The ONLY Way to Vet Women for Daddy Issues
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What do you think about a woman, that even having a structured family, in her childhood, she had no male siblings, and the sum of sisters was at least three? From my observations, even in conservative households, they tend to form a "workers union" with their mother included, against their father.
My ex had a good relationship with her dad. But he was a total doormat to the mother. She inevitably expected me to become a doormat.. RiP
What about being daddy's princess makes them entitled.
Her daddy issues will cost you your kids, half of everything you have, and half of what's left to come.
Don't forget to feed your lawyer!
Boy.... you ain't lyin !
Daddy issues can last a lifetime.
If she hates her father you don’t want her because she will make your life hell 🔥
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What about a girl whose father died when she was five and she was raised by her single mom?
BPD will eat NPD for breakfast. BPD relationships are the most emotionally devastating that you will come across, bar none, leaving you with PTSD akin to post-warfare trauma. You are warned.
This is fact.
BPD is destructive AF!
Yes.
Don’t agree on that one covert narcissists are sneaky af
Had to call the cops on my BPD ex after she punched me in the throat one night, never again.
Yeah that's why kids from single-parent households don't respect authority either
What’s effed up is that those kids are unaware that they get their behavior from their mother .
@@ThatDoesntWorkForMeBrother and their mothers have no idea that they behave like the teenagers that they don't want to create but end up creating anyways
Ignore daddy issues at your own peril fellas. If she doesn't respect her own father, especially all the sacrifices he made for her, she sure as hell wont respect you. Everything you do for her will be viewed as the "bare minimum". And YOU will be blamed for everything, just like her dad was.
The amount of entitlement is crazy. And forget about them having any sense of taking accountability. Everything will be your fault, everytime she feel bad for whatever reason it's because of you. Anytime you try to stand up for yourself and set boundaries you're the manipulating, neglecting misogynist. They are professional victim. Being a fool I did try to save one, it take me 3 years after I dumped her a*s to heal from that mentally and understand what is going on. Now I'm starting new business while she's divorcing her beta moron husband because she lost all respect and feeling for him.
Scene from a marriage with such a woman: "Her: you never do anything for me. Him: I just worked a ten hour day, came home and took junior to basketball practice and bought some dinner for all of us on the way home. Her: that's just what you're supposed to do, it counts for nothing."
Why bother? The perks of a bachelor life far outweigh the perks of a relationship with any woman
You know.
And you sir, have mommy issues.
Truth !
@@Allforone-sk3mcshort term
@@emptysoul2757 No, forever.
Don't make the same mistake i made. Dated a girl for 9 months who came from a broken family, her father was an alcoholic & he died when she was young. She was raised by a single mom. As you can imagine she went off the rails. High body count, was always combative and argumentive. Didn't want to be lead. Played games & chit tests.. Disrespectful at times. Its been 1 year since i walked away from her, and still not completely over the toxic mess. They really can do a bad job on you, and they are often very attractive and difficult to replace looks wise.
Wow my fiance was very disrespectful and sarcastic. Its interesting the parallels. She was very attractive - tall blonde blue-eyes, etc (she ended her life)
@@jonathanpoppe7037 Did she have a father in her life?
It’s totally dawned on me that daddy issues is another trauma and a woman who has it will dumped it (along with her other traumas) onto the men in her life. 😬😬
I mean if she calls you daddy during sex it’s hard to say no, so my stance is to just stay fwbs and don’t get in a ltr with these types.
Just don't tell her where you live lol.
I set boundaries that my daughter rebelled against. I.e. dont get tatoos, dont drink alcohol. But societies "you can do whatever you want" was stronger than my influence.
What did you do then?
And she did these things under the age of 18? I would give her some cash and pack her things and show her the door. You’re making adult decisions, then welcome to the real world.
You have no idea how true. Should be taught in Jr. High School.
My twin daughters are 6. i am their superman, every day. I know daughter-father bonds are extremely important for a girls development, they know im the only person in their life that’d NEVER fail them
Why will her husband fail her if you don't?
Are you better than every other man who might like your daughter?
@@JeffCaplan313 100%. Most ‘men’ are a joke
Indeed! Good to hear. Be who you want them to attract in the future
This is like boys who can never find anyone like their mother.
Back in 1994, My Ex Fiancé" had BPD and yes, her father was not present. Getting away from her was the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot of lessons from that relationship.
