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Hello Lynn . If you can be able to bring Gaterina of the famous show in Inooro Tv she's a great lady having passed through depression and a lot to teach us especially through fame and down due to life issues tu. Thanks in advance
I am so proud of you .it's taken you years to heal 😭. Thank you for saving lives because I know you are .I love you so much 🙏. Lynn we love you so much,God bless you for this platform.
I am so overwhelmed by all the love and encouragement! It’s crazy that most of us have the same story with abuse! I pray that each and every one of us is able to get past it and reclaim our joy! We deserve better! We’d rather be called names and ridiculed for leaving than be a hashtag after we’ve lost our lives! I truly thank all of you for being so gracious and Lynn for such an amazing platform! God bless you all ❤️
One thing that stands out in this conversation is that no matter what Idah went through with her marriage and the church, her relationship with God is still intact. 🙏🙏
She a strong person ...l like that she has set an example to the young persons who don't know what to do in the same situation...she has taught us to stand up to what we believe
Idah is such a beauty in and out.Havi ng interacted with her during childhood I also asked the same question she asked,Idah mwenye nilikuwa najua utotoni would not take this bulshit sorry to say coz alikuwa kinda tough,but I thank God for the woman she is today,coz out to the hard times,a gem came out.She is such an inspiration to many,I included.
Her voice is beautiful and strong Her command of English language is wonderful And her story makes us all empathetic Teaches us to remove the veil of the church and know God on our own
She is a very good storyteller between the crying and laughing this was a roller coaster. But I am thankful to God for the strength He has given Idah to share this with us. As a young lady I am educated and inspired ! Thank you Idah and Lynn.❤
She's so eloquent I love her vibe I remember watching her wedding in wedding show with Nonny Gathoni. .... anyway coming home from a failed marriage is better than coming home in a coffin
I can't imagine I've cried throughout her whole story, I'm turning 21 on Thursday and I've learnt alot, atleast you've helped me not to make mistakes, and you have a very beautiful voice btw, I also want to be an actress 🥺🥺I just don't know how to start... But thanks for your touching story... I love you already
I listened to Pascal Tokodi's wife when she called off her first wedding...when I see Grace Ekirapa today....I feel it was worth it. I won't get myself into something Iam still doubting. Thank you Ida for coming out.
I just love her voice and the way she is expressing herself with the correct choice of words. Na fans wa lynn ebu wacheni wivu ,if you like it crown it .
Thank you Idah Alisha - I have learnt a new phrase from you - "Trauma Bonding" - i will include this in the counselling sessions we give to singles wanting to be in a relationship and couples planning to wed
Hey Kim, glad to know you have a chance to help people to avoid such suffering. It would be nice if you study trauma in detail. It's not just a phrase but a complex phenomena, a reason why the majority stick in domestic abuse. You can't just apply, you need to understand. Trauma healing should happen beforehand. During premarital counseling such patterns should be applied. Unfortunately most people don't get that kind of help. They first get into trouble only to learn later
If you do this regularly, please read and always have on hand: 1.Things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman 2. Jesus, the gentle parent 3. Leslie Vernick's books 4. Lundy Bancroft's inside the minds of angry and controlling men 5. The body keeps the score 6. Esther Perel books/content 7. Non violent communication Marshall B. Rosenberg 8. Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie Nimemaliza... For now 😂😂😂. Usinichukulie vibaya but I find that we Kenyan family, friends and the church in particular hatujielimishi kwa mambo haya. We should not continue perishing for lack of (readily available) knowledge. And I hope one or 2 may also benefit from these. Baraka kwako na Mungu abariki kazi ya mikono yako Kimani
This here in my story.. unfortunately it broke me, I got mental disorder but through the pain God still is faithful. I walked away just as she did with my two sons.... His family told me "tumekupa 6 months ukule shida! Njaa itakurudisha...." Its been years and God ni yule msee
Just watching this after getting out of a one year relationship with a mental, emotionally and physically abusive boyfriend, he only started showing this side to him when she moved in together in the beginning of the year, the fact that your story just got recommended to me is a big sign that I made the right decision. Thank you for sharing your story and standing up for you. I wish you all the happiness you can get cause you deserve it
I really resonated with you when you said,"if you are raised up in an abusive family,you either become an abuser or a victim." Girl am genuinely happy for you. You are an overcomer and so much more.
I understand why zulu says the reason as why a lady should start thinking marriage when you are past 25 yrs.Makes alot of sense now .Sorry for what you had to go through and thank God you are stronger and sharing to inspire lot of people.
She said that because she was 21 she did know enough to see the sign and her ignorance caused her to put up with it for way to long and to not listen to her own mother's advice.
Who else is laughing and crying the same time ,she has gone through so much but is still full of humor,and her voice is iconic,Thank God your at a better place idah ❤️
Yess and she narrates it in humour. Lyn too had a great flow with her. I just love happy women. As for the man who had married her may he never know peace.
my ex was the same way, he used to slap me kwa road nikisalimiwa na mwanaume, I left the moment he took a harmer to beat me but it knocked the wall ... its now one year after i left and I also used to dream of him attacking me but i thank God he restored me am now happy and strong...Can never allow someone abusive in my life kama huniwezi tembeza
God bless Idah's strength and courage. She went through the fire and survived and now thrives. I'm truly glad she told her story! You never know what ears they may reach to those who need to know 1. Do not feel shame 2. You are not alone and most importantly 3. You have every right to walk away! Peace with you. ❤️
Its been two years since i left my baby dady and toxic relationships does nt mean physical only but emotional and mental. I really needed to be the best version for my son and i felt i was drowning mentally from my relationship. Thank you Idah for sharing your story
I've been through exactly the same, got married at 21 to the most narcissistic man I've ever known. To make matters worse he was the one making money and I had no job. I also had to move out of Kenya coz he was stalking me and even harassing my friends. I know better now! Thanks @Idah Alisha for sharing your story.
my story too ,married at 22 he was 29 n was soooo abusive for 9 good years wah its now 6 years since i left n wah this life u can just loose your life for society
Idah's story is so enlightening and a great inspiration to many ladies who have been made to question their worth and are in toxic relationships. I pray that ladies find the courage to walk out of toxic relationships. And of course, having a great support system like Idah's is the best blessing in life.
