WE POSTPONED OUR WEDDING: Why we got married at the courthouse and still had dream wedding
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- Canceling or postponing a wedding can be a hard decision to make. During this pandemic, I know that many couples may be asking ...should we cancel our wedding or should we go to the courthouse? I discuss why we decided to go to the courthouse, why we postponed our wedding, how we made the day we got married SUPER SPECIAL, and touch on how we planned our wedding on a budget.
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Hi Guys!!
Welcome back to my channel. In today’s video, I share why my husband and I decided to go to the courthouse then and have our DREAM wedding months later. A lot went into our decision, and we were blessed to be able to have both. Postponing our wedding was something I never would have imagined but I love how everything turned out.
I know that many brides might have to postpone their wedding during this season due to the pandemic but I hope you stay encouraged and do whatever is best for you and makes you happy at the end of the day!❤️ Everyone's wedding day will be unique and special for them.
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Thank you for this!! We are getting married at the courthouse in January and postponing our dream wedding until 2022! Great information! 💕
Congrats, that is exciting!! I'm glad this video helped you! I'm sure both days will be super special for you guys, best of luck!! 💛☺️
How was your dream wedding ? ?
@@HealthyNatureRules Hey, it’s in October! Can’t wait 🥰
We couldn’t do the courthouse because of Covid so we had a zoom wedding at our house in January 2021.
Getting married at the courthouse can you do that and be legally married and not have to have the the official wedding right now?
Thank you for posting this. Planning on getting married next month at the courthouse to be obedient to God. I want to have all my family there but because of Covid and time we can’t. Now I feel so much better about doing the courthouse and planning a bigger wedding later. Thank you ❤️
Congrats on getting married soon! I’m glad this video could help you in some way. 💛 I know God is going to work everything out for you.
Did you get marry?
This really had me tearing up.
God is Faithful foreal.
When you brought up the couple y’all had been talking to becoming the witnesses for y’all that warmed my heart so much because God really plans for the unseen in ways that are better than we can imagine.
Thank you for this video it’s exactly what i needed. May God continue to Bless you and your husband 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this comment❤️ It means a lot, I agree that God is SO faithful. God showed us throughout the entire process that he cares about every detail!
What a wonderful story! I'm so glad the courthouse wedding was so wonderful but that you also got to have a beautiful wedding/reception as well.
Thank you! Yes, it was such a blessing to be able to have both!
Thank you for sharing this!! God bless y’all!
God bless you🙏🏾this video was right on time for me and I appreciate you taking the time out to make it because I was very undecided on what I wanted to do as far as our wedding and getting married at Jotp, but now I have my answers !🥰
Hey Kourtney! Congrats to you, this is such an exciting season. I’m glad this video was helpful! Praying you guys continue to have clarity on what to do ☺️
This was so helpful! I believe we are going to follow your path :-) Congrats to you!
That’s awesome! Congrats to you as well. Im sure whatever you guys decide the day will be perfect for the both of you ☺️
Confirmation 💆🏾♀️Thank you God Bless
You are so welcome! Glad you found this helpful ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. This is my plan as well, but I had been on the fance about it as well.
Hey Ashley! You are so welcome! I am glad it could be helpful. I was defiantly on the fence at first, but I am grateful about how it worked out. Congrats to you!
@@TruePurityLifestyle Thank you!! I'm Christian as well, and I love how you sought counsel from God for everything. That's what me and my fiancée are doing.
