I'm a single father of four children. Two boys and two girls. I really enjoy watching your videos. I'm taking notes for my girls. They don't have any good examples of women around them.
As someone who has been married for 20 years. She is speaking truth! When I started implementing so many of things she mentioned years ago our marriage blossomed.
My mom and my grandma were not girly girls. My mom didn't want certain ppl around me if she thought they would spoil me. Very controlling and conservative and religious, no shaving. A cycle I'm breaking
@@dominique4432 my mom and grandma are not girly girls either, my grandma though is very clean and she’s a homemaker so she passed certain of those traits to me. But I’m learning most of the stuff by myself.
Because it takes time management and with work, kids, housework, cooking, spending time with your husband, God where in the day is the time oh and maybe get close to 8 hours of sleep.
Girl, call me out. I have been so masculine for soooo long. I look feminine, long hair, long lashes attractive clothing-- I've gotten plenty of attention over the years, married young-- but the moment I open my mouth, I get into trouble. I know that at least 50% of the time our disagreements escalate because I become dominant and overbearing instead of encouraging and listening. Geez. I feel like I have a lot of work to do. Love that you share the Lord too! That's definitely how we've made it 12 years together!
I can totally relate!!! I’m newly married since March 2021 and it’s been a struggle because I’m a Marine and a Soldier raised by a single mom and I was a single mom myself before I got married so it’s been a struggle learning how to be more feminine now instead of dominant and masculine all of the time. 😩
@@durtiemediabrandagency5499 I found that focusing on the positive feelings and try to just acknowledge the negative thought as being wrong (pull whatever reasons you can).. I know it helped me a lot.
I need this, I grow up with a single Mom so I grew up seeing a woman being the strong provider my whole life . So it’s hard to tap in to my feminine self. God has been revealed & reminding me I’m a woman & need to be my Devine feminine self. I’ve lived in my masculine my whole life to protect myself especially cuz Trauma.
I've been married for almost 16yrs. I got married at 17 and had no idea what I was doing and neither did he. Since January I've been learning to step more into my femininity. This has had a positive impact on my marriage.
I wish there was a sister channel to yours for men and masculinity in a marriage. It would be SO beautiful to work on these things together in our own individual way. Thank you so much for your videos!
I got married March 28th the day before my birthday. I completely agree with this video!! I think marriage also exposes jealous friends. Do not bring them into your new chapter .
So true. I know alot of married women who are miserable and jealous so they stir up drama in other people's marriages. I can't believe how catty they are
You have helped me so very much. As a wife of 33yrs I’ve made so many mistakes in this area. I take care of my body, but have carried so many masculine mindsets. I had to learn to be his cheerleader even when he was out of work for the past 3 yrs. I’m really tapping into my feminine influence and softening, I can see how it changes how my husband responds. You are doing AMAZING WORK. Thank you so much for all you’ve done for me.
1. Feminin appearance Not only the way you look, the way you act is also important. (Smell, dresses, skirts, don't get lazy, dress for yourself) 2. Offer your support Don't control or change him. Encourage him. Be his ego booster and compliment him. 30 min for two things, I have saved your time for you and your men.
I’m so mindblown by everything. I honestly am 27 and I’ve never heard anyone say anything like this. We as women are groomed to be masculine which is why we feel so out of balance; that’s not how we were designed
I'm only seventeen, but I sincerely look forward to marriage. 💘 I won't marry until after college, but I feel like you are never too young to prepare yourself to be a supportive, wise, and respectful wife as you are upgrading your life in other areas, as well. I am so grateful to God to have found such a wise community of feminine women online--and it doesn't even matter that most of my role models are black women, while I am a white girl! Dr. Michelle, your faith in God and wisdom has transformed my life and inspired my bettering relationship with God. I am currently going through your When Women Pray series, and I'll be watching your Esther Anointing series right after! ❤️🙏 Thank you!!
This is all so true and works! When I started making changes in myself, my husband told me his biggest regret was not marrying me sooner. 💕 it’s not easy especially after having 4 kids under the age of 6, but it is possible ladies!
I consider myself blessed and provilege to have found your channel. I have been wondering for years what I was missing in my marriage. My husband kind told me but he never used the word "femininity" I have read book about how to be a submissive wife but always felt like I was putting myself under him, but with "femininity" I feel empowered, I feel smart, I feel in control without showing it. I have started my journey just a few weeks ago and I can already see the difference, even with my children.
I swear i've never been happier than the first moment i came across your channel...i'm talking about 1 year of following you have completely changed my life 180° i used to be more masculine and defensive and anxious but now if i compare myself to 9months ago no one would believe that that girl and this woman i'm are in the same body .. thank you thaaaank you sooo much darling you're such a gift ❤️❤️❤️
Aww that is so sweet to say! I am so happy to know my videos have helped to shape your life for the best. You will continue to bloom. Blessings and love to you!
just one woman changed my view about women. Seeing a woman so successful at trading and couching people on crypto,is beautiful. Let's patronize her through @Britneyjames on telegram, let's give voice to our women..
This was so refreshing and uplifting to watch as a wife of almost 8 years now. I was married at 20 years old and now that I am growing more into my womanhood even as a mother I am making more time to love, inspire, and build with my husband. I'm intrigued and eager to watch and learn more from this series.
As a new wife I’m learning how to navigate feeling comfortable in my natural state (being undone) and wanting to still wow my husband during the day to day. Looking forward to learning more about my divine femininity ❣️
Yes yes &Yes. I love this. Everything you said was spot on. I remember people used to ask me why am I always “dressed up” when I just put on clothes that weren’t sweats and actually did my hair and make up. I knew I was doing something right. Lol I’m single but this will definitely help both single and married women. 🌷😊
I’ve been married for 4 1/2 years. I will need to reimplement some of these things. It’s hard to come back to this when he’s given you reason to resent him.
