One of my recently "flirting" story: I was talking with a handsome guy (from Germany) then I started to flirt I think he didn't understand so I said "I'm trying to flirt with you" he didn't correspond my feelings. Two days later he said "I thought about you and I came to the conclusion that I wanna flirt with you" I was like, wait, WHAT? 😂
Best pickup line I ever received from a girl in a bar: Random Girl: "Do you believe that everyone should have a choice?" Me: "I guess so...". Random Girl: "Then I choose YOU!"
Filming this video took us quite some time (which wasn't anyone's fault though), but it was sooooo much fun! :D Thanks for letting me being a part of this, and thanks to everyone for watching and quite a few kind comments! :)
I don't flirt either... but people tend to think I do... I guess I'm just to much of a sweetheart. Which is a rude awaking to me because I call myself a bitch and so does my family. I am very shy around other people, I guess it might stem from that and miscommunication.
Kris Iglehart in the UK we use the same terms in regards to alcohol, although I have heard also dutch courage not sure of it's origins sorry but will look it up now I'm intrigued 😀
I come from a romantic "warm" culture, but I definitely prefer to date German guys. I love how they take it slow and how they show interest while being respectful. Sometimes they look shy but I find it so cute! :D I don't like the guys who approach/flirt too fast and openly. It comes across being too pushy and shallow and it totally turns me off. We have a saying in my country; The very high fever gets cold very fast as well.
I was once rejected with an email that praised me for being brave enough to put myself out there. That was nice of her, I thought. The only rejection of my life that actually made me feel good instead of worthless.
The day that i felt in love with a friend and after a year of hanging out and spend time together i finally gained courage and decided to speak about my feelings. That's when he told me that he's gay. Today we laugh about it but he was my first heartbreak 😂
Gee, my boyfriend is German (I'm Canadian) but there's no way he'd approach me. He says he's no good at picking up hints when women are flirting but I think he knew and was afraid of stepping wrong, so I just told him straight up I like him but was hesitant to say something since the distance is such a huge problem. If I had waited for him to hit on me.... Gee I'd be waiting forever 😂😂😂
Guess what i will be waiting my whole life or i have to move on lol. He isnt making a move and just keeps on stalking me for literally 1 and half year and no action. 😕😢
I, as an 18 year old German guy, have to admit: I suck at flirting and when I do it, I usually do it without noticing it, which then ends up in one hell of a lot of confusion for everybody involved. And although I am a cuddly bear type of guy (I literally serve that cliche, but more on that later), I am not fit for any kind of serious relationship at the moment. So, here's my latest flirting story: I was at my best friend's birthday party and there was that small, fragile girl I didn't know - but as a cliche cuddle bear this is exactly what floats my boat. So we were smiling at each other before we started a conversation. The first thing we got to talk about was the colour of my beard, since its coppery red matched her hair perfectly - there was that instant ginger connection that established itself. We proceeded by getting a bit more touchy, like, leaning on each other while we got drunker and drunker. It turned out we both were single - which started the hardcore flirting. Full out kissing and fondling on the dance floor, later we really got our groove on. I liked it, the slow build up of romance and the figurative electricity that must have sparked through the whole room. But we both weren't interested in more, which made it a pretty good one-time experience.
You're 18 of course you suck at flirting everyone does when they are young, if you still suck at it when you're 28 you may want to be concerned. And quite frankly you seem a lot better at it at 18 than I were at 28.
As a german myself, I have to admit: I... don't know how to flirt. Whenever I am flirting, it's purely by accident. (Just for the record: I'm 37 years old.) Okay, rejection story time. So: I get a note that someone really likes me and whether or not I felt the same. So I decide to write a note back, saying that yes, I was in favour of dating that girl. Well - my note made the rounds, embarassing me in front of the whole class (sans teacher, who had to arrive yet) and I was the laughing stock. Bonus: the girl this was all about already had a boyfriend. And now you know why I get very nervous if a girl openly shows interest in me - whether it's for a steady relationship or something a lot more... short term, if you catch my drift.
+Larissa Albrecht To be honest, I have moved on. I don't hold a grudge against the people involved in that prank these days. I just think that this situation might be the reason why I am so.. reluctant if a girl beckons me closer.
In my experience, American men are all over the scale. But I am learning Italian and German by talking with native speakers trying to learn English. Italian men tend to start flirting with the first ciao and are typically skilled at it haha. But German guys usually remain serious then surprise me with a random comment or compliment. And the style is quite different. But in general, German men are more respectful...especially on Skype haha. It has been a very interesting experience to say the least!
Sooo I’m Italian and I reeeally liked this German guy. I was really interested and so a friend of both of us made us sit on the same bench while we were talking. So I started talking to him (pretending I didn’t already knew everything about him lol) while flirting and smiling but he was cold as stone with me!! I was determined so I started coming closer and closer to him. At the and we were at the end of the bench cuz he was trying to maintain distance from me while talking because he was super shyT^T (but at the end he became my boyfriend~)
I think the worst was the guy who sat down next to a girl, took out a cigarette and asked "Hi babe. Mind if I smoke?" She said "I don't care if you go up in flames." Then waled away from him.
erstmal liken, dann die Länge des Videos sehen, halb vor Freude ausrasten und dann kapieren, dass das wirklich zu lang ist, um es vor dem eigenen gewissen als "mal eben noch ein kurzes Video vor dem Lernen" durchgehen zu lassen :D Danke, dass du mich zum lernen motivierst, ich nehme deine Videos immer als Belohnung für eine Abi-Einheit :D
I was born of German immigrants in America and occasionally live in Berlin. I'm too American to be German, and I'm too German to be American. So, my problem is that I fail at flirting in both countries. lol So, though I would flirt with you, I'd fail pretty quickly. Haha
//I feel you. I have a lot of German or Italian traditions ingrained in me that people here in the US. The biggest one for me is time. Hot damn you said 5 where are you??
I'm oblivious to flirting. I prefer being direct and having others be direct with me, but also polite :) Rejection Story: I have Eczema (a skin condition, where I get rashes on my hands, arms and torso..etc.) In 4th grade I had a crush on this boy and I confessed it to him. He was nice but eventually got mean and convinced all of 4th grade that I couldn't be touched because I was "infected/diseased". It took a while to learn to live and appreciate my skin .....Yeah, it's pretty horrible lol
Omg what he did to u was terrible. Im happy that u r in a good place of accepting you are beautiful in your own way. Sometimes people talk about us without even knowing how their words could affect us, but its not about us is it? Its about them. What they say about us says a lot about them
Trixi your collab videos with VlogDave and GetGermanized are some of my favorite on your channel. :D There's just a nice friendly atmosphere and more topics to discuss with dialogue, than your usual monologue-style posts, which makes the subject matter flow very pleasantly... and all of you are intelligent and articulate with good senses of humor. Wish these guys lived closer! Hope to see more collabs with them here in the future. :)
Okay, not really a story of being rejected, but it has to do with flirting, so here I go. I was 21 and sang in a choir with three good friends of mine, all female like me and about the same age. One time our choir got invited to a small choir festival in another city, where we got to stay for the weekend. We had one small concert ourselves on Saturday afternoon, but then we could relax and watch all the other choir concerts that were scheduled all over the two days. While being part of the audience, I soon noticed a really hot guy. He had a really pretty face and hair like a lion’s mane. In between two concerts I pointed him out (but very discreetly) to one of my friends, and she agreed that he was very hot. I then asked her to inform me every time she spotted him in the crowd at another concert, so that I could admire him a little bit from afar. She agreed. The guy indeed showed up in the audience at all the concerts and my friend pointed him out to me every time and we had a lot to giggle about like immature school girls. Soon, another friend of mine noticed our strange behaviour and asked us what all the giggling was about, so we let her in on our little game. That turned out to have been a huge mistake, because as soon as we saw the guy again, who stood probably at a distance of four meters away from us, she directly pointed at him and said loudly (and not discreet at all) "there’s that hot guy again!". He turned around and looked at us, so he clearly heard my friend’s comment. Me and friend number one turned around in embarrassment, giggled some more and scolded her for being not discreet at all. That happened Saturday evening, and we still had a Sunday full of concerts to listen to in front of us. And of course the hot guy came to all of them as well, so that we looked like the worst stalkers for the rest of the weekend. But that’s not the end of the story. Some months later, I started to study at university in the city were that choir festival had been and moved there. On the first days of university I remembered the incident and hoped that the hot guy wouldn’t turn up as a student because he would think of me as an even bigger creep and stalker. The first two weeks I didn’t spot him and everything seemed to be calm. But one afternoon after university during the third week he came up the street I was going down. I spotted him first and thought to myself: "Oh shit, that’s him. Let’s just ignore each other like we have never seen each other before and hope he doesn’t recognize me." So we kept on walking towards each other, but as soon as he spotted me, he immediately turned around in a 180° no scope and hurried away in the other direction. I had not seen that reaction coming and nearly burst out into laughter on the spot, but I held back and instead grinned like a lunatic for the next ten minutes. That’s the whole story, I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoy telling it every now and then :D
I am American and I made friends with a German from saxony a few years ago . We got allot in common interest wise . He chats with me on skype all the time and we share music we like . He don’t go a few days without reaching out which no one else does that soon. I told him I liked him and what he thought about me . He basically said I was average looking but was worried my feelings be hurt . So I get a message from him checking on me the next day . It created some fight for a week or so but I got over it . He said he liked me but didn’t know if it was love till he met me . So I let it go and we was good friends again for a year or so . I came to Germany to visit him for two weeks . He let me have his bed to sleep on while he slept on the couch and cooked me dinner . I wasn’t used to someone being so thoughtful I told him. He refused to let me pay for gas but I paid for some food or tours . I tried to snuggle with him like lay on him while watching tv . He was so stiff and didn’t look in my direction . He only said it was too hot since it’s July to snuggle it’s better in winter lmao. So much honesty lol. Americans sugar coat or try to make excuses so it’s always a game of figuring out the deeper meaning . Told me he didn’t have a crush on me like I did him and that when he seen me in person he thought not too bad . I guess I am attractive now lol. He asked me to be his companion and live with him skip the dating lovey phase . I thought that was strange cause to me a companion is a close friend . I felt he was asking me for friends with benefits . Then on the other hand he’s kind to me but doesn’t like to verbally give compliments. Not sure to trust or how to take him?
