Dementia LAST Stage Before Death ~ ABCs of Dementia FAQs: L
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- Dementia LAST Stage Before Death ~ ABCs of Dementia FAQs: L ~I discuss what to expect in the final stage, and the final days.
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My mother just passed away from Dementia this morning at 3:30am. I needed to hear this. I took care of her all the way till the end and her new beginning.
her new beginning...sweetly stated! thank you for taking care of her! try this video, too th-cam.com/video/ES8QzYmVSV0/w-d-xo.html
You were a good daughter, it’s not easy. Your love for her was strong. I lost my Mom a year ago of Dementia, I struggled at times. I couldn’t get it through my head that it’s a disease, she would get very aggressive and mean. Sometimes she would smile and It would make my day. She loved to hear stories or names of people from the past, I learned this is what she loved the most. I loved her very much, we were close. I still miss her every day.
It is indeed a new beginning for her. I was so relieved for my mom when she finally passed from Alzheimer's a year ago. Caring for her was so hard, but also so beautiful. There's a book called "Walking My Momma Home". I thought that was such a lovely way to put it. ❤️❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss
So sorry for your loss
My dad looked absolutely relieved and even happy when he passed from Alzheimer's disease. 😇
How did you know?
@@micheleboing9600 My dad was agitated most of the time near the end. ( clenching his teeth, crying, not wanting anyone to hold his hand....) He just looked so relaxed and had a hint of a smile about 20 minutes before he passed. We still miss Dad, but are happy his
suffering is over.
My 95 year old mother had Alzheimers and spent the last 4 months of her life in a Care Home. Mother had lived on her own for the last 32 years since my dad died, in her small bungalow. She was never ill throughout her long life but whilst in the Care home, mother got a chest infection this December. She had not eaten or spoken for days and her medication had been withdrawn. Whilst we were at her bedside , mother opened her eyes for the first time in days, and attempted to smile at myself and my siblings after I had whispered to her that we were here and we loved her. I am sure that she understood . Within 2 hours of receiving the Last Rites and an injection for terminal agitation, mother had slipped away. Her long journey was over . Mother was in peace.
It is a blessing to know that peace. Oh my love.
In the end, my dear beautiful mum was just skin and bones with pressure sores all over her body. The final week of her life is something I will never forget. She could not swallow or drink so in consultation with the family, it was in her best interest to not prolong the suffering any longer. They ceased fluids and nutritional liquids via IV and only gave her morphine every 6 hrs and some other drug to minimize secretion in the lungs. She took her last breath with family by her bedside holding her hands.
Same for my grandfather. This is when I became a supporter for someone ending their life while they still have their wits. My grandfather would have never wanted to be in a state that we'd put down a dog long before.
And at the end, as you say, we the family make the decision to cease nutrition and to switch to morphine - effectively chosing to end the person's life instead of sustaining it. But we must wait until they have wasted away to shells. It's inhumane.
I’m currently going through the very same process 😢
❤❤❤❤❤❤ I’m so sorry for your loss! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That must have been incredibly difficult.
Our family as well. May god give u comfort n peace
My mom was a hospice nurse, mostly for the elderly, but children as well. She feels the same, that it's a sacred, beautiful experience. She has said she is blessed to have experienced many different types of deaths in regards to their different religions. That she was honored.
Mom passed 6 days ago. I'm so glad I listened to this video beforehand. Your attitude toward being blessed to share the final moments touched my heart, and helped me through the difficult task of letting go. Bless you! That little accent of yours makes it even more sincere.
my great grandma has dementia and it’s been getting worse over the past 8 years but it’s gotten extremely bad in the last year, and i try to remember it’s a part of life and she’s going to heaven, but it’s so painful just watching someone you love go from a happy loving role model to someone so confused and lost, you’re just watching someone fade away💔 i’ve been preparing myself years and i know it’s coming soon but i’m not ready for it to come. i know she deserves to be at eternal peace with god but a big part of me is selfish and doesn’t want to lose her 😭
That’s a normal feeling. Try to focus on soul connections. Any songs or shows y’all have always watched together? Play those. Just love her. You can be her rock now. All my love, Vicky ♥️
Truly a holy, angelic time. I was blessed to be with my own dad and my husband’s dad. My husband was there also. We could feel the presence of God/angels. It was a sad time but so special. We do not regret being at their bedsides.
What nice woman with a healthy attitude towards elderly people who have this condition.what a special way to serve humanity. Bless you.
Well thank you so much for saying so! I love what I do! Feeling better so I hope to make some updated videos too! ❤️ Vicky
I agree with Lori. You put things in a beautiful perspective in this video. I had the honor of being by my Daddy's bedside for the last several days and nights of his life. But I was absent from the sacred moment of transition... My brother was there alone with him at that moment, which was perfect since he was Daddy's best friend in the world. But in general, the time of Daddy's last days are precious in my heart and one of my safest times.
