The best relationships are when you don’t need to meet each other everyday. It’s all about being consistent and putting in effort to making it work. Sounds like the type of relationship you have - very happy for you! 😊
I was in a long distance relationship with my now husband for 4 years and because of COVID we weren’t able to see each other for 3 long years but we made it work. We are now married and together permanently. Good things take time indeed. Always cheering you, Dooby!
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, but it also provides an opportunity for someone else to step in! I’ve seen many long distance relationships fail. The key is to have a defined plan of eventual long term reconciliation. Otherwise love can dissipate, and one left with the memory of what could of been.
@@michaelpark5681 It really depends on how long you don't see each other. i was lucky that my work send me to Korea every 2 months for at least a month. But when you hear some people not seeing each other for a year... that is something we both would never be able to hold on too.
i had been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and we recently broke up. my take is long distance relationships have the potential to work out, only if you have a solid plan together - if there is a deadline.
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for about 14 months now, and I’m moving to live with him in two months. Trust me, this long distance thing it’s not the ideal, but it makes the relationship build up stronger because you have to focus in make it work without the touch. In my case, watching TV shows together helped a lot, and also being 100% clear in how we were feeling all the time. You got this dooby
yh id say that skills developed from long distance can be highly valuable. also proving that the relationship can work long distance too proves the strength of the bond imo
mmm i'd agree, but having witnessed a divorce after 6 years of long distance - moving in will reveal things about your partner you previously did not know.
Plus side to long distance relationships is you really learn to communicate. You're building a relationship based trust and faith. The energy needed to maintain a long distance relationship is not an easy thing to keep up with, but it’s positive energy that will help the relationship grow. You'll find ways to fill in those missing holes that a physical relationship has, but it'll strengthen it even more. It's an obstacle that you have to overcome if it's meant to be. Best wishes for you! :).
I agree, not just for romantic relationships but relationship with friends and family too. As currently me and some of my friends have a long distance friendship
This is my first time watching a full video from you and seeing you being so raw with your being and emotion is truly refreshing. This is my first time in awhile where I felt so connected with the creator and I thought to myself:" I would love to sit and chill with her and talk about whatever!"
Long Distance isn't easy and it's certainly more work than a normal relationship, but it's worth it when it works out. Every relationship has ups and downs and that's just the way life goes. I wish you and your boyfriend luck, happiness and joy
@@michaelpark5681 you continue to be all over her comments section video after video . You’re not going to get her attention (or her ) by this continuous hate you spew all over her comments . It’s boring now . Get a life so you don’t have to be so bitter constantly
Been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now (7 hour time difference), and it's been tough especially during covid. But it has also been the most rewarding relationship where I've been forced to take it slow, learn more about myself and my partner. It also has forced me to learn how to deal with being alone and to find things that make me happy on my own. In the end, I would not change a day. I hope that in the end you find that the struggles have given you more strength rather than taken anything away from you! Love your videos btw, the vibes are so relatable ❤
Your videos have genuinely changed the way I take care of myself. I never thought it was worth my time to cook meals I enjoyed so I'd revert to unhealthy stuff or takeout food, but your vids have made me slow down and treat myself RIGHT lmao. Trying to keep my kitchen clean and use the cooking time to decompress! (Also this recipe was delicious)
Sometimes long distance relationships can be really good, because they help you still maintain a sense of personal identity. You also learn to really appreciate that person and their presence, you can really easily see the value they bring into your life. Once you are able to be together all the time again, I think the relationship can be a lot more profound than the average relationship
As others have stated long distance relationships are very difficult. One pro to them is when things do work out you both tend to develop a very healthy level of communication with each other. Personally that is something I value a lot in a relationship. My longest relationship was just shy of 4 years and it was a long distance relationship. She unfortunately passed away a month before we hit 4 years but I genuinely wouldn't be the person I am now without her and it's been 4 years since then.
@@Launders- Thanks that's very kind of you to say. I'm doing alright. Just trying to be the best version of myself that I can be. She would kick my ass if I weren't trying 🤣.
Dang. It's really cool to hear not just Dooby's but other people's experiences with long distance. I met my girlfriend in College while she was studying for her masters. She's Chinese and I'm Korean-American. She spoke Korean and I actually thought she was Korean at first lol. When she graduated, it was peak COVID time and Work Visas were on pause. With uncertainty, she decided to move back to China. Because of travel restrictions, we haven't seen each other in about 3 years. Finally, we found a workaround by meeting in Macau, but still in the process of figuring out the logistics and timing since we both work full time. I love long distance because I really think it makes you focus on the important aspects of a relationship. You struggle and conquer insecurities you may have, you discover how to be open to build trust, and you develop patience for one another in a way that's honestly only possible through horrible wifi video calls that are time limited due to a 12/13 hours time zone difference. I think really amazing relationships can be built on long distance, but there's of course a lot of factors that go into where it heads. We were able to build a strong foundation before entering LD, so I think that was the only reason we were able to get through the biggest, initial hurdles.
may i ask how you guys managed with 3 years...I have to do 3 years of unexpected LDR, and im only in month 4, and it's been tough with the communication. When we're in person it's vastly different as he is not the best at being reliable through text. I've tried many times to lower my expectations but promises just fall through and it triggers my insecurities.
