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I truly believe that there are good people it's hard to find real people personally I don't have true friends but I see some people who have lots of friends always wondered what iam doing wrong it seems like I am in the wrong place
This isn't a lie and for some reason overbearing people just want to try to implant themselves into your life in some aspect. Like your coworkers all of a sudden think you are this big family and half the time you think they are assholes so no why would I buy you a birthday card amd place money in it. I don't even want to see you while I am here much less hang out with you on the other side of those doors. Also my position only required I be friendly towards you not friends with you amd so as long as I am doing my job properly you shouldn't be a le to hold my life hostage to whatever relationship you believe I should have with you thats obviously not work related.
@@Rowan-mo4ko You've spoken my life experiences... indeed. Sometimes, people just need to learn how to read the room or the person. It doesn't mean the person is in a bad mood, or it doesn't mean something has to be "going wrong" because we're not engaging or being talkative as a group. Sometimes or even most times, people/I simply just don't have anything to say or add to the discussion.
I can totally relate! There's something really special about finding peace and happiness in solitude. It's a great opportunity to recharge and focus on ourselves. Keep enjoying those moments of tranquility!
I've come to find that any physical pain I experience around people actually goes away when I'm alone. At first I thought maybe I was on my feet too much or I was straining myself doing too much physical work, but then it would go away when I went home. I've really been wondering about that lately.
I’m the same, but a part of me feels like Im abnormal and I should be doing more stuff with other people. Then I do, but when I get home again I feel like I wasted my day.
@MaxineShaw-de7bh Does it matter? You enjoy your own company. That says a lot about you, your confidence and your ability to just get on with it. Without any drama. I lived with someone for 35 years. The last ten have been the happiest of my life. Drama free. Make my own choices. Do and go where I want. If people are friendly, I'm just as friendly. If people do not fit, I avoid. Find it less stressful. Best of luck to you. Like me, may you be happy in your loneliness. Ohhhhh, sorry for the bud, bad assumption, my apologies.
A smart ass this Seneca - with the emphasis on the "ass". Some people are driven to come up with "words of wisdom" all the time to deflect attention away from the fact that they are pretty stupid.
I'm disabled now and apart from work Its hard for me to get out. I lost all my friends as a result of my disability. I wasn't excting, flexible for going out etc, I learned that they weren't diamond friends after all. I was sad at first . Now I realise they were fake friends and they're loss, but I do miss connections. I have only my pets now. They are always there to love me unconditionally. I'm ok with that ❤. I would say to all of you reading if your able to get out in the world and make connections to do it. You never know when your life will do a 360 flip as in my situation and become disabled. I'm young too. Life is always changing so takes opportunity when it knocks. Blessings to all 🙏
Yes,i empathize with you. I’ve been ignored because I don’t gossip, or talk about mundane things. I love reading, writing,talking about quantum physics and such, gardening etc. most people find that boring, but then again i find those same folks uninteresting…so it’s a win-win.😂
I am also disabled. When I first became disabled, the superficial people fell away. At first I very depressed about tht, I am ok w tht now. I prefer the company of my cats more than most people.
im still kind, others can't abuse it anymore, as i refuse to give myself up, what others do to me, i won't, cuz this is me, and we are very very few left.
I have lived the last 10 years mostly alone. I have 2 dog's. There are people in my life now. But it's mostly me. I always like to be alone more than with people. I came here alone, and leave alone. Everything in life will teach me.
Life proliferates all around us, yet all living things are individual units of that life. Sectionality and compartmental existence is all our experience. Some, group into sets and subsets...or even hurds. Others follow spontaneous mobs. And then there are those that depend on themselves. Perhaps a kindred life may be beneficial at times, however...no truer words have been said than we arrive alone, and leave the same way! Don't fear the quiet time spent with yourself....many spent lifetimes trying to reach inner reflection while being embedded into large social groups....they never knew that quiet, solitary passage of time in our own company is the way to find our true inner selves! I wish you good journey on your unique path. I will walk mine as it may be!
As a lonely man, I rather be lonely than have any friends. Most were trash. Many discouraged me to achieve my goals. Some got jealous and always tried to out do me. Some took advantage of me. No one cared about me and cared more about themselves. I had enough of people. I rather be alone
I understand. You had friends since you were 6 years old. Get back to your school friends. They don't give a damn about your success (or failures). Find them and refresh that friendship. BTW You don't have any real friends at the moment. Ask yourself why. (I have no idea why because I don't know your life).
@user-xd9xy5yl9l Those friends I knew at age 6 are the ones who convinced me to steal things with them at age 11 and I got arrested while they ran away leaving me to rot. Doesn't matter anymore. I'm a multi-millionaire. I used to beg people for them to be my friend and even cry. I wanted to pay them $1000 dollars to go to Las Vegas with me in my 30s. They were all trash in the end. None of them were loyal.
I can relate on all the levels you've pointed out...didn't matter whether they were childhood friends or people you're related to by marriage thinking I'd have a new experience having "sisters,", or people you thought you were having a connection/vibe with. I always say don't go against your instincts or discernment and definitely know when to let go once the mask comes off no matter how difficult, disappointing, or sad it makes you feel because there's never denying the truth no matter how far back the friendship goes and once you begin to reflect on things over the years, you begin to realize that their jealousy/envy or resentment and insecurities had always been there, it's just they were "given a pass" or it was brushed off and overlooked. But sooner or even many years later, the mask comes off and there's the truth staring you in the face. To make it easier to cope with I just slowly began to distance myself until it was easier to cut ties completely.
I’ve always wanted friends but never really had any. I am now okay with being alone because alone has always been there from a child to an adult. Now as an old woman I can understand why people are okay with their loneliness. It’s nothing to be afraid of embrace it and not let it scare you.
"Want" is a burden. You want friends. I want the moon 🌙. Want/thirst is the source of our sufferings! Most men want beautiful young bubbly women (see all the video clips out there of these women). The men (moon guy included) who want this will never have enough. Want.
If loneliness is all you knew, it's all you will know. If popularity is what you knew, loneliness is a torment you will know. Sadly I'm feeling the latter
@@This_tubliked what you wrote. Guess I’m somewhat in the middle now but have been to both sides. Retired early a few years ago and it was quite the eye opener. Not many stayed in touch and even now I find myself reaching out more than I’m reached for 😢. Makes me believe I don’t and didn’t know how to be a good friend…
John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. Proverbs 18:24 NKJV A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
@@ChosenOne1967 John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. What kind of friendship is that supposed to be? Sounds more like master and slave.
You must have interests which others have, even just talking here suggests a certain value you look for, being a loner is hard. I hope you can make a friend with a meaningful connection, if not I still hope you live a life of value. You can grow and find tolerable people, I hope this helps in some way.
