Words like selfish, ungrateful, and family come first are all used to control and manipulate the family member who has had enough of the bs. So proud of you for finally choosing your own life and happiness.😊
I would have told my mum and sister, "NOT MY KIDS, NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY. " After that, I would have charged for babysitting and even reported her for abandoning her kids to the police. WTF was the husband doing all this time? How come the grandparents were not helping their precious princess with her kids? Good for her for "ruining" their holiday, now they know what her vacation was like.
This reminded me of my High School days. As the oldest, I had to watch my siblings every weekend and on some week nights. I had enough and left home just when my senior year started. I was called to the office and when I got close to it, I heard my dad's voice so I walked out the back door. The next day, the Principal talked to me to ask why I didn't 'report' to the office. I said I left home and as I'm of age, I could do what I wanted and if he wanted to pursue it, I could quit school. I never heard from the school admin again and I finished school, bummed for a few months, had a couple part time jobs then joined the military.
Good For You!!! You are/were not alone!! There is now a psychological term for older siblings forced to raise their younger siblings!! If your parents didn't plan on the responsibility of the future child care, they had no right to force you to pick up their parental duties. You are to be commended for your wise assessment of the situation & your common sense solution!! Nicely done!!
The psychological term, according to 3 sources is Parentification. From what I read & lived through it can cause the child development difficulties later on in life. My own parents FORCED my eldest sister to look after the 3 sons & 3 daughters who followed her. After she graduated college she married & put as much distance from the family!!! Who could blame her???
OP should have called her mother and father and sister, selfish, you have not helped much with college, you didn’t pay me for babysitting and you didn’t pay for the ruination your children did to my beach vacation, and ruined by dumping them on me. And then you tried to repeat it as a birthday present. That is so selfish of all of you. You’re so ungrateful.
The worst thing is that Elizabeth's family didn't even realize how badly they were treating her or how bad the parents favoritism was.If she complained they called her ungrateful and selfish. Quick question why couldn't the parents babysit their grandkids?
Go full 'NO CONTACT' with your toxic, sociopathic family and never break it or look back. These vampires will always see you as no more than a use for free babysitting and never change.
With a toxic family, you made the right choice to put your foot down. It doesn’t sound like the kids definitely were not taught manners.well neither was your sister. She was used to getting her own way. May you find a peaceful happy life. A life that you choose.❤
Send a huge bill to your sister for all the times she dumped HER CHILDREN on you, plus for ALL the money you had to spend on HER KIDS destructive behavior that you had to pay for while YOU were on a much needed break and that SHE interrupted! Hope you kept all receipts for evidence in court if Sha refused to pay you!
Just after college, I was working with a recent grad who was having problems with her folks and older brother about this same problem. She was so sick of having to give up all her free time to baby sit her brother's 3 brats. I suggested that she go full drill sergeant mode on them. After a couple of times of being cowed by their aunt the kids never wanted to stay with her. Their dad threw a tantrum with his sister who shouted him down about the awful behavior of her brother's G damned kids. After being whittle down by his sister's sharp words, the brother along with the folks gave up expecting her to live her entire life as a baby sitter. She told me that the thing that hit the family the hardest was when she screamed at them that she hated kids and would never want to have them herself.
Good on Lizzie for refusing to cave into the demands of the arrogant toxic parents and the entitled spoiled sister And a message to that entitled spoiled sister Kate……..”Your KiDS!,YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!”
Id do a post online about what you've been through, and stating you are disowning them, sending a bill for childcare for every weekend you had the kids at common emergency nanny price. Tell them you will also sue them for harassment if they continue.
That's not a family vacation, it's her family ruining her well-deserved weekend; why on Earth did she tell her parents her exact destination? I would have left the second I saw them.
