My counselor taught me that whenever I think "I can't do that" or "I'm not like that" to ask, "What would it look like if I could do that/were like that?" Sometimes I get so stuck in the vision I have of myself that I need to push myself to imagine myself as different than the way that I already am. It has helped me change so much for the better!
I'm not sure about the best advice ever, but about a year ago my dad told me "Never deliberately keep making a mistake just because of how much effort you've already put into making it", which has been extremely useful to me!
Best piece of advice I ever got was from my dad who said "There's no such thing as normal, you don't have to compare yourself to it." I always thought I was crazy, that everyone else was sane and I was abnormal. It preyed on me so much, especially when I was diagnosed with anxiety, that I used to have major crying jags and thought no one could ever be close to me since then they would know I was not "normal". My dad sat me down and said, "There's no such thing as "normal", we all have our own demons." When he said that it shifted my perspective and I now see myself and how I relate to the world in a much better way. I am me and there is nothing shameful about that. Love him so much for that.
The absolute best advice I've ever gotten I got from my dad, which was, you have to plan your life around your day. Meaning, what you do every day is going to make your life whatever it will be, so you build your life based on what is most important to you every day, whether that's routine, variety, a job you love, a place you love, something that facilitates your hobbies; whatever it is, it's about what you do every day, not once a year or once a month or whatever. That isn't necessarily easy to achieve (as I'm learning at 23, lol), but it does give me something to measure my decisions against and a way to prioritise what's important to me. I give that advice to people all the time and I try my best to live my life according to it.
My dad raised me and my siblings with the advice "If you see something that needs to be done, just do it. Don't wait for someone to tell you to." As a kid, this mostly pertained to taking the trash out without being told a dozen times, but as an adult, it has broader implications, like taking the initiative without being prodded first. It's really stuck with me.
"What's for you will not pass you by" - my nana. Always grounds me and reminds me that right now is not all there is and if something bad happens or something good happens, it's part of your journey to get to who you will be so accept it and learn how to make it part of your story.
I feel like the best advice I was ever read/heard was that you're supposed to feel uncomfortable sometimes aka you can't feel comfortable all the time. It seems quite obvious, but when you really grasp its meaning it makes it so much easier to be objective about disappointing things in your life (or yourself).
the best advice i ever got is more a lesson i learnt last year, that its okay to need people. cause doing everything on my own wont get me far and it just makes me miserable
I think I've always heard "everything in moderation" in regards to how many sweets I'm eating or how much coffee I drink, but I like this general attitude towards the phrase, I'd never thought to apply it in terms of nuanced perspective in other parts of my life.
My dad always told me to "use my powers for good" and my mom always said "you don't have to own every piece of art to admire it" and those things pop into my mind all the time for a myriad of circumstances.
My dad gave me two great pieces of advice over and over in my childhood: “this too shall pass” and “what’s for you won’t go past you”. I’ve found them both really useful at different points in my life, especially when I’m faced with a rough patch that I just need to get through, or a disappointment like not getting a job I really wanted.
The best advice I've ever been given is to remember that my body is my own, to enjoy and to touch and to care for. As a teenage girl it's easy to feel objectified, or to feel that I'm only allowed to love my body because of the way it looks to other people. The reminder that my body is my own to enjoy helps me to focus on sensation, to pay attention to my own needs and to find peace in my individuality.
Roughly translated: You should leave thinking to horses, they have bigger heads. Doesn't mean to think things through, means to not overthink yourself into a pool of self-doubt. Thanks, Grandma
My therapist once told me to be as kind to myself as l would be to my best friend or one of the five year old I used to look after. It was just before self-care really took off and I think it really helped me understand it when it did. It wasn't just bath bombs and treating myself (though let's be real that stuffs great) it was about being fine with weeping when I was sad or angry or confused because I would never yell at a five year old for crying. It was about it being okay to hate and criticise people I love and who loved me back if they did things that warranted it, because if they did that to my friends I'd tell them to go to hell. And it's about it being fine to fail and miss deadlines and give myself permission to just not, cos it doesn't make me a horrid person any more than it would my little brother. Self-love is real people, it's hard sometimes but it's amazing.