@@AriEllePhilia It definitely wasn't and still isn't easy. I was also HORRIBLE at texting and me and my girlfriend had some adjusting we needed to do in the beginning. The biggest part of how we got through was communication (ironically). We video call every day because 1) The time we get to talk, communicate, or see each other is limited because when I need to work, she's free and when she wakes up I need to go to sleep. 2) Texting is a huge part of Chinese Culture (WeChat). I honestly hate texting and I would rather talk on the phone, but my girlfriend has a lot of affirmation in a relationship with texting. It was the realization that for the LDR to work, there would need to be compromise and humility to give my girlfriend security that led me to actively develop that skillset. My GF shared her insecurities and her perspective, and so of course I wanted to do everything I could to give her security and affirmation. Part of this is also my personal values that had a factor as well. I don't date unless I'm intending on a future with someone in a marriage. I know she's the one I see myself sharing a life together, so I treat the relationship as I would in a marriage. Learning patience, flexibility, support, and communication to build upon a foundation of trust. We're not perfect and there are still times that BOTH of us may share insecurities once in a while, but by sharing with one another, we usually realize it's just in our heads. I do believe a lot of the responsibility falls on the man to understand what the relationship means. He needs to show effort and consideration to show that he cherishes and cares about the relationship. Not even just LDR but even if eventually you get married. You should never stop pursuing your significant other. In a practical sense, I find sending pictures or videos sharing events that may have happened throughout the day to have helped. Also, I bought us a BOND bracelet (it sends a small vibration just to have another method of communicating to each other). As expensive as shipping is, we send gifts on 1 year anniversaries, birthdays, etc. but gifts aren't too big in our love language so this is just a plus. It's a culmination of a lot of little things and maybe a few big things. The main point is the active pursuit imo.
@@jjashekki thanks Joshua for taking the time to write your input. Unfortunately not all guys are as thoughtful or willing to put initiative like you. Seems like everywhere I go, whether it'd be support groups on reddit or discord, talking to helplines, friends or even my therapist. Everyone comes to the same consensus more or less, but it just doesn't work for my boyfriend. He is just that out of sight out of mind, oblivious. In person we are so much better and it made me feel defeated at the thought of the future. I tried to express what you wrote to me to him, he ended up not saying anything and fell asleep on me. I dont want to throw away 4.5 years of our relationship becaues of a few months into LDR. I am not sure what to do but ill just silently distract myself. I just so badly wish it could be as easy as it is when we are in person, but he just cant do it. Made things worse that he postpones doing activities with me and i accept his excuses and kept lowering my expectations, but idk anymore what is too much to ask for. It's hard not to get envious of what I read on forums and youtube comments,etc. seeing guys put in effort that I know is not too much to ask for but it seems impossible for him to be consistent in. I'm going on a tangent and youtube is probably not the best way to communicate all this, but i do want to thank you for your response.
@@AriEllePhilia just want to let you know that first off, everything will be ok. I totally understand and sometimes talking to strangers about personal matters can be easier than sharing with those that are close to you. I’ve definitely been there. I’m not a licensed therapist and want to preface that this is all a matter of opinion for me, but you have the right to feel appreciated and should always have a sense of security with your significant other. There are ups and downs of course, but never let time be what dictates your decision and blind you from objectively examining your relationship. Grass is always greener, especially in social media. I found the best advice was not even advice at all, but hearing about other peoples struggles and experience overcoming adversities (lowest points) deepened a better understanding of what to pursue in a partner than looming at the “perfect” relationships. It’s still early on, but at the same time, you know the situation best. Sometimes you’re right for a guy but the guy might not be right for you. But I do wish you guys the best and your boyfriend has a wake up call to cherish what he has; a blessing. A relationship is a precursor to a partnership (marriage). You want to be with someone that you want to grow with, struggle with, laugh with, cry with, and experience every beautiful opportunity life has to offer. So, not in a self conceited way, you deserve the best.
@@sus425 I completely agree. I was in a LDR for a while myself. It honestly breaks my heart that all these people in the comments are lying to Tina about how it's gonna work out and this and that and the other. LDRs work out probably 1% of the time on a good day, and if it does it most likely won't last that long. Way to much effort and sleepless night because of the time difference for something that has less than 1% chance of working out. I wish her good luck either way.
I totally felt it when u said"my love language is quality time and physical touch" and that is so me! I was in long distance relationship for almost 3 years and it got so hard for me to stay put.. and eventually it didn't work, but the funny part is we're still great friends(idk what people might think about it but its okay).
I’m in a long distance relationship and it sucks! I’m strong enough to hold on as we coordinate our life together but some days I just break down and tell him “Please hug me.” Watching this gave me so much inspiration
That part where you spoke about slipping possibly into the darkness/being sad is just the perfect example how you can make thousands of others feel normal and feel comfort. I'm sure your videos have helped so many, thank you for being honest 😊✨️🌸
I Know how it feels when you know you're slipping into a "sad 3 days" its like seeing a storm in the distance and you know its coming, keep your head up and keep finding the joy to life!
I’ve now been in a long distance relationship for 14 months now and it really never gets easy. However there are some great positives that come out from it and I think that couples who have been in a ldr are more prone to stay together because they value their time together better. I know that every time I see my boyfriend we get closer and closer. In a way it allows both side to grow separately and together which is great because at the end of the day you are able to focus on yourself with knowing that you’re loved and supported! Arguments will happen and they will be worse than irl so communication is key; sometimes over communicating is better than under communicating! I hope your relationship goes well!
“Doesn’t really taste like anything, but sometimes I kind of want that”. Relatable. You really put into words a thought that I’ve been pondering for almost an entire lifetime 😄 Sometimes, our taste buds need a break. Our brain needs a break. Our digestive system needs a break lol! I totally get it.