I'm 21 and Idah I love your story. You showing up and talking about this has really made me realize that marriage and church don't have to mean everything in life and from here onwards I'm confident enough to say No I don't want marriage if I'm not ready. God bless
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words and that's what your friends did to you I salute them all
I can't believe she was going through all that and she managed to appear on our screens ❤ thanks for sharing your story Olive🖐let's show love her love team LNN❤
This is what most women go through in their relationships. They suffer in silence. I'm glad that Idah was able to speak up on behalf of all those women.
This is so touching and inspiring. I also walked away from a narcissist and boom!!! All the blessings came my way. I could not drive my own car coz he used to tell me I’ll kill people and every time i got behind the wheel my legs just shook coz I dint wanna kill people!!….i did a prayer of divine mercy and God delivered me from that toxic relationship. I feel you mamah and your future is bright and blessed 🙏
My sister went through something like that, years of emotional abuse and months of physical abuse. She has two boys, when she decided to leave, her life changed. First thing I noticed was how shocked she was by her support system, especially our mum. Our mum is a single mum as well and she never knew what my sister was going through, but the minute she did, she was so supportive. I don’t know what my sister was expecting, but the support surprised her. As Africans, we shy away from emotional conversations, even telling family we love them and we'll be there for them no matter what. I think this needs to change. This may be why people go through hell for years, all alone.
We shy away and sometimes it's because not everyone will be understanding and supportive. In my case I was the talk of the family. Most of my relatives would see me and give me that disapproving look, talk about me without regard for my feelings and the fact that I had turned to alcohol was their only focus. No one wanted anything to do with me even after all the support I had accorded them through the years. My aunts would tell their grown up children not to hang out or talk to me cos nitawafunza tabia mbaya ( meaning watakua alcoholic kama mimi) . All in all God healed me and now I am happily single, healthy and wiser.
@@nekesamapesa I'm happy for you. My family, that is our other sister, mum and I enveloped our sister and nephews with so much love and support. Alafu we didn't even tell the extended family, she told whoever she wanted to know. Mtu akijaribu sijui nini, tunamkomesha. Extended fam will of course be messy and nasty abt it, but if your parents especially, are there for you. I saw with my sis that it really helps. I'm sorry for the crap you went through and I'm glad and proud of you for prevailing. Hug from an internet sister 🤗
I really relate to you both i have been there the beating even in front of my kidz this sad I'm happy you left i too left n am grateful to my pastor, bff Mariam n sharleen n mum who were my support till date thanks for sharing
I wish mom could support me..i was to live today morning...i packed my belongings n called to know if she could pick my kids from town,,cz was reporting to work but oops...my family had changed their mind.Am told i need to stay for my kids to have a father, this is the same father who is abusive to my kids emotionally..He told my First born ww utakua na maisha mbaya Sana..Mimi c Baba yako😭😭
She was almost forgotten in the Kenyan screens.....we wondered where she went and Lynn I personally I don't know about others but can't tell you how much we feel seeing her again ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Idah for your story 🔥🔥❤️
Oh wow she's so pleasant to listen to. The positive effect of therapy is so evident in her life, from the self awareness to the authenticity to the inviting calmness she exudes to profound growth in wisdom about relationships. Keep your head up Idah, God's assignment for you must be so massive and I can't wait to see you accomplish it.
i went through GBV for 3yrs in my marriage til he almost killed me the day i left i never looked back. Thanks Idah for leaving and saying leaving is very ok
Oh my God she's such a vibe. I grew up seeing her on our screen. To learn that she's been in an abusive relationship breaks my heart😭. Lynn thanks for letting Idah grace your show today. You're loved💖
Idah's story has relieved me in one way or another.Nothing feels bad like getting married to a narcissist.The world will judge you like they did to me but i chose peace for the sake of my daughter.I'm a divorcee and i don't regret.. happier being a single mother rather than being married to a toxic person 💯
As you have said. You have God's favour. That's why you had challenges. Your future is much brighter. Being on screens looked beautiful on you. Your friends are great too. Have more peace.
Hi sis proud of you,am asingle mum of 2 and had a narcissist husband for 8 years wooii I lost my sanity but am happy now and very peaceful after he kanyangad kubwa kubwa
I don't even know why I am watching this now, 1 year later. It is heartbreaking to hear this and all that you had to go through. I'm all in tears as I wat this. I am so glad that you have found your healing and continue to heal past this experience. Nobody should ever have to go through abuse. It is not justifiable at all. But what surprises me the most is that the church (represented by the individual who was assigned to offer counsel) failed you terribly. I wish you blessings and may your heart continue to restore you @IdahAlisha
Lynn as you keep gracing us with such moving yet educative stories, I suggest you purpose to see your therapist atleast once a month or after every story that weighs you down. You are human and traumas, anxieties, stress and depression are real. The public loves you and over 90% of those that visit your channel resonates with your content with appreciation. It's not good to lose you to anything that can affect you negatively. I love you and your content 100%. Keep it up gal
By far this has been the best interview i have watched in a while and has really been an eye opener. Thank you so much Idah for being vulnerable . You have really inspired me cz i was really at my lowest mentally!! God bless you!
