The thing I really like about You, Janele, and Josh is that every time you post , it's such a breath of fresh air . You guys are just normal people who post about stuff they're interested in and it's refreshing to see that instead all these IG Models posing in front of their expensive cars with their LV bags and thousands of different plastic surgeries . It's nice to remember that there is normal people still out there and not everything is so fake and fabricated. Love all your podcasts and even your guys vlogging channel . Thanks for staying so real even after the huge amount of supporters you have 🖤 (also nothing against plastic surgery , it's just an example)
I also agree. I hope they never change. I mean, of course, people grow & change, but, keep it true to yourself. You can tell it's genuine now. Always keep it genuine! Genuine, as you grow. ☺
I really love how Josh gives you ladies the floor to speak freely and doesn’t interject every second or minute like I’ve seen other men on podcasts do with Women hosts. Fav podcast so far!
My attention span and ability to focus on one thing at a time is gone. I can’t watch a show without looking down at my phone. I can’t drive without listening to a podcast or music. It’s something I think a lot of us really need to consciously work on.
I leave my phone in another room when it comes to spending time with my fiance, even if we are just watching something on TV. At least we can have a conversation with each other about what we're watching and I can pay attention without wondering how many likes I got on Instagram.
I have two kids. My son is 10 and my daughter is 6. My son had a phone very early because his grandma on his dad's side got him one without my permission. I do like him having a phone now, I do pay for and use an app that tracks his location and his phone usage. I am 100% honest with my kids and tell them there are people out there that want to hurt you and find where you live. They understand not to talk to strangers on the internet or going on google. I even tell my son about the youtube videos sickos make look like kids videos and then are very inappropriate. I just monitor very closely. Unfortunately my son learned about sex and even "the hub" from a kid at school. I'm also 26 so I'm younger and understand technology better than older parents. It's so scary and I try my best! Love your guys' content! 💖
I actually deleted almost everything. I’m only on Pinterest and TH-cam. But I only use Pinterest for slow cooker recipes and only follow my mom and some cooking boards. Being off of social media as someone in their 20s makes me feel left out and forgotten about. My friends don’t respond to my texts, but they used to DM me all the time and reply to my stories. I was forgotten about when my high school reunion happened. It’s an interesting experience being offline and realizing how dependent others are for communicating because people I spoke to all the time on social media disappeared once I was offline, even though they have my number and I’ve reached out. It’s interesting that communicating on social media is easier than texting even though it should be the same. I don’t know how I feel about it all. I really felt insecure and anxious on social media. I was bullied growing up and now I seek validation. I freak out if someone doesn’t seem to like me. I get anxious if I posted something not enough people liked. It was toxic for me. My boyfriend said I’m nicer to myself and believe good things about myself when I’m not on social media and that I spiral when I’m on it. I don’t think I can handle it, but it is hard feeling like I lose friends and get left out.
You are not loosing friends, you are gaining knowledge of who was a real friend and who was just there for the likes. The people who really care for you will always reach out with an email, a phone call, a message or just paying a visit (like it used to be until two decades ago). Also, you are gaining the most precious thing you have, time to do things you love in the real world and with real people. I deleted all of mine too, except youtube, years ago. Best decision I have ever made for me, for my mental health and for productivity in general. Although I still use the Internet for other stuff a lot ( I am working on fixing that too).
I literally just did the same thing and have felt these same feelings. It’s not the first time I’ve gotten off, but this time I think it’s for good. I feel so much better off of it. I do understand the feeling out of place, but I find I feel even more out of place scrolling my feed. Just know you’re not alone!
My psychiatrist told me, “well just get off social media” but it’s not that easy. Social media is a huge part of our lives whether we like it or not. I wish he would help set boundaries instead of straight saying just dont go on it.
Samm F I never said he controlled me. I simply want his professional advice and what healthy boundaries to set. I mean I do pay him for that lol. I get what you’re saying though.
I’ve noticed the same thing on all social media. The more I follow people who post body positive stuff, the more weight loss ads I get. It is so predatory!
Deleting Facebook and Instagram from my phone a few years ago has been beyond liberating. One of my all time best decisions. Still have them on my iPad, but when I check them I always have the good feeling of, “gosh I haven’t been on here in a while!”
I've been making sure to take breaks from social media by just listening to music and chilling with a good colouring book. I've found my mental health is definitely better for it.
When I heard about this podcast I was like “Nah not really my thing”. Then the other day I just clicked on one and now I’m absolutely hooked. I’m sat here laughing along with you guys. 🖤🖤🖤
I feel proud about myself . I’ve been instagram free for 7 years now Twitter free for 6 years Snapchat free for about 5 months now Tik tok free for 5 months as well . Only thing I have is Facebook for family
i deleted my tiktok for the exact reason you guys were talking about. i’ve never been diagnosed with an ED but i found myself falling into the negativity. be careful y’all. protect your kids.
This was such an issue for my daughter and I. At like 12 her friends had phones and Instagram and I refused to let her. 13 I told her she had to wait one more year and she hated me for it because all the kids at school had them. I told her one day she would thank me. Being a young parent I think she thought I was really uncool because I was the only parent who wouldn’t let her kid have Instagram at 12. Flash forward she is now 15 and we recently found an Instagram she made when she was like 8 on her dads phone. It only had a few videos because he quickly found and deleted the app. I’m so glad he didn’t delete the page because I had the BEST time a few weeks ago showing her how cringe she was. She was mortified and glad I didn’t allow her to be on it that young.
As a gen z kid that’s been dealing with mental health issues since I was in middle school I went through the body issues but the main reason that I ended up suicidal multiple times is due to feeling like I have to save the world, everything is fucked up and if you don’t do everything to be a good person I lose any self esteem. The internet has been a wonderful thing in my life but it has also changed how I see the entire world.
As a millennial pushing 30 you're not alone. I feel like I am trying to hard to fix the world we live in but I am only one person, and i get upset that we as a human race are not doing better even though we have the resources to. Its extremely frustrating and it feels very lonely sometimes that you think why arent other people taking it as seriously as I am. But lots of people are, and you just gotta keep spreading awareness and doing your part as feasibly possible as you can ❤ you are not alone there are others going through what you are going through too.
I tell my kids ‘ Don’t put anything on the internet that you wouldn’t want grandpa to see/ hang up on his fridge.’ So, don’t write, draw post photos etc of anything you would be embarrassed, worried about or think you would get in trouble for. I use grandpa as their point of reference because I know kids think of grandparents in a different way than parents. They wouldn’t want to disappoint grandpa, but kids would probably see getting around parents rules as a challenge. I also check every now and then, randomly. And point out stuff in casual conversation, like when someone is on the news for losing a scholarship or being fired over social media posts.
I relate to Kendall in I have to be listening to something I don’t like silence 😅 buuuuut I was addicted to Twitter I got rid of it like a month ago and even deactivated my account, it was just such a negative environment. Ily guys ❤️ I listen to you both every Sunday morning with my coffee 🌞
@@iemveee It honestly feels so good, I never realized the amount of anxiety I got from it! I still haven’t gotten another account. Hope you’re doing good with this crazy world stay safe 🤍
I’m currently struggling with an eating disorder and I couldn’t imagine if the internet was targeting me and reassuring me that not eating is okay. Like fasting can be fine but if I didn’t hear about this and actually got those ads I know my brain would’ve just validated that I don’t eat.
19:55 and its crazy Kendall bc we love you!! I totally empathize with how crazy and weird it must feel. Ive always said I would never want to be famous. You have 2 million subs because youre genuine, your passion is evident and you are the ONLY true crime show I watch because of how sensitive you are with the topic
Lmfao when I was editing this back I was like what the fuck I can’t believe I didn’t even notice it during filming 😂😂😂 I have no boundaries when it comes to dogs 😭😅🥰
I’m 19 now and I wasn’t allowed to have social media till I was 14 and I felt like I almost wasn’t as prepared for social media as my peers who had had social media for a couple years at that point. Things were a lot different even 5 years ago I can’t imagine what’s it’s like for 10 years old now that have social media. I will say my mom would take my phone at night until I was about 16 and I think that did help quite a bit.
