Hi Susan I’m also 73 and also feel like the Good by Girl!!!!!!! God Bless this sweet lady Patricia. It’s hard to make new friends and the children are grown up and always doing their own thing. I am always the last one they think of, I go weeks leaving messages and voice messages only not to hear from them. I love the dress you are wearing to the wedding ❤. Thank you for this video I needed to hear this❤❤❤❤❤❤
I felt that way till I invited christ in my life and found my real value that christ has a purpose for all of us at any age He will never leave us and forsake us. HE said he has come to gave us hope and a future❤
Married 30 years, and two weeks before my 60th birthday, the husband blindsided me with, I love you but I'm not in love with you. He was in love with my brother's wife of 29 years, helped her divorce brother and moved right into their home before he divorced me. I was devastated for a couple of years. Did not want to go on without him, and then God showed me I was protected and He had removed the diagnosed narcissist from my life. Almost four years later, I am beyond grateful that the cheater and liar is no longer in my life. At 64, my life is not what I thought it would be, it's better, filled with peace, contentment and learning to make new friends and love myself. I'm alone, but not lonely. I wake every morning and the first words I speak are, thank you~
I’m 63 and just signed my divorce papers this morning. I initiated because after 18 years I knew he didn’t love me. He said something vile to me about my deceased daughter that was unforgivable. My emotions were all over the place this morning but when I left to go sign the papers, I felt this bounce in my step and a peaceful feeling. I am looking forward to spending time with me. I was able to keep the house and have already made a few changes. The future seems scary, lonely, happy and peaceful all wrapped up in a present to myself.
We spend too much time thinking we are disconnected,im 80 after 30 years of mental cruelty I’m so happy being alone,plus i have no living relatives,i still put makeup on,and dress in a sophisticated way,my Heavenly Father God gives me the strength to do all this 😊
@@AnneTaylor-kk8ze where I work I tell everyone to have a good day or night & a woman stopped me today & asked me if I'm a follower of Christ & I said "honey I love Him more than the breath I take! She hugged me! That's why I work where I do! I share the gospel & psalms 91 protection every single day! We got this beautiful Warriors!💪👊👊
I'm 63 and I have lost my Mother, Father, 2 sisters, and one brother. I only have one younger brother left. My husband bailed 3.5 years ago. My kids are grown, I have no grandchildren......I just feel completely lost and I have no idea who I am or what I'm supposed to do with the rest of my life. And to anyone thinking it's an easy fix, you are wrong. I'm not rolling around in self pity......I'll be fine, but it is the toughest thing I have ever been through.
I can so relate to you Beth. I am divorced and went through a lot of losses to where I have no family left except a daughter who lives 3 days drive away. I lost my mother, father, 3 brothers ( all my siblings) then my only son. I retired early from the overwhelming stress of it all and more. It is darn hard to get it together now and recreate a life. I have tried to find ways to get out and create a new life but it’s just not coming together very easily. I bounced back from so much before but am having the most difficult time now…. I know I will get there has always been my mantra. So won’t give up. Good luck to you, I know it is hard and a struggle.❤
I like your philosophy. You will be fine. As you already know dramatic changes require some time to sort out, but you have done it before and you’re in the process of doing it right now. All the best to you.
I was married very young to the boy next door who turned out to be a pathological liar/narcissist. Divorced for seven years, then married a widower,who became the love of my life. Still, life isn’t easy. I have buried two of my children and the last one moved far away both physically and emotionally. I have learned to be content in most any situation, many tears but more often laughter and joy. My husband will most likely go before I do as his health has changed drastically. We are in our 70s, but we still laugh and love, worship together, and do our best to take it one day at a time. I keep only the friends who are genuine, treasure my alone time, and remind myself that the grandchildren and great grandchildren have their own lives to live and to enjoy their company when available. No guarantees. I, too, am planting perennials. I was a hospice nurse and I feel that I am finally ready to go at any time, yet I hope to see how the flowers are doing in the future, even if I am just driving by. Your videos inspire me, Susan. ❤️🙏❤️
Hi Susan I will be 75 in September and have been single for 22 YEARS!!! Being lonely when you are WITH someone cuts much deeper than loneliness when you are alone. My last marriage I would sit in the room in front of the TV and wish I didn't have to look over and see him!! He bored me to death and was CONSTANTLY pawing at me for sex. The day I left, I felt the world lift off my shoulders!! It has only been in the last year that I have decided to look for someone but the awesome thing is that if I don't find him that will be ok too!! Bless you and little gangsta DESI and the wonderful ladies who watch. See you next week girlfriends!! Marshia
I felt the same way in my marriage. I would sit in the Burger King parking lot in my car to avoid going home. Loneliest I ever felt was in that marriage.
I am 73 and in the same kind of relationship. I am so lonely and my husband only needs me for food and income (I still work) and sex. We might as well be strangers sharing a room for the night. We have been married 47 years and there is no affection, no intimacy, or closeness. He is always on the I-Pad and looks so annoyed if I try to carry on a conversation. He is planning a week away with a friend and I am so looking forward to it! You can be very lonely while married and that has been my life. I work at a daycare one day a week and the kids are my joy! They genuinely enjoy me and talking with me and I need that so much! Right now, they are my lifeline! ❤
@@DebbieDebcor1Debbie, I used to sit in McDonald parking lot for the same reason! I wish we lived in the same town! We could go for walks and have coffee together! ❤
I am a 72 year young immigrant living in Canada. I left abusive husband decades ago. I fell in love since and raised my son alone. I don't care what people think about me. Actually I get compliments on my apperence, but I don't care for that either. I know I am wise and smart, shaped by hard life. I don't care if a man loves me because I love who I am now. Every day is a gift - of challenge, of beauty, of music, of nature, of art, of a still beating heart.
Sunglasses and a knife what every girl needs in her purse. I always felt like I was forgetting something when I leave the house. Now I know what it is! 😀❤ And yes what a week!
Hi Susan, I'm 72 and for the past 2 or 3 weeks. I've been feeling depressed. I had a little money and decided to redo my bathroom. Just get a new vanity, faucet, mirror, and commode. Then my dog got sick and it cost me a lot and worse yet, she died. Then I paid it off, and my kitty died, so I had to pay that off, then I found out owed the IRS and my other kitty got sick and I thought she was going to die. Thank God she didn't, but more debt. I feel that I'm cursed because I can't seem to get ahead. I've also been remembering how my family got together for the holidays but now my parents are gone, my grandparents, aunts and uncles. Life has changed so much. I have a friend that she and I usually go out or talk daily, my other friend and I talk daily, but lately, I feel alone. My son lives here, but he works long hours, and I don't see him. I go to his house to let the dog out and straighten out a bit, but I leave before he gets home sometimes. I need help to fix my house but I have no one to help me therefore I feel helpless. I'm going to change my way of thinking. Sorry for the long, whiney comment. I'm sure I will feel better tomorrow.
Thank you for sharing real life struggles that would cause any one of us to want to whine. Goodness, there is always a friend on TH-cam who can relate. It is true that tomorrow often comes with a new perspective. The expense of sick pets can rapidly become financially draining. It is also emotionally draining!
I like the second dress , the grey one. /WOW and the black dress too. I have been on my own for 22 years . I rather be alone then MARRIED TO THE WRONG MAN for LIFE !!!!
Amen to that. Married for almost 40 years, he left. Did some research and found out he has been cheating for years. Of course he sent divorce papers . He was living with my parents in another state. He was planning on taking everything from me. Why do I feel so hurt all the time. I did nothing, he did. And he married one of the ones he was cheating with 🥲 by
Totally like my independence. It was hard to be in an unhappy marriage, but before he passed from cancer I was able to help when he needed it. So I have peace about how it ended .
My husband of 38 years died he was a police officer of 33 years..I have my son living with me he is 60 and I am 80. And he is divorced and we have a new life.
Your statement, "a woman without a floorplan doesn't have a home" is priceless! I think this will become the title of my new journal. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you!
My husband just passed away three months ago. I pray a lot and thank God for the courage and strength that he gives me each day. I’ve put everything in his hands including my future. Doing this makes me feel better and I have no worries. I go to the senior center once or twice during the week. I love going to the bookstore then treating myself to lunch. This is a new life for me and I’m going to enjoy it. Find what tickles your heart.
I'm sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband on July 10th, he was 70 yrs old. It is very hard. We will get through that loss by talking about it with others who have gone through this . We will be alright...
Beautiful dress for a beautiful lady. I’m very fortunate. My marriage lasted 52 years and we had an enduring love. But he is gone and I am here. I have had my time with friends and activities, but I really love my solitude. I am creating a beautiful yard with peaceful walkways,lined with various roses and shrubs. I quilt, cross stitch, bake and cook. I try to appear finished ( hair and makeup) everyday. Life is good and life is full. God put us here to be happy and I’m going to try my hardest to fulfill his wishes. Life is full of challenges. I have learned how to air up tires, put water in a golf cart battery deal with service people and much more. Don’t need nor do I want a male companion, but I’m certainly going to try to turn heads once in a while. Embrace life..could be much more ahead ❤
My name is also Patricia, (Patty) and I have been feeling similar to “Patricia”, I said a prayer last night, this morning I came on to your channel, it was just what I needed, Thank you
Susan, I watch Margaret from Sixty and Me and she talks about living "alone". One of her followers asked why she used the word alone. She suggested using the words "by myself". I like that, I live by myself! So much more positive. I'm my own best company, besides my dog of course 😊 . I'm 69 and at the beginning stages of a divorce, my choice. I'm looking forward to living by myself. So if you're a woman who lives "alone" lets turn that on its head and say, I live by myself because YOU are your own best company. Love yourself because you're amazing at any age and don't let anyone tell you anything different. Love all of you beautiful ladies. Take care of yourself for a change. Love yourself.
When I walk into a room the people say, there's the lady that makes everybody smile and she does so much for everybody , she never thinks of herself. Can you believe she's 84, that makes me happy.😅
Wanda, God made You so Special ❤️ I also walk into a room no matter if it's the grocery or The Cinderella Ball & my motivation & spirit is to make the world a sweeter place. To take a moment a compliment someone out of the blue could possibly save their day, their heart, God only knows maybe their attitude & life. I've learned to not judge no matter what. We're all born of the image of Our Almighty God. Whew, let that sink in.....God bless All that takes a minute to slow down & love Him...
I just lost my 42 year old son to cancer 40 days ago. He was my life being there for him. Now he’s gone and I’m 69 and alone for 10 years. I really can’t see a future at all. The grief is unbearable.
I'm sorry. I just lost two of my sons and I understand. Take it one day at a time. We'll never be the same but how could we? Trying to keep busy and going to the gym has helped some. I wish I could give you peace.
@LittlePoet please make it a part of every video because it really is so lovely and funny and we love it and we know you and Desi do too 🎶 🐶 💃 if you don't mind 😀
I am caring for my husband who is on hospice. It can be incredibly lonely. The social worker tells me I am experiencing anticipatory grief. He’s still here, but not really himself, there is a lot of dementia and confusion and caring for him is not easy, but I miss him already. I like the idea of getting a book and writing down plans and dreams. At this moment I feel like I don’t see anything beyond where I am right now, exhausted and heart broken. Thanks for always being willing to have the hard conversations and share your journey. It is easy to go to a dark place at times,thanks for the reminder to look for the good!