I think it actually gets better as both sides adjust to the distance. The distance allows you to focus more on your emotional attachment rather than a mixture of that and physical attachment. It really deepens two people's relationship quickly. I'm sure everything will work out!
tbh sometimes I just sit down and eat with your video playing in front of me 😌you’re just such a chill person and I’m so glad that you’re doing better!! I would be one of those people in the comments trying to relate to you with the long distance relationships butttttt can’t say I’ve ever been in any relationship before lol
If Costco is your therapy, your vlogs are mine. I love them so much, they put me at ease from all the studying stress I've been having from college, thank you doobyy!
My husband and I were in an 8 year LDR, between Singapore and Canada.. I cried everytime we had to leave each other, it never gets easy. My love language was also quality time and physical touch. We found ways to spend quality time online together, and made Mid term plans (not giving ourselves too much pressure, being open about what the future holds). 8 years later, we got married :) he relocated to Singapore and we've been living together for 4 years ever since. Hang in there!
Haha girl, I came for food content and stayed for your mind and humor ❤️ thanks for the work you do and how much you share, can't be easy but it is appreciated
God your videos are soooo comforting i dont know how to explain it but everytime im feeling down or depressed i always watch and wait for your weekly videos.
Long distance is really tough, especially was during covid. But me and my boyfriend have pulled through it. However, he and I are still in long distance for work purpose, though we get to see each other every two or three months. He works from home for at least a month to stay close to me. I am blessed to have him in my life. And the awesome part is we are going on our first ever high altitude trek this October. Can't wait to finally see things falling in place as we will be completing 6 years this November. Writing this out really feels like so much happened in the last couple of years.
Glad you are making a special effort to not stay in a dark place. You have matured so much (in a cool way) since I started watching your channel! I love seeing different parts of Seoul.
I’m just happy your happy. Anything worth having won’t come easy and though it can be tough the hard times will only make the relationship better. Rooting for you always Doobs ❤
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I’m rolling at your reaction to the crumble recipe. It makes me so happy that I’m not the only one that hates the food they cook sometimes. That actually gave me some confidence to keep trying new recipes. Thank you, I’m sorry it sucked😂
you know what i just realized that i love about you, you put the reasoning behind certain cooking tips/instructions--which makes it so much easier to remember and to understand why ofc!
Greatest Therapy for me has been reaching out to those who are in need of help/company. Like visiting random old people in nursing homes and sitting with them while they tell stories about their life or helping a random person do their gardening. I find the greatest joy and peace in life when turning outwards. Just my two cents, love the content you create! Keep it up 😁
Screw tv shows, I've never been more invested in anything than I am with these vlogs! Also, "everything's about to change"?? excuse me little miss cliffhanger?? I need the deeets. I'm also in a LDR so I've been relating to these videos more than ever omgg
I was in an LDR for 4 years, it didn’t work out in the end but I’ll never regret the time I spent, and the distance always made the time when you’re physically with them even more special.
im a nurse in brooklyn & i met this cute medical student on my unit. i gave them my number & went on a couple dates (lived our greys anatomy dream) and told each other that it wasn't going to be too serious because they were planning to go out of state for their residency and we didnt wanna do LDR. 7 months later, they're in california as a doctor while i'm still in new york but we're making this work! i love them so much & this has been the best relationship ive ever been in 🥺
It ain't no secret that long distance is hard but in the end that applys to all relationships. My bf and I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year now and I 100% mean it when I say it's been the happiest time of my life. He and I met in discord and it was platonic but months passed and slowly it became something more. He asked "wtf we were" one night and we figured out not only what our relationship really was but what we wanted. I miss him like crazy everday but he's what keeps me going. He and I talk daily and I have all of my trust in him and I believe he's worth the wait no matter how long :)
I am in long distance relationship and trust me its hard but after 3 years i realized we need to balance our relation and not expect more from other person becz they are also busy in their schedule and time difference....
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love the way dooby expresses herself. thanks dooby. you always make me realize that i´m very important. love you and your channel as well. thanks for the video 😘
I’m in a long distance relationship, too. I’ve never thought about that. In my mind, “loving a person who is far from you is impossible” but now it works on me I dont know how far we can go together, but I know at this time, I’m happy for that
Dated my LDR boyfriend for 3 years, got married a few weeks ago and back to long distance again. Yes it can be hard, but it builds a level of space, maturity and a communication skill that I’ve never felt in any other relationship. We tell each other that the fact that we’ve made this work, means that when we’re finally physically together, we will get through anything. You sound happy and in a healthy place, good luck and hope you’re well :)
Long distance is shit with the wrong person but soo worth it with the right one. Learning how to communicate well will prepare your relationship for the better. I met my now-husband in 2010 and it took us 5 years to move together, but knowing we will see each other every summer kept us going! Now we've been living together and married for a few years and still best friends. 👌 Good luck tinadoo!
Long distance relationships are a nightmare. I tried it only once for about a year. It is too heart-wrenching every time you have to say goodbye for a while. I couldn’t deal with the trust issues and not really knowing what he was up to in my absence. I do not recommend it go anyone!
this randomly popped up on my feed and i'm not far into the video, but i was long distance with my boyfriend for 2 years due to having to go back to my home country when the pandemic hit (we didn't see each other once for the entire 2 years) and it was for sure difficult especially with a big time difference like yours (8 hours) and my love language also being physical touch! but with effort from both sides and planned lil dates and regular communication etc- it can definitely work! i found that it made me feel a lot closer to him in an emotional sense, as we couldn't be with each other physically. i moved back to his home country about 6 months ago and it just proves all the hard work was worth it! cheering you on and wishing you and your partner the best of luck 🫶
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Just started a long distance relationship after being together for 2 years (we met in Japan but he’s moving back to his home country). The first night without him beside me was the absolute worst haha. Haven’t cried myself to sleep like that in so long. We don’t have a definitive date yet on when we’ll meet again but we’re both pretty hopeful. :)
mingu was one of my friends in high school! i was closer to his brother since we're the same age but it's so cool to see that i've been following you on tiktok then youtube since almost the beginning and you're good friends w him haha what a small world
Dooby you should do new things in the world like going into the night life of tokyo. streets of india. You know experiencing life. All of it. You got money. 🤷♂️. Thats what I would’ve done.