My Grandmother is in her last stages of dementia 💔😕😔She had a death scare yesterday 😔And I'm only 13 years old and I just want someone to talk to 😭💔
Sprinkles 29 hey. I’m here.
Sprinkles 29 I’m here for you too 💖
I'm here
Sherri-Ann Robertson My mother is in her 80s and I'm watching her deteriorate. I'd be happy to talk with you anytime.
Spinkles 29 I was 13 when my doting grandfather died in my arms. 💕
I prayed never go through it again. My mother passed away last year just when I was 3 minutes away. I think that was what I wanted.
Now we are taking care of my 94 years old stage 7 dementia suffering father in law.
God must have called you to this work because every time I watch your videos, I learn something I need to learn. Furthermore, I'm emotionally moved, and you open my eyes to something I've been missing. Thank you so very much for your information, perspective, and comfort. Thank you for what you do.
angel kz I am so glad you find what you are needing. I do feel called to this work. Thanks for commenting!
My grandmother passed from dementia in May. It's been so hard without her. I know she's no longer suffering... it still hurts though
#grandmapearl542020
Your grandmother was blessed to have a granddaughter who loved her so much. God Bless you Vanessa.
@@marymckay7154 thank you❤
@@vanessaunderwood8861 I totally get how you feel my aunt passed from dementia this month and although I’m glad she isn’t suffering it’s so painful with out her.
Bless you for doing such precious work with people who are transitioning and here with those of us that have family members who have dementia. Thank you for sharing with us.
This evening you have been a back to my soul! My mom is 3 yrs into Vasc. dementia. She lives with me and has hospice. We’re Christian and so I know where she’s headed. She’s been a great mom all through the years. It has been strange to go through watching her getting flat in her personality and not caring. I’m her main caregiver and she lives with me. Daddy, also a Christian, passed in 2009. You’re so sweet! I feel you are a kindred spirit.
Wow. You've suffered so many losses and are the perfect voice to share the hope that we don't have to fear the final stages. Tears of gratitude that I found you.
Me too!!
I am a birth Doula and I also have been present when a few people transition and it absolutely is a sacred space. The veil of life and death almost visible for a short time. It is impossible to explain. It is like the hue of the room changes.
But I digress. Thanks for this video! I learned a lot.
Thank you for the work you do as well. All my love, Vicky
My father died of Alzheimer’s in 2015. He became saved right b4 he died as the Lord gave me a dream of my dad walking in a field with a lot of other people. Then a huge hand came out of the clouds and grabbed my dad and brought carried him up to the sky. Then I knew my dad was with God I had been praying for his salvation close to 40 Years!!! ✝️🌈🙌🏽God is good!My dad never forgot who I was even in his late stages I felt that was God’s gift to me
Praise Jesus For the Hope of Glory ❤️
God bless you.
My gpa is still "alive".. He hasnt gotten my name right since i started taking care of him..
Wish he would die sooner. This sucks, its not him anymore, and i don't feel bad.. I worked through the loss already. The violence, hallucinations, the mess. So done with it. Ill miss it in spite of all of this. Bittersweet life
@@Notthatguy23 I’ve had those moments as well. Keep your grandpa in prayer. The Lord is still working on him
@@deekk3936 yeah i think god is keeping him alive till we all get our lives together
My mom is almost 91 yrs old and in the last stages of dementia and life. I remember my first true warning sign with mom was many years ago. My mom always loved playing the game Yahtzee. She played it for years. One day we asked her if she'd like to play. She replied, Yahtzee? What's that? How do you play? Mom has forgotten us all and is pretty much non verbal at this point. She always loved to sing. She had such a beautiful voice. When the talking became less and less mom would just hum and sing. That has now gone away as well. She's been in a memory care facility for a while now. Most of the time we just sit with her. Play music in the background. Hold her hand. Kiss her on the forehead...She was and still is an amazing woman. I will miss her greatly.
Kind, informative and comforting. Thank you & I’m sorry for your loss ❤️
We are not there yet, but I found so much comfort listening to you. As a Christian, itt will help me get thru loosing my husband, when we reach his last days. Thank you so much. God Bless You.
Thank you for this video. My mother is in her final days and your information was valuable, helpful, instructional and most of all comforting. Hospice arrives this afternoon for the first time. You have helped changed my perspective to a more positive outlook.