I think it's true that men and women from the same country don't have that bubbly connection to another, as the two share the same cultures and norms, making everything so stiff and unnatural. On another hand, a LDR or a foreign relationship does the contrary, as both have barely scratched the surface of the opposite culture. This in which makes a greater learning curve and appreciation to the other half, that would make better ties and bonds in that relationship. In the end of the day, it also comes down to personality of the individuals. P.S. Fantastic video Trixie!
Yeah in germany alot of stuff is visualized or described in a funny way when you translate it, but in germany were just used to do it from time to time. Myself i really like choice of words ^-^
That's interesting. I've heard "red as a tomato" used in English (in America) but not a great deal. I wonder if we inherited it from German speakers or if it is just a natural expression for people who get visibly really red when blushing and have enough contact with tomatoes to easily draw the comparison. We also have a saying about being "beet red" which can also apply. Both comments can be used when describing a sunburn too. :-D
To the guy with the cap: Guys like you are treasure! Kind, caring, reliable, polite, sweet. What more a girl might possibly want?! Redefine your perspective on your caring personality as an obstacle toward a relationship. It certainly is not. You just hadn't had met the right girl.
It's not "it's the guys thing"... I saw many handsome German guys on the train and stations but I'm just afraid if they refuse me, like, everyone else around will see it and that would be embarrasing for me. So I never make the first move :(
Sally Mercury I (as a german girl myself) am sure that they won't embarras you if they are the normal german guy, just the total idiots who aren't worth flirting do that
It is very simple, first you doneye contact, approach the guy and give him a smile. If he doesn't smile back ask him something, thank him and that't that. But if he does smile back ask him something random, and then ask for his number. In case you have more questions... of course 😉. If you are proper and polite, there is no way they can embarras you.
I've never dated a German girl but there was one time in a bar in Koblenz. I was with a few of my friends who were all there to start a bicycle tour the next day. We were leaving the next morning on our barge/hotel to head to Andernach where the bike tour began. Anyway so we found a nice little kneipe just within stumbling distance from the barge and went there for a few beers the last evening. As we were sitting there I'd glance to my left and across the little bar, maybe 25 feet away or so was a girl sitting with another girl. I caught her looking my way several times and started looking back her way some. It was flirting for sure. I was trying to figure out what she was drinking and send one to her but she kept getting in her order before I could flag down the barmaid. I figured hey, I'm gone the next morning anyway so what's to lose. But it made the evening fun to flirt with this pretty girl who I never met. Great video Trixie ... you have an awesome and wicked sense of humor! :-D
Aww, this video is so cute. 😊 9:10 Tasks during dating and relationships: They should corespond to whatever the other person needs or makes them feel comforatable. Kindness to the individual should trump shows of traditional gestures. In practice I'm sure it's more difficult to figure out, lol.
Good Video, I had never heard of Vlog Dave before....I joined and he has the best radio broadcasting voice . You other 2 guys I have listened to for years.
I would probably be the weirdest guy at a non-Swedish workplace, just going to everyone asking them out to coffee. Everyone's all like, "He *really* wants to get into someone's pants and doesn't care whose pants it is", while I'm just, "COFFEE IS AWESOME, WHO WANTS IN!?".
In general, I've never been that good at flirting. I've always been very self-conscious, and didn't want to accidentally say something that could be misinterpreted as sexual harassment (high functioning Aspie). Having been bullied growing up, if some cute girl seemed interested in me, I would write it off as her just pitying me (I mistakenly turned down a dance with a crush who was legitimately attracted to me in year 8). I also often just felt that it could just be my classmates (all boys school) playing a prank on me, because they had done such in the past). Even now, (I'm 32 year old illustrator who's just now changing to a more sustainable job) I've been too embarrassed about being stuck living at home and with little pay to be that eager about asking anyone out. My therapist suggests online dating, but my messages tend to be abrupt conversation enders. Sometimes, I hear from someone online, and we may go on 1 or 2 dates, but if I'm not feeling that things are compatible, I try explaining why she and I wouldn't work out. There are some times that I may be too bad with signals to understand that someone's flirting, or too flustered to respond before she's walking away. I hope things go better after I start my internship at a hospital, or even a non-retail job. I may be able to meet someone online, or at a small concert, or at the supermarket, and feel good enough about my personal life to not mess up.
From a German girl perspective: I think it depends a lot on where you are. If someone approaches to me on my way from work to home or to the supermarket, the best reaction they can hope for is a decent smile and me rushing away. More likely I'm just snarling "go away" or whatever, because I'm busy and really not in the mood for social interaction. Of course that's just my opinion and my experience but I know from a few friends that at least in their everyday life they aren't really open to any kind of flirt, too. A better situation to find someone would be at some kind of event, may it be a birthday party, a convention or something on a holiday like a large New Year's Eve party. (Sure, there are probably many people you already know but at a certain ammount of people there might be the friend who brought a friend...) It's a more relaxed situation where you are open to meet new people for whatever reasons and where even Germans might be a bit more talkative. Almost all relationships I had started this way. Of course, this doesn't help you if the cute girl you just saw is not on these events. So, you see someone German in the subway train or the bus who is really cute and who you like to get to know better? Too bad! :D Maybe you can hand over a business card or something with your number if you manage to look not like a creep?
this happened to me, I am rushing on the way to the Bürgeramt for my appointment to get my drivers license and someone is trying to flirt with me and talk to me about the band logo on my handbag. I am snarling go away and run off. You should observe the person, their body language and their surroundings before approaching them.
I guess it is just what you think or the tradition you grew up with. It is fine to meet someone anywhere. If you are not interested simply say no. The only reason you are/were not interested was because that guy wasn’t your type.What if the guy approaches you on your way to supermarket is Joe Manganiello?:) That would definitely change your mood
I see your point. Germans have a sense of feeling ridiculous in public. It is not strange at all. Personally, I always give men the chance to do the first approach. No matter how much I may like a guy, I remain quiet. Probably smiling and staring...but waiting for them.
This video felt sincere which may provide a suggestion hidden in plain view. In my experience, sincerity is the most important element in approaching anyone of interest. I've found that it can be less stressful and disappointing if you remain aware of the degree to which you sincerely disclose your feelings. Reference the reaction of the other person to help you determine how much or how little sincere disclosure he/she is able to accept at any one time. Avoid modeling his/her reactions for days, weeks or months in preparation for or often protection from rejection. If you expect someone to be gentle with your feelings; be gentle with their feelings. Approaching someone with a disclosure of an emotion as strong as love can be very intimidating if you choose not to prepare them with gentle expressions of affection over time.
Hi, speaking from experience, German men are more shy compared to other countries. But i suppose one did something right as we are getting married next year. :) that being said, i wouldn't mind flirting with Trixi though.
woah you and i are very lucky isuppose because what ii know my boyfriend is the shyest cutest german i have ever met he really never stops smiling so Congratulation! Cheers to shy Germans.