Most of my relationships have been long-distance. And the only part of me that it has always satisfied, is the part when I can have some time alone. In my experience, I’d say that I always had a connection to, ‘the other’; which made me constantly pine for relationships, or at least, reactions with people from other cultures. But upon reflection, I guess it was, for me at least because I always felt good being overseas, or speaking another language. So, I attracted people. But I’m hind-sight, I now know it was because I used travel, exploration and learning other languages, cultures etc…as an escape mechanism. Now I’m happy-ish living back where I’m from. Because I’m in control of how I behave, who I interact with (not my family unfortunately, they always held me back and tried to force my focus on where I was from). Tell someone with Autism or ADHD that, they’ll do the opposite. But I took almost 10 years away from that rhetoric and I discovered myself without and outside intervention. Now, I’m much more happier alone and I don’t worry about even being in a relationship, cos honestly, it’s not for me; esp not in the traditional sense. You know, share the same bed 🤒, get married, live in the same country. No way is that supposed to be normal. Anyway, I’m ranting, but I want you to know that I’m so happy seeing you grow more and more online. I don’t know you personally and you probably cba to read this entire message. But a like-minded spirit supports you, unconditionally. Whether that’s distance, language, culture or whatever. Take care love from England x
Long distance can be the easiest thing when you love someone. When you love that strongly, distance doesn’t matter. I would rather be with this person halfway across the world than with anyone in my own country.
From my personal experience, the key to a successful long distance relationship is there being a path to be together at the end and know where that is. People that do long distance when the feasibility of being in the same place (both emotionally and physically) isn’t there just blows my mind. While independent space is essential, I can’t understand why people would want to be with someone where they are happy to be apart for long periods.
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Me and my wife were long distance for 2 and half years and we somehow made it work. It took a lot of trust, good communication and video calls to made the distance bearable. Good luck!
my wife and i dated for 3 years, long distanced for 5 and married 5 years now. those 5 years long distance really allowed me to focus on my career and when i was “rdy” we got married right away. not spending money on dating but investing in the future allowed us to be financially stable today. yeah we missed out on all the coachella and edcs but we became better people during our long distance.
I think the most successful relationships are the ones who overcome a "challenge" together well. Going through a difficult time together will show that they are willing and able to support and communicate with each other in good times and bad. And that's kinda what we want in a life partner right? Someone who will be there in the good times and the tough. 💕
you really are an inspiration to me. I have been battling depression and high Anxiety since 2019 and watching your videos has been one of the biggest helps. I was so sad when you took a break and weren't posting but have been elated ever since you came back. Please don't ever stop making videos ;)
I lived in California while my husband lived in England back when we were dating and we were long distance for years. It is hard but you can do it! You learn to appreciate eachother so much this way and it doesn't really leave room for any petty arguments or games to be played. We would organize movie dates on video call or sometimes eat meals together that way so we could spend that time like a "normal" couple. You got this! Good luck to both of you ❤️
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The best relationships are when you don’t need to meet each other everyday. It’s all about being consistent and putting in effort to making it work. Sounds like the type of relationship you have - very happy for you! 😊
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So so true. Wishing them the best ❤
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There’s different types of best relationships for everyone! :)
The best relationships are whatever works for the participants g
I was in a long distance relationship with my now husband for 4 years and because of COVID we weren’t able to see each other for 3 long years but we made it work. We are now married and together permanently. Good things take time indeed. Always cheering you, Dooby!
I was in a similar situation with my now husband before covid and I can agree that it’s worth it 😅 tough but worth it
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, but it also provides an opportunity for someone else to step in! I’ve seen many long distance relationships fail. The key is to have a defined plan of eventual long term reconciliation. Otherwise love can dissipate, and one left with the memory of what could of been.
@@michaelpark5681 It really depends on how long you don't see each other. i was lucky that my work send me to Korea every 2 months for at least a month. But when you hear some people not seeing each other for a year... that is something we both would never be able to hold on too.
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i had been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and we recently broke up. my take is long distance relationships have the potential to work out, only if you have a solid plan together - if there is a deadline.
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for about 14 months now, and I’m moving to live with him in two months. Trust me, this long distance thing it’s not the ideal, but it makes the relationship build up stronger because you have to focus in make it work without the touch. In my case, watching TV shows together helped a lot, and also being 100% clear in how we were feeling all the time. You got this dooby
yh id say that skills developed from long distance can be highly valuable. also proving that the relationship can work long distance too proves the strength of the bond imo
mmm i'd agree, but having witnessed a divorce after 6 years of long distance - moving in will reveal things about your partner you previously did not know.
Long distance can happen even if you are in same city with strict household 😅😅
Plus side to long distance relationships is you really learn to communicate. You're building a relationship based trust and faith. The energy needed to maintain a long distance relationship is not an easy thing to keep up with, but it’s positive energy that will help the relationship grow. You'll find ways to fill in those missing holes that a physical relationship has, but it'll strengthen it even more. It's an obstacle that you have to overcome if it's meant to be. Best wishes for you! :).
