TikTok's viral "boyfriend tests" BACKFIRE. They keep getting WORSE.
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In the modern world of dating, the biggest challenge happy relationships face come down to two words: social media. And the latest trend is testing your partner to see if they are husband or wife-material-courtesy of creative TikTok users. But is this the right move? Are TikTok relationship tests saving people from bad relationships? Or are they causing otherwise good relationships to end?
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0:15 "Creative TikTok Users" ??? No! they are brain rot low life
Basically tests are an intentional way of personally choosing to identify if someone will give the answers and provide results that the tester deems correct....Hence not genuinely allowing for any genuine anything especially the genuine Truth✔️.. Revealing of those who hand out tests I'd say✔️Upgrade Better Living
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not everyone gives a fek about birds omg
If my partner filmed me to ridicule me on the internet I would break up with them immediately.
Literally though, none of these are cutesy tests, it's just partner shaming.
Yes
This is the way
Any woman who does this has the maturity of a toddler and needs to be sent back to kindergarten
7:49
Dude is so tired of her TikTok antics
Run, dude
13:25
The bid for connection is the opposite of the contemptuous look
If a person feels a constant need to test the relationship, that in itself is a failed test of them
Honestly if you're taking relationship advice from social media, you should break up with that person and save them because you're a walking red flag.
Truth
Depends on who you are watching. There are a couple of relationship coaches on here that give really solid advice. Such as not playing games with people and dealing with your trauma before jumping into a relationship. It’s common sense I know, but common sense isn’t so common.
There is also so much to learn to start dating because you may never expect what you have to do for them. I may be wanting some help from others on things im struggling with or having a hard time
@@derrickjuinor Then it is good to find out before making it more permanent.
tbh, i take advice from stangers on discord, but i dont take it to heart; i would go on vent channels and ask for advice or opinions about X topic that has been bothering me, could be romantic or mundane, the core thing that differentiates from mindless scrolling is critical thinking, does the opinion fit with your view? does the opinion resemble you reality? is is something you have considered before? etc etc
If you really loved your partner, you wouldn't treat them like a lab animal. No one wants to have a camera pointed at them and basically told to "dance monkey dance"!!!
Exactly dude
And "Guess which irrational answer I want you to guess or else I'll be pouty."
That was my first thought with the guy that “failed” the dancing test. Dude looks STRAIGHT at the camera with an “ick” look. He probably hates cameras and social media almost as much as I do, no other reason. “After the recording he joined in” because he doesn’t want to be in the dang fishbowl for internet clicks
Exactly 💯
Anyone who records you without your permission is a red flag.
Not just as partner but friends too
I partially agree with you. If recording to shame and post on the internet later, definitely, but if it is to help point out sometime to help or even to show a cute and candid moment when they are in their element doing something, then no. remember context is key
@@saiyantwan that might be you... But personally... I don't want someone to record our cute moments as a stoic person... I am rarely open to others so if I'm being a cute 6 ft guy cooking for my gf. I don't want to see that on the internet 💀
Same, I value intimacy.
What I do for you is for you, not others.
If you record me without my consent or knowledge, to get clicks, that means your priority isn't to enjoy what I do for you, it's to get validation from others for it.
In simpler terms, you are not appreciating what I am doing, you are appreciating people's reactions to it.
A kind of social status flexing, similar to showing off your luxury bag, which is the sign of despicable shallowness, and that you really do not care for me.
I'll be out the next second.
@@saiyantwan I did not consent to you showing others our cute moments. Do not record them without my express permission, and definitely do not show others our private moments.
@@saiyantwanyou aren't the sole arbitrator of what people are and aren't okay with when it comes to filming. You're saying that it's okay if YOU think it's for that person's own good. You don't get to make that decision for them. Just because you and I don't mind things like that, doesn't mean other people have to be. And I'm saying this as someone who doesn't mind being filmed so long as it's not posted. But not everyone has to be like me.
Relationships are meant to be built and developed, not tested for clout on the internet. The fact they are filming a "relationship test" for the internet, is itself a red flag
Right!? What a bizarre behaviour of people filming and posting it.
Honestly if you feel like you need to “test” your partners like this to see if they’re good enough then you’re probably not mature enough to be in a relationship
Exactly.
This.
I've been married 20 years. If my husband deliberately spilled ketchup on a counter in front of me and then asked for me to clean it up, I would assume he needed medical attention. Conversely, that sauce would stay there until we both died. I fail either way.
I don't know...I like doing the tests for fun. I guess it depends on the context. If you don't care about the results of the test and you aren't filming it it's probably fine 😅
@@VictoriouslyRandom😅
If someone poured ketchup on the counter on purpose and asked me to clean it up, I would laugh and say "no." Unless they gave a good reason for why I should clean up their purposely made mess.
