Phil achieved level 10 dad in this lunch break. lol "I believe in attraction at first sight" "Yeah. That's like love-ish...right?" "OH GOD I AM SO WORRIED FOR YOU!"
Love what Wes said about some people don’t need a companion and are just satisfied with their friends and family and health etc. I feel the same way. Also for people who aren’t aware there is such thing as asexuality and aromanticism. People that identify as asexual don’t have sexual attraction for people so they may not like to kiss, hold hands etc. And then there are people who identify as aromantic who don’t feel romantic attraction towards people. They have no desire to date, get married etc. At the end of the day just live your life comfortably and by how you feel and what you want. Don’t let people make you feel weird for not wanting what’s considered the norm in this human life. We are satisfied with different things.
Glad asexual and aromantic perspectives are being voiced and included! When Wes was responding to Phil’s suggestion that all humans want companionship and implying a romantic/sexual partner is the means of fulfilling that universal need--- and Wes forwarded the case of people who don’t feel that need and can instead be happy with friends, family, career, I immediately thought of aromanticism too!
Something to add is that just because an asexual doesn't experience sexual attraction doesn't mean they also don't want to kiss or hold hands. Sure, they might not want to do those things. But plenty asexuals do want to, they just don't experience them as being sexual. For me, I'd say they fall more under sensual attraction (attraction to sensory experiences to be had with someone, ex. touch of holding their hand, sound of hearing their voice, etc.) and romantic attraction (attraction to romantic experiences to be had with someone, ex. expressing affection and/or commitment). I guess for sexual people they'd just have an added lens of sexual attraction through which they'd experience kissing or whatever else.
Yeah, to be honest it was actually really helpful and it’s made me think a bit more on how to engage with people when dating. It was also nice to hear that I’m not the only who feels so pressured to couple up. Since all my friends have gotten married and I’m the last single person in the group it’s just painful when relationship status comes up because I get ganged up on.
Thanks for the words of affirmation Wes @14:10 !!! very hard to explain this to your traditional parents and inquiring friends of when you will be partnered up
You know what, just bless WongFu. Watching their videos is like having best life teacher, makes you rethink stuff and also about these lunch break series, it feels like sitting with friends and having really great and important talks, cos not always we have that chance but it feels so good and healing, that’s just how it feels. Thank you, WongFu team! More more great projects and ideas!
ah wes described exactly how i feel. i’m 25 but not really interested in dating nor do i have the urge to get married because i’m already happy with my life and just being around my friends and family. i don’t want kids either so i’m really glad my parents support how i feel and don’t pressure me into marrying and having kids.
Thank you Wes for pointing out that you don't need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy. As an aromantic, I have no interest in dating or marriage, but that doesnt mean I cant have meaningful connections and relationships that are just as important as romantic ones. Marriage is a social construct!!
Be patient guys, you will all find the right one for you! For me, being single has taught me a lot about myself. Made me realise what I actually wanted and that I needed to work on aspects of myself. And that is okay. Because our timeline is different from others, doesn't mean that something we've failed or something. We are on our own path living a beautiful life.
Man that’s totally the experience. “No dating till you graduate, get a job, buy a house!” Then suddenly it’s non stop suggestions about my parents’ friends’ daughters.
It's so subjective. Everybody has different needs and are at different points in their lives. But some good advice here and do what works for you. Have to try, and see (date, socialize, etc) what you're ultimately searching for.
Loved the convo :) def think that as you get older, too, there’s more self-acceptance of who you are as a person . While those societal pressures are still there, you develop the confidence to just be like: “nah, I’m good, thanks.” :)
This was quite informative. I feel like I understand Linda's position a lot since the points she puts out really can be like what I'm going through. I really enjoyed hearing everyone's opinions, especially Phil's. Also, the way Phil mentioned the social skills part--yep that's also me too. Didn't get enough social skills to actually understand dating.
Love at first sight? I say yes, it does it exist. From the first days I saw my now-wife online, I thought she definitely was cute. Almost as soon as we started talking (with Google Translate's help, mind you--lovely language differences), I knew she was the one for me. But y'all are absolutely right that true love is a continuing process, something that needs care and attention like a young plant. My parents always told me that marriage isn't easy but that it's incredibly rich.