I can't imagine how difficult it is to be in your shoes. Life can deal us some very trying times. Susan has created a community of wonderful people on this channel. I hope you find encouragement here. I'll be thinking of you and praying that you receive all the strength and energy you need to be there for your husband during this time. When I was going through a terrible time, I found so much support in this verse. "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13. I woke up every morning and asked for enough strength and energy to get through that day. I always had enough. Debbie
I've been through the same thing. I really like this message. It gives me comfort. Hospice is so hard but you'll always be happy you did it for your loved one. We all go through hard times, that's why we need each other. We need to talk about it. Not hide from it. Blessings to all.
You have been operating in crisis mode for so long. Experiencing both physical and emotional fatigue is soul draining. It truly is the long goodbye. It is goodbye to the man you love, saying goodbye to the life you shared, saying goodbye to your identity as a partner, and most of all, being left behind. When this particular time has passed, you must give yourself the love and patience that you've given to your partner for all these years. God has propped you up all this time and will continue to do so on the other side. Please don't forget you have a community of complete strangers 😊 who want only the best for you. Keep in touch with Susan so we know how you are doing.
I can so relate to this. Over the past couple of years I have become invisible (the Goodbye Girl!) Although I don't look my age (I'll be 60 next year) like you said the men stopped falling off their chairs lol It took me a while to get used to but now I don't care. I am older wiser and freer! I may never find that someone again (I'm divorced) but I have found me and that is a continuing journey. Some weeks I am lonely so I reach out to someone or I try to get out. It doesn't always work and then I try to talk myself out of being lonely or I just sit with it a while. I watch this channel every week and you really do inspire me!
Loneliness is a symptom of depression. When people are depressed, they don’t produce pheromones. That is reason that when they enter a room become invisible. Life is a beautiful journey, with ups and downs. After all these years, I learned to enjoy my own company; and do things that brings me joy such as paper crafts, volunteering, yoga, cooking and organizing/decorating my house. My other joy is to watch Susan’s videos. This channel is so inspiring and uplifting. Susan thanks so much for your thoughtfulness and caring about this community.
I've been living alone since July 2004. The reason is something that still makes me angry. I don't look to find a partner, I had an emotionally abuse marriage and don't want that anymore. I have found peace being alone. Now retired and the drama at work was slowly killing me. I can actually say a drama pain free life is a blessing for me. Hugs to Patricia and all that feel like the good bye girls.
Wow. Still angry over a bad relationship doesn’t seem like it would be beneficial to your health. I too, was in an abusive marriage and so thankful to have made it out in one piece. One bad apple doesn’t mean they are all like that, does it? Being a daddy’s girl, I suppose that’s why I adore men. I just let attraction be most important and ignored the red flags. Just learn what you want in a man and come on the conquest to discover him. He is out there.
@@char72 Every time I turn around another piece of garbage from him happens to this day. At least I don't have to see him or deal directly. That is what a control does - so yes still angry
@@char72 You have no idea of her circumstances. She needs to take care of herself. I couldn't detect any much compassion in your comment. You do you but please save the judgement of what others do as it came across as unkind.
@@ljones98391 Well, unkind? I see it as being honest and open. Anger is not healthy for anyone. I’m sure this person already knows it. Any Doctor will tell her the same. Obviously, she is taking care of herself best she can as we all try. Just review the anger sabotaging to her state of mind. Angry hearts and mind is not healthy.
I’m sorry if I came across insensitive. I’m just realistic to a fault. I just don’t want my ex having any kind of control or reaction from me. I have not spoken to him since 2009 and don’t intend to. My knowledge of him is “Give an inch and he will push a mile!” He was a second husband and stepfather to my daughter. My first passed away. So sorry you have to put up with garbage. My first was a self serving a….. and my wages were garnished because of him and I barely made a living wage as it was. I look back and wonder how in the world did I make it through. But here I am. Still doing my journey at 73. Saying a prayer for you.
Yes my husband passed away 19 years ago and I’ve been living alone but for myself I go for walks. I take myself out to the restaurant I get myself a facial. I soak my feet and try to do a little things. I mean we’re all gonna grow older I have my one granddaughter came down today, so that was nice to see them, but it’s not every day that somebody’s around. It’s not every week either. You have to get learn learn to be by yourself. Keep yourself busy love your talk today the ladies right because sometimes you do feel like the goodbye girl, I never dated anybody after my husband passed away. He was the love of my life.
I agree. So goes life, our choices are do we live it or sit back and let it go by. I prefer joining in and living it. I envy a woman who is a one man woman. I’m just not that woman because I have been in love many times. I enjoy the company and conversation with men. Fascinating creatures I find. Who hasn’t been burned a few times? I have and just get on with the next adventure. Little things are highly important as we move through this journey. I enjoy having my first cup of coffee in the very early morning. Greeting each of my three dogs as they come upstairs. Wonderful fur babies. Taking each one on their morning walks. Then spending time reading or watching my favorite TH-cam channels. I have two grandchildren. One is my oldest and we talk every week. The youngest has two children and we aren’t talking. She has become part of the cancel culture. She has also cut off her mother who has sacrificed herself for making sure they never did without anything. I’m sorry that she has been indoctrinated but I don’t have to agree. I’m a child of the 60’s and was never a conformist.
After reading so many comments, I realized I'm not the only one suffering from loneliness. I cling to God with every fiber of my being. This is how I get through each day. His grace is sufficient. He comforts. He gives me hope. He lights my path. He gives me His strength in exchange for my weakness. He is always with me.
One thing I learned is to live for the moment. One day I was thinking about how much time I have left and I thought about how we're all in the same boat. I could be 30 years old and die tomorrow. I used to think about having someone else in my life until I kept hearing from my girlfriends about their old grumpy, disrespectful, controlling husbands that don't want to do anything. I've been divorced and living alone for 30 years. I dated but that really was not fun. So uncomfortable. I bought my first home alone at age 65. Best thing I ever did. Renting is much more expensive. Decorating and caring for my home is so much fun. I get to have everything the way I want it. It keeps me busy. I just recently lost my oldest and youngest sons. I spent 3 years going through hell. My youngest son had Down Syndrome and I spent every day and night with him in the hospital for 7 months then I did hospice and cared for my oldest son for 5 months. All alone. He was such a wonderful son. Kind, generous, non-judgemental, forgiving and smart. If everyone were like him the world would be in such a better place. I had so much fun with my sons and miss them so much. There is a big void in my life. I no longer care what anyone thinks. All these self help books and pod casts just make everyone feel terrible about themselves. We're all just fine the way we are. All I care about now is my remaining son and daughter and my grandchildren.
If we lived in a country that revered elders perhaps it would help women to feel differently about ourselves. We are in a culture that worships all the wrong things, meaning way too much emphasis on outer beauty. We women are all beautiful, each in our own unique ways. Look in the mirror and just love yourself and be grateful you are still here. Yes, I am very lonely since my husband recently passed, but I have not nor will I ever give up hope of connecting again. Women are survivors. Love yourself, let your light shine, pick yourself up by your bra straps and get out there, you can do it! Love and God Bless you all, beautiful soul sisters. P.S. Susan, your ending today was a real hoot, you and Desi should try out for America's got talent.
I just love Desi! I can relate to how Patricia feels. My kids are in their 40s and 50s living far away. Feeling lonely, I started a monthly luncheon group via NextDoor. We've been meeting over 2 years now. We have several couples and a few singles. It has made a huge difference in my life.
I can so relate to this. My husband of 40 years passed away unexpectedly 2 years ago. The first year was rough but the 2nd year has had a lot of ups and downs. I am 65 and still working full time but I love my job and especially the people there. I recently had a huge limb fall from my tree and it totaled my car and did some other minor property damage. My husband always took care of these things, like dealing with insurance claims. This is all new territory for me but when I get through a challenge, it gives me confidence and the strength for the next challenge that life throws at me. While I miss my husband deeply, I must keep moving forward. I am so grateful to have found your channel!
I'm involved in church and other organizations, so I have plenty of people to talk to. But I miss when my children were little and when I used to babysit my grandkids. When we feel lonely, maybe that's God trying to get our attention.
Boy, did I relate to this blog. I lost my step mother on Christmas day and my mother who was also my best friend a little over a week later. She died 3 days before my 71st birthday on January 5th.. While I am dealing with the loss much better than I thought I would, I take comfort in the fact that she is out of pain and suffering. I miss her so much, but with her gone, I have been looking back at the things she experienced when she turned 65. I am experiencing much of what I saw her go through; people undermining me at work, feeling invisible around people, people not believing me because I am old and may not remember things that happened correctly, men no longer turning their heads (I used to be a model). I thought if anything happened to my husband, I would be alone. I have felt that my future is somewhat tenuous. I am planning to retire at the end of January 2025 which is a little scary. I had a kidney transplan 6 years ago and have experienced some life threatening side effects. I don't know what is up ahead for me, none of us do. As a result, I am now taking steps to fill my life so that when I retire I will not just sit around and rot. I bought a leather sewing machine a couple of years ago so I could make purses, I have several clothing sewing machines, a room full of musical instruments, and I sing. If I ever find myself alone, I will fill my life with creativity, get involved with lady friends from high school, join a bible study, learn Spanish. I have decided to live until I die. God has a plan for each of our lives. I am going to find out what His plan is for me and try to live it. This is how I have chosen to deal with my golden years. I hope my perspective may inspire some of you to look at the possibilities that may be afforded to you. We are older and wiser, more experienced at this age. We have made our mistakes and learned from them. We still have value. I wish you all the best, Carolyn
The actor Dennis Hopper was in a commercial in his late 60s where he said the lines, “ You don’t need a nip and a tuck, you need a plan!” That always stuck with me. The great thing is “the plan” can be whatever we want it to be- it can be to walk in the park 3 days a week,or tackling something bit by bit we have kept putting off, like cleaning a closet or a bookcase. I walk with my neighbor to get coffee once every three months or so- and I’m glad to have that plan. At 73 I too have some lonely feelings after having said good bye to loved ones, friends, and said hello to stiff knees and skin on my arms that bruises if I even look at it. But I still love feeling good wearing sandals and jeans and sunglasses. Thank You for addressing this very important topic Susan and Desi❤
My son recently told me after my husband and I divorced that I need a plan. It's nice to get a male perspective. Logical. A plan works and it can always be modified. Every day is different, value it and learn the lessons it teaches you. The not so great days help us value and enjoy the awesome days. Trust God he will guide you 🙏
I started preparing for when I hit my sixties (which will be next year), about 10 years ago when I started taking up photography, writing, taking piano lessons and, having my own website. But, one of the most important things I did was to ensure that I build a small but good group of friends around me, one group to meet for brunch once a month, another group to go for knitting classes with and one or two really good friends who I travel with. I also have two very masculine gay friends who I go to dinner with very often because they keep me stylish and we have so much fun. Try to build early or at least a few years before, so that when you reach your 60s and 70s, you have built something for yourself beyond a family and work.
This really resonated with me today as I also feel like the Goodbye Girl lately. I will be 54 this month and have terminal cancer. I'm hoping to make it to Thanksgiving, oh, and wouldn't one last Christmas be amazing. We've decided to celebrate Christmas in July this year and bring out all the decorations... just in case. But, I still have time and I've realized I'm still worthy of making a difference, even through cancer. Every day I pray to God to use me and I thank him for the plan that he has for my life. We all have gifts that we can use and that are unique to us that will make a difference in the world and to those we love, if we are brave and trust. Thank you for this special video, much love.