Dr. Daf, you are a GODSEND. I recently left a popular femininity community after some very ugly and very ungodly things were said about the POC community. I came across your channel and I’ve never felt such a huge wave of tranquility wash over me. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and continuing to set the example! This family exudes divine high class!
just one woman changed my view about women. Seeing a woman so successful at trading and couching people on crypto,is beautiful. Let's patronize her through @Britneyjames on telegram, let's give voice to our women..
Just speaking for myself. Learning to look nice at home has been a process. With kids, working from home, upkeep of the house and cooking its a lot.I think it does require work and it would be easier if there was some form of help. My mom stayed with me for 2 weeks and I was able to get my nails done, hair done, and new perfume. But the response from him does make me want to find a way to put more effort. Even if that means hiring help in the future, which is why I'm hear. A lot of what you said was hard to here but thank you for sharing it so gracefully
Ma'am 🙌🏽 This channel is absolutely everything. I'm actually even emotional because I had been praying to God for so long to give me some guidance on femininity and how to be a woman. I felt so lost, like I needed motherly or big sister type of guidance. I am so grateful for this channel. Thank you Dr Michelle. I don't know if you know just how important your channel is to some of us. It's actually changed my life (I know it sounds like an exaggeration but it truly did). Praise God 🙏🏽❤️😭
I was so girly before I had children. I can never get myself together because Im constantly with them, my husband says he doesnt care about that stuff but I feel really bad that I cant look how I used to on a daily basis.
I feel like this is one of the many normal seasons in marriage, not something for you to feel ashamed of. Maybe start with date nights where you get a trusted babysitter (so you can get ready uninterrupted) and take hours to slowly get ready, dress up, & go out, stay at a hotel or even do something cute at home! My parents have been married for 35 years & teach me about seasons all the time. Do your best with what your life is giving you right now, take baby steps! Perhaps take on this mindset “I don’t need to be who I was, I need to be a better version of who I am now”. This will take the pressure off and getting into your femininity as a mom will feel more attainable. Hope this helps ❤️
That's understandable love. Just do your best, your kids will grow up and you can return to what you used to do. As long as you are clean and feminine in your behavior, that is most significant in this season.
@@Ang_Nicole Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! I do clean up nicely when I can, its just not as often as I'd like but Im getting there!
@@drmichelledaf Thank you so much! Since I've been watching your videos I've just been doing the small things that I can stay on top of like light makeup and making sure I fix chipped nail polish in a timely fashion lol. I also bought new clothes finally so I feel really good!
I really needed to hear this. I am newly married and I found myself wanting to control every situation An AHA moment for me! I am so grateful! Thank you for allowing GOD to use you in this magnitude. Be blessed beloved!
"Even God allows a person to have free will" is the sentence that completely changed my outlook on relationships. I struggle with letting go of imaginary control, of trying to have everything be efficient and orderly, exactly how I perceive things should be done... Thank you for this great epiphany!
I do these things in my marriage. However, I do feel that I could be a softer person in general and that will make him even more proud of me and proud to tell others that I am his wife
Thank you for your thoughtfulness and sharing your growth. I’m married for 17 years and I had to learn that it’s okay to be feminine. My mom was the bread winner and she alway made sure my dad new that. So I’m learning to embrace the feminine side of me still.
Thank you. I look forward to the rest of the videos. Through the years of my own marriage and others, I have noticed that many men get downhearted when their wife doesn’t listen to them. If you want to boost your mans self-esteem listen to him, his fears, desires and dreams. This shows him that he is worth your time, you are there for him. Everyone wants to be heard. And in turn he will offer you the same. To listen to someone is to truly see them.
Thanks for this video love. Sometimes I think culturally, a lot of black women are taught that being feminine is being extra, and only look presentable ‘to go out’. My mother is beautiful naturally but doesn’t do her nails , and is very simple at home (bonnet on , etc). A part of me wishes I was trained by a more feminine energy. I recently looked at girls I know who married NBA players, and successful men and their moms are just like them! Ultra feminine, fresh manicure even in their 50s and 60’s chilling at home. I knew right away, it is generational practices of how to be a feminine wife passed down. My Caribbean descent family makes me feel guilty or asks ‘where I’m going’ when dressed up, my husband also says I don’t need to do ‘all that at home I love you either way’, but this journey is for me, as much as it is for our marriage. Healing the generational shame many hard working black woman have
I'm getting ready to be married and let me tell you, I'm so thankful I found you! I am from the hood and my husband is from Nigeria. He is in love with me, but I can tell there are things that bother him and he doesn't say anything. I'm trying to become better so he doesn't have those unspoken fears anymore. I am eating your videos like I just came off a 40 day fast 😂
I’ve been working so hard on myself. I lost myself in my last relationship and being a mom but I gave my life to God and I am back with a new mind, new look and new life goals. This was PERFECT ! Thank you 🙏🏾 💎 oh and let me add you look BEAUTIFUL !!!!
I have been feeling so depressed & unmotivated lately. I've been neglecting self-care- nails not taken care of, I have high testosterone so fingers, arms, & legs were super hairy as I just couldn't deal with waxing everything. I take care of my place nicely & am decently kind, however with my depressed mood I've been less than friendly & have been very negative & complaining. God showed me your videos today & you are so warm, so kind, & so feminine, that you have given me so much hope & motivation to take care of my appearance, to take pride in my appearance (not in a sinful way). I have been completely lacking purpose recently & your channel has made me realize it's because I'm not living as who God intended me to be. God didn't intend for me to neglect caring for myself, to be angry, sad, & lacking purpose. God created me, a woman, in His perfect image & I can only live up to my potential by embodying femininity, not masculinity, which the latter is what I've resonated with for so long due to how I grew up. Masculinity feels so unnatural, unpleasant, uncomfortable for the most part. God created men & women in His image & when we are living according to His will, I believe we will be most at peace. Well if He intended for us to be masculine, He wouldn't created us as males! Thank you for your channel! You are anointed for sure 😊 you are making this world a better place & you're doing it with the gift God created you to share 💕💕💕 you're doing a wonderful job
As a newlywed of several months to the man of my dreams I can already see how the enemy tries to creep into our marriage. I've always loved your videos but this new series, I felt, is speaking specifically to me in this new chapter. Thank you so much for speaking on femininity the right way, orienting it towards God. Just this first video has calmed my heart and given me a good plan of action going forward on how to protect our marital love and glorify God being a wife. I can't wait to see what else you have in store.
