Conversation Techniques That Make You Magnetic | Jefferson Fisher
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- Jefferson Fisher is a board-certified Texas trial lawyer and founder of Fisher Firm. With his extensive experience as a trial lawyer, Jefferson understands the art of persuading and communicating effectively in high-conflict situations, and is one of the most sought after names in functional thinking for modern day communication. Known for his practical videos and authentic presence, Jefferson has amassed over 5 million social media followers in one year-all from the driver's seat of his car. Jefferson is on a mission to be a messenger of positivity in the world and help people learn to talk to each other again-one conversation at a time.
In this episode you will learn,
How to have more control in an argument
How to make your words more powerful
How to be more likable
Three passive phrases to avoid
How to handle people who waste your time
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Mr. Fisher has a mesmerizing way of engaging and his honesty makes one feel comfortable and trustworthy.
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Such raw vulnerability. A beautiful interview. Powerful men.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
really tuned in men, I agree 100 per cent
Two sweet spirits not afraid to appear vulnerable. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you both.
You're welcome,thank you for tuning in 🧡
“So try that, and follow me” - Jefferson Fisher
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Follow me with cupped hands😂
@@lewishowesI was waiting for you guys to kiss 😍😘
I love this!
Right !!😮😊
Jefferson Fisher is the REAL thing! I have shared HUNDREDS of his short Reels with friends. He’s a brilliant communicator.
What a fun conversation between calm, thoughtful souls. I don't even have an IG account and I still know who Jefferson is. For the record, JF, though I love listening to your easily implemented conversation tips, all of us out here who care about you wouldn't want you to keep doing it if it stopped nourishing your spirit or became a drain. We can't let anyone down if we're being true to our best selves ☺️
This is a real and raw emotion that Jefferson was sharing. It reminds us to always stay in touch with our inner sense of being human.
Thank you both, Lewis and Jefferson, for this video. I watched both of your guys' videos and always found something useful.
Peace and love to all.
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
Love him🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰!!!
Smart hot astute well spoke emotionally mature.... why cant there be more humans like u both!!
I found you and listened to what you were saying and I have learned so much from you. Thank you for being here. Please don't stress over your success. It's helping so many of us. If we all behaved the Jefferson way we would all be happier human beings.
Lewis, you are the smartest person because you always asked the most perfect questions that i have on my mind.
Lewis, thanks for having him on! I found his shorts easy to digest and use. So good to see a full-length interview with him.
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! So glad you enjoyed it🧡
He is a gem.
7:07 Jefferson, I so commend you for encouraging your children to cry-let it out!! YAY
Wow - congrats JF! I follow him on IG b/c of his great, clear advice. Surprised--and delighted--to see him on your show, Lewis. It's wild to see you both in this interview - both likeable, thoughtful men, of similar age & physicality, dressed similarly, and w/a similarly light energy, bouncing back n forth. I haven't seen you in such an interview, so this was interesting and fun. :)
“Arguments are an opportunity to create understanding”. this is so very true! Thank you. and something I have recently learned ❤
I always gets inspiration from Jefferson and he's so good in his short reels. Thanks for this.
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Every time someone describes their first anxiety/panic attack and say they believed it was a heart attack, I think of Bedros Keuilian's story.
Jefferson has some really great insight, he shares really great knowledge. I hope neuroscientists and other researchers study him and share their findings with the world with credit to him.
Have been a fan of Jefferson for a year now; every time he speaks I learn something; or is a great reminder on how to conduct myself in any convo! TY 🤗
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Have been watching this guy's snippets on Insta for a while, didn't recognise him till he mentioned the clips. So chill and clever.
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Yesss! Sometimes people just want to vent, I let them, to move to the next step! We have an issue resolve, it takes 2 to move forward to resolution.
Yes, you don’t own other people problem, you are only in their space for a short time! You are just trying to resolve an issue!!
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Have just stumbled upon you both!! It is powerful what you are sharing!! Thank you!❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Omg! So relate! You hooked me at panic attack. Attorney and realtor here. Single mom, 80’s child. I too have called the ambulance in my mid 40’s. I laugh at it now but it wasn’t funny at the time.
Big fan of both of your content, very exciting to see you exceptional humans creating together!
Thanks Lewis and Jefferson, so great to hear this today!
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It was a great conversation, right.
Every good lawyer knows how to finesse someone. Even when the intention is for the good, someone will have to get hustled along the way. The best of the best and the best of the worst can only be distinguished in hindsight. Tread carefully everyone
Your comment makes me think of the show Better Call Saul 😐
@@Carmen88888 thats gotta be such a dilemma to be a good conscience lawyer for the cartel. Its a death sentence
Favorite quotes:
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It's called stress. At a period in my life my throat was tightening up and could not swallow food well. Had heart tests done and finally told my heart was fine and doctor told me I had to get my stress under control. So I did everything I could do to be less stressed. Breathing techniques for one.