Every dog has their day,, I had mine and have been blessed to have it. Im just glad to be here at 64 to enjoy my children and grandchildren. God is Good!
It always made me laugh when celebrities or other women lament about "feeling invisible" as they age. Listen ladies, I felt invisible in my 20s! It seems that the "above average beautiful woman" has a much more difficult time with aging than us average folks. And no, I don't have a self-esteem problem, it's just life. We all were given different gifts.
I’m not sure how to find them. A friend suggested Facebook for some of their groups but I’m so private I am not comfortable being on any social media. I comment here as it’s anonymous but I can’t seem to balance my life or finish my “floor plan!”
I go to town and sit in parking lots just to see people. Sometimes I go days without talking to anyone. Yes I am married but only on paper and he is gone most of the time . I don’t have many friends and they have their own family
That’s really hard. I find myself sometimes sitting in my car getting a Starbucks and just watching the people come and go from the car. I am going to to have to take more steps to get connected. Seems like much more of a struggle at this age.
Well, this hit home today. I’m in a real dark space right now because of an event in my life that happened a couple of days ago. I’m trying to stay busy or else I will break into tears. I’m not at a point where I can talk to my kids about it yet, so I’m carrying it alone. I’m also 70 and its really hard for me to see a future, at the moment. So, for right now, I walk alone day by day, moment by moment.
Please do not give up my online friend. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own inderstanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path." Proverbs 5 vs 5-6
Your dress for the wedding is beautiful. I have lived alone for 25 years. I do get lonely. Loosing to my husband at a young age to cancer was horrible. We did everything together. The first time I realized there was no more Rob and Jeanie but just Jeanie was such a big shock. I was 19 when I married him. Now I force myself to get out and do things. I am so thankful for each day God has given me and I don’t like wasting a second. I am a former interior designer and so I love just changing so many things in my house by using what I have. It is so much fun shopping my own house with out spending money. I think you need to find joy in what you like to do. Do I want to remarried no. I had a wonderful life with my husband and lot of people never get that in a life time.
I lost my husband little over a year ago. He was 63 . Heart problems. We had our first date before we could drive. High School. We got married fall after HS and we were married 45 years. It’s been a very difficult adjustment and harder than I would have thought . I am ready to start living again. As hard as this all has been, I think that may be harder to get going. We shall see. But I’m now 65 and ready to start living. But gosh I’m tired.
I became a widow at 36. My husband and I had a 3 year old daughter when he died. I am now 58 and haven't remarried. After his death my whole mindset changed. I had more fear of trying things. And less trust in people. I focused on my daughter and raising her. She is a blessing. Now I want to change my life and make it more exciting. Wish me luck. XO.
My heart goes out to all who feel lonely. My dad passed away several months ago and my mom said the hardest part is the lack of physical touch, no one to hug you. My brothers and our families all live close to her and visit or talk to her daily. And I always give her a big hug!
Oh the hugs... they are what I miss the most. The love of my life passed suddenly and unexpectedly over 5 years ago, and he gave the biggest bear hugs that would take my breath away. What I would give to have one of those now...Hugs to you ! 💞
I find having pets really helps. I have 2 parrots and 2 cats. I'm getting a dog in the future. I'm 69. I've been on my own for 30 yrs. I'm very independent. I luv my freedom .❤❤
I felt like that when I turned 70, like my life was over. I got over it and am now 72. Been alone for 20 years after separation. The first few were very difficult. BTW, my results were favorable after biopsy.😊 ❤
From these answers we can see there are thousands and thousands who are feeling the same way. I have been single all of my 75 years so I have some experience finding ways to deal with being alone. My very best advise is to find the women around you who are alone too. Get together with them and listen to each others stories. Help each other find meaning in all of your lives. You will find peace and happiness when you stop dwelling on yourself and reach out to help others. You will still have some sad times but you will feel good about your life when you can help someone else get through hard times and enjoy good times together. Also, count your blessing. I am grateful I get to take a bath whenever I want to. I don't have to wait for someone else to finish in the bathroom. And I can set the room temperature for whatever feels good to me. There are a lot of advantages to being on your own if you look for them.
Hi Susan! Love your dress for the wedding! I really enjoyed this video and what you talked about. I’m 70 and have been alone for several years. For the most part I don’t feel lonely because I think it’s because I was so busy being a wife, mother and I worked full time. I actually cherish the time I have now by myself and my little dog Harley 🐩. 💗💗💗
My aunt used to sing the Miss America theme to me all the time as a little kid, I can remember being carried around and being sung to. Well, like you I never became Miss America. LOL. So much of my self worth, happiness, contentment comes from my relationship with the Lord. I'm only 63 and married (husband is 74) and we are having challenges related to his health. However I'm still active and involved with friends, church, my family. I deliberately seek out others and make new friends, and opportunities to be involved.
What is it called when you are feeling something but it isn’t depression, it isn’t sadness, it isn’t happiness…it’s this deep in-between feeling that is all the feelings wrapped into one. Like watching a roulette wheel spin and you’ve got every other number. Odds are good that you’ll figure it out, but just as good that you won’t. That’s me right now. It’s the gulf between my younger self and my older self. Thank you for showing us how to get across that gulf with elegance and surety. ❤
I enjoyed this talk Susan. I am alone with no children. I do have step children who live far away, but they do keep in touch and they have been good to me. I watched another video of a lady today who is alone but she still works, and she gave some good advice that I know I need to follow. One time when I was at work, a patient told me to never quit my job. I asked her why, and she said, "Because now that I'm retired, I stay in my robe all day. There is nothing to do." Now I understand where she is coming from. I have terrible sleep habits. I have one group I meet with one night a week and that is great. We used to have a group here called "Senior Friends," which was through the hospital. They had a lot of fun things to do, games, parties, trips, etc, but the pandemic put an end to that. I need to get into a routine of getting up, showering, getting dressed, and get out and do things. It is hard for me due to my back. I have spinal stenosis and it makes it so painfully hard. I went to Walmart this week and I had the cart to lean on, but with a little browsing I was soon sweating like crazy, and I checked out. Then I found a seat and had to rest before going to my car. (That is why I use delivery for my grocery shopping.) I can only stand in one spot for a few minutes and my back feels like it is breaking in two. Surgery is quite intense and would be a last resort. I cannot walk far either. I had a pain shot in the back but I can't tell it did anything. You know what though, I am going to make a note right now and on Monday I will call and schedule myself to see a chiropractor, and search around for some other activities and try to make a routine, like the other lady advised, and I am NOT going to let this get the best of me. I do have family here but my brother and SIL have their own health issues, but I do go visit them. I have two nephews here, and they are good to invite me when there is a function, and I know I am always welcome, but you hate to bother people. This is too long, so I will go. Desi is so handsome!! Give that guy his treats!! Ha!
I'm a fan! Divorced after 37.5 yrs last July. I find your advice so encouraging! Thank you for doing what you do! I truly am learning to love myself and feel so much better than I did a year ago. Blessings!
Thank you for sharing Patricia's concerns about living alone. I am caretaker to two family members and my husband has stage 4 cancer. Soon, I expect to be that Goodbye Girl. I'm in that still place before the wheel of life turns again. I am working through the worry and fear of what is to come and learning in to trust the process. I'm very much an introvert and find comfort in the night sky and the plant life in my garden. I take refuge in my art and walks in nature. And I know I will always have the safety of coming home to myself. Patricia, you are not alone...
I strongly feel I’m running out of time now. I’m 70, with a cancer history, and I really don’t think 80 is in the cards. It bothers me that I’ll never have that garden I want, a house of my own. Guess I am the goodbye girl.
It is a timely subject. I retired last year, I divorced my narcissistic husband about 8 years ago. He didn’t want because he got fired frequently for his behavior. I paid his health insurance and alimony. Now I need to have major dental work done, with no insurance. I am going back to work to pay these bills. Meanwhile he and his girlfriend are on a vacation in Europe. Next month they are treating my children and grandchildren to two weeks at the beach. No, she is not a rich lady. He was hiding money from me from unemployment and severance pay. I am praying not to be bitten and resentful but it is hard. I am trying to find ways to get out and enjoy myself that are free or low cost. I am hoping I will meet some new people at my new job that will open my eyes to new ideas. Although I would give anything to spend a couple of days at the beach with my children and grandchildren. God has a plan for me, I need to trust in Him. To my “Little Poet”Sisters out there, we are a strong group. We all will find our own way by helping each other.
We none of us really know how much time we have left. Very few people get everything they wanted in life. Think about what other things might bring you happiness, if not a house and garden. There are many things in life that are good and don’t cost a lot of money. I hope you can find some!
I miss having my husband hold me in his arms. He’s gone now. I’m 79 I don’t expect to turn heads anymore , it’s ok. I’m comfortable with my life. I really don’t want another man in my life. Starting a relationship with a stranger , no it’s not for me. Relationship are like a job that takes more work than I’m up to. I actually can do just what I want when I want! I don’t base my life on happiness by having a man. I’ve been lucky to age gracefully.
I also miss being held by my darling husband- he "fixed" all that was wrong in my life with his hugs. He passed suddenly and unexpectedly coming up 6 years in October aged 62, and it's been one heck of a journey so far without him. I turn 62 in just over a week and I'm dreading being his age, and then older. Also am not looking for another man as he was the one love in my life. Day by day I'm trying to find the positive and some joy in my life - some days are better than others. Strength and hugs to you 🌻
“ A woman without a floor plan doesn’t have a home “ Love that ❤ I’m almost through my divorce and turning 50 with 2 teenagers. You have been such an inspiration to me. I’m looking forward to my next chapter of life and buying our new home. Thank you for your sweet spirit ❤🙏🏻🙌🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
Oh Susan and Desi . . . .You made my evening. I loved the topic tonight. While I have been married to my sweet husband for 56 years, I know one day I am likely to be alone too. Listening to tonight's video encouraged me to consider a variety of activities in which I can engage when loneliness sets in if my love of my life goes to be with the Lord before me. Thank you for the thought provoking and encouraging sharing time tonight. I just loved it!💜🩷💜
Hi Susie! Your dress is beautiful, and will look fabulous on you!! After divorce I lived alone for 15 years, didn't date at all, and had a full life. Never once did I feel lonely. Desi loves to sing with you, even though Siri failed to mention him. Love you, my beautiful friend...MaryEllen
I’m working hard on changing my mindset. I’m 66, living with terminal cancer 13 years now. Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m living on minutes of time. I’ve had a rough 6+ months of cancer issues and now I’m back to a good place. Visiting my Doctor last week we talked about this. I know I have to change my attitude. I may have little time, I may not. So, I’m trying to focus on daily life, setting goals, thinking of things I’d like to do. It’s hard, but I’m doing it.