John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. Proverbs 18:24 NKJV A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I'm never lonely. I know that's a blessing because so many people are. I wish I could bottle how much I like being alone and give it to those who don't.
Thank you, As an introvert, I will take those actionable steps to become exceptional at creating meaningful connections meanwhile weaving my life's tapestry a single thread at a time
I appreciate your commitment to personal growth and meaningful connections. Keep taking those actionable steps, and you'll surely become exceptional at creating the connections you desire.
I have 5 adult children..all are trustworthy and loving. They are my friends beside my wife of 63 years. No drugs in the bunch and no criminals..I am blessed..thank you Lord.
John 15:14 (NKJV) You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. Proverbs 18:24 NKJV A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that you're open to travel companions. It's always nice to have someone to share new experiences with.
About 4 years ago all my friends seemed to just fall away. It seems odd but I am happy to not talk much anymore. That is my 1st thought every morning.....thank goodness I don't have to make conversation. I am very grateful that my spirit brought me to Hawaii 20 years ago so surrounded by beauty that it makes everything just fine.❤
I can understand how it must feel odd for your friends to just fall away, but it's great that you've found contentment in not having to make small talk every morning. It's wonderful that Hawaii has brought you so much beauty and peace for the past 20 years. It sounds like you've found a true sense of happiness and tranquility there.
Me too! Maui.....jungle and quiet.....loud singing birds. Im a therapist, I literally despise small talk. I define friends as those that understand this and can tolerate silence.
Interesting. It was 4 years ago, roughly, that my cleansing happened. Everyone was removed from my life. They attacked, betrayed, abandoned. Whatever... It hurt, but I am actually ok with it. They point figures and say I am at fault, but truthfully I feel more insightful and present in myself than I ever have. I was just drowning in unhealthy people most of my life.
I started and run a women’s group. We hold space to witness each other. We listen with attentiveness and compassion. Listening deeply is a gift to be treasured ❤
@@jemezfun9767Repent and know Jesus everyone, God created us in his image,He knew you before you born. He knows your thoughts and intentions of your heart.and wants to have relationship with you through His son ,/ Jesus shed blood atonement for sin.Read the gospel of John, Mathew, .
@@Joel-yi8gbJesus" 17:29 ,I am the way,the Truth and the light,no one comes unto the father but by me." Etrnity with the creator of the universe who loves you.or etrnity in hell that was meant for the devi- the demons, not us , Jesus work on the cross, blood atonement, Free from sin and power in the name of Jesus over the devil and sin, and healing. Jesus/ the Holy Spirit want to enter into your heart and life ( abundantly).
Stoicism ,,many have suicided, while God/ Jesus wants to have relationship with man ,whom he created in His image.,and Loves you , but the devil is a deciever,( hell is real place meant for him & his demons, not us) We make the choice ,for eternity. Read the gospel of John. Mathew , Jesus is Lord of all, Healer, consoler, lover of our souls
It has been awhile since I found your channel and want to say how much I have enjoyed your videos. Over my 70+yrs. I have learned and practiced stoicism before I was aware it was a philosophy. Today's videos had phrases I have used over life. I have always believed life is a tapestry and each person we meet is a small thread, sometimes they become long threads and interwoven in different parts. My personality type is an INFJ, so I love spending time alone. As my life is getting shorter, and I am retired, I have found time to reflect and enjoy looking back at my tapestry to see all the colorful threads and patterns that have been created. Thank you for your work.
All of my friends went by the wayside. Either due to drug addiction or mental illness. One moved to China and stayed. I tried and could never make connections like the ones I had in my teens and 20s. And I'm OK with that. I know it sounds cliche. But I'm married to my best friend. He's literally my favorite person in this planet and had been since I was 15. I never loved or cared about anyone like I care about him. We both have had friends come and go. And avoid making new connections because people are tied to drama. And we just don't want that. I badly want to make new friends now because I get lonely. But finding and making new friends in this day and age is not easy.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It can be tough to find genuine connections as we get older, especially with the prevalence of drama in social circles. It's great to hear that you have such a strong bond with your husband, and I can relate to the desire for new friendships without the drama. It's a delicate balance to strike, but I hope you find the right connections in due time.
To make friends takes having a real interest in others and taking time ... to desire friends to serve our need for company ...that is what some may consider frirndship. Ugh. Self-centred thinking poisons potential friendships.
I've been dumped and rejected by so many. Now at 50 I only have two friends, I wish it was easier to make new friends in this day and age. I do have a wonderful boyfriend now, who's definitely my best friend. But I do crave a really good girl friend. It's challenging not knowing many people but it has made me look at myself and change somewhat for the better.
thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's totally okay to outgrow friendships and prioritize your own well-being. Quality over quantity, right? Wishing you all the best as you navigate through this new chapter in your 30s.
My Life is finally on the right track and I refuse to let just anyone take my alone time. I treat everyone with kindness, but only 2 or 3 have access to my personal life.
I used to count up how many close friends I had. Once, it was 25! Was so proud of myself. I grew up, learned to love being by myself, prayed for self love every am and now “only” have three fabulous best friends. I can give and receive more, with less. I realized I didn’t need a “crowd” to love and be loved. I also married my soul mate for 25 years. I’m good now.
When you said you know, you don't know. When said that you have enough, you don't! 3 friends or indefinite friends is the same when one realizes that we are interconnected.
I used to feel like something was wrong with me because I was a loner. Now at almost 40, I'm very comfortable and happy with the fact that I'm a shy loner. I'm happy keeping to myself.
Thank you for reminding me I shouldn't compromise what I believe in just for the sake of having friends who don't share what I believe, as well as actively chipping away trying to force me to change. So it's better to have zero friends in life than sticking with those who want to force me to change just to be with them.
I have come to understand that the lack of social interaction, has a far more important effect, so being alone, increased my need for spiritual growth, and changing old addictive behaviours, which trapped me into thinking I needed these people. Becoming my authentic self, took its toll, by way of losing many acquaintances, friends and long term friends as well as close intimate friends. My main reasons for being abandoned, became obvious when I couldn’t participate in usual outings and activities and home visits, through developing a chronic lung disease, after a heart attack. Sickness sorts out the sheep from the lambs when it comes to honesty and intention.