I had this conversation with my sister last night. About the ways in which we look at and curate our lives in an attempt to be "more special", and end up looking down on ourselves for not living the great narrative our society says is worthy to live. The truth is, allowing for nuance makes space for empathy, both for ourselves and for others. Accepting "moderation" is also widening our definition of worth, and beauty.
My biology teacher used to say this, because either extreme could change an established homeostasis. Too much or too little of anything can cause harm, so we learnt to see in nuanced ways using biology, which can be adapted to any facet of life.
Mine is probably “if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.” I took this to the extreme when I wanted to learn how to whistle (I was only about 6), and one day I just kept making noises with my mouth until I let out this huge whistling noise! I couldn’t believe I had finally done it, and it took all day but I didn’t stop whistling until I drove everyone mad haha. In life generally I’m someone who has always had to go the extra mile to do well, and that’s mainly because I’m very self critical. I’m hoping this mindset and determination will get me where I wish to be in the future. Thanks for this Leena :)
For me the best advice has been: "just let it go". It's not supposed to sound sad and melancholic, but rather freeing and happy. I often find myself being stuck thinking or trying to be a certain way and I've really had to learn to just let go. Letting go of feeling pressured, of friendships that need to end, ways of thinking that include how things should be or could be. Letting go of passing feelings, wants, etc. It sometimes feels impossible to do, but as I've been practicing it over the years, I've become quite easy-going and relaxed. :D
A piece of advice that helps me everyday is to Never assume. I'm incredibly shy and introverted so this can be quite difficult for me, but I learned the hard way (many times) that it's better to ask dumb questions than finding myself in awkward situations that could've easily been avoided haha (especially at work but it's good for any kind of relationship). I hear so many people who literally create problems that wouldn't exist if they would just tell the other person what's on their mind. Life would be so much easier if everyone did that !
Best advice (out of other great advice): if you don’t try, you’ll never succeed. Followed in equal measures by the fact that talent is a myth and you will get better at something if you put the effort in.
Of course you get better at something if you put the effort in but that is not the same as talent? If someone is able to do sth WITHOUT effort that other people have to work hard for, they obviously have a talent for it? Or if you do sth, but you have no talent for it, hard work is only gonna get you to a certain point you cannot go beyond, whereas people who put the same effort in AND have a talent for it will get way farther. I don't really see how someone could say talent was a myth.
I think the best advice I was given was by my parents whose attitude is always, give things a go and if they don’t work out at least you tried. I always think about this because I can get very socially anxious especially having to email or call people. And it helps me remember that I will be more upset if I don’t try this thing, even if it makes me anxious now. For example I applied for a paid publishing internship last year, having to write the entry form and send it made me super anxious especially as getting the internship would mean I’d have to move state. I didn’t get the internship but I did get to the final three chosen for interviews which was a huge confidence boost considering I have no experience or qualifications in book publishing. And also hearing in detail what the internship entailed made me realise publishing would be fun, but it’s not something I could be fully passionate about, and helped me realise actually writing stories is my dream which lead me to finishing the novel I was working on and sending it to an unpublished manuscript competition 😊
I was told to find a self-care phrase that you can use whenever you need to. I physically carry it around with me everywhere that I go (hidden behind my phone case). At first when you start saying it you feel like an absolute muppet, but when you become more familiar with saying it, it’s a really powerful thing to use in your moments of need. Mine is “Stop, and breathe. I can do this”. Just the way the whole phrase reads also really helps. I’d definitely, definitely recommend it. I bloody love your videos xxxx
Best advice was from my spanish mother: oir, ver, y callar. Roughly translated to listen, watch, and don't talk. It really stuck with me and taught me to be an observer and not a talker. I think our words are very powerful tools, and I try not to say anything that is unnecessary or speak on something I'm uninformed about. Sometimes I take it too far and become a bit of a wallflower, it's a work in progress I think. Everything in moderation :)
best peice of advice was a phrase my dad used to always say to me: “this too will pass” it’s acctually a beatles lyric but i think it’s super important bc it’s a reminder through hard times things will get better and through good times it makes u remember that all good things end u know ?? also considering getting it tattooed ?? opinions ??