Most social media you aren’t supposed to have until 13 anyway, it says it in the t&cs but also you usually have to lie about your age for it to accept the age if it’s younger than they allow. So I’m surprised to hear you say that 14 was too late for you to get socials 😱 because that seems pretty normal to me
@@gracethompson6926 i think you’re misunderstanding what I said. I actually never said “it was too late”. I’m glad I wasn’t allowed to have it until I was older. All I was saying was compared to my peers who had had socials for years at that point I was almost completely unaware of what social media was like. I was glad I didn’t have it until I was older because my peers were exposed to some pretty weird shit. I agree that not having social media until your 14 is very normal or at least should be. However, at the school I went to it was very uncommon. That was also over five years ago so I’m sure it’s even more uncommon now. I completely understand that you’re not supposed to have social media usually until you’re 13 but that’s not stopping most kids. When I was young people were lying about their age and I was talking about how it’s only gotten worse.
I feel like it makes perfect sense that anxiety/depression would spike when social media started to really thrive. Now that we have social media we see all these things that we think we need that we don’t. We can see that someone has a better house than us, better car, better something and we always think we need to do more. SM makes us think we are never good enough that we could always do more have more.. it is exhausting..
I'm so glad you're covering this topic social media has ruined teenagers self confidence and can just be a tool to fuel anxiety. There's need to be stuff in school about the balance of social media and normal life especially after the lockdown ):
Yes people need to actually socialize in person and form real relationships. The attention span of people is downright sad and scary at this point and a lotttt of people are too depressed and anxiety ridden to form actual bonds. People desperately need to come together in person again.
I think something that should’ve been included in the documentary is media literacy. The first time I was introduced to media literacy is when I was in college as a communications major. I have always felt that it should be taught in schools as early as the elementary level. Media isn’t going to go away and we just need to have a better understanding. I don’t think that social media is all evil. It has given so many people a voice that wouldn’t necessarily have one. Kendall’s channel is a great example of this. She sheds light on so many cases that would go unnoticed by the majority of the public. This documentary is a good start to show people that there is a problem with social media. But the long-term solution is to continue to educate people, especially children, about the dangers of all media and how to practice self-discipline with social media usage.
My son is almost 2 and we made a vow to forbid socials until high school. It’s gonna be tough so any other parents here let me know we’re in this together! Stay strong and vigilant! One of my gfs from high school has older kids (elementary and middle school age) and she just figured out how to find them on tiktok after they told her they don’t have it. Her niece isn’t happy with her for telling her mom about it either 😂 needless to say they’re grounded. Kids don’t belong on Tiktok period.
I am here rewatching old videos or videos I missed in the past while you guys are on a break. You guys are right TikTok’s algorithm is scary accurate. I’ve always been interested in crystals and stuff like that but I don’t follow / get those videos on my fyp because I try to keep my algorithm as diverse as I can. I kept repeatedly getting ads for a carnelian crystal which I’ve never had ads about crystals before this. So I finally looked into this crystal and it’s properties and it was exactly what I needed in my life. How does TikTok just know these kind of things. Anyways my New Years resolution is to read more books in my free time rather than being on TikTok or other social media so often
We didn't have Internet or mobile phones when i was young and I think people were happier. We played outside we were more connected to nature. No video games so we made our own entertainment. We rode our bikes, made dens, socialised in person.
oh my WORD - y'all even said "do we have a clip?" and I STILL WASN'T READY 4:36. y'alllllllll I'm absolutely hollering rn. I had that *same* costume when I was 4 for a Noah's ark skit lmao
I'm 28 years old and I have not had any social media whatsoever since 2013. It has been such a blessing & so much easier to see life more clearly along the lines of who is really there for you and what really matters.
The thing I do with my son who is 6( and I'm by no need perfect) but he's limited on what he'd aloud too watch I monitor the content based on his maturity level. I feel its impossible to navigate but I think his generation is the start of us as a race learning what's appropriate and not. I do not allow kids you tube because its it's a mess. He has kids messenger and an old broken phone of mine to call family. It has no service. I make sure he plays out side and watches things that actually teach him. Its not easy but hopefully what I'll get out of this is an emotionally stable, well rounded human who is kind, intelligent, and a self thinker.
I think the line, “if you are not paying for a product, you ARE the product” really stuck out to me in that documentary. I have watched it twice now & it’s absolutely insane to me how much control they have (although I don’t know why I am surprised). It feels dangerous. When they said it could potentially lead to the next civil war, I was not even surprised. I wonder what the answer is.
Josh is such a catch. he is so smart well spoken and interesting.. they make an amazing couple. I would LOVE to hang out with them and smoke and talk about all this shit with them.. and it goes without saying that Kendall is beyond a catch her self. she is so smart and articulate and obviously fn GORGEOUS!
I actually have a torn disc and herniated discs in my neck due to looking down at my phone too much at social media! Anytime I look down on my phone, I get shooting pains up my neck and in my head! I had no idea it was doing that to me. Now I need to make sure I always hold my phone up! I'm on nerve relaxers, anti-inflammatories, and need physical therapy!
I get so scared when I even just THINK about something and it comes up as an Ad. What you were saying about how scary it is for kids to even have social media made me think of the episode of Black Mirror, where they inserted a chip into the daughters brain to sensor out explicit materials through the eyes by blurring the images out 😰
The part about using your phone and social media to relax or ease anxiety could not be more true!! I was super anxious the other night and going on TikTok for 20 minutes immediately took my mind off of things and made me feel better for the short period time I was on it
I agree with Josh, im addicted to Facebook. I love that you can join groups and that personalizes your timeline. And you can mute people without unfriending them. Today is a weird world.
We have an 11 year old ; she has an old iphone 6+ to call us. Her internet has parental monitoring, just TH-cam kids. She had tiktok for a short time, but we shut that down fast. She mainly plays Minecraft/Roadblox. She has her phone, an ipad, and laptop and a Nintendo Switch. She was offered $100 for every year she stayed off social media. That was finally stopped; we told her she'll be off of it as long as we decide she's not ready for it. I think she'll be at least 16 before she's allowed to delve into that world. You truly have to protect your children from this world as it is now. I'm still not confident we have complete control over what she sees; all we can do is love her, remind her daily of what a sweet, smart, beautiful girl she is & not let down our guard.
I actually got off all social media for about 4 years during my undergrad. When I got Twitter, I actually couldn’t stay on it for long because of the negatively. With Instagram, I hardly post, and I actually had someone tell me, “you only have three posts?!” 🤷🏻♀️
This has very quickly become my favorite podcast. I was SHOOK when you guys said this was episode N I N E. I had to go back and make sure I hadn’t missed any. I watch them as soon as they drop.
social media reminds me of times square in NY, like no matter where you look there’s someone doing something, there’s massive ads with light up signs in every direction, stores everywhere, cars and people overcrowded. That’s how my brain feels when i go on social media
I seriously love you guys more and more every time I see a podcast. I love the wide range of topics you guys discuss on here, mile higher, and lights out podcast. Y’all are my #1 fav people on the internet!
I work for a cell phone company in Canada. In my 5 years in that industry, the average age I’m seeing of kids getting a first phone is 12 and the youngest was 9. It’s getting scary.
As someone who used to work in digital marketing for a large retailer and had direct relationships with FB/IG, Google, and other ad serving platforms, I am so glad people are talking more about this. The goal of these social media platforms is to serve you ads and make you buy things so they can sell more ads and make more money. They don't give a shit about the users/creators on these platforms. That's why so many creators complain about their relationship with YT - Google doesn't care about the creators, they care about the brands buying ads.