I agree, not just for romantic relationships but relationship with friends and family too. As currently me and some of my friends have a long distance friendship
the storytelling with the text and cooking is so nice to watch.
This is my first time watching a full video from you and seeing you being so raw with your being and emotion is truly refreshing. This is my first time in awhile where I felt so connected with the creator and I thought to myself:" I would love to sit and chill with her and talk about whatever!"
Long Distance isn't easy and it's certainly more work than a normal relationship, but it's worth it when it works out. Every relationship has ups and downs and that's just the way life goes. I wish you and your boyfriend luck, happiness and joy
@@michaelpark5681 Jeez... what is your issue
@@michaelpark5681 you continue to be all over her comments section video after video . You’re not going to get her attention (or her ) by this continuous hate you spew all over her comments . It’s boring now . Get a life so you don’t have to be so bitter constantly
@@michaelpark5681 Damn. So you can see the future eh? Can you see which finger I'm holding up at ya? 😉
@@michaelpark5681 this is totally unnecessary 😒
@@michaelpark5681 awww looks like korean boy is mad that korean girl is dating white boy
Been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now (7 hour time difference), and it's been tough especially during covid. But it has also been the most rewarding relationship where I've been forced to take it slow, learn more about myself and my partner. It also has forced me to learn how to deal with being alone and to find things that make me happy on my own. In the end, I would not change a day. I hope that in the end you find that the struggles have given you more strength rather than taken anything away from you! Love your videos btw, the vibes are so relatable ❤
Your videos have genuinely changed the way I take care of myself. I never thought it was worth my time to cook meals I enjoyed so I'd revert to unhealthy stuff or takeout food, but your vids have made me slow down and treat myself RIGHT lmao. Trying to keep my kitchen clean and use the cooking time to decompress! (Also this recipe was delicious)
Sometimes long distance relationships can be really good, because they help you still maintain a sense of personal identity. You also learn to really appreciate that person and their presence, you can really easily see the value they bring into your life. Once you are able to be together all the time again, I think the relationship can be a lot more profound than the average relationship
I'm loving the bangs and your vlogs ❤️❤️ you always make my day so much better!
As others have stated long distance relationships are very difficult. One pro to them is when things do work out you both tend to develop a very healthy level of communication with each other. Personally that is something I value a lot in a relationship. My longest relationship was just shy of 4 years and it was a long distance relationship. She unfortunately passed away a month before we hit 4 years but I genuinely wouldn't be the person I am now without her and it's been 4 years since then.
That's awesome and heavy at the same time, hope you're doing well!
@@Launders- Thanks that's very kind of you to say. I'm doing alright. Just trying to be the best version of myself that I can be. She would kick my ass if I weren't trying 🤣.
@@whatgoshere yeah, thats awesome.
Sending love. ❤
Dang. It's really cool to hear not just Dooby's but other people's experiences with long distance. I met my girlfriend in College while she was studying for her masters. She's Chinese and I'm Korean-American. She spoke Korean and I actually thought she was Korean at first lol. When she graduated, it was peak COVID time and Work Visas were on pause. With uncertainty, she decided to move back to China. Because of travel restrictions, we haven't seen each other in about 3 years. Finally, we found a workaround by meeting in Macau, but still in the process of figuring out the logistics and timing since we both work full time.
I love long distance because I really think it makes you focus on the important aspects of a relationship. You struggle and conquer insecurities you may have, you discover how to be open to build trust, and you develop patience for one another in a way that's honestly only possible through horrible wifi video calls that are time limited due to a 12/13 hours time zone difference. I think really amazing relationships can be built on long distance, but there's of course a lot of factors that go into where it heads. We were able to build a strong foundation before entering LD, so I think that was the only reason we were able to get through the biggest, initial hurdles.
may i ask how you guys managed with 3 years...I have to do 3 years of unexpected LDR, and im only in month 4, and it's been tough with the communication. When we're in person it's vastly different as he is not the best at being reliable through text. I've tried many times to lower my expectations but promises just fall through and it triggers my insecurities.
@@AriEllePhilia It definitely wasn't and still isn't easy. I was also HORRIBLE at texting and me and my girlfriend had some adjusting we needed to do in the beginning. The biggest part of how we got through was communication (ironically). We video call every day because 1) The time we get to talk, communicate, or see each other is limited because when I need to work, she's free and when she wakes up I need to go to sleep. 2) Texting is a huge part of Chinese Culture (WeChat). I honestly hate texting and I would rather talk on the phone, but my girlfriend has a lot of affirmation in a relationship with texting. It was the realization that for the LDR to work, there would need to be compromise and humility to give my girlfriend security that led me to actively develop that skillset. My GF shared her insecurities and her perspective, and so of course I wanted to do everything I could to give her security and affirmation. Part of this is also my personal values that had a factor as well. I don't date unless I'm intending on a future with someone in a marriage. I know she's the one I see myself sharing a life together, so I treat the relationship as I would in a marriage. Learning patience, flexibility, support, and communication to build upon a foundation of trust. We're not perfect and there are still times that BOTH of us may share insecurities once in a while, but by sharing with one another, we usually realize it's just in our heads. I do believe a lot of the responsibility falls on the man to understand what the relationship means. He needs to show effort and consideration to show that he cherishes and cares about the relationship. Not even just LDR but even if eventually you get married. You should never stop pursuing your significant other.