Right.
Yup for me I'd only that if it was genuine accident and/or their hand was injured prior hence the spill.
Yeah atp that's just manipulative and/or trying to have more 'power' over someone in a relationship
@@coki3_crumle670 Yeah it looks like a shady form of control and power. Than a way of testing a good relationship.
@@ShawnStafford-1978 Yea
tbf I feel like after the "test", the person who did it would slowly start to do more of this sh-t, and then wonder why their partner leaves :/
Married for 21 years. This is ridiculous. Y'all want someone to worship you, not be a partner with you. Especially if you need them to react a specific way.
100%, couldn't have said it better
They want a servant, not a partner. If anything, this is a litmus test for how mature your partner is.
Agree. I'm glad I grew up where there were those silly teen magazines but people could pose question to a column where a professional in behaviour science could respond that the girl (the person who asked) that her behaviour, expectation, attitude was unreasonable.
A guy who say that he is not a husband may be concerned about whether the mind of the girl is not in the actual reality, which is a sound reaction.
21 years married and you said it perfectly.
True
Normal people don"t use Tik Tok. Mystery solved!
underrated truth
I go to tiktok to send cat memes and possum memes to my boss, of which I have like 30 minutes put into tiktok all of this month
I think there’s a few normal, healthy relationships on there, but for the majority of them, it’s absolutely true. A lot of them are “pranking my partner” but the pranks are pretty cruel or intentionally scaring their partner into thinking something bad happened to their partner/loved one(s) at least half the time which is so messed up.
I have one rule - if someone uses TikTok and wants to be my friend he/she will not be my friend. Only acquaintance.
@@exhaustive_the_sixthyou seem really weird and entitled
I have a test: if you test me, you fail.
I'd say it is an "anti-test"
Btw good iron rule to take into account. If you're so insecure you have to test me - don't expect I'll be for long with you.
Seeing these "tests" already shows me that the majority of the people aren't ready for a marriage, any less a relationship
The majority of people need therapy and lots of healing.
Only if "people"=women
@@ellie_sarabellum what they need is to stop getting relationship advice from the internet, where a good amount of these same people have never been able to hold a relationship themselves.
I would not seriously date anyone who relies on tiktok relationship test.
Tiktok and reddit.
@@LadyBernReddit is simply just a forum. How you can compare the two is beyond me.
@@Kenzirs same thing, i dont think ive ever read a sane take on reddit the user base is mental patients mostly
I would not seriously rely on you :/
@@VioletFlame-Ivy haha you're funny! I hope you have a great day.
Husband test - perhaps he doesn't want you calling him "your husband" until he is because it means something to him, or perhaps he is aware of the laws that presenting yourself as husband and wife means you are now common law spouses with all the legal ramifications if you split up.
I will never do this stuff to my husband. Narcissist way to way to set your partner up for failure when they don't understand the situation. Not everyone likes to be on camera or care for what is trendy.
The partner who is being tested could be a narcissist too and pass the test exactly for that reason! He will peel the orange but later in the day he could gaslight and abuse the soul out of you.
Truth.
I agree on principle but I resent the fact that many people believe it's reasonable for a grown adult to be completely overwhelmed and powerless in the face of a ketchup stain.
I could not date an advid tiktoker or influencer... its super cringe.
It is indeed quite creepy to think about. Would that person really date you for you?
Partner shaming turns into "weaponised" incompetence. These "relationship tests" are so toxic
i would leave if my gf or wife test me just to satisfy other FemFAILS at social media, all for what? 5min. of fame or shame? ya, this is duimb as a rock. i WOULD leave and find a new girl. These women think relationship is a game, it's suppose to be partnership and also no one is perfect, if you want a perfect partner, fcuk off and be alone.
*weaponised.
@@Ace-ns9co color, colour. The word can have multiple spellings in different geographic locations.
@@fl4shi238 no, that english word is correct, weaponized.
I get doing them for fun and with cameras turned off because recording your partner secretly in their home is insane unless it’s a family home video and intended to stay that way until partner is showed the whole thing and consents to any post of any kind involving them. Doing silly internet trends with your partner can be fun and you can laugh together about it. Or it can raise some red flags early on before you get too emotionally invested. Just don’t put too light weight in it and don’t try to test them constantly to see if they still love you enough. If you feel like you constantly need to test your partner, you either need to go get some therapy (whether just for you or couples therapy, idk) or you should just break up with them because you can’t trust them/your relationship and need to work on yourself in feeling more secure, or realize your partner ain’t a good fit and move on.
