Glad to see you back, Alfred! I completely agree with your points. Gay and bi men, in particular, have been hypersexualized, often having multiple partners or hookups in an attempt to emotionally connect with someone. However, many lack the emotional capacity for this because they haven't had healthy relationships modeled for them. Regarding older gay men dating younger men, I also agree with your point about them trying to reclaim their youth and sex, while younger gay men may seek out a 'sugar daddy' for financial support or stable housing. Unfortunately, this is no different from straight relationships where older men date or marry younger women for social status, attention, or the desire to feel younger as well. It's a very interesting topic, and I’m glad to hear that you and others (SaySoTV) are discussing it.
Disagree with you regarding older gay men. Men should be able to date younger or older men. You sound so judgemental. You as a 34 jr old man does not have all the correct answers. This vlog was ok until you started bashing the older gay generation. Here you are discriminating against your own gay brothers. Shame on you. Just saying bro....
Very Good Episode! Thank you! I was widowed, we were together for 7 years, and now I’ve found Love again. We just hit a year in August 🤗 Me being older and maturing from the loss of a partner, I can concur with everything you are saying and I want to show my new partner this video.
We DESPERATELY need stories, accounts, representation of black gay love. No one needs to hear about why we as black men are not good enough for other black men. There is no benefit for black men to speak out about how beneficial and easier for black men to actively choose non black men for partners. (The reasons provided are BASURA - family structure, parents sticking around if they’re unhappy are not legit). The advocacy for non black queer/interracial queer relationships smells of anti blackness…
13:55 Why would a 30+ y/o guy want to date a 25 year old? Because 25 y/o usually already have an education, a job, fresh views on the world and a physically attractive body. It's really not that hard to understand why some 30+ y/o guys wouldn't mind getting to know the younger ones. It's not like they're going after fresh high school graduates, right? So, what's the difference between a healthy 25 y/o and a healthy 35 y/o? Some grey hairs here and there, some smile lines? More jadedness? Granted, anything under 25 is a bit sus, but it's definitely well within the male gaze to look for prime specimen to mate with. And the accusation of wanting to manipulate and form the younger party to fit the older party's expectations of a proper partner rings a bit hollow when at 6:00, economic uplifting of a perceived lesser class love interest gets a pass.
Why reject someone who is also 35 when there are so many older gay men who are single and wanting relationships??? 35 is not old nor past a man's prime. Many men, including myself, would argue our lives dont start until 30.
@@TheAlfredPlatform Thanks for entertaining my view on the matter. Dating someone of the same age bracket has been statistically proven to be the most promising dating option. But it's not the only legitimate one. Just as there are many different personalities out there, so are differing preferences. Said preferences are usually inspired by biological mating instincts, societal expectations and past observations. Among straight couples, it is not unusual to have an older male partner and a younger female partner. It's usually an age difference of less than 10 years. The younger straight female partner associates the older age of the male partner with experience, social status, maturity, higher income and further triggers of the provider-based aspect of female hypergamy. The older straight male partner associates the younger age of the female partner with youthful fertility, beauty, protectiveness, purity, mentorship and similar concepts. He'll be more likely to view a younger female partner as more attractive than a partner of similar or older age. Beyond those basic biological instincts, there exist further influences that need to be considered before romantic relationships or mating efforts may be initiated. Similar interests, hobbies, locations and/or opportunities to meet the opposite gender and the likes. Gay relationships, on the other hand, do not mirror straight relationships all the time - but they certainly rhyme with each other. First, there are additional selection hurdles to consider. Minority: The dating pool is much smaller due to gay or bi men constituting less than one tenth of all men. If you feel drawn to a certain ethnicity, that reduces the numbers again. Not every gay man is out. Or actively looking for a romantic relationship. Not every gay/bi potential love interest is reciprocating your advances, due to differing personal preferences. The same goes for you too. Generally unattractive attributes like being a drug addict, overweight, too short, too poor, etc. might be reason enough to disregard a potential love interest. Because all humans have diverging preferences. After striking so many people off your list, your chances to find someone promising as a 30-something gay guy might likely have shrunk down quite a lot. So what do you do now in order to increase your chances? You could go to a gay bar/ club or try online dating. It makes sense to look at places that concentrate potential partners, after all. But there are still not so many options available. So age differences (within reason) become less of a deterrent to date out of your preferred comfort zone. Example: You may be a gay 33 y/o teacher at a city with a few hundred openly out and proud dudes. But the other 30-something gay guys you meet up with through dating apps don't quite strike your fancy. They're already in a committed relationship, out of shape, jaded, workaholics or some other result of being an actual adult for 10+ years. Then again, that hot 26 y/o guy, who flirted with you at the local gay bar last night and managed to exchange numbers after a surprisingly deep conversation, is just your type in many regards. So you think to yourself: Age is just a number, isn't it? And you go and call him, asking him to meet up again. Before you know it, you're going steady. Turns out you're a good match after all, despite a 7-year age gap. Tldr: Love happens.
