“I am seeking to grow, not to become that which I am not, but in order to manifest what I already am.” I just cannot get enough of TK Coleman. When he speaks, I just listen.
Years ago, I took a flight from Minneapolis to Houston to see you guys live. That was my first solo trip which has caused a ripple effect to where I am now. I have been living minimally for years since watching you on Netflix. Thank you for all you do
This is probably one of the best episodes I've seen you guys make, thank you. This was SO important for a lot of us to hear. I hate the question "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" or "What are your goals for the next 5 years?" These questions always stress me out SO much because it makes me feel like I HAVE to come up with some sort of plan to be and feel valid as a member of society. I should feel happy just being here, isnt that enough?
I've watched much of your content and, for some reason, something in this, the way it was phrased by all of you, made me quite emotional because I no longer feel alone in the way I view goals and success. Thank you. You guys really instill so much sense and I appreciate what you do so much.
Having low expectations, high standards is a healthy, positive belief (knowing) to integrate in our lives. Living in the moment, accepting things and people for what they are and not having the need to change them has been a huge plus in my life. Being grateful for everything that happens in life. They are blessings or lessons or both. My "goal" in life is to uplift myself and others along the way. Thank you for your constant inspiration.
Love this! I’ve been a goal chaser most of my life … first my Ph.D., then tenure. But, I missed out on the “things” (which aren’t things at all) that I think make one successful and that’s having a family and children. My picture of a successful person is an old woman surrounded by her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. I won’t be that woman because I’m already somewhat older, but I still have life left, so change can happen.
Reminds of me of how I always respond to people that I don't make new year's resolutions. First of all, I don't have to wait for the new year to want to do something. And if I start doing something, that's it. I don't chase after a target. I want to eat cleaner, I just eat cleaner. Not eat cleaner so that I can achieve 'X'. What's important to me is that I consistently follow through, regardless in a big way or a tiny way.
I think *the great(er) goals are* not defined by or found in numbers, quantity, and so on, and more so *in being, quality, values, impact, meaning, purpose, soul fulfillment, contentment at a deep soul level, and authenticity.*
“Goals” the worst part of my 30 year corporate job. The last 15 years were exhausting. They had zero daily standards with unreasonably high expectations. Train wreck
Reminds me when talking to a friend about a weight lifting program and he said “I want to get my bench to 225x10”. I said “then what?” And he looked puzzled and moved on to a different topic.
Low expectations, high standards Goals are an attachment to an outcome Feeling of inadequacy and the need for validation that you are adequate You don't need goals
I couldn’t agree more with this video! I remember feeling inadequate a few years ago because I regretted who I was, but the moment I accepted who I was, I became a much happier person. Thank you for the video.
Can you two or your team cover about building a healthy relationship with maintenance? Throughout my life, I worked extremely hard to achieve the things I want in life. For example, houses and cars. I love it when it’s new, but when I start to have to deal with maintenance, I just want to get replace it. Overall, I’m content with where I’m at. I don’t have the urge to upgrade my life. I want to sustain it, but maintenance is really kicking me in the butt.
Jesus, I was continuously running after my goals and not being the person that I already were. But I was always the person who I was becoming, who I wanted to become!
As a 23 year old it's hard not feeling like I should have 1000 goals before I ruin my life with no ambition. I feel like my version of success is not reasonable at my age.
Just sorting my mind in here... Right now my "highest" expectation and goals are - to afford rent, energies, food and other necessities. I am nice human being in the sense, that I don't want to work hurting people, doing not-moral things, and not be in the toxic enviroment. After two years of covid, now war has started in the neighbourhood. And I am un-employed, running out of money and energy to deal with this world. My goal was to be happy, content in the here and now sense. In these trying and challenging times, with priorities I don't want to left here, so no moving out, and with my high-morals for job - I don't know where there is a way out and still staying alive. I was never succesfull in the meaning of picture perfect, I was social worker, and now - I don't know how to save myself. And I am opet to ideas. :)
If you were assigned you as a client, what would be small steps you would advise your client to take to feel better? You are worthy and deserving person. Take the skills you used and learned to help others as social worker and use it now to help you. I am sending you virtual hugs and prayers for Lots of blessings.