It's Possible also at this age (70) in September to feel lonely even if you do have someone in your life and you have people around you I'm not as mobile as I'd like to be due to a Car Accident many years ago .But I do try to keep Busy in my Day and Socialise with Friends .I Try not to sit all day at the same time as having little rests when needed I enjoy looking after myself by Eating right to try to ensure my later years are as healthy as possible no Life is not how Imagined when I was Young . But I find happiness in so much around me Nature is a great Healer . With so much Sadness in the world around us today we just have to be happy with what we have ❤
I’m a 70 yr old recent widower whose wife was in a memory care facility for her last two years. Having music playing in the house or shop is an important part of my day. I listen to classical or easy listening CDs in the house and 60s > 80s rock and roll out in the garage. I want silence if I am reading or watching YT vids ( I “cut the cable” , no TV ) . On YT there are some fantastic bands covering the R&R music of our youth. There are also lots of original footage available. . Music CDs are only $1 at my local SVDP. You can buy a boom box at thrift stores for $15. My 5 disc changer cost me $25. Yard and estate sales are a great source for cheap music. . Music can make you feel young again although there are some songs I have to skip over. Only recently have I been able to listen to Karen Carpenter
I'm 66 and widowed for 15 years. Never able (or willing) to make an effort to date. I enjoy my privacy too. Busy with work until I retired 2 years ago. My kids are grown. So are my grandchildren. Hardly see any of them anymore. Wondering what the remaining years will bring. I'm still active. Walks, outings and lunches with friends. But life changes. I just keep looking up! Try to make each day special in some way. Gratitude is essential! ❤
My husband of 51 years died almost 8 years ago. It has been tough trying to adjust. After a couple of years I dated two men. They were not at all right for me. Last year I met a man and we had so much in common, and we most unexpectantly fell in love. Now I find that I have a brain tumor. It has been a shock. We were planning to travel together, but that is now on hold. I am waiting on a neurosurgeon to review my case and call me. I feel so cheated out of so many things. Now this. I am continuing to hope, and I pray that God will heal me and I have some good years left to enjoy. I'm 77, and here I am, feeling in love like I did at 17. I cherish this second chance at love, but it is difficult now to even expect a "floor plan." God bless you, Susan, and Patricia for the topic of discussion today, as many woman relate so well to it. Love the wedding dress, and once again loved the duet with Desi. ❤️
I relate to Patricia. My youngest moved to the other side of the country two years ago. Fortunately, my grandkids live in my city. My problem is that all my friends have either moved away or have died. At 71, I still feel young and healthy, and alone. It's okay. I prefer my own company most of the time. Susan, I feel like you'd be a great friend to spend time with. You're very charming and young at heart. Btw, I love the black dress! It's very glamorous.
I’m 63 years of age - I find myself valuing my independence even more as I age - there is so much to look forward to and enjoy in life unencumbered - my motivation is keep myself healthy and well for as long as I can without having to rely on anyone - I’ve dated in recent times and simply couldn’t be bothered anymore - at this stage of my life I certainly don’t want to be a purse or nurse to a man - we come into this world on our own and certainly leave it the same way
Life is as good as you choose to make it. We can’t depend on anyone to make us happy. We don’t need to be rich or have a husband or a boyfriend to be happy. Enjoy time with friends, or invite a group of friends fora coffee or a bible study. Get out and get some sunshine, admire the beauty that God created. There is truly something to do. Do something for yourself or start a craft. But don’t give up, don’t stop looking up, and live your best life today. ❤
I just loved this video. The singing brought me so much joy and laughter! After 40 years I am finally free and truly had NO IDEA life could be so fantastic!! I am 60 years young today and by myself with an older cat. Life is precious and GOOD. 💜🙏🤩
i'm so glad that you picked that dress for the wedding! it's gorgeous and you will look and feel beautiful in it! and your grand daughter sounds precious.
Many of those same thoughts can enter my mind. Keeping busy is good and enjoy the time to find a new hobby or help others. Tomorrow is the 8th anniversary of my husbands death. It has flown by. He and I certainly had some plans and although it’s selfish, I often feel cut out of the travel or camping or just day to day living with the husband that was also my main cheerleader and best friend. 💔 he is the one that has gone, I guess it’s just human to want the things and time that you looked forward to for many years. Susan, wow! Your dress is going to be lovely on you. What a fabulous choice. Hugs to the Dez! 🐾❤️🙏🇺🇸🐝🦋
This hits home! I know there are so many of us women who feel the same. This inspires me to get out more. I find it's too easy to let days go by without getting out. Prayers to all of us living alone!❤
I'm just speaking for myself... but, self-confidence? No. I call it resignation. I live by the credo, "Blessed are those who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed."
I read somewhere that when your having these negative thoughts to go out and do something for someone else. Also I go to the gym and that really helps my blue moods.
I am 59 years old and, this season of my life is so very peaceful, so much less stress, more creative, travel and feeling comfortable in my skin. Did it take years and tears to get to this point, oh yes. Very much so. But I am grateful to have reached 59 because many (such as my only sibling and seven years younger brother), did not make it to 49, he died and left behind an 11 year old son. Living alone can be absolutely amazing.
Hello everyone ! I am married to a workaholic who is 78 & I am 72 ! I noticed on facebook in our city a lovely lady started a group for women of all ages to meet up & you choose which event & age group you would be comfortable spending time with ! I chose a coffee group & we meet twice a week & will start going to certain events ! I thought why not !!! This young woman who started this has really gone out of her way & we are so greatful to her for doing so ! You don''t know unless you try! It is really working ! This fills a void for me when I am here in the summer & fall ! There are so many of us who needed something like this in our city!
Hi from Italy, I said goodbye to a marriage at 56 that was bringing me down and broke my heart. I lived far from family, I was alone. Then 10 years later I lost the house and my beloved garden I had worked so hard for and which was everything to me. I found an apartment a year ago and moved in and the last year Ive been planning and watching my life unfold and dreams come true. I made a garden on my balcony and I love having tea there in the morning amidst my roses. I have my own TH-cam channel about my life in Italy! I live in a beautiful town and Im happy to spend my next 30 years here. Never let go of your dreams.
This is one of your best videos so far… well done. This is my second summer without my husband. After 45 years together he sadly decided he wanted a new life. Our divorce is underway, amicable, but naturally, I’m devastated. I have no desire to date although, someone would be lucky to have me! 😄 Seriously though, I miss my husband so much every day but at least I’m making progress thanks in part to you. Thank you so much for all your encouragement. You’re doing a great service to others who are suffering this grief. Best wishes to you. 💐🌞
I am a super introverted introvert, and when I was young, it didn't matter. I had my work and school and my hobbies. Never married, no kids. But now that I'm in my late 60's, every day I think - oh sh*t, what have I done?! What happens if I get sick? Will I have enough money to retire? (Actually I will never feel like it's enough, I live in New England and the costs here are so high, and everything keeps going up.) All of my older relatives are dead, I have cousins but I'm not close to them. I have a brother but he's busy with his own life. I have a couple of friends who are older than me, and some work acquaintances that I'm not close to. All I do is worry.... it's a crappy existence. I do try to be positive but it's an elusive feeling.
As a nurse I’ve seen so many people not realize, even if you’re married, at some point one of you will die and you will be alone. How you manage your life when that happens depends on how you have lived before it happens in developing your interests and not being totally dependent on the spouse. While I’m alone, I’m never lonely… there is too much to do serving others and marking off my Bucket List items. It’s about whether you choose a negative or positive Mindset …I choose POSITIVE…❤️❤️❤️
Please readers don’t take this negatively …. “ You can be anything you desire to be “ . Take a look in the mirror each day and say “ I AM WORTH IT “. Within reason and possibilities improve what you desire to change … if that’s change your clothes style, hair, hobbies etc. REMEMBER … no negativity … you can be anything you want to be … you just can’t be young again. Embrace your past years they can’t be changed. YOU CAN only change your future years . I’m 75 and at age of 62 I did volunteer work in Haiti I was there as the earthquake hit in 2011 … saved by the Sri Lankan UN that happened to be there . Returned home and took early retirement and did volunteer work in Sri Lanka for 3 months in an orphanage. Go on now take a chance at life … you will be rewarded ❤
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Hi Susan I’m also 73 and also feel like the Good by Girl!!!!!!! God Bless this sweet lady Patricia. It’s hard to make new friends and the children are grown up and always doing their own thing. I am always the last one they think of, I go weeks leaving messages and voice messages only not to hear from them. I love the dress you are wearing to the wedding ❤. Thank you for this video I needed to hear this❤❤❤❤❤❤
Prayers Sheila!
Thank you so much for your wonderful words, Shelia!
Will be thinking of you Sheila.❤ Take care this week
My daughter is like that too.
Good luck to you as well.......we are never alone......find joy in simple things that make you happy.....
I felt that way till I invited christ in my life and found my real value that christ has a purpose for all of us at any age He will never leave us and forsake us. HE said he has come to gave us hope and a future❤
Amen ❤
Amen 🙏
I agree , I’m a Christian and Love the lord with all my heart ❤️ and soul , however would it be great to have Jesus in person to hug 🥰
Amen to that sis!!!!!
YES! AMEN! The same here!
Married 30 years, and two weeks before my 60th birthday, the husband blindsided me with, I love you but I'm not in love with you. He was in love with my brother's wife of 29 years, helped her divorce brother and moved right into their home before he divorced me. I was devastated for a couple of years. Did not want to go on without him, and then God showed me I was protected and He had removed the diagnosed narcissist from my life. Almost four years later, I am beyond grateful that the cheater and liar is no longer in my life. At 64, my life is not what I thought it would be, it's better, filled with peace, contentment and learning to make new friends and love myself. I'm alone, but not lonely. I wake every morning and the first words I speak are, thank you~
This is a good example of "be careful what you wish for."
Almost everything turns out for the best.
Oh my goodness - so much to process. I am so glad you are doing well.
Good for you. The best revenge is living well.
Juno, so much truth in your comment... One question....how was he diagnosed ❓
Thank you! I say that every day. Once you feel the TRUE lows...the little joys are more amazing than ever!
I’m 63 and just signed my divorce papers this morning. I initiated because after 18 years I knew he didn’t love me. He said something vile to me about my deceased daughter that was unforgivable. My emotions were all over the place this morning but when I left to go sign the papers, I felt this bounce in my step and a peaceful feeling. I am looking forward to spending time with me. I was able to keep the house and have already made a few changes. The future seems scary, lonely, happy and peaceful all wrapped up in a present to myself.
Teresa, you sound like a strong lady who finally found her freedom! You will have a fresh start now! God bless and enjoy the peace!
God will watch over you. He has a plan for your happiness from now on. Blessings galore. Hugs.
We spend too much time thinking we are disconnected,im 80 after 30 years of mental cruelty I’m so happy being alone,plus i have no living relatives,i still put makeup on,and dress in a sophisticated way,my Heavenly Father God gives me the strength to do all this 😊
@@AnneTaylor-kk8ze where I work I tell everyone to have a good day or night & a woman stopped me today & asked me if I'm a follower of Christ & I said "honey I love Him more than the breath I take! She hugged me! That's why I work where I do! I share the gospel & psalms 91 protection every single day! We got this beautiful Warriors!💪👊👊
@@salettamyers8845 you are my kindred spirit,
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Good for you!!
I'm 63 and I have lost my Mother, Father, 2 sisters, and one brother. I only have one younger brother left. My husband bailed 3.5 years ago. My kids are grown, I have no grandchildren......I just feel completely lost and I have no idea who I am or what I'm supposed to do with the rest of my life. And to anyone thinking it's an easy fix, you are wrong. I'm not rolling around in self pity......I'll be fine, but it is the toughest thing I have ever been through.
I can understand this. Making one's own way with few guideposts bc our ages group is not fully recognized
I can so relate to you Beth. I am divorced and went through a lot of losses to where I have no family left except a daughter who lives 3 days drive away. I lost my mother, father, 3 brothers ( all my siblings) then my only son. I retired early from the overwhelming stress of it all and more.
