That's cause when they sum you up. That's just a snapshot of who you are and what they've chosen to focus on with regards to you. But you know your not just a snapshot or picture. Your a movie constantly evolving narratives and character development.
Now THAT'S freedom!🤣 For me, knowing what I'm not is enough. Then I ask myself, Enough for what? Does knowing, or not knowing who you are, make one happy, sad, secure, insecure? I'm flawed like most people. How do you handle your failures, your successes, etc. Now I'm confused. Is this Ok? I like to seek the answer. When I'm feeling confident, I don't feel the need to find the answer. I think it's more wise to just be in the moment and enjoy the day - my dog taught me that. 🐶 🤣💖💃
When he says "it's okay" and you suddenly feel lighter, more comfortable and at ease. This guy ... making fun of alot of things and also hitting it precisely when he gets serious. That's not contradictive actually .. but still impressive and nice.
Christina R "confident vulnerability"..... that described exactly "who I am now... (hahaha 😉)... But no, really.... letting go of fears and attachments and anger and learning to love self and accept the oneness of everything the result is a confident vulnerability
I'd say he does a bit more serious videos than full satirical or funny ones. You can check out : "dealing with a narcissist" - "terrorism of happiness" - "the danger of goal settings", and I'd like people to check out the video he would probably define himself as his most important, in which he develops his more unique, yet essential, taboo, thought-provocking, destabilizing, but still essential and useful in his opinion (and maybe mine) : "How to heal your shame". In a lot of his videos he invite us to go watch "How to heal your shame" because he thinks most of his videos and the problems he talks about are related to that shame.
Interesting. I have so many thoughts on this right now. The first being, that in order to really know yourself, you have to understand the things that make you happy. So you have to try a lot of different things to learn your likes, and your dislikes. The second thing is, being yourself means being the you that you're most comfortable and happy with. The truest form of happiness I'm aware of is when what you think and what you say and what you do are all in harmony with each other. In all reality it's difficult to be ourselves all the time. People often do things they're ashamed of out of anger, or necessity. Most people I've talked to have 2 concepts involving who they are. There's the person they want to be, and there's the person they think they are. The fastest way I found to get to know myself better, and get over the 'who I think I am' concept, was by first asking myself "What kind of person am I overall, when I look at the actions I've taken through my life?" The second was to ask myself, "Would I want to be friends with me?" Looking at yourself from an outsiders perspective, can be a really big eye opener. x.x Sorry for going on forever, you're video gave me so much to think about. I'd better get back to writing. :) Thank you!
OMG, ive been struggling with this issue all my life. Trying to find myself, to be able to be authentic when im with others. It has always ben a losing battle. I thought I was totally lost. Thank you for this powerful teaching. I really am OK
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not JUST you are FINE The world Needs You Because There is Only One You And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do LOVE from Cappadocia!
I'm 7 years late to this party, but just have to say, that in the opinion of this 71 year old, (finally) free spirit, this is, hands down, one of the most important & impressive videos on TH-cam!
how about removing the pressure to be "someone"? perhaps feel free to be no-one. we always have to do or be sth. our whole live works like that. find the right job, find the right soul mate, find the right sexual orientation, find the right nutritional orientation, find the right religion, find the right yoga-school... and now i have to find MYSELF? and perhaps even be something special? feel free to be nothing special. feel free to be one of billions of beings. out of billions of years in history. you are nothing special. i am nothing special. we are nothing special. but that's ok. enjoy it. sit down and listen to the trees, the river... or the people passing by, the cars, the bicycles, the tv of your neighbour...
Thanks Falko 😁. I am a member of a 12-step group and it seems as if I am not invited out to lunch or other activities due to,"not knowing who I am." That's a big deal in my group. Newcomers are not expected to know who they are since with their use of substances, it is believed how could they know? I have nine months so I'm pretty new at this myself. Most members are ok with with this but some are very judgemental. I'm going to stick to your words. That's how I believe some of us should be anyway. Thank you for your precious post. It certainly helped me not to feel,"less than " sbich I have felt for so many years. Bless you and gratitude!! 💛💙💜
You're changing my whole outlook on life. I cant believe how much I'm learning from u. You're helping humanity with your content. The first youtuber I feel is speaking from the heart and is actually helping others. I'm just blown away by you. Great job and you deserve to be heard. People need to hear this. Much respect! Thank you!!!!
This was so good! If anyone asks, I say I am myself. And if they ask "what does that mean?" I usually say "I dont know, I'm still changing." I agree..being secure in that insecurity allows us to keep ourselves out of boxes which would otherwise limit growth. When my friends talk to me about their identity I give them this exact advice. Its okay not to know because not knowing does nothing to your importance. I find when people place their identities in man made constructs, they face a lot of confusion.
I don’t know who I am, and I don’t think I ever will know fully, because I lost a part of myself years ago that I won’t ever get back. Maybe I’ll recover, maybe I won’t. But I do know that no matter who I act like, or try to be, I try my best to help people, and that’s who I am. I still don’t know who I am. Sometimes my personality shifts to another randomly, just because I have no idea on how to know I really am. The best I can do is do what I think is right. After all, we’re all human, and that’s all we can do.
