Our society and (unfortunately) the Church have this so backwards 😩. Submission and Leading is such a lovely dance between husband and wife when you understand it the way God designed it. Glad someone is speaking truth on it.
@@chocolateprincess8543 do you think we don’t know that? For years true Christians have always been a remnant in a world that totally doesn’t agree with them.
All the women in my family are the ones with the leadership role, it's hard for me to be feminine and submissive as when they see me working on changing they start telling me to do the opposite and talking about what my husband doesn't do to help with our home. I'm tired of arguments with my husband over the little things, and I always wear my emotions on full display. Please pray for my marriage and for me to embrace my God-given role in life.
The same thing happened to me. My family even started talking about my husband and I because I was serving him a plate rather than him getting it himself. Let them be how they are in their relationships and do what works for yours. Being feminine in my marriage has been so rewarding and honestly were happier than the couples in my family where the woman is in the leadership role. And if they tell you to do the opposite, you don’t have to listen to it.
I'd maintain some distance with the family. In addition, the more you abide and enjoy the Lord..the less you'll be upset or stuck in emotions. The more you absorb the word. The more you spend time in fellowship with believers.. the more you grow. I'll pray for you.
As a young adult, I have been on the journey of being feminine and becoming a finer wife. Even though i am single, i understand that i can prepare now so that i can win in dating and my future marriage. Thank you dr.Michelle. I cannot wait to receive your perfume as well.
@@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather you have to pick your husband wisely. He is supposed to love his wife. If he is not loving we try prayer and good conduct, if it doesn't help you can distance yourself temporarily for your own wellbeing
@@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather if it's during an active shooting situation you do it of course :D But you are trying to say if he tries to humiliate the woman? No body acts like this out of the blue. But if he does you know something is wrong, there is no need to listen to evil commands that are clearly there with no good purpose.
I have been married 22 years and we have 4 boys. Submission is so freeing because ultimately the decision for important things rests with my husband and not me. That is a lot of pressure I don't have to carry around. A funny little thing I have noticed in our family is that when a child gets mad at one of us they get mad at both of us. They see us as one, inseparable. It sometimes seems unfair but it is the result of something good. I have had friends where their husband abused submission and were very controlling. The red flag is when the husband is wanting to control your domain, the home. My husband trusts how I run our home. It doesn't not have time or energy to step in my area. He trusts me. Just something I have noticed. I think you have such a beautiful channel, heart, and love for what you do. Thank you.💕
"The reason to be submissive as a finer wife is because God expects that of you" ‼️Wow, it's that simple. I personally find comfort in one day submitting to my Man of God 🌻I think it'll be a relief to be lead well and lovingly as a feminine woman
Am no... It's not merely because God expects that of you as a woman. He knows that respect is essential for every relationship to work (as Dr. Michelle said) and thrive. Submit - respect (does not mean do absolutely whatever your spouse tells you or it would have been explicitly stated in the Bible)
I’m watching from Kenya and this and your other videos have been transformational.I was asked to speak to a women’s meeting 2 months ago,and I shared something I had learnt from your sessions.The Lord used these insight to change many.Thank you Daktari Michelle.[Daktari(Doctor in Swahili)]💕💕💕💕💕
An example that changed how I saw submission: How well a cheerleader cheers isn't dependent on whether or not the team is winning. Keep your eyes on your own paper and don't worry about what he is or isn't doing right and continue on your own journey and take care of yourself and your business first.
I studied secrets of fascinating womanhood in 2012 and I still read it from time to time because I felt I was not very feminine. It really improved my relationship with my brothers and now with my male colleagues. Not just male but female ones too. Your videos are like cherry on the cake. Love from Zambia
I feel so peaceful when I listen to you talking about femininity and marriage. This video clarified the topic for me and now I think I can feel safer submitting to my husband’s lead, knowing that God’s protecting me on this. ❤
Literally this morning God was speaking to me about having respect for the guy I’m talking to rn. He didn’t say to be submissive which I understand now why bc that’s for a covenant but I understand that there’s levels. Thank you for doing Gods work I am in alignment
Yes, be respectful to prospective boyfriend. Hopefully he honors you and makes his intentions clear! My boyfriend evaporated for a LONG time because of my big mouth & disrespect. I didn't mean it. I just had unhealed trauma. God has healed me.
