As a child with a split family with different parenting styles, thank you for always picking up your kids when they are scared!! That is amazing and help them feel safe even when you are not with them!! .... On a different note when cats bring you dead things It's their way of showing you how to hunt because they think you need help.
Super proud of Landen to tell you he wasn’t comfortable . Our 18 year old had a similar situation last year at school she just wasn’t comfortable and couldn’t put her finger on why . I’m proud of our kids for reaching out even when things are hard . It shows tremendous growth .
The fact that your kids know that you will come get them no matter what if they are uncomfortable is amazing. As they grow older, that trusting relationship is going to be crucial. One thing my parents have done right is let us know that no matter what they will always be there when we need them. In any situation, even if we messed up, they were always there. I think you're instilling that into your kids and it is truly a great thing. You're doing an AMAZING job Jess and Chris. Keep doing what you're doing.
To be one of the “fans” that have been here since Lilias birth I’ve seen everything you’ve shown us on here especially with the twins and Landon’s dad.. it’s sad to see he hasn’t made any improvements but it is good to see they know they can call you no matter the time or situation and you’ll be there for them.
Can I say how impressed I am for you being so proactive in trying to have the boys have a relationship with their birth dad? For the haters out there, IYKYK, they don’t want to see the good you do. The way you react when one of them call and say they want to come home, you don’t pressure them to stay. That’s one thing I love about you. Keep on doing you, I think you have it mastered!
Yes , my first thought was exactly the same. Always try to encourage a relationship with the other parent. There are clearly two very different parenting styles and children are very different as to what they feel as well.
As a long time fan who has seen the boys’ birth father for what he is, im glad they have you and chris. You guys are real champs for being as great as you are in not only raising 7 kids, but keeping their respective parents in their lives. Drake can talk all he wants about you, but you are the parents those kids need and thankfully have.
I had to collect my children from an access visit at midnight too, my daughter called saying she didn’t feel comfortable and wanted to leave straight away. Her brothers felt the same, so I went and collected them of course. Turns out he had broken the orders and had his mates there too… strange men … not okay, they have never tried staying again. Once was it and he messed it up, even during day visits I collect them what called.
I called my parents when I was staying with my aunt for the weekend and they drove 1 hour away to save me 🤣🤷🏻♀️ I will do the same for my babies with their father anytime but they him
The way Landon was cuddling with Chris in the booth at Two Chicks was everything!! He needed the love and comfort y'all give him and that wasn't happening at his dad's. Proud that he gave it a try and so glad y'all were local and he wasn't trapped in the uncomfortable situation!! ♥️♥️
Did you catch what Landon said when they picked him up? His bio dad gets mad and yells at him when he calls his mom. I would have lost my shit on that dirt bag. 😤
I deal with what Jessica experienced . My dad divorced when I was little . But my step dad like Chris is my constant . Has been in my life since I was little
I feel as If kaden has such a traumatic experience that he declines everytime and this might be landen’s. I feel like Kyson is trying so hard to have a relationship with his dad but sadly it’ll get to the point in where none of them will want to stay overnight and that’s sad because now that he’s further it makes it even harder. I just hope the dad doesn’t blame Jess for all this.
I love seeing how much you listen and protect your babies! I grew up in a difficult household and am feeling the Effects as an adult. They were going to be such good humans, more so than they already are! Great job!!
I don’t know if Drake is still with his girlfriend but when they first started visiting, there were problems between Jess’s kids and the girlfriend’s kid(s). Obviously there could be other things that Jess or Kaden don’t share on TH-cam, but Kaden stopped wanting to go or at least stopped wanting to go for long periods pretty quickly after the visits started.
Seeing how my nieces are when they go to their dads I can definitely agree but also consider the age they could be completely safe there but I see it has their comfort is with their mom because of how the custody is my sister has full custody of the kids and I see them act differently around the time they go to their dads. Also my oldest niece who is six has no contact with her dad he gave his rights away when she was three months old it was a dumb high school relationship the younger two are from my sisters previous marriage and they go see him once a month and they have every reason to not want to go he is not a good man he verbally and physically abused my sister I have witnessed it so it’s scary when they start freaking out and don’t want to go over to his house. Again they could be safe over there but think about what guardian are they with more then 50% it also could just be that 🤷🏻♀️
i was a child of a split household and had to see my dad every fortnight, and it is so comforting that you are willing to take your child out of a situation they do not feel safe in. my mum did the same thing for me and it honestly means so much looking back. also super proud of landen for being able to reach out to u
The way that Landon was snuggling up to Chris at breakfast after picking him up from Drakes the night before… he definitely knows who loves him & comforts him!
@@whocares9672 he’s nice to all of the kids. Younger ones always get treated with a little more patience, as they’re still learning, but I’ve never seen Chris not be nice to the twins and Lilia.
I’m so happy the older boy was helping his younger brother so much just trying to make him more comfortable and it breaks my heart their dad yelled at him for not being comfortable and I’m happy he told his mom anyway ❤️❤️❤️
My mom always came and got me whenever I called her. No matter where I was or how far I was. At 27 she will still do this for me. And has many times in my adult life come when I called in the middle of the night. It's so amazing ur doing this for ur kids, showing them they can always count on u
I can't believe Drake thought he could get away with telling a child off for calling their Mom when they're scared. If that was me, as much as I would want my child to have a relationship with their birth father, their birth father telling them off for calling me when they weren't OK would be the end of visits at their birth father's home until my children were old enough to walk out & get help away from their birth father. Like the saying, anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad. Drake has shown a huge red flag when it comes to trusting him to take care of your kids.
I love how right when the boys were picked up chris made sure to see if they ate and checked on them and how Jess went right to making sure he was just ok and felt better.