I love how you so eloquently put into words the deepest knowledge of my heart. My inner wisdom appreciates being given a voice by your beautiful soul. Thank you
Love this more serious side of you. Great discussion. I’m someone who suffered a catastrophic spinAl cord injury 6 yrs ago. Left paralyzed from waist down feeling completely detached from half of my body I am still figuring out who I am. I don’t know. Thanks for reminding me it’s okay, not to know. Would love to see more videos like this.
Agreed. Detachment needed to free self up to God's will for us, and to roy w the punches. JP mix of comedian, psychologist/life coach and always seems to be in line w the Truths! Impressive , authentic signature (professional) persona!
Hey There. I was recently discarded from a marriage. I had taken on the role of House Dad...When the wheels came off, I was wayyy tipped over. I had no idea who I was at all. It was really disorienting. Now, when I look back, I get sad. When I look too far foreward into the unknown future, I feel useless....I am very lucky to have a place to be and some time to breathe into these words, Thanks
Thank you for posting this video and speaking your truth in this moment. This is something that I have struggled with for a very long time and had brought up in prayer this morning. Hearing your message was very healing and in its simplicity I could feel an inner energy shift.
I love how your channel peppers humor videos with serious ones like this. I’ve had an experience in life that taught me - pretty convincingly - that the purpose of life is to merely experience it for all that it is - the good and the bad. Every day we wake up as a slightly different person as the day before. It’s important to accept yourself for who you are today and to remember that experiencing each day for what it is is at the heart of what life is all about.
I love and appreciate how clearly you communicate about feelings. I am someone who often has trouble translating the language of feeling into the language of words; and you do such a beautiful job. Very inspiring. I enjoyed in this video your reference to the paradoxical aspect of learning who you're not, in order to learn who you are. It is an ever growing and progressing dance between the two. It's like trying on clothes in a store, (I know it's a girly reference, but it works) only the store has an infinite amount of possibilities all waiting to be 'tried on', and either it feels good and ya keep it, or It doesn't, and ya put it back. To me this paradox shows why light and shadow both have to exist. It creates boundaries, or the ability to define something. Imagine standing in a room of all light, or all dark. You wouldn't be able to define any of your surroundings, there would be zero point of reference; but the slightest but of the contrast creates the ability to observe, and be an observer from a single perspective and define a 'self'. I am the dark because I am not the light, or vice versa. Knowing that both have to exist in order to perceive the other gives me the ability to accept and have gratitude for the shadow aspects of myself [and others]. This is a metaphor that can be applied to different parts of life. Make peace, and dance with your shadow, and have gratitude that it holds the space that it does, because it's necessary. And a funny thing happens when you accept these things instead of resist or deny them... You can choose to invoke them, or not.
Dancing with your shadow is an art. The difficult part is not to hug or kiss your shadow when you feel overwhelmed. Especially when there is water in front of you and the sun is behind you!
subscribed. this did it for me. I have actually been asking myself the, who am I? question a lot lately because of many factors and felt like there has to be something wrong with not having any convictions. I have always been very open to life's possibilities and learning and observing but I didn't always see that as a positive. after watching this thinking back on my mindset, I observed life like that because I felt I didn't know anything and that made me feel insecure and child like for not knowing who I am at 28 years old. Thank you for this discussion.
The wisdom of being insecure -- helps us be secure with our insecurity. Recognizing where and what we are in this great macrocosm we all live within. Good advice to live by. I aim to as well.
It honestly feels like I'm a living persona. All the people that are in my life daily feels as if I'm just wearing a mask and putting on an act. And now, realizing that, I'm aware of that is not who I want to be, but it's so hard because it's all I've ever been. I just don't know how to break that cycle.
Congratulations on your recent viral video. I am a new subscriber, you seem like a nice fellow. I never paid much attention to my ego but you make me very conscientious about it now. It is easy to forget there are parts of me that are not the ego. Maybe it is worth considering the ego doesn't always know what is best for me.
this can be especially hard to discover, within the instance of relationship breakdowns, especially of the relationship has lasted a long time, decades even, the person you were within that relationship becomes lost , instead of being 50% of 100 % you become 100% of 0 %.... ( hope that makes sense ) the hardest part, along side the grieving of missing what you had, is most often the trying to adapt to your NEW life , and trying to find YOU again, it is hard, it may take yrs, but you CAN do it...... wow that was pretty deep stuff for a friday morning..lol
loch ness totally understand what your saying. I've only just recently started knowing who I am after a long term relationship. It's even worse when the person you were with is narcissistic.
ok. wow. you practicly took the three year long struggle i have had with myself and helped me understand it all in less than 5 min. thank you. you have no idea how greatful i am for hearing this. it was like a key to a locked door inside my heart that i have almost given up hope to open.
I don't necessary agree with Viadislav Koslin, I think if you know who you are, then it is easier to be yourself, I think knowing who you are is based on values and beliefs. Knowing who you are is the rock that keeps you from being a piece of paper in the wind, so no one or situation will overwhelm you that you do things that go against what your values and beliefs are.
