My Silent Struggle into Fatherhood | What New Dads Need to Know!!!

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  • @zoesummer3646
    @zoesummer3646 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +34

    This is interesting, never heard of men/fathers going through this. Not many people would understand this, but I am sure it does exist if the man is very connected to the woman and baby like Max is. He is very emotional, he is a very connected, he is a good man.

    • @hmmhuh1222
      @hmmhuh1222 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My husband also dealt with something similar. No one told him to prepare for it, so it was very unexpected. I'm thankful Max is talking about it!♡

  • @DanicaSyrai
    @DanicaSyrai วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Kudos to you Max. My daughter's father completely abandoned me during my season of postpartum depression. It was the darkest time in my life and all he could do was complain about how I was no longer the same person since having my baby. It was awful.

  • @dorrishaynes8349
    @dorrishaynes8349 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Emotional well-being is so important.

  • @atreides10
    @atreides10 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    My husband definitely went through this as a new father. He had trouble connecting with our son as an infant - he felt like he was losing his identity. Now that our son is older, they're inseparable - but it was a true struggle when he was an infant. Almost cost us our marriage.

  • @laurak5414
    @laurak5414 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Parenthood is so hard. I made the mistake of thinking because I worked in childcare and loved kids, I would love being a mom. My old “self” had to die and I mourned her for so long. The guilt… oh, it’s real. I think what you guys are going through is common in our generation. Our patients didn’t have everything we have and had growing up. I think that’s why it’s so hard, we lost so much becoming parents. It’s a blessing but damn ….it’s so hard. I’m in therapy and pray everyday. Community and my village helped me get through. Great post guys, I’m proud of you for sharing because parenthood is not all giggles and rainbows. Love you guys ❤❤❤❤

  • @christinecoe1827
    @christinecoe1827 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Can you go and hang out with her at daycare? Share part of the day with your papa? I had kids a long time ago, and then also ran a children’s center for 20+ years. It’s so good for parents to come and have their child share with you their day.
    This was a conversation with a lot of truths about parenthood and loss of former identity. Older parents have had a longer time of being in control of their own life prior to childbirth. Shifting to loss of total control of time and body is hard.

  • @ingridthompson6512
    @ingridthompson6512 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    💛🌺 Beautiful authenticity and transparency 🙏. I was a single mom... It was hard "AF". But my son and I "thugged" it out. Now we are amazing friends. And I couldn't be more proud of the man he's becoming 🙌.

  • @Halonablack
    @Halonablack 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Interesting Perspective! It’s always great to hear Max’s perspective. We rarely get a mature male perspective out here on the internet. Thank you! I’m a single 47 year old woman, no kids. I have a beautiful life of travel and work as a freelancer. I wasted almost a couple decades of my life partnered with the wrong people. After spending some years single, cleaning up my own life with therapy and health interventions, I’d like to be married again. I think the having kids boat has sailed for me, unless I meet someone who has kids of his own. After getting divorced I experienced that mourning what was or what could have been as well. It’s a time of processing which is good for helping you imagine a new you starting from the life you actually have rather than what you wish was there. This is what meditation and gratitude have done for me.

  • @leslinepittman
    @leslinepittman 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    This conversation is so important. Makes me have more compassion for my husband after we had our kids. Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @RacquelTBrooks
    @RacquelTBrooks 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I love spending part of my Sunday afternoons watching your videos, it feels like what it would be like if I had a family like yours.. living the countryside life. so kool so grounding. Love the strong communication . inspired goals

  • @AllThingsSoul
    @AllThingsSoul 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I think the experience of being a parent, Father or Mother, ebbs and flows based on how satisfied you are with your own life at any given moment. The moments when you feel happy with your own life, are the times when the joy outweighs the challenges. The times when you feel unhappy about your own life, work, marriage, etc., then the challenges outweigh the joy in that moment. As long as it ebbs and flows, I think that's normal. If parenting is a constant challenge with no joyful moments at all for several months, then it's something to be concerned about.

    • @bluuberry5639
      @bluuberry5639 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      This comment is sooooo underrated. Like WOW! I never thought of it this way. But you are so correct.

  • @sheilabyrd2289
    @sheilabyrd2289 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thank you for sharing. I’m sure Max talking about his postpartum journey will be helpful to other men who may be going through it. I love that you two are always so open & honest when discussing different issues concerning parenthood. I’m happy that you all are in a good place & baby girl is doing well. See you next time. God Bless.

  • @marisolania2696
    @marisolania2696 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My husband was amazing during my post-partum period but I know he was carrying a lot with all of the rapid transitions. It’s good to talk about how fathers may feel as well.

  • @minaochoa2729
    @minaochoa2729 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You both are extremely inspiring and are very blessed to have a healthy relationship with open communication. I just celebrated 25 years of marriage and partnership. Communication is the key to a long lasting relationship and nothing will ever be perfect but is possible to break through and experience a happy marriage ❤

  • @SaharaKnows
    @SaharaKnows วันที่ผ่านมา

    Shoutout to present and active fathers… and mothers. All you can is do your best and children are resilient and don’t really even care about the things parents be so stressed over. Things have a way of working themselves out.