This is what we need now more than ever!!! I hope you get millions of subs and shares because women need to have feminine role models now more than ever!!! You are my virtual feminine role model 🥰😍 Thank you for your videos!!
Love that you're blessing the married ladies with this content. Many of the feminity videos talk about the dating or attracting men, not what to do after you've married him! ❤😊
I just came across your channel, and trust me, I'm going to recommend it to people. I will paste it on comment section of other related video. Every contemporary women need especially black women need this. This is gold!👌
We are blessed to have women like you Michelle, women who teach us how to be feminine in God's way. As a single woman I am learning a lot from you. May God bless you and I love and appreciate you❤❤❤
MICHELLE, I haven’t even watched this yet but I requested this of you on a comment and have been searching and praying for support with this. Thank you for letting God use you to help us. I love you! X
I don't have words to say how grateful I got after this video. Thank you.❤ I really appreciate this topic and your videos makes the difference in my English skills. Hi from Brazil 🇧🇷
I’m here for all her videos! I’m not married but I truly love listening to older women for femininity advice. Dr.Michelle, Im so glad that I found your videos months ago. May god bless you💖🙏🏽
I haven’t even watched yet but I know I’m going to learn so much , I’ve been hoping for content like this as a girl who aspires to marriage this will teach me so much. You’re teachings alone have really taught me so much and put me on a completely different path, I thank God for you❤️.
Honestly this was too short. This was amazing especially the control, I have struggled with that in my past relationships. I can't wait to be my husband's ego booster. This content is changing my mindset and I'm sure others can say the same. My future husband is truly blessed and I am blessed to have your advice Dr. Michelle. I love you. Many blessings. XOXO
Yaaaayyy I haven’t listened to it all yet but I’m already so excited to hear what Michelle has to say about this ! Girl you are amazing keep shining 💕💫 Update: I just watched the whole video and YES YES YES A TRILLION TIMES YES 🙌🏽 ladies take this information as GOLD because it is. This is the difference between a joyful marriage, the way GOD intended it to be, and what is commonly televised or portrayed (marriage = arguments, no sex, constant complaining about the husband) I could have avoided many many arguments with my husband in the beginning if I knew this prior so AMEN AMEN 😭
Earlier this year I started dressing up and it caught him off guard at first lol and he really thought I was out with another man but after some reassurance and maybe him popping up at the house during his lunch break a couple times he knows that I just want to look good for my man when he comes home. He was always good to me but he definitely treats me better than good now
Wow! I’m new to your channel and I’m blown away. I’m at a point in my marriage that is rocky. I know some of this will work. I’m God’s daughter! Thank you! 💕
Thank you for this. I’m getting married in a few days. This is helpful! After growing up as a masculine tomboy (due to trauma; seems like that’s a trend, sadly) I’m on my feminine journey.
I love your femininity! I'm also very feminie, always caring about how i look, because i deserve it. I used to be tom boyish but when i met God i realized how beautiful i am as a woman! And that i should sherish myself more! So thank you. I'll soon be engaged with the love of my life. So thank you for celebrating the BEAUTY of women!
From the very first point you made BOOM! Accurate- on it- all of your advice is spot on to what I’ve always heard my mother say is important in a role as a woman
God is more than good! I definitely need this series as I'm in my first year of marriage❤ Much love Dr. Michelle please stay obedient to God your changing people's lives!!
Looking back I feel embarrassed on some of the things I would wear around the house with my hubby 😳 Wasn't able to realize the damage I was doing. The mental snapshot is really eye opening!! I love you implementing God into it all. King & king and having a beautiful mission together. Love it!!
The way you presented all this really resonated with me, it really sunk in. I’m not married yet, but we are engaged and I’ve been trying to better myself in general and for our relationship. It took me a long time and watching many YT videos on feminine energy to realize that the masculinity that I was emanating is what changed our relationship, especially after we moved in together. Thank you for an inspiring video! ✨
I see a lot people comparing these videos to Kevin Samuels. But I do think that it is important to point out that Dr. Michelle teaches femininity in an encouraging and uplifting way. And as well she doesn’t completely bash the ideals of the modern woman. She recognizes why women have become more masculine is simply spreading knowledge and awareness to this issue. She even previously states that you can be a “boss babe” and still be submissive and feminine. Kevin Samuels, although stating that he is too trying to help and making SOME compelling points, gets an odd kick out of shaming and bringing down the modern woman completely while doing so... my opinion.
I agree with you completely. My mother is a full time stay a home wife & mother, has her own business, & still does a great job. In fact, she taught me that having my own as a woman makes it easier to give to my man because I wont feel resentful about it, I’ll feel empowered.
Precious is what you are! Not only because you are addressing a pertinent issue that hinges upon success in maintaining love and respect in the marriage today; but, also because you acknowledge the duty of a wife as is ordained by The Almighty One, the Creator of all there is. May joy, love and wisdom forever increase in your household.
I really needed to hear this. I’m not even married yet but I really want to be a wonderful wife for my husband! I’ve strived to be feminine for years and I pray daily that God bless me with a happy, beautiful marriage, especially because I see and hear the so unhealthy marriage that my parents have. I really struggle though sometimes because my mom has told me that I won’t make a good wife. That’s caused me to pray more though and work harder on myself. It helped to hear Dr. Michelle saying here that everything will be fine and that I’ll get there.