The older I become and the more honest and authentic people I am fortunate to connect with, the more I realize that this idea that you have to have it all figured out by a certain point is quite bs. We are all battling our individual shit storms, to some degree.
I am loving your videos JP. You have a lot of wisdom and it's wonderful that you're sharing so much of it with the world. I am getting a degree in Mental Health Counseling, and I have struggled as I realize each day how little I really know. Last night I had to reassure myself that it is O.K. that I do not know everything, and that was really freeing. Sometimes it's O.K. not to know, as long as we're open to learning, and thinking you know everything actually closes you off from learning.
Your videos are very helpful. And most people who talk about these things I feel they’re somehow superior. They act as though they have found all the answers. In you’re videos I see a fellow human being. It’s like having a conversation with a close friend. Also your voice is very soothing.Thank you for your videos, they help a lot.
Plenty of people think they know who they think they are or perceive themselves to be, we are or have all been guilty of this.... I thought I used to know, now I know NOTHING REALLY. ..... (socrates quote always rings true for me, the only true wisdom is that I know nothing) yet, in my not knowing I come to know the Everythingness within the Nothingness!!! No wrong Nor right.... I bet it makes no sense!! it matters not either way, loved this video. Love Always Lana
***** I just know I know I am not that which I think I am Nor am I that which others think of me or I think of others (I am not my name nor the roles/masks I ware)... I AM Nothing and Everything and even that I don't really feel like claiming or stating. Who am I really? Love and blessings to you
Love Always - Lana Capric I like how you stated it and it makes perfect sense to me. I'm learning via counseling and Celebrate Recovery who I am as a man and to find my voice.
John Brown Awe that's wonderful Dear. I have been doing inner work for more years than I care to admit. Best of luck with that you might like to follow me here on Google plus Love Always - Lana Capric or facebook.com/lanacapric.... I try to provide posts that are educational and inspire us to think.... and look at ourselves. 🙏
Love Always - Lana Capric thank you. I haven't been on Facebook in almost a month and a half but I'll look you up when I get a chance. I dig your profile picture by the way. The black and white looks great in my opinion.
JP, This is really awesome. I love how quickly you get to the heart of what is really causing the insecurity, and anxiety in the first place. Its so empowering to question the foundation of spiritual quests like "be yourself", its like pulling back the curtain, and seeing that what you feared was built on a super shaky foundation to begin with. I feel like my fear of being honest with myself (my insecurity about my insecurities) is diminished when I consider your ideas. Thank you.
so how do you know the difference between what IS your true self and what ISN'T? for example you mentioned that you are NOT the person who is a slave in relationships, although you sometimes fall down that path, you correct yourself and remind yourself that that is not who you are... how do you know that that is not who you really are and you are suppressing it...?
It's all the same B.S., which is why I find the "serious" talks even more hilarious than the overtly satirical ones. This is either JP taking satire and sarcasm to a completely new level, or it's a case of the "emperor's new clothes," in which JP is actually oblivious to the fact that his serious talks are just as nonsensical as the ones he intends to be funny. Either way... hilarious. I really don't care if I'm laughing with or at him.
I love that JP encourages me to be in my empowered authentic self by showing me how my mind creates my own prison, and he does it in a very engaging comedic and prof found way without seeing in preachy. Makes me wish I had a dad like that.
I think there are two ways to lose yourself. I lost myself as a person who laughs in my marriage to someone who saw laughter as a direct threat to his sense of self (he was abusive - the saying by Margaret Atwood that men are afraid that women will laugh at them while women fear that men will kill them was true, and in the end, I was afraid he might kill me, or my children). That was the bad way of losing myself. I filed for divorce about half a year ago and in the meantime I have the sense that maybe I could find that laughing person again, but there are so many responsibilities as a worker and parent that I am not sure I can. The other loss of self is so much better - that moment when you are so wholly unaware of yourself but only aware of your surroundings - like when you are outside, or when you are singing. That is a good loss of sense of self. These are interesting videos, JP, given that for a year or so I have only seen your silly videos.
OK, now I'm even more confused. I suppose what I get from this is that I'm someone with no friends, no relationships, no job, no reason to live. Or perhaps instead, I'm not someone with friends, a relationship, a job, or any reason to live.
ghenulo A lot of these problems are imprinted on us during childhood when we have the least control over what is formulating in our evolving brain and personality...later on in life,we are hindered by these impressions and beliefs that are difficult to undo...its like trying to change the shape of the potters vase after it has been taken off the wheel and fired in the kiln....V.Difficult !
My cousin is exactly like you. Thinking, speaking, looking, voice, philosophy, body shape, even his face has some common features with you! Just like being twin!!
I've watched and laughed with (and at) you for a while now JP. This is the video that made me subscribe. Thanks buddy, you're a good man for doing what you do.
Thank you JP. Yes, I know who I am not and we are always evolving to the next phases of our life. It's continuous change with learning and growing. Insecurity and uncertainty makes us all feel like we don't know who we are. But we are all blessed in a new day and doing new things with failures and successes. I've been stuck for a few years, and I've had those savior feelings in relationships. You can't save or fix anyone, nor do I have the desire to do any fixing of others insecurities.