Perfect video, I felt like I wanted to abondon my friends but deep down I knew that was not the answer, because its people I trust which is rare these days, I listen to them not with intent to reply, but with intent to get a deeper understanding of what they are going through, life is rough but we should know that these are times where we should stick together as one and not leave one another, I love them and I am very hard on them because of this factor, it hurts me seeing them get hurt because I want to protect them, but I know this is not possible, because that's the world we live in, you have to be strong and the only way to achieve this, is to exsperice it for yourself, and add stoicism to your way of living, to aid in identifying future opportunities and build unbreakable bonds with people you trust
I lost my best friend at seven years old. The last time I saw her was in her coffin. I don't have friends, I am happy to be alone. Debt free and happy. ❤ I am working on myself to be healthy physically and mentally.
I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I am about all your helpful content. I often throughout my life have felt left out, ignored, skipped by or totally and directly mistreated even by my own closed love ones " like my own mom"! I have always tried to be positive and ignored the negative but now and over my 50's I can't help but notice it. I get ignored even at church! Can't help but wonder " what's wrong with me" ?!
There is nothing "wrong" with you - you have merely associated with inconsiderate people, and have been too dependent on other people's opinions. Develop a sense of self, and confidence, and realize that your own sense of self-worth is more important than the petty opinions of shallow people.
In all honesty, I must follow Biblical truth: "A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." -Proverbs 18:24 ** As a writer, I spend the better part of my days alone… Creating stories, and enjoy it immensely! The majority of people you meet along the way in life, are only acquaintances… If you can count all of your genuine friends on one hand, that is a blessing from heaven! 🇺🇸✝️🇺🇸
Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's true that genuine friendships are a true blessing. Creating stories and spending time alone can be incredibly fulfilling, and it's wonderful that you enjoy it so much. It's important to cherish the few genuine friends we have and appreciate the unique bond we share with them. Keep embracing your creativity and the joy it brings you!
I love spending time with myself. I never feel lonely or like I miss people. I find it to be very peaceful. The only people that are my true gems are my man and my daughter; they delight me with their creative thoughts, unique perspectives and sense of humour. They bring enriching layers into my life without drama, stress, and fakeness.
When I'm going through a rough time, that's when my "friends" abandon me. I've lost touch w people because after I reach out over and over without reciprocation, I eventually stop and understand they take our relationship for granted. Sometimes it's easier to be alone.
@@maryalex1401 i honestly don't know. I just started to notice they were acting differently. I asked them twice but they just kept pointing fingers at each other. nobody really wants to answer. At least let me know so i can correct my mistakes if i had done anything wrong. And if i did you know i don't mean it. so they kept in silence. i just got tired at that point. it's like im begging for friendship. we've been together for years and i can't even get a simple explanation.
@@StoicAbsoluteRealmSAR Hello again, my friend, thank you for your reply. Well, It could most likely all be due to their insecurities, jealousy of you etc. Also take into consideration that there are simply many people out there who do not really value true friendships and are inconsiderate of the implications of their actions. And Even if they do come back in the future, things will never be the same again. The damage now is irreversible and you wont be really able to become close friends again. Try and accept and validate the loss and move on. Seek for deeper connection with things in life. You will be a lot stronger, independent and true to your self. Peace to you, friend. 🙏🏻
You are absolutely right. although i didnt think of that first coz i dont want to be negative about it. but I really think its jealousy and insecurity. Yes, i found meaning to everything now. Thank you! I came across this message yesterday " God reduced my circle because he heard conversations i did not" Peace and Love my friend!@@maryalex1401
At school i had a few good friends who i lost contact with when went different ways. I worked very very hard having started with nothing and became quite wealthy. Over the years nearly every friend I've had in the end always wanted something from me. I enjoyed you presentation and it made me think about two friends i still have whom i don't keep in regular touch with. They've never asked anything of me. So its time to spend a little more time nurturing those valuable connections. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's great to hear that my presentation resonated with you and prompted you to reflect on your friendships. It's important to recognize and nurture those valuable connections in our lives. Wishing you all the best as you spend more time with your two friends.
The interesting thing is that’s how a lot of people are with their friends in general. I live a modest life, but I’m who friends and family go to in their time of need also. I think it’s just how many humans are. Fortunately , so far,I don’t feel taken advantage of. I imagine if they thought I was wealthy it might be different. Yes, I suggest you foster those friendships…. 🙏🏼❤️
I was very social when I was younger. As Marcus writes, life narrows. As I have aged my circle of friends has grown smaller but the three I have left, I cherish. Thank you for this video ❤
not trying to sound conceited, more what i believe to be an observation. there is an extra layer of challenge when you are attractive and feel like people just want to talk to you to flirt with you or to be sexual. even the same sex sometimes. i can tell and pick up on it quick. they fumble their words....cant look at me in the eyes too long....or if they do they stare too much. it sucks because i never quite know what goes on inside their minds and many times i dont want to know. imagine being the fantasy of a sick dude? feels disgusting just being in the same room as them. so because of this reason...i stay away from many people. you can just tell right off the bat if they have a sick mind. something about the way they stare.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It must be really frustrating to constantly feel like people are only interested in you for superficial reasons. It's great that you're able to pick up on those vibes quickly and protect yourself from potentially uncomfortable situations. It's important to surround yourself with genuine, respectful individuals who appreciate you for who you are beyond just your appearance. Keep staying true to yourself and trusting your instincts.
Friends were not true to themselves or anyone else, friends they run away, when you need them and your left alone to deal with everything alone (so it doesn't matter and waste of time.) You will be just fine. "WITHOUT TRUST you have NO RELATIONSHIP of ANY KIND!"
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It can definitely be a challenge for introverts to find lasting friendships, but know that you're not alone in feeling this way. Building meaningful connections takes time and patience, so don't be discouraged.
Growing up, friendships were strongly discouraged by my parents. At thirteen I experienced betrayal at the hands of a best friend. Now at 47, I have no meaningful relationship outside my sister. I interact with those I work with. But no real lasting connection with people I am content No regrets
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot when it comes to friendships. It's understandable that it has made it difficult for you to form meaningful connections with others. I hope that you are able to find a sense of trust and connection with people in the future, at your own pace.
I'm autistic and double empathy, misunderstandings in communication, is a constant struggle for me. I only feel at peace whenever I am able to be by myself for a while.
Good video. Even though I stumbled occasionally, it's challenging living down here, I try to remain close to the heavenly Father and His Son Lord Jesus. I truly believe He is ordering my steps. I appreciate the journey. I always meet a drifter or two here and there. Friend or acquaintance, there's joy in the journey ❤😂
Volunteering for causes I believe in are my happiest days. I love just smiling and saying hi to random strangers. It’s fun to give A smile and see others feel appreciated. Even if it’s just passing in the store or on the street. A simple acknowledgment goes a long a long way …. 😊 I don’t feel lonely when I give out good energy, it mostly comes back. If not I just think, it’s ok …. No big deal. Maybe they are having a bad day. I have them; everyone does. ❤
As a lone wolverine, (woman) I prefer it that way. I don't have time for fake friendships, which is becoming more & more this way. In fact, I don't need social media. I have a few good friends, & I'm happy with them.