Putting your partner through a standard created by social media is just setting yourself up for stupidity.
Yall wild. I find out my gf is recording me and posting it online, she's my ex.
She's the defendant in a lawsuit.
DUDE I FOUND THIS REALLY GOOD RELATIONSHIP TEST! Its called the Bea Yuh Good Pardner test! Its where you dont take advice from strangers on social media!
Omg lol that’s genius
That's revolutionary!
That's not herd mentality enough. How can an average ape, especially a female one know, that they've made a correct choice, without getting confirmation from the rest of their tribe?
id argue that making a mess and just to get someone else to clean it is a stronger example of "weaponized incompetence" than not putting effort into cleaning up a mess that was solely made so youd have to clean it. like, whats more incompetent than making a mess on purpose and refusing to clean it?
THIS EXACTLY!
Tbh, I wouldn't ever clean it or even talk about it until they realized it was still there, and if they didn't either and someone came by and ask, I'd say what happened
This pisses me off because we see videos of a guy getting something wrong and Weaponised Incompetence is assumed. We see videos of a girl openly engaging in Weaponised Incompetence and it's all "You go girl".
Condiments also tend to be notorious for spreading. Which makes it even more weaponized on the part of the tester and how big the mess is an even worse indicator.
@@goawayleavemealone2880especially when they get the battery connections backward and set the car on fire 😂
I'm a girl and I too found that extremely manipulative.
Out of everything on this video, the biggest red flag is a woman testing her partner and posting it online without permission
Nah. My wife trying to check me like I’m a dog will end with me pouring the ketchup on the floor and telling her to clean it.
If my boyfriend suddenly called me his wife, I would be caught off guard too. It doesn't mean I love him any less. It really depends from person to person and their boundaries.
A lot of women would actually call it a red flag and say they crossed their boundaries too
@@Redactness Exactly! It's the same as those dreadful "will you marry me?" proposals in public.
Honestly yea, I'd be pretty freaked out too
@ermygurl only if he's not a chad of course
People for some reason sleep on that point, that after brofist he said "Not yet." Then she attacked him. And then people start crying red flag...
Here's all the 'test' anyone needs: if your S.O. lives their life through social media such as tik-tok, then that person has already failed, and you can either help break out of that poisonous habit, or start formulating an exit strategy.
In Colorado when you say "my husband or my wife" you have just made yourselves "Common law married".
Every girl I ever dated was a slob. My friends deal with it too.
It ain't just MEN.
Every woman ever: "BUT MUH V-PASS BRUH"
"Paying for that on FortNite does not preclude getting it for free in real life."
I remember this one chick destroying her husband's gaming console and having no concept of why he was that upset and even shrugging it off to the camera. Shivers, man.
Luckily, most of those are actually staged. The actual reality of destroying your partners things is categorized as a form of "domestic abuse without violence" as these things are usually done during anger. You probably remember the trend 5-8 years ago of the "Angry" boyfriend/girlfriend breaking gaming consoles or laptops owned by the person they are "mad" at for whatever reason. It's like: Congrats! You just now showed 1.5mil people that you are an abusive, psycho partner that nobody should ever be in a relationship with.
@@JaymeSplendid Half of these today are actually real. We think many of these are skits but then we see the aftermath and it ends up being real, over and over again.
Girls like that are the ones I'd be terrified to be in a relationship out of fear they might try to stab me if they ever get too mad over some nothing.
The initial one may be staged. The copycats? Doubt it.
The multiple copycats are not staged.
Dudes have lost hundreds of hours, a few of whom make a living off this stuff, to women "pranking them" by... doing the thing they are threatening to do which is the opposite of a prank.
The worst part is many of these women have no concept of how much time and effort goes into these things and how not everything can be backed up.
There are a lot of red flags in these tests ... mostly on the part of people doing a "test" to post online for validation from randos on the internet
If my girlfriend deliberately made a mess in front of me and told me to clean it, I'd tell her to grow up and clean it herself.
Imagine you intentionally walked into the living room with the muddiest boots possible, jump around, and then ask her to clean it.
I call it the mud test.
Who pours stuff out on purpose? Then ask someone to clean it.😂🤦♀️
Karens who have permanent attention-starvation
Someone looking to be single.
I would tell my wife to f*** off and walk away if she did that. 34yrs together.....
@@Okunniger_Volker Talked to mom about this. Showed her the clip. Her reaction:
*"She's looking to start a war..."*
Anyone under 3 years old
If you're going to TikTok for relationship advice, you might be in the wrong place. Way too many people playing games with their partners. If a TikTok trend is able to make you break up with your partner, you might need to rethink how you approach relationships.