I thought this was going to go in a different direction but glad that it didn't. "Who I am" evolved and grew into very different things conveniently in 10-year intervals. 20's-college student/young band director, 30's-big school band director and mentor, 40's-school principal/kickboxing and fitness instructor and even more mentorship, 50's-big school principal-slowing down back into teaching orchestra. There were a few other periods of time in my 50s where I was a realtor, car salesman, and bartender. You are spot on about how easy it can be to lose yourself in who you are. It's a long life and I've enjoyed doing and learning and experiencing so many things. I feel good that I've been able to adapt and figure out how to be successful in all these things. I sometimes wonder what it might have been like to do ONE thing/ONE job for all of their adult life. I'm a little envious of that as well. Hmmm. Great video, man. PS...I just read an article about another person getting gored by a buffalo in a national park because they got too close. My retort channeled that voice of how you'd play the entitled taxpayer whining about not being able to get close enough to a wild animal for a selfie for their Insta.
stranger to myself, but every stranger can sum me up in eight seconds
That's cause when they sum you up. That's just a snapshot of who you are and what they've chosen to focus on with regards to you. But you know your not just a snapshot or picture. Your a movie constantly evolving narratives and character development.
Damn this was a scary comment to read
@@vigneshmoorthie922 agreed
@@vigneshmoorthie922 haha yes great comment, also funny when people from the past don't realize that movie has progressed since they have been gone.
Their sum of you is a reflection of themselves. Not really you.
Thank you for effectively giving me permission to not know who I am.
Now THAT'S freedom!🤣
For me, knowing what I'm not is enough. Then I ask myself, Enough for what? Does knowing, or not knowing who you are, make one happy, sad, secure, insecure? I'm flawed like most people. How do you handle your failures, your successes, etc. Now I'm confused. Is this Ok? I like to seek the answer. When I'm feeling confident, I don't feel the need to find the answer. I think it's more wise to just be in the moment and enjoy the day - my dog taught me that. 🐶 🤣💖💃
When he says "it's okay" and you suddenly feel lighter, more comfortable and at ease.
This guy ... making fun of alot of things and also hitting it precisely when he gets serious.
That's not contradictive actually .. but still impressive and nice.
Big Bingo
your confident vulnerability is healing and an honor to experience
thank you
Christina R "confident vulnerability"..... that described exactly "who I am now... (hahaha 😉)...
But no, really.... letting go of fears and attachments and anger and learning to love self and accept the oneness of everything the result is a confident vulnerability
Ask instead, Who am I becoming.
That's true
Double Dragonlike pothead?
Double Dragon great idea
Better still, don't ask, just be
Instead instead, who am I NOT becoming, AND just be. Double deep.
That turtle is totally photobombing!
and JP is photobombing himself in the top corner too :D
I know right? Thats all i could think about through the whole video!
I wann b like dat turtle cause he just exist and he is happy with that
I was 100% confident there was no turtle in this video until I read this.
it would appear as if your Perspective changed, such a cool lesson.
'False sense of insecurity', fuckin wonderful
Wow i don't feel so lost anymore. That was so deep .Thanks for the insight.
It’s insane watching this and then seeing the latest videos, you’re still writhing with this question
I feel like maybe this wasn't something to watch while sitting around stuffing my face with potato chips
Ashley Manney
Exactly what I was doing lol
Soup n garlic bread, me...
At least you have potato chips
Maybe you don't know who you are but you think you know who you are. You don't know who you are that you are
Honey buns!
Wow. This is the first non-satirical video, and it's so awesome.
+Justus Patrick I appreciate you watching it my friend :-)
Do you have any more? All I can find are the funny ones
I'd say he does a bit more serious videos than full satirical or funny ones.
You can check out : "dealing with a narcissist" - "terrorism of happiness" - "the danger of goal settings", and I'd like people to check out the video he would probably define himself as his most important, in which he develops his more unique, yet essential, taboo, thought-provocking, destabilizing, but still essential and useful in his opinion (and maybe mine) : "How to heal your shame". In a lot of his videos he invite us to go watch "How to heal your shame" because he thinks most of his videos and the problems he talks about are related to that shame.
All of his videos have very serious points to them regardless if they're meant to be or seem funny at the same time.
I do know who I am, because I am a highly evolved indigo child
You are my new therapist. I really needed one, just ask my husband.
...wow
"If you're not alive and you're watching this video you've got issues" 😂 I died!
Interesting. I have so many thoughts on this right now. The first being, that in order to really know yourself, you have to understand the things that make you happy. So you have to try a lot of different things to learn your likes, and your dislikes. The second thing is, being yourself means being the you that you're most comfortable and happy with. The truest form of happiness I'm aware of is when what you think and what you say and what you do are all in harmony with each other. In all reality it's difficult to be ourselves all the time. People often do things they're ashamed of out of anger, or necessity. Most people I've talked to have 2 concepts involving who they are. There's the person they want to be, and there's the person they think they are. The fastest way I found to get to know myself better, and get over the 'who I think I am' concept, was by first asking myself "What kind of person am I overall, when I look at the actions I've taken through my life?" The second was to ask myself, "Would I want to be friends with me?" Looking at yourself from an outsiders perspective, can be a really big eye opener. x.x Sorry for going on forever, you're video gave me so much to think about. I'd better get back to writing. :) Thank you!