Wm Cole Wyant aww...such a precious, sacred time. Treasure these moments. Reach out if you need me. Easy to find me on the group...link in description. You will find a soft place to land there. All my love. ❤️ Vicky
My husband has Dementia. He's in stage 5, I'm new too this. I see him changing & fading away bit by bit everyday. He is my only family. When he dies I'll be all alone. It such a heavy burden on me, as I know it's even more so on him. I feel so alone, & so isolated, & so helpless. I'm his only caregiver. I just felt the need to reach out & tell you what I'm going through.
Please come join us on the Facebook group!!! You are NOT ALONE!!! Many friendships are made inside the group…people who KNOW what you are going through. All my love. Thank you for watching and responding to the video. It means the world to me!
@@DementiaWithGrace ok. I think I will join your Facebook group. Thank you so very much. God bless you.
Ditto God Bless
@@kathebeaver3227 thank you. God bless you also. 🙏
Vicki, thank you very much for sharing this process. Goodness, you nailed many things my 88yr Father is going thru right now. Last week, he refused to eat refused to drink, then to now, he is in this long incoherent state. We brought him home from another brief hospital stay to pass away in his home of 30 yrs. He is definitely in the 6th moving into the 7th stages of his final days with Dementia.... moving all his arms and legs, opening his mouth trying to push off his blanket. He has just 1 or 2 very brief moments in a day where he recognizes my voice then falls back to his flailings of his arm and legs. I hope he is not experiencing to much pain......
Still I don't have your strength Vicki. I've lost a lot of my energy and its hard to get through this. I'm in emotionally pain seeing him in this condition. But nothing else to do but brave thru it and tell my Dad thank you for helping me a good man and person and that I love him and will miss him.
Hello ALL, just updating. My father lost his battle with Dementia, last Sat. 8-15-2020. He was going thru his groans and body movements till the Hospice nurse gave him enough morphine to settle him. 12 hours later he passed away peacefully. I just want to say, if your loved one or friend and your going to see thru his or her care, please inform yourself with programs like Vicki's "Dementia with Grace" and don't do it alone. God Bless you all...if your involved in dealing with someone's care.
@@LEFTaTIP I’m so sorry. I wish you much peace. Please take care and thank-you for posting.
@@suzKawasaki It still seems surreal but Thank you Suz continued success with your involvement with Dementia care.
My mom just passed from dementia 3/3/22 😭😭😭 she was taking care by a wonderful staff at Community Hospice in Texas because she couldn’t come home in the end but I was with her all the way to the end my only hope a cure be found because this really is a slow death 😭😭
All my love. I’m sorry for your loss. Hugs.
You are have a Godly soul, and I love to hear you speak. My step- father just passed last week and it was very difficult until he was finally comfortable enough to relax. Bless the hospice nurse that was helping us. I was blessed that God gave me the time to tell him that I was thankful that he treated me like his own daughter, and that my mother (who is in the final stages of dementia) loves him very much.... I am going to join your Facebook group.
I know that I did the right thing about putting my dad in hospice care but I just can’t wrap my head around not having him here. I am going to be 60 in march and I have been caring for him this whole time. He never could take care of himself. It’s like a big hole in my heart ♥️.
This one made me cry. I completely agree with you after having been at the bedside of many people with dementia who have transitioned over. The sacred, holy experience of loving and caring for these people and seeing them as they leave their earthly bodies has changed me forever in a way that I really never expected. I know your message will bring comfort to many people and you certainly deliver it with grace.
Thank you for the comment. Thank you for your service to this community, as well. It is holy work. ❤️❤️❤️
We love to have professionals inside the group on Facebook! 🦩♥️😘 Check out the group: m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace
@@DementiaWithGrace Thank you! I just joined your FB group yesterday. So pleased to see all the support from caregiver to caregiver. I plan to read your book soon as well!
You explain things so well 🖤
you are the best on talking about dementia yet...thank you
Toni wonbaker did videos on TH-cam of “ Alzheimer’s thru caregiver eyes” and the 7 stages of Alzheimer’s. She makes bullet points while showing videos that match behaviors. I found it so useful along with pamphlet called “ end of life” and they were both textbook of what to expect and we went thru. God bless and I hope you find those useful in guiding your family thru these last stages
You are beautiful, dear dear sister in Christ. Perfect ministry for you, How blessed is anyone who gets to transition to the next life with you at their side.
I thank God for u lady. As I lay here with tears in my eyes we'll just crying. My mom is very very important to me. I'm asking God to change it this with mom. God allowed me to see this video, and I just want to say thank you. May the Lord make His face to shine on you, and my mom in Jesus name amen.
My mom has just stopped eating and drinking and this is so incredibly painful. I have been taking her food to the nursing home for years and suddenly over a rapid 2 week period she went from eating to not eating only drinking and now neither food nor drink for this whole week. I sat with her tonight for 3 hours telling her I love her, kissing her cheek and holding her hand. I put my head against her thin chest and listened to her strong heart beat. This is the hardest thing I have ever done! This is DEVASTATING! Her eyes are not seeing me now, the decline has been so harsh, so rapid. I wanted her to have an IV and oxygen so she does not dehydrate but hospice is only allowing the oxygen. This does not feel palliative, this feels CRUEL.