This is a piece of advice that I actually gave myself, inspired by a line from Romeo and Juliet! The line goes “Love moderately. Long love doth so. Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow." It's something that I've taken with me ever since I read Romeo and Juliet in English in year 11, and broadened to "Everything in moderation". It's interesting to see other comments that it has many different origins!
I think mine is "Es gibt nichts was es nicht gibt." also by my mum and it translates to "There is nothing which doesn't exist" and for motivational quotes I think it is by Lilly Singh who is the hardest working person I know: "Humans have a tendency to overcomplicate simple things because we overthink them. But if you take a step back and remember your priorities, it becomes easier to make a decision."
nimi noodles but... we can like being treated differently often, so... treat others the way they wish to be treated is better imo. (obviously minus some ugly behaviours that are universality unwelcomed)
wilfingmaniac i mean true, but when i was given that advice as a child putting it in those terms was much more understandable - when practised as an adult it definitely ends up being treat others as thhey would wish to be treated as you said though
this feels like an especially poignant piece of advise when i look around at my life and the world lately. i feel like i'm drowning in hyperbole wherever i turn, whether it be in my interaction with media or other people or when im just alone in my apartment. some much needed regrounding advise here! thank you so much, leena!! :)
My dad once backed up into another car with me in the passenger seat. He turned to me and said very seriously: "It's not funny now, but it will be in a few years." I just thought that was the best advice because no matter how shitty something is, it'll make for a great story that you'll laugh about later. He also doesn't remember saying this.
To start off you look great as for the best piece of advice I got: if something is too good to be true it probably isn’t, it urged me to exercise healthy skepticism and because I am such a glass half full kind of person I tend to find myself missing out on a lot of consequences and down sides to decisions that at that point in time seem just wonderful all around positive choices that piece of advice also reminds me to read the terms and conditions before signing my name (‘:
“Embrace the hopelessness” my mother told me when I was going through a heartbreak. First I thought she was mental! “It will swallow me whole!” I said. “I will drown!” But in the end, of course, she was right. The only way to deal with something and eventually move on, is to first acknowledge it and truly feel it. Even when it really really hurts and is really really scary.
I was trying to think of "best piece of advice" I'd ever heard but I came up totally blank! For me, advice is very situational. I've never felt a single piece of advice could translate into a life philosophy. Though I'm still searching for something that I can apply consistently!
This is such good advice!!!! And something about it and the way you expressed everything about the concept of being moderate about stuff just makes me feel so right, like everything is right actually & how it's supposed to be... except that I need more wagon wheels.
Best bit of advice I ever received - take care of yourself, but remember that sometimes the most caring thing you can do for yourself is doing the thing which makes you feel like you need care. Make sense? I hope so! 😂😘
There's a macedonian phrase that translates to something like "once you're in the dance circle you have to keep dancing". I like to think of it in the way of always keep persisting and trying. Especially in situations when I've made a mistake and have to apologise, like I'm in the dance circle and to get out I have to see it through.
Those earrings are lovely ~~ I plan on going to london next year for my masters, and would love advice on London/where to live/how much $$ to bring/best things to do ~
Yeah! They raised you to critically think for yourself instead of doing everything for you. Everything in moderation is really good reminder of nuance too. Many factors intermingling together, instead of all or nothing thinking. We have these little sayings reminders to keep us from slipping into assumption and unhealthy thinking that could negatively affect our actions. It does sound like a check in and zoom out big perspective. Like a moment to pause and be aware of how things are happening
i didn't even realise those were earrings i just thought they were part of your outfit? like a super colourful collar. either way, super funky very nice
Old cross country coach use to say The journey is everything and the finish meams nothing. Sometimes we think if we get to that certain point then it'll mean everything we every want. But just getting there can teach us so much more. In a way it's like living in the moment. Random when did you change your channel name. No frog snog out 😕
I'm really obsessed with the idea of process, because it's way to easy to end up focusing on markers of something being "done" but like, nothing is ever really done when it comes to personal improvement and goals like that???? So I always try to enjoy any process I'm involved with and consider that my top priority.
Sounds like a good teacher. It also made me think, in life, what if you never get to the finish line (which is sad but irrefutable)? Some never live to do / achieve everything they want to. So it's most important to enjoy and be in the moment.