After advising gay men against practicing female hypergamy only minutes earlier, the advice given around 6:00 doesn't sound genuine. So if your romantic interest makes $60K a year as a high school teacher but you make double that amount as an engineer, you're supposed to ask him to go back to college, get a Ph.D and apply for a school director position later on in order to increase his salary? So he doesn't drag you down? And if he expresses contentment with teaching and helping his high school students in a subject he loves and is therefore hesitant to give it all up in hopes of landing an administrative position with more money to become worthy of your economic position, you're supposed to kick him to the curb? Sorry, but that's just female hypergamy light. Love is love. As long as your love interest doesn't run the risk of becoming financially dependant on you, income shouldn't count.
I’m giving up on dating while Black. It sucks Im only preyed on by old men. I’m in my 30s and wish to date someone in my age group but they always ghost, don’t know what they want, or want someone younger.
Thanks for sharing this, great info, you inspire me, I’m a country masculine gay guy, I’m also 34 , I have cerebral palsy I use a walker and wheelchair, I been single for 15 years, I had a boyfriend all of high school from 2004 to 2008, after high school we broke up because his parents found out we were gay, I can’t wait until I find another boyfriend that’s gonna help me with my cerebral palsy, I love hocking loogies and cowboy boots! You rock man
@saltycupkakes2799 I'd have to wonder is it most... or is it most that you have seen. I have a completely different experience. If most of the ones I've seen can be call hypergamy, the ALL men's/Marc's content is misogynistic
@@slickandslaycious6579 first of all, I must admit that I've really learnt a lot from female centred channels like feminine Renaissance, it girl playbook, tam kaur etc. If alpha male channels on how males can improve themselves represent how masculine men view things, these channels are the feminine and opposite of these channels. They do push women to be a better version of themselves, but hypergamy is really pushed upon the audience to be more feminine and successful in life. This is just my observation.
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Glad to see you back, Alfred! I completely agree with your points. Gay and bi men, in particular, have been hypersexualized, often having multiple partners or hookups in an attempt to emotionally connect with someone. However, many lack the emotional capacity for this because they haven't had healthy relationships modeled for them. Regarding older gay men dating younger men, I also agree with your point about them trying to reclaim their youth and sex, while younger gay men may seek out a 'sugar daddy' for financial support or stable housing. Unfortunately, this is no different from straight relationships where older men date or marry younger women for social status, attention, or the desire to feel younger as well. It's a very interesting topic, and I’m glad to hear that you and others (SaySoTV) are discussing it.
Disagree with you regarding older gay men. Men should be able to date younger or older men. You sound so judgemental. You as a 34 jr old man does not have all the correct answers. This vlog was ok until you started bashing the older gay generation. Here you are discriminating against your own gay brothers. Shame on you. Just saying bro....
Congrats on 10 years together is awesome. Wishing you both another 10 years together in the future. Keep it moving and together my brothers....
Thank you for this video I thought that I was going crazy on this dating thing nobody wants to commit that is all not giving up doe…
Very Good Episode! Thank you!
I was widowed, we were together for 7 years, and now I’ve found Love again. We just hit a year in August 🤗 Me being older and maturing from the loss of a partner, I can concur with everything you are saying and I want to show my new partner this video.
We DESPERATELY need stories, accounts, representation of black gay love. No one needs to hear about why we as black men are not good enough for other black men. There is no benefit for black men to speak out about how beneficial and easier for black men to actively choose non black men for partners. (The reasons provided are BASURA - family structure, parents sticking around if they’re unhappy are not legit). The advocacy for non black queer/interracial queer relationships smells of anti blackness…
Ok.
13:55 Why would a 30+ y/o guy want to date a 25 year old?
Because 25 y/o usually already have an education, a job, fresh views on the world and a physically attractive body. It's really not that hard to understand why some 30+ y/o guys wouldn't mind getting to know the younger ones. It's not like they're going after fresh high school graduates, right?
So, what's the difference between a healthy 25 y/o and a healthy 35 y/o? Some grey hairs here and there, some smile lines? More jadedness?
Granted, anything under 25 is a bit sus, but it's definitely well within the male gaze to look for prime specimen to mate with.
And the accusation of wanting to manipulate and form the younger party to fit the older party's expectations of a proper partner rings a bit hollow when at 6:00, economic uplifting of a perceived lesser class love interest gets a pass.
Why reject someone who is also 35 when there are so many older gay men who are single and wanting relationships??? 35 is not old nor past a man's prime. Many men, including myself, would argue our lives dont start until 30.
@@TheAlfredPlatform
Thanks for entertaining my view on the matter. Dating someone of the same age bracket has been statistically proven to be the most promising dating option. But it's not the only legitimate one.
Just as there are many different personalities out there, so are differing preferences. Said preferences are usually inspired by biological mating instincts, societal expectations and past observations.