Anyway over time I have gotten better.
Take care.🙏
studying for the LSAT as we speak! Super!!
Good luck🍀
You got this!
Could listen to him talk for hours!! 😍✌🏼
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
@@lewishowes first time I’ve come across your podcasts mate. Love it!! Looks like I’ve got plenty to watch as well 😂👍🏼❤️✌🏼
Fantastic first question, Louis!!!!
Ahhhh this will be a 🔥 interview
Let me know your thoughts once you have seen it!
Thank you so much!
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Great show !❤❤❤❤❤❤
Omg my two favorite people ! I love Jefferson!!
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Let your breath, be your first word
Thank you Gentleman this chat was real
That is a great question!!!!!
AMAZING!!
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Such an authentic conversation!! Nuggets of gold throughout. I loved every minute, thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO HAVE A PANIC ATTACH WHILE HE WAS TELLING HE HAD PANIC ATTACKS LOL, NICE INTERVIEW THOUGH :)
Flare up. Touche!
Looking forward to a book by him ...
'is the same that I press 1 on my keypad' 😳 I was just pressing button on my keypad bcs laptop isn't starting. anyway very good, thankyou for sharing and all the blessings
Arguments are not always meant to be one. There can only be one person on the top of the mountain.
I have never heard someone do such a great job of describing the first panic attack. 😅 My father, daughter, and I all have panic disorder, and I joke (dark humor - it really is a concern) that one of us is going to actually die of a heart attack someday because we are so conditioned now to ignore it and tell ourselves it is "just" a panic attack because it always is. It is something I worry about because it does mimic a heart attack and we all go to the ER the first and maybe second time but after that we don't...so what happens if it really is a heart attack some day...🙄😏
Lewis is starting to look more and more Hispanic. Olive tone 😉
I feel a great spirituality in him. He has a “light” and he has a gentle, Christlike way of being kind, fair and not manipulative or competitive in the harsh, typical way, even though he has to do his best for his client(s). He is unique to my experience and I respect him very much and wish him blessings for having such a fair, “treat others as you want others to treat you” code of ethics.
Amen! May the blessings of Jefferson Fisher and Louis Howes extend wide to elevate our world and return 1000fold to Jefferson and Louis and their families! Thank you Heavenly Father for the infinite blessings of this interview! ❤️✝️🙏✨😇
Am not a Christian however I love your comments beautifully said
I love Jefferson. At 64 he is teaching me things I have always wished I knew. Now I watching over and over. Love you guys!
God bless you heather you are are amazing
"How personally you take something is a direct reflection of how much grace you give other people." - Jefferson Fisher 💯🎯💥
yup
Although, if you're a narcissist is this true?
@@JenniferV.-hb2we no rules that go for normal people touch narcissists.
@@thomasblaye1873
0:50 his 1st stickiest situation
2:35 paid witnesses
3:20 **Align ur thoughts on how u want to approach the situation
4:10 *When he does this.. how do I respond?
5:00 **Just be you
5:30 **Allow ppl to be themselves & make them expose themselves6:00
7:10 Ur role as a trial lawyer7:40 court
8:20 **Have an intention & preparation when a situation happens
9:30 cant be a jerk 9:50 civil & criminal cases
10:10 &&now shes talking too much & giving extra 11:10 Once you lost credibility, you cant get it back
12:30 Psychology to get the outcome
12:52 Against, him deposing
14:00 their baggage bad day they spewing
14:30 **Take it outside, Respond not React
15:50 How do you not get defensive
17:30 how he learned, to project, to pace
18:30 Arguments are an opport to create understanding 19:20 1 u didnt have to win it 2 Know when the end goal is
20:25 **Take accountability & responsibility
21:52 2 skills q's marriage trial law
22:15 **Control ur emotions
23:15 23:45 fast arguments
25:00 ** Give em a reason to give it to you
25:39 Whatever you give, you lost
26:25 When you go on a negotiation, **Use tactical empathy & letting them know what they're already thinking
28:22 How do you build confidence in challenging convos same playing field
28:50 **Let your breath be the same word
29:30 Smile, Projecting, Pacing, Tone low, Words slow
30:15 31:15 a lot pressure, they're using vids against him 32:15 not give bad advice
33:15 pressure panic attack, becoming famous
37:10 panic of the thought38:50
39:55 **Know your mindset
40:30 Your Body Keeps the Score book
41:40 **Reach out to close people43:10
42:15 few close ppl, but others see it different
43:55 Ppl have agenda/want something from u
44:45 &&Dont let them down
46:00 &&Dont hold your breath
47:10 if someone attacking you, **Imagine a field bouncing off & Separate ego to self
48:50 **Act like its a different language when theyre shit talking you
49:30 **Imagine a trashcan & throw all their shit talking there
51:30 How do u communicate ur worth/boundary when their digging
52:10 **I'm not interested returning what you just gave
52:20 passive aggresive backhanded comment 52:50 **Call them out
53:15 **I have no interest in talking about ur opinion
54:25 **Use Silence & Say Nothing
55:33 **Acknowledge that it could be.. Maybe so, Maybe you're right
56:25 **Hold off on the Timing
57:25 **Start your Breath, Pause, Choose to be quiet
58:30 **What's the chance we can..? 59:30 stalement way, **Acknowledge them 1:00:15
1:00:45 **Create a Connection then say "Whats the chance we can..?"