It's always funny and also annoying to see people accusing others of being the very thing they themselves are. Lazy people calling other people lazy, greedy people accusing others of being greedy, thieves accusing others of being thieves, cheaters accusing others of being cheaters, and in this case selfish people accusing others of being selfish. She wasn't a family member to them, she was a free babysitter, they were all about how tired and exhausted they were of how much trouble /they/ had dealing with the kids while assuming she was having any easier time of it. When she was working an exhausting job on top of being a college student. This is the kind of treatment that makes some people choose to cut off their family and choose the child-free lifestyle. Something could normally be the most wonderful worth-wild experience somebody could have when they choose it themselves, but as soon as it's shoved down somebody's throat against their will it can become something they grow to resent and want nothing to do with. /Everybody/ hates being forced into something and especially when it isn't a result of any choice they made.
Why didn't OP upload to Social Media all the things her family had called her, especially about Kate being tired from looking after the twins because OP wasn't there,(or whatever she said)?
I would answer that I thought this was my vacation too. However, you gave me a ticket so I could babysit your golden child's children, not so we could vacation as a family. I love my nephews, but I shouldn't be expected to always babysit them. They had the kids not me. It was my birthday ticket so I changed it to what I wanted. Yes, I had a quiet, relaxing trip, with no screaming kids. So thank you for that.
I thought you said these were your sisters kids! L O L! Yes, we all heard what you said they were your sisters kids and she kept pulling them off on you. So she needed a break so? Why didn’t she ask her husband for more help, it’s not your responsibility to raise your sister kids. When I had my kids, my family did help me with my children, but I didn’t rely on them every time I went somewhere that one of my sisters or brothers would be taking care of my kids while I was spending time with my husband. That wasn’t their job. I had the kids. It was my responsibility along with my husband who did absolutely nothing, but that’s another story. I’m glad you had a good vacation by yourself and I’m glad that you put your foot down and I’m also glad that youdiscontinued contact with your family at the present time. They need to learn some respect and that you have value as well, not just your sister. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
I loved the story. All Elizabeth’s family did was treat her poorly without respecting her or properly providing for her needs. Wanting her independence and asking for a little respect wasn’t too much to ask. Her parents clearly preferred Kate to her and justified it by pulling the duty card on her. They felt that allowing her to keep their surname was enough. How generous! They were all selfish and insensitive, threatening and blackmailing her into doing whatever they wanted and justifying everything by using emotional blackmail and lying about family values and expectations. Let them manipulate themselves and manage on their own.
Oh wow good story. But, I would have charged her hubby. Tell him I need to be paid for babysitting it's not free. You want date night I need to be paid for watching your kids...
Want revenge? Send a huge bill to your sister for all the forced babysitting she did to you along with the repair bills that HER kids incured at the 1st hotel she suddenly arrived at. Take it to court if you have to!
Hand-me-downs are part of growing up, though it's hard to believe a parent would save old clothes for seven years. I got my cousin's outgrown clothes and they were really nice, not at all old looking and I loved them.
Hand-me-downs are a part of life, depending on the family’s financial circumstances. But, they *never* bought her anything new? Not for Christmas? Not for her birthday? No, that’s messed up and emotionally damaging. So, Kate, as the older one, always gets clothes in colors that suit her and toys and games she’s interested in and Lizzie never gets that? That’s very damaging to a child’s sense of self. Occasionally, she should have had something that was just for her, something that she actually wanted and wasn’t just forced to play with because it was there. These people weren’t poor; they simply never thought about her needs. With such emotional abuse, it’s a wonder she found the backbone to stand up for herself and break free of her family. But, then, I’m not really convinced this is a true story. Even if it isn’t a true story, there are plenty of families who act this way.