In a practical sense, I find sending pictures or videos sharing events that may have happened throughout the day to have helped. Also, I bought us a BOND bracelet (it sends a small vibration just to have another method of communicating to each other). As expensive as shipping is, we send gifts on 1 year anniversaries, birthdays, etc. but gifts aren't too big in our love language so this is just a plus. It's a culmination of a lot of little things and maybe a few big things. The main point is the active pursuit imo.
@@jjashekki thanks Joshua for taking the time to write your input. Unfortunately not all guys are as thoughtful or willing to put initiative like you. Seems like everywhere I go, whether it'd be support groups on reddit or discord, talking to helplines, friends or even my therapist. Everyone comes to the same consensus more or less, but it just doesn't work for my boyfriend. He is just that out of sight out of mind, oblivious. In person we are so much better and it made me feel defeated at the thought of the future. I tried to express what you wrote to me to him, he ended up not saying anything and fell asleep on me. I dont want to throw away 4.5 years of our relationship becaues of a few months into LDR. I am not sure what to do but ill just silently distract myself. I just so badly wish it could be as easy as it is when we are in person, but he just cant do it. Made things worse that he postpones doing activities with me and i accept his excuses and kept lowering my expectations, but idk anymore what is too much to ask for. It's hard not to get envious of what I read on forums and youtube comments,etc. seeing guys put in effort that I know is not too much to ask for but it seems impossible for him to be consistent in. I'm going on a tangent and youtube is probably not the best way to communicate all this, but i do want to thank you for your response.
@@AriEllePhilia just want to let you know that first off, everything will be ok. I totally understand and sometimes talking to strangers about personal matters can be easier than sharing with those that are close to you. I’ve definitely been there.
I’m not a licensed therapist and want to preface that this is all a matter of opinion for me, but you have the right to feel appreciated and should always have a sense of security with your significant other. There are ups and downs of course, but never let time be what dictates your decision and blind you from objectively examining your relationship. Grass is always greener, especially in social media. I found the best advice was not even advice at all, but hearing about other peoples struggles and experience overcoming adversities (lowest points) deepened a better understanding of what to pursue in a partner than looming at the “perfect” relationships. It’s still early on, but at the same time, you know the situation best. Sometimes you’re right for a guy but the guy might not be right for you. But I do wish you guys the best and your boyfriend has a wake up call to cherish what he has; a blessing. A relationship is a precursor to a partnership (marriage). You want to be with someone that you want to grow with, struggle with, laugh with, cry with, and experience every beautiful opportunity life has to offer. So, not in a self conceited way, you deserve the best.
long distance is never easy but if theres an effort on both sides its worth it alsoo lovee how ur uploading constantly love the content mama dooby
So well said ❤
It’s really not. Long distance is for people in denial
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@@sus425 I completely agree. I was in a LDR for a while myself. It honestly breaks my heart that all these people in the comments are lying to Tina about how it's gonna work out and this and that and the other. LDRs work out probably 1% of the time on a good day, and if it does it most likely won't last that long. Way to much effort and sleepless night because of the time difference for something that has less than 1% chance of working out. I wish her good luck either way.
I totally felt it when u said"my love language is quality time and physical touch" and that is so me! I was in long distance relationship for almost 3 years and it got so hard for me to stay put.. and eventually it didn't work, but the funny part is we're still great friends(idk what people might think about it but its okay).
I’m in a long distance relationship and it sucks! I’m strong enough to hold on as we coordinate our life together but some days I just break down and tell him “Please hug me.” Watching this gave me so much inspiration
I feel u😭
I never had a long-distance relationship but actually much more supportive since you've talked about it. I'm in love with the idea of love.
That part where you spoke about slipping possibly into the darkness/being sad is just the perfect example how you can make thousands of others feel normal and feel comfort. I'm sure your videos have helped so many, thank you for being honest 😊✨️🌸
I Know how it feels when you know you're slipping into a "sad 3 days" its like seeing a storm in the distance and you know its coming, keep your head up and keep finding the joy to life!
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I’ve now been in a long distance relationship for 14 months now and it really never gets easy. However there are some great positives that come out from it and I think that couples who have been in a ldr are more prone to stay together because they value their time together better. I know that every time I see my boyfriend we get closer and closer. In a way it allows both side to grow separately and together which is great because at the end of the day you are able to focus on yourself with knowing that you’re loved and supported! Arguments will happen and they will be worse than irl so communication is key; sometimes over communicating is better than under communicating! I hope your relationship goes well!
“Doesn’t really taste like anything, but sometimes I kind of want that”. Relatable. You really put into words a thought that I’ve been pondering for almost an entire lifetime 😄 Sometimes, our taste buds need a break. Our brain needs a break. Our digestive system needs a break lol! I totally get it.
I think it actually gets better as both sides adjust to the distance. The distance allows you to focus more on your emotional attachment rather than a mixture of that and physical attachment. It really deepens two people's relationship quickly. I'm sure everything will work out!
tbh sometimes I just sit down and eat with your video playing in front of me 😌you’re just such a chill person and I’m so glad that you’re doing better!! I would be one of those people in the comments trying to relate to you with the long distance relationships butttttt can’t say I’ve ever been in any relationship before lol
Your vlogs are very refreshing to me. Your rice looks sooo good.
Whenever Tina posts a new dooby vlog, I will be as focussed as a stalker stalking a colony of ants making sure i am their supreme leader
@@michaelpark5681 yeah true
If Costco is your therapy, your vlogs are mine. I love them so much, they put me at ease from all the studying stress I've been having from college, thank you doobyy!