I just came across this episode, searching for a way for me to be a better wife. This. Gave. Me. Life. I am forever changed and a subscriber for life. Thank you!
Yes girl!!! The Bible will always be counter cultural compared to today’s standards because the world gets more wicked as time goes on. Absolutely love your content!!! I’ve been listening to you for about almost a week and I’ve been implanting everything you’ve been saying and mannnnnn I see a difference!!! My man has been responding so well to my femininity and I feel so much closer to him. We’ve been laughing more and all!! I realized that the problem really was me! I have a good man but I was not letting him be my man. Thank you so much for your work!
Yes girl! You’re spot on! I’m happily married but struggle in these areas! Thank you so much for actually SAYING this! Nobody else’s is saying it! Than you! ❤️ An you are gorgeous! 😍
This is perfect timing. I just bought the book “The Excellent Wife” on a trip to Boise for my friend’s wedding. I was already eyeballing the book because of an account I follow on Instagram. When I saw it at the church branch in Boise (the church originally started in SoCal), I had to get it!! I may not have a boyfriend or husband, but I’m using it as a tool to give me knowledge and show me where I need to improve so I can prepare when I do have a husband.
That's wonderful! I have yet to read it but let me know how you enjoy it. Which account do you follow on Instagram? And it's always important to be prepared!
10 years later and I’m learning more now than I ever did before. I’ve applied a lot of tips that have helped our marriage to really blossom. Thanks for this kind of content bc it’s so needed.
After watching Kevin Samuels a couple of times I've realized that what men really want in marriage is a helpwe and someone who can submit to his leadership just like God intended it to be.
I can’t begin to explain how much this helped me 🙏🏼 thank you. Beginning of our relationship I was so bubbly and feminine bc I was so close to God but since marriage Satan has been attacking my mind so much and it has effected my joy and marriage. The enemy only comes to steal kill and destroy
I am excited to follow you and start this journey. I’m not married but I’ve been in countless relationships where I’ve held onto that masculine behavior. This feels like so much to apply to my current relationship but I know that he is who God called me to be with. I hope and pray that this work helps.
Very wise and thought provoking word. I am so guilty of everything you spoke on. Thanks for opening my eyes to harsh truths and correction. Keep doing what you do. God bless!
When I was a kid and went to church camp we would sing this song: "I've got that joy joy joy joy down in my heart, down in my heart, down in my heart. I've got that joy joy joy joy down in my heart, down in my heart to stay. And I'm so happy so very happy I've got the love of Jesus in my heart. Yeah I'm so happy, so very happy, I've got the love of Jesus in my heart!" You made me think of that today!
Good morning! I did not get a notification until after the program finished. I am grateful though, as I find your talks inspiring. Be blessed today, everyone!🙏🏼💖
I'm a single father of four children. Two boys and two girls. I really enjoy watching your videos. I'm taking notes for my girls. They don't have any good examples of women around them.
the effort you're putting in for your daughters is beautiful x
This is amazing!!!!!!!!!!
This is lovely ☺️ God bless you🌸
I salute you. God bless you and your daughters!
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As someone who has been married for 20 years. She is speaking truth! When I started implementing so many of things she mentioned years ago our marriage blossomed.
Thank you as an engaged woman! ☺️
I wished I wasn't single and married.
@@JaejoongPrincess The More you enjoy singleness the faster you will be married.
Also look into rotational dating.
20 years! That’s beautiful and so are you!!
@JaejoongPrincess lol
Im not even married but I love watching this content. As a black girl you are great representation for the woman I want to be!
Aww thank you love!!
Same
Same. Beautiful 😍it will all always be in our minds though now. So attractive. I love this channel
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So excited for you darling! You will be a wonderful wife.
It’s actually quite weird that a lot of women don’t wanna look good for themselves, like why do u not wanna slay all day if u can??
My mom and my grandma were not girly girls. My mom didn't want certain ppl around me if she thought they would spoil me. Very controlling and conservative and religious, no shaving. A cycle I'm breaking
@@dominique4432 my mom and grandma are not girly girls either, my grandma though is very clean and she’s a homemaker so she passed certain of those traits to me. But I’m learning most of the stuff by myself.
I have kids, slaying all day would slay me lol.
@@The13thGoddessAries , I was brought up in a way I wasn’t allowed to wear make up, wear red anything, etc.
Because it takes time management and with work, kids, housework, cooking, spending time with your husband, God where in the day is the time oh and maybe get close to 8 hours of sleep.
Girl, call me out. I have been so masculine for soooo long. I look feminine, long hair, long lashes attractive clothing-- I've gotten plenty of attention over the years, married young-- but the moment I open my mouth, I get into trouble. I know that at least 50% of the time our disagreements escalate because I become dominant and overbearing instead of encouraging and listening. Geez. I feel like I have a lot of work to do. Love that you share the Lord too! That's definitely how we've made it 12 years together!
I can totally relate!!! I’m newly married since March 2021 and it’s been a struggle because I’m a Marine and a Soldier raised by a single mom and I was a single mom myself before I got married so it’s been a struggle learning how to be more feminine now instead of dominant and masculine all of the time. 😩
@@durtiemediabrandagency5499 I found that focusing on the positive feelings and try to just acknowledge the negative thought as being wrong (pull whatever reasons you can).. I know it helped me a lot.
@@durtiemediabrandagency5499I was a single mom first as well-I can relate!! We’ve got this!! We can do it. 🫶🏼💖🥳
I'm not married yet but I'm so so excited for this 😭😊 God always blesses those who prepare so let me prepare chile🥺❤
Amen girl!🙏🏽❤️ I’m doing the same!
Believe me, it is the best thing you can do for your future husband.
Amen Sis!
Yes!! He does!!
Same sis! Amen🤍🤍
I need this, I grow up with a single Mom so I grew up seeing a woman being the strong provider my whole life .