I feel as though I am as submissive as I can be. What I struggle with is when I think my feelings are intentionally hurt by his words. For example, his jokes are low blows. I’m met with anger, rage and aggression when I’m a very calm person by nature. Prayed on it but this is the pattern for years. Something he calls a character flaw he is working on but impacts my ability to fully trust when someone is unable to control their emotions. Especially when I can as a woman.
The hard part for me being submissive as a wife is I suffer from C- PTSD due to mental/physical/S*xual abuse before we got together. I find my body responding in fear a lot. I get anxiety attacks. I am currently in therapy, my husband is amazing I've known him since the third grade; but my mind and body is just mortified of giving it up. I will continue to pray on this we have been married 12 years but I would like a video about integrating these principles when you have a mental illness. Thank you, God bless you and Happy Holidays to you! P.S I love your content you are saving my marriage, truly.
I hear you because I was sexually abused by dad and treated horribly by my mom as well. PTSD? Anxiety? These are strongholds & demons tormenting you. It's SPIRITUAL. TH-cam has videos on healing & deliverance. Jesus will do it. He completely healed me! Completely.
The problem is in the church, many preachers only cater to women, and forget the men lead the homes biblically, and it’s about money keep women away from the good teachings, and the problem is, truth doesn’t make money, so submission in Gods word protects women. Many men I gotta say, get your passport and seek godly women who aren’t in America, the environment here, promotes less marriage and it’s a struggle finding feminine women. Great video sis, you got my support speaking on it.
Good Morning Gorgeous! How are you and your beautiful fam doing these days? I hope baby boy is blessed beyond measure! You look faaaaabulous!💕🙌 I'm loving this vid and have listened to it on your podcast too! Praise God for your heart for His people!🙌🙌🙌 May God continue to Bless you and Keep you Michelle!! Much love and respect from San Diego, Ca!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💕💕💕
Hello I'm 18 yr old girl. Recently I started my femininity journey. I lost my Father when I was 13 or 14. My childhood was terrible. And I'm not here blaming anyone. I'm ok with all the experiences I have. I never got the proper guidance of a father or male figure. Now I love my father so much.. I'm not putting him down. He's still my hero. Due to negative circumstances he couldn't guide me the way he should have. My mom was more in her masculine energy.. and she's still in her masculine energy. That too due to circumstances I tell you. Since childhood I was taught that I shouldn't trust men, and submitting to a men is dangerous, and I always have to be a hyper Independent boss babe. All these years they brain washed me into thinking this. Now I'm unlearning all of this. It's difficult. But I'll do it anyways.. with the help of God. I love your content💗
Thank you for sharing that. I know it's really difficult but you are doing so great by dismantling these things. You're so young and so wise! I have content coming out in the future that I know will help you with some of this. God is with you. 🩷💕
Thank you for an amazing guide on how to submit ma. Please I have a question... the bible does not instruct us to submit in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship...so wat should a girlfriend do? Does that mean she can go ahead to do all she wants even if the guy doesnt want that...the bible also commands husbands to love their wives like he, christ loved the church...does it mean ur boyfriend shouldn't love u as christ did because he is not ur husband
That's a good question. It's like there are levels. If you guys are on the same page working towards the same goal, you will be in the same page. Once marriage or a covenant happens, it gets deeper and you fully trust and submit at that point. But building up through dating and courting.
You submit to your father not a boyfriend or fiance.Now I'm not saying be argumentative.Just that you submit to your Dad before marriage.Especially regarding dating standards.
Hey Dr Daf, I want to ve submissive and I have watched your videos as well as Bindi Marc's. I bought and read books about femininity and submission and have being living my life as such. Ive changed everything about myself thinking it would make my marriage better but it hasnt😔 and i think it is because i truly feel as though my husband doesnt deserve it. I cant trust that he will lead me and my family where we need to go. I need advice
Hi sweetie he probably doesn't deserve it. But no one deserves anything. We have all the care, love, protection and peace due to God's grace alone. So it sounds like where you might want to begin is with forgiveness. Are you both born again? From there remember that marriage is a covenant with God and your obedience pleases Him and He will reward you for it. Serve with that expectation and PRAY. Ask God how to work through this since you wish to be obedient but are coming under resistance. Pray/fast until you get an answer. If your husband is not a man of God things are a bit different in terms of trusting him.
Good morning! This is great information, I just have a couple of questions. What does submission look like when you are in a domestic violence relationship? What does submission look like when your husband or wife do not forgive issues in the past and brings it up all the time in a disagreement?