What's so sad is....We can't turn on kids shows without crap being pushed on to them! Like you said they are so impressionable and these big corporations are pushing THEIR agenda on our kids! Just by watching a show that's suppose to be safe for them! It's ridiculous. Love you guys!!!!!!!
TH-cam is so addicting because there is so much content to watch. I spent more time here than any other social media site. I’m also a huge fan of tumblr it’s like the most chill app in the world but I’v been trying to step back from a lot of Apps to just live my life.
I think one of the biggest problems is that people don't really have a real life anymore because they spend all their time behind computer screens or the TV and not doing anything real or tangible with friends or other people that they have a true relationship with. A lot of people are truly isolated in today's world completely
I have a 7 and 5 year old (boys) and they talk about political adds often. My 7year old got on his google meeting call for distance learning and all of his classmates were talking about the presidential campaign prior to the teacher getting online. I’m now pregnant with a daughter (due in 2 weeks) and I couldn’t agree more with what you both have been saying about being fearful for your future daughters. It’s so hard to filter what they see and still allow them to understand how technology functions. I thought I was scared for the world I was bringing my 7year old into in 2013 but the current state of everything completely mind blowing. I love you ladies 🤎
Kendall and Janelle talking about ads for weightloss and I get tons of ads for Noom. Never even searched for it or any weightloss stuff....UGH! I get the ads for Noom so much I can now repeat what the people say by heart.
I'm around same age as you both (late 20's) married 1 year and this very topic of shielding kids from what's on the internet came up with myself and my husband. When I left school, social media was still in it's early days, no insta etc. If you got bullied at school, for the most part you could come home and sort of shield from it and get some rest bite. Now kids don't get a break, if they're getting bullied it will follow them onto social media and therefore into their homes. It's happened to a young family member of mine. I feel old or old fashioned for my age saying I don't want my kids to have mobile phones and tablets until a certain age but honestly, the internet these days scares me for children growing up with the pressure it brings.
I loved the documentary! It was definitely eye-opening. I reevaluated my own social media usage after watching it. We are around the same age, I'm 29 and we grew up with the development of social media and it's definitely scary how the advertising and marketing are working. I ended up deleting my Facebook and TikTok accounts after watching it. I still have youtube I don't think I will ever get rid of that lol I am hooked but I never got into twitter or any other social media platforms but it was scary to realize all the information they collect from us. When they said how do we wake up from the matrix without realizing we are in one really shook me!
my social media addiction has come to the point where i had to set screen time on my phone to limit myself. i still struggle especially now since im in isolation. i hate how addicting it is, especially tik tok and how truly entertaining it is!!
Last year I started working as a 911 operator/police dispatcher and we aren’t allowed to have our phones out on the floor, for more than like 30sec and only for emergencies/family. I also work graveyard and there is lots of down time, so I have started reading again. I didn’t realize how much I missed it, I’m going through like 2 books a week. The point of this is to say I feel so much better personally and mentally and I think a lot of that is less social media and more self help/ life improvement style books. I loved this conversation and feel like the two of you discussing non fiction books would be equally as amazing. Two books I’d recommend to any one, and two that tie into ideas you talked about today would be “untamed” by Glennon Doyle and “in the flo” by Alissa Vitti. Untamed is hard to describe as anything but deeply inspirational. In the Flo, is about cycle syncing, and the “infradian Rhythm” ( it also touches on intermittent fasting, which is why I mention it) and digs deep into hormones and personal energy. 💕✌🏻
As the parent of a 17yr old and an 8yr old there is no right answer! I think education and knowing what they are doing is key. As clique as it sounds having open communication with your kids is key. My 17yr old is amazing at helping monitor what the 8yr old is doing. Im old (38) and can't keep up but big brother knows how damaging it can be because it led him to some scary places. He is great at helping me.
I found Kendall's TH-cam channel through Facebook Watch! So crazy how what was said in this episode is so true! I found great comfort in listening to your previous episode (my grandfather passed this weekend, my sympthathies to you both for your recent loss ❤) Love your podcast ladies & I look forward to your new episodes every Sunday! Sending love! 💕
I found Kendall through Facebook, came to TH-cam and watched all of her videos, then Mile Higher, Lights Out, and now The Sesh. I just love y’all’s videos and how you present your content!
Referring to the weight loss ads on TikTok, Instagram pages that repost TikToks almost always have a second video that has something to do with weight loss. I try to never watch them bc obviously that makes me even more insecure. But it’s hard to be confident in your body if social media is constantly telling you that if you’re not skinny, you have to get skinny. It isn’t direct body shaming, but I feel like it’s just another way for social media to make you feel bad if your body isn’t “perfect.” I want a “perfect” body but every time I try to improve my body, it becomes almost like an addiction. Which gets pretty scary. Sorry for the ramble, it just realllllly frustrates me.
My son is hearing impaired and has speech delay, so as a mom, I'm already worried that he'll be bullied when he reaches school age in real life and adding on the issues of the internet scares me so much. The balancing of sheltering your child from the world and allowing them to learn about the world is so delicate.
I’ve been listening to you guys while tidying today! I know if I pick my phone up I’m stuck sitting down for like half an hour.. but when my phone is playing a podcast on TH-cam, it will stop playing if I click off.. so you’ve helped me keep away today! Thank you!
TRUE ENOUGH is a book that covers the fact that on our society we can pick and choose which “reality” to live in bc we can choose what to surround ourselves with. The way I’m dealing with my children and social media is being 100% honest and upfront. “Everything is fake, there are creeps everywhere, don’t tell strangers (everyone is a stranger) personal information etc etc “
I watch TH-cam more than I watch tv. I use it to educate myself and find it keeps me company when I'm home alone. Plus I have videos that I watch on a weekly/daily basis, like tv shows. Always look forward to Mile Higher, Lights Out and The Sesh.
You both nailed it! I’m personally fighting the addiction of social media! Since Covid I can’t work and can’t go to school at the moment. I have to balance my time and remind myself how blessed I am! It can be a dark world! Constant judgment and things that can trigger people. If they’re bipolar or have any demons they are already fighting, during times like this, you bet it can be worse! I hope more is talked about mental illness! If you don’t have your crap together it can be bad on your mental state! But there are good things out there too! I enjoy watching you both! You bring you real issues!! You both are genuine and kind! But there are some that are insecure and broken who like to cause drama and pain on others! And the drama people who are so competitive is ridicules! Instead of empowering others and being happy for their success, they try and find fault and spread hate! It’s like I’m back in high school!! Those who want to take advantage of others are real and more out there today!! They’re taking advantage of isolation right now! Be wise and trust your gut! Pull yourself off if you don’t come away from a channel feeling good about yourself! Thanks ladies! You both said exactly how I feel and why I had to try and do something so I just recently created my own channel! I see injustice and the pain in the world. Im fighting my own bipolar disorder and it’s not going to keep me from finding joy! I can’t fix everyone! But I don’t have to add to someone’s hell they might already be going through! 👍🏻👌🏻💪🏼🥊🙏🏻👏🏻🤗❤️
Im on TH-cam 10h a day. Im extreamly lonely, because my boyfriend lives 2h away. On the weekend I'm barely on youtube, because my boyfriend is around. TH-cam is my safe space against loneliness.
You know what I think is a massive issue aswell - I don’t think a lot of people actually know how to do proper research and how to find reliable sources that are unbiased. I think that would be an interesting thing to touch on. Great episode 💕
I feel this so much. I had such a love/hate relationship with social media. Part of me wants to unplug from all of it, but I’m a loner with no real friends, so without social media I would have next to no communication with people.
Listening to this on Spotify, had to come here to comment. I'm someone who goes 16 hours a day without eating some weeks. I downloaded one of those apps to keep track and honestly I felt like the app made it way worse. I felt with the app the pressure to make it to exactly 16 hours, longer and longer as time went on. I stopped using and don't keep track, just eat when I'm hungry which some days is just lunch and dinner others 3 meals a day.