How is your sister who does not work be that tired - she has a husband doesn’t he share some of the parenting- 3 yrs old they could go to daycare for some of the day - but Noooooo they had a built in babysitter (and parents who did nothing) could’ve bought up the rear - so glad you pulled up your big girl panties and found your backbone - go on with your life - it’s worth living - let everyone else kick rocks - believe me they’ll survive
no i will not look aFTER YOUR KIDS THEY ARE HERS NOT MINE I WILL NOT LOOK AFTER THEM EVER AGAIN WHY SHOULD I BE EXPECTED TO LOOK AFTER THEM I WILL NOT DO IT
The only thing I don’t understand is near the end she talks about moments of doubt and guilt, the only thing I would doubt and feel guilty about is not doing that way sooner
Sounds like OP didn't have anyone to vent to about her family drama and issues. Being so tied up with school, study, work and no social life, also probably being used to be self-effacing, she didn't have an "outsider" to give her a different view of the whole. It does happen. People as trodden down as OP don't ask for help either. They're used to being rejected, ignored or denied help, so she wouldn't know there was another way to see this.
I would have said from day ONE, "They're YOUR kids so YOU raise them. I'm NOT your FREE babysitter, your SLAVE or your WHIPPING BOARD. PISS OFF." I would have gone TOTALLY NO CONTACT with ALL of them. PERMANENTLY. YIKES and I'll even throw in a WOWIE-ZOWIE for good measure! Thanks for the EXASPERATING story!
I worked full-time, went to school full-time, and maintained an active social life, while equally supporting my family's household and providing care for my increasingly ailing parents throughout Jr and Sr High and college. Then I transitioned to raising my kids while working full-time, and being the full-time caregiver for my mom. That evolved to becoming mom's 24/7/365 caregiver for the final decade of her life. When she passed, and my kids were old enough to manage themselves, I had no idea how to function without juggling so many important responsibilities. 😂
I am happy she broke away from her family, her sister had the twins they were her children all they did was use her for two bad children that seem to be out of control they were selfish, the sister didn’t even work, I like the end where she made her own plans for a vacation on her own
Your sister was a housewife. There was no reason why you should become her slave. Your parents apparently don't really care about you. You need to cut ties and live your life.
When you move tell them you moved to a place cross country and give them the address. When they arrived at the place where you told them the address you respond with "oops" i made a mistake oh well"
7:04 then mum should have watched them 13:06 yes mum i do it all the time, every weekend. 17:47 what was the setup 18:37 yeah lets bring the family babysitter, anytime they could have hired a nanny
When they showed up ranting... I would have calmly walked to the fridge, taken out bottle of wine, poured myself a glass, sat down and smiled as I sipped away. Casually scrolling through my phone and when they asked what I was doing stated "Looking for my next amazing vacation".
I loved babysitting. But I got paid for it. Its fine to HELP look after family kids, along with OTHER family members. Four adults should have no trouble sharing the care of two boys. Everyone gets a rest, and gets the chance to make fun memories with the boys.
I can’t figure out why they couldn’t just hire a babysitter? And then to say she owes them for the ticket they bought her when it was a supposed birthday gift? And the only way she can be a part of her family is to babysit for free on demand?
Who had a husband? Who had the twins?? It wasn't Lizzie it was Kate. She said that her husband made enough money for her to stay home. When why couldn't they pay a babysitter when they wanted to go out???
Maybe not darling !! I understand , you’ve lived exact life !! With my brothers kids !! I was just used for them to have their weekends back … to hell with my plans , told to come home while getting groceries , to watch my nephews !? I know your pain 😢❤
If the couple wanted a fancy wedding let them pay for it themselves and not force the parents into debt. Also Katey should have worled tp help pay for it.
They were calling her selfish. It was them. Kate didn't want to look after her own kids nor her husband. The grandparents didn't want to either so they pushed them onto Elisabeth. Didn't care if she was busy, tired or needed to study when living at home. Moving out was the right thing to do for herself. Liked she fooled them and went on a solo vacation. The selfish ones was ready to push the twins onto her yet again.
So sorry sis. I wasn’t going to allow you to ruin my vacation. I’m not an au pair. You are the typical doormat! Both parents are home and you’re the only one that can watch the kids?? I would have been in the bedroom with the door locked and a chair under the doorknob. At the beach I’d have been in my room slamming the door in their faces.
Yup had that happen by bro. And his wife while my mom was away. Even when I was working ,so I told them get your crap together cause I'm done, no more baby sit, no more money , no more anything , mom agreed with me.