My mom always came to get me during sleepovers in the middle of the night when I called and as an adult it means more to me because I’ve always know if I call her she’ll come and I can honestly say she’s my best friend and I love that your kids can do that with you ❤️
That’s what my mother always did for me as well, and I agree, it definitely means even more to me as an adult. No matter what time it was or what reason I gave, she would always come to get me without any hesitation, pressuring or questions or making me feel bad for calling her. If I ever felt even the slightest bit uncomfortable, I knew she would always be there. I’m always so happy when I see that Jess’ children feel comfortable enough to always call her when they feel uncomfortable or upset, and that she drops everything to go and get them without hesitation or making them feel badly about it. That’s an invaluable quality for a child to have in a parent, and I feel so lucky and blessed to have had that in my own mother, and to still have that as an adult, to know she will always be there for me no matter what. She will always be my forever best friend, and I couldn’t thank God enough for her.
That’s how it is with my mom as well! And now as an adult she’s still always there for me and is my best friend. Moms are the best! It’s so nice to know Jessica’s kids know they can call her at anytime for anything!
As someone who grew up with split custody, I appreciate the fact that you don't force your kids to go if they don't want to, but also that you are so willing to be there when they need you. ♥️
I’ve been watching you for years and watching all the ups and downs with their father. Gosh I can’t imagine what you are feeling as a mama. Honestly Idk how you do I’m a single mom and my daughter father isn’t involved you do an outstanding job trying your best with a pretty shitty situation. At the end of the day just be proud of yourself for all your doing! those boys are so loved and protected by not only you but their real dad - Chris. Family is not always blood and those little boys are certainly loved by the both of you ❤️
Also a child with divorced parents and two different ways of life at each house seeing another family with life that I have feels so good to see thank you for always sharing with the fans
You can see how much the boys love chris. He has been there for them through everything, and thats what kids remember. Landon also has a special bond with Chris.
I don’t normally comment, but my mom used to refuse to get me from sleep overs when I’d call crying as a kid, or at my dads house. Used to scream at me for waking her. So thank you for being their safety net. And for listening to them 🥺❤️
i love how you always give your kids a choice. i had to go to my dads house and if i didn’t want to my mom would get mad and say i was ruining her alone time. it truly shows how much you love your kids.
I'm so sorry your Mom put you through that. That's not OK. My Mum was like that to me with other things, so I know the pain you went through. Go easy on yourself, it will still be affecting you now, even in situations when you don't realise.
Chris is an amazing guy you can see the Love between him and Landon way to step up Dad. It is nice seeing a truly blended family you all make my heart happy to see the love that you share with one another
So glad he has you as a mother and are close by to take care if needed. Chris is a wonderful figure in their life. Shows how much love Chris has for them as well. For you guys to leave what doing to do get the boys.
It breaks my heart that their dad is so distant and to get mad at a child for not feeling comfortable in a new environment ugh 😔 Chris is truly one of a kind and such a great dad 🥰
I never actually realized how much Kyson looks like you Jessica 🥺 he’s your twin for sure!! ❤️❤️❤️ and amazing job always going in to mama bear mode and protecting your kids! It sucks that they have to go through things like that but at least they know they have you and Chris and feel comfortable sharing how they feel🤍
Hearing them say that they were yelled at for just contacting you is heartbreaking to hear....sometimes it's just better to keep them away from the dad if that's the case. Which I know you already know. I hope the boys are okay, sending love. ❤️❤️❤️
Chris is really a god sent for the tweens and Landen. obviously is a different game for lilia as her bio dad is as we know. i think Landen feels Chris more like his dad than his bio dad as Chris came when Landen was very little like before 1 or so
My dad and his gf did the same thing but they can't do anything about it cuz its my moms old phone! And his gf says to him behind my back probs and says its your weekend with them!
Landon knew exactly where he wanted, and needed to be 🥰🥰. Seeing him with Chris in the diner speaks volumes. The fact that they knew they could call you and you'd show up 😗👌💕
When my parents separated I was 5, my dad moved 5 hours away and I was exactly the same!! I cried so much and just wanted to come home because it was so weird and scary. Bless him 🥺
I was in this situation growing except the rolls were reversed, whenever I felt uncomfortable with my mum I knew my dad was always a call away no matter the distance he had to travel. You are an amazing mum Jess keep doing what you’re doing beautiful 💕
This hit hard for me, growing up with split parents hurts. I remember stealing my dads cell phone to call my mom in the middle of the night to come pick me and getting in trouble for calling her. My dad will tell my mom I was a liar, of course my mom wouldn’t believe him. Proud of you mama💗 your kids love you so much
As a fellow mama myself I hope Landen is ok and he should never be gotten mad at for wanting his mama none of those babies should ever be made to feel like they can't go to the other parent when scared. I'm so proud of you for standing up for your babies and having that bond with them that they know if they ever need you that mama will be there. You're a good mama Jessica. I've followed you since both of our oldest kids were born just a month apart. I trust you handled the situation and comforted your babies. Love always and stay safe 💜
I feel bad because for as long as I have been watching the boys usually come Home from there dads in the middle of the night. ☹️ but I’m glad they have the confidence to know it’s ok to call you if they need anything❤️❤️❤️
jess, you are looking so gorgeous lately! you have always looked beautiful and i’m so jealous but you look so healthy and you just have this fresh glow. also, you’re such an amazing mom, woman, daughter, friend, wife and person overall. i love you and your amazing family jess!!