It’s crazy because Facebook is how I found you on TH-cam. Lol So whoever is running that Facebook account is absolutely doing a good job of marketing you two new people. 💜
I'm 34 & also have a 12 year old daughter & she is obsessed with social media. A lot of it comes from others in her life letting her or giving her devices to be able to access it. I try my best to limit her usage & screen time. It's absolutely affecting her negatively with confidence issues & self esteem issues. She def fights back with me about it & has went to the extreme to get her phone back if I've hidden it. Dude...this shit is terrifying!
I grew up watching tv. and now I consume something from a a screen 80% of my waking hours. its so weird to think about. but its my entertainment, my job, my down time, even my work outs are from a screen right now. its insane when you stop to think about it..
These guys are freaking adorable, they’re so refreshing too! This has made me think about a lot of things it’s so informative, I’ve set a ‘downtime’ schedule on my phone after watching this!😅💜
I found Kendall on Facebook and is was the best thing that ever happened! I've watched ALL your videos on your channel, then found Mile Higher Pod and I've been hooked since! Thank you for all you do! Love to see you grow ❤️
Social media definitely influenced me especially some years ago. On a daily I always have internet access but when me and my family went on vacation to Portugal, I wouldn't have internet access for an entire month. Maybe here and there in a mall but not at home since we don't have a wifi router in Portugal. I can't even begin to explain how good I felt in those weeks. I started to feel more beautiful, happier and almost like I didn't care what others thought about me. I did my makeup how I liked, dressed up how I liked and wasn't influenced by looks I would usually see on youtube or insta for instance. After the vacation that unfortunately never lasted long because the circumstances where I live are - boring. So I automatically hopped onto the internet again. *But generally I've changed my consume and can easily put my phone and laptop away for hours and days and I pride myself on that.*
I feel this sesh so hard!❣️The social media world has made growing up so difficult. As a person that grew up in the same age as you guys did, I feel like there’s a new way of “bullying” and that includes trying to be “perfect” for IG or fb or whatever. And if you’re not, you get backlash and or bullied. We never got that growing up bc we didn’t have the internet or all the social media that there is now. It absolutely blows my mind to think of it in this perspective. We didn’t have phones, WiFi, and iPad access growing up. Education of social media, the positive and negatives needs to be talked about with our youth. I think that there needs to be educational classes in school about all the aspects of social media. Especially with the suicide and depression statistics that were just talked about. Just my 2cents 😉
I’m so happy you guys covered this! I have two young daughters, and I’m already so scared for the time they decide they want social media. I know how much I hated myself growing up and I’m close to your ages, so this was before social media was the beast it is now. I watch my 17 year old cousin w her social media and I’d see her cry because she didn’t look like these photoshopped girls. Her mental health seriously declined. I kept drilling it into her head she’s fine the way she is and the problem isn’t her... it’s this world that has the problem. I feel the level of anxiety this brings you both. It’s a huge problem and no one seems to have the solution to make it safer. So scary. Especially about suicide going up so drastically. Anyway love you both and take care of yourselves! Thank you for picking such great things to discuss. ❤️☺️
I really appreciate the little snidbit (is that a word?) on Kendall and Janelle speaking on the subject of body positivity. I lost 200lbs in 16 months very very dangerously and was highly involved in the instagram community of weightloss where it was frowned upon at times to be apart of the body positivity movement. I have since gained back 90lbs and has much as I do need to get into better shape for my health, its very very important to distribute knowledge of properly losing weight in a healthy manner. So many people (myself included) get wrapped up in the glorification of weightloss where its considered an amazing accomplishment to lose as much weight as possible in the shortest amount of time. Myself and others would post this in our instagram bio as a "clout magnet" which is extremely toxic. I'm glad that I went through my learning experiences, however, it has landed me in the hospital many many times, passing out at on multiple occasions, I lost my period for 7 months, was eating roughly 700calories a day, legit working out for 5-6 hours on top of that, had my hair falling out and ultimately I was completely miserable, I thought that if I lose weight my life would be happier and that I would constantly be in the best mood ever; this was not the case-I was at my worst mentally, extremely depressed and anxious 25/8. It's very important that we do not get these unrealistic ideas of what we are supposed to be through these apps on our phone. We should strive the be the healthiest versions of ourselves not only physically, but mentally as well. I was worthy at my highest weight and I'm still worthy now. We must love ourselves enough to strive for health and not always aesthetics. Thank you both for this
So agree if you only talk to or hang around or see media or see social media that fits what you believe or matches your life you will never grow or develop
I'm 27 and have an 8yr old boy, and I have been addicted to TH-cam the past 10 years. I also now have a 2yr old, and 10month old daughter, and I plan to be so open to them about all affects and am glad that my oldest loves playing outside and still values quality time. Watching/listening to this podcast makes me realize I need more limits and boundaries about unplugging (literally) the internet box and showing my kids the joy in simplicity. That will inturn teach them good morals and standards. I also am getting off of smoking weed because that is also my addiction (habit). Hopefully us 90s babies can help these future adults realize what's more important. I won't be getting my kids a phone at all until they can show me their responsiblity level is adequate, and have a job to help pay for the bill. I will go by this book called Viral Parenting by Mindy Mcknight I got a phone at 15(2008) in grade 10 but I had a job.
Yasss the Social Dilemma! I have been waiting all week for y'all to talk about it. BTW you two are brilliant, and fun! I have been loving The Sesh.. Girls you are killin' it!😊
Janelle grew on me sooo fast, I can’t see a better partner for kendal than her 😌
I know I’m obsessed with her !
Yeah, they click.
I know! They mesh so well together! I’m definitely a janelle fan
😃 same here! Great pairing.
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The thing I really like about You, Janele, and Josh is that every time you post , it's such a breath of fresh air . You guys are just normal people who post about stuff they're interested in and it's refreshing to see that instead all these IG Models posing in front of their expensive cars with their LV bags and thousands of different plastic surgeries . It's nice to remember that there is normal people still out there and not everything is so fake and fabricated. Love all your podcasts and even your guys vlogging channel . Thanks for staying so real even after the huge amount of supporters you have 🖤 (also nothing against plastic surgery , it's just an example)
I couldn't agree more.
I also agree. I hope they never change. I mean, of course, people grow & change, but, keep it true to yourself. You can tell it's genuine now. Always keep it genuine! Genuine, as you grow. ☺
Yes so true .
agree with this SO much!
Saaaaame !!! Omg you stole words right off my mouth ! They’re so real 🥺
I really love how Josh gives you ladies the floor to speak freely and doesn’t interject every second or minute like I’ve seen other men on podcasts do with Women hosts. Fav podcast so far!
“Only drug dealers and software companies call their customers 'users'” - Edward Tufte
My attention span and ability to focus on one thing at a time is gone.
I can’t watch a show without looking down at my phone.
I can’t drive without listening to a podcast or music.
It’s something I think a lot of us really need to consciously work on.
Yes!! I'll be watching tv with my husband and he'll be like "you paying attention?" And I'm like yep.
I leave my phone in another room when it comes to spending time with my fiance, even if we are just watching something on TV. At least we can have a conversation with each other about what we're watching and I can pay attention without wondering how many likes I got on Instagram.