Why is it that family who has children always pick on the one who doesn't? It's been my experience that if you are too free others will seek to thwart your freedom, is it jealousy, envy? Even co-workers and some employers will pull this crap wanting your vacation days, making the single person work all holidays as if we just exist to accommodate them. Free souls don't ask for permission to be free, they take their freedom and vacation elsewhere, LOL!
My son, my oldest, said something about how he knew he has and always will have a responsibility for his younger sister. To which i responded while he is underaged, he does. But, I fully expect him to have his own life that does not include any responsibility for her. In the context of this story, I don't understand why used and abused family members remain in contact with their abusers. The biggest tragedy of this whole story is that her family may have permanently destroyed her desire to have a family of her own judging by her statement, "If I wanted kids, I'd have my own." I don't belive evwry one must have children. But, having kids has been the source of my greatest joy.
Newsflash: he’s not responsible for his little sister now. His age has nothing to do with it. Life doesn’t start at adulthood and there may be events and milestones he misses because you’ve made him watch his sister instead of doing things with his peers. You’re the one who had another child and she’s your responsibility. Your older child isn’t free slave labor just because you gave birth to him. If there’s a situation where he has to babysit - let’s face it: sometimes, things do come up unexpectedly - you should pay him like you’d pay any babysitter you hired from the outside. He’s still a minor, as you say, but he’s trying to shoulder adult responsibilities - responsibilities that he didn’t sire, by the way. You should be really ashamed of yourself that you caused him, knowingly or unknowingly, to feel that way. And, telling him, “Oh, you’ll get your freedom papers when you turn 18” isn’t going to help.
8:40 If you are not even a little bit of rebellious, you will suffer a lot in life🤞. If the parents want to help, why not offer to look after babies themselves?
One common thread with a lot of these stories is that the people who don’t get their way are always calling the others “selfish”.
And the one is cherished by the parents, while the other is neglected.
Actually, that is realistic with narcissistic people.
A narcissist doesn't understand that other peoples needs. Can't understand why they won't drop everything to do their bidding
Words like selfish, ungrateful, and family come first are all used to control and manipulate the family member who has had enough of the bs. So proud of you for finally choosing your own life and happiness.😊
I would have told my mum and sister, "NOT MY KIDS, NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY. " After that, I would have charged for babysitting and even reported her for abandoning her kids to the police. WTF was the husband doing all this time? How come the grandparents were not helping their precious princess with her kids? Good for her for "ruining" their holiday, now they know what her vacation was like.
This reminded me of my High School days. As the oldest, I had to watch my siblings every weekend and on some week nights. I had enough and left home just when my senior year started. I was called to the office and when I got close to it, I heard my dad's voice so I walked out the back door. The next day, the Principal talked to me to ask why I didn't 'report' to the office. I said I left home and as I'm of age, I could do what I wanted and if he wanted to pursue it, I could quit school. I never heard from the school admin again and I finished school, bummed for a few months, had a couple part time jobs then joined the military.
Good For You!!! You are/were not alone!! There is now a psychological term for older siblings forced to raise their younger siblings!! If your parents didn't plan on the responsibility of the future child care, they had no right to force you to pick up their parental duties. You are to be commended for your wise assessment of the situation & your common sense solution!! Nicely done!!
@@CaroleTomka-d6f What is that psychological term?
The psychological term, according to 3 sources is Parentification. From what I read & lived through it can cause the child development difficulties later on in life. My own parents FORCED my eldest sister to look after the 3 sons & 3 daughters who followed her. After she graduated college she married & put as much distance from the family!!! Who could blame her???
It always amazes me when people get upset that you wont let them walk all over you. Not my kids, not my problem
Kate wants to be a housewife, but how about helping pay back the loan her parents took out to pay for her wedding?
Lizzy needs to transfer about three states away in another time zone, not leave a forwarding address, change her phone number and go completely NC.