My mom is going through the same 😔
My husband had sponges on sticks that hospice provided, to use for keeping his mouth moist a bit, but he mostly slept - except for the last whispered comment of “not again”, when I gave him his last dose of meds before the nurse said no more was necessary.
Since I was recovering from Covid isolation, I couldn’t be available for my mom, except 3 hours her last night. I don’t think she had as much care her last week in the facility. I know she looked pretty bad, and was very thirsty, on my last few visits and video chats.
I think it’s better that my dad is with me for his final weeks (possibly days). Yesterday, he had “that stare” but has actually done better today.
Maybe my ideas might help others:
I have a coffee cup with a straw for when he can sit up, and a no-spill sippy cup with the insert removed but duct tape over the air hole to minimize spilling when laying down.
I’m thankful that he’s at least drinking concoctions of boost with powdered carnation mix and baby cereal mixed in as well.
He’s doing well to get one small meal each day, if awake. I have toddler and baby food dinners for when he’s eating less and chewing becomes a problem.
I just wanted to say you are awesome ❤️ Thank you help is needed in Sumter SC
Thank you for sharing this and understanding. It actually helped me a little. My dad is going through the last stages.
I love this!!! Thank you so much!! I feel the exact same way, you just have a beautiful way of putting it in words so much better than me.
lemonjuice72 aww! Well, thank you. I hope all of the videos are giving you help and support! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for sharing your experience about losing your family! I and my family are just very overwhelmed with taking of my dementia father right now. I am going to join your group in Facebook.
Please do!
I totally feel this way as well. I believe I was meant to take care of my Husbands Alz. I will enjoy every good moment I can :)
Lorraine Pellegrino aww! He is fortunate to have you!!
Thank you for all you do TRUE HEART & LOVE
Thank you
Ive lost almost all of my family members I grew up with. Mom passed when I was 18, Uncle passed when I was 20, and now at 23 my grandma is in her final stages of dementia. I'm so heartbroken and struggling with losing my grandma to dementia 😥 Making these decisions for her and making sure her affairs are in order is so difficult
Sending hugs your way!
God bless you, stay strong. ❤
Your experience resonates with my current experience around a loved one with dementia. They do seem to recognize us in glimpses and access their childhood memories. I think that is why it is important for them to connect with other [people through human contact in to exchange their feelings thoughts and emotions. It certainly feels like a sweet but emotional blessing as we can connect with them like never before or at least for a long time in life. It feels like a warm day indoors on a rainy day and the rain represent our tears. I agree it is a transition into the next life.
Well said! Thank you for sharing this!
After 10 years of fighting the disease, we got the call to say goodbye to my Uncle who is currently in his last days. Honestly, after so long I just want him to be at peace. I'll be there as much as I can for him though, no one deserves to go through such a cruel disease
My grandma passed away 2nd of January, 8:15 PM. She had severe dementia. Rest in peace, i Love you...♥️🙏👐🕊️
May she Rest In Peace. I believe she loved you too...♥️♥️♥️
RIP
My grandfather is the only person I had as a real father figure and my only friend, he's said I'm his only real friend he has left. I'm really going to miss him when he's gone because I'll be truly alone in this world. His dementia is getting worse and worse, I'm going to miss you old man, thank you for all of the memories.
All my love. It’s so hard. Please feel free to join us on the Facebook group!! It really is so much support. Link in description!! ❤️❤️❤️
This video was surprisingly helpful. Thank you
Thanks so much
I just love you so much
I’m crying 😭 threw this whole video
I’m caring for my husband he is in his seventh stage
You helped me so much
I’m thrilled it helped so much! That’s why I am here!! Please come join our group on Facebook for more support! Link in description!! ♥️. Vicky
One of the most holy people I know-- told me it was a Blessing to be with someone who is dying. She has been with many dying patients and felt honored. Bless her for that insight.
Very helpful video ,thank you so much
Gosh Vicky, you put things in the most precious perspective. I don't fear my mother transitioning but long for it to happen before she has to reach stages 6 and 7. She's 88 so I do wish she could transition before having to be ravaged by this disease. Thank you so much. I watch all of your videos that are the ABCs and try to see all the reviews. Your passion is infectious! God bless you.
Thank you for saying that! I hope she has comfort and peace and joy alongvthe journey, wherever it leads. ~Vicky
@@DementiaWithGrace thank you.