Damn bruh this episode hit me hard, I relate to Linda about parents pressuring you to get married and having kids and it's because of that I'm scared of growing older when I should really just enjoy and live my life the way I want to. People around me are having kids and it makes me feel uneasy all because my mum is constantly on my back about it. Anyway, I'm glad you guys express that it's okay not to pursue that life choice, it brings me a bit more comfort
12:12 What was that pause before Mike said "Girlfriend"? It looked like he was gonna say "Boyfriend" lol BTW I'm not judging, just stating my observation.
ILLUMINATING!!!!! Thanks so muchfor sharing these highly relatable and entertaining insights!! Really enjoy each of your inspirational personalities and please keep shining!!! By the way, did somebody mention a possible Lunch Break spinoff called "Wes Happenin", hosted by Wes? LOL.....Just an idea! With Gratitude, Largy (The AcrõGecko)
Do it. Ask her out. You are young, you need to practice. Even if you are shy, you still need a certain amount of comfort or confidence. You cannot get the experience if you don't do the work. But it's also hard to say, not knowing your exact situation. If you can have a casual conversation in a school setting, that is already a plus. If you have had almost no interaction with this person beyond "hi," than your job is a lot harder. There has to be a certain amount of rapport and familiarity with you. She has to be comfortable with you. Which means you have to be comfortable with yourself first. If she at least laughs and smiles around you, that's a positive sign that it is possible to escalate the interaction to a coffee, tea, or dessert date, etc (it's helpful to know what she likes. Maybe she likes Spanish churros dipped with sipping chocolate or gelato). And the key to being comfortable is to not have any expectations, or attachments to the outcome. Attachment is the vibe of neediness and fear. The most desirable, attractive people are not needy, nor weak. Have fun, whether you are compatible or not. Just remember, as you get older, you're going to meet more and more women. Work on yourself, improve yourself, get more experience. There will be a point where you don't have to chase dates, you will attract it. Effortlessly. It will just happen, as you mature into a person that people find fun and safe to be around. Then you'll have to choose between 5 different girls. But it starts with the first step. It starts with gaining experience.
I feel like if you have a problem with your SO liking photos and/or leaving comments, that's just a sign of insecurity/a shitty past. If you fully trust them, there shouldn't be a concern about something as pervasive as that
what do you do if a guy you met in person added you on FB right away and started video calling you? and they don't speak english? but you hate video/phone calls in general so you try to keep it as DM but they keep video chatting? AND YOU ARE REALLY SHY BUT WANT TO GET OVER THE SHYNESS WITHOUT COMPROMISING YOUR INTEGRITY?!
love at first sight exists and just cause its at first sight doesnt mean its the peak of your relationship...........illogical! and yeah love isnt momentary, its FOREVER. thats how you know its real, cause ten years later you still feel the same. when you "fall out of love" it just means you never loved the person in the first place
On October 3rd, he asked me what day Lunch Break comes out this week
It’s October 3rd
@@Mailman2-1Actual why does this reply only have 5 likes
sliding into the DMs LOL thanks for having me! :D
Thanks for guest starring, I'm sure most of us would want you to show up on Lunch Break more often!
LOL 🤣
Hey Linda, it's nice to see you being real and opening up. It's so relatable!
Hi Leenda, you are great. Hope to see you in jkp and jkn again. Hope you want to be in jkn again lol 😂
Did you feel like your opinion about love at first sight changed? After hearing those responses?
the way Leenda deadpanned “LinkedIn” 😂
Kelly Ngo FR! 😆
...I've done it. lol
Linda this whole video: I came out here to have a good time and honestly I feel so attacked right now
Phil actually giving good life advice for relationships and love
Phil being worried for Linda made me laugh so hard
Papa Phil instinct kick in XD
He's right, it explains so much about her videos lol
phil being a responsible older brother.
😂😂😂
"Don't date until you finish college. Why haven't you found one yet?"
"YOU DIDN'T GIVE ME THE TIME TO DEVELOP MY SOCIAL SKILLS"
Me: *chokes on drink*
lmao this needs to be a gif so i can send it to people
Linda: "Attraction is love-ish"
Me: "NOOOOOO"
Wes, Mike, Phil: "NOOOOOO"
God: "NOOOOOO"
Linda is a hopeless romantic 😂😂😂
I know exactly what Linda feels
TheAntinomies LOOOOL
Phil achieved level 10 dad in this lunch break. lol "I believe in attraction at first sight" "Yeah. That's like love-ish...right?" "OH GOD I AM SO WORRIED FOR YOU!"