Cooking in a clean kitchen, with some good music and no one around, PERFECTION
My husband and I were in an 8 year LDR, between Singapore and Canada.. I cried everytime we had to leave each other, it never gets easy. My love language was also quality time and physical touch. We found ways to spend quality time online together, and made Mid term plans (not giving ourselves too much pressure, being open about what the future holds). 8 years later, we got married :) he relocated to Singapore and we've been living together for 4 years ever since. Hang in there!
Haha girl, I came for food content and stayed for your mind and humor ❤️ thanks for the work you do and how much you share, can't be easy but it is appreciated
Doobies comment section is full of insights and engagement. People really pour their heart out to you.
God your videos are soooo comforting i dont know how to explain it but everytime im feeling down or depressed i always watch and wait for your weekly videos.
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Long distance is really tough, especially was during covid. But me and my boyfriend have pulled through it. However, he and I are still in long distance for work purpose, though we get to see each other every two or three months. He works from home for at least a month to stay close to me. I am blessed to have him in my life. And the awesome part is we are going on our first ever high altitude trek this October. Can't wait to finally see things falling in place as we will be completing 6 years this November. Writing this out really feels like so much happened in the last couple of years.
Glad you are making a special effort to not stay in a dark place. You have matured so much (in a cool way) since I started watching your channel! I love seeing different parts of Seoul.
I’m just happy your happy. Anything worth having won’t come easy and though it can be tough the hard times will only make the relationship better. Rooting for you always Doobs ❤
I see u again😃
yayyyyy! Ur uploading consistently now! and your videos are just so relaxing to watch! i cant stop watching them. they’e so satisfying! stay healthy ❤
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I’m rolling at your reaction to the crumble recipe. It makes me so happy that I’m not the only one that hates the food they cook sometimes. That actually gave me some confidence to keep trying new recipes. Thank you, I’m sorry it sucked😂
you know what i just realized that i love about you, you put the reasoning behind certain cooking tips/instructions--which makes it so much easier to remember and to understand why ofc!
Dooby the way you do your work always inspire me and Ijust want to be like you in my early twenties
Luv u 😊💛❤
Greatest Therapy for me has been reaching out to those who are in need of help/company. Like visiting random old people in nursing homes and sitting with them while they tell stories about their life or helping a random person do their gardening. I find the greatest joy and peace in life when turning outwards. Just my two cents, love the content you create! Keep it up 😁
This will make my day. I am feeling very low these days. Thanks Dooby ❤️
I love watching you. You make me remember that sometimes it's okay not to be okay, then get up back again. I watch your vlogs everytime!
Screw tv shows, I've never been more invested in anything than I am with these vlogs! Also, "everything's about to change"?? excuse me little miss cliffhanger?? I need the deeets. I'm also in a LDR so I've been relating to these videos more than ever omgg
I was in an LDR for 4 years, it didn’t work out in the end but I’ll never regret the time I spent, and the distance always made the time when you’re physically with them even more special.
im a nurse in brooklyn & i met this cute medical student on my unit. i gave them my number & went on a couple dates (lived our greys anatomy dream) and told each other that it wasn't going to be too serious because they were planning to go out of state for their residency and we didnt wanna do LDR.
7 months later, they're in california as a doctor while i'm still in new york but we're making this work! i love them so much & this has been the best relationship ive ever been in 🥺
come to cali! nurses earn more over here hehe
I love how you are using the pronouns
It ain't no secret that long distance is hard but in the end that applys to all relationships. My bf and I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year now and I 100% mean it when I say it's been the happiest time of my life. He and I met in discord and it was platonic but months passed and slowly it became something more. He asked "wtf we were" one night and we figured out not only what our relationship really was but what we wanted. I miss him like crazy everday but he's what keeps me going. He and I talk daily and I have all of my trust in him and I believe he's worth the wait no matter how long :)
I am in long distance relationship and trust me its hard but after 3 years i realized we need to balance our relation and not expect more from other person becz they are also busy in their schedule and time difference....
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Easily best content creator I’ve come across in the last 2 years. Totally not expected from my usual norm but loving every second. Thank you.
WE STAN A CONSISTENT QUEEN. Thanks for keeping the doobies entertained Tina, your consistency doesn’t go unnoticed by us! :)
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I think this video illustrates nearly all of the reasons why Doobydobap is quickly becoming one of my favorite vloggers.
can we just take a moment to recognize Tina as best in the game on music choice?? always hits 🎵
for those who live long distance from friends and family (especially with multiple time zones 🫠), we’ll get through it!
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love the way dooby expresses herself. thanks dooby. you always make me realize that i´m very important. love you and your channel as well. thanks for the video 😘
Amazing update as always Dooby! All the best in the long distance relationship! Till the next vlog! You're doing great! ❤
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Loving the music on this one dooby!!
effort from both people is needed to make it worth it in the end :)
How long has it been since doob gourmand!!!! Can't wait for it
I’m in a long distance relationship, too. I’ve never thought about that. In my mind, “loving a person who is far from you is impossible” but now it works on me
I dont know how far we can go together, but I know at this time, I’m happy for that
Dated my LDR boyfriend for 3 years, got married a few weeks ago and back to long distance again. Yes it can be hard, but it builds a level of space, maturity and a communication skill that I’ve never felt in any other relationship. We tell each other that the fact that we’ve made this work, means that when we’re finally physically together, we will get through anything. You sound happy and in a healthy place, good luck and hope you’re well :)
Long distance is shit with the wrong person but soo worth it with the right one. Learning how to communicate well will prepare your relationship for the better. I met my now-husband in 2010 and it took us 5 years to move together, but knowing we will see each other every summer kept us going! Now we've been living together and married for a few years and still best friends. 👌 Good luck tinadoo!
