Aspiring Actress Pretends to be Soap Opera Star in Catfish Scheme | Lydia Abdelmalek Case Analysis
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- This video answers the question: Can I analyze case of Lydia Abdelmalek?
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For once, I’d love him to say: “Today’s question is: can I analyze the case of so-and-so. No. No, I can’t.”
Would be a great April fools joke
That would be Dr. Grande’s self analysis
You won't be hearing that here...😎
Can he analyze the state of New Jersey?
@@stringfellowbalk2654He certainly seems to have an aversion to NJ...
She appealed and ended up getting her sentence INCREASED? That's amazing.
I thought so too. 🤭
Yes 😂😂😂😂
4-6 yrs
She isnt very smart
She really deserved it.
The main reason she got caught was because the police and the lady actually thought it was a male hurting a female. If a female was doing it to a male, there would have been little concern.
Just as well it was increased, considering the usual length of time of Australian sentences.
"Her fake character had his own fake character".... You slay me Dr. Grande😅
The dry humor is awesome.
This guy's sarcasm is very dry indeed. His ancestry must be British
You the real yalove? 🤔
How does he keep a straight face
& Dr Grande is hot
lydia is nuts and has way tooo much time on her hands for all this nonsense
I can't even figure how she did it. I barely have enough time to check my personal emails.
Only getting 2 years for that mountain of stinking evil was the deal of the century. To appeal against it was pure insanity.
I always think that in these type of cases. It’s all consuming for sure.
@@dawsondetrana5496 If that is the case then you should get yourself to a doctor real quick. You really should.
Emma is not too smart, either.
I cannot keep the characters straight in this story😅😂
Ikr... when the "fake characters have fake characters" 😅
I am with you
I feel like I need a piece of paper and to draw lines from character to character contact as he’s explaining it. Bc 😅🙈
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When sadistic meets gullible….I’m blown away by the sheer amount of both in this story.
Yes, one could easily tell it was fake!
This is beyond gullible, it's low IQ or mental disabilities. I can't imagine anyone being THIS gullible.
She cost someone their life with her cruel games.
If some of these psychos would put in the same amount of work, efforts, and creative determination into something positive, we'd may actually have already solved problems like world hunger and cancer.
You might have a point except in this instance the psycho is of limited intelligence & probably just better off locked up in a mental facility
@@empyreumaI have to disagree, she doesn't sound like the one with low intelligence in this story
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Lol! Team numpty is always recruiting & seems like quite a few big egos & tiny IQs 😂 still have to feel a little bit sorry for someone who is duped & embarrassed by a heartless psychopath even if the setup & circumstances seem disconnected from reality
that doesn't really make sense. She IS a psycho and evil and so was NEVER and CAN NEVER put it to good use.
And it's a naive thought on world hunger and cancer(s), which are too numerous to count.
A lot of world hunger is caused by communism, fascism, dictators and warlords in third world countries stealing food (it was the cause of Blackhawk Down).
Not sure one psycho with good intentions (which makes no sense) would change that.
There is already a solution to world hunger, it's the political will to implement it that's missing.
Romance scammers are utterly contemptible. A special circle of hell should be reserved for them. Thanks for another jaw-dropping video, Dr. Grande!
It’s happened to me a couple of times but luckily I broke it off be it got deep.
Romance scammers are not the same as catfish scammers. Look up romance scammers. Completely different thing.
@@feefingirl their end goal is often the same, I deal with these cases often, too often, sadly.
@@dazzlerwebmy husband’s cousin got catfished by a woman; he drove to her country to see her (he lives in Europe, so it was only 4-5 hours away) when he got to her place she wouldn’t open the front door for him. When she finally did open the door she was not at all the same woman in the pictures. She was older, and let’s say not the same level of attractiveness.
So he just turned around and left her standing there without a word, got a room at a B&B and spent a couple of days sightseeing before going back home. He was very disappointed. I wish catfishers truly realized the great amount of harm they do.
When the person keeps making excuses why they can't meet in person, you should then insist on a video chat in real time. If they make up excuse why they can't do that, dump them because they are 100% fake.
Just the "Catfish" concept alone is pretty terrible. I knew a guy who was a super nice person, but he was shy. He had a hard time meeting girls. He met someone online and became totally smitten... Later it turned out this person was absolutely made up, using someone elses photos and all that. He was devastated and I felt really bad for him.
