on, she wouldn't but still kept up all our other daily routines, and I just felt awful and anxious until she stopped coming by and started dating a marine.
@@SpinalWall16589 Yeah… I’m trying to talk to them more. It’s kinda awkward though, so do you have any suggestions of how to??? Cause I’m like really bad at this kinda stuff
@@alien9663 Well, I wish I had the best advice but the best I can say is: Show your best side, be positive and optimistic when the moment is appropriate, and just take it easy. If you are ever in a situation that makes you uneasy or nervous just take some silent deep breathes and just be relaxed to not panic. Remember that every action should match every place and time and remember to never be afraid to speak up because confidence is a good thing to show because it builds character and motivation. Best of luck, from an introvert. Lol.
The staring at the lips thing isnt always true, sometimes I have a hard time hearing what people are saying so I find myself automatically looking at their lips to read what they're saying...
Story 5 is just annoying. How tf was he supposed to know? She made it seem so casual. She even admits that and still thinks he’s dumb for not *knowing* she wanted to fuck him. Bruh
Why is it so hard for women to JUST SAY YOU LIKE THEM OR YOURE INTO THEM!!! Screw all these hints! I will never pick up on them because I’ll just assume you’re being nice!
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Ladies don't drop hints. Just ask. We either know it is a hint but don't wanna mess it up just in case it's not or we don't know. We ain't mind readers here, hanging out doesn't mean you like the person that way so that's not a hint at all no matter what you say. Just outright say it and if you get rejected then that's fine shoot your shot anyway
It takes men years of friendship to accurately read subtle hints from male friends and actively delve deeper into "yeah, fine" when you ask them if they're doing OK. Expecting us to pick up on subtle hints from what we often view as a strange and confusing species is asking a lot because often the signs of interest are very similar to the signs of just being friendly. It's confusing being a man
@@DjDolHaus86 far too confusing. We are always made out to be dumb as shit by not getting the hint. But it's better not to in case you get it wrong or you are just a really friendly person like you says they are very similar in likeness to friendliness.
And if we guess wrong of these hints, then what? We end up looking like a creep or something.
@@mattcloud0414 oooh yeah just not worth the risk tbh
@@itzskizzyk5472 communication is something done together.
Consistently not being understood and blaming it on the receiver is a common sender mistake.
A girl actually asked me out and I straight up just hit her with the: "Show yourself Hades, another one of your tricks?"
Perhaps playing God of War was not the best thing to have done at the time...
Dude, that’s legendary.
ZEEEEUUUUUSSS is this of you face me coward
If she didnt laugh, you dodged a bullet
@@Magibatproductions There are good women who are not into gaming. And there are bad women who are into gaming. But I guess if she can't deal with a nerdy side then it can be called dodging a bullet if you so want to.
BASED
Story 10 really goes to show that the "hints" method is really bad. Women, just tell them and save them a headache, it doesn't even take a lack of self-confidence to doubt the hints you give, if there's any room for doubt, most guys will wait until it's crystal clear.
I WILL NOT get a "sexual assault"charge FUCK THAT
@@global_mariii Funny because as a guy, that's my biggest fear too! :D
@@global_mariii exactly, I've been in that boat and I'm jumping ship the instant I see the signs for that
@@dramaticstyle9431 you don’t even need to touch her to get one. She just doesn’t have to like you and lie a bit to the police and you got one
Story legit just describing a relationship like these ain't even hints anymore. I get not wanting an sa charge but also like when they say they want to see you naked i think you're in the clear. Except in this case because ofc.
I swear this is true..
I once had a girl drop a very heavy hint on me in university.. I was 19 at the time.. I recognized the hint when I was 30 while retelling the story to someone.
Not many ppl can say that they have an 11year lag with social cues. 💪🏻
Oh yes we can. This happens to men frequently.
Bro WHAT WAS THE HINT ?!?!? Pls tell
Listen, ladies, let's just be honest with one another: Hints don't work.
They don't, and honestly playing 'hints' with guys these days is just begging for the guy to either not look at you, or perhaps even be too paranoid to approach. In this day and age, a guy who assumes you're 'hinting' is playing Russian Roulette with his social life as one bad misread and you're suddenly the 'creepy' guy, being charged with harassment, or the like so they honestly just ignore the signals entirely as it is the safest, most sure way to keep themselves away from trouble. Just shoot your shot, tell them you're interested, and the guy will judge if they're interested or not. Hell, it's likely more favorable of an impression for the one you're interested in as they didn't have to play some long game of 'Guess my signal' with you.
I can confirm this, as I 23 yr old guy I will assume any girls is being friendly or polite unless they actively say otherwise
In my experiences hints are just girls being friendly anyway and if you actually do take a chance on a hint then more often then not itll turn out badly
Yes ladies, this is how we expect guys to treat guys. Stop pretending you want equality when you want to be guys.