I am at peace and comfortable in my friendless state as I got older and wiser. I am sociable thus plenty of acquaintances especially my neighbors. I realized that friendship is a burden, a heavy responsibility. Gradually I distanced myself . What I relief !
I’m an ENFP which on the scale of extroverts is on the low end; but now that I found a place to socialize, I do feel energized from being together with my tribe. I found a place to learn how to play ukulele and after that to go play music and sing together a few times a week. We are like family and most are 60 and older. It’s been so nice to get to know people that love music and it bonds us together.
I am pleased to say that I have found such a friend. A friend and mentor, Thomas Nutley. A man who does not judge, nor is jealous of my achievements, and is truly wholesome.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that you're open to travel companions. It's always nice to have someone to share new experiences with.
I'm an introvert and I can get shy. I have a few close friends, and the rest are more transient. After my traumas of abusive relationships, I much prefer to live on my own and don't envision myself ever living with someone again. The idea is horrifying. I love doing things mostly on my own, but to sprinkle those with doing things with people, whether one-on-one or in groups. When in groups I tend to focus on one or two people, which makes things easier for me. I really love how my life is right now.
These past few months I have learned an extreme amount of info... This video explains an idea to focus on what's real... Reality... And that everything has flaws. The flaw I sense in this video is the ending to continue to watch more videos. Yet I'm going to take a stoic approach to say no and come back to what's real after I've learned my lesson to live and continue with the world around me. Technology is a teacher but too much (like the end of this video) tells you to keep watching instead of keep living.
This was an amazing discussion on trust and its complexities in friendships. It reminded me that trust must be built gradually, like the roots of a strong tree. I'm definitely walking away with some new insights on how to nurture my friendships!
You have the most peace when you are alone 💎 . I get around people when i choose to be around them. 🤣 Most of them are toxic, haters, jealous & envious. REAL FRIENDS ARE RARE, FAKE FRIENDS ARE EVERYWHERE 💯
I’ve been through so much hurt and betrayals that I get terrified to allow people to get close to me. My safe space is when I’m home and locked away from everyone else with my phone on “do not disturb “ the moment I leave work. I got a puppy now so I have a true friend at last.
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I truly believe that there are good people it's hard to find real people personally I don't have true friends but I see some people who have lots of friends always wondered what iam doing wrong it seems like I am in the wrong place
I rarely meet anyone who can listen to more than one or two words before they interupt you and go off on long winded stories about themselves.
Most people are too busy thinking about what they want to say to listen. You are correct. I'm better off talking to my old Bo dog.
People also ignore you and don't listen because they already have a response ready before you even finish your sentence.
😂. SO TRUE!
WOW; a pet peeve of mine!
Blabbermouths are bores, and a waste of one's time. Better to read a good book than to listen to a stupid blabbermouth.
People who enjoy being alone are never lonely. Great video! 💪
100 percent.
This isn't a lie and for some reason overbearing people just want to try to implant themselves into your life in some aspect.
Like your coworkers all of a sudden think you are this big family and half the time you think they are assholes so no why would I buy you a birthday card amd place money in it.
I don't even want to see you while I am here much less hang out with you on the other side of those doors.
Also my position only required I be friendly towards you not friends with you amd so as long as I am doing my job properly you shouldn't be a le to hold my life hostage to whatever relationship you believe I should have with you thats obviously not work related.
So true
@@Rowan-mo4ko You've spoken my life experiences... indeed. Sometimes, people just need to learn how to read the room or the person. It doesn't mean the person is in a bad mood, or it doesn't mean something has to be "going wrong" because we're not engaging or being talkative as a group. Sometimes or even most times, people/I simply just don't have anything to say or add to the discussion.
Hands up those choosing to live alone 🙌🏻
I have done for 4+ years. Takes a bit getting used to and still have ups and downs like living with some one.
Im most happy and at peace when im alone..
I can totally relate! There's something really special about finding peace and happiness in solitude. It's a great opportunity to recharge and focus on ourselves. Keep enjoying those moments of tranquility!
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I've come to find that any physical pain I experience around people actually goes away when I'm alone. At first I thought maybe I was on my feet too much or I was straining myself doing too much physical work, but then it would go away when I went home. I've really been wondering about that lately.
I’m the same, but a part of me feels like Im abnormal and I should be doing more stuff with other people. Then I do, but when I get home again I feel like I wasted my day.
In my silence I talk to god who is my inner voice.
A person who knows how to live alone is a person with a strong inner spirit......
Thank you for sharing your insight. Living alone definitely requires a strong inner spirit. It's a journey of self-discovery and independence.
@@thestoiccommunity Yeah and you can knock one off whenever you feel like it.
@@nelsonhibbert5267 That's right
@@MeaningofStoicism I did one yesterday it was a right laugh.
@@nelsonhibbert5267 It must be a wonderful thing, I can reveal it?
Being alone and enjoying your own company is the best thing you can do for yourself. It works for me and my life is drama free.
Me too bud
@@glasgowG53 Lol true yet I'm a lady that wrote this comment.
@MaxineShaw-de7bh Does it matter? You enjoy your own company. That says a lot about you, your confidence and your ability to just get on with it. Without any drama. I lived with someone for 35 years. The last ten have been the happiest of my life. Drama free. Make my own choices. Do and go where I want. If people are friendly, I'm just as friendly. If people do not fit, I avoid. Find it less stressful.
Best of luck to you. Like me, may you be happy in your loneliness.
Ohhhhh, sorry for the bud, bad assumption, my apologies.
@@glasgowG53 Did anyone ask your opinion. Lmao I think not. Now carry on 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Exit stage right 👉👉👉👉👉
That makes two of us.
"It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor." - Seneca
Epictetus spoke about this concept well.
So it’s better to not have ambition?
@@deeznutz294yeah stoicism advocates for passivity
A smart ass this Seneca - with the emphasis on the "ass". Some people are driven to come up with "words of wisdom" all the time to deflect attention away from the fact that they are pretty stupid.