I’m always confused on how “serving” is the theme for how to treat your husband submissively. Can a woman cook and the man make his own plate or does the woman have to do that ? Does the husband do any serving or he just provides and protects? Can’t you show respect and submission by tone of voice and speaking respectful uplifting words ? Or is it washing his clothes and dishes ?
Be respectful where you can but keep him out of your financial life. Also if he stole your identity you can have him prosecuted. Since he's stolen from 3 of you he probably deserves it.
How would she keep the husband out of her financial life? I’m assuming that he works or they both work but money is “theirs together”…. Just life bills would be theirs together. I think she needs help to fix this issue but I don’t know how she’d keep him out of finances. Maybe a therapist to uncover why he’s insecure or making poor financial decisions- is he hiding an addiction or a bad investment ? There likely is something he’s not saying.
Our society and (unfortunately) the Church have this so backwards 😩. Submission and Leading is such a lovely dance between husband and wife when you understand it the way God designed it. Glad someone is speaking truth on it.
Yes my dear it sure is!! Thank you for watching!
Everyone doesn’t see it as that.
@@chocolateprincess8543 Yes, I understand. But we should see it how God sees it.
@@CoilyCode Everyone doesn’t believe in the same God, so it’s not for everyone.
@@chocolateprincess8543 do you think we don’t know that? For years true Christians have always been a remnant in a world that totally doesn’t agree with them.
All the women in my family are the ones with the leadership role, it's hard for me to be feminine and submissive as when they see me working on changing they start telling me to do the opposite and talking about what my husband doesn't do to help with our home. I'm tired of arguments with my husband over the little things, and I always wear my emotions on full display. Please pray for my marriage and for me to embrace my God-given role in life.
The same thing happened to me. My family even started talking about my husband and I because I was serving him a plate rather than him getting it himself. Let them be how they are in their relationships and do what works for yours. Being feminine in my marriage has been so rewarding and honestly were happier than the couples in my family where the woman is in the leadership role. And if they tell you to do the opposite, you don’t have to listen to it.
I'd maintain some distance with the family. In addition, the more you abide and enjoy the Lord..the less you'll be upset or stuck in emotions. The more you absorb the word. The more you spend time in fellowship with believers.. the more you grow. I'll pray for you.
As a young adult, I have been on the journey of being feminine and becoming a finer wife. Even though i am single, i understand that i can prepare now so that i can win in dating and my future marriage.
Thank you dr.Michelle. I cannot wait to receive your perfume as well.
That's wonderful! This is the time! And thank you love, enjoy ittt :)
Being submissive actually feels really good, it is exciting, inspiring for both, it gives you peace and it strengthens your character.
What if the husband points at the ground and tells the wife, "Sit."?
@@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather you have to pick your husband wisely. He is supposed to love his wife. If he is not loving we try prayer and good conduct, if it doesn't help you can distance yourself temporarily for your own wellbeing
@@natalien.9528 So, what if the husband points at the ground and tells the wife, "Sit."?
@@TheSonOfGodWorshipsTheFather if it's during an active shooting situation you do it of course :D
But you are trying to say if he tries to humiliate the woman? No body acts like this out of the blue. But if he does you know something is wrong, there is no need to listen to evil commands that are clearly there with no good purpose.
I have been married 22 years and we have 4 boys. Submission is so freeing because ultimately the decision for important things rests with my husband and not me. That is a lot of pressure I don't have to carry around. A funny little thing I have noticed in our family is that when a child gets mad at one of us they get mad at both of us. They see us as one, inseparable. It sometimes seems unfair but it is the result of something good. I have had friends where their husband abused submission and were very controlling. The red flag is when the husband is wanting to control your domain, the home. My husband trusts how I run our home. It doesn't not have time or energy to step in my area. He trusts me. Just something I have noticed. I think you have such a beautiful channel, heart, and love for what you do. Thank you.💕
"The reason to be submissive as a finer wife is because God expects that of you" ‼️Wow, it's that simple. I personally find comfort in one day submitting to my Man of God 🌻I think it'll be a relief to be lead well and lovingly as a feminine woman
Am no... It's not merely because God expects that of you as a woman. He knows that respect is essential for every relationship to work (as Dr. Michelle said) and thrive. Submit - respect (does not mean do absolutely whatever your spouse tells you or it would have been explicitly stated in the Bible)
@@raymundofantastico I was restating what Dr. Michelle said in her video but yes that is also true 👍🏾
@@constancedgordon4 Oh ok.