I’ll never fall in love with a “ daddy issue” woman again. She strung me along, I caught feelings, then poof! She vanished out the blue, blocked me on everything. She has more than dad issues
This is their MO. Same happened to me
@@brendangray sorry to hear that. I’m here for you
same happend to me
Luckily I recognised the signs 9 months in, and I booted her out of my house l, before she could dump or ghost/monkey branch on me. Daddy issues girls always cheat and have high body counts
@@JazG.-po5mv some of them are evil. Sorry this shit happened to you
Yeah. The father is in a way, The "first boyfriend."
Their relationship sets a precedent for future relationships with men.
Went on 2 dates with a Bipolar disorder women early this year, Lady spoke for hours about her " Problems" , she explained in detail her aggressive behaviour towards co- workers, past n present, she spoke about her childhood, glad to get out only 2 dates, she was a hardcore angry women
Absolutely spot the F on! I reviewed my past relationships and all of them but ONE had Daddy issues and that ONE was THE ONE. She unfortunately passed away from CF. I am the father of three young ladies and their mother is a train wreck with no father in her life. I have made sure my bond with my girls is strong and respectful. Great video Rich, thank you.
Daddy issues and Mommy issues are equally deadly (from experience). Even if a woman tells you she has gone to therapy, the default settings setup in childhood will always come through on a long enough timeline. A good way to figure out if a woman has mommy/daddy issues is to ask her who she respects most in her life, after you have a positive conversation, ask her who she respects least. If the person she respects least was a primary care giver, its time to move on even if everything else is great. People with these issues cheat.
Well put! She will only respect you in so far as she respects her care givers (her super heroes) subconsciously!
My dad physically, sexually and emotionally traumatized me and my 2 sisters for most of our childhood and into our teen years. None of us went on to have healthy relationships. “Daddy issues” doesn’t begin to cover how messed up we became. Sometimes you just get dealt a bad hand and you have to try your best to have a decent life. ❤
Sorry to hear. But Deal with it and heal yourself first before ruining other men. Universe will not forgive you otherwise
Make sure you get therapy to make it through life
Can relate. Takes a lot to heal all that trauma. We can't carry that baggage forward through life. It's not fair to us or to the other people in our lives.
From personal experience, this advice is spot on. My ex-wife referred to her late father as "that bastard" and used similar terms for her grandfather. She had little contact with him as a girl. Yes, it led to something like BPD, in the sense of seeing me initially as a long lost saviour, followed by a coldly brutal devaluing at the end. Yes, my rescue instincts got me into a world of pain. I think too the absence of a father gave her an unrealistic attitude to men and relationships. Her expectation was that I could lay a hand on her shoulder and all her childhood pain and trauma would then go away. Similarly, if we had any negative moment in the marriage at all she would claim that no other woman had ever had such a moment in the entire history of marriage. There was nothing I could do in the end to "fix" her or make her happy as she needed to be reparented, but she blamed both me and marriage itself. On the more positive side, I have had the chance to observe many younger female colleagues and the ones who are "naturals" when it comes to bonding with men are the ones who have obviously supportive relationships with their fathers.
Completely agree with you. Any relationship I had with woman who lacked a strong father figure,.always ended up toxic and chaotic
A hard no to BPD. Most, if not all, counsellors, therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists will not deal with it. If they do, it is only as a money grab. That's the only reason they'll deal. There is no cure. It's lifelong misery beyond the worst psychosis. And the unpredictability is maddening despair. Just say no. Avoid. Reject. Ignore. Stay righteous, Kings. Drizzle drizzle.
That's an exaggeration. There are a few very credible, very reputable psychologists & psychiatrists with channels here on TH-cam that DO treat BPD. They don't seem like hucksters looking for a money grab (although I'm sure there are some doctors that do that). The key is getting treatment early -- in their teens or early 20s if possible -- and sticking with it for 2-5 years (sometimes longer). Some victims are SO damaged that they can't be helped, but not all are. There are also videos here on YT done by people with BPD, and some have reported significant improvement after receiving qualified, sustained therapy. This disorder isn't their fault, and the cruelty of shunning them as lost causes isn't the answer. Compassion is the appropriate answer -- they don't mean to do the things they do. They can't help it.
@@Ken5244bpds saying they got better. Sounds trustworthy
@@Ken5244 It's all about preferences. I prefer to not be around crazy and toxic behavior. Just like all the preferences, expectations, and standards women have for men nowadays. When it comes to crazy and toxic best to reject, ignore, and avoid. They can't help it is just an excuse and enabling. It's not empowerment.