Ever felt someone giving part of your story.... went through abuse at 26 and I thank God for showing me the door, starting all a fresh no matter how hard it was, even with the fact we had a wedding to happen! It's weird how someone can beat you up to a point of death and tomorrow is like nothing happened and still reminds you are a bride and wife to be and family is looking forward to the date! Manipulation.... in the eyes of other his an angel but in the house you can not explain who you live with.... Great encouragement LNS.... Ladies /Men run for your dear life and happiness..... Never settle for less for you might not see tomorrow No one should stay with a violent person no matter what!
Idah, you are such a inspiration. I'm so glad you are able to talk about this. I believe so many people will be helped by your story. You have come so far. You are a gem💎💎
That’s such a wonderful story, let anyone going through any kind of abuse in a relationship should learn it’s okay to get out as early as possible to avoid a disastrous ending
I understand her pain because me too i got married when 17yrs old and went the same way mpaka ika lead to getting married again by an old man who died this year January since i fear young men
It's difficult to get out sometimes, especially when you find yourself in a foreign country where you don't know anyone. Am just praying for helpers to come my way. Am just hopeless right not.
Hey Lynn it's a pleasure to listen to Idah, especially now that she's our heroine, she a representation of some of us who also walked out at a very young age. At your own time, I'd like to tell my story on your channel and encourage young women on the importance of moving out. I personally lost myself, my child taken away, suffered with depression and ended up in drugs. Being married to a cop character debeloped me real bad. I am doing better now and no longer depending on alcohol
I get encouraged listening to this...i was married for 1.5 years and i choose to walk away after soo much emotional and verbal abuse. The guy was a pastor but I thank God i did coz i could be dead right now. I relinquished all my savings and i never/will never look back to anything. i started from zero with great lessons with me. I love the progress that i have made so far n i thank God.
Idah thanks for sharing this very touching story of your life. Many women are staying in abusive marriages for 'the sake of children' without understanding how much damage they are doing to themselves n the children as well. This is very enlightening. May God continue to uphold you by His grace.
I remember 8 years back I was with a man who worked so hard to see me dead be would beat me up like I was a thieve and at the same time take care of me...I too turned to alcohol and became a full blown alcoholic and after very many incidents and struggles I was literally taken out of that house. Skip forward to last year when he found me again and was apologetic (did a good job of acting with tears and all) then proceeded to declare that he had realised I was his soulmate...I feel that I let God down by trying to consider that maybe he had changed and grown up..luckily before I could go back to him he told me a story about how his wife (the one he used to beat me about) was a bad woman and he would bad mouth her. That's when God asked me ' Nekesa do you remember all the shame, tears and pain you used ask me to take away from you! And now you want to cheat yourself that this guy is sorry!" That's when I woke up.Been single 6 years now and I have learned so much on what isn't acceptable in any relationship.
@@Keenytravels tribe tena???? Hahah a good Man comes in any colour and tribe, you marry your own and he turns wild pray to God to bring your true match
Also was married at 18 to a narcissist but ithank God i finally got the courage to walking away,am 23 now and a mom to a five year old and my choice was the best gift i ever gave myself and my daughter.
For those of us who can relate with so much. Those of us who were harshly judged by society for walking out of marriage. The silent battles we had to fight and still put a fake smile to just show the world we are doing okay, salute!
I feel your pain Idah Alisha, I was in an abusive relationship, right here in Kansas City USA, am a Kenyan from Mks, been here for almost 20 years, but my relationship caused me my children, my two daughters were adopted out because I refused to leave!! There is a lot I can say but thank you for speaking out for us. I moved out of that relationship, I got remarried and I have a son, but still fighting to get my daughters back!! Thank you sister!
Thanks Idah for sharing and showing me that there is joy and peace on the other side of dealing with a narcissist. Its 7 months since i left one and everything about your experience was the same except the physical violence. The control of your freedom, finances, social circle etc. The phycological abuse was too much. I lost who i was but i am slowly getting myself back. I lost everything i had earned and made and i had to start again. But God is faithful he is seeing me through.
I better receive my daughter from a broken marriage than to receive her as a dead body!Your story will for sure change lives. No matter how much of a celebrity or how much you have put your relationship out there, when it is time to walk away, go without thinking about bloggers, society, family or friends.Focus on you. Be selfish for ONCE and give your self some love by walking out of that abusive, toxic and death sentence marriage.
You just spoke my mind. We think so much on what people will think or say. Selfish in such situation is allowed. I always tell my daughter if the relationship is toxic, run before it’s too late. I wish all parents could embrace this and stop the shenanigans that “vumilia tu and we will pray for things to get better”. A leopard can never change its spots. PERIOD!
What stood out for me is her courage. Also I love she had a great support system that helped her through her healing journey. It's important to have people who give you a safe space. 🙏
Good morning team LN. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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Thank you so much for watching:)
Idah your beautiful 🥰
Hello Lynn . If you can be able to bring Gaterina of the famous show in Inooro Tv she's a great lady having passed through depression and a lot to teach us especially through fame and down due to life issues tu. Thanks in advance
Sad story and also funny 🤣🤣🤣😳
I am going through the same and looking for a way to overcome. Everyone says I have a problem in the mist of many toxic people
Idah you are beautiful inside and outside ♥️
I am so proud of you .it's taken you years to heal 😭. Thank you for saving lives because I know you are .I love you so much 🙏. Lynn we love you so much,God bless you for this platform.
and Kate you have been a true friend to her!