I'm trying to figure out which stage my mother is, it's horrible whatever stage it is.. She is so confused, so frustrated, she doesn't know me a lot of the time, she talks about taking care of a baby all the time. she's just in constant state of confusion if she's awake. She's delusional constantly. She can barely walk, I keep praying God will take her before she's totally bedridden and can't talk or move. My moms 83. How are things going for you Lori?
Thank you for your beautiful spirit
Thanks for Sharing!
I doing all that you are suggesting. It is a beautiful experience. My spouse is so precious to me as he goes through this last stage. Looking forward to him meeting God. I so much appreciate him and love him even more.
Mary…my husband is in the beginning of the end stage, and I feel the same…thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this very valuable information as it helps me understand the process a little better. My wife is in the later stages of dementia and some days are harder than others to deal with. We’ve been together now for 56 years all together and 51 of them in marriage. She is 69 years old and a fine Christian woman that is not afraid of dying but I think she knows there is something going on with her but can’t figure out what it is. She doesn’t do anything anymore except she will try to feed herself sometimes. I pray that the Lord will just take her while she sleeps and then I know she will be whole once again. I am 71 in December and I’m so thankful that God has Given me this job to do and I pray always for his strength to do it well. As I’ve said some days are much harder than others but it is one day at a time for us, no more no less and that’s ok with me. I hope that I am able to see it through to the end in our home and not in a nursing home or care facility as that is where mi dad was and I don’t think he had the best care. Well thank you again and I’ll be looking for your next video, God bless you.
You are doing a wonderful job brother. God bless you.
You need to plead the blood of Jesus over her health. Thank God every day for allowing her to live and continue to pray for both of you all’s mental and physical strength.
May God bless you! Spouses always grieve more than anyone else! I'm a 100% disabled sole daughter caring for 2 elderly parents who BOTH have different dementias & are in their last stages, mom's in hospice now with her age-related dementia & dad got vascular dementia BEFORE mom ever showed signs! No dementia in my family! STRANGE! My only sibling committed suicide. This has been the worst 6 yrs of my life. I give you honor for caring for your wife. I always have said "no regrets!" & for 6 yrs have taken them fresh flowers & sent cards altho' I no longer do it in their late stages, they LOVED getting my cards just saying "I love you." I have not taken care of myself, so I pray you ARE, as it has caught up with me BIG TIME so that in the past few months I can barely get out & just sleep a lot. My parents must be in asst'd living & God bless them for planning so well (they had longterm care ins. which I tell ALL young healthy people to get ASAP) & saving & having no debt so they are in the much better private pay - but the care has decreased as workers have decreased as with most businesses since Covid hit. So sad, but I doubt they (or I) can handle a 3rd move. I pray you have children (@ 57 I don't) or family & friends who are there for you (my so-called family & friends have not lifted a finger nor shown they care or even attempted to learn about all I've gone thru, tho being 100% disabled w/2 parents w/different dementias you'd think would be obvious to most people not to mention you can see it just by looing at me....however, as a Christian who's helped everyone I can, I've almost given up on all So-Called Christians (Pew Warmers) for their utter lack of empathy or even sympathy or even some leftovers! I'm depressed, grieving & bitter & just about had it with no joy in my life. I pray with ALL my heart you have loved ones who care for you & your wife more than I've seen in my life. Hang in there. One day or minute at a time! Many of us know what you are going through!
@@k.r.1069 Blessings to you.
Vicky you are my rock thank you for helping me be a good and wise care giver no matter how bad it gets at times. My daughter lives in another state then her Dad and I and she has three children a husband and a carrier and cannot be here in person to help me, which is weighing on her mind. I am strong and will keep educating myself about this terrible disease.
Prayers for you Mrs. Geraldine. You are a rock, too. Hang in there!
Mum's got vascular dementia and she's in her end stage. This video's helped me so much. Thank you.
I’m so glad this helped. Come on over to the group for even more support!!
@@DementiaWithGrace I believe my dad is in the end stage of vascular dementia. We’re you told your mum was? What is she exhibiting.
Hello Vickie, just listening to your voice calms me down. I believe it is a holy time during death also. It was a miracle when you are born and a happy time, when God takes you to be with him in heaven it is also a miracle and happy time for the loved one passing.
thnx for sharing
I am glad to have found your channel and plan to subscribe to your Facebook group. I just lost a friend this month to dementia. He was 95 when he passed but was in a nursing home for the last 6 years. I never knew much about dementia until I saw what my friend went through. He is at peace now but I have a close Friend whose husband has been diagnosed with dementia. I want to be able to help support my friend as she cares for her husband.