I’m so glad your boys voice how they feel towards their bio dad and that Chris is a great dad to all of the kids. I’m so glad you as a mama respect kadens boundaries for not wanting to visit his bio dad and from hearing landen, that speaks volumes! Mama bear always protecting her babies 🫶🏻 & still doing your best at coparenting with Richard 🥴🤮
Idk who drake’s kidding but Chris is those boy’s dad in every sense of the word! Landen looks at him with so much love ❤ And to get mad they are calling you 🤬
Jess whenever I used to get motion sickness it was from looking down in the car and reading . The only thing that would help when I would get nauseous and dizzy would be smelling hand sanitizer??!!! Weird but it works !!! Take the Dramamine as a precautionary but just in case you still do smell hand sanitizer or anything with a alcohol smell
Jess you are an amazing mother! I wish I had a mother like you growing up, my birth mother gave up all her rights to me but luckily my dad stepped up! I strive to be half the mother you are! Your kids are gonna grow up and remember all the times you held them and made them feel important
Great mama for going to get the boys even in the middle of night. Maybe next time the boys dad can come to you so the boys can stay with him in a hotel nearby and maybe feel more comfortable. 😊
If this doesn't show the amazing parents you and Chris are. All the feels I felt with Landen feeling scared and uncomfortable. I just wanted to squeeze him. Won't know unless you try but I'm so happy they had you pick them up if they felt like that.
Jess your babies have reason to feel this way especially if he hasn't been the best dad. You should maybe set a recording device on one of the boys (one time) to hear or see what is making them so uncomfortable.
In years to come whether the boys have a good/bad/ indifferent or no relationship with their dad they will know you always gave them the choice, you listened to them, reasoned with them, never immediately dropped everything first and went running but when nothing else was working you went for them. With two clearly different styles in parenting there will always be a few issues and children are very different as well in what they need and or expect. It is also very difficult when living so far apart that you can't just drop them off on a morning and pick them up after tea. As it seems that it's the sleeping over part that generally causes the upset. Children should always be given a choice and encouraged to see the other parent when possible (obviously not if it isn't safe of course but even then often with supervision it can be done). Otherwise kids get to an age and it can back fire and they think "you stopped me from seeing them", "you only said negative things and poisoned my mind.". They need to be the judge for themselves generally and by communicating openly and advocating for them when necessary they will develop emotionally well regarding relationships. Honesty and trust are essential for kids to feel safe. They have with that with you for sure.
It is awesome your boys can call you anytime...I also feel they Need to be able to stay with their Dad and feel "safe"! I hope they aren't being bullied or maybe around drugs when there.
No hate on Drake but instead of getting mad at Landen he should of given him what he needed and cuddled him and helped him feel comfortable or at least instead made him feel like it was OK to go and not yelled at him for it. Smh
You guys were in my neighborhood 😍 I would have gone and rescued those boys for ya if you hadn’t been close by. Now my brain is like “do I know their dad” lol.
I live in Reno and seeing you go through all the places I know as home is so cool! It’s especially cool to see one of my favorite vloggers in my city! Also I see that you stayed at the Atlantis, which is honestly one of my favorites! And two chicks is a great breakfast place in Reno!
Glad that your there for your kids as I'm a single mom and doing the best I can for my 1 and a half your old girl it's hard being a single mom I applaude u for being there for your kids
It's none of my business but it scares me that one boy doesn't want to go see his father and one calls early to come home. Doesn't sound good. Love ya'll for picking them up. Hope you discussed this at length with him off camera.
Dad gets upset because they are his blood and he believes they should automatically be comfortable there. But as a child of divorced parents where my Dad was barely in the picture...I was scared to death sometimes and so uncomfortable even though I truly wanted to try every time he could see me. Now that I am older, I get it. He still is not there and we are friends more than father and daughter and that is all it really is. I am thankful he wants to be in my life but also never going to have that relationship with him like I do with my step Dad. He just was not there and expects too much from me when I am even to this day. The difference is, I tell him no as an adult and he takes it better.
idk if I'm just getting old,, but Jess and Chris definitely had better gas station picks than the kids did lolll. Today is my first day of summer because I had summer classes all summer, right when yall's summer is ending. Hopefully I'll be getting my BA and graduating this fall semester b/c of the extra hard work I put in during the summer😬🥲
When I was 11 I went to Ohio with my best friends . First time ever leaving my mom/dad.. I had super bad home sickness I couldn’t stop crying almost the whole trip, but I couldn’t go home til they did and it was 7 or so hours away!
Very sad that whoever he was staying with was being an ass to him when he called his mom. The parents trusted that person to make her kids feel safe and he didn’t
I've never personally been through the step parent, split parent dynamic. My nephew is though, he goes to his dad's every other weekend and when he was 8 he would kick and scream because he didn't want to be there. The mom took him anyway. Now he is 11 and still goes to his dad's but everytime he comes back he is a different kid for a few days, acts out, has a big attitude. Im really glad to see you don't force those boys or the relationship. I love that they feel like they can call you at anytime and you'll help them.
Poor buddy! This is how it was for me with my dad at first too. Our mom had called us one night to see how we were doing but my dad came in not wanting us to talk tomour mom since we were at his place snd so he ended up taking our phone away and getting mad at us. He would yell at us A LOT and all we wanted to do was go home but we never ended up going home early so im glad you guys were at lewst able to go home and get comfortable. ❤️
He doesn't deserve a baby mama who I willing to drive her kids to another state for them to bond with there dad but still will go to them when they need you you & Chris are there safe place that's beautiful my son was the same xoxo amazing job guys love new Zealand xoxo
The stuff with their dad (for the sake of the kids when they are older)should be kept offline. Keep those issues between the parents and just co-parent.
Her kids always have a day of what’s online and offline. And sometimes posting things like this can give others going trough the same thing insight on ways to handle it.
i hated being not with my parents especially with my mom I’m an adult now and i still get that way when they go on trips of anywhere without me and its such a stupid thing. i guessing it’s because i was sheltered and babied a lot as a kid/adult being the youngest out of the 2 of us. Landon you’re not alone. hoping dad yelling wasn’t for any mean/control thing because thats effed up. glad to know he’s feeling better and you can feel this way no matter your age. ❤️
Go mama! Do what you’ve gotta do for your babies! Love that they can call you whenever no matter what and they know your coming! I’m the same way with my babies!