@@shmoopiebear It isn't "just an excuse" -- it's a medical fact. What happened to them could've happened to you or me or anyone else. You could've been born with a damaged amygdala in your brain -- would that be your fault? You could've been terribly neglected or abandoned as a young child -- would that have been your fault? Those are the two things that cause BPD. It isn't a character flaw or a result of "bad choices" in life. I totally understand your preference to not be around someone with BPD. That's 100% your prerogative. It's a nightmare. I went thru it once and don't think I could survive it ever again. But all that said, I think it's horrible to just write victims of BPD off and treat them like monsters. You don't have to date them or have them in your life, but we should all have deep compassion for them. They make our lives hell, but their lives are hell too. Ask yourself what you'd do if you had BPD.
@@Ken5244 I don't have that kind of empathy and patience for psychosis. Let alone compassion. They are a blight on civilization and society. That is why I reject, ignore, and avoid such people as much as possible when I can. I have "fixed" my own problems. They can fix their's. I don't need to introduce their problems or them into my life. God helps those that help themselves. Cheers.
The woman who has done me the worst in life was my x wife. She has a good dad but he is a push over and she's never been told no or to stop. Her mother is the best friend mom and tries to run over the father in the condescending sneaky way. I've seen her question every minute charge on their checking account. He responded to all of them, she knew it was him buying Christmas presents yet she continued to bug him about the charges. She was just showing everyone in the room that she was in charge and could openly bug him. When he finally snapped at her a little and said can I buy presents and not be questioned about them ? She turned it into oh well I just wanted to make sure we weren't being hacked... so she could turn it around as care and concern and make him feel bad for snapping back finally. She was very manipulative of her daughter while we were married and felt threatened anytime she wasn't the main influence in her daughter's life. Eventually she was a big part of the marriage being ended by my x disappearing with the kids and filing for divorce.
I’ve known three women like this none of which I was involved with. Two are divorced and I believe all had abandonment fear. The one I knew best I came to realize she would rage out of nowhere and get verbally and at times physically abusive where she’d kick like a child and punch. I believe she also had DID as I saw her click into a child like state on two occasions. I met her father once and I sensed he was a controlling narcissist and she had eating and spending problems too. The other two I think are narcissistic psychopaths.
Wow, thanks for doing this video. You precisely described the woman I wasted 3.5 years of my life with. I finally, clearly understand what happened with her now. Keep up the good work!
My fiance, who just ended her life two months ago, could have easily been diagnosed as hardcore BPD. Her daddy and step dad molested her and she had all kinds of other abuse in childhood. DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT date these women. You cannot save them - that's what they want: to be saved from their own pain, and its impossible. I will spend the next 6-12 months getting over the trauma this woman brought into my life. (no, none of this is made up)
Same.. My ex I believe was also sexualy abvused at some stage when she was young. This often happens when the mother starts to bring different boyfriends home, or new stepdads.. Those stepdads take advantage. It's sad I feel for them.. However you cannot save them, they will ruin you in the process. I never experienced any peace with my ex.. her male friends, her social media addiction, her low quality female friends, her drinking habits, her anger and combatives really took a toll on me.. After the break up I went into a depression, my hair began to fall out, I developed alopecia from the stress and anxiety. Luckily gym and fitness has always got me through dark times. I feel much better now and my hair has grown back, she still is in my mind daily, but it doesn't hurt like it used to do before.
@@Vision-dd8fl Wow the parallels are uncanny. Male friends, very low quality female friends, alcoholic (which ultimately contributed to her ending her life), and the anger and combativeness (which was shocking for such a 'kind' person).
Thank you for sharing your story. This information needs to be shared so others don't think they're alone and don't make the same mistake. I truly hope you're doing better now.
this guy is a master in what he does 🤙
My girlfriend here in the Philippines didn't have a relationship with her father because her father died in a motorcycle accident.
That being said, she serves and submits to me wholeheartedly, loves me and respect me, and what i say goes. Never had an argument and never had such a pleasant relationship. Never felt more loved and taken care of.
Context matters.
There's no unhealthy relationship there. It's just sad truth and maybe your gf coped well. Completely different scenario
Having a weak dad is just as bad as having no dad. My son’s mother grew up as the family’s princess and angel. Her mom and sister were obese and she’s headed that way now. I’ve heard her mom disrespect her dad several times and I knew we would have issues in the long run because I had zero tolerance for her BS.