I have two kids. My son is 10 and my daughter is 6. My son had a phone very early because his grandma on his dad's side got him one without my permission. I do like him having a phone now, I do pay for and use an app that tracks his location and his phone usage. I am 100% honest with my kids and tell them there are people out there that want to hurt you and find where you live. They understand not to talk to strangers on the internet or going on google. I even tell my son about the youtube videos sickos make look like kids videos and then are very inappropriate. I just monitor very closely. Unfortunately my son learned about sex and even "the hub" from a kid at school. I'm also 26 so I'm younger and understand technology better than older parents. It's so scary and I try my best! Love your guys' content! 💖
I actually deleted almost everything. I’m only on Pinterest and TH-cam. But I only use Pinterest for slow cooker recipes and only follow my mom and some cooking boards. Being off of social media as someone in their 20s makes me feel left out and forgotten about. My friends don’t respond to my texts, but they used to DM me all the time and reply to my stories. I was forgotten about when my high school reunion happened. It’s an interesting experience being offline and realizing how dependent others are for communicating because people I spoke to all the time on social media disappeared once I was offline, even though they have my number and I’ve reached out. It’s interesting that communicating on social media is easier than texting even though it should be the same. I don’t know how I feel about it all. I really felt insecure and anxious on social media. I was bullied growing up and now I seek validation. I freak out if someone doesn’t seem to like me. I get anxious if I posted something not enough people liked. It was toxic for me. My boyfriend said I’m nicer to myself and believe good things about myself when I’m not on social media and that I spiral when I’m on it. I don’t think I can handle it, but it is hard feeling like I lose friends and get left out.
You are not loosing friends, you are gaining knowledge of who was a real friend and who was just there for the likes. The people who really care for you will always reach out with an email, a phone call, a message or just paying a visit (like it used to be until two decades ago). Also, you are gaining the most precious thing you have, time to do things you love in the real world and with real people. I deleted all of mine too, except youtube, years ago. Best decision I have ever made for me, for my mental health and for productivity in general. Although I still use the Internet for other stuff a lot ( I am working on fixing that too).
I literally just did the same thing and have felt these same feelings. It’s not the first time I’ve gotten off, but this time I think it’s for good. I feel so much better off of it. I do understand the feeling out of place, but I find I feel even more out of place scrolling my feed. Just know you’re not alone!
Wow this is exactly how I’ve felt. I don’t go on any social media platform besides Snapchat and even then I only have people I’m close to.
My psychiatrist told me, “well just get off social media” but it’s not that easy. Social media is a huge part of our lives whether we like it or not. I wish he would help set boundaries instead of straight saying just dont go on it.
It is easy, delete.
I finally deleted Facebook.snapchat and Instagram and I feel so much better...you could always start small and try a week or something???
Your psychiatrist cannot control you, but he can help guide you. You can set boundaries, and set them in the settings on your phone
Samm F I never said he controlled me. I simply want his professional advice and what healthy boundaries to set. I mean I do pay him for that lol. I get what you’re saying though.
Yuli you got this! I turned off my notifications for all my social media apps and that helped a lot!
I’ve noticed the same thing on all social media. The more I follow people who post body positive stuff, the more weight loss ads I get. It is so predatory!
Deleting Facebook and Instagram from my phone a few years ago has been beyond liberating. One of my all time best decisions. Still have them on my iPad, but when I check them I always have the good feeling of, “gosh I haven’t been on here in a while!”
I've been making sure to take breaks from social media by just listening to music and chilling with a good colouring book. I've found my mental health is definitely better for it.
That’s a great way to recharge!
My Sunday doesn’t start until I watch the sesh 🤣
"Fake news spreads 6 times faster than the truth." That was the quote from the doc about that I believe.
Including Covid news 💀
I definitely want to see this documentary now. Shout out to Josh for guesting on the pod today!
It’s a must watch!
It’s really good! Definitely made me view things differently!
When I heard about this podcast I was like “Nah not really my thing”. Then the other day I just clicked on one and now I’m absolutely hooked. I’m sat here laughing along with you guys. 🖤🖤🖤
Same. Now I really enjoy it. It’s a natural discussion without a bunch of cuts and being extra. So refreshing.
My 5 yo asked what my fav app was when i was her age.😂😂😂😂 her mind was blown when i explained. Im older than a smart phone. And all those apps.
I feel proud about myself .
I’ve been instagram free for 7 years now
Twitter free for 6 years
Snapchat free for about 5 months now
Tik tok free for 5 months as well .
Only thing I have is Facebook for family
i deleted my tiktok for the exact reason you guys were talking about. i’ve never been diagnosed with an ED but i found myself falling into the negativity. be careful y’all. protect your kids.
This was such an issue for my daughter and I. At like 12 her friends had phones and Instagram and I refused to let her. 13 I told her she had to wait one more year and she hated me for it because all the kids at school had them. I told her one day she would thank me. Being a young parent I think she thought I was really uncool because I was the only parent who wouldn’t let her kid have Instagram at 12. Flash forward she is now 15 and we recently found an Instagram she made when she was like 8 on her dads phone. It only had a few videos because he quickly found and deleted the app. I’m so glad he didn’t delete the page because I had the BEST time a few weeks ago showing her how cringe she was. She was mortified and glad I didn’t allow her to be on it that young.
As a gen z kid that’s been dealing with mental health issues since I was in middle school I went through the body issues but the main reason that I ended up suicidal multiple times is due to feeling like I have to save the world, everything is fucked up and if you don’t do everything to be a good person I lose any self esteem. The internet has been a wonderful thing in my life but it has also changed how I see the entire world.
As a millennial pushing 30 you're not alone. I feel like I am trying to hard to fix the world we live in but I am only one person, and i get upset that we as a human race are not doing better even though we have the resources to. Its extremely frustrating and it feels very lonely sometimes that you think why arent other people taking it as seriously as I am. But lots of people are, and you just gotta keep spreading awareness and doing your part as feasibly possible as you can ❤ you are not alone there are others going through what you are going through too.
I tell my kids ‘ Don’t put anything on the internet that you wouldn’t want grandpa to see/ hang up on his fridge.’ So, don’t write, draw post photos etc of anything you would be embarrassed, worried about or think you would get in trouble for. I use grandpa as their point of reference because I know kids think of grandparents in a different way than parents. They wouldn’t want to disappoint grandpa, but kids would probably see getting around parents rules as a challenge. I also check every now and then, randomly. And point out stuff in casual conversation, like when someone is on the news for losing a scholarship or being fired over social media posts.
I relate to Kendall in I have to be listening to something I don’t like silence 😅 buuuuut I was addicted to Twitter I got rid of it like a month ago and even deactivated my account, it was just such a negative environment. Ily guys ❤️ I listen to you both every Sunday morning with my coffee 🌞
I just deleted the app on my phone today and hopefully it lasts more than a week. This podcast came at a good time
marlie ayisyen you can do it!! I don’t have Twitter for about 6 years now
Same!! I deleted twitter and deactivated and been going on for almost 2 months!
@@iemveee It honestly feels so good, I never realized the amount of anxiety I got from it! I still haven’t gotten another account. Hope you’re doing good with this crazy world stay safe 🤍
I’m currently struggling with an eating disorder and I couldn’t imagine if the internet was targeting me and reassuring me that not eating is okay. Like fasting can be fine but if I didn’t hear about this and actually got those ads I know my brain would’ve just validated that I don’t eat.
19:55 and its crazy Kendall bc we love you!! I totally empathize with how crazy and weird it must feel. Ive always said I would never want to be famous. You have 2 million subs because youre genuine, your passion is evident and you are the ONLY true crime show I watch because of how sensitive you are with the topic
The dogs 🥰😂😂 around 8:40 when the dog is just sitting there licking Janelles face so hard 😂
Lmfao when I was editing this back I was like what the fuck I can’t believe I didn’t even notice it during filming 😂😂😂 I have no boundaries when it comes to dogs 😭😅🥰
The Sesh Podcast I’m the exact same!! Haha I love it!
I know! I thought it was sooo precious! The pups are adorable 😍
i was like OMG i cant when Kendall's dog was just resting her head on the desk!!!! Looking so cute it was hitting my feels:)
I’m 19 now and I wasn’t allowed to have social media till I was 14 and I felt like I almost wasn’t as prepared for social media as my peers who had had social media for a couple years at that point. Things were a lot different even 5 years ago I can’t imagine what’s it’s like for 10 years old now that have social media. I will say my mom would take my phone at night until I was about 16 and I think that did help quite a bit.