In terms of politics, some of the best advice I've heard is from John and Hank Green's podcast: Talk in specifics and not in ideologically-charged language. Focus on policy rather than ideology. In terms of what helps my anxiety-prone mind: "The only thing that is the end of the world is the end of the world."
Oh I love that.... I really love that. I think I do something similar in my head where if I'm feeling OVERWHELMED my brain just kinda tentatively reminds me of Carl Sagan talking about how we're on a pale blue dot and we're so small and meaningless. I know that stresses some people out more, but I always find it so calming to remember space and the vastness of all existence beyond our planet and all that.
It's funny you had to think about being moderate, as I have NEVER been able to see things in an extreme way... I can never see something/someone as completely bad or completely good...
My counselor taught me that whenever I think "I can't do that" or "I'm not like that" to ask, "What would it look like if I could do that/were like that?" Sometimes I get so stuck in the vision I have of myself that I need to push myself to imagine myself as different than the way that I already am. It has helped me change so much for the better!
I'm not sure about the best advice ever, but about a year ago my dad told me "Never deliberately keep making a mistake just because of how much effort you've already put into making it", which has been extremely useful to me!
Best piece of advice I ever got was from my dad who said "There's no such thing as normal, you don't have to compare yourself to it." I always thought I was crazy, that everyone else was sane and I was abnormal. It preyed on me so much, especially when I was diagnosed with anxiety, that I used to have major crying jags and thought no one could ever be close to me since then they would know I was not "normal". My dad sat me down and said, "There's no such thing as "normal", we all have our own demons." When he said that it shifted my perspective and I now see myself and how I relate to the world in a much better way. I am me and there is nothing shameful about that. Love him so much for that.
The absolute best advice I've ever gotten I got from my dad, which was, you have to plan your life around your day. Meaning, what you do every day is going to make your life whatever it will be, so you build your life based on what is most important to you every day, whether that's routine, variety, a job you love, a place you love, something that facilitates your hobbies; whatever it is, it's about what you do every day, not once a year or once a month or whatever.
That isn't necessarily easy to achieve (as I'm learning at 23, lol), but it does give me something to measure my decisions against and a way to prioritise what's important to me. I give that advice to people all the time and I try my best to live my life according to it.
The best piece of advice I've ever been given also came from my mum! "Don't say anything behind someone's back that you wouldn't say to their face."
My dad raised me and my siblings with the advice "If you see something that needs to be done, just do it. Don't wait for someone to tell you to." As a kid, this mostly pertained to taking the trash out without being told a dozen times, but as an adult, it has broader implications, like taking the initiative without being prodded first. It's really stuck with me.
"What's for you will not pass you by" - my nana. Always grounds me and reminds me that right now is not all there is and if something bad happens or something good happens, it's part of your journey to get to who you will be so accept it and learn how to make it part of your story.
I feel like the best advice I was ever read/heard was that you're supposed to feel uncomfortable sometimes aka you can't feel comfortable all the time. It seems quite obvious, but when you really grasp its meaning it makes it so much easier to be objective about disappointing things in your life (or yourself).
the best advice i ever got is more a lesson i learnt last year, that its okay to need people. cause doing everything on my own wont get me far and it just makes me miserable
I think I've always heard "everything in moderation" in regards to how many sweets I'm eating or how much coffee I drink, but I like this general attitude towards the phrase, I'd never thought to apply it in terms of nuanced perspective in other parts of my life.
My dad always told me to "use my powers for good" and my mom always said "you don't have to own every piece of art to admire it" and those things pop into my mind all the time for a myriad of circumstances.
My dad gave me two great pieces of advice over and over in my childhood: “this too shall pass” and “what’s for you won’t go past you”. I’ve found them both really useful at different points in my life, especially when I’m faced with a rough patch that I just need to get through, or a disappointment like not getting a job I really wanted.
The best advice I've ever been given is to remember that my body is my own, to enjoy and to touch and to care for. As a teenage girl it's easy to feel objectified, or to feel that I'm only allowed to love my body because of the way it looks to other people. The reminder that my body is my own to enjoy helps me to focus on sensation, to pay attention to my own needs and to find peace in my individuality.