I’m going h worded g
+1 reason why tiktok is detrimental.
"Might be"?😅
You used too many words. Let me fix it for you: "If you're going to TikTok, you might be in the wrong place".
Wasn't a test, but I did ask my husband (long-term boyfriend at the time) to braid my hair once. He did a twist instead, not knowing the difference. So, he proceeded to (very poorly) learn how to braid for the first time. The unwarranted anxiety he had, and the adorable relief when I told him it was a good first try was the sweetest thing ever. He still loves playing with my hair, just not braiding it 😂
So cute
This ^^ I ask my bf to brush my hair sometimes because I like having someone else do it, and he gets so anxious and worried when he catches a snag in my hair and he think he's hurting me. I have very thick hair, so I get a lot of small knots, and no matter how often I tell him I'm fine and it doesn't hurt, he still stops every time the brush catches and apologizes.
What if he wasn't taught or has mental challenges, gosh you people are something.@@JanieGotAPun
@AnotherMaryJane you couldn't even spell genius correctly. Why are you talking sh*t lol?
The most important part of this is that it wasn't test.
If I found out my girlfriend was giving me "tests", I'd end the relationship right then and there. It would prove that she is 1) very manipulative and conniving, and 2) weak minded and easily influenced by social media. Both HUGE red flags.
Do you know what is a red flag?, testing your partner with these trends
the "are you pregnant??" one is hilarious lol. OMG how she took it as a fail is insane...he knows you don't usually eat fruit and is genuinely confused poor guy lol
She said "I'm craving an orange"😂😂
Right? He knows her preference and knows that this fruit desire is abnormal, and is concerned. That is a fail?!?
It's a good response but the "orange peel theory" is the condiment test in a different package?
@@Quandry1 I think it's more reasonable and respectful way to go about it. If someone poured ketchup and then asked me to clean it, that's a sh*t test, not a relationship test.
@@Xenozillex in the sense of the mess and such certainly. Less insulting in presentation as well.
People thinking they can judge an entire person and relationship on a 20 second clip never ceases to amaze me.
But you can. I would never record my partner (or anyone else) to upload to social media. And anyone who tests their relationship in these ways has an objectively bad relationship, otherwise they would just communicate with each other, the people who are actually in the relationship.
@@mydogeatspuke Bingo! The testers are too emotionally immature to be in an adult relationship.
You absolutely can! In fact you can do it in those very clips: namely the people that did the testing. All jokes aside, yes, there's so many other explanations I came up with while watching those very clips (aka in less than 20 seconds) that it's baffling.
An said ppl tat upload need to show ppl that someone loves them.
If anybody testing me like this I would be offended.
nah same . id dump them imagine treatig them nice and loving them blindly and they pull this shi
Weaponized incompetence is what we men should say when a woman drives around with bald tires.
My dad was that guy who did not know how to care for himself. My mom has the patience of a saint. She showed him how to cook, clean do the laundry. It was actually bonding for them. It didn't create more stress. My dad still wasn't the best domestic, but he knew how to get it done.
The person who is being "tested" should see this as bad and leave as you should not be with a people who 1. test you to prove you love them 2. are such lemmings that listen to random strangers on the internet 3. post their partners failures & 4. get advice from random strangers on the internet.
I was married for forty-five years. Till my husband passed... He was never a romantic. He was a hard worker, who never drank, never went out with mate's and all gave me his unopened pay pack every Friday, and would tell me how much he needed for the week. We had four children, we lived in a tent at one stage due to the fact that he was injured at work, and we ran out of money... But that was only for a year and a half... We went though a lot of good times and bad. But he was always my rock... I would have followed him anywhere. No he wasn't a romantic, but I could not have asked for a better man...
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What a good man! You guys were blessed to have each other xo
Being romantic is just wasting money on unneeded things these people never have a chance to stop renting and stuck in debt confuses me when people spend so much on a wedding that could have been used to buy a home to live in.
Most people today don't even understand what romance is, and equate it with having things being bought for them,. or being taken to expensive places.
I once read about a couple who got married the day after they graduated from high school. From the day they were married until the day they died, they were never apart for more than four hours at a time. Every morning, she would drive him to work and then go back home and get the kids ready for school. After that, she would get lunch ready and pack it up so she could drive to his place of work so they could have lunch together. Once done, she would return home and do whatever cleaning needed to be done before going and picking up their kids from school, bringing them with when she went to get her husband from work. They were once interviewed and the interviewer noted that, throughout the entire discussion, they were in constant contact with one another, whether they were putting their arms around each other, holding hands, or just sitting so close they were touching. When asked how they made it work so well for so long, they answered that they didn't let the little things get to them, and treated every time they saw each other like it might be the last time they did. They died in a car crash in their late eighties and, when the rescue crew was finally able to reach their bodies, one of the things they noted was that they were still holding hands.