That’s the worst kind of person who did this
its 2023 though. Everyone should understand online safety unless they are young or desperate. Always be on the look out.
Yes the same thing happened to my husband’s cousin years ago. When he finally drove many hours to see her, she turned out to be a completely different person than in the pictures she used. She was a lot older and much less attractive than the cute young lady his age that he thought he was talking to... I’m surprised they didn’t video call before the actual meeting. But back then it wasn’t as common I guess.
@@ALT-vz3jnsome Indian guy just jerking his meat to your friends dick pics & making your boy go broke sending him money. 😂🤦🏼♂️
All jokes aside that's messed up...I hate being super shy at first...if I know someone then it gets better over time but at first it's like I can't even think of conversation. Pretty fucking awkward honestly. I have such an adventurous spirit & have I done some wild shit, but no one would ever guess that if they're meeting me for the first time.
A lot of people live their lives believing there is an invisible man in the sky.
"Have You and I been dating for the last couple of months?" LOL!
I'd be like....Uhhhh, yeah we have. Let's hit the skins. 🥰😜
She's just a sadist. She enjoyed manipulating others and psychologically torturing other people.
Know the definition of sadist before you label a person as such...attachments come with serious consequences.
@Medic1647 I do know the definition. Someone who gets pleasure from hurting or humiliating other people. I absolutely used this common term correctly. It seems you might want to look up the definition of words before arrogantly trying to correct others. There doesn't need to be a sxl component for someone to be a sadist.
I agree this woman is a sadist .. who is dangerously jealous of other females, imo .
Or as Dr Grande said, was engaging in "relationships" with women, which were perhaps disapproved of for cultural and or religious reasons.
I've never heard of a person's sentence increasing upon appeal. That's brilliant!
Dr. Grande,
Can you please analyze the case of Humanity? Because they seem insane.
Thanks,
The Animals
😂 I second this motion.
I just don't get how a mature adult woman can fall in love with someone you've never even talked to let alone met. How can just texting make you fall in love?
The mind is very powerful and once it gets off kilter you will believe whatever reality you’ve created.
Me neither?
It happens unfortunately
no one is immune to manipulation
Ya I don’t understand that too.
Lydia should probably be behind bars for even longer to be honest. She caused so much anxiety and pain to her victims. A very vindictive person to add.
Thanks for covering this case. It was all over the news here🇦🇺. Horrendous what she did. Very disturbing individual. I hope the police keep tabs on her because I don't think she'll stop her behaviour. She has no empathy or regret for the lady who took her own life. Seems psychopathic.
Instead of trying to be an actor she should have tried script writing.
Considering the damage she did, a 10-year sentence would have been about right.
I just cannot get into developing a relationship over social media. It’s hard enough to suss out if someone is misrepresenting themselves face-to-face let alone online.
After four years in prison, and coming into contact with fraudsters inside, she will be on her A-game when she gets out.Yikes
Prison can be a training ground.
💯 and that will be scary. Unless someone offs her while in prison. This she-animal is a psychopath.
Can’t imagine being so weird you pick someone and just mess with them
It’s like people never heard of catfishing in the news and fall for schemes over and over.
We had another case in Australia where a woman impersonated a man who catfished a famous singer in a "relationship" that last 10 years.
When the victim realised that the "love interest" was a female that she actually knew she was devastated.
Some people have too much time on their hands
I recently saw this story on Australian 60 Minutes. So sad that Emma took her own life. Jess was a pretty woman. She could have met a good looking guy in person. Sad all the way around. Lydia is sick.
She was probably attracted to women but didn't accept that about herself so she would have never been happy in a real life relationship
@@nyreekrikoriangut feeling on her name she's from Pakistan origins it's pretty frowned upon in Islam to be gay so that could be why she was being such a weirdo. I'm not diagnosing just guessing 😅
I think it's likely Lidia will do this again.
She shouldn't be allowed back online when released. The internet is her weapon.
She is vile. Simply vile- a sadist on another level, and to think she only got 4 years...... while poor Emma couldn't live with herself anymore. 😢
All the energy wasted over years and years for what.