We need friends like you Kate you did a great job May God bless you🙏🏻
Friends like Kate ❣️
Hi Katey 😘
Kate actress receive all the love 💜💜
I am so overwhelmed by all the love and encouragement! It’s crazy that most of us have the same story with abuse! I pray that each and every one of us is able to get past it and reclaim our joy! We deserve better!
We’d rather be called names and ridiculed for leaving than be a hashtag after we’ve lost our lives! I truly thank all of you for being so gracious and Lynn for such an amazing platform!
God bless you all ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story ❤.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️it's very inspiring
God bless you Idah! Thank you for being brave with your story. You have touched many souls🤝
Your story 🥺is just so inspiring. Thanks for sharing it🥺❤️.You are truly the real definition of "strong" 🥺❤️.
Thanks for sharing.
Who else lowkey loves Idah's voice?😍😍
Meeee🤭🤭🤭
It's literally obsessive
Yooh😍
not low key for me,I love such voices, beautiful
It's obsessing
I went through the same with a youth chairman for 2 years, it's God that I'm here writing this. We thank God for you Idah!
Her English is bomb... Talk of her voice... Let's all agree we can listen to her speak all day
She could be a good voice on radio too if not yet there already.
Kuongea n humor ka za cate kabisa
It's like am watching cate they have alot in common
You know aaaaw sweet 😊
She's a whole vibe!!!
'Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.' - Maya Angelou
True
Powerful peace beautiful
I love this
True
Amen
One thing that stands out in this conversation is that no matter what Idah went through with her marriage and the church, her relationship with God is still intact. 🙏🙏
very key
wow....
Church people can be evil but not God. It's important to understand that.
True
Her mum raised her in Godly ways
Hope Idah will know that she has just saved thousands of lives.
❤️❤️❤️
She a strong person ...l like that she has set an example to the young persons who don't know what to do in the same situation...she has taught us to stand up to what we believe
I have been there still am.....I completely agree. More women need to come out by God's grace. May God heal whoever reading this
Power to all the women who walk away from abusive relationships. Love should never be toxic.
Same to men
Hahahaha 🤣🤣🤣 ntakufa nkiwa 78
Aki this is so my story
@@leahwanjiku3566 This is why men do not and will never come out and say their shit because all they get is ridicule :) .
Idah is such a beauty in and out.Havi ng interacted with her during childhood I also asked the same question she asked,Idah mwenye nilikuwa najua utotoni would not take this bulshit sorry to say coz alikuwa kinda tough,but I thank God for the woman she is today,coz out to the hard times,a gem came out.She is such an inspiration to many,I included.
Her voice is beautiful and strong
Her command of English language is wonderful
And her story makes us all empathetic
Teaches us to remove the veil of the church and know God on our own
I love 💕 to be like u
Why is this lady not on radio? Her voice just wants you to keep listening 🎧.
True😃
English please English
Ako radio huko majuu.....
Very true
And vibes too
She is a very good storyteller between the crying and laughing this was a roller coaster. But I am thankful to God for the strength He has given Idah to share this with us. As a young lady I am educated and inspired ! Thank you Idah and Lynn.❤
A broken engagement is better than marrying the wrong person.
A broken marriage is better than lying in Langata.
Kudos for walking away!!
You can say this again I relate a lot to this story but thank God the wedding never happened 🙏🙏
That's true
Be blessed with this th-cam.com/video/ppPIiGHhSO/w-d-xo.html
What about prostitution and cheating??? 🤷♀️
@@kathleendonna5550 why are Soo bitter have read your comments it's about time you understand that abuse is real stop demonizing the victim
Leaving/quitting marriage is the hardest but worthy decision. Thank you both Lynn for the platform and Idah for sharing your story
She's so eloquent I love her vibe I remember watching her wedding in wedding show with Nonny Gathoni. .... anyway coming home from a failed marriage is better than coming home in a coffin
I can't imagine I've cried throughout her whole story, I'm turning 21 on Thursday and I've learnt alot, atleast you've helped me not to make mistakes, and you have a very beautiful voice btw, I also want to be an actress 🥺🥺I just don't know how to start... But thanks for your touching story... I love you already
Nakwambia am also 21 but it’s good we are out here getting what we need
I listened to Pascal Tokodi's wife when she called off her first wedding...when I see Grace Ekirapa today....I feel it was worth it. I won't get myself into something Iam still doubting. Thank you Ida for coming out.
Recently a Nigerian lady called off her wedding and refunded all expenses used
Where's the interview, I would love to listen to it?
Watu wenye tulifanya Kifo kisimani, Utengano and The River Between 💯 pita na like 👍. It was awesome ✅
Best set books
@@lindagatwiri869 yess
I just love her voice and the way she is expressing herself with the correct choice of words. Na fans wa lynn ebu wacheni wivu ,if you like it crown it .