👏 👏 👏 I think it’s okay to want to grow, but not healthy when you expect it to be an inclining slope. I suggest be authentic to yourself and figure out why and if it falls under your value. The how? man, you just have to figure it out. Start somewhere, do it, and keep trying, because one answer does not fit all. What’s that saying, “it’s not the the goal, but the journey”. When you get there, you’ll be even more proud that you’ve found a way to get there with your own hard work and knowledge that aligns with your strength, weakness, and value. Even if you don’t reach your goal, you did your best and that’s enough. Sometimes I should take my own advice. 🤣
Zen teacher Henry Shukman talks about "shelving the goal". Ie have the goal there, but then come back to the present moment. (I'm sure I've done a terrible job paraphrasing him). I have been, for many years, a goal-chaser, and it's definitely not a recipe for happiness. Progress happens one day, one hour, one minute at a time, and can be enjoyed now.
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k It's hard. My life is becoming less.voring as I've tried very hard to find ways to make it interesting, but still ... I'm creating a personalised religion for myself to at least give me an illusion of meaning, but it's not enough. It's really hard to make mundane life interesting unless you're wealthy and have interesting friends.
Guys, you should start traveling around the world, you will find a lot of supporters, adequate people. The world is on the edge of exploring from being overstuffed.
“I am seeking to grow, not to become that which I am not, but in order to manifest what I already am.”
I just cannot get enough of TK Coleman. When he speaks, I just listen.
He's incredible wise
🙏😇🙏 GENIUS 🙏😇🙏
This sounds like the real meaning of life
"low expectations, HIGH STANDARDS!" 👏
Years ago, I took a flight from Minneapolis to Houston to see you guys live. That was my first solo trip which has caused a ripple effect to where I am now.
I have been living minimally for years since watching you on Netflix.
Thank you for all you do
This is probably one of the best episodes I've seen you guys make, thank you. This was SO important for a lot of us to hear. I hate the question "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" or "What are your goals for the next 5 years?" These questions always stress me out SO much because it makes me feel like I HAVE to come up with some sort of plan to be and feel valid as a member of society. I should feel happy just being here, isnt that enough?
I've watched much of your content and, for some reason, something in this, the way it was phrased by all of you, made me quite emotional because I no longer feel alone in the way I view goals and success. Thank you. You guys really instill so much sense and I appreciate what you do so much.
Having low expectations, high standards is a healthy, positive belief (knowing) to integrate in our lives. Living in the moment, accepting things and people for what they are and not having the need to change them has been a huge plus in my life. Being grateful for everything that happens in life. They are blessings or lessons or both. My "goal" in life is to uplift myself and others along the way. Thank you for your constant inspiration.
Love this! I’ve been a goal chaser most of my life … first my Ph.D., then tenure. But, I missed out on the “things” (which aren’t things at all) that I think make one successful and that’s having a family and children. My picture of a successful person is an old woman surrounded by her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. I won’t be that woman because I’m already somewhat older, but I still have life left, so change can happen.
Reminds of me of how I always respond to people that I don't make new year's resolutions. First of all, I don't have to wait for the new year to want to do something. And if I start doing something, that's it. I don't chase after a target. I want to eat cleaner, I just eat cleaner. Not eat cleaner so that I can achieve 'X'. What's important to me is that I consistently follow through, regardless in a big way or a tiny way.
I think *the great(er) goals are* not defined by or found in numbers, quantity, and so on, and more so *in being, quality, values, impact, meaning, purpose, soul fulfillment, contentment at a deep soul level, and authenticity.*
Very well stated. Thank you so much!
Advertisement free, what a relief 😉, God bless...
“Goals” the worst part of my 30 year corporate job. The last 15 years were exhausting. They had zero daily standards with unreasonably high expectations. Train wreck
procedures for the sake of procedures
Reminds me when talking to a friend about a weight lifting program and he said “I want to get my bench to 225x10”. I said “then what?” And he looked puzzled and moved on to a different topic.
I think what they are getting at is to not be so fixated on outcomes and to allow come what may.
Always ask yourself, "To what end?"
"Growth not as an Intaking but as an Outpouring of your richness"
Ryan got the toes out on stage, very minimalist of him haha
Low expectations, high standards
Goals are an attachment to an outcome
Feeling of inadequacy and the need for validation that you are adequate
You don't need goals
I couldn’t agree more with this video! I remember feeling inadequate a few years ago because I regretted who I was, but the moment I accepted who I was, I became a much happier person. Thank you for the video.