I know a guy had a baby with a girl with daddy issues. Which he didn't find out until a few years later. When she got pregnant she told my brother she was going to destroy his life . Which she did. He lost custody of his daughter. She was almost was admitted into a metal hospital because she was so unstable. She had no job and slept with and one who would pay her bills. He had a nice house and good job and stiill didn't get custody. She said it was paybacks for how her dad treated her mom and divorced her when she was a little girl.
WOW ! ................Pure Gold Thank You !
It is like cooking with all of these ingredients and realizing the milk has turned. You can keep making it but the dish isn't going to be enjoyable and it will make you sick.
Loved this video..eye opening. Thanks Rich.
Thanks for your efforts and honesty bro
Rich, again, 💯%
Words of wisdom.
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What BPD women do on their positive side is real. It is not made up. The problem is that it is unstable. BPD persons do everything 100 % unmitigated. But they are unbalanced. Eventually she will fall into her negative side and that will be 100 % clean forward, too.
BPD and NPD are sister personality disorders. Both of them are type B, which means impulsive, charismatic, but vicious. As a rule of thumb: A NPD person is strong enough not too fall into BPD, but not yet strong enough to do away with the underlying trauma in the first place. A BPD person resembles a 2 year old who is switching between hissy fits and an abundance of joy. A NPD person is like a 4 year old who terrorizes his parents, other kids at the kindergarten, his cat ...
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Daddy issues do not come along with bad daughter father relationships only. They also go along with too good daughter father relationships, because there will be no room in her emotionality for a significant other. "Covert/emotional incest".
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Love cannot heal personnality disorders. A lover has got a vested interest of his own. A therapist has got to be neutral and solely focused on the disordered person. So, a lover has to totally put up with the disorder, the fallout that goes with it and the suffering - or go.
I dated a girl who had no clue who her father was. I had to do everything basically. She wanted to cook for me but didn't know how so I let her go. This was over 10 years ago.
Clinical and Criminal Psychologist here. BPD and NPD Women/Men are on the rise. Both have certain behaviors in common (toxic) but the motivation is different. There are even hybrids. BPD with narcissistic traits as well as NPD with borderline traits.
Look at the following:
- father issues and wounds are a factor as well as mother issues and wounds.
- only date them if they have been in therapy and the therapy /healing is completed. In a lot of cases they have to visit a therapist their entire life because their core wounds tend to destroy every relationship. Best to not take them seriously for a long term arrangement because they are most of time not capable of having a healthy bond.
- look at signs for attachment style
- do not date avoidants (fear of loss of independence, 4x times higher rate for cheating)
- do not date severe anxious types ( fear of abandonment)
- do not date fearful-avoidants, which is the precursor for severe BPD/NPD (Both core wounds of avoidant and anxious) You don’t want to fix that.
- Do not attempt to use psychological tricks to “tame” them. It might work in some cases, but it’s like playing 5D Chess ♟️ and very mentally taxing. You can’t manage it because their tactic is to get you attached to them. They play with your dopamine/cortisol response and are very draining.
- your best bet is to vet them thoroughly. Look for a secure, healthy/healed individual.
It might take longer, but its worth it.
Choose a woman which either has a secure attachment (99% of those women come from a stable household and childhood, no drama involved) by default or has done extensive therapy/coaching to get there.
DO NOT date psychologist or therapists. Believe me. Been there. Most of them fulfill the 21 🚩. We are talking about at least 3 Red Flags 🚩.
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Wow thanks for this. I dated a girl for 9 who came from a broken home. Her father was an alcoholic and died when she was young. She was also raised in a family full of alcohol drinkers. To add to that, she was sexualy abvused at some point growing up, probably by stepdad. I believe she was an avoidant with Narcissistic traits. She was very attractive, always in need of attention from online social media. Had a high body count and mostly lots of male friends. Short tempered, combative, would not follow a mans lead, would get angry and verbally abusive. Often played games, wouldn't genuinely apologise for anything. I got rid of her when it dawned on me, that being with her will only result in my mental health going down the gutter. Not only that, she pushing hard for me to get her pregnant.
@@Vision-dd8fl I am glad you ve got out of there.
Btw.
If there is a BPD/NPD Family member (parent or siblings) there is a likelihood that the individual you are dating will have a “Reverse Counter Mental Health Issue”
As my former Prof. Kernberg said: If you have a bpd/npd father or mother, BPD/NPD or strong traits will be the subconscious countermeasure (defensive mechanism) by the child.
Postpartum depression is also highly common along with BPD
Thanks Rich. Loved the response from Pamela. Irony personified! The lack of her self-awareness and maturity is breathtaking. Also, my spider sense is tingling which tells me she is an axe grinder.