It is darn hard to get it together now and
recreate a life. I have tried to find ways to get out and create a new life but it’s just not coming together very easily. I bounced back from so much before but am having the most difficult time now…. I know I will get there has always been my mantra. So won’t give up. Good luck to you, I know it is hard and a struggle.❤
Blessings to you Aya 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Me too 🙏⚘️
I like your philosophy. You will be fine. As you already know dramatic changes require some time to sort out, but you have done it before and you’re in the process of doing it right now. All the best to you.
I was married very young to the boy next door who turned out to be a pathological liar/narcissist. Divorced for seven years, then married a widower,who became the love of my life. Still, life isn’t easy. I have buried two of my children and the last one moved far away both physically and emotionally. I have learned to be content in most any situation, many tears but more often laughter and joy. My husband will most likely go before I do as his health has changed drastically. We are in our 70s, but we still laugh and love, worship together, and do our best to take it one day at a time. I keep only the friends who are genuine, treasure my alone time, and remind myself that the grandchildren and great grandchildren have their own lives to live and to enjoy their company when available. No guarantees. I, too, am planting perennials. I was a hospice nurse and I feel that I am finally ready to go at any time, yet I hope to see how the flowers are doing in the future, even if I am just driving by. Your videos inspire me, Susan. ❤️🙏❤️
Hi Susan
I will be 75 in September and have been single for 22 YEARS!!! Being lonely when you are WITH someone cuts much deeper than loneliness when you are alone. My last marriage I would sit in the room in front of the TV and wish I didn't have to look over and see him!! He bored me to death and was CONSTANTLY pawing at me for sex. The day I left, I felt the world lift off my shoulders!! It has only been in the last year that I have decided to look for someone but the awesome thing is that if I don't find him that will be ok too!! Bless you and little gangsta DESI and the wonderful ladies who watch. See you next week girlfriends!! Marshia
I felt the same way in my marriage. I would sit in the Burger King parking lot in my car to avoid going home. Loneliest I ever felt was in that marriage.
My marriage was exactly the same. So grateful it ended 4 years ago.
I am 73 and in the same kind of relationship. I am so lonely and my husband only needs me for food and income (I still work) and sex. We might as well be strangers sharing a room for the night. We have been married 47 years and there is no affection, no intimacy, or closeness. He is always on the I-Pad and looks so annoyed if I try to carry on a conversation. He is planning a week away with a friend and I am so looking forward to it! You can be very lonely while married and that has been my life. I work at a daycare one day a week and the kids are my joy! They genuinely enjoy me and talking with me and I need that so much! Right now, they are my lifeline! ❤
@@DebbieDebcor1Debbie, I used to sit in McDonald parking lot for the same reason! I wish we lived in the same town! We could go for walks and have coffee together! ❤
Yes! See you next week 👍
I am a 72 year young immigrant living in Canada. I left abusive husband decades ago. I fell in love since and raised my son alone. I don't care what people think about me. Actually I get compliments on my apperence, but I don't care for that either. I know I am wise and smart, shaped by hard life. I don't care if a man loves me because I love who I am now. Every day is a gift - of challenge, of beauty, of music, of nature, of art, of a still beating heart.
Sunglasses and a knife what every girl needs in her purse. I always felt like I was forgetting something when I leave the house. Now I know what it is! 😀❤ And yes what a week!
Hi Susan, I'm 72 and for the past 2 or 3 weeks. I've been feeling depressed. I had a little money and decided to redo my bathroom. Just get a new vanity, faucet, mirror, and commode. Then my dog got sick and it cost me a lot and worse yet, she died. Then I paid it off, and my kitty died, so I had to pay that off, then I found out owed the IRS and my other kitty got sick and I thought she was going to die. Thank God she didn't, but more debt. I feel that I'm cursed because I can't seem to get ahead. I've also been remembering how my family got together for the holidays but now my parents are gone, my grandparents, aunts and uncles. Life has changed so much. I have a friend that she and I usually go out or talk daily, my other friend and I talk daily, but lately, I feel alone. My son lives here, but he works long hours, and I don't see him. I go to his house to let the dog out and straighten out a bit, but I leave before he gets home sometimes. I need help to fix my house but I have no one to help me therefore I feel helpless. I'm going to change my way of thinking. Sorry for the long, whiney comment. I'm sure I will feel better tomorrow.
I had lots of repairs and I prayed, I took one room at a time, and miracles started happening.
It is hard what you are going through. ❤
Blessings & prayers 🙏🏻
We all feel this way at times. Your correct, keep the positive thoughts coming. You're stronger then you think!
Thank you for sharing real life struggles that would cause any one of us to want to whine. Goodness, there is always a friend on TH-cam who can relate. It is true that tomorrow often comes with a new perspective. The expense of sick pets can rapidly become financially draining. It is also emotionally draining!
I like the second dress , the grey one. /WOW and the black dress too. I have been on my own for 22 years . I rather be alone then MARRIED TO THE WRONG MAN for LIFE !!!!
32+ years and counting for me!!!
Amen to that. Married for almost 40 years, he left. Did some research and found out he has been cheating for years. Of course he sent divorce papers . He was living with my parents in another state. He was planning on taking everything from me. Why do I feel so hurt all the time. I did nothing, he did. And he married one of the ones he was cheating with 🥲 by
Totally like my independence. It was hard to be in an unhappy marriage, but before he passed from cancer I was able to help when he needed it. So I have peace about how it ended .
@@Chris-fv3pk living with your parents wow that was a double whammy 😞
Oh lord, Amen to that, all day long..👍🏻
My husband of 38 years died he was a police officer of 33 years..I have my son living with me he is 60 and I am 80. And he is divorced and we have a new life.
Your statement, "a woman without a floorplan doesn't have a home" is priceless! I think this will become the title of my new journal. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you!
Yes, and Christ has prepared each and every floor plan for us… we have to read and follow it!
I totally Agree........
My husband just passed away three months ago. I pray a lot and thank God for the courage and strength that he gives me each day. I’ve put everything in his hands including my future. Doing this makes me feel better and I have no worries. I go to the senior center once or twice during the week. I love going to the bookstore then treating myself to lunch. This is a new life for me and I’m going to enjoy it. Find what tickles your heart.
I'm sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband on July 10th, he was 70 yrs old. It is very hard.
We will get through that loss by talking about it with others who have gone through this . We will be alright...
Beautiful dress for a beautiful lady. I’m very fortunate. My marriage lasted 52 years and we had an enduring love. But he is gone and I am here. I have had my time with friends and activities, but I really love my solitude. I am creating a beautiful yard with peaceful walkways,lined with various roses and shrubs. I quilt, cross stitch, bake and cook. I try to appear finished ( hair and makeup) everyday. Life is good and life is full. God put us here to be happy and I’m going to try my hardest to fulfill his wishes. Life is full of challenges. I have learned how to air up tires, put water in a golf cart battery deal with service people and much more. Don’t need nor do I want a male companion, but I’m certainly going to try to turn heads once in a while. Embrace life..could be much more ahead ❤
Oh thank you so much!!!
My name is also Patricia, (Patty) and I have been feeling similar to “Patricia”, I said a prayer last night, this morning I came on to your channel, it was just what I needed, Thank you
You certainly are blessed! I feel the same way. Thanks for your thoughts...
Susan, I watch Margaret from Sixty and Me and she talks about living "alone". One of her followers asked why she used the word alone. She suggested using the words "by myself". I like that, I live by myself! So much more positive. I'm my own best company, besides my dog of course 😊 . I'm 69 and at the beginning stages of a divorce, my choice. I'm looking forward to living by myself. So if you're a woman who lives "alone" lets turn that on its head and say, I live by myself because YOU are your own best company. Love yourself because you're amazing at any age and don't let anyone tell you anything different. Love all of you beautiful ladies. Take care of yourself for a change. Love yourself.
Love your thoughts and comments. And I agree 100%.
When I walk into a room the people say, there's the lady that makes everybody smile and she does so much for everybody , she never thinks of herself. Can you believe she's 84, that makes me happy.😅
Alright!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Self confidence in who you are ✨💕✨
Many of us needed that comment beautiful one! Thank you!💙💙
I love you,that’s Fabulous Wanda!💕Keep it up,the world needs more smiles these days!😊
Wanda, God made You so Special ❤️ I also walk into a room no matter if it's the grocery or The Cinderella Ball & my motivation & spirit is to make the world a sweeter place. To take a moment a compliment someone out of the blue could possibly save their day, their heart, God only knows maybe their attitude & life. I've learned to not judge no matter what. We're all born of the image of Our Almighty God. Whew, let that sink in.....God bless All that takes a minute to slow down & love Him...
I just lost my 42 year old son to cancer 40 days ago. He was my life being there for him. Now he’s gone and I’m 69 and alone for 10 years. I really can’t see a future at all. The grief is unbearable.
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I'm sorry. I just lost two of my sons and I understand. Take it one day at a time. We'll never be the same but how could we? Trying to keep busy and going to the gym has helped some. I wish I could give you peace.
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Sending love and strength ❤
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Please can you and Desi sing at end of every video as it is adorable. If that is ok, Desi love it too 😊
OH dear, I dont want to ear it out too much! Desi and me sure have a lot of fun!! Happy weekend!!
@LittlePoet please make it a part of every video because it really is so lovely and funny and we love it and we know you and Desi do too 🎶 🐶 💃 if you don't mind 😀
Yes please, you and Desi sing every week. We adore you!! Love from Debbie and Dexter-Dog 🙋🐕🧑🦽🐾🏠.
@debbiechaney6607 Thank you for backup, lol 😆
We love Desi! And the 2 of you are priceless! Don’t stop the singing…please? 🐾🎶💃💙🐶
I am caring for my husband who is on hospice. It can be incredibly lonely. The social worker tells me I am experiencing anticipatory grief. He’s still here, but not really himself, there is a lot of dementia and confusion and caring for him is not easy, but I miss him already. I like the idea of getting a book and writing down plans and dreams. At this moment I feel like I don’t see anything beyond where I am right now, exhausted and heart broken. Thanks for always being willing to have the hard conversations and share your journey. It is easy to go to a dark place at times,thanks for the reminder to look for the good!
God bless you and your husband, Holly.❤
I can't imagine how difficult it is to be in your shoes. Life can deal us some very trying times. Susan has created a community of wonderful people on this channel. I hope you find encouragement here. I'll be thinking of you and praying that you receive all the strength and energy you need to be there for your husband during this time. When I was going through a terrible time, I found so much support in this verse. "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13. I woke up every morning and asked for enough strength and energy to get through that day. I always had enough. Debbie
Blessings dear one 🙏🏻
I've been through the same thing. I really like this message. It gives me comfort. Hospice is so hard but you'll always be happy you did it for your loved one. We all go through hard times, that's why we need each other. We need to talk about it. Not hide from it. Blessings to all.
You have been operating in crisis mode for so long. Experiencing both physical and emotional fatigue is soul draining. It truly is the long goodbye. It is goodbye to the man you love, saying goodbye to the life you shared, saying goodbye to your identity as a partner, and most of all, being left behind. When this particular time has passed, you must give yourself the love and patience that you've given to your partner for all these years. God has propped you up all this time and will continue to do so on the other side. Please don't forget you have a community of complete strangers 😊 who want only the best for you. Keep in touch with Susan so we know how you are doing.