I'm disabled now and apart from work Its hard for me to get out. I lost all my friends as a result of my disability. I wasn't excting, flexible for going out etc, I learned that they weren't diamond friends after all. I was sad at first . Now I realise they were fake friends and they're loss, but I do miss connections. I have only my pets now. They are always there to love me unconditionally. I'm ok with that ❤. I would say to all of you reading if your able to get out in the world and make connections to do it. You never know when your life will do a 360 flip as in my situation and become disabled. I'm young too. Life is always changing so takes opportunity when it knocks. Blessings to all 🙏
Yes,i empathize with you. I’ve been ignored because I don’t gossip, or talk about mundane things. I love reading, writing,talking about quantum physics and such, gardening etc. most people find that boring, but then again i find those same folks uninteresting…so it’s a win-win.😂
everyone ditched me when my health went and i cant forgive so now i just dont even try to make friends
🤗. 🕊️. 💘. 4; u! ☺️
@@freespirit-111me also
I am also disabled. When I first became disabled, the superficial people fell away. At first I very depressed about tht, I am ok w tht now. I prefer the company of my cats more than most people.
Being kind thinking I had friends got me betrayed. Now I am
Ok with being alone and pushing and finding myself.
''Being kind thinking I had friends got me betrayed''
Me too!
''Now I am
Ok with being alone and pushing and finding myself.''
Me too!
@@tonyadams8812 💯🙏🏽
Yes you are right
@@dianeamaral8151 ❤️💯Yes indeed.
im still kind, others can't abuse it anymore, as i refuse to give myself up, what others do to me, i won't, cuz this is me, and we are very very few left.
I have lived the last 10 years mostly alone. I have 2 dog's. There are people in my life now. But it's mostly me. I always like to be alone more than with people. I came here alone, and leave alone. Everything in life will teach me.
I like you.
Life proliferates all around us, yet all living things are individual units of that life. Sectionality and compartmental existence is all our experience. Some, group into sets and subsets...or even hurds. Others follow spontaneous mobs. And then there are those that depend on themselves. Perhaps a kindred life may be beneficial at times, however...no truer words have been said than we arrive alone, and leave the same way! Don't fear the quiet time spent with yourself....many spent lifetimes trying to reach inner reflection while being embedded into large social groups....they never knew that quiet, solitary passage of time in our own company is the way to find our true inner selves! I wish you good journey on your unique path. I will walk mine as it may be!
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
As a lonely man, I rather be lonely than have any friends. Most were trash. Many discouraged me to achieve my goals. Some got jealous and always tried to out do me. Some took advantage of me. No one cared about me and cared more about themselves. I had enough of people. I rather be alone
I wish you were my neighbor because it sounds like we went to different schools together.
Please let no one steal your joy. You do not have control over what people do, but you have control over how you react to it.
I understand. You had friends since you were 6 years old. Get back to your school friends. They don't give a damn about your success (or failures). Find them and refresh that friendship. BTW You don't have any real friends at the moment. Ask yourself why. (I have no idea why because I don't know your life).
@user-xd9xy5yl9l Those friends I knew at age 6 are the ones who convinced me to steal things with them at age 11 and I got arrested while they ran away leaving me to rot.
Doesn't matter anymore. I'm a multi-millionaire. I used to beg people for them to be my friend and even cry. I wanted to pay them $1000 dollars to go to Las Vegas with me in my 30s. They were all trash in the end. None of them were loyal.
I can relate on all the levels you've pointed out...didn't matter whether they were childhood friends or people you're related to by marriage thinking I'd have a new experience having "sisters,", or people you thought you were having a connection/vibe with. I always say don't go against your instincts or discernment and definitely know when to let go once the mask comes off no matter how difficult, disappointing, or sad it makes you feel because there's never denying the truth no matter how far back the friendship goes and once you begin to reflect on things over the years, you begin to realize that their jealousy/envy or resentment and insecurities had always been there, it's just they were "given a pass" or it was brushed off and overlooked. But sooner or even many years later, the mask comes off and there's the truth staring you in the face. To make it easier to cope with I just slowly began to distance myself until it was easier to cut ties completely.
I love being alone. Everyone pretty much betrayed me due to jealousy. But I have found inner peace being alone.
I’ve always wanted friends but never really had any. I am now okay with being alone because alone has always been there from a child to an adult. Now as an old woman I can understand why people are okay with their loneliness. It’s nothing to be afraid of embrace it and not let it scare you.
"Want" is a burden. You want friends. I want the moon 🌙. Want/thirst is the source of our sufferings!
Most men want beautiful young bubbly women (see all the video clips out there of these women). The men (moon guy included) who want this will never have enough. Want.
If loneliness is all you knew, it's all you will know. If popularity is what you knew, loneliness is a torment you will know. Sadly I'm feeling the latter
@@This_tubliked what you wrote. Guess I’m somewhat in the middle now but have been to both sides. Retired early a few years ago and it was quite the eye opener.
Not many stayed in touch and even now I find myself reaching out more than I’m reached for 😢. Makes me believe I don’t and didn’t know how to be a good friend…
@@sammas2959 Bad analogy.
God is always with us. Take heart ❤
I have zero friends, and I am better for it. People are trouble that I won't tolerate.
Can I be your friend?
You must of had some bad experiences
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
@@ChosenOne1967
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
What kind of friendship is that supposed to be? Sounds more like master and slave.
You must have interests which others have, even just talking here suggests a certain value you look for, being a loner is hard. I hope you can make a friend with a meaningful connection, if not I still hope you live a life of value. You can grow and find tolerable people, I hope this helps in some way.
There are only a few gems in my life..don't need baggage of negativity❤
sometimes the biggest challenge is being at peace with yourself , once you reach that inner peace you can be helpful to others
Pra'bhu 🙏 you have almost reached enlightenment, nirvana (the act of breathing).
We help others because others are us!!
True
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely.
Having friends is dangerous as most friends don’t have good intentions
I second that 💯%
Two-faced friends are worse than none.
I am never lonely and i thank God fo the grace he give me. I enjoy myself and am giving, cheerful and optimistic. To God be all the GLORY. AMEN 🙏
Being lonely is nothing like being alone. It's ok to be alone, peaceful and make what you do experience valuable.
Bingo, I'm alone, but not lonely.
I'm never lonely. I know that's a blessing because so many people are. I wish I could bottle how much I like being alone and give it to those who don't.
Thank you, As an introvert, I will take those actionable steps to become exceptional at creating meaningful connections meanwhile weaving my life's tapestry a single thread at a time
I appreciate your commitment to personal growth and meaningful connections. Keep taking those actionable steps, and you'll surely become exceptional at creating the connections you desire.
Not only are you an introvert like me, but also a writer like me 😊
@@Joel-yi8gb Thanks much appreciated brother
I am an INFJ Personality. I appreciate the Stoic philosophy immensely
Me TOO! INFJ ROCKS!
Me too. But I love and get along well with ENFs and ENTP , as well as xSFJ. Hard to find. @@rebeccaholt8965
I have 5 adult children..all are trustworthy and loving. They are my friends beside my wife of 63 years. No drugs in the bunch and no criminals..I am blessed..thank you Lord.