When she said she was a soap opera star from New Jersey I knew she was a fake
I am going to sound insane, and I know this. But crimes like these, for some personal reason I find them on par if not worse than tragic shootings, etc. in my own way I can sort of understand and empathize with a rage filled snap that happens. But these prolonged fishing things just hit me so hard and raw and evil. I just think the sentences should be MUCH harsher.
Deluded
@@user-mi4of6mt7j I know it is. It’s just how I feel. 15 years without the possibility of parole. That’ll teach these F’s.
I agree. These are today’s monsters.
@@corning1 let’s see if you feel the same when someone decides to shoot your whole family during a public outing 😊 im sure last thing on your mind will be how catfishes are just as bad
Especially cases like Michelle Carter and how she convinced her boyfriend Conrad Roy to kill himself.
Lydia, aka "Lincoln", can take comfort in signing a 4-season contract with a non-profit organization, as a leading actress of her own spin-off : "Jail and Away".
Some people are so gullible. I can never understand how women can send private photos and videos of themselves to anyone!
Men send nudes often, but women should do better! I feel little sympathy for women who willingly send nudes online - personal photos should be safe guarded and never sent to anyone
It's hard to fathom what these catfishers GET from doing this - you'd think it was for the personal connection (however false), but after they're exposed, they then harrass the victim! It took me many decades to figure out malignant narcissism, so now I'll need to do a Deep Dive into catfishing.
I think the motive can be an ego lift or validation. It can be exciting for a bored person. There are also financial reasons.
Her brain must have told her to do it even if we do not understand why. In Australia we have men running around kicking an egg shaped bag of air between two sticks and thousands of others pay money to watch them. Well something must motivate them to do it.
no wonder she had memory loss, my brain shorted out just listening to her story.
Lydia wanted to be an actress but never made it. She got bored and decided to catfish, once she started, she couldn't stop, she became addicted.
There's nothing more terrifying than sadism combined with creativity.
The first case I heard about catfishing was the Renae Marsden case and it impacted me on so many levels. The amount of work these people put to deceive their victims and the incredible psychological damage that they cause it’s horrible. At least Lydia received some punishment but it’s not even enough in my opinion.
I'm going through a breakup with a crazy woman I work with. After watching this I'm feeling good about being single again.
Sucks that you work with her, bummer, if she''s crazy cover your arse and make sure you can defend any false allegations that could come your way.
Man at this point in my life, I still go for the crazy ones knowing it's never gonna last but just enjoying the ride as long as it lasts. Something about unhinged women is they quickly tend to fall in love and are crazy passionate.
Never ever date or have sex with someone you work with. You look old enough to know that.
"The pain of never being good enough was unbearable. She wanted other people to suffer along with her." The most pointed comment of all.
Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande! Going out for Pho in hot weather soon for my dad's 74th birthday. Good timing!
You're welcome.
@@tedcrilly46 You have zero to do with his uploads. Stop trying to scam people.
@@Flamsterette Ok. Im actually Dr Phil.
I think Lydia knew exactly what she was doing. And she deserves more than just 4 years. You don't prey on people's emotions like that and think it's a game. She knowingly and deliberately hurt people. What a sick individual she is. I have no remorse for her.
She worked so hard to do something psychotic, and didn't even become a serial killer.
I just saw this the past week. One poor woman is no longer with us
Social media is gonna be the downfall of our society….. what people can do behind electronics is a whole other world….
Yep it's terrifying isn't it..I 2 teen boys and I'm so horrified at world they living in
@@EmiFromMarslol well it could be worse, I have 2 teen Girls
Actually, we've learned a lot about people too thanks to the digital age
Listening to Dr Grande is part of my sleep routine. I always fall asleep to his soothing voice and monothonic tone. He should really consider making these relaxation audio clips, like body scanning, mentalization, etc. His voice would be jusr perfect for that. 😍😍😍
Same here. I absolutely love his videos and analysis, but find his voice and tone very soothing.
me too! I play it at 0.75 speed.
My thoughts on this case- how did this girl have so much free time??
It never amazes me why women would send revealing or nude pics of themselves to some stranger on the internet!
Why would you think someone online would ask you for this kind of photo to begin with? A lot of those photos end up on porn sites. You cannot be that desperate to have a “relationship” with someone you don’t even know!
But on this case she did know him
They know each other on a fly
That is why It was so easy to get to trick like she was
@@laurafabianmarreroHaving been acquainted with someone who suddenly cyberly befriends you is also not a good reason to send intimate, or any, photos.