One from both of my parents- "A little at a time"-Mom (I am also an extreme person, so that is good advice for me) and "Look out for idiots"-Dad
Roughly translated: You should leave thinking to horses, they have bigger heads. Doesn't mean to think things through, means to not overthink yourself into a pool of self-doubt. Thanks, Grandma
"Everything in moderation even moderation" is actually a phrase I've heard a few places and it's one of my favourites!!
You have the best username!
I believe it's an Oscar Wilde quote. "Everything in moderation, including moderation."
My therapist once told me to be as kind to myself as l would be to my best friend or one of the five year old I used to look after. It was just before self-care really took off and I think it really helped me understand it when it did. It wasn't just bath bombs and treating myself (though let's be real that stuffs great) it was about being fine with weeping when I was sad or angry or confused because I would never yell at a five year old for crying. It was about it being okay to hate and criticise people I love and who loved me back if they did things that warranted it, because if they did that to my friends I'd tell them to go to hell. And it's about it being fine to fail and miss deadlines and give myself permission to just not, cos it doesn't make me a horrid person any more than it would my little brother. Self-love is real people, it's hard sometimes but it's amazing.
I had this conversation with my sister last night. About the ways in which we look at and curate our lives in an attempt to be "more special", and end up looking down on ourselves for not living the great narrative our society says is worthy to live. The truth is, allowing for nuance makes space for empathy, both for ourselves and for others. Accepting "moderation" is also widening our definition of worth, and beauty.
thank you, i definitely needed to hear this!
Totally. Morderate is never enough but it should be
My biology teacher used to say this, because either extreme could change an established homeostasis. Too much or too little of anything can cause harm, so we learnt to see in nuanced ways using biology, which can be adapted to any facet of life.
Mine is probably “if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.”
I took this to the extreme when I wanted to learn how to whistle (I was only about 6), and one day I just kept making noises with my mouth until I let out this huge whistling noise! I couldn’t believe I had finally done it, and it took all day but I didn’t stop whistling until I drove everyone mad haha.
In life generally I’m someone who has always had to go the extra mile to do well, and that’s mainly because I’m very self critical. I’m hoping this mindset and determination will get me where I wish to be in the future.
Thanks for this Leena :)
For me the best advice has been: "just let it go". It's not supposed to sound sad and melancholic, but rather freeing and happy. I often find myself being stuck thinking or trying to be a certain way and I've really had to learn to just let go. Letting go of feeling pressured, of friendships that need to end, ways of thinking that include how things should be or could be. Letting go of passing feelings, wants, etc. It sometimes feels impossible to do, but as I've been practicing it over the years, I've become quite easy-going and relaxed. :D
A piece of advice that helps me everyday is to Never assume. I'm incredibly shy and introverted so this can be quite difficult for me, but I learned the hard way (many times) that it's better to ask dumb questions than finding myself in awkward situations that could've easily been avoided haha (especially at work but it's good for any kind of relationship). I hear so many people who literally create problems that wouldn't exist if they would just tell the other person what's on their mind. Life would be so much easier if everyone did that !
'the best advice I've ever given' sounds so unlike 'everything in moderation' though and I love it :)
"Just keep swimming"
Best advice (out of other great advice): if you don’t try, you’ll never succeed. Followed in equal measures by the fact that talent is a myth and you will get better at something if you put the effort in.
Of course you get better at something if you put the effort in but that is not the same as talent? If someone is able to do sth WITHOUT effort that other people have to work hard for, they obviously have a talent for it? Or if you do sth, but you have no talent for it, hard work is only gonna get you to a certain point you cannot go beyond, whereas people who put the same effort in AND have a talent for it will get way farther. I don't really see how someone could say talent was a myth.
I think the best advice I was given was by my parents whose attitude is always, give things a go and if they don’t work out at least you tried. I always think about this because I can get very socially anxious especially having to email or call people. And it helps me remember that I will be more upset if I don’t try this thing, even if it makes me anxious now. For example I applied for a paid publishing internship last year, having to write the entry form and send it made me super anxious especially as getting the internship would mean I’d have to move state. I didn’t get the internship but I did get to the final three chosen for interviews which was a huge confidence boost considering I have no experience or qualifications in book publishing. And also hearing in detail what the internship entailed made me realise publishing would be fun, but it’s not something I could be fully passionate about, and helped me realise actually writing stories is my dream which lead me to finishing the novel I was working on and sending it to an unpublished manuscript competition 😊
I was told to find a self-care phrase that you can use whenever you need to. I physically carry it around with me everywhere that I go (hidden behind my phone case).