Hey hun! Loved this insight! My partner are looking to do the same. I just wanted to ask, did you send invitations out for the big wedding and if so, what was your wording on the invitation seeing as it’s a bit different to the traditional wedding? 😊
Hey! Thanks for watching! Congrats on your union:) We sent out save the dates only to save money. It mentioned saved the date for the wedding of or union of ( our names), then we included the date, location, and website to RSVP. Honestly, it was very similar to a typical save the date. Let me know if you have more questions :)
Thank you so much! I actually did have another question! When it came to the big wedding, due to you both already being legally married, did you go through the actual entire ceremony again or were there parts that you skipped as it wouldn’t have been relevant etc? 😊
@@CourtsCarlos Hey Courtney! The ceremony was very similar to your typical ceremony. We didn't omit any parts from it and that felt right for us to do it that way. I am sure if you decide to omit some parts it will still go well. I hope everything is still going well with your planning. Here for anymore questions you may have.😀
My boyfriend and I are planning a short engagement then marriage! I get so much anxiety thinking of planning things in a time constraint let alone with the attention on him and myself. We're thinking about courthouse and having family there but my parents are divorced and haven't talked in years are with different partners and there's tension. Along with other factors im starting to not want family there and wait for the ceremony later for them but he wants family there especially his grandfather who is older. Are you glad you went with this route with no family? Or any other advice thank you!
Hi Hannah,
Congrats on your engagement. At this moment we are still glad that we went that route. The moment felt very special and intimate and we had the opportunity to celebrate with everyone else a few months later. We had to have a lot of conversations about what to do, and what helped us was coming to a decision that truly made us happy and was essentially what we felt led to do.
The biggest piece of advice that I would give you is to go the route that you both feel led to do, this is the start of your union so you want that day to still be special to both of you. Figure out what would make both of you the happiest.
I hope this helps in some way, I am definitely here to help if you have more questions about my process.
Thank you so much for sharing! You looked so beautiful! Me and my fiancé plan on getting married in the courthouse or city hall in two months and then having our big wedding next year and I am just wondering if you told your family and friends that you got married or if you waited until your actual wedding? Also, did you change your info on social media and your name right after the courthouse ceremony or did you wait till your actual wedding? I have been trying to figure out how to navigate this. Also what day do you count as your actual anniversary?
I have the exact same questions!
Also wondering about this as well
Thank you so much for your comment. Congrats on your engagement and upcoming union!❤️I just created this video that is answering some of these questions. I hope it helps in some way. th-cam.com/video/ORDWeA2MEnw/w-d-xo.html
Hi Quanetta! Thanks for watching! This video may help you in some way. It is answering some of these very questions. th-cam.com/video/ORDWeA2MEnw/w-d-xo.html
All glory to God.
What wording was used on your Wedding invitation and did guests already know you were married?
Me and my fiancée have also been lead to do this. In obedience to the Lord
I just wanted to tell you Thank you! We have been planning for the last year and the wedding is next month! we’ve been soo stressed mentally and financially and i’ve just been needing a sign or video to lighten my heart and confirm that postponing my wedding and going to the courts is right. We’ve never felt so rushed and we came to the realization that we didn’t want to start our new life this way. I just needed the extra encouragement and I thank you so much and praise GOD for sending me this video i needed it!!!!!!!!!
This warms my heart to read! I am so happy that you have received some peace about the right decision for you guys! I remember this being a challenging decision for us, so happy my story could help you. Congrats on this new chapter in your life, I am praying that God continues to bless your union.
-Ashley
Thank you I needed to hear this because I'm going through this right now this help ease my mind. God bless you and your husband. And God knew it was in his perfect timing.
Me and my fiancé are in the same situation! This was so helpful.
Wow, I know how you are feeling then! I really hope you guys find a solution that works perfect for both of you! Remember to focus on the union and the day that you become one will be perfect! 💛
Getting married in 3 weeks at the courthouse and doing our dream wedding 2022!! 😆
Wow, congrats!! That is so exciting! I hope it all goes well ❤️
Thank you for this!!! This is definitely a testimony of obedience and favor. We got married last August, just the two of us and our Pastor and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. We are currently making last minute plans for our wedding in October and I can’t wait to be able to celebrate with family and friends. Also it’s crazy to have come across your video and I remember you from New Bern!!