I’m a serial dater...Cocoa Puffs..Frosted Flakes..
It's better than being a serial killer
New date every morning? Couldn’t be me, I’m in a cere-ous relationship with Cinnamon Toast Crunch
That was corny. Corny Flaky.
Love what Wes said about some people don’t need a companion and are just satisfied with their friends and family and health etc. I feel the same way. Also for people who aren’t aware there is such thing as asexuality and aromanticism. People that identify as asexual don’t have sexual attraction for people so they may not like to kiss, hold hands etc. And then there are people who identify as aromantic who don’t feel romantic attraction towards people. They have no desire to date, get married etc. At the end of the day just live your life comfortably and by how you feel and what you want. Don’t let people make you feel weird for not wanting what’s considered the norm in this human life. We are satisfied with different things.
Glad asexual and aromantic perspectives are being voiced and included! When Wes was responding to Phil’s suggestion that all humans want companionship and implying a romantic/sexual partner is the means of fulfilling that universal need--- and Wes forwarded the case of people who don’t feel that need and can instead be happy with friends, family, career, I immediately thought of aromanticism too!
Something to add is that just because an asexual doesn't experience sexual attraction doesn't mean they also don't want to kiss or hold hands. Sure, they might not want to do those things. But plenty asexuals do want to, they just don't experience them as being sexual. For me, I'd say they fall more under sensual attraction (attraction to sensory experiences to be had with someone, ex. touch of holding their hand, sound of hearing their voice, etc.) and romantic attraction (attraction to romantic experiences to be had with someone, ex. expressing affection and/or commitment). I guess for sexual people they'd just have an added lens of sexual attraction through which they'd experience kissing or whatever else.
Do we give good dating advice or what?! 😄😄😄
Yeah, to be honest it was actually really helpful and it’s made me think a bit more on how to engage with people when dating. It was also nice to hear that I’m not the only who feels so pressured to couple up. Since all my friends have gotten married and I’m the last single person in the group it’s just painful when relationship status comes up because I get ganged up on.
Man, if Wes DMed me about my pictures, I think I'd be too star stuck to even realize he was shooting his shot.
Phil at 13:01 “But. You. Didn’t. Give me the time to develop my SOCIAL SKILLS.” 🤣🤣👌🏻👌🏻
“hey i like your photos” reminds me of “do you like messi” from kim bok joo 😂
Thanks for the words of affirmation Wes @14:10 !!! very hard to explain this to your traditional parents and inquiring friends of when you will be partnered up
You know what, just bless WongFu. Watching their videos is like having best life teacher, makes you rethink stuff and also about these lunch break series, it feels like sitting with friends and having really great and important talks, cos not always we have that chance but it feels so good and healing, that’s just how it feels. Thank you, WongFu team! More more great projects and ideas!
ah wes described exactly how i feel. i’m 25 but not really interested in dating nor do i have the urge to get married because i’m already happy with my life and just being around my friends and family. i don’t want kids either so i’m really glad my parents support how i feel and don’t pressure me into marrying and having kids.
Wes so smooth
He doesn't even know he's hitting on the person.
Yeaaah. There's probably a different word for that lol
4:10 PHIL I'M WATCHING YOU
waikayec Jenn was right.
Ahaha I didn’t even notice until you pointed it out
Dude on the far left is that guy that will give you some real advice and truth, even though it's unsavoury. We all need a friend like that.
Phil talking about how parents put pressure on us to get our lives in order before they're gone made me so teary because it's so true.
It's really great to have been able to see Phil grow more comfortable talking about the feels when things get real over the last few years.
Forever alone squad, where y’all at?
i love Linda!! She's someone who really likes and cares about the Asian Community!
Thank you Wes for pointing out that you don't need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy. As an aromantic, I have no interest in dating or marriage, but that doesnt mean I cant have meaningful connections and relationships that are just as important as romantic ones. Marriage is a social construct!!
Be patient guys, you will all find the right one for you! For me, being single has taught me a lot about myself. Made me realise what I actually wanted and that I needed to work on aspects of myself. And that is okay. Because our timeline is different from others, doesn't mean that something we've failed or something. We are on our own path living a beautiful life.