OMG, ive been struggling with this issue all my life. Trying to find myself, to be able to be authentic when im with others. It has always ben a losing battle. I thought I was totally lost. Thank you for this powerful teaching. I really am OK
Yes we are !
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable
The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine
You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not
JUST you are FINE
The world Needs You
Because There is Only One You
And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do
LOVE from Cappadocia!
I'm 7 years late to this party, but just have to say, that in the opinion of this 71 year old, (finally) free spirit, this is, hands down, one of the most important & impressive videos on TH-cam!
7 years late but it’s never too late really, you just needed those 7 years
@@Pherretfishexactly 💯
Once I stopped waiting for the joke and realized you were being serious, I was so appreciative of your wise words. Thank you JP!
how about removing the pressure to be "someone"? perhaps feel free to be no-one. we always have to do or be sth. our whole live works like that. find the right job, find the right soul mate, find the right sexual orientation, find the right nutritional orientation, find the right religion, find the right yoga-school... and now i have to find MYSELF? and perhaps even be something special? feel free to be nothing special. feel free to be one of billions of beings. out of billions of years in history. you are nothing special. i am nothing special. we are nothing special. but that's ok. enjoy it. sit down and listen to the trees, the river... or the people passing by, the cars, the bicycles, the tv of your neighbour...
Gosh that's exactly what I need to read at this point in my life. Thank you!
THANK YOU FINALLY SOMEBODY SAID IT
Thanks Falko 😁. I am a member of a 12-step group and it seems as if I am not invited out to lunch or other activities due to,"not knowing who I am." That's a big deal in my group.
Newcomers are not expected to know who they are since with their use of substances, it is believed how could they know?
I have nine months so I'm pretty new at this myself.
Most members are ok with with this but some are very judgemental. I'm going to stick to your words.
That's how I believe some of us should be anyway.
Thank you for your precious post. It certainly helped me not to feel,"less than " sbich I have felt for so many years.
Bless you and gratitude!!
💛💙💜
But isn't the issue that we all want to succeed and be the best version of ourselves, that's why we always push ourselves to 'be this be that'.
Well said
I'm totally myself with my dogs, and they love me. The cat is another story.
Thanks for the great journal idea, "Who I'm not."
“The cat is another story.” 😂
You're changing my whole outlook on life. I cant believe how much I'm learning from u. You're helping humanity with your content. The first youtuber I feel is speaking from the heart and is actually helping others. I'm just blown away by you. Great job and you deserve to be heard. People need to hear this. Much respect! Thank you!!!!
This just came to mind: let yourself be
EarthOne UPC but who is myself??
This was so good! If anyone asks, I say I am myself. And if they ask "what does that mean?" I usually say "I dont know, I'm still changing." I agree..being secure in that insecurity allows us to keep ourselves out of boxes which would otherwise limit growth. When my friends talk to me about their identity I give them this exact advice. Its okay not to know because not knowing does nothing to your importance. I find when people place their identities in man made constructs, they face a lot of confusion.
I agree but then disagree.. I'm so confused right now LOL
Reminds me of Alan Watts 'The Wisdom of Uncertainty' ❤️🙏
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I don’t know who I am, and I don’t think I ever will know fully, because I lost a part of myself years ago that I won’t ever get back. Maybe I’ll recover, maybe I won’t. But I do know that no matter who I act like, or try to be, I try my best to help people, and that’s who I am. I still don’t know who I am. Sometimes my personality shifts to another randomly, just because I have no idea on how to know I really am. The best I can do is do what I think is right. After all, we’re all human, and that’s all we can do.
I love how you so eloquently put into words the deepest knowledge of my heart. My inner wisdom appreciates being given a voice by your beautiful soul. Thank you
Love this more serious side of you. Great discussion. I’m someone who suffered a catastrophic spinAl cord injury 6 yrs ago. Left paralyzed from waist down feeling completely detached from half of my body I am still figuring out who I am. I don’t know. Thanks for reminding me it’s okay, not to know. Would love to see more videos like this.
JP: came here for the comedy - staying for your substance. Great channel, thank you very much! :)
I knew he looked familiar! I do t really know who he is but I remember seeing him and I could have sworn it was a funny video
What Oxyg3n said
Ditto! I started watching his funny stuff & even in his humor I realized he's really kinda brilliant.
Agreed. Detachment needed to free self up to God's will for us, and to roy w the punches. JP mix of comedian, psychologist/life coach and always seems to be in line w the Truths! Impressive , authentic signature (professional) persona!
Hey There. I was recently discarded from a marriage. I had taken on the role of House Dad...When the wheels came off, I was wayyy tipped over. I had no idea who I was at all. It was really disorienting. Now, when I look back, I get sad. When I look too far foreward into the unknown future, I feel useless....I am very lucky to have a place to be and some time to breathe into these words, Thanks
We're ALL DISPLACED brother - without being aware of it.