Yeah, 26 year old guy here. I generally assume that anything even vaguely friendly is just that, especially in a professional setting where it could destroy your career if you're wrong. I haven't dated very many women, probably in part because of that idea. But honestly, it's not worth the risk. Personally, I find the attempt to date to be extremely stressful, I'm introverted naturally, but it usually doesn't seem to be worth the stress.
agreed, I had a girl best friend and only realised she probably had a crush on me a few years later after we stopped talking
@@nrreno lol hindsight is 20/20
Not relationship, but friendship-related: I had a female friend who kept approaching me to hang out. We’d set a time, and she’d come up with an excuse to cancel. She was always tired, or had forgotten, or didn’t realize she had a paper due. It was infuriating because she was the one approaching me! The last straw was when she asked to grab dinner Saturday night, then told me she was too busy with homework to go out. I’d forgone two other potential plans to keep the time slot clear. Lo and behold, there she was on Snapchat partying with a bunch of her other friends! It was clear she had zero respect for my time, so I told her so and told her not to reach out again if she didn’t plan on following through. She never once reached out to me again, and honestly, good riddance.
Yeah, no hate bro, but she probably only reached you so she can feed her ego of having you available at her will, is a shame but some women are like that.
@@saeta that’s more or less what I figured, I’ve only met one other person like that but it’s really disappointing. Thankfully not an issue anymore!
Met a coworker like that. She would always say she wants to hang out then backs out before the hangout saying the same excuse she has to be back home so her mother is not worried. When I left that job, she stopped me at the parking lot after I closed it saying she wished we hungout more. Told her no worries, we were coworkers not friends. She gave a long goodbye hug and I left after. She never texted me after that
This is 80% of my interactions with women
@@saeta Or not even an ego thing (in that way), but as a backup; if her IMPORTANT plans fell thru, she'd go do whatever with AG
What I do is just assume she isn't interested in me unless she directly states she wants to date me. It doesn't matter what she does. As explained by one of the stories, some girls just act like that around certain people. If she wants you bad enough, she'll probably say something. Saves you a lot of awkward moments and unnecessary heartache.
Dropping hints? What does this look like? A scavenger hunt?
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yes its the dating scavenger hunt that people do all over the globe! 99% of people fail it, so good luck!
I'm 28 and I've noticed the woman being interested in me 2 times. The first one was in an exchange semester but I wasn't interested. She noticed that I wasn't interested and stopped caring too. At least that is my take on it.
The other one was a woman I spend time together in a group setting two times for three weeks each a year apart. The first time I showed more interest in her and she didn't. The second time I met her she started to open up and dropped a few hints. I think the most obvious one was that she wanted to have a picture with me. After we left and I stopped seeing her because of outside reasons I really put some thought into it if I should pursue her and contact her. I did have her number and I know what I could have asked as a first date. I'm pretty sure she would have at least accepted a few dates. In the end I chose against it. Her lifestyle is somewhat limiting to what I want, she had some mental problems (I don't think the mental problems would prevent her from forming a relationship but they would make life more difficult) and our core believes are different as I am a Christian and she isn't.
Those were the two times I noticed hints. But I guess it is pretty obvious in my case. Normally woman don't show any attention to me. Women talk to me if the situation is right, but in the end I'm talking to guys 90% of the time in mixed group settings. If this isn't the case it is probably a woman who is interested in me. There might be women who dropped hints I missed. But I have no clue how many or if even.
@@benrex7775 it's insane how indirect they can be the main one I remember was a girl at my old gym before I moved home went up to me and said my deadlift form was off, that was it the only reason I found out she was interested is cause after a few weeks of me getting ahold of her number to workout with to keep an eye on my form she finally asked if I wanted to go somewhere after. And I was like girl you lucky I followed up on that you didn't even ask for my name if I didn't get competitive over it or notice you staring at me every time you finished a set when you weren't facing my direction. I'd have took the tip and never spoke to you again.
@@randomlygeneratedname In those two cases the interest they were showing me was not once talking to me. It was more. But I guess men are supposed to be the hunters while women are the ones being hunted or something like this. I'm not against that principle. I think we have bigger problems than suitable women dropping subtle hints. One problem is that society is trying to make both men and women as unsuitable as possible and one of my problems is that I'm not much around women so I'm not really in a position where it allows for things to happen.
A girl once asked me "would you go out with me?" I responded by saying "yeah, I would definitely go out with you. I think any guy would be lucky to go out with you." Then I walked away. That was about 9 years ago and it wasn't until just a couple weeks ago that I realized she was actually asking me out. Worst of all was that I had a major crush on her at the time.
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Dang...
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God damn lol
Damn, unlucky.😢
Just.. Don't drop hints. Say what you want, ladies. Save us the headache and tell us what you want and feel because men are not oblivious to be honest, we can see the hints but are just afraid of misunderstanding it and be seen as a creep or an assuming bastard, destroying whatever relationship we have as a friend or colleague.
Sun tzu with the facts
exactly
Me when I get a compliment, especially from a girl:
*A core memory!*
A hint is never obvious. Asking out/saying how you feel is obvious.
Story 4 - Ok, so if a girl is blushing and seems a little nervous she is: either terrified of interacting with me or has a crush on me. So if I shoot my shot I'm either a creep reported to the police or I can get the girl.
I'll just abstain.