You are a good person who raised your children in a loving home, and treated them well. You are reaping what you sowed.
I don't have friends because
I'm not interested in people.
Who you are, where you're from, what you like, what you want,
I couldn't care less.
😅
You are like a person who meditate by thing to sleep!!
John 15:14 (NKJV)
You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
I literally have one friend that I grew up with who I consider to be my brother. That is it, everyone else I just know.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that you're open to travel companions. It's always nice to have someone to share new experiences with.
Well, you have one more than most.
@@Ac_Adapter😂 I thought the same thing, I thought I missed the message.
@@themacocko6311and for that reason, I have gratitude for our friendship (brotherhood).
About 4 years ago all my friends seemed to just fall away. It seems odd but I am happy to not talk much anymore. That is my 1st thought every morning.....thank goodness I don't have to make conversation. I am very grateful that my spirit brought me to Hawaii 20 years ago so surrounded by beauty that it makes everything just fine.❤
I can understand how it must feel odd for your friends to just fall away, but it's great that you've found contentment in not having to make small talk every morning. It's wonderful that Hawaii has brought you so much beauty and peace for the past 20 years. It sounds like you've found a true sense of happiness and tranquility there.
Me too! Maui.....jungle and quiet.....loud singing birds.
Im a therapist, I literally despise small talk. I define friends as those that understand this and can tolerate silence.
Interesting. It was 4 years ago, roughly, that my cleansing happened.
Everyone was removed from my life.
They attacked, betrayed, abandoned.
Whatever...
It hurt, but I am actually ok with it. They point figures and say I am at fault, but truthfully I feel more insightful and present in myself than I ever have.
I was just drowning in unhealthy people most of my life.
Right,how much can ppl continue to talk about without being repetitive.
@@4everu984 what if it is deep talk but they just talk a lot
Never abandon who you are.
I started and run a women’s group. We hold space to witness each other. We listen with attentiveness and compassion. Listening deeply is a gift to be treasured ❤
Sounds interesting
I wish there was something like that around here. Do you Zoom by any chance?
I enjoy my own company. Thanks to my childhood trauma I find it hard to belong.
Never made that connection. I have to think about this. Thanks
@@jemezfun9767Repent and know Jesus everyone, God created us in his image,He knew you before you born. He knows your thoughts and intentions of your heart.and wants to have relationship with you through His son ,/ Jesus shed blood atonement for sin.Read the gospel of John, Mathew, .
@@Joel-yi8gbJesus" 17:29 ,I am the way,the Truth and the light,no one comes unto the father but by me." Etrnity with the creator of the universe who loves you.or etrnity in hell that was meant for the devi- the demons, not us , Jesus work on the cross, blood atonement, Free from sin and power in the name of Jesus over the devil and sin, and healing. Jesus/ the Holy Spirit want to enter into your heart and life ( abundantly).
Stoicism ,,many have suicided, while God/ Jesus wants to have relationship with man ,whom he created in His image.,and Loves you , but the devil is a deciever,( hell is real place meant for him & his demons, not us) We make the choice ,for eternity. Read the gospel of John. Mathew , Jesus is Lord of all, Healer, consoler, lover of our souls
It’s a struggle to make friends or being alone if u have CPTSD. I hope my therapy will help to let me feel happy again and love myself.
It has been awhile since I found your channel and want to say how much I have enjoyed your videos. Over my 70+yrs. I have learned and practiced stoicism before I was aware it was a philosophy. Today's videos had phrases I have used over life. I have always believed life is a tapestry and each person we meet is a small thread, sometimes they become long threads and interwoven in different parts. My personality type is an INFJ, so I love spending time alone. As my life is getting shorter, and I am retired, I have found time to reflect and enjoy looking back at my tapestry to see all the colorful threads and patterns that have been created. Thank you for your work.
Also an infj. Don't we love our time alone.
Thank you for sharing your experience and insights! I'm glad my videos have resonated with you, and I appreciate your support.
I am also an INFJ and crave solitude.
All of my friends went by the wayside. Either due to drug addiction or mental illness. One moved to China and stayed. I tried and could never make connections like the ones I had in my teens and 20s. And I'm OK with that. I know it sounds cliche. But I'm married to my best friend. He's literally my favorite person in this planet and had been since I was 15. I never loved or cared about anyone like I care about him. We both have had friends come and go. And avoid making new connections because people are tied to drama. And we just don't want that. I badly want to make new friends now because I get lonely. But finding and making new friends in this day and age is not easy.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It can be tough to find genuine connections as we get older, especially with the prevalence of drama in social circles. It's great to hear that you have such a strong bond with your husband, and I can relate to the desire for new friendships without the drama. It's a delicate balance to strike, but I hope you find the right connections in due time.
I have the same experience.
To make friends takes having a real interest in others and taking time ... to desire friends to serve our need for company ...that is what some may consider frirndship. Ugh. Self-centred thinking poisons potential friendships.
Proverbs 31:12 (NKJV)
She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
“One who seeks friendship for favourable occasions, strips it of all its nobility.”
- Seneca
Your voice is mesmerizing
What a profound video! Thank you!
I've been dumped and rejected by so many. Now at 50 I only have two friends, I wish it was easier to make new friends in this day and age. I do have a wonderful boyfriend now, who's definitely my best friend. But I do crave a really good girl friend. It's challenging not knowing many people but it has made me look at myself and change somewhat for the better.
I have an annoyance with men and women just suck at socialising. No girl clubs.🎉
It does seem to be harder to find friends the older you get
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
Lack of friends indicates that I don't need you telling me anything
Lol
It is only when you are alone that you can truly be yourself.
Speak to express, not impress, wise, know your true self worth. I love stoicism, lost wisdom rediscovered. Thank you for this.💞💞💞
Finally in my 30s and I am in fact alone. Not sure how to put it but if i had the chance to save any of those "friendships" ... I wouldn't.. 😊 👍🏾
thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's totally okay to outgrow friendships and prioritize your own well-being. Quality over quantity, right? Wishing you all the best as you navigate through this new chapter in your 30s.
Good for you!👍😊
My Life is finally on the right track and I refuse to let just anyone take my alone time. I treat everyone with kindness, but only 2 or 3 have access to my personal life.
I’m mine own Best Friend 👌🥂
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on my channel. Keep being your own best friend
Much respect to the creators from a shy introvert
Thanks for the kind words! I appreciate your support.
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
I am never alone; always have 3 standbys - me, myself & I
I love being alone and enjoy my own company. The peace and calmness is priceless.
Always remember every storm shall pass just hold on.