That’s so sad that his bio dad gets mad at him when he doesn’t feel comfortable. He doesn’t even try to comfort him :( thank you for getting your babies ❤️
My parents are going through a divorce and my mom tells us that when we go see are dad that if we feel uncomfortable or scared we can text or call her ....and I feel like the boys did the right thing by contacting you Jess and not letting the situation get worse🥺😊❤️
I am so sorry your child's father yelled at him! That is mental abuse. I am a child development specialist. This is so awful. I am so GLAD you picked him up right away.
Sorry Jess but u shouldn't be the one to make the effort to take your boys there dad should just shows your an amazing mum . Poor Landon ❤️. I absolutely love the bond your kids have with Chris . And since I've had covid jess I've such bad nausea it's horrible defo feels like when your pregnant but defo not . Keep being you Jess one hell of a lovely person . Much love Scotland ❤️❤️❤️
My daughter is the exact same she needs some to either lay down next to her or sit in the room with her while she falls asleep. Some nights she will say I'm ok you can go now but most of the time I don't leave her room until she is asleep. She used to stay overnight at her dad's but he would complain that she wouldn't go to sleep for him etc. I explained how I do her bed time routine which is pretty standard I feel like, shower, pjs, book(s) and sleep. I said I sit with her even if it's on the floor by the door until she's either asleep or comfortable but he refused to do it. He said she could just go to sleep after books and lights out. She sleeps with a night light, I brought a second one for his house in hopes it would help her but nope she kept saying he would walk out and shut the door and she was scared as she wasn't used to the house. So I stopped overnights, maybe when she is older and doesn't need someone to sit with her they can start again but at the end of the day she needs to feel safe and secure and I refuse to allow her to feel scared and uncomfortable especially at bed time. The other parents just don't understand sometimes and it's sad they can't just help their child feel safe and secure even if it's not how they normally parent.
I think it’s just when their dad decides he wants to see them and they can fit it into the schedule, him living a state away probably not so much anymore.
I feel the frustration of their father for getting upset that he called Mom. This will 💯 be an unpopular opinion, but each parent will have their own parenting style and coddling the child and “rescuing” them every time they are uncomfortable or don’t like the other parenting style, will not teach the child resiliency. It will only teach them that even the uncomfortable things in life are avoidable. While I wasn’t there and don’t know 100% what happened, allowing the other parent to parent, even if it’s way different then yours will teach the children resiliency, how to comfort themselves, and be independent. With that being said, if there is abuse (which I’m not sure is the case here) all bets are off.
Keep in mind that this man has abandoned these kids multiple times. From what I’ve seen, he seems somewhat neglectful and the environment seems unstable. While I agree kids should have to figure out uncomfortable situations, home should be a safe place for kids. Their father does not have custody and I don’t see a reason to leave them with him when they aren’t comfortable.
As a child with a split family with different parenting styles, thank you for always picking up your kids when they are scared!! That is amazing and help them feel safe even when you are not with them!! .... On a different note when cats bring you dead things It's their way of showing you how to hunt because they think you need help.
Or there way of showing affection
It is also their way of showing love and that you are a part of their pride.
Agreed
Omg that is so cute 😭😭 my cat is old and never goes outside
That’s the best mother right there. Jess is awesome.
Super proud of Landen to tell you he wasn’t comfortable . Our 18 year old had a similar situation last year at school she just wasn’t comfortable and couldn’t put her finger on why . I’m proud of our kids for reaching out even when things are hard . It shows tremendous growth .
Proof that blood doesn't make you family, love makes you family. ❤️
Strongly believe in this!🤍🤍🤍
The fact that your kids know that you will come get them no matter what if they are uncomfortable is amazing. As they grow older, that trusting relationship is going to be crucial. One thing my parents have done right is let us know that no matter what they will always be there when we need them. In any situation, even if we messed up, they were always there. I think you're instilling that into your kids and it is truly a great thing. You're doing an AMAZING job Jess and Chris. Keep doing what you're doing.
To be one of the “fans” that have been here since Lilias birth I’ve seen everything you’ve shown us on here especially with the twins and Landon’s dad.. it’s sad to see he hasn’t made any improvements but it is good to see they know they can call you no matter the time or situation and you’ll be there for them.
To be honest you only see her side of things. No one really knows why happens behind the camera
Can I say how impressed I am for you being so proactive in trying to have the boys have a relationship with their birth dad? For the haters out there, IYKYK, they don’t want to see the good you do. The way you react when one of them call and say they want to come home, you don’t pressure them to stay. That’s one thing I love about you. Keep on doing you, I think you have it mastered!
I appreciate this so much. I really am just trying my absolute best to do things right 💛
@@JesssFam the right thing to do is to ALWAYS DO RIGHT BY YOUR KIDS! You are an amazing mom.
Yes , my first thought was exactly the same. Always try to encourage a relationship with the other parent. There are clearly two very different parenting styles and children are very different as to what they feel as well.
I agree I think it's important because if she doesn't the boys could resent her as they get older.
As a long time fan who has seen the boys’ birth father for what he is, im glad they have you and chris. You guys are real champs for being as great as you are in not only raising 7 kids, but keeping their respective parents in their lives. Drake can talk all he wants about you, but you are the parents those kids need and thankfully have.
I’m proud that your boys can call you when ever even in the middle of the night that’s a proud moment that they find loads of comfort from you
this. i would die for this feeling omg
I had to collect my children from an access visit at midnight too, my daughter called saying she didn’t feel comfortable and wanted to leave straight away. Her brothers felt the same, so I went and collected them of course. Turns out he had broken the orders and had his mates there too… strange men … not okay, they have never tried staying again. Once was it and he messed it up, even during day visits I collect them what called.