Don't be too hard on yourself.
I hope ur content to be out of it. God bless from Ireland 🇮🇪🙏🍀
I hope things are better now!
Felt led to say this, but you’ll find yourself in Jesus Christ. ❤️
@@thatcrazyxoxo truth! Amen!
You are SO articulate!!! SO fulfilling to hear your wisdom... You are "gift" JP!!!
I liked your work brother! I like the way you express yourself and the way you use humor to touch peoples hearts (:
It makes me feel deeply nauseous when people say 'brother'.
A YOUNG MAN OF WISDOM
Thank you for posting this video and speaking your truth in this moment. This is something that I have struggled with for a very long time and had brought up in prayer this morning. Hearing your message was very healing and in its simplicity I could feel an inner energy shift.
I love how your channel peppers humor videos with serious ones like this. I’ve had an experience in life that taught me - pretty convincingly - that the purpose of life is to merely experience it for all that it is - the good and the bad. Every day we wake up as a slightly different person as the day before. It’s important to accept yourself for who you are today and to remember that experiencing each day for what it is is at the heart of what life is all about.
I love and appreciate how clearly you communicate about feelings. I am someone who often has trouble translating the language of feeling into the language of words; and you do such a beautiful job. Very inspiring.
I enjoyed in this video your reference to the paradoxical aspect of learning who you're not, in order to learn who you are. It is an ever growing and progressing dance between the two. It's like trying on clothes in a store, (I know it's a girly reference, but it works) only the store has an infinite amount of possibilities all waiting to be 'tried on', and either it feels good and ya keep it, or It doesn't, and ya put it back. To me this paradox shows why light and shadow both have to exist. It creates boundaries, or the ability to define something. Imagine standing in a room of all light, or all dark. You wouldn't be able to define any of your surroundings, there would be zero point of reference; but the slightest but of the contrast creates the ability to observe, and be an observer from a single perspective and define a 'self'. I am the dark because I am not the light, or vice versa. Knowing that both have to exist in order to perceive the other gives me the ability to accept and have gratitude for the shadow aspects of myself [and others]. This is a metaphor that can be applied to different parts of life. Make peace, and dance with your shadow, and have gratitude that it holds the space that it does, because it's necessary. And a funny thing happens when you accept these things instead of resist or deny them... You can choose to invoke them, or not.
Dancing with your shadow is an art. The difficult part is not to hug or kiss your shadow when you feel overwhelmed. Especially when there is water in front of you and the sun is behind you!
Beautifully said.. thank you
Your mannerism, how you explain your points, your speech.... everything. I loved it. Thank you
"Well let me just...invite this bug to get off my leg first." 😂❤
subscribed. this did it for me. I have actually been asking myself the, who am I? question a lot lately because of many factors and felt like there has to be something wrong with not having any convictions. I have always been very open to life's possibilities and learning and observing but I didn't always see that as a positive. after watching this thinking back on my mindset, I observed life like that because I felt I didn't know anything and that made me feel insecure and child like for not knowing who I am at 28 years old. Thank you for this discussion.
+Kristen Berlett I appreciate you subscribing and sharing your introspecting :-)
I always strive to be as terrible as I can be, so that future me can look back and say, "Glad I'm not that guy."
(Seriously though this was great.)
Baby JP dropping wisdom
This vid found me at this perfect moment in regards to my mindset over the last week or two. Thank you.
Who I am is the Possibility of Self-Expression, Love, Peace, Freedom, Clarity, Wisdom, Fulfilling Life and Contribution to others!!!
+Martha Mallma ah but expressions are ideas dearies.................
Hi dear, what do you mean with that??
The wisdom of being insecure -- helps us be secure with our insecurity. Recognizing where and what we are in this great macrocosm we all live within. Good advice to live by. I aim to as well.
Byenia beautifully put
this is helping very much. thank you.
This is amazing.
Morgan Laster I'm glad you could see yourself in some of this video Morgan :-)
JP. Thank you. This morning the thought “I don’t know who I am” came to mind. Your conversation here brought everything back into perspective.
Very wise, thank you. Apophatic Inquiry is vital. You definitely got my subscription :D
I am one of those, I lost myself and my beliefs to find who I am.♥ Painful at the beginning but Beautiful at the end.
It honestly feels like I'm a living persona. All the people that are in my life daily feels as if I'm just wearing a mask and putting on an act. And now, realizing that, I'm aware of that is not who I want to be, but it's so hard because it's all I've ever been. I just don't know how to break that cycle.
Thanks
Congratulations on your recent viral video. I am a new subscriber, you seem like a nice fellow. I never paid much attention to my ego but you make me very conscientious about it now. It is easy to forget there are parts of me that are not the ego. Maybe it is worth considering the ego doesn't always know what is best for me.
***** They wont find your mind either, or your name, or your memory, or any knowledge you had, or your ideas, or your life for a matter of fact.