Why would you be reported to the police? For politely flirting with a crush? Grow up? I was taught to be direct and go for the girl if it felt right
@@unicorntomboy9736 bruh
@@vergil1us What was wrong with what I said? Do you want your future kids to not be born because of your inactions?
@@unicorntomboy9736 I have no obligations to anyone - especially people who haven't even fucking been born yet.
@@unicorntomboy9736I just recently made a move on someone I’ve been talking to for a few weeks, and got rejected. Now that allows me to focus my energy elsewhere, and I honestly feel good that I at least tried. Rejection is something that men need to embrace!
4:19
This happened to me last month. A friend of the girl who probably likes me asked me if I’d go out with that girl, and I said yeah. The girl who asked me the question brought it up again a few weeks later, and the one who’s into me started giggling. Nothing was said after that, and yesterday was my school’s holiday dance. I didn’t ask her out or even go, I went and played airsoft for a few hours.
Sigma move
Stay up king
“Why didn’t you go to the dance with me😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢”
This person has their priorities straight.
Best move you coulda done.
As a man, there's way too much risk involved with misinterpreting a hint (false accusations, etc.) so a straightforward approach would be appreciated
Ladies, for every “obvious hint” you can think of, some poor guy out there has gotten one and acted on it only for it to blow up in his face. Your idea of “flirting” might be another girl just being friendly.
Men don’t graduate with a major in telepathy from Xavier’s School for Gifted Youngsters. If you like him, tell him, with actua words.
Been there on story number 10. Been told I had 5/6 qualities she loves in a guy. I was her closest male friend and she showed me some cheesy instagram quote saying your partner is your best friend for life. Asked her out and..."I think of you more as a friend."
After that, we were in a cabin in Big Bear. Our friends were out for a few hours and she invited me to nap on her bed. She frequently told me to cut my nails as the thought of them _being inside her_ freaked her out. Ladies, *this is why we don't take hints* . Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. You are far more likely to get what you want from men if you just state it plainly.
It amazes me that women have the ability to just call a dude creepy entirely because they feel like it. Does it not bother anyone else that even guys have started going along with that level of bs thinking
The fact that the older woman in story 7 recognized that men don’t get too many compliments! Finally!
It’s nice for a change
4:20
This used to happen all the time in high school, if you confess personally We are much more likely to say yes then if your friend says so
And anyways if a girl I like confesses through her friend I’ll turn down due to pressure, too much people (one is too much unless a close friend I have known for years), social anxiety, not wanting other people to know about my feeling apart from that person (the crush not the friend) and there are soo much more but I can’t list them all
Btw it happened around 5 times
I actually hate when this happens, its so common but you still don't know the context when it happens and then get berated for being a heartless asshole
Nice time
Should I be concerned this has never happened to me
Me watching this to realize I’ve missed hints: ok nice-
Haha same here, (I would probably turned them down anyway, I’m was just not ready for that stuff (relationship in general I am extremely introverted))
That one on don't bother people or stop talking to people who don't seem interested is exactly why I literally talk to nobody
Personally, I never hit on a girl unless she drops hints first, because I don't like to play the chasing game. Over the years I've noticed that some of the most common hints girls leave are "accidentally" brushing up against you frequently, or giggling at everything you say no matter how unfunny, or complaining about how they should leave their boyfriends to you alot, or making provocative comments like "You have such big hands. I bet that's not the only thing that's big on you", and finally if a girl has failed to get your attention in every other way she will likely ask her best friend to say something to you like "Do you think my friend is pretty? I bet she'd say yes if you made a move at her". I think the hint that goes unnoticed most often is the giggling, when girls aren't good at it it's easy to miss.
Stories like this are the exact reason why I imagine I won't enter a relationship anytime soon. It is so incredibly difficult to distinguish a hint from normal, friendly behaviour. And in this day and age, misinterpreting a friendly action as a hint is essentially the equivalent of shooting your own social life in the foot. Even if the interest is mutual, most guys will either assume the worst case scenario in regards to hints or just ignore hints entirely simply out of an instinct of social self preservation. I'm not even speaking from personal experience, this is just the most logical conclusion to me. Ladies, you need to realize something. Yes, some of us are dense, I won't deny that. But the vast majority of us are perfectly capable of understanding the hints you're dropping, and simply don't want to assume and risk getting perceived as creepy.
Much like how if a guy comes off as too persistent, it's his approach that is the issue, playing this mental chess game with us and trying to checkmate our interest in you is just as big of an approach issue. Often times, we likely *recognize* that the things you're doing are often considered a hint that a woman's interested in you, but there's always that thought in the back of our minds of "What if I'm wrong? What if she's not interested in me? If I make a move and she's not interested, what's gonna happen then?" Rather than losing interest when we don't pick up on the hints, try to understand that in our heads, we're still trying to puzzle out if you're even interested in us in the first place.