I can so relate to this. Over the past couple of years I have become invisible (the Goodbye Girl!) Although I don't look my age (I'll be 60 next year) like you said the men stopped falling off their chairs lol It took me a while to get used to but now I don't care. I am older wiser and freer! I may never find that someone again (I'm divorced) but I have found me and that is a continuing journey. Some weeks I am lonely so I reach out to someone or I try to get out. It doesn't always work and then I try to talk myself out of being lonely or I just sit with it a while. I watch this channel every week and you really do inspire me!
Loneliness is a symptom of depression. When people are depressed, they don’t produce pheromones. That is reason that when they enter a room become invisible. Life is a beautiful journey, with ups and downs. After all these years, I learned to enjoy my own company; and do things that brings me joy such as paper crafts, volunteering, yoga, cooking and organizing/decorating my house. My other joy is to watch Susan’s videos. This channel is so inspiring and uplifting. Susan thanks so much for your thoughtfulness and caring about this community.
Yes, yes, yes! I agree! You go girl! ☺️
Yes!
I am 74 years old and I so enjoy being single. I found myself and I love myself.
I was never so alone as when I was married.
Me too.
I've been living alone since July 2004. The reason is something that still makes me angry. I don't look to find a partner, I had an emotionally abuse marriage and don't want that anymore. I have found peace being alone. Now retired and the drama at work was slowly killing me. I can actually say a drama pain free life is a blessing for me. Hugs to Patricia and all that feel like the good bye girls.
Wow. Still angry over a bad relationship doesn’t seem like it would be beneficial to your health. I too, was in an abusive marriage and so thankful to have made it out in one piece. One bad apple doesn’t mean they are all like that, does it? Being a daddy’s girl, I suppose that’s why I adore men. I just let attraction be most important and ignored the red flags. Just learn what you want in a man and come on the conquest to discover him. He is out there.
@@char72 Every time I turn around another piece of garbage from him happens to this day. At least I don't have to see him or deal directly. That is what a control does - so yes still angry
@@char72 You have no idea of her circumstances. She needs to take care of herself. I couldn't detect any much compassion in your comment. You do you but please save the judgement of what others do as it came across as unkind.
@@ljones98391 Well, unkind? I see it as being honest and open. Anger is not healthy for anyone. I’m sure this person already knows it. Any Doctor will tell her the same. Obviously, she is taking care of herself best she can as we all try. Just review the anger sabotaging to her state of mind. Angry hearts and mind is not healthy.
I’m sorry if I came across insensitive. I’m just realistic to a fault. I just don’t want my ex having any kind of control or reaction from me. I have not spoken to him since 2009 and don’t intend to. My knowledge of him is “Give an inch and he will push a mile!”
He was a second husband and stepfather to my daughter. My first passed away.
So sorry you have to put up with garbage. My first was a self serving a….. and my wages were garnished because of him and I barely made a living wage as it was. I look back and wonder how in the world did I make it through. But here I am. Still doing my journey at 73. Saying a prayer for you.
Yes my husband passed away 19 years ago and I’ve been living alone but for myself I go for walks. I take myself out to the restaurant I get myself a facial. I soak my feet and try to do a little things. I mean we’re all gonna grow older I have my one granddaughter came down today, so that was nice to see them, but it’s not every day that somebody’s around. It’s not every week either. You have to get learn learn to be by yourself. Keep yourself busy love your talk today the ladies right because sometimes you do feel like the goodbye girl, I never dated anybody after my husband passed away. He was the love of my life.
I agree. So goes life, our choices are do we live it or sit back and let it go by. I prefer joining in and living it. I envy a woman who is a one man woman. I’m just not that woman because I have been in love many times. I enjoy the company and conversation with men. Fascinating creatures I find. Who hasn’t been burned a few times? I have and just get on with the next adventure. Little things are highly important as we move through this journey. I enjoy having my first cup of coffee in the very early morning. Greeting each of my three dogs as they come upstairs. Wonderful fur babies. Taking each one on their morning walks. Then spending time reading or watching my favorite TH-cam channels. I have two grandchildren. One is my oldest and we talk every week. The youngest has two children and we aren’t talking. She has become part of the cancel culture. She has also cut off her mother who has sacrificed herself for making sure they never did without anything. I’m sorry that she has been indoctrinated but I don’t have to agree. I’m a child of the 60’s and was never a conformist.
Hi Susan, thanks for being an advocate of all women of a certain age, the support, wisdom and love you share each week is immeasurable! Sincerely ❤️🌹
Being diagnosed with melanoma just
before my 70th birthday has caused some depression. I am working to get my joy back. 🙏🏻
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Divine light to you in your healing journey 🙏🙏
I had vfc that too. Had surgery, they got it all and I feel great, that's 5 years ago!! God bless, you will be fine!!
I survived stage 3b melanoma, followed by hip replacement. I'm happier than ever and loving a healthy life. Prayers for you!
After reading so many comments, I realized I'm not the only one suffering from loneliness. I cling to God with every fiber of my being. This is how I get through each day. His grace is sufficient. He comforts. He gives me hope. He lights my path. He gives me His strength in exchange for my weakness. He is always with me.
One thing I learned is to live for the moment. One day I was thinking about how much time I have left and I thought about how we're all in the same boat. I could be 30 years old and die tomorrow.
I used to think about having someone else in my life until I kept hearing from my girlfriends about their old grumpy, disrespectful, controlling husbands that don't want to do anything.
I've been divorced and living alone for 30 years. I dated but that really was not fun. So uncomfortable.
I bought my first home alone at age 65. Best thing I ever did. Renting is much more expensive. Decorating and caring for my home is so much fun. I get to have everything the way I want it. It keeps me busy.
I just recently lost my oldest and youngest sons. I spent 3 years going through hell. My youngest son had Down Syndrome and I spent every day and night with him in the hospital for 7 months then I did hospice and cared for my oldest son for 5 months. All alone. He was such a wonderful son. Kind, generous, non-judgemental, forgiving and smart. If everyone were like him the world would be in such a better place. I had so much fun with my sons and miss them so much. There is a big void in my life.
I no longer care what anyone thinks. All these self help books and pod casts just make everyone feel terrible about themselves. We're all just fine the way we are. All I care about now is my remaining son and daughter and my grandchildren.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your sons. You sound like a great person with a good attitude. God bless you always.
Sorry fir ur losses. God Bless You❤
You're great!
How heartbreaking, I’m so sorry about your sons,
Yes, “youth is wasted on the young”…I love being mid-60’s. I love not caring what people think, especially men. Thanks for a great convo, Susan! 😘🫂😘🫂
Totally agree!
Unfortunately it's all about money. On a fixed income your life has few possibilities. Constant financial strain wears you down.
I doll up for MYSELF.
If we lived in a country that revered elders perhaps it would help women to feel differently about ourselves. We are in a culture that worships all the wrong things, meaning way too much emphasis on outer beauty. We women are all beautiful, each in our own unique ways. Look in the mirror and just love yourself and be grateful you are still here. Yes, I am very lonely since my husband recently passed, but I have not nor will I ever give up hope of connecting again. Women are survivors. Love yourself, let your light shine, pick yourself up by your bra straps and get out there, you can do it! Love and God Bless you all, beautiful soul sisters. P.S. Susan, your ending today was a real hoot, you and Desi should try out for America's got talent.
I just love Desi! I can relate to how Patricia feels. My kids are in their 40s and 50s living far away. Feeling lonely, I started a monthly luncheon group via NextDoor. We've been meeting over 2 years now. We have several couples and a few singles. It has made a huge difference in my life.
I can so relate to this. My husband of 40 years passed away unexpectedly 2 years ago. The first year was rough but the 2nd year has had a lot of ups and downs. I am 65 and still working full time but I love my job and especially the people there. I recently had a huge limb fall from my tree and it totaled my car and did some other minor property damage. My husband always took care of these things, like dealing with insurance claims. This is all new territory for me but when I get through a challenge, it gives me confidence and the strength for the next challenge that life throws at me. While I miss my husband deeply, I must keep moving forward. I am so grateful to have found your channel!
I'm involved in church and other organizations, so I have plenty of people to talk to. But I miss when my children were little and when I used to babysit my grandkids. When we feel lonely, maybe that's God trying to get our attention.
Boy, did I relate to this blog. I lost my step mother on Christmas day and my mother who was also my best friend a little over a week later. She died 3 days before my 71st birthday on January 5th.. While I am dealing with the loss much better than I thought I would, I take comfort in the fact that she is out of pain and suffering. I miss her so much, but with her gone, I have been looking back at the things she experienced when she turned 65. I am experiencing much of what I saw her go through; people undermining me at work, feeling invisible around people, people not believing me because I am old and may not remember things that happened correctly, men no longer turning their heads (I used to be a model). I thought if anything happened to my husband, I would be alone. I have felt that my future is somewhat tenuous. I am planning to retire at the end of January 2025 which is a little scary. I had a kidney transplan 6 years ago and have experienced some life threatening side effects. I don't know what is up ahead for me, none of us do. As a result, I am now taking steps to fill my life so that when I retire I will not just sit around and rot. I bought a leather sewing machine a couple of years ago so I could make purses, I have several clothing sewing machines, a room full of musical instruments, and I sing. If I ever find myself alone, I will fill my life with creativity, get involved with lady friends from high school, join a bible study, learn Spanish. I have decided to live until I die. God has a plan for each of our lives. I am going to find out what His plan is for me and try to live it. This is how I have chosen to deal with my golden years. I hope my perspective may inspire some of you to look at the possibilities that may be afforded to you. We are older and wiser, more experienced at this age. We have made our mistakes and learned from them. We still have value. I wish you all the best, Carolyn
Your words moved me ot tears...it feels so good to not feel alone in my thoughts...
The actor Dennis Hopper was in a commercial in his late 60s where he said the lines, “ You don’t need a nip and a tuck, you need a plan!” That always stuck with me. The great thing is “the plan” can be whatever we want it to be- it can be to walk in the park 3 days a week,or tackling something bit by bit we have kept putting off, like cleaning a closet or a bookcase. I walk with my neighbor to get coffee once every three months or so- and I’m glad to have that plan. At 73 I too have some lonely feelings after having said good bye to loved ones, friends, and said hello to stiff knees and skin on my arms that bruises if I even look at it. But I still love feeling good wearing sandals and jeans and sunglasses. Thank You for addressing this very important topic Susan and Desi❤
I read once that said "no one is coming" in another words nothing is going to happen or change unless you do it.
My son recently told me after my husband and I divorced that I need a plan. It's nice to get a male perspective. Logical. A plan works and it can always be modified. Every day is different, value it and learn the lessons it teaches you. The not so great days help us value and enjoy the awesome days. Trust God he will guide you 🙏
I started preparing for when I hit my sixties (which will be next year), about 10 years ago when I started taking up photography, writing, taking piano lessons and, having my own website. But, one of the most important things I did was to ensure that I build a small but good group of friends around me, one group to meet for brunch once a month, another group to go for knitting classes with and one or two really good friends who I travel with. I also have two very masculine gay friends who I go to dinner with very often because they keep me stylish and we have so much fun. Try to build early or at least a few years before, so that when you reach your 60s and 70s, you have built something for yourself beyond a family and work.