OP should have called her mother and father and sister, selfish, you have not helped much with college, you didn’t pay me for babysitting and you didn’t pay for the ruination your children did to my beach vacation, and ruined by dumping them on me. And then you tried to repeat it as a birthday present. That is so selfish of all of you. You’re so ungrateful.
So glad she stood up for herself. Selfish family.
Yeah, you believe she stood up for herself. No she ran away instead of confronting them and not learning to say NO.
She should've told her family that those kids didn't come out of her putang; therefore she wasn't responsible for them!
The worst thing is that Elizabeth's family didn't even realize how badly they were treating her or how bad the parents favoritism was.If she complained they called her ungrateful and selfish. Quick question why couldn't the parents babysit their grandkids?
"Because Lizzy-beth needs the practice!"
Go full 'NO CONTACT' with your toxic, sociopathic family and never break it or look back. These vampires will always see you as no more than a use for free babysitting and never change.
With a toxic family, you made the right choice to put your foot down. It doesn’t sound like the kids definitely were not taught manners.well neither was your sister. She was used to getting her own way. May you find a peaceful happy life. A life that you choose.❤
08:10 "Kate is very tired. She has TWO kids to look after."
THEN WHERE IS SHE?!
Send a huge bill to your sister for all the times she dumped HER CHILDREN on you, plus for ALL the money you had to spend on HER KIDS destructive behavior that you had to pay for while YOU were on a much needed break and that SHE interrupted! Hope you kept all receipts for evidence in court if Sha refused to pay you!
That and for the first time in a long time line is in every video but I still keep watching them lol
Way to go you did the right thing for yourself, instead of during everything for your family.
instead of doing everything for your family
You should have told them; I'm not the one who enjoyed making kids, why should I get incharged?
I would make plans and never be home on the weekend. Grandma and grandma can watch the kids.
No need to put up with any fallout. Keep away from that toxic family once your holiday was over.
She chose to have the children she looks after them you are not their unpaid nanny
Just after college, I was working with a recent grad who was having problems with her folks and older brother about this same problem. She was so sick of having to give up all her free time to baby sit her brother's 3 brats. I suggested that she go full drill sergeant mode on them. After a couple of times of being cowed by their aunt the kids never wanted to stay with her. Their dad threw a tantrum with his sister who shouted him down about the awful behavior of her brother's G damned kids. After being whittle down by his sister's sharp words, the brother along with the folks gave up expecting her to live her entire life as a baby sitter. She told me that the thing that hit the family the hardest was when she screamed at them that she hated kids and would never want to have them herself.
Grow a spine girl, they are not your bloody kids, stop being a doormat and leave them to their own fate.
Good on Lizzie for refusing to cave into the demands of the arrogant toxic parents and the entitled spoiled sister
And a message to that entitled spoiled sister Kate……..”Your KiDS!,YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!”
When they take 'vacations' take a paid sitter.
Put the bill in sister's name, or parents!
Id do a post online about what you've been through, and stating you are disowning them, sending a bill for childcare for every weekend you had the kids at common emergency nanny price. Tell them you will also sue them for harassment if they continue.
That's not a family vacation, it's her family ruining her well-deserved weekend; why on Earth did she tell her parents her exact destination? I would have left the second I saw them.
It's always funny and also annoying to see people accusing others of being the very thing they themselves are. Lazy people calling other people lazy, greedy people accusing others of being greedy, thieves accusing others of being thieves, cheaters accusing others of being cheaters, and in this case selfish people accusing others of being selfish. She wasn't a family member to them, she was a free babysitter, they were all about how tired and exhausted they were of how much trouble /they/ had dealing with the kids while assuming she was having any easier time of it. When she was working an exhausting job on top of being a college student. This is the kind of treatment that makes some people choose to cut off their family and choose the child-free lifestyle. Something could normally be the most wonderful worth-wild experience somebody could have when they choose it themselves, but as soon as it's shoved down somebody's throat against their will it can become something they grow to resent and want nothing to do with. /Everybody/ hates being forced into something and especially when it isn't a result of any choice they made.