Hi! It is amazing how you came across my video :) I remember you as well. Congrats on your union. Our story seems so similar. I would not have it any other way either. When God says move you just do it and He will work out the rest...that sounds like that was the case for both of us. 🙂
I got married at the courthouse and am trying to plan a wedding but im not sure how it works when you are already married. is it more like a vow renewal? or can you make it just like a wedding? ahh im not sure hah
So happy for you, this is an exciting season❤️. I made it more like a wedding, but honestly, after you are already married it's completely up to you. I plan to make a video explaining it more 😊
@@TruePurityLifestyle are you still going to make this video? I’m on the same boat and it’s all so confusing to me
Hi, thanks for watching..here is the video th-cam.com/video/ORDWeA2MEnw/w-d-xo.html
Feel free to let me know if you have more questions. Congrats to you!!!
I’m in the same position. Considering courthouse and then big wedding later on. But I wanted to know isn’t it weird to have technically two different wedding dates? And did you have a bridal shower and bachelorette party because technically at that moment then you weren’t a bachelorette because you were already married? Just so confused on how that process of a normal wedding would go if we go to the courthouse first. Thanks
Thank you for this reassurance and explanation and what this could look like! I love seeing God work in your lives!
I have been thinking about this for a couple months before engagement and now thinking about it now.
Yasss mamas we love another video about the wedding... I’m getting married in October & haven’t planned anything
That’s so EXCITING!! Congrats😬! I planned my wedding in a matter of months, so I get it! I will definitely have to do some content on what that process was like for me!
Please do share. Especially also how you saved money
Hi Kamogelo, this video is about ways I saved money on the wedding! th-cam.com/video/iPJNrWlyE6I/w-d-xo.html. Hope it helps in some way!
Would it be announced at the church that you already got married in court or how does it work?
I just postpone my civil marriage a moment ago. I was all over the place. Your video gave me clearity. We have to re schedule. I honestly don't know by when. How long after you civil marriage did you guys have the wedding?
Congrats on your upcoming marriage. I am so happy that this video helped you. I know it can hard to decide what is best. We had our wedding 8 months after our civil marriage. For us that 8 month difference worked out well and gave us a good amount of time to plan the wedding.
Congrats again!!❤
-Ashley
Question for you or whoever else has gone through this same process - what did you tell your immediate friends and family? I think I want to go this route but find it hard to form the words to say.
Im so glad you did this video!! I’ve been looking for this everywhere 🙏🏽
I'm glad it could help you in some way😊💛
This is so sweet, you just made me feel so much better about doing this , I’ve been with my fiancé since I was 16 and I definitely want a dream wedding but he’s ready to go to the courthouse and we both just ready to make it official I was on the fence but now I see you are right ! You can have both! Thank you so much 🥰
Awww congrats to you! Im happy that my video was helpful to you. Honestly, once I submitted my plan to God he worked out the rest. Praying that you guys do what is best for y’all and for your union. ☺️
Another video with details please!! I live in Atlanta and I would love some ideas. Thanks and congrats
Thanks 💛! I am most definitely planning another video with more details! Thanks for watching!
Wow may God continue to bless u guys richly🥰
I loveeeeddddd this storytime!!! I am so happy for you and your husband. God bless your union
Thank you so much ☺️ 💛💛
This video came in right on time. I'm at this address right now and your video was helpful. Thank you
Congrats on your upcoming union! I'm SO happy that this video could help you in someway
-Ashley
OMG Thank you thank you thank you for this video because I have been stressing about the same thing. My fiancé and I will being getting married at the court house this week but we originally wanted to have our wedding November 2021. But my fiancé was the same way with wanting to just go to the court house; life is too short you know! This video is so similar to our situation, I thank God for this video you just don't understand how much this has helped us. Thank you!
Hey Tezara! Congrats on everything, this is such an exciting time for you! I hope the day that you got married was perfect! I agree, we just have to do what we feel led to do. I'm so happy that this video could help you in some way. Thanks so much for watching! ☺️
My fiancé and I are literally doing this! We’re actually getting married next Friday!
We had originally planned to get Married in our backyard, then the landlord ended up putting the house on the market 😔 so we are going to the courthouse instead then planning for a big wedding with family next year!
Love this video will be subscribing and watching your next one too!