People come and go like the clouds , detach enjoy what you get .
Absolutely. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! Keep enjoying and stay connected for more content.
3 steadfast friends are all I need. The rest are just acquaintances.
I used to count up how many close friends I had. Once, it was 25! Was so proud of myself. I grew up, learned to love being by myself, prayed for self love every am and now “only” have three fabulous best friends. I can give and receive more, with less. I realized I didn’t need a “crowd” to love and be loved. I also married my soul mate for 25 years. I’m good now.
When you said you know, you don't know. When said that you have enough, you don't!
3 friends or indefinite friends is the same when one realizes that we are interconnected.
Proverbs 18:1
An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends and against all sound judgment starts quarrels.
I used to feel like something was wrong with me because I was a loner. Now at almost 40, I'm very comfortable and happy with the fact that I'm a shy loner. I'm happy keeping to myself.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Thank you for reminding me I shouldn't compromise what I believe in just for the sake of having friends who don't share what I believe, as well as actively chipping away trying to force me to change. So it's better to have zero friends in life than sticking with those who want to force me to change just to be with them.
I have come to understand that the lack of social interaction, has a far more important effect, so being alone, increased my need for spiritual growth, and changing old addictive behaviours, which trapped me into thinking I needed these people. Becoming my authentic self, took its toll, by way of losing many acquaintances, friends and long term friends as well as close intimate friends.
My main reasons for being abandoned, became obvious when I couldn’t participate in usual outings and activities and home visits, through developing a chronic lung disease, after a heart attack.
Sickness sorts out the sheep from the lambs when it comes to honesty and intention.
I appreciate the nod to the late great philosopher George Carlin.
Perfect video, I felt like I wanted to abondon my friends but deep down I knew that was not the answer, because its people I trust which is rare these days, I listen to them not with intent to reply, but with intent to get a deeper understanding of what they are going through, life is rough but we should know that these are times where we should stick together as one and not leave one another, I love them and I am very hard on them because of this factor, it hurts me seeing them get hurt because I want to protect them, but I know this is not possible, because that's the world we live in, you have to be strong and the only way to achieve this, is to exsperice it for yourself, and add stoicism to your way of living, to aid in identifying future opportunities and build unbreakable bonds with people you trust
I lost my best friend at seven years old. The last time I saw her was in her coffin. I don't have friends, I am happy to be alone. Debt free and happy. ❤ I am working on myself to be healthy physically and mentally.
I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I am about all your helpful content. I often throughout my life have felt left out, ignored, skipped by or totally and directly mistreated even by my own closed love ones " like my own mom"! I have always tried to be positive and ignored the negative but now and over my 50's I can't help but notice it. I get ignored even at church! Can't help but wonder " what's wrong with me" ?!
There is nothing "wrong" with you - you have merely associated with inconsiderate people, and have been too dependent on other people's opinions. Develop a sense of self, and confidence, and realize that your own sense of self-worth is more important than the petty opinions of shallow people.
When someone I know says the word "networking", I usually stay away from that person.
I always enjoy my own company. I only need my own family.
I don't even need family!! I am AUTONOMOUS!!
I except myself the way I am
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
In all honesty, I must follow Biblical truth:
"A man of too many friends comes to ruin,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."
-Proverbs 18:24
** As a writer, I spend the better part of my days alone… Creating stories, and enjoy it immensely!
The majority of people you meet along the way in life, are only acquaintances… If you can count all of your genuine friends on one hand, that is a blessing from heaven!
🇺🇸✝️🇺🇸
Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's true that genuine friendships are a true blessing. Creating stories and spending time alone can be incredibly fulfilling, and it's wonderful that you enjoy it so much. It's important to cherish the few genuine friends we have and appreciate the unique bond we share with them. Keep embracing your creativity and the joy it brings you!
@@thestoiccommunity ...
Thank you for your kindness.
THIS is where it’s at…
I love spending time with myself. I never feel lonely or like I miss people. I find it to be very peaceful. The only people that are my true gems are my man and my daughter; they delight me with their creative thoughts, unique perspectives and sense of humour. They bring enriching layers into my life without drama, stress, and fakeness.
I lost all my friends in the past 2 years.
But you had them for all the years before 👍
When I'm going through a rough time, that's when my "friends" abandon me. I've lost touch w people because after I reach out over and over without reciprocation, I eventually stop and understand they take our relationship for granted. Sometimes it's easier to be alone.
Indeed. One should not waste one's time on false friends.
Thank you for your video. I'm an introvert, and find it a challenge to find lasting friendships.
Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
You're feeding my brain & + all good stuff + truth ! Knowledge rocks !
my friends left me without even saying the reason why. i asked them but that they didnt bother to answer. we've been friends for so long.
They didn’t answer you, but do you perhaps know why they left without saying anything?
I had one like that too and I am still wondering why she didn't want to spend time with me anymore. Anyway, it doesn't matter now. She is dead.
@@maryalex1401 i honestly don't know. I just started to notice they were acting differently. I asked them twice but they just kept pointing fingers at each other. nobody really wants to answer. At least let me know so i can correct my mistakes if i had done anything wrong. And if i did you know i don't mean it. so they kept in silence. i just got tired at that point. it's like im begging for friendship. we've been together for years and i can't even get a simple explanation.
@@StoicAbsoluteRealmSAR Hello again, my friend, thank you for your reply.
Well, It could most likely all be due to their insecurities, jealousy of you etc.
Also take into consideration that there are simply many people out there who do not really value true friendships and are inconsiderate of the implications of their actions. And Even if they do come back in the future, things will never be the same again. The damage now is irreversible and you wont be really able to become close friends again.
Try and accept and validate the loss and move on.
Seek for deeper connection with things in life.
You will be a lot stronger, independent and true to your self.
Peace to you, friend. 🙏🏻
You are absolutely right. although i didnt think of that first coz i dont want to be negative about it. but I really think its jealousy and insecurity. Yes, i found meaning to everything now. Thank you! I came across this message yesterday " God reduced my circle because he heard conversations i did not" Peace and Love my friend!@@maryalex1401
At school i had a few good friends who i lost contact with when went different ways.
I worked very very hard having started with nothing and became quite wealthy. Over the years nearly every friend I've had in the end always wanted something from me.
I enjoyed you presentation and it made me think about two friends i still have whom i don't keep in regular touch with. They've never asked anything of me. So its time to spend a little more time nurturing those valuable connections. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's great to hear that my presentation resonated with you and prompted you to reflect on your friendships. It's important to recognize and nurture those valuable connections in our lives. Wishing you all the best as you spend more time with your two friends.