Most social media you aren’t supposed to have until 13 anyway, it says it in the t&cs but also you usually have to lie about your age for it to accept the age if it’s younger than they allow. So I’m surprised to hear you say that 14 was too late for you to get socials 😱 because that seems pretty normal to me
@@gracethompson6926 i think you’re misunderstanding what I said. I actually never said “it was too late”. I’m glad I wasn’t allowed to have it until I was older. All I was saying was compared to my peers who had had socials for years at that point I was almost completely unaware of what social media was like. I was glad I didn’t have it until I was older because my peers were exposed to some pretty weird shit. I agree that not having social media until your 14 is very normal or at least should be. However, at the school I went to it was very uncommon. That was also over five years ago so I’m sure it’s even more uncommon now. I completely understand that you’re not supposed to have social media usually until you’re 13 but that’s not stopping most kids. When I was young people were lying about their age and I was talking about how it’s only gotten worse.
I feel like it makes perfect sense that anxiety/depression would spike when social media started to really thrive. Now that we have social media we see all these things that we think we need that we don’t. We can see that someone has a better house than us, better car, better something and we always think we need to do more. SM makes us think we are never good enough that we could always do more have more.. it is exhausting..
I'm so glad you're covering this topic social media has ruined teenagers self confidence and can just be a tool to fuel anxiety. There's need to be stuff in school about the balance of social media and normal life especially after the lockdown ):
Yes people need to actually socialize in person and form real relationships. The attention span of people is downright sad and scary at this point and a lotttt of people are too depressed and anxiety ridden to form actual bonds. People desperately need to come together in person again.
I think something that should’ve been included in the documentary is media literacy. The first time I was introduced to media literacy is when I was in college as a communications major. I have always felt that it should be taught in schools as early as the elementary level. Media isn’t going to go away and we just need to have a better understanding. I don’t think that social media is all evil. It has given so many people a voice that wouldn’t necessarily have one. Kendall’s channel is a great example of this. She sheds light on so many cases that would go unnoticed by the majority of the public. This documentary is a good start to show people that there is a problem with social media. But the long-term solution is to continue to educate people, especially children, about the dangers of all media and how to practice self-discipline with social media usage.
My son is almost 2 and we made a vow to forbid socials until high school. It’s gonna be tough so any other parents here let me know we’re in this together! Stay strong and
vigilant! One of my gfs from high school has older kids (elementary and middle school age) and she just figured out how to find them on tiktok after they told her they don’t have it. Her niece isn’t happy with her for telling her mom about it either 😂 needless to say they’re grounded. Kids don’t belong on Tiktok period.
I suggest a book called viral Parenting by Mindy McKnight
I am here rewatching old videos or videos I missed in the past while you guys are on a break. You guys are right TikTok’s algorithm is scary accurate. I’ve always been interested in crystals and stuff like that but I don’t follow / get those videos on my fyp because I try to keep my algorithm as diverse as I can. I kept repeatedly getting ads for a carnelian crystal which I’ve never had ads about crystals before this. So I finally looked into this crystal and it’s properties and it was exactly what I needed in my life. How does TikTok just know these kind of things. Anyways my New Years resolution is to read more books in my free time rather than being on TikTok or other social media so often
We didn't have Internet or mobile phones when i was young and I think people were happier. We played outside we were more connected to nature. No video games so we made our own entertainment. We rode our bikes, made dens, socialised in person.
Social media is destroying me...
Trying to create a channel now is horrid
I second this! I started in Jan and it has been a test of my commitment for sure.
Why ?? I was thinking of it too.. is it hard
@@cassnava3797 it is much harder to grow than I ever thought it would be.
oh my WORD - y'all even said "do we have a clip?" and I STILL WASN'T READY 4:36. y'alllllllll I'm absolutely hollering rn. I had that *same* costume when I was 4 for a Noah's ark skit lmao
I had to delete all my social media. It can just be too toxic..... love you both ❤️💜
I'm 28 years old and I have not had any social media whatsoever since 2013. It has been such a blessing & so much easier to see life more clearly along the lines of who is really there for you and what really matters.
You know this counts right
Kacee Harrison omg it does.... shiiiiiit imma go delete
@@arielle777 lmao you funny. I like you.
The thing I do with my son who is 6( and I'm by no need perfect) but he's limited on what he'd aloud too watch I monitor the content based on his maturity level. I feel its impossible to navigate but I think his generation is the start of us as a race learning what's appropriate and not. I do not allow kids you tube because its it's a mess. He has kids messenger and an old broken phone of mine to call family. It has no service. I make sure he plays out side and watches things that actually teach him. Its not easy but hopefully what I'll get out of this is an emotionally stable, well rounded human who is kind, intelligent, and a self thinker.
More people need to think about social media in this way. I’m very concerned for most people because it’s sucking the life out of us.
I literally watched your spicy topics, then watched the documentary and now I'm back. Can't wait!
Did the exact same thing!
I think the line, “if you are not paying for a product, you ARE the product” really stuck out to me in that documentary. I have watched it twice now & it’s absolutely insane to me how much control they have (although I don’t know why I am surprised). It feels dangerous. When they said it could potentially lead to the next civil war, I was not even surprised. I wonder what the answer is.
Josh is such a catch. he is so smart well spoken and interesting.. they make an amazing couple. I would LOVE to hang out with them and smoke and talk about all this shit with them..
and it goes without saying that Kendall is beyond a catch her self. she is so smart and articulate and obviously fn GORGEOUS!
Imagine if social media comes with an age limit in the future! Just like how you can’t purchase alcohol until a certain age
Instagram has one and it's supposed to be 13
I can see it coming to that and maybe it would be a good thing considering how young kids are getting on social media platforms these days
They already do but they are not enforced
I actually have a torn disc and herniated discs in my neck due to looking down at my phone too much at social media! Anytime I look down on my phone, I get shooting pains up my neck and in my head! I had no idea it was doing that to me. Now I need to make sure I always hold my phone up!
I'm on nerve relaxers, anti-inflammatories, and need physical therapy!
Yes it is very important for us parents to teach these children about serious issues that can happen caused from being on devices for too long
I get so scared when I even just THINK about something and it comes up as an Ad. What you were saying about how scary it is for kids to even have social media made me think of the episode of Black Mirror, where they inserted a chip into the daughters brain to sensor out explicit materials through the eyes by blurring the images out 😰
Bruh I'll literally think of a product or specific medication and next minute I'm getting ads. Insane.
Lmao I absolutely loved Josh telling you, “ well you do have a fb just so you know”
The part about using your phone and social media to relax or ease anxiety could not be more true!! I was super anxious the other night and going on TikTok for 20 minutes immediately took my mind off of things and made me feel better for the short period time I was on it
I agree with Josh, im addicted to Facebook. I love that you can join groups and that personalizes your timeline. And you can mute people without unfriending them.
Today is a weird world.
We have an 11 year old ; she has an old iphone 6+ to call us. Her internet has parental monitoring, just TH-cam kids. She had tiktok for a short time, but we shut that down fast. She mainly plays Minecraft/Roadblox. She has her phone, an ipad, and laptop and a Nintendo Switch. She was offered $100 for every year she stayed off social media. That was finally stopped; we told her she'll be off of it as long as we decide she's not ready for it. I think she'll be at least 16 before she's allowed to delve into that world. You truly have to protect your children from this world as it is now. I'm still not confident we have complete control over what she sees; all we can do is love her, remind her daily of what a sweet, smart, beautiful girl she is & not let down our guard.
I actually got off all social media for about 4 years during my undergrad. When I got Twitter, I actually couldn’t stay on it for long because of the negatively. With Instagram, I hardly post, and I actually had someone tell me, “you only have three posts?!” 🤷🏻♀️
Same.