I Just had one experience where a german took the first step, and that was i think because he was in México my country, and i also enjoy be the one Who show interest... My next boyfriend also german, he was very calm and show me so a gentleman behaviour and later with more confidence just kissed me and it was one of the most beautiful moments... I love confidence men
I've had 2 guys ask me out. One in 11th grade and one in college... though I wasn't sure if they were interested in me in *that* way or if they just wanted to hang out. 'Cause obviously, if a same-gender acquaintance/friend from school invited you to a movie night you wouldn't assume they wanted "more" than just friendship, right? But how do I know if it's an actual date they ask me out on or if it's just a friendship thing? Was I wrong to assume these 2 guys were romantically interested in me? I never asked and never dared to ask either. I'm extremely shy. I just made excuses because I didn't want to accidentally find myself in a date with a guy, lol. I'm a lesbian, but, like I said, I didn't want to go: "No, sorry, I don't want us to have a movie night. I'm a lesbian." because that would imply that I thought they wanted a date and it would have been extremely awkward if they weren't actually asking me out romantically. :O
PotterheadGeek7 It's kind of strange that you think the video addressed the situation you described. They were talking about approaching people that you had a romantic interest in. In your case this would be your experiences with other women. Why linger on people that couldn''t. in a very basic way, be potential romantic partners?
I've never flirted (honestly don't know how to do it, probably couldn't flirt to save my life) and I don't think anyone ever flirted with me. Then again, my experiences are very limited when it comes to ANY human interaction since I'm extremely introverted, hardly ever go out and do my best to avoid people. If a guy tried to approach me to ask me out I'm afraid I would most likely just panic and be extremely uncomfortable and not know what to do. Which is an issue - even if I were interested in someone and maybe wanted to go out with him, I would be utterly clueless and awkward and constantly feeling like I was on the verge of having a heart attack. I don't handle unfamiliar situations very well...
My rejection story takes place over about half a year. I was really into this girl, and I tried my best to get together with her. She had issues with turning me down properly, though, and so she unintentionally led me on. She was scared of hurting me, and I was blinded by affection. I didn't get that she wasn't into me until she got a legit boyfriend, at which point I felt betrayed and all that jazz. A few months later we started going to the same school, and I forgave her for what happened, and we became friends. She is currently my best female friend, and together we have managed to grow out of many of the issues we had back when I was into her. I am less clingy and dramatic, and she is a little more forward and confident. So the rejection was definitely for the best. We are perfect friends for eachother, but we have found ourselves romantic partners better suited for us. Moral of the story: Not all rejections are bad. My success story actually barely involves flirting. I had been added to a chat group for a nerdy friend group, and I only knew one person in it. She was promptly kicked from the group after I was added, since she kept adding people without the rest of the group's consent. Luckily, I managed to make friends quickly enough not to get kicked. Fast forward 3 months, and many of us in the group have started playing DC Universe online. We were usually 5 people playing at a time. Now, one of the people playing was one of the girls in the group. She and I started playing together without the others at some point, and just talked and had fun. Fast forward one month, and I sent her a drunken text clumsily confessing my feelings for her during a pre-yuletide holiday party I threw. The next day, she said that she was into me too, and we got together. Note that we hadn't met in real life yet. That happened two weeks later. We met the first time a year and a half ago, give or take a few days. We're still together, and things are going well. I did say that this was a success story, after all. Moral of this story: You don't have to flirt to get a girl if you game together. Your experience may vary. I was just lucky. And to make this a trilogy, I'll tell the story of my first serious relationship. Now, I am a Norwegian lad, and I had managed to get together with a Scottish girl. The cultural differences were not very large, but enough that we remained exotic to one another. There is not much to tell beyond that, since I backed out when I found out that she was emotionally unstable and even more clingy than I was (This happened before my rejection story). The breakup was messy, but I got over it quickly. About a year later, I met the girl from the rejection story for the first time. Moral of the story: I don't know. I was bad at relationships? I hope you enjoyed me spilling my relationship history with you all. I honestly could have cut this way shorter, but when I realised that, I was half done already, and I didn't want to waste all this text.
Awww! "Geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid" - I love that phrase in German! I first heard it many years ago, it's in one of my favorite KMFDM songs, Leid und Elend. As for flirting with Germans, I found in my visits that it's as easy or hard as it is in any country, with anyone. Germans want companionship and affection the same as everybody else
Ich musste jetzt erst eine Weile überlegen, wie ich es auf Englisch beschreiben soll und habe mich jetzt doch für Deutsch entschieden. Meiner Erfahrung nach variiert das Flirtverhalten von Stadt zu Stadt. Ich komme ursprünglich aus Regensburg und da flirtet kaum jemand offensiv, ausser er ist betrunken oder kein gebürtiger Bayer ;) (Ausser man hat sich vorher online kennen gelernt und trifft sich dann). In Nürnberg, knapp 100 km weiter, sind die Männer weitaus offener, selbstbewusster und trauen sich daher auch öfter, den 1. Schritt zu machen. Seit letztem Jahr wohne ich jetzt in Hamburg und entgegen jeglicher Erwartung (die "kühlen, distanzierten und wortkargen Nordlichter") werde ich hier so häufig angeflirtet, wie noch nie. Eine interessante Geschichte über eine Abfuhr hab ich nicht, allerdings über einen Anmachspruch, an den ich mich wahrscheinlich noch mit 100 erinnern werde: Ich war einkaufen und stand vor dem Katzenfutter, da kam der Typ an und fragte: "Hey Mieze, suchste nen Kater?" Damals war ich 15. Dave hat ne tolle Ausstrahlung, sieht gut aus und hat nen guten Musikgeschmack - ich würde dich daten ;) Alles in allem: tolles Video!
I’ve have a girl look at me a lot in a pool and I’m really subconscious about approaching her in a pool with little clothes but I’m 90% sure he likes me but I’m hesitant to approach a German girl in that environment, any suggestions?
3:34 That " *yeah* " was much deeper than a simple 'recognition'. :( There lies a huge suffering beneath that one syllable 'yeah', when you pair it with that tone of voice/facial expression combo. (Someone's been walking around with a huge, imaginary *black dog* for a very long time.)
Sad to say, the rejection story from my past was one in which I did the rejecting. It was so sad. The guy and I were friends of a few years; he'd been to my home for a dinner party or two, we went to the same church. One night we were driving along the coast (we lived near it) and he said let's stop to look. I was so dense, how did I not recognize the obvious move that is?! Let's stop to look at the sea and the stars is a classic move! So, when we were out of the car, he put his arm around me and I leapt away. Oh, sorry! It was just instinct; I wasn't interested in him romantically and I didn't want his arm around me. I said so, later, I wasn't interested in him "that way" and he said, very dryly, "That was clear." I still cringe at the memory.
My rejection story from long time ago: I talked to a guy online for a really long time. We always chatted on ICQ (whew, that really is a long time ago XD ) and we always had a great connection. We talked about everything and were there for each other and we also talked about meeting some time... On one point it was possible to meet because I went to a big city near his home and thought "Hey, maybe we can meet up and talk to each other in person for the first time!" - just that evening as I wanted to tell him about the great news, we both started with "I have to tell you sth!!" - just like the movies :D I politely said "You go first, what's up?" and then he proceeded to tell me he just found a girlfriend the other day and they are meeting up to go to the movies or stuff in a few minutes and that he is soooo happy... Wow... That was like a slap in the face but well... I guess looking back it wouldn't have worked out so it's good that it went that way... But of course I was really sad and after that evening our friendship wasn't the same anymore because he always hung out with his new gf and I was not interesting anymore ._____.'''
Hey Isabel, thanks for saying such a kind thing! I'm sure we will make many more videos together in the future! Trixi and Vuko are really cool people, and it's a pleasure to have them both as fellow TH-camrs and friends alike! :)
She gave the best and the only good advice as to how to approach any woman as a man (even if what she explained is how she would approach a man). Do exactly that and be honest about you liking her straight up as she said and if she is fine with that, invite her to get to know each other more. Strong eye contact is super recommended, as if you are looking at your own girlfriend that you already love and adore. Don't do the "cutest smile" though, just a happy honest one and don't hesitate by asking her if she is occupied, invite her to join you and let her tell you if she is occupied or not and act accordingly (occupied means phone number and another time, not occupied means date her right there over the coffee shop or right there in the park/coffee/bar/etc).
Worst rejection story: I met a really handsome and nice guy, let's call him Ryan. Ryan and I decided to go out to this club for a show, but before we would have a drink at his place. He showed me around his place and we had a nice conversation about our mutual interests, like Veganism and languages. We walked over to the club because his house was luckily walking distance. We got there and the show was close to ending, but we still hung around and had some drinks in the back patio, danced on the dance floor, and headed back to his place, holding hands. When we got back there, I was like "well this was a fun night!" And he said "want to have another drink?" So I did and we went to his bedroom where we finished the drink and got really naked, took a shower together, and banged like rabbits for a few hours. Then we woke up, got dressed, and went to a quaint little vegan bakery/café, had breakfast and coffee, and chatted about our families. When we left the coffee shop, I asked, "We should plan for another date" And he said, "I already have a boyfriend".