Thank you Amanda for watching :). Congrats on your union. I know that this is a little different than your plan, but I am believing that everything will work out perfectly for you. Enjoy the process :)
I’m very happy you have shared your story with us. Me and my fiancé are currently going through this and have decided its best to do it this way as well. Ill take this as confirmation. Thanks again for sharing
Hi Shanek! Congrats to you guys! I am glad that my story helped you in some way! I am sure your day will be perfect💛
-Ashley
I’m in Atlanta also and we are getting married at the courthouse in two weeks. I’m super excited and nervous.
We will have a military wedding at the end of the year.
Thanks for posting ☺️.
That is so exciting! I'm sure when you get married in 2 weeks it will be amazing and the wedding will be great as well!
You are so welcome! Congrats ☺️☺️
I met my fiancé on IG TOO! We dated long distance (GA and me in California) for 1 year & now we’re engaged in year two, living in the same city. We’re going to have a small ceremony with our parents and kids, and then a wedding later. I’ve been struggling about postponing the wedding because of what “tradition” has been. But I know God led me here to see that being obedient is more important than anything. I can still do all the things I dreamed of later.
Oh wow! Congrats! Our stories are so similar. I am so so glad that God led you to my channel. I can see how postponing can be hard, I struggled a lot with that as well. And yes, obedience is so important. I am so happy with the decision we made. I am believing that God will lead you to what is best for you guys! Feel free to DM, me if you want to chat more ( IG: @truepuritylifestyle)🤍
Marry now pay later genius.
This has been so helpful and I can’t express how excited I am. This is my first wedding that me and my boyfriend will ever have and I’m so ready for this experience. Thank you so much!!
Hi Tamikia, you are so welcome! Congrats to you guys, such an exciting time. Enjoy your day😊
This video popped up suggested for me because my boyfriend and I have been struggling with the same decision. Even though pandemic restrictions are down, it seems like more and more people are still doing both the elopement and formal receptions later on. And I agree, there’s not a lot of content out there on this specific topic. So encouraging to see how God was in the details of your story! Thank you for sharing this!
Hey Erin! Congrats to you guys! I am so glad this video could be helpful. I have noticed that that many couples are opting to have a reception later as well. Praying you guys find clarity on what to do!
Congrats 🎉, ill be getting married soon. We decided to elope courthouse wedding. We want everything to be private 💃💃💃💃
Congrats!! So happy for you! Sounds like you are going to have such a sweet intimate event, Love that for you. -Ashley
Did you still have a bridal party or bachelorette party? My fiancé and I are both still living at home, however both of our parents are potentially moving in the next few months which means I may need to get an apartment. But we are toying with the idea of eloping, then moving in together, then having a celebration
Hi Andrea! Congrats on your engagement!! I had a small bachelorette party the weekend before our wedding, I really enjoyed still having that moment with friends. I hope you guys figure out what will be best for the both of you.
Congratulations as well💕
Hi Queen. I am new here. Just got married, currently planning our white wedding
Congrats Lydia! I hope your wedding is exactly what you desire! Thanks for watching!
My fiancé and I are planning to get the legal ceremony out of the way at the courthouse and then exchange our vows at a later date overseas (just us). when we send out our elopement announcement we are unsure how to word it, since 2 different dates and locations. any advice?
Congrats! You could say something like...
We are excited to announce our union which will be made official at the courthouse on "xxxdate" followed by our elopement on "xxxdate". While we chose to go the intimate route, we both want you to know the value you add to our lives and union and look forward to your support in our marriage.
or
We are excited to announce our upcoming union. We have decided to have a ceremony at the courthouse on xxxdate and have a intimate ceremony to exchange our vows on xxdate. You will be with us in our hearts on both of these special days. We love you and appreciate the continued love and support.
These are just rough drafts, I am sure there are some templates online that may help you.
Hope this helps in some way and that you find the perfect to announce this exciting time to your family!
Congrats again on your special union!!!
@@TruePurityLifestyle Thank you so much and congrats to you also! I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. This is very helpful, thank you.