Seriously, just shoot your shot. If it misses, at least you tried, right? That alone warrants major respect in our eyes. And it leaves a strong impression. That you're confident in yourself, you know what you want, and you're not afraid to try and get it if you have the opportunity. A lot of guys find that *way* more attractive than trying to piece together the complicated mathematical equation of "Gets closer + looks at my lips × holds my gaze ÷ laughs at my stupid jokes × (touches my shoulder/forearm/leg - goes out of her way to talk to me) = romantic interest?" For an equation like this, it doesn't matter how many times you show your work. The answer is *never* always yes.
Hallelujah
Love that last paragraph. As someone who wasn't a fan of algebra and almost walked out on variables, this hit all the right buttons.
I was on the receiving end of someone who dropped hints like flirting, pet names and SENDING ME PICS OF HER, SOME OF WHICH ARE IN A BIKINI, NONE OF WHICH I ASKED FOR, only to find out after confronting her about it that she's like that with everyone. And that's why I don't do hints.
“Hints” worked back before 2000 😂 Ever since the internet, social media, smartphones, etc. became a thing most guys are too smart to think something is a hint only to land on the sex offenders list. I honestly can’t believe some of the chances I even took as a young adult in the 2010s.
I wish girls would just stop with the hints. Guys are not good at hints, just be direct. It will save you time and get you much better results.
Girls are also not good at hints. I mean how many stories are out there of women going home with a guy and are surprised that he want's sex.
6:00 everything youve listed is the reason friendzoning happens. its because girls act nice, with no indistinguishable difference to how they act with everyone else, but want to go out, but that just causes people to think that they don't want to go out.
funny that when men try to be careful they are oblivious,
but when they get the wrong idea they could be dangerous or make a scene. There's no winning for us.
Okay, I get that this isn't about women vs men...but why is it that we men are always the ones that need to be romantic?
Im sorry, I dont find that to be fair. My girlfriend will invite me out, she will ask me to come over and eat dinner, recently she invited me to the movies.
I LOVE doing all of this with her and invite her as well ofcourse but she doesn't just expect me to do all the work...because she actually cares about me as much as I care about her!
why is it always expected to be the men that have to do all of these romantic gestures? We like to feel appreciated and loved as well...I know...big fucking shocker aint it?
Looking at you 11:30...how about, instead of these "hints" you just FUCKING TALK ABOUT IT?!
"Sweety, we dont really go out on dates anymore! Could we try to find a time to do that a bit more often?" So many women talk about men not showing emotions yet they themself refuse to just fucking talk about stuff.
It’s okay to realize that men have it worse off in dating
Story 5, Yes he can be that oblivious, ESPECIALLY since you are already friends. Think a lot of guys will write off hints with any sort of subtlety as you just being friendly and comfortable with him when you are friends. You basically need to smack him in the head with a neon sign
#7 is just... bad. I'd never pick up on ANY of that. Like dang, that's just being friendly aside from 1 or 2 things that barely go past that like the arm rub.
This was the most obvious hint a girl once dropped on me and I didnt realized until she went away. There was this one time when I went for a night out to some disco with my ex-friends. It was one of the worst nights cuz we usually want to dance and sing and, because of the time that we got there, we didnt got in any disco that fit those requirements. So, as a last alternative, we went to disco, but there was only this band playing samba (a bit like jazz). It was boring af. We stayed for 2h and left at 4 AM. Since there were no public transportation open until 6 30 AM, we decided to walk by the river until we got to the Metro station. 6 AM station opens. Everyone goes to the platform where the metro will stop. I reach the platform and sit down on the bench. I was talking a little bit loud about how bad was our night and all that stuff. Then, this girl, out of nowhere, sit beside me while having also her friends sit down. Not even a minute sit down and she starts talking to me being supportive, kind, cute, ... all of these things trying to make me feel better. While she was talking to me, I couldnt even look at her face because of how pretty she was. I was literally stunned. It seemed like what was happening in the surroundings just stopped. We talked for a bit and she clearly gave away the hint, which was related to her being so attentive. All of this to say I was so stunned and embarassed by her beauty that I forgot to ask for her number. She then went away and like less than 5 minutes pass and i realize what just had happened. The metro arrives and I try to look for her to no avail... DAMN.
My other case is a sad one. With both of us ended up just being toxic to each other. Meet via a mutual friend’s Facebook. We realized we enjoyed having intelligent conversations with one another. And usually I fall easily, but she told me she had a boyfriend and so I respected that. And when she told me they broke up I kept my distance. Yet she did get more friendly with me. So I told I could be interested in her, yet she kept comparing me to her ex and thus wouldn’t go through with it. Which was fine with me.
She then teases me with info I didn’t want. I told her outright please don’t do that again as in the past I lose control and it brings out the worst in me. And she ignores it giving me more info that I didn’t want and I fall.
We did have a lot of back in forth with me trying to get her to like me her liking me at points and then crushing me. And we even met up in real life and did wonderful things to get together such as go to a concert. Even went to see a movie despite her saying her last experience at the movies was with her newer ex and it was intimate. And told her despite being into her that all of our outings were just as friends so nothing would happen. Though the night at the movies I might of missed my opportunity to make my move as she on and off expressed she was in the mood then. And I also learned later on, all the outings we had she considered dates which again I never did despite being the one wanting them to be. And she was also the one that initiated our first hug while I tried to stay friendly.