I love your channels ❤I knew Dominik first, Dave right after and then Trixie. I love your videos. ...I learn a lot about German culture with you, guys. Thank you for the videos ❤
As a half korean half german who lives in america i found it a bit hard to find my significant other as i am very shy. Being shy makes me very hesitant to talk to people and the only reason i have a boyfriend was because my very good friend blurted out that i liked my (now boyfriend). I have liked him since the seventh grade and he was oblivious to it. And unlike a stereotypical german he is also shy so when my friend basically told him i was beyond red and he just smiled and shyly ran away. But the next day he asked me out so it all worked out am i right? (it's been 5 years 💖💗)
Dudes! I'm middle aged and nearly 25 years married. We are both American. Marriage is enough work with a shared language and culture! My eyes are just opening wider and wider at your joy in having an additional element to "spice up" the relationship. Well, to each his own, no? And I know marriages between cultures do work for many couples. Well. You aren't discussing marriage.
This is not just social norms. Women generally are more in demand and men less so. So naturally, a girl doesn't have the pressure to approach someone, because she will still get approached by someone acceptable, whereas men risk not getting anywhere if they don't approach at all.
You never had a German boyfriend? That's highly unusual! In my experience, Germans tend to date seriously in their own gene-pool, but that's true for other ethnicities as well. Looking forward to the day, where skin color and "culture" won't matter anymore. Might take a couple centuries though.
Hey guys, pick-up lines work well! It is not what you say, it is the way you say it!! One day i was buying an ice cream and just asked this girl what flavor was her icecream, after a short small talk I asked "Do you like long romantic walks? because I don't have a car..." she laughed and at the end she gave me her number and got into dates... Also in a halloween party at a friend's house there were these 2 girls with the half face painted as a skull (yeah typical) and I sat next to one and i said "are you a zombie? - she said NO - then I said ok, if you were a zombie i would let you eat me" she laughed and then again... Anyway, I would say that German girls are a little bit confusing, I am living in Munich and only have dated 2 German girls for very short time... the other ones have been foreigners (which are way more open and easygoing). I am not german though...
Once In 5th grade I was in love with a guy. I talked about that with a "friend" of mine and she immediately ran to him and told him. She actually came to me like "lol I just told him you like him" (fake friend bitch). Well one day he actually confronted me and asked me if that was true and I was so nervous and embarrassed I didn't know what to say so I kind of stuttered something like "we'll yes... I don't know yeah..." we even had the same way home and would usually walk together. That day we didn't talk after he asked. The next day we kind of acted as if it never happend and just walked home as usual, but as our ways parted he gave me a letter and told me not to open it until I got home. So I ran home, opened the letter and it said something like "dear Jasmin I'm glad that you like me I like you to" and I think "pleas don't show it to anyone" it was written in read and I think it had hearts on it. So i became really excited and happy and showed it to my mum but she immediately was like "no that's not real that's obviously a girls handwriting they are trying to fool you" and her concernes weren't that far fetched because the hand writing really looked girlish and I was the main bullying victim in my class back then (and something like fake love letters actually happened to another class mate) so I became really sad and thought to my self that she was right... Result was I never talked to him about his letter. I think I didn't even talk to him again. But later that year I got my hand on one of his school notes and it was INDEED his hand writing! Well I guess I was just to scared of beeing fooled because actually my class mates used to make fun of me almost every day and I thought this can't be a real love letter... Welp who knows how this would've turned out
a very nice video and useful .... i think one more question to be added to this subject would make it much better such as " Where to do that" Thanks for the videos i like them all
I think there is a selection bias with foreigners regardless of the country you are in. If you go to another country, you are probably more adventurous and willing to take risks and therefore easier to approach.
Michael Juliano I think this is the likeliest answer. You become a more confident version of yourself (out of necessity), and likewise are the people you meet more open to new interactions.
I have German friend. A trusted person introduced his email to me. I emailed him first and we email back and forth Dor almost 2 years now. I like him because he is polite, respectful with words but I don't know if he likes me too.
As an American who has lived in Germany twice. I love the German directness. It's yes or no and I admire that thoroughly. In America, there's a lot of games and maybe's which I absolutely hate. There's also a lot of people that believe that the next best thing is right around the corner so they don't want to commit. Sure we can go out but... But... I want to keep my options open in case I can get someone just a little bit better than you.
One of my recently "flirting" story: I was talking with a handsome guy (from Germany) then I started to flirt I think he didn't understand so I said "I'm trying to flirt with you" he didn't correspond my feelings. Two days later he said "I thought about you and I came to the conclusion that I wanna flirt with you" I was like, wait, WHAT? 😂
This is the most German thing I've ever heard 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm on the floor!
Omg that's actually adorable
😂😂😂😂😂 soooo cuuuuteeee
Wait, what's funny about that?
Lol.
Best pickup line I ever received from a girl in a bar: Random Girl: "Do you believe that everyone should have a choice?" Me: "I guess so...". Random Girl: "Then I choose YOU!"
That would work more often than not in some backwoods pubs near where I used to live....most likely 5 minutes before closing time!
ᚠᛟᛚᛚᚲᛟᚱᚾ ᚹᚨᛗᛈᛁᚱ After hanging out with her for a few minutes I passed her on to my buddy. Wasn't my type, but she got props for her boldness!
@@Kirigirnz I chose you, Pikaaaaachuuuuuu!
You are the Pokémon!
Filming this video took us quite some time (which wasn't anyone's fault though), but it was sooooo much fun! :D
Thanks for letting me being a part of this, and thanks to everyone for watching and quite a few kind comments! :)
I never had any rejection stories, but that is because in the almost eightteen years of my life I never flirted with anyone.
I'm 22 and sameee. :O
Spawn of Death *points to forehead*
I don't flirt either... but people tend to think I do... I guess I'm just to much of a sweetheart. Which is a rude awaking to me because I call myself a bitch and so does my family. I am very shy around other people, I guess it might stem from that and miscommunication.
SAD
im 26 i won. supremest gentleman on the block
here in the States, A little alcohol is known as "liquid courage". a lot of alcohol is called "stupidity".
Da steckt viel Wahrheit drin!
Kris Iglehart in the UK we use the same terms in regards to alcohol, although I have heard also dutch courage not sure of it's origins sorry but will look it up now I'm intrigued 😀
Is there a German phrase for "beer goggles" when you've had enough booze to alter your view of who you are looking at?
"Jemanden schön trinken" to drink enough so the other person becomes beautiful..@@suelily4281
Watching this was such a good time :'D Thank you for that! I forgot half of the stuff that we said and it's hilarious :D
Haha thank you, I also rewatched the outtakes like 10 times, laughing over and over again. :D
I'm doing that as well right now xD
Same, it's hilarious! :D
DontTrustTheRabbit would a German woman date an American man?
Both you guys are super attractive... I don't see girls rejecting you...😉
I come from a romantic "warm" culture, but I definitely prefer to date German guys.
I love how they take it slow and how they show interest while being respectful. Sometimes they look shy but I find it so cute! :D
I don't like the guys who approach/flirt too fast and openly. It comes across being too pushy and shallow and it totally turns me off.
We have a saying in my country; The very high fever gets cold very fast as well.
I like that phrase. And agree. Which country are you from?
Some guys are shallow and disrespectful.
M Wintersweet believe me. The most german men are only nice because they want sex
+KrankesFujoshi
A wise man once said 2/3rds of everything anyone does is because they want sex.
Which country? Where are u from?
I was once rejected with an email that praised me for being brave enough to put myself out there. That was nice of her, I thought. The only rejection of my life that actually made me feel good instead of worthless.
Ok Nich so schlecht, ich habe jetzt meine Freundin usw aber bin ne laufende Verlustangst
The day that i felt in love with a friend and after a year of hanging out and spend time together i finally gained courage and decided to speak about my feelings. That's when he told me that he's gay. Today we laugh about it but he was my first heartbreak 😂
Nana _ Sachi ouch!!!!
Awwwww ❤
Do germans flirt?
Never, ever.
From an italan
oh lol im only half german but i don't flirt because first im in a relationship and second im awkward and shy so that doesn't
Probably true.
From a German 😂
Gee, my boyfriend is German (I'm Canadian) but there's no way he'd approach me. He says he's no good at picking up hints when women are flirting but I think he knew and was afraid of stepping wrong, so I just told him straight up I like him but was hesitant to say something since the distance is such a huge problem.
If I had waited for him to hit on me.... Gee I'd be waiting forever 😂😂😂
😂
Guess what i will be waiting my whole life or i have to move on lol. He isnt making a move and just keeps on stalking me for literally 1 and half year and no action. 😕😢
Me too 😂 is common among them
I, as an 18 year old German guy, have to admit: I suck at flirting and when I do it, I usually do it without noticing it, which then ends up in one hell of a lot of confusion for everybody involved. And although I am a cuddly bear type of guy (I literally serve that cliche, but more on that later), I am not fit for any kind of serious relationship at the moment.
So, here's my latest flirting story: I was at my best friend's birthday party and there was that small, fragile girl I didn't know - but as a cliche cuddle bear this is exactly what floats my boat.