That's romance.
@@allamericanslacker2378 as cruel as it may sound, im glad they went out together. i don't think either one would have faired well apart.
that is the type of love story i wish was shown more often in literature, and media. its much more stable than the rocky relationships... but i guess that doesn't make for good stories
For the “husband” test, the guy should probably be thinking that the girl is using him to cheat on their actual husband…
If you film someone and post on social media to show them as incompetent or obedient, you deserve to be alone
If you're doing a "relationship test", then you should **NOT** be in ANY relationship.
Or maybe don't do any "test" whatsoever?
It isn't a program or game you should test to detect possible bugs.
If foundation is loose, all house will collapse. These "relation tests" are loosing this foundation of trust.
They call the first one a test, but I call it wasteful. So what if someone isn't good with cleaning? It doesn't mean they can't improve. Intentionally causing a mess and expecting someone else to clean it up is toddler behavior. It's just as bad as intentionally pretending to be bad at something in order to get out of doing it.
If someone is willing to clean up the mess you made without complaint, (even if they dont do it to your standards) they seem like a decent person to me. If they dont want to clean up something they watched you do on purpose, it's also valid. On the other hand, judging them for HOW they do it, is toxic behavior. So is blasting their shortcomings on social media for everyone to see. Not to mention if they know they're being filmed, they might feel compelled to do something they might not normally do just because it'll end up online. A lot of people will show their best when they know someone is watching.
Also, to the gal who threw the orange at her partner after being told no... maybe don't react violently. That's another immature and toxic behavior.
All the tests for the sake of content are manipulative af. Just learn healthy communication ffs.
Right! Not once do I ever hear them say about considerate and kind things they do for their partner and the cutesy stories that come with that.
Poor partner is always on parade instead for views.
No one is "not good at cleaning" naturally. If someone is not good at cleaning as an adult it means they never bothered to learn and always expected someone else to do it for them. That's a basic life skill no one should be "bad" at, it's not optional.
It depends on the age of course, if it's someone in their teens or early twenties it's understandable they are not that good at cleaning, if it's someone in their thirties and up however it's 100% not an accident and you can be certain it's weaponized incompetence.
Nevertheless, it's unhealthy to put your partner on the spot on social media and exposing them to ridicule instead of taking to them.
@@melchiorlise2466 From what I've seen of the trend, the vast majority of the people being tested are on the younger side. I agree that by your 30s (arguably, mid 20s) you should be able to do these basics fairly efficiently, especially if you live outside of the home you grew up in.
...but I stand by what I said before. 'Intentionally causing a mess and expecting someone else to clean it up is toddler behavior.' If the girls are making the mess themselves, they should clean it up themselves. Especially if that's what they would expect of their partner.
Also, agreed. Healthy communication is the way to go. (If they're not open or receptive to that, maybe rethink the relationship, imo.)
@@DEAntoninDolohov I think people would rather do anything than being vulnerable and honest with each other
@@melchiorlise2466 Intentionally making a mess and demanding the other clean it the ultimate weaponised incompetance.
I have adhd. I do my best to be a good partner anyways, but if I’m absorbed in something and I don’t notice my husband being excited and dancing it doesn’t mean I don’t love him.
Also the bird test sucks for me too. I do my best to listen but sometimes after a long day my brain is just tapped out and I sometimes default to masking and pretending to pay attention.
the bird test seems more for siblings to see if they're still as excited as they were when they were little
I guess I should explain this more, my dad or step mom will always point out birds or horses or rocks so its so creepy this is used for a "romantic" test
@@noellefritz5678 this makes me think that a lot of these people doing the bird test or whatever come from deeply unhealthy families where their observations and hobbies were never validated during their childhood. Though not at all an excuse for messing with their partners, that may be the reason they crave this kind of interest in their observations. So messed up all around, I feel so bad for peole who rely on this stuff, and for their partners even more.
16:06 I think you should start a fight 😂😂😂😂😂❤ it! She’s great!
Yea I was definitely thinking if I was really distracted or going through adhd burnout I would 100% fail these tests
Wow! So women, instead of educating their partners about proper cleaning, pefer to gossip about their bad performance or lack of knowledge...this must be the most toxic time for relationship with western women whatsoever.
I am so thankful that there are wonderful, loving, caring and understanding, beautiful women in other, better countries.