I really believe that you will find a lot of help in the group! All my love, Vicky
My grandpa passed a few weeks ago. He had dementia, became very thin and frail towards the end, and soooo confused about where he was and what he was doing in a nursing home. Grandma went to see him the morning of his last day on Earth, and went home to have lunch and get some things for him. When she got back, his blood pressure dropped significantly. She held his hand as he took his last breath, while they waited for the ambulance to come. He was declared dead on arrival
I love how you said “last day on earth”.
That’s exactly my feeling also.
We live in “tents of clay”, and by God’s grace and mercy, we can have real life when we’re done with our shells.
Step dad has Parkinson’s disease and dementia. Just been told he’s been moved to palliative care but he doesn’t look like he’s dying so I’m confused. Yes he’s losing weight and eating less and less and sleeping longer and naps but he’s up and walking and speaking but he’s started to get angry by swearing cursing to my mother and banging the door saying have I got your attention now. But he has conversations with me and I don’t know what he is speaking about but I just go along with it. He is paranoid more which is really bizarre but I’ve been there and looked after him and he’s hallucinating more. He sees spiders and smoke as well as thinking people are robbing the home. He’s on 68 years old and was in the army and was a IT specialist and now he can’t even work a remote control for the TV. It’s so sad.
Great information.
This is an amazing video 🙏🏾
Thank you!
My Grandma died of Alzheimers and I would conclude it in one line- Let no even your enemies die of this disease, also note this is equivalent and sometimes even more difficult than Cancer
I agree. It’s a catastrophic disease. May your grandmother Rest In Peace. ♥️ Vicky
@@DementiaWithGrace thanks Vicky
I agree with you ! It’s a terrible terrible! Decease
Dementia ravages both mind and body.
Whomever is reading this remember to spread as much LOVE AS POSSIBLE. Thank you hope y'all have a great life, much LOVE
You are amazing💕
Dead is only a change in a dwelling place. You are so right about it. Fear is of the devil. Grandma is 89 yrs old and she groaning a lot at anytime. Groaning when no pain, groaning without a reason. When I ask her if she is in pain, she said "No or I don't know" Very difficult for her to except about the changes. We all going to get there sooner or later so not pleasant for anybody.
My dear wife 49 years is currently going through the very same thing right now. It’s so sad to see but I don’t want her to suffer either. She’s no longer eating or drinking. That’s about it.
Thank you for this video. My mom is in her last stages and it's hard. But I know I'm not alone.
I noticed your wreath made out of pages from a book (?) Could you explain a little about that.
My mother asked me to visit an old friend of her's who had dementia as I was going to the funeral of her husband. I went to her room at the nursing home and she did remember my mother as her WW2 friend. We had a lovely talk and I left for the funeral, met her daughters there and told them I had just been talking with their mom. They said "She can't talk!" She died 2 days later.
My father could not speak at end of life with ALZ, but we communicated by hand squeezes and eyes.
I would say alot of folks do get the cognitive ability to speak at the end.
The ignorance is astounding. My dad was placed in a room with door shut and nurse said "I gave him a buzzer if he needs anything." He was frozen stiff from anesthetic given from hip breaking, he could not squeeze the buzzer. The danger is the ignorance of those around us, IMO. I have ALZ now and losing ability to speak, still thinking and typing.
Thank you x
Thank you for your kindness ❤
You are so welcome!!
So very sorry!
I believe Jesus brought me to your video. I'm a Brit expat in the USA, my precious Mum, in England, in her 90s has vascular dementia. Received an email and call today saying my brave beautiful Mum had another stroke yesterday. The nursing home and doctor has told my family back home she's close to the end, yet said maybe 2 weeks. I understand it's difficult to predict when death will occur, however, why do you think my family wete told "she's nearing the end yet could last another 2 weeks? Mum has been bedridden for over 3 years, and has been in a fetal position for quite sometime. I saw her on Skype today whilst my sons were with her, and it sounded like a bubbling in her throat, not loud though.
I pray God takes her home soon, and peacefully, its heartbreaking to see her like this.
Thank you for your video. God Bless you.
Beth notw : I’m sorry that you are going through this from a distance. Happy you found the video and that it brought you some relief. Cherish this time. It is sacred time. All my love, Vicky ❤️
You’re amazing!
Thank you , you are good
My Mom has it. My Dad died with it. So sad to see her go through this as well. She was his caregiver.
All my love. So sorry
I just found out, my mom has dementia. I am so crushed right now. There is no preparation for this and I can't seem to wrap my head around this. So sad right now.
Hey doll. I know it is so very difficult. Please know that I understand. You are not alone. We have many people in the same boat and we invite you to join us. The link to the group is in the description. We would love to have you. ♥️🦩♥️
Thank you
I was told my Mother has Age related dementia. She has been healthy all her life. She has never had any aggression related issues. She has always been pleasant. She is 13 years into her Dementia. I quit my job to care for her for 8 years she was then placed into a NH and has been there for 4.5 years. She has never been sick in those 4.5 yrs in the NH.