J P! I really appreciate your wisdom and humor your amazing and a gift to us all . Thanks for being so real with your insight
this can be especially hard to discover, within the instance of relationship breakdowns, especially of the relationship has lasted a long time, decades even, the person you were within that relationship becomes lost , instead of being 50% of 100 % you become 100% of 0 %.... ( hope that makes sense ) the hardest part, along side the grieving of missing what you had, is most often the trying to adapt to your NEW life , and trying to find YOU again, it is hard, it may take yrs, but you CAN do it...... wow that was pretty deep stuff for a friday morning..lol
loch ness totally understand what your saying. I've only just recently started knowing who I am after a long term relationship. It's even worse when the person you were with is narcissistic.
Jen Clark it can be hard, but you will do it
Yeh I've been doing lots of character building lately! Best wishes too u!
Jen Clark aww ty Jen, right back at ya
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ok. wow. you practicly took the three year long struggle i have had with myself and helped me understand it all in less than 5 min. thank you. you have no idea how greatful i am for hearing this. it was like a key to a locked door inside my heart that i have almost given up hope to open.
This made me laugh silently and inwardly
I love it when he looks off to the side in surprise of what just came out of his mouth.
I don't necessary agree with Viadislav Koslin, I think if you know who you are, then it is easier to be yourself, I think knowing who you are is based on values and beliefs. Knowing who you are is the rock that keeps you from being a piece of paper in the wind, so no one or situation will overwhelm you that you do things that go against what your values and beliefs are.
The older I become and the more honest and authentic people I am fortunate to connect with, the more I realize that this idea that you have to have it all figured out by a certain point is quite bs. We are all battling our individual shit storms, to some degree.
you should do ted talks and if you do, id like to be there when you do
John Misener ☝️Yes!
He has
This is pure gold!
He is better than any „serious“ counsellour.
When I saw the title I was like OMG how does he know?
Asking myself who I'm not.. that's a profound question & food for thought, I'm glad I stumbled over this video
Not knowing who you are, is the first step to knowing something about yourself.
I like this aspect of JP. I could sense it in his comedic work. Thank you.
Thank you, your videos help a lot!.. Glad to have found you here by chance :)
+Ayten Alkan I appreciate you finding me :-)
Fantastic video! Anyone who is on the path of openness and self discovery should watch this!
Dying the deathless death willingly and a winter's tale becomes new spring.
props
is that a quote or original? because thats the most beautiful thing ive heard in quite a while
Thanks :-).
are you a poet? [:
I am loving your videos JP. You have a lot of wisdom and it's wonderful that you're sharing so much of it with the world. I am getting a degree in Mental Health Counseling, and I have struggled as I realize each day how little I really know. Last night I had to reassure myself that it is O.K. that I do not know everything, and that was really freeing. Sometimes it's O.K. not to know, as long as we're open to learning, and thinking you know everything actually closes you off from learning.
You should take the audios of these and turn them into a podcast
Thankyou.
Good Video, very interesting!!!
Your videos are very helpful. And most people who talk about these things I feel they’re somehow superior. They act as though they have found all the answers. In you’re videos I see a fellow human being. It’s like having a conversation with a close friend. Also your voice is very soothing.Thank you for your videos, they help a lot.
you should talk about accepting your own existence
You have an incredible gift for perplexing us while saying absolutely nothing! I LOVE IT! It's so brilliant!
I felt so lost and this video made me feel so good. Thanks xxx for some reason you remind me of Ross Geller by the way.
I was asking myself exactly the same question.. I needed this so so badly. I love you man ^_^
Plenty of people think they know who they think they are or perceive themselves to be, we are or have all been guilty of this....
I thought I used to know, now I know NOTHING REALLY. ..... (socrates quote always rings true for me, the only true wisdom is that I know nothing) yet, in my not knowing I come to know the Everythingness within the Nothingness!!! No wrong Nor right.... I bet it makes no sense!! it matters not either way, loved this video. Love Always Lana
***** haha, yes, I know what you mean I think 😉😉😉
***** I just know I know I am not that which I think I am Nor am I that which others think of me or I think of others (I am not my name nor the roles/masks I ware)... I AM Nothing and Everything and even that I don't really feel like claiming or stating. Who am I really?
Love and blessings to you
Love Always - Lana Capric I like how you stated it and it makes perfect sense to me. I'm learning via counseling and Celebrate Recovery who I am as a man and to find my voice.
John Brown Awe that's wonderful Dear. I have been doing inner work for more years than I care to admit. Best of luck with that you might like to follow me here on Google plus Love Always - Lana Capric or facebook.com/lanacapric.... I try to provide posts that are educational and inspire us to think.... and look at ourselves. 🙏
Love Always - Lana Capric thank you. I haven't been on Facebook in almost a month and a half but I'll look you up when I get a chance. I dig your profile picture by the way. The black and white looks great in my opinion.
JP, This is really awesome. I love how quickly you get to the heart of what is really causing the insecurity, and anxiety in the first place. Its so empowering to question the foundation of spiritual quests like "be yourself", its like pulling back the curtain, and seeing that what you feared was built on a super shaky foundation to begin with. I feel like my fear of being honest with myself (my insecurity about my insecurities) is diminished when I consider your ideas. Thank you.
so how do you know the difference between what IS your true self and what ISN'T? for example you mentioned that you are NOT the person who is a slave in relationships, although you sometimes fall down that path, you correct yourself and remind yourself that that is not who you are... how do you know that that is not who you really are and you are suppressing it...?