Knew, as soon as she got the birthday invite, it was a trap. Pleased she did not accept it.
Why didn't OP upload to Social Media all the things her family had called her, especially about Kate being tired from looking after the twins because OP wasn't there,(or whatever she said)?
Why doesn't Kate get a babysitter? She certainly spends enough. Maybe her husband doesn't earn as much as he says.
Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free
Here we go, they don’t care, no sense complaining you allow family to use you, don’t do it anymore.
I would answer that I thought this was my vacation too. However, you gave me a ticket so I could babysit your golden child's children, not so we could vacation as a family. I love my nephews, but I shouldn't be expected to always babysit them. They had the kids not me. It was my birthday ticket so I changed it to what I wanted. Yes, I had a quiet, relaxing trip, with no screaming kids. So thank you for that.
I thought you said these were your sisters kids! L O L! Yes, we all heard what you said they were your sisters kids and she kept pulling them off on you. So she needed a break so? Why didn’t she ask her husband for more help, it’s not your responsibility to raise your sister kids. When I had my kids, my family did help me with my children, but I didn’t rely on them every time I went somewhere that one of my sisters or brothers would be taking care of my kids while I was spending time with my husband. That wasn’t their job. I had the kids. It was my responsibility along with my husband who did absolutely nothing, but that’s another story. I’m glad you had a good vacation by yourself and I’m glad that you put your foot down and I’m also glad that youdiscontinued contact with your family at the present time. They need to learn some respect and that you have value as well, not just your sister. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
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pulling them off on you, pushing ?
Yes those were her sisters kids!
Good for you for standing on ur own..they're not ur obligation anymore so mad hearing about ur sister
Selfish family. Stand for yourself. Remove the toxic family out
I loved the story. All Elizabeth’s family did was treat her poorly without respecting her or properly providing for her needs. Wanting her independence and asking for a little respect wasn’t too much to ask. Her parents clearly preferred Kate to her and justified it by pulling the duty card on her. They felt that allowing her to keep their surname was enough. How generous! They were all selfish and insensitive, threatening and blackmailing her into doing whatever they wanted and justifying everything by using emotional blackmail and lying about family values and expectations. Let them manipulate themselves and manage on their own.
Oh wow good story. But, I would have charged her hubby. Tell him I need to be paid for babysitting it's not free. You want date night I need to be paid for watching your kids...
Well done..Elizabeth..babysitting is very hard...
Want revenge? Send a huge bill to your sister for all the forced babysitting she did to you along with the repair bills that HER kids incured at the 1st hotel she suddenly arrived at. Take it to court if you have to!
Hand-me-downs are part of growing up, though it's hard to believe a parent would save old clothes for seven years. I got my cousin's outgrown clothes and they were really nice, not at all old looking and I loved them.
Hand-me-downs are a part of life, depending on the family’s financial circumstances. But, they *never* bought her anything new? Not for Christmas? Not for her birthday? No, that’s messed up and emotionally damaging.
So, Kate, as the older one, always gets clothes in colors that suit her and toys and games she’s interested in and Lizzie never gets that? That’s very damaging to a child’s sense of self. Occasionally, she should have had something that was just for her, something that she actually wanted and wasn’t just forced to play with because it was there.
These people weren’t poor; they simply never thought about her needs.
With such emotional abuse, it’s a wonder she found the backbone to stand up for herself and break free of her family. But, then, I’m not really convinced this is a true story.
Even if it isn’t a true story, there are plenty of families who act this way.
Going to the beach? Don’t forget to take the kids!