Can you two or your team cover about building a healthy relationship with maintenance?
Throughout my life, I worked extremely hard to achieve the things I want in life. For example, houses and cars. I love it when it’s new, but when I start to have to deal with maintenance, I just want to get replace it.
Overall, I’m content with where I’m at. I don’t have the urge to upgrade my life. I want to sustain it, but maintenance is really kicking me in the butt.
Jesus, I was continuously running after my goals and not being the person that I already were. But I was always the person who I was becoming, who I wanted to become!
Yes, good to talk to Jesus about your life.🙏
Amazing. Exactly what I need to hear right now.
10:54 Ryan you brought tears to my eyes❤️
Thank you for being such beautiful people and sharing your light with the world 🙂
As a 23 year old it's hard not feeling like I should have 1000 goals before I ruin my life with no ambition. I feel like my version of success is not reasonable at my age.
What goals? I just want to spend as much time with my Dad before he goes. And earn an honest wage in which I can support myself in my old age.
Just sorting my mind in here... Right now my "highest" expectation and goals are - to afford rent, energies, food and other necessities. I am nice human being in the sense, that I don't want to work hurting people, doing not-moral things, and not be in the toxic enviroment. After two years of covid, now war has started in the neighbourhood. And I am un-employed, running out of money and energy to deal with this world. My goal was to be happy, content in the here and now sense. In these trying and challenging times, with priorities I don't want to left here, so no moving out, and with my high-morals for job - I don't know where there is a way out and still staying alive. I was never succesfull in the meaning of picture perfect, I was social worker, and now - I don't know how to save myself. And I am opet to ideas. :)
If you were assigned you as a client, what would be small steps you would advise your client to take to feel better? You are worthy and deserving person. Take the skills you used and learned to help others as social worker and use it now to help you. I am sending you virtual hugs and prayers for Lots of blessings.
I feel like a caveman when I listen to these guys!...lol...dont always agree, but they are so well spoken!
I did really enjoy your book. Thank you
👏 👏 👏
I think it’s okay to want to grow, but not healthy when you expect it to be an inclining slope. I suggest be authentic to yourself and figure out why and if it falls under your value. The how? man, you just have to figure it out. Start somewhere, do it, and keep trying, because one answer does not fit all. What’s that saying, “it’s not the the goal, but the journey”. When you get there, you’ll be even more proud that you’ve found a way to get there with your own hard work and knowledge that aligns with your strength, weakness, and value. Even if you don’t reach your goal, you did your best and that’s enough.
Sometimes I should take my own advice. 🤣
Zen teacher Henry Shukman talks about "shelving the goal". Ie have the goal there, but then come back to the present moment. (I'm sure I've done a terrible job paraphrasing him). I have been, for many years, a goal-chaser, and it's definitely not a recipe for happiness. Progress happens one day, one hour, one minute at a time, and can be enjoyed now.
Oh, hell yes!
Spoken very well by all.
Gratitude 🌺
This is gold
Thank you. Felt satisfied for whatever I am today.
Is Ryan still a chair? lol Great vid!
I cannot find any goal that inspires or motivates me. Yet living my purposeless life is boring and frustrating.
this is exactly what I'm currently struggling with too
@@user-dq2ym1nn9k It's hard. My life is becoming less.voring as I've tried very hard to find ways to make it interesting, but still ... I'm creating a personalised religion for myself to at least give me an illusion of meaning, but it's not enough. It's really hard to make mundane life interesting unless you're wealthy and have interesting friends.
Thank you
Guys, you should start traveling around the world, you will find a lot of supporters, adequate people. The world is on the edge of exploring from being overstuffed.
Thank you.
This is impresssive
Love from india ❤️❤️❤️
Maybe this has been covered somewhere but what are the parallels to Stoicism?
Check out our podcast episode with Ryan Holiday!
But it's impossible if we living without goals. Maybe what you mean here is unnecessary goals.
If living a high standard life; one doesn't need goals. This is what they are saying.
QUALITY NOT QUANTITY. Once an old Shepherd told me about it .He had seen it all. Done most. Gave us the conclusion in order to save us a lot of time.
Seems like a semantics thing.
I think what they are getting at is to not be so fixated on outcomes and to allow come what may.
@@jzen1455 right. He stated that the goals were stressing him out. I agree, goals stress me out.
Goals work for me, sorry.
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