She is in the end stages of her Dementia she cries and whimpers a lot now. But she is still eating okay.
I pray everyday the Lord just lets her go. She is 93 Jan 14 2024
her Mother had dementia for 16 years and was 96 when she passed away.
All my love…I so understand your feeling. We wish no suffering. You have a brave and beautiful heart. ❤️
My mother has dementia and is hospice home care and I'm her caregiver and I'm scared when that time comes just her not being with me and my father is gone but I don't want my mother to be in any pain. She holding her head on just on side and the nurse told me her muscles are weakening and eventually she will be tired all the time and bed bound this is such a time where I look at my mother and can remember her when I was growing up and looking at her know it's just wow how this disease operates and I just hate it mom still eats purred food and it has to be added thick it in food and liquids cause of swallowing issues but I'm holding on to God and praying God bless you
All my love. ❤️❤️❤️
My mom
Is end stage Alzheimer’s and as you describe she is becoming infant like. That hit me.
You are awesome!!! Don't let the foolish comments bother you. I find your videos very helpful. If I didn't, I'd just move on. Unfortunately there's other's that have to act ugly.
AMEN🙌🏽 I BELIEVE THE EXACT SAME.
I appreciate that you put this up. My 89-year old mother has had two death scares in the last five days. I am a Unitarian and not a Christian, but I do believe in god. This last time hasn't been a blessing. My mum lost control of her bladder and bowels eight months ago and told me years ago that she did not want to be reduced to mere sensorimotor function in an institution. If you have seen these institutions, many are not kind to advanced dementia patients. I do my best and act positive, even though my mother will soon not be in that body. I have three hours of respite care a week and am on call 24/7 with bed and chair monitors if she gets up, as falls seem to set off cascading medical problems. These are not golden days, especially for her. Please pray to your Christian God for me that she dies soon. I can and want to do this for the six months to a year that she has left, but she who remains of her personality faces indignity after indignity every day. To the 13-year old below who was scared, I am sorry you had to face this so young and hope that God was merciful.
I am truly sorry for this cruel part of the journey, and understand the sacrifice you are making for your mother. The body and brain betray us. But the soul remains. You can connect with some little part of her. Just know that you are not alone. There are people who understand this journey, although we never walk it exactly the same way. You are welcome to come over to our caregiving group on Facebook. There are many people there who would be happy to come alongside you and give virtual support. All my love, and prayers. Vicky
@@DementiaWithGrace Thank you.
My Nan was just diagnosed with this. We always thought she was doing things on purpose growing up she has another condition that was recently diagnosed. So we couldn’t tell when she started showing signs of dementia as she had always been the same way. I feel bad for how I treated her growing up but we are all learning now and she has become a lot kinder towards us as a result. I know we don’t have long left with her now though and it sucks cos I have just gotten to know her all over again. We were told when she goes downhill she will go quickly because of the other disease she has combined. I guess the only positive if you can call it that is that at least they are not afraid of death....to my Nan she doesn’t seem to understand that death is final that she could die if she is not more careful. There is no fear there
God bless you
God bless you ma’am.
My mother is in stage seven ...she is lucid with a few words but she does have pnewmonia ....the doctor has said she is in the last stage ...I accept that totally ......for me she needs to cross over and be with my dad now... they were together from the age of fourteen ....she is 90 now .....Dad died 6 years ago end of march ...but here's the thing my sister is in denial of how mum is and keeps trying to feed her and when she is there she won't let the poor woman rest ...I have tried not to say too much but she is really making me angry ..... even the doctor gave up and said more or less if she choke s or aspirate s then so be it ....I just want my mum to pass away peacefully ...and as soon as possible now because she is never going to get better from this ....I know I must sound mercinary but I find it difficult watching my mum fade away she has lost 4 stone since Christmas and I feel it is time ......sorry to ramble but I'm finding it hard to talk to anyone who understands where I'm coming from..... they just think I'm a cruel heartless person ....but they are all frightened of dieing if you ask me ....I am not I want to embrace death when it comes in what ever form 🙄🙏💓I just would like your views on this 🙄🙏💋
henrietta henson Henrietta, the BEST advice I can give in your situation is that every person processes grief differently. Your sister is probably as firm in her belief that she is helping as you are firm in yours. Neither is right, or wrong. They are different. I personally believe that all of life is about transitions. Morning transitions in to day, day into evening, evening into night. We transition from childhood to adulthood. Death is the final transition. We all will die. I, personally, do not fear death. I fear being in pain, I fear being a burden, I fear the indignity that sometime accompanies the dying process. But I do not fear death. For now, give each other grace. Try and see that your sister is making choice she can live with, later, when she looks back. And you are too. Give grace. All my love on this difficult journey. All my love to your mother as she transitions. ~Vicky