After that we had a falling out, because she got with yet another guy. Who I gave my piano guy tickets to, because we were going to go together, but since she hated my guts I let her new bf have mine. And we stopped talking regularly. We did however email each other monthly. And I was at first love struck, but eventually I was trying to help her with her new boyfriend in strengthening their relationship. Even going as far as to tell her to talk to me less and open up to him more. Too bad I never got to talk to him, she was apparently talking to multiple old friends at the time and thought I was trying to steal her from him when honestly I thought they were going to marry.
After months of silence and almost two years since our fall out, I did email her a desperate email, because I was too lonely and she responded needing me in her life again as her and her boyfriend broke up. She didn’t take my advice to talk to him more. Nonetheless it was the same thing again, but with her triggering my bad spot more while being friendly and stabbing me. Or me being to obsessed with the answers I needed that it would drive her crazy. We were toxic for each other. I should of had more self control, I should of seen she was using me for her own comfort not to actually get with me. But it was hard. There are very few friends in my life that would be awake at 2am in the morning to have a shoulder to lean on. And when we were stable we did have the best and most fun conversations. But yeah. We no longer talk as we accepted we were toxic for each other, but it was a situation where I really couldn’t tell if she liked me or not. But that is why videos like this one can be helpful.
Holy fuck you were so naive and dumb to be willingly in that position of friendzone for so many years when it was obvious she didn't know what she wanted and was a walking red flag.
@@Un1234l you’re not wrong. I had wasted too much time on someone that didn’t deserve it. She wasted her time on just some idiot asshole that was me. I’m just glad, I was able to finally see how terrible we both were for each other and I got away.
So with all these hints i must've apparently missed, (story 18-19) this helped me realize that in all likelihood, my crush isn't interested in me. Now that I think about it, she's probably just too nice to say no. Maybe I'm the creep? Tbh.. I really don't know what to feel anymore.
If you arent sure just ask her, worst case possible she says no, best case possible she says yes. Unless shes douchebag and she laughs at you, but then, why even like her?
@@doggypoofy1390 there are things worse than a no
Best to be careful, women can ruin your life with two words
@@doggypoofy1390 mate no offence but there are a LOT of possible answers she can give that are way worse than no
This one girl I was heavily into was my best friend at the time. I asked her who she liked, it was a bunch of gibberish, except at the start it said you, her excuse was that she was used to typing you. We dated for a month, and then she left me for someone else without explanation. Turns out she was cheating on me the whole time.
Man, that's gotta be tough.
I wanted to get him a loan first. Gotta love the subtitles sometimes!
For Story 13 just yell at me, if I’m doing something wrong I need to know and I’ve taken worse verbal beatings than “you creep me out”
Girl like calling guys creeps because it makes them seem desirable
6:27
When someone looks at me for more then 5 seconds I will stare the sh#t out of them, I will stare for up to 2 minutes without blinking to scare them into not staring for longer (now that I think of it I probably lost a possible girlfriend or 2 like that but who cares al long as you scare the sh#t out of them it’s fun…)
I used the hash to censor not hashTag the “t”
It makes people uncomfortable hehe
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I only do stare contest with cats. It's funny how they react.
@@benrex7775 fair enough bro
Honestly the worst ‘hint’ is having a friend tell a guy you like them, it happened more than once to me and 100% of the time I assumed they were lying. To this day I’m not sure how many were lying and how many were genuine, but if your friends walk giggling over to someone and tell them you like them, then chances are they sunk that relationship, also if you ever were the friend who did that, you’re an aresehole.
One girl dropped a lot of hints. Like a lot. I take my sweet ass time to realise, and then after one more hint (which, like in this video, is where her friend tells me), I friend her on social media, and then instead of ignoring it or declining it, she completely blocked me. Super hot too.
Women are so confusing when they drop hints, so please just be direct
About Story 6: No, DO do this. The only relationship I ever had was when a friend of a girl who liked told me about it. To be fair, she was a mutual friend that I'd known for longer, so I could trust her. It completely emboldened me to make my move.
My crush in 8th grade used to give out such obvious hints at the time, but i did not get them at all. She often tried to get close to me like eat with me in lunch, because I had no one to eat with at the time. Asked me all kinds of questions like, if I liked her hairdo or her perfume. I caught her on multiple occasions looking straight at me or with a mirror. Eventually, she confessed, I of course said yes. However, the relationship did not last long, looking back at it now, it would've better if we had stayed friends.
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
Man adults really do suck at socializing when you really think about it.
Because being indirect is the right way to go about socializing
@Bobby Bero Yeah, I definitely prefer someone just to be direct about it rather than dropping "hints."
If she says she's "busy" you know it's brutally over for you
Bro I got pranked 5 times in middle school with love notes. Worked 1/5 times. That is why I have really bad self esteem 😂.