So we were smiling at each other before we started a conversation. The first thing we got to talk about was the colour of my beard, since its coppery red matched her hair perfectly - there was that instant ginger connection that established itself. We proceeded by getting a bit more touchy, like, leaning on each other while we got drunker and drunker. It turned out we both were single - which started the hardcore flirting. Full out kissing and fondling on the dance floor, later we really got our groove on. I liked it, the slow build up of romance and the figurative electricity that must have sparked through the whole room. But we both weren't interested in more, which made it a pretty good one-time experience.
You're 18 of course you suck at flirting everyone does when they are young, if you still suck at it when you're 28 you may want to be concerned.
And quite frankly you seem a lot better at it at 18 than I were at 28.
So cute
Loved this video guys!
I've been with my wife for 17 years. It started by me saying "Can I have you?". I think I got lucky.
It's like:Can I sleep with U?
As a german myself, I have to admit: I... don't know how to flirt. Whenever I am flirting, it's purely by accident. (Just for the record: I'm 37 years old.)
Okay, rejection story time. So: I get a note that someone really likes me and whether or not I felt the same. So I decide to write a note back, saying that yes, I was in favour of dating that girl. Well - my note made the rounds, embarassing me in front of the whole class (sans teacher, who had to arrive yet) and I was the laughing stock. Bonus: the girl this was all about already had a boyfriend.
And now you know why I get very nervous if a girl openly shows interest in me - whether it's for a steady relationship or something a lot more... short term, if you catch my drift.
That's not you really getting rejected though, that was more like a prank.
+Larissa Albrecht To be honest, I have moved on. I don't hold a grudge against the people involved in that prank these days. I just think that this situation might be the reason why I am so.. reluctant if a girl beckons me closer.
I have a feeling that most people don't know how to flirt. I know I don't.
Don't worry, nobody would be stupid enough to try that crap on you as an adult. They'd get eaten alive.
You should be more of a man and not feel emberessed for liking girls.... I would just joke about the whole situation
If you're trying to flirt, do _not_ have _this_ conversation:
"Skis, huh?"
"Yep."
"They yours?"
"Yep."
"Both of 'em?"
"Nah, I stole the left one from that guy over there"
😂😂😂
😂🤣 Dumb and Dumber classic line
In my experience, American men are all over the scale. But I am learning Italian and German by talking with native speakers trying to learn English. Italian men tend to start flirting with the first ciao and are typically skilled at it haha. But German guys usually remain serious then surprise me with a random comment or compliment. And the style is quite different. But in general, German men are more respectful...especially on Skype haha. It has been a very interesting experience to say the least!
I feel sooo related to the random compliments u talk about hahaha
Sooo I’m Italian and I reeeally liked this German guy. I was really interested and so a friend of both of us made us sit on the same bench while we were talking.
So I started talking to him (pretending I didn’t already knew everything about him lol) while flirting and smiling but he was cold as stone with me!! I was determined so I started coming closer and closer to him. At the and we were at the end of the bench cuz he was trying to maintain distance from me while talking because he was super shyT^T (but at the end he became my boyfriend~)
Worst pick up line ever : "If you're here then who's running heaven ?"
Ron 'My father... he's dead'.
Oh, if someone want to make me a goddess, that's fine, even though I'm not particularly religious :D Does it work for die-hard atheists, though?
I think the worst was the guy who sat down next to a girl, took out a cigarette and asked "Hi babe. Mind if I smoke?"
She said "I don't care if you go up in flames." Then waled away from him.
if u're here then who's running the hell?
LMAO
erstmal liken, dann die Länge des Videos sehen, halb vor Freude ausrasten und dann kapieren, dass das wirklich zu lang ist, um es vor dem eigenen gewissen als "mal eben noch ein kurzes Video vor dem Lernen" durchgehen zu lassen :D
Danke, dass du mich zum lernen motivierst, ich nehme deine Videos immer als Belohnung für eine Abi-Einheit :D
Hehehe, das freut mich. Alles Gute für's Abi, ich erinnere mich auch noch gut an die Zeit. :)
I love german accent when you are talking in english.I really appreciate it,you are just sublime and hilarous people.
Trixie is so quirky and has a genuine, introvert personality! Cuteness overload!
Ich bin ja komisches Fall bin ja quasi introvertiert aber für Leute die ich schon kenne und Schätze würde ich eig allet machen
I was born of German immigrants in America and occasionally live in Berlin. I'm too American to be German, and I'm too German to be American. So, my problem is that I fail at flirting in both countries. lol So, though I would flirt with you, I'd fail pretty quickly. Haha
Krisfit138 be more german in usa and more american in germany, it will work like a hot damn! :)
Krisfit138 yup, as a girl, I can confirm, chicks dig foreigners . So it's actually a bless, you are like a double sided tape :)
//I feel you. I have a lot of German or Italian traditions ingrained in me that people here in the US. The biggest one for me is time. Hot damn you said 5 where are you??
As a half German born and raised in Sweden I know what you mean.
@@DaDunge woww . Wunderbar .you have many mix culture 🤩
I'm oblivious to flirting. I prefer being direct and having others be direct with me, but also polite :)
Rejection Story: I have Eczema (a skin condition, where I get rashes on my hands, arms and torso..etc.) In 4th grade I had a crush on this boy and I confessed it to him. He was nice but eventually got mean and convinced all of 4th grade that I couldn't be touched because I was "infected/diseased". It took a while to learn to live and appreciate my skin .....Yeah, it's pretty horrible lol
I hage the feeling you are beautiful.
Omg what he did to u was terrible. Im happy that u r in a good place of accepting you are beautiful in your own way. Sometimes people talk about us without even knowing how their words could affect us, but its not about us is it? Its about them. What they say about us says a lot about them
Trixi your collab videos with VlogDave and GetGermanized are some of my favorite on your channel. :D
There's just a nice friendly atmosphere and more topics to discuss with dialogue, than your usual monologue-style posts, which makes the subject matter flow very pleasantly... and all of you are intelligent and articulate with good senses of humor.
Wish these guys lived closer! Hope to see more collabs with them here in the future. :)
Okay, not really a story of being rejected, but it has to do with flirting, so here I go.
I was 21 and sang in a choir with three good friends of mine, all female like me and about the same age. One time our choir got invited to a small choir festival in another city, where we got to stay for the weekend. We had one small concert ourselves on Saturday afternoon, but then we could relax and watch all the other choir concerts that were scheduled all over the two days.
While being part of the audience, I soon noticed a really hot guy. He had a really pretty face and hair like a lion’s mane. In between two concerts I pointed him out (but very discreetly) to one of my friends, and she agreed that he was very hot. I then asked her to inform me every time she spotted him in the crowd at another concert, so that I could admire him a little bit from afar. She agreed.
The guy indeed showed up in the audience at all the concerts and my friend pointed him out to me every time and we had a lot to giggle about like immature school girls. Soon, another friend of mine noticed our strange behaviour and asked us what all the giggling was about, so we let her in on our little game.
That turned out to have been a huge mistake, because as soon as we saw the guy again, who stood probably at a distance of four meters away from us, she directly pointed at him and said loudly (and not discreet at all) "there’s that hot guy again!". He turned around and looked at us, so he clearly heard my friend’s comment. Me and friend number one turned around in embarrassment, giggled some more and scolded her for being not discreet at all.
That happened Saturday evening, and we still had a Sunday full of concerts to listen to in front of us. And of course the hot guy came to all of them as well, so that we looked like the worst stalkers for the rest of the weekend. But that’s not the end of the story.
Some months later, I started to study at university in the city were that choir festival had been and moved there. On the first days of university I remembered the incident and hoped that the hot guy wouldn’t turn up as a student because he would think of me as an even bigger creep and stalker. The first two weeks I didn’t spot him and everything seemed to be calm.
But one afternoon after university during the third week he came up the street I was going down. I spotted him first and thought to myself: "Oh shit, that’s him. Let’s just ignore each other like we have never seen each other before and hope he doesn’t recognize me." So we kept on walking towards each other, but as soon as he spotted me, he immediately turned around in a 180° no scope and hurried away in the other direction.
I had not seen that reaction coming and nearly burst out into laughter on the spot, but I held back and instead grinned like a lunatic for the next ten minutes.
That’s the whole story, I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoy telling it every now and then :D
I am American and I made friends with a German from saxony a few years ago . We got allot in common interest wise . He chats with me on skype all the time and we share music we like . He don’t go a few days without reaching out which no one else does that soon. I told him I liked him and what he thought about me . He basically said I was average looking but was worried my feelings be hurt . So I get a message from him checking on me the next day . It created some fight for a week or so but I got over it . He said he liked me but didn’t know if it was love till he met me . So I let it go and we was good friends again for a year or so . I came to Germany to visit him for two weeks . He let me have his bed to sleep on while he slept on the couch and cooked me dinner . I wasn’t used to someone being so thoughtful I told him. He refused to let me pay for gas but I paid for some food or tours . I tried to snuggle with him like lay on him while watching tv . He was so stiff and didn’t look in my direction . He only said it was too hot since it’s July to snuggle it’s better in winter lmao. So much honesty lol. Americans sugar coat or try to make excuses so it’s always a game of figuring out the deeper meaning . Told me he didn’t have a crush on me like I did him and that when he seen me in person he thought not too bad . I guess I am attractive now lol. He asked me to be his companion and live with him skip the dating lovey phase . I thought that was strange cause to me a companion is a close friend . I felt he was asking me for friends with benefits . Then on the other hand he’s kind to me but doesn’t like to verbally give compliments. Not sure to trust or how to take him?