  • @fatemaalzari837
    @fatemaalzari837 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Really lovely and vulnerable conversation. Love to see you both sharing the joys and struggles of parenthood, and coming together as a team. I found Max's comment about feeling left out/not liked when Saga is "all about mama" touching. As a stepmom, I often felt like an outsider even though I know my stepdaughter loves me, but she is always "papa, papa". Knowing that this is an experience of biological parents too makes me breathe! This is important what you share with the world

  • @Sirterrencejr
    @Sirterrencejr วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Lolll Max’s eyeroll when he says Maya’s lasagna is better than his made me laugh… and then Maya goes “is it?!” Lolll 🖤🖤…. Great video and great advice about seeking community to gain perspective to get through new experiences 🖤🖤

    • @MaxMayaLiving
      @MaxMayaLiving  วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      🤣🤣🤣 We’ll have to have a cook off and have you judge

    • @Sirterrencejr
      @Sirterrencejr วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@MaxMayaLiving don’t tease me with a good time 🤣

  • @danviridian
    @danviridian 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Excellent and very interesting as always

  • @LovingAtlanta
    @LovingAtlanta วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    👍🤩💝🎁🏆You’re winning. Absolutely needed and wonderful discussion. Thank you both for sharing your perspectives & journey. Wishing you both the absolute best. 💝

  • @elizabethe9567
    @elizabethe9567 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    This was so powerful! Thank you for sharing Max!

    • @MaxMayaLiving
      @MaxMayaLiving  วันที่ผ่านมา

      We’re glad you enjoyed ✨

  • @jayduncan9315
    @jayduncan9315 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So happy that you are bringing the subject up regarding partners postpartum issues. As a childbirth educator, I try to address the changes that the partners will go through mentally and physically through the early postpartum period. Encouraging male partners to engage with other fathers or mentors in their lives to gain perspective, encouragement, empathy and direction is so very important. I will be referring my birthers to your book Maya. Thank you for sharing such intimate details regarding your parenting journey.

  • @CiCiMoya
    @CiCiMoya วันที่ผ่านมา

    So powerful! Thanks for your vulnerability. I was a single mom from birth and I didn't realize I was going through PPD until I started looking back years later. Definitely had a phase where I wanted to desperately go back to my active and creative self, but something we can also talk about is how health/body changes and age also affect life post-children. The energy changes. Its like we need an updated identity around our new realities. I'm also learning that God is the perfect Creator 💫 and as long as He's the source of our creativity and that we trust the greater plans He has for us, He will order our steps when we ask, and renew our hearts and minds to be driven enough to pursue our calling 🙏🏾

  • @meccaallah
    @meccaallah วันที่ผ่านมา

    You guys are so cool and inspiring! It's nice to see your journey and thanks for always sharing with us, I always look forward to your videos because they're so different and you both are such multifaceted individuals.

  • @cynealey933
    @cynealey933 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My husband went through this with our youngest son, He’s 11 now and I’ve become the 3rd wheel lol.

  • @OriginalKenyan
    @OriginalKenyan วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh my...is Max going to work on a book titled 'My Silent Struggle into Fatherhood'? That would be awesome. Watxhing from Nairobi 🇰🇪

  • @JustBeingREL
    @JustBeingREL วันที่ผ่านมา

    I just simply love yall. Thank you for putting words to what a lot of us be feeling, lol 😃🥰🤗

  • @whosyourbrad
    @whosyourbrad วันที่ผ่านมา

    Nice video guys, nice one for the dad's out there! Love you 😍

    • @MaxMayaLiving
      @MaxMayaLiving  วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you Brad! I can't even imagine what you went through but we lived to tell the tale!

  • @treasuresofchristtv4844
    @treasuresofchristtv4844 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I work as a nanny with a family, and the dad always says Brooke doesnt like me,,she likes the nanny more than me,,i told him its a time factor,how much time you spend with the child matters,so dont take it personally as Max said,...thank Max for sharing postpadom for men side of view

  • @dorrishaynes8349
    @dorrishaynes8349 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    What did going through that look like in regards to your love for each other ?

    • @dorrishaynes8349
      @dorrishaynes8349 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I left this revelation realizing that a lot of marriages fall apart because of a lack of understanding toward the fathers feelings. Good episode.

  • @brookeezlosingit4836
    @brookeezlosingit4836 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Interesting perspective.
    Max...Christmas is coming! Are you doing Vlogmas again? 🤔

    • @MaxMayaLiving
      @MaxMayaLiving  วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      We're hoping for it!

  • @7sistersenterpriseinc142
    @7sistersenterpriseinc142 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You also change every decade, 🙂

  • @Sup123-d2t
    @Sup123-d2t 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I thought this was Alicia keys 😂

  • @callhimslick
    @callhimslick วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I love you guys conversations! even though I can't relate, it's such a fresh breath of air to hear these perspectives