Thank you Idah Alisha - I have learnt a new phrase from you - "Trauma Bonding" - i will include this in the counselling sessions we give to singles wanting to be in a relationship and couples planning to wed
Involve me
@@faithmwendwa9276 - how can i involve you? How can i reach you
Hey Kim, glad to know you have a chance to help people to avoid such suffering. It would be nice if you study trauma in detail. It's not just a phrase but a complex phenomena, a reason why the majority stick in domestic abuse. You can't just apply, you need to understand. Trauma healing should happen beforehand. During premarital counseling such patterns should be applied. Unfortunately most people don't get that kind of help. They first get into trouble only to learn later
If you do this regularly, please read and always have on hand:
1.Things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman
2. Jesus, the gentle parent
3. Leslie Vernick's books
4. Lundy Bancroft's inside the minds of angry and controlling men
5. The body keeps the score
6. Esther Perel books/content
7. Non violent communication Marshall B. Rosenberg
8. Whole Again by Jackson Mackenzie
Nimemaliza... For now 😂😂😂.
Usinichukulie vibaya but I find that we Kenyan family, friends and the church in particular hatujielimishi kwa mambo haya. We should not continue perishing for lack of (readily available) knowledge. And I hope one or 2 may also benefit from these.
Baraka kwako na Mungu abariki kazi ya mikono yako Kimani
This here in my story.. unfortunately it broke me, I got mental disorder but through the pain God still is faithful. I walked away just as she did with my two sons.... His family told me "tumekupa 6 months ukule shida! Njaa itakurudisha...." Its been years and God ni yule msee
Only weak men do this,,,keep winning honey
God is so faithful,watangoja sana
Amen
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 proud of you
May you always have enough for your sons.
There's so much resemblance between Idah and Cate especially how they both speak and i totally love these two women , it is good to hear her story
This is the comment I was looking for
Me too. I was wondering why no one is seeing the resemblance
My thoughts exactly
Exactly, I noticed the same before reading the comments
My thought too. Hadi humor ni zile tu za cate na kuongea kiuk in btwn conver
The fact that her relationship with God is still intact after all that is everything!
I also love that. Her faith is Intact ❤️🙏
Just watching this after getting out of a one year relationship with a mental, emotionally and physically abusive boyfriend, he only started showing this side to him when she moved in together in the beginning of the year, the fact that your story just got recommended to me is a big sign that I made the right decision. Thank you for sharing your story and standing up for you. I wish you all the happiness you can get cause you deserve it
Pole kagendo
I really resonated with you when you said,"if you are raised up in an abusive family,you either become an abuser or a victim."
Girl am genuinely happy for you.
You are an overcomer and so much more.
I can connect
God is great .you are so beautiful am happy for you coz you never loss hope. I like the show.
No one is taking about her voice weeh💖💯🥳
Thats wonderfully God is good am happy for you go gal that is a testimony all this yrs God was there with you know you are here be still am God
I understand why zulu says the reason as why a lady should start thinking marriage when you are past 25 yrs.Makes alot of sense now .Sorry for what you had to go through and thank God you are stronger and sharing to inspire lot of people.
Grew up watching her on TV . She’s so beautiful.. it’s so sad hearing what she went through. Glad she’s at a better place now ♥️
Yeah May God fight for us 🙏🙏
Yes she looks familiar aki 🤔
Hi my favourite couples
Wow Annette nice seeing you here kwa Lyn 😀
Hey Annette good to see you here ulitoka ushago ☺️
Abuse didn't happen because you were 21,it actually happened because the man was abusive.
She said that because she was 21 she did know enough to see the sign and her ignorance caused her to put up with it for way to long and to not listen to her own mother's advice.
Who else is laughing and crying the same time ,she has gone through so much but is still full of humor,and her voice is iconic,Thank God your at a better place idah ❤️
Yess and she narrates it in humour. Lyn too had a great flow with her. I just love happy women. As for the man who had married her may he never know peace.
Me here mehn she is strong
I 💯
🤣🤣🤣🤣 true
As young,and stunning she is,some men
my ex was the same way, he used to slap me kwa road nikisalimiwa na mwanaume, I left the moment he took a harmer to beat me but it knocked the wall ... its now one year after i left and I also used to dream of him attacking me but i thank God he restored me am now happy and strong...Can never allow someone abusive in my life kama huniwezi tembeza
I love that Lynn is such a keen and avid listener. She's also empathetic, she always have a place in her heart for everyone. God bless you so much.❤️
God bless Idah's strength and courage. She went through the fire and survived and now thrives. I'm truly glad she told her story! You never know what ears they may reach to those who need to know 1. Do not feel shame 2. You are not alone and most importantly 3. You have every right to walk away! Peace with you. ❤️
She speaks so beautifully and she's such a character, a whole vibe. So much love.
A whole story told by a beautiful soul with a beautiful voice...Mothers should live forever to receive us back when we cannot take it anymore🤲
Ameeen
Her story is a voice to many suffering in Silent. That was a Brilliant interview. Thanks both💖
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Walking away from abusive marriage is always the best decision
Coz this people never change no matter how many times they apologize
They even have a lovely way to package the apology nkt!
Am glad she's free.... Most Pastors should learn to be human surely 😢😢
Ladies you look gorgeous 😍
Good to see u here😍😍
@@FOOD-RECIPE-m8n 😅😅😅.. thanks ❤️
Its been two years since i left my baby dady and toxic relationships does nt mean physical only but emotional and mental. I really needed to be the best version for my son and i felt i was drowning mentally from my relationship. Thank you Idah for sharing your story
Proud of you❤️. You are doing amazing
I've been through exactly the same, got married at 21 to the most narcissistic man I've ever known. To make matters worse he was the one making money and I had no job. I also had to move out of Kenya coz he was stalking me and even harassing my friends. I know better now! Thanks @Idah Alisha for sharing your story.