I LOVE this style makeup on you and that pink too 💗
Thank you love!
I’m watching from Kenya and this and your other videos have been transformational.I was asked to speak to a women’s meeting 2 months ago,and I shared something I had learnt from your sessions.The Lord used these insight to change many.Thank you Daktari Michelle.[Daktari(Doctor in Swahili)]💕💕💕💕💕
Oh wow! How incredible. God is working. Thank you for sharing love!
An example that changed how I saw submission:
How well a cheerleader cheers isn't dependent on whether or not the team is winning. Keep your eyes on your own paper and don't worry about what he is or isn't doing right and continue on your own journey and take care of yourself and your business first.
I studied secrets of fascinating womanhood in 2012 and I still read it from time to time because I felt I was not very feminine. It really improved my relationship with my brothers and now with my male colleagues. Not just male but female ones too. Your videos are like cherry on the cake. Love from Zambia
Amazing book! That's wonderful to hear. Thank you honey
I feel so peaceful when I listen to you talking about femininity and marriage. This video clarified the topic for me and now I think I can feel safer submitting to my husband’s lead, knowing that God’s protecting me on this. ❤
Literally this morning God was speaking to me about having respect for the guy I’m talking to rn. He didn’t say to be submissive which I understand now why bc that’s for a covenant but I understand that there’s levels. Thank you for doing Gods work I am in alignment
Yes, be respectful to prospective boyfriend. Hopefully he honors you and makes his intentions clear! My boyfriend evaporated for a LONG time because of my big mouth & disrespect. I didn't mean it. I just had unhealed trauma. God has healed me.
Your make up is so good and elegant
Thank you sweetie!
I feel as though I am as submissive as I can be. What I struggle with is when I think my feelings are intentionally hurt by his words. For example, his jokes are low blows. I’m met with anger, rage and aggression when I’m a very calm person by nature. Prayed on it but this is the pattern for years. Something he calls a character flaw he is working on but impacts my ability to fully trust when someone is unable to control their emotions. Especially when I can as a woman.
Could you please, please, continue “Finer Wives”!💗
Pink is your color 😍😍😍💘
Thank youuu lol
The hard part for me being submissive as a wife is I suffer from C- PTSD due to mental/physical/S*xual abuse before we got together. I find my body responding in fear a lot. I get anxiety attacks. I am currently in therapy, my husband is amazing I've known him since the third grade; but my mind and body is just mortified of giving it up. I will continue to pray on this we have been married 12 years but I would like a video about integrating these principles when you have a mental illness. Thank you, God bless you and Happy Holidays to you! P.S I love your content you are saving my marriage, truly.
I hear you because I was sexually abused by dad and treated horribly by my mom as well. PTSD? Anxiety? These are strongholds & demons tormenting you. It's SPIRITUAL. TH-cam has videos on healing & deliverance. Jesus will do it. He completely healed me! Completely.
Thank you so much for your guidance. May God bless and prosper you, your marriage, business and ministry!
Aww you're so sweet, you're welcome and thank you love!
The problem is in the church, many preachers only cater to women, and forget the men lead the homes biblically, and it’s about money keep women away from the good teachings, and the problem is, truth doesn’t make money, so submission in Gods word protects women.
Many men I gotta say, get your passport and seek godly women who aren’t in America, the environment here, promotes less marriage and it’s a struggle finding feminine women.
Great video sis, you got my support speaking on it.
It depends on the so called ' church'. Your generalizing.
@ more churches aren’t teaching the message because of cancel culture, and being honest to women and most good men understand the mission already
Good Morning Gorgeous! How are you and your beautiful fam doing these days? I hope baby boy is blessed beyond measure! You look faaaaabulous!💕🙌 I'm loving this vid and have listened to it on your podcast too! Praise God for your heart for His people!🙌🙌🙌 May God continue to Bless you and Keep you Michelle!! Much love and respect from San Diego, Ca!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💕💕💕
Awww hi love! Such a sweet comment thank you so much sweetie. May God bless you too babe!
God bless you soo much Dr Michelle. Pls don’t give up on your channel.
Aww thank you babe!