This really resonated with me today as I also feel like the Goodbye Girl lately. I will be 54 this month and have terminal cancer. I'm hoping to make it to Thanksgiving, oh, and wouldn't one last Christmas be amazing. We've decided to celebrate Christmas in July this year and bring out all the decorations... just in case. But, I still have time and I've realized I'm still worthy of making a difference, even through cancer. Every day I pray to God to use me and I thank him for the plan that he has for my life. We all have gifts that we can use and that are unique to us that will make a difference in the world and to those we love, if we are brave and trust. Thank you for this special video, much love.
Sending you strength and love as you forge ahead- to Christmas and beyond! 💞
@@maryzajac1136 thank you so much!
Just coming here to send strength and love to you as well. All the best.
@@barbiec4312 thank you so much! I appreciate you!
You have an incredible attitude with what you are going through. I’m glad you are a believer 🙏
Every dog has their day,, I had mine and have been blessed to have it. Im just glad to be here at 64 to enjoy my children and grandchildren. God is Good!
It always made me laugh when celebrities or other women lament about "feeling invisible" as they age. Listen ladies, I felt invisible in my 20s! It seems that the "above average beautiful woman" has a much more difficult time with aging than us average folks. And no, I don't have a self-esteem problem, it's just life. We all were given different gifts.
There are so many of us alone like this. Can't we start some groups to do things with and nurture each other? Gotta be something out there for us!
I’m not sure how to find them. A friend suggested Facebook for some of their groups but I’m so private I am not comfortable being on any social media. I comment here as it’s anonymous but I can’t seem to balance my life or finish my “floor plan!”
I go to town and sit in parking lots just to see people. Sometimes I go days without talking to anyone. Yes I am married but only on paper and he is gone most of the time . I don’t have many friends and they have their own family
That’s really hard. I find myself sometimes sitting in my car getting a Starbucks and just watching the people come and go from the car. I am going to to have to take more steps to get connected. Seems like much more of a struggle at this age.
Well, this hit home today. I’m in a real dark space right now because of an event in my life that happened a couple of days ago. I’m trying to stay busy or else I will break into tears. I’m not at a point where I can talk to my kids about it yet, so I’m carrying it alone. I’m also 70 and its really hard for me to see a future, at the moment. So, for right now, I walk alone day by day, moment by moment.
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Please do not give up my online friend. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own inderstanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path." Proverbs 5 vs 5-6
God Bless you
May you gain strength. All the best xx
Your dress for the wedding is beautiful. I have lived alone for 25 years. I do get lonely. Loosing to my husband at a young age to cancer was horrible. We did everything together. The first time I realized there was no more Rob and Jeanie but just Jeanie was such a big shock. I was 19 when I married him. Now I force myself to get out and do things. I am so thankful for each day God has given me and I don’t like wasting a second. I am a former interior designer and so I love just changing so many things in my house by using what I have. It is so much fun shopping my own house with out spending money. I think you need to find joy in what you like to do. Do I want to remarried no. I had a wonderful life with my husband and lot of people never get that in a life time.
Beautifully said. God Bless you!!❤❤
I lost my husband little over a year ago. He was 63 . Heart problems. We had our first date before we could drive. High School. We got married fall after HS and we were married 45 years. It’s been a very difficult adjustment and harder than I would have thought . I am ready to start living again. As hard as this all has been, I think that may be harder to get going. We shall see. But I’m now 65 and ready to start living. But gosh I’m tired.
Its such early days for you. Bless you, it will get easier 🙏🌸🌸
I became a widow at 36. My husband and I had a 3 year old daughter when he died. I am now 58 and haven't remarried. After his death my whole mindset changed. I had more fear of trying things. And less trust in people. I focused on my daughter and raising her. She is a blessing. Now I want to change my life and make it more exciting. Wish me luck. XO.
You just need one friend you can talk to, be it an old friend, new friend, lady or man.
My heart goes out to all who feel lonely. My dad passed away several months ago and my mom said the hardest part is the lack of physical touch, no one to hug you. My brothers and our families all live close to her and visit or talk to her daily. And I always give her a big hug!
Oh the hugs... they are what I miss the most. The love of my life passed suddenly and unexpectedly over 5 years ago, and he gave the biggest bear hugs that would take my breath away. What I would give to have one of those now...Hugs to you ! 💞
Yes! Miss physical touch, human touch!
I find having pets really helps. I have 2 parrots and 2 cats. I'm getting a dog in the future. I'm 69. I've been on my own for 30 yrs. I'm very independent. I luv my freedom .❤❤
I felt like that when I turned 70, like my life was over. I got over it and am now 72. Been alone for 20 years after separation. The first few were very difficult. BTW, my results were favorable after biopsy.😊 ❤
Thank the Lord ❤
Anyone feeling sad should have had a happy lift after hearing Desi sing along with you. I laugh every time....just love that you share that with us.
From these answers we can see there are thousands and thousands who are feeling the same way. I have been single all of my 75 years so I have some experience finding ways to deal with being alone. My very best advise is to find the women around you who are alone too. Get together with them and listen to each others stories. Help each other find meaning in all of your lives. You will find peace and happiness when you stop dwelling on yourself and reach out to help others. You will still have some sad times but you will feel good about your life when you can help someone else get through hard times and enjoy good times together. Also, count your blessing. I am grateful I get to take a bath whenever I want to. I don't have to wait for someone else to finish in the bathroom. And I can set the room temperature for whatever feels good to me. There are a lot of advantages to being on your own if you look for them.
Hi Susan! Love your dress for the wedding! I really enjoyed this video and what you talked about. I’m 70 and have been alone for several years. For the most part I don’t feel lonely because I think it’s because I was so busy being a wife, mother and I worked full time. I actually cherish the time I have now by myself and my little dog Harley 🐩. 💗💗💗
What a sweet doggie name, Harley ❤❤❤❤ Love From Debbie and Dexter-Dog 🙋🐕🐾🌴🏖️
@@debbiechaney6607 Awe thank you so much Debbie and Dexter! I love your dog’s name! ♥🐾🙋🏼♀
My aunt used to sing the Miss America theme to me all the time as a little kid, I can remember being carried around and being sung to. Well, like you I never became Miss America. LOL. So much of my self worth, happiness, contentment comes from my relationship with the Lord. I'm only 63 and married (husband is 74) and we are having challenges related to his health. However I'm still active and involved with friends, church, my family. I deliberately seek out others and make new friends, and opportunities to be involved.
I can’t believe you don’t still turn heads, Susan. Not as much as before and not every time, but you’ve still got it. 😉❤️✌️
What is it called when you are feeling something but it isn’t depression, it isn’t sadness, it isn’t happiness…it’s this deep in-between feeling that is all the feelings wrapped into one. Like watching a roulette wheel spin and you’ve got every other number. Odds are good that you’ll figure it out, but just as good that you won’t. That’s me right now. It’s the gulf between my younger self and my older self. Thank you for showing us how to get across that gulf with elegance and surety. ❤
I have found that living in the moment goes a long way when I feel like that.
I enjoyed this talk Susan. I am alone with no children. I do have step children who live far away, but they do keep in touch and they have been good to me. I watched another video of a lady today who is alone but she still works, and she gave some good advice that I know I need to follow. One time when I was at work, a patient told me to never quit my job. I asked her why, and she said, "Because now that I'm retired, I stay in my robe all day. There is nothing to do." Now I understand where she is coming from. I have terrible sleep habits. I have one group I meet with one night a week and that is great. We used to have a group here called "Senior Friends," which was through the hospital. They had a lot of fun things to do, games, parties, trips, etc, but the pandemic put an end to that. I need to get into a routine of getting up, showering, getting dressed, and get out and do things. It is hard for me due to my back. I have spinal stenosis and it makes it so painfully hard. I went to Walmart this week and I had the cart to lean on, but with a little browsing I was soon sweating like crazy, and I checked out. Then I found a seat and had to rest before going to my car. (That is why I use delivery for my grocery shopping.) I can only stand in one spot for a few minutes and my back feels like it is breaking in two. Surgery is quite intense and would be a last resort. I cannot walk far either. I had a pain shot in the back but I can't tell it did anything. You know what though, I am going to make a note right now and on Monday I will call and schedule myself to see a chiropractor, and search around for some other activities and try to make a routine, like the other lady advised, and I am NOT going to let this get the best of me. I do have family here but my brother and SIL have their own health issues, but I do go visit them. I have two nephews here, and they are good to invite me when there is a function, and I know I am always welcome, but you hate to bother people. This is too long, so I will go. Desi is so handsome!! Give that guy his treats!! Ha!
I'm a fan! Divorced after 37.5 yrs last July. I find your advice so encouraging! Thank you for doing what you do! I truly am learning to love myself and feel so much better than I did a year ago. Blessings!
Thank you for sharing Patricia's concerns about living alone. I am caretaker to two family members and my husband has stage 4 cancer. Soon, I expect to be that Goodbye Girl. I'm in that still place before the wheel of life turns again. I am working through the worry and fear of what is to come and learning in to trust the process. I'm very much an introvert and find comfort in the night sky and the plant life in my garden. I take refuge in my art and walks in nature. And I know I will always have the safety of coming home to myself. Patricia, you are not alone...
I strongly feel I’m running out of time now. I’m 70, with a cancer history, and I really don’t think 80 is in the cards. It bothers me that I’ll never have that garden I want, a house of my own. Guess I am the goodbye girl.
Perhaps not. We never know our future. Sending prayers your way. ❤❤
Sending prayers May God protect you & keep you healthy & live a long happy life 🙏❤️
It is a timely subject. I retired last year, I divorced my narcissistic husband about 8 years ago. He didn’t want because he got fired frequently for his behavior. I paid his health insurance and alimony.
Now I need to have major dental work done, with no insurance. I am going back to work to pay these bills. Meanwhile he and his girlfriend are on a vacation in Europe. Next month they are treating my children and grandchildren to two weeks at the beach.
No, she is not a rich lady. He was hiding money from me from unemployment and severance pay.
I am praying not to be bitten and resentful but it is hard. I am trying to find ways to get out and enjoy myself that are free or low cost. I am hoping I will meet some new people at my new job that will open my eyes to new ideas. Although I would give anything to spend a couple of days at the beach with my children and grandchildren. God has a plan for me, I need to trust in Him.
To my “Little Poet”Sisters out there, we are a strong group. We all will find our own way by helping each other.
We none of us really know how much time we have left. Very few people get everything they wanted in life. Think about what other things might bring you happiness, if not a house and garden. There are many things in life that are good and don’t cost a lot of money. I hope you can find some!
@@loriar1027 I love that. "Very few people get everything they wanted in life."
I miss having my husband hold me in his arms. He’s gone now.
I’m 79 I don’t expect to turn heads anymore , it’s ok. I’m comfortable with my life. I really don’t want another man in my life. Starting a relationship with a stranger , no it’s not for me. Relationship are like a job that takes more work than I’m up to. I actually can do just what I want when I want!
I don’t base my life on happiness by having a man.
I’ve been lucky to age gracefully.
I also miss being held by my darling husband- he "fixed" all that was wrong in my life with his hugs. He passed suddenly and unexpectedly coming up 6 years in October aged 62, and it's been one heck of a journey so far without him. I turn 62 in just over a week and I'm dreading being his age, and then older. Also am not looking for another man as he was the one love in my life. Day by day I'm trying to find the positive and some joy in my life - some days are better than others. Strength and hugs to you 🌻
“ A woman without a floor plan doesn’t have a home “ Love that ❤ I’m almost through my divorce and turning 50 with 2 teenagers. You have been such an inspiration to me. I’m looking forward to my next chapter of life and buying our new home. Thank you for your sweet spirit ❤🙏🏻🙌🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
Susan!!!!! Yessss! Thank goodness, I'm bored and lonesome, you rescued me!!! ♥️❤️♥️
Hello Beautiful!!!