Kudos to you dear for walking away u definitely made the right choice
Strong Woman
Congratulations for being strong ☺️💪
Same my story 😂😂 woiii ahk
my story too ,married at 22 he was 29 n was soooo abusive for 9 good years wah its now 6 years since i left n wah this life u can just loose your life for society
You don't know how much your opening up has done to the world.thanks Idah thanks Lynn
Despite all she went through, her humor is everything.
I said the same thing to myself😂
I'm in tears.... Kwani gari ilikuosha
😃 sure
🤣🤣🤣aky..
lyk ulilala kwa gari na ulicome ukismell geisha😅😅really
Lyn, I think what stands out for me is your empathy. The ability to get into someone's shoes and feel what they are feeling. You are blessed ❤️
She has a gold heart
she is beautiful and wow ametoka far God is good.
Idah's story is so enlightening and a great inspiration to many ladies who have been made to question their worth and are in toxic relationships. I pray that ladies find the courage to walk out of toxic relationships. And of course, having a great support system like Idah's is the best blessing in life.
I'm 21 and Idah I love your story. You showing up and talking about this has really made me realize that marriage and church don't have to mean everything in life and from here onwards I'm confident enough to say No I don't want marriage if I'm not ready. God bless
You are a wise lady
Qqqq,,,
@@hannahwanjiku1930 I was gonna say that...She's really wise.
Keep pursuing wisdom Ann...You are a wise young lady😇
Thank you so much 🥰
Love that she can make fun and now laugh about her experience. Her growth is evident.
The vibe
The smile
It tells it all....you have really healed
Love you idah
To every woman who've walked away from an abusive marriage,just know you are so brave and strong... congratulations to us all... it's well😍
We deserve medals 🏅 sis with God and prayers we will be fine 🙂 🙏 🥰😍
@Furaha...ooh Yes, He's a faithful Father.
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This is so powerful🔥🔥I am 21 too currently and I also feel young to get married...
You are really enlightening many of us Ida..
And your voice🔥🔥🔥🔥
I love that part “ wacha ni jue Mungu kivyangu” you’re a brave woman gal.🥰😍
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words and that's what your friends did to you I salute them all
Wow love the words
I can't believe she was going through all that and she managed to appear on our screens ❤ thanks for sharing your story Olive🖐let's show love her love team LNN❤
This is what most women go through in their relationships. They suffer in silence. I'm glad that Idah was able to speak up on behalf of all those women.
Women should have the courage to get out to listen to the society
This is so touching and inspiring. I also walked away from a narcissist and boom!!! All the blessings came my way. I could not drive my own car coz he used to tell me I’ll kill people and every time i got behind the wheel my legs just shook coz I dint wanna kill people!!….i did a prayer of divine mercy and God delivered me from that toxic relationship. I feel you mamah and your future is bright and blessed 🙏
You just spoke to my heart. Thank you 😊 💓
Ooh no..that one was so determined to create nothing but fear in you!!
Well done for walking 🚶♀️ out
My sister went through something like that, years of emotional abuse and months of physical abuse. She has two boys, when she decided to leave, her life changed. First thing I noticed was how shocked she was by her support system, especially our mum. Our mum is a single mum as well and she never knew what my sister was going through, but the minute she did, she was so supportive. I don’t know what my sister was expecting, but the support surprised her. As Africans, we shy away from emotional conversations, even telling family we love them and we'll be there for them no matter what. I think this needs to change. This may be why people go through hell for years, all alone.
We shy away and sometimes it's because not everyone will be understanding and supportive. In my case I was the talk of the family. Most of my relatives would see me and give me that disapproving look, talk about me without regard for my feelings and the fact that I had turned to alcohol was their only focus. No one wanted anything to do with me even after all the support I had accorded them through the years. My aunts would tell their grown up children not to hang out or talk to me cos nitawafunza tabia mbaya ( meaning watakua alcoholic kama mimi) . All in all God healed me and now I am happily single, healthy and wiser.
@@nekesamapesa I'm happy for you. My family, that is our other sister, mum and I enveloped our sister and nephews with so much love and support. Alafu we didn't even tell the extended family, she told whoever she wanted to know. Mtu akijaribu sijui nini, tunamkomesha. Extended fam will of course be messy and nasty abt it, but if your parents especially, are there for you. I saw with my sis that it really helps. I'm sorry for the crap you went through and I'm glad and proud of you for prevailing. Hug from an internet sister 🤗
@@2mw_ke thank you so much. Hugs right back at you
I really relate to you both i have been there the beating even in front of my kidz this sad
I'm happy you left i too left n am grateful to my pastor, bff Mariam n sharleen n mum who were my support till date thanks for sharing
I wish mom could support me..i was to live today morning...i packed my belongings n called to know if she could pick my kids from town,,cz was reporting to work but oops...my family had changed their mind.Am told i need to stay for my kids to have a father, this is the same father who is abusive to my kids emotionally..He told my First born ww utakua na maisha mbaya Sana..Mimi c Baba yako😭😭
She was almost forgotten in the Kenyan screens.....we wondered where she went and Lynn I personally I don't know about others but can't tell you how much we feel seeing her again ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Idah for your story 🔥🔥❤️
I love the fact that she embraces the simple things in life. That's how it should be.
1a
Oh wow she's so pleasant to listen to. The positive effect of therapy is so evident in her life, from the self awareness to the authenticity to the inviting calmness she exudes to profound growth in wisdom about relationships. Keep your head up Idah, God's assignment for you must be so massive and I can't wait to see you accomplish it.