This blessed me! I need a refresher
Interesting video. I'm taking notes 📝
Thank you for watching1
Will e getting fine forever!!!!” Thanks “lil sis”🎉- just had a birthday need mor classier perfumes now
Hello I'm 18 yr old girl. Recently I started my femininity journey. I lost my Father when I was 13 or 14. My childhood was terrible. And I'm not here blaming anyone. I'm ok with all the experiences I have. I never got the proper guidance of a father or male figure. Now I love my father so much.. I'm not putting him down. He's still my hero. Due to negative circumstances he couldn't guide me the way he should have. My mom was more in her masculine energy.. and she's still in her masculine energy. That too due to circumstances I tell you. Since childhood I was taught that I shouldn't trust men, and submitting to a men is dangerous, and I always have to be a hyper Independent boss babe. All these years they brain washed me into thinking this. Now I'm unlearning all of this. It's difficult. But I'll do it anyways.. with the help of God. I love your content💗
Thank you for sharing that. I know it's really difficult but you are doing so great by dismantling these things. You're so young and so wise! I have content coming out in the future that I know will help you with some of this. God is with you. 🩷💕
@@drmichelledaf yes thank you💗
Happy to be here😊😊😊
Thank you Dr. Daf, this was much needed! I look forward to more videos
You are so welcome honey!
I enjoyed watching this 👍
Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for watching love!
@@drmichelledaf What is Finer Wives?
Thank you for an amazing guide on how to submit ma. Please I have a question... the bible does not instruct us to submit in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship...so wat should a girlfriend do? Does that mean she can go ahead to do all she wants even if the guy doesnt want that...the bible also commands husbands to love their wives like he, christ loved the church...does it mean ur boyfriend shouldn't love u as christ did because he is not ur husband
That's a good question. It's like there are levels. If you guys are on the same page working towards the same goal, you will be in the same page. Once marriage or a covenant happens, it gets deeper and you fully trust and submit at that point. But building up through dating and courting.
You submit to your father not a boyfriend or fiance.Now I'm not saying be argumentative.Just that you submit to your Dad before marriage.Especially regarding dating standards.
Your boyfriend doesn't owe you anything and you don't owe your boyfriend anything.
Absolutely ❤️🙏🏾❤️
Hey Dr Daf, I want to ve submissive and I have watched your videos as well as Bindi Marc's. I bought and read books about femininity and submission and have being living my life as such. Ive changed everything about myself thinking it would make my marriage better but it hasnt😔 and i think it is because i truly feel as though my husband doesnt deserve it. I cant trust that he will lead me and my family where we need to go. I need advice
Hi sweetie he probably doesn't deserve it. But no one deserves anything. We have all the care, love, protection and peace due to God's grace alone. So it sounds like where you might want to begin is with forgiveness. Are you both born again? From there remember that marriage is a covenant with God and your obedience pleases Him and He will reward you for it. Serve with that expectation and PRAY. Ask God how to work through this since you wish to be obedient but are coming under resistance. Pray/fast until you get an answer. If your husband is not a man of God things are a bit different in terms of trusting him.
Talk about hiv please - loving a man or not!🙏🏾 everyday for answers and. I’m still not sure😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Big help, thank you
You're welcome love!
“Not causing strife”
Wonderful channel
Thank you sweetie
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Husband is the king or ceo and wife is chief advisor of cfo
No Biblical, but if that's how you want to do your life, okay.
Good morning! This is great information, I just have a couple of questions. What does submission look like when you are in a domestic violence relationship? What does submission look like when your husband or wife do not forgive issues in the past and brings it up all the time in a disagreement?
I’m always confused on how “serving” is the theme for how to treat your husband submissively. Can a woman cook and the man make his own plate or does the woman have to do that ? Does the husband do any serving or he just provides and protects? Can’t you show respect and submission by tone of voice and speaking respectful uplifting words ? Or is it washing his clothes and dishes ?
Are you asking from a religious point of view
He ruined my moms credit mines and my daughter is hard for me to respect him.
Be respectful where you can but keep him out of your financial life. Also if he stole your identity you can have him prosecuted. Since he's stolen from 3 of you he probably deserves it.
How would she keep the husband out of her financial life? I’m assuming that he works or they both work but money is “theirs together”…. Just life bills would be theirs together. I think she needs help to fix this issue but I don’t know how she’d keep him out of finances. Maybe a therapist to uncover why he’s insecure or making poor financial decisions- is he hiding an addiction or a bad investment ? There likely is something he’s not saying.
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