So it’s hard to tap in to my feminine self.
God has been revealed & reminding me I’m a woman & need to be my Devine feminine self.
I’ve lived in my masculine my whole life to protect myself especially cuz Trauma.
Right there with you ❤️
Same and I suspect it’s the case for many
Same. It's difficult.
🙌🏾 and it was hard to shift but step by step!
I've been married for almost 16yrs. I got married at 17 and had no idea what I was doing and neither did he. Since January I've been learning to step more into my femininity. This has had a positive impact on my marriage.
That is so beautiful 💗 So happy for you babe.
I wish there was a sister channel to yours for men and masculinity in a marriage. It would be SO beautiful to work on these things together in our own individual way. Thank you so much for your videos!
Maybe one day! That's my dream!!
Great idea-Maybe her hubby?
What a great idea
Only a man can teach a man to be a man.
@Lady
Well I've heard that her husband is a man..
I got married March 28th the day before my birthday. I completely agree with this video!! I think marriage also exposes jealous friends. Do not bring them into your new chapter .
This was my experience so many jealous friends and even family tried to sabotage my marriage don't let them.
So true. I know alot of married women who are miserable and jealous so they stir up drama in other people's marriages. I can't believe how catty they are
@@starrjohnson1327 really? It’s usually single women trying to sabotage relationships.
@andreaa.1393 not necessarily... its usually miserable people... single or married. Male or female
You have helped me so very much. As a wife of 33yrs I’ve made so many mistakes in this area. I take care of my body, but have carried so many masculine mindsets. I had to learn to be his cheerleader even when he was out of work for the past 3 yrs. I’m really tapping into my feminine influence and softening, I can see how it changes how my husband responds. You are doing AMAZING WORK. Thank you so much for all you’ve done for me.
The fact that you're willing to learn from anyone regardless of their age is amazing. I think it's very cool.
1. Feminin appearance
Not only the way you look, the way you act is also important. (Smell, dresses, skirts, don't get lazy, dress for yourself)
2. Offer your support
Don't control or change him. Encourage him. Be his ego booster and compliment him.
30 min for two things, I have saved your time for you and your men.
Thank you so much!!
I’m so mindblown by everything. I honestly am 27 and I’ve never heard anyone say anything like this. We as women are groomed to be masculine which is why we feel so out of balance; that’s not how we were designed
I'm only seventeen, but I sincerely look forward to marriage. 💘 I won't marry until after college, but I feel like you are never too young to prepare yourself to be a supportive, wise, and respectful wife as you are upgrading your life in other areas, as well.
I am so grateful to God to have found such a wise community of feminine women online--and it doesn't even matter that most of my role models are black women, while I am a white girl! Dr. Michelle, your faith in God and wisdom has transformed my life and inspired my bettering relationship with God. I am currently going through your When Women Pray series, and I'll be watching your Esther Anointing series right after! ❤️🙏 Thank you!!
This is all so true and works! When I started making changes in myself, my husband told me his biggest regret was not marrying me sooner. 💕 it’s not easy especially after having 4 kids under the age of 6, but it is possible ladies!
Wow you go girl!!
I consider myself blessed and provilege to have found your channel. I have been wondering for years what I was missing in my marriage. My husband kind told me but he never used the word "femininity" I have read book about how to be a submissive wife but always felt like I was putting myself under him, but with "femininity" I feel empowered, I feel smart, I feel in control without showing it. I have started my journey just a few weeks ago and I can already see the difference, even with my children.
I've been married for twelve years and since I have been working on embracing my feminine side our marriage has gotten so much better.
I swear i've never been happier than the first moment i came across your channel...i'm talking about 1 year of following you have completely changed my life 180° i used to be more masculine and defensive and anxious but now if i compare myself to 9months ago no one would believe that that girl and this woman i'm are in the same body .. thank you thaaaank you sooo much darling you're such a gift ❤️❤️❤️
Aww that is so sweet to say! I am so happy to know my videos have helped to shape your life for the best. You will continue to bloom. Blessings and love to you!
I'm getting married this Saturday! I'm so happy this video appeared in my feed.
just one woman changed my view about women. Seeing a woman so successful at trading and couching people on crypto,is beautiful. Let's patronize her through @Britneyjames on telegram, let's give voice to our women..
Congrats!
Finally something for married women and femininity combined, please do more 😍
This was so refreshing and uplifting to watch as a wife of almost 8 years now. I was married at 20 years old and now that I am growing more into my womanhood even as a mother I am making more time to love, inspire, and build with my husband. I'm intrigued and eager to watch and learn more from this series.
As a new wife I’m learning how to navigate feeling comfortable in my natural state (being undone) and wanting to still wow my husband during the day to day. Looking forward to learning more about my divine femininity ❣️
Encouraging and empowering our husbands is so important.
Yes, it's everything!!
Yes yes &Yes. I love this. Everything you said was spot on. I remember people used to ask me why am I always “dressed up” when I just put on clothes that weren’t sweats and actually did my hair and make up. I knew I was doing something right. Lol I’m single but this will definitely help both single and married women. 🌷😊
Thank you.
All the other feminine channels are for singles. Us married folks need help too
Agreed. Married women need help as well.
I’ve been married for 4 1/2 years. I will need to reimplement some of these things. It’s hard to come back to this when he’s given you reason to resent him.
Dr. Daf, you are a GODSEND. I recently left a popular femininity community after some very ugly and very ungodly things were said about the POC community. I came across your channel and I’ve never felt such a huge wave of tranquility wash over me. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and continuing to set the example! This family exudes divine high class!
Please, we need at least 50 episodes of this series. THANK YOU 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💞
just one woman changed my view about women. Seeing a woman so successful at trading and couching people on crypto,is beautiful. Let's patronize her through @Britneyjames on telegram, let's give voice to our women..