Amen! I claim that word
Her story acts as an eye opener when choosing a life Partner . She's such an inspiration .GBV must end
GBV must end.
i went through GBV for 3yrs in my marriage til he almost killed me the day i left i never looked back. Thanks Idah for leaving and saying leaving is very ok
It takes courage for Idah to share her story and God will take her places. She did the best thing to tive to tell her story. Go girl. Love yourself.
Oh my God she's such a vibe. I grew up seeing her on our screen. To learn that she's been in an abusive relationship breaks my heart😭. Lynn thanks for letting Idah grace your show today. You're loved💖
Oooh Lord. I found myself laughing and crying at the same time. I love the energy she has and how she tells her story. Thank you Lynn.
Wow!
Idah's story has relieved me in one way or another.Nothing feels bad like getting married to a narcissist.The world will judge you like they did to me but i chose peace for the sake of my daughter.I'm a divorcee and i don't regret.. happier being a single mother rather than being married to a toxic person 💯
This was my life 4 years ago. I thank God I got confidence to leave. He saved me
I hope you are okay and healed. Hugs and love to you and your daughter.
As you have said. You have God's favour. That's why you had challenges. Your future is much brighter. Being on screens looked beautiful on you. Your friends are great too. Have more peace.
Be blessed stwie
Hi sis proud of you,am asingle mum of 2 and had a narcissist husband for 8 years wooii I lost my sanity but am happy now and very peaceful after he kanyangad kubwa kubwa
I don't even know why I am watching this now, 1 year later. It is heartbreaking to hear this and all that you had to go through. I'm all in tears as I wat this. I am so glad that you have found your healing and continue to heal past this experience. Nobody should ever have to go through abuse. It is not justifiable at all. But what surprises me the most is that the church (represented by the individual who was assigned to offer counsel) failed you terribly. I wish you blessings and may your heart continue to restore you @IdahAlisha
Lynn as you keep gracing us with such moving yet educative stories, I suggest you purpose to see your therapist atleast once a month or after every story that weighs you down. You are human and traumas, anxieties, stress and depression are real. The public loves you and over 90% of those that visit your channel resonates with your content with appreciation. It's not good to lose you to anything that can affect you negatively. I love you and your content 100%. Keep it up gal
Yeah. She needs to debrief from time to time.
I agree too ...
So true..
Idah Alisha i guess we share the same story gal but i love how strong u
Very true !
By far this has been the best interview i have watched in a while and has really been an eye opener. Thank you so much Idah for being vulnerable . You have really inspired me cz i was really at my lowest mentally!! God bless you!
It gets better❤️
Apart from being a strong lady, Her voice is extremely calming🙏
Ever felt someone giving part of your story.... went through abuse at 26 and I thank God for showing me the door, starting all a fresh no matter how hard it was, even with the fact we had a wedding to happen! It's weird how someone can beat you up to a point of death and tomorrow is like nothing happened and still reminds you are a bride and wife to be and family is looking forward to the date! Manipulation.... in the eyes of other his an angel but in the house you can not explain who you live with....
Great encouragement LNS....
Ladies /Men run for your dear life and happiness.....
Never settle for less for you might not see tomorrow
No one should stay with a violent person no matter what!
We call them 'street Angeles and house devils'. They have the Jackell, Heid personality!
Hea 🌹
No one is talking of how her English is nice😍her Voice is lovely
Very nice English
The comment I was looking for 🔥
Very very nice English
Very very nice n her voice inapendeza.
It on point 🔥 can listen to her all the day
The eloquence in Idah's voice is just amazing 😊
What a powerful interview. Such a relatable experience that will serve to empower so many other victims of DV and GBV.
I love you Idah for your courage you deserve better
It's her voice for me.
Being a 24yr old,have learnt a lot from Idah.
Thanks for sharing.
Lynn you're one in a million we love you because you help us heal through this interviews.
Idah, you are such a inspiration. I'm so glad you are able to talk about this. I believe so many people will be helped by your story. You have come so far. You are a gem💎💎
Thank you so much!!!!! Thanks for being there when I needed y’all the most
@@IdahAlisha God will keep you, open way for you dear.
Your strong woman.
That’s such a wonderful story, let anyone going through any kind of abuse in a relationship should learn it’s okay to get out as early as possible to avoid a disastrous ending
I understand her pain because me too i got married when 17yrs old and went the same way mpaka ika lead to getting married again by an old man who died this year January since i fear young men
It's difficult to get out sometimes, especially when you find yourself in a foreign country where you don't know anyone. Am just praying for helpers to come my way. Am just hopeless right not.
Hey Lynn it's a pleasure to listen to Idah, especially now that she's our heroine, she a representation of some of us who also walked out at a very young age. At your own time, I'd like to tell my story on your channel and encourage young women on the importance of moving out. I personally lost myself, my child taken away, suffered with depression and ended up in drugs. Being married to a cop character debeloped me real bad. I am doing better now and no longer depending on alcohol
That's true girl...
This story relates to this Nigerian Woman who died few weeks ago her name was Osinachi, the greatest gospel Singer may her Soul Rest in peace 😢
Some of us cry with her because we can relate.I have relived my past through her today.thank you for sharing
I get encouraged listening to this...i was married for 1.5 years and i choose to walk away after soo much emotional and verbal abuse. The guy was a pastor but I thank God i did coz i could be dead right now. I relinquished all my savings and i never/will never look back to anything. i started from zero with great lessons with me. I love the progress that i have made so far n i thank God.