+Jack C hm..true....
+Jack C Good Question!
Who you are JP Sears, is a great person that's for sure. That was very helpful.
How do i know which video is satirical nd wich is serious talk
It's all the same B.S., which is why I find the "serious" talks even more hilarious than the overtly satirical ones. This is either JP taking satire and sarcasm to a completely new level, or it's a case of the "emperor's new clothes," in which JP is actually oblivious to the fact that his serious talks are just as nonsensical as the ones he intends to be funny. Either way... hilarious. I really don't care if I'm laughing with or at him.
i think he wears that weird hair thing
I love that JP encourages me to be in my empowered authentic self by showing me how my mind creates my own prison, and he does it in a very engaging comedic and prof found way without seeing in preachy. Makes me wish I had a dad like that.
I think there are two ways to lose yourself. I lost myself as a person who laughs in my marriage to someone who saw laughter as a direct threat to his sense of self (he was abusive - the saying by Margaret Atwood that men are afraid that women will laugh at them while women fear that men will kill them was true, and in the end, I was afraid he might kill me, or my children). That was the bad way of losing myself. I filed for divorce about half a year ago and in the meantime I have the sense that maybe I could find that laughing person again, but there are so many responsibilities as a worker and parent that I am not sure I can.
The other loss of self is so much better - that moment when you are so wholly unaware of yourself but only aware of your surroundings - like when you are outside, or when you are singing. That is a good loss of sense of self.
These are interesting videos, JP, given that for a year or so I have only seen your silly videos.
Wooooow. I feel so much better and so motivated to see 'who i am not' to find out who i am. Thank you
I know I'm ultra spiritual- therefore I am wise - I'm sure Socrates said that ;)
+TheExistentialist. That sounds like something we would want him to say.
He seems like he’d make an incredible friend.
how do the mosquitoes feel about da issue? Do mosquitoes find each-other?
Duuuuuude, I see what you did there! Genius, so glad I subscribed, you are hilarious!
OK, now I'm even more confused. I suppose what I get from this is that I'm someone with no friends, no relationships, no job, no reason to live. Or perhaps instead, I'm not someone with friends, a relationship, a job, or any reason to live.
ghenulo A lot of these problems are imprinted on us during childhood when we have the least control over what is formulating in our evolving brain and personality...later on in life,we are hindered by these impressions and beliefs that are difficult to undo...its like trying to change the shape of the potters vase after it has been taken off the wheel and fired in the kiln....V.Difficult !
My cousin is exactly like you. Thinking, speaking, looking, voice, philosophy, body shape, even his face has some common features with you! Just like being twin!!
When I clicked on this video I didn't know who I was. At all.😔
So much love in your words, thank you
is turtle real in background?
I've watched and laughed with (and at) you for a while now JP. This is the video that made me subscribe. Thanks buddy, you're a good man for doing what you do.
The funniest thing about these videos is that people don't seem to realize they're satire.
Samuel Bauer I Not all are satire. This one certainly isn't.
winston smith Sorry bud, it's satire.
Samuel Bauer , you're satire, bra
Austin Till Oh wow, insults. What a hero.
There are ones that are satire but he also does videos that aren't. You can tell this one isn't. There is real wisdom in this.
Thank you JP. Yes, I know who I am not and we are always evolving to the next phases of our life. It's continuous change with learning and growing. Insecurity and uncertainty makes us all feel like we don't know who we are. But we are all blessed in a new day and doing new things with failures and successes. I've been stuck for a few years, and I've had those savior feelings in relationships. You can't save or fix anyone, nor do I have the desire to do any fixing of others insecurities.
Came here for a good laugh. I received that and, unexpectedly, amazing insight. Very deep discussion. Thank You JP!!
I hope you make more of these videos. I found this very heartening and uplifting. God bless
I thought this was going to go in a different direction but glad that it didn't. "Who I am" evolved and grew into very different things conveniently in 10-year intervals. 20's-college student/young band director, 30's-big school band director and mentor, 40's-school principal/kickboxing and fitness instructor and even more mentorship, 50's-big school principal-slowing down back into teaching orchestra. There were a few other periods of time in my 50s where I was a realtor, car salesman, and bartender. You are spot on about how easy it can be to lose yourself in who you are. It's a long life and I've enjoyed doing and learning and experiencing so many things. I feel good that I've been able to adapt and figure out how to be successful in all these things. I sometimes wonder what it might have been like to do ONE thing/ONE job for all of their adult life. I'm a little envious of that as well. Hmmm. Great video, man. PS...I just read an article about another person getting gored by a buffalo in a national park because they got too close. My retort channeled that voice of how you'd play the entitled taxpayer whining about not being able to get close enough to a wild animal for a selfie for their Insta.
I love you JP! You connect so well to your audience. I feel like we're friends.