henrietta henson Please, also, we would love to have you join us on the Facebook group. Link is in the description of every video. ❤️
@@DementiaWithGrace thankyou so much for replying so promptly ...i needed to fire off@ I believe I was led to your channel for that reason ...I ....like you do not fear death...it's funny that my mother and my sister who are more religious in a sense than me as in reading the Bible and so on are seemingly frightened of death ... my mother keeps saying she's frightened.... I don't understand ......why do you think they are ? surely their faith should carry them ....I am more for the spirit and energy that never dies... I do believe in God @ heaven and that no matter what there will be a level of consciousness that we return to ....I know my mother will not be happy unless there are dogs jumping all over her .....to another person that would be hell.... so thanks again for your comment it really helped ....I'm afraid I don't do the face book stuff but I have subscribed to you so I will be watching 💋🙏💓
henrietta henson Wr are all naturally afraid of the unknown. We don’t KNOW what waits for us beyond this life. I BELIEVE that Heaven waits for me. My family who have transitioned. I had a heart attack in October. My “widow maker” artery was 99% blocked. As I laid there, waiting for surgery, I felt completely at peace. I wanted “more” time to write another book, to help more people. But I was not afraid. But death and public speaking are the top two fears! I fear neither!!! Lol! Thanks so much for sharing your story. ❤️
We know that you are not cruel or heartless. God bless you! Will your sister read an article or watch a video of how they stop eating for a reason? God bless her, too. She must be a controlling person who is desperate to save your mom.
My 87 year old husband with dementia fell and broke his right hip last week. After surgery his dementia seems to have accelerated and he is becoming less coherent, is not taking liquids well and his speech is becoming garbled. The hospital is preparing me for what can happen next. He will be transferred to a nursing home soon for therapy which I do not think he will do and therefore will be prone to pneumonia and blood clots. It is sad to see him in this condition.
All my love. It is so difficult to see this drastic decline. Just do the right things, with love. That’s all you can do. The staff will help. Big love ❤️
Everywhere at the end of time....Stage 6: Place in the World Fades Away
God love you!
My mom was in hospice last week. She died Wednesday. I didnt realy see to much to see as hospice being or makeing a difference. The nurse did get to know us and her a bit but the care wasnt any better than the nursing home
Iam from SA and my mom is 77 and she has dimmentia.What are the last stages
Iam so scared
I believe God had you come up when I was just scrolling thru my phone. My mother will be 88 yrs in a few days. I have taken care of her the best I can since my daddy went to be with our Lord over 8 yrs ago. It so sad and hard to see her in pain physically and mentally. She's a strong Christian lady so am I a Christian... so I knew we will all be with our Lord and be together again. I just ray for her to have peace and comfort in her last days here on this earth. She will tell you..."my home is in heaven". My mother has always been a loving daughter, wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother and friend.
I also believe that God uses us to be in the right place at the right time for the right person. I am humbled that God uses me in any way. All my love. Vicky
It's very anxiety inducing for me watching someone die. It was never a wonderful experience. Watched my step-dad die, a sister and husband die. Hate everything about death. The funeral, the viewing, the service, just brings me anxiety. Wish it wasn't that way, but it is and was. My mother is getting worse. She is in stage 6 of dementia. I'm already feeling the dread and anxiety. 😢 Maybe I'm the Orly one that feels this way I don't know.
God bless all tgis lovely lady lve lost many l frighten to die alone lm not sure what to believe as had death around me from.a young age
I'm angry because the memory care nurse convinced the dr that my mother needed morphine every 1/2 hour for her last 12 hours. We did not get to speak with her or see her pretty eyes anymore. Our hospice nurse was also no help to us. So, I'm glad I was with Mama but I feel sad and uneasy for 2 months now. Of course I am happy that she is free.
Hello I'm Gina n I'm 41 I was diagnosed with a brain aneurysm in 2008 n now 2017 heart attack I have seizures n few other health issues n now diagnosed with vascular dementia
Bless your heart. That’s a tough hand dealt to you. I have a small brain tumor, and I have had seizures for 16 years. I know that dementia could be on the horizon, so I have my affairs in order, but otherwise try not to dwell on that. All my love, Vicky ❤️
"The last days are holy." Amen.
Any suggestions on how to speak with someone about salvation? My father n law is still”lucid and I mentioned to “just pray”, he responded “ I’ll pass” and has told his son he doesn’t believe. How do you ask “ if and when you die, will you be in heaven with Jesus” are you willing to take that chance that he’s not real, willing to risk your life, your ETERNAL life on that.” How can I ask without forcing my belief on him? I believe God isn’t going to let him go until he hears the gospel.