They say that when germans try to compliment a person they say " not too bad" lol. This is a cute story!
I think it's true that men and women from the same country don't have that bubbly connection to another, as the two share the same cultures and norms, making everything so stiff and unnatural.
On another hand, a LDR or a foreign relationship does the contrary, as both have barely scratched the surface of the opposite culture. This in which makes a greater learning curve and appreciation to the other half, that would make better ties and bonds in that relationship.
In the end of the day, it also comes down to personality of the individuals.
P.S. Fantastic video Trixie!
Did Trixie say she regularly got "friend zoned"? WTH?
I call fake news hahaha
Red as a tomato 🍅, I love how you visualize when describing emotions :)
Mr. S That's an expression in german, so not her spontaneous creation just literally translated from german.
Mr. S Maybe he means the germans with "you"
Yeah in germany alot of stuff is visualized or described in a funny way when you translate it, but in germany were just used to do it from time to time.
Myself i really like choice of words ^-^
Good point!
That's interesting. I've heard "red as a tomato" used in English (in America) but not a great deal. I wonder if we inherited it from German speakers or if it is just a natural expression for people who get visibly really red when blushing and have enough contact with tomatoes to easily draw the comparison.
We also have a saying about being "beet red" which can also apply. Both comments can be used when describing a sunburn too. :-D
To the guy with the cap: Guys like you are treasure! Kind, caring, reliable, polite, sweet. What more a girl might possibly want?! Redefine your perspective on your caring personality as an obstacle toward a relationship. It certainly is not. You just hadn't had met the right girl.
It's not "it's the guys thing"... I saw many handsome German guys on the train and stations but I'm just afraid if they refuse me, like, everyone else around will see it and that would be embarrasing for me. So I never make the first move :(
Sally Mercury I (as a german girl myself) am sure that they won't embarras you if they are the normal german guy, just the total idiots who aren't worth flirting do that
Sally Mercury just don't try cheesy pick up lines. A nice 'hi' and a introduction (or asking how they are ) will do it
lol thats what guys have to go through all the time.. or do you think guys just give a fuck about being rejected?
A vicious cycle...
It is very simple, first you doneye contact, approach the guy and give him a smile. If he doesn't smile back ask him something, thank him and that't that. But if he does smile back ask him something random, and then ask for his number. In case you have more questions... of course 😉. If you are proper and polite, there is no way they can embarras you.
I've never dated a German girl but there was one time in a bar in Koblenz. I was with a few of my friends who were all there to start a bicycle tour the next day. We were leaving the next morning on our barge/hotel to head to Andernach where the bike tour began. Anyway so we found a nice little kneipe just within stumbling distance from the barge and went there for a few beers the last evening. As we were sitting there I'd glance to my left and across the little bar, maybe 25 feet away or so was a girl sitting with another girl. I caught her looking my way several times and started looking back her way some. It was flirting for sure. I was trying to figure out what she was drinking and send one to her but she kept getting in her order before I could flag down the barmaid. I figured hey, I'm gone the next morning anyway so what's to lose. But it made the evening fun to flirt with this pretty girl who I never met.
Great video Trixie ... you have an awesome and wicked sense of humor! :-D
"Hey baby, want to go partition Poland together ?"
I don't get it........
;-;
Russia be like : Да ! конечно
Buhahahahahahaha
when a german is trying to pick a russian girl
Aww, this video is so cute. 😊
9:10 Tasks during dating and relationships: They should corespond to whatever the other person needs or makes them feel comforatable. Kindness to the individual should trump shows of traditional gestures. In practice I'm sure it's more difficult to figure out, lol.
nice discussion! Trixi is the cutest german girl alive, you have such a heartwarming voice, come to Munich :)
Aww, thank you so much! :3
what does that mean dude?
Good Video, I had never heard of Vlog Dave before....I joined and he has the best radio broadcasting voice . You other 2 guys I have listened to for years.
I would probably be the weirdest guy at a non-Swedish workplace, just going to everyone asking them out to coffee. Everyone's all like, "He *really* wants to get into someone's pants and doesn't care whose pants it is", while I'm just, "COFFEE IS AWESOME, WHO WANTS IN!?".
Lol
:D
I totally get it, that's the good thing about being direct and meaning what you say more or less. Not like I guess referred to as Double-speak.
Dave was trying to describe LIQUID COURAGE at around 14:15 because it helps you approach someone you like when you drink alcohol
One of the best and more authentic youtube video that I have never seen :) thumbs up !!!
The funny thing is I would date Dave because he has a nirvana shirt on XD
When he can speak German...
My dreams come true XDD
We're Germans, so I guess I can speak German! :D
In general, I've never been that good at flirting. I've always been very self-conscious, and didn't want to accidentally say something that could be misinterpreted as sexual harassment (high functioning Aspie). Having been bullied growing up, if some cute girl seemed interested in me, I would write it off as her just pitying me (I mistakenly turned down a dance with a crush who was legitimately attracted to me in year 8). I also often just felt that it could just be my classmates (all boys school) playing a prank on me, because they had done such in the past). Even now, (I'm 32 year old illustrator who's just now changing to a more sustainable job) I've been too embarrassed about being stuck living at home and with little pay to be that eager about asking anyone out. My therapist suggests online dating, but my messages tend to be abrupt conversation enders. Sometimes, I hear from someone online, and we may go on 1 or 2 dates, but if I'm not feeling that things are compatible, I try explaining why she and I wouldn't work out.
There are some times that I may be too bad with signals to understand that someone's flirting, or too flustered to respond before she's walking away.
I hope things go better after I start my internship at a hospital, or even a non-retail job. I may be able to meet someone online, or at a small concert, or at the supermarket, and feel good enough about my personal life to not mess up.
Two years later but I'm rooting for you, dude!!
From a German girl perspective: I think it depends a lot on where you are. If someone approaches to me on my way from work to home or to the supermarket, the best reaction they can hope for is a decent smile and me rushing away. More likely I'm just snarling "go away" or whatever, because I'm busy and really not in the mood for social interaction.
Of course that's just my opinion and my experience but I know from a few friends that at least in their everyday life they aren't really open to any kind of flirt, too.
A better situation to find someone would be at some kind of event, may it be a birthday party, a convention or something on a holiday like a large New Year's Eve party. (Sure, there are probably many people you already know but at a certain ammount of people there might be the friend who brought a friend...) It's a more relaxed situation where you are open to meet new people for whatever reasons and where even Germans might be a bit more talkative. Almost all relationships I had started this way. Of course, this doesn't help you if the cute girl you just saw is not on these events.
So, you see someone German in the subway train or the bus who is really cute and who you like to get to know better? Too bad! :D
Maybe you can hand over a business card or something with your number if you manage to look not like a creep?
this happened to me, I am rushing on the way to the Bürgeramt for my appointment to get my drivers license and someone is trying to flirt with me and talk to me about the band logo on my handbag. I am snarling go away and run off. You should observe the person, their body language and their surroundings before approaching them.
I guess it is just what you think or the tradition you grew up with. It is fine to meet someone anywhere. If you are not interested simply say no. The only reason you are/were not interested was because that guy wasn’t your type.What if the guy approaches you on your way to supermarket is Joe Manganiello?:) That would definitely change your mood
I see your point. Germans have a sense of feeling ridiculous in public. It is not strange at all. Personally, I always give men the chance to do the first approach. No matter how much I may like a guy, I remain quiet. Probably smiling and staring...but waiting for them.
This video felt sincere which may provide a suggestion hidden in plain view. In my experience, sincerity is the most important element in approaching anyone of interest. I've found that it can be less stressful and disappointing if you remain aware of the degree to which you sincerely disclose your feelings. Reference the reaction of the other person to help you determine how much or how little sincere disclosure he/she is able to accept at any one time. Avoid modeling his/her reactions for days, weeks or months in preparation for or often protection from rejection. If you expect someone to be gentle with your feelings; be gentle with their feelings. Approaching someone with a disclosure of an emotion as strong as love can be very intimidating if you choose not to prepare them with gentle expressions of affection over time.
Hi, speaking from experience, German men are more shy compared to other countries. But i suppose one did something right as we are getting married next year. :) that being said, i wouldn't mind flirting with Trixi though.