@@shastarose1448 aw
I called my parents when I was staying with my aunt for the weekend and they drove 1 hour away to save me 🤣🤷🏻♀️ I will do the same for my babies with their father anytime but they him
Where were landen and kaiden staying in the night?
The way Landon was cuddling with Chris in the booth at Two Chicks was everything!! He needed the love and comfort y'all give him and that wasn't happening at his dad's. Proud that he gave it a try and so glad y'all were local and he wasn't trapped in the uncomfortable situation!! ♥️♥️
Did you catch what Landon said when they picked him up? His bio dad gets mad and yells at him when he calls his mom. I would have lost my shit on that dirt bag. 😤
I deal with what Jessica experienced . My dad divorced when I was little . But my step dad like Chris is my constant . Has been in my life since I was little
I feel as If kaden has such a traumatic experience that he declines everytime and this might be landen’s. I feel like Kyson is trying so hard to have a relationship with his dad but sadly it’ll get to the point in where none of them will want to stay overnight and that’s sad because now that he’s further it makes it even harder. I just hope the dad doesn’t blame Jess for all this.
@@damarys1113 I think it was landen who called from kysons . And drake got upset because he was calling Jessica
I love seeing how much you listen and protect your babies! I grew up in a difficult household and am feeling the Effects as an adult. They were going to be such good humans, more so than they already are! Great job!!
Something is very OFF if Kaden refuses to go and Landen is terrified and wants to leave.
I don’t know if Drake is still with his girlfriend but when they first started visiting, there were problems between Jess’s kids and the girlfriend’s kid(s). Obviously there could be other things that Jess or Kaden don’t share on TH-cam, but Kaden stopped wanting to go or at least stopped wanting to go for long periods pretty quickly after the visits started.
Seeing how my nieces are when they go to their dads I can definitely agree but also consider the age they could be completely safe there but I see it has their comfort is with their mom because of how the custody is my sister has full custody of the kids and I see them act differently around the time they go to their dads. Also my oldest niece who is six has no contact with her dad he gave his rights away when she was three months old it was a dumb high school relationship the younger two are from my sisters previous marriage and they go see him once a month and they have every reason to not want to go he is not a good man he verbally and physically abused my sister I have witnessed it so it’s scary when they start freaking out and don’t want to go over to his house. Again they could be safe over there but think about what guardian are they with more then 50% it also could just be that 🤷🏻♀️
Ever since he was little he was scared and when he went for the first time Jessica had to pick him up because he was uncomfortable and scared.
Wow you think😱😱
i was a child of a split household and had to see my dad every fortnight, and it is so comforting that you are willing to take your child out of a situation they do not feel safe in. my mum did the same thing for me and it honestly means so much looking back. also super proud of landen for being able to reach out to u
The way that Landon was snuggling up to Chris at breakfast after picking him up from Drakes the night before… he definitely knows who loves him & comforts him!
@@whocares9672 Please feel free to provide a single shred of proof for your statement.
@@whocares9672 he’s nice to all of the kids. Younger ones always get treated with a little more patience, as they’re still learning, but I’ve never seen Chris not be nice to the twins and Lilia.
@@Donna754well Chris has been there scents he was baby so he would feel better with him than his actual dad
@@funwithdollsandmore2426 I think you’ve misinterpreted my comment. That was a response to someone other then op over a year ago
I’m so happy the older boy was helping his younger brother so much just trying to make him more comfortable and it breaks my heart their dad yelled at him for not being comfortable and I’m happy he told his mom anyway ❤️❤️❤️
My mom always came and got me whenever I called her. No matter where I was or how far I was. At 27 she will still do this for me. And has many times in my adult life come when I called in the middle of the night. It's so amazing ur doing this for ur kids, showing them they can always count on u
I can't believe Drake thought he could get away with telling a child off for calling their Mom when they're scared. If that was me, as much as I would want my child to have a relationship with their birth father, their birth father telling them off for calling me when they weren't OK would be the end of visits at their birth father's home until my children were old enough to walk out & get help away from their birth father. Like the saying, anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad. Drake has shown a huge red flag when it comes to trusting him to take care of your kids.
I keep forgetting Landon isn’t Chris’ birth child… their bond is so strong. 🥰. I love y’all! Keep Being strong Landon! You’ve got this kid!
Dane’s revelation of not ordering anything to eat unless they can set it on fire is SENDING me 😂
hehe that was actually so funny 😆
I love how right when the boys were picked up chris made sure to see if they ate and checked on them and how Jess went right to making sure he was just ok and felt better.
My mom always came to get me during sleepovers in the middle of the night when I called and as an adult it means more to me because I’ve always know if I call her she’ll come and I can honestly say she’s my best friend and I love that your kids can do that with you ❤️
That’s what my mother always did for me as well, and I agree, it definitely means even more to me as an adult. No matter what time it was or what reason I gave, she would always come to get me without any hesitation, pressuring or questions or making me feel bad for calling her. If I ever felt even the slightest bit uncomfortable, I knew she would always be there. I’m always so happy when I see that Jess’ children feel comfortable enough to always call her when they feel uncomfortable or upset, and that she drops everything to go and get them without hesitation or making them feel badly about it. That’s an invaluable quality for a child to have in a parent, and I feel so lucky and blessed to have had that in my own mother, and to still have that as an adult, to know she will always be there for me no matter what. She will always be my forever best friend, and I couldn’t thank God enough for her.
That’s how it is with my mom as well! And now as an adult she’s still always there for me and is my best friend.
Moms are the best!
It’s so nice to know Jessica’s kids know they can call her at anytime for anything!