Or were they interested in you and said it was a prank because you didn’t reciprocate? 🤔
if you really like a guy that you get along with quite often
dont just fuckin throw hints
i promise you
ive done that multiple times and it wont work
when a REALLY nice guy has a really tight relationship with you all the hints you do wether its subtle or really obvious wouldnt be seen as a hint but more of mistake
they dont want to ruin their relationship with you so they assume its just not intended and theyd think since you were friends for a long time you just feel comfortable
Yes they would think some dirty stuff but thatll be the end of it
theyll never assume that youre suggesting THAT since if they do theyd think youd leave them if theyre wrong
"Hints" mostly works if the guy isnt somewhat a hubby material
after watching the whole video i realised i didn't get any hints at all in my life 😢
You ain't alone brotha
@@eta_carithebrightlord3396 yea good to know 😢 we share the same pain
@@Breach404 I feel no pain because of it
@@eta_carithebrightlord3396 oh my lord teach me your ways to do the exact same
Know your worth, even if others can't see it. Achieve things, learn things
Nah fuck all of that we ignore hints and yes we know they’re hints we just don’t want to act on it cause we don’t want to make the girl uncomfortable and this making us feel like we’re the creeps
Exactly
Here's a dose of reality. Don't ask a fish how to catch a fish
My self esteem is so low I don't even consider that a girl will drop any hints to me
I’m oblivious, extremely oblivious someone can be trying to say something in a roundabout way and get mad when I just don’t understand
Especially if you are busy and have other stuff on your plate, taking subtle hints will be the last thing on your mind. And once the moment is gone, you’ll never get it back. Such a silly game
Instructions clear: No one is attracted towards me unless they're literally straight up saying they like me.
Holy shit I've never been so glad that I'm gay.
Straight dudes I feel for you bro. Gay men are so transparent about their intentions I feel like I'm playing on easy mode.
These aren’t always the case, especially the memes and talking about life thing. A friend of mine, and we’ve been extremely good friends for years, she just wanted a meme friend. I quoted vines, so she knew I liked memes, and she wanted someone to nerd out with. There’s a lot of times where a girl just wants a guy friend because some girls don’t get along for reasons x, y, and z. And it doesn’t mean she wants you. It could lead to it, because every case is unique, but these “hints” aren’t hints. Never even heard of the touching exposed skin hint, or laughing while exposing your neck? How the fuck else do you laugh? Do you tuck that shit away when someone isn’t funny? For both guys and girls, just be direct. Why is courting a game of charades?
Its funny how we need a guide to deal with them lol
9:40 wtf bro, that's when you completely move on with your life. Life's too short to be walking on eggshells. How long is she gonna do that for anyway? A different type of torture.
In the end, nothing makes sense. This video left me with more questions than answers. If we weren't all so scared to just be clear with each other with words, things would be a lot easier. This extra layer of guessing just makes everything harder for everyone except those who are somehow good at it.
Fuck this!
I'd rather risk accidentally making someone uncomfortable than having to do all these crazy probability computations to decide if we're into each other or not.
Why would I pick up on ANY of this? I would hope that if someone had something important to tell me, they would God Damn tell me. 😮💨
2:11 that one kinda got uno reversed on me. I’m your typical oblivious guy, and there was this cute girl who worked at the local DQ who would always serve me and share small talk while I waited for my food. I honestly never thought anything of it, because I assumed she was just being nice and polite or was bored, or was just one of those chatty people. It was because of this assumption that I never mentioned I had a gf at the time as it never really came up.
Fast forward to about a month later, me and a buddy go out for lunch and I bring my gf along and we sit in the restaurant. After 45 minutes of visiting with my buddy, we are about to leave when my gf pokes me and says “do you know that girl? She’s been looking at us for a while”. I look over and see my chatty friendly server giving me and my gf a literal death glare. After that she would hand me off to another server whenever I would come in for food. Still feel a little bad about that one cuz she probably thought I was leading her on. I just didn’t realize she was flirting with me 😂
All the video has told me is that some find me physically attractive but still don’t wanna spend time with me. I would’ve perferred it saying I’m ugly
This was very helpful, Thank you
8:14 Dude, that's not a girl, that's a demon
Fr and how she played all that flirting down to she "not interested" he should've gave her what she wanted sooner...dat pipe
I'm an Uber driver and I can say that a lot of women do touch unnecessarily, ask personal questions and keep looking at you and that doesn't mean anything. If I tried to hit on every girl that does all 3 of them I probably would have lost enough stars to lose my job.
I’m ngl, Story 15, I feel like any guy would have that fly over their head. Just think about it “I wonder if I taste like smoke” sounds like a shower thought to me, cause yeah you can smell smoke, but if smoke was in your mouth would it have taste or is it still just a smell?
Trust me, I was married to a smoker. You can taste it. But if she is a smoker and you're not, when she asks you that, don't go for it unless you are willing to overlook the taste.
Story 13 is literally me and my friend, but then she got mad at me when I unadded her from snap chat for 2 days bc I thought she didn’t wanna talk to me.. I was so confused..
Look, I deal with a lot of women through out my day (either co workers or customer) and most of these "hints" is alright bullshit, being nice, nervous, or just being not clear enough is the most common thing, English is not my first language so my accent and way of speaking as well my conjugations, so misunderstandings are normal, we are humans, we are social creatures, I don't think having a conversation on a daily basic mean shit if there's no intention of date, if you like someone, just tell that person how you feel, no games, no rodeos, if you get rejected, that's life
With how things are right now. You get the hint wrong and you could get thrown head first into hotwater with how society is nowadays. I’d be better off with someone who is more obvious then subtle.