How is your sister who does not work be that tired - she has a husband doesn’t he share some of the parenting- 3 yrs old they could go to daycare for some of the day - but Noooooo they had a built in babysitter (and parents who did nothing) could’ve bought up the rear - so glad you pulled up your big girl panties and found your backbone - go on with your life - it’s worth living - let everyone else kick rocks - believe me they’ll survive
If I'd been Elizabeth, I'd have taken the next bus back. They're not her children., not her responsibility.
no i will not look aFTER YOUR KIDS THEY ARE HERS NOT MINE I WILL NOT LOOK AFTER THEM EVER AGAIN WHY SHOULD I BE EXPECTED TO LOOK AFTER THEM I WILL NOT DO IT
The only thing I don’t understand is near the end she talks about moments of doubt and guilt, the only thing I would doubt and feel guilty about is not doing that way sooner
Sounds like OP didn't have anyone to vent to about her family drama and issues. Being so tied up with school, study, work and no social life, also probably being used to be self-effacing, she didn't have an "outsider" to give her a different view of the whole. It does happen. People as trodden down as OP don't ask for help either. They're used to being rejected, ignored or denied help, so she wouldn't know there was another way to see this.
I would have said from day ONE, "They're YOUR kids so YOU raise them. I'm NOT your FREE babysitter, your SLAVE or your WHIPPING BOARD. PISS OFF." I would have gone TOTALLY NO CONTACT with ALL of them. PERMANENTLY. YIKES and I'll even throw in a WOWIE-ZOWIE for good measure! Thanks for the EXASPERATING story!
Sure, pay them back for the ticket and then tell them they can talk when they pay you for all the babysitting you provided before.
I commend your decision..you go girl!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
What did the parents ever do for OP other than neglect and impose on her.
That was precisely why she went on vacation was to be alone
I worked full-time, went to school full-time, and maintained an active social life, while equally supporting my family's household and providing care for my increasingly ailing parents throughout Jr and Sr High and college. Then I transitioned to raising my kids while working full-time, and being the full-time caregiver for my mom. That evolved to becoming mom's 24/7/365 caregiver for the final decade of her life. When she passed, and my kids were old enough to manage themselves, I had no idea how to function without juggling so many important responsibilities. 😂
You're not the babysitters club and you totally deserve me time.
If the husband was so well off,why would the parents need to help them?
Damm, for your birthday present, you get to babysit our children. 😅
I am happy she broke away from her family, her sister had the twins they were her children all they did was use her for two bad children that seem to be out of control they were selfish, the sister didn’t even work, I like the end where she made her own plans for a vacation on her own
Another story for a responsible family member and rest of them not being responsible. The same girl being kicked out from her pregnant sister.
There is that beautiful word:
"NO"
😊
Let mom and dad take care of them.
Good for You Girl!!!!!!!!
Your sister was a housewife. There was no reason why you should become her slave. Your parents apparently don't really care about you. You need to cut ties and live your life.
Why can't Kate keep an eye on her OWN twins?
Family doesn't force each other into bankruptcy.
When you move tell them you moved to a place cross country and give them the address. When they arrived at the place where you told them the address you respond with "oops" i made a mistake oh well"
7:04 then mum should have watched them 13:06 yes mum i do it all the time, every weekend. 17:47 what was the setup 18:37 yeah lets bring the family babysitter, anytime they could have hired a nanny
My daughter did this to her cousins. No longer will go places with her!
When they showed up ranting... I would have calmly walked to the fridge, taken out bottle of wine, poured myself a glass, sat down and smiled as I sipped away. Casually scrolling through my phone and when they asked what I was doing stated "Looking for my next amazing vacation".
The father is a creep, I recognise it. Then the creepy manipulative mum calling her selfish.
Kate was good at false crying.
I loved babysitting. But I got paid for it. Its fine to HELP look after family kids, along with OTHER family members.
Four adults should have no trouble sharing the care of two boys. Everyone gets a rest, and gets the chance to make fun memories with the boys.
I can’t figure out why they couldn’t just hire a babysitter? And then to say she owes them for the ticket they bought her when it was a supposed birthday gift? And the only way she can be a part of her family is to babysit for free on demand?
Who had a husband? Who had the twins?? It wasn't Lizzie it was Kate. She said that her husband made enough money for her to stay home. When why couldn't they pay a babysitter when they wanted to go out???