Until it’s money 🤣
same my mom always picks me up if i wanna leave and my siblings who are in their 20’s if they need a ride from places like a bar or something
I think they were at their dads im not sure tho.😊
As someone who grew up with split custody, I appreciate the fact that you don't force your kids to go if they don't want to, but also that you are so willing to be there when they need you. ♥️
I’ve been watching you for years and watching all the ups and downs with their father. Gosh I can’t imagine what you are feeling as a mama. Honestly Idk how you do I’m a single mom and my daughter father isn’t involved you do an outstanding job trying your best with a pretty shitty situation. At the end of the day just be proud of yourself for all your doing! those boys are so loved and protected by not only you but their real dad - Chris. Family is not always blood and those little boys are certainly loved by the both of you ❤️
Also a child with divorced parents and two different ways of life at each house seeing another family with life that I have feels so good to see thank you for always sharing with the fans
You can see how much the boys love chris. He has been there for them through everything, and thats what kids remember. Landon also has a special bond with Chris.
I don’t normally comment, but my mom used to refuse to get me from sleep overs when I’d call crying as a kid, or at my dads house. Used to scream at me for waking her. So thank you for being their safety net. And for listening to them 🥺❤️
i love how you always give your kids a choice. i had to go to my dads house and if i didn’t want to my mom would get mad and say i was ruining her alone time. it truly shows how much you love your kids.
I'm so sorry your Mom put you through that. That's not OK. My Mum was like that to me with other things, so I know the pain you went through. Go easy on yourself, it will still be affecting you now, even in situations when you don't realise.
I’m sorry your mom was like that🤍
I get it. I am legally allowed to choose at 18 and my mom has said this to me too. I would never do that to my kids.
Omg, Kaden's 'a kiss' was so sweet!
Then the 'and some ice cream'..... so funny! 🤣
Chris is an amazing guy you can see the Love between him and Landon way to step up Dad. It is nice seeing a truly blended family you all make my heart happy to see the love that you share with one another
So glad he has you as a mother and are close by to take care if needed. Chris is a wonderful figure in their life. Shows how much love Chris has for them as well. For you guys to leave what doing to do get the boys.
It breaks my heart that their dad is so distant and to get mad at a child for not feeling comfortable in a new environment ugh 😔 Chris is truly one of a kind and such a great dad 🥰
I never actually realized how much Kyson looks like you Jessica 🥺 he’s your twin for sure!! ❤️❤️❤️ and amazing job always going in to mama bear mode and protecting your kids! It sucks that they have to go through things like that but at least they know they have you and Chris and feel comfortable sharing how they feel🤍
Hearing them say that they were yelled at for just contacting you is heartbreaking to hear....sometimes it's just better to keep them away from the dad if that's the case. Which I know you already know. I hope the boys are okay, sending love. ❤️❤️❤️
That's probably why Kayden didn't want to go, and seeing Landon scared crying to then all happy next Chris, shows he only needs Chris as a dad.
Chris is really a god sent for the tweens and Landen. obviously is a different game for lilia as her bio dad is as we know. i think Landen feels Chris more like his dad than his bio dad as Chris came when Landen was very little like before 1 or so
My sons dad used to do this. Tell him he can’t call me bc it’s his time with him. I stopped that immediately
@@lc4dgo i feel like it's mostly Kayden , that doesn't want to go it's like there isn't a connection at all
My dad and his gf did the same thing but they can't do anything about it cuz its my moms old phone! And his gf says to him behind my back probs and says its your weekend with them!
Can I just say how awesome it is that you drove to pick up your kids at 11:30 at night comfortable that’s a really good mother
Landon knew exactly where he wanted, and needed to be 🥰🥰. Seeing him with Chris in the diner speaks volumes. The fact that they knew they could call you and you'd show up 😗👌💕
When my parents separated I was 5, my dad moved 5 hours away and I was exactly the same!! I cried so much and just wanted to come home because it was so weird and scary. Bless him 🥺
I never realized how much Kyson looked like Jess until this video. They look like twins sitting next to each other at the restaurant
I was in this situation growing except the rolls were reversed, whenever I felt uncomfortable with my mum I knew my dad was always a call away no matter the distance he had to travel. You are an amazing mum Jess keep doing what you’re doing beautiful 💕
This hit hard for me, growing up with split parents hurts. I remember stealing my dads cell phone to call my mom in the middle of the night to come pick me and getting in trouble for calling her. My dad will tell my mom I was a liar, of course my mom wouldn’t believe him. Proud of you mama💗 your kids love you so much
As a fellow mama myself I hope Landen is ok and he should never be gotten mad at for wanting his mama none of those babies should ever be made to feel like they can't go to the other parent when scared. I'm so proud of you for standing up for your babies and having that bond with them that they know if they ever need you that mama will be there. You're a good mama Jessica. I've followed you since both of our oldest kids were born just a month apart. I trust you handled the situation and comforted your babies. Love always and stay safe 💜
I feel bad because for as long as I have been watching the boys usually come
Home from there dads in the middle of the night. ☹️ but I’m glad they have the confidence to know it’s ok to call you if they need anything❤️❤️❤️
jess, you are looking so gorgeous lately! you have always looked beautiful and i’m so jealous but you look so healthy and you just have this fresh glow. also, you’re such an amazing mom, woman, daughter, friend, wife and person overall. i love you and your amazing family jess!!
I’m so glad your boys voice how they feel towards their bio dad and that Chris is a great dad to all of the kids. I’m so glad you as a mama respect kadens boundaries for not wanting to visit his bio dad and from hearing landen, that speaks volumes! Mama bear always protecting her babies 🫶🏻 & still doing your best at coparenting with Richard 🥴🤮
With a kid that has anxiety this is the best parent
Idk who drake’s kidding but Chris is those boy’s dad in every sense of the word! Landen looks at him with so much love ❤ And to get mad they are calling you 🤬
Jess whenever I used to get motion sickness it was from looking down in the car and reading . The only thing that would help when I would get nauseous and dizzy would be smelling hand sanitizer??!!! Weird but it works !!! Take the Dramamine as a precautionary but just in case you still do smell hand sanitizer or anything with a alcohol smell
Not telling you you have to try it but it’s just a suggestion from an old foogy !!!!