Hehe, all the best to you two and greets to your soon-to-be hubby! :)
woah you and i are very lucky isuppose because what ii know my boyfriend is the shyest cutest german i have ever met he really never stops smiling so Congratulation! Cheers to shy Germans.
I Just had one experience where a german took the first step, and that was i think because he was in México my country, and i also enjoy be the one Who show interest... My next boyfriend also german, he was very calm and show me so a gentleman behaviour and later with more confidence just kissed me and it was one of the most beautiful moments... I love confidence men
5:54 "Could be a dog!" DOGZONED! Omg, I'm dying. What an awkward moment for all three of them.
I've had 2 guys ask me out. One in 11th grade and one in college... though I wasn't sure if they were interested in me in *that* way or if they just wanted to hang out. 'Cause obviously, if a same-gender acquaintance/friend from school invited you to a movie night you wouldn't assume they wanted "more" than just friendship, right? But how do I know if it's an actual date they ask me out on or if it's just a friendship thing? Was I wrong to assume these 2 guys were romantically interested in me? I never asked and never dared to ask either. I'm extremely shy. I just made excuses because I didn't want to accidentally find myself in a date with a guy, lol. I'm a lesbian, but, like I said, I didn't want to go: "No, sorry, I don't want us to have a movie night. I'm a lesbian." because that would imply that I thought they wanted a date and it would have been extremely awkward if they weren't actually asking me out romantically. :O
The life as a human is way too complicated sometimes >.< ^^
PotterheadGeeK7 shyness aside, if you don't ask you will never know their intentions and you could have missed out on 2 movies and good friendships.
PotterheadGeek7
It's kind of strange that you think the video addressed the situation you described. They were talking about approaching people that you had a romantic interest in. In your case this would be your experiences with other women. Why linger on people that couldn''t. in a very basic way, be potential romantic partners?
They ended the video asking their audience about their dating/flirting experiences and I obliged, lol.
I don't think I'll ever get a German boyfriend, maybe I will but I'm shy AF
My worst rejection was two days ago after we had small talk then she asked btw where are you from i told her Syria she said YIKES!!! and left 😂😂
Oh im so sorry.. 😕
Hahahha
She's racist ،ولا يهمك
She's just honest bro...
Good luck next time😊
Whats meaning of YIKES ?
Hi, I'm German... and watching these videos - besides the topic - is an excellent exercise for understanding English.
Trixie is a rare species of women nowadays.
This has to be hard for three Germans to speak English amongst each other...
I've never flirted (honestly don't know how to do it, probably couldn't flirt to save my life) and I don't think anyone ever flirted with me. Then again, my experiences are very limited when it comes to ANY human interaction since I'm extremely introverted, hardly ever go out and do my best to avoid people. If a guy tried to approach me to ask me out I'm afraid I would most likely just panic and be extremely uncomfortable and not know what to do. Which is an issue - even if I were interested in someone and maybe wanted to go out with him, I would be utterly clueless and awkward and constantly feeling like I was on the verge of having a heart attack. I don't handle unfamiliar situations very well...
My rejection story takes place over about half a year. I was really into this girl, and I tried my best to get together with her. She had issues with turning me down properly, though, and so she unintentionally led me on. She was scared of hurting me, and I was blinded by affection. I didn't get that she wasn't into me until she got a legit boyfriend, at which point I felt betrayed and all that jazz. A few months later we started going to the same school, and I forgave her for what happened, and we became friends.
She is currently my best female friend, and together we have managed to grow out of many of the issues we had back when I was into her. I am less clingy and dramatic, and she is a little more forward and confident. So the rejection was definitely for the best. We are perfect friends for eachother, but we have found ourselves romantic partners better suited for us. Moral of the story: Not all rejections are bad.
My success story actually barely involves flirting. I had been added to a chat group for a nerdy friend group, and I only knew one person in it. She was promptly kicked from the group after I was added, since she kept adding people without the rest of the group's consent. Luckily, I managed to make friends quickly enough not to get kicked. Fast forward 3 months, and many of us in the group have started playing DC Universe online. We were usually 5 people playing at a time. Now, one of the people playing was one of the girls in the group. She and I started playing together without the others at some point, and just talked and had fun. Fast forward one month, and I sent her a drunken text clumsily confessing my feelings for her during a pre-yuletide holiday party I threw. The next day, she said that she was into me too, and we got together. Note that we hadn't met in real life yet. That happened two weeks later.
We met the first time a year and a half ago, give or take a few days. We're still together, and things are going well. I did say that this was a success story, after all. Moral of this story: You don't have to flirt to get a girl if you game together. Your experience may vary. I was just lucky.
And to make this a trilogy, I'll tell the story of my first serious relationship. Now, I am a Norwegian lad, and I had managed to get together with a Scottish girl. The cultural differences were not very large, but enough that we remained exotic to one another. There is not much to tell beyond that, since I backed out when I found out that she was emotionally unstable and even more clingy than I was (This happened before my rejection story). The breakup was messy, but I got over it quickly. About a year later, I met the girl from the rejection story for the first time.
Moral of the story: I don't know. I was bad at relationships?
I hope you enjoyed me spilling my relationship history with you all. I honestly could have cut this way shorter, but when I realised that, I was half done already, and I didn't want to waste all this text.
Hey Trix, I am agree with you. Sometime a guy was pretty honest with me, about he was not interested on me, and I am still grateful with him.
Awww! "Geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid" - I love that phrase in German! I first heard it many years ago, it's in one of my favorite KMFDM songs, Leid und Elend.
As for flirting with Germans, I found in my visits that it's as easy or hard as it is in any country, with anyone. Germans want companionship and affection the same as everybody else
Ich musste jetzt erst eine Weile überlegen, wie ich es auf Englisch beschreiben soll und habe mich jetzt doch für Deutsch entschieden. Meiner Erfahrung nach variiert das Flirtverhalten von Stadt zu Stadt. Ich komme ursprünglich aus Regensburg und da flirtet kaum jemand offensiv, ausser er ist betrunken oder kein gebürtiger Bayer ;) (Ausser man hat sich vorher online kennen gelernt und trifft sich dann). In Nürnberg, knapp 100 km weiter, sind die Männer weitaus offener, selbstbewusster und trauen sich daher auch öfter, den 1. Schritt zu machen. Seit letztem Jahr wohne ich jetzt in Hamburg und entgegen jeglicher Erwartung (die "kühlen, distanzierten und wortkargen Nordlichter") werde ich hier so häufig angeflirtet, wie noch nie. Eine interessante Geschichte über eine Abfuhr hab ich nicht, allerdings über einen Anmachspruch, an den ich mich wahrscheinlich noch mit 100 erinnern werde: Ich war einkaufen und stand vor dem Katzenfutter, da kam der Typ an und fragte: "Hey Mieze, suchste nen Kater?" Damals war ich 15.
Dave hat ne tolle Ausstrahlung, sieht gut aus und hat nen guten Musikgeschmack - ich würde dich daten ;)
Alles in allem: tolles Video!
Hehe, danke für die netten Worte! :D
I’ve have a girl look at me a lot in a pool and I’m really subconscious about approaching her in a pool with little clothes but I’m 90% sure he likes me but I’m hesitant to approach a German girl in that environment, any suggestions?
3:34 That " *yeah* " was much deeper than a simple 'recognition'. :( There lies a huge suffering beneath that one syllable 'yeah', when you pair it with that tone of voice/facial expression combo.
(Someone's been walking around with a huge, imaginary *black dog* for a very long time.)
This was an awesome video. Rejections are so funny... when they're not happening to you:)
Sad to say, the rejection story from my past was one in which I did the rejecting. It was so sad. The guy and I were friends of a few years; he'd been to my home for a dinner party or two, we went to the same church. One night we were driving along the coast (we lived near it) and he said let's stop to look. I was so dense, how did I not recognize the obvious move that is?! Let's stop to look at the sea and the stars is a classic move! So, when we were out of the car, he put his arm around me and I leapt away. Oh, sorry! It was just instinct; I wasn't interested in him romantically and I didn't want his arm around me. I said so, later, I wasn't interested in him "that way" and he said, very dryly, "That was clear."
I still cringe at the memory.
Something that helps me to overcome "shyness" is to realise that you don't have to be afraid.
Like when you know you will not be rejected, I guess.
My rejection story from long time ago: I talked to a guy online for a really long time. We always chatted on ICQ (whew, that really is a long time ago XD ) and we always had a great connection. We talked about everything and were there for each other and we also talked about meeting some time... On one point it was possible to meet because I went to a big city near his home and thought "Hey, maybe we can meet up and talk to each other in person for the first time!" - just that evening as I wanted to tell him about the great news, we both started with "I have to tell you sth!!" - just like the movies :D I politely said "You go first, what's up?" and then he proceeded to tell me he just found a girlfriend the other day and they are meeting up to go to the movies or stuff in a few minutes and that he is soooo happy... Wow... That was like a slap in the face but well... I guess looking back it wouldn't have worked out so it's good that it went that way... But of course I was really sad and after that evening our friendship wasn't the same anymore because he always hung out with his new gf and I was not interesting anymore ._____.'''