Every woman is not on tik tok, in fact most of them aren't. Please don't use this video to validate your misogyny, you're not better than them.
@@melchiorlise2466 lol
Social media is 100% the reason why relationships like these don't work out. . .
If your partner is bashing you on video then sharing it on social media, you need a new partner. The ones filming are exposing their own abusive narcissistic behavior. This is abusive. RUN!!!!
The ketchup thing is the equivalent of when your mom or dad ask for the remote and its within arm's reach of them...
It's more like if they threw the remote across the room when you walked in and then asked for it.
There wasn't a mess on the counter till the person with room temperature IQ made one.
In the 80’s, kids ARE the remote 🤣
And you better NOT have an attitude about it OR point out that the thing is right next to them. 👀They already know. Diabolical.
@kingkaza i was hoping someone would make this point.
idgaf if my man can properly clean a kitchen, bc he doesn't expect me to know how to fix our leaky roof or rebuild the engine in our car.
and if i did know how, he wouldn't let me.
we understand the values of gender roles in my home and it makes life so much easier.
@jenn2894 ma'am this isn't about gender roles :/
everyone should learn how to clean, and at least one person in any relationship should know what to do about car problems
the video is talking about people manipulating their partners, idk where you pulled gender from that
@@coki3_crumle670 You do note that it is not a majority of male Tik Toks with these tests, right? You cannot ignore the gender role dynamics inherent to the issue when they are on full display.
I have a 5 strike policy, someone that takes and uses Tick Tock advice automatically gets two strikes.
You made my heart happy as you didn't spell tik-tok correctly
Which I see as you having a life and not caring about that trash...
Ahh refreshing 🎉😂
It would bring the strikes up to four, in my book
@@iamalphalim Or 4 and a half!
@@iamalphalim that's why I made it a five strike policy to give them a handicap of sorts, it originally came from a generic 3 Strikes policy.
"... to see if they're husband or wife-material."
Let's be real here: These tests are almost exclusively done by women to test men.
As for the guy who said, "I'm not your husband."-for all anyone knows he's been begging to get married forever and is salty that she is dragging her feet.
My problem with these tests is that they demonize the partner for not babying them. Your partner isn't obligated to open an orange for you or clean up your mess. That is a kindness they offer you out of the goodness of their heart, and even if they don't do it, that doesn't make them horrible. Treating you like an adult and holding you accountable isn't evil. They are your equal partner, not your parent or servant. AND a singular test cannot define a person since behavior can be attributed to neutral multiple factors, i.e. NUANCE/CONTEXT.
If they can't do one simple thing out of kindness. Why try
@@bgos4727 Where's the kindness from the partner demanding the other peel their orange? It's a totally weird request.
@bgos4727 one thing? Seems like you'd be overlooking a lot to claim a relationship would exist and peeling a orange would be the first thing they would've done for you.
I'd give Her a reason to break up with Me. Like cleaning up the Ketchup with Her favorite dress. You don't pull BS tests on Me without consequences.
Diabolical. I love it.
"I'd give her a reason" That doesn't sound violent at all. /s
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it WOULD teach her to stop messing my place up. /s
@@AG-iu9lvyoure responsible for your own interpretation
@@AG-iu9lva simple thing. Don't start what you cannot finish
These so-called relationship challenges are bs. I've been in a relationship for 32 years and let me tell you the _real_ relationship test(s):
Do they show you little courtesies, like letting you have the _whole_ dessert, even though you're sharing it, because he knows it's your favorite?
Do they not only _show_ you respect, but insist that others do as well?
Do you have absolute trust in each other, with no interest at all in what's in their phone, or who they talk to online because they don't have to question your faithfulness?
There are lots like this, but the main one is this:
Do you feel at ease and happy in each other's presence?
If the answer to any of those is no, then run.
Gonna write this down
Respect is earned and no one can demand respect for you. Your way of interacting influences others. It’s a whole different situation if someone’s being rude to you for no reason and your partner steps in. And the other points are kinda nothing burgers?
An actual relationship test is how you overcome hardships, arguments and disagreements together. There’s no actual testing. You’ll feel at peace no matter what you go through together.
@@Jesei1211 I disagree. A partner most cetainly can demand respect for you.
@@Jesei1211 showing unbidden consideration in daily life like the dessert thing isn't a "nothing burger". it's worth more than any obligatory candy and roses on Valentine's or after arguments. and that kind of trust is worth more than diamond rings. that's what actual love looks like.
W lines. Golden lines. Well said. Did ask.
I still need to grow up to comprehend these lines tho
Morale of the story:Don't take relationship advice from Tiktok
The guy replied "not yet"... not YET. We don't know if they've already had the chats about marriage, and that they're both on board for it, such that a "not yet" can actually be construed as... funny! We...don't...know...! And some of those people responding looked like they could use a shower or a walk outside at the very least(!).