Jess you are an amazing mother! I wish I had a mother like you growing up, my birth mother gave up all her rights to me but luckily my dad stepped up! I strive to be half the mother you are! Your kids are gonna grow up and remember all the times you held them and made them feel important
You guys are the picture of great parents. Happy that your kids feel safe calling you when things don’t feel right.
Great mama for going to get the boys even in the middle of night. Maybe next time the boys dad can come to you so the boys can stay with him in a hotel nearby and maybe feel more comfortable. 😊
For some reason I don’t see that happening 🫤
@@KariN-or3sc I know wishful thinking with Drake sadly 😞
This happened to my sister and I. I called my mom and she raced toward us no matter what. Jess, smart move on your part for staying.
If this doesn't show the amazing parents you and Chris are. All the feels I felt with Landen feeling scared and uncomfortable. I just wanted to squeeze him. Won't know unless you try but I'm so happy they had you pick them up if they felt like that.
Jess your babies have reason to feel this way especially if he hasn't been the best dad. You should maybe set a recording device on one of the boys (one time) to hear or see what is making them so uncomfortable.
In years to come whether the boys have a good/bad/ indifferent or no relationship with their dad they will know you always gave them the choice, you listened to them, reasoned with them, never immediately dropped everything first and went running but when nothing else was working you went for them. With two clearly different styles in parenting there will always be a few issues and children are very different as well in what they need and or expect. It is also very difficult when living so far apart that you can't just drop them off on a morning and pick them up after tea. As it seems that it's the sleeping over part that generally causes the upset.
Children should always be given a choice and encouraged to see the other parent when possible (obviously not if it isn't safe of course but even then often with supervision it can be done). Otherwise kids get to an age and it can back fire and they think "you stopped me from seeing them", "you only said negative things and poisoned my mind.". They need to be the judge for themselves generally and by communicating openly and advocating for them when necessary they will develop emotionally well regarding relationships. Honesty and trust are essential for kids to feel safe. They have with that with you for sure.
It is awesome your boys can call you anytime...I also feel they Need to be able to stay with their Dad and feel "safe"! I hope they aren't being bullied or maybe around drugs when there.
No hate on Drake but instead of getting mad at Landen he should of given him what he needed and cuddled him and helped him feel comfortable or at least instead made him feel like it was OK to go and not yelled at him for it. Smh
Okay Jess is me when I go on road-trips I have to have my snacks 😂
You guys were in my neighborhood 😍 I would have gone and rescued those boys for ya if you hadn’t been close by. Now my brain is like “do I know their dad” lol.
It's not hard to figure out who he is
I live in Reno and seeing you go through all the places I know as home is so cool! It’s especially cool to see one of my favorite vloggers in my city! Also I see that you stayed at the Atlantis, which is honestly one of my favorites! And two chicks is a great breakfast place in Reno!
My heart goes out to Kyson, Landon and Kaden. The situation with their bio dad is not healthy.
Glad that your there for your kids as I'm a single mom and doing the best I can for my 1 and a half your old girl it's hard being a single mom I applaude u for being there for your kids
Ur such a good mom, I felt so bad for little Landon it's hard having to go though that
It's none of my business but it scares me that one boy doesn't want to go see his father and one calls early to come home. Doesn't sound good. Love ya'll for picking them up. Hope you discussed this at length with him off camera.
Dad gets upset because they are his blood and he believes they should automatically be comfortable there. But as a child of divorced parents where my Dad was barely in the picture...I was scared to death sometimes and so uncomfortable even though I truly wanted to try every time he could see me. Now that I am older, I get it. He still is not there and we are friends more than father and daughter and that is all it really is. I am thankful he wants to be in my life but also never going to have that relationship with him like I do with my step Dad. He just was not there and expects too much from me when I am even to this day. The difference is, I tell him no as an adult and he takes it better.
Addys hair gets more and more strawberry blonde in ever video! Little Jess mini me for sure! ❤️
Salty crackers, sea salt and vinegar chips.. and only drinks water. Loved the vlog today, Ariel! *Ahem* I mean Jess!
LOVE THIS!!!! 🤣
idk if I'm just getting old,, but Jess and Chris definitely had better gas station picks than the kids did lolll. Today is my first day of summer because I had summer classes all summer, right when yall's summer is ending. Hopefully I'll be getting my BA and graduating this fall semester b/c of the extra hard work I put in during the summer😬🥲
Keep up the good work 😊
When I was 11 I went to Ohio with my best friends . First time ever leaving my mom/dad.. I had super bad home sickness I couldn’t stop crying almost the whole trip, but I couldn’t go home til they did and it was 7 or so hours away!
Does anyone know who they were staying with?? That’s so cute how much he loves his parents and how much comfort he finds in them.
Very sad that whoever he was staying with was being an ass to him when he called his mom. The parents trusted that person to make her kids feel safe and he didn’t
@@samaram1959 They were staying with their biological dad.
I've never personally been through the step parent, split parent dynamic. My nephew is though, he goes to his dad's every other weekend and when he was 8 he would kick and scream because he didn't want to be there. The mom took him anyway. Now he is 11 and still goes to his dad's but everytime he comes back he is a different kid for a few days, acts out, has a big attitude.
Im really glad to see you don't force those boys or the relationship. I love that they feel like they can call you at anytime and you'll help them.
Poor buddy! This is how it was for me with my dad at first too. Our mom had called us one night to see how we were doing but my dad came in not wanting us to talk tomour mom since we were at his place snd so he ended up taking our phone away and getting mad at us. He would yell at us A LOT and all we wanted to do was go home but we never ended up going home early so im glad you guys were at lewst able to go home and get comfortable. ❤️
Watching jesssfam and eating disney goldfish while studying is the best 💜💜💜
Chris you are such a awesome step dad.