Long distance relationships are a nightmare. I tried it only once for about a year. It is too heart-wrenching every time you have to say goodbye for a while. I couldn’t deal with the trust issues and not really knowing what he was up to in my absence. I do not recommend it go anyone!
😳 I think you have other things to sort out before you enter any relationship
this randomly popped up on my feed and i'm not far into the video, but i was long distance with my boyfriend for 2 years due to having to go back to my home country when the pandemic hit (we didn't see each other once for the entire 2 years) and it was for sure difficult especially with a big time difference like yours (8 hours) and my love language also being physical touch! but with effort from both sides and planned lil dates and regular communication etc- it can definitely work! i found that it made me feel a lot closer to him in an emotional sense, as we couldn't be with each other physically. i moved back to his home country about 6 months ago and it just proves all the hard work was worth it! cheering you on and wishing you and your partner the best of luck 🫶
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Just started a long distance relationship after being together for 2 years (we met in Japan but he’s moving back to his home country). The first night without him beside me was the absolute worst haha. Haven’t cried myself to sleep like that in so long. We don’t have a definitive date yet on when we’ll meet again but we’re both pretty hopeful. :)
Hope you guys stay togheter forever and ever!
Sending lots of love from the states. Hoping all is well! Thanks for the amazing vlogs and being personal with doobies. You'll always have our support
Iam also doing long distance. It's pretty hard but I always try my best :)
mingu was one of my friends in high school! i was closer to his brother since we're the same age but it's so cool to see that i've been following you on tiktok then youtube since almost the beginning and you're good friends w him haha what a small world
Seeing dobby's consistency in making more vlogs is making my heart 😭💓💓
Giving you all the love ♥️ and hope you stay healthy & safe 🤲
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why is dooby so relatable. leftover food, the bad-tasting apple crumble, long-distance stuff... been there done that
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Im struggling with my own long distance relationship and this was so empowering to watch, made me feel less alone thank you
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Dooby you should do new things in the world like going into the night life of tokyo. streets of india. You know experiencing life. All of it. You got money. 🤷♂️. Thats what I would’ve done.
Lmfao!! You're face because they were closed was me 🤣😭
people who always talk der relationship in public will never last long
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im in the same predicament as well, long distance but its the best relationship ive been in. good things definately take time.
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Most of my relationships have been long-distance. And the only part of me that it has always satisfied, is the part when I can have some time alone. In my experience, I’d say that I always had a connection to, ‘the other’; which made me constantly pine for relationships, or at least, reactions with people from other cultures. But upon reflection, I guess it was, for me at least because I always felt good being overseas, or speaking another language. So, I attracted people. But I’m hind-sight, I now know it was because I used travel, exploration and learning other languages, cultures etc…as an escape mechanism. Now I’m happy-ish living back where I’m from. Because I’m in control of how I behave, who I interact with (not my family unfortunately, they always held me back and tried to force my focus on where I was from). Tell someone with Autism or ADHD that, they’ll do the opposite. But I took almost 10 years away from that rhetoric and I discovered myself without and outside intervention. Now, I’m much more happier alone and I don’t worry about even being in a relationship, cos honestly, it’s not for me; esp not in the traditional sense. You know, share the same bed 🤒, get married, live in the same country. No way is that supposed to be normal. Anyway, I’m ranting, but I want you to know that I’m so happy seeing you grow more and more online. I don’t know you personally and you probably cba to read this entire message. But a like-minded spirit supports you, unconditionally. Whether that’s distance, language, culture or whatever.
Take care love from England x
Maybe stop wearing a face mask when working out, its just stupid lol
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Long distance can be the easiest thing when you love someone. When you love that strongly, distance doesn’t matter. I would rather be with this person halfway across the world than with anyone in my own country.
Your videos and lil humorous matured educational subtitles are my all time therapy after weeks
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From my personal experience, the key to a successful long distance relationship is there being a path to be together at the end and know where that is. People that do long distance when the feasibility of being in the same place (both emotionally and physically) isn’t there just blows my mind. While independent space is essential, I can’t understand why people would want to be with someone where they are happy to be apart for long periods.
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Me and my wife were long distance for 2 and half years and we somehow made it work. It took a lot of trust, good communication and video calls to made the distance bearable. Good luck!
my wife and i dated for 3 years, long distanced for 5 and married 5 years now. those 5 years long distance really allowed me to focus on my career and when i was “rdy” we got married right away. not spending money on dating but investing in the future allowed us to be financially stable today. yeah we missed out on all the coachella and edcs but we became better people during our long distance.
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I think the most successful relationships are the ones who overcome a "challenge" together well. Going through a difficult time together will show that they are willing and able to support and communicate with each other in good times and bad. And that's kinda what we want in a life partner right? Someone who will be there in the good times and the tough. 💕
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you really are an inspiration to me. I have been battling depression and high Anxiety since 2019 and watching your videos has been one of the biggest helps. I was so sad when you took a break and weren't posting but have been elated ever since you came back. Please don't ever stop making videos ;)
I lived in California while my husband lived in England back when we were dating and we were long distance for years. It is hard but you can do it! You learn to appreciate eachother so much this way and it doesn't really leave room for any petty arguments or games to be played. We would organize movie dates on video call or sometimes eat meals together that way so we could spend that time like a "normal" couple. You got this! Good luck to both of you ❤️
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