The people hiding behind the name "pastor" 😭😭😭😭... There's a special punishment for them
You are doing great. I'm proud of you❤️.
Idah thanks for sharing this very touching story of your life. Many women are staying in abusive marriages for 'the sake of children' without understanding how much damage they are doing to themselves n the children as well. This is very enlightening. May God continue to uphold you by His grace.
I remember 8 years back I was with a man who worked so hard to see me dead be would beat me up like I was a thieve and at the same time take care of me...I too turned to alcohol and became a full blown alcoholic and after very many incidents and struggles I was literally taken out of that house. Skip forward to last year when he found me again and was apologetic (did a good job of acting with tears and all) then proceeded to declare that he had realised I was his soulmate...I feel that I let God down by trying to consider that maybe he had changed and grown up..luckily before I could go back to him he told me a story about how his wife (the one he used to beat me about) was a bad woman and he would bad mouth her. That's when God asked me ' Nekesa do you remember all the shame, tears and pain you used ask me to take away from you! And now you want to cheat yourself that this guy is sorry!" That's when I woke up.Been single 6 years now and I have learned so much on what isn't acceptable in any relationship.
You made the best decision ever. My sister was in the same situation too but left after saying to God "If I go back to that man let him kill me"
Big narcissist they will cry and lie and love bomb just to get you back then punish you further, so glad you did not go back
I'm young and I swear I learn alot from these comments too. What was your man's tribe?
@@Keenytravels tribe tena???? Hahah a good Man comes in any colour and tribe, you marry your own and he turns wild pray to God to bring your true match
You did great and never regret leaving qn abusive man,,
"if I had half of what my mother is,my kids are good to go"
Not sure if I got all the words right but this touched me.
If I am half the woman my mother is then my kids are set
That part she said that God woke her up from her sleep twice.. that part impacted something in me. God is Real and he is a Great Father. Ilove him.
And the security door was opened
When you believe in a supernatural God,you are moved by such stories.im glad she mentioned that
Sure
Yeah and I believe her...because I know he is ever present if we call on him.
Also was married at 18 to a narcissist but ithank God i finally got the courage to walking away,am 23 now and a mom to a five year old and my choice was the best gift i ever gave myself and my daughter.
Wooow❤️I was watching this at my weakest and I feel so energised already . Much respect Lynn to you and your guest.
I like that Lynn is always part of the stories..she cries with her guests ☺️☺️
Her voice, eloquence,vibe, voice everything about this gal is just 👌👌👌
I second you
I second you
I don't want this interview to end wooooiye... I can listen to her the whole day. 10.05.2022
For those of us who can relate with so much. Those of us who were harshly judged by society for walking out of marriage. The silent battles we had to fight and still put a fake smile to just show the world we are doing okay, salute!
We are doing okay babe ❤.
We did that
Am the today's version of idah
Everyone here have walked out🤣
This reminds me of everything I went through. Thank God I found the strength to walk out with my daughter
mi too I walked out with my baby girl and I really thank God
I feel your pain Idah Alisha, I was in an abusive relationship, right here in Kansas City USA, am a Kenyan from Mks, been here for almost 20 years, but my relationship caused me my children, my two daughters were adopted out because I refused to leave!! There is a lot I can say but thank you for speaking out for us. I moved out of that relationship, I got remarried and I have a son, but still fighting to get my daughters back!! Thank you sister!
I hope you get your daughters back.. Hugs and love to you beautiful
Pole sana.
Hugs
Hugs🤗
Pole sana ..hugs🤗
Thanks Idah for sharing and showing me that there is joy and peace on the other side of dealing with a narcissist. Its 7 months since i left one and everything about your experience was the same except the physical violence. The control of your freedom, finances, social circle etc. The phycological abuse was too much. I lost who i was but i am slowly getting myself back. I lost everything i had earned and made and i had to start again. But God is faithful he is seeing me through.
I have been in a very abusive relationship so bad I moved out recently when I was almost killed with a knife . Good to hear such encouraging story
Sorry dia
When you see that ka knife Run kabisa and don't look backwards! Kimbia and weka restraining orders...coz those to knifes guyz are Bad
Power to you, I pray you heal
Hugs ❤️
Iam so happy for you that you finally left cheers darling.
So many people in relationships suffer in silence.. Thank you for sharing your story. Love should never be toxic.
I better receive my daughter from a broken marriage than to receive her as a dead body!Your story will for sure change lives. No matter how much of a celebrity or how much you have put your relationship out there, when it is time to walk away, go without thinking about bloggers, society, family or friends.Focus on you. Be selfish for ONCE and give your self some love by walking out of that abusive, toxic and death sentence marriage.
You are very true
The same society and bloggers will say "she should have left her abuser" when she is dead.
that is the truth
You just spoke my mind. We think so much on what people will think or say. Selfish in such situation is allowed. I always tell my daughter if the relationship is toxic, run before it’s too late. I wish all parents could embrace this and stop the shenanigans that “vumilia tu and we will pray for things to get better”. A leopard can never change its spots. PERIOD!
Her courage to speak up touched me...the church has been made a hiding place by abusers and I think it's time we learnt to move out when it's not safe
Exactly 💯
She's such a star ⭐✨ she did the best chosing herself over marriage. Big up Idah 👏👏👏💯
What stood out for me is her courage. Also I love she had a great support system that helped her through her healing journey. It's important to have people who give you a safe space. 🙏
Thanks Lynn for bringing idah on board she motivates many single mothers out here ❤❤