Just speaking for myself. Learning to look nice at home has been a process. With kids, working from home, upkeep of the house and cooking its a lot.I think it does require work and it would be easier if there was some form of help. My mom stayed with me for 2 weeks and I was able to get my nails done, hair done, and new perfume. But the response from him does make me want to find a way to put more effort. Even if that means hiring help in the future, which is why I'm hear. A lot of what you said was hard to here but thank you for sharing it so gracefully
Ma'am 🙌🏽 This channel is absolutely everything. I'm actually even emotional because I had been praying to God for so long to give me some guidance on femininity and how to be a woman. I felt so lost, like I needed motherly or big sister type of guidance. I am so grateful for this channel. Thank you Dr Michelle. I don't know if you know just how important your channel is to some of us. It's actually changed my life (I know it sounds like an exaggeration but it truly did). Praise God 🙏🏽❤️😭
I wish my heart would soften into this idea. Prayers appreciated. It brings up fear in me.
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It's possible with prayer, patience and grace. Praying for you 🙏🏽❤️
I was so girly before I had children. I can never get myself together because Im constantly with them, my husband says he doesnt care about that stuff but I feel really bad that I cant look how I used to on a daily basis.
I feel like this is one of the many normal seasons in marriage, not something for you to feel ashamed of. Maybe start with date nights where you get a trusted babysitter (so you can get ready uninterrupted) and take hours to slowly get ready, dress up, & go out, stay at a hotel or even do something cute at home! My parents have been married for 35 years & teach me about seasons all the time. Do your best with what your life is giving you right now, take baby steps! Perhaps take on this mindset “I don’t need to be who I was, I need to be a better version of who I am now”. This will take the pressure off and getting into your femininity as a mom will feel more attainable. Hope this helps ❤️
That's understandable love. Just do your best, your kids will grow up and you can return to what you used to do. As long as you are clean and feminine in your behavior, that is most significant in this season.
@@Ang_Nicole Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! I do clean up nicely when I can, its just not as often as I'd like but Im getting there!
@@drmichelledaf Thank you so much! Since I've been watching your videos I've just been doing the small things that I can stay on top of like light makeup and making sure I fix chipped nail polish in a timely fashion lol. I also bought new clothes finally so I feel really good!
I really needed to hear this. I am newly married and I found myself wanting to control every situation
An AHA moment for me! I am so grateful! Thank you for allowing GOD to use you in this magnitude. Be blessed beloved!
"Even God allows a person to have free will" is the sentence that completely changed my outlook on relationships.
I struggle with letting go of imaginary control, of trying to have everything be efficient and orderly, exactly how I perceive things should be done... Thank you for this great epiphany!
Amen!!
I do these things in my marriage. However, I do feel that I could be a softer person in general and that will make him even more proud of me and proud to tell others that I am his wife
Thank you for your thoughtfulness and sharing your growth. I’m married for 17 years and I had to learn that it’s okay to be feminine. My mom was the bread winner and she alway made sure my dad new that. So I’m learning to embrace the feminine side of me still.
As an engaged woman I’m super excited for this series! 💞
Thank you. I look forward to the rest of the videos. Through the years of my own marriage and others, I have noticed that many men get downhearted when their wife doesn’t listen to them. If you want to boost your mans self-esteem listen to him, his fears, desires and dreams. This shows him that he is worth your time, you are there for him. Everyone wants to be heard. And in turn he will offer you the same. To listen to someone is to truly see them.
Thanks for this video love. Sometimes I think culturally, a lot of black women are taught that being feminine is being extra, and only look presentable ‘to go out’. My mother is beautiful naturally but doesn’t do her nails , and is very simple at home (bonnet on , etc). A part of me wishes I was trained by a more feminine energy. I recently looked at girls I know who married NBA players, and successful men and their moms are just like them! Ultra feminine, fresh manicure even in their 50s and 60’s chilling at home. I knew right away, it is generational practices of how to be a feminine wife passed down. My Caribbean descent family makes me feel guilty or asks ‘where I’m going’ when dressed up, my husband also says I don’t need to do ‘all that at home I love you either way’, but this journey is for me, as much as it is for our marriage. Healing the generational shame many hard working black woman have
I'm getting ready to be married and let me tell you, I'm so thankful I found you! I am from the hood and my husband is from Nigeria. He is in love with me, but I can tell there are things that bother him and he doesn't say anything. I'm trying to become better so he doesn't have those unspoken fears anymore. I am eating your videos like I just came off a 40 day fast 😂
I’ve been working so hard on myself. I lost myself in my last relationship and being a mom but I gave my life to God and I am back with a new mind, new look and new life goals. This was PERFECT ! Thank you 🙏🏾 💎 oh and let me add you look BEAUTIFUL !!!!
I have no good examples and have been so lost, scrambling, trying to keep my family. I appreciate the guidance you have given me. It is a blessing.
I have been feeling so depressed & unmotivated lately. I've been neglecting self-care- nails not taken care of, I have high testosterone so fingers, arms, & legs were super hairy as I just couldn't deal with waxing everything. I take care of my place nicely & am decently kind, however with my depressed mood I've been less than friendly & have been very negative & complaining. God showed me your videos today & you are so warm, so kind, & so feminine, that you have given me so much hope & motivation to take care of my appearance, to take pride in my appearance (not in a sinful way). I have been completely lacking purpose recently & your channel has made me realize it's because I'm not living as who God intended me to be. God didn't intend for me to neglect caring for myself, to be angry, sad, & lacking purpose. God created me, a woman, in His perfect image & I can only live up to my potential by embodying femininity, not masculinity, which the latter is what I've resonated with for so long due to how I grew up. Masculinity feels so unnatural, unpleasant, uncomfortable for the most part. God created men & women in His image & when we are living according to His will, I believe we will be most at peace. Well if He intended for us to be masculine, He wouldn't created us as males! Thank you for your channel! You are anointed for sure 😊 you are making this world a better place & you're doing it with the gift God created you to share 💕💕💕 you're doing a wonderful job
I cannot wait to apply things to my marriage.I will be a Wife sooner than later by GODs grace💞
My prayer 💕
As a newlywed of several months to the man of my dreams I can already see how the enemy tries to creep into our marriage. I've always loved your videos but this new series, I felt, is speaking specifically to me in this new chapter. Thank you so much for speaking on femininity the right way, orienting it towards God. Just this first video has calmed my heart and given me a good plan of action going forward on how to protect our marital love and glorify God being a wife. I can't wait to see what else you have in store.