What's next, the "daddy" test? Imagine the guy saying "I'm not a daddy YET" and then people just jumping on that posting with "oh you better run girl, he doesn't want kids with you!"
:/
I like how the one woman expects someone to read her mind to know she expects the orange to be peeled for her.
Right?!
someone should touch grass
It’s actually f up if you call someone your husband/wife and not mean it when you're really still just in the dating stage.
If my partner intentionally made a mess, I'd refuse to clean it for them.
i would peel an orange if my partner asked me to cause it’s easy, but if the pour ketchup on the counter on purpose right infront of me and told me to clean it…and infront of a camera? no, i’m not doing it.
If you are in a relationship with someone who is taking relationship advice from the internet, it is time to not be in that relationship. The irony of this statement is not lost on me. Additionally, Relationships are between you and your partner, if your partner is taking your relationship to the council of the internet, they are not ready for a relationship..
These "Tests" only measure a single thing: Obedience.
They are not, and never were, about whether someone is a good partner or not. They are entirely about "measuring" if the partner will silently obey the other, and act in accordance with that person's desire.
Making these tests is far more toxic to the relationship, than any "failed" person ever is.
I feel like this is so ridiculous. Another reason not to have tiktok
Are all you people crazy?!? Testing your partner?? If you’re a couple you should already know who your partner is. If you’re in a RELATIONSHIP and you’re feeling ignored, insecure, upset or unloved then you need to talk to your partner about your feelings and not “test” them. That shows them you’re not mature enough to be together with them. If my partner didn’t talk to me and filmed me while doing some ridiculous test to post to social media I would explode and the relationship would be over. These people are angry that you’re testing them or making them uncomfortable . How would you feel if the tables were turned and your partner was testing you? People need to connect with their partners without the internet influencing their relationship and behavior. Grow up.
They didn't "fail a test" they just didn't play a manipulative game with the added nastiness of a "partner" already planning to broadcast their relationship to strangers. Test me or secretly record me and you are gone.
No morals, not practicing relationship skills, and taking advice on what to do in your own life from random people. What could possibly go wrong?
The ones who broke up with their SO over one of these should be thanked for releasing the other person to go find someone who’s right for them.
Now i understand why the government wants to ban tiktok bc of this
If the ban is successful it might create precedent for banning all sorts of similar platforms.
@@icxcnika9399 Yes, that would be the start of a better world! 👍
No, they want to ban it because China is shady. They DO want to keep the gender war going as a distraction for other bigger things
@@icxcnika9399 good, that would be something the government finally does right for once
@@icxcnika9399Is this meant to be a bad thing?
It just screams over sharing on the Internet….. like keep your relationship off social media
Exactly, all of those people saying 'leave them'! Is not helping either, if you feel the need to blast your relationship on the internet for points.. get off.
Honestly, if somebody making mess with ketchup in front of my eyes, and they expect me cleaning it up, well, that ketchup will dry if they don't clean up.
Uh boy, what a bizarre horror
If it drys, it is easier to clean up! SO LEAVE IT ON THE COUNTER FOR A WEEK OR SO!
The women that do these things don't want a boyfriend/husband, they want a "toy" to play games with, when you don't play along with them they get mad and call you names like you're the one to blame.
Anyone initiating this test should be dumped. They are not spouse material. It's junior-high level juvenile. We've been married 31 years. If one of us legitimately needs assistance with something, then that's fine. Perking the other around with a ridiculous test is out-of bounds.
I was naive enough to think no one took these seriously. Silly me.
I wouldn't hand my girlfriend a wrench to test our relationship fixing my car
I think I would rather know my partner would pull me from a burning car then whether they will peel an orange.
Are you saying you're gonna put your car on fire then get in it to see its reaction? 👀👀👀👀👀👀
@@ibrahimjaved5574 My God, that's awful... When and where will the test be? :)
Testing your partner is just adding unnecessary stress, but flaunting it for countless strangers to see is even more so, especially if it's without their consent.
“I’m not your husband”.
He was simply telling the truth.
Some of these gals are insane.
My partner NEVER cleans. He makes mess all the time. I'm a clean freak. Sometimes, I'm super mad at him. But he has many other great qualities, so why would I dump him over this. Just like he could dump me over my anger issues. In a relationship, you need to find the balance of what you can get over abd what you cannot.
I like how u worded this ❤
Your relationship reminds me of my parents lol.