@@evelynwaugh4053 off course not
That was stupid on her part
@@alpha1solace I don't have those types of accounts. And I would never send someone intimate photos. That's ruined too many lives.
Absolutely a silly thing to do. I guess people are lonely and when they make a connection they get a high from it, and are more vulnerable to this kind of coercive behaviour.
I remember this when I was a junior holy cow, that was almost 5 years. I’m thankful she’s locked for what she did to those ladies.
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening during a very special episode of 'As the Catfish Turns', like this.
The healthy man does not torture others-generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers.... Carl Jung
Love your videos! Your personality is amazing and I love your passive aggressive comments 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I have a hard time keeping up with myself. Much less fake people.
Again another reason for Me to stay alone or include just a few people
Always interesting
Thank you
Peace 💕🇺🇲
I had to watch this 5 times to keep it straight. I mean: WHAT???
My theory: If Lydia had been happy in her own love life she would not have felt the need to bring chaos into other people's lives. She was obviously disillusioned and bitter over failed relationships and got a thrill, an emotional high, from leading people on only to burst their bubble when the timing was right, just as her bubble had burst on her. It was her form of revenge, satisfaction, and entertainment to hurt others as she herself had been hurt. 🧚♀
I am curious as what Lydia's childhood was like.
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Dr Grande should do a video about the good things about New Jersey, that is the extensive interstate network, Newark airport, and of course its close proximity to the Hudson River
And all of Cape May County
Yep. I'll do that.
- Dr Grande.
Everytime Dr. Grande says 'please like the video' I'm reminded of Jeb Bush saying 'please clap'
Love and appreciate your analysis, Dr. Grande.
“She understood he was not real. It’s hard to imagine anyone setting their romantic criteria any lower than that.”
Dude I busted out laughing 😂
Omg he has 1.32M subs! What happened?!? I’m so happy for him! Remember the off white room? Congratulations Dr Grande!
This was so confusing to follow
I am often amazed by how the victims continue to go back for more; sort of proving the definition of insanity: trying the same thing over and over expecting different results.
I feel horrible for Emma. My goodness. She didn’t deserve any of that. She just wanted to be loved.
This is a case where NOT diagnosing but only speculating has my head spinning. Please help me to understand the madness.
Deceptive people, gullible people… It’s really difficult to comprehend why people engage in such terrible things.
And geez. I’m int’l flight attendant😳
@@cancelledopinion2158look ANYWHERE but online!
Thanks for all you do Dr. G.
What a complex plot, terrible to do such a scam. Great points again. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
That Lydia person is one truly deranged human. Meanwhile, why did "Emma" fall in love with someone sight unseen, and worse, AFTER finding out the person was faking the first time?
In middle school, a girl told me a teen idol was her cousin. "Come over. He's supposed to drop by." Showing me pictures of him then dropping the subject when it was time for me to go. I think she enjoyed her short reign of power.
Wow. Do you think she was lonely, or was she a compulsive liar?
@@GrumpyMeow-Meow yeah, both. I don’t remember her having too many friends in high school.
Can you analyze the case of Jerrod Murray?
The Australian [justice] system hands down pathetically weak prison sentences to vile offenders on a regular basis. It's rare to even see a murderer get a long sentence in that country. I hardly ever watch any Australian true-crime stories because their weak criminal sentences infuriate me and raise my blood pressure.
Spot on
As an Australian it's disgraceful that murderers are ever allowed back into society
Lights permanently out for the victim but hey how about a 2nd chance for the criminal?
Makes no sense & will not deter career criminals & perhaps is likely to encourage slaying rivals?
Sentences are far too lenient & rarely fit the severity of crimes committed - good behaviour early release should be subject to life long clauses where any further offences mean no early release again & serving out any previous sentences in full
Drink drivers that kill innocent people are given light sentences & sometimes zero time in jail! Instead such criminals receive a 2nd chance & most are able to keep driving after a period of suspension!!!
How is this justice?
Choosing to drink & drive & ending someone else's life even if not intentional shows very poor judgement & the minute people start driving while drunk beyond 0.05 they are committing a crime - add to this involuntary manslaughter & how can they not serve at least a minimum jail sentence for ending the life of an innocent person?!?