Man that’s totally the experience. “No dating till you graduate, get a job, buy a house!” Then suddenly it’s non stop suggestions about my parents’ friends’ daughters.
omg i really loved that bit when Phil was talking about parents and when Wes was talking about singleness!
"Just like love"
Beautiful...just like Wes.
THIS...just this... thank you WongFu, Mike Bow, Leenda Dee!!! I needed this
Phil: i believe in attraction at first sight
Leenda: that's like love-ish 😅😅
Phil: i'm so worried for you 😂
LOL Leenda's so cute
I think Mike actually deserves a No. 1 fan of Wong Fu award.
I absolutely loved Leenda's honesty!!!
Loved this episode of Lunchbreak! what Phil said at 11:18 was gold, also at 14:45!
It's so subjective. Everybody has different needs and are at different points in their lives. But some good advice here and do what works for you. Have to try, and see (date, socialize, etc) what you're ultimately searching for.
I loved this episode of Lunch Break! You guys should have Leenda and Mike on more! They're amazing
Loved the convo :) def think that as you get older, too, there’s more self-acceptance of who you are as a person . While those societal pressures are still there, you develop the confidence to just be like: “nah, I’m good, thanks.” :)
YAY! Extra long lunch break video to eat my lunch with AKA longer break for me too!!!😄 look forward to these every week!!
Better to be single than to be with the wrong partner and a kid.
This was quite informative. I feel like I understand Linda's position a lot since the points she puts out really can be like what I'm going through. I really enjoyed hearing everyone's opinions, especially Phil's. Also, the way Phil mentioned the social skills part--yep that's also me too. Didn't get enough social skills to actually understand dating.
12:38 damn you can feel the heaviness of Linda's voice
This was a lovely episode! Not just the topic but y'alls friendship.
I love this episode! Very raw and a good length. Great job, guys!
"LinkedIn" lol ....too real
13:31 that's so deep Phil
Watching Mike Bow wanting to start eating but waiting for the right timing.. 😅
Oh my godd. Linda saying that attraction is the same as love as first sight made me HURT
Linda is so natural Infront of a camera, she should be in movies.
Love at first sight? I say yes, it does it exist. From the first days I saw my now-wife online, I thought she definitely was cute. Almost as soon as we started talking (with Google Translate's help, mind you--lovely language differences), I knew she was the one for me. But y'all are absolutely right that true love is a continuing process, something that needs care and attention like a young plant. My parents always told me that marriage isn't easy but that it's incredibly rich.
Love is like a plant you assist it in growing when you water it and give it sunlight.
Wow, thanks y’all. This was super helpful and I wish I’d found it sooner! Subscribed! 😊
This was such a great episode! Thanks!
Damn I wish this was longer. This is soooo relatable
Damn bruh this episode hit me hard, I relate to Linda about parents pressuring you to get married and having kids and it's because of that I'm scared of growing older when I should really just enjoy and live my life the way I want to. People around me are having kids and it makes me feel uneasy all because my mum is constantly on my back about it. Anyway, I'm glad you guys express that it's okay not to pursue that life choice, it brings me a bit more comfort
I JUST SAW LINDA ON MIKEY CHENS CHANNEL! Wow she’s popping up everywhere I love it
She's blowing up alright! Proud of her! I've watching her since she started
Beauty attracts
Personality makes them stay
Phil is next level relationship counselor!
Proud of Linda who went to the same highschool as I did.
Hahaha she grew up in the same city as me as well
Lmao 4:09 look on the right!
Hahahaha! Leenda's answers were a trip, LOL!!!
Time to slide into her DM's. LOL!!!
Linda is more comfortable on Lunch Break than JustKiddingNews!
i love wong fu so much, i get introduced to such fun creators, i did not know who leenda was now im binging all her videos😁
Love this lunch break, thanks 4 doing it!
Loved how honest Linda was! Great ep guys
Wow. This was a really mature conversation. Good answers.
17:21....wow, some honest truths there
12:55
Leenda: don't date during college but why haven't you found one yet
Phil: you didn't give me the time to devELOP MY social skiLLS
relatable
12:12 What was that pause before Mike said "Girlfriend"? It looked like he was gonna say "Boyfriend" lol
BTW I'm not judging, just stating my observation.
i obser ed the same thing
I noticed that too.
Oh.. Yeah.. Looks like and sounds like twas what seemed like he's supposed to say. 😩
Wasn’t Wesley in a long distance relationship?