My mom is also a clean freak and my dad is very messy... she also has anger issues xD
My husband is 67 and I am 55. We have been married for 33 years. He works 7 days a week and work about 55 hours a week and we do this to help support our adult special needs children. I don't need a test to know that my husband loves me or our family. 36 years together through good times and bad times and I wouldn't change a thing (except buying a Ford Taurus - worst car ever). If you need a TicToc test to tell you if your spouse is a keeper, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship.
How is the orange peel test not the female equivalent of weaponized incompetence?
It is, but they are women, so it’s okay.
@@cecilrhodes2153lmao
@@cecilrhodes2153 I guess the V-pass isn't limited to playing Fortnite.
@@jimvenanzio6561 ?
Stupidity is ruining more than just relationships, right now... It's the worst epidemic/pandemic ever.
I would have totally done the same thing as the ones who told them they are not their husband. If you want me to be your husband, marry me. But I'm not your husband BEFORE we marry. "Husband" isn't a word to throw around so willy nilly. It has weight and significance.
If my significant other is dancing in front of a camera, I probably won't jump in, but no camera, I'm dancing for sure! The camera changes things either way ...
Lol, that guy responding "I'm not your husband" is making me think of all the times my daycare students have called me "Mommy" and I was immediately like "I'm not your mom. 😐"
That's only if they're doing it on purpose, though. They seem to think it's funny or they just want to see my reaction. When they actually slip up and then correct themselves, like "Daddy- no, Mommy- NO, Miss Lisa", I can't help but actually feel a little flattered, because obviously that means I must be pretty high up there on their list of trusted adults.
Using social media trends, from Tiktok at that, to see if you're in a good relationship is peak clown behaviour
If you take relationship advice from tiktok, single weirdos (raise hand), divorcees and cheaters, you deserve every ounce of failure that comes with it.
Yeah, so in my opinion, the ketchup test is a test on their part because you're the one creating a mess and telling THEM to clean it for you. Saying that because "they didn't know how to clean the mess that you made that I'll bet you probably would've cleaned the same way means that it's a red flag" is BS and you know it. Maybe you should TEACH THEM how to clean the mess instead of judging them for failing something they likely haven't had to clean up before! You seriously think that they are messing up on purpose? If so, yeah, end the relationship, YOU'RE THE PROBLEM.
Don't make someone else clean up your mess, it's nasty behavior and shows that you are the immature one here.
Yes exactly! Like me personally I've never had to wipe a big glob of ketchup from my counter. Idk maybe cos I dont find myself squeezing ketchup on my counter on purpose.
Teach them? If they don't know how to clean ketchup on the counter, that probably means they're never squirted ketchup on the counter on purpose.
@@sixgunshauna3486 I mean, it's a useful skill because sometimes you do accidentally get a drop of condiment on the counter (like it drips off the food onto the table) and you do need to know how to clean it. Teach them if you know how to do it, learn it together if you both don't know. Instead of treating them not knowing how to do something as a reason to mock them. Obviously don't dump the whole bottle on the counter just to prove a point. And only do it if it's an actual accident and you see them struggling to clean it.
The way that first girl asked about the orange, she was so creepy
The Beckham test (or whatever the dancing with the song one was called) is one I would 1000% fail lol. I don't like dancing alone, yet in front of another person. And if I knew my partner was recording me to see my reaction I would definitely refuse. That's just not my personality ;P
If I saw my wife dancing or singing in front of a camera I would bail because I wouldn't want to spoil or photobomb whatever she was doing. Guess that makes me a red flag.
They don't even care about the boyfriend OR the test - they just saw the original got 30 million views and are more than willing to end the relationship. They value views from strangers more than real people in their actual lives.
If you are relying on Idiotic TicTok Relationship Tests to decide the future of your Relastiopnship you are NOT READY for a Relationship. Relationships are built on Trust and Understanding, Forgiveness and Acceptance. You will never find happiness like this.
Test your woman by buying her an extra game controller and invite her to share a connection with your favorite game. If she declines she failed and then throw away your relationship because her perceived 'fail' of your test. Wait...maybe that's not a good idea. Grow up before you grow old ladies, or you'll grow old alone.
Bulls eye.
0:46 if you got dumped because you did one of these tik Tok challenges then you deserved it.
These put unrealistic standards on relationships that not everyone's going to conform to.
If you were part of a relationship that requires your skills to be tested while you’re partners filming, you’re in the wrong relationship
I don't care if I pass or not. If my partner is more interested in testing me than engaging in honest natural relationship, that's a red flag.
Some complained about using too many paper towels while wasting ketchup?
You know, I'm glad I married a woman who doesn't feel the need to continually test me in the way these TikTok trends push.