I love that your granddaughter has sunglasses and a knife in her purse. She is my kind of girl! The Black dress is lovely.
Oh Susan and Desi . . . .You made my evening. I loved the topic tonight. While I have been married to my sweet husband for 56 years, I know one day I am likely to be alone too. Listening to tonight's video encouraged me to consider a variety of activities in which I can engage when loneliness sets in if my love of my life goes to be with the Lord before me. Thank you for the thought provoking and encouraging sharing time tonight. I just loved it!💜🩷💜
I am NEVER going to tire of Desi’s singing ❤
Hi Susie! Your dress is beautiful, and will look fabulous on you!! After divorce I lived alone for 15 years, didn't date at all, and had a full life. Never once did I feel lonely. Desi loves to sing with you, even though Siri failed to mention him. Love you, my beautiful friend...MaryEllen
You are always in my thoughts beautiful lady!!!! Gosh, I miss you!!!
I’m working hard on changing my mindset. I’m 66, living with terminal cancer 13 years now. Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m living on minutes of time. I’ve had a rough 6+ months of cancer issues and now I’m back to a good place. Visiting my Doctor last week we talked about this. I know I have to change my attitude. I may have little time, I may not. So, I’m trying to focus on daily life, setting goals, thinking of things I’d like to do. It’s hard, but I’m doing it.
It's Possible also at this age (70) in September to feel lonely even if you do have someone in your life and you have people around you I'm not as mobile as I'd like to be due to a Car Accident many years ago .But I do try to keep Busy in my Day and Socialise with Friends .I Try not to sit all day at the same time as having little rests when needed I enjoy looking after myself by Eating right to try to ensure my later years are as healthy as possible no Life is not how Imagined when I was Young . But I find happiness in so much around me Nature is a great Healer .
With so much Sadness in the world around us today we just have to be happy with what we have ❤
I'm so glad you chose that elegant black dress! You will be so elegant!! A girl can never ever go wrong with a black dress!
I love that lil Desi boy!😍 Your voice is very good😊 Have a great week💄🐶💕
I’m a 70 yr old recent widower whose wife was in a memory care facility for her last two years. Having music playing in the house or shop is an important part of my day. I listen to classical or easy listening CDs in the house and 60s > 80s rock and roll out in the garage. I want silence if I am reading or watching YT vids ( I “cut the cable” , no TV ) . On YT there are some fantastic bands covering the R&R music of our youth. There are also lots of original footage available.
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Music CDs are only $1 at my local SVDP. You can buy a boom box at thrift stores for $15. My 5 disc changer cost me $25. Yard and estate sales are a great source for cheap music.
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Music can make you feel young again although there are some songs I have to skip over. Only recently have I been able to listen to Karen Carpenter
I agree, music soothes the soul!
Nice to have a male voice here! Thanks for the tips, sir!
@@rosapederson722 DON'T 'SIR' ME!! 😂I'm RJ
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This is an ego death to me ❤ it’s releasing that doppelgänger in a sense. It’s very freeing but scary we are all made Devine 🦋🙏♥️
I'm 66 and widowed for 15 years. Never able (or willing) to make an effort to date. I enjoy my privacy too. Busy with work until I retired 2 years ago. My kids are grown. So are my grandchildren. Hardly see any of them anymore. Wondering what the remaining years will bring. I'm still active. Walks, outings and lunches with friends. But life changes. I just keep looking up! Try to make each day special in some way. Gratitude is essential! ❤
Susan the dress you have chosen is beautiful and you are going to be a real stunner in it.
My husband of 51 years died almost 8 years ago. It has been tough trying to adjust. After a couple of years I dated two men. They were not at all right for me. Last year I met a man and we had so much in common, and we most unexpectantly fell in love. Now I find that I have a brain tumor. It has been a shock. We were planning to travel together, but that is now on hold. I am waiting on a neurosurgeon to review my case and call me. I feel so cheated out of so many things. Now this. I am continuing to hope, and I pray that God will heal me and I have some good years left to enjoy. I'm 77, and here I am, feeling in love like I did at 17. I cherish this second chance at love, but it is difficult now to even expect a "floor plan."
God bless you, Susan, and Patricia for the topic of discussion today, as many woman relate so well to it.
Love the wedding dress, and once again loved the duet with Desi. ❤️
Praying for a favourable outcome of your review so you get to live out the second chance of love you have been given. Hugs to you 💖
I love hearing Desi “sing”!🎶
I relate to Patricia. My youngest moved to the other side of the country two years ago.
Fortunately, my grandkids live in my city. My problem is that all my friends have either moved away or have died. At 71, I still feel young and healthy, and alone.
It's okay. I prefer my own company most of the time.
Susan, I feel like you'd be a great friend to spend time with. You're very charming and young at heart.
Btw, I love the black dress! It's very glamorous.
Even if you have a husband it won't mean you won't be lonely. We can still feel alone even with a husband around.
Oh gosh...so true!!!
Thank you Little Poet...God ....how I adore Desi!💕💕💕💕💕
I’m 63 years of age - I find myself valuing my independence even more as I age - there is so much to look forward to and enjoy in life unencumbered - my motivation is keep myself healthy and well for as long as I can without having to rely on anyone - I’ve dated in recent times and simply couldn’t be bothered anymore - at this stage of my life I certainly don’t want to be a purse or nurse to a man - we come into this world on our own and certainly leave it the same way
Life is as good as you choose to make it. We can’t depend on anyone to make us happy. We don’t need to be rich or have a husband or a boyfriend to be happy. Enjoy time with friends, or invite a group of friends fora coffee or a bible study. Get out and get some sunshine, admire the beauty that God created. There is truly something to do. Do something for yourself or start a craft. But don’t give up, don’t stop looking up, and live your best life today. ❤
Hey Susan, I am 80 years young and I have places to go, things to do and people to meet!
ALRIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!
I just loved this video. The singing brought me so much joy and laughter! After 40 years I am finally free and truly had NO IDEA life could be so fantastic!! I am 60 years young today and by myself with an older cat. Life is precious and GOOD. 💜🙏🤩
I love the dress you chose for the wedding. It's gorgeous! I hope you and Desi have a wonderful week.
i'm so glad that you picked that dress for the wedding! it's gorgeous and you will look and feel beautiful in it! and your grand daughter sounds precious.
Many of those same thoughts can enter my mind. Keeping busy is good and enjoy the time to find a new hobby or help others.
Tomorrow is the 8th anniversary of my husbands death. It has flown by. He and I certainly had some plans and although it’s selfish, I often feel cut out of the travel or camping or just day to day living with the husband that was also my main cheerleader and best friend. 💔 he is the one that has gone, I guess it’s just human to want the things and time that you looked forward to for many years.
Susan, wow! Your dress is going to be lovely on you. What a fabulous choice.
Hugs to the Dez! 🐾❤️🙏🇺🇸🐝🦋
This hits home! I know there are so many of us women who feel the same. This inspires me to get out more. I find it's too easy to let days go by without getting out. Prayers to all of us living alone!❤
I'm just speaking for myself... but, self-confidence? No. I call it resignation. I live by the credo, "Blessed are those who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed."
Hello sweet friend...life can be tricky....love ot you always, Susan & Desi
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I read somewhere that when your having these negative thoughts to go out and do something for someone else. Also I go to the gym and that really helps my blue moods.
@@Wendy1973-wl5lr I really like your idea of going out and doing something for someone else. 🌼
I like your credo, actually I live by that ;).
I am 59 years old and, this season of my life is so very peaceful, so much less stress, more creative, travel and feeling comfortable in my skin. Did it take years and tears to get to this point, oh yes. Very much so. But I am grateful to have reached 59 because many (such as my only sibling and seven years younger brother), did not make it to 49, he died and left behind an 11 year old son. Living alone can be absolutely amazing.
Hello everyone ! I am married to a workaholic who is 78 & I am 72 ! I noticed on facebook in our city a lovely lady started a group for women of all ages to meet up & you choose which event & age group you would be comfortable spending time with ! I chose a coffee group & we meet twice a week & will start going to certain events ! I thought why not !!! This young woman who started this has really gone out of her way & we are so greatful to her for doing so ! You don''t know unless you try! It is really working ! This fills a void for me when I am here in the summer & fall ! There are so many of us who needed something like this in our city!
Hi from Italy, I said goodbye to a marriage at 56 that was bringing me down and broke my heart. I lived far from family, I was alone. Then 10 years later I lost the house and my beloved garden I had worked so hard for and which was everything to me.
I found an apartment a year ago and moved in and the last year Ive been planning and watching my life unfold and dreams come true. I made a garden on my balcony and I love having tea there in the morning amidst my roses. I have my own TH-cam channel about my life in Italy! I live in a beautiful town and Im happy to spend my next 30 years here. Never let go of your dreams.
Hello beautiful you in Italy!!!
@@LittlePoet hello 🤗
I’m going to Disneyland for my 75th birthday!
Happy Blessed Birthday enjoy 🎉🎊🎁🎂
Congratulations!!!!!
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This is one of your best videos so far… well done. This is my second summer without my husband. After 45 years together he sadly decided he wanted a new life. Our divorce is underway, amicable, but naturally, I’m devastated. I have no desire to date although, someone would be lucky to have me! 😄 Seriously though, I miss my husband so much every day but at least I’m making progress thanks in part to you. Thank you so much for all your encouragement. You’re doing a great service to others who are suffering this grief. Best wishes to you. 💐🌞
I am a super introverted introvert, and when I was young, it didn't matter. I had my work and school and my hobbies. Never married, no kids. But now that I'm in my late 60's, every day I think - oh sh*t, what have I done?! What happens if I get sick? Will I have enough money to retire? (Actually I will never feel like it's enough, I live in New England and the costs here are so high, and everything keeps going up.) All of my older relatives are dead, I have cousins but I'm not close to them. I have a brother but he's busy with his own life. I have a couple of friends who are older than me, and some work acquaintances that I'm not close to. All I do is worry.... it's a crappy existence. I do try to be positive but it's an elusive feeling.
As a nurse I’ve seen so many people not realize, even if you’re married, at some point one of you will die and you will be alone. How you manage your life when that happens depends on how you have lived before it happens in developing your interests and not being totally dependent on the spouse.
While I’m alone, I’m never lonely… there is too much to do serving others and marking off my Bucket List items.
It’s about whether you choose a negative or positive Mindset …I choose POSITIVE…❤️❤️❤️
Please readers don’t take this negatively …. “ You can be anything you desire to be “ . Take a look in the mirror each day and say “ I AM WORTH IT “. Within reason and possibilities improve what you desire to change … if that’s change your clothes style, hair, hobbies etc. REMEMBER … no negativity … you can be anything you want to be … you just can’t be young again. Embrace your past years they can’t be changed. YOU CAN only change your future years . I’m 75 and at age of 62 I did volunteer work in Haiti I was there as the earthquake hit in 2011 … saved by the Sri Lankan UN that happened to be there . Returned home and took early retirement and did volunteer work in Sri Lanka for 3 months in an orphanage. Go on now take a chance at life … you will be rewarded ❤
The beauty of where you live❤🎉😊