1:1:30 panic attack
1:2:30 rise of fame wife family 1:3:00 son
1:3:55 Empathetic, its ok to cry son1:4:45
1:6:35 **Always be authentic who you are
1:7:05 its ok to make mistakes
1:7:38 **Be kind to everybody
1:9:00 **Acknowledge their vulnerability
1:10:15 8 what would friends think 9
1:12:35 Vulnerability builds Connection
1:14:30 body shutting down rise to fame
1:16:15 Cant look back when ur plowing a straight road. **Be present
1:17:00 **Treat ppl how u want to be treated
1:17:30 **Show kindness
1:18:15 Greatness definition.
The way you two speak, and look at eachother, truly shows 2 men with their masculinity and confidence in order! I hope to one day have a human friendship like the one you have!
Our Educational System need to empliment a version of this into our school curriculum. Our inner city school could benefit from these approaches to conflict resolution. ❤
Absolutely 👍!!!!!!!!
I have never heard of Jefferson Fisher before this podcast but I just became an instant fan after this episode! He has a very calm even keeled demeanor. Not to mention highly insightful. I definitely picked up on a few things from this episode and can’t wait to hear more from him! Such a great guest. Props to Lewis Howes for having him on! I yearn for episodes like this!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I just found out he's writing a book on communication via his Instagram account
I have been following him for sometime now. He has an amazing charisma too and his understanding of human nature is mind blowing
There are just a very few items I have bookmarked on IG and some of them are his posts… so insightful and so helpful in how to communicate better in relationships.
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Let your breathe be your first word.
LOVE how Howie allowed him to tell his story before asking the real questions. This guy's so nice.
I’m just gonna say it- EYE CANDY🤭 both of them
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yes, i also staring at both them and thinking both of them are very good looking
😂😂😂 Definitely the elephant in the room!
Their intelligence is very attractive
Absolutely!
He is the coolest guy and such soothing personality.I like his practical doable advice.Happy to see him getting famous 😊
Thank you so much for watching!
I look forward to Jefferson's updates & he has helped me build so much more confidence in dealing with conflict especially in work in a positive & respectful manner. He is ahead of his time in his wisdom. Sending heartfelt healing to him for his anxious times. He is an earth angel, walking among us, healing & sharing his gift of truth & kindness ❤
Lewis and Jefferson! Two smart, relatable real people willing to be honest and upfront. So very refreshing. Grateful to hear you both speak and give us all greatness techniques.
Appreciate your support. Thank you for watching! 🧡
Jefferson’s humility is so refreshing. Way to bring peace to such a difficult profession. Love this.
You are a beautiful soul, Mr. Fisher.
Jefferson fisher is now my favorite teacher❤
Really proud of this human. True greatness. Rise up , and show up, no apologies for greatness.
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Thank you sooooo much for doing this interview with Jefferson! His content is so helpful. It was great to see that he’s also experienced panic attacks. It made him so much more relatable!
This chat proves that lawyers are society’s conflict- psychologists. So much feeling to navigate. Masterful helmsmen.
This man is on target! His approach is warm and friendly, personable, and appealing. Jefferson offers solid, intelligent, useful advice and information that will self- empower you and allow you to maintain your dignity as well as the dignity of those you interact with. He alerts you to the pitfalls you may come across and explains how to avoid them so your communication/message is clear and stays on track. Brilliant.
Thank you,Thank you,Thank you,great interview, I learned so much from both of you,Shine On ❤
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Winning an argument isn't always winning.
I think- In a marriage winning an argument is a loss.
You may win the argument but 'lose the war'.
The goal should be solving problems, not winning arguments.
Not always easy - but need to take a moment to step back for a second....
Ahhh humans so complex.
LEWIS!!!
AGAIN…as ALWAYS in ALL WAYS..you have facilitated another engrossing convo w/ a person who’s info & expertise is absolutely applicable in LIFE!
Life - the courtroom where judges are not identifiable in their robes & all consider themselves judge & jurors.