It is RARE you meet someone who doesn't drink coffee!!! I'm right with yall girl !!
He doesn't deserve a baby mama who I willing to drive her kids to another state for them to bond with there dad but still will go to them when they need you you & Chris are there safe place that's beautiful my son was the same xoxo amazing job guys love new Zealand xoxo
It’s good that Landon knows enough that he knows what’s safe and what’s not. That sounds so scary
Glad your children go to you when they need comfort! :) It's so important!
Love your vids keep up the awesome work can’t wait to see more from all you guys
I hope he is much better now!
The stuff with their dad (for the sake of the kids when they are older)should be kept offline. Keep those issues between the parents and just co-parent.
Her kids always have a day of what’s online and offline. And sometimes posting things like this can give others going trough the same thing insight on ways to handle it.
Its so crazy watching all of your videos for years then seeing you in my town!! Forever hoping one day ill run into you while you’re in Reno!
i hated being not with my parents especially with my mom I’m an adult now and i still get that way when they go on trips of anywhere without me and its such a stupid thing. i guessing it’s because i was sheltered and babied a lot as a kid/adult being the youngest out of the 2 of us. Landon you’re not alone. hoping dad yelling wasn’t for any mean/control thing because thats effed up. glad to know he’s feeling better and you can feel this way no matter your age. ❤️
Go mama! Do what you’ve gotta do for your babies! Love that they can call you whenever no matter what and they know your coming! I’m the same way with my babies!
That’s so sad that his bio dad gets mad at him when he doesn’t feel comfortable. He doesn’t even try to comfort him :( thank you for getting your babies ❤️
My parents are going through a divorce and my mom tells us that when we go see are dad that if we feel uncomfortable or scared we can text or call her ....and I feel like the boys did the right thing by contacting you Jess and not letting the situation get worse🥺😊❤️
You are such a FAMtastic mom!!! Luv your vids 😃
I am so sorry your child's father yelled at him! That is mental abuse. I am a child development specialist. This is so awful. I am so GLAD you picked him up right away.
Kyson and Landon have an unbreakable bond and they are so cute together
Sorry Jess but u shouldn't be the one to make the effort to take your boys there dad should just shows your an amazing mum . Poor Landon ❤️. I absolutely love the bond your kids have with Chris . And since I've had covid jess I've such bad nausea it's horrible defo feels like when your pregnant but defo not . Keep being you Jess one hell of a lovely person . Much love Scotland ❤️❤️❤️
I love ❤️ the way you edit ✍🏾 your video I love 💗 watching your video I’m your biggest fan you make amazing 🤩 video you make awesome 🤩 😎 👏🏾 video
You are amazing to take the boys to their dads and stay the weekend to make them feel safe.
For all the haters saying that they didn’t need their own phone this is proof that you need to just mind your own business🙄❤️❤️
My daughter is the exact same she needs some to either lay down next to her or sit in the room with her while she falls asleep. Some nights she will say I'm ok you can go now but most of the time I don't leave her room until she is asleep. She used to stay overnight at her dad's but he would complain that she wouldn't go to sleep for him etc. I explained how I do her bed time routine which is pretty standard I feel like, shower, pjs, book(s) and sleep. I said I sit with her even if it's on the floor by the door until she's either asleep or comfortable but he refused to do it. He said she could just go to sleep after books and lights out. She sleeps with a night light, I brought a second one for his house in hopes it would help her but nope she kept saying he would walk out and shut the door and she was scared as she wasn't used to the house. So I stopped overnights, maybe when she is older and doesn't need someone to sit with her they can start again but at the end of the day she needs to feel safe and secure and I refuse to allow her to feel scared and uncomfortable especially at bed time. The other parents just don't understand sometimes and it's sad they can't just help their child feel safe and secure even if it's not how they normally parent.
I like that you give your 3 boys a choice to go to their dads.
Hope landen is ok. It makes my heart so happy when they can call you anytime when at their dads.
crazy how times flies i found your channel when you first had the twins now everyone is all grown up 😭😭
I just love jesses videos and they make me smile on a tough day
I think this is the earliest I’ve ever been to a jesssfam video
How often are they (3 boys) going to see their dad with school in? Do they have a custody schedule or is it still hit and miss?
Jess has full legal custody of the three boys, so I think they just go there whenever they can
I think it’s just when their dad decides he wants to see them and they can fit it into the schedule, him living a state away probably not so much anymore.
@@arielpotts4858 It’s more like when they ALL can fit their schedules together, with Jess’s kids being so busy and all
@@MsSignedUp yes i meant when they can fit into jess’ schedule, if their dad was more consistent i’m sure they’d be able to make it work.
I feel the frustration of their father for getting upset that he called Mom. This will 💯 be an unpopular opinion, but each parent will have their own parenting style and coddling the child and “rescuing” them every time they are uncomfortable or don’t like the other parenting style, will not teach the child resiliency. It will only teach them that even the uncomfortable things in life are avoidable. While I wasn’t there and don’t know 100% what happened, allowing the other parent to parent, even if it’s way different then yours will teach the children resiliency, how to comfort themselves, and be independent. With that being said, if there is abuse (which I’m not sure is the case here) all bets are off.
Keep in mind that this man has abandoned these kids multiple times. From what I’ve seen, he seems somewhat neglectful and the environment seems unstable. While I agree kids should have to figure out uncomfortable situations, home should be a safe place for kids. Their father does not have custody and I don’t see a reason to leave them with him when they aren’t comfortable.
hey jess ! i just thought it was cool that you went near reno because that’s where i live ! have a great day !
Chris is a wonderful person . I’m glad he look up to the boys and lilia as his own . His and Landon bond is so special.