I like a lot of what Rich has to say, in this video and others, but I have to respectfully disagree here. Borderline Personality Disorder isn't just a "personality trait." It's a serious mental illness, and it isn't common. The statistics aren't anywhere near "1 in 5" -- if you watch videos done by clinical psychiatrists & psychologists here on TH-cam, and read credible medical literature, it's more like 1-3% of the population (men and women combined) actually have clinical BPD. That's very small. You have to have 5 of the 9 traits/behaviors of BPD, that are specified in the DSM 5 (Diagnostic & Statistical Manual used by mental health professionals), and have them for some time w/patterns of behavior, to actually have BPD. There are people that have less than 5 of the necessary traits, and those are said to "have BPD tendencies" but not the full-blown disorder. People should be careful about casually throwing around the term "BPD" to describe women w/daddy issues, because there are millions of women who have/had daddy issues but don't have clinical BPD.
The terrible tragedy about BPD is that of all the disorders listed in the DSM 5, it's considered the most treatable one. It isn't curable (particularly if the part of the brain called the amygdala is the cause), but if the victim gets qualified, sustained treatment for 2-5 years early on, they can learn to manage it and lead a somewhat decent life. Sadly, most people with BPD either don't know they have it, or if they do they don't get that treatment (which can be expensive, I've heard). It's also a condition that not a lot of psychiatrists & psychologists are qualified to treat, so it can be a challenge to find the right doctor. If the victim is relatively young, they have a shot at recovery w/treatment. If they're in their 30s or beyond, it can be very difficult to help them because the wounds are so deep and have been there for so long. The ultimate cruelty is that their fear of abandonment makes them to do things that CAUSE their partner to abandon them. So the wounds keep reoccurring and hurting them more deeply each time. It's an awful disorder, but the victims -- no matter how much they hurt us -- deserve our compassion because IT ISN'T THEIR FAULT. They were either abandoned or neglected very early in childhood (typically before the age of 5), and/or the amygdala in their brain doesn't function properly. Neither of those things are their fault. And either of those things could've happened to any of us as children. We were just lucky.
Very true but Sorry I can't feel compassionate for people who doesn't help themselves. They are just parasites
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Dated 2 and a 1/2 years a girl like this abovementioned. She came from a family of 4. Her parents, herself and a brother. I really like what Rich said about the story being two-sided. Her father runs a truck company with the brother. Yet she always told only bashing things about the father to me. How he was never there, never cared for sh..t and a plain ass piece of furniture in the house. Never calls on birthdays or on Christmas etc etc..list goes on. I only heard her side of the story. Ofc, I didn't live my childhood in their everyday life so I can only see half the picture if even that. Come to wonder after watching this video, how come the father and the brother had so good interpersonal dynamics? Didn't even think from this sorta aspect back in November '22 when we broke up. She initiated the break, 2 weeks after went to have sex with her as Fwb a couple times. She went cold on that. I asked why, not that I cared specifically, just out of curiousity. She said she used sex as a tool to get me back but realized I wasn't there emotionally anymore so it was a lost cause for her. The hot n' cold tactic you see. Damn I feel like bozo after almost 2 years. If I can take anything from that with me, I see these signs so much more clearly now. Edit : In addition to the father-son relationship, I wonder how was the mother to the father. Did she inherit the behaviour from her? I dunno, dont care, I'm glad it's in the past. Share some thoughts?
Heal yourself first brother
I agree 💯 my wife description, it's over 2 years that I don't see my children 😢
One of the biggest mistakes is using "psych labels" on people. Much better to simply regard someone as a jerk and not indulge them. Keep it simple.
Exactly. Some people just need to be understood to be jerks, and we shouldn't spend any more time trying to analyse them beyond that.
What about girls whose fathers died when they were a child and who were raised by a single mother?
So now you tell me.😅
You must be really really new here 🤣
@@drip369 - Just a joke. I’ve been “red-pilled” for 50 years.
@@chrisjenkins9978 hahaha maybe it was the punctuation that got me
@@drip369 - If you watch a lot of old movies from the 30s, 40s, and 50s, you’ll see a lot of red pill content. Particularly the early films of Ingmar Bergman.
For some, it takes seconds, for others, it takes months or even years
my ex probably told me 100 times "i hate my dad"
Damn , my ex was molestes by her dada and his friends , then her stepdad for years , i never knew until 5years in when she admitted it to me ! I wouldve run run far far away ! I knew something was wrong and simped it up ! Now im paying
Rich I’m kind of wondering, what would you recommend for me as a man who experienced a lot of issues of his parents? Wouldn’t a woman that comes from a good family see my issues with my parents as a red flag?