At first when you start saying it you feel like an absolute muppet, but when you become more familiar with saying it, it’s a really powerful thing to use in your moments of need.
Mine is “Stop, and breathe. I can do this”. Just the way the whole phrase reads also really helps. I’d definitely, definitely recommend it.
I bloody love your videos xxxx
Wow! I grew up with my mum giving me the exact same advice :) This video was the perfect reminder, just when I needed it 😊😊Thanks!
Best advice was from my spanish mother: oir, ver, y callar. Roughly translated to listen, watch, and don't talk. It really stuck with me and taught me to be an observer and not a talker. I think our words are very powerful tools, and I try not to say anything that is unnecessary or speak on something I'm uninformed about. Sometimes I take it too far and become a bit of a wallflower, it's a work in progress I think. Everything in moderation :)
best peice of advice was a phrase my dad used to always say to me: “this too will pass” it’s acctually a beatles lyric but i think it’s super important bc it’s a reminder through hard times things will get better and through good times it makes u remember that all good things end u know ?? also considering getting it tattooed ?? opinions ??
This is a piece of advice that I actually gave myself, inspired by a line from Romeo and Juliet! The line goes “Love moderately. Long love doth so. Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow." It's something that I've taken with me ever since I read Romeo and Juliet in English in year 11, and broadened to "Everything in moderation". It's interesting to see other comments that it has many different origins!
I think mine is "Es gibt nichts was es nicht gibt." also by my mum and it translates to "There is nothing which doesn't exist" and for motivational quotes I think it is by Lilly Singh who is the hardest working person I know: "Humans have a tendency to overcomplicate simple things because we overthink them. But if you take a step back and remember your priorities, it becomes easier to make a decision."
Everything in moderation, to each their own, treat others as you would wish to be treated.
nimi noodles
but... we can like being treated differently often, so... treat others the way they wish to be treated is better imo.
(obviously minus some ugly behaviours that are universality unwelcomed)
wilfingmaniac i mean true, but when i was given that advice as a child putting it in those terms was much more understandable - when practised as an adult it definitely ends up being treat others as thhey would wish to be treated as you said though
THOSE HEARRRINGS!!!! You look gorgeous girl! I love the advice as well
this feels like an especially poignant piece of advise when i look around at my life and the world lately. i feel like i'm drowning in hyperbole wherever i turn, whether it be in my interaction with media or other people or when im just alone in my apartment. some much needed regrounding advise here! thank you so much, leena!! :)
Yes to moderation in everything. And yes to those brilliant earrings!!!
My dad once backed up into another car with me in the passenger seat. He turned to me and said very seriously: "It's not funny now, but it will be in a few years." I just thought that was the best advice because no matter how shitty something is, it'll make for a great story that you'll laugh about later. He also doesn't remember saying this.
To start off you look great as for the best piece of advice I got: if something is too good to be true it probably isn’t, it urged me to exercise healthy skepticism and because I am such a glass half full kind of person I tend to find myself missing out on a lot of consequences and down sides to decisions that at that point in time seem just wonderful all around positive choices that piece of advice also reminds me to read the terms and conditions before signing my name (‘:
I am 100% in love with the way your brain works(also you are really inspiring💛)
“Embrace the hopelessness” my mother told me when I was going through a heartbreak. First I thought she was mental! “It will swallow me whole!” I said. “I will drown!” But in the end, of course, she was right. The only way to deal with something and eventually move on, is to first acknowledge it and truly feel it. Even when it really really hurts and is really really scary.
My mom used to tell me the same thing! I agree, it's pretty good advice x
I was trying to think of "best piece of advice" I'd ever heard but I came up totally blank! For me, advice is very situational. I've never felt a single piece of advice could translate into a life philosophy. Though I'm still searching for something that I can apply consistently!
yes! i so agree with this. spectrums and nuances ARE interesting and good parenting is helping you be you, not turning kids into mini-mes. 👏
I never hear this saying in an inspiring way but it indeed is!