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Thank YOU Lewis & Jefferson!
Please take care of yourselves as well as ya’ll take care of others.
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Really appreciate Jefferson’s very honest and authentic sharing. ❤
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I am an expert witness and my blood boils when I hear other " experts" saying under oath complete lies in my field. I'm so loving this attorney!
Agree with what he is saying . And understand it.
To me, he is expressing that he understands human psychology and how he uses the knowledge of that understanding as a tool in life. Which I also agree with
Would like to add my opinion on the discussion about how him and his wife handle arguements. . I'm doing so for others who may read this.
He is describing a healthy adult functioning relationship. Where they are both mature to recognize their own faults and be accountable for themselves
Always hear your talk with interest. Mr. Jefferson. Thanks 😊
Loved this. I learned how to communicate when I realized that we are not communicating. We just throw out words. Often I may say, "I am not trying to convince you to think how I do, but if I have communicated well my thoughts then I have done my job in this experience. I believe too often we speak to convince others your way is better. True communication is just an exchange of thoughts. That's all. Are you a good communicator is the question to ask yourself. Great video, thank you Lewis!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Another profound conversation interview, Lewis. @Jefferson Fisher, Thank you for sharing your experience with panic attacks and what triggered them.
Thank you for doing what you do. Incredibly helpful!
Glad this was helpful for you🧡
Jefferson has some great tips! I'd bet his nervous system's & body were brewing symptoms that he didn't know were connected to his panic years earlier. He even spoke of the expectation as a kid. People ignore, don't recognize or know what to do when the subtler "symptoms" tell us something is out of balance energetically.
I LOVE JEFFERSON FISHER!!!
What a wonderful episode/conversation! 😊 I enjoyed it so much. What a gorgeous human being your guest is. And the questions were awesome.
Thank you to Lewis Howes and to Jefferson Fisher who I did not know.
I learned so much.
Sending everyone health, joy, love, and inner peace.. and kindness. ❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I admire you both even more after this interview...just fantastic
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! So glad you enjoyed it🧡
Great guy! I enjoy his reels just about every day!
Oh no, another instagram creator that I already follow and wanted to keep as my secret :) Thank you for sharing what you know. I really enjoyed this conversation, too.😊
Hahahaha, trust me, you're not alone..even though he gives the best advice, I follow him because he is good-looking, calm and has the most pleasant voice.
the secret's now out!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Hes so centered and relaxed. Loved watching this episode, I just came across Jefferson about a month ago. And of course my boy Lewis got the interview ready! Love to see it! So many takeaways
Great and warm discussion. Thanks for reaching out with vulnerable and emotional experiences and thoughts.
You're welcome,thank you for watching🧡
I encountered a Jefferson speech by chance on LinkedIn and was so grateful to hear it. Highly admire him. Wonderful interview
Thank you so much for watching!
@@lewishowes Always a pleasure and always learning. Thank you for contributing with meaningful content
Jefferson is a living example of the old saying: No one is an island.
He comes across as genuine and kind. Glad to see a lawyer like that. Usually they have a bad reputation. Hope his new sucess brings out even better qualities in him and he can find calm and peace.
Excellent interview. I think you're both magnetic!
Thank you so much! 😊
Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV - Trust in the LORD with all thine heart
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
25:18 responded like a true P ❤
Jeff you are in the Top 5% of Decent Americans down there.........👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏
I adore him and his authenticity
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One of my favorite follows. So cool to find this conversation.
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
I follow JF on IG and his tips are beyond amazing. Congrats on a great interview, greetings from Brazil!
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Bom Dia!
Thank you Jefferson !!!! Your advice helps me move forward! 🙏🏾🙏🏾💃🏾💃🏾
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Jefferson Fisher, Congrats! I’ve been following you for only a few months, but I am happy for you to be on such a big show like Lewis Howe’s The School of Greatness. Your advice has helped a lot, and I’m glad more people will get these tips.
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Don’t ever lose the guy in the car. He talks to “me”.
Great interview! I have saved so many of Jefferson's videos on Instagram, and honestly, I don't really go on there as I am not a fan of social media, but I always watch his, and normally, several times. Thanks for all your info and honesty! I am sending this on to a beloved that has had panic attacks for about 10 years and I didn't really understand them. The shallow breathing part was super interesting to me.
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
You have great questions which bring out great information. Thank you to you both for this video
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Great talk, I thoroughly enjoyed this one. Thank you, Lewis and Jefferson.
Jefferson is a very intelligent , talented and beautiful human being, his tips are very relevant and helpful- great stuff to share with others that need it!
Lewis, you are a great interviewer. Jefferson, you have so many gems, I have to listen to your podcasts and interviews twice. Thank you both for helping me to become a better person.
Thank you so much for your kind words🧡