This has very quickly become my favorite podcast. I was SHOOK when you guys said this was episode N I N E. I had to go back and make sure I hadn’t missed any. I watch them as soon as they drop.
social media reminds me of times square in NY, like no matter where you look there’s someone doing something, there’s massive ads with light up signs in every direction, stores everywhere, cars and people overcrowded. That’s how my brain feels when i go on social media
Deleted all my social media just over a month ago, and haven’t regretting it a bit. Truly life changing in the best ways.
I seriously love you guys more and more every time I see a podcast. I love the wide range of topics you guys discuss on here, mile higher, and lights out podcast. Y’all are my #1 fav people on the internet!
I work for a cell phone company in Canada. In my 5 years in that industry, the average age I’m seeing of kids getting a first phone is 12 and the youngest was 9. It’s getting scary.
As someone who used to work in digital marketing for a large retailer and had direct relationships with FB/IG, Google, and other ad serving platforms, I am so glad people are talking more about this. The goal of these social media platforms is to serve you ads and make you buy things so they can sell more ads and make more money. They don't give a shit about the users/creators on these platforms. That's why so many creators complain about their relationship with YT - Google doesn't care about the creators, they care about the brands buying ads.
unworthy?? you’ve worked your ass off!! i’ve been watching you for YEARS and i’m so glad to see how your channel and channels have grown!!
love you💛
What's so sad is....We can't turn on kids shows without crap being pushed on to them! Like you said they are so impressionable and these big corporations are pushing THEIR agenda on our kids! Just by watching a show that's suppose to be safe for them! It's ridiculous.
Love you guys!!!!!!!
TH-cam is so addicting because there is so much content to watch. I spent more time here than any other social media site. I’m also a huge fan of tumblr it’s like the most chill app in the world but I’v been trying to step back from a lot of Apps to just live my life.
I think one of the biggest problems is that people don't really have a real life anymore because they spend all their time behind computer screens or the TV and not doing anything real or tangible with friends or other people that they have a true relationship with. A lot of people are truly isolated in today's world completely
I have a 7 and 5 year old (boys) and they talk about political adds often. My 7year old got on his google meeting call for distance learning and all of his classmates were talking about the presidential campaign prior to the teacher getting online. I’m now pregnant with a daughter (due in 2 weeks) and I couldn’t agree more with what you both have been saying about being fearful for your future daughters. It’s so hard to filter what they see and still allow them to understand how technology functions. I thought I was scared for the world I was bringing my 7year old into in 2013 but the current state of everything completely mind blowing.
I love you ladies 🤎
I saw your videos on Facebook first and came to TH-cam from those. Then saw your other podcasts, love them all
Kendall and Janelle talking about ads for weightloss and I get tons of ads for Noom. Never even searched for it or any weightloss stuff....UGH! I get the ads for Noom so much I can now repeat what the people say by heart.
I'm around same age as you both (late 20's) married 1 year and this very topic of shielding kids from what's on the internet came up with myself and my husband. When I left school, social media was still in it's early days, no insta etc. If you got bullied at school, for the most part you could come home and sort of shield from it and get some rest bite. Now kids don't get a break, if they're getting bullied it will follow them onto social media and therefore into their homes. It's happened to a young family member of mine. I feel old or old fashioned for my age saying I don't want my kids to have mobile phones and tablets until a certain age but honestly, the internet these days scares me for children growing up with the pressure it brings.
I loved the documentary! It was definitely eye-opening. I reevaluated my own social media usage after watching it. We are around the same age, I'm 29 and we grew up with the development of social media and it's definitely scary how the advertising and marketing are working. I ended up deleting my Facebook and TikTok accounts after watching it. I still have youtube I don't think I will ever get rid of that lol I am hooked but I never got into twitter or any other social media platforms but it was scary to realize all the information they collect from us. When they said how do we wake up from the matrix without realizing we are in one really shook me!
I have loved janelle since day one!
Totally agree. She seems wise beyond her years. And pretty funny sometimes, too!
my social media addiction has come to the point where i had to set screen time on my phone to limit myself. i still struggle especially now since im in isolation. i hate how addicting it is, especially tik tok and how truly entertaining it is!!
Last year I started working as a 911 operator/police dispatcher and we aren’t allowed to have our phones out on the floor, for more than like 30sec and only for emergencies/family. I also work graveyard and there is lots of down time, so I have started reading again. I didn’t realize how much I missed it, I’m going through like 2 books a week.
The point of this is to say I feel so much better personally and mentally and I think a lot of that is less social media and more self help/ life improvement style books. I loved this conversation and feel like the two of you discussing non fiction books would be equally as amazing.
Two books I’d recommend to any one, and two that tie into ideas you talked about today would be “untamed” by Glennon Doyle and “in the flo” by Alissa Vitti. Untamed is hard to describe as anything but deeply inspirational. In the Flo, is about cycle syncing, and the “infradian Rhythm” ( it also touches on intermittent fasting, which is why I mention it) and digs deep into hormones and personal energy.
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This is one of the best podcast I've ever heard. So well done, so smartly executed. Brilliant ladies! Congrats on the first sponsor.
Thank you so much!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼💜
As the parent of a 17yr old and an 8yr old there is no right answer! I think education and knowing what they are doing is key. As clique as it sounds having open communication with your kids is key. My 17yr old is amazing at helping monitor what the 8yr old is doing. Im old (38) and can't keep up but big brother knows how damaging it can be because it led him to some scary places. He is great at helping me.
I found Kendall's TH-cam channel through Facebook Watch! So crazy how what was said in this episode is so true! I found great comfort in listening to your previous episode (my grandfather passed this weekend, my sympthathies to you both for your recent loss ❤) Love your podcast ladies & I look forward to your new episodes every Sunday! Sending love! 💕
I found Kendall through Facebook, came to TH-cam and watched all of her videos, then Mile Higher, Lights Out, and now The Sesh. I just love y’all’s videos and how you present your content!
I also agree with a statement that we lost our connection to natural world and spirit and we need to find it back before we lose it permanently
Yaaasss, what a perfect podcast to listen to while I cook dinner! Love you guys, thanks for providing us with insightful entertainment
Referring to the weight loss ads on TikTok, Instagram pages that repost TikToks almost always have a second video that has something to do with weight loss. I try to never watch them bc obviously that makes me even more insecure. But it’s hard to be confident in your body if social media is constantly telling you that if you’re not skinny, you have to get skinny. It isn’t direct body shaming, but I feel like it’s just another way for social media to make you feel bad if your body isn’t “perfect.” I want a “perfect” body but every time I try to improve my body, it becomes almost like an addiction. Which gets pretty scary. Sorry for the ramble, it just realllllly frustrates me.
My son is hearing impaired and has speech delay, so as a mom, I'm already worried that he'll be bullied when he reaches school age in real life and adding on the issues of the internet scares me so much. The balancing of sheltering your child from the world and allowing them to learn about the world is so delicate.
I’ve been listening to you guys while tidying today! I know if I pick my phone up I’m stuck sitting down for like half an hour.. but when my phone is playing a podcast on TH-cam, it will stop playing if I click off.. so you’ve helped me keep away today! Thank you!
TRUE ENOUGH is a book that covers the fact that on our society we can pick and choose which “reality” to live in bc we can choose what to surround ourselves with.
The way I’m dealing with my children and social media is being 100% honest and upfront. “Everything is fake, there are creeps everywhere, don’t tell strangers (everyone is a stranger) personal information etc etc “
I watch TH-cam more than I watch tv. I use it to educate myself and find it keeps me company when I'm home alone. Plus I have videos that I watch on a weekly/daily basis, like tv shows. Always look forward to Mile Higher, Lights Out and The Sesh.