Thank youuu so much got this!!!!! This is exactly what I am going through!!! Very informative loved it ❤️
You are so welcome! 💛 I’m glad it helped in some way...cause it felt like a lotttt to navigate when I went through it, but everything turned out amazing 😬
Okayyy I went to st. Augustine’s in Raleigh congrats and much contours success to you both‼️👏🏾
Thank you so much for this video!! My boyfriend and I are wanting to get married very soon and he didn't want us to be stressed over wedding planning. I feel like I will never be satisfied with the idea of a courthouse wedding. I'm so glad you shared your story, it encourages me to continue praying for His will and that he will change my heart to align with whatever He wants us to do!
Hi Lydia,
This is such a healthy perspective to have. Thanks for sharing this, that is so true. If we align our heart with His will, there is no way that it will go wrong. Praying for you guys to have clarity and over your union. 💛 -Ashley
I just got engaged and we’ve known each other for 16 years.(courting for about 10 months) Im trying to figure out things but I know I want us to get a license before the ceremony so Im just doing research lol. Thank you for making this
Awesome! I think it is great to do your research. No problem, hope this helped you in some way.
Was thinking bout court house wedding but want wedding fam n friend but hard to choose
I understand I felt the same way! I really hope you guys are able to decide on a option that will be best for both of you and that makes you both happy❤️ Reguardless of what you decide it will be a really special day!!
@@TruePurityLifestyle i was spoupose be married Sept 7 but now am planning my wedding even tho i am engaged ... We r get elpoe at court house wedding in my state of oklahoma.. My hubby in L.A. so he already got marriage license..but got a ? Ask.. Can we get marry in any state.????
It's truly a blessing that I came across your video! First thank you God but also thank you for being obedient, this has truly softened my heart toward a courthouse wedding and wedding wedding later. It's beautiful to hear how God came through for you! Me and my fiancé are long distance and I will actually be moving to NC so I definitely needed this. Thank you again and I pray your union is still being blessed even 3 years later , oh and I'm definitely subscribing ! 😊💕
Thanks for sharing. This is what hubby and I are planning to do.
Yes share the big wedding.
Hi Kyna! Thanks for watching!
I actually made a video breaking down more details of the wedding. Here it is❤️
th-cam.com/video/iPJNrWlyE6I/w-d-xo.html
Loving your hair.
Thanks for sharing.My question is did you go dress shopping for the courthouse wedding?and then dress shopping again for the wedding ceremony.Thanks
Hi Lisa! Great question. I didn’t wear a dress when I went to the courthouse. I did shop for a nice outfit and casual dress for the engagement shoot that we had prior to going to the courthouse. I did go shopping for wedding dress the wedding ceremony. I hope this helps☺️
Here is a recent Q&A that may help some…
th-cam.com/video/ORDWeA2MEnw/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for the info 😊
Hey, you are so welcome! So glad it was helpful.
This was so helpful! Thank you
Great! I'm SO happy that it was helpful for you!
Thanks for this video I have been like why would I get married then have a wedding! I have mixed feelings about how will this all work! Watching you video reminded me that God will make a way and any worries I have about I have about the process I should take it to him in prayer! Again thanks!
Glad it was helpful!! I am so glad that you sounds like you have released it. It's funny that you said that God will make a way because I felt that way so strongly as well. Made a way, by travis greene was actually the song I walked down the aisle, just felt so fitting!
Wonderful story, do you mind sharing the name of the hotel in downtown Atlanta where you stayed?
Thanks!! It's called the ” The Twelve”. It's definitely one of my favorite places stay!
@@TruePurityLifestyle thanks I appreciate it.
No problem!
Great video!! I’m super confused right now on what to do because I want to get married at the courthouse in two months but I won’t be able to have a wedding till 2024 because me and my fiancé are looking to buy a house first you think that’s too long to wait to have a wedding? I also say if I end up getting a house I’ll probably have a wedding sooner because I would love a backyard wedding..