Girls when they get a compliment: thank you!
Boys when they get a compliment: I will treasure this moment forever!
Ok. First time ever some TH-camr talking about girl hints gets the thumbnail title TH-cam title not wrong. I'm not gonna say right either but at this point anything that is not wrong is a blessing. Fresh change of pace. Sad this new painting won't last long
You picked the wrong house fool!
Can ladies stop dropping hints an jus say it. Like if we were to act on a "hint" and it wasn't one we could ruin our career and whole life over it so 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
They want their cake and eat it too 🎂🍰🥮
A girl actually said the words "I love you" to me, in the middle of lunch break at this course we were having, and I thought she was kidding. So I just said "umm, okay". Biggest face palm I ever had later.
The annoying thing is that most guys either don’t get them or won’t risk it. The few that get them and will risk it are NOT the type of people you want to be with.
If its at work it's a trap! I don't remember how many jobs I've lost before I learned that simple fact. She wants your job and your paycheck. Never forget coworkers are your competition, not your friends
How you holding up these days?
On story 10 (8:05), just want to make a comment. Girl seems like she just wants this man. No hints, just straight up, "I was to see you naked." Like even if she says, "Na, I'm not interested," you know she is. Also, man stares so intensely he can see her pupils get bigger? Dude... calm down a bit. You don't have to stare into her soul.
Thats sounds like a meme story made by a redditor/4chaner
Through the eyes lies the soul
So these supposed obvious hints are actually not obvious. Also these hints can easily be mis interpreted and can easily be found as creepy if a guy adds anything to it. A real hint is going hey want to go out? Anything these hints are is in reality something that can easily be misinterpreted into being creepy.
Look so many people lie and lure men in to get them in trouble so men just ignore hints now we don't pay attention because now we just don't care treat us well and not like we are worthless and be nice l and we would pay attention to any hints. Or simply ask instead of being an idiot and doing something confusing that isn't actually a hint and then start getting upset that we don't know what you did
Looking pretty and showing up.
A girl literally told me:"i like tall guys like you "
I didnt get it
But reading some stories here, probably she wasnt into me
One woman's hints are another's "omg I was just being friendly you creep!" So don't play that game. Ask what they want.
I had an odd case I guess, the person has DID, a multiple personality disorder. Now that was hard to read the hints. I guess the only hint would be with the personalities that did talk to me, not all of them are social, they were friendly towards me and a lot would talk about things that like and such with me. And some of the more mute ones would talk to me after revealing I knew more about them thanks to the other personalities. We are friends for now and that’s all I really need.
Hints are the most stupid strategy that anyone, man or woman, can use to try to get what they want, for me in what’s equivalent to high school in the US, it got to the point that I started joking with the boys about which girls showed interest and might have a crush on me and which ones were total bitches, 90% of the time I was right. Anyway, I waited until I was making some money to start dating for real, a man is worthless if he doesn’t has either money or experience, and boy did I had a really good time at uni, definitely dating under your age (3 to 5 year gap) is A LOT BETTER than dating on your same age. Also is a lot easier to give the girl a good date and since all of us are still students and also probably broke, almost every date is cheap unless you want to impress her, no fancy dinners, no shopping sprees, no expensive nor long trips, no extravagant gifts, etc. and if you want to impress her, boy is a lot easier when you have money on you.
"Don't flirt with women at work".
Well where tf do I do it then ?! Especially if I'm not exactly a guy who enjoys going clubbing ? Not that you'd meet anyone looking for anything more than a hookup in a nightclub that is !
Here's some good advice that comes from personal experience:
She's not interested; she's just being nice. No matter how much it may SEEM like she's into you, she's not.
Ladies, if you aren't interested say so, guys have a difficult time differentiating between being nice or liking them. Then when they finally realize it feel really bad and creepy. Which doesn't help their self esteem at all.
Oh and never do the my friend likes you thing or what do you think about her? Girls bully guys like that in school to make the guy look like a sucker so the girl group can make fun of him. If a girl likes a guy she had to make the approach, not her friends. And guys are most likely not going to heavily flirt with you or assume your hints are anything but being friendly. Due to not wanting to be a creep or ruin their lives, especially because of how girls act nowadays in this feminist me too era. And you can tell by looking and talking to them which guys know first hand about how bad it is nowadays. They will not flirt, they will laugh off and redirect any advances, they will try to stay 2 feet away from you, never be alone with a female coworker, never touch or compliment a female coworker on anything but doing her job well. Don't talk about themselves to women and don't answer personal questions to women nor inquire on anything about her life.
Needless to say girls, if you like a guy don't play games and don't keep doing hints if he doesn't respond, straight up tell them that you like him.