You both nailed it! I’m personally fighting the addiction of social media! Since Covid I can’t work and can’t go to school at the moment. I have to balance my time and remind myself how blessed I am! It can be a dark world! Constant judgment and things that can trigger people. If they’re bipolar or have any demons they are already fighting, during times like this, you bet it can be worse! I hope more is talked about mental illness! If you don’t have your crap together it can be bad on your mental state! But there are good things out there too! I enjoy watching you both! You bring you real issues!! You both are genuine and kind! But there are some that are insecure and broken who like to cause drama and pain on others! And the drama people who are so competitive is ridicules! Instead of empowering others and being happy for their success, they try and find fault and spread hate! It’s like I’m back in high school!! Those who want to take advantage of others are real and more out there today!! They’re taking advantage of isolation right now! Be wise and trust your gut! Pull yourself off if you don’t come away from a channel feeling good about yourself! Thanks ladies! You both said exactly how I feel and why I had to try and do something so I just recently created my own channel! I see injustice and the pain in the world. Im fighting my own bipolar disorder and it’s not going to keep me from finding joy! I can’t fix everyone! But I don’t have to add to someone’s hell they might already be going through! 👍🏻👌🏻💪🏼🥊🙏🏻👏🏻🤗❤️
Im on TH-cam 10h a day. Im extreamly lonely, because my boyfriend lives 2h away. On the weekend I'm barely on youtube, because my boyfriend is around. TH-cam is my safe space against loneliness.
You know what I think is a massive issue aswell - I don’t think a lot of people actually know how to do proper research and how to find reliable sources that are unbiased. I think that would be an interesting thing to touch on. Great episode 💕
I feel this so much. I had such a love/hate relationship with social media. Part of me wants to unplug from all of it, but I’m a loner with no real friends, so without social media I would have next to no communication with people.
Listening to this on Spotify, had to come here to comment. I'm someone who goes 16 hours a day without eating some weeks. I downloaded one of those apps to keep track and honestly I felt like the app made it way worse. I felt with the app the pressure to make it to exactly 16 hours, longer and longer as time went on. I stopped using and don't keep track, just eat when I'm hungry which some days is just lunch and dinner others 3 meals a day.
It’s crazy because Facebook is how I found you on TH-cam. Lol So whoever is running that Facebook account is absolutely doing a good job of marketing you two new people. 💜
I'm 34 & also have a 12 year old daughter & she is obsessed with social media. A lot of it comes from others in her life letting her or giving her devices to be able to access it. I try my best to limit her usage & screen time. It's absolutely affecting her negatively with confidence issues & self esteem issues. She def fights back with me about it & has went to the extreme to get her phone back if I've hidden it. Dude...this shit is terrifying!
Honestly josh is the teacher all of us needed
I grew up watching tv. and now I consume something from a a screen 80% of my waking hours. its so weird to think about. but its my entertainment, my job, my down time, even my work outs are from a screen right now. its insane when you stop to think about it..
These guys are freaking adorable, they’re so refreshing too! This has made me think about a lot of things it’s so informative, I’ve set a ‘downtime’ schedule on my phone after watching this!😅💜
I deleted TikTok & Twitter because it got toxic and addictive. Now I’m addicted to Reddit & TH-cam lmao.. trying to fix that
I found Kendall on Facebook and is was the best thing that ever happened! I've watched ALL your videos on your channel, then found Mile Higher Pod and I've been hooked since! Thank you for all you do! Love to see you grow ❤️
Social media definitely influenced me especially some years ago.
On a daily I always have internet access but when me and my family went on vacation to Portugal, I wouldn't have internet access for an entire month. Maybe here and there in a mall but not at home since we don't have a wifi router in Portugal. I can't even begin to explain how good I felt in those weeks. I started to feel more beautiful, happier and almost like I didn't care what others thought about me. I did my makeup how I liked, dressed up how I liked and wasn't influenced by looks I would usually see on youtube or insta for instance.
After the vacation that unfortunately never lasted long because the circumstances where I live are - boring. So I automatically hopped onto the internet again.
*But generally I've changed my consume and can easily put my phone and laptop away for hours and days and I pride myself on that.*
If sth is free, then you are the product. Literally gave me the chills
I feel this sesh so hard!❣️The social media world has made growing up so difficult. As a person that grew up in the same age as you guys did, I feel like there’s a new way of “bullying” and that includes trying to be “perfect” for IG or fb or whatever. And if you’re not, you get backlash and or bullied. We never got that growing up bc we didn’t have the internet or all the social media that there is now. It absolutely blows my mind to think of it in this perspective. We didn’t have phones, WiFi, and iPad access growing up. Education of social media, the positive and negatives needs to be talked about with our youth. I think that there needs to be educational classes in school about all the aspects of social media. Especially with the suicide and depression statistics that were just talked about. Just my 2cents 😉
I’m so happy you guys covered this! I have two young daughters, and I’m already so scared for the time they decide they want social media. I know how much I hated myself growing up and I’m close to your ages, so this was before social media was the beast it is now. I watch my 17 year old cousin w her social media and I’d see her cry because she didn’t look like these photoshopped girls. Her mental health seriously declined. I kept drilling it into her head she’s fine the way she is and the problem isn’t her... it’s this world that has the problem. I feel the level of anxiety this brings you both. It’s a huge problem and no one seems to have the solution to make it safer. So scary. Especially about suicide going up so drastically. Anyway love you both and take care of yourselves! Thank you for picking such great things to discuss. ❤️☺️
Sometimes I feel like everything I see online isn’t real. What is real anymore?!
I really appreciate the little snidbit (is that a word?) on Kendall and Janelle speaking on the subject of body positivity. I lost 200lbs in 16 months very very dangerously and was highly involved in the instagram community of weightloss where it was frowned upon at times to be apart of the body positivity movement. I have since gained back 90lbs and has much as I do need to get into better shape for my health, its very very important to distribute knowledge of properly losing weight in a healthy manner. So many people (myself included) get wrapped up in the glorification of weightloss where its considered an amazing accomplishment to lose as much weight as possible in the shortest amount of time. Myself and others would post this in our instagram bio as a "clout magnet" which is extremely toxic. I'm glad that I went through my learning experiences, however, it has landed me in the hospital many many times, passing out at on multiple occasions, I lost my period for 7 months, was eating roughly 700calories a day, legit working out for 5-6 hours on top of that, had my hair falling out and ultimately I was completely miserable, I thought that if I lose weight my life would be happier and that I would constantly be in the best mood ever; this was not the case-I was at my worst mentally, extremely depressed and anxious 25/8. It's very important that we do not get these unrealistic ideas of what we are supposed to be through these apps on our phone. We should strive the be the healthiest versions of ourselves not only physically, but mentally as well. I was worthy at my highest weight and I'm still worthy now. We must love ourselves enough to strive for health and not always aesthetics. Thank you both for this
hearing Kendall mention her future daughter before Holly was even around is so cute ❤❤❤
So agree if you only talk to or hang around or see media or see social media that fits what you believe or matches your life you will never grow or develop
I'm 27 and have an 8yr old boy, and I have been addicted to TH-cam the past 10 years. I also now have a 2yr old, and 10month old daughter, and I plan to be so open to them about all affects and am glad that my oldest loves playing outside and still values quality time.
Watching/listening to this podcast makes me realize I need more limits and boundaries about unplugging (literally) the internet box and showing my kids the joy in simplicity. That will inturn teach them good morals and standards. I also am getting off of smoking weed because that is also my addiction (habit). Hopefully us 90s babies can help these future adults realize what's more important.
I won't be getting my kids a phone at all until they can show me their responsiblity level is adequate, and have a job to help pay for the bill. I will go by this book called Viral Parenting by Mindy Mcknight
I got a phone at 15(2008) in grade 10 but I had a job.
I love listening to all 3 of you . I find myself saying out loud while listening “omg me too!” Or “I feel the same way”
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Yasss the Social Dilemma! I have been waiting all week for y'all to talk about it. BTW you two are brilliant, and fun! I have been loving The Sesh.. Girls you are killin' it!😊
Thank you for your kind words!!! 💚💚