Maybe not darling !! I understand , you’ve lived exact life !! With my brothers kids !! I was just used for them to have their weekends back … to hell with my plans , told to come home while getting groceries , to watch my nephews !? I know your pain 😢❤
What if Liz wants a break?
they are her twins not mine so she can look after them
Go girl u have made the right choice.
Waa waa waa, why do people expect thier parents to pay for collage
If the couple wanted a fancy wedding let them pay for it themselves and not force the parents into debt. Also Katey should have worled tp help pay for it.
Just call cps🤦♀️
They were calling her selfish. It was them. Kate didn't want to look after her own kids nor her husband. The grandparents didn't want to either so they pushed them onto Elisabeth. Didn't care if she was busy, tired or needed to study when living at home. Moving out was the right thing to do for herself.
Liked she fooled them and went on a solo vacation. The selfish ones was ready to push the twins onto her yet again.
Once they are an adult and out of the house they should stand on their own two feet
Oh I hope you enjoyed your alone vacation. What selfish creatures.
You can always just refuse.
Easier said than done.
So sorry sis. I wasn’t going to allow you to ruin my vacation. I’m not an au pair.
You are the typical doormat! Both parents are home and you’re the only one that can watch the kids?? I would have been in the bedroom with the door locked and a chair under the doorknob. At the beach I’d have been in my room slamming the door in their faces.
Alright already, leave your Narcissistic family, not healthy.
Elizabeth’s parents are morons. Your parents should watch the brats. Tell your family nothing. Well played Elizabeth.
People needs to call out the BS from the start. You Can’t let Bullying just slide ..
Those are the dumbest parents on the planet if they believe she would be scammed again. 😂
I enjoy these stories, it way way to long.
Your family used you mercilessly as a 24/7/365 unpaid nanny
Why haven't you gone no contact
I think looking after children every trip out is a nuisance for most families
Yup had that happen by bro. And his wife while my mom was away. Even when I was working ,so I told them get your crap together cause I'm done, no more baby sit, no more money , no more anything , mom agreed with me.
Why is it that family who has children always pick on the one who doesn't? It's been my experience that if you are too free others will seek to thwart your freedom, is it jealousy, envy? Even co-workers and some employers will pull this crap wanting your vacation days, making the single person work all holidays as if we just exist to accommodate them. Free souls don't ask for permission to be free, they take their freedom and vacation elsewhere, LOL!
My son, my oldest, said something about how he knew he has and always will have a responsibility for his younger sister. To which i responded while he is underaged, he does. But, I fully expect him to have his own life that does not include any responsibility for her.
In the context of this story, I don't understand why used and abused family members remain in contact with their abusers. The biggest tragedy of this whole story is that her family may have permanently destroyed her desire to have a family of her own judging by her statement, "If I wanted kids, I'd have my own." I don't belive evwry one must have children. But, having kids has been the source of my greatest joy.
Newsflash: he’s not responsible for his little sister now. His age has nothing to do with it.
Life doesn’t start at adulthood and there may be events and milestones he misses because you’ve made him watch his sister instead of doing things with his peers. You’re the one who had another child and she’s your responsibility. Your older child isn’t free slave labor just because you gave birth to him.
If there’s a situation where he has to babysit - let’s face it: sometimes, things do come up unexpectedly - you should pay him like you’d pay any babysitter you hired from the outside.
He’s still a minor, as you say, but he’s trying to shoulder adult responsibilities - responsibilities that he didn’t sire, by the way. You should be really ashamed of yourself that you caused him, knowingly or unknowingly, to feel that way. And, telling him, “Oh, you’ll get your freedom papers when you turn 18” isn’t going to help.
I really can't stand parents who play favorites.
Love they way you handled this, personally I'd have gone and not babysat for even 1 second, but I'm a real prick, I love conflict.
The parents should have disciplined the kids. They are 7 yet still running around like banshees.
You poor thing.
You will still live in the shadow of your family.
8:40 If you are not even a little bit of rebellious, you will suffer a lot in life🤞. If the parents want to help, why not offer to look after babies themselves?
BTW..."Family" has become the new swear-word in EVERY language.