In this case the sentence was probably about right, though LA should probably be subject to weekly mental health assessments & ongoing therapy or permanent detention in mental health facility
The crime wasn't murder - the continuing destruction shows major personality problems & severe mental health issues that underpin criminal behaviour which requires punishment & therapy
It's almost like Australia is prepared to give criminals another chance because it's too expensive to keep them in jail & there's always someone else on the way in for a brief stay after committing murder or rape or fraud or manslaughter....
I am only 6 minutes in and my head is hurting, what a complicated set of circumstances to wrap my head around at 1am in the morning.
By 3:00 the stewardess needs all of her phones and computers taken away and no access to the internet.
I had to bail on this one, Dr. Grande. My brain hurts from the convolutedness of it all.
I can’t imagine the distress and harm Lydia, caused.
Not very often that you find a romance scammer who is not motivated by money. In fact, she even gave
one of her victims a small amount of money - very unusual.
I live in a place where we use umbrellas to shield ourselves from the paparazzi more often than the weather.
People who catfish really are despicable.
I had to pause, get a pencil and paper, and rewind. Need a scorecard to keep track, I was getting lost!
Hi Dr. "G". This case study was so intriguing and frightening on the stalking end of it. Personal note your hair looks nice.
I hope you don't take offence to this but I watch all your videos during the day and then I replay them throughout the night because mate, your voice is so soothing
This story. . . is just shocking. Thank you for covering this. I’ll be finding everything I can about this. So much to process. So strange.
My goodness the devil has such a stronghold on people's minds these days.
Theory: She is lesbian, but grew up in a highly repressed environment, therefore has always been closeted to the point she never even verbalized a hint of her proclivities/sexuality to a single soul. She turned online as an outlet, but even there she had too much shame and self hate to use her own identity or even gender identity. All this suppression manifested itself in completely toxic ways in the online "fantasy" world.
I think it's more than theory. I think it's highly probable.
Makes a lot of sense.
Nah, she just likes messing with peoples heads, we all knew people at school who's daily goal was making others miserable, there are no shortage of people like this.
I think she's just a sadist who hated other women. Without any evidence that she grew up in an environment so repressive she was never even able to form the thought that she was a lesbian I think that's the only conclusion possible.
The stewardess actually met the real actor and got a pic with him on a flight before all this started if you're wondering why she fell for it
He even call her and confirm it wasnt him
So sad
She finally called him to ask “ have we been dating?” Exchanging texts is considered dating now? 😅
@@jcoffeycup the fact that she knew him in person and still fell for it
That is the weird part 😂
Dear Dr Grande, she is better off behind bars. I think she is likely to repeat the scam once released. She is clearly sadistic and unprincipled. She now has an extended holiday at His Majesties Hotel = gaol. Excellent, enjoyable and another quirky matter well explained.
Anyone else suspect that nobody actually asked him the question, he just wanted to discuss this subject?
Great break down Dr. Grande Love your POV, clever 👍
😊 thank you Dr. Grande! We love your videos!
The irony is that no one in Home and Away can act. .... actually no one in Australia can act.....I can imagine Australia being worse than New Jersey
Thor and Wolverine would like a word with you 😂
Nicole Kidman and Cate Blanchett have entered the chat. So has Rachel Griffiths.
Yes and Toni Colette, Margo Robbie, Eric Bana....
The highlight of my days - videos from Dr. Grande, listening to his speculations.
2:32 ...Lincoln replied, "No."
This is the most bizarre one yet. Especially since the poor lady victim ended up insane and actually ended her own life. Could you run an analysis of the victim?
I love your work, Dr. Grande! Very interesting discussions!!
Thanks! ✌️🦄✨️
Some folks in NJ desire to have a sit-down with you in NJ. Regarding yesterday's video 👹🤔😈😡🤬😈👿👺
Thank you for this one! I just read about this and it was so strange. I think you nailed it. Your analysis makes sense. Thanks Dr. Grande!
Maybe I would think differently if I lived in a large country like Australia, but I have no understanding of how/why someone considers they are in a romantic relationship with someone they have never met. Is this common? I could never invest much enthusiasm into anyone I had never met in the flesh, maybe in the early stages, but if we hadn't managed to get together in the real world within a few weeks, it would never progress to the point of any sensitive photos being sent. Is this a generational thing?
My head hurts.