Jacquelin Isidro he was but they’re no longer together.
I’m at that point of no dating until you finish college/university
We need a lunch break podcast 🥺
Mike’s “OH WOW” at 17:44 felt awkwardly delayed I couldn’t help but laugh 😂
haha *17:44?
Was hoping Mike would pull a Phil (from the end of the previous video) and say "by the way this is my girlfriend Linda" loool
Leenda out here breaking hearts I reckon
So is Leenda’s name spelled Linda or Leenda?
This lunch break launched me into a lunch break binge instead of studying for midterms,,, sigh *_____*
saaaame
13:32 wow Phil is old, so wise
I've had sooooo many crushes, no dates, but bc of that now I'm like Linda.. Tryna find that perfect middle, it's so bad lmaoo
"Haven't had lunch for a while" ㅋㅋㅋ
Haha since Linda knows the group she is more laid back and comfortable here than JKnews
This ep was so good!
More dating advice videos! Especially for singles trying to enter the dating world!
even though this was one of their longer lunch breaks, it went by so fast
thanx
even though this was one of their longer lunch breaks, it went by so fast :/
Love how Phil just took a steak piece from Mike! lol.
ILLUMINATING!!!!!
Thanks so muchfor sharing these highly relatable and entertaining insights!! Really enjoy each of your inspirational personalities and please keep shining!!! By the way, did somebody mention a possible Lunch Break spinoff called "Wes Happenin", hosted by Wes? LOL.....Just an idea!
With Gratitude,
Largy (The AcrõGecko)
Ofc sliding into the dms work when ur Mike Bow *hint hint* 😂😂😂
Really great answers guys👏👏👏, more dating Q&A's please☺️
So happy to see Leenda on lunch break!! Also, I ship Leenda with Wes and Mike. Is that wrong? 😂
No one's even going to mention that squarespace totally took Ryan's "woof" idea to link all your social media?! 😂
I felt like love at first sight was a thing when you're young because my first love was like that 😂
How can you not love Linda :')
4:11 Phil is sneaky.
there's this girl at school that ive been meaning to ask out but i get super shy around her...thought about asking her to coffee..any advice?
Do it. Ask her out. You are young, you need to practice. Even if you are shy, you still need a certain amount of comfort or confidence. You cannot get the experience if you don't do the work. But it's also hard to say, not knowing your exact situation. If you can have a casual conversation in a school setting, that is already a plus. If you have had almost no interaction with this person beyond "hi," than your job is a lot harder. There has to be a certain amount of rapport and familiarity with you. She has to be comfortable with you. Which means you have to be comfortable with yourself first. If she at least laughs and smiles around you, that's a positive sign that it is possible to escalate the interaction to a coffee, tea, or dessert date, etc (it's helpful to know what she likes. Maybe she likes Spanish churros dipped with sipping chocolate or gelato).
And the key to being comfortable is to not have any expectations, or attachments to the outcome. Attachment is the vibe of neediness and fear. The most desirable, attractive people are not needy, nor weak.
Have fun, whether you are compatible or not. Just remember, as you get older, you're going to meet more and more women. Work on yourself, improve yourself, get more experience. There will be a point where you don't have to chase dates, you will attract it. Effortlessly. It will just happen, as you mature into a person that people find fun and safe to be around. Then you'll have to choose between 5 different girls. But it starts with the first step. It starts with gaining experience.
@@dossieranddragon2757 thanks for the advice
I feel like if you have a problem with your SO liking photos and/or leaving comments, that's just a sign of insecurity/a shitty past. If you fully trust them, there shouldn't be a concern about something as pervasive as that
what do you do if a guy you met in person added you on FB right away and started video calling you? and they don't speak english? but you hate video/phone calls in general so you try to keep it as DM but they keep video chatting? AND YOU ARE REALLY SHY BUT WANT TO GET OVER THE SHYNESS WITHOUT COMPROMISING YOUR INTEGRITY?!
Wesley hitting them DMs. Giving people hope 😂
love at first sight exists and just cause its at first sight doesnt mean its the peak of your relationship...........illogical! and yeah love isnt momentary, its FOREVER. thats how you know its real, cause ten years later you still feel the same. when you "fall out of love" it just means you never loved the person in the first place
14:11 Yesss Wes