Sorry to hear you had your feelings crushed. Never talk to strangers online tho. Might’ve taught you better.
My boyfriend and I met 13 years ago...I don't think I'd even be able to flirt with anyone after all this time 😅
Congrats on that! That's a long time! :)
Don’t know why i’m watching this.... i’m too scared to flirt because i’m not really dating/girlfriend material.... but i had a Good time.
"I never had a German boyfriend"
*Looks at her*
I'd totally flirt with Trixi of course ... just that she could tell me she had a boyfriend already, because that's how it usually goes.
please please do more videoes together!! (And include heaps of bloopers hehe) What a dynamic and entertaining team y'all make!
Hey Isabel, thanks for saying such a kind thing! I'm sure we will make many more videos together in the future! Trixi and Vuko are really cool people, and it's a pleasure to have them both as fellow TH-camrs and friends alike! :)
Very nice and entertaining video,thanks to all of you.
the guy in red is very cute, such a shame he's put to friendzone often. Good luck! Love the video x
Hehe, thanks for the kind words! :D
Its because his hat is on crooked 🙈🙈
Loved this video so much , you guys are funny and amazing, my best wishes for you 🌸
She gave the best and the only good advice as to how to approach any woman as a man (even if what she explained is how she would approach a man). Do exactly that and be honest about you liking her straight up as she said and if she is fine with that, invite her to get to know each other more. Strong eye contact is super recommended, as if you are looking at your own girlfriend that you already love and adore. Don't do the "cutest smile" though, just a happy honest one and don't hesitate by asking her if she is occupied, invite her to join you and let her tell you if she is occupied or not and act accordingly (occupied means phone number and another time, not occupied means date her right there over the coffee shop or right there in the park/coffee/bar/etc).
Worst rejection story: I met a really handsome and nice guy, let's call him Ryan. Ryan and I decided to go out to this club for a show, but before we would have a drink at his place.
He showed me around his place and we had a nice conversation about our mutual interests, like Veganism and languages. We walked over to the club because his house was luckily walking distance. We got there and the show was close to ending, but we still hung around and had some drinks in the back patio, danced on the dance floor, and headed back to his place, holding hands.
When we got back there, I was like "well this was a fun night!" And he said "want to have another drink?" So I did and we went to his bedroom where we finished the drink and got really naked, took a shower together, and banged like rabbits for a few hours.
Then we woke up, got dressed, and went to a quaint little vegan bakery/café, had breakfast and coffee, and chatted about our families.
When we left the coffee shop, I asked, "We should plan for another date"
And he said, "I already have a boyfriend".
This whole conversation is kind of like what goes on in my head... but here in America.
Love this video!
Thanks for watching, Michael. :)
Greetings from Germany!
I love your channels ❤I knew Dominik first, Dave right after and then Trixie. I love your videos. ...I learn a lot about German culture with you, guys. Thank you for the videos ❤
Thank you so much, I'm very happy to hear that. :)
DontTrustTheRabbit You're adorable, Trixi ❤
Thank you very much, Sonia! That's really cool to hear! :)
VlogDave You're amazing, Dave. ❤
As a half korean half german who lives in america i found it a bit hard to find my significant other as i am very shy. Being shy makes me very hesitant to talk to people and the only reason i have a boyfriend was because my very good friend blurted out that i liked my (now boyfriend). I have liked him since the seventh grade and he was oblivious to it. And unlike a stereotypical german he is also shy so when my friend basically told him i was beyond red and he just smiled and shyly ran away. But the next day he asked me out so it all worked out am i right? (it's been 5 years 💖💗)
I never saw German flirting in my life 😂 this is so weird 😂
Not true, they flirt and they have their style. But they are pretty assertive and straightforward if it comes the right time. Just adorable.
I can't stop laughing at the part at 1:17, like "Heyyy...hiii...hi...he-...Dave?!"
Dudes! I'm middle aged and nearly 25 years married. We are both American. Marriage is enough work with a shared language and culture! My eyes are just opening wider and wider at your joy in having an additional element to "spice up" the relationship. Well, to each his own, no? And I know marriages between cultures do work for many couples. Well. You aren't discussing marriage.
This is not just social norms. Women generally are more in demand and men less so. So naturally, a girl doesn't have the pressure to approach someone, because she will still get approached by someone acceptable, whereas men risk not getting anywhere if they don't approach at all.
I will try to remember that... BTW, loved your message!
Thank you. :)
You never had a German boyfriend? That's highly unusual!
In my experience, Germans tend to date seriously in their own gene-pool, but that's true for other ethnicities as well. Looking forward to the day, where skin color and "culture" won't matter anymore. Might take a couple centuries though.
Firstly I'm happy for a girl to approach me, secondly when it comes to approaching girls, I'm happy to take suggestions regarding how
shouldn't the "(not)" come before the "to"? like "How (not) to Flirt with Germans - feat.....)
Hey guys, pick-up lines work well! It is not what you say, it is the way you say it!! One day i was buying an ice cream and just asked this girl what flavor was her icecream, after a short small talk I asked "Do you like long romantic walks? because I don't have a car..." she laughed and at the end she gave me her number and got into dates... Also in a halloween party at a friend's house there were these 2 girls with the half face painted as a skull (yeah typical) and I sat next to one and i said "are you a zombie? - she said NO - then I said ok, if you were a zombie i would let you eat me" she laughed and then again... Anyway, I would say that German girls are a little bit confusing, I am living in Munich and only have dated 2 German girls for very short time... the other ones have been foreigners (which are way more open and easygoing). I am not german though...
Once In 5th grade I was in love with a guy. I talked about that with a "friend" of mine and she immediately ran to him and told him. She actually came to me like "lol I just told him you like him" (fake friend bitch). Well one day he actually confronted me and asked me if that was true and I was so nervous and embarrassed I didn't know what to say so I kind of stuttered something like "we'll yes... I don't know yeah..." we even had the same way home and would usually walk together. That day we didn't talk after he asked. The next day we kind of acted as if it never happend and just walked home as usual, but as our ways parted he gave me a letter and told me not to open it until I got home. So I ran home, opened the letter and it said something like "dear Jasmin I'm glad that you like me I like you to" and I think "pleas don't show it to anyone" it was written in read and I think it had hearts on it. So i became really excited and happy and showed it to my mum but she immediately was like "no that's not real that's obviously a girls handwriting they are trying to fool you" and her concernes weren't that far fetched because the hand writing really looked girlish and I was the main bullying victim in my class back then (and something like fake love letters actually happened to another class mate) so I became really sad and thought to my self that she was right... Result was I never talked to him about his letter. I think I didn't even talk to him again. But later that year I got my hand on one of his school notes and it was INDEED his hand writing!
Well I guess I was just to scared of beeing fooled because actually my class mates used to make fun of me almost every day and I thought this can't be a real love letter... Welp who knows how this would've turned out
Bullying is cruel. Kids who do it are cruel, too. And stupid. Here's hoping this situation still turned out OK for you in the end.
Ask three nerds how to flirt. Entertaining AF. Loved the video.
a very nice video and useful .... i think one more question to be added to this subject would make it much better such as " Where to do that"
Thanks for the videos i like them all
Is the get germanized guy attractive? In not gay so It can be hard to tell. It seems like she was flirting with him.
Have u seen her boyfriend/ husband, that guy favors ( resembles ) a billy goat 🐐.
Jay and Silent Bob hanging with The Rabbit.
Haha :'D Correct xD
Cool comment!
Noooo...lol.
Hallo Trixie and Dave. Happy New Year.
I think there is a selection bias with foreigners regardless of the country you are in. If you go to another country, you are probably more adventurous and willing to take risks and therefore easier to approach.
Michael Juliano I think this is the likeliest answer. You become a more confident version of yourself (out of necessity), and likewise are the people you meet more open to new interactions.
I love your ears and video ideas of course :3
Haha, thank you! :D
I have German friend. A trusted person introduced his email to me. I emailed him first and we email back and forth Dor almost 2 years now. I like him because he is polite, respectful with words but I don't know if he likes me too.
"Grab her" 😂 Too funny! Great Video, thanks for sharing! I love the chemistry that the three of you share.
I have never been rejected
...cause I've never walked up to a girlT_T
I loved it when Trixi stared really hard at Dominic (that's about my skill level at flirting, too). Lol X)
As an American who has lived in Germany twice. I love the German directness. It's yes or no and I admire that thoroughly. In America, there's a lot of games and maybe's which I absolutely hate. There's also a lot of people that believe that the next best thing is right around the corner so they don't want to commit. Sure we can go out but... But... I want to keep my options open in case I can get someone just a little bit better than you.
I have a crush on vlog Dave's personality.