Hey Marissa,
Congrats on the engagement, sounds like a lot of great change is on the way. The one thing that I learned through the wedding process is that I had to do what is best and felt right for us. My biggest piece of advice is do what feels right in this very moment and you feel led to do, that is the number one thing to focus on. I recently went to the sweetest backyard wedding, It was small and intimate at an airbnb. I also just went to a wedding that the bride and groom waited 2 years to have the wedding. Saying all that to say go with what feels right for you guys and try not to go with what seems normal by societies standard. Hope this helps some! Congrats again!
How long from when you guys got married in court house, to the actual wedding? Thank you for sharing , God bless you🥰❤❤
Hey, the wedding was about 7-8 months later. Here are a few more details about the process. th-cam.com/video/ORDWeA2MEnw/w-d-xo.html
Hope this helps. Thanks for watching.💛
-Ashley
This video was awesome Congratulations I got married June 4 2021courthouse🙌🏾
Thank you :) Congrats to you as well. That is exciting. Thanks for watching!
Getting married at court
Congrats!!!
I have a couple questions so I would loveee if u reply ☹️💕
Do u celebrate your anniversary in your marriage date or wedding date?
Did You let the public know that you guys were legally married ( for example change ur last name on Facebook)or did u keep it a secret and made everyone think that u got legally married on your wedding day.
Because u guys lived together before the wedding , did it ruin the whole the whole thing wanting to live together after the wedding or did it feel more special already living together before the wedding??
Hey, these are really good questions! We celebrate both days, but differently. We look at the day we got married as our true anniversary, but still do something small on our wedding anniversary to celebrate.
Our family and friends knew that we were married. I was tooooo excited to keep it to myself lol. When we got married, I was not actively using any social media. If I was at that time, I would do what felt most comfortable and best for me.
Living together before the wedding felt so special. I would not have done this any other way. We viewed the day we got married as a very special day and the wedding as the day we got to celebrate our union with family as friends. Our wedding day was amazing and special to us.
For us, it worked out really well. I am so grateful for how it turned out.
I hope me sharing my experience helps you in some way! I hopeful that everything goes well for you. I hope that you find a way to have everything that you desire.💛
@@TruePurityLifestyle thank you so much for replying😭💗✨✨
& that helped a lot.
Especially explaining that living together before the wedding was a great experience
And also on which date you guys celebrate your anniversary.
I’ll be sure to tell You how my experience goes .
I wish you and your husband the best
Xoxo🤍🤍🤍
@U%F0%9F%92%9B%F0%9F%92%9BCqdDr--rUPAIhBj32BFB8fw You are so welcome! Glad it could be helpful. Thank you for the well wishes. Yes keep me posted💛
I'm so thankful I came across this video and happy God led you to make it , cause I was stressing lol! I kept fighting whether to do the courthouse first then traditional a couple months later or right after. This helped A LOT! This whole video was so gracefully done. May God continue to bless you guys!
Hey Jumika,
I am so happy that this was helpful, I hope you are a little less stressed now lol. Thank you and congrats to you. This is an exciting time in life!
Thank you for posting because I have been needing some advice
Hey Ashley!
Welcome. I was the same way and needed to hear more stories from others, so I am happy this was helpful!
Aw I live in NC! This is literally me and my fiancé next weekend ! I love this story , wow I would love to connect w/ you I need more sisters in christ
Hi Asia! That is awesome! Congrats to you! I hope you have been enjoying married life. Lets connect on IG @truepuritylifestyle.
Thank you for posting this, it has been confusing and difficult trying to figure out what’s right for us and right for our families. Your story has really provided some comfort in the decisions were making. Thank you!!
You are welcome! Congrats on your union. I am happy that my video could be helpful for you. I hope that your planning journey goes well and you discover what is best for you and your significant other.
How did your invitations look after that?
Hey Angie! We only did a save the date that mentioned the date, location, and when to RSVP. The wording was very similar to the usual save the date.
This is exactly the content I was looking for!
Perfect! I’m glad it helped you!
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