You recognize them and will therefore make the changes necessary to become a better version of yourself. It will take hard work, however you will learn to never let someone jeopardize your well being because of the work that you put in.
Doesn't this prove though that TRP is kind of bs and it's really about unresolved childhood trauma and personality issues ? I've met psychologically healthy women and they have no desire to randomly divorce their husbands. And I've met couples who have good marriages and it's always because both the guy and the woman are emotionally mature.
Women with daddy issues are fun for a weekend but not LTR
I most definitely wouldn’t go assuming that all parents are these wonderful assets to their childrens lives. Narcissistic ones for instance can leave their kids all kinds of messed up.
They think the world revolves around them and that everyone is in their movie just to meet their needs, so their kids are no different to anyone else, just seen as someone else who’s there to meet their needs, rather than there to rely on you.
So they’re just seen as an inconvenience. At least if you’re not their “golden child”.
I saw an awful one at a football match the other week. I went into the men’s room after the game to have a whiz and there was this guy and I’d say his two sons outside the stalls, and he was speaking to who I assumed was another son who was in one of the toilets, and the tone and so-on that he was using were just appalling.
It turned out that it was a little girl that was in there and I just thought to myself man she’s going to end up all kinds of messed up, if that’s her POS father.
I also saw first hand how devastatingly awful narcissistic mothers can be to their children when I was growing up. Treated one son (who was one of the sweetest kids you’d ever meet) like he was a stain on her shirt, while treating the other one like a royal prince.
One of my first GFs demonstrated BPD like traits but actually had a good relationship with her father.. perhaps she took on trauma from her mother..not sure about the history there
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These are the ones I seem to attract a lot. Some are really hard to walk away from, especially if they're very attractive. Still.....I have no choice but to walk away. Little hint: If you exhibit patience, you'll see the little girl tantrums. Turn around and walk off into the sunset gentlmen.
Well if you set a boundary! The woman ignores it repeatedly! Then the only way to deal with it is to be physical with her! In the past this would mean dealing with her family but these days it will mean the Police! So already we can see that with some women it WILL be impossible to lay down reasonable boundaries and more than likely worth just heading away from her.
It is true boys
I’m cutting loose wife 3 now
I’m 61
I knew it (bpd) did it anyway
Why?
Needed to lay pipe been long time. She was “verily “ brothas a ten and maybe feel love.
Weighed the cost before
Came out cost me 5k over
2 years
Lucky
So say no to daddy issues
Or be ready
Cost dollars and time and brain cells.
Cheers
and all those daddy issue girls are renters for life lol
Just getting over this crap,..she seemed really nice at first, led me on...total disappointment! I'm out!
Me too man. They'll lead you on and make you feel like you're their soul-mate and savior. Then out of the blue, they ghost you for no reason as if you never existed.
@@ryan7864how long did y’all date each other for ?
I’ve dated a girl who was good with her parents and conservative and would be a terrible mother. Don’t give an excuse that it is daddy issues.
Her father paid all the bills. You teach men to avoid paying for anything so you and any man that follows your advice or dating strategy will be off-putting to the type of girl you are trying to attract. You get what you pay for basically. You want to be cheap? You are also going to end up with a cheap girl
Beg to differ with you. Just because we realized at an early age that our fathers were assholes and we spent our entire lives tolerating them, does not mean we're tainted. It means we know what we don't want in a man, and we certainly don't want to end up with anyone resembling them, inside or out. So don't go ruling us out. Look at it as a strength, like trial by fire.
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Sadly.... Pamela is not smart enough to realize that her comment proves everybody right about her....
Had a BPD-pattern gf. She was not a bad person at all, I feel bad for her. I just need stability, so I had to end it.
Manoswamp-tards complaining about BPD is the equivalent of girl bosses complaining about narcissistic men.
Same here. I feel sorry for her now. A complete mess of a woman.
@@ryan7864 Yeah. Mine at least started going to therapy. I hope it works for her, beacuse again, she was an actually good person, she was just massively unstable.
And I know what horrors caused this in her as well. It's... It's just sad
What if her father died? I think she maybe a princess with him.
The result is the same even if he died. They still tend to go off the rails, they don't understand how to interact with masculine men. And they often sleep around alot, as they lack a masculine figure in there lives.
They NEED some form of a masculine figure in their lives, doesn’t have to be just dad