This is such good advice!!!! And something about it and the way you expressed everything about the concept of being moderate about stuff just makes me feel so right, like everything is right actually & how it's supposed to be... except that I need more wagon wheels.
Haha this is literally the advice my mum tells me all the time!! This video is lovely and definitely sums up the phrase
So so glad you said where those earrings are from because they are AMAZING
Needed this so much, I have very black and white thinking so this has become a bit of a motto for me as well
Best bit of advice I ever received - take care of yourself, but remember that sometimes the most caring thing you can do for yourself is doing the thing which makes you feel like you need care. Make sense? I hope so! 😂😘
My dad always says this too haha, except he says "everything in moderation...including moderation!". Great video!
oh I just watched the rest of this video and you say it too...
I love your smile and you of course
There's a macedonian phrase that translates to something like "once you're in the dance circle you have to keep dancing". I like to think of it in the way of always keep persisting and trying. Especially in situations when I've made a mistake and have to apologise, like I'm in the dance circle and to get out I have to see it through.
Those earrings are lovely ~~
I plan on going to london next year for my masters, and would love advice on London/where to live/how much $$ to bring/best things to do ~
Loved this.
Yeah! They raised you to critically think for yourself instead of doing everything for you. Everything in moderation is really good reminder of nuance too. Many factors intermingling together, instead of all or nothing thinking. We have these little sayings reminders to keep us from slipping into assumption and unhealthy thinking that could negatively affect our actions. It does sound like a check in and zoom out big perspective. Like a moment to pause and be aware of how things are happening
This is very good advice, thank you
i didn't even realise those were earrings i just thought they were part of your outfit? like a super colourful collar. either way, super funky very nice
Old cross country coach use to say The journey is everything and the finish meams nothing. Sometimes we think if we get to that certain point then it'll mean everything we every want. But just getting there can teach us so much more. In a way it's like living in the moment.
Random when did you change your channel name. No frog snog out 😕
I'm really obsessed with the idea of process, because it's way to easy to end up focusing on markers of something being "done" but like, nothing is ever really done when it comes to personal improvement and goals like that???? So I always try to enjoy any process I'm involved with and consider that my top priority.
Sounds like a good teacher. It also made me think, in life, what if you never get to the finish line (which is sad but irrefutable)? Some never live to do / achieve everything they want to. So it's most important to enjoy and be in the moment.
oh i’m the opposite, i’d wish i could be more extreme in my life
That’s cool. We have the same name. I’ve been trying to find names that are spelt like mine
In terms of politics, some of the best advice I've heard is from John and Hank Green's podcast: Talk in specifics and not in ideologically-charged language. Focus on policy rather than ideology.
In terms of what helps my anxiety-prone mind:
"The only thing that is the end of the world is the end of the world."
Oh I love that.... I really love that. I think I do something similar in my head where if I'm feeling OVERWHELMED my brain just kinda tentatively reminds me of Carl Sagan talking about how we're on a pale blue dot and we're so small and meaningless. I know that stresses some people out more, but I always find it so calming to remember space and the vastness of all existence beyond our planet and all that.
omg i also used to say "everyting in moderation...even moderation ;P "!!! ahaha so funny
It's funny you had to think about being moderate, as I have NEVER been able to see things in an extreme way... I can never see something/someone as completely bad or completely good...
Very good advice! I just wish I could apply it to the fuck load of chocolate I'm currently chomping on!
this is off topic but you always have the BEST LIPSTICK PLS TELL ME YOUR SECRETS
it's a Sleek matte liquid lipstick, can't remember what shade but they're great! The brick coloured one?!
YessssSssss thank you!! But yeah, also just killin' the lipstick/youtube game in general gal , keep doing you
My best advice is eat the frog
Meaning always get the bad stuff out the way first
Then move on to the good 👍
Sorry to be that person but where are your earrings from?
I mention it at the end and it's in the description :)
leena norms haha was just going to say never mind but you beat me to it!
hahah glad you felt urgently about them, they're great
im too ignorant to understand this
everything in moderation except earrings ;)
Like breathing? :D