13:52 I think I can one up this guys dense moment. In high school a girl asked me if I could hang out, she said that she wanted to give me a "complete makeover" she added that a complete makeover included scrubbing me down in the shower. And I was dense af and I had said something dumb along the lines of not wanting to go to all the effort of bringing extra clothes to her place and asked her if she could just give me a sample of the special shampoo she wanted me to use 🤦♂️. I mean, I don't even think I have to explain why that is a supreme dense moment on my part.
I was super dense in college... I didn't realize a classmate had been flirting with me until I saw a video like this a few years after
There is only one I still don't understand if it is a hint or not: a friend girl randomly asks me to rate a random girl from 0 to 10
so let me get this straight... hanging out with a girl and her buying you snacks for absolutely no reason could be a sign(im in high school so u know how that goes)
Just want to point out a lot of this isn't going to mean shit for the average guy. It's the same with lying etc, we've all heard about the eye movement but you have to already know their baseline behavior to be about to distinguish. This all basically means... every girl is different and has their own ways voluntarily and involuntarily. There is no handbook.
High voice? Huh, that explains why every one of them sounds like fucking batman to me
Having Aspergers is going to make this twice as challenging for me...
I heard that nobody calls it that nowadays. It's not 2007 anymore
It's challenging because it's inconsistent. People on the autism spectrum are looking for clear and definitive rules to try to make logical sense of the cacophony of human behavior. The reality is that all these "what's a hint?" type things are really just "I thought doing this might be a good way to achieve my goal." So you'll get cases where the exact same behavior is a hint or isn't a hint. Where the exact same strategy works or doesn't work. There is no logic to it.
@@solandri69 yep. Exactly.
@@solandri69 We all bend the rules a bit and do whatever is necessary to get what we want. That should be an obvious given
Look at it logically. She could be flirting with you or simply being nice so come up with a question that indicates one or the other. Like a psychological video game
Haha yes watching this and I realized it never happened *but it might still*
You never know when a hint will drop
I have tryed to talk to to women who don't look at me let alone give me the time of day and I take it as she is not interested but then they wonder why I stopped talking to them or doing nice things for her if you totally ignore me I think you don't want me around or want anything to do with me because you don't like me.
Please don't play hard to get, if you do I think you think I am annoying or creepy or something it's not a good tactic.
why did everyone just agree that when girls dont say no its because they're "nice" even if they don't want to do something with you like since when has honesty become rude and leading someone on become nice ?
These are all terrible, no one who isn't the person who made up these hints, or taught them, is ever going to pick up on these hints, a lot of them were counter intuitive to each other.
By the way, here are some things I still don't know if they were hints with this one girl from high school: feeling up my inner thigh while appearing to tell a joke about me being a stud, jumping on my back for a piggy back ride and immediately shooting back off, spending all her time with me at lunch, saying I looked like Batman when I jumped a small set of stairs to catch up with her, coming to my house to work on a project without telling her parents, inviting me to dinner with her parents out of the blue, getting me to massage her feet while we were watching a movie with friends, talking about our future while we were walking before back tracking about us not even dating, and showing up to my house after graduating(to which I was the only one not aware she was coming over so no one seemed to understand why I was so uncomfortable when she would show up before I could get a shower in).
Now if anyone thinks I'm too oblivious the plot thickens, because when she started to talk about our future, I took that opportunity to ask if she wanted to go out, in the least romantic way possible, and in a situation where, looking back, I had way too much power as it was my family's new years party and I was her ride. Well she said yes, nothing really happened, I got a kiss on the cheek when I dropped her off, she told me not to tell anyone we were going out, and by the time we meet back up at school she says she's not in a good place in her life to start dating, I try to get her to just say she's not interested in me, so I could process things and move on, she wouldn't but still kept up all our other daily routines, and I just felt awful and anxious until she stopped coming by and started dating a marine.
I just avoid my crushes-
Not a good idea. Shoot your shot when you got the confidence to. You never know when you’ll see them again.
@@SpinalWall16589 Yeah… I’m trying to talk to them more. It’s kinda awkward though, so do you have any suggestions of how to??? Cause I’m like really bad at this kinda stuff
@@alien9663 Well, I wish I had the best advice but the best I can say is: Show your best side, be positive and optimistic when the moment is appropriate, and just take it easy. If you are ever in a situation that makes you uneasy or nervous just take some silent deep breathes and just be relaxed to not panic. Remember that every action should match every place and time and remember to never be afraid to speak up because confidence is a good thing to show because it builds character and motivation.
Best of luck, from an introvert. Lol.
@@SpinalWall16589 Thanks!! I’ll try this (I’m an extrovert)
You’ll regret not asking them out later in life. That’s why I always took my shot and have no regrets! 😃👍🏻
The staring at the lips thing isnt always true, sometimes I have a hard time hearing what people are saying so I find myself automatically looking at their lips to read what they're saying...
Story 5 is just annoying. How tf was he supposed to know? She made it seem so casual. She even admits that and still thinks he’s dumb for not *knowing* she wanted to fuck him. Bruh
Why is it so hard for women to JUST SAY YOU LIKE THEM OR YOURE INTO THEM!!! Screw all these hints! I will never pick up on them because I’ll just assume you’re being nice!