The interesting thing is that’s how a lot of people are with their friends in general. I live a modest life, but I’m who friends and family go to in their time of need also. I think it’s just how many humans are. Fortunately , so far,I don’t feel taken advantage of. I imagine if they thought I was wealthy it might be different.
Yes, I suggest you foster those friendships…. 🙏🏼❤️
I've never had a lot of friends it allowed my personality to grow and fully develop, Blessed Be.
Fuck Friends. There is no such a legitimate thing. Everybody's got their own interest and many will screw you for their own benefit.
You can add family to that!
They all have a hidden agenda.
That's tru. That's why I live alone
I am not alone, but on top of a mountain enjoying the view. Strength, love, and happiness i know them well. ❤️
I was very social when I was younger. As Marcus writes, life narrows. As I have aged my circle of friends has grown smaller but the three I have left, I cherish. Thank you for this video ❤
not trying to sound conceited, more what i believe to be an observation.
there is an extra layer of challenge when you are attractive and feel like people just want to talk to you to flirt with you or to be sexual. even the same sex sometimes. i can tell and pick up on it quick. they fumble their words....cant look at me in the eyes too long....or if they do they stare too much. it sucks because i never quite know what goes on inside their minds and many times i dont want to know. imagine being the fantasy of a sick dude? feels disgusting just being in the same room as them. so because of this reason...i stay away from many people. you can just tell right off the bat if they have a sick mind. something about the way they stare.
I completely understand where you're coming from. It must be really frustrating to constantly feel like people are only interested in you for superficial reasons. It's great that you're able to pick up on those vibes quickly and protect yourself from potentially uncomfortable situations. It's important to surround yourself with genuine, respectful individuals who appreciate you for who you are beyond just your appearance. Keep staying true to yourself and trusting your instincts.
Friends were not true to themselves or anyone else, friends they run away, when you need them and your left alone to deal with everything alone (so it doesn't matter and waste of time.) You will be just fine. "WITHOUT TRUST you have NO RELATIONSHIP of ANY KIND!"
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It can definitely be a challenge for introverts to find lasting friendships, but know that you're not alone in feeling this way. Building meaningful connections takes time and patience, so don't be discouraged.
I was just thinking about this today. I made a list of friends and wondered why it’s so short. This video answered my question.
Growing up, friendships were strongly discouraged by my parents. At thirteen I experienced betrayal at the hands of a best friend. Now at 47, I have no meaningful relationship outside my sister. I interact with those I work with. But no real lasting connection with people
I am content
No regrets
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot when it comes to friendships. It's understandable that it has made it difficult for you to form meaningful connections with others. I hope that you are able to find a sense of trust and connection with people in the future, at your own pace.
friendship is magic 🤠
I'm autistic and double empathy, misunderstandings in communication, is a constant struggle for me. I only feel at peace whenever I am able to be by myself for a while.
Good video. Even though I stumbled occasionally, it's challenging living down here, I try to remain close to the heavenly Father and His Son Lord Jesus. I truly believe He is ordering my steps. I appreciate the journey. I always meet a drifter or two here and there. Friend or acquaintance, there's joy in the journey ❤😂
I never felt lost during this, for the first time.
I prefer solitude.
i thought i was alone and here we are..
Friends are like a diamond, they are very rare, they are hard to find and the are a lot fake of them.
Friends are enemies in disguise 😮
With friends like you.....
@@Joel-yi8gb that is not very nice Joel.
The more I see and hear others involved in constant drama, the more I value my lonely life
There's no such thing as friends
Volunteering for causes I believe in are my happiest days. I love just smiling and saying hi to random strangers. It’s fun to give A smile and see others feel appreciated. Even if it’s just passing in the store or on the street. A simple acknowledgment goes a long a long way …. 😊 I don’t feel lonely when I give out good energy, it mostly comes back. If not I just think, it’s ok …. No big deal. Maybe they are having a bad day. I have them; everyone does. ❤
As a lone wolverine, (woman) I prefer it that way.
I don't have time for fake friendships, which is becoming more & more this way. In fact, I don't need social media.
I have a few good friends, & I'm happy with them.
I am at peace and comfortable in my friendless state as I got older and wiser. I am sociable thus plenty of acquaintances especially my neighbors. I realized that friendship is a burden, a heavy responsibility. Gradually I distanced myself . What I relief !
It’s the treachery from family and friends that breaks my heart.
Introvert here. Thank you for the practical advice
I have no friends just my 2 kids and girl.
I’m an ENFP which on the scale of extroverts is on the low end; but now that I found a place to socialize, I do feel energized from being together with my tribe. I found a place to learn how to play ukulele and after that to go play music and sing together a few times a week. We are like family and most are 60 and older. It’s been so nice to get to know people that love music and it bonds us together.
I am pleased to say that I have found such a friend. A friend and mentor, Thomas Nutley. A man who does not judge, nor is jealous of my achievements, and is truly wholesome.
No need for friends. Travel companions are fine
We need good friends, go up together
@@MeaningofStoicismOf course we need - some AND good - friendsbut those ar not so easy to find 😏
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that you're open to travel companions. It's always nice to have someone to share new experiences with.
A guy I worked with a long time ago once told me “Joe, if you make just one friend in your life, you’ve accomplished something“
I'm an introvert and I can get shy. I have a few close friends, and the rest are more transient. After my traumas of abusive relationships, I much prefer to live on my own and don't envision myself ever living with someone again. The idea is horrifying. I love doing things mostly on my own, but to sprinkle those with doing things with people, whether one-on-one or in groups. When in groups I tend to focus on one or two people, which makes things easier for me. I really love how my life is right now.
Thanks for the hard work and Emotional Support. ❤
These past few months I have learned an extreme amount of info... This video explains an idea to focus on what's real... Reality... And that everything has flaws. The flaw I sense in this video is the ending to continue to watch more videos. Yet I'm going to take a stoic approach to say no and come back to what's real after I've learned my lesson to live and continue with the world around me. Technology is a teacher but too much (like the end of this video) tells you to keep watching instead of keep living.
This was an amazing discussion on trust and its complexities in friendships. It reminded me that trust must be built gradually, like the roots of a strong tree. I'm definitely walking away with some new insights on how to nurture my friendships!
motivation that comes from within is never lonely.
You have the most peace when you are alone 💎 . I get around people when i choose to be around them. 🤣 Most of them are toxic, haters, jealous & envious. REAL FRIENDS ARE RARE, FAKE FRIENDS ARE EVERYWHERE 💯
I’ve been through so much hurt and betrayals that I get terrified to allow people to get close to me. My safe space is when I’m home and locked away from everyone else with my phone on “do not disturb “ the moment I leave work. I got a puppy now so I have a true friend at last.