Among straight couples, it is not unusual to have an older male partner and a younger female partner. It's usually an age difference of less than 10 years.
The younger straight female partner associates the older age of the male partner with experience, social status, maturity, higher income and further triggers of the provider-based aspect of female hypergamy.
The older straight male partner associates the younger age of the female partner with youthful fertility, beauty, protectiveness, purity, mentorship and similar concepts. He'll be more likely to view a younger female partner as more attractive than a partner of similar or older age.
Beyond those basic biological instincts, there exist further influences that need to be considered before romantic relationships or mating efforts may be initiated. Similar interests, hobbies, locations and/or opportunities to meet the opposite gender and the likes.
Gay relationships, on the other hand, do not mirror straight relationships all the time - but they certainly rhyme with each other.
First, there are additional selection hurdles to consider.
Minority: The dating pool is much smaller due to gay or bi men constituting less than one tenth of all men. If you feel drawn to a certain ethnicity, that reduces the numbers again. Not every gay man is out. Or actively looking for a romantic relationship. Not every gay/bi potential love interest is reciprocating your advances, due to differing personal preferences. The same goes for you too. Generally unattractive attributes like being a drug addict, overweight, too short, too poor, etc. might be reason enough to disregard a potential love interest. Because all humans have diverging preferences.
After striking so many people off your list, your chances to find someone promising as a 30-something gay guy might likely have shrunk down quite a lot.
So what do you do now in order to increase your chances? You could go to a gay bar/ club or try online dating.
It makes sense to look at places that concentrate potential partners, after all. But there are still not so many options available. So age differences (within reason) become less of a deterrent to date out of your preferred comfort zone.
Example: You may be a gay 33 y/o teacher at a city with a few hundred openly out and proud dudes. But the other 30-something gay guys you meet up with through dating apps don't quite strike your fancy. They're already in a committed relationship, out of shape, jaded, workaholics or some other result of being an actual adult for 10+ years.
Then again, that hot 26 y/o guy, who flirted with you at the local gay bar last night and managed to exchange numbers after a surprisingly deep conversation, is just your type in many regards. So you think to yourself: Age is just a number, isn't it? And you go and call him, asking him to meet up again. Before you know it, you're going steady. Turns out you're a good match after all, despite a 7-year age gap.
Tldr: Love happens.
After advising gay men against practicing female hypergamy only minutes earlier, the advice given around 6:00 doesn't sound genuine.
So if your romantic interest makes $60K a year as a high school teacher but you make double that amount as an engineer, you're supposed to ask him to go back to college, get a Ph.D and apply for a school director position later on in order to increase his salary? So he doesn't drag you down? And if he expresses contentment with teaching and helping his high school students in a subject he loves and is therefore hesitant to give it all up in hopes of landing an administrative position with more money to become worthy of your economic position, you're supposed to kick him to the curb?
Sorry, but that's just female hypergamy light. Love is love. As long as your love interest doesn't run the risk of becoming financially dependant on you, income shouldn't count.
This was great and something that needed to be discussed out in the open and to hear the many point's and view's.
Keep up with the great work.👍🏽💙👍🏽
I was right there with you until around the 15m mark. Will check out some of your other bids though ✌🏾💜✊🏾
I’m giving up on dating while Black. It sucks Im only preyed on by old men. I’m in my 30s and wish to date someone in my age group but they always ghost, don’t know what they want, or want someone younger.
@jefftothefree Try not to focus on who you want, look up, and only focus on who wants you.
Thanks for sharing this, great info, you inspire me, I’m a country masculine gay guy, I’m also 34 , I have cerebral palsy I use a walker and wheelchair, I been single for 15 years, I had a boyfriend all of high school from 2004 to 2008, after high school we broke up because his parents found out we were gay, I can’t wait until I find another boyfriend that’s gonna help me with my cerebral palsy, I love hocking loogies and cowboy boots! You rock man
I miss the series i agreed with the content
Nobody in Craig’s video said they wanted an open relationship
Gay or straight men will always look towards younger ! A sad fact but real
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Well... let's not generalize women
Or black relationships for that matter
Not generalizing women but most feminine podcasts and content really push for hypergamy
@saltycupkakes2799 I'd have to wonder is it most... or is it most that you have seen. I have a completely different experience.
If most of the ones I've seen can be call hypergamy, the ALL men's/Marc's content is misogynistic
@@slickandslaycious6579 first of all, I must admit that I've really learnt a lot from female centred channels like feminine Renaissance, it girl playbook, tam kaur etc. If alpha male channels on how males can improve themselves represent how masculine men view things, these channels are the feminine and opposite of these channels.
They do push women to be a better version of themselves, but hypergamy is really pushed upon the audience to be more feminine and successful in life. This is just my observation.
I agree with you Alfred: date your age = so much in common with life experiences.👍🏾
Sometimes age gap relationships can work. Examples on TH-cam. Same age is not necessarily better. Just saying...