This is what we need now more than ever!!! I hope you get millions of subs and shares because women need to have feminine role models now more than ever!!! You are my virtual feminine role model 🥰😍 Thank you for your videos!!
That's so sweet, thank you. I hope that every woman gets to see these videos because it is necessary now more than ever! Blessings to you babe!
Ladies! Please pray for my husband with me! He has not accepted Jesus as his savior yet. 🥺💜
We will love!
Praying
I pray for his heart to be open to receive Gods word in Jesus name.
@@sandyoyians7379 thank you sweet girl 💜💜💜 God bless you!
Be the love!
Love that you're blessing the married ladies with this content. Many of the feminity videos talk about the dating or attracting men, not what to do after you've married him! ❤😊
Please bring this series back!! It just might be what I need to save my marriage!
I just came across your channel, and trust me, I'm going to recommend it to people. I will paste it on comment section of other related video. Every contemporary women need especially black women need this. This is gold!👌
I’m engaged so this is exciting for mee thank you! ❤️
CONGRATS!!!!
Getting married in a couple of months, so I am very exciting for this series!!
We are blessed to have women like you Michelle, women who teach us how to be feminine in God's way. As a single woman I am learning a lot from you. May God bless you and I love and appreciate you❤❤❤
That is super sweet, thank you. You will be well prepared for marriage. Blessings and love to you!
MICHELLE, I haven’t even watched this yet but I requested this of you on a comment and have been searching and praying for support with this. Thank you for letting God use you to help us. I love you! X
Hi love, I am so happy to hear that. The Lord heard your prayers, that's for sure! I have a lot of material for you. Stay tuned. Love you too!
Yessss. I’ve been waiting for you to speak on marriage!
More to come love!
You are the wisest youtuber I follow ❤ a true role model
Yes so much
I don't have words to say how grateful I got after this video. Thank you.❤
I really appreciate this topic and your videos makes the difference in my English skills. Hi from Brazil 🇧🇷
Bate aqui amiga! 🙋♀️ e ela fala lentamente o que ajuda demais a entender, nem sinto falta de legendas!
I’m here for all her videos! I’m not married but I truly love listening to older women for femininity advice. Dr.Michelle, Im so glad that I found your videos months ago. May god bless you💖🙏🏽
I haven’t even watched yet but I know I’m going to learn so much , I’ve been hoping for content like this as a girl who aspires to marriage this will teach me so much. You’re teachings alone have really taught me so much and put me on a completely different path, I thank God for you❤️.
That is so wonderful to hear my love! Thank you!!
Honestly this was too short. This was amazing especially the control, I have struggled with that in my past relationships. I can't wait to be my husband's ego booster. This content is changing my mindset and I'm sure others can say the same. My future husband is truly blessed and I am blessed to have your advice Dr. Michelle. I love you. Many blessings. XOXO
I’m 51 and I aspire to be the woman you described here. Thank you for outlining tangible steps with love. Your aura is beautiful.
Yaaaayyy I haven’t listened to it all yet but I’m already so excited to hear what Michelle has to say about this ! Girl you are amazing keep shining 💕💫
Update: I just watched the whole video and YES YES YES A TRILLION TIMES YES 🙌🏽 ladies take this information as GOLD because it is. This is the difference between a joyful marriage, the way GOD intended it to be, and what is commonly televised or portrayed (marriage = arguments, no sex, constant complaining about the husband) I could have avoided many many arguments with my husband in the beginning if I knew this prior so AMEN AMEN 😭
Aww thank you sweetheart!
I realize more and more each day, I have been wrong for so many years.
Thank you for being so
graceful and Beautiful!
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Earlier this year I started dressing up and it caught him off guard at first lol and he really thought I was out with another man but after some reassurance and maybe him popping up at the house during his lunch break a couple times he knows that I just want to look good for my man when he comes home. He was always good to me but he definitely treats me better than good now
i did all this things in my pass marriage and i only taken advantage and i got treated badly in return. So i am scared .
Her husband must absolutely adore her because she just spoke so much life into me.
Aww you're sweet, thank you
Wow! I’m new to your channel and I’m blown away. I’m at a point in my marriage that is rocky. I know some of this will work. I’m God’s daughter! Thank you! 💕
I watched this video a year ago before I was married. Now that I am married, this series hits differently. Thanks Dr. Michelle ❤
I'm excited cause this gal is gonna bring it down .🤩
So excited for this series! I'm married and heading into 5 years and this blessed me so much
Thank you for this. I’m getting married in a few days. This is helpful! After growing up as a masculine tomboy (due to trauma; seems like that’s a trend, sadly) I’m on my feminine journey.
I love your femininity! I'm also very feminie, always caring about how i look, because i deserve it. I used to be tom boyish but when i met God i realized how beautiful i am as a woman! And that i should sherish myself more!
So thank you. I'll soon be engaged with the love of my life. So thank you for celebrating the BEAUTY of women!
From the very first point you made BOOM! Accurate- on it- all of your advice is spot on to what I’ve always heard my mother say is important in a role as a woman
God is more than good! I definitely need this series as I'm in my first year of marriage❤
Much love Dr. Michelle please stay obedient to God your changing people's lives!!
I haven’t been this early in a while,im so excited
Looking back I feel embarrassed on some of the things I would wear around the house with my hubby 😳
Wasn't able to realize the damage I was doing. The mental snapshot is really eye opening!! I love you implementing God into it all. King & king and having a beautiful mission together. Love it!!
The way you presented all this really resonated with me, it really sunk in. I’m not married yet, but we are engaged and I’ve been trying to better myself in general and for our relationship. It took me a long time and watching many YT videos on feminine energy to realize that the masculinity that I was emanating is what changed our relationship, especially after we moved in together. Thank you for an inspiring video! ✨
That’s where I am too girl. Here’s to us getting it together🥂
I see a lot people comparing these videos to Kevin Samuels. But I do think that it is important to point out that Dr. Michelle teaches femininity in an encouraging and uplifting way. And as well she doesn’t completely bash the ideals of the modern woman. She recognizes why women have become more masculine is simply spreading knowledge and awareness to this issue. She even previously states that you can be a “boss babe” and still be submissive and feminine. Kevin Samuels, although stating that he is too trying to help and making SOME compelling points, gets an odd kick out of shaming and bringing down the modern woman completely while doing so... my opinion.
I agree with you completely. My mother is a full time stay a home wife & mother, has her own business, & still does a great job. In fact, she taught me that having my own as a woman makes it easier to give to my man because I wont feel resentful about it, I’ll feel empowered.
Precious is what you are! Not only because you are addressing a pertinent issue that hinges upon success in maintaining love and respect in the marriage today; but, also because you acknowledge the duty of a wife as is ordained by The Almighty One, the Creator of all there is. May joy, love and wisdom forever increase in your household.
I really needed to hear this. I’m not even married yet but I really want to be a wonderful wife for my husband! I’ve strived to be feminine for years and I pray daily that God bless me with a happy, beautiful marriage, especially because I see and hear the so unhealthy marriage that my parents have. I really struggle though sometimes because my mom has told me that I won’t make a good wife. That’s caused me to pray more though and work harder on myself. It helped to hear Dr. Michelle saying here that everything will be fine and that I’ll get there.
I just came across this episode, searching for a way for me to be a better wife. This. Gave. Me. Life. I am forever changed and a subscriber for life. Thank you!
Yes girl!!! The Bible will always be counter cultural compared to today’s standards because the world gets more wicked as time goes on. Absolutely love your content!!! I’ve been listening to you for about almost a week and I’ve been implanting everything you’ve been saying and mannnnnn I see a difference!!! My man has been responding so well to my femininity and I feel so much closer to him. We’ve been laughing more and all!! I realized that the problem really was me! I have a good man but I was not letting him be my man. Thank you so much for your work!
“Even God gives people free will “.
Whoa. That hit hard
Yes girl! You’re spot on! I’m happily married but struggle in these areas! Thank you so much for actually SAYING this! Nobody else’s is saying it! Than you! ❤️ An you are gorgeous! 😍
Thank you ! I needed to hear this . Being married can be challenging and sometimes you do need words of encouragement!
This is perfect timing. I just bought the book “The Excellent Wife” on a trip to Boise for my friend’s wedding. I was already eyeballing the book because of an account I follow on Instagram. When I saw it at the church branch in Boise (the church originally started in SoCal), I had to get it!!
I may not have a boyfriend or husband, but I’m using it as a tool to give me knowledge and show me where I need to improve so I can prepare when I do have a husband.
That's wonderful! I have yet to read it but let me know how you enjoy it. Which account do you follow on Instagram? And it's always important to be prepared!
@@drmichelledaf the account name is the Radically Changed Wife.
instagram.com/theradicallychangedwife?igshid=4gdtca5ui80v
☝🏻 here’s her account.
@@thatexcalifornian6124 thanks love 🤍
10 years later and I’m learning more now than I ever did before. I’ve applied a lot of tips that have helped our marriage to really blossom. Thanks for this kind of content bc it’s so needed.
Thanks so much for this sis! Those stats are surreal! We need to help one another!
As a married woman of God, thank you so much for this content!
Thank You you having given me the key to a success marriage and life as a woman
You are most welcome sweetie God bless you 💋
After watching Kevin Samuels and Love Dorsey, this channel is exactly what I need. I get it now I have to apply .
Exactly 😀
I usually watch Kevin Samuel's too!!!! I gotta check Love Dorsey now
After watching Kevin Samuels a couple of times I've realized that what men really want in marriage is a helpwe and someone who can submit to his leadership just like God intended it to be.
Love Dorsey is the raw truth!
I can’t begin to explain how much this helped me 🙏🏼 thank you. Beginning of our relationship I was so bubbly and feminine bc I was so close to God but since marriage Satan has been attacking my mind so much and it has effected my joy and marriage. The enemy only comes to steal kill and destroy
I am excited to follow you and start this journey. I’m not married but I’ve been in countless relationships where I’ve held onto that masculine behavior. This feels like so much to apply to my current relationship but I know that he is who God called me to be with. I hope and pray that this work helps.
Thank you! I have grown so much since I started watching you!
This is the most beautiful and positive thing I have heard about marriage ❤️❤️❤️
Very wise and thought provoking word. I am so guilty of everything you spoke on. Thanks for opening my eyes to harsh truths and correction. Keep doing what you do. God bless!
I asked this on another video, but can you share more about your love story and how you met your husband? Thanks.
When I was a kid and went to church camp we would sing this song: "I've got that joy joy joy joy down in my heart, down in my heart, down in my heart. I've got that joy joy joy joy down in my heart, down in my heart to stay. And I'm so happy so very happy I've got the love of Jesus in my heart. Yeah I'm so happy, so very happy, I've got the love of Jesus in my heart!" You made me think of that today!
Good morning! I did not get a notification until after the program finished. I am grateful though, as I find your talks inspiring. Be blessed today, everyone!🙏🏼💖
I am dating someone who’s in the public eye